“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.”🙏🏿💯
I was married to this person... NYE was just physically present.. I wasn’t self-aware enough at the time to recognize he was filling a void my absent father left.. that was a very tough relationship to be in.
I'm an introvert but it took me soo long to realize that I was feeling lonely and this loneliness didn't come from a need for human connection but from not being connected to myself. I was as toxic for myself as every other toxic relationship out there and I didn't know how to properly care for myself, I used to hide from reality altogether. Cultivating a good relationship with yourself is important.
I can relate to this, I was always there for everyone else but me. But it showed up as anxiety and depression for me. And I didn’t know how to show up for myself. I’m currently working on it.
“Life doesn’t give you the people you want. It gives you the people you need; to help you, to hurt you, to love you, to leave you and to help you grow into the person you are meant to be.” 🙏🏽
Mac Miller sang, “Sometimes I get lonely, but not when I’m alone. But it’s more when I’m standing in crowds that I’m feelin the most on my own.” And I never forgot it. I’m alone 90% of the time and I feel perfectly fine. It’s when I go to social events I feel isolated.
i’m at a weird point in my life where people are walking out of my life or i’m walking out of it, it feels lonely but deep down i know there’s a purpose. your videos help me so much ❤️
The key is to meet our emotional needs as much as possible. We have relied on others so much for validation that we forget that the biggest source of comfort and validation comes from within. Being there for yourself and loving yourself to the core is the foundation.
@@AidenPhengsy my interpretation is that it is better to connect with people on a deeper level who arent near you physically than not connecting with the people around you. Because if you are only seen you feel lonelier than when you are alone and if you can can connect with people through the internet you feel like people understand you, you have things in commen, you resonate with one and another. Having people you can share your interests and live with. You found your tribe so to speak. The best scenario is connecting with the people in your environment though, obviously but you are closer to this if you are felt
Man I’m so grateful for my friend showing me this page. I was going through this and she moved out today. I’m really sad but a lot of these comments and videos are making me feel like they are for me.
I’m 19 and living alone without parents, I was really struggling tonight with my mental health and wasn’t able to calm down. After watching your videos and this one especially I’ve been able to relax and can finally get to sleep, Thankyou god bless you ❤️
YOU ARE NOT ALONE, BEEN 3 YEARS LIKE YOU, SOMEDAYS ARE ONE OF THOSE DAYS YOU FEEL ME? TE MANDO BENDICIONES DESDE CARACAS VENEZUELA allow yourself to feel we are humans one day at the time!!!
No 19 yr olds should be living alone with any good reason, regardless of that I hope you’ll be alright. I’m just a few years older than you and lived in solidarity at your age too, and I recall reoccurring insomnia throughout those years. At some point melatonin gummies and alcohol started to fail too. Then I started falling asleep to soothing videos on RUclips and cute cozy romcoms, under dim, warm fairy lights. Now I’m living with a loving partner and can just pass out easily when he’s next to me. I’m happy to transition from substance usage to something that can directly calm my mind and making sure that I’m comfortable in my own space. I hope you’re not completely alone and at least have a caring friend with you. It’s especially tough if you struggle with mental health, it sounds like you’re aware of it and you’re trying to take care of it, so that’s really good. Keep up the good work, and I wish you the best of luck :)
I was up thinking about this last night. I’ve always been an introvert, but I also had people I connected with & could call anytime. Slowly but surely here I am with no one to call. I got kinda sad. I started thinking about the things I’ve been wanting to do, but never do because I have no one to do them with. Then it hit me that maybe I should just do it because who knows, that may be how I meet new people with similar interests. This is gonna take me way out of my comfort zone, but I think I’ll start by taking a solo vacation this summer.
Do it monie. Life is too short & u shouldnt wait for anyone to do stuff ur interested in. No one is ever gonna be able to give u the memories u gonna make by urself. Do it - this is ur sign 😌🌞
Hey Moni! I am in the same boat as you. Feel free to email me (nakaylabowman@gmail.com) some time and we can be friends or just check in on each other from time to time. You’ve got a friend in me lady. 💛
It's really weird for me. I was a "loner" for most of my youth, didn't have many friends in school and I became a self-reliant person very early. I used to consider myself an introvert because I was enjoying my alone-time so much and I was completely okay spending days on end in my room, just doing whatever, drawing, reading, watching shows or whatever. Then I moved out to go to university in a different town and suddenly, with all the toxic people gone, I discovered a side of myself that's pretty extroverted. And while my mental health was declining, spending time with other people suddenly was the only thing that was distracting me. I was already unable to be physically alone at this point, but then I even felt loneliness in the middle of a party, in the middle of my closest friends, I started feeling that disconnection. Not once or twice, but frequently. And it was the worst kind of loneliness because suddenly, there was nothing distracting me anymore and I would break down in tears everytime. Because there was something so deeply wounded inside of me that I was just constantly running away from until it eventually caught up with me. It still is chasing after me, but recently I have been brave enough to stop running and face it. To listen to why I feel like this, instead of ignoring it. This is so important. And I've been so much better ever since I've realized that being alone triggers my trauma of abandonment and rejection. That I've not been kind to myself in a long time because all my mind knows is how to hate myself, so I'd rather not be with myself. I also talked to a friend about this and she said "You are the only person that you will spend your entire life with, that's the only friend that you will be guaranteed to have for your entire life. So you've got to learn how to be your own safe space."
this is my exact situation rn and I don’t know what to do. How do you face it?? how do you stop running from it? How do you make yourself your own safe place?? did you seek help in therapy? I really wanna get over it. It’s making me miserable
@@user-hg9ls8by4c i wish i could tell you how but I'm really not sure myself. I'm a lot better now but i didn't get therapy (it's hard to find a therapist where i am) even tho that would've been a good idea, i encourage you to seek it! I journalled a lot and tried to really decipher my feelings, like really understand why i feel that way. And i guess you will have to spend time alone and teach yourself how to allow yourself to feel what you feel and not start scrolling, binge watch a show or immerse yourself with work or something like that to distract yourself. Now my living situation is a bit different but i kind of got better automatically when spring started. And i also don't feel fomo as much as i did before, that definitely helped. Now i enjoy my alone time so much, because I'm so busy on most days (I'm a uni student) and i do a lot of activities with my friends, so me-time has become rare. I also got off antidepressants two months ago and i feel like that helped. I'm still not perfectly stable, but for the first time in a lot of years I'm not suicidal anymore and that's a huge improvement. I still cry sometimes and i still feel lonely every now and then but it's okay cuz tomorrow will be better. So hang in there. Life changes all the time and sometimes patience is all you need.
I've felt more alone being in a room full of people than I do actually do being completely alone in my own company. I love my own company, it's so peaceful. Peace & blessings to you all xx
@@zarav.z hi you have to tell your friend group i feel alone can you guys talk to me your my friend group please talk to me again to them so yeah goodluck
I am so glad this channel was recommended to me. Your words are exactly what I need to hear right now. I lost my husband last year to cancer amid the pandemic and I am still struggling with being alone and feeling lonely. I am working on building a good relationship with myself again, but it's been a struggle.
Why is his messages so on time? I just balled my eyes out, and through tears I said...Most High please help me, I feel so alone, so different from others around me.
I feel you it’s hard being so different from people alone is just an illusion and we are all connected but not everyone is awake and in the present moment the only thing we can do is shine our light to others and spread the universal love🤍
I am growing, changing, and overstanding things to the point I sometimes get overwhelmed. I feel deeper than others, I see more, I even hear what people mumble under their breath. It's crazy and can be very exhausting. No wonder they say ignorance is bliss.
I love how you mentioned bringing more than an empty cup to relationships/friendships. I relied on my ex to hold my happiness and found that I was bringing nothing but my issues to the relationship, leaning on her for love and relief from my struggles. I depended on it and she told me that it was weighing on her and it took me way too long to understand that giving her the responsibility of my happiness wasn't a gift and was much more of a burden.
