MATTY HEALY SHADES TAYLOR SWIFT & TTPD: How to Get Over a Situationship | Shallon Lester
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The 1975 frontman Matty Healy is shading Taylor Swift's new album, The Tortured Poets Department, and their situationship. Have you had an ex trash you? I'll tell you how to handle it!
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I was trying to see why you got Xld once. A few years ago. & OMG!!. Are you friggin serious!? What is even going on!!?? I'm sorry that happened to you! And, I'm proud of you. You seem to be doing just fine. Keep ya head up sis. Sorry I wasn't there for ya. How awful!
Those little twats! I'm glad you didn't change your last name tho. That was kinda funny. 😂. But, still. What a bunch of little $hit$!! I'm glad you're ok Shallon.
& bring Cowboy 🐕🐾❤️💛
What happened with the lawsuit & Mattress Actress Flapjack Boobs? You probably can't talk about it huh? Well anyhow. I'm on your side. Have you been following all of her Shenanigans? Ovey'
It’s basically gaslighting to avoid accountability for poor behavior. There’s a reason she called him the smallest man who ever lived.
This.
Perhaps it's a bit of him immaturely believing he looks cool because he "rejected Taylor Swift"
@@IndigoMasquerade it just made him look like the worst ex she’s ever had. John Mayer is somewhere breathing a sigh of relief at this point.
Taylor did? 😂! She called him that? HaHa!! That's awesome! No wonder everyone likes Taylor. She is relatable! Not sure about "Whisper Goose" 🦆. Shall was right about her. I used to like W. G... See, Biebs is like a Parasocial little brother or Nephew to me. I absolutely adore Hailey. Such a Doll! With Patience as a Saint. So pretty & elegant Hailey is. Plus, She's J. B. 's wife & Soon to be "Baby Mamma." ❤😊. And, IDGAF. I Like her Family. She comes from Good Stock. Justin needs that. He needs that right now. All of us who have seen him grow up in the Public eye & care about him, I'm sure want to hold him and hug him right now so, he could just cry & relax. He needs rest & some pissed off women ready to rumble for him. Ya know? To me, he's just a sweet little boy who needs his big sister/Auntie right now. And, I'm "Ki77 Bill." Volume 1 & 2 right now. And READY! Oprah. I'm coming for you too.
❤ & 🙏🏼🙏's for Biebs & Fam. Also, Shallon those people talking Slander on you. I'm about to get those shits too. See, I'm 🥜's too. And, I would like to explain to these little pukes, who claim to know everything about mental health. They're all idiots who don't know squat. Psychology, Shall, I could totally explain your crush on my little bro, Justin. Lol. It makes sense to me. He's a cutie patootie who grew into a very handsome man. Everyone loves Justin. & Good. So what? Call me? I can totally explain & be your Gen X sister 🐂 🐕 for you, against these POS Gen Z & Millennial's puke 🤮🤢.
❤💛 Daisy 💜💋
@@BrendaHouston_ seriously, this makes John Meyer seem like a saint of a man lol
29:05 “You are not stupid for demonstrating your ability to love”
I appreciated this 😖😖💗
Women who are deceived in a situationship should not feel any embarrassment. They are in the relationship with good intentions. It's the men who are deceptive, manipulative, and gaslighting who should feel shame, but often they are narcissists and they don't.
Here's the thing. She rebounded after Joe. Hard. And it was with the worst kind of guy... the one who promises everything, gets the girl into bed, then ghosts. Tale as old as time.
Taylor you'll be fiiiiine!
Exactly. I also believe she wanted Joe forgotten and take revenge on him but she gave Matty a forever importance. She really prefers the bad guys and falls for it. It's not a personal and PR angle she wanted. She bet on a wrong horse and miscalculated what both of those guys represent. Joe was quiet but no one doubt his love. Matty laughed it off. Admittedly she recorded million songs about him so it's a bit creepy.
Yep.
Wrong
@@aniapalus9530you keep saying this but you do know taylor and matty knew each-other long before JA came into the picture right? It's just they could never get the timing right and matty was on drugs so she rebounded with Calvin Harris. Joe is literally a rebound of a rebound and their relationship started out weird with her cancellation due to the Kimnye drama. Joe had a savior dynamic with taylor. With him trying to keep her private but this was the architecture of their demise. Taylor is a global popstar. She was never going to be able to live a private life, and we begin to see the cracks with her referring to Joe as a slammer, prison, jail. I'm afraid to say there was no there there for them.
Men who speak like this on their ex are secretly rubbing one out to her photos and crying in a separate room from their wives 10 years down the road.
