I learned about hormones during pregnancy. I was always the one dumb enough to do something crazy. Skiing off-piste? Awesome! Getting into a verbal altercation with a stranger? Bring it. Car crash? No problem, I'm calm as can be. Then my first pregnancy, I had my very first panic attack trying to watch a horror movie. Normally I love rollercoasters and I love adrenalin rushes. During pregnancy, I can't. I really, really can't deal with adrenalin rushes when I'm pregnant. I completely lose my shit when I'm scared during pregnancy and I don't handle that kind of stuff. When I'm not pregnant, life goes on as normally scheduled, unless it's my kid risking their life, I'm not overprotective, I'm of the opinion that kids need to take some risks to learn. I don't scare easy and I don't notice pregnancy hormones on the whole. I didn't have a lot of pregnancy symptoms with my kids. But fear punched me in the face. It's probably a good one. I've got lots of scars from stupid stunts that I've pulled over the years. Maybe it's not a good to take big risks while pregnant. It just seemed unfair when I couldn't go to theatres to watch the latest thriller.
Thank you for this im currently 10 weeks pregnant and my first ultrasound is next week im just barely holding out. I dont know they look like if there okay or have a heart beat. The first trimester is very nerve racking and just scary this entire time I've been in the dumps hopefully I hear good news. Nobody talks about how much anexity you have.
I didn’t realize how unsympathetic many people are to pregnant women. Even women who have been pregnant before. People just expect you to live your life just like you would if you weren’t pregnant but in so many ways it’s not possible!
I feel this so much especially because I don't get morning sickness and handle pregnancy not so badly so if I need a break because my limbs feel heavy and I'm so tired, people can be really unsympathetic toward me.
I’m am 9weeks 5 days and I only find out I was pregnant not even a week ago because I have always had issues with my period and not getting it for several months and now that I know I’m pregnant I’m so scared to go to my next ultrasound because I’m scared that baby might no have a heart beat anymore because of how late I found out that I was pregnant
@@jessicaeckersley7975 the Time you find out has nothing to do with the health of your baby. I found out at 3.5 weeks (and kind of wish it was later because there was more Time to go before miscarriage rates went down) Some women just don’t have many symptoms in the beginning though, don’t let it stress you out! Hope you two are doing well!
I felt so deceived when I first became pregnant and started dealing with all of my pregnancy challenges. I didn't know that I would be throwing up and feeling sick my whole pregnancy, and that nausea became my new sign that it's time to eat. I didn't know that I would have to start eating something every hour to avoid sickness and that I would begin to hate food. I didn't know I would get hot and cold flashes. I didn't know acid reflux would come with a vengeance and I would feel like I swallowed a whole bottle of soap all the time. I didn't know I would hate water until the 3rd trimester, and even then it has to be ice cold. I didn't know I would get excessive saliva and need to carry around a bowl to spit in constantly for 2 weeks. I didn't know that I would have allergies my whole pregnancy and when it gets really bad you start mouth breathing and snoring at night when you didn't before. I didn't know that baby movements for me would not be very magical and actually would be mostly uncomfortable and sometimes painful. I didn't know that stretch marks might not come on your belly and might show up below your nipples or a weird place on your butt. I didn't know that if I get too upset or emotional that my body will make me throw up. I didn't know that I couldn't take any prenatals my whole pregnancy or be as natural as I wanted. Most of all I didn't know that I could reach my breaking point a thousand times and still go on. Pregnancy for me was the hardest thing I have ever experienced. I wasn't prepared. But those babies........ugh. Can't live without them.
I’m so glad my best friend and I got pregnant almost at the same time (due date is 1 day apart) and we share our experience- it has made this journey so much easier so far
I didn't know you could hate being pregnant. Everyone I've ever met or seen from social media portrays pregnancy as a great time. While I love my growing baby with all my heart, I have developed a total fear of pregnancy because of my symptoms. No one has ever said it's possible to fear pregnancy like you fear death.
Yep, I didn’t know this either. It got better for me mid second trimester, but man those first 4 months have me reconsidering if I want more than one child. I can’t imagine how traumatic it would be to have HG.
HG is not the same as morning sickness people that only go for it will understand how difficult it is to be pregnant with the condition. Had HG with both my pregnancy is the loneliest time in my entire life dehydrated lost so much weight was on several medications such a horrible time. Yes of course be grateful we have a baby at the end of it but it is such a tough time and I hope you’re pregnancy gets better. Please ask for support from family and friends don’t say no even if someone is there it’s your pass in the bucket take it.
I'm 33 weeks pregnant and I also did not know it was possible to hate pregnancy. I assumed I would be uncomfortable, I expected morning sickness and sore boobs but I didn't expect the million and one other things that are stressing out my body and mind. It is an extremely complicated emotion and I'm not even sure there is a word for it, I hate pregnancy and yet (though I have not met her) I love my daughter and do not regret making her, I'm honoured to carry her and care for her for 40 weeks but at the same time I am stressed, depressed, anxious and in pain 24/7 and it feels very weird.
thank you for being so honest I feel like a lot of youtubers act like their whole pregnancy was so perfect and they never suffered anything and then you feel bad cause I’m like how come I feel like crap 😭
That’s exactly how I feel ! It’s all sunshine and rainbows and cute baby bumps when you watch videos or hearing most people talk about it. I’m pregnant and miserable. It’s nothing like what I heard. I wish it would become more common to just be honest about symptoms and the terrible 1st trimester. Idk how women do this multiple times.
God's timing and planning is wise and perfect. He will bring to fruition in your life many things for His glory, so take comfort in the absolute certainty of the security of your future. "For I know the plans I have for you." declares the Lord. "Plans for good and not for evil, to give you a hope and a future." - Jeremiah 29:11 He loves you dearly, rest on Him. 💞
I had my third baby a month before turning 40. There seems to be this literature out there telling of imminent doom if you’re older than 35, but honestly the risks are still relatively low. I loved my OB and his saying how it has so much more to do with your overall health and not solely your age, as a very unhealthy younger person can have complications too. Praying for you 😊
I had both of my children after 35 and really the risks aren’t that much higher. As long as you are fairly healthy to begin with you should be fine. It’s actually becoming more common.
Someone no one told me: that you can actually feel really GOOD during pregnancy. I've never felt better than when I was pregnant. But I felt like I couldn't tell anyone, because any other woman would despise me. But I think we also need to share the good stuff, to give other women hope and lessen anxiousness.
Oooh, I had the same thing! I remember thinking: 'Weirdly, I can now kind of understand why some people get addicted to having kids!'. I have never in my life felt so good mentally, it was kind of a bummer when I got back to normal after giving birth.
This is so good to hear! Thank you for sharing this!! I wish more pregnancy videos would share the positive and negative so people won't get so scared, haha! The honesty is good, but positive experiences are just as valid and common as negative ones!
@@sierra4610 I know, that is the unfortunate side effect of videos like this. Good, positive pregnancies are WAY more common than you think, but you never hear about them because those women are too afraid of offending others to say something. Pregnancy can be an AMAZING experience that defies all typical symptoms. Don't focus on the horror stories; you are your own story, and you have an amazing Lord who is writing it ❤️
@@starabby222 totally agree (again!😄) I'd like to add that it's also possible to have both some symptoms ánd experience the whole thing as absolutely amazing. For example, I was quite sick with morningsickness in my first trimester. I lost 5 kg, puked several times a day, but it didn't bother me at all. I still felt great mentally. I was like: yup, definitely pregnant😃😃! Joked around about it, and could often laugh about the situation, even while puking. It was annoying at times but that was about how bad the experience would get. I just couldn't be bothered by a little puking, I mean, I was growing a human! I was going to become a mama! And, as in most cases, the sickness disappeared at 12 weeks and all was well with me and baby. I gave birth to a 9 pound, 53 cm healthy baby (both me and my husband are very tall so that size was nothing to worry about, it was a good sign: the weight loss in the beginning hadn't affected baby in the least)
I am 39 weeks and have pregnancy insomnia. My first trimester I could sleep for 15+hours. I could not get enough sleep. Now, I stay up till 2/3 am and am up by 9
I never realized that gas feels just like baby movements. So now anytime I feel gassy in my stomach I have to chill myself out because I think “IM PREGNANT”
Oooo I was warned about the "phantom kicks" so now they just bring back the good memories without all the nausea and fatigue that goes along with pregnancy.
Urinary incontinence is NOT normal. It is common and has been normalized as something that needs to be tolerated. Pelvic floor rehab can fix that problem. It’s in the physical therapy spectrum of healthcare. (At least in the US) I read in France that is part of your postpartum care.
I was so afraid of having babies because my mom told me you can never run or jump again after giving birth because you'll pee yourself. I knew it didn't sound right so I started doing kegels before and after giving birth and have had ZERO issues! Pelvic floor health is so important!
It is true, in France every single woman has the option to see a pelvic physical therapist! I was an au pair in France before becoming a pelvic floor physical therapist, and this was so fascinating to me!
True! I'm french and gave birth 10 months ago. At the 6 week postpartum appointment, the midwife will generally assess you and how much therapy you need to get your pelvic muscles back to what they were.
@@marianepheli8873 They are right. You don't have to live with that. Even RUclips has lots of videos with gentle postpartum pelvic floor exercises that will fix that issue.
It's so hard not to panic! I've had to get used to the extra vaginal discharge, because it sometimes feels like a start to a period. Oh, I hate it so much!
My pelvic floor PT says it is 100% NOT normal to pee your pants while pregnant. It's common, but it is not good, and it is a sign of weak pelvic floor. It apparently is super easy to correct, but she told me to tell any pregnant woman or mom who says this that it is not suppose to be like that at all. It doesn't matter if you've had many children, you can get this looked into, and in almost every case, completely corrected. I hope this helps anyone who didn't know.
I didn’t know it wasn’t normal! However, I was never told after my first delivery that apparently you need to force yourself to urinate every two hours even if you don’t feel like you need to and it will help strengthen things back up?? Somehow it did work because after my first I was dealing with accidents but since my second and following that advice, it’s all better!
Not trying to be rude, but I believe that is incorrect. Not every doctor is right about everything. The pressure from the weight of the pregnant belly puts strain on the pelvic floor, making it weaker. Not to mention giving birth, tearing, etc.
