Realest shit ive ever heard man. Im 14, I feel that I matured before everyone at the current age of 14. Nobody understands you. Its difficult to find people that are like me man. Wise, smart, looking to go places in the future. It truly is a blessing and a curse.
@@youtube_anti see where you comin from. I’m 15. I’ve always felt like I disconnected and “woke up” since 8th grade. It’s not easy finding compatible people similar to me. But I gotta keep going within and it will come. Idk your situation but do what best suits u and it will get better
@@isaiahGrant222 I’m also 15 and it’s so crazy bc since 8th grade too I see the world totally different, I can’t even trust my closest friends bc I realised that they will abandon u if they need to without any remorse. I just feel like everyone now lives for themselves and there’s never someone that you can trust 100% bc at the end of the day they are friends with you when it benefits them. Idk if it’s understandable. I feel like nobody is actually genuine and there for u.
@@noo5118 100% see where u coming frm. Most people live for themselves and most are not genuine. It’s sorta like a stage. People gonna show different acts of themselves
the timing of this…. i’ve recently started avoiding my “friends” and no one has reached out to ask why, so imma keep doing it, i refuse to stay somewhere where im not valued
_yeah I get that, I’m always reaching out first too. It’s kinda frustrating. I try to give people benefit of the doubt though because they’re really going through something. Although I also wanted to say just because people don’t reach out first doesn’t mean they don’t care. Some people don’t initiate convo but they still care. But if you have to do it all the time, maybe reconsider your friendship or try speaking to them if you haven’t already_
🏆 Girl I am a young 54 yr old & it’s been this way all my life. Friends-if they take advantage of our kindness and our authentic hearts, and lie and betray… Or just aren’t there for us when we need a friend all these things I would ignore because I cared about my friends. Same with exes it’s sad but true but people that are kind and genuine, the ones who shine their light because it’s just there and us… Taken advantage of and it hurts so much time and time again. I am alone. I won’t be with others anymore now that don’t have the same standards that I do because it’s wasting my time and energy, and we can’t get that back
anyone who has been in the company of the wrong people would 100% understand that no matter how bad loneliness gets, being around unhealthy people is another level of pain.
I hate when people make fun of others for being alone. Some of us dont wanna deal with the bs and some of those same people that claim to have tons if friends are surrounded by people that dont really care about them
Distancing myself, cutting people out of my life, being “alone” has helped me heal tremendously. Because I haven’t been subjected to people’s abuse. I am fortunate though to have one very close relationship in my life worth holding onto. And that’s also tremendously healing. I think sometimes that we are evolving to be alone.
It’s so frustrating trying to maintain relationships with people who are avoidant and lack communication skills. It’s incredibly frustrating trying to find someone who is fully honest and truthful, when many people aren’t even honest with themselves, let alone another person.
My girlfriend of 3 1/2 years the love of my life just broke up with me simply because she refused to communicate or be truthful about what was bothering her. This is so facts
When someone comes into your life or crosses your path, do not give freely or hold too tightly; they are on their own path and if you start following their path by giving them what they want or holding onto what they have to offer, you will lose your path. Namaste.
I pushed away a friend group that actually cared about me, and i did that because i wanted to be on the internet 24/7 i didn't know i was messing myself up until i seen their high school graduation photo all of my elementary school friends in one photo all grown up and happy i remember i cried myself to sleep that night and 2 months later they took a picture infront of the college they got into and it was the same college we used to talk about in middle school it made me realize what i had done to myself i picked the online life over real life. i threw away potentionally a long term friendship for games that get boring.
@@ladder2056hey i only have 1 friend from school i still fw and she lives states away from me but we still have a great connection. and it’s definitely a whole process, i’ve been working on this for 5 months now and i’m no where near where i want to be but i have made progress! you gotta give yourself props for even the smallest things :)
yes I used to see being alone especially in a social setting as one of the worst experiences, made me such an anxious person but I learned to be more comfortable w myself, my company and it also made me see people differently, it opens ur eyes to many things
My friend…recently told me he wanted a break but not just from me. But the whole group. Sometimes my ego took over, I brought him down unknowingly and I was arrogant. But I was also greedy. Take take take. I come from a not so supportive household, I don’t come by things as easily as my friends do with their parents. Even just basic needs. As I watch this video I realize what I’ve done. I feel gross and disgusted because I never wanted to be like that. But I am grateful for him and I hope he grows just as much as I will try and continue to grow as well.
please stand by him bro he may need a break but soon enough will go back looking for you guys my friend group dropped me just because i would tell them i needed a break and self observe my life and it suckked bc when i finally got back up they just turned around and closed the door on me
Surround yourself with good people. You’ll find them. And if you have good family that supports you, never take that for granted and show them the upmost love. Being alone is never the option. We all need some help a long the way.
the best thing to do is to be your own best friend. the biggest reason people arent comfortable alone is because theyre relationship with themselves isnt healthy
they say the worst thing to be in life is alone but the worst thing in life is being around people who make you feel alone it's better to be alone with yourself than to be with those who make you feel like that
Bingo.👍🎯 Your finally figuring out the key 🗝️ to happiness. I'm 52 been alone since 2017. No joke. I answer to only me. Do what i want. It's quiet when i need quiet. I watch what i want on tv or my cell phone. Hey i Miss a good woman. But not easy to find. But it's difficult to explain how much I'm ok with me. I've got family. And 4 kids. Few grand kids. But when I'm amongst quiet just me and my little dog. It's ok. I'm ok. It's working well for me.