Once you start to love your self for who you authentically are, life starts to love you aswell. Because you are life, Life is you, You are a physical manifestation of love, You are everything, Everything is you. You have the power. You have the love. Your potential is limitless. Keep going.
@@marte1376 hi, yeah same, I love seeing people who are into psychs, also interested in positivity and growing as a person :) Ik that a lot are, but there’s also a lot that trip like every weekend and don’t actually do it for the healing etc. But that’s cool, to each their own :) Nice to have crossed virtual paths w/ you lol, have a good day 🌍
"My consciousness is my home, safety, and security." I came up with this quote a few months ago to help me feel more grounded and stable. Simply to know that I can give that calming, good energy to myself is life changing. :)
You are never alone you got your ancestors,spirit guide,passed friend and family members and many more just cause you can’t see them doesn’t mean they ain’t there
when the pandemic hit, I was also going through a breakup. this was when I finally started spending time alone, and truly learned to love me. one year later, I have almost no social anxiety
I am 16 and left school, went into a full time job i don't like and am leaving, going through my first heartbreak and my only friend is my sister. This made me feel like once i get through this something new will come. i will find myself through this hard time🦋
I just wanted to let you know that you have such a positive uplifting energy and I wish I had friends like you because you seem so positive to be around and you give off such a raw positive outlook on life even on the bad days so thank you for making this RUclips channel.🦋🦋 God bless you
im struggeling with being okay on my own. i feel like im more and more clinging onto my boyfriend and making him responsible for my happiness. i feel like being aware of that is the first step, but there are many steps to go before i can be okay on my own, and i keep feeling a little lost where to start and what to do. this is the first video i ever saw of you, and your vibe is really something. just wanted to get this of my chest and thank you. i will do my best
My partner of over a year just broke up with me. I was devastated and heart broken and I still am, but this video has made me realise that what has happened, maybe my opportunity to really nurture myself and enjoy my own company. I realised that maybe I was needy instead of independent and wanting to hang out. Thank you for making me feel this calmness of being alone and not lonely. I love your channel and it will help me and so many in our next chapters, thank you
I've been feeling this a lot lately. Ever since I finished high school like a year ago and cut off all of the people in my circle, no one new has showed up in my life - it's been like a year. Don't get me wrong, I'm an aqua and I value my alone time, but I also love friends. I be like Universe please send me some friends, but still here I am in my own space alone. The Universe always plugs, but this period is hella tough. Makes you wish you could have a direct conversation with the divine, and ask wassup? What's going on?
I feel you. Just left school but since covid for the last few months I drifted from pretty much everyone- a big change from my active social life the year before. Same with me, I love my alone time , but I used to have a good balance of alone time and the option to be around people , now that’s not there, it’s literally just me. Feels like the same day over and over, and even as someone who loves being alone it gets too much sometimes. I understand the feeling and that is something u are not alone with. What I’ve seen is that every time something or someone leaves my life it is replaced with either something better or something better within me, so I guess we should trust that, even if it feels stuck right now. I hope u find your people soon , but trust that the universe has put you with yourself for a reason. Take this time to grow, u got this
@@aliakhalil9759 you are literally so sweet 💖 I wish the same for you love. And you are absolutely right about the being replaced with something better part of it! Sending you much love💖
I TOTALLY get it!!! I'm an aqua too.. And I do wish I could just ask, "What the heck is going on?" "Where are my people Lord?" Like you said, it's NOT good for people to be alone, so what's the deal?
I feel you on this. It's been two years since I've graduated high school and I wish I would have appreciated my time around all those people and with COVID it's only made this problem of loneliness even worse. I hope to find new people soon, just keep the faith.
For many years of my life I have been alone and I was so used to it that I didn’t really understand that the feeling I constantly had within myself was loneliness. So I tried many things to fill that void within me and I thought I was actually managing it. It came to a point when I was craving being alone, being left alone, because I felt good that way and it felt it was the only way to be. But only after a long time I got to realize that what I was doing was simply filling up my days with video games, movies, book, weed and many other things just to suppress the feeling of loneliness, just to postpone the relationship with myself I was terribly scared of. I realized my loneliness was real only when I started creating connections with people, even romantic ones, and I found myself needing that affection desperately, filling my empty cup through others. The reality is that for many years I was escaping myself without even realizing it. I thought I was doing well only because I muted the cry within me through the pressure of alone activities or through connections which left me only asking for more. After starting therapy a few months ago I understood all of this and it’s been a rough path for me to really be alone with myself, meaning thinking, pondering, asking myself questions, understanding my real needs and trying to see what I was doing in order to fulfill them. It’s not easy to love yourself when all you know is how to love others in order to fill that emptiness inside. Luckily now I’m on a good road, I am really working towards this and I’m seeing the results, but it’s a slow process and I know it will take quite some time. I know I was scared of facing the monster within me but after doing so, I realized it’s not a monster at all, it’s just a scared child who didn’t receive the love it so much craved. The love that was denied to me, both by others and, importantly, by myself. I recognize now how valuable I am, the beauty that dwells within me and all that I can offer to the people around me. But it’s fundamental I offer all of this to me first, not in an egoistic way, but in a caring, kind, understanding and forgiving way. In the end I believe we all want to be loved, understood. We all crave a presence in our life which is constant and reliable. But only now I understand that this presence doesn’t come necessarily from relationships or from suffocating myself with distractions, but only from me, from me loving me. I still have a strong need need for love, I want affection, hugs, support. And I know I will eventually get it from someone and from my friends, family, pets, from activities, sports, hobbies, strangers. But it all has to start from me.
I’ve been coming back to this video every time I feel alone and feel like I desperately need someone to talk to but I have no one, I definitely realized that I am my own best friend this is just another opportunity to better myself in solitude rather than fall into darkness. Thank you Hindz for spreading love and light !!
Found this video in the middle of taking a three week break from constantly being on social media, constantly being available to others, constantly being “on” and never really taking a proper break to be alone with myself. I’ve experienced anger, sadness, restless, and then finally today, acceptance, peace, comfort. Incredibly glad your videos have been a part of my journey on learning to be alone. I really appreciate this upload ❤️
Мне случайно попалось это видео в момент, когда я одна в своей холодной коммунальной квартире, лежу и думаю о том, что понятия не имею, чего хочу, кто я, что я могу, что не могу, в чем смысл всего и вся. Я чувствую себя одинокой и брошенной. Мне не хватает внимания и тепла. Слова автора в этом видео поддержали меня. Хоть немного, но стало приятно. Возможно, все не так плохо в этом одиночестве... Надеюсь, что у вас все хорошо. А если нет, то для нас всех обязательно на станут лучшие дни. Верьте себе.
Omg this is so weird, you created this video whilst I was in the middle of isolating myself for a bit from certain people; it actually feels amazing just to be in my own powerful company for a bit and really give attention to myself that I would normally shower everyone else with! Highly recommend being with yourself for a bit! It's not selfish or sad at all, it's actually really healing! I'm feeling a different kind of happiness in doing so! Thank you Hindz! Forever grateful - it really is a vibe ting ✨🙏❤❤❤
@TMUUN oh right! That's so awesome!! I know exactly what you mean - it really does feel so exhilarating and fulfilling just to be with yourself for a while!! I hope you're having a great time in NYC and spend lots of precious time with yourself!! Many blessings, light and love to you!! ❤❤❤🙏
@@tiatan2514 absolutely!! If you feel it with your intuition, one hundred percent just go with it! Personally I feel there may be a deep reason as to why you may feel that way! ❤❤❤🙏✨
I just got out of a long term relationship and I’ve been thrown into being by myself for the first time in a long time. This video is exactly what I needed🌱 thank you for this🙏🏼
going through the same thing right now. definitely one of the toughest things i’ve had to go through especially after starting college just a few months ago, but we’re moving forward! wishing you the best and sending you lots of positivity your way 🫶 we got this !
I also go through social anxiety and it is one of the most stressful things to experience, worrying that others would judge you or criticize you, feeling like you might say the wrong thing and seem awkward and stuff. I also feel lonely sometimes and it too me a while to realize that there are millions of people out there who also goes through thing I go through, maybe not exactly the same but it helps knowing you were never alone to begin with. Spending time alone and really cultivating and feeling present and being mindful of your environment, getting to know yourself is such a blessing and really helped me go dive deep and have a deeper understanding of myself.
