Learning to be Alone

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  • Опубликовано: 4 фев 2025
  • Being alone isn’t supposed to be scary. In this video, Fr. Mike Schmitz shows us how solitude can be an invitation and doesn't have to lead to loneliness. God himself has revealed to us how he is a relationship of love between Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Made in his image, we are also made for relationship-with God and with one another. When we feel alone, it is because we were made to give ourselves to others as God gives himself to us.
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  • @theresereyes
    @theresereyes 8 лет назад +1007

    I went on RUclips to distract myself from loneliness but immediately found this video; I'm so glad I did. :)

  • @njnj8759
    @njnj8759 8 лет назад +722

    Don't be scared of loneliness embrace it. it's your time to really get closer to God. It's a blessing in disguise.

    • @eddieanderson9399
      @eddieanderson9399 5 лет назад +17

      Isnt that an oxymoron though.... cause if you have God ur not alone.

    • @giusybattaglia3732
      @giusybattaglia3732 4 года назад +3

      True 💞♥️

    • @worldcitizen7773
      @worldcitizen7773 4 года назад +13

      Truly, it's a blessing. You get to know yourself and your God. It's a great preparation for our final moment as well.

    • @abeladam5997
      @abeladam5997 4 года назад +6

      @@eddieanderson9399 There is a difference between being alone and being lonely.

    • @eddieanderson9399
      @eddieanderson9399 4 года назад +1

      @@abeladam5997 this isn't a case of loneliness vs. being alone lol

  • @michaeldelossantos8560
    @michaeldelossantos8560 8 лет назад +740

    Father Mike is the future generation of the Catholic Church. I pray that the light he emits inspires more young men to enter the priesthood. On the subject presented, I do not get much alone time resulting in loneliness. But when I do I don't ever consider myself lonely, I consider it me time. Time to reflect, and connect to God. Thank you Father Mike from Houston Texas.

    • @calvinmacarthur3955
      @calvinmacarthur3955 5 лет назад

      You said it, enough of the homolobby. The once great Jesuits have turned into a homolobby.

    • @yogawsylvia1616
      @yogawsylvia1616 5 лет назад

      Good statement

    • @JavierGarcia-jg5xp
      @JavierGarcia-jg5xp 5 лет назад +8

      @@calvinmacarthur3955 This language is despicable and un-Christian. You should be ashamed of yourself.

    • @Sbannmarie
      @Sbannmarie 4 года назад

      He's a great man

    • @GurC3-qh9xu
      @GurC3-qh9xu 3 года назад +1

      The light has already been there for centuries. He is merely reflecting what it HAS ALWAYS BEEN in the church and is within you and I and all who want it as Mike Schmitz, pastor is. Orginal SIN causes and prevents us being as Mike Schmitz, Pastor is. He has been purified by the Holy Spirit per Holy Orders and his level of surrender and use of the sacraments allows him to be used instrumentally as he is now.... YOU and I and ALL people can be like him if we choose to be since the early beginnings of the chruch :) :) :)

  • @bagobeans
    @bagobeans 8 лет назад +605

    When I am lonely, that is when I feel closest to God.

    • @joemunoz1476
      @joemunoz1476 7 лет назад +38

      Bag Obeans I wonder if thats how Catholic monks were more connected to God..being disconnected to everything that doesn't matter..and connecting with what matters most.

    • @kissofarose100
      @kissofarose100 7 лет назад +7

      me too

    • @guadajucal6739
      @guadajucal6739 6 лет назад +7

      Same here.....

    • @leamarie6039
      @leamarie6039 6 лет назад +14

      It's been years since I had my previous relationship and even in that relationship, I learned I yearn for a ME time. Fast forward to present---been living in a foreign land close to 4 years now, away from my homeland which is in another continent and 5 hours delayed...I never felt so alone in my entire life when I got up here...yet it was in that moment where I found Christ---he brought me to a life of peace and order filled with mysterious joy. So whenever loneliness hit me again, I might as well embrace it fearlessly. I knew---he never left my side❤

    • @notoriousmigz2427
      @notoriousmigz2427 5 лет назад +7

      You just have nothing else in your way. It makes that connection so much easier.

  • @briankelly85
    @briankelly85 7 лет назад +141

    We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature - trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence... We need silence to be able to touch souls...

    • @aprilunderwood-moore6987
      @aprilunderwood-moore6987 4 года назад +6

      Amen!

    • @theharshtruthoutthere
      @theharshtruthoutthere 11 месяцев назад

      @@aprilunderwood-moore6987 Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child.
      1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
      32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
      33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
      35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
      this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons.
      John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
      And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind.
      What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.”
      We start feeling lonely, because we are on our own, lonely comes not from BEING ALONE.
      KJV Bible says;
      Matthew 6:31
      Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
      Luke 12:22
      And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on.
      Matthew 6:25
      Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?