@@dahliahart6 yes! Exactly. That pressure and stretching can make your pelvic floor weak and often times women like myself weren't taught about our bodies during pregnancy or how to let your body heal postpartum and to slowly strengthen that pelvic floor again. My PT said the same thing. Incontinence is common but NOT normal because we can often times fix it without surgery. I prolapsed after the birth of my 2nd baby. Prior to my prolapse I had zero knowledge about my pelvic floor and the muscles. I worked hard after her birth to do exercises reccomended by physical therapists and it got rid of many symptoms, including minor incontinence. A year after her birth, I got pregnant with my 3rd baby. I kept up those pelvic floor exercises throughout my pregnancy and my symptoms were hardly there. It was amazing. It is reccomended to see a pf physical therapist during pregnancy if you are having those issues. I gave birth. All 3 of my deliveries were vaginal, and I tore each time. 2nd degree with my first two, and 1st degree with my 3rd. The next day I started easy and slow pelvic floor exercises again. I saw a pelvic floor physical therapist 3 months postpartum who helped so much. Now I never deal with stress incontinence or most symptoms I had previously. 😁 obgyns will say different because their speciality isn't the pelvic floor muscles. Where as, pelvic floor physical therapists specifically specialize in those muscles. Whether weak or too tight. Unfortunately us women don't get proper teaching about our anatomy in that way. I wish I had known beforehand. But her comment is true, incontinence is common but NOT normal as it can typically be reversed or pretty close to it. 😁 Hope that makes sense!
@@dahliahart6 yes but thats only before and right after pregnancy. the baby is pushing on the bladder which is was can cause incontinance during pregnancy, and right after your pelvic floor muscles may be a bit weak (which can still be helped in most cases) but after that, with the right exercises you should not still have that problem
I didn’t realize how quick doctors appointments are most of the time! A lot of OB appointment they literally just weigh me and check BP then send me home. I was so confused at first hahaha
I never knew how complicated my emotions would be. I love feeling baby move and knowing that I’m growing an actual human, but sometimes I just miss having my body to myself 😂
Brushing my teeth and motion sickness were the number 1 reasons I would throw up in the first trimester until about week 18. What stinks about getting sick from brushing my teeth was that I had to do it all over again because I had gotten sick.
I got a positive pregnancy test at about 4 weeks. I called my OBGYN right away. I was surprised that they made an appointment to see me at almost 9 weeks. I thought they’d want to see me right away.
Lucky you! I had to Waite until 12 weeks or 14 I believe. I don’t remember lol I’m 23 weeks pregnant 🤰 with second pregnancy since my first was a miscarriage. Those 12-14 weeks were the hardest and scariest. I just want to hold my little one already 😢♥️
Lol yeah same thing happened to me. And I was so anxious and worried if everything was alright with the baby. And oh my God those 4 weeks felt like 4 months. And then when you hear the heartbeat you'll feel alive again 😍
The reason the gynaecologist does this is because the heart of the baby is not yet formed at 4 weeks, they cannot tell you anything at this time. It's even possible that the baby is so tiny that they can't visualise it at ultrasound. This would possibly lead to unnecessary concerns by the parents. At 9 weeks, the baby's heart has formed and this can be seen on ultrasound. It's also possible then to hear the heart sound. This way everyone can be sure the baby is at the time being healthy and alive.
Same, I found out at about 4 weeks, but based on my last period my doctor thought I was more like 8 weeks, so I had an ultrasound the following week and they saw what looked like (they thought) a fibroid or a cyst or something. Had a bunch of bloodwork done to check my levels to see if things were still progressing (they were). Another ultrasound at around my actual 8 week mark and sure enough, there was my baby and the heartbeat. Irregular periods mess things up so much.
I’m currently pregnant with my first baby. And I HATE, Being pregnant. I’m so happy to have him growing in my belly and I can not wait for him to be here! I’ve tried for 10 years to get pregnant. And I feel like you have to say you live being pregnant. Fuck that. You can love your baby and hate the process!
Currently 24 weeks and can't remember drinking water without throwing up. Sometimes I'm more exited about drink water again than about holding my baby and then I feel terrible afterwards 😞
@@o0laieta0o Girllll . I know it’s not helpful when people say it will get better. But I. Was there too. I thought I would (NEVER) feel better. You will, you will. But make sure you complain as much as possible. You deserve it!
I didn't expect nausea and vomiting 24 hrs a day for the first 27 weeks of pregnancy or that my anterior placenta could make me not feel my baby move as much. I also didn't expect to not like being pregnant and the guilt that comes along with that. Feeling baby move is the best part of pregnancy in my view:)
was it worth it in the end? i am emetophobic and the nausea and sickness is my biggest fear of pregnancy. i wont be pregnant for a few more years, im only 17, and i know technology will advance in that time and that perhaps there will be a lot more options for making pregnancy easier. but... i am still scared. im scared my mental health will be a living hell (i currently struggle with a ton of anxiety and depression without professional treatment so my mindset is not the most positive) and that the physical symptoms will make me want to die! me being 17 and a body with crazy hormones, i feel physically ill almost 24/7 in some way or another, whether that be headaches and body aches or stomach pains and dizziness. i imagine pregnancy would be like this but worse! im terrified but i want a family so badly, and children are truly a blessing from God so if it is His will for me then i will get pregnant someday
@@stellarmori Yes, it's worth everything I've gone through. I've made it to full term (I went into preterm labor twice) and next week I'm being induced. I would go through all of this again. I have anxiety and depression and took the time to find the help and learn the skills I needed to heal and live with both in my 20's. I also went into pregnancy with a loving and supportive husband and support system. That meant for me waiting to start trying until 32 and yes it took a year to get pregnant but I knew my mental health and stability are the most important part of having a healthy baby. Being mentally healthy also meant I have been able to handle all of the ups and downs without falling into depression or having any panic attacks. Babies are a blessing but so is mental health. It can be hard to reach out for help and it can take time, sometimes even a couple years, to learn what works for you. The hardest part will always be asking for help but it's worth it in the end.
As someone with sexual trauma and acute mental illness, it’s hard through and through, but you’ll very quick find ways to deal with nausea- medications or not- with yourself and your doctor. It’s the least of your issues in pregnancy.
I’m 21 and I was TERRIFIED. the epidural was the most painful part. Get it when you get to an 8 on the pain scale and 30 minutes to an hour before you think you’ll need it was the trick!!
I didn't know that urgency to pee can be the FIRST symptom you feel. Turns out the increase in hormones from becoming pregnant can make you feel like you have to pee more. I thought that only happened once the baby was big enough to push on your bladder but you can actually experience that before you even take a pregnancy test. When I found out I was pregnant frequent urination was my first sign.
Same here! I googled afterwards to find out it’s a sign. But I just remember going to the bathroom for the millionth time that day and thinking “this is ridiculous”.
I didn't expect to gain as much weight as I did, and I didn't realize how hard it would be to get it off. I'd never have my pre-pregnancy body ever again
I didn’t track or really think about how much food I was eating... I just ate as I typically did beforehand but I gained 60lbs for my first pregnancy and was shooook. Second pregnancy I watched what I ate and tracked calories and still gain 40lbs... 15mnths later and I’m having a hard time losing the last 15lbs.
Yup. I feel this. I was the same weight from around 8th grade. Had a baby at 25 and hello extra 50lbs stuck like glue. Slowly working my to healthier eating habits and shedding the extra, but i was not prepared for that.
I lost 30 lbs and look horrible after pregnancy, this is my 3rd pregnancy and I still weigh 112 lbs it is so bad people ask me if I’m sick. I just don’t get it. I wish I would gain weight with pregnancy.
@@Missdaphanyma13 Your body must be working harder than your calorie intake. I know you weren't asking for advice but maybe trying tracking calories and see how much you are consuming. If you're not getting the recommended amount for your goals, you can adjust. I hope you get what you need!
@@kaitbeaudette6283 Oh no girl, yes I need advice, it makes me sad to look like a little girl and lose all my body to then have people criticize me for not gaining weight like everyone else. It’s upsetting, but 🙏 thank you so much, I’ll try that!! ❤️❤️❤️
3:55 - "it feels silly because you're not doing a whole lot" - excuse me, ma'am, i'm gonna stop you right there. You're *Growing a Human, Inside your Body*. That is a *massive* amount of work and effort and amazing, miraculous construction. You wouldn't ask a builder why they're tired at the end of a long day - so absolutely *all* the respect for all mums to be.
But really I like that she addressed that. I am struggling a lot with feeling useless. I identify as the strong independent woman thing and it makes me strangely annoyed/ frustrated when I can't do things.
I didn't realize just how quickly my boobs would grow. I always imagined it to be a 3rd trimester thing...nope. My first pregnancy symptom was that my bra was tight and I'm up at least two cup sizes at 18 weeks.
I had no clue about the pregnancy dating too!! And although people say it’s “9 months” of pregnancy, if you assign 4 weeks to a month and there are 40 weeks of pregnancy, then you’re really technically pregnancy for TEN months!
This is just not true. Only one month has 28 days and that is not even true every year. Let’s say you conceive baby Jan 1, your due date would be Sept 24, this is 8 months 3 weeks and 3 days you have been pregnant. If you go over to 42 weeks then you get in a tiny bit over 9 months. No 10 month pregnancy .
That’s a good point! I hadn’t thought of that. That’s probably why health professionals don’t actually use “months” to talking about gestation, only weeks.
Hearing you say that the moment your son was born your mental health improved massively gives me SO much hope !!!! My mental health has been horrendous ! First pregnancy, baby boy! Due October xxxxx
Omg the tiredness.. I couldn't even get out of bed or open my eyes without getting at LEAST 11 hours sleep. Which was very impractical when I had my second baby and my first one woke up at the crack of dawn.
I was so lucky to be pregnant during quarantine, so my pregnancy was like really smoothe. I stayed home and since it was my first pregnancy I didn't have to chase anybody. So I loved pregnancy BUT I did have issues with postpartum depression, which I was sure won't ever happen to me because I am "normal". As it turned out depression doesn't discriminate, and I just want to support all of you who might be having symptoms of postpartum depression and filmed the video telling about my experience and you can find it on my channel. Thank you Delilah for your work! 💕
Did you happen to have an epidural? My husband worked with someone in nursing school a few years ago who was talking about the chemical effects of epidurals. When a woman gives birth, her body releases this 'love bonding' hormone that goes to her and baby. For whatever reason, the epidural doesn't allow this to happen. Some believe this could be a major factor in post partum depression. It's like your body didn't comprehend that the birth occured, so there is a disconnect between your empty womb and the child in front of you. I experienced this with my first child. I've had two more children without an epidural and didn't have post partum depression after either one. I don't know anything for sure, as I'm not a doctor or scientist, just sharing what I've heard and experienced.
@@berlyn4444 Hi Berlyn I totally did! But I also gave birth without it. So I had it for couple of hours when I was getting ready for labor and then my not very good OB-GYN got upset with me because I didn’t know how to push. Obviously women didn’t want to spend with me all night so she gave order to turn off my epidural and my labor started hour after that. Which it pretty much stopped working by then and so I gave birth feeling everything. But it’s interesting, I never made this connection and I never heard about it! Thank you for telling me about it. I will do a research on this topic immediately! ❤️ By the way happy Mother’s Day to all of us!!!!