Being an introvert, I never cared if I was alone. In fact when I was I valued it since I’m in my own space. But my loneliness more on derives from alienation, and being misunderstood by people around me that it’s better to isolate myself because no one can judge me. For the most part I’m not bothered by it, but it becomes a disadvantage when there’s no one to back you up and overall connect with you. I’ve tried to hold friendships, but remained as the outcast who wasn’t invited to events. It’s hard to make the commitment when you’ve tried so hard already, that’s why I’m trying to learn to love myself more and be confident in my own skin :)
I’ve been living a very chaotic life the past two years and especially this year - but I feel a bit more at peace in knowing everything works in my favor eventually. It’s hard sometimes though.
I find it crazy that I spent a majority of my life not really knowing myself, like i definitely was existing in the moment but I was always caught up in learning about other people and trying to figure out other people and trying to get other people to like me etc. Nowadays, I spend my free time talking to myself and let me tell you, I have never felt so Intune with my emotions like i just be crackin up like a looney LOL And I've noticed that while I've been building this bond with myself, I've been attracting a bunch of high energy individuals into my life, and I am equally as happy with them in my life as I was without them. It took me a while to realize that you don't need anyone to make you happy in this life, happiness comes from within, and even when there's nothing happening, you have to be able to learn how to appreciate the smallest of things in your life. Thank you HINDZ, you really have helped me these past couple of months
Unbelievable that this was posted a year ago, when I was feeling the most alone I’d ever felt, & only seeing this now. I’m still in a season of lesser interaction, but loneliness left the moment I became a friend to myself. I wish I saw this last year, but I’m glad to see it now, affirmed.
It's crazy how this video was 17 minutes long but it only felt like 5 minutes. I was afraid of committing to a longer video but I'm so glad I did, it felt like a warm hug and reassured me in my loneliness. I'm gonna focus on cultivating my interests more, I haven't been doing that lately and I've been feeling super lonely. This was a much needed reminder that we are always with ourselves and we need to be present. Thank you Hindz ❤️
I struggled with feelings of loneliness a couple years ago, but I'm a naturally introverted person, so I didn't want to be in a crowd either. What I was craving was an outlet. Adult coloring books, making mandalas with flowers and acorns, and active journaling really helped with those feelings.
this summer i haven’t been spending time with my regular group of friends, instead ive just been focusing on myself and doing things that make me happy. i’m 17 and i think this is the perfect age to learn new things, find new hobbies, and explore my life and have fun with new experiences. i’m not dating either but this is definitely the happiest i’ve ever been ❤️❤️
I needed this video today. There has been many times where I have felt alone in a room full of people. I find myself feeling lonely and never thought about going inside and being by myself to cultivate my relationship with myself. Loved the energy in this vid.
Being born in the 1980's i know both sides of technology. It a blessing an a curse at the same time. I'm happy i was born in time where i could find self in the silence.
I needed this so much. Im so scared of losing people. I’ve had times where everyone i was close to left. my world fell apart around me. i’ve attached myself to anyone who allows me so hard to the point of bleeding. I just want to feel loved. Everything this video offered was perfect. I feel like ive needed to hear this for a really long time.
Sir you have divinely interrupted my mental rut today! This was so needed and affirming. I’m learning what I seek in others - I must first find it myself. I’m in that constant cycle of being disappointed by other people because I’m not appointing myself to take care of myself first.
“It’s better to be felt and not seen” nice words, I´m at this time to reconnect with myself, had to shut a lot of people out to be here just for me for as long as I need, so thankful for RUclips to recommended your video, really felt the vibe while watching
Im currently studying abroad but I feel isolated most of the time despite my efforts of making plans and creating experiences. I often feel lonely in a room full of people and I began to think I was the problem or I was in-likeable. I felt God speak to me through your comforting words. I come back to this video whenever I feel lonely and it helps immensely❤
Thank you for the nice tea 🤗 I'm "alone" with my two dogs next to the woods for almost a year. I love it. To read a book( there are so many waiting for me), to clean the house, to just listen to the silence. Sometimes I feel lonely, but that's ok.
When you talked about how maybe our energy is not supposed to go into someone, but something, I had to pause and just take a minute. I have never realized this. Nobody has ever phrased it that way for me. It makes so much sense. Something so simple but so meaningful to me. Thank you.
I really needed this...I've been feeling really lonely, trying to understand why I can't maintain close friendships and have people want me around, but maybe I just need to spend better time with myself....
can i just thank you. i only discovered you recently, but i resonate with so many things you talk about. I've been really depressed and struggling over the past few days and just listening to your videos and exploring the concepts makes me feel so much lighter. I haven't been able to get out of bed for three days, but this helped me get up, do my washing, do the dishes, make tea and even feel up to journaling for a bit. thank you so much for sharing yourself with us.
Im going through a breakup of a relationship that lasted almost two years. Its so incredibly hard to think about how much time i will be spending by myself now. Thank you for reminding me that I need to focus on my self connection first. And that my space needs to feel inviting and comfortable to step into
It’s crazy how perfect this topic is. I just recently got out of a very toxic relationship that I was in for 11 years and moved into my first apartment by myself. It’s been a hard transition trying to untether myself from him without filling that space with someone else who doesn’t deserve my energy. The past few days I was really going through it so this message came perfect this morning.
I feel like this is such a safe space and makes me feel so good seeing other people feeling the way I do. I’m so grateful that this type of influencers exists and be able to bring us all together, thank you all, remember you are amazing and your worthy of love and happiness 💖
Hindz, your ending message about being guided and protected brought tears to my eyes. I've been feeling sad every time I come home, but after watching your video, I'm now seeing it as a opportunity to connect with myself more. Thank you for your videos, I really appreciate your presence and wisdom.
I have literally had no friends. Toxic family. For 40years. Sometimes I am so lonely I pray that I won’t wake up. You have a beautiful spirit. Thank you💙bless🙏
ok, this is exactly what I need. last night I was thinking why am I alone and I started to think that there is something wrong with me. But thank you for reminding us all that we are never alone, that we have to shift our perspective and start to look within. probably I should start using my energy on loving and taking care of myself and do the things that I love instead of always thinking about what's wrong with me.
I been feeling lonely for a few months now but ever since I started watching your videos I discovered a lot of myself that I didn't know, I was going through a deep depression because I cut communication with someone I was starting to fall in love with, I got fired from the job I had in january and I couldn't pay rent for the room I was staying at. So I basically became homeless. I lived in a shelter a few weeks then went to NJ to stay with "family" and I stayed in another shelter like a month and a half because my aunt was threatning to call the police if I didn't leave. I now live in another house and am renting another room, I have a better job, and I am starting to feel a lot better. thank you Hindz for helping me make peace with my own mind.
I really needed to hear this. I used to be really good at being alone, but when suddenly it became a very distant connection in rooms filled with people I kept searching for that fulfilling companionship. today I am alone, feeling lonely but after this video I'm feeling very full. thank you :)
It's like this video was placed on my feed on purpose. Woke up today feeling extremely lonely where it felt physically painful. Not feeling any type of relationship with myself and then stumbled on this video. I think it makes a lot of sense and I need to shift my perspective to be a best friend to MYSELF. Thank you beautiful soul
I just found your channel yesterday, I had my first self care day I loved it. But that's besides the point, what you said in that video I felt seen and agreed to what you were saying. I don't know how you do it but through the screen I felt like I was there. I was nodding my head and smiling. And today I did too, I even had a cup of Earl Grey Tea. This year has brought a lot of change, I decided to go back to a normal school after being online for 3 years. It's been a ride so far sometimes hard, but I feel like I am slowly healing. And life is looking a little brighter than it was before. This year I dedicated to get out of my comfort zone, while taking breaks so I don't get to overwhelmed. I wanted to thank you for these videos also. Sending positive vibes your way.