*2 years 😂
😂😂😂❤❤❤
Oh man, that's sooo true! My main situationship that I allowed to continue on for far too long ended seeking me out over a decade later and literally the week after my husband died to try and re-hook his star to mine. I mean, really?? My man, who was in-fucking-credible just died suddenly leaving me widowed at 35 and you think this is the perfect time to make a move? What a damn creep. Wish I'd respected the red flags long ago but I guess being so young and inexperienced I just didn't fully comprehend the treachery
You're damn tootin' ! Probably w/ a tiny 🍆 ▫️to boot. Probably orders Ladies of the Evening too. Since he's self conscious about it. I know the type. Lol!
@@amandaredd3057 thats truly despicable ☹️ im so sorry you had to go through that
I have another idea, when guys say they don't "remember" dating you. You say "oh thank god, I was kinda embarrassed to whatever happened. I wouldn't want to be associated with that" 😂🤣
Yes!! Lol! Perfect.
That man is crazy. I remember they met each other’s parents in public… who is he trying to gaslight? The whole world saw it.
THIS IS SO TRUE
@@shallonlester In the Uk we have to deal with his celebrity mother, who constantly talks about her mental health on TV, he even wrote a song about how she couldn’t love him as a baby. Why does he know this- she told him!! It could be an amazing video to go down this Oedipus complex, psyche of a fuck boy with mummy issues route. The whole thing is off and icky af.
It appears as such. He's so stupid. I h8 him.
@@seraphim9333damn. Poor guy 😢
@@seraphim9333I can save him
This is why I keep my past “situation-ships” a secret. A guy completely out of my network, going to places my network will never be, and not posted any social media platforms. At least this way I can take my losses in private, without it affecting any other aspect of my life.
I learned the hard way years ago that publicly being with a guy can mean that he can slander you in public too.
Mine didn’t slander me, but few people knew of mine as well. And it was over an 8-year period. It was nearly my entire twenties. When something drifts then comes back to you that many times, saying things someone who isn’t committed shouldn’t say, you really do believe it’s meant to be them.
Exactly! That's why with Joe it turned out respectfully, valid and with Matty... Now I wonder if this strategy of an album all about Matty was a good idea. Revenge on Joe who took it calmly? Vs Russian Roulette Matty. I thought she knew better.
Situationships are never good idea to flaunt, talk about. She make it very dramatic. Is it fair? No. But also the other person might say "oh, it was a short hook up, fling". Don't give them the power. My friend says "you were never official, stable couple. you didn't get gf benefits. you might come off as pushy and stalker-ish" That's why some woman want a ring. As proof it was serious or at least a huge lie on his part.. Now Taylor looks like a foul and we know PR is everything to her. We might even had an earlier proposal from Travis.
Pay attention to actions not words
I had to find out about lovebombing the hard way
I once heard how there's a million small but detrimental choices that have to be made before any "real cheating" occurs and that is what is absolutely gut wrenching.
Oh my god 😔 that’s the truest thing. The INTENT. The VIBES. The FLIRTING. It turns my stomach.
Years ago, I had a post-mortem with someone I considered an ex even though we never had the boyfriend/girlfriend talk. I’ll never forget when he said, “I don’t know what to call what we were because we never had ‘the talk’ but dammit we were together and that meant something to me.” The validation reverberated through my entire being. To this day, he is my favorite ex and we are still friends (he’s married, I’m head over heels for my boyfriend so we don’t talk a lot but once a year we say hi on each other’s birthdays and catch up a bit). I’ve had men I was engaged to gaslight me about the seriousness of our relationship and it drove me crazy and broke my heart. But this king validated and reciprocated the emotion and intention, and I will never forget that ❤
What a guy! I'm glad you both found your happiness
@@Li_Tobler He’s one of the good ones 💕 I’m glad we both found our happiness as well. Thank you 😊
He truly was a King for that wow! 👏 👏 👏
I'm a big 1975 fan and all I can say it's I'm not suprised that he would say that. I would not want to be someone who he wrote his lyrics about. He literally has a line that says. "I said I loved you, what does it matter if I lied to you," and that isn't even on his worst ones
HE TOLD HER SHE WAS THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE “not serious” i could scream right now
SAMEEEEEE 🫠
Boys will say anything to get into our pants.
I could scream for joy😂
He loved her he's lying to save face
I truly believe that song was about Joe Alwyn because no one in their right mind looks at Matty Healy and goes "my future husband and the father of my children", at least I hope not.
"You shit-talked me under the table, talking rings and talking cradles, I wish I could unrecall how we almost had it all." 😭
I have to pause this video multiple times because my tears are about to burst. From my experience, the situationships have been literally traumatized me. I thought I was healed, but I didn’t. Healing is such a long journey. I come to a conclusion that I am giving up on dating and stuff, and I am going to focus only on myself.
