This is entertaining and all... but there's often a HUGE difference between what people say stands out (what they are attracted to) and what they are ACTUALLY attracted to.
@@UserRobot215 I don't think Chads really date. They just slam. LOL. But to your point - I agree it's a lot easier for the tall good looking Chad. But I've known a lot of shorter (under 5'6"), average looking, not wealthy guys who were surprisingly successful with women. How did they do it? They definitely had game - they were very funny, charming, and had charisma. But I think there's one other big point - they knew what kind of girls to go after and where. Clearly these guys would have gotten nowhere on dating apps, or in the bars and clubs. So they targeted meeting girls in person and they went after girls who seemed to be more open; maybe from experience they got a vibe that a certain type of girl would be more open to them. Interestingly a lot of these girls were pretty attractive, definitely better than average.
I once received wise advice from an older guy, "Don't choose purely off of looks. Looks age. But choose a gal based off of her voice. You'll have to wake up to that the rest of your life."
The "I don't care" woman contradicted herself in the latter half that she does care about the things she didn't care about before. Ha ha. That's a woman for you.
@@andreib4226 I think men's observations about what they want in a woman would be a lot less superficial and more about her temperament. As long as a woman is "reasonably attractive" and is a team player... as opposed to being competitive, critical, never satisfied etc....(ie. an obstacle to his happiness) I think most men who want a relationship would see her as a viable option. I also think that the male responses might be eye-opening for a lot of women. Men simply don't value women for the same reasons that many women imagine.
@@yougoods7470 Entirely possible. Depends on the cross section of men in the interview. A bunch of frat boys will yield responses that are different than what you'd get from blue collar men. Hopefully such an interview would include a statistically reasonable representation of men (not just the top 10% that women tend to chase, but which have little incentive to commit)
Courtney: "..not necessarily what they were born with or things they can't change, but what they do with it." Blonde woman: "Absolutely!" Same woman in the other video: if he's a 10 but he's short, he becomes a 1. Irony meter just broke
Courtney Ryan is a charlatan actually 🤣 She fits the definition very well in my opinion. Charlatan: (ˈʃɑrlətən ) noun. a person who pretends to have expert knowledge or skill that he or she does not have; fake; mountebank. Also they don’t even talk about how ethnicity matters I bet Courtney and most of these girls only date white men around 6 ft more or less but probably more than 6ft.
We should do the same and judge women only by what they can change. But if she’s a 10 with under C cup breasts she becomes a 1. Plastic surgery doesn’t count.
@@cyberlip666 they do a little bit off that but I have a coworker who's short. Like,I feel BIG when I'm around him and I'm average in height. But the guy always had hot girlfriends.
watching these women speak just gives me another thought about how I understand that there are many women that are clueless to men that could honestly love them.
Exactly. But the good thing is that beauty is not just on the outside, but also the inside. We've all met pretty women with ugly attitudes before. The truth is with chicks like that, we aren't missing out on anything. It the opposite. We're dodging pretty looking bullets.
Women know what they want, just like men do. But it's in THEORY. So there's a lot of flexibility built in. I had certain "standards" that I thought were ideal. But in the real world, I found different women to be sexy for different reasons. I even found some chunky women who were sexy as hell. Super pretty, playful, and even had sex thick bodies. The truth is that you have preferences but you will always bump into those exceptions to your rules. Same thing with women.
@@jonothandoeser You make sense. My thought process is against women that play men. Of course men allow themselves to be played. I am one who doesn't allow myself to be played. If one controls lust, they can effectively filter out the trolls. If one has established a meaningful relationship with a female partner that is respectful of you and you are being sacrificing and loving, things work out for a lifetime.
@@raymondwatts5372 It makes sense to be careful. But most manipulators give you signs of what their game is pretty early on.If you know what to look for, you can weed out the bad ones pretty easily. But remember, NOBODY is perfect. Whoever you end up with there will still be at least some problems. They just need to be problems you can work through or live with.
message to all my male compatriots: as women are super demanding be also demanding you have the right why we should accept everything and have no demands take quality and stop looking for quantity
@Laura UK Think about it this way: right now the dating market is a female oligopoly. If many male buyers stop buying by practicing abstinence, stop the simping (thirst traps on social media and @nlyfans) and by settling only for women at their looks level (which implies dumping or divorcing a woman below the looks level of her man). The market might gradually shift to benefit men.
@Laura UK A woman is just given her value (physical attractiveness) but a man has to achieve his value (status). Even that average man has had to work hard to achieve something and be something. He is expected to give his time, his energy, and his resources. Is that expected from the average woman? No but it damn well should be. So what does the average woman bring? Nothing really except entitlement and very high expectations. She wants this and she wants that. She deserves this and she deserves that. She's a queen, a princess, a superstar. I never hear average men talking this way.
@Laura UK From my experience, the only reason some men don't appear picky, is because some men might f*uck average women, while pretending to be interested in them, and then easily filter those women out later (while they look for the attractive woman, they actually want to breed with) and they seem very choosy while selecting the woman they want to have a long term relationship with, esp based on looks, from my experience, men chose women purely based on their looks/body, age and personality, while women choose men based on a lot of factors including their wealth, socio-economic status, power, looks, resources, altogether, which is one of the reasons why women's dating market value typically goes down as they gets into their 30's and more, while men's value goes up as they hit 30's and up.
That’s miss a dry right there If anything this entire videos reinforces the idea that men should avoid dating modern women. Way to demanding. But aman cannot state his own preferences
Having preferences is good and all, but even when I'm dating a woman who finds me attractive and I'm sitting there listening to their life story and they put little to no effort in getting to know me is a dealbreaker to say the least. It's common sense to want someone who doesn't just appreciate you for how you look and want to get to know you for you, but hey, I'm human too and that's what I also want and rarely if ever getting. Girls, just ask a guy about his passions/hobbies, and listen for once.
I've been there. Resist taking it personally. If she's telling you her life story, she's interested in you, selling herself. Good to listen intently, you don't want to ask her a question later about something she's gone over. She could test you on it but she may well be just a little giddy, very happy to have your attention. If she's yammering, shock her out of it by interrupting and ask her if she wants to know anything about you. It's a simple test. If she's interested at all, she'll say yes and come around, but if the answer is no, then plan your exit.
I'ma be real it's kinda just how women work frfr. When I first started dating my gf she had a good balance of wanting to know more about me and sharing about herself, but the longer we've been together, the more she feels comfortable just sharing. I just learned to listen and let her go, because I know it means a lot to her to get to talk and especially since she's introverted, so I'm one of the few people she gets really excited about talking to. I also try to share stuff too sometimes and she'll listen, she's just not as apt to ask about it, but we keep an open line of communication to make sure we're both heard
The voice part was interesting. I’ve felt this way about women too. It conveys a lot of energy. The blonde woman’s voice is really mesmerizing. You can tell she is confident and sure of herself. Men can convey masculine energy with theirs.
@@sicckunts7069 I didn’t say you need to change your voice. But, if you’re not confident, for example, or lying, your voice does sound different. Women notice this. People in general notice it.
Could you do a video like this with different age group girls like 35, 45 and then a grp of 55? I think it might be interesting to see the responses and how they have changed and what have stayed the same as ppl mature.
Yeah the only reason these people aren't unbearable is because this is a first impression Q/A and they're in their 20's. Fitness in your 20's is completely pointless to talk about. Having abs in your 40's is almost impossible for anyone with a family and a full time job that isn't fitness related. That's when you actually see who gives a shit about their body.
Being in my mid-40's I thought the exact same thing. Most guys in their mid 40's are already bald or balding bad enough they have to shave their heads. Plus, most of them have beer guts or big guts too. Its part of the horrible diet most eat, the grind of daily life, and just plain old slowing down of the metabolism. So, I already know a woman in my age range won't really care about appearance as much.
@@yourcrazybear when you're young you don't have to think about it. None of them look like they're into fitness. They just look young. Most of these girls will be the chubby person with no abs and flabby arms they currently think is unattractive. They just don't know it yet. Can't blame someone for not knowing what it's like to age.
@@rorschach775 Good point. Women usually hit 'the wall' pretty hard once they get into their 40s and by their 50s, you wouldn't even look at them twice. I graduated from high school over 40 years ago and there are only 2 women from my class that are still reasonably attractive. All the others have asses the size of refrigerators, wrinkles all over their faces, and unless the dye their hair, they look 20 years older than they are. The vast majority of women just don't age well. The same can be said of some men, also. But it seems that, generally speaking, the guys age a bit more gracefully than the women.
It's been tough out here having alopecia universalis where all of the hair on my entire body suddenly fell out including eyebrows and eyelashes at age 29. Huge hit to the confidence and self esteem but it inspired me to really focus on my fitness and get into the best shape of my life since that is one thing I still have control over. Gotta do the best with what you've got! I sure do miss my beard though lol
Appreciate these girls being honest. Pretty exhausting seeing women pretend to not have standards, and demanding men do the same, only to find that we all have standards, and that's okay. The gym one is huge. It's not shallow to want a healthy partner. Great content.
I think having multiple opinions is nice to hear. I like how you ask “clarifiers”: the “why?” and personal preference on overall “initial impression”. Context is just as important. I appreciate this video & your content, Courtney.
Most of the time when I fancy a girl, they tend not to fit into what I would automatically think i'd like. I think femininity and how a girl carries herself is the no 1 thing, from a guys perspective, if we're talking serious relationship. If we're talking "hook up" then it's different. I think people's likes and dislikes change depending on the ultimate goal...
They absolutely do. I think that's something that guys don't actually think about. If all I want is one night, then the only two things I care about are how do you look, and are you clingy/crazy. But when you want an actual relationship, then you have to worry about a million more things, like what's your personality like, can I talk to you for long periods of time without being bored, what's your family like, are you bad with money, are you messy or unclean, do you have a job, how do you act in public.. all those are things you look at when you want a relationship, that you don't have to look at it if all you're trying to do is have a one night stand or a short fling.
Nice interview, I think people are saying “oh they’re so shallow”, but they seem like great standards. Having Good hygiene, an inviting look with a style that suits you as an individual and being disciplined and caring about your physical health are pretty great things to look for in a partner, male or female. 😊 enjoyed the insight.
This was interesting. I appreciate the ladies taking the time to share their perspective and opinions. Two things immediately came to mind as I watched and listened. 1) I've never even heard of a woman who didn't like/demand/require a man be stylish, well groomed, straight white teeth, fit and (bottom line) attractive in their eyes. 2) 99.9% of women have never held a labor intensive outdoor job leaving them clueless regarding the effects such jobs often have on many physical features and other aspects discussed. To my ears, everyone of your guests described a white collar man. This reinforces what most men have known the majority of their lives, women don't see 80%+/- of the men in the world. Ask any man the same questions you asked your guests and 90%+ won't care about any of the specifics in your questions. "As long as she looks good to me" is what you'll hear from men. Modern women have too many unrealistic expectations/demands and tunnel vision regarding men. The perfect recipe for disappointment.
