Learning to be Alone

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  • Опубликовано: 15 июн 2016
  • Being alone isn’t supposed to be scary. In this video, Fr. Mike Schmitz shows us how solitude can be an invitation and doesn't have to lead to loneliness. God himself has revealed to us how he is a relationship of love between Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Made in his image, we are also made for relationship-with God and with one another. When we feel alone, it is because we were made to give ourselves to others as God gives himself to us.
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  • @theresereyes
    @theresereyes 8 лет назад +945

    I went on RUclips to distract myself from loneliness but immediately found this video; I'm so glad I did. :)

    • @josesuarez7484
      @josesuarez7484 8 лет назад +35

      Funny how the Holy Spirit times things, huh? :)

    • @Theworldisbeautiful9
      @Theworldisbeautiful9 8 лет назад +10

      Same

    • @quietcathmouse
      @quietcathmouse 6 лет назад +15

      Same here, I feel lonely all the time too much of the time too. I must watch this video again as it puts things into a good prespective.

    • @kevinchahine7553
      @kevinchahine7553 5 лет назад +9

      I know right, me too

    • @shaungeorge5656
      @shaungeorge5656 4 года назад +6

      Same here!

  • @njnj8759
    @njnj8759 7 лет назад +616

    Don't be scared of loneliness embrace it. it's your time to really get closer to God. It's a blessing in disguise.

    • @eddieanderson9399
      @eddieanderson9399 4 года назад +15

      Isnt that an oxymoron though.... cause if you have God ur not alone.

    • @giusybattaglia3732
      @giusybattaglia3732 3 года назад +3

      True 💞♥️

    • @worldcitizen7773
      @worldcitizen7773 3 года назад +11

      Truly, it's a blessing. You get to know yourself and your God. It's a great preparation for our final moment as well.

    • @abeladam5997
      @abeladam5997 3 года назад +4

      @@eddieanderson9399 There is a difference between being alone and being lonely.

    • @eddieanderson9399
      @eddieanderson9399 3 года назад +1

      @@abeladam5997 this isn't a case of loneliness vs. being alone lol

  • @Lilyheart47
    @Lilyheart47 7 месяцев назад +14

    Nobody is alone. God is always with us.

  • @michaeldelossantos8560
    @michaeldelossantos8560 8 лет назад +718

    Father Mike is the future generation of the Catholic Church. I pray that the light he emits inspires more young men to enter the priesthood. On the subject presented, I do not get much alone time resulting in loneliness. But when I do I don't ever consider myself lonely, I consider it me time. Time to reflect, and connect to God. Thank you Father Mike from Houston Texas.

    • @calvinmacarthur3955
      @calvinmacarthur3955 5 лет назад

      You said it, enough of the homolobby. The once great Jesuits have turned into a homolobby.

    • @yogawsylvia1616
      @yogawsylvia1616 4 года назад

      Good statement

    • @JavierGarcia-jg5xp
      @JavierGarcia-jg5xp 4 года назад +8

      @@calvinmacarthur3955 This language is despicable and un-Christian. You should be ashamed of yourself.

    • @Sbannmarie
      @Sbannmarie 4 года назад

      He's a great man

    • @GurC3-qh9xu
      @GurC3-qh9xu 2 года назад +1

      The light has already been there for centuries. He is merely reflecting what it HAS ALWAYS BEEN in the church and is within you and I and all who want it as Mike Schmitz, pastor is. Orginal SIN causes and prevents us being as Mike Schmitz, Pastor is. He has been purified by the Holy Spirit per Holy Orders and his level of surrender and use of the sacraments allows him to be used instrumentally as he is now.... YOU and I and ALL people can be like him if we choose to be since the early beginnings of the chruch :) :) :)

  • @bagobeans
    @bagobeans 8 лет назад +556

    When I am lonely, that is when I feel closest to God.

    • @joemunoz1476
      @joemunoz1476 6 лет назад +35

      Bag Obeans I wonder if thats how Catholic monks were more connected to God..being disconnected to everything that doesn't matter..and connecting with what matters most.

    • @kissofarose100
      @kissofarose100 6 лет назад +7

      me too

    • @guadajucal6739
      @guadajucal6739 5 лет назад +6

      Same here.....

    • @leamarie6039
      @leamarie6039 5 лет назад +12

      It's been years since I had my previous relationship and even in that relationship, I learned I yearn for a ME time. Fast forward to present---been living in a foreign land close to 4 years now, away from my homeland which is in another continent and 5 hours delayed...I never felt so alone in my entire life when I got up here...yet it was in that moment where I found Christ---he brought me to a life of peace and order filled with mysterious joy. So whenever loneliness hit me again, I might as well embrace it fearlessly. I knew---he never left my side❤

    • @notoriousmigz2427
      @notoriousmigz2427 4 года назад +7

      You just have nothing else in your way. It makes that connection so much easier.