  • @josesuarez7484
    @josesuarez7484 8 лет назад +446

    God is so mysterious. This video was uploaded with such perfect timing. The message here is just what I needed to hear. 😭

    • @dclarkmusic
      @dclarkmusic 8 лет назад +24

      Exactly the same here. My discovery of father Mike is so timely. So far the two videos I've come across of his have been just what I needed to hear.

    • @MrTwinkie007
      @MrTwinkie007 8 лет назад +4

      yep, same here :D

    • @robertanic7799
      @robertanic7799 8 лет назад +4

      I sit alone most of time, walk alone most of time. Still I dont feel being alone. Walking on nice day is great. Still appreciate time with friends I get.

    • @xanit9364
      @xanit9364 8 лет назад +2

      im not scared of being alone im scared what will happen to me if im alone it seems like when bad things happen, it happens when people are alone ie (get murdered go missing)

    • @davidboubion9500
      @davidboubion9500 8 лет назад +7

      mathias antonio I've lived alone. You learn a lot about yourself and come to love yourself more. It's not that bad. I did have my place broken into, but I realized that even though I lived alone, I have a lot of people who care about me. I let my family know and they came right to the rescue.

  • @veronicasharp7085
    @veronicasharp7085 5 лет назад +149

    Needed this today. Dealing with loneliness even though people are around me. It’s hard.

  • @Henrychoimusic
    @Henrychoimusic 8 лет назад +182

    Thank you for this. I've suffered from loneliness for years and never really understood how to deal with it. The only advice I see is "get laid", so as a practicing Catholic this is such a breath of fresh air.

    • @markj.beukema2131
      @markj.beukema2131 6 лет назад +39

      Henry Choi Yeah, don’t listen to that “get laid” garbage. The people who tell you to do that are lonely themselves.

    • @wms72
      @wms72 5 лет назад +26

      "Getting laid" would only make loneliness worse. Adding pain of misused intimacy.

    • @SnowbunyinIL
      @SnowbunyinIL 5 лет назад +8

      I get it. It stinks. Companionship is much more fulfilling than fornicating..

    • @irazoeseguenza5552
      @irazoeseguenza5552 4 года назад +5

      True. It's helpful when you know that you are not alone in practicing the Catholic faith and that "being laid" is not the answer for loneliness because it would only add up to the void that has been there the entire time. God bless you and will also be praying for you🙏

    • @pattydavis8175
      @pattydavis8175 4 года назад +1

      More bad advice.

  • @gregoneill990
    @gregoneill990 Год назад +10

    Father Mike is actually pretty awesome.

  • @Lilyheart47
    @Lilyheart47 Год назад +50

    Nobody is alone. God is always with us.

  • @MichaelBrooksmsb400
    @MichaelBrooksmsb400 Год назад +5

    One who is lonely, aught to set up a Home Altar with a Crucifix and images of favorite Saints, and let that be the focus when feeling lonely. It actually fills that void.

  • @jellojenna6
    @jellojenna6 8 лет назад +95

    I like your question, "Who is that loneliness motivating me to love?" Even negative emotions like loneliness can motivate people to do good things and to love.

  • @jamesdaceyjr8857
    @jamesdaceyjr8857 3 года назад +96

    Fr Mike, This was very insightful and helpful. I am widowed since 2016, I understand loneliness too well. But, I found that going to Eucharistic Adoration every week, and sit in silence and be open to God for 1-2 hours has helped me greatly. ❤️

    • @kiwiseniora
      @kiwiseniora 2 года назад +5

      I agree.

    • @claybahl5107
      @claybahl5107 2 года назад +2

      James, I am so sorry for your loss. I know it must hurt. But I am so glad to hear that you have used the opportunity to grow closer to God’s love.
      I recently went through the (significantly less difficult) situation of a “breakup” of sorts, and though I’ve healed from the initial pain-the hurt still comes back. But I’m so thankful that God has revealed more of Himself (and even myself) to me in the process. Please pray for me and I’ll pray for you 🙏

    • @remowilliams7569
      @remowilliams7569 Год назад +3

      I sit in Eucharistic Adoration 6 days a week. It is the best hour of every day.

    • @samanthaannfuchsgruber
      @samanthaannfuchsgruber Год назад +1

      @@claybahl5107 sending you all prayers 💖

  • @annamariayannetta242
    @annamariayannetta242 Год назад +4

    My Mother told me, that Jesus will always be there for me, and I will never be alone, when you have God in your life, you will never be alone.❤❤🙏🙏 4:27

  • @hmabboud
    @hmabboud 8 лет назад +69

    Thank you, from Egypt with love.

    • @RamusiewiczRockMe
      @RamusiewiczRockMe 5 лет назад +6

      From Boston, USA to You With MUCH LOVE ! God Bless You !