@@shelld776 That explanation makes sense to me as well. Our bodies react to everything we do, so it's difficult for anyone to know true causation. We've had two home births and we'll never do it any other way. Birth is scary, but pregnancy is a beautiful way to get to know your body and to experience it's greatness. If you are a believer, cling to the Creator. He made our bodies to bring forth life. People like to thank modern medicine for lower infant mortality rates, but I think it had more to do with modern hygiene practices. Tragedies happen, but it isn't the norm (if it is, that is evidence of a sick/diseased society) Above all, if you want to get pregnant, take care of your body. If you don't already, making a commitment to cooking from scratch instead of using short cuts like Bisquick and boxed cake mix, or just going for prepared food, is an amazing decision for you health. Something I wish I would have realized earlier in life...A product being marketed and sold to you in no way guarantees it's safety. That goes for food, too. Just because a food product is on a supermarket shelf doesn't mean it is nutritious or even safe to consume. I try to steer clear of chemicals, especially in my food. Whether something is approved by the FDA seems irrelevant to me, as many things they approve haven't been around long enough to know the long term health effects. That goes for a lot of medical practices as well. If you're blessed with a child, my advice is to be intentional in all you do. Don't fall into the trap of doing things simply because that's what everyone else does. Even if you still make the same decision as everyone else, there is power in knowing why you do the things you do. As well as knowing why you believe the things you believe.
I did not know about the areola color and size change either when I first got pregnant. I’m 23 weeks 5 days pregnant with my husband and I’s first. My pregnancy has been so easy though, no morning sickness, lots of fatigue in the first trimester but ever since it has been smooth sailing. Baby is healthy. And I felt those first sweet movements at 14 and a half weeks. God has definitely blessed me with an easy first pregnancy. 💕
Before I got pregnant I didn’t realize the likelihood and possibility of having twins 🤣😅 Then at my 12 week ultrasound there were two babies in my uterus and I was like WHAT!? 💙 best surprise ever.
Yeah, and everytime that happens I frantically start to calculate when I had my last period to reassure myself I am not pregnant 😂 But my brain is "But what if you ARE?" 🙄
YES! I heard so many women complain about such strong symptoms in early pregnancy. My symptoms have been next to nothing and I’m almost 7 weeks and everything has been so manageable that I actually didn’t believe I was pregnant after six home pregnancy tests AND a hospital HCG test. I only believed it when I saw the baby and the little heartbeat in my first scan. Not having symptoms ironically made me feel really worried.
I’m 39 weeks pregnant, and I did not expect to have carpal tunnel from pregnancy swelling! I work with my hands a lot and it was certainly an unwelcome surprise I’ve had to overcome!
I had that with my first pregnancy. It stopped me from sleeping, it was so uncomfortable. The only thing that helped was ice packs on my wrists. I am currently pregnant with baby number two and I hope I won’t get it this time...
I had the same. Almost unbearable aches and pains throughout my arm and shoulder. I couldn’t write or crochet and had a lot of difficulty sleeping the last 3-4 months. Almost immediately after giving birth the symptoms were gone!
Omg, yes! I didn't know this was a thing. It started for me about 2 weeks ago (~34 weeks). I've only dealt with some swelling but as soon as it got to hands, the carpal tunnel set in. I'm having a hard time sleeping on my side because of it.
I’m expecting now and I know many people that have been pregnant. I’m surprised no one told me about the early cramps you get in the first few weeks and pregnancy pains..wth
We are so here for the hat!😍 I'm definitely with you on the anxiety in the first trimester, I felt like every second I was worrying is everything okay.
I just found out I’m pregnant 3 days ago and I teared up watching this. Thank you Delilah for making this! Even though I’ve experienced some symptoms, I keep thinking “how can I be pregnant when I don’t feel anything?!” This video gave me peace of mind on that fact. Love love love your content Delilah. You have such a peaceful atmosphere about you. God is using you and this channel to help so many! ❤️
i really appreciate what you mentioned about mental health. Ive been really struggling for most of my pregnancy and it s nice to hear that im not the only one and that this can be normal. hopefully i feel that weight is lifted once I give birth, like you did!
Yes, agree wholeheartedly with almost all of these! I’ve struggled with feeling happy or excited about being pregnant especially while feeling so sick. It is surprising that it takes so long to show and just questioning whether I’m really pregnant.
Thank you so much for this. I have always known that there is so much info that is withheld about pregnancy in totality. And I think that is what makes a lot of first time mothers be paranoid and anxious because they are going through common things that are never talked about. Thank you, thank you. ❤️
I'm 13 weeks on my first pregnancy and this video was SO relatable! Funny thing is that I knew most of these stuff because I went to nursing school but oh boy, it's so different when you go through it.
I live in Switzerland and here your Ob-gyn would do a scan every month during a normal pregnancy and for high-risk you would probably have one every 2-3 weeks in the third trimester and even more often in the last weeks. Also, the glucose test is something everyone does. We have blood drawn every month too. We have really great a healthcare system here and thankfully, almost everything is free for pregnancy and birth.
Yes healtcare system is great, but the „holidays“ after birth are way to short. For Mam and Dad. I read somewhere almost every country in Europe has longer mom postpartum break than Switzerland. Greetings from Bärn:)
@@anninaelephant8058 yes, that is an issue that is taking a while to improve. But I was happy to hear that dads can have 10 days paternity leave now.. my husband only had one day off after the birth of my son :-)
@@morgan8385 they track the growth of the baby really closely and check the placenta and cervix for potential problems. If a woman chooses to be followed by a “birthing center” or just a midwife, they have a more natural “let nature take its course” mindset, and they do a lot less scans. I don’t know what is best, but I enjoy seeing my baby during the frequent scans and I find it reassuring to find out that my baby is developing well.
Typically everyone does the glucose test here in Canada too, but during covid they want to limit exposure and relieve some stress on the labs so they've made it temporarily optional based on risk factors.
One thing I didn't know is ACNE! My chin is blooming. I am almost at 10 weeks and I have constantly new pimples on my chin. My skin hasn't looked this bad since I was 18!
Girl, tell me about it. The "glow" for me is nothing but crazy amounts of oil and whatever light is being reflected off of the crop rotation around my chin and jawline. Oh, and the hair growth? Yeah, it seems to be everywhere else BUT my head.
That happens in the first trimester. It surprised me too! I was expecting an instant glow. It does get better in the second trimester though!! I’m 26 weeks and I’m skin’s been great for months now. We’ll see what happens the third trimester.
Brain fog, anxiety in 1st trimester, insatiable hunger at the end of 1st trimester, itchy bits, tiredness, breathlesness, bad skin in 3rd trimester, swollen legs, back pain and pubic bone pain and heart burn were my issues. However I had no sickness and my psoriasis is nearly cured now which I find mind blowing.
YES 🙌🏻 please please do a video about labour and delivery! I’m due on July 8th with our first and one things I had no clue about was that your lung capacity reduces up to 30% by the end!
Really nice to hear that I’m not alone in some of the things that have shocked me throughout my pregnancy. I’m having my first baby in about 3 weeks! One thing I wish from these kind of videos is that they would also talk about positive things they didn’t realize would happen when you become pregnant. It’s easy to focus on the negatives because yes it is very weird and uncomfortable, but there is so much to be thankful for during pregnancy. Here’s a couple of mine: 1. I didn’t realize HOW happy I’d be not to have a period for 9 months (I get very rough periods and would happily take even the third trimester aches over that) 2. I didn’t realize how special others would make me feel (probably a guilty pleasure in pregnancy, but it’s so nice to have random strangers congratulate us, have others give me a seat when there aren’t many, etc.) 3. I planned this pregnancy so obviously I’m excited and already love my baby so much, but I didn’t realize how much love I’d feel toward this little person I haven’t even met yet! 4. My favorite: I didn’t realize how excited my husband would be over our pregnancy. He’s the most supportive person on earth but he has really shocked me with how excited he is to be a dad in a few weeks.
So lucky yours went away! I had it like crazy with my daughter on face unfortunately! It was awful. Had it again with my son on my hands and my arm and it’s just some try I nut that I love with now it’s so sad my skin is so sensitive now :(:(
I didn't know there was such a thing as "pregnancy insomnia" until I was pregnant with my first. It wasn't just the last trimester I couldn't sleep; it was also the 1st and 2nd trimesters. I didn't know it would be a thing I could expect with all my pregnancies until I had it with my second also 😂😭😭😭 Side note: please see a pelvic floor physiotherapist. You're describing having something called stress incontinence. It is super treatable and you will feel so much more secure about sneezing and laughing even after the 1st treatment!
So interesting, I never heard of that but I literally slept maybe four hours a night when I was pregnant with my first, I could not sleep. The second one brought the extreme fatigue...well and by then I had a two year old too. 😂
So nice to hear you normalising the spotting/bleeding. As a first time Mama this started for me at 13 weeks and I was terrified about it especially because I can't feel baby yet! Happened every day for 2-3 weeks and baby is fine and still hanging out :)
I had a phobia of needles before I was pregnant with my daughter, couldn't even get a vaccine without feeling faint and even passing out.... Yeah needless to say by the end of my first pregnancy needles didn't phase me anymore 😂 becoming a mother makes you stronger :)
I have only recently found your channel, where your getting ready to deliver number 4. It is so refreshing listening to you and the joy you have for your gorgeous family. I am hoping you get the natural birth that you want. I can't help but smile wondering what your husband thinks when editing your videos. It's good that he has been getting a good education, it will make his life a lot easier with his daughter, not being embarrassed and actually being able to answer her questions as they arise without being clueless. She should never feel embarrassed going to her dad for help, if your not immediately available.
I didn't know that I'd suffer with Hyperemesis Gravidarum (all three of my pregnancies so far) and how hard that would be physically and mentally. I have always wanted to be a mom and expected to become super attached very quickly, and while every time I've been very excited and happy each time I've found out that I'm pregnant as soon as the excessive nausea and vomiting hit me at 6 weeks that just takes over my whole existence and I don't really think about anything else at all until it eases up (around 20 weeks for me).
I am happy to see someone making videos like these. I feel that so many women get pregnant for the first time and are so clueless. I was 21 when I had my first son and I had to learn everything as it was happening. The anxiety was horrible. I had HG where you vomit all throughout the day multiple times. It's the worst feeling you could imagine. I felt like I was being tortured for months. I was convinced to try for another girl since every women would tell me "every pregnancy was different" So, I tried again in hopes I wouldn't get so sick. But, here I am boy number two and had HG all over again to the point I had to leave my job, because I physically couldn't even drive a car. I feel this time around I am more prepared only because of my first pregnancy. But, have decided this isn't for me. Pregnancy is truly hard for a lot of women and I wish people were more out spoken about it. When I would talk about my experience people would try to shut me down. Idk why people want to cover up the reality of it, especially the risk involved and postpartum. It is not to scared mothers, but you educate the ones who want to learn about it before going through it. So glad social media such as RUclips and Tiktok are allowing mothers to speak about the reality of it so everyone can respect the process more, but also learn.
The heart palpitations were disconcerting to me too! And that by the end of your pregnancy sitting becomes kind of uncomfortable I had to move around or lay down. How SEVERE nausea can be, even walking into a grocery store would make me puke. How looooong labor can take.