I have a "friend" that only used me for weed and tobacco, the minute I told him to stop asking for things he turned extremely toxic. I am so much happier not pretending to be friends with someone who is fake. I have no friends but I would rather be alone than have this negativity dragging me down.
Very true. people do not socialize with each other anymore. If you are out in public you are acknowledged that you are there but are ignored. Human interaction is dead.
I don’t think so personally, human interaction is only dead if you make it that way. I find if I compliment a strangers shoes, a stranger will compliment my t shirt the next day. The universe has its energy and we are all connected
@@lukas_jennithhuman interaction is definitely dead things are not the same anymore people don’t even lift their heads up to look and speak to you everyone try to avoid everyone
@@Honeyyredzwhen I go outside I wanna talk to people, chances are that when you go outside there's someone like me just whaiting to find someone to talk to, you put all these invisible walls around you that paint a picture for you about life and humans, someone else already said it, be the change, sounds corny but its true.
Friendship in 2024 is almost non-existent. People surround themselves with people they don't actually know just so they don't have to be by themselves and learn who they are because they're scared.
Man... Your wisdom is far beyond your age brother. I'm 23 and I gotta say the information you bless your viewers with is gold. Resonates deep bro, your definitely an old soul. Much love from the UK
Once you are best version of yourself, which may take being alone. It will be a lot easier to find similar people! Don’t give up hope, your far too young much like the other people around you
For the first time in three years, I finally am taking time to myself, healing, confronting my truths and practicing how to live to become a better person for me. Took social media apps off my phone and been becoming more present & aware. I’m also standing up more for myself but not in an aggressive manner. Difficult thing for me was ending a relationship that was a rebound which spiritually my gut was telling me this wasn’t good for me due to the honeymoon phase and didn’t give myself time to heal properly and shortened my circle. Best thing I done for me was actually self reflecting and choosing me which wasn’t the easiest task. But day by day I’m slowly getting used to it
The timing of this video is crazy! I have been alone a lot recently, cutting myself off from toxic relationships. You are speaking facts. 99% of the people who I am/was friends with were people who give and take from me and I have learned just to cut them out. I have been lonely lately, it made me realize you can be your only best friend. This year is a time of healing for me.
Being alone made me realize my own faults, get to know myself better, and what bonds really mean, it's either isolation or ending it all for me, and the latter being something I don't want to do, I have a hard time accepting my own mistakes and not being social enough due to my anxiety, but I try to get somewhere everyday, wishing the best to you and everyone going through something too, much love
I recently found out my ex girlfriend who I was trying to rekindle with had been messing around with my bestfriends brother, and they all had been lying to my face for a month. The sentiment of this video is incredible and honestly this deserves so many more views. I strive to one day adopt this mindset and will work towards it everyday. This is quality RUclips bro
One of the most painful things in this life is to continue putting yourself in situations or around people who consistently belittle and hurt you, it’s only a matter of time before it becomes too much. The presence of being alone is a battle at first but it’s so peaceful and rewarding to yourself in the end.
Solitude have been the centerpiece of my life now. There’s no distractions and there’s nobody in my way, impeding forward/upward progression. I refuse to allow a bunch of noise to gain entry into my space.
I’m in a similar state. Due to factors I can’t really control I only have maybe 2 real friends with a few surface level work friends. Although I don’t like being alone I have to accept it at this point. It ruined a lot of things and I struggle to enjoy much other than escaping to any fantasy world I can…
I’ve been thinking a lot about my friendships since I lost my phone. Nobody cares to call and even though I reached out to the so called friends, they don’t care! And it just gets back to silence like all this time I just had digital friends
From personal experience I can say, once you made the realisation that they don’t ACTUALLY care about you, it’s not hard to cut them off. I’ve done the same some years ago with a lot of „friends“ and I never regretted that decision. I’d say think about it well but also think about that there are people who will care about you and who will reach out to you no matter what. You deserve better than people who can’t even reach out.
I feell like my mind was so cluttered when i was around people constantly, and once i learned to find places where i could be alone my mind has never been clearer. Gives me more room to find the right people who genuinely care for me as much as i do them.
I suppose watching this video right about a week from new year's [and my birthday] holds immense value. I've had trouble choosing myself ahead of all others for a fairly decent time of my life, and through these moments after watching this video, I am really pushed to look into myself and what my life really is. And i'm grateful for that. Thank you, Shimon.
It gets lonely but I keep telling myself its better to be alone than sick with someone else. Pray for us all in that boat for strength and courage to keep doing
What I’ve learnt is to not rush into relationships, I see everyone else around me in new relationships everyday, which sounds crazy, but it’s true. Also being alone helps you focus on yourself rather than others. It’s gonna be tough at the start, but in the end it will be worth it.
Thank you for the video. When i was 18 years old and fed up with ppl that was calling themselves my friends, i wrote in my notebook "you have to look out for yourself cuz at the end of the day you will always be by yourself" and this thought sticks with me since. I am 21 now and these words still apply. I realised that only by taking care of myself, I can set healthy boundaries and be happy with my relationships with other ppl, even if it mean taking breaks from any form of socializing. This resonates well with message in this video. Its nobody responsibility to save you but yours. Take care of yourself ppl.
Listening to this makes me feel so calm…like a therapy. You tell us it’s okay this is life you’re not the only one experiencing these things. People can treat you good and bad…it’s life.