  • @AyngeMackay
    @AyngeMackay 7 лет назад +37

    I have the exact opposite problem. I'd rather be by myself. People tire me out and I feel the need to run away from them, so I have to force myself to interact. But if you really think about it, we're never alone. Jesus is always with you!

  • @CTY2023
    @CTY2023 2 года назад +8

    Catholics need to have more community like the other Christian denominations. lift each other up .. show love and unity...and connection

    • @marykopydlowski4654
      @marykopydlowski4654 2 месяца назад

      Yes Baptist have church they fellowship. They cook and clean and visit. My church. Kids had to have their paperrs signed after mass. That kept them from running home. Why in the world do we do this!??? Blackfoot, Idaho Catholic church fellowships.

    • @gerdahenirich8733
      @gerdahenirich8733 25 дней назад

      Catholic church just want your money that's it never had any sense of community deliberately

  • @Ughwhatevs
    @Ughwhatevs 4 года назад +75

    My loneliness comes from missing my wife so very, very much. I do not want to fill that loneliness with anything other than God but the pain of this loneliness is very nearly unbearable. If anyone reads this, please pray for my beautiful wife to come home to me.

    • @Hesperell
      @Hesperell 3 года назад +10

      I will pray for you. I would ask you to pray for me for precisely the same thing.
      People want us to "move on" or stop thinking of them as our beautiful, smiling, loving brides. But that's based in a false anthropology. The women who said "I do" are the very same persons as the ones we desire; do not believe anyone who says they are not. They changed their minds? Then they can change them again, if God softens their hearts toward us and we are ready and worthy, if we work on ourselves and become the best we can be (which is good regardless of the outcome).
      I often see that spouses in our position are the wives (the standers) and that the ones who are away are the husbands, at least historically. But that's changing. And I think that it's particularly hard for us. Though we're expected to be stronger in the outside world, we rely on the home and our intimate marital relationship as our firm foundation. And when we fulfill our marriage vows right, we are called to love them as Christ loved the Church. So we're conforming to Our Lord, the Bridegroom, in a special way, and reflecting His relationship toward us as His Bride, the Church, that is Israel, in both the Old and New Testaments, where She was at times unfaithful but was made by Him spotless again.
      So when I start to feel crazy about how much I love and cherish her in her absence and how beautiful and desirable she is even when she turns against me and hurts and betrays me, I just think about the Perfect Man, Who is the very incarnate Logos of the universe, with perfect knowledge, goodness, and wills perfectly in conformity with reason, and how He treated us when we betrayed Him.
      I think too on the Canticle of Canticles, the love letter of the Groom to His Church, a beautiful and cherished Bride. My serenade to my wife is Vaughan William's prelude on Orlando Gibbon's song 13, the antiphon taken from Cant. 4:1 : "Oh my love, how comely now, and how beautiful art thou! Thou with dove-like eyes a pair, shining hast within thy hair. And thy locks like kidlings be, which from Gilead hill we see."

    • @juanitamedrano1400
      @juanitamedrano1400 Год назад +4

      You are a precious diamond. Place your desires in God hands and your shine will bring back your live one's. God bless you all

    • @michaelgoldsun5026
      @michaelgoldsun5026 Год назад +4

      Dont give up fellas.

    • @RYDR6517
      @RYDR6517 Год назад +4

      I pray your wife come back to you , God bless

    • @jadebrown4784
      @jadebrown4784 8 месяцев назад +1

      You pray to GOD with a humble heart and tell GOD to correct and teach you both how to love his way and his way ONLY!!!! YOU NEED TO PRAY FOR YOUR OWN SITUATION!!!!!!

  • @barbarawalsh2875
    @barbarawalsh2875 Год назад +1

    How could you possibly know that seven years ago when you recorded this that I was going to need to hear this today divine providence possibly. The Holy Spirit continuing his magnificent work through you is probably a better answer. I needed to hear what you had to say thank you God bless you.

  • @TheCharlesagain
    @TheCharlesagain 8 лет назад +82

    Again your compassionate insights shine forth! I gently nudge you to write a book, or at least publish a collection of homilies!

    • @danielle4greenday
      @danielle4greenday 8 лет назад +11

      Please write a book Father Mike! That would be amazing!

    • @Totoro-in-the-TARDIS
      @Totoro-in-the-TARDIS 8 лет назад +4

      he has a podcast you can find on sound cloud, look up Bulldog Catholic he posts his homily mini series there :)

    • @johnpeterhalog6098
      @johnpeterhalog6098 8 лет назад +2

      No! If he does that he might not be able to make as much videos. Plus most of the next gen dont read books. 🙁
      We watch RUclips instead XD

    • @jac1161
      @jac1161 7 лет назад +1

      Yes, he needs to help priests write homilies.....! They need help. So shallow and irrelevant! This priest is RIGHT..ON!