  • @veronicasharp7085
    @veronicasharp7085 4 года назад +135

    Needed this today. Dealing with loneliness even though people are around me. It’s hard.

  • @karenchatterton9285
    @karenchatterton9285 Год назад +4

    It's hard sometimes but I know I am not truly alone with Jesus Christ

  • @briankelly85
    @briankelly85 6 лет назад +126

    We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature - trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence... We need silence to be able to touch souls...

    • @aprilunderwood-moore6987
      @aprilunderwood-moore6987 3 года назад +3

      Amen!

    • @theharshtruthoutthere
      @theharshtruthoutthere 3 месяца назад

      @@aprilunderwood-moore6987 Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child.
      1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
      32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
      33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
      35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
      this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons.
      John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
      And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind.
      What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.”
      We start feeling lonely, because we are on our own, lonely comes not from BEING ALONE.
      KJV Bible says;
      Matthew 6:31
      Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
      Luke 12:22
      And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on.
      Matthew 6:25
      Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?

  • @josesuarez7484
    @josesuarez7484 8 лет назад +432

    God is so mysterious. This video was uploaded with such perfect timing. The message here is just what I needed to hear. 😭

    • @dclarkmusic
      @dclarkmusic 8 лет назад +24

      Exactly the same here. My discovery of father Mike is so timely. So far the two videos I've come across of his have been just what I needed to hear.

    • @MrTwinkie007
      @MrTwinkie007 8 лет назад +4

      yep, same here :D

    • @robertanic7799
      @robertanic7799 7 лет назад +4

      I sit alone most of time, walk alone most of time. Still I dont feel being alone. Walking on nice day is great. Still appreciate time with friends I get.

    • @xanit9364
      @xanit9364 7 лет назад +2

      im not scared of being alone im scared what will happen to me if im alone it seems like when bad things happen, it happens when people are alone ie (get murdered go missing)

    • @davidboubion9500
      @davidboubion9500 7 лет назад +7

      mathias antonio I've lived alone. You learn a lot about yourself and come to love yourself more. It's not that bad. I did have my place broken into, but I realized that even though I lived alone, I have a lot of people who care about me. I let my family know and they came right to the rescue.

  • @jamesdaceyjr8857
    @jamesdaceyjr8857 3 года назад +89

    Fr Mike, This was very insightful and helpful. I am widowed since 2016, I understand loneliness too well. But, I found that going to Eucharistic Adoration every week, and sit in silence and be open to God for 1-2 hours has helped me greatly. ❤️

    • @kiwiseniora
      @kiwiseniora 2 года назад +5

      I agree.

    • @claybahl5107
      @claybahl5107 Год назад +1

      James, I am so sorry for your loss. I know it must hurt. But I am so glad to hear that you have used the opportunity to grow closer to God’s love.
      I recently went through the (significantly less difficult) situation of a “breakup” of sorts, and though I’ve healed from the initial pain-the hurt still comes back. But I’m so thankful that God has revealed more of Himself (and even myself) to me in the process. Please pray for me and I’ll pray for you 🙏

    • @remowilliams7569
      @remowilliams7569 Год назад +2

      I sit in Eucharistic Adoration 6 days a week. It is the best hour of every day.

    • @samanthaannfuchsgruber
      @samanthaannfuchsgruber 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@claybahl5107 sending you all prayers 💖

  • @cametientaucoeur
    @cametientaucoeur Год назад +10

    I have just lost my husband of 50 years, after being locked down & taking him through his terminal cancer illness for past several years. Alone, no children, I now face my own health situations. As I sat @ a Cancer center I started talking with a man who was with his very ill wife. I went into my RN mindset, trying to relieve some of his stress. My small lump impending surgery/ diagnosis faded to the background, as I connected & I saw that I could help him, even for a brief small amount of shared time. Jeanne (retired RN)

  • @Henrychoimusic
    @Henrychoimusic 8 лет назад +171

    Thank you for this. I've suffered from loneliness for years and never really understood how to deal with it. The only advice I see is "get laid", so as a practicing Catholic this is such a breath of fresh air.

    • @markj.beukema2131
      @markj.beukema2131 5 лет назад +37

      Henry Choi Yeah, don’t listen to that “get laid” garbage. The people who tell you to do that are lonely themselves.

    • @wms72
      @wms72 4 года назад +24

      "Getting laid" would only make loneliness worse. Adding pain of misused intimacy.

    • @ChicagoIL50
      @ChicagoIL50 4 года назад +6

      I get it. It stinks. Companionship is much more fulfilling than fornicating..

    • @irazoeseguenza5552
      @irazoeseguenza5552 4 года назад +3

      True. It's helpful when you know that you are not alone in practicing the Catholic faith and that "being laid" is not the answer for loneliness because it would only add up to the void that has been there the entire time. God bless you and will also be praying for you🙏

    • @pattydavis8175
      @pattydavis8175 3 года назад +1

      More bad advice.