Yeah is true. I’ve been through this my whole life. At a point i just stayed home for a whole month and nobody even gave me a text other than “can you help me with this and that” and it was eye opening for sure. I have one friend and my girl now
I’ve recently took a hiatus towards all of my friends. I realized that they were influencing the decisions I’m making for my life and it’s really helped. I’ve gained such a clarity of what I want in my future how I’m going to get it and what I need to do. Bottom line is, I was hanging with friends that were building their worlds while I wasn’t building mine. Don’t be 2 selfless is what I learned. You gotta get yo shi 2♥️
this is 100% true. me and her split after 4 years, im 21. met this girl at 17. shortly after we ended, i cut my friends off as well. its been a weird lonely month but it has its ups and downs. if youre reading this, stay strong, as men its the only option we have
Thank you man. I needed to hear this. You never realize how many transactional relationships you have till you step back and realize you're the one giving everything (emotionally, etc) only to receive so little. I think a lot of people let the fear of being alone stop them from having that moment of solitude where they can really understand their own needs and issues. It's okay to take time to yourself.
Don’t spoil yourself and your hobbies for us. If we can’t accept you living your own life we don’t deserve your words in general. You have an amazing soul and don’t let anyone take that from you. Keep your head up brother🖤
Being alone is never the permanent solution, but may help you in the moment for when you do find someone. That's what I've learned and that's what's happening to me personally.
That's why I only do things and try to chase my goals in silence, I don't tell my friends specifics. I utilize friendships when its beneficial to me, if its not beneficial I am fine with letting them go at this point.
I’ve went through this evolution last year. I’ve watched all my friends and family that I knew and love die, betray me, try to use me, and walk away from me. I was alone. And it was the hardest time to be so for me, mentally. But I knew deep down I needed to do it. I needed to confront myself. The things I buried. All the shame, guilt and what I thought were failures throughout my life. It was hell. 8 months of isolation. Pain. Doubt. Anger. Anguish. But I came out the other side, and I knew myself again. I’m still alone now. I’ve met some acquaintances here and there. But man, it’s been incredibly hard to just build the first few steps. I hope those acquaintances can become friends. But I can’t help and think it’ll just be routine. Come and go. Maybe it’s just my particular circumstance, but I’ve vastly underestimated how hard it is to build bonds as a adult now. Being alone can truly ensure you face yourself. But isolating yourself too much, can lead to mental roadblocks you place on yourself. Without any second opinions to check you and give you perspective, you tend to believe any negativity that creeps into your mind. And it breaks you down bit by bit. Until you don’t know you can do what you wanted to do or be who you remember you were anymore. Keep an eye out for people who will care. Because when you’ve lost everyone. The people who care are priceless.
Being alone for the last year and a half has taught me many lessons. Definitely cut many people off because I realized they were fake. Shit hurts but it's necessary.
Ngl i like being alone now since i realised the people i've mostly been around with constantly keep asking for shit non stop bro and they ask for help and then when i ask for help or when i wanna borrow something they disappear so now i mostly cut off and try to focus on myself
Im lost dont know what to think,watching your videos helped me push though some difficult times helped me overcome fears.Dont want to drag this out I just dont feel the same anymore, been fighting with myself for months by now idk how long. just wanted to say thank you again...
Don't fight with yourself (I've been there🥺) we only have ourselves by the end of the day, be your own best friend, treat yourself with love , understanding and patience. I try to read books like atomic habits and more life books to increase my wisdom, improve my mental health and overall mindset. Do daily workouts cause if you have a good healthy physique you'll be able to think more clearly, and drink tea or matcha latte! It can help u be in a better mood, and lastly I don't feel alone cause I have God guiding me in my healing journey, good luck! 🤍
Thank you for posting this and speaking your truth. I resonated with a lot that was said. I've been going through a tough time right now and have been battling myself. Today is Christmas, and I had to leave out of the house around my family to drive out into a empty lot, to cry and get it all out because I've been feeling down, and i didn't want that darkness to burden them despite making changes in my life to do better. My birthday is in a couple of days, and I turn 29 i want to do better in my life and be happy and content for who i am without always having to feel like im a failure to meet up to everyones expectations. It just got worse when a couple of days from a situationship i had going on for 5 years i finally realized that no matter what i did she never loved me the same way despite the effort i put in it she and found someone for her. It crushed me deeply, and i thought i was healing past the last time we spoke, but the wound reopened when i figured out she was engaged. It is what it is at this point I want to beat this feeling so bad and heal to move on to better and to have people in my circle who care about me. Thank you for this video, man it means a lot to me.
It’s a beautiful thing when we learn from our own experiences and create the blueprint for when others eventually go through it too . Nobody is alone and we’re all still trying to figure this shit out . I appreciate you fr and I’m glad I came across your channel a little while back when I did . Your videos always pop up n wake me back up when I start gettin too comfortable 🖤 I’m proud of you and I hope you’re doing Ight too
When the trumpet/tube comes in, so beautiful.. such flow and u preaching just by expressing yourself is so good, love my brother, remember let yourself live with no limits💪🏼
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Life is a game master the hacks to win on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
Wow, you come off as very genuine and authentic! No fake voice, no over acting, just raw and real! Very refreshing, thank you! Furthermore, you share some wise words many of us must hear!