Best thing you can do love bc YOU are the one w value. I’ve been there in the thick of it TWICE! One was actually very abusive to me & i allowed it bc I didn’t know what it was like to be with someone battling addiction & I let that be a justification. I still have some form of CPTSD from it that I constantly work on. That’s to heal me though. That’s about making me the peak version of myself with the standards I never demanded. Both times the moment came where the spell lifted & I was so grossed out by their existence & how low I had truly dropped my standards. Take that as something to look forward to. Even embrace it. I even kept photos I took of them that were the WORST or when I was mad I’d catch them sleeping with their belly out catching the worst angle & snap a pic. I’d hit voice record or take screenshots of the most disgusting things they said to me & id look. Bc I know it gives that “soulmate” feeling when you’re in it, like shallon said it’s the dream. I had one who planned to renovate a van w me & travel the country on this crazy hippie me & him against the world adventure… that MF was just playing a part. He STUDIED ME! He used my compliments & made a persona. Both of them did. I’ve looked back a few times to see them with new women & guess what, they’re basically in new Halloween costumes now. The hippie adventurer is now a redneck farmhand looking like all the men that came from Alabama I grew up with. My anti type. THATS who he is now. Think about how gross that is. I feel for every girl in their wake. I encourage you to embrace seeing all of their worst flaws & make a mental/physical collage. It helped break my spells faster & now i literally feel nothing from the memories & me & my best friend bust out laughing when their names are mentioned bc of the absurd slip in sanity I had. If you’re in pain right now, over someone like this. I promise he’s a really gross person deep down & you’re not. Your heartbreak is valid & I wish i could hug you bc I know how it feels when they sell you on your perfect forever. It’s so evil.
Hugs❤ you will find a good man one day
@@Susiehighschool thank you so much!
@@watermelonlover745 thank you for your kind words.
I remember those days don’t miss them. I been with my bf for 4 years now and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been and love him more than I did 3 years ago. But I do remember the pain I was in before him with the wrong guys and they were painful. What turned my life around was realizing my worth and stop fking around with people who don’t respect me. And everything fell into place. Just remember you will also grow and heal pain in the right relationship too you never stop growing.
It's a road finally taken. They'd known each other for at least 10 years. They were connected at each other's concerts, he'd mentioned her in interviews and did some songs together that were never released. When her relationship with Joe ended & she reconnected with Matty she probably thought "This Is It. He's the one". She was going on tour last summer saying "This is the happiest I've ever been". The situation-ship makes you feel so hollow and foolish. "Are they second-hand embarrassed that I can't get out of bed? Cause something counterfeit's dead". The "second chance" relationship going wrong kills you because you think it finally makes sense & then it falls on your face. This reminds me of your Jennifer Lopez video about being addicted to love. Choosing to have faith in finding love is brave.
Fully agree! I was in an 8-year situationship that really messed me up. It’s so insidious, and the longer it goes on, the more they come back to you, you really start to think you’re meant to end up together. Even if you’re awful for each other. That album lays it out so well, that you can see all of the little things over a decade that reinforced this for her
This is exactly what happened me after I got divorced. Friends for over a decade and he was the biggest con man of all time.
A guy I had a relationship/situationship with for ten years said we’re not together and never will be but when I met someone else he couldn’t cope
That's how it is. When you try to leave them, THAT is when they act nice. That's how it gets started in the first place. But then they go back to their old ways.
@@saratemp790 Yes I then took him back and hd was worse than ever
@@saratemp790 sorry ‘he’
@@aquarianprincess2072girl……. Why…?!!!
Shallon I’ve felt stupid as well.
My ex fiancé text me, “I don’t remember saying I ever loved you” to impress his new gf. I had no idea he was dating someone else and she was probably sitting there reading it all. 🤢 If she believes that it’s sad.
Men are children. We must remember they are children mentally. I’m serious, and this makes me not want to be in another relationship.
This story triggered me and I had to share. He was my Matty. Mid and the smalllest man who ever lived rent free in my mind and heart.
I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s the girlfriend who texted you actually. That doesn’t seem like something a man would say.
But even if it is, what a fucking clown. You propose to woman but you never told her you loved her?? And this is supposed to be a flex dude?
They say things like this and think it makes us look crazy - it doesn’t. It makes beyond ninth grade look like such a beta male, it makes my skin crawl. You dodged a bullet.
If he got engaged to a woman he doesn't even love, the stupid one is him. He is the one who doesn't even has the strength to go after what he likes. He is weak and just admitted to being a user. Loving a person is a strength, not a weakness. Your ex fiance is a shallow thing
@@shallonlester I remember thinking, “it doesn’t even seem like I am texting him right now.” You’re so right. It probably was her, but he’s so beta for allowing it. So glad I delayed the wedding. I knew it wasn’t right in my soul.
@@BrendaHouston_I completely agree, you definitely dodged a bullet. So did I, calling off my wedding 6 wks beforehand to someone I luckily figured out was a POS just in the nick of time.
His name doesn’t start with a J does it? 😂 This same thing has happened to me. I just replied with his gf’s name bc i knew it was her being an insecure beta just like him
“Smallest man who ever lived” 💯%
“This song is about you. You know who you are. I love you.”
Whaaaaaat an arse.
This!!
