I shall take the honour today: 1. Keep It Cool (don’t have a bad temper) 2. Have a Sense of Humour (don’t take yourself too seriously) 3. Have a Purpose (know what you want out of life) 4. Be Disciplined (just be Disciplined) 5. Integrity (be a man of your word)
All of these are excellent qualities. Do not take yourself too seriously, but take what you do seriously. If you are angry, show it as it occurs, while remaining calm in doing so. Then let it go...
I think for #3 and #4 not telling people what you’re doing is a big thing, you don’t want to brag about what you’re doing you actually want to do it. If someone asks about what you’re doing be modest about it because you still don’t know how far you want to get into that goal of yours plus don’t be one of those “fake it til you make it” type of people
She must to be this grounded and down to earth. It also helps that she never left Cleveland as compared to living in places like LA, where I'm born and raised
*Being adventurous and having a sense of purpose makes a man not just attractive but also inspiring. It’s refreshing to see content that highlights the importance of personal growth in relationships!*
#3: Have a Purpose is the one that orients and drives the others. Gentlemen, if you're not sure where to start, start here. Once you get going on this, the others can be refined accordingly. Good video. Edit: side note: working towards a purpose that's right for you can remedy depression/tiredness.
Who are we helping? What are we helping them with? How do we want them to feel after we’ve helped them? This is a great place to start when searching for purpose.
Get ripped, have a classic Mercedes in the garage, live in a down to earth, charming location with nice views and most importantly, have Otis Reading ready to play but make that look coincidental, like on the radio.
You should ask what benefit there is for yous as a couple or more importantly, yourself to getting married. There is no reason , that makes logical sense to get married
Five traits in men that women find irresistible: *Tall height. *Fit body. *Big bank account. *Careless attitude about women. *Not afraid of rejecting women.
@OmWIR uT7qu do you ever get bored of being a weak spineless simp who puts women on a pedestal and gets down on his bruised knees to kiss Courtney Ryan's feet and flatter her ego with endless praise about how wonderful she is? No. That is your full-time job. Cry more.
A really great purpose in life is making a positive impact in people's lives... it doesn't take much... a smile.... buying a cup of coffee.. being kind... being courteous... it can be contagious.. BTW Courtney u look amazing... love the new hair color 💕
"Looks" should've been the first point! But these types of channels tend to avoid that point. I'm a believer of the rep pill and female hypergamy. Without the "looks", a man's character and values get ignore. I.e friendzoned.
@@ricardogalindo8794 unless you've figured out how to make people taller, change their natural skin/hair/eye color, or change bone mass, I'd suggest you focus on improving your character rather than complaining about looks
@@steveno2760 I am 6'0, I was obese just a few years ago. I'm speaking from experience, it's not "complaining." It's stating the obvious, it's "looks+status" to get a woman's attention, and then is "all of the above" to keep a woman. But it still stands, without the first part...the rest means nothing. I'm a 38 year old man, and I've learned this fact throughout my life. The more attractive a man is, the more odds are in one's favor. Character wise, I'm a male teacher in a female dominated field. I know how to talk to women, and my character is positive. Was how I tend to make lasting friendships with most women I meet. The issue is, my "looks". I may have the "height," but women's preferences are really unrealistic now. Especially as they get older. I'm speaking as a 38 year old man, I know more about this and female nature. Because I've been on both ends of the spectrum. I am treated differently now too, based on not being fat anymore. Women are very superficially judgmental.
Eorking on your character is no doubt beneficial, it just have nothing to do with attracting women. You might say looks help to attract people and character traits help to keep a person, and it's probably true. But you can't keep who you didn't attract first. So if you're ugly self-improvement *just for attracting girls* is pretty useless: you must do it for yourself and not for others.
Just came across your channel. Solid advice. I'd like to add, and only speaking from personal experience of course, self confidence ties all this together, otherwise you'll crumble. I had many of these qualities for a while throughout my life. My biggest flaw was my lack of confidence in myself and anxiety. I was good at masking it but I could also tell girls and as I got older women could sense it to a degree. I worked on my self confidence and noticed more females were attracted to me. Then I started getting into shape and that was a bonus that helped even more. Also men....women too....culture yourselves. Listen to more music genres, learn history, science, maths, read more or use audible, etc. As I entered my 20s especially mid 20s more and more women really were more attracted to me once they learned I liked to learn about the world and was open to learn and want to visit and participate in other cultures. Secondly take self care into consideration. Get to know how to groom your body and take care of your skin and your physical health both internal, external and mentally. Lastly above all else find deep down to do it for yourself first and foremost. Do it to attract women as a bonus not as the main goal. Your goal should be to better yourself and just wanting to be a more well rounded human who is constantly learning. This, at least for me, makes me not get discouraged or feel down. I have made it so that I can always talk myself into doing something and not hinder on someone's else's approval or disapproval. Odd comparison I know but women are more attracted to you when they see that sex and women aren't the first and only thing on your mind. They are kind of in a sense like cats. The more they know you aren't their sole attention the more they want your attention and be around you. Focus on yourselves first. Then you'll find the right people that want to genuinely be around and can easily weed out the toxic ones.
About purpose and getting things done I may add is, I believe it's important finding out what really works for oneself is definitely important. To become concrete and thus translate our purpose into reality. Because sometimes we think one thing is important to us but when it's just not working out or it is not our thing at all it's important to discard it and instead know what really works for oneself. Great video! Really helpful thank you! I'm a helper as well 😊
Being Irresistible is simply a bonus of being the best version of myself. You've given some great key points to focus on to help make that happen. Thank You Courtney!! 🌻
I’d add another one. Being able to cook and keep your place clean. I’ve had plenty of girls say to me that it’s attractive that I can cook and look after my place. It shows you don’t live like a pig or that you live off Flaming Hot Cheetos and beer. (I love Flaming Hot Cheetos).