Good video, but there's nothing specific here. I recommend everyone to find the forbidden book Mareska Manipulation; you'll be shocked by the attraction techniques it contain about manipulation.
You remind me of Jimi Hendrix in the modern day form. I feel like he felt this way before he passed & isolated himself. Maybe it’s the guitar & the hair. But if you watch interviews of Jimi Hendrix you have such a similar chill energy. Totally different voice complexion but the way you speak is so candidly. I appreciate this video a lot cause I been “lonely” a lot lately but it’s a different depression I’m feeling recently. It’s like a break through & I think this is a huge part of it. Bless
Solid advice and I whole heartedly agree. Been in one toxic friendship and one toxic relationship, both were enough to change me as a person entirely (for the better).
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
I feel like being alone is such a scary feeling because at the end of the day you have no one but yourself but at times it does get really lonely and at times you wish someone could be there for you.
being alone and content with myself made me feel better about everything and stronger. its ok to be alone and get to just sit in silence and think, talk to yourself and get to know yourself better. i love the video i love hearing other people talk and learn from them. thank you
@@suko8019 long stories.. had feelins for the girls that played me. And they acted as if they wanted me and lead me on and had multiple dudes the whole time
Being alone opens your eyes to what you truly lack within yourself.
You realise your mistakes and you start seeing how you are making yourself lack.
Well if that ain’t the truth!!
❤
Thank you.
I have been alone for awhile and when I started dating this girl I learned a lot more about myself aswell
thats not a good thing that makes you hate yourself
To be so young, and so wise is truly a blessing and a curse. All the best.
Realest shit ive ever heard man.
Im 14, I feel that I matured before everyone at the current age of 14. Nobody understands you. Its difficult to find people that are like me man. Wise, smart, looking to go places in the future. It truly is a blessing and a curse.
@@youtube_anti see where you comin from. I’m 15. I’ve always felt like I disconnected and “woke up” since 8th grade. It’s not easy finding compatible people similar to me. But I gotta keep going within and it will come. Idk your situation but do what best suits u and it will get better
@@isaiahGrant222 I’m also 15 and it’s so crazy bc since 8th grade too I see the world totally different, I can’t even trust my closest friends bc I realised that they will abandon u if they need to without any remorse. I just feel like everyone now lives for themselves and there’s never someone that you can trust 100% bc at the end of the day they are friends with you when it benefits them. Idk if it’s understandable. I feel like nobody is actually genuine and there for u.
@@noo5118 100% see where u coming frm. Most people live for themselves and most are not genuine. It’s sorta like a stage. People gonna show different acts of themselves
It is a much bigger blessing than a curse
the timing of this video is insane..
Fr, got broken up with yesterday, I think it's a sign from God
I got broken up with on Monday, God was telling me something too.
Straight up
fr fr
Here here
I hate being alone but I love it at the same time
Ong
U need both to have one
I only hate it cause I slowly kill myself with the drugs, but I’m grateful to have something to lean on/heal the pain
Being alone:😄
Being lonely:☠️
Dialectics = 2 opposites can exist at the same time
the timing of this…. i’ve recently started avoiding my “friends” and no one has reached out to ask why, so imma keep doing it, i refuse to stay somewhere where im not valued
a good quote "If your absence doesn’t bother them, your presence in their life wasn’t what you thought it was."
yup. it’s sucks but hey rather b surrounded by no one than ppl who don’t care fr.
_yeah I get that, I’m always reaching out first too. It’s kinda frustrating. I try to give people benefit of the doubt though because they’re really going through something. Although I also wanted to say just because people don’t reach out first doesn’t mean they don’t care. Some people don’t initiate convo but they still care. But if you have to do it all the time, maybe reconsider your friendship or try speaking to them if you haven’t already_
Yes!!!
🏆 Girl I am a young 54 yr old & it’s been this way all my life. Friends-if they take advantage of our kindness and our authentic hearts, and lie and betray… Or just aren’t there for us when we need a friend all these things I would ignore because I cared about my friends. Same with exes it’s sad but true but people that are kind and genuine, the ones who shine their light because it’s just there and us… Taken advantage of and it hurts so much time and time again. I am alone. I won’t be with others anymore now that don’t have the same standards that I do because it’s wasting my time and energy, and we can’t get that back
anyone who has been in the company of the wrong people would 100% understand that no matter how bad loneliness gets, being around unhealthy people is another level of pain.
Preach
@@AhMed-sv4sl 💪🏿💪🏿
I got sa’ed by supposed “friends” people can be seriously twisted
Reminded me that life’s a jungle
@@bob2k375please tell me the details if you don’t mind
@@bob2k375yup no one cares just how it benefits them it’ll hurt at first but continue down the path of self-worth and self-respect
I hate when people make fun of others for being alone. Some of us dont wanna deal with the bs and some of those same people that claim to have tons if friends are surrounded by people that dont really care about them
Being alone made me realize the only person that can truly make me genuinely happy is myself & The Most High💆🏽♂️
Fax 💯
So true!
amen
Amen
Me too. Isolating with God is amazing.
AMEN❤
"Stop watering dead plants". Thank you, this video really helped me
The most painful thing I’ve learned recently is that I don’t and have never had a positive supportive relationship in my entire life.
Same 💔
life as man smh
same brother stay strong
I don’t even know man
you're not alone in this
Distancing myself, cutting people out of my life, being “alone” has helped me heal tremendously. Because I haven’t been subjected to people’s abuse. I am fortunate though to have one very close relationship in my life worth holding onto. And that’s also tremendously healing. I think sometimes that we are evolving to be alone.