Oh my god im so glad you mentioned that feeling of "Am I really pregnant?". I keep wondering the same and trying to reason with myself logically that of course I am because a, b, and c...!
The "feeling like you have allergies" thing was the most surprising fact for me! Well, I've never been pregnant myself, but I've heard you and a few other women say they couldn't breathe out of their nose for almost the whole time! I have chronic allergies/post nasal drip as it is, which A) I wouldn't wish it anyone and B) I shudder to think if I'd even be able to breathe at all if I were pregnant, lol!
This was me. I stopped being able to breathe through my nose about month 4 and felt like I had allergies up until month 8. I still cant breathe out of my nose but now that she has dropped, I can breathe in my chest again.
Yes to all of these! I didn't even know until my third (most recent) pregnancy that I could get painful varicose veins on the lady parts! That was such a terrible surprise! I also become terribly depressed while pregnant. Like manic. I'm sooo happy to hear someone bring this up. This was such a good, comprehensive list of surprising symptoms of pregnancy.
So for those aches and pains and also with perinatal depression massage can help a ton. I know it seems like a luxury, but it can help so much to help people throughout their pregnancy. 😊
You are so wise beyond your years. And one of the things I like about you is how you dont shy away from sensitive subjects (mental health, varicose veins on your huha for ex). Haha. Thanks for being you!
I used to never take naps. I could never fall asleep during the day no matter how little amt of sleep I had overnight. UNTIL I GOT PREGNANT, falling asleep on the couch
I'm so glad you talked about pregnancy anxiety and spotting. Those were two things I dealt with in my pregnancy. I experienced a prior miscarriage and it carried with me in my next pregnancy. I also didn't realize cramps were a normal thing and swelling. Also, you can have pre eclampsia without having high blood pressure.
@@HavensCustomHome I am so happy mine went away. I was astonished when I could sleep with no pain. It was definitely the weirdest pregnancy thing I had.
I feel like you should make a part two! Especially because there was an hour of footage, and I still want to hear more ❤️ I’m currently at 28 weeks with my first baby and I’m learning so much
@@lacey2906 It's definitely dependent on both the individuals. I look at my husband and boom, pregnant, but that's not the case with everyone. Also, my sex ed class in high school had nothing to do with sex and was just about the stages of baby growth? Not useful.
Wow. This is the best and most informative pregnancy video I've ever watched. I am 38 weeks pregnant and I've had all of these symptoms except the bleeding.
Ahhh, Delilah, I love this video! I’ve never been pregnant but my husband and I are more seriously discussing starting a family soon. These questions are all things people neverrrr talk about. Thank you!
This video spoke to my soul, as a mama pregnant with my second and experiencing alllll the fatigue and food aversions into the second trimester 🤪 Dressing the bump is SO hard! And then that awkward postpartum period?? Give me all the dresses! So much easier that way 😂
Thank you for this video! We are planning to have kids and it's so frustrating to only see people who make super-optimistic videos about pregnancy. I want to know all the hardships and symptoms so that I am prepared and won't feel odd or like a failure! Thank you for preparing me in a honest way 😊
What's not talked about is menopause and premenopause. Maybe since everywhere and almost everyone talks and posts about pregnancy, menopause and premenopause info would be insanely helpful and not stigmatized. Happy motherhood.
I didn’t know about the painful contractions after you have the baby, especially each time you nurse. I thought once the baby was born it was all over.
@@alliepasswaiter mine have gotten better with each one, lol, but that might have something to do with weaning the first up until a month before the next baby.
I just wanna say you make me feel really calm. I just stumbled upon you doing some research, but I wanted to give you that compliment. And now I figured out you're in saskatchewan too :)
It can be common but it’s definitely not normal to pee your pants while pregnant! Pelvic floor physiotherapy is so so important for managing these kinds of symptoms during and after pregnancy 👌
Great video! So many of these I didn't know, there's just so much stuff that isn't told to young women. Before I was pregnant with my first I didn't know that if you have negative blood (might be just O - not sure) you have to get a shot called rhogam around 28 weeks then again after the baby is born if he/she has a positive blood type. The reason for this is if the baby's blood mixes with yours it will cause an immune reaction with the next kid and your body will literally start attacking the baby. Before Rhogam was invited it used to be (in America at least) that before you married someone you had to get a blood test done and if your blood was incompatible they wouldn't allow you to get married because they were trying to prevent this problem. Oh the things you learn
One thing that I didn’t know is that pregnancy makes your legs and feet more sensitive to pain from bumping into things… if I stubbed a toe or even gently walked into furniture, it hurt as if I banged into it with full force.
Thanks for this video❤There's a lot that it isn't said about pregnancy. It's good to know I'm not the only one feeling anxious in the 1st trimester and feeling awkward about what to wear when nothing fits anymore.
I've waited for all four of mine and i love it, would never find out before. It was such a good distraction for labor too, wondering who they are and needing to meet them.
Something I didn't know, laughing would make me sick. How, you might ask? Acid reflux was so bad that it made me vomit if I laughed too much. Pregnancy is so uncomfortable, but when you've spent years trying and experienced loss, every symptom is a blessing. Even laugh vomiting. I appreciate the honesty in this video, though. I've voiced my discomfort to other moms and get the side eye. It's almost like after you give birth, you forget about how much of a struggle pregnancy can be. I'm due with my first in September, and have pretty much taught myself to just pretend like everything is perfect around other people.
I bled HEAVILY in my first trimester and had bad cramps. I was convinced I was miscarrying. My baby was totally fine. Still don’t know why that happened. Pregnancy is weird
Very Thorough, thanks for sharing! Thanks for talking about the things that no one talk about. I'm currently pregnant and didn't know about the varicose veins, and acne. I never had acne even through my teen years then I got pregnant at 39 and I'm experiencing it for the first time ever. Because of my age I'm considered high risk and the one good thing about being high risk is that you get to see your baby at almost every appointment so I get to see him every month which really helps with the anxiety.
I'm a Mom to two adult children. I have 4 grandchildren! I learned so much from you, it was so interesting. You're probably going to make some life-changing moments for those who are pregnant or plan on it!! Your honesty is a true treasure. I hope to keep on learning no matter how old I am... =8^)
For real!!!! this is so true! they always tell you the good stuff but i also learned so much too. and some of it was very hard to go through. Esp post partum.
I was dirty blonde before getting pregnant. I then died it dark brown thinking I'd have to do root touch ups all the time. Nope. Pregnancy darkened my hair like 5 shades it was crazy
Right before you posted this I asked for this type of video on your Instagram stories when you asked for what content we’d want to see. Then hours later you posted this 👏🏼 I love it, thank you!
CORRECTION** the first day of your cycle is calculated by the FIRST day of your period, not the last!!!
A real life example of pregnancy brain 😂
@@darbyivan1432 40 weeks is not 10 months though :) Each month has about 4-4.5 weeks, so pregnancy actually lasts 9 months or sliiiightly over that!
Grounding yourself for at least an hr a day is a must! Sooo many benefits 🙏🏻
I learned about hormones during pregnancy. I was always the one dumb enough to do something crazy. Skiing off-piste? Awesome! Getting into a verbal altercation with a stranger? Bring it. Car crash? No problem, I'm calm as can be. Then my first pregnancy, I had my very first panic attack trying to watch a horror movie. Normally I love rollercoasters and I love adrenalin rushes. During pregnancy, I can't. I really, really can't deal with adrenalin rushes when I'm pregnant. I completely lose my shit when I'm scared during pregnancy and I don't handle that kind of stuff. When I'm not pregnant, life goes on as normally scheduled, unless it's my kid risking their life, I'm not overprotective, I'm of the opinion that kids need to take some risks to learn. I don't scare easy and I don't notice pregnancy hormones on the whole. I didn't have a lot of pregnancy symptoms with my kids. But fear punched me in the face.
It's probably a good one. I've got lots of scars from stupid stunts that I've pulled over the years. Maybe it's not a good to take big risks while pregnant. It just seemed unfair when I couldn't go to theatres to watch the latest thriller.
Thank you for this im currently 10 weeks pregnant and my first ultrasound is next week im just barely holding out. I dont know they look like if there okay or have a heart beat. The first trimester is very nerve racking and just scary this entire time I've been in the dumps hopefully I hear good news. Nobody talks about how much anexity you have.
I didn’t realize how unsympathetic many people are to pregnant women. Even women who have been pregnant before. People just expect you to live your life just like you would if you weren’t pregnant but in so many ways it’s not possible!
Yes to this 👏🙌
I feel this so much especially because I don't get morning sickness and handle pregnancy not so badly so if I need a break because my limbs feel heavy and I'm so tired, people can be really unsympathetic toward me.
@@freespiral sorry to hear you’re having to deal with that too😕 I wish you all the best with you’re pregnancy 💕
Ah yes no sympathy !
Yes, it’s so hard to talk to anyone about it. Sometimes it feels pretty dang lonely.
I had two miscarriages, and the anxiety in the first trimester was terrible after the first one. I am now 16 weeks pregnant and baby is healthy!
Congratulations!! 🥰
I’m am 9weeks 5 days and I only find out I was pregnant not even a week ago because I have always had issues with my period and not getting it for several months and now that I know I’m pregnant I’m so scared to go to my next ultrasound because I’m scared that baby might no have a heart beat anymore because of how late I found out that I was pregnant
Congratulations on your rainbow baby!
@@jessicaeckersley7975 the Time you find out has nothing to do with the health of your baby. I found out at 3.5 weeks (and kind of wish it was later because there was more Time to go before miscarriage rates went down)
Some women just don’t have many symptoms in the beginning though, don’t let it stress you out!
Hope you two are doing well!
I felt so deceived when I first became pregnant and started dealing with all of my pregnancy challenges. I didn't know that I would be throwing up and feeling sick my whole pregnancy, and that nausea became my new sign that it's time to eat. I didn't know that I would have to start eating something every hour to avoid sickness and that I would begin to hate food. I didn't know I would get hot and cold flashes. I didn't know acid reflux would come with a vengeance and I would feel like I swallowed a whole bottle of soap all the time. I didn't know I would hate water until the 3rd trimester, and even then it has to be ice cold. I didn't know I would get excessive saliva and need to carry around a bowl to spit in constantly for 2 weeks. I didn't know that I would have allergies my whole pregnancy and when it gets really bad you start mouth breathing and snoring at night when you didn't before. I didn't know that baby movements for me would not be very magical and actually would be mostly uncomfortable and sometimes painful. I didn't know that stretch marks might not come on your belly and might show up below your nipples or a weird place on your butt. I didn't know that if I get too upset or emotional that my body will make me throw up. I didn't know that I couldn't take any prenatals my whole pregnancy or be as natural as I wanted. Most of all I didn't know that I could reach my breaking point a thousand times and still go on. Pregnancy for me was the hardest thing I have ever experienced. I wasn't prepared. But those babies........ugh. Can't live without them.