What you talk about in this video resonates so deeply with me right now! I’ve been by myself most of the time this past year and really for several years and I used to see that as a problem, like I wasn’t trying hard enough to make friends and something was wrong with me. But recently, I’m seeing it from the perspective of this time being alone with myself has actually been preparing me to be ready to truly be around people and show up authentically in the world. All I’ve been through and all the solitude has allowed me to grow so much, and to constantly work on myself so now I feel like it’s time to be out in the world and share my energy and my amazing self with others and be felt deeply how I wish to be felt :)
This video has been “suggested” to me since its debut, but I never watched bc I felt I knew how to be alone and I truly enjoy it. Lately, I’ve been feeling alone, but not when I’m physically alone. My boyfriend is amazing and is really the only “friend” I have, which is fine, until it’s not. 😅 I finally watched and I now wish I would’ve watched a year ago. Instead of practically begging my sister to prioritize our relationship, I would have focused more on the “something” instead of “someone”. I feel so much better after watching and I will watch again so that I don’t let your tips fall on deaf ears. Hindz, you have helped me with my self growth so much, I feel like I owe you something. Lol, But seriously, thank you sooooo much. You truly are a blessing. ♥️
I’ve been feeling “alone” lately and usually I love being by myself but ya girl has been going through it and this couldn’t pop up in a better time thanks so much for this reminder ❤️
same girl, I feel good by myself but my mind sometimes slips into cycles of feeling lonely and I sometimes don't notice it and after making something regretful I then realize oh, it was one of those again, i hope your at peace within you, you deserve some quality time
I’m a bit alone but after watching this and reading all these uplifting comments I really needed this energy I thank you all for being who you are the guidance and acceptance is needed in a world like this 🤎🤎🤎
I just discovered your channel with this video and want to say a sincere "thank you". Your voice, words, and gestures are so calm and affectionate. I am pleased to discover your content finally. It is a true present! Sending hugs from Brazil.
I’ve been really stressed lately with job hunting and moving back home, and this video was exactly what I needed to hear. Almost uncanny that way but always so very grateful to listen and partake in a bit of wisdom :)
This is very timely! I'm going through a period where I realize that in my alone time I am the happiest and when I sacrifice that time I end up feeling shorted. There are so many great points in this video and I can't wait to really sit with them and write out how I'm going to apply them to my own life.
I’ve always enjoyed my time alone, I was looking forward to what you had to say on the subject. What I didn’t expect was for it to resonate so much. I’ve been channeling my energy into my art and crafts recently instead of others and the amount of peace it has brought me is immeasurable.
I totally agree that going within helps with social anxiety!! I have done the same and I’m so much more confident in a room full of people because I know that no matter how an interaction goes I will always have my sacred relationship with myself. Just found your channel and I’m so stoked to be following now! 💓
At the beginning I felt exactly as you said: spending quality time with myself to improve and be better. But after a few months without real contact with friends I felt lonely regardless. I could've done all the things I'd loved but would stil feel lonely. And it's stil that way right now. I know that this won't be forever but atm I feel like I don't know what I want in life. I always need my friends around.
Yeah, I kind of feel there is a difference between needing to learn how to enjoy your own company versus someone who struggles with being alone nearly 24/7. I feel that Hindz is more so speaking towards those who have a decent social support system but still struggle with being alone and thus it makes sense that they should learn how to tolerate being alone for short amounts of time. But what about for those of us with no social support system who barely get any quality social interaction on a daily or even weekly basis? I just feel that under these circumstances, I am not sure Hindz’s advice applies as well. Because humans are not meant to be chronically isolated from one another, and so naturally someone who lives alone and has no friends or family they see on a regular basis...that person is going to be suffering regardless I feel, no matter how much they try to learn to enjoy their own company. For there’s only so much time you can spend alone before it just completely breaks you down.
@@Amber24426 totally 💯 agree with you! It shocks me when people say “im ok alone” but For HOW LONG? I enjoy my alone time I have people to talk to online and I have family I can see but there is just still that “loneliness” feeling that Ive struggled with for 10 years and thats because I dont trust people so I dont share much but I Enjoy being around good company and I want to be around friends I enjoy every two weeks. Atm I have no physical “friend” that I enjoy all the time which is what makes me feel lonely
My life has been super hard, and I keep losing people left and right, but this video made me realize I’m not alone I just need to learn how to enjoy my own company🦋
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“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.”🙏🏿💯
This is the truth
And where is the lie.....
Very True!
So true...well said.
I was married to this person... NYE was just physically present.. I wasn’t self-aware enough at the time to recognize he was filling a void my absent father left.. that was a very tough relationship to be in.
I'm an introvert but it took me soo long to realize that I was feeling lonely and this loneliness didn't come from a need for human connection but from not being connected to myself. I was as toxic for myself as every other toxic relationship out there and I didn't know how to properly care for myself, I used to hide from reality altogether. Cultivating a good relationship with yourself is important.
I can relate, hope your journey is fruitful. Sending love to another introvert ;)
This is where I am at now.
I can relate to this, I was always there for everyone else but me. But it showed up as anxiety and depression for me. And I didn’t know how to show up for myself. I’m currently working on it.
i resonate with this
I can relate as well
“Life doesn’t give you the people you want. It gives you the people you need; to help you, to hurt you, to love you, to leave you and to help you grow into the person you are meant to be.” 🙏🏽
Just reading this helped me.
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Mac Miller sang, “Sometimes I get lonely, but not when I’m alone. But it’s more when I’m standing in crowds that I’m feelin the most on my own.” And I never forgot it. I’m alone 90% of the time and I feel perfectly fine. It’s when I go to social events I feel isolated.
damn as someone with generalized anxiety disorder and a hardcore mac fan, i can relate so much, thanks for posting this
I feel the same way
I feel like it’s rooted in your ego not getting the attention it deserves.
And or you don’t connect or relate to the people around you.
mac connected with so many people through music, its beautiful
he pulled out mac in the comments. You real for that
my birthday is coming and i don't have any friends, after seeing this i realized that maybe i can spend the day just taking care of myself..
Being a introvert is simply about, not neglecting yourself, that's all loo
Happy birthday Mika 🤍 hope you have a good one
yes you can don't feel pressured to have friends you can throw a party for one and be just as happy as some who throws a party of multiple.
Sending you love Mika ❤❤❤
I hope you have an amazing birthday, friend.
i’m at a weird point in my life where people are walking out of my life or i’m walking out of it, it feels lonely but deep down i know there’s a purpose. your videos help me so much ❤️
I feel you ❤️
feel u too kinda me rn as well ur not alone!!
yaaaa, i can really resonate with this message. i think they are walking out of our lives so we can drink tea with hindz XD
i felt that but i know im in walking into an amazing journey
well, we're in this together ❤️
I saw a quote somewhere that says "In a room full of people you must want yourself first." and I've never looked back since.
That's so beautiful ❤️
Goose bumps!!
The key is to meet our emotional needs as much as possible. We have relied on others so much for validation that we forget that the biggest source of comfort and validation comes from within. Being there for yourself and loving yourself to the core is the foundation.
thank you ,really thank you for putting this into words
i'm going to write this on my notebook, thank you so much for this comment
“It’s better to be felt and not seen” - Hindz
What does it mean?
@@AidenPhengsy my interpretation is that it is better to connect with people on a deeper level who arent near you physically than not connecting with the people around you. Because if you are only seen you feel lonelier than when you are alone and if you can can connect with people through the internet you feel like people understand you, you have things in commen, you resonate with one and another. Having people you can share your interests and live with. You found your tribe so to speak.
The best scenario is connecting with the people in your environment though, obviously but you are closer to this if you are felt
This part resonated with me deeply
Man I’m so grateful for my friend showing me this page. I was going through this and she moved out today. I’m really sad but a lot of these comments and videos are making me feel like they are for me.
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"it's better to be felt, not seen" this is probably my new favorite mantra for this week
"All that energy that you have, maybe it's not to go to someone but SOME THING."