  • @christinmiller576
    @christinmiller576 5 лет назад +5

    O Jesus through the most pure heart of Mary we offer you all of our prayers, works, sufferings, & joys of this day for the intentions of Your divine heart. Amen

  • @chaser595
    @chaser595 4 года назад +5

    This is a hard pill to swallow. I'm honestly scared now of all the uncertainties that I'm going through right now.

  • @blairpham9429
    @blairpham9429 2 года назад +8

    I searched up: “feeling empty Fr Mike” in my search bar because your advice has always helped to boost me in my journey, and this video popped up. I really do need to learn how to be happy in my own space, in the presence of God. Thank you Father, again.

  • @derekhalford187
    @derekhalford187 3 года назад +24

    I've been lonely and on my own for years, at times it caused me to seek love and comfort where I should not go. So many times I've tried to reach out and connect with people at church, but find myself being brushed aside as a single man. I'm an extrovert, confident and upfront about things and end up trying too hard to win friendships. I often get involved with activities and show interest in others, but go home feeling dejected. Often after 6 - 10 months of trying, I slide back into the shadows and cry out to Jesus. At times I felt Christians were the coldest, meanest, arrogant people around. All I've done is take strength from the Psalms and now continue to resist the urge to fall into sin.

    • @AL_THOMAS_777
      @AL_THOMAS_777 2 года назад +3

      " . . .the coldest, meanest, arrogant people around. . . " Yes Derek I can tell you even more about that, but thats another item. Now I´ve found to myself - and that´s exactly what the Lord obviously wanted me to learn:
      To be (almost) completely independent . . . So keep your head up and just keep going your own individualistic path . . .

    • @KarenChatterton-uq6rq
      @KarenChatterton-uq6rq 6 месяцев назад +1

      I have always been brushed added as a single cstholuc woman . I know it's a path God wants for me but it can be hard.

  • @Gracias_a_Dios_
    @Gracias_a_Dios_ 9 месяцев назад +6

    Learned how to be content, happy and joyful, and in sadness at times. Letting my life plan go , along with that 'soulmate' was a sacrifice. Your will God.
    All Glory and Honor in Jesus Name.
    And bless anyone who is on or just starting there life changing journey with you Lord. 🙏🙌🙏🙌

  • @unclejerry08
    @unclejerry08 4 месяца назад +1

    I recently lost my husband and although I am going through the rollercoaster of emotions I find great peace and comfort in this new loneliness and quiet time. I trust that God will lead me and I will wait patiently for whats in store for my future. There are no more excuses or distractions but ample time to draw closer to God whole examining my life

  • @mmj9483
    @mmj9483 4 года назад +3

    I find myself back here again.... Thank you God...

  • @JesusPedroza
    @JesusPedroza 8 лет назад +53

    Very well said Fr. Mike, thank you.
    I rather like being alone and being secluded, it's only when I'm out in the world and I observe people who are not alone that I feel those pangs of incomplete loneliness for a moment. So for me, being alone is not not the problem. I'd say my biggest difficulty is having my loneliness motivating me to move outside myself to encounter others because I am very comforted in my complete silent loneliness. One of the things I look forward to the most is being alone in Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament.

    • @dianatutt400
      @dianatutt400 7 лет назад +4

      Jesús Pedroza: It's ok Mr Pedroza, I understand. I choose to love you brother right now.

  • @coldfusionmusical
    @coldfusionmusical 7 лет назад +105

    Hi Fr Mike, your videos are so inspiring. Even though I'm not a Catholic, I love watching your videos. I experience loneliness big time but after a long time I found God drawing me closer to Him through the testimonies of Catholic priests. I've never heard anyone talk about loneliness in such an inspiring way before, it's true what you said about not running away from it and let it purify and move us. Thanks Fr Mike and God bless you too...

    • @hallemikula6895
      @hallemikula6895 5 лет назад +3

      that relationship with God will change your life :) Listen to His calling, and God bless you!

    • @BD-ez9si
      @BD-ez9si Год назад +3

      I am glad you found this video. Father Mike has great videos!! I hope for you that you come to the Catholic Church..It is soo peaceful!

  • @barbarawalsh2875
    @barbarawalsh2875 10 месяцев назад +3

    I’ve been alone for 22 years now. I wouldn’t go back for anything in the world to what I left but it breaks my heart for the things I’ve lost. For the things aren’t things their people, my son and my daughter and the two granddaughters have never met.For whatever reason they chose their dad over me and so there are no reunion holidays, happy, birthdays, or anything else. It’s just another day on the calendar. In fact this year my family announce that they are not going to have holidays anymore because we’re all too old for them I think it’s a shame, it bothers me a great deal. So between my original family who called off the holidays and my marriage family that align with their father I need to listen to this every once in a while to remind me, that being alone is not a bad thing. Sometimes it’s a hard thing but it’s not bad, you just get used to it you fill it in with books and prayer and a couple of programs in a year to take your mind off things. I know that I am responsible for myself, and therefore there were mistakes that I made. I was not perfect. I never will be, it’s just sometimes it’s really hard to look at families who are joyful and happy during the holidays or even walking out of church and know that I don’t have that. So thanks for the good advice as I was I keep you in my prayers. Especially the accelerator foot when you are driving. Have a good weekend. I’ll see you in mass.