  • @MariaPullatt
    @MariaPullatt 6 лет назад +140

    When I'm lonely, I run to the Holy Eucharist.

    • @makmelaf
      @makmelaf 4 года назад +2

      Why don't you run to the nearest animal shelter and hug a few puppies? You'd be amazed how much that helps.

    • @Sherlock910
      @Sherlock910 4 года назад +16

      makmelaf I'd say that both help. Though I'd give greater priority to the Holy Eucharist because it is God Incarnate who makes himself present to us. Creatures can help us feel less alone, but for how long. In the Holy Eucharist we can come to embrace our loneliness like Jesus did during the agonizing torment of crucifixion.

    • @Sherlock910
      @Sherlock910 4 года назад +7

      And that can allow us to lift up our loneliness and offer it for the sins of the world and the salvation of sinners.

    • @gabbd.2795
      @gabbd.2795 3 года назад +2

      I'm going to start doing this... So God fills me up..

    • @gabbd.2795
      @gabbd.2795 3 года назад

      And I can put this world in god's hands

  • @FlyingMalamute
    @FlyingMalamute 7 лет назад +37

    And here I sit, lonely, that's why I'm watching this. You are very consoling Father.

  • @NakedSelfie
    @NakedSelfie 3 года назад +60

    My loneliness comes from missing my wife so very, very much. I do not want to fill that loneliness with anything other than God but the pain of this loneliness is very nearly unbearable. If anyone reads this, please pray for my beautiful wife to come home to me.

    • @Hesperell
      @Hesperell 3 года назад +9

      I will pray for you. I would ask you to pray for me for precisely the same thing.
      People want us to "move on" or stop thinking of them as our beautiful, smiling, loving brides. But that's based in a false anthropology. The women who said "I do" are the very same persons as the ones we desire; do not believe anyone who says they are not. They changed their minds? Then they can change them again, if God softens their hearts toward us and we are ready and worthy, if we work on ourselves and become the best we can be (which is good regardless of the outcome).
      I often see that spouses in our position are the wives (the standers) and that the ones who are away are the husbands, at least historically. But that's changing. And I think that it's particularly hard for us. Though we're expected to be stronger in the outside world, we rely on the home and our intimate marital relationship as our firm foundation. And when we fulfill our marriage vows right, we are called to love them as Christ loved the Church. So we're conforming to Our Lord, the Bridegroom, in a special way, and reflecting His relationship toward us as His Bride, the Church, that is Israel, in both the Old and New Testaments, where She was at times unfaithful but was made by Him spotless again.
      So when I start to feel crazy about how much I love and cherish her in her absence and how beautiful and desirable she is even when she turns against me and hurts and betrays me, I just think about the Perfect Man, Who is the very incarnate Logos of the universe, with perfect knowledge, goodness, and wills perfectly in conformity with reason, and how He treated us when we betrayed Him.
      I think too on the Canticle of Canticles, the love letter of the Groom to His Church, a beautiful and cherished Bride. My serenade to my wife is Vaughan William's prelude on Orlando Gibbon's song 13, the antiphon taken from Cant. 4:1 : "Oh my love, how comely now, and how beautiful art thou! Thou with dove-like eyes a pair, shining hast within thy hair. And thy locks like kidlings be, which from Gilead hill we see."

    • @ancientseamonster9499
      @ancientseamonster9499 Год назад +7

      Daily mass guys.
      And the gym.
      She'll be back.

    • @juanitamedrano1400
      @juanitamedrano1400 Год назад +2

      You are a precious diamond. Place your desires in God hands and your shine will bring back your live one's. God bless you all

    • @michaelgoldsun5026
      @michaelgoldsun5026 11 месяцев назад +2

      Dont give up fellas.

    • @RYDR6517
      @RYDR6517 10 месяцев назад +2

      I pray your wife come back to you , God bless

  • @jellojenna6
    @jellojenna6 8 лет назад +93

    I like your question, "Who is that loneliness motivating me to love?" Even negative emotions like loneliness can motivate people to do good things and to love.

  • @CTY2023
    @CTY2023 2 года назад +3

    Catholics need to have more community like the other Christian denominations. lift each other up .. show love and unity...and connection

  • @christinmiller576
    @christinmiller576 5 лет назад +4

    O Jesus through the most pure heart of Mary we offer you all of our prayers, works, sufferings, & joys of this day for the intentions of Your divine heart. Amen

  • @coldfusionmusical
    @coldfusionmusical 7 лет назад +103

    Hi Fr Mike, your videos are so inspiring. Even though I'm not a Catholic, I love watching your videos. I experience loneliness big time but after a long time I found God drawing me closer to Him through the testimonies of Catholic priests. I've never heard anyone talk about loneliness in such an inspiring way before, it's true what you said about not running away from it and let it purify and move us. Thanks Fr Mike and God bless you too...