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I’m 19 and living alone without parents, I was really struggling tonight with my mental health and wasn’t able to calm down. After watching your videos and this one especially I’ve been able to relax and can finally get to sleep, Thankyou god bless you ❤️
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I do not know you or ur story but you are doing beautifully; better than how I handled moving out at 19 💜 rest easy friend
@@marleeclayton3815 I m really seriouse intrested plese 💑💑😍💗🌷🌷
YOU ARE NOT ALONE, BEEN 3 YEARS LIKE YOU, SOMEDAYS ARE ONE OF THOSE DAYS YOU FEEL ME?
TE MANDO BENDICIONES DESDE CARACAS VENEZUELA allow yourself to feel we are humans one day at the time!!!
No 19 yr olds should be living alone with any good reason, regardless of that I hope you’ll be alright. I’m just a few years older than you and lived in solidarity at your age too, and I recall reoccurring insomnia throughout those years. At some point melatonin gummies and alcohol started to fail too. Then I started falling asleep to soothing videos on RUclips and cute cozy romcoms, under dim, warm fairy lights. Now I’m living with a loving partner and can just pass out easily when he’s next to me. I’m happy to transition from substance usage to something that can directly calm my mind and making sure that I’m comfortable in my own space. I hope you’re not completely alone and at least have a caring friend with you. It’s especially tough if you struggle with mental health, it sounds like you’re aware of it and you’re trying to take care of it, so that’s really good. Keep up the good work, and I wish you the best of luck :)
I was up thinking about this last night. I’ve always been an introvert, but I also had people I connected with & could call anytime. Slowly but surely here I am with no one to call. I got kinda sad. I started thinking about the things I’ve been wanting to do, but never do because I have no one to do them with. Then it hit me that maybe I should just do it because who knows, that may be how I meet new people with similar interests. This is gonna take me way out of my comfort zone, but I think I’ll start by taking a solo vacation this summer.
Do it monie. Life is too short & u shouldnt wait for anyone to do stuff ur interested in. No one is ever gonna be able to give u the memories u gonna make by urself. Do it - this is ur sign 😌🌞
@@tabeagottstein4226 thankyou 💜
Amazing!!
Go go go 💃🏻
Hey Moni!
I am in the same boat as you. Feel free to email me (nakaylabowman@gmail.com) some time and we can be friends or just check in on each other from time to time.
You’ve got a friend in me lady. 💛
@@nakayla01 that sounds great. Are you on facebook? If so I’ll email my info and we can connect there.
It's really weird for me. I was a "loner" for most of my youth, didn't have many friends in school and I became a self-reliant person very early. I used to consider myself an introvert because I was enjoying my alone-time so much and I was completely okay spending days on end in my room, just doing whatever, drawing, reading, watching shows or whatever. Then I moved out to go to university in a different town and suddenly, with all the toxic people gone, I discovered a side of myself that's pretty extroverted. And while my mental health was declining, spending time with other people suddenly was the only thing that was distracting me. I was already unable to be physically alone at this point, but then I even felt loneliness in the middle of a party, in the middle of my closest friends, I started feeling that disconnection. Not once or twice, but frequently. And it was the worst kind of loneliness because suddenly, there was nothing distracting me anymore and I would break down in tears everytime. Because there was something so deeply wounded inside of me that I was just constantly running away from until it eventually caught up with me. It still is chasing after me, but recently I have been brave enough to stop running and face it. To listen to why I feel like this, instead of ignoring it. This is so important. And I've been so much better ever since I've realized that being alone triggers my trauma of abandonment and rejection. That I've not been kind to myself in a long time because all my mind knows is how to hate myself, so I'd rather not be with myself. I also talked to a friend about this and she said "You are the only person that you will spend your entire life with, that's the only friend that you will be guaranteed to have for your entire life. So you've got to learn how to be your own safe space."
What she said is true meditation has taught me that
this is my exact situation rn and I don’t know what to do. How do you face it?? how do you stop running from it? How do you make yourself your own safe place?? did you seek help in therapy? I really wanna get over it. It’s making me miserable
@@user-hg9ls8by4c i wish i could tell you how but I'm really not sure myself. I'm a lot better now but i didn't get therapy (it's hard to find a therapist where i am) even tho that would've been a good idea, i encourage you to seek it! I journalled a lot and tried to really decipher my feelings, like really understand why i feel that way. And i guess you will have to spend time alone and teach yourself how to allow yourself to feel what you feel and not start scrolling, binge watch a show or immerse yourself with work or something like that to distract yourself. Now my living situation is a bit different but i kind of got better automatically when spring started. And i also don't feel fomo as much as i did before, that definitely helped. Now i enjoy my alone time so much, because I'm so busy on most days (I'm a uni student) and i do a lot of activities with my friends, so me-time has become rare. I also got off antidepressants two months ago and i feel like that helped. I'm still not perfectly stable, but for the first time in a lot of years I'm not suicidal anymore and that's a huge improvement. I still cry sometimes and i still feel lonely every now and then but it's okay cuz tomorrow will be better. So hang in there. Life changes all the time and sometimes patience is all you need.
I've felt more alone being in a room full of people than I do actually do being completely alone in my own company. I love my own company, it's so peaceful. Peace & blessings to you all xx
So true. The hardest things for me is that feeling of being around people that don't get me. At least when I'm alone I know what to expect.
what should i do if i feel out of place and alone in my friend group
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@@zarav.z hi you have to tell your friend group i feel alone can you guys talk to me your my friend group please talk to me again to them so yeah goodluck
Everyone in this comment section is so beautiful, thank you for creating this safe space for us all Hindz. lots of love xx
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I am so glad this channel was recommended to me. Your words are exactly what I need to hear right now. I lost my husband last year to cancer amid the pandemic and I am still struggling with being alone and feeling lonely. I am working on building a good relationship with myself again, but it's been a struggle.
i'm sorry for your loss. sending love to you
rip to ur strong husband and condolences to you and your entire family, good luck rachel!!
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May God help you find happiness 🙏🏽❤️.
Im sorry baby 😢he’s watching over you ❤
Why is his messages so on time? I just balled my eyes out, and through tears I said...Most High please help me, I feel so alone, so different from others around me.
I feel you it’s hard being so different from people alone is just an illusion and we are all connected but not everyone is awake and in the present moment the only thing we can do is shine our light to others and spread the universal love🤍
That’s the power of just asking for help. 💪🤍
Only hours ago, I told the same to the Most High. This quarantine has been brutal socially.
I am growing, changing, and overstanding things to the point I sometimes get overwhelmed. I feel deeper than others, I see more, I even hear what people mumble under their breath. It's crazy and can be very exhausting. No wonder they say ignorance is bliss.
I feel like he knows what’s going on with my life 👀👀👀
I love how you mentioned bringing more than an empty cup to relationships/friendships. I relied on my ex to hold my happiness and found that I was bringing nothing but my issues to the relationship, leaning on her for love and relief from my struggles. I depended on it and she told me that it was weighing on her and it took me way too long to understand that giving her the responsibility of my happiness wasn't a gift and was much more of a burden.
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Well you 💖💖💑💑🌹🌹me
i feel you i lost my relationship today due to my lack of self love
Once you start to love your self for who you authentically are, life starts to love you aswell.
Because you are life,
Life is you,
You are a physical manifestation of love,
You are everything,
Everything is you.
You have the power.
You have the love.
Your potential is limitless.
Keep going.
Hey! I saw one of your comments at the channel of Adam from psyched substance, so cool to see people in other beautiful channels, good vibes ✨
@@marte1376 hi, yeah same, I love seeing people who are into psychs, also interested in positivity and growing as a person :)
Ik that a lot are, but there’s also a lot that trip like every weekend and don’t actually do it for the healing etc.
But that’s cool, to each their own :)
Nice to have crossed virtual paths w/ you lol, have a good day 🌍
This is beautiful ❤️
Amazingly stated, so real, so pure, so simple.