Very thankful that i grew up in an era, when little boys were told to be hard working and honest. Arms? Abs? I can still carry an aluminum cased four cylinder engine (fully assembled) across the room by myself. The opinions of these young ( too young), women are very disappointing to me...
Yes exactly. F Roger Devlin has summarized male sex drive as wanting variety and quantity, whereas the female sex drive is only wanting one but wanting the absolute best. And now that trading up is legal and even encouraged, women are doing that in droves. This doesn't end well.
On the voice thing, my sister had a David Beckham poster on her wall when she was in high school (we’re old) and after she heard him on tv she said his voice ruined it and she took down the poster lol
@@CourtneyRyan can you ask them would you date/be in a relationship with someone who has mental illness personality disorder brain injury physical and or mental/learning disabilities not interested in having sex at all mirrors you like their personality,hobbies etc are exactly like yours criminal record very suggestible,yes man abusive childhood orphan addiction compulsions like kleptomania, pyromania,etc fetishes like urolagnia,coprophagia,piquerism,etc doesn't feel comfortable in their body street kid/person spent their childhood and adulthood living on the streets
I think we're all attuned to voices. Men can really dislike the voice of certain women too. Fran Drescher made a career out of her screechy voice,so did Rosanne Barr. On the positive side, men so often comment on how feminine and pleasant Courtney's voice is. I admire it as a woman. I always had a deeper voice, but not that I'd ever be mistaken for a man on the phone. Men did say they liked that. It helped me to get over wishing to have a real girly voice, like I did when I was young.
As a man who is EXTREMELY insecure about his body, I honestly respect a lot of these answers about muscles and stuff. Especially the women who are into fitness. I 100% believe you deserve to be picky about standards IF YOU ARE WILLING to meet those same standards yourself. So yeah, as long as a woman herself is heavily into fitness, she can be picky about fitness so long as she isn’t rude or demeaning to guys who don’t meet those standards Same thing, a man who’s into fitness is 100% allowed to want a woman who is as well
I agree, however I will say that not every woman here who's picky about fitness is in shape herself. I believe she has no right to want a man with a six pack if she isn't decently toned herself.
I think it’s more like if a woman is attractive (and women don’t have to be big into fitness to be attractive) they can prefer a guy who’s fit, muscular, in shape etc. … that’s kinda equivalent in my mind. Like a hot girl wants a “hot” guy…
It’s not how it works my friend, I sure as shit can guarantee that any man who is not into fitness , has horrible teeth and ugly mug would be very much attracted to a hot fit girl with straight white teeth and a beautiful face.
Well not necessarily. I am into looks - sorry. I am, so I married a much better looking woman a decade younger. She has no interest in looks really, I’m not ugly genuinely, I’m tall, I have my hair, I’m not obese, but women ain’t swooning over me. I am a worker - I’ve always been a career guy and I can provide a good life, I’m a good dad, I’m a good husband and I’m fairly popular. I’m in a lot of clubs etc. Basically she would rather have a guy like me than Mr Abs who doesn’t have these things. Once a girl has enjoyed the abs, what’s left? Video games? Sure it’s good to have both but very few people have personality and brains and abs. I always wanted a super pretty girl and my wife always wanted a guy who cuts a figure in society, can help us access the best experiences, is devoted to family and we both get what we want. So I am one guy who got a very pretty wife but I’m not pretty but I got a lot else in my locker
It all changes as you get older, including the texture of the skin. Wrinkles on the face, arms, hands, feet etc. Hair loss, receeding hair line, it all changes, some faster, some slower, depending on your lifestyle. The goal is to be healthy, within your normal body weight and physically active. And you attitude makes a huge difference. Bigger than you might imagine. I've met some extremely attractive women and their attitudes were a turn off. However, some average looking women with average builds had great, outgoing attitudes and they were a turn on for me! Externals will change but the heart of the person is much more significant!
Fortunately for me I’ve always been a stand up guy and was raised with manners and kept fit my entire life. 29 with 10 percent body fat full head of hair have a skin care routine etc. It’s not hard to have these things
Right. And also why we shouldn't identify with most of what is said here. As we get older and you still identify with these things of beauty you're going to be really unhappy.
@@Rizzy_K Sow a thought, reap an action. Sow an action, reap a habit. Sow a habit, reap a lifestyle. Sow a lifestyle, reap a destiny. A lot all comes down to personal choice. But some does not. Some is inherited from our family. I did not choose to lose most of my hair but I inherited my grandfather's genes and he had major hair loss most of his life. Nonetheless, I accept it and make the best of it!
I think it is more like tendencies or preferences but, the momento you know someone that shakes you you can actually even realize that he has no of your preferences are met and still you are attracted.
Loved Erica on this one! I wasn't expecting she said "I don't care" so much 😅 My answer is identical to her : I notice face first on women. Also I combine my answer with Stella's one : Each person is unique, and has to find his own style to shine (type of clothes, colors combination, accessories | all of this associated to the body, face and hair). Hope we would have more videos like this (with maybe more unusual thematics discussed) ✨
The repeated "I don't care" sounded insincere, or like she didn't wanted to bother answering. It would be understandable to not care about some of them, but come on it sounds like she doesn't care about body at all, which I think everyone cares about in some form.
@@SystematicMechanic I will reserve the right to doubt that. Perhaps it's not really important to her, but if she were to be able to choose between overweight or not, can she really say that either one is the same? And the other girls also mentioned stuff like trimming and cleanness. Clearly there are many things one looks for when it comes to body. And later on she mentioned something about how the neck indicates body fitness, so she clearly cares.
She’s the best. The rest are too superficial. “I hate to say this but…”. Just say you’re superficial. Stop trying to act like you’re not. The one that didn’t care about most things was good. She cared about the important things.
@@vorak77 I appreciated their honesty when they didn't just say what we wanted to hear, that would have not been useful for anyone. Caring about how in order someone's body is is not superficial, it's just normal.
Here's the real list of what women notice: 1) Biceps 2) Tattoos 3) Tracking anklet 4) Crimal record 5) Weapons hidden on their body 6) Meth face 7) Jewelry that's not theirs 8) Stump leg 9) Beef smell 10) Leaving backpacks near a US embassy
Stella, particularly, seems so put together, physically and emotionally. Every response of her is so on point and mature... She knows what she wants and knows very well how to articulate it.
If you watch several of these videos, they counterdict themselves. You catch her being really honest, she laughs about "I'll take short and rich every time..." Same girl when asked "He's a ten but short." "oh, he's a ONE." She certainly has it together, if you mean using her tits to manipulate men.
The take away from all of this is we as guys need to understand that you just need to show you care about your appearance. Your appearance is like the tip of the iceberg in that it hints at the more important and deeper personality attributes and traits. Showing you have just a tiny bit of muscle says that you actually take the time to go to the gym or are active. You don't have to be the best dressed or have the biggest muscles or be the best at any of it you just need to show that you're trying to always improve in all these areas and that you care. This shows girls that you have motivation, discipline, attention to detail, etc. It's like the old cliche that a women wants a many with a lot of money. It's not because they want all his money it's because they're attracted to his motivation, drive to be successful, financial discipline. On the surface these subtle details seem shallow but in reality when you put them all together it builds a really accurate picture of who you are deep down inside.
Yeah and all the whales insisting they are ok and we shouldn’t judge on how their fat cellulite ridden ass looks but insist on dating a man with a six figure salary and a great body. Women have a lot of double standards
caring about your appearance is based on your intent to so like you brushed your teeth so that means you care about your appearance well actually what should be said first is why did you brush your teeth do you even know why,was it to impress someone,was it because someone told you to that's not actually caring about your appearance
IMO strength > appearance looks don’t really have health benefits (except one I can think of) all it really shows is u have lower body fat % (hey at least we aren’t overweight or underweight) plus built a lil muscle. When you train for objectivity rather then subjectivity (which training to look good is it’s not objective it’s subjective in nature) then all styles of training improve weather that be to run faster, lift heavier, jump higher, run longer distances etc etc all this done in respect to recovery all have mental and physical health benefits. Also it makes you more satisfied and confident, u have a goal and the only one you are trying to beat is yourself (unless your competing in a sport and hey healthy competition is good). This also shows you are actually useful to people. Now don’t get me wrong I love especially now getting into nice cool looking clothes (subjective I like a lot of under-amour sports shit i personally think they have some nice merch), doing my hair, making sure my oral health is on point (crikey M8 we don’t want gum disease) watches etc etc but this is because I get an hit of endorphins and it helps me to love myself. So if it gives u that boost in yourself that’s probs why looking good might be good hey hey if it helps with the ladies then that’s a win win my fellow kings.
This was actually refreshing to see just how different girls perspectives are and how not all stereotypes are the same. But overall stella an ericabwere definitely my favorite of them all just how honest she was about it and they didn't seem to care about their guys being a 10 all around.
@Mike F what makes u think she lied tho? One of my best friends not to be mean is like a 4 or 5 tops and his wife is gorgeous. But she's with him because he's a super great guy and treats her good. And he's not loaded with money either so I know it's not that. Not all attractive women only want guys for looks and money. I know majority do but not all
@@dukefan1010 There is always exceptions. These types of videos/interview is to show a general view of what women think. To me it's more interesting how the general majority of women think because that tells me what they look for and increases my chances when I know how I can improve. That there are a few procent of women somewhere on the planet that like me 100% however whenever, is of no use. That's how I think.
Fellas remember this, regarding the women whom things like "abs" or a certain physical appearance is a requirement, the moment she perceives another person to better fit that description she will not hesitate to trade you in, I'm not saying be a fat, lazy, dirty p.o.s you want to take care of yourself of course but just be weary of the women whom a certain physical appearance is a "requirement"
this. a personality that is compatible with, and enjoyable with, is FAR more important - it is who they will 'forever be' a body is definitely not forever (take a look at yourself if you are superficial and only care about looks.....)
The majority of women want you to be physically fit. If you have a gut, and the next guy has abs - she might lie and say she doesn't care. But, in her mind, she wants the guy with the abs 99/100 of them do. Even if its not a fit for a relationship, they will lust and want the guy with the abs. Don't kid yourself. Like I said, not necessarily for a long-term relationship, but instant sex or their minds with have sexual thoughts about that other guy and not you. I assure you this is the way it is.
I love Stella. She's has that "Here's the facts", but chill air about here. She's there to give her opinion for people looking for thoughts and she delivers. Not that the other's don't necessarily, but her attitude is "Efficient" :D
I'd love to see that, but I bet there would be SO much hate. It's a double standard these days, and we as guys have to learn to deal with it. We can only talk about it in private lol
When it comes to the verbal expression (amidst the rest of positive features) Anytime my ear grsps Stella's voice, it immediatelly signals "is the woman available?" Haha. Indeed excessively soothing and romantic vocals.
Lessons I learned: Even women don't understand themselves. They don't seem to know what they really like. For instance, they don't seem to realize how important shoulders are and how attractive they can look.
Just want to remind everyone here that your value as person has NO relation to how appealing you are romantically/sexually to other people. You have value far outside and beyond what they're talking about in this video
Hah try telling most modern women that Who judge and grade your entire value to society based on your penis size and your sexual prowess. Sad state of affairs.