Totally! Stankin' A$$. Ugh!
@@EchosHeart2018yep. Stankin' A$$! He probably has skid marks in his underwear. I hope Taylor never had to do his laundry. If so, I'm sure she would be 💯 percent over him right now. 🤢🤮
I feel gaslit 🤦🏼♀️
EXACTLY! Make that make sense. He deserves the Smallest Man Who Ever Lived title.
I’ve been through this a couple years ago, I’m still trying to get over it. A break up is one thing, everybody can heal from a heart break. It’s totally different when you break up with someone that makes you feel absolutely crazy. That’s a whole other level of grief.
I remember Matt's aunt saying, "Matt is in a relationship and has never been happier" - as if ANYONE wanted him to be happy.
BAAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA!! Good man, you mistake us-no one here is cheering for you 🤣
Love this comment! 🤣
😂🤣🤗yes!! HaHa!! Laugh out Loud 🤣😂
Not defending Matty in anyway, but I think he’s using Taylor’s words against her. When they broke up, her publicist made a statement saying that it was never anything serious. So now he’s being sarcastic, like “it’s hilarious because (I thought you said) it was nothing serious.
Very true!
Yes, might be true
Oh I had no idea. It's so immature for publicist to say this. Now I'm torn on this situation but Matty still unfortunately won the break up. If he responded to the publicist then he deserved it somehow.
This makes sense
Taylor’s PR moves aren’t always the most honest. I think it was a save face statement. I love Taylor’s music but she doesn’t tell the public the truth lol
I was in a situationship a few years ago (NEVER AGAIN), and now I’m feeling stabby!! 🔪🔪🔪🔪🔪
I wasted years on one. When I met "the one" he was shocked I ever let it happen and thought he was crazy and I just said I couldn't pretend it didn't happen.
I wasted 2 1/2 yrs on a situationship w/ a narcissistic alcoholic. I was in my early 20's & had zero self esteem. Oy! what a waste of my youth
“Feeling standby” perfect way to describe the feeling of revisiting memories of a situationship
I had a situationship tell his roommate that he "doesn't care about me at all". That was nice 😐
He's an ass
Lmao dang I knew a friend who the guy said he wasn't going to marry her the week before the wedding. Nobody in his family came to the bridal shower that's how she knew it was final. Men can be such dicks
Shallon you didn’t need to say ”your dentures are slipping, get off my property” exactly the moment I took a big sip of coffee….. 🤣🤣😂🤣🤣😄😩😩😂😂😂
So you're saying that my 50 yr old self can come on a trip? ❤😏
Go for it...I'm 51 and if I was living in the States I definitely would.
I'm 54, the trip sounds good. I'm young at heart :-p as men say. But really 😂
Yes lady, do It. Italy is beautiful plus this is a special trip, traveling in a small group with a person who knows Italy.
Please go ❤
@@sabinasb2445 Yes, I love Shallon's knowledge of history.
He is the Smallest Man Who Ever Lived
Shallon, can you please do a physical glow up series? You were always drop dead gorgeous, (that bone structure? PHEW) but my god you are looking more & more beautiful everyday.
Skincare, haircare, makeup, perfume. Please!
It's definitely the gaslighting disrespect 😤 for me too. It's funny because my best friend and I were just talking about this. No more situationships!!
It’s so hard because you don’t realize that’s what it is until it’s too late. You think you’re just taking it slow or getting to know each other or there’s a circumstance etc. etc. etc. But a lot of times you’re hearing what you want to hear and looking for entrances when there’s actually only exits 😔
My ex boyfriend broke up with me after being together for about a month, and i was so shameful because i did developed feeling for him too fast. So what did i say to everyone including him ? " Oh, it's nothing, we were not even together, just a short flirt thing. We weren't even dating or so" . I needed few years to forget this one month of ours...
Must been a great month fling... for you both.. that's the stab
Did he call you his boyfriend? Crazy how a guy had to pick you to marry him though. Same concept, he has to agree to be your boyfriend. Sucks to misleading someone. That's a coward or he also thinks you're in a fling too
When I was 19 this pretty much happened to me in my small home town (yes you Gary) and he would text me, call me, meet me at the end of nights out and we'd, talk, kiss and as the music was dying out we'd have one last dance on the empty dancefloor.
When it came to sex I was shy and held back wanting it to be special.
Everyone knew about us even the girls I worked with.
Well cut to one weekend and HE WENT HOME WITH A GIRL I WORKED WITH WHO KNEW EXACTLY WHAT WAS HAPPENING BETWEEN US.
They both broke my little 19 year old heart because she told me at work and everybody was horrified at her (yes you Nicola) I felt like I had been overthrown by him because I wasn't ready for sex and betrayed by her because she knew I was falling for him and he didn't realise that I worked with this girl so he didn't think I'd find out.
I ran into him before my co-worker could tell him she knew me and he tried to act like he always did and THAT was the point that he broke my heart, the fakery of him to switch it on like nothing had taken place with her.