The throwing up wjen needing to eat is NO JOKE it's horrible
I became the slurrping queen. Drool galore! And the mouth breathing is no joke. I literally couldn't breathe out of my nose for months.
This is my favourite comment
So true everything you mentioned!
Wow same here the spitting and morning sickness ALL day is no joke🤮
No one talks about how isolating and lonely pregnancy can be. It can be a very, very anxious and mentally exhausting time.
I’m so glad my best friend and I got pregnant almost at the same time (due date is 1 day apart) and we share our experience- it has made this journey so much easier so far
I'm 17 weeks pregnant and experiencing the worst anxiety, it's really lonely 😞
@@yangyangnezin208 Aw! Wish I'm going to be preg with besties in the future 😩💞
I didn't know you could hate being pregnant. Everyone I've ever met or seen from social media portrays pregnancy as a great time. While I love my growing baby with all my heart, I have developed a total fear of pregnancy because of my symptoms. No one has ever said it's possible to fear pregnancy like you fear death.
Yes. This. HG traumatized me
@@stargwynn1 same girl, same.
Yep, I didn’t know this either. It got better for me mid second trimester, but man those first 4 months have me reconsidering if I want more than one child. I can’t imagine how traumatic it would be to have HG.
HG is not the same as morning sickness people that only go for it will understand how difficult it is to be pregnant with the condition. Had HG with both my pregnancy is the loneliest time in my entire life dehydrated lost so much weight was on several medications such a horrible time. Yes of course be grateful we have a baby at the end of it but it is such a tough time and I hope you’re pregnancy gets better. Please ask for support from family and friends don’t say no even if someone is there it’s your pass in the bucket take it.
I'm 33 weeks pregnant and I also did not know it was possible to hate pregnancy. I assumed I would be uncomfortable, I expected morning sickness and sore boobs but I didn't expect the million and one other things that are stressing out my body and mind. It is an extremely complicated emotion and I'm not even sure there is a word for it, I hate pregnancy and yet (though I have not met her) I love my daughter and do not regret making her, I'm honoured to carry her and care for her for 40 weeks but at the same time I am stressed, depressed, anxious and in pain 24/7 and it feels very weird.
thank you for being so honest I feel like a lot of youtubers act like their whole pregnancy was so perfect and they never suffered anything and then you feel bad cause I’m like how come I feel like crap 😭
That’s exactly how I feel ! It’s all sunshine and rainbows and cute baby bumps when you watch videos or hearing most people talk about it. I’m pregnant and miserable. It’s nothing like what I heard. I wish it would become more common to just be honest about symptoms and the terrible 1st trimester. Idk how women do this multiple times.
Agree!
I didn't know how painful it would be to roll over in bed while in the third trimester! Oh man!!
Haha yeah. I'm there right now and it takes me 3-5 minutes to roll over. I have a whole routine 😂
Omg!!! For real. I’m like husband, a little help here
I will be in my 3rd trimester tomorrow and I have been struggling so much in bed! 🥲🙈😅
Omg and having to get up a million times to pee on top of it...😩
Yup, literal turtle over here.
I pray one day I can experience all those things! Just turned 35 so my chances are getting less and less. Prayers would be appreciated! 😍
God's timing and planning is wise and perfect. He will bring to fruition in your life many things for His glory, so take comfort in the absolute certainty of the security of your future.
"For I know the plans I have for you." declares the Lord. "Plans for good and not for evil, to give you a hope and a future." - Jeremiah 29:11
He loves you dearly, rest on Him. 💞
I had my third baby a month before turning 40. There seems to be this literature out there telling of imminent doom if you’re older than 35, but honestly the risks are still relatively low. I loved my OB and his saying how it has so much more to do with your overall health and not solely your age, as a very unhealthy younger person can have complications too. Praying for you 😊
I had both of my children after 35 and really the risks aren’t that much higher. As long as you are fairly healthy to begin with you should be fine. It’s actually becoming more common.
I'm 37 weeks pregnant with my first baby at 37 years old. Keep the faith!
@@lizziebethh amen
Someone no one told me: that you can actually feel really GOOD during pregnancy. I've never felt better than when I was pregnant. But I felt like I couldn't tell anyone, because any other woman would despise me. But I think we also need to share the good stuff, to give other women hope and lessen anxiousness.
Oooh, I had the same thing! I remember thinking: 'Weirdly, I can now kind of understand why some people get addicted to having kids!'. I have never in my life felt so good mentally, it was kind of a bummer when I got back to normal after giving birth.
This is so good to hear! Thank you for sharing this!! I wish more pregnancy videos would share the positive and negative so people won't get so scared, haha! The honesty is good, but positive experiences are just as valid and common as negative ones!
Needed to hear this! Currently just over 8 weeks and all these videos are painting such a miserable picture for me
@@sierra4610 I know, that is the unfortunate side effect of videos like this. Good, positive pregnancies are WAY more common than you think, but you never hear about them because those women are too afraid of offending others to say something. Pregnancy can be an AMAZING experience that defies all typical symptoms. Don't focus on the horror stories; you are your own story, and you have an amazing Lord who is writing it ❤️
@@starabby222 totally agree (again!😄) I'd like to add that it's also possible to have both some symptoms ánd experience the whole thing as absolutely amazing. For example, I was quite sick with morningsickness in my first trimester. I lost 5 kg, puked several times a day, but it didn't bother me at all. I still felt great mentally. I was like: yup, definitely pregnant😃😃! Joked around about it, and could often laugh about the situation, even while puking. It was annoying at times but that was about how bad the experience would get.
I just couldn't be bothered by a little puking, I mean, I was growing a human! I was going to become a mama!
And, as in most cases, the sickness disappeared at 12 weeks and all was well with me and baby. I gave birth to a 9 pound, 53 cm healthy baby (both me and my husband are very tall so that size was nothing to worry about, it was a good sign: the weight loss in the beginning hadn't affected baby in the least)
34 weeks pregnant. Never felt so good mentally, never felt so bad physically. Can‘t wait to hold my little one 💛
All the best!! ❤️💪
I’m trying to pay attention so hard, while sitting here pregnant and falling asleep listening to you talk about how tired we always are lol
Same sister
I am 39 weeks and have pregnancy insomnia. My first trimester I could sleep for 15+hours. I could not get enough sleep. Now, I stay up till 2/3 am and am up by 9
I feel this so deeply 😴😴 I wake up exhausted some days
bye cs same😂😭
Currently on pregnancy insomnia 🤣
I never realized that gas feels just like baby movements. So now anytime I feel gassy in my stomach I have to chill myself out because I think “IM PREGNANT”
Yes! 🤣
Yep, trapped gas. It feels like the little kicks
Oooo I was warned about the "phantom kicks" so now they just bring back the good memories without all the nausea and fatigue that goes along with pregnancy.
haha I call it ghost kicks :P it's so weird!
Yes I was complaining about gas for a week and a half all the time wondering when I would feel the baby 😂
Urinary incontinence is NOT normal. It is common and has been normalized as something that needs to be tolerated. Pelvic floor rehab can fix that problem. It’s in the physical therapy spectrum of healthcare. (At least in the US) I read in France that is part of your postpartum care.
I was so afraid of having babies because my mom told me you can never run or jump again after giving birth because you'll pee yourself. I knew it didn't sound right so I started doing kegels before and after giving birth and have had ZERO issues! Pelvic floor health is so important!
It is true, in France every single woman has the option to see a pelvic physical therapist! I was an au pair in France before becoming a pelvic floor physical therapist, and this was so fascinating to me!
True! I'm french and gave birth 10 months ago. At the 6 week postpartum appointment, the midwife will generally assess you and how much therapy you need to get your pelvic muscles back to what they were.
Really? Because ever since I gave birth I CANNOT hold my pee at all... It's embarrassing how many times I've peed myself 😕
@@marianepheli8873 They are right. You don't have to live with that. Even RUclips has lots of videos with gentle postpartum pelvic floor exercises that will fix that issue.
Thank you for talking about the unspoken anxiety during pregnancy. I was constantly worried something was wrong the entire. time.
It's so hard not to panic! I've had to get used to the extra vaginal discharge, because it sometimes feels like a start to a period. Oh, I hate it so much!
I'm 4 weeks pregnant and found out yesterday morning. 27 hours of anxiety so far so glad to hear it doesn't end lol.
My pelvic floor PT says it is 100% NOT normal to pee your pants while pregnant. It's common, but it is not good, and it is a sign of weak pelvic floor. It apparently is super easy to correct, but she told me to tell any pregnant woman or mom who says this that it is not suppose to be like that at all. It doesn't matter if you've had many children, you can get this looked into, and in almost every case, completely corrected. I hope this helps anyone who didn't know.
Yes yes 🙌
I didn’t know it wasn’t normal! However, I was never told after my first delivery that apparently you need to force yourself to urinate every two hours even if you don’t feel like you need to and it will help strengthen things back up?? Somehow it did work because after my first I was dealing with accidents but since my second and following that advice, it’s all better!
Not trying to be rude, but I believe that is incorrect. Not every doctor is right about everything.
The pressure from the weight of the pregnant belly puts strain on the pelvic floor, making it weaker. Not to mention giving birth, tearing, etc.
@@dahliahart6 yes! Exactly. That pressure and stretching can make your pelvic floor weak and often times women like myself weren't taught about our bodies during pregnancy or how to let your body heal postpartum and to slowly strengthen that pelvic floor again. My PT said the same thing. Incontinence is common but NOT normal because we can often times fix it without surgery. I prolapsed after the birth of my 2nd baby. Prior to my prolapse I had zero knowledge about my pelvic floor and the muscles. I worked hard after her birth to do exercises reccomended by physical therapists and it got rid of many symptoms, including minor incontinence. A year after her birth, I got pregnant with my 3rd baby. I kept up those pelvic floor exercises throughout my pregnancy and my symptoms were hardly there. It was amazing. It is reccomended to see a pf physical therapist during pregnancy if you are having those issues. I gave birth. All 3 of my deliveries were vaginal, and I tore each time. 2nd degree with my first two, and 1st degree with my 3rd. The next day I started easy and slow pelvic floor exercises again. I saw a pelvic floor physical therapist 3 months postpartum who helped so much. Now I never deal with stress incontinence or most symptoms I had previously. 😁 obgyns will say different because their speciality isn't the pelvic floor muscles. Where as, pelvic floor physical therapists specifically specialize in those muscles. Whether weak or too tight. Unfortunately us women don't get proper teaching about our anatomy in that way. I wish I had known beforehand. But her comment is true, incontinence is common but NOT normal as it can typically be reversed or pretty close to it. 😁 Hope that makes sense!