Confidence....transparency ....... At 65 I'm past my prime.... but all my high school & college friends said I was a good looking guy...I didn't think one way or the other. My current wife of 36 yrs said I was charming and could make anyone laugh. I dated a lot in my mid 20's...not that I'm proud of getting with at least a dozen women....but it did. Looking back, all a guy has to do is clean up his looks, make them laugh and let her make the first move.
this all goes back to what we've always known from the start before society muddied the waters to confuse us. even as a teenager I knew to having big arms & abs, then be quiet (so they realize you wont tell), feel good about yourself, keep your head up and look them in the eyes and you'll get wonen
@@Kennypowerstruthbombs you don't have to listen to me, but make sure you invest in a lot of lotion, you'll need it. I have proven that fact many, many, many times 😈
She just doesn't want people to judge her for her preferences, they have to also stick to their social norms of being nice to everyone and everyone having some kind of value to *someone* just not her
Hate to burst your bubble, but despite not being overtly particular about a man’s physical attributes, she made it abundantly clear in another video that she cares a lot about money…like the guy has to make at least 500k a year for her to consider him…I’m not even exaggerating
Random clip found by case trying to fall asleep. The blonde girl - apart from her unquestionable beauty - is astonishing. Love her attitude, as a man, I find myself completely agree with her answers. So much that I soon started skipping all the other replies, just to hear her point of view on the next topic. One of a kind, great girl.
This was actually a great video, all these girls came across very authentically which is obviously a credit to them feeling safe enough to share their honest thoughts.
@@moleahy6880 Just that, what they are saying, they definitely believe it. if she's saying I don't care, from her perspective she truly believes that (so it's her truth essentially, it's the best you're gonna get).
@@Mr.Telekinetic I'd suggest to you they are giving answers carefully rather than honestly. This is on a social media platform and can be easily accessed for everyone to see. So they're not about to say anything that can come back to haunt them later. These women at least are too smart for that. So take everything they say with a grain of salt and realize you are watching actresses. This is really just entertainment value.
@@moleahy6880 They're not actresses, they're pretty regular women, that's the point, for them to tell men what they want to see. Not everything you see is staged, frankly, I don't think these girls give that much of a f***.
I find these interviews with your friends really interesting. It is refreshing to hear the honesty without any hype, as well as the range of answers and where responses tend to be similar and different. Great to hear the different perspectives.
Plus these are one on one. Every street interview I've ever seen online, the group of girls always look to each other for validation of their words, and feed off of each other. Those interview replies are not at all thought out by the respondent. This video style is a far better way
I was about to comment she gave me a lot of red flags. She seems like the type of person who will argue a whole ton. I know, i'm judgy 🙄. She seems very smart but barely smiled and then had very firm calculated requirements. Especially about feet but I didn't sense an emotional side to her.
If a group of men were saying this sort of thing such as they don’t date fat women or women with fake boobs etc etc we would be labelled artificial, shallow and sexist. But it’s ok for this lot to do the same?
As a guy, some ideals I've put on myself over the years: 1. Your language reflects your character. Lose the potty mouth. 2. Treat your body with respect. Exercise and eat well. 3. Control your appetites. Don't play video games until three in the morning. Be responsible with your time. Don't spend recklessly---save, etc. 4. Learn as many utilitarian skills as you can. How to change your oil, leaky faucet, light fixtures, tires, etc. 5. Learn a demographically relevant 2nd language. In the US? Learn Spanish, for example. 6. Wake up at the same time every day. 7. Dress appropriately, appropriately well. 8. Probably learn to dance.
These are the rules I live by. I would add, your word is your checkbook and your bond! Life is much simpler and many of life’s problems are non applicable with good habits in place.
Man, I got a lot of work to do... I hate that I wasted my early twenties working in retail trying to pick up girls when I should have gone to trade school to learn a skill to improve my usefulness. Now I can't even afford school... A man in his late 20s who has no skills is useless to society... I learned this the hard way.
Bald man here... and for anyone else out there that has very low self esteem because they lost their hair at a young age, please don't trouble yourself with sadness. Women may say they like hair, but I can contest that isn't true. I ended up dating very attractive women that originally said they don't like bald men. Its a lot of factors from personality to how you are as a man and how you treat others. Be yourself and you will attract the right woman that you'll also be attracted to and build an amazing relationship. On my way to get married to the most beautiful woman, and so happy. Much love everyone.
I was looking for someone to talk about this. Was very disappointed when this wasn’t brought up. But thanks for the advice. Been insecure since 18 about my hairline and when I finally shaved it everyone of my co workers said it looks great and gave me a big confidence booster. There will always be that one person who will try to bring me down by using the fact I’m bald but I’ve accepted that some people are just assholes and if it wasn’t the hair it would probably something else they would use to belittle me.
I started to lose my hair at the age of 20, it used to really bother me. I used to hide my hair line with a hat. I've gotten over it (contradictory to my pfp). I've heard ever bald joke possibile. I'm 38 now, and my attitude is f it I'm bald on top I've had to get used to it accept it now it's everyone else turn to do the same. Bald is beautiful.
I've got two friends that are bald, and they both have real hot wives. I'm mean one of the women have a perfect drop dead body , it's perfect ,and beautiful face.
These kinds of videos are absolutely a gold mine honestly in helping me figure out what I may be doing wrong that's turning women away from me honestly and I know a lot of people may be angry about things that happened in the past with less desirable people but I genuinely believe a lot of the things these women have said were incredibly reasonable and definitely things you can change or at least work on
Take it with a grain of salt bro, because they say things for the express purpose of not being judged by eachother. Research stated preference vs revealed preference in women, they dont say what they really want
If a woman finds you attractive, there is virtually nothing you can say or do wrong (within realms of normal behavior). If they don't find you attractive there will always be a reason that comes up. It isnt rocket science. If you are unattractive yoiu will have a hard time. It's been that way since the first humans roamed the earth
I think with these types of videos, it'd be helpful under their name to include a brief profile. Like age range and what they're primarily looking for in a guy, i.e. casual dating, serious boyfriend, potential husband, potential father to their children. To give context to what they're looking for. There's a difference between a woman in her 20s looking to get married and have kids, than a woman in her 30s who plans to be child free.
Love these videos. I see in the comments some guys who don't like being told what they need to have or do. What I learned here is that some women do care about looks, but others just care about what you do with what you have. I feel this is of incredible value to guys who actually want to be better men to the women in their life. So Thank you :)
A problem with incels is they take figures of speech as literal absolutes. "They should like me for me" means "i can play video games and watch Japanese cartoons 16 hours a day, shower 2x a month, be able cook nothing more than hot pockets and bagel bites, and someone should accept that" "looks don't matter" means "i can weigh 350 lbs, wear dirty, stained clothing, have terrible BO, and have greasy, unkempt hair and facial hair and i should be able to get Cindy Crawford "(dating myself a bit there) If someone doesn't show any interest in their own life, why would someone else?
@@herculesbrofister265 I don't really know if you're adding to my comment, or thinking that I meant that, lol. I obviously think men (and people on the whole for that matter) should take care of themselves. What I mean when I say girls care about looks, I mean precisely "things you can't control", like simply what you get froom your genes. And when I say "others just care about what you do with what you have" I mean precisely taking care of oneself. Doing excercise. Eaiting healthy. Dressing up nice and clean. Smelling good. These are all things you can control And that's what I mean. As of the rest you said, it just seems mean-spirited to me, lol.
I have most of these qualities. Unfortunately, I'm 5'4". I've never had a problem getting dates, but I'm aware that it dramatically changes my dating pool.
I love the mental gymnastics of why they are attracted to fit men. 'well its cause of the discipline and because I'm into fitness too. Def not shallow just so you know" ITS OK to admit attractive things are attractive. Don't fucking apologize
This is interesting content, but what guys need to remember is that this is girls saying what they like in a logical way. If you’re attractive, you will be getting her emotional mind engaged and she will respond to your behavior. When that is on point, none of these other things matter.
As a very fit man in my late 20's I will say every girl I date loves grabbing my arms and complimenting me on them. Not saying this is the only thing they care about, I'm also a successful business owner, focused on my purpose and mission as a man etc. However, this is very accurate. To guy's seeing this who don't work out I'd recommend getting a gym pass! Working out is more than looking buff its an amazing feeling to take care of yourself and put years and years into something to see results. Girls know it takes hard work and dedication to get big muscles and they appreciate that.
the best part isn`t even "biceps inches" - it is the fact that a guy who works out - subconsciously knows that he might have a much higher discipline and motivation level than this girl will ever have. So it suddenly not a "mere peasant approaching his queen" but a confident man, who knows his worth.
Couldn't agree more. I was a skinny nerd with a horrible style. I became an engineer, started working out regulary and started dressing in designer/brand-clothes. The subtle kind of designer clothes that are not in-your-face-expensive but someone who stands close to me will notice the quality. I grew myself a beard and got a nice haircut. I hardly recognize myself from 10 years ago on photos. I did that all for myself and became super disciplined. And the girls came like i would've never imagined. When i enter a party i know that at some point that evening at least one attractive girl will start talking to me. Last week a super hot girl i know from my gym, noticed my at a birthday party and not only she but also her best friend started flirting with me. I wish all young men would know, that selfcare is the biggest game-changer out there. Women are affected much more by the consequences of sex than men. They have every right to be picky.
@@Kenny-ep2nf of course being skinny isn't that bad and it's much healthier and benifitial for getting girls than being overweight. Combined with a good dressing style you are absolutely ok while being skinny. From my personal experience alone i can say that building muscle does add some extra percent when it comes to girls. Also it increases your respect from men a lot and being a respected guy also helps with getting women's attention
Key takeaways: 1) ALWAYS SMILE! + GOOD DENTAL HYGIENE + GET THEM STRAIGHTENED (From 5 to 10 potential right here) 2) Do not smell bad! Let some of your natural scent come through, don't drown it in cologne. Do wear some masculine cologne/deo. Be clean. 3) Have good posture. You don't need to preen all the time, but don't slouch. Slouching = instant rejection because it shows weakness/inconfidence. 4) voice is important, a masculine voice is better and what you say (vocabulary) is more important 5) having toned arms is important. It makes women feel like you can protect them since arms and fists are our natural weapons as a man. 6) both abs and shoulders are a pro but not deal breaking 7) Do your hair for bonus points 8) legs and feet are less important, but try to keep them in proportion. So if you have a jacked upper body, do leg day too. 9) bonus points for jawline X) Dress nice and sharp, but women disagree here so it's literally up for grabs either way; so just put on what you feel comfortable with.
Alerted in some few things. This is what campings you should be about not just drinking and freaking out. This is what friendly conversations ought to be about. Not one night stands and staff. Thank you ladies for showing up and giving us insights into things most young men take for granted.
I mean to be fair it IS the complete package when seeking a significant other. Looks and personality go hand in hand. You can’t have one without the other! Someone could be a 10 in looks but a 0 in personality, and that will default them back to 0…and same thing vice versa to some extent
I feel like they’re very reasonable if not completely ambivalent about all the physical traits they were asked about. I’m not sure what you’re talking about.