These are all things we should all ascribe to be whether you are in a relationship or seeking a relationship. Courtney hit the nail right on the head "Be the person you would like others to be to you". Keep up the good work👍
I find that while it’s SUPER important to stay on track and be disciplined with the things you need to do to accomplish your goals, it’s EQUALLY just as important as making sure you take breaks and relax during the process. Or else you’re just gonna overwhelm and overwork yourself. Which, you guessed it...leads to burn out and less productivity
With me being a Martial artist and training daily, the ones that apply to my characteristics are 1 Keeping cool, which means staying calm under pressure, and stress, with all kinds of situations, good or bad. My philosophy is that the best fights are the ones not taken nor started. 2 having humor can have a lady laugh that shows your passionate side. 4 Disciplined we people that are into the arts we knew having disciplined to us never stop working hard on what you want to achieve which shows that you have conferences in your ability, understanding oneself, listening deeply. It helps with learning about the person that you are with. Number 5 is probably the most important of all on the list: having trust in your partner, being a person of your words, knowing what you can handle in the environment, and being the best version of yourself to matter as well, not your worst when having someone you care about plays a role too in that relationship. Thanks for the upload Courtney Ryan; it really was an exciting video.
Here from your guest appearance on the Roomates. Realize I’ve heard so much from the manosphere about dating and relationships, but not so much from the opposite sex. Excited to have you subscribed. I think a lot of young men need to hear healthy masculinity validated from a female point of view, because so many of us were taught by our moms to subconsciously avoid it like it was bad or something. Loved the video!
Women only should be a compliment, not a priority in man’s life who’s on his path and purpose. A real man of of high value knows this. You’re right, people in general should always have something to do that increases their value making them more attractive!
I appreciate the thought and care that you put into your videos without being just another random advice / lifestyle channel. And I do think that a high value woman will find these traits attractive more than those who are basically put, the opposite of some of these traits. Also, once we get away from social media, it's so much easier to spot and genuinely appreciate these traits. Sometimes feels like these days hookup culture/ lack of commitment seems to be an issue.
I have been watching you for a while but have never commented. Just to let you know I like the videos when you are commenting on other tubers but what I like the most is that you have the most calming voice ever. Keep up the good work. Thank you.
Dating advice from a classic video game, “Don’t make a girl a promise if you know you can’t keep it.” These words have followed me and defined me since. I’m still single, but I have a clean conscience. Thanks for the Awesome content and encouragement!
1. Keep it cool, keep his composure 2. Sense of humor, balance in serious and light hearted 3. Have Purpose, driven to work hard for goals 4. Discipline, man with a plan, get things done. Deadlines that are kept. Working towards your goals and happy 5. Integrity Man of Your word Trustworthy Not a people pleaser
5 irresistibile Traits 1. Keepin It cool & calm /emotional intelligence 2. Sense of Humor /ability to be serious as well 3. Conscious of Purpose/knows what he wants 4. Self-Discipline/ consistency within purpose 5. Integritiy/ Man of your word / honesty about intentions and expectations
The truth is Courtney Ryan, you just said it out loud , l strive to be the best version of myself, and to find happiness in being of service to another. I do not do it to be attractive or irresistible.
I love all the advice and information you give. You cut through all the BS and tell the cold hard truth. I've learned so much and I thank you for all you do. Your RUclips channel is my favorite.❤
1. Live in Cleveland. 2. Sell watches. 3. Collaborate in a girl's early RUclips videos. 4. Give away freebies to help your girl's RUclips channel. 5. have the same name as a beloved toy bear.
I have all of these and I’m still single. Just goes to show that no matter what you say looks are the end all be all and women will not look past that if you don’t look like the “vin diesel” type. This has been my life long experience with them so I only think of myself from now on
I'm there too..same situation. Wait! You'll probably going to get the "you need therapy" line on here? LoL! Just level yourself up and progress. Become the best version of yourself you can possibly be.
This lady is incredibly bright, reassuring, articulate and thoughtful and much more. So impressive as she is awfully young. I learn from her and I am twice her age!!
How would you explain the people that seek out partners who aren't levelheaded and do have issues? I am liking your videos, and think it's good for people to hear logical explanations of this stuff. It seems like a lot of people fall into the trap of seeking out people who are toxic because the toxicity communicates confidence to them.
Hey, i just want to say that you have a beautiful voice and a beautiful heart, never change how you are. I’m in a wheelchair and your advice is very helpful, thanks. 🙏 Blessings everyone
"Be the best person you can be"... so true. Sometimes I need to pause and step back to make sure I stay on track to being a better person. Be the better person and people will notice. More importantly, you'll feel better. And that's what matters. Life is short.
Best decision Courtney has done. I wana see more collaboration between her and Hafeez they make a solid team. As they say two heads are better than one.
I really like how you said that your purpose can change. A lot of people think they need to find one concrete life purpose. Focus on a purpose that makes sense right now
@@CourtneyRyan not really, I stopped giving attention to a lady that rejected me on ig. She unfollowed me on ig after I stopped watching her stories and liking any of her posts, she hasn't contacted me back. It's funny, because She said how she saw me as a "teacher friend " to talk to. We are both teachers. Doesn't happen in all cases. I'm not expecting her to ever contact me in the future. I'm actually happy if she doesn't.
I think Courtney Ryan is amazing. She always has good advice and there's something about hearing it from a woman's point of view. She hasn't steered me wrong.