I just said "I work with Nicola"
He stopped dead, face blank and said
"Katherine we made no commitments to each other, it's not like we're going out."
I felt like I had been gut punched and my instincts had been right to withhold my body from him.
A few weeks later I was in a bar talking with another guy and getting his phone number and Gary had the nerve to get jealous and approached my friends and said the words
"What is she doing?! Stop her!"
My friends turned on him quickly and basically said that I'd made no commitments to him either.
Apparently he looked ready to cry.
So the tables got turned on him without me even trying and he had no room to complain, he gas lit me and paid the price
They always try to minimize the importance of the relationship so they don't come out as the bad guy, my therapist told me. I heard the: "we weren't THAT serious" when I confronted an ex for cheating. He was surprised I threw his engagement ring in his face. And of course he acted jealous when I got a new boyfriend. Ugh...
A narcissist will always act like that. Maximum amount of damage for minimal effort because they can read you like a book. So they know how to lift you up but they also know how press that one little spot that makes you feel like like you’re disintegrating from the inside.
Of course when you move on, they realise they’ve lost control of you and they don’t like being discarded so suddenly they want to move heaven and earth to get you back.
Best thing to say to these insects: “I’m bored. You’re boring. I’m leaving.” And walk away. No second chances. EVER.
This video came at the right time for me wow 😮 i just went through a situationship, when I confronted him and said I want more or I leave, he didn't say anything. The best decision you can do is leave, really. It will hurt because you still have the scenario's of what ifs, what if I gave it a bit more time maybe he will commit...but no. Respect your boundaries, don't spend time on someone who wouldn't do the same for you. It will hurt, but you will get through it. And most likely once you move on they will hit you up, but stay respectful to yourself and remember how this person made you feel. I send healing vibes to everyone going through a tough time, we got this ❤
but if i were her, i wouldn't write a single song about him, cause he is the smallest man who ever lived.. she gave him so much power.. why did she do that
Well, her being open leads to sales.
@saratemp790 true.. i guess its a valid reason but still.. he didn't deserve this attention
Maybe she just realized it
Exactly. I'm almost spamming here but she ruined Joe who loved her and never said a bad worth... She ruined Joe as a great person and a ship. She was bored and longed for Matty. Said this. She was not grateful (?) enough for the 6 years with this gentleman whom she loved before. The master of PR didn't realize she got revenge on Joe who acted classy after but Matty laughed her off openly. For me it's worse than reputation.
@@aniapalus9530 How did she ruin Joe?? If they broke up, they just weren't the best match for each other. Sometimes relationships just don't work out. I don't get parasocial relationships with celebrities.
Shallon you look so pretty!! You look like a Disney princess or someone who should’ve been on gossip girl! 😍😍🤩🔥
So many things you said in this video resonated with me Shallon.
I never fully got over my ex from 1 year ago. I never grieved the relationship until recently, I was just avoiding my true feelings for the past year because it was too painful to confront head on, but also others would belittle my feelings and tell me to just get over it because he’s a XYZ (he was a cheater), which in turn made me ignore my own feelings.
I finally gave myself time to grieve recently and I already feel like Im finally letting go.
Oh honey, it is not your fault if you cared and loved more than that the other person did. It is a sign of strength to care and especially to love. There are no guarantees and your heart will be broken, but that also means that the one you eventually will find, will appreciate you giving your whole heart and soul and it will be exactly the piece of the puzzle that creates a beautiful relationship.
Him: "It feels like you can look straight into my soul." "It feels like I can give myself completely into your hands." "I hope one day you realize thay you're worthy of being held in the highest esteem.", sleeping with his nose on my cheek, making breakfast for me and so on.
Also him: i'M sO sUrPrIsEd ThAt YoU tHiNk Of mE rOmAnTiCalLy.
Let's just say I have never been the same since.
The title “how to get over a situationship” is literally all I’ve been waiting for
Someone finally got a message to the smallest man who ever lived.
I spend most of my time with girls because of work and our number one realization is that: if you guys had no label aka situationship, you have forfeited the right to complain, bad mouth, act crazy when things end. Why? SELF PRESERVATION.
I get that we should be ballistic when a situationship just ends out of nowhere but i think, i think i can understand why our friends/people around us chastise us to a point when we wallow after a situationship ends. I think they can see from a mile a way that this is a disaster. Then we get blinded by out desire that we ourselves don't see the signs. I think this is what happened to Taylor Swift.
There is nothing more humiliating/insulting than have your situationship partner tell you "uh, YOU ARE NOT MY GIRLFRIEND" because i have been jealous. I've been there and it felt like being slapped in public 10x across both cheeks. I just wanted the ground to swallow me.
It's hard to be "crazy" and "jealous" in a situationship.