@@dahliahart6 yes but thats only before and right after pregnancy. the baby is pushing on the bladder which is was can cause incontinance during pregnancy, and right after your pelvic floor muscles may be a bit weak (which can still be helped in most cases) but after that, with the right exercises you should not still have that problem
I didn’t realize how quick doctors appointments are most of the time! A lot of OB appointment they literally just weigh me and check BP then send me home. I was so confused at first hahaha
I never knew how complicated my emotions would be. I love feeling baby move and knowing that I’m growing an actual human, but sometimes I just miss having my body to myself 😂
I cried over getting mustard on my ham sandwich, emotions are hard haha
@@missdaisy1034 im not even pregnant but there are times i cry over things such as that!
GIRL YESSSSS
I didn't know that brushing my teeth would make me gag 🤢
So true! I had to switch to bubble gum flavored toothpaste and mouthwash to tolerate it!
Made me gag to the point I threw up! Had no idea 😂
I never used to gag when I brush my teeth..and now I cant brush my tounge at all without gagging
Totally relate! I throw up few times brushing teeth 🤢
Brushing my teeth and motion sickness were the number 1 reasons I would throw up in the first trimester until about week 18. What stinks about getting sick from brushing my teeth was that I had to do it all over again because I had gotten sick.
I got a positive pregnancy test at about 4 weeks. I called my OBGYN right away. I was surprised that they made an appointment to see me at almost 9 weeks. I thought they’d want to see me right away.
Lucky you! I had to Waite until 12 weeks or 14 I believe. I don’t remember lol I’m 23 weeks pregnant 🤰 with second pregnancy since my first was a miscarriage. Those 12-14 weeks were the hardest and scariest. I just want to hold my little one already 😢♥️
Lol yeah same thing happened to me. And I was so anxious and worried if everything was alright with the baby. And oh my God those 4 weeks felt like 4 months. And then when you hear the heartbeat you'll feel alive again 😍
The reason the gynaecologist does this is because the heart of the baby is not yet formed at 4 weeks, they cannot tell you anything at this time. It's even possible that the baby is so tiny that they can't visualise it at ultrasound. This would possibly lead to unnecessary concerns by the parents.
At 9 weeks, the baby's heart has formed and this can be seen on ultrasound. It's also possible then to hear the heart sound. This way everyone can be sure the baby is at the time being healthy and alive.
Same, I found out at about 4 weeks, but based on my last period my doctor thought I was more like 8 weeks, so I had an ultrasound the following week and they saw what looked like (they thought) a fibroid or a cyst or something. Had a bunch of bloodwork done to check my levels to see if things were still progressing (they were). Another ultrasound at around my actual 8 week mark and sure enough, there was my baby and the heartbeat. Irregular periods mess things up so much.
Same! Ha ha found out at 4 weeks. And I called them and was like what now. They said “hang tight” till 10 weeks. I was like oh umm ok. 😹😹😹
I’m currently pregnant with my first baby. And I HATE, Being pregnant. I’m so happy to have him growing in my belly and I can not wait for him to be here! I’ve tried for 10 years to get pregnant. And I feel like you have to say you live being pregnant. Fuck that. You can love your baby and hate the process!
YES!!! I absolutely hated being pregnant.
😊👍 yep!
Currently 24 weeks and can't remember drinking water without throwing up. Sometimes I'm more exited about drink water again than about holding my baby and then I feel terrible afterwards 😞
@@o0laieta0o Girllll . I know it’s not helpful when people say it will get better. But I. Was there too. I thought I would (NEVER) feel better. You will, you will. But make sure you complain as much as possible. You deserve it!
@@bridgettechavis2135 lol my husband is so tired to hear me complain, he just buys me boxes of pedialyte 😂😂
I didn't expect nausea and vomiting 24 hrs a day for the first 27 weeks of pregnancy or that my anterior placenta could make me not feel my baby move as much. I also didn't expect to not like being pregnant and the guilt that comes along with that. Feeling baby move is the best part of pregnancy in my view:)
was it worth it in the end? i am emetophobic and the nausea and sickness is my biggest fear of pregnancy. i wont be pregnant for a few more years, im only 17, and i know technology will advance in that time and that perhaps there will be a lot more options for making pregnancy easier. but... i am still scared. im scared my mental health will be a living hell (i currently struggle with a ton of anxiety and depression without professional treatment so my mindset is not the most positive) and that the physical symptoms will make me want to die! me being 17 and a body with crazy hormones, i feel physically ill almost 24/7 in some way or another, whether that be headaches and body aches or stomach pains and dizziness. i imagine pregnancy would be like this but worse! im terrified but i want a family so badly, and children are truly a blessing from God so if it is His will for me then i will get pregnant someday
@@stellarmori Yes, it's worth everything I've gone through. I've made it to full term (I went into preterm labor twice) and next week I'm being induced. I would go through all of this again.
I have anxiety and depression and took the time to find the help and learn the skills I needed to heal and live with both in my 20's. I also went into pregnancy with a loving and supportive husband and support system. That meant for me waiting to start trying until 32 and yes it took a year to get pregnant but I knew my mental health and stability are the most important part of having a healthy baby. Being mentally healthy also meant I have been able to handle all of the ups and downs without falling into depression or having any panic attacks.
Babies are a blessing but so is mental health. It can be hard to reach out for help and it can take time, sometimes even a couple years, to learn what works for you. The hardest part will always be asking for help but it's worth it in the end.
@@moonwolff8162 thank you! thats very reassuring!
As someone with sexual trauma and acute mental illness, it’s hard through and through, but you’ll very quick find ways to deal with nausea- medications or not- with yourself and your doctor. It’s the least of your issues in pregnancy.
I’m 21 and I was TERRIFIED. the epidural was the most painful part. Get it when you get to an 8 on the pain scale and 30 minutes to an hour before you think you’ll need it was the trick!!
I didn't know that urgency to pee can be the FIRST symptom you feel. Turns out the increase in hormones from becoming pregnant can make you feel like you have to pee more. I thought that only happened once the baby was big enough to push on your bladder but you can actually experience that before you even take a pregnancy test. When I found out I was pregnant frequent urination was my first sign.
Same here! I googled afterwards to find out it’s a sign. But I just remember going to the bathroom for the millionth time that day and thinking “this is ridiculous”.
I didn't expect to gain as much weight as I did, and I didn't realize how hard it would be to get it off. I'd never have my pre-pregnancy body ever again
I didn’t track or really think about how much food I was eating... I just ate as I typically did beforehand but I gained 60lbs for my first pregnancy and was shooook. Second pregnancy I watched what I ate and tracked calories and still gain 40lbs... 15mnths later and I’m having a hard time losing the last 15lbs.
Yup. I feel this. I was the same weight from around 8th grade. Had a baby at 25 and hello extra 50lbs stuck like glue. Slowly working my to healthier eating habits and shedding the extra, but i was not prepared for that.
I lost 30 lbs and look horrible after pregnancy, this is my 3rd pregnancy and I still weigh 112 lbs it is so bad people ask me if I’m sick. I just don’t get it. I wish I would gain weight with pregnancy.
@@Missdaphanyma13 Your body must be working harder than your calorie intake. I know you weren't asking for advice but maybe trying tracking calories and see how much you are consuming. If you're not getting the recommended amount for your goals, you can adjust. I hope you get what you need!
@@kaitbeaudette6283 Oh no girl, yes I need advice, it makes me sad to look like a little girl and lose all my body to then have people criticize me for not gaining weight like everyone else. It’s upsetting, but 🙏 thank you so much, I’ll try that!! ❤️❤️❤️
3:55 - "it feels silly because you're not doing a whole lot" - excuse me, ma'am, i'm gonna stop you right there. You're *Growing a Human, Inside your Body*. That is a *massive* amount of work and effort and amazing, miraculous construction. You wouldn't ask a builder why they're tired at the end of a long day - so absolutely *all* the respect for all mums to be.
But really I like that she addressed that. I am struggling a lot with feeling useless. I identify as the strong independent woman thing and it makes me strangely annoyed/ frustrated when I can't do things.
I didn't realize just how quickly my boobs would grow. I always imagined it to be a 3rd trimester thing...nope. My first pregnancy symptom was that my bra was tight and I'm up at least two cup sizes at 18 weeks.
I had no clue about the pregnancy dating too!! And although people say it’s “9 months” of pregnancy, if you assign 4 weeks to a month and there are 40 weeks of pregnancy, then you’re really technically pregnancy for TEN months!
This is just not true. Only one month has 28 days and that is not even true every year. Let’s say you conceive baby Jan 1, your due date would be Sept 24, this is 8 months 3 weeks and 3 days you have been pregnant. If you go over to 42 weeks then you get in a tiny bit over 9 months. No 10 month pregnancy .
That’s a good point! I hadn’t thought of that. That’s probably why health professionals don’t actually use “months” to talking about gestation, only weeks.
I heard that 11 of 12 months are about 4.3 weeks. So 40 weeks is 9.3 months.
@@msaijay1153 the first two weeks of the 40 are before conception .
The amount of discharge is shocking. Also, my belly is growing hair 😱. 24 weeks today🥰
Hearing you say that the moment your son was born your mental health improved massively gives me SO much hope !!!! My mental health has been horrendous ! First pregnancy, baby boy! Due October xxxxx
Same. I've had bouts of anxiety and pretty consistent depression in my third trimester. Due September 29th! Here's to hoping we both feel better! 🤗❤️
I hope youre doing better now!!!
Omg the tiredness.. I couldn't even get out of bed or open my eyes without getting at LEAST 11 hours sleep. Which was very impractical when I had my second baby and my first one woke up at the crack of dawn.
“I did not know what tired was until I got pregnant”
SO TRUE.
I was so lucky to be pregnant during quarantine, so my pregnancy was like really smoothe. I stayed home and since it was my first pregnancy I didn't have to chase anybody. So I loved pregnancy BUT I did have issues with postpartum depression, which I was sure won't ever happen to me because I am "normal". As it turned out depression doesn't discriminate, and I just want to support all of you who might be having symptoms of postpartum depression and filmed the video telling about my experience and you can find it on my channel.
Thank you Delilah for your work! 💕
Did you happen to have an epidural?
My husband worked with someone in nursing school a few years ago who was talking about the chemical effects of epidurals. When a woman gives birth, her body releases this 'love bonding' hormone that goes to her and baby. For whatever reason, the epidural doesn't allow this to happen. Some believe this could be a major factor in post partum depression. It's like your body didn't comprehend that the birth occured, so there is a disconnect between your empty womb and the child in front of you. I experienced this with my first child.
I've had two more children without an epidural and didn't have post partum depression after either one.
I don't know anything for sure, as I'm not a doctor or scientist, just sharing what I've heard and experienced.
@@berlyn4444 Hi Berlyn I totally did! But I also gave birth without it. So I had it for couple of hours when I was getting ready for labor and then my not very good OB-GYN got upset with me because I didn’t know how to push. Obviously women didn’t want to spend with me all night so she gave order to turn off my epidural and my labor started hour after that. Which it pretty much stopped working by then and so I gave birth feeling everything.