Great video as always Courtney! 🙏🏻 I’ve struggled in the past with keeping my word when I’ve told someone I’d arrive on time or be somewhere that day and now being 24 years old, I realize more than ever that when you say something you mean, keep your word because a woman will find it highly attractive and know you’re reliable. Hope you have an amazing day! :)
I saw this video in the suggestion and I was thinking, I don't care all that much about what women find attractive.. I have other things to worry about and work on other than women's opinions watched the video and came to realize I'm doing the very thing that is considered attractive and you know what? it makes sense, a person who have a goal that he's working towards, being honest, keeping own word, staying calm and collected, that's indeed attractive I never thought of it as something I needed to do to be attractive to the opposite sex, but glad to have another angle I can look at it liked and subbed, keep it up
Once upon a time, men were expected to declare themselves. Especially their intentions, with women and otherwise. That seems like a better system. Also, "be the best version of yourself" is some of the best advice ever. Those are words I live by. ✌&❤
I’m not sure how I came across your channel. I’m glad I have. It’s nice to see there are still some classy women out there. And you seem like a very nice person. I want a classy woman and God fearing. I’m 42 years old. If you want different gotta do different. I started working out, going to school, building my relationship with God, healing from my past. And my life now is good. And listening to your videos really helps. Thanks girl. I don’t care what anyone says your awesome. Thanks!
You always give good advice in relationships. The only thing that I would add would be to list all of the 4 or more items again at the end of your video. This would help us to remember all of your points from the video.
And self confidence also it is one of the main thing when it comes to getting girls .never ever lose your confidence NEVER . a man should embody self confidence to be the alpha
A confidence in one skill, doesn't translate into confidence in another. I'm confident in my career, I'm a teacher, because I have years experience in it and know different strategies when it comes to teaching children. In addition, I hold an MAT in multiple subjects. The same confidence I have in my career, doesn't translate to my confidence at attracting women. Different strategies are needed. This is the dilemma that most women, and men, that tell those of us that have unsuccessful feedback from women to just "have confidence. " Don't comprehend! That confidence in one skill, doesn't transfer to attracting women and the confidence in. Especially! When I was ignored, called ugly, friendzoned by most women. So tell me! How does that work? "Professor"? (Fyi: I'm 38, I'm pretty much red pill in ideology. As a former obese man)
It's a nice boost to hear this list, and be able to think by gosh, I have all those traits. I don't really approach women in public, and bars/clubs are not my scene, I'm more about being part of a community, making friends, and having connections form organically over time as we get to know each other. My issue is, I'm in a city where I've been really struggling to find that community, and those compatible friends. I value connection, being there for each other, sharing life, and have just been running into more superficial, flighty folks, in both faith communities, and communities around a common interest. (I've even started and run a few meetup groups myself around writing and creativity, and even when they were successful, personal connections never arose.) After being burned a number of times, I've pulled all my energy back in, and intend to move to a new place where I might be a better fit. This is taking a while to organize, however, and in the meantime being very disconnected is really taking a toll on my mental health and is pretty discouraging. It is lonely being single, sometimes achingly, but it also feels like friendships and community need to come first.
I totally believe in not taking yourself too seriously, but I do believe in taking life very seriously. That being said, live life on purpose, but enjoy the ride; Educate yourself, live within the boundary of propriety in all things, know yourself; the makeup of your heart and mind and their influential motivations, and allow people to express to you who they are; their body language, thoughts, perspective on life and people. I really enjoy the company of those who are honest, fun, and love to think. Just thought I would share my view with anyone who cares. I know not everyone will agree with my outlook and honestly, I really couldn't care less. I also just want to thank Courtney for sharing her wisdom and experience with us guys. You seem like someone whom I perceive as one of the few real people; those that are not pretentiously claiming to be more than they are or possess detailed knowledge of subjects they do not. Sorry for the looooong comment. Courtney's sharing of "not taking yourself too seriously" is what inspired this thought. I believe that is more important than people give merit.
You missed something! The "physical" makes up 30% of the attraction. Without that very important 30% physical attraction, those traits you mentioned matter not. Sexual attraction triumphs over emotional attraction at first, then is emotional attraction. That's real raw female attraction. I saw your whole video btw. I can't wait for your physical attraction video.
@@LordXenon6 true, my opinion...sexual attraction is looks, the superficial. But! Could be put like you stated it. I still believe that physical attraction matters the most.
@@ricardogalindo8794 sexual attraction is your body language, how you touch without being a creep, eye contact. and how to talk to woman. YOU could be a guy thats 10 out of 10, but if you can't do the things above, it doesn't matter.
Love Courtney and her channel. Women have a blind spot on sense of humor. They always stated it is one of their top attractions. In reality they love a sense a humor in men they are not with and then think they like it. They never want their guy to be funny or light hearted. But they will always comment on how funny so and so is.
Funny how those physically attractive people get the hot women anyway. Women don't care about all this silly stuff she talks about. Money talks for women. They care about nothing else.
GREAT ADVICE Courtney! If I may add?? Put some real in-depth time of thought into these 5 factors until you have the confidence to look into your mirror and say to yourself that you are a winner ~ Until such time as you can achieve this level then it will be difficult to convince others that you are ~ Also, never focus on "money" because once you get your mind right, the money will follow ~ Lastly, when facing challenges that create doubts in your mind, it is extremely important to focus on your "end-results" [see yourself already achieving your goals and how this would/could feel to you] ~ Integrity is so very important and when combined with enthusiasm & confidence this will take you to places you could only have dreamed of ~~ Thanks lovely Courtney
This is a nice uplifting video. My purpose is that after I finish building my house (nearly there), I'm going to plant a timber boat. I'm going to plant a 50 area forest of rare and unusual trees as well as boat building trees. I've had people get angry at me because I wasn't getting angry, that was weird.
Courtney could you speak marriage oaths not meaning anything anymore, the whole "tile death do us part" is no longer a thing and neither is "in sickness and in health" because women today will immediately jump ship on a man who's health goes under no matter how much he provided her previously. I would love to hear a womans perspective. I tell my son this all the time, dont work yourself to the bone for a modern entitled women, she will only bleed your bones dry and move on
You never own a woman even if you pay for everything they own living in your house not working always remember you do not own her it is just your turn she will most likely get bored of you and move on to the next guy
Hi. What I heard was Purpose. Purpose = Job...Can and do you work? Purpose is not other areas of your life. Purpose = job. Security is irresistible and important. Financial security is mega huge for woman. Discipline. Discipline to do your job so you have a purpose and have financial security which she wants, needs, and finds attractive.