Men are judged for having preferences, men are called shallow, misogynistic, etc. for having them. Women are praised for having preferences. For example, dating apps have a height preference, most women want a man at least 6 foot tall in the West, in addition to a thousand other preferences. So let’s add a weight preference to the dating apps. Oh wait, men can’t have preferences. Exactly my point…
I totally enjoyed this roundabout deep dive into what your select panel of experts had to say about the dozen or so male aspects, and traits you questioned them on. I wished however, that they had more accurate, detailed information about their favorite fragrances for men. Such as actual brand names, and the fragrance's designer. For example: Hugo Boss Black, Eternity Red, Nautica Blue Sails, Kanøn K.O. CK Black.
Guys the hardware is always the same. If women have these preferences, then so should we. Don’t sell yourself on Instagram, cook, clean, be agreeable and add value. Most women can’t so focus on yourself Kings!
I’d like to think that I take care pretty good care of my body. But I don’t do it in the hopes of impressing women. With that said…I’m already in love with “I don’t care” girl lol
The brunette is so genuine and not superficial or shallow at all the way she says “I don’t care” you can just tell she’s grounded in spirit and values things that matter not egotistical nonsense. She seems really sweet.
Women will always say what they think people want to hear, women love virtue signaling. You take a 6'3 chad infront of her and watch everything go out the window.
Guys appreciate women who don’t place too much emphasis on a man’s appearance. It shows they’re not superficial or overly focused on looks, and their priorities likely lie beyond appearances.
I remember reading studies about women gauging the attractiveness of a man's voice. Women tend to like deeper, more baritone sounding voices, particularly at the peak of their ovulation cycle. This also relates to a guy having a chiseled jaw. Deep voices and prominent jawlines are indicators of high testosterone, which is what women subconsciously look for.
Tiny little effects that are statistically significant enough to publish but make barely a difference in irl. I know I carry out and publish such studies. Learn to read and interpret science for real. Your way ain’t it. Ahah
Can confirm toned arms are a real turn on. Notice I said toned arms, not huge arms. My arms aren't huge, just lean and muscular. Recently started dating girl, she straight up told me before we started dating she noticed my arms one day when I was stretching. Can confirm on scent as well. My girl (and others too) almost always complements my scent (and I figured out which cologne she likes the most). I wear cologne almost all the time, but a nice smelling deodorant works too. Side note: black men (and probably hispanic men too) can't get away with not dressing well. It's a culture thing. Style is a must. Most of us been putting together outfits since middle school.
Posture is a physical thing that depends on a persons muscles, bone structure etc. It is not "easy" to all of a sudden have good posture if your body structure doesn't allow for it.
Courtney, I love your RUclips channel and you have great videos. You’re like the only RUclipsr who has testimonies, like from real women. It helps break down perspectives and understanding what girls want and stuff. Thank you.
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All in one, ladies: you like us to look well-taken care of, tidy, healthy & fit. Smiling and good style is just another bonus.
Perhaps you should do a video with your girls about why women don't validate men or at least give them compliments consistently compared to how women get it constantly. I think the gender world would be a better place if we all evened out in that mental aspect.
Kinda learned what we should all know? Women don't judge men the same way on looks: Men universally prefer: slim waist to hips, with vibrant or youthful face. (thick, skinny is personal preference). The clothes actually don't matter since girls always dress better than men anyways. Women preference: ...my take from this is there is no universal preference. But I thought there was scientific consensus that woman prefer a V shaped torso (which can be modified by clothing, but men don' like it, if women hide shape by clothing), Also left/right symmetry, this simply implies decent athletic ability.
OK for the woman that says, "I don't care" a lot in this video, there is no way she does NOT care about any traits from any guy. Eventually a guy that will like her and want pursue her, I am confident that she will find something that she will not like and I guarantee that she change that mindset and she will care.
In her defense, can't believe I'm saying that because I found these chicks all super annoying, but they were talking mostly about looks. Maybe looks just aren't important to her?
Very simple... 1. Height (Tall) Must pass her requirements first just to get to the rest. 2. Facial attractiveness 3. Sense of style 4. His masculinity 5. Sense of humour. 💯💯💯
Stop coping bro, face first, always, as long as you're not shorter than the girl. I see handsome shorter guys pilling hot hourglass chicks left and right, while tall ugly or average guys don't get any.
basically as a guy, you should be fine if you have a perfect smile, huge arms, wide shoulders, good hair, nice shoes, 6 pack, rich, tanned, big legs, good feet, artificially white teeth, chiselled jawline, nice hands, smell good & stand up straight
Stella is on to something. Just when you get a physical looks vibe on her response. She throws a curve ball and it's about the presentation of said feature. Voice. On the sound but how you talk and smile. Not primarily your smile itself but how and when it's presented. That's such a refreshing opinion.
This is entertaining and all... but there's often a HUGE difference between what people say stands out (what they are attracted to) and what they are ACTUALLY attracted to.
Same shit i said, especially with women
I agree with you. These videos interviewing women are amusing but they're not really going to help the average man get dates or find a girlfriend.
@@moleahy6880 dating isn't made for the average guy, it's made for the tall good looking chad. The rest of us simply get screwed over.
@@UserRobot215 I don't think Chads really date. They just slam. LOL. But to your point - I agree it's a lot easier for the tall good looking Chad. But I've known a lot of shorter (under 5'6"), average looking, not wealthy guys who were surprisingly successful with women. How did they do it? They definitely had game - they were very funny, charming, and had charisma. But I think there's one other big point - they knew what kind of girls to go after and where. Clearly these guys would have gotten nowhere on dating apps, or in the bars and clubs. So they targeted meeting girls in person and they went after girls who seemed to be more open; maybe from experience they got a vibe that a certain type of girl would be more open to them. Interestingly a lot of these girls were pretty attractive, definitely better than average.
@@moleahy6880 exactly. Well said.
I once received wise advice from an older guy, "Don't choose purely off of looks. Looks age. But choose a gal based off of her voice. You'll have to wake up to that the rest of your life."
That's good advice
Bolocks
Voices change too 🤦🏾♂️
That's one of the most funniest advice a person could give.
Usually older guys just f*ck young beatiful women
0:30 Arms
2:15 Abs
3:35 Feet
5:00 Shoulders
5:50 Legs
7:06 Voice
9:22 Jawline
10:25 Smile
12:44 Hair
15:20 Butt
16:15 Outfit
18:42 Hands
20:22 Eyes
21:47 Scent
25:42 Posture
28:00 First Thing they Notice
Thank you!
Height noticeably absent...
I never understood why women like men's butts. It's not like they could do anything with it like how men can for women's butts.
@@RisingChaos because Teddy is hobit
@@RisingChaos that was in the first video nerd.
Be careful of the girls that just say "I don't care" when it comes to preference because there is always a threshold to what they would prefer having.
I would be careful of girls who say "I don't care"...PERIOD.They don't mean ONE $#@* word they are saying.....
@@user-dy2zy8rd2t 💯 Facts
The "I don't care" woman contradicted herself in the latter half that she does care about the things she didn't care about before. Ha ha. That's a woman for you.
@@rytoniowendolini2793 Exactly lol
Yep, whenever they preface something with "I don't really care, but...", she cares..
I'd like to see men 's responses to similar questions about women
Indeed, they would just get cancelled
@@andreib4226 I think men's observations about what they want in a woman would be a lot less superficial and more about her temperament. As long as a woman is "reasonably attractive" and is a team player... as opposed to being competitive, critical, never satisfied etc....(ie. an obstacle to his happiness) I think most men who want a relationship would see her as a viable option. I also think that the male responses might be eye-opening for a lot of women. Men simply don't value women for the same reasons that many women imagine.
@@yougoods7470 Entirely possible. Depends on the cross section of men in the interview. A bunch of frat boys will yield responses that are different than what you'd get from blue collar men. Hopefully such an interview would include a statistically reasonable representation of men (not just the top 10% that women tend to chase, but which have little incentive to commit)
@@patrickmarr7076 let's be honest, you also want to see top 10% of Guys interview! 😂
Were the girls asked if height was important?
Courtney: "..not necessarily what they were born with or things they can't change, but what they do with it." Blonde woman: "Absolutely!" Same woman in the other video: if he's a 10 but he's short, he becomes a 1. Irony meter just broke
Courtney Ryan is a charlatan actually 🤣 She fits the definition very well in my opinion.
Charlatan: (ˈʃɑrlətən ) noun. a person who pretends to have expert knowledge or skill that he or she does not have; fake; mountebank.
Also they don’t even talk about how ethnicity matters I bet Courtney and most of these girls only date white men around 6 ft more or less but probably more than 6ft.
We should do the same and judge women only by what they can change. But if she’s a 10 with under C cup breasts she becomes a 1. Plastic surgery doesn’t count.
short guys can do wonder if they have the right confidence...I can tell you that first hand
@@armin38822 yeah I don't know, nothing's worst than a little guy who overcompensates by acting overconfident 😆
@@cyberlip666 they do a little bit off that but I have a coworker who's short. Like,I feel BIG when I'm around him and I'm average in height. But the guy always had hot girlfriends.
I love how the one girl always just pops up with the "idc"😂😂😂😂
Why do you like that?
Girls like that are always bat shit boring themselves too.
I think they were being sarcastic@@univuniveral9713
I would be perfect for her
@@univuniveral9713 cuz its funny
watching these women speak just gives me another thought about how I understand that there are many women that are clueless to men that could honestly love them.
Exactly. But the good thing is that beauty is not just on the outside, but also the inside. We've all met pretty women with ugly attitudes before. The truth is with chicks like that, we aren't missing out on anything. It the opposite. We're dodging pretty looking bullets.
Women know what they want, just like men do. But it's in THEORY. So there's a lot of flexibility built in. I had certain "standards" that I thought were ideal. But in the real world, I found different women to be sexy for different reasons. I even found some chunky women who were sexy as hell. Super pretty, playful, and even had sex thick bodies. The truth is that you have preferences but you will always bump into those exceptions to your rules. Same thing with women.
@@jonothandoeser You make sense. My thought process is against women that play men. Of course men allow themselves to be played. I am one who doesn't allow myself to be played. If one controls lust, they can effectively filter out the trolls. If one has established a meaningful relationship with a female partner that is respectful of you and you are being sacrificing and loving, things work out for a lifetime.
@@raymondwatts5372 It makes sense to be careful. But most manipulators give you signs of what their game is pretty early on.If you know what to look for, you can weed out the bad ones pretty easily. But remember, NOBODY is perfect. Whoever you end up with there will still be at least some problems. They just need to be problems you can work through or live with.
message to all my male compatriots: as women are super demanding be also demanding you have the right why we should accept everything and have no demands take quality and stop looking for quantity
Actually men should be even more demanding since even an average man brings far more to the table than an average woman does.
@Laura UK
Think about it this way:
right now the dating market is a female oligopoly. If many male buyers stop buying by practicing abstinence, stop the simping (thirst traps on social media and @nlyfans) and by settling only for women at their looks level (which implies dumping or divorcing a woman below the looks level of her man). The market might gradually shift to benefit men.