    • @silviarobruiz9629
      @silviarobruiz9629 2 месяца назад

      Your family might not want connection but there are many other ways to create connection. Volunteer at church, start a prayer group in your home once a month or once a week. Join a ministry and make connections with like minded people. It won’t completely take your loneliness away but it will meet your desire for connection. 🥰 hugs

  • @and.rew.tran.
    @and.rew.tran. 8 лет назад +46

    As a college student with constant stimuli, this is one of my biggest struggles. Thank you, Father Mike

  • @FlyingMalamute
    @FlyingMalamute 7 лет назад +41

    And here I sit, lonely, that's why I'm watching this. You are very consoling Father.

  • @gvh4168
    @gvh4168 Год назад +2

    Brilliant. Just brilliant 😊
    I like to listen and learn, and I get that every time I listen I learn from Fr. Mike. What a gift he is!!

  • @sme7385
    @sme7385 4 года назад +3

    God and my guardian angel keep me company
    so I am never alone

  • @sophiapostma4057
    @sophiapostma4057 3 года назад +6

    Wow, I'm so glad I found this today. We spent the morning packing up a truck because my family is moving 1,000 miles away tomorrow for my Dad's job. I'm not looking forward to not having my family, I'm only 17, but I'm also excited to be an adult and start really taking care of myself. I enjoy my alone time, but it's hard knowing I'll only see my family every couple months. God's been building my faith a lot recently, so I'm excited to see how He uses this new chapter in my life.

  • @sarahpamula220
    @sarahpamula220 3 года назад

    Delia Owens, the author of "Where the Crawdads Sing". The flood of healing tears word by brilliant word. Wow, devastated.

  • @ribbit1964
    @ribbit1964 3 месяца назад +1

    I have been lonely for a long time and it has been a struggle to fill that feeling of emptiness. Thank you Fr Mike for this message for this journey of turning my loneliness into a blessing 🙏🏼

  • @marcosgonzalez4525
    @marcosgonzalez4525 2 года назад

    May the Holy Spirit guide you and the Father keep you as you shepherd us in our walk with Christ and his cross Father

  • @rvz77
    @rvz77 5 лет назад +3

    LONELINESS is one of the biggest is biggest obstacles I had to face.
    I lost a marriage through divorce to the woman I loved selflessly, yet she didnt.
    Many trials, tribulations.
    AMD LONELINESS was the one thing pervasive in my life. Since very young.
    I learned and I hope others can take from my experience, that when you accept and enter face forward into loneliness, remember to seek God.
    And for God to purify your heart as father Mike said.
    Bc this world is FULL of loneliness.
    When you envelop yourself into smthg like this, you THEN can feel what others feel.
    ESPECIALLY bc you've come throu it to the other side and can help others.
    My divorce, rather than wallow in pity and loneliness, I listened for Gods voice to guide me as there is no mistake in what happens to you.
    God is guiding you through delicate turmoil and despair.
    I am now studying to become a hospice nurse. There are many ppl LONELY, & they need ppl to comfort & guide them to the Lord. Bc the fact that the LONELINESS was not a mistake!
    Learn to be happy with yourself. TRUST IN GOD AND HIS PURPOSE FOR YOU!
    Everything will fall into place there after.
    But ppl spend a lifetime running away from LONELINESS.
    To do God's will we must be brave, pick up that cross and bare LONELINESS to learn from it.
    Itll take a moment apposed to a lifetime of running from it.
    I am ever closer to God bc of facing the test of loneliness He has set before me.
    I wish everyone JOY not happiness.
    Love one another, with your heart.
    As God intended you to.
    Be brave.
    Take care brothers and sisters

  • @eleanornajar3702
    @eleanornajar3702 5 лет назад +11

    "I love my solitude" For me it's my meditation time. Hearing the sound of nature, the birds chirping ✝ My circle..my time..my peace ❤ We all owe this too ourselves

  • @mistyviolet3825
    @mistyviolet3825 2 года назад +1

    Yesssssss, “allow it to purify you, to help you become a Saint or the very least, if I may add, ‘A BETTER PERSON!’”