Amazing video. All 5 of them.👍👍 Ex. 3yrs ago I told the people I worked with I was buying property and putting/building a house on it. They all laughed at me.😐 now 3yrs later, property is bought and house is being built. Positive people help you believe in yourself.
Appreciating your video,it definitely helps improving a man's character overall..Most important you are not overacting with your expression...Keeping calm and doing it!!! Love watching the way you presents a video. Thanks
4:45. Wow Courtney, I was just telling a friend of mine this the other day and it’s so true. My friend and I went back to writing this movie we started and I audibly told him recently, “dude I’m happier now that we’re back doing this”.
Great content again. I personally appreciate it when you tie your personal history and experiences in order make your point. It tends to add credibility to content while showing your human side.
I never listen to any dating advice from women.But Courtney Ryan I always listen to .One of the best even better than a lot of men.Keep up the great work Courtney u r one fantastic lady who a lot of guys will learn a lot about their female partners .Jeff Herts uk
The key is for men to level up. Get away from the social media, get away from the video games, get away from the junk food, get away from toxic people, and get away from the 9-5.
I found my dream late in life and its already in front of me: to influence people to think and feel their best even if they don’t necessarily share my views. Then discipline lets me take care of myself, be my best self and allow me to make the world a better place. When you discover confidence, as Robert Browning wrote, heaven is ne’er beyond our grasp. An ideal can be realised if we put our minds to it.
I shall take the honour today:
1. Keep It Cool (don’t have a bad temper)
2. Have a Sense of Humour
(don’t take yourself too seriously)
3. Have a Purpose
(know what you want out of life)
4. Be Disciplined (just be Disciplined)
5. Integrity (be a man of your word)
A hero
It’s only 11 minutes long, but I didn’t expect anything supremely insightful or foreign. So thank you for the confirmation.
All of these are excellent qualities.
Do not take yourself too seriously, but take what you do seriously.
If you are angry, show it as it occurs, while remaining calm in doing so. Then let it go...
Honorable mention - 6. Be a hero on the RUclips comment section
Well this explains it
The homegirl Courtney the best female RUclipsr keep helping us fellas out.
I agree.
She young but full of wisdom
Hands down
@@josephsielskisr3742 I agree.
Simp.
I think for #3 and #4 not telling people what you’re doing is a big thing, you don’t want to brag about what you’re doing you actually want to do it. If someone asks about what you’re doing be modest about it because you still don’t know how far you want to get into that goal of yours plus don’t be one of those “fake it til you make it” type of people
I have seldom in my life seen a 25 year old male or female express themselves on such sensitive subjects with so much grace and class
I doubt she's under 30 years old.
@@hasselett She is 25 bruh
She looks older but hard to tell. She looks like someone who takes care of her appearance.
What is bruh @@LouSkunt44 ?
Incredibly bright young woman who is wise beyond her years. Incredible. She has great parents!
She must to be this grounded and down to earth. It also helps that she never left Cleveland as compared to living in places like LA, where I'm born and raised
She's clearly a top shelf honey.
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Snortch Gortch incredibly hungry s |mp.
@@robicelus huh?
A beautiful woman that has learned the value of clicks on you tube. She doesn't need a man with money.
*Being adventurous and having a sense of purpose makes a man not just attractive but also inspiring. It’s refreshing to see content that highlights the importance of personal growth in relationships!*
#3: Have a Purpose is the one that orients and drives the others. Gentlemen, if you're not sure where to start, start here. Once you get going on this, the others can be refined accordingly. Good video.
Edit: side note: working towards a purpose that's right for you can remedy depression/tiredness.
That side note you talked about is *huge*
Everyone says this no one says how to find it
Purpose starts with Why..
Who are we helping? What are we helping them with? How do we want them to feel after we’ve helped them? This is a great place to start when searching for purpose.
🙌💯 yesss!
Trait #1 to me is best summed up by Patrick Swayze in Roadhouse. “Be nice...until it’s time not to be nice.”
"You're allowed 5 emotional minutes in a day, then you gotta be gangster."
Also loved "Pain don't hurt"
"Right turn,Clyde!"
Oops.
Wrong movie.😀
Get ripped, have a classic Mercedes in the garage, live in a down to earth, charming location with nice views and most importantly, have Otis Reading ready to play but make that look coincidental, like on the radio.
I love❤this
My girlfriend asked me when are we going to get married I laughed at her she did not find my sense of humor attractive at all
😂😂😂
Hahahaha it's a good one tho
'When you are able to be a wife' Like all good jokes, basically truth.
You should ask what benefit there is for yous as a couple or more importantly, yourself to getting married.
There is no reason , that makes logical sense to get married
Once she signs the pre nup then you'll get married
Five traits in men that women find irresistible:
*Tall height.
*Fit body.
*Big bank account.
*Careless attitude about women.
*Not afraid of rejecting women.
@OmWIR uT7qu do you ever get bored of being a weak spineless simp who puts women on a pedestal and gets down on his bruised knees to kiss Courtney Ryan's feet and flatter her ego with endless praise about how wonderful she is? No. That is your full-time job. Cry more.
Right!
A really great purpose in life is making a positive impact in people's lives... it doesn't take much... a smile.... buying a cup of coffee.. being kind... being courteous... it can be contagious.. BTW Courtney u look amazing... love the new hair color 💕
Excellent video Sister. I believe that looks "attract" a person, but character keeps a relationship.
Absolutely!
"Looks" should've been the first point! But these types of channels tend to avoid that point. I'm a believer of the rep pill and female hypergamy.
Without the "looks", a man's character and values get ignore. I.e friendzoned.