    • @hallemikula6895
      @hallemikula6895 4 года назад +3

      that relationship with God will change your life :) Listen to His calling, and God bless you!

    • @BD-ez9si
      @BD-ez9si Год назад +2

      I am glad you found this video. Father Mike has great videos!! I hope for you that you come to the Catholic Church..It is soo peaceful!

  • @mistyviolet3825
    @mistyviolet3825 2 года назад +5

    When time comes that you are not comfortable with being alone or being by yourself, that is a problem……. And that is why millions are addicted to social media

  • @hmabboud
    @hmabboud 7 лет назад +68

    Thank you, from Egypt with love.

    • @RamusiewiczRockMe
      @RamusiewiczRockMe 4 года назад +6

      From Boston, USA to You With MUCH LOVE ! God Bless You !

  • @blairpham9429
    @blairpham9429 Год назад +8

    I searched up: “feeling empty Fr Mike” in my search bar because your advice has always helped to boost me in my journey, and this video popped up. I really do need to learn how to be happy in my own space, in the presence of God. Thank you Father, again.

  • @derekhalford187
    @derekhalford187 2 года назад +2

    I've been lonely and on my own for years, at times it caused me to seek love and comfort where I should not go. So many times I've tried to reach out and connect with people at church, but find myself being brushed aside as a single man. I'm an extrovert, confident and upfront about things and end up trying too hard to win friendships. I often get involved with activities and show interest in others, but go home feeling dejected. Often after 6 - 10 months of trying, I slide back into the shadows and cry out to Jesus. At times I felt Christians were the coldest, meanest, arrogant people around. All I've done is take strength from the Psalms and now continue to resist the urge to fall into sin.

    • @AL_THOMAS_777
      @AL_THOMAS_777 2 года назад +1

      " . . .the coldest, meanest, arrogant people around. . . " Yes Derek I can tell you even more about that, but thats another item. Now I´ve found to myself - and that´s exactly what the Lord obviously wanted me to learn:
      To be (almost) completely independent . . . So keep your head up and just keep going your own individualistic path . . .

  • @user-qw6dr3cq9z
    @user-qw6dr3cq9z 7 лет назад +49

    Hi Father, my distraction is Netflix. I pray for comfort in silence, God bless.

  • @and.rew.tran.
    @and.rew.tran. 8 лет назад +44

    As a college student with constant stimuli, this is one of my biggest struggles. Thank you, Father Mike

  • @Niggabyte1
    @Niggabyte1 7 лет назад +43

    Being INFP... I'm comfortable being alone physically...but spiritually...I am not alone because I believe in God. :D

    • @suzsiz
      @suzsiz 3 года назад +4

      Same. 🙌🏻 infp and growing in relationship with God 💫✨

  • @josalmon4742
    @josalmon4742 2 года назад +6

    Thank you so much for this video. I lost my husband 6 weeks ago. I’m lonely and trying to make it.

    • @AL_THOMAS_777
      @AL_THOMAS_777 2 года назад

      Thats exactly a real g r e a t chance to cope with such situatioins and come to yourself !!

  • @Angelalex242
    @Angelalex242 3 года назад +2

    I've been dealing with this....for decades. Hard to learn to be with myself...because that's frequently all there is. Myself.

  • @antoniettadimarco8005
    @antoniettadimarco8005 3 года назад +4

    One can be lonely even when you are among people ...
    BUT when God is part of your life, you are soothed in His peace❤️

  • @TheCharlesagain
    @TheCharlesagain 8 лет назад +81

    Again your compassionate insights shine forth! I gently nudge you to write a book, or at least publish a collection of homilies!

    • @danielle4greenday
      @danielle4greenday 8 лет назад +11

      Please write a book Father Mike! That would be amazing!

    • @Totoro-in-the-TARDIS
      @Totoro-in-the-TARDIS 7 лет назад +4

      he has a podcast you can find on sound cloud, look up Bulldog Catholic he posts his homily mini series there :)

    • @johnpeterhalog6098
      @johnpeterhalog6098 7 лет назад +2

      No! If he does that he might not be able to make as much videos. Plus most of the next gen dont read books. 🙁
      We watch RUclips instead XD

    • @jac1161
      @jac1161 6 лет назад +1

      Yes, he needs to help priests write homilies.....! They need help. So shallow and irrelevant! This priest is RIGHT..ON!

  • @sophiapostma4057
    @sophiapostma4057 2 года назад +6

    Wow, I'm so glad I found this today. We spent the morning packing up a truck because my family is moving 1,000 miles away tomorrow for my Dad's job. I'm not looking forward to not having my family, I'm only 17, but I'm also excited to be an adult and start really taking care of myself. I enjoy my alone time, but it's hard knowing I'll only see my family every couple months. God's been building my faith a lot recently, so I'm excited to see how He uses this new chapter in my life.