"My consciousness is my home, safety, and security." I came
up with this quote a few months ago to help me feel more grounded and stable. Simply to know that I can give that calming, good energy to myself is life changing. :)
That's a beautiful affirmation! I'd keep it in mind
You are never alone you got your ancestors,spirit guide,passed friend and family members and many more just cause you can’t see them doesn’t mean they ain’t there
Yes! I talk to them all the time. It’s very comforting to know they’re always here. Sometimes “strange” things happen to confirm they’re here with me.
How do you feel them? I want to connect with them so bad
@@cris_here talk to them. give offerings. write to them before you sleep but be VERY specific and intentional. bad spirits exist too.
I know y'all know dem twitches in the body. And you feel them with youuu..
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And only ask for good spirits (that serve you or that are close) rebuke darkness
Best feeling right now at being 20 is realizing that being alone is okay and being alone means taking your time to heal and become great
Needed this! Didn’t come at a better time.
Yes, the timing of this video was truly divine! 💫
frrrr just got out of a relationship that no longer served me, and I been feeling lonely
seriously !
@@aarondaniel7777 relatable its time to learn about what does serve you!
We’re gonna be ok ❤️
It’s really crazy how life works. I needed to hear this today
when the pandemic hit, I was also going through a breakup. this was when I finally started spending time alone, and truly learned to love me. one year later, I have almost no social anxiety
Wow that is really powerful
Woah that’s insane
Congratulations that is amazing ❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕
that’s incredible, sending you continued positivity
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I am 16 and left school, went into a full time job i don't like and am leaving, going through my first heartbreak and my only friend is my sister. This made me feel like once i get through this something new will come. i will find myself through this hard time🦋
God Bless you Isabella. Good things will come through. Trust that 🙏🏻❤😊😊
i want to explode
I just wanted to let you know that you have such a positive uplifting energy and I wish I had friends like you because you seem so positive to be around and you give off such a raw positive outlook on life even on the bad days so thank you for making this RUclips channel.🦋🦋 God bless you
same i want to find a friend with energy to add, not people who are searching for energy
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im struggeling with being okay on my own. i feel like im more and more clinging onto my boyfriend and making him responsible for my happiness. i feel like being aware of that is the first step, but there are many steps to go before i can be okay on my own, and i keep feeling a little lost where to start and what to do. this is the first video i ever saw of you, and your vibe is really something. just wanted to get this of my chest and thank you. i will do my best
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I am in the same boat with my husband; I don’t know where to start….this is also my first video of his to see. It’s funny how the world works.
@@laurenwegner6634 same with husband and also first vid! So crazyyy
“It’s better to be felt, not seen.”
My partner of over a year just broke up with me. I was devastated and heart broken and I still am, but this video has made me realise that what has happened, maybe my opportunity to really nurture myself and enjoy my own company. I realised that maybe I was needy instead of independent and wanting to hang out. Thank you for making me feel this calmness of being alone and not lonely. I love your channel and it will help me and so many in our next chapters, thank you
I've been feeling this a lot lately. Ever since I finished high school like a year ago and cut off all of the people in my circle, no one new has showed up in my life - it's been like a year. Don't get me wrong, I'm an aqua and I value my alone time, but I also love friends. I be like Universe please send me some friends, but still here I am in my own space alone. The Universe always plugs, but this period is hella tough. Makes you wish you could have a direct conversation with the divine, and ask wassup? What's going on?
I feel you. Just left school but since covid for the last few months I drifted from pretty much everyone- a big change from my active social life the year before. Same with me, I love my alone time , but I used to have a good balance of alone time and the option to be around people , now that’s not there, it’s literally just me. Feels like the same day over and over, and even as someone who loves being alone it gets too much sometimes. I understand the feeling and that is something u are not alone with. What I’ve seen is that every time something or someone leaves my life it is replaced with either something better or something better within me, so I guess we should trust that, even if it feels stuck right now. I hope u find your people soon , but trust that the universe has put you with yourself for a reason. Take this time to grow, u got this
@@aliakhalil9759 you are literally so sweet 💖 I wish the same for you love. And you are absolutely right about the being replaced with something better part of it! Sending you much love💖
@@sug4rmilks sending love back!! 🤍
I TOTALLY get it!!! I'm an aqua too.. And I do wish I could just ask, "What the heck is going on?" "Where are my people Lord?" Like you said, it's NOT good for people to be alone, so what's the deal?
I feel you on this. It's been two years since I've graduated high school and I wish I would have appreciated my time around all those people and with COVID it's only made this problem of loneliness even worse. I hope to find new people soon, just keep the faith.
For many years of my life I have been alone and I was so used to it that I didn’t really understand that the feeling I constantly had within myself was loneliness. So I tried many things to fill that void within me and I thought I was actually managing it. It came to a point when I was craving being alone, being left alone, because I felt good that way and it felt it was the only way to be. But only after a long time I got to realize that what I was doing was simply filling up my days with video games, movies, book, weed and many other things just to suppress the feeling of loneliness, just to postpone the relationship with myself I was terribly scared of. I realized my loneliness was real only when I started creating connections with people, even romantic ones, and I found myself needing that affection desperately, filling my empty cup through others. The reality is that for many years I was escaping myself without even realizing it. I thought I was doing well only because I muted the cry within me through the pressure of alone activities or through connections which left me only asking for more.
After starting therapy a few months ago I understood all of this and it’s been a rough path for me to really be alone with myself, meaning thinking, pondering, asking myself questions, understanding my real needs and trying to see what I was doing in order to fulfill them. It’s not easy to love yourself when all you know is how to love others in order to fill that emptiness inside.
Luckily now I’m on a good road, I am really working towards this and I’m seeing the results, but it’s a slow process and I know it will take quite some time.
I know I was scared of facing the monster within me but after doing so, I realized it’s not a monster at all, it’s just a scared child who didn’t receive the love it so much craved. The love that was denied to me, both by others and, importantly, by myself.
I recognize now how valuable I am, the beauty that dwells within me and all that I can offer to the people around me. But it’s fundamental I offer all of this to me first, not in an egoistic way, but in a caring, kind, understanding and forgiving way.
In the end I believe we all want to be loved, understood. We all crave a presence in our life which is constant and reliable. But only now I understand that this presence doesn’t come necessarily from relationships or from suffocating myself with distractions, but only from me, from me loving me.
I still have a strong need need for love, I want affection, hugs, support. And I know I will eventually get it from someone and from my friends, family, pets, from activities, sports, hobbies, strangers. But it all has to start from me.
I'm 16 years old and you have impacted me sooooo much. Thank you hindz. I'm finally the person I want to be. Jah bless
This is such good content to have as a 16yr old. You are lucky. I wish i came across this content at that age, would’ve kept me on my path.
With the pressures that 16 years olds go through these days, I'm so glad that you found this channel as well. ❤️
im 17 and same with me
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I’ve been coming back to this video every time I feel alone and feel like I desperately need someone to talk to but I have no one, I definitely realized that I am my own best friend this is just another opportunity to better myself in solitude rather than fall into darkness. Thank you Hindz for spreading love and light !!
Found this video in the middle of taking a three week break from constantly being on social media, constantly being available to others, constantly being “on” and never really taking a proper break to be alone with myself. I’ve experienced anger, sadness, restless, and then finally today, acceptance, peace, comfort. Incredibly glad your videos have been a part of my journey on learning to be alone. I really appreciate this upload ❤️
Мне случайно попалось это видео в момент, когда я одна в своей холодной коммунальной квартире, лежу и думаю о том, что понятия не имею, чего хочу, кто я, что я могу, что не могу, в чем смысл всего и вся. Я чувствую себя одинокой и брошенной. Мне не хватает внимания и тепла.
Слова автора в этом видео поддержали меня. Хоть немного, но стало приятно. Возможно, все не так плохо в этом одиночестве...
Надеюсь, что у вас все хорошо. А если нет, то для нас всех обязательно на станут лучшие дни.
Верьте себе.
