1. Your smile: he wants to matter to you 2. PJs: shows to true, imperfect, confident you 3. Open up: be emotionally vulnerable with him 4. Power: respect your boundaries, don't be a doormat 5. Playfulness: be childlike, don't take yourself so seriously 6. Not seeking reassurance, stay certain: be confident in your independence and ability to make decisions ( show that you want him, not need him)
I think my husband fell in love with me because I was carefree. I wasn't looking for a relationship. We just had a lot of fun getting to know each other. And we fell in love. For a lifetime.
You've just made a huge difference in my life. I've been dating someone for a while, and I've been really insecure in the relationship because of something that happened a month ago. I've been lost in a lot of these kinds of videos and going through the lists going, "Check, check, check, so why do my relationships not work." But when you explained "power," it blew my mind when you said that if I have self respect and put boundaries, I'll push away those who don't want to respect them and instead find people who are LOOKING for someone to respect themselves - which is the kind of person I've always wanted to be. I do put up with too much in relationships, even when it breaks my heart, for the sake of being loved due to low self-esteem and little value in myself; and while I've been realizing this and working on it, the way you just explained it really put it in perspective for me and gave me a lot of hope. Thank you so much.
Great video. I've been practicing the same things, which have led me to walking away from some relationships. Did it hurt to walk away? YES, it hurt like hell. It took me months to get over some of these guys, but I was determined to have the quality relationship I know I deserve. I have recently started dating a new guy, and the more I stand my ground, assert boundaries, and communicate my expectations, it's the stronger he comes on. Believe me, it's an amazing feeling. Now, I'm getting the kind of relationship I desire, one that is based on love and mutual respect. The process will be difficult; take it from me, but the reward is well worth the effort Recently, he referred to me as a high value woman. There's no way in hell I would have attracted this guy, had I not be willing to let go of low value men. It's his perception of me being a high value woman that attracted him to me.
I like watching your videos because I've been married for almost 35 years and I want to make sure I'm still easy to love and enjoyable for my husband to live with. We have a very good marriage and three fantastic grown kids, but you can't stop working on it and learning. When I was a young person dating, one of the things guys liked about me (you asked in the video about this) was that I have always had a "no drama" rule. I had too many female friends who were emotional rollercoasters and really difficult to be around if they were in a mood or having a bad day. If their day was bad, everyone's day was bad--or worse. I really didn't want to ever be that way or force others to deal with that. I cultivated an easy-going and friendly attitude, one that made the guys unafraid and comfortable with me. I still practice this with my husband. I guess it comes down to not being selfish and remembering to think about how he feels on a daily basis. I still have female friends, even at this age, who focus so much of themselves and their feelings that they make their husbands, boyfriends, kids, friends, and everyone else around them miserable. Big, big turnoff.
@@strawberrygirl8572 thank you for writing this. It is very helpful. I notice my mom is this way with my dad. And they are very happy even after 40yrs of marriage. My mom is just a happy go lucky lady :)
You are praising yourself in this whole passage while raising yourself above the others, the lesser worth ones, the drama queens, as you call them. Honestly, you sound anything but like the person you describe here but instead this whole passage about how cool you are and how great your life turned out (compared to all the other losers) speaks so much more. Thank you for giving us this insight. People around you are truly blessed to have you!
I had a wonderful love in 2020, he lived in another country, we used to do zoom calls and later he would text me that he was tracing my face the entire time with the mouse 🥰
Thank you Brian for your confirmation of being vulnerable. One of my ex boyfriends told me that I shouldn’t share my vulnerability at the beginning of a relationship. However, I realized that if I am open, my partner opens himself more.
Except you shouldn't share vulnerabilities until you know whether or not the guy is a narcissist psychopath who will use your vulnerabilities against you. That can take months.
He loves my smile, but he said one of the most attractive things about me is that I have no idea how beautiful i really am. I thought that was kind and interesting.
Soooo spot on! You certainly know women, I especially like the comment of Men loving independent women. We want him…. But don’t need him! Big difference, Game changer.
I ask some men who ever like or love me. Why did you find me attractive? They said, assertiveness. They said i'm most amazing because i always know what i want and what i dont like and said it clearly.
Every guy I dated always liked my eyes and my smile but I start being playful/joking around when I really like the person. I love your videos they have help me alot in the last year. I have been through alot of bad relationship and I think I ready to get back out there. After my last boyfriend I shut down completely 😔 but I think I'm ready to try again.