  • @JesusPedroza
    @JesusPedroza 8 лет назад +53

    Very well said Fr. Mike, thank you.
    I rather like being alone and being secluded, it's only when I'm out in the world and I observe people who are not alone that I feel those pangs of incomplete loneliness for a moment. So for me, being alone is not not the problem. I'd say my biggest difficulty is having my loneliness motivating me to move outside myself to encounter others because I am very comforted in my complete silent loneliness. One of the things I look forward to the most is being alone in Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament.

    • @dianatutt400
      @dianatutt400 6 лет назад +4

      Jesús Pedroza: It's ok Mr Pedroza, I understand. I choose to love you brother right now.

  • @AyngeMackay
    @AyngeMackay 6 лет назад +33

    I have the exact opposite problem. I'd rather be by myself. People tire me out and I feel the need to run away from them, so I have to force myself to interact. But if you really think about it, we're never alone. Jesus is always with you!

    • @RamusiewiczRockMe
      @RamusiewiczRockMe 4 года назад +1

      Yes HE Is, Always !

    • @wms72
      @wms72 4 года назад

      @@Sarandib22 You are blessed.

  • @chaser595
    @chaser595 3 года назад +3

    This is a hard pill to swallow. I'm honestly scared now of all the uncertainties that I'm going through right now.

  • @eleanornajar3702
    @eleanornajar3702 5 лет назад +11

    "I love my solitude" For me it's my meditation time. Hearing the sound of nature, the birds chirping ✝ My circle..my time..my peace ❤ We all owe this too ourselves

  • @nonobrobro3310
    @nonobrobro3310 5 лет назад +6

    I think we can be alone without feeling lonely and truly enjoy our own company. If we feel uncomfortable being by ourselves maybe it is a sign that we should develop a better relationship with ourself because if we truly liked and enjoyed ourself we wouldn’t have a problem being alone!

  • @sme7385
    @sme7385 3 года назад +3

    God and my guardian angel keep me company
    so I am never alone

  • @marymarshall9092
    @marymarshall9092 7 лет назад +13

    Incredible, even coming from a large family you have to learn to be alone first leaving the nest. Never thought of it that way.

  • @TeresaAvila1
    @TeresaAvila1 4 месяца назад

    I am never alone. all the angels and the saints, the Holy Spirit are with me. Allejula

  • @mistyviolet3825
    @mistyviolet3825 2 года назад +1

    Yesssssss, “allow it to purify you, to help you become a Saint or the very least, if I may add, ‘A BETTER PERSON!’”

  • @no_itsjenny
    @no_itsjenny 6 лет назад +7

    I wish I knew how to be lonely well. It's one of my biggest fears--being lonely. I'm always searching for a connection, or a gratification from social media, or a message from a friend or loved one. I think our "social" (but very distant and very broken) culture shows us fake communications and false connections as band aids for a much bigger need for real relationships and interactions. Our 'likes' and our 'comments' are nothing but a facade and interface for a very unreal contact. The anonymity of the internet creates in our homes, in our hands, a very distracting and very false sense of connection. I agree that our culture teaches us to shut down loneliness with distraction. More so, having us show our best highlights to the select group of 'friends' and making it even more difficult to relate to one another--distancing everyone from our true selves, to just the self we portray and 'share'.
    Fr. Mike, your video is so real (as most of the Ascension Presents are) and very telling about the suffering (and ultimate grace) of loneliness. I wonder if in the midst of being silent or embracing the loneliness: is there any prayer or reflection to put my heart and mind while doing so. Love your advice and love your videos!

  • @opencurtin
    @opencurtin 6 лет назад +7

    Loneliness is Gods way of telling you to go out into the world and spread the gospel, what ever that may be helping in a soup kitchen, doing some local work in a charity shop , help someone less fortunate than yourself , there's no excuse for loneliness life is short use your time wisely, and this is coming from someone who has struggled with loneliness...

  • @comic_life_86
    @comic_life_86 3 месяца назад +1

    I am sooooooooooooooo lonely and cant deal, so easy for people to say just be ok with it, its like telling someone with depression just be happy, its not that easy, I have relationship with God, but not having no one, parents, family, friends, husband is really hard, we are not meant to live alone as people, this video doesn't help at all, people say their lonely cause their not in a relationship but don't know what means to be really lonely, I'm not running away from it for years and just spend my time with God and it doesn't get any easier

  • @Gracias_a_Dios_
    @Gracias_a_Dios_ Месяц назад

    Learned how to be content, happy and joyful, and in sadness at times. Letting my life plan go , along with that 'soulmate' was a sacrifice. Your will God.
    All Glory and Honor in Jesus Name.
    And bless anyone who is on or just starting there life changing journey with you Lord. 🙏🙌🙏🙌

  • @kj-my7se
    @kj-my7se 2 года назад +1

    It's difficult to be social when you are locked up.