@@ricardogalindo8794 unless you've figured out how to make people taller, change their natural skin/hair/eye color, or change bone mass, I'd suggest you focus on improving your character rather than complaining about looks
@@steveno2760 I am 6'0, I was obese just a few years ago. I'm speaking from experience, it's not "complaining." It's stating the obvious, it's "looks+status" to get a woman's attention, and then is "all of the above" to keep a woman. But it still stands, without the first part...the rest means nothing. I'm a 38 year old man, and I've learned this fact throughout my life. The more attractive a man is, the more odds are in one's favor. Character wise, I'm a male teacher in a female dominated field. I know how to talk to women, and my character is positive. Was how I tend to make lasting friendships with most women I meet. The issue is, my "looks". I may have the "height," but women's preferences are really unrealistic now. Especially as they get older. I'm speaking as a 38 year old man, I know more about this and female nature. Because I've been on both ends of the spectrum. I am treated differently now too, based on not being fat anymore. Women are very superficially judgmental.
Eorking on your character is no doubt beneficial, it just have nothing to do with attracting women. You might say looks help to attract people and character traits help to keep a person, and it's probably true. But you can't keep who you didn't attract first. So if you're ugly self-improvement *just for attracting girls* is pretty useless: you must do it for yourself and not for others.
Just came across your channel. Solid advice. I'd like to add, and only speaking from personal experience of course, self confidence ties all this together, otherwise you'll crumble. I had many of these qualities for a while throughout my life. My biggest flaw was my lack of confidence in myself and anxiety. I was good at masking it but I could also tell girls and as I got older women could sense it to a degree. I worked on my self confidence and noticed more females were attracted to me. Then I started getting into shape and that was a bonus that helped even more.
Also men....women too....culture yourselves. Listen to more music genres, learn history, science, maths, read more or use audible, etc. As I entered my 20s especially mid 20s more and more women really were more attracted to me once they learned I liked to learn about the world and was open to learn and want to visit and participate in other cultures.
Secondly take self care into consideration. Get to know how to groom your body and take care of your skin and your physical health both internal, external and mentally.
Lastly above all else find deep down to do it for yourself first and foremost. Do it to attract women as a bonus not as the main goal. Your goal should be to better yourself and just wanting to be a more well rounded human who is constantly learning. This, at least for me, makes me not get discouraged or feel down. I have made it so that I can always talk myself into doing something and not hinder on someone's else's approval or disapproval.
Odd comparison I know but women are more attracted to you when they see that sex and women aren't the first and only thing on your mind. They are kind of in a sense like cats. The more they know you aren't their sole attention the more they want your attention and be around you.
Focus on yourselves first. Then you'll find the right people that want to genuinely be around and can easily weed out the toxic ones.
About purpose and getting things done I may add is, I believe it's important finding out what really works for oneself is definitely important. To become concrete and thus translate our purpose into reality. Because sometimes we think one thing is important to us but when it's just not working out or it is not our thing at all it's important to discard it and instead know what really works for oneself. Great video! Really helpful thank you! I'm a helper as well 😊
Being Irresistible is simply a bonus of being the best version of myself. You've given some great key points to focus on to help make that happen. Thank You Courtney!! 🌻
1) Yes, you’re right.
2) Courtney is a HVW, a 10.
Heres your traits to focus
1.Keep it cool and casual
2.sense of humour
3.purpose for living life
4.discipline
5.integrity
already had all of them 😏
@@edenhazard3965 if this is really true, then you are this exceptional man, who is a true magnet to beautiful quality ladies ;)
Just add "and is good looking" after each.
I’d add another one. Being able to cook and keep your place clean. I’ve had plenty of girls say to me that it’s attractive that I can cook and look after my place. It shows you don’t live like a pig or that you live off Flaming Hot Cheetos and beer.
(I love Flaming Hot Cheetos).
These are all things we should all ascribe to be whether you are in a relationship or seeking a relationship. Courtney hit the nail right on the head "Be the person you would like others to be to you". Keep up the good work👍
I find that while it’s SUPER important to stay on track and be disciplined with the things you need to do to accomplish your goals, it’s EQUALLY just as important as making sure you take breaks and relax during the process. Or else you’re just gonna overwhelm and overwork yourself.
Which, you guessed it...leads to burn out and less productivity
Completely agree! 👏🏼 I’ve been there before and it’s no fun. It’s important to take a step back and enjoy life too!
Cool, calm, collected! I try to live by these 3 Cs as much as I can.
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With me being a Martial artist and training daily, the ones that apply to my characteristics are 1 Keeping cool, which means staying calm under pressure, and stress, with all kinds of situations, good or bad. My philosophy is that the best fights are the ones not taken nor started. 2 having humor can have a lady laugh that shows your passionate side. 4 Disciplined we people that are into the arts we knew having disciplined to us never stop working hard on what you want to achieve which shows that you have conferences in your ability, understanding oneself, listening deeply. It helps with learning about the person that you are with. Number 5 is probably the most important of all on the list: having trust in your partner, being a person of your words, knowing what you can handle in the environment, and being the best version of yourself to matter as well, not your worst when having someone you care about plays a role too in that relationship. Thanks for the upload Courtney Ryan; it really was an exciting video.
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*YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY STUNNING COURTNEY!* 🥰
Here from your guest appearance on the Roomates. Realize I’ve heard so much from the manosphere about dating and relationships, but not so much from the opposite sex. Excited to have you subscribed. I think a lot of young men need to hear healthy masculinity validated from a female point of view, because so many of us were taught by our moms to subconsciously avoid it like it was bad or something. Loved the video!
Thank you, Levi! ❤️
I think a trait that was left out is RESPECT. Having respect towards yourself, partner, and people in general can go a long way.
respect isn't a trait
Real title 5 traits that good women find irresistible ( Not the crazy ones)
Fair 😂😂
Good woman would get to keep such a man... Because she will be feminine and submissive enough
meaning: this does not work more than 90% of the time
@@sebastianjaimes1309 lol the crazy just manipulate and drain guys like this dry.