In this modern day of chaos there has never been a more important time to be able to love yourself and your own company
being alone made me realise a lot of things
Like....
@@kydzsit’s not as simple as that, we have to learn the hard way my friend, and it is unfortunate.
these people are in their rooms alone watching this video lol, but yeah, you're right
It’s so frustrating trying to maintain relationships with people who are avoidant and lack communication skills. It’s incredibly frustrating trying to find someone who is fully honest and truthful, when many people aren’t even honest with themselves, let alone another person.
man we should all come together make a gc and just see how everyone is doing in life hows everyone is feeling
@Jay-fc4iw those always fall through.
My girlfriend of 3 1/2 years the love of my life just broke up with me simply because she refused to communicate or be truthful about what was bothering her. This is so facts
Being alone. Means less of people’s drama and troubles
Oh yeah
Amen.
When someone comes into your life or crosses your path, do not give freely or hold too tightly; they are on their own path and if you start following their path by giving them what they want or holding onto what they have to offer, you will lose your path.
Namaste.
Deep!
Being alone makes me realize all i got is myself
Being alone taught you the definition of being alone that's sick
@@Trash0000😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 nah you tore him tf up wit this comment 😂😭
Being alone with my pets is the ultimate comfort and peace to me❤
You can never hide from yourself. Being alone shows you who you really are
I want to reflect upon my decisions by myself.
I'm a lover.
Oh you can absolutely hide from yourself. If you don't know who you are, you're obscure in a sense
"some people give just to set up the take" that's big insight
Be comfortable with your own company my dude. The road to healing is long, stay the course. You will make it, someday.
I pushed away a friend group that actually cared about me, and i did that because i wanted to be on the internet 24/7 i didn't know i was messing myself up until i seen their high school graduation photo all of my elementary school friends in one photo all grown up and happy i remember i cried myself to sleep that night and 2 months later they took a picture infront of the college they got into and it was the same college we used to talk about in middle school it made me realize what i had done to myself i picked the online life over real life. i threw away potentionally a long term friendship for games that get boring.
I’ve pushed friends away as well. Luckily, some were understanding. I encourage you to try and talk to them it’s not too late.
learning to be comfortable alone with my own company has been an accomplishment i’m so proud, not there fully but i’ve def made a lot of progress:)
Me too , I am not bothered with loneliness anymore , I am just here comfortable by myself .
starting college and all my best friends gone, I'm still learning to go through this
@@ladder2056hey i only have 1 friend from school i still fw and she lives states away from me but we still have a great connection. and it’s definitely a whole process, i’ve been working on this for 5 months now and i’m no where near where i want to be but i have made progress! you gotta give yourself props for even the smallest things :)
@@ladder2056 for me , I am starting college in mid september and I don't wanna get back to my friends there , I want to make new ones or stay alone .
yes I used to see being alone especially in a social setting as one of the worst experiences, made me such an anxious person but I learned to be more comfortable w myself, my company and it also made me see people differently, it opens ur eyes to many things
Being alone it means being in your healing era without any problems !
My god bless you Wise man❤️
My friend…recently told me he wanted a break but not just from me. But the whole group. Sometimes my ego took over, I brought him down unknowingly and I was arrogant. But I was also greedy. Take take take. I come from a not so supportive household, I don’t come by things as easily as my friends do with their parents. Even just basic needs. As I watch this video I realize what I’ve done. I feel gross and disgusted because I never wanted to be like that. But I am grateful for him and I hope he grows just as much as I will try and continue to grow as well.
So maybe, being alone is the solution.
That took a lot of self honesty brother
please stand by him bro he may need a break but soon enough will go back looking for you guys my friend group dropped me just because i would tell them i needed a break and self observe my life and it suckked bc when i finally got back up they just turned around and closed the door on me
you should apologize to him. let him know you've changed.
ur not a bad person , because u admit ur wrongs
Surround yourself with good people. You’ll find them. And if you have good family that supports you, never take that for granted and show them the upmost love. Being alone is never the option. We all need some help a long the way.
the best thing to do is to be your own best friend. the biggest reason people arent comfortable alone is because theyre relationship with themselves isnt healthy
they say the worst thing to be in life is alone but the worst thing in life is being around people who make you feel alone it's better to be alone with yourself than to be with those who make you feel like that
Bingo.👍🎯 Your finally figuring out the key 🗝️ to happiness. I'm 52 been alone since 2017. No joke. I answer to only me. Do what i want. It's quiet when i need quiet. I watch what i want on tv or my cell phone. Hey i Miss a good woman. But not easy to find. But it's difficult to explain how much I'm ok with me. I've got family. And 4 kids. Few grand kids. But when I'm amongst quiet just me and my little dog. It's ok. I'm ok. It's working well for me.
Watching this at 6am is what I needed to hear. It’s time for me to connect with God more and be Alone.
I have a "friend" that only used me for weed and tobacco, the minute I told him to stop asking for things he turned extremely toxic. I am so much happier not pretending to be friends with someone who is fake. I have no friends but I would rather be alone than have this negativity dragging me down.
Distanced myself from everyone and it's the best thing I ever done.
for now. We are not meant to spend our lifes alone.
“You can always find people, they’re always gonna be out there”
This quote honestly hit harder than anything is
Very true. people do not socialize with each other anymore. If you are out in public you are acknowledged that you are there but are ignored. Human interaction is dead.