@Laura UK A woman is just given her value (physical attractiveness) but a man has to achieve his value (status). Even that average man has had to work hard to achieve something and be something. He is expected to give his time, his energy, and his resources. Is that expected from the average woman? No but it damn well should be. So what does the average woman bring? Nothing really except entitlement and very high expectations. She wants this and she wants that. She deserves this and she deserves that. She's a queen, a princess, a superstar. I never hear average men talking this way.
@Laura UK From my experience, the only reason some men don't appear picky, is because some men might f*uck average women, while pretending to be interested in them, and then easily filter those women out later (while they look for the attractive woman, they actually want to breed with) and they seem very choosy while selecting the woman they want to have a long term relationship with, esp based on looks, from my experience, men chose women purely based on their looks/body, age and personality, while women choose men based on a lot of factors including their wealth, socio-economic status, power, looks, resources, altogether, which is one of the reasons why women's dating market value typically goes down as they gets into their 30's and more, while men's value goes up as they hit 30's and up.
That’s miss a dry right there If anything this entire videos reinforces the idea that men should avoid dating modern women. Way to demanding.
But aman cannot state his own preferences
Having preferences is good and all, but even when I'm dating a woman who finds me attractive and I'm sitting there listening to their life story and they put little to no effort in getting to know me is a dealbreaker to say the least. It's common sense to want someone who doesn't just appreciate you for how you look and want to get to know you for you, but hey, I'm human too and that's what I also want and rarely if ever getting. Girls, just ask a guy about his passions/hobbies, and listen for once.
They’re entitled cVnts
That's absolutely true. It's a huge factor for healthy relationships.
I've been there. Resist taking it personally. If she's telling you her life story, she's interested in you, selling herself. Good to listen intently, you don't want to ask her a question later about something she's gone over. She could test you on it but she may well be just a little giddy, very happy to have your attention. If she's yammering, shock her out of it by interrupting and ask her if she wants to know anything about you. It's a simple test. If she's interested at all, she'll say yes and come around, but if the answer is no, then plan your exit.
@@x-man5056 100% this. I can tell ur emotional intelligence is very high
I'ma be real it's kinda just how women work frfr. When I first started dating my gf she had a good balance of wanting to know more about me and sharing about herself, but the longer we've been together, the more she feels comfortable just sharing. I just learned to listen and let her go, because I know it means a lot to her to get to talk and especially since she's introverted, so I'm one of the few people she gets really excited about talking to. I also try to share stuff too sometimes and she'll listen, she's just not as apt to ask about it, but we keep an open line of communication to make sure we're both heard
The voice part was interesting. I’ve felt this way about women too. It conveys a lot of energy. The blonde woman’s voice is really mesmerizing. You can tell she is confident and sure of herself. Men can convey masculine energy with theirs.
no ur voice is natural u cant change ur voice
@@sicckunts7069 I didn’t say you need to change your voice. But, if you’re not confident, for example, or lying, your voice does sound different. Women notice this. People in general notice it.
@@sicckunts7069 you can change your tonality and your speed which can make it sound different
@@kingjayiv2906 how do you know this
They are the most shallow set of women ever assembled lol.
You dont ask a fish how to catch a fish. You ask a fisherman how to catch a fish.
Clever.
Only guys who don’t catch anything say this
@@Vakqksb37 did you just play the old "who ever smelt it, dealt it" card?
@@anthonycampos8057 yes, he did, now you play uno reverse.
@@Vakqksb37 you sure about that?
1. Face
2. Height
3. Body
4. Dominant personality
5. Status/Money
Looked @your RUclips profile, checked out your playlists AND immediatley, before even listening to them, I knew it was over for you.
Brooootal.
@@copingmanlet1104 lol
@@copingmanlet1104 🤣🤣🤣
@@copingmanlet1104 🤣🤣
big arms from taking out their wallets and holding doors open......lmfao
Could you do a video like this with different age group girls like 35, 45 and then a grp of 55? I think it might be interesting to see the responses and how they have changed and what have stayed the same as ppl mature.
Yeah the only reason these people aren't unbearable is because this is a first impression Q/A and they're in their 20's. Fitness in your 20's is completely pointless to talk about. Having abs in your 40's is almost impossible for anyone with a family and a full time job that isn't fitness related. That's when you actually see who gives a shit about their body.
@@rorschach775Well they are quite a turnoff and their young age is not an excuse in my opinion.
Being in my mid-40's I thought the exact same thing. Most guys in their mid 40's are already bald or balding bad enough they have to shave their heads. Plus, most of them have beer guts or big guts too. Its part of the horrible diet most eat, the grind of daily life, and just plain old slowing down of the metabolism. So, I already know a woman in my age range won't really care about appearance as much.
@@yourcrazybear when you're young you don't have to think about it. None of them look like they're into fitness. They just look young. Most of these girls will be the chubby person with no abs and flabby arms they currently think is unattractive. They just don't know it yet. Can't blame someone for not knowing what it's like to age.
@@rorschach775 Good point. Women usually hit 'the wall' pretty hard once they get into their 40s and by their 50s, you wouldn't even look at them twice. I graduated from high school over 40 years ago and there are only 2 women from my class that are still reasonably attractive. All the others have asses the size of refrigerators, wrinkles all over their faces, and unless the dye their hair, they look 20 years older than they are. The vast majority of women just don't age well.
The same can be said of some men, also. But it seems that, generally speaking, the guys age a bit more gracefully than the women.
It's been tough out here having alopecia universalis where all of the hair on my entire body suddenly fell out including eyebrows and eyelashes at age 29. Huge hit to the confidence and self esteem but it inspired me to really focus on my fitness and get into the best shape of my life since that is one thing I still have control over. Gotta do the best with what you've got! I sure do miss my beard though lol
Very sorry to hear that Bro
get eyebrow tattoos, it’ll be a night and day difference. Best of luck.
@@kaidwyer I had them microbladed about a year back, it really helped a lot, that shit hurts more than I thought it would but totally worth it
Get that Saitama build, man. I'm gonna be bald soon so I'd like to get a bit of muscle for that too
Respect to you man, you really said it is what it is
Appreciate these girls being honest. Pretty exhausting seeing women pretend to not have standards, and demanding men do the same, only to find that we all have standards, and that's okay. The gym one is huge. It's not shallow to want a healthy partner. Great content.
I think having multiple opinions is nice to hear. I like how you ask “clarifiers”: the “why?” and personal preference on overall “initial impression”. Context is just as important. I appreciate this video & your content, Courtney.
The "I don't care girl" interview defo saved production money
😂
Most of the time when I fancy a girl, they tend not to fit into what I would automatically think i'd like. I think femininity and how a girl carries herself is the no 1 thing, from a guys perspective, if we're talking serious relationship. If we're talking "hook up" then it's different. I think people's likes and dislikes change depending on the ultimate goal...
They absolutely do. I think that's something that guys don't actually think about. If all I want is one night, then the only two things I care about are how do you look, and are you clingy/crazy. But when you want an actual relationship, then you have to worry about a million more things, like what's your personality like, can I talk to you for long periods of time without being bored, what's your family like, are you bad with money, are you messy or unclean, do you have a job, how do you act in public.. all those are things you look at when you want a relationship, that you don't have to look at it if all you're trying to do is have a one night stand or a short fling.
@@CreepyBlackDude dude your name is creepy black dude and you speak like a woman , you ok bud
social proof and pre selection
Nice interview, I think people are saying “oh they’re so shallow”, but they seem like great standards. Having Good hygiene, an inviting look with a style that suits you as an individual and being disciplined and caring about your physical health are pretty great things to look for in a partner, male or female. 😊 enjoyed the insight.
This was interesting. I appreciate the ladies taking the time to share their perspective and opinions. Two things immediately came to mind as I watched and listened. 1) I've never even heard of a woman who didn't like/demand/require a man be stylish, well groomed, straight white teeth, fit and (bottom line) attractive in their eyes.
2) 99.9% of women have never held a labor intensive outdoor job leaving them clueless regarding the effects such jobs often have on many physical features and other aspects discussed. To my ears, everyone of your guests described a white collar man. This reinforces what most men have known the majority of their lives, women don't see 80%+/- of the men in the world. Ask any man the same questions you asked your guests and 90%+ won't care about any of the specifics in your questions.
"As long as she looks good to me" is what you'll hear from men. Modern women have too many unrealistic expectations/demands and tunnel vision regarding men. The perfect recipe for disappointment.
Very thankful that i grew up in an era, when little boys were told to be hard working and honest. Arms? Abs? I can still carry an aluminum cased four cylinder engine (fully assembled) across the room by myself. The opinions of these young ( too young), women are very disappointing to me...
@@gregwillis7767 Age of instagram models and unrealistic expectations.
100% agree
Finally found the comment i can breath here 😂😂
Yes exactly. F Roger Devlin has summarized male sex drive as wanting variety and quantity, whereas the female sex drive is only wanting one but wanting the absolute best. And now that trading up is legal and even encouraged, women are doing that in droves. This doesn't end well.
On the voice thing, my sister had a David Beckham poster on her wall when she was in high school (we’re old) and after she heard him on tv she said his voice ruined it and she took down the poster lol
😂😭
@@CourtneyRyan can you ask them would you date/be in a relationship with someone who has
mental illness
personality disorder
brain injury
physical and or mental/learning disabilities
not interested in having sex at all
mirrors you like their personality,hobbies etc are exactly like yours
criminal record
very suggestible,yes man
abusive childhood
orphan
addiction
compulsions like kleptomania,
pyromania,etc
fetishes like urolagnia,coprophagia,piquerism,etc
doesn't feel comfortable in their body
street kid/person spent their childhood and adulthood living on the streets
I think we're all attuned to voices. Men can really dislike the voice of certain women too. Fran Drescher made a career out of her screechy voice,so did Rosanne Barr. On the positive side, men so often comment on how feminine and pleasant Courtney's voice is. I admire it as a woman. I always had a deeper voice, but not that I'd ever be mistaken for a man on the phone. Men did say they liked that. It helped me to get over wishing to have a real girly voice, like I did when I was young.
Hahaha oh my gosh!!!
Same thing here exactly!
I still remember how sad I was about that🤣
As a man who is EXTREMELY insecure about his body, I honestly respect a lot of these answers about muscles and stuff. Especially the women who are into fitness. I 100% believe you deserve to be picky about standards IF YOU ARE WILLING to meet those same standards yourself.
So yeah, as long as a woman herself is heavily into fitness, she can be picky about fitness so long as she isn’t rude or demeaning to guys who don’t meet those standards
Same thing, a man who’s into fitness is 100% allowed to want a woman who is as well
I agree, however I will say that not every woman here who's picky about fitness is in shape herself. I believe she has no right to want a man with a six pack if she isn't decently toned herself.