A better topic: How to spot the Crazy Girls
@@despinoza6205 we are looking to be drained
Women only should be a compliment, not a priority in man’s life who’s on his path and purpose. A real man of of high value knows this. You’re right, people in general should always have something to do that increases their value making them more attractive!
I appreciate the thought and care that you put into your videos without being just another random advice / lifestyle channel. And I do think that a high value woman will find these traits attractive more than those who are basically put, the opposite of some of these traits. Also, once we get away from social media, it's so much easier to spot and genuinely appreciate these traits. Sometimes feels like these days hookup culture/ lack of commitment seems to be an issue.
I have been watching you for a while but have never commented. Just to let you know I like the videos when you are commenting on other tubers but what I like the most is that you have the most calming voice ever. Keep up the good work. Thank you.
Dating advice from a classic video game, “Don’t make a girl a promise if you know you can’t keep it.” These words have followed me and defined me since. I’m still single, but I have a clean conscience. Thanks for the Awesome content and encouragement!
Halo!
Halo 3!!!
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1. Keep it cool, keep his composure
2. Sense of humor, balance in serious and light hearted
3. Have Purpose, driven to work hard for goals
4. Discipline, man with a plan, get things done. Deadlines that are kept.
Working towards your goals and happy
5. Integrity
Man of Your word
Trustworthy
Not a people pleaser
5 irresistibile Traits
1. Keepin It cool & calm /emotional intelligence
2. Sense of Humor /ability to be serious as well
3. Conscious of Purpose/knows what he wants
4. Self-Discipline/ consistency within purpose
5. Integritiy/ Man of your word / honesty about intentions and expectations
The truth is Courtney Ryan, you just said it out loud , l strive to be the best version of myself, and to find happiness in being of service to another. I do not do it to be attractive or irresistible.
I love all the advice and information you give. You cut through all the BS and tell the cold hard truth. I've learned so much and I thank you for all you do. Your RUclips channel is my favorite.❤
You are sooo
I love your channel. After narcissistic personality disorder abuse i am slowly finding myself again. Amen and God Bless you.
1. Live in Cleveland.
2. Sell watches.
3. Collaborate in a girl's early RUclips videos.
4. Give away freebies to help your girl's RUclips channel.
5. have the same name as a beloved toy bear.
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That’s hilarious.
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It doesn’t hurt that he has his own money.
Fckn Teddy he nailed it 5 for 5. I bet he writes poems to her about her face being the face of the most classic moon-phase watches etc.etc.
You are a lovely young lady who's helping fellas with the struggles in their lives, I personally appreciate it !
God bless you beautiful 😍
Great video, Courtney. I totally agree these five traits are essential not only for romance but also for success.
Guys! I have my first ever first date! I am so happy and so excited! Courtney you have really helped me and I love your content
I have all of these and I’m still single. Just goes to show that no matter what you say looks are the end all be all and women will not look past that if you don’t look like the “vin diesel” type. This has been my life long experience with them so I only think of myself from now on
I'm there too..same situation. Wait! You'll probably going to get the "you need therapy" line on here?
LoL!
Just level yourself up and progress. Become the best version of yourself you can possibly be.
This lady is incredibly bright, reassuring, articulate and thoughtful and much more. So impressive as she is awfully young. I learn from her and I am twice her age!!
How would you explain the people that seek out partners who aren't levelheaded and do have issues? I am liking your videos, and think it's good for people to hear logical explanations of this stuff. It seems like a lot of people fall into the trap of seeking out people who are toxic because the toxicity communicates confidence to them.
This was an excellent dissertation. Very well said. "The best version of yourself." That's what the goal should be for sure.
Hey, i just want to say that you have a beautiful voice and a beautiful heart, never change how you are. I’m in a wheelchair and your advice is very helpful, thanks. 🙏 Blessings everyone
Thank you so much, Xavier! So glad you’re here 🥰
"Be the best person you can be"... so true. Sometimes I need to pause and step back to make sure I stay on track to being a better person. Be the better person and people will notice. More importantly, you'll feel better. And that's what matters. Life is short.
Multiple videos a week and being a guest on the roomates? I see and respect your hustle.
Thank you so much!
The Roommates show was great
Best decision Courtney has done. I wana see more collaboration between her and Hafeez they make a solid team. As they say two heads are better than one.
I really like how you said that your purpose can change. A lot of people think they need to find one concrete life purpose. Focus on a purpose that makes sense right now
I stopped giving this girl who friend zoned me attention. And now she blows me up constantly and asks why I act different 😑😒
Every time 🙃
@@CourtneyRyan y’all want what ya can’t have 😂✌️
@@CourtneyRyan not really, I stopped giving attention to a lady that rejected me on ig. She unfollowed me on ig after I stopped watching her stories and liking any of her posts, she hasn't contacted me back. It's funny, because She said how she saw me as a "teacher friend " to talk to. We are both teachers. Doesn't happen in all cases.
I'm not expecting her to ever contact me in the future. I'm actually happy if she doesn't.
I think Courtney Ryan is amazing. She always has good advice and there's something about hearing it from a woman's point of view. She hasn't steered me wrong.
Great video as always Courtney! 🙏🏻 I’ve struggled in the past with keeping my word when I’ve told someone I’d arrive on time or be somewhere that day and now being 24 years old, I realize more than ever that when you say something you mean, keep your word because a woman will find it highly attractive and know you’re reliable. Hope you have an amazing day! :)
I'm always on time!
who are you?!