I don’t think so personally, human interaction is only dead if you make it that way. I find if I compliment a strangers shoes, a stranger will compliment my t shirt the next day. The universe has its energy and we are all connected
@@lukas_jennithhuman interaction is definitely dead things are not the same anymore people don’t even lift their heads up to look and speak to you everyone try to avoid everyone
@@Honeyyredz be the change you wanna see
@@Honeyyredzwhen I go outside I wanna talk to people, chances are that when you go outside there's someone like me just whaiting to find someone to talk to, you put all these invisible walls around you that paint a picture for you about life and humans, someone else already said it, be the change, sounds corny but its true.
Human interaction is not dead. Go somewhere that isn't the supermarket, convenient store, or a fast food restaurant and you'll see.
Friendship in 2024 is almost non-existent. People surround themselves with people they don't actually know just so they don't have to be by themselves and learn who they are because they're scared.
Man... Your wisdom is far beyond your age brother. I'm 23 and I gotta say the information you bless your viewers with is gold. Resonates deep bro, your definitely an old soul. Much love from the UK
Same age as you and fully concur, the depth of insight this guy exhibits is so promising and refreshing.
I'm 23 too hi.
Same exact age and this is very insightful. On the same wavelength as you guys.
@@lil.leonski ... Interesting 🧐
Yep@@bun-e9361
Bring alone isn’t the answer, surround yourself with better people brother!
Once you are best version of yourself, which may take being alone. It will be a lot easier to find similar people! Don’t give up hope, your far too young much like the other people around you
@@omegztron4207 the thing is. idk how to be the better version of me
It's better to be alone
I realized that people just choose to use you in alot of ways and you just never notice its crazy how life is
I feel you.. and i think we go stronger when we are alone and reflect everything.. much power and love from me ❤
For the first time in three years, I finally am taking time to myself, healing, confronting my truths and practicing how to live to become a better person for me. Took social media apps off my phone and been becoming more present & aware. I’m also standing up more for myself but not in an aggressive manner. Difficult thing for me was ending a relationship that was a rebound which spiritually my gut was telling me this wasn’t good for me due to the honeymoon phase and didn’t give myself time to heal properly and shortened my circle. Best thing I done for me was actually self reflecting and choosing me which wasn’t the easiest task. But day by day I’m slowly getting used to it
The timing of this video is crazy! I have been alone a lot recently, cutting myself off from toxic relationships. You are speaking facts. 99% of the people who I am/was friends with were people who give and take from me and I have learned just to cut them out. I have been lonely lately, it made me realize you can be your only best friend. This year is a time of healing for me.
Solitude is for the strong. And you didn't say anything wrong. All I see is wise young man. You are hitting the nail on the head sir.
Being alone made me realize my own faults, get to know myself better, and what bonds really mean, it's either isolation or ending it all for me, and the latter being something I don't want to do, I have a hard time accepting my own mistakes and not being social enough due to my anxiety, but I try to get somewhere everyday, wishing the best to you and everyone going through something too, much love
i think being alone is the solution to most problems put your head down and focus on a better version of you.
I recently found out my ex girlfriend who I was trying to rekindle with had been messing around with my bestfriends brother, and they all had been lying to my face for a month.
The sentiment of this video is incredible and honestly this deserves so many more views. I strive to one day adopt this mindset and will work towards it everyday. This is quality RUclips bro
im so sorry, howre things now?
Hope you’re okay❤
One of the most painful things in this life is to continue putting yourself in situations or around people who consistently belittle and hurt you, it’s only a matter of time before it becomes too much. The presence of being alone is a battle at first but it’s so peaceful and rewarding to yourself in the end.
Solitude have been the centerpiece of my life now. There’s no distractions and there’s nobody in my way, impeding forward/upward progression. I refuse to allow a bunch of noise to gain entry into my space.
Bro this is exactly how I’ve been. Literally I’ve been alone so long I’ve lost everybody so I’ve just accepted being alone it’s all ok.
Hey do you mind sharing what happened to you? Why and how did you lose everything?
Im asking because I am in a similar state
I’m in a similar state. Due to factors I can’t really control I only have maybe 2 real friends with a few surface level work friends. Although I don’t like being alone I have to accept it at this point. It ruined a lot of things and I struggle to enjoy much other than escaping to any fantasy world I can…
@@BullFrogFacepretty much similar to my situation
@@argo117007he pretty much said part or most of it even though it’s a little bit different with me
I’ve been thinking a lot about my friendships since I lost my phone. Nobody cares to call and even though I reached out to the so called friends, they don’t care! And it just gets back to silence like all this time I just had digital friends
And we don’t talk a lot about friendships so thank youuuuu for this video🙏🏾 I doubt we have good people around anymore
From personal experience I can say, once you made the realisation that they don’t ACTUALLY care about you, it’s not hard to cut them off. I’ve done the same some years ago with a lot of „friends“ and I never regretted that decision. I’d say think about it well but also think about that there are people who will care about you and who will reach out to you no matter what. You deserve better than people who can’t even reach out.
@@Felicity.15_ this! i realized almost every single one of my friendships was superficial. i crave a deep connection, a genuine one
when i deleted social media, this became true
My online friends are all online only.
I feell like my mind was so cluttered when i was around people constantly, and once i learned to find places where i could be alone my mind has never been clearer. Gives me more room to find the right people who genuinely care for me as much as i do them.