@@hakeemsd70m yes, this I fully agree with. Regardless of gender, if you’re going to have standards, you MUST be willing to meet your own standards
I think it’s more like if a woman is attractive (and women don’t have to be big into fitness to be attractive) they can prefer a guy who’s fit, muscular, in shape etc. … that’s kinda equivalent in my mind. Like a hot girl wants a “hot” guy…
It’s not how it works my friend, I sure as shit can guarantee that any man who is not into fitness , has horrible teeth and ugly mug would be very much attracted to a hot fit girl with straight white teeth and a beautiful face.
Well not necessarily. I am into looks - sorry. I am, so I married a much better looking woman a decade younger. She has no interest in looks really, I’m not ugly genuinely, I’m tall, I have my hair, I’m not obese, but women ain’t swooning over me. I am a worker - I’ve always been a career guy and I can provide a good life, I’m a good dad, I’m a good husband and I’m fairly popular. I’m in a lot of clubs etc.
Basically she would rather have a guy like me than Mr Abs who doesn’t have these things.
Once a girl has enjoyed the abs, what’s left? Video games? Sure it’s good to have both but very few people have personality and brains and abs.
I always wanted a super pretty girl and my wife always wanted a guy who cuts a figure in society, can help us access the best experiences, is devoted to family and we both get what we want.
So I am one guy who got a very pretty wife but I’m not pretty but I got a lot else in my locker
27:32 "It's so easy to have good posture" while she's slouching, lmfao.
Yeah she's a living red flag. Unwillingness to open herself and elaborate. Double standards. Bad posture. Big nonos! Other girls were great!
Thank God you thought that too 😆
It all changes as you get older, including the texture of the skin. Wrinkles on the face, arms, hands, feet etc. Hair loss, receeding hair line, it all changes, some faster, some slower, depending on your lifestyle. The goal is to be healthy, within your normal body weight and physically active. And you attitude makes a huge difference. Bigger than you might imagine.
I've met some extremely attractive women and their attitudes were a turn off. However, some average looking women with average builds had great, outgoing attitudes and they were a turn on for me! Externals will change but the heart of the person is much more significant!
Fortunately for me I’ve always been a stand up guy and was raised with manners and kept fit my entire life. 29 with 10 percent body fat full head of hair have a skin care routine etc. It’s not hard to have these things
Right. And also why we shouldn't identify with most of what is said here. As we get older and you still identify with these things of beauty you're going to be really unhappy.
@@Rizzy_K Sow a thought, reap an action.
Sow an action, reap a habit. Sow a habit, reap a lifestyle. Sow a lifestyle, reap a destiny. A lot all comes down to personal choice. But some does not. Some is inherited from our family. I did not choose to lose most of my hair but I inherited my grandfather's genes and he had major hair loss most of his life. Nonetheless, I accept it and make the best of it!
I think it is more like tendencies or preferences but, the momento you know someone that shakes you you can actually even realize that he has no of your preferences are met and still you are attracted.
Loved Erica on this one! I wasn't expecting she said "I don't care" so much 😅
My answer is identical to her : I notice face first on women.
Also I combine my answer with Stella's one : Each person is unique, and has to find his own style to shine (type of clothes, colors combination, accessories | all of this associated to the body, face and hair).
Hope we would have more videos like this (with maybe more unusual thematics discussed) ✨
The repeated "I don't care" sounded insincere, or like she didn't wanted to bother answering. It would be understandable to not care about some of them, but come on it sounds like she doesn't care about body at all, which I think everyone cares about in some form.
@@Leonhart_93 maybe she doesn't really care that much if a dude is overweight.
@@SystematicMechanic I will reserve the right to doubt that. Perhaps it's not really important to her, but if she were to be able to choose between overweight or not, can she really say that either one is the same?
And the other girls also mentioned stuff like trimming and cleanness. Clearly there are many things one looks for when it comes to body. And later on she mentioned something about how the neck indicates body fitness, so she clearly cares.
She’s the best. The rest are too superficial. “I hate to say this but…”. Just say you’re superficial. Stop trying to act like you’re not. The one that didn’t care about most things was good. She cared about the important things.
@@vorak77 I appreciated their honesty when they didn't just say what we wanted to hear, that would have not been useful for anyone. Caring about how in order someone's body is is not superficial, it's just normal.
Lexi comes across as so genuine and unfiltered, which makes her incredibly attractive. :)
*It’s easy to overlook these things, but this video does a great job of explaining why they're so important when making a lasting impression.*
Here's the real list of what women notice:
1) Biceps
2) Tattoos
3) Tracking anklet
4) Crimal record
5) Weapons hidden on their body
6) Meth face
7) Jewelry that's not theirs
8) Stump leg
9) Beef smell
10) Leaving backpacks near a US embassy
The true Sigma standard 👍
Haha 😅
Women always have loved bad boys
Stella, particularly, seems so put together, physically and emotionally. Every response of her is so on point and mature... She knows what she wants and knows very well how to articulate it.
Yeah, she seems like she's been around the block if you know what I mean
She likes rich guys too 😄 green flag
Paaaorwiy
If you watch several of these videos, they counterdict themselves. You catch her being really honest, she laughs about "I'll take short and rich every time..."
Same girl when asked "He's a ten but short."
"oh, he's a ONE."
She certainly has it together, if you mean using her tits to manipulate men.
Ask her what she feels about short guys... you'll change your tune
The take away from all of this is we as guys need to understand that you just need to show you care about your appearance. Your appearance is like the tip of the iceberg in that it hints at the more important and deeper personality attributes and traits. Showing you have just a tiny bit of muscle says that you actually take the time to go to the gym or are active. You don't have to be the best dressed or have the biggest muscles or be the best at any of it you just need to show that you're trying to always improve in all these areas and that you care. This shows girls that you have motivation, discipline, attention to detail, etc. It's like the old cliche that a women wants a many with a lot of money. It's not because they want all his money it's because they're attracted to his motivation, drive to be successful, financial discipline. On the surface these subtle details seem shallow but in reality when you put them all together it builds a really accurate picture of who you are deep down inside.
Not to show, but rather truly care of our appearence, since it reflects our self-esteem and the type of person that we are
Yeah and all the whales insisting they are ok and we shouldn’t judge on how their fat cellulite ridden ass looks but insist on dating a man with a six figure salary and a great body. Women have a lot of double standards
caring about your appearance is based on your intent to so like you brushed your teeth so that means you care about your appearance well actually what should be said first is why did you brush your teeth do you even know why,was it to impress someone,was it because someone told you to that's not actually caring about your appearance
IMO strength > appearance looks don’t really have health benefits (except one I can think of) all it really shows is u have lower body fat % (hey at least we aren’t overweight or underweight) plus built a lil muscle. When you train for objectivity rather then subjectivity (which training to look good is it’s not objective it’s subjective in nature) then all styles of training improve weather that be to run faster, lift heavier, jump higher, run longer distances etc etc all this done in respect to recovery all have mental and physical health benefits. Also it makes you more satisfied and confident, u have a goal and the only one you are trying to beat is yourself (unless your competing in a sport and hey healthy competition is good). This also shows you are actually useful to people.
Now don’t get me wrong I love especially now getting into nice cool looking clothes (subjective I like a lot of under-amour sports shit i personally think they have some nice merch), doing my hair, making sure my oral health is on point (crikey M8 we don’t want gum disease) watches etc etc but this is because I get an hit of endorphins and it helps me to love myself. So if it gives u that boost in yourself that’s probs why looking good might be good hey hey if it helps with the ladies then that’s a win win my fellow kings.
And you should do it for yourself and the coming Mad Max times. Trying to change for someone else will never last.
This was actually refreshing to see just how different girls perspectives are and how not all stereotypes are the same. But overall stella an ericabwere definitely my favorite of them all just how honest she was about it and they didn't seem to care about their guys being a 10 all around.
IMO they were all honest.
@Mike F what makes u think she lied tho? One of my best friends not to be mean is like a 4 or 5 tops and his wife is gorgeous. But she's with him because he's a super great guy and treats her good. And he's not loaded with money either so I know it's not that. Not all attractive women only want guys for looks and money. I know majority do but not all
@@dukefan1010 There is always exceptions. These types of videos/interview is to show a general view of what women think. To me it's more interesting how the general majority of women think because that tells me what they look for and increases my chances when I know how I can improve. That there are a few procent of women somewhere on the planet that like me 100% however whenever, is of no use. That's how I think.
@@SystematicMechanichonest and repulsive.
Stella was a bore.
Fellas remember this, regarding the women whom things like "abs" or a certain physical appearance is a requirement, the moment she perceives another person to better fit that description she will not hesitate to trade you in, I'm not saying be a fat, lazy, dirty p.o.s you want to take care of yourself of course but just be weary of the women whom a certain physical appearance is a "requirement"
this.
a personality that is compatible with, and enjoyable with, is FAR more important - it is who they will 'forever be'
a body is definitely not forever
(take a look at yourself if you are superficial and only care about looks.....)
Try and find a woman who isn't that way....Yeah,just what I thought
The majority of women want you to be physically fit. If you have a gut, and the next guy has abs - she might lie and say she doesn't care. But, in her mind, she wants the guy with the abs 99/100 of them do. Even if its not a fit for a relationship, they will lust and want the guy with the abs. Don't kid yourself. Like I said, not necessarily for a long-term relationship, but instant sex or their minds with have sexual thoughts about that other guy and not you. I assure you this is the way it is.
Great advice
“I don’t care” girl is lying 😂Edit* My first 100 Likes, I feel special lul
Nah, Erica is the most honest out of all of them.
We don't care for her opinion.
@@NeelabhKhatri4 then why watch
@@benasslick4824 lmao no. the ones actually saying what they like are being honest. women in general lie and say i don't care. Take this L npc
@@kboxer119 Rest of the girls weren't being a sourpuss.
I love Stella. She's has that "Here's the facts", but chill air about here. She's there to give her opinion for people looking for thoughts and she delivers. Not that the other's don't necessarily, but her attitude is "Efficient" :D
she seems more straightforward than the others, men love that
I think you should have Teddy and the boys do the same type of video about women.
Imagine the outrage if men talked about women's bodies the way the women in this video do.
That would be fun!
I'd love to see that, but I bet there would be SO much hate. It's a double standard these days, and we as guys have to learn to deal with it. We can only talk about it in private lol
Should definitely do it!
They would get CANCELED
When it comes to the verbal expression (amidst the rest of positive features) Anytime my ear grsps Stella's voice, it immediatelly signals "is the woman available?" Haha. Indeed excessively soothing and romantic vocals.
Girls: /have a million standards/
Guys: We don't like single moms.
Girls: But why.
Bingo amigo. This comment, right here.
Or we don’t want a woman who is big or high body counts. Misogyny , fatt shamer
Instead of but why you should have put: racist, pervert, monster!!
I've heard the "but why" in Serbian
That is why they are just objects to us.
Lessons I learned: Even women don't understand themselves. They don't seem to know what they really like. For instance, they don't seem to realize how important shoulders are and how attractive they can look.
Really enjoy the panel format and believe it is definitely something you should keep doing along with your regular format.
Thank you! ❤️
I think a different group would be nice.
social proof and pre selection
Hello how are you doing today?
Just want to remind everyone here that your value as person has NO relation to how appealing you are romantically/sexually to other people.