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Omg this is so weird, you created this video whilst I was in the middle of isolating myself for a bit from certain people; it actually feels amazing just to be in my own powerful company for a bit and really give attention to myself that I would normally shower everyone else with! Highly recommend being with yourself for a bit! It's not selfish or sad at all, it's actually really healing! I'm feeling a different kind of happiness in doing so! Thank you Hindz! Forever grateful - it really is a vibe ting ✨🙏❤❤❤
@TMUUN oh right! That's so awesome!! I know exactly what you mean - it really does feel so exhilarating and fulfilling just to be with yourself for a while!! I hope you're having a great time in NYC and spend lots of precious time with yourself!! Many blessings, light and love to you!! ❤❤❤🙏
This is also what I'm doing right now. ❤
@@ariellealfonso oh really ! That's awesome ! 🤗
same this was good bc people around me said its not good to isolate yourself, but i know this is what i need and want
@@tiatan2514 absolutely!! If you feel it with your intuition, one hundred percent just go with it! Personally I feel there may be a deep reason as to why you may feel that way! ❤❤❤🙏✨
I just got out of a long term relationship and I’ve been thrown into being by myself for the first time in a long time. This video is exactly what I needed🌱 thank you for this🙏🏼
going through the same thing right now. definitely one of the toughest things i’ve had to go through especially after starting college just a few months ago, but we’re moving forward! wishing you the best and sending you lots of positivity your way 🫶 we got this !
I needed this now. I’m was feeling empty but I’ve filled myself up with the love I’ve been seeking elsewhere. I deserve it.
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I also go through social anxiety and it is one of the most stressful things to experience, worrying that others would judge you or criticize you, feeling like you might say the wrong thing and seem awkward and stuff. I also feel lonely sometimes and it too me a while to realize that there are millions of people out there who also goes through thing I go through, maybe not exactly the same but it helps knowing you were never alone to begin with. Spending time alone and really cultivating and feeling present and being mindful of your environment, getting to know yourself is such a blessing and really helped me go dive deep and have a deeper understanding of myself.
Being alone is such a privilege and a great time to get to know yourself and love yourself deeply, never take it for granted guys! 🙏🏻💞
A privilege, beautifully put 😌
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Being an introvert, I never cared if I was alone. In fact when I was I valued it since I’m in my own space. But my loneliness more on derives from alienation, and being misunderstood by people around me that it’s better to isolate myself because no one can judge me. For the most part I’m not bothered by it, but it becomes a disadvantage when there’s no one to back you up and overall connect with you. I’ve tried to hold friendships, but remained as the outcast who wasn’t invited to events. It’s hard to make the commitment when you’ve tried so hard already, that’s why I’m trying to learn to love myself more and be confident in my own skin :)
This guy's relaxing
Yes he is his voice is so calming
@Michelle Harris he's not fake tho
“I am in good company.” so much peace and reassurance in this one sentence.
I’ve been living a very chaotic life the past two years and especially this year - but I feel a bit more at peace in knowing everything works in my favor eventually. It’s hard sometimes though.
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I find it crazy that I spent a majority of my life not really knowing myself, like i definitely was existing in the moment but I was always caught up in learning about other people and trying to figure out other people and trying to get other people to like me etc. Nowadays, I spend my free time talking to myself and let me tell you, I have never felt so Intune with my emotions like i just be crackin up like a looney LOL And I've noticed that while I've been building this bond with myself, I've been attracting a bunch of high energy individuals into my life, and I am equally as happy with them in my life as I was without them. It took me a while to realize that you don't need anyone to make you happy in this life, happiness comes from within, and even when there's nothing happening, you have to be able to learn how to appreciate the smallest of things in your life.
Thank you HINDZ, you really have helped me these past couple of months
Let’s be honest. I’m my own best company 🤗
Good point
So so true
Unbelievable that this was posted a year ago, when I was feeling the most alone I’d ever felt, & only seeing this now. I’m still in a season of lesser interaction, but loneliness left the moment I became a friend to myself. I wish I saw this last year, but I’m glad to see it now, affirmed.
Everything about you is art. The way you talk feels like music. Thank you, brother.
It's crazy how this video was 17 minutes long but it only felt like 5 minutes. I was afraid of committing to a longer video but I'm so glad I did, it felt like a warm hug and reassured me in my loneliness. I'm gonna focus on cultivating my interests more, I haven't been doing that lately and I've been feeling super lonely. This was a much needed reminder that we are always with ourselves and we need to be present. Thank you Hindz ❤️
Glad you tuned in 😌
I struggled with feelings of loneliness a couple years ago, but I'm a naturally introverted person, so I didn't want to be in a crowd either. What I was craving was an outlet. Adult coloring books, making mandalas with flowers and acorns, and active journaling really helped with those feelings.
Merry me I m alone
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this summer i haven’t been spending time with my regular group of friends, instead ive just been focusing on myself and doing things that make me happy. i’m 17 and i think this is the perfect age to learn new things, find new hobbies, and explore my life and have fun with new experiences. i’m not dating either but this is definitely the happiest i’ve ever been ❤️❤️
There’s materialism. Then there’s ma’tea’rialism 😂
Corny but I get it 😂😂😂
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I needed this video today. There has been many times where I have felt alone in a room full of people. I find myself feeling lonely and never thought about going inside and being by myself to cultivate my relationship with myself. Loved the energy in this vid.
Being born in the 1980's i know both sides of technology. It a blessing an a curse at the same time. I'm happy i was born in time where i could find self in the silence.
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Don’t sweat the small stuff. Empower yourself when being alone.
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I needed this so much. Im so scared of losing people. I’ve had times where everyone i was close to left. my world fell apart around me. i’ve attached myself to anyone who allows me so hard to the point of bleeding. I just want to feel loved. Everything this video offered was perfect. I feel like ive needed to hear this for a really long time.
Sir you have divinely interrupted my mental rut today! This was so needed and affirming. I’m learning what I seek in others - I must first find it myself. I’m in that constant cycle of being disappointed by other people because I’m not appointing myself to take care of myself first.
“It’s better to be felt and not seen” nice words, I´m at this time to reconnect with myself, had to shut a lot of people out to be here just for me for as long as I need, so thankful for RUclips to recommended your video, really felt the vibe while watching
I feel sad and almost not sad because this video came at the right exact time. And not cos I'm drinking wine.
Im currently studying abroad but I feel isolated most of the time despite my efforts of making plans and creating experiences. I often feel lonely in a room full of people and I began to think I was the problem or I was in-likeable. I felt God speak to me through your comforting words. I come back to this video whenever I feel lonely and it helps immensely❤
Enjoying this while I’m alone in bed listening to the rain. I simply enjoy my alone time, the older I get... the better “myself company” becomes.
I never met or listened to someone's voice and felt peace and easily ready to fall asleep. Love this video
Thank you for the nice tea 🤗 I'm "alone" with my two dogs next to the woods for almost a year. I love it. To read a book( there are so many waiting for me), to clean the house, to just listen to the silence. Sometimes I feel lonely, but that's ok.
When you talked about how maybe our energy is not supposed to go into someone, but something, I had to pause and just take a minute. I have never realized this. Nobody has ever phrased it that way for me. It makes so much sense. Something so simple but so meaningful to me. Thank you.
I really needed this...I've been feeling really lonely, trying to understand why I can't maintain close friendships and have people want me around, but maybe I just need to spend better time with myself....
can i just thank you. i only discovered you recently, but i resonate with so many things you talk about. I've been really depressed and struggling over the past few days and just listening to your videos and exploring the concepts makes me feel so much lighter. I haven't been able to get out of bed for three days, but this helped me get up, do my washing, do the dishes, make tea and even feel up to journaling for a bit. thank you so much for sharing yourself with us.
wow this came at the exact moment i got home after a week of feeling isolated while surrounded. i’m going to spend the weekend with myself, thank you
Im going through a breakup of a relationship that lasted almost two years. Its so incredibly hard to think about how much time i will be spending by myself now. Thank you for reminding me that I need to focus on my self connection first. And that my space needs to feel inviting and comfortable to step into
It’s crazy how perfect this topic is. I just recently got out of a very toxic relationship that I was in for 11 years and moved into my first apartment by myself. It’s been a hard transition trying to untether myself from him without filling that space with someone else who doesn’t deserve my energy. The past few days I was really going through it so this message came perfect this morning.