But it’s interesting, I never made this connection and I never heard about it! Thank you for telling me about it. I will do a research on this topic immediately! ❤️
By the way happy Mother’s Day to all of us!!!!
@@shelld776 That explanation makes sense to me as well. Our bodies react to everything we do, so it's difficult for anyone to know true causation.
We've had two home births and we'll never do it any other way. Birth is scary, but pregnancy is a beautiful way to get to know your body and to experience it's greatness. If you are a believer, cling to the Creator. He made our bodies to bring forth life. People like to thank modern medicine for lower infant mortality rates, but I think it had more to do with modern hygiene practices. Tragedies happen, but it isn't the norm (if it is, that is evidence of a sick/diseased society)
Above all, if you want to get pregnant, take care of your body. If you don't already, making a commitment to cooking from scratch instead of using short cuts like Bisquick and boxed cake mix, or just going for prepared food, is an amazing decision for you health. Something I wish I would have realized earlier in life...A product being marketed and sold to you in no way guarantees it's safety. That goes for food, too. Just because a food product is on a supermarket shelf doesn't mean it is nutritious or even safe to consume. I try to steer clear of chemicals, especially in my food. Whether something is approved by the FDA seems irrelevant to me, as many things they approve haven't been around long enough to know the long term health effects. That goes for a lot of medical practices as well.
If you're blessed with a child, my advice is to be intentional in all you do. Don't fall into the trap of doing things simply because that's what everyone else does. Even if you still make the same decision as everyone else, there is power in knowing why you do the things you do. As well as knowing why you believe the things you believe.
I did not know about the areola color and size change either when I first got pregnant. I’m 23 weeks 5 days pregnant with my husband and I’s first. My pregnancy has been so easy though, no morning sickness, lots of fatigue in the first trimester but ever since it has been smooth sailing. Baby is healthy. And I felt those first sweet movements at 14 and a half weeks. God has definitely blessed me with an easy first pregnancy. 💕
Before I got pregnant I didn’t realize the likelihood and possibility of having twins 🤣😅 Then at my 12 week ultrasound there were two babies in my uterus and I was like WHAT!? 💙 best surprise ever.
I didn’t know that after birth, I’d still feel phantom baby kicks for MONTHS. It’s very startling 😂
I feel that too!!!
Im 2 years postpartum and am still feeling it
Omg yes!! I was so sure I was pregnant again so soon and even grabbed a test lol
I only have that sensation when I have trapped gas
Yeah, and everytime that happens I frantically start to calculate when I had my last period to reassure myself I am not pregnant 😂 But my brain is "But what if you ARE?" 🙄
YES! I heard so many women complain about such strong symptoms in early pregnancy. My symptoms have been next to nothing and I’m almost 7 weeks and everything has been so manageable that I actually didn’t believe I was pregnant after six home pregnancy tests AND a hospital HCG test. I only believed it when I saw the baby and the little heartbeat in my first scan. Not having symptoms ironically made me feel really worried.
I laughed so much at the part where you said "I so miss breathing through my nose" love from South Africa 😊
I’m 39 weeks pregnant, and I did not expect to have carpal tunnel from pregnancy swelling! I work with my hands a lot and it was certainly an unwelcome surprise I’ve had to overcome!
I had that with my first pregnancy. It stopped me from sleeping, it was so uncomfortable. The only thing that helped was ice packs on my wrists. I am currently pregnant with baby number two and I hope I won’t get it this time...
I had the same. Almost unbearable aches and pains throughout my arm and shoulder. I couldn’t write or crochet and had a lot of difficulty sleeping the last 3-4 months. Almost immediately after giving birth the symptoms were gone!
Yes! Both pregnancies I experienced this as soon as baby came it went away, so bizarre!
Omg, yes! I didn't know this was a thing. It started for me about 2 weeks ago (~34 weeks). I've only dealt with some swelling but as soon as it got to hands, the carpal tunnel set in. I'm having a hard time sleeping on my side because of it.
@@amyrobson2879 oh no I hope you find some relief soon! I had to wear wrist braces at night and I highly recommend it got me through it
I’m expecting now and I know many people that have been pregnant. I’m surprised no one told me about the early cramps you get in the first few weeks and pregnancy pains..wth
We are so here for the hat!😍 I'm definitely with you on the anxiety in the first trimester, I felt like every second I was worrying is everything okay.
I just found out I’m pregnant 3 days ago and I teared up watching this. Thank you Delilah for making this! Even though I’ve experienced some symptoms, I keep thinking “how can I be pregnant when I don’t feel anything?!” This video gave me peace of mind on that fact. Love love love your content Delilah. You have such a peaceful atmosphere about you. God is using you and this channel to help so many! ❤️
i really appreciate what you mentioned about mental health. Ive been really struggling for most of my pregnancy and it s nice to hear that im not the only one and that this can be normal. hopefully i feel that weight is lifted once I give birth, like you did!
Didn’t know I wouldn’t be able to fit into normal bath towels lol
Haha😂 just experiencing that now🙋♀️
I was SO selfconcious about this. 😩 Good to know I'm not alone. 🙈
This
Oh I’m so happy I’m not alone
Haha yes!
I didn't know that Braxton Hicks would be so intense so early, and happen so frequently!
Prayers would be awesome! My husband and I are trying to get pregnant! ❤
Saying a prayer for you
Yes, agree wholeheartedly with almost all of these! I’ve struggled with feeling happy or excited about being pregnant especially while feeling so sick. It is surprising that it takes so long to show and just questioning whether I’m really pregnant.
Thank you so much for this.
I have always known that there is so much info that is withheld about pregnancy in totality.
And I think that is what makes a lot of first time mothers be paranoid and anxious because they are going through common things that are never talked about.
Thank you, thank you. ❤️
I'm 13 weeks on my first pregnancy and this video was SO relatable! Funny thing is that I knew most of these stuff because I went to nursing school but oh boy, it's so different when you go through it.
Hat on is just so on point, I wish I could wear hats like that and actually look good 😂 love you 💖
I live in Switzerland and here your Ob-gyn would do a scan every month during a normal pregnancy and for high-risk you would probably have one every 2-3 weeks in the third trimester and even more often in the last weeks. Also, the glucose test is something everyone does. We have blood drawn every month too. We have really great a healthcare system here and thankfully, almost everything is free for pregnancy and birth.
Yes healtcare system is great, but the „holidays“ after birth are way to short. For Mam and Dad.
I read somewhere almost every country in Europe has longer mom postpartum break than Switzerland.
Greetings from Bärn:)
What is the point of a scan every month?
@@anninaelephant8058 yes, that is an issue that is taking a while to improve. But I was happy to hear that dads can have 10 days paternity leave now.. my husband only had one day off after the birth of my son :-)
@@morgan8385 they track the growth of the baby really closely and check the placenta and cervix for potential problems. If a woman chooses to be followed by a “birthing center” or just a midwife, they have a more natural “let nature take its course” mindset, and they do a lot less scans. I don’t know what is best, but I enjoy seeing my baby during the frequent scans and I find it reassuring to find out that my baby is developing well.
Typically everyone does the glucose test here in Canada too, but during covid they want to limit exposure and relieve some stress on the labs so they've made it temporarily optional based on risk factors.
One thing I didn't know is ACNE! My chin is blooming. I am almost at 10 weeks and I have constantly new pimples on my chin. My skin hasn't looked this bad since I was 18!
Girl, tell me about it. The "glow" for me is nothing but crazy amounts of oil and whatever light is being reflected off of the crop rotation around my chin and jawline. Oh, and the hair growth? Yeah, it seems to be everywhere else BUT my head.
That happens in the first trimester. It surprised me too! I was expecting an instant glow. It does get better in the second trimester though!! I’m 26 weeks and I’m skin’s been great for months now. We’ll see what happens the third trimester.
Brain fog, anxiety in 1st trimester, insatiable hunger at the end of 1st trimester, itchy bits, tiredness, breathlesness, bad skin in 3rd trimester, swollen legs, back pain and pubic bone pain and heart burn were my issues. However I had no sickness and my psoriasis is nearly cured now which I find mind blowing.
YES 🙌🏻 please please do a video about labour and delivery! I’m due on July 8th with our first and one things I had no clue about was that your lung capacity reduces up to 30% by the end!
Due July 5th! Good luck!!!
@@malorie8557 thanks, you as well!
Really nice to hear that I’m not alone in some of the things that have shocked me throughout my pregnancy. I’m having my first baby in about 3 weeks!
One thing I wish from these kind of videos is that they would also talk about positive things they didn’t realize would happen when you become pregnant. It’s easy to focus on the negatives because yes it is very weird and uncomfortable, but there is so much to be thankful for during pregnancy. Here’s a couple of mine:
1. I didn’t realize HOW happy I’d be not to have a period for 9 months (I get very rough periods and would happily take even the third trimester aches over that)
2. I didn’t realize how special others would make me feel (probably a guilty pleasure in pregnancy, but it’s so nice to have random strangers congratulate us, have others give me a seat when there aren’t many, etc.)
3. I planned this pregnancy so obviously I’m excited and already love my baby so much, but I didn’t realize how much love I’d feel toward this little person I haven’t even met yet!
4. My favorite: I didn’t realize how excited my husband would be over our pregnancy. He’s the most supportive person on earth but he has really shocked me with how excited he is to be a dad in a few weeks.
Best comment, hands down. Just being reminded to acknowledge the positives.
Eczema!! I had it so bad from the get go and when I was no longer pregnant, it was like I never had it. So odd
Me too! It started at six months and I have two months left to go and it’s so itchy 😭
So lucky yours went away! I had it like crazy with my daughter on face unfortunately! It was awful. Had it again with my son on my hands and my arm and it’s just some try I nut that I love with now it’s so sad my skin is so sensitive now :(:(
I have it in my armpits and it’s so awful. Glad to know that it should go away after birth 🤞🏾
You hit this on the head !!!!!!! Everything you said is true with the exception of a few things I haven't gone through yet and hope I never do!!! 🙏
I didn't know there was such a thing as "pregnancy insomnia" until I was pregnant with my first. It wasn't just the last trimester I couldn't sleep; it was also the 1st and 2nd trimesters. I didn't know it would be a thing I could expect with all my pregnancies until I had it with my second also 😂😭😭😭
Side note: please see a pelvic floor physiotherapist. You're describing having something called stress incontinence. It is super treatable and you will feel so much more secure about sneezing and laughing even after the 1st treatment!
Pregnancy insomnia is a good one.
So interesting, I never heard of that but I literally slept maybe four hours a night when I was pregnant with my first, I could not sleep. The second one brought the extreme fatigue...well and by then I had a two year old too. 😂
So nice to hear you normalising the spotting/bleeding. As a first time Mama this started for me at 13 weeks and I was terrified about it especially because I can't feel baby yet! Happened every day for 2-3 weeks and baby is fine and still hanging out :)
I had a phobia of needles before I was pregnant with my daughter, couldn't even get a vaccine without feeling faint and even passing out.... Yeah needless to say by the end of my first pregnancy needles didn't phase me anymore 😂 becoming a mother makes you stronger :)
It was your brain telling you that there not right and not to do it.