  • @dianveronikas
    @dianveronikas 8 лет назад +22

    God bless you, Father

  • @marcosgonzalez4525
    @marcosgonzalez4525 2 года назад

    May the Holy Spirit guide you and the Father keep you as you shepherd us in our walk with Christ and his cross Father

  • @calicochronicler6922
    @calicochronicler6922 4 года назад +3

    I feel happiest and closest to God when I'm alone ❤️

  • @Jack-il3qv
    @Jack-il3qv 8 дней назад

    'The greatest saints avoided the company of men as much as they could and chose to live with God in seclusion.' - From, 'Imitation of Christ.

  • @OneRandomCommunity
    @OneRandomCommunity 8 лет назад +19

    Father Mike, thanks be to God and thank you! In my first year of college, which I just finished this past Spring, I had a lot of trouble with loneliness. (and I still have a lot of trouble with it now 😅) Isolationism and expecting others to love me were the things I struggled with the most. But, thanks to His grace, He's helping me turn inside out. Please keep me in your prayers Ascension Presents subscribers! :D and I will try to remember to keep you all in mine. :)

  • @roseshakiba808
    @roseshakiba808 3 года назад +6

    "Learn to be lonely, well!!!" That was a cute statement! I liked it. It sat in my heart! Well said, you! :-)

  • @MichaelBrooksmsb400
    @MichaelBrooksmsb400 10 месяцев назад

    One who is lonely, aught to set up a Home Altar with a Crucifix and images of favorite Saints, and let that be the focus when feeling lonely. It actually fills that void.

  • @aaronreau8556
    @aaronreau8556 2 года назад +1

    For 12 years I have been by myself and I still have been lonely. I hate how people think being alone will soothe loneliness. I think that longing for heaven and a better place; creates loneliness. Isolation isn't the answer Jesus went to lonely places but also spent time with people it is a balance.

  • @priscaorozcolopez
    @priscaorozcolopez 7 лет назад +37

    I know I'm lonely but sometimes I just want to disappear and forget about everybody but then I feel alone idk how to explain this feeling 😞😑😑

  • @mayraandchico
    @mayraandchico 5 лет назад +7

    I’ve been feeling lonely for the past two weeks on and off. Your video has broken my depression; thank you 🙏

  • @voltaredeviciproductions5531
    @voltaredeviciproductions5531 7 лет назад +25

    As a Pentecostal id agree with everything Father Mikes said but I'd go a step further to say that we need learn to be alone WITH Jesus and become a whole person through our own personal relationship with Jesus. Once we are a whole person we can meet another whole person in relationships.

    • @sceptreandsword377
      @sceptreandsword377 5 лет назад +5

      AMEN! That's what I'm trying to tell people who want to jump into marriage. There is a great pitfall there that can just lead to more heartache. Christ is Our Savior, our spouse is someone who leads us and vice versa to greater love of God through each other, but there is no human power to heal insecurities and loneliness.

  • @bonifamanlover
    @bonifamanlover 7 лет назад +17

    Father I think this is one of the best talks you've given. God bless you!!!

  • @muhendis111
    @muhendis111 Год назад +1

    i am muslim, but it gives me happiness to listen to you

  • @mrscms831
    @mrscms831 4 года назад +3

    Heres hoping we took your advice from back in 2016. There will be some real lonely folks out there now in 2020.

  • @sarahpamula220
    @sarahpamula220 2 года назад

    Delia Owens, the author of "Where the Crawdads Sing". The flood of healing tears word by brilliant word. Wow, devastated.

  • @gvh4168
    @gvh4168 10 месяцев назад +1

    Brilliant. Just brilliant 😊
    I like to listen and learn, and I get that every time I listen I learn from Fr. Mike. What a gift he is!!

  • @ILLRICARDO
    @ILLRICARDO 6 лет назад +2

    I've been alone and in darkness so long, that I find it comforting....i feel weird being around people.

  • @BoazsCrown222
    @BoazsCrown222 8 лет назад +9

    Thank you Father for this light:)

  • @headingnorth5701
    @headingnorth5701 5 дней назад

    It's hard. Especially if you're not comfortable with being social. A chosen loneliness and also a mandated loneliness from God. A double whammy.