You have value far outside and beyond what they're talking about in this video
Very true
💯💯. It's important dudes don't base their entire value off of this.
Hah try telling most modern women that
Who judge and grade your entire value to society based on your penis size and your sexual prowess.
Sad state of affairs.
Depends on what you do.
💪💪💪🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯
Never dated or really pursed girls but always find videos like this interesting
So why are you watching? Lol
Find it interesting it kind reminds me of a science experiment
@@mikebrandimarte are you a monk or A.I.?
@@SystematicMechanic neither lol
@@mikebrandimarte get our there, you're missing out. and lift heavy shit.
Confidence....transparency ....... At 65 I'm past my prime.... but all my high school & college friends said I was a good looking guy...I didn't think one way or the other. My current wife of 36 yrs said I was charming and could make anyone laugh. I dated a lot in my mid 20's...not that I'm proud of getting with at least a dozen women....but it did. Looking back, all a guy has to do is clean up his looks, make them laugh and let her make the first move.
this all goes back to what we've always known from the start before society muddied the waters to confuse us. even as a teenager I knew to having big arms & abs, then be quiet (so they realize you wont tell), feel good about yourself, keep your head up and look them in the eyes and you'll get wonen
Women don’t care about big arms bro
@@Kennypowerstruthbombs you don't have to listen to me, but make sure you invest in a lot of lotion, you'll need it. I have proven that fact many, many, many times 😈
@@KennypowerstruthbombsLiterally every girl here mentioned biceps being important.
@@KennypowerstruthbombsCope.
Gotta love Erica - seems so innocent, apparently not caring about any of the physical stuff, just saying "I don't care" :))
Her boyfriend is probably jacked.
She just doesn't want people to judge her for her preferences, they have to also stick to their social norms of being nice to everyone and everyone having some kind of value to *someone* just not her
Hate to burst your bubble, but despite not being overtly particular about a man’s physical attributes, she made it abundantly clear in another video that she cares a lot about money…like the guy has to make at least 500k a year for her to consider him…I’m not even exaggerating
@@Knapptime95 Of course, the richest guys tend to lead the most decadent lifestyles. She wouldn't want to exclude her prime clientele, would she.
Uh-Huh---and I got a bridge I wanna sell ya........
It's always good to hear the perspective of a group of women due to differing opinions. I'd like to see more of this.
@t p everyone has a different idea of what they like.
Random clip found by case trying to fall asleep. The blonde girl - apart from her unquestionable beauty - is astonishing. Love her attitude, as a man, I find myself completely agree with her answers. So much that I soon started skipping all the other replies, just to hear her point of view on the next topic. One of a kind, great girl.
This was actually a great video, all these girls came across very authentically which is obviously a credit to them feeling safe enough to share their honest thoughts.
Just out of curiosity, why do you assume they are sharing their honest thoughts? For example - Erica claimed "I don't care so much". Uh huh.
@@moleahy6880 Just that, what they are saying, they definitely believe it. if she's saying I don't care, from her perspective she truly believes that (so it's her truth essentially, it's the best you're gonna get).
@@Mr.Telekinetic I'd suggest to you they are giving answers carefully rather than honestly. This is on a social media platform and can be easily accessed for everyone to see. So they're not about to say anything that can come back to haunt them later. These women at least are too smart for that. So take everything they say with a grain of salt and realize you are watching actresses. This is really just entertainment value.
@@moleahy6880 They're not actresses, they're pretty regular women, that's the point, for them to tell men what they want to see. Not everything you see is staged, frankly, I don't think these girls give that much of a f***.
@@Mr.Telekinetic Not actresses literally but figuratively. But hey, you're free to believe what you want to believe.
I find these interviews with your friends really interesting. It is refreshing to hear the honesty without any hype, as well as the range of answers and where responses tend to be similar and different. Great to hear the different perspectives.
Plus these are one on one. Every street interview I've ever seen online, the group of girls always look to each other for validation of their words, and feed off of each other. Those interview replies are not at all thought out by the respondent. This video style is a far better way
Yes it is
There is just something about Stella. She’s simple, beautiful. How she articulate her responses it’s even attractive!!
down bad
She apparently is not in to smiling or being expressive though. Cold B was my thought.
I was about to comment she gave me a lot of red flags. She seems like the type of person who will argue a whole ton. I know, i'm judgy 🙄. She seems very smart but barely smiled and then had very firm calculated requirements. Especially about feet but I didn't sense an emotional side to her.
I thought she was a total dud.
@@Gabriel_F4924She was the worst. She will become more and more bitcgy as she ages, too.
Guys that are hurt in the comments, stop cappin. We look at the exterior as well. I respect it
I found these interviews of what women notice and like about a guy truthful, and also useful for men to work on their self image!
Courtney please continue this interview series! It’s so entertaining and insightful.
Yes it does
If a group of men were saying this sort of thing such as they don’t date fat women or women with fake boobs etc etc we would be labelled artificial, shallow and sexist.
But it’s ok for this lot to do the same?
You're right but a real man wouldn't give a damn as to how he was labelled.
@@moleahy6880 also true
Yes misandry and body shaming men for what they can't help is a normalized part of society.
Double standard, hypocrites.
if Courtney had men in her channel answering those questions, there would be a movement of some sort for her to be cancelled
@@evidence-basedhealthuk5271 This video is like proof of the black pill.
We need more of Erica. Out here giving average Joe's some hope!
She's full of shit. Average Joe's can also put on muscle.
As a guy, some ideals I've put on myself over the years:
1. Your language reflects your character. Lose the potty mouth.
2. Treat your body with respect. Exercise and eat well.
3. Control your appetites. Don't play video games until three in the morning. Be responsible with your time. Don't spend recklessly---save, etc.
4. Learn as many utilitarian skills as you can. How to change your oil, leaky faucet, light fixtures, tires, etc.
5. Learn a demographically relevant 2nd language. In the US? Learn Spanish, for example.
6. Wake up at the same time every day.
7. Dress appropriately, appropriately well.
8. Probably learn to dance.
They say treat your body like a temple, but my body's a haunted house.
These are the rules I live by. I would add, your word is your checkbook and your bond! Life is much simpler and many of life’s problems are non applicable with good habits in place.
Man, I got a lot of work to do... I hate that I wasted my early twenties working in retail trying to pick up girls when I should have gone to trade school to learn a skill to improve my usefulness. Now I can't even afford school... A man in his late 20s who has no skills is useless to society... I learned this the hard way.
Bald man here... and for anyone else out there that has very low self esteem because they lost their hair at a young age, please don't trouble yourself with sadness.
Women may say they like hair, but I can contest that isn't true. I ended up dating very attractive women that originally said they don't like bald men. Its a lot of factors from personality to how you are as a man and how you treat others.
Be yourself and you will attract the right woman that you'll also be attracted to and build an amazing relationship.
On my way to get married to the most beautiful woman, and so happy. Much love everyone.
I was looking for someone to talk about this. Was very disappointed when this wasn’t brought up. But thanks for the advice. Been insecure since 18 about my hairline and when I finally shaved it everyone of my co workers said it looks great and gave me a big confidence booster.
There will always be that one person who will try to bring me down by using the fact I’m bald but I’ve accepted that some people are just assholes and if it wasn’t the hair it would probably something else they would use to belittle me.
That only applies if you have a nice face, I always treat others well but I'm not very appreciated because of my horrible face.
@@alangarcia3531 Yes you are 100% right my hair is now on 2mm and i still looking good because of my face and good head structur,
I started to lose my hair at the age of 20, it used to really bother me. I used to hide my hair line with a hat. I've gotten over it (contradictory to my pfp). I've heard ever bald joke possibile. I'm 38 now, and my attitude is f it I'm bald on top I've had to get used to it accept it now it's everyone else turn to do the same. Bald is beautiful.
I've got two friends that are bald, and they both have real hot wives. I'm mean one of the women have a perfect drop dead body , it's perfect ,and beautiful face.
The girl who responded “idc” to just about every question is my spirit animal
She is just lying
Lol, Thank you!
The girl that answered 90% of the questions with "I don't care" is a GIANT red flag.
Lol yup
Girls make the rules for guys but will break them for the right one
Rules for personality. Not for looks. In order to break the former, you have to abide by the latter.
@@Michael_the_Drunkard with the right per$0nality a girl like Beyonce will mary a guy like Jay Z ..lol 😅
These kinds of videos are absolutely a gold mine honestly in helping me figure out what I may be doing wrong that's turning women away from me honestly and I know a lot of people may be angry about things that happened in the past with less desirable people but I genuinely believe a lot of the things these women have said were incredibly reasonable and definitely things you can change or at least work on
Take it with a grain of salt bro, because they say things for the express purpose of not being judged by eachother.
Research stated preference vs revealed preference in women, they dont say what they really want
If a woman finds you attractive, there is virtually nothing you can say or do wrong (within realms of normal behavior). If they don't find you attractive there will always be a reason that comes up. It isnt rocket science. If you are unattractive yoiu will have a hard time. It's been that way since the first humans roamed the earth
I love Courtney Ryan's videos. The issues she raises and analysis that she offers is really applicable to men of all ages.
So do i
Unfortunately, they are not based in reality.
This video really opens my eyes. Jesus. Thank you Courtney.
I think with these types of videos, it'd be helpful under their name to include a brief profile. Like age range and what they're primarily looking for in a guy, i.e. casual dating, serious boyfriend, potential husband, potential father to their children.
To give context to what they're looking for. There's a difference between a woman in her 20s looking to get married and have kids, than a woman in her 30s who plans to be child free.
That determines what they are physically attracted to ?
Love these videos. I see in the comments some guys who don't like being told what they need to have or do. What I learned here is that some women do care about looks, but others just care about what you do with what you have.
I feel this is of incredible value to guys who actually want to be better men to the women in their life. So Thank you :)
A problem with incels is they take figures of speech as literal absolutes. "They should like me for me" means "i can play video games and watch Japanese cartoons 16 hours a day, shower 2x a month, be able cook nothing more than hot pockets and bagel bites, and someone should accept that"
"looks don't matter" means "i can weigh 350 lbs, wear dirty, stained clothing, have terrible BO, and have greasy, unkempt hair and facial hair and i should be able to get Cindy Crawford "(dating myself a bit there)
If someone doesn't show any interest in their own life, why would someone else?
@@herculesbrofister265 I don't really know if you're adding to my comment, or thinking that I meant that, lol.
I obviously think men (and people on the whole for that matter) should take care of themselves. What I mean when I say girls care about looks, I mean precisely "things you can't control", like simply what you get froom your genes. And when I say "others just care about what you do with what you have" I mean precisely taking care of oneself. Doing excercise. Eaiting healthy. Dressing up nice and clean. Smelling good. These are all things you can control
And that's what I mean.
As of the rest you said, it just seems mean-spirited to me, lol.
it is valuable to know that women objectify men as much, and more, than women. Extremely valuable.
11:55 she's a gem for that referencing Crooked Smile. That song changed my life perspective on self image as a teenager
Going from a 5 to 10 with just straight teeth is the craziest take I ever heard
IKR, that girl is trippin
The one blonde girl said “once you take your socks off.. that’s who you are” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m crying. That shit was funny.