I have only recently found your channel, where your getting ready to deliver number 4. It is so refreshing listening to you and the joy you have for your gorgeous family. I am hoping you get the natural birth that you want.
I can't help but smile wondering what your husband thinks when editing your videos. It's good that he has been getting a good education, it will make his life a lot easier with his daughter, not being embarrassed and actually being able to answer her questions as they arise without being clueless. She should never feel embarrassed going to her dad for help, if your not immediately available.
I didn't know that I'd suffer with Hyperemesis Gravidarum (all three of my pregnancies so far) and how hard that would be physically and mentally. I have always wanted to be a mom and expected to become super attached very quickly, and while every time I've been very excited and happy each time I've found out that I'm pregnant as soon as the excessive nausea and vomiting hit me at 6 weeks that just takes over my whole existence and I don't really think about anything else at all until it eases up (around 20 weeks for me).
Hg mama here as well. Its draining, and life consuming. Congratulations on all three of your pregnancies. Hugs to you. 💜
@@kennykatt23 thank you 😊
I just found out I'm pregnant a few days ago and this video made me feel so heard! Thank you!!
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I am happy to see someone making videos like these. I feel that so many women get pregnant for the first time and are so clueless. I was 21 when I had my first son and I had to learn everything as it was happening. The anxiety was horrible. I had HG where you vomit all throughout the day multiple times. It's the worst feeling you could imagine. I felt like I was being tortured for months. I was convinced to try for another girl since every women would tell me "every pregnancy was different" So, I tried again in hopes I wouldn't get so sick. But, here I am boy number two and had HG all over again to the point I had to leave my job, because I physically couldn't even drive a car. I feel this time around I am more prepared only because of my first pregnancy. But, have decided this isn't for me. Pregnancy is truly hard for a lot of women and I wish people were more out spoken about it. When I would talk about my experience people would try to shut me down. Idk why people want to cover up the reality of it, especially the risk involved and postpartum. It is not to scared mothers, but you educate the ones who want to learn about it before going through it. So glad social media such as RUclips and Tiktok are allowing mothers to speak about the reality of it so everyone can respect the process more, but also learn.
The heart palpitations were disconcerting to me too! And that by the end of your pregnancy sitting becomes kind of uncomfortable I had to move around or lay down. How SEVERE nausea can be, even walking into a grocery store would make me puke. How looooong labor can take.
Oh my god im so glad you mentioned that feeling of "Am I really pregnant?". I keep wondering the same and trying to reason with myself logically that of course I am because a, b, and c...!
The "feeling like you have allergies" thing was the most surprising fact for me! Well, I've never been pregnant myself, but I've heard you and a few other women say they couldn't breathe out of their nose for almost the whole time! I have chronic allergies/post nasal drip as it is, which A) I wouldn't wish it anyone and B) I shudder to think if I'd even be able to breathe at all if I were pregnant, lol!
Most likely due to elevated histamine levels in the body! A low histamine diet will help with this😊
This was me. I stopped being able to breathe through my nose about month 4 and felt like I had allergies up until month 8. I still cant breathe out of my nose but now that she has dropped, I can breathe in my chest again.
Yes to all of these! I didn't even know until my third (most recent) pregnancy that I could get painful varicose veins on the lady parts! That was such a terrible surprise!
I also become terribly depressed while pregnant. Like manic. I'm sooo happy to hear someone bring this up.
This was such a good, comprehensive list of surprising symptoms of pregnancy.
So for those aches and pains and also with perinatal depression massage can help a ton. I know it seems like a luxury, but it can help so much to help people throughout their pregnancy. 😊
You are so wise beyond your years. And one of the things I like about you is how you dont shy away from sensitive subjects (mental health, varicose veins on your huha for ex). Haha. Thanks for being you!
I used to never take naps. I could never fall asleep during the day no matter how little amt of sleep I had overnight. UNTIL I GOT PREGNANT, falling asleep on the couch
I'm so glad you talked about pregnancy anxiety and spotting. Those were two things I dealt with in my pregnancy. I experienced a prior miscarriage and it carried with me in my next pregnancy. I also didn't realize cramps were a normal thing and swelling. Also, you can have pre eclampsia without having high blood pressure.
I developed carpal tunnel during my pregnancy. I had to wear wrist braces at night. The day I had my son, it was completely gone. So weird.
I did as well but took about about a month to be gone so imagine carpal tunnel with a new born😑
@@HavensCustomHome I am so happy mine went away. I was astonished when I could sleep with no pain. It was definitely the weirdest pregnancy thing I had.
I feel like you should make a part two! Especially because there was an hour of footage, and I still want to hear more ❤️ I’m currently at 28 weeks with my first baby and I’m learning so much
How difficult it is to fall pregnant and how bad sex education in school was / is
Haha yes, they tell you in school that you can get pregnant from having sex any time. I don't recall ovulation being discussed at all.
YES. This. Getting pregnant (for me at least) is NOT easy 😭 I would do anything for it
@@lacey2906 It's definitely dependent on both the individuals. I look at my husband and boom, pregnant, but that's not the case with everyone. Also, my sex ed class in high school had nothing to do with sex and was just about the stages of baby growth? Not useful.
Wow. This is the best and most informative pregnancy video I've ever watched. I am 38 weeks pregnant and I've had all of these symptoms except the bleeding.
Can’t wait to watch Theo with a little sibling!
Ahhh, Delilah, I love this video! I’ve never been pregnant but my husband and I are more seriously discussing starting a family soon. These questions are all things people neverrrr talk about. Thank you!
This video spoke to my soul, as a mama pregnant with my second and experiencing alllll the fatigue and food aversions into the second trimester 🤪 Dressing the bump is SO hard! And then that awkward postpartum period?? Give me all the dresses! So much easier that way 😂
Thank you for this video! We are planning to have kids and it's so frustrating to only see people who make super-optimistic videos about pregnancy. I want to know all the hardships and symptoms so that I am prepared and won't feel odd or like a failure! Thank you for preparing me in a honest way 😊
What's not talked about is menopause and premenopause. Maybe since everywhere and almost everyone talks and posts about pregnancy, menopause and premenopause info would be insanely helpful and not stigmatized. Happy motherhood.
a million times yes to how overwhelming the baby market is! It was a complete surprise to me.
I didn’t know about the painful contractions after you have the baby, especially each time you nurse. I thought once the baby was born it was all over.
Same!
They weren't too bad with my first but apparently they get worse with subsequent children.
@@nicola6234 yes i've had 4 babies. and they got worse with each one.
@@alliepasswaiter mine have gotten better with each one, lol, but that might have something to do with weaning the first up until a month before the next baby.
I just wanna say you make me feel really calm.
I just stumbled upon you doing some research, but I wanted to give you that compliment. And now I figured out you're in saskatchewan too :)
It can be common but it’s definitely not normal to pee your pants while pregnant! Pelvic floor physiotherapy is so so important for managing these kinds of symptoms during and after pregnancy 👌
26 weeks and I used to hate crying babies before getting pregnant, now I genuinely feel sad whenever I hear a baby cry like I just want to hold them!!
Great video! So many of these I didn't know, there's just so much stuff that isn't told to young women. Before I was pregnant with my first I didn't know that if you have negative blood (might be just O - not sure) you have to get a shot called rhogam around 28 weeks then again after the baby is born if he/she has a positive blood type. The reason for this is if the baby's blood mixes with yours it will cause an immune reaction with the next kid and your body will literally start attacking the baby. Before Rhogam was invited it used to be (in America at least) that before you married someone you had to get a blood test done and if your blood was incompatible they wouldn't allow you to get married because they were trying to prevent this problem. Oh the things you learn
Love how real this is
One thing that I didn’t know is that pregnancy makes your legs and feet more sensitive to pain from bumping into things… if I stubbed a toe or even gently walked into furniture, it hurt as if I banged into it with full force.
Thanks for this video❤There's a lot that it isn't said about pregnancy. It's good to know I'm not the only one feeling anxious in the 1st trimester and feeling awkward about what to wear when nothing fits anymore.
You’ve inspired me! For my next pregnancy I want the gender to be a surprise until birth 🥰 that seems like such a special thing to save for birth.
Sameee!!
I've waited for all four of mine and i love it, would never find out before. It was such a good distraction for labor too, wondering who they are and needing to meet them.
Something I didn't know, laughing would make me sick. How, you might ask? Acid reflux was so bad that it made me vomit if I laughed too much.
Pregnancy is so uncomfortable, but when you've spent years trying and experienced loss, every symptom is a blessing. Even laugh vomiting.
I appreciate the honesty in this video, though. I've voiced my discomfort to other moms and get the side eye. It's almost like after you give birth, you forget about how much of a struggle pregnancy can be. I'm due with my first in September, and have pretty much taught myself to just pretend like everything is perfect around other people.
Please do one of these about birth! I'm currently 18 weeks with my first :)
I can’t imagine only having two ultrasounds! I’ve had one with every appointment so far 4 and i’m low risk! Very thankful!
I bled HEAVILY in my first trimester and had bad cramps. I was convinced I was miscarrying. My baby was totally fine. Still don’t know why that happened. Pregnancy is weird
Same happened to me
I didn't bleed but the cramps had me crying all the time cause I thought I was miscarrying too
sounds like baby took the trash out as soon as they moved in 😂
Sounds like a subchorionic hematoma, I have that!
Me too so stressful
Very Thorough, thanks for sharing! Thanks for talking about the things that no one talk about. I'm currently pregnant and didn't know about the varicose veins, and acne. I never had acne even through my teen years then I got pregnant at 39 and I'm experiencing it for the first time ever. Because of my age I'm considered high risk and the one good thing about being high risk is that you get to see your baby at almost every appointment so I get to see him every month which really helps with the anxiety.
I'm a Mom to two adult children. I have 4 grandchildren! I learned so much from you, it was so
interesting. You're probably going to make some life-changing moments for those who are pregnant or plan on it!! Your honesty is a true treasure. I hope to keep on learning no matter how old I am... =8^)
For real!!!! this is so true! they always tell you the good stuff but i also learned so much too. and some of it was very hard to go through. Esp post partum.
My best friend’s hair always changed color when she was pregnant!! Normally she’s blonde but when she’s pregnant it takes on a very red hue. So crazy!
My hair does the same thing during pregnancy!
My hair seems to have gone permanently two shades darker.
I was dirty blonde before getting pregnant. I then died it dark brown thinking I'd have to do root touch ups all the time. Nope. Pregnancy darkened my hair like 5 shades it was crazy
Right before you posted this I asked for this type of video on your Instagram stories when you asked for what content we’d want to see. Then hours later you posted this 👏🏼 I love it, thank you!