  • @no_itsjenny
    @no_itsjenny 7 лет назад +7

    I wish I knew how to be lonely well. It's one of my biggest fears--being lonely. I'm always searching for a connection, or a gratification from social media, or a message from a friend or loved one. I think our "social" (but very distant and very broken) culture shows us fake communications and false connections as band aids for a much bigger need for real relationships and interactions. Our 'likes' and our 'comments' are nothing but a facade and interface for a very unreal contact. The anonymity of the internet creates in our homes, in our hands, a very distracting and very false sense of connection. I agree that our culture teaches us to shut down loneliness with distraction. More so, having us show our best highlights to the select group of 'friends' and making it even more difficult to relate to one another--distancing everyone from our true selves, to just the self we portray and 'share'.
    Fr. Mike, your video is so real (as most of the Ascension Presents are) and very telling about the suffering (and ultimate grace) of loneliness. I wonder if in the midst of being silent or embracing the loneliness: is there any prayer or reflection to put my heart and mind while doing so. Love your advice and love your videos!

  • @zerotoleranceforsataniceli4794
    @zerotoleranceforsataniceli4794 3 года назад +1

    Your sister is right!!
    Sometimes we allow ourselves to be validated by a love of / with another, but really our validation is by God's love.
    So perhaps He allows us to be lonely so we learn where our true source of love comes from.
    Then we're alone but not lonely.
    during lock down it was impossible to not feel lonely at times.
    So I asked Jesus to come & keep me company, to lift my mood. And He did.
    It was great comfort & although alone I didn't feel as if I was.
    My mood lifted & I felt quite happy & content.
    Miracles happen every day.

  • @bonifamanlover
    @bonifamanlover 8 лет назад +17

    Father I think this is one of the best talks you've given. God bless you!!!

  • @mayraandchico
    @mayraandchico 6 лет назад +9

    I’ve been feeling lonely for the past two weeks on and off. Your video has broken my depression; thank you 🙏

  • @emilymckellar7443
    @emilymckellar7443 2 года назад +1

    "Can I get an 'amen' anybody? "
    Amen Father!

  • @catholicfemininity2126
    @catholicfemininity2126 2 месяца назад

    Thanks for the reminder. I'm feeling lonely again and you've reminded me and also Bishop Fulton Sheen said when he was lonely he went out and served the poor. We should serve people around us. Not in a forceful way, but to those that welcome our help or reaching out.

  • @roseshakiba808
    @roseshakiba808 3 года назад +6

    "Learn to be lonely, well!!!" That was a cute statement! I liked it. It sat in my heart! Well said, you! :-)

  • @voltaredeviciproductions5531
    @voltaredeviciproductions5531 8 лет назад +25

    As a Pentecostal id agree with everything Father Mikes said but I'd go a step further to say that we need learn to be alone WITH Jesus and become a whole person through our own personal relationship with Jesus. Once we are a whole person we can meet another whole person in relationships.

    • @sceptreandsword377
      @sceptreandsword377 6 лет назад +5

      AMEN! That's what I'm trying to tell people who want to jump into marriage. There is a great pitfall there that can just lead to more heartache. Christ is Our Savior, our spouse is someone who leads us and vice versa to greater love of God through each other, but there is no human power to heal insecurities and loneliness.

  • @Rachel-m9t
    @Rachel-m9t 20 дней назад

    I sit in my room every morning listening to jazz music and drink coffee for about an hour or two but that’s my time with JESUS

  • @ginakendrick2581
    @ginakendrick2581 9 месяцев назад +1

    Mother Theresa was very lonely. This is a great video I remember in my journey I spent an entire winter not turning on the TV or the computer and just quietly Sewing when I did the dishes after my husband left for work or whatever I had to do I didn’t have anything at all on after a while I got very comfortable, sometimes I would just talk to Jesus but not always. I knew he was there. Sometimes I don’t want to talk at all and that’s when I’m most at Peace

  • @OneRandomCommunity
    @OneRandomCommunity 8 лет назад +19

    Father Mike, thanks be to God and thank you! In my first year of college, which I just finished this past Spring, I had a lot of trouble with loneliness. (and I still have a lot of trouble with it now 😅) Isolationism and expecting others to love me were the things I struggled with the most. But, thanks to His grace, He's helping me turn inside out. Please keep me in your prayers Ascension Presents subscribers! :D and I will try to remember to keep you all in mine. :)

  • @calicochronicler6922
    @calicochronicler6922 5 лет назад +3

    I feel happiest and closest to God when I'm alone ❤️

  • @BoazsCrown222
    @BoazsCrown222 8 лет назад +9

    Thank you Father for this light:)

  • @ribbit1964
    @ribbit1964 2 года назад +1

    Thank you ascension presents, thank you Fr Mike. May the Lord keep you on this path , this ministry., God bless

  • @LOVEYOURSELF4WHO-U-R
    @LOVEYOURSELF4WHO-U-R Год назад

    Father it's as if you're doing God's work. Answering all my questions to bring me closer to him... He's smiling upon you Father!