I love u 🌷🌷🌷🌷👧👧👧👧
I like u really ❤❤😍😍
I like your selef always make it so so happy 👄👄💋💋💏💏😚😚😘😘😘😘
having that extra love to give not to someone but to something. wow! that deeply resonates, thank you for the gentle reminder 💛
This is the best therapy session I’ve ever had
I feel like this is such a safe space and makes me feel so good seeing other people feeling the way I do. I’m so grateful that this type of influencers exists and be able to bring us all together, thank you all, remember you are amazing and your worthy of love and happiness 💖
Yes, this is a community, you are our voice, pure love.
Hindz, your ending message about being guided and protected brought tears to my eyes. I've been feeling sad every time I come home, but after watching your video, I'm now seeing it as a opportunity to connect with myself more. Thank you for your videos, I really appreciate your presence and wisdom.
loving the frida shirt ✨
I have literally had no friends. Toxic family. For 40years. Sometimes I am so lonely I pray that I won’t wake up. You have a beautiful spirit. Thank you💙bless🙏
ok, this is exactly what I need. last night I was thinking why am I alone and I started to think that there is something wrong with me. But thank you for reminding us all that we are never alone, that we have to shift our perspective and start to look within. probably I should start using my energy on loving and taking care of myself and do the things that I love instead of always thinking about what's wrong with me.
I been feeling lonely for a few months now but ever since I started watching your videos I discovered a lot of myself that I didn't know, I was going through a deep depression because I cut communication with someone I was starting to fall in love with, I got fired from the job I had in january and I couldn't pay rent for the room I was staying at. So I basically became homeless. I lived in a shelter a few weeks then went to NJ to stay with "family" and I stayed in another shelter like a month and a half because my aunt was threatning to call the police if I didn't leave. I now live in another house and am renting another room, I have a better job, and I am starting to feel a lot better. thank you Hindz for helping me make peace with my own mind.
How is it going?
I really needed to hear this. I used to be really good at being alone, but when suddenly it became a very distant connection in rooms filled with people I kept searching for that fulfilling companionship. today I am alone, feeling lonely but after this video I'm feeling very full. thank you :)
It's like this video was placed on my feed on purpose. Woke up today feeling extremely lonely where it felt physically painful. Not feeling any type of relationship with myself and then stumbled on this video. I think it makes a lot of sense and I need to shift my perspective to be a best friend to MYSELF. Thank you beautiful soul
loneliness is a sign of peace. all humans need peace in their lives. thank you for the upload hindz
I just found your channel yesterday, I had my first self care day I loved it. But that's besides the point, what you said in that video I felt seen and agreed to what you were saying. I don't know how you do it but through the screen I felt like I was there. I was nodding my head and smiling. And today I did too, I even had a cup of Earl Grey Tea. This year has brought a lot of change, I decided to go back to a normal school after being online for 3 years. It's been a ride so far sometimes hard, but I feel like I am slowly healing. And life is looking a little brighter than it was before. This year I dedicated to get out of my comfort zone, while taking breaks so I don't get to overwhelmed. I wanted to thank you for these videos also. Sending positive vibes your way.
What you talk about in this video resonates so deeply with me right now! I’ve been by myself most of the time this past year and really for several years and I used to see that as a problem, like I wasn’t trying hard enough to make friends and something was wrong with me.
But recently, I’m seeing it from the perspective of this time being alone with myself has actually been preparing me to be ready to truly be around people and show up authentically in the world. All I’ve been through and all the solitude has allowed me to grow so much, and to constantly work on myself so now I feel like it’s time to be out in the world and share my energy and my amazing self with others and be felt deeply how I wish to be felt :)
This video has been “suggested” to me since its debut, but I never watched bc I felt I knew how to be alone and I truly enjoy it. Lately, I’ve been feeling alone, but not when I’m physically alone. My boyfriend is amazing and is really the only “friend” I have, which is fine, until it’s not. 😅 I finally watched and I now wish I would’ve watched a year ago. Instead of practically begging my sister to prioritize our relationship, I would have focused more on the “something” instead of “someone”. I feel so much better after watching and I will watch again so that I don’t let your tips fall on deaf ears. Hindz, you have helped me with my self growth so much, I feel like I owe you something. Lol, But seriously, thank you sooooo much. You truly are a blessing. ♥️
The stages you go through while being alone are wild and unpredictable...
the sense of calm that falls over me when watching your videos is truly unmatched. thank you
I’ve been feeling “alone” lately and usually I love being by myself but ya girl has been going through it and this couldn’t pop up in a better time thanks so much for this reminder ❤️
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same girl, I feel good by myself but my mind sometimes slips into cycles of feeling lonely and I sometimes don't notice it and after making something regretful I then realize oh, it was one of those again, i hope your at peace within you, you deserve some quality time
I’m a bit alone but after watching this and reading all these uplifting comments I really needed this energy I thank you all for being who you are the guidance and acceptance is needed in a world like this 🤎🤎🤎
This video made me cry. It's been a tough week for me. Sending love to everyone ❤️
I just discovered your channel with this video and want to say a sincere "thank you". Your voice, words, and gestures are so calm and affectionate. I am pleased to discover your content finally. It is a true present! Sending hugs from Brazil.
I’ve been really stressed lately with job hunting and moving back home, and this video was exactly what I needed to hear. Almost uncanny that way but always so very grateful to listen and partake in a bit of wisdom :)
Hindz your videos are timeless, endlessly wise and a solid support in times we need it most. Thank you 🤍
This is very timely! I'm going through a period where I realize that in my alone time I am the happiest and when I sacrifice that time I end up feeling shorted. There are so many great points in this video and I can't wait to really sit with them and write out how I'm going to apply them to my own life.
Hindz, thank you. Your presence serves a purpose for us all. You are such a pilar of light, much love.
Thank you. I'm alone but never lonely. I'm taking this season to work on me and to find my true self.
I’ve always enjoyed my time alone, I was looking forward to what you had to say on the subject. What I didn’t expect was for it to resonate so much. I’ve been channeling my energy into my art and crafts recently instead of others and the amount of peace it has brought me is immeasurable.
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I totally agree that going within helps with social anxiety!! I have done the same and I’m so much more confident in a room full of people because I know that no matter how an interaction goes I will always have my sacred relationship with myself. Just found your channel and I’m so stoked to be following now! 💓
At the beginning I felt exactly as you said: spending quality time with myself to improve and be better. But after a few months without real contact with friends I felt lonely regardless. I could've done all the things I'd loved but would stil feel lonely. And it's stil that way right now. I know that this won't be forever but atm I feel like I don't know what I want in life. I always need my friends around.
Yeah, I kind of feel there is a difference between needing to learn how to enjoy your own company versus someone who struggles with being alone nearly 24/7. I feel that Hindz is more so speaking towards those who have a decent social support system but still struggle with being alone and thus it makes sense that they should learn how to tolerate being alone for short amounts of time.
But what about for those of us with no social support system who barely get any quality social interaction on a daily or even weekly basis? I just feel that under these circumstances, I am not sure Hindz’s advice applies as well. Because humans are not meant to be chronically isolated from one another, and so naturally someone who lives alone and has no friends or family they see on a regular basis...that person is going to be suffering regardless I feel, no matter how much they try to learn to enjoy their own company. For there’s only so much time you can spend alone before it just completely breaks you down.
@@Amber24426 totally 💯 agree with you! It shocks me when people say “im ok alone” but For HOW LONG? I enjoy my alone time I have people to talk to online and I have family I can see but there is just still that “loneliness” feeling that Ive struggled with for 10 years and thats because I dont trust people so I dont share much but I Enjoy being around good company and I want to be around friends I enjoy every two weeks. Atm I have no physical “friend” that I enjoy all the time which is what makes me feel lonely
My life has been super hard, and I keep losing people left and right, but this video made me realize I’m not alone I just need to learn how to enjoy my own company🦋