I have most of these qualities. Unfortunately, I'm 5'4". I've never had a problem getting dates, but I'm aware that it dramatically changes my dating pool.
how do you get dates, like what do you do ? serious question
I love the mental gymnastics of why they are attracted to fit men. 'well its cause of the discipline and because I'm into fitness too. Def not shallow just so you know"
ITS OK to admit attractive things are attractive. Don't fucking apologize
I don't understand how women think I give a shit about how they think.
Why are u here then tf? 😂
@@DruisBlue1268bros the type of guy to roll up to his High School after graduating just to grandstand about how good life is after high school😂
@@maximusm0104 For REAL! Peaked in highschool-looking ass!! Lifes probably just great for him! 🤣😂🤣😂
This is interesting content, but what guys need to remember is that this is girls saying what they like in a logical way.
If you’re attractive, you will be getting her emotional mind engaged and she will respond to your behavior. When that is on point, none of these other things matter.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
True. Women don’t like men in flip flops but if Liam Hemsworth showed up wearing them they would be fawning over him and licking his flip flops. 😂
As a very fit man in my late 20's I will say every girl I date loves grabbing my arms and complimenting me on them. Not saying this is the only thing they care about, I'm also a successful business owner, focused on my purpose and mission as a man etc. However, this is very accurate. To guy's seeing this who don't work out I'd recommend getting a gym pass! Working out is more than looking buff its an amazing feeling to take care of yourself and put years and years into something to see results. Girls know it takes hard work and dedication to get big muscles and they appreciate that.
the best part isn`t even "biceps inches" - it is the fact that a guy who works out - subconsciously knows that he might have a much higher discipline and motivation level than this girl will ever have. So it suddenly not a "mere peasant approaching his queen" but a confident man, who knows his worth.
Couldn't agree more. I was a skinny nerd with a horrible style. I became an engineer, started working out regulary and started dressing in designer/brand-clothes. The subtle kind of designer clothes that are not in-your-face-expensive but someone who stands close to me will notice the quality. I grew myself a beard and got a nice haircut. I hardly recognize myself from 10 years ago on photos. I did that all for myself and became super disciplined. And the girls came like i would've never imagined. When i enter a party i know that at some point that evening at least one attractive girl will start talking to me. Last week a super hot girl i know from my gym, noticed my at a birthday party and not only she but also her best friend started flirting with me.
I wish all young men would know, that selfcare is the biggest game-changer out there.
Women are affected much more by the consequences of sex than men. They have every right to be picky.
Or steroids they want guys to be Arnold big
@@TheMonsterHunterTV what’s wrong with being skinny though? You could still have good style with being skinny
@@Kenny-ep2nf of course being skinny isn't that bad and it's much healthier and benifitial for getting girls than being overweight.
Combined with a good dressing style you are absolutely ok while being skinny.
From my personal experience alone i can say that building muscle does add some extra percent when it comes to girls. Also it increases your respect from men a lot and being a respected guy also helps with getting women's attention
Key takeaways:
1) ALWAYS SMILE! + GOOD DENTAL HYGIENE + GET THEM STRAIGHTENED (From 5 to 10 potential right here)
2) Do not smell bad! Let some of your natural scent come through, don't drown it in cologne. Do wear some masculine cologne/deo. Be clean.
3) Have good posture. You don't need to preen all the time, but don't slouch. Slouching = instant rejection because it shows weakness/inconfidence.
4) voice is important, a masculine voice is better and what you say (vocabulary) is more important
5) having toned arms is important. It makes women feel like you can protect them since arms and fists are our natural weapons as a man.
6) both abs and shoulders are a pro but not deal breaking
7) Do your hair for bonus points
8) legs and feet are less important, but try to keep them in proportion. So if you have a jacked upper body, do leg day too.
9) bonus points for jawline
X) Dress nice and sharp, but women disagree here so it's literally up for grabs either way; so just put on what you feel comfortable with.
Always smile? Okay boomer
Basically, everything matters. Take care of yourself. Improve yourself. Don't care about pleasing other people's preferences.
"Women don't care about your looks"
_ The one who came out of a dumpster being pissed on by a dog
Lmao
Alerted in some few things. This is what campings you should be about not just drinking and freaking out.
This is what friendly conversations ought to be about. Not one night stands and staff.
Thank you ladies for showing up and giving us insights into things most young men take for granted.
social proof and pre selection
And they say men are shallow…. 😂 😂 😂
We both are , it’s human nature .
Also, men usually put a heavy emphasis on looks. Women focus on other attributes and looks, for most part.
I mean to be fair it IS the complete package when seeking a significant other. Looks and personality go hand in hand. You can’t have one without the other! Someone could be a 10 in looks but a 0 in personality, and that will default them back to 0…and same thing vice versa to some extent
I feel like they’re very reasonable if not completely ambivalent about all the physical traits they were asked about. I’m not sure what you’re talking about.
Men are judged for having preferences, men are called shallow, misogynistic, etc. for having them. Women are praised for having preferences. For example, dating apps have a height preference, most women want a man at least 6 foot tall in the West, in addition to a thousand other preferences. So let’s add a weight preference to the dating apps. Oh wait, men can’t have preferences. Exactly my point…
I totally enjoyed this roundabout deep dive into what your select panel of experts had to say about the dozen or so male aspects, and traits you questioned them on. I wished however, that they had more accurate, detailed information about their favorite fragrances for men. Such as actual brand names, and the fragrance's designer. For example: Hugo Boss Black, Eternity Red, Nautica Blue Sails, Kanøn K.O. CK Black.
Guys the hardware is always the same. If women have these preferences, then so should we. Don’t sell yourself on Instagram, cook, clean, be agreeable and add value. Most women can’t so focus on yourself Kings!
I’d like to think that I take care pretty good care of my body. But I don’t do it in the hopes of impressing women. With that said…I’m already in love with “I don’t care” girl lol
The brunette is so genuine and not superficial or shallow at all the way she says “I don’t care” you can just tell she’s grounded in spirit and values things that matter not egotistical nonsense. She seems really sweet.
One thing is un front of the camera, other is her actions
Women will always say what they think people want to hear, women love virtue signaling. You take a 6'3 chad infront of her and watch everything go out the window.
Goes like a train, they say 😛.
Guys appreciate women who don’t place too much emphasis on a man’s appearance. It shows they’re not superficial or overly focused on looks, and their priorities likely lie beyond appearances.
I remember reading studies about women gauging the attractiveness of a man's voice. Women tend to like deeper, more baritone sounding voices, particularly at the peak of their ovulation cycle. This also relates to a guy having a chiseled jaw. Deep voices and prominent jawlines are indicators of high testosterone, which is what women subconsciously look for.
social proof and pre selection
Tiny little effects that are statistically significant enough to publish but make barely a difference in irl. I know I carry out and publish such studies. Learn to read and interpret science for real. Your way ain’t it. Ahah
Can confirm toned arms are a real turn on. Notice I said toned arms, not huge arms. My arms aren't huge, just lean and muscular. Recently started dating girl, she straight up told me before we started dating she noticed my arms one day when I was stretching. Can confirm on scent as well. My girl (and others too) almost always complements my scent (and I figured out which cologne she likes the most). I wear cologne almost all the time, but a nice smelling deodorant works too.
Side note: black men (and probably hispanic men too) can't get away with not dressing well. It's a culture thing. Style is a must. Most of us been putting together outfits since middle school.
homeless guys have great toned arms, but they might be 11 inches.
Man ur videos r useful af for us that have no idea bout something that is totally new to us
I think Erika values vibes, adventures and laughs together more than visual stuff. I dig it. Although I may be wrong
I'm so proud of all of you guys who finally started understanding the REALITY! It's absolutely devastating but kudos to all of you who get it! 👏
Posture is a physical thing that depends on a persons muscles, bone structure etc. It is not "easy" to all of a sudden have good posture if your body structure doesn't allow for it.
Courtney, I love your RUclips channel and you have great videos. You’re like the only RUclipsr who has testimonies, like from real women. It helps break down perspectives and understanding what girls want and stuff. Thank you.
All in one, ladies: you like us to look well-taken care of, tidy, healthy & fit. Smiling and good style is just another bonus.
Perhaps you should do a video with your girls about why women don't validate men or at least give them compliments consistently compared to how women get it constantly. I think the gender world would be a better place if we all evened out in that mental aspect.
Kinda learned what we should all know? Women don't judge men the same way on looks:
Men universally prefer: slim waist to hips, with vibrant or youthful face. (thick, skinny is personal preference). The clothes actually don't matter since girls always dress better than men anyways.
Women preference: ...my take from this is there is no universal preference. But I thought there was scientific consensus that woman prefer a V shaped torso (which can be modified by clothing, but men don' like it, if women hide shape by clothing), Also left/right symmetry, this simply implies decent athletic ability.
so are you saying all men every single last one prefer these things that's a big claim to make got any proof for it
I love the girl that doesn't care about anything lol. She makes me think there is hope, barely any but hope after all.
Seh is just over the top shey
The girl who is saying "I don't care" about everything is really care. She is just saying that.
she likes girls
She is lying
Of course it matter, she just doesn't say it
ok let me summarize: Be Superman ! But yeah, please smell good, be clean and nice. And: It's is not a dealbraker if you are not! But... I dont care!
OK for the woman that says, "I don't care" a lot in this video, there is no way she does NOT care about any traits from any guy. Eventually a guy that will like her and want pursue her, I am confident that she will find something that she will not like and I guarantee that she change that mindset and she will care.
I think she is just trying to sound nice lol
In her defense, can't believe I'm saying that because I found these chicks all super annoying, but they were talking mostly about looks. Maybe looks just aren't important to her?
Very simple...
1. Height (Tall) Must pass her requirements first just to get to the rest.
2. Facial attractiveness
3. Sense of style
4. His masculinity
5. Sense of humour.
💯💯💯
Well I’m screwed lol
Stop coping bro, face first, always, as long as you're not shorter than the girl. I see handsome shorter guys pilling hot hourglass chicks left and right, while tall ugly or average guys don't get any.
@@ranjanudayashankar1569 how tall are you?
@@MarylandGuy-ey3st 5'9
@@jakonjhn Don't talk about the outliers. I was talking about the vast majority, like 85%-90% of women.
It might be interesting to have their mothers answer the same questions.
Haha 😂???
basically as a guy, you should be fine if you have a perfect smile, huge arms, wide shoulders, good hair, nice shoes, 6 pack, rich, tanned, big legs, good feet, artificially white teeth, chiselled jawline, nice hands, smell good & stand up straight
Sorry, ladies, but Henry Cavill's not available. So, you're going to stay single, get a cat, and die alone.
Stella is on to something. Just when you get a physical looks vibe on her response. She throws a curve ball and it's about the presentation of said feature. Voice. On the sound but how you talk and smile. Not primarily your smile itself but how and when it's presented. That's such a refreshing opinion.
She should try smiling herself though. Just occasionally even.