I suppose watching this video right about a week from new year's [and my birthday] holds immense value.
I've had trouble choosing myself ahead of all others for a fairly decent time of my life, and through these moments after watching this video, I am really pushed to look into myself and what my life really is. And i'm grateful for that. Thank you, Shimon.
Sometimes being alone is the best thing
Nothing wrong walking alone
It gets lonely but I keep telling myself its better to be alone than sick with someone else. Pray for us all in that boat for strength and courage to keep doing
i love her so much, she's my world, but love is such a tiring emotion
If you call love an emotion...oh boy, I don't know where you are but you are dead lost
When there is no light around you, become your own light. Stay strong ❤
Being alone is God perfect gift to build up yourself don't take it for granted yes it might feel lonely but there is blessings
What I’ve learnt is to not rush into relationships, I see everyone else around me in new relationships everyday, which sounds crazy, but it’s true. Also being alone helps you focus on yourself rather than others. It’s gonna be tough at the start, but in the end it will be worth it.
Thank you for the video. When i was 18 years old and fed up with ppl that was calling themselves my friends, i wrote in my notebook "you have to look out for yourself cuz at the end of the day you will always be by yourself" and this thought sticks with me since. I am 21 now and these words still apply. I realised that only by taking care of myself, I can set healthy boundaries and be happy with my relationships with other ppl, even if it mean taking breaks from any form of socializing. This resonates well with message in this video. Its nobody responsibility to save you but yours. Take care of yourself ppl.
Listening to this makes me feel so calm…like a therapy. You tell us it’s okay this is life you’re not the only one experiencing these things. People can treat you good and bad…it’s life.
the Lord really blessed you with great wisdom, i pray that through him all your wisdom is shared with others. God bless.
Yeah is true. I’ve been through this my whole life. At a point i just stayed home for a whole month and nobody even gave me a text other than “can you help me with this and that” and it was eye opening for sure. I have one friend and my girl now
I’ve recently took a hiatus towards all of my friends. I realized that they were influencing the decisions I’m making for my life and it’s really helped. I’ve gained such a clarity of what I want in my future how I’m going to get it and what I need to do.
Bottom line is, I was hanging with friends that were building their worlds while I wasn’t building mine. Don’t be 2 selfless is what I learned. You gotta get yo shi 2♥️
you give me hope and make me feel sane. i pray that god will keep you safe and happy you deserve the world, truly.
this is 100% true. me and her split after 4 years, im 21. met this girl at 17. shortly after we ended, i cut my friends off as well. its been a weird lonely month but it has its ups and downs. if youre reading this, stay strong, as men its the only option we have
Yeah I’ve had no friends to hang out with for 6-7 years. I am now 19 😂
@@aidanpenn7283 I'm 19 too bro. where you from? I'm from Birmingham in the UK. Do you play any video games?
Thank you man. I needed to hear this. You never realize how many transactional relationships you have till you step back and realize you're the one giving everything (emotionally, etc) only to receive so little. I think a lot of people let the fear of being alone stop them from having that moment of solitude where they can really understand their own needs and issues. It's okay to take time to yourself.
Don’t spoil yourself and your hobbies for us. If we can’t accept you living your own life we don’t deserve your words in general. You have an amazing soul and don’t let anyone take that from you. Keep your head up brother🖤
While you at it, analyse yourself too. A lot of my friends are guilty of the things Shimon talks about but so am I. Thanks for this.
my first step is analyzing myself, it’s extremely helpful
Being alone is a gift, enjoy it, open your eyes, and embrace the solitude, and then you'll see the truth.
Being alone is never the permanent solution, but may help you in the moment for when you do find someone. That's what I've learned and that's what's happening to me personally.
You need to keep this up… You are helping a lot of kids.
That's why I only do things and try to chase my goals in silence, I don't tell my friends specifics. I utilize friendships when its beneficial to me, if its not beneficial I am fine with letting them go at this point.
Much love and respect too you for showing the true importance of mental well being. May god bless you ❤
I’ve went through this evolution last year. I’ve watched all my friends and family that I knew and love die, betray me, try to use me, and walk away from me. I was alone. And it was the hardest time to be so for me, mentally. But I knew deep down I needed to do it. I needed to confront myself. The things I buried. All the shame, guilt and what I thought were failures throughout my life. It was hell. 8 months of isolation. Pain. Doubt. Anger. Anguish. But I came out the other side, and I knew myself again. I’m still alone now. I’ve met some acquaintances here and there. But man, it’s been incredibly hard to just build the first few steps. I hope those acquaintances can become friends. But I can’t help and think it’ll just be routine. Come and go. Maybe it’s just my particular circumstance, but I’ve vastly underestimated how hard it is to build bonds as a adult now. Being alone can truly ensure you face yourself. But isolating yourself too much, can lead to mental roadblocks you place on yourself. Without any second opinions to check you and give you perspective, you tend to believe any negativity that creeps into your mind. And it breaks you down bit by bit. Until you don’t know you can do what you wanted to do or be who you remember you were anymore. Keep an eye out for people who will care. Because when you’ve lost everyone. The people who care are priceless.
Being alone for the last year and a half has taught me many lessons. Definitely cut many people off because I realized they were fake. Shit hurts but it's necessary.