It would be really helpful if when you have a list of things to put them up on the screen. Helps us remember them better if we read them as well. Love ur videos. ;-)
The first year that my husband and I were married, I was speaking as an activist to a board to to promote changes in our community. I did my presentation and returned to my seat next to my husband. We left the meeting. As soon as we got in the car, he said that he had never been more attracted to me and could not wait to get home!
I’ve been married for a long time but had a break down in the marriage. I’m finding your videos so so helpful as I work on gaining my power back and building up my self esteem. Hopefully I will be able to assert myself and make my boundaries clear and thus attract a good man who will finally treat me the way I deserve. Thank you so much for your help ❤
Oddly, since I got a short pixie cut, more men approach me. I think it's because I feel much better about myself. I had never known how to style my long hair and it bothered me. Now I am carefree and confident and it shows. Also, smile is indeed important. I was amazed to see that yes, I smiled at men and they did come to talk to me.
My view: just be real, and stay with others who are also real. That’s the only way to ensure you will actually get your best match in romance..., and also the best buddies for friendship. Whenever you have to overthink a relationship or feel some coolness or distance, then you haven’t found the right one. You can’t change it. Move on.
I think that advice might be a trap, unless the woman is already super beautiful, perfect skin and perfect hair naturally... a bit insecure will help a woman to present herself better all the time
@@sdla690 It's not about being beautiful or perfect skin or anything . It's about how comfortable you are with your own body. I never take care of my clothes or skin just basic hygene and comfortable clothings nothing serious and I never use make up. My bf keep compliment me when I wear pyjama on our video chat and I'm not even beautiful or anything just average looking woman. The different is I never care about what ppl think about me as long as I'm being myself I'm happy. Ppl who don't accept me for who I am can just get out my life I don't care
Definitely what I think that make men drawn to me is that I am very gentle, soft spoken and fairly feminine. I'm also very short. I have been through weight fluctuations and even while I was fat, skinny, men were drawn to me because I listened to them, spoke to them like a human being and with a gentle touch. Men want to feel mattered as you said. And its surprising how simple a touch on the arm, pat on the back, etc can be or just speaking to them and listening to what they are saying really makes them feel noticed. I think men have a lot to deal with, and especially men who are doing very hard, manual labor jobs, if you are a bit motherly to them I think it makes them feel comfortable. Might remind them of childhood when their mom cared for them. I think most of us as adults really lack that feeling that we matter and deserve to be cared for. Which, as women, is something we(normally) excel at, taking care of others. So I think it goes full circle. Men become more protective of you if you show you care for them. It's almost like they don't even realize it themselves!
When I worked in Healthcare, a Nurse used to tell me (when I was a pushover and young) that I needed to be mean with men, to be successful. I didn't really understand it at the time and laughed at what she said . Now, I completely get what she meant because I mostly work with men in Security and spend a lot of time around men. I believe they respect me , because I 'm no longer a pushover and seem tough as nails. Actually, working in this job makes you tougher (as a side effect). I actually get more attention, lol, then I did before, when I was nice. And I try not to be needy, although as a woman this is hard. Well I'm a sigma female. I would say less of the emotional opening up, is better for me(maybe I did too much of that before). Too much emotion can scare them away. I feel carefree now and more confident around men. I also believe they like a sense of humor (to laugh).