I saw this video in the suggestion and I was thinking, I don't care all that much about what women find attractive.. I have other things to worry about and work on other than women's opinions
watched the video and came to realize I'm doing the very thing that is considered attractive and you know what? it makes sense, a person who have a goal that he's working towards, being honest, keeping own word, staying calm and collected, that's indeed attractive
I never thought of it as something I needed to do to be attractive to the opposite sex, but glad to have another angle I can look at it
liked and subbed, keep it up
You might want to check out the book “The Power of Habit”. It’s a great read and aligns with these traits you highlighted.
I'm so glad I find videos like this where the stickies are down to earth and wholesome.
Good points Courtney. Like the emotional attraction. Think we hear a lot about physical attraction. So this was very helpful. Thank you.
Once upon a time, men were expected to declare themselves. Especially their intentions, with women and otherwise. That seems like a better system.
Also, "be the best version of yourself" is some of the best advice ever. Those are words I live by.
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Women loves confidence in men.... Courtney u say right things which make people change.. It is incredible😍🤩
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I’m not sure how I came across your channel. I’m glad I have. It’s nice to see there are still some classy women out there. And you seem like a very nice person. I want a classy woman and God fearing. I’m 42 years old. If you want different gotta do different. I started working out, going to school, building my relationship with God, healing from my past. And my life now is good. And listening to your videos really helps. Thanks girl. I don’t care what anyone says your awesome. Thanks!
Courtney- “ These are the traits that I would’ve loved to have in a partner” .
Her bf *watching this *: 👀👀
A beautiful woman giving very sound advice. You are such a gold mine. Continue to flourish inside and out.
1. Be cool - mild temperament
2. Sense of humor
3. Sense of purpose
4. Be disciplined
5. Have integrity.
Still doesn’t matter if you are sub 5. Only works if you are a chad.
If you are happy with yourself, you can be happy with anyone...I think that sums up everything...
This channel should be called: what Courtney Ryan likes in a man!!
What Courtney Ryan thinks she likes in a man.
Cats... lots of cats...
Or "what girls say they like in men but mean the opposite!"
She has a bf. Her bf makes watches. If you want a woman like Courtney.. you better WATCH yourself..
These are core, strong, masculine traits. It’s pretty said that this needs to be said.
Integrity and being honest with yourself and those around you is so important! I agree completely. Well said. I believe so strongly!
Love my Cleveland girl! Keep up the great content!
You always give good advice in relationships. The only thing that I would add would be to list all of the 4 or more items again at the end of your video. This would help us to remember all of your points from the video.
And self confidence also it is one of the main thing when it comes to getting girls .never ever lose your confidence NEVER . a man should embody self confidence to be the alpha
what is the difference between self confidence and confidence?
The difference is that self confidence is having confidence in yourself and the other is having confidence in other people.
@@louiscyfer6944 self confidence- when you become confident about you and your achievements etc
A confidence in one skill, doesn't translate into confidence in another. I'm confident in my career, I'm a teacher, because I have years experience in it and know different strategies when it comes to teaching children. In addition, I hold an MAT in multiple subjects. The same confidence I have in my career, doesn't translate to my confidence at attracting women. Different strategies are needed. This is the dilemma that most women, and men, that tell those of us that have unsuccessful feedback from women to just "have confidence. " Don't comprehend! That confidence in one skill, doesn't transfer to attracting women and the confidence in. Especially! When I was ignored, called ugly, friendzoned by most women. So tell me! How does that work? "Professor"?
(Fyi: I'm 38, I'm pretty much red pill in ideology. As a former obese man)
A kind young lady.Soothing when she speaks
Courtney, THANK YOU for this video!
Keep up the awesome work!! 🙏🏼
It's a nice boost to hear this list, and be able to think by gosh, I have all those traits. I don't really approach women in public, and bars/clubs are not my scene, I'm more about being part of a community, making friends, and having connections form organically over time as we get to know each other. My issue is, I'm in a city where I've been really struggling to find that community, and those compatible friends. I value connection, being there for each other, sharing life, and have just been running into more superficial, flighty folks, in both faith communities, and communities around a common interest. (I've even started and run a few meetup groups myself around writing and creativity, and even when they were successful, personal connections never arose.) After being burned a number of times, I've pulled all my energy back in, and intend to move to a new place where I might be a better fit. This is taking a while to organize, however, and in the meantime being very disconnected is really taking a toll on my mental health and is pretty discouraging. It is lonely being single, sometimes achingly, but it also feels like friendships and community need to come first.
Courtney when are you starting online course for personality development!
I am ready for attending seminar 🌹
Hahaha maybe one day! 👏🏼 I’ll be sure to let you know! Thanks for being here ❤️
Wow. There are so many videos on this topic on internet, this one is the most sincere, realistic and mature. Liked and subscribed
1: Don't be short
2: Don't be short
3: Don't be short
4: Don't be short
When is this channel going to start getting honest?
I totally believe in not taking yourself too seriously, but I do believe in taking life very seriously. That being said, live life on purpose, but enjoy the ride; Educate yourself, live within the boundary of propriety in all things, know yourself; the makeup of your heart and mind and their influential motivations, and allow people to express to you who they are; their body language, thoughts, perspective on life and people. I really enjoy the company of those who are honest, fun, and love to think. Just thought I would share my view with anyone who cares. I know not everyone will agree with my outlook and honestly, I really couldn't care less. I also just want to thank Courtney for sharing her wisdom and experience with us guys. You seem like someone whom I perceive as one of the few real people; those that are not pretentiously claiming to be more than they are or possess detailed knowledge of subjects they do not. Sorry for the looooong comment. Courtney's sharing of "not taking yourself too seriously" is what inspired this thought. I believe that is more important than people give merit.
You missed something! The "physical" makes up 30% of the attraction. Without that very important 30% physical attraction, those traits you mentioned matter not. Sexual attraction triumphs over emotional attraction at first, then is emotional attraction. That's real raw female attraction. I saw your whole video btw. I can't wait for your physical attraction video.
Technically its sexual, emotion, then physical attraction.