Ngl i like being alone now since i realised the people i've mostly been around with constantly keep asking for shit non stop bro and they ask for help and then when i ask for help or when i wanna borrow something they disappear so now i mostly cut off and try to focus on myself
Such wisdom in a most unlikely place. Very wise and authentic. I love it. I was taken off guard. A wise and handsome young brother.
Im lost dont know what to think,watching your videos helped me push though some difficult times helped me overcome fears.Dont want to drag this out
I just dont feel the same anymore, been fighting with myself for months by now idk how long. just wanted to say thank you again...
Don't fight with yourself (I've been there🥺) we only have ourselves by the end of the day, be your own best friend, treat yourself with love , understanding and patience.
I try to read books like atomic habits and more life books to increase my wisdom, improve my mental health and overall mindset. Do daily workouts cause if you have a good healthy physique you'll be able to think more clearly, and drink tea or matcha latte! It can help u be in a better mood, and lastly I don't feel alone cause I have God guiding me in my healing journey, good luck! 🤍
sometimes you really are alone even when you're surrounded by people, having to put everyone before yourself becomes your demise.
Hey you,
reading this comment.
I love you man.
Keep going, stay on the path
U got this shit
Rock on Brothers 🤘😎🤘
Have a good weekend homie!
Thank you for posting this and speaking your truth. I resonated with a lot that was said. I've been going through a tough time right now and have been battling myself. Today is Christmas, and I had to leave out of the house around my family to drive out into a empty lot, to cry and get it all out because I've been feeling down, and i didn't want that darkness to burden them despite making changes in my life to do better. My birthday is in a couple of days, and I turn 29 i want to do better in my life and be happy and content for who i am without always having to feel like im a failure to meet up to everyones expectations. It just got worse when a couple of days from a situationship i had going on for 5 years i finally realized that no matter what i did she never loved me the same way despite the effort i put in it she and found someone for her. It crushed me deeply, and i thought i was healing past the last time we spoke, but the wound reopened when i figured out she was engaged. It is what it is at this point I want to beat this feeling so bad and heal to move on to better and to have people in my circle who care about me. Thank you for this video, man it means a lot to me.
for the ppl reading this
no matter what shi is goin on in ur life rn its gonna pass trust me js stay strong
love yall
It’s a beautiful thing when we learn from our own experiences and create the blueprint for when others eventually go through it too . Nobody is alone and we’re all still trying to figure this shit out . I appreciate you fr and I’m glad I came across your channel a little while back when I did . Your videos always pop up n wake me back up when I start gettin too comfortable 🖤 I’m proud of you and I hope you’re doing Ight too
Being alone taught me that we need to come together. ❤
We need love and companionship
No dnt want 2 be near people ffs
@@CarlBland-l8l why is that friend? Someone hurt you?
Alone is incredible strength
Real ones get left behind while the fake just take what they want and leave with no grievances.
When the trumpet/tube comes in, so beautiful.. such flow and u preaching just by expressing yourself is so good, love my brother, remember let yourself live with no limits💪🏼
You aren't alone, we're just far apart bro :)
Exactly what I'm going through rn, first time seeing one of your videos and I'm subscribing. Thank you for being vulnerable and I see you
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Life is a game master the hacks to win on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
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Wow, you come off as very genuine and authentic! No fake voice, no over acting, just raw and real! Very refreshing, thank you! Furthermore, you share some wise words many of us must hear!
Good video, but there's nothing specific here. I recommend everyone to find the forbidden book Mareska Manipulation; you'll be shocked by the attraction techniques it contain about manipulation.
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You remind me of Jimi Hendrix in the modern day form. I feel like he felt this way before he passed & isolated himself. Maybe it’s the guitar & the hair. But if you watch interviews of Jimi Hendrix you have such a similar chill energy. Totally different voice complexion but the way you speak is so candidly. I appreciate this video a lot cause I been “lonely” a lot lately but it’s a different depression I’m feeling recently. It’s like a break through & I think this is a huge part of it. Bless
bro, the timing of this is just insane, my girlfriend just broke with me for some toxic shit, so this just hits really hard in my heart
Solid advice and I whole heartedly agree. Been in one toxic friendship and one toxic relationship, both were enough to change me as a person entirely (for the better).
You are Preaching!!! I stand with you ❤️
Story of my life. I'm an introvert, and I really don't have any friends or people who are trustworthy that I can truly open up to.
I hear you… I am also an introvert and haven’t had any real friends for 10 years. I know this may sound weird, but if you need a friend, I’m here 🙂
Thank you for your encouraging words... God Bless 🕊 🦋
You have an Old Spirit and a lot of pearls of wisdom... Peace and Joy
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Yes he is dr.porassss
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
Can dr.porassss send to me in UK?
I feel like being alone is such a scary feeling because at the end of the day you have no one but yourself but at times it does get really lonely and at times you wish someone could be there for you.
“It’s more comfortable to be tortured then alone” damn that hits home.
being alone and content with myself made me feel better about everything and stronger. its ok to be alone and get to just sit in silence and think, talk to yourself and get to know yourself better. i love the video i love hearing other people talk and learn from them. thank you
in college rn. I’m always alone majority of time.. still hurt from girls playin me in the past. Just tryna keep my head up
Keep ya head up brother! I can understand that pain💔🙏
😂😂😂😂, very funny dude
@@FE2....255 preciate it man..
played how
@@suko8019 long stories.. had feelins for the girls that played me. And they acted as if they wanted me and lead me on and had multiple dudes the whole time