It only happens to girls with low self esteem and that's something that we have to deal with
Yes. I almost never tell people about my situationship. If a guy claims me, introduces me as gf, post me as a gf - another story. That's why I believe Taylor made him too big. She also destroyed Joe legacy for this guy. For someone savvy she made a foolish mistake like her teen years.
Never seen a video the minute it was uploaded
I'm very happy to see the softer side of you😊! It's a very nice change! And it's more relatable 😊. And yes, I also do have some attachment problems due to my mum passing so that's definitely an issue for many people I would think
I absolutely love the way you say this guy's name.
Taylor summarized all this feeling in Guilty as Sin when she sang “am I allowed to cry?”
Shallon, you are the sister I never had but always needed. Your videos always seem to come out at the right time for me.
Thank you ❤❤❤
16:00 Shallon, I had a very similar experience in college. A guy I was seeing, who had an alcohol problem, insisted on acting super romantic one night. He declared he loved me and would not stop saying it until I said it back. He was very mushy the whole night. Prior to that, I just thought he was a hookup, and didn't love him, but said it back that night out of pity (frankly). But I do remember thinking 'wow, I guess he has stronger feelings for me than I knew!'. And then immediately after that night he ghosted me for three weeks. I was so confused and after sending so many texts and calls I eventually showed up at his place, and he acted surprised I was there and like I was insane. The whole thing really messed with my head for a long time after. All from a guy who I wasn't really interested in from the beginning, but his game playing actually got me MORE emotionally invested, because just as you say, I just wanted ANSWERS. So just want to say thank you for sharing, you're absolutely not alone, guys will do this regardless of how great and smart and brilliant you are. We are ALL twisted over stuff like this.
Shallon I LOVE you. Thank you for creating this community of us 1% girlies. I'm so grateful.💛💛💛
I swear you keep getting prettier and prettier shallon😍thanks for another great vid!
This is so true !! Thank you S ❤
I think he is right to speak his piece! It’s not even a direct quote, it’s hearsay. She writes a bunch of songs about him giving her side to the world.
And she can do that.....she has explained how she deals with her pain thru music....who are you to say she can't....let Healy say what he wants he is entitled.....as long as she is ok and I'm sure she is.....
With situationships where you are dating etc I don't believe you are boyfriend and girlfriend until you have that express communication where you essentially agree to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Therefore I do think we are setting ourselves up for hurt if we assume the label girlfriend without having that conversation first
I totally agree. I was on the other side of this when a guy I went on a few dates with wanted to move way faster than I did. I wouldn’t be surprised if he thought we had a brief situationship, even though I consistently said I was not ready to commit to being his girlfriend and intended to date around. He literally cried on our last date when I reiterated this. He was living in delusion and it broke his heart. I cut him off for his own sake because I could tell he was not getting it through his head that we weren’t official.
@@Protegida4 The person was a bad guy for lying and leading you on. He should’ve made his intentions, clear, and made it clear he didn’t want a relationship. Nine times out of 10 the men lie, pretending they want a relationship just to use you, so yes, he is a bad guy.
Yes! Be smart and don't walk into your own heartbreak by getting attached to a man who hasn't made himself clear.
Well that quote came from a friend, not him. Guys always lie to their guy friends about girls they dated, and downplay it. But that was not how they acted to the girl.
Yes!! You described this so perfectly. You speak 100% truth here. Thank you ❤️
When I was watching this video, it made me think of Taylor Swift lyric in All Too Well, where she says “It was rare, I was there, I remember it all too well.” Which is quite validating because she’s saying to the person “even if you don’t remember, I was there and I remember.”
Girl every time i come back to your channel youre glowinggggg more and more!!!! i missed youuuuuuuuuuuuuuu
I watched the chicken shop interview with Matty Healy years ago and had never heard of him before - it was so obvious in that interview that he was deeply insecure and deeply needy and would try on this extremely flirtatious thing on absolutely anything with a pulse to compensate. Was really surprised that Taylor was so naive she didn't see this. Not surprised at all that he's denying the relationship, the guy is just so insecure.
I think Matty Healy underestimates who he is dealing with. I would be very nervous if I were him...
But she released the albums. Made Joe unimportant and Matty as the interesting "the one". Big mistake. You always praise a guy you were with for a long time the priority. She mentioned how while being with Joe she wanted Matty. So here she is. Now she really cannot backtrack and explaining this or getting revenge would be seen as really pathetic. Compared behaviour of two men.
Ratty better watch his back..she will never forget this..Taylor is the Revenge Queen.
Oh my GAWWWD this brought up all my trauma at just the right time😩
I'd been in a situationship where he introduced me to his friends as his girl, told me he thought of me as his future wife, told me he wanted me to be the mother of his children, bought furniture around my preferences. HE ASKED ME TO BE EXCLUSIVE WITH HIM
Then one day he stood me up on a planned video call date (we were a long distance "situationship" during that time) and messaged me 12 hours later that he was sorry.