  • @ER-lo1vo
    @ER-lo1vo 4 года назад +1

    Love you Fr Mike . You are incredible❤

  • @nonobrobro3310
    @nonobrobro3310 5 лет назад +6

    I think we can be alone without feeling lonely and truly enjoy our own company. If we feel uncomfortable being by ourselves maybe it is a sign that we should develop a better relationship with ourself because if we truly liked and enjoyed ourself we wouldn’t have a problem being alone!

  • @susanfox9711
    @susanfox9711 5 лет назад +1

    Glad to hear this tonight. I lost my Mom, And a friend of 40 yrs . Both close . This has cause me to be lonely. No family no Best Friend. I will least try now to go with in my self. And not do all this running from lonely sickly feeling i have. The stillness of it. So hard. God Be with me.

  • @jilldezsenyi7361
    @jilldezsenyi7361 3 года назад

    We are never alone...having the meat ...getting off the milk will keep us full in spirit gb

  • @Johnmomoworld
    @Johnmomoworld 8 лет назад +7

    Thank you Fr. You r really God's instrument . God bless you.

  • @gerald4133
    @gerald4133 6 лет назад +1

    We are never truely alone. Jesus is with us til the end. Thanks Father Mike your messages are really goodness

  • @TitanFanish
    @TitanFanish 6 лет назад +5

    Thank you, Fr. Mike. As a young, lonely person, this video provided me with much-needed insight.

  • @marymarshall9092
    @marymarshall9092 7 лет назад +13

    Incredible, even coming from a large family you have to learn to be alone first leaving the nest. Never thought of it that way.

  • @Luci924t
    @Luci924t 5 лет назад +1

    THANK YOU FATHER MIKE, from Bavaria, Germany!! We need much more priests like you, thank you so much for doing the Lord's work!

  • @samurai_knight7779
    @samurai_knight7779 8 лет назад +3

    thank you from Puerto Rico!!! I love how God can speak to me through so many ways. I've learned that he always answers. Maybe not how you think but he will, eventually. Heck, even silence is an answer.

  • @Universal_exports87
    @Universal_exports87 17 дней назад

    Been on my own for awhile now. Thought I was gonna have a family growing up and for a time as an adult. Thanks Padre.

  • @maricelamaldonado1288
    @maricelamaldonado1288 8 лет назад +9

    Thank you Fr. Mike for your wise words. Through you, I have been able to see the Lord wanting to help me keep my feet on the floor. I can't even explain how my life has changed for the best with your inspirational videos. Thank you. God bless.

  • @c.g.jonesze9089
    @c.g.jonesze9089 8 лет назад +6

    I love this motivational speeches on RUclips, but Fahter Mike Schmitz potcast even more motivational.
    Friendly greetings from Germany.

  • @luciaperezguerra105
    @luciaperezguerra105 4 года назад +1

    I like your sense of humor. Jesus was full of a good sense of humor, right?? He was not a sad person, he was content with His life most of the time. I bet He used to talk to His closest friends the way you do. So nice!! Thank you father for all your advice the way you do, so simple & clear. Really appreciated. God bless!! 😇

  • @MsCorina222
    @MsCorina222 5 лет назад +3

    Fr. Mike GOD BLESS U .Are So Precious and A GIFT OF HEAVEN

  • @MartinGonzalez-n1w
    @MartinGonzalez-n1w 12 дней назад

    You. R. Loved ❤️✝️

  • @mya5980
    @mya5980 5 лет назад +1

    I learned that when we develop our faithfulness to God first, before self, we will receive More than when we satisfy our own desires.
    People look in the places for fulfillment where it will Never last beyond the temporary act that is distracting us from facing ourselves.
    Facing ourselves and accepting the goodness God loves about us will grow and fill us with a deep lasting complete grace like no other!
    With this we immediately are transformed,and a quality of love and seeing the beauty in life takes over.
    Its a given!
    A no brainer . He's waiting for us to give us His embrace and hold us close to His heart.
    We are called to the mystical body of CHRIST!
    🙏
    Nothing else will ever top GOD!
    💞

  • @Angelalex242
    @Angelalex242 4 года назад +2

    I've been dealing with this....for decades. Hard to learn to be with myself...because that's frequently all there is. Myself.

  • @shannonabeywardena7323
    @shannonabeywardena7323 8 лет назад +14

    Absolutely brilliant! Thank you, Father Mike.

  • @catwisprer
    @catwisprer Год назад

    Your Sister is indeed wise. If you don’t know yourself - THE relationship could pass you by because you weren’t ready. ❤ blessings

  • @josalmon4742
    @josalmon4742 2 года назад +7

    Thank you so much for this video. I lost my husband 6 weeks ago. I’m lonely and trying to make it.

    • @AL_THOMAS_777
      @AL_THOMAS_777 2 года назад

      Thats exactly a real g r e a t chance to cope with such situatioins and come to yourself !!