  • @markantonelli53
    @markantonelli53 Год назад +1

    I’ve been lonely for as long as I can remember. I’m not worthy of the love of another person, I’m not even worthy of God’s love, so I’m not sure where to go from here

  • @barbarawalsh2875
    @barbarawalsh2875 Месяц назад

    I’ve been alone for 22 years now. I wouldn’t go back for anything in the world to what I left but it breaks my heart for the things I’ve lost. For the things aren’t things their people, my son and my daughter and the two granddaughters have never met.For whatever reason they chose their dad over me and so there are no reunion holidays, happy, birthdays, or anything else. It’s just another day on the calendar. In fact this year my family announce that they are not going to have holidays anymore because we’re all too old for them I think it’s a shame, it bothers me a great deal. So between my original family who called off the holidays and my marriage family that align with their father I need to listen to this every once in a while to remind me, that being alone is not a bad thing. Sometimes it’s a hard thing but it’s not bad, you just get used to it you fill it in with books and prayer and a couple of programs in a year to take your mind off things. I know that I am responsible for myself, and therefore there were mistakes that I made. I was not perfect. I never will be, it’s just sometimes it’s really hard to look at families who are joyful and happy during the holidays or even walking out of church and know that I don’t have that. So thanks for the good advice as I was I keep you in my prayers. Especially the accelerator foot when you are driving. Have a good weekend. I’ll see you in mass.

  • @barbarawalsh2875
    @barbarawalsh2875 6 месяцев назад +1

    How could you possibly know that seven years ago when you recorded this that I was going to need to hear this today divine providence possibly. The Holy Spirit continuing his magnificent work through you is probably a better answer. I needed to hear what you had to say thank you God bless you.

  • @shannonabeywardena7323
    @shannonabeywardena7323 8 лет назад +14

    Absolutely brilliant! Thank you, Father Mike.

  • @mditt7
    @mditt7 10 месяцев назад

    This speaks to me deeply. There is a verse in a song called "Laughing Boy" written about Irish Playwright Brendan Behan which has long resonated with me - "He can't stand up. he can't sit down. He wants to be alone. No! He wants to be surrounded."

  • @pereboom23
    @pereboom23 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for sharing. I am more a Protestant but I agree with you ❤❤

  • @lyndabrady3557
    @lyndabrady3557 11 месяцев назад

    I'm 75, my husband is deceased, my kids are grown & gone = I'm Finally ALONE. PTL!!! I love it; I love it; I love it; I love it.... I'm my Own BESTIE, & since I Like Me - it's GREAT!!!

  • @terrariumelio974
    @terrariumelio974 3 года назад +1

    I love being alone. The older I get the more people disappoint me. So I’ve grown to be happy being alone.

  • @maricelamaldonado1288
    @maricelamaldonado1288 8 лет назад +9

    Thank you Fr. Mike for your wise words. Through you, I have been able to see the Lord wanting to help me keep my feet on the floor. I can't even explain how my life has changed for the best with your inspirational videos. Thank you. God bless.

  • @catholicism31
    @catholicism31 Год назад +1

    When I’m by myself I never feel lonely.

  • @revertforward9701
    @revertforward9701 Год назад +2

    Thank you Ft. Mike. I never thought in a million years I could be a saint one day but I might just be on my way! lol j/k... You're amazing. Thank you for all you do. I'm on day 202.

  • @iowanation1034
    @iowanation1034 Год назад

    I remember some years back a church friend of mine asked me, are you needy Jim?
    I went into quiet mode instantly. I was hurt but didn't let on.. I went home and pondered that question. Am I needy ?
    I came to the conclusion that indeed I was. I defined needy as being insecure but when my friend said needy he was
    just saying needy to be nice I guess.
    I started praying alot more and asking God to help me with being single and
    insecure. I didn't like being insecure, I had to change by turning my selfish will over to God. I started volunteering alot at church with, Kiwanis, bible studies , playing guitar at bible study. Getting out of myself and helping others. Getting to know others helped me get out of myself . I am a better person now years later. I got involved with life. God will help you along the journey. One day at a time.

  • @isabellazegarra7554
    @isabellazegarra7554 8 месяцев назад

    The biggest thing I have learned in this vocational discernment, is that when something is uncomfortable, when you are reacting maybe negatively…that’s when you bring it to God, and ask Him “ why this is thing hurting me, affecting me?” and that’s when He can start to work on these things, it’s we’re our purification begins, at least that’s what’s being happening to me…and it’s insane! INSANE!! Ahh… thank God, thank God!

  • @josephshue4312
    @josephshue4312 11 месяцев назад

    I listen to you every day !! I 🙏 to the Lord 🎉🎉😅 praise the Lord..

  • @TitanFanish
    @TitanFanish 5 лет назад +4

    Thank you, Fr. Mike. As a young, lonely person, this video provided me with much-needed insight.

  • @john.momo.
    @john.momo. 8 лет назад +7

    Thank you Fr. You r really God's instrument . God bless you.

  • @remowilliams7569
    @remowilliams7569 Год назад

    Being alone and being lonely are two different things. I am totally alone. However, because God is the center of my life I am never lonely, not for a single second.

  • @mmj9483
    @mmj9483 3 года назад

    I find myself back here again.... Thank you God...

  • @ER-lo1vo
    @ER-lo1vo 3 года назад +1

    Love you Fr Mike . You are incredible❤

  • @c.g.jonesze9089
    @c.g.jonesze9089 8 лет назад +6

    I love this motivational speeches on RUclips, but Fahter Mike Schmitz potcast even more motivational.
    Friendly greetings from Germany.