I called him, obviously extremely upset (this was just the last of a sequence of events where i felt he was disrespecting me). And he had the GALL to tell me he didn't know why I was so upset, and that "it's not like you're my girlfriend"
I was shocked..
This was 5 years ago and even now I'm crying writing this out. I haven't wanted to seriously date anyone since. I was head over heels in love with him and thought he was serious about me... oh I was so wrong
I love you with all of my heart ❤ girl, you have saved me so many times. You sweet angel sent from above, I cannot thank you enough ❤
my experiences just taught me to quit the first time i see something off. it really doesn't worth it girls... a guy who doesn't act right needs to leave asap for good.
I Can Do It With a Broken Heart my absolute favorite song!
This video is sooo good! Thank u for your wisdom & empathy
This is very validating also to people w narcissistic parents. Even sometimes when a relationship ends and maybe they move on really fast.
I'm putting future trips with you and the 'gators on my vision board. Wish I could have hopped on this year's Italy trips. Ciao, Bella's! ❤
What a great video. I could watch this a million times. I love how you accurately describe how many of us feel and have gone through!!! I too was very triggered by that Matty’s ‘hat har har’ we weren’t serious comments. I flew into a mini rage in front of my teen daughter. Fortunately she laughed. But I was angry. This video you made helps me feel so much better about all the things I went through with these men (narcissists) and I’m sure resonates with many many women. Bravo!👏🏾 Oh and I am going to Italy in July (again- I love that country!) for my daughter’s 13th birthday - in Milan, where Taylor will be performing. Anyway- love your video, you made me laugh oh so beautifully out loud! Bravissimo 👏🏾👏🏾💃🏽💃🏽❤️❤️
And now he's engaged, so he clearly was serious about talking rings amd cradles!
"You feel like a fan" - uff that hit me hard.
Omg me and my husband just got back from Italy and you will not regret going. I might look into your October trip I want to go back so bad already. There are so many people all over the place. I tried the lemon cello in Sorrento , I don’t drink so maybe I’m biased but it made me choke. Love all your videos. Thank you
Limoncello has to basically he homemade or it’s like lemon cough syrup! And yes, come! Free yourself from the tyranny of thinking your friends will get it together to go on the ultimate girls trip - they won’t. Don’t put your dreams on hold waiting for someone else to be ready, live for YOU!
İ Just listening to 1/3 of the video and I want to thank you so much Shallon already 🙏🏼
Shallon this comes from a place of love. No more fix em ups please. You need to clock off from work and helping people and find someone that’s whole ❤
Right there with you. The last guy I dated was/is such a LOML but he’s not whole. It gutted me to walk away. But I’m not a renovation team. I gotta focus on me!
@@shallonlester you’re beautiful in more ways than you know. Keep being awesome and you’ll get your happy ever after xo
That little smoking the cig/type writing action you do is the funniest thing everrr hahaha
It’s always the addicts!!!!
You are giving this week Shallon!! 😍
wait you look sooo good Shallon. you're glowing!!
But maybe he said this not because of Taylor but his new girlfriend. Just imagine you love this man you have a relationship with him, and a "ex" writes a whole f... album how he is the love of her life and she wants to get him back. Especially when this "ex" is Taylor. So just maybe he said this to make it less uncomfortable for Gabriette. I would do the same.
No! If I saw my boyfriend disrespecting other women like that, I would run!
@@sw-hg8eqto be honest that are just songs maybe 5% is true. She writes songs not a diary entry. And we all are just projecting our own experiences on it. And that's ok so you have your projection and I have my.
Loml for Taylor is the loss of my life. The antagonist in the song says that she's the love of his life.
People have exs, and the girlfriend knew that going in. Mattys a musician, he's just as capable of writing songs.
I agree with everything you say in general about the gaslighters out there -- after having lived a life full of "situationships' and effed up relationships bf finally marrying a good guy for the past 20 years. However, let's not forget that after Matty and Taylor broke up, Taylor's team put out this statement: "Everyone who really knows her has been saying all along that this was a fun, good time thing that would last as long as it lasted and would be no big deal once it's done." Add to this that The 1975 (Matty's band) have many songs about Matty thinking Taylor was the only one who could make him better ( see, "When We Are Together"). So, arguably, it might have upset Matty that Taylor dismissed their relationship/situationship as 'no big deal', and his comments may have been in reaction to that. Anyone going through The 1975's discography, particularly the album "Being Funny in a Foreign Language" and the song "About You" can see that he thought he was in love with her. Now, it does seem he ghosted her, which is NOT COOL, to say the least, and I'm not letting him off the hook. And I absolutely love Taylor and believe TTPD to be her best album. But let's at least acknowledge that she was the first to dismiss whatever crazy thing they had as not serious.
I watched the end like 3 min of this about 10 times today.... spot on.