  • @latoyabolt9459
    @latoyabolt9459 5 лет назад +9

    This is absolutely beautiful.

  • @adagio7635
    @adagio7635 3 года назад +1

    Wow, I never knew enduring loneliness with strength and dignity could have such sanctifying power. Thanks Fr. Mike!

  • @christianarbaiza4393
    @christianarbaiza4393 8 лет назад +9

    Thank You Father Mike, this is what I needed to hear and understand

  • @Rebecabritney
    @Rebecabritney 6 лет назад +7

    Brought me to tears because this really hit home. Thank you for helping me understand :)

  • @karenchatterton9285
    @karenchatterton9285 2 года назад +5

    It's hard sometimes but I know I am not truly alone with Jesus Christ

  • @Maga-Muffin.59
    @Maga-Muffin.59 Год назад

    Oh My Father, this is something I preach about all the time. This has been my philosophy of life. I have always said that you must learn to be alone before you can be with someone else. This philosophy has served me well throughout my life. My husband used to travel with the UPPR and was gone 8 days and home for 7. I would never been able to survive his schedule if I didn't know how to be alone. It also served me well when he died. I knew how to be alone but not be lonely. I have notice over the years men have more of a problem with this new life than women.

  • @JazzhMinR
    @JazzhMinR 5 лет назад +1

    Just wanted to build on these truths Fr. Mike mentions in this video: I found that it is easiest for myself to "embrace the loneliness" by simply entering into prayer. Which in itself is so difficult but is truly a treasure...

  • @ElizabethLennox-q7q
    @ElizabethLennox-q7q 2 месяца назад

    Wow great reply gentleman above saying when he is alone he feels closest to God, and Jesus

  • @Glory-to-God.
    @Glory-to-God. 2 года назад +1

    I feel most lonely when I am surrounded by people and struggle to keep a conversation. Being alone does not make me feel lonely at all, by God's grace. Praise be Jesus & Mary.

  • @anandjohn4879
    @anandjohn4879 6 лет назад +1

    Yes when you are alone you can reflect well in your life... Very true ... Discover yourself... More in Jesus ... Amen

  • @Scallopway
    @Scallopway 4 года назад

    Dude I started crying at the half end of this video when he talked about Jesus...like how he felt. Though i have Jesus in my life, I've never felt this lonely in my entire life. I wonder what he's teaching me.

  • @emilym8571
    @emilym8571 3 года назад +1

    Thank you Father Mike for sharing your talents here and Thank God for you.

  • @muhendis111
    @muhendis111 Год назад +2

    i am muslim, but it gives me happiness to listen to you

  • @mystearicanohr9521
    @mystearicanohr9521 Год назад

    I never wanted to teach again, but due to loneliness reconnected with my friend, get a new job…teaching. And I’ve gotten to share lots of love with children, and lean on God when I feel like falling apart.

  • @arleneopeliardella1322
    @arleneopeliardella1322 2 месяца назад

    Fr Mike helped bring me back to the church....... I've always loved God

  • @saraalpay9891
    @saraalpay9891 5 лет назад +2

    Father Mike thank you for sharing this. It is something I have been fighting.i have been trying to fill it also up with things. Will try to let it in.

  • @anamnese3321
    @anamnese3321 4 года назад

    Fully right and Fasting teach you so much about loneliness
    Thank you father, God bless you.

  • @mariastephens8643
    @mariastephens8643 8 лет назад +1

    I'm watching this for the second time and I'm getting something completely different out of it than I did the first time. What a lovely episode. Thanks Fr. Mike!

  • @user-or1ye3iz6d
    @user-or1ye3iz6d 2 года назад

    I've had to learn this over the last handful of years. My life has unfolded in a way that I've been alone for quite some time. At first, I was climbing out of my skin, in so much pain from it. That's when I knew I needed to conquer this. Nothing should be that painful. I am 85% better with being alone now than I was then. I know I still have work to do in this area. It's pretty difficult. But this process has brought me so much closer to God. So no regrets at all. I love You, God!

  • @SnowbunyinIL
    @SnowbunyinIL 7 лет назад

    Well said! don't fill a void the wrong way. The Lord will fill our voids and we will not be lonely. I learned this in an early age and it is true He will do it, ask him for it✝♥

  • @gordonalameida183
    @gordonalameida183 Год назад

    It's better to be alone but know that god is always beside you at all times and he will comfort you when you need it. It makes you a better and stronger person and the connectivity between thyself are so much stronger.

  • @rudyrodriguez1471
    @rudyrodriguez1471 11 месяцев назад

    Father Mike, you are the voice of God 🙏🙏👌.. Praying for you and your loved ones.

  • @sheilamurry9875
    @sheilamurry9875 4 года назад

    So much said in such little time.
    +++priceless+++
    Thank you Fr. Mike