  • @eaumartineau7890
    @eaumartineau7890 5 лет назад +3

    I'm alone ALL the time

  • @mya5980
    @mya5980 4 года назад +1

    I learned that when we develop our faithfulness to God first, before self, we will receive More than when we satisfy our own desires.
    People look in the places for fulfillment where it will Never last beyond the temporary act that is distracting us from facing ourselves.
    Facing ourselves and accepting the goodness God loves about us will grow and fill us with a deep lasting complete grace like no other!
    With this we immediately are transformed,and a quality of love and seeing the beauty in life takes over.
    Its a given!
    A no brainer . He's waiting for us to give us His embrace and hold us close to His heart.
    We are called to the mystical body of CHRIST!
    🙏
    Nothing else will ever top GOD!
    💞

  • @Luci924t
    @Luci924t 4 года назад +1

    THANK YOU FATHER MIKE, from Bavaria, Germany!! We need much more priests like you, thank you so much for doing the Lord's work!

  • @RT-qp3jl
    @RT-qp3jl Месяц назад

    Thank you for your modern take on the human condition! To be lonely is NOT "BAD" or good, it simply IS a sign to go inward to reflect the why. It makes me feel so good to be supported in feeling the loneliness, going through it, and then accepting the answers that come. What a blessing! Loneliness is a great lesson to eventual actions and lessons

  • @samurai_knight7779
    @samurai_knight7779 7 лет назад +3

    thank you from Puerto Rico!!! I love how God can speak to me through so many ways. I've learned that he always answers. Maybe not how you think but he will, eventually. Heck, even silence is an answer.

  • @TheAulim
    @TheAulim 8 лет назад +26

    Thank you, I needed it so much today! :)

    • @PaperTrailsAnimation
      @PaperTrailsAnimation 7 лет назад

      He isn't what you need ! You need scripture, and more importantly God's son Jesus Christ !

    • @TheAulim
      @TheAulim 7 лет назад +3

      That is true! But the words gave me life....so I think Jesus spoke through him. However, you are right, I need Jesus and only Him! :)

    • @AJ_Jingco
      @AJ_Jingco 6 лет назад

      +IDK God uses us human beings as instrument to spread God's word just like God did to Father Mike. Maybe you belong in a Protestant CULT like Seventh Day Adventists, Mormons or Jehovah's Witnesses!

  • @gordonalameida183
    @gordonalameida183 Год назад

    It's better to be alone but know that god is always beside you at all times and he will comfort you when you need it. It makes you a better and stronger person and the connectivity between thyself are so much stronger.

  • @latoyabolt9459
    @latoyabolt9459 5 лет назад +9

    This is absolutely beautiful.

  • @ribbit1964
    @ribbit1964 Год назад +1

    Thank you ascension presents, thank you Fr Mike. May the Lord keep you on this path , this ministry., God bless

  • @arwenrivendale
    @arwenrivendale 2 года назад

    Sitting alone for an hour by yourself. That is called meditation 🧘‍♀️ and we sleep dream and function more efficiently 🙏🏻Lovely message 🤗

  • @heekyungkim8147
    @heekyungkim8147 Год назад

    I was searching on youtube how to be happy alone and i found Father Mike…. Been living alone past 20 years….i start to think my life is meant to be alone….

  • @karencahill2493
    @karencahill2493 3 года назад

    I’m 63 years old and this is one issue I continue to struggle with. I have struggled since I was 6 years old.

  • @Carolina480
    @Carolina480 24 дня назад

    I feel lonely and it’s sad that the world it’s worse now no matter how i try to approach people only to be ignored because this world it’s so materialistic and cold people are heartless and selfish so I pray and talk to god constantly so I can deal with it god it’s great

  • @gregoneill990
    @gregoneill990 Год назад

    Father Mike is actually pretty awesome.

  • @johnduran8102
    @johnduran8102 6 лет назад

    I get lonely and im use to it because im always alone,,i have no family or friends because I don't smoke, drink or do drugs nor party,,i had a massive heart attack in 2010 and became disabled,therefore I no longer work,,,,,there went all my so called friends,,both my parents are now gone, I have siblings but we don't speak,call,or email,,i rarely leave my apt. because I have no car,or money,i get a check once a month and I take care of my rent,groceries and bills,,i go to doctor appts.,othere than that I stay home alone,,i have a cat,,watch tv.listen to music or get on the internet,,today its 4 a.m and I found father mike,,well im catholic so why not?,,i enjoy all his videos and it helps me get thru my day,,,its just like talking to my priest every day.

  • @peggylyons9885
    @peggylyons9885 6 лет назад +1

    I've been alone for 18 years and I'm fine with it most the time (under normal circumstances), holidays can be hard but other than that I'm quite happy with my own company.
    Right now my life has been ripped out from under my feet, that is stressful.