Damn Shallon! I hear and understand every word from you today!
matty was taylor hurt locker for sure, they probably had a fling back in 2016 post-harry pre-calvin and the ones you always seem to go back to are the ones that wreck you the most. the “what ifs” haunts our mind
A friend who goes 'you guys never even dated' is NOT a friend! I'm cool with my friends using 'ex' to describe anyone they had romantic feelings for and no longer do, because they are talking with me, about how they feel, and so therefore even ex crushes can be relevant. For instance, I would want to know if a guy was an ex crush of one of my close friends, because that would most likely deter me from dating him.
Shallon you kicked your hairs ass today!! It looks stunning!
The pictures you chose for the thumbnail 😅😂
15:19 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m laughing so much rn cos I’m from London and that impression was on POINT, that’s how they act 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Damn, I feel so lucky that I've never been in a relationship. Being single feels so relieving and truly amazing!
Girls knoooow that gaslighting. We feel it in our soul. You don’t get away with that.
I really wanna go on one these trips . Hopefully I’ll be in the position to next year
Seeing a new video from you just made my Fri night. Yay! Fortnite currently playing in the background & eating cold pizza & beer.
Living your best life!!
Epic! THIS is how you do Friday nights!
@@shallonlesterdamn straight! after this I'm giving myself a facial & mani/pedi while watching The Notebook for the 1000th time & ogling Ryan Gosling ❤ 😍
@@MissteriousMisstressyou know it!
@@shallonlesterp.s. thx for commenting on my post 😊 that made me so happy, I gotta admit. I think you're amazing & so wise & such a huge inspiration to women.
I’m considering going on your trip. I love how you explained the age range is wide. I’ve been a fan for so long and many years. Please please could you film one of your trips that you go on it would be a great eye-opening thing for us to see what you do. Since you have a video camera and a RUclips channel why not?it would be exciting to see how the trip goes and I bet you get 1 million more followers not that that’s what you’re looking for but I just wanna see the video of one of your trips!
As a lady, I've had a guy tell people we dated, even though we did not. At least, not in my mind. It didn't bother me in the least, someone asked me and I tried to avoid a direct answer as to whether we in fact dated. It was over, whatever it was, just didn't seem relevant anymore. I'm private, classy and don't kiss and tell. Since he was telling people we dated it meant what we had was more to him than it was to me, so I wasn't going to negate that. There's also factors in play such as culture, generation, gender, etc that influence how people label the 'relationship'. I've gone on dates with Russian guys for example. We never had a talk about becoming exclusive or calling ourselves bf/gf. They just assumed we were together and were crushed when I left as if I broke up with them. We weren't an item!!!! What I am trying to say is is that it doesn't matter. Two people, two sides of the story. But with the public watching this... Beauty and the Beast, we have a 3rd side calling BS! Also this snaggle tooth beast is trying to kill the cheerleader. And also, what does the beast gain by negating the relationship? He was soo lucky. He looks pathetic rn.
Girl I’m 21 and I’ve been obsessed with u since I was 17 so take that for what u will
I'm 7 minutes in & LOLOL'N. You should do a Live Shall! That would be fun!
Dude she wrote 32 songs about him. If you expect him to sit there and let her get the best of him, then you would be delusional. She did too much to begin with. He wasn't worth all of those songs, and now he's treating her exactly like how he did prior. She's literally dating someone else and about to be fighting with another guy over a relationship that in the end wasn't worth her time.
The album has 31 songs and about half of them aren't matty related
These stmts were made from "friends" of Matty...who happen to be talking to tabloids about their "friend." Anything from a third party is hearsay & should be taken with a lil' skepticism. Plus, he's literally on video saying I love you to her lol. The only stmt he's made himself, that I'm aware of, was right after the album came out & he said he was relieved & glad she didn't come at him even worse. Sounds like guilt & admitting you did her dirty, if ya ask me.
@@Goat.Cheese More than half the songs were Matty related. Also some songs on other albums.
No many of the songs are not about him. Some of the songs are about Kim Kardashian. Can you rest Matty Healy even relationships with her teen years not all the songs are about him clearly you don’t know anything.
20:08 this is 100%..It is the feeling like a clown that hurts so much
YES! She's back to that Taylor now. Whatever you say about Joe he gave her validation and never said a bad world after.
@@aniapalus9530if a person hurt you emotionally they don't need to say a word.....hurt is an action word it doesn't have to be verbal
@@aniapalus9530and by the way Taylor doesn't need anybody to validate her are you fing kidding me...😂
I would never tongue kiss that man 😅
👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
My ex, who lived in my apartment for nearly two years rent free, had people who I never even met referring to me as “the psycho”.
My likely unpopular opinion is the songs are about Joe disguised as for Matty
I mean it's hard to tell cause toxic boyfriends have many similar traits anyway.
Some songs are about Joe some songs are about to Matty
“His name is Davey, he lives in the oven.” 🤣 Girl, if you came up with that on the fly - you’re a real one.
This whole video is IT.