@@LordXenon6 true, my opinion...sexual attraction is looks, the superficial. But! Could be put like you stated it. I still believe that physical attraction matters the most.
Idk bro I’m short, 21, balding, broke and ugly yet smashed a hot chick so it’s definitely not all looks
@@ricardogalindo8794 sexual attraction is your body language, how you touch without being a creep, eye contact. and how to talk to woman. YOU could be a guy thats 10 out of 10, but if you can't do the things above, it doesn't matter.
@@ricardogalindo8794 Physical is only about 10%. Don't try giving advice when you have absolutely no idea as to what you're talking about.
This absolutely the very best advice on attractiveness I have ever encountered.
Clicking on a new vid is irresistible
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Do you have nothing better to do than to stroke her already overly inflated ego?
@@Mogamishu get a life man. I seen your comments everywhere on her videos just hating. I feel bad for you
@@Mogamishu Not going to work mate, I’m cool as a cucumber 😂
Love Courtney and her channel. Women have a blind spot on sense of humor. They always stated it is one of their top attractions. In reality they love a sense a humor in men they are not with and then think they like it. They never want their guy to be funny or light hearted. But they will always comment on how funny so and so is.
This women is grinding -📈
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This young lady makes doing the right thing sound good. Thank you, Ms. Ryan.
Funny how physically attractive people very often lack these traits ..
Funny how those physically attractive people get the hot women anyway. Women don't care about all this silly stuff she talks about. Money talks for women. They care about nothing else.
So true
@@jesseatwater393 the hot women also lack these traits
@@jesseatwater393 amen
Alphas and Chads for that matter
GREAT ADVICE Courtney! If I may add?? Put some real in-depth time of thought into these 5 factors until you have the confidence to look into your mirror and say to yourself that you are a winner ~ Until such time as you can achieve this level then it will be difficult to convince others that you are ~ Also, never focus on "money" because once you get your mind right, the money will follow ~ Lastly, when facing challenges that create doubts in your mind, it is extremely important to focus on your "end-results" [see yourself already achieving your goals and how this would/could feel to you] ~ Integrity is so very important and when combined with enthusiasm & confidence this will take you to places you could only have dreamed of ~~ Thanks lovely Courtney
When they see that I’ve ordered the LARGE coffee.
😎 immediately irresistible
A Grande...
Yucky haha
(; omg
This is a nice uplifting video. My purpose is that after I finish building my house (nearly there), I'm going to plant a timber boat. I'm going to plant a 50 area forest of rare and unusual trees as well as boat building trees. I've had people get angry at me because I wasn't getting angry, that was weird.
Courtney could you speak marriage oaths not meaning anything anymore, the whole "tile death do us part" is no longer a thing and neither is "in sickness and in health" because women today will immediately jump ship on a man who's health goes under no matter how much he provided her previously. I would love to hear a womans perspective. I tell my son this all the time, dont work yourself to the bone for a modern entitled women, she will only bleed your bones dry and move on
You never own a woman even if you pay for everything they own living in your house not working always remember you do not own her it is just your turn she will most likely get bored of you and move on to the next guy
Hi. What I heard was Purpose. Purpose = Job...Can and do you work? Purpose is not other areas of your life. Purpose = job. Security is irresistible and important. Financial security is mega huge for woman. Discipline. Discipline to do your job so you have a purpose and have financial security which she wants, needs, and finds attractive.
The final exams is after two weeks .
I really need to work hard so I can insecure a scholarship.
Good luck! Keep working hard!
you may not want to insecure a scholarship.
*secure, not insecure
Amazing video. All 5 of them.👍👍
Ex. 3yrs ago I told the people I worked with I was buying property and putting/building a house on it.
They all laughed at me.😐 now 3yrs later, property is bought and house is being built. Positive people help you believe in yourself.
👏🏼👏🏼 wooo!
Get rid of toxic people. There are genuinely good people that want to see you succeed, surround yourself with them.
Bigfoot stole my girlfriend.
Oh yeah? Well, the KKK took my baby away.
@@renaissanceman7145 😮😮😮
I am not really into listing about relationship advice on the internet but for some reason I just like listening to Courtney
Appreciating your video,it definitely helps improving a man's character overall..Most important you are not overacting with your expression...Keeping calm and doing it!!! Love watching the way you presents a video. Thanks
I love her voice and her bearing. It’s very alluring and easy to listen to.
Courtney, you just described a well rounded person, what is a real turn on is being able to find one, they are as rare as diamonds.
You're right, there's a difference between emotional attraction and physical attraction. I'm really good at the first one.
4:45. Wow Courtney, I was just telling a friend of mine this the other day and it’s so true. My friend and I went back to writing this movie we started and I audibly told him recently, “dude I’m happier now that we’re back doing this”.
Great content again. I personally appreciate it when you tie your personal history and experiences in order make your point. It tends to add credibility to content while showing your human side.
Can’t believe how much the channel has grown
Me either! 🥺 I’m so thankful
I never listen to any dating advice from women.But Courtney Ryan I always listen to .One of the best even better than a lot of men.Keep up the great work Courtney u r one fantastic lady who a lot of guys will learn a lot about their female partners .Jeff Herts uk
The key is for men to level up. Get away from the social media, get away from the video games, get away from the junk food, get away from toxic people, and get away from the 9-5.
9-5? I wish! How do you get away from an 8-6 lol.
Strive to be the best version of yourself which will probably lead to irresistible Emotional attraction. Great Video!
You are very authentic and genuine guide in the dating world. I have learned soo much from you!!
I found my dream late in life and its already in front of me: to influence people to think and feel their best even if they don’t necessarily share my views. Then discipline lets me take care of myself, be my best self and allow me to make the world a better place. When you discover confidence, as Robert Browning wrote, heaven is ne’er beyond our grasp. An ideal can be realised if we put our minds to it.