I'm on the autism spectrum and I don't like meaningless small talk and banter. Whenever I talk to people it soon becomes what others consider "deep" (for me that's just normal conversation), and funnily enough that seems to attract men like shit does flies. Combine it with my weird sense of humor, wit and a pinch of sarcasm and there's a certain type of guy who's quickly enamored. Don't ask me why. I'm not particularly interested in dating and relationships and it usually annoys me because I just want to talk... 🤷🤣
Every guys who are attracted to me are those I m not interested in… perhaps my small social circle, I, too, have never met a guy that I m attracted to … not sure if I m being extremely picky, or I m just not into having a relationship
It happened to me too. I first met a guy whom I really liked at 23. He liked me back but then ghosted lol. So now I’m struggling again cause I don’t like anybody 😢
He said the most important thing in our relationship is that - we can talk about things that bothers us, instead of shutting down & later on piling up resentments like what happened to him and his Ex wife of 28 yrs with 2 adult children. However, i recently caught his email to her 6days before we went on a road trip that he still misses and love her still😪he lied to me when he said he’s done & over her 8months ago after their divorce. Crossing that boundaries were painful and i dont know how to teach him a lesson afterwards
I get comments on my voice CONSTANTLY. I have a rich lower register voice and I used to be shy about it because movies (and anime) can suggest guys prefer a girl with a high pitched voice or at least a lighter tone. As I've aged (I'm 44 now) my voice had only gotten richer and I get more and more comments about it. I say this to encourage you if you have a lower toned voice, not all guys are looking for giggly schoolgirl voices. (Some are, but you'd be surprised how much power you can wield with your real voice.) Godspeed my rich voiced sisters! ♥
I am having a relationship (actually just got proposed to) in not my first language and my partner (fiancée) loves that I have a weird accent and make grammatical errors in Spanish (he speaks no English). He also finds it fascinating that I have a high physical energy and pain tolerance… that sounds weird but I am referring to the fact we are both surfers and I stay out there way longer than most and can get injured and it not really bother me (I got smacked in the face when someone collided with me and didn’t notice that my eye had turned into a swollen egg and all black til I got out of the water an hour later… dunno why but he seems to think I’m tough and he likes that…
Ive just started dating a fellow, we talked on line for a month with no naughty talk, then dated for 3 months with no naughtiness and believe it or not its one of the main reasons he came back for a second date in the first place. The reason he says was because if I didnt do that with him that means I didnt do that with anyone. Hes had women send rude photos to him and do all the sexual talk and hes not interested in dating them. He also likes my smile :) So we are 8 months in hes the first guy I actually went out on a date with after talking to gosh so many men on plenty of fish so I think I picked well! He was also the only guy i initiated contact with and that was because he had kind eyes and truly he is a kind person.
I was totally the playful type and my ex husband loved that about me but when we got married he told me "It was cute in the beginning but now I want you to grow up" whatever that means.
i dont wear makeup at all and i feel this is the real me i have nothing to hide sad thing is men seem to look at the all made up women but a real man looks deeper then that he dont need a trophy on his arm to make him look good i see it so much and i know people who are like that thank you for this post good stuff
Thank you Brian for your video. Yes I agree a man can be attractive to a woman without makeup. Years ago I was studying for a college exam at my home. I was wearing a tshirt and shorts. I had my hair in a ponytail. I had no makeup. My Mom was waiting on a furniture delivery. There was a knock at the door. I open the door. There was a young man smiling at me. He explained he was the delivery man. Then my Mom appeared and took over the conversation. I went back to my books. A while later the delivery man made it a point to say goodbye to me while he was smiling. I thought it was odd. I said goodbye to him. After he left, my mother told me that the delivery man asked questions about me. When my Mom said I had a boyfriend, he was disappointed because he found me attractive. It was a surprise to me. It does happen. Men can find a woman attractive without makeup.
I have been told by men ( and my women friends too ) that because I am confident in my larger body that is attractive and to the women inspiring because most women no matter what their size are NOT confident!
We in Australia have to wear face masks 😷 every day, making it super hard to smile at anyone, I love to smile and this is awful not being able to smile freely
A real smile, otherwise known as a Duquesne smile, involves about 21 muscles in your face. It goes all the way to your eyes and forehead. Don’t stop being smiley! Mask or not, we can tell!
Lol i feel the same, i wear my mask all the time now, i dont take it off until i go home or eat somewhere. But alot of people always said i have a nice smile and i love to smile. But now with the masks i feel insecure of my smile. Just because i havent showed it in a long time 😭
I would like to thank you for your videos. Love your humour in them and the way you help us find a lighter and brighter, more understable to ourselves, path through sometimes difficult matters. I live in Antwerp, Belgium:)..... so can pronounce your name, Geert. All the best.
Love this show so much.Its very attractive person n fun to watch it too.I wish he can share more story about dating stuff.Thanks BrianNox for everything🤗🙏Lots of love ay💜💟💕💞
Hi Brian I have thoroughly appreciated your honest and thoughtful advice in your videos. Could you please make a video on relationships with older men and younger women (or relationships with a large age difference)?
What attracts men to me is also what inevitably repels them after a while.. Knowing my own mind and being unafraid to stand by my convictions, even if it means I’m standing alone. Men love that about me until they, or someone they know, are on the receiving end. Then they want me to make allowances or excuses.
I think this quality is important so you're not taken advantage of, but you also have to use it carefully and in a balanced way. Coming on too strong repels everyone, not just men. But, maybe thinking of this quality as your "super power" and being committed to use it for good and never turn it on someone who doesn't really deserve it would be a good rule to follow. The ability to be yielding and flexible is so important in any relationship.
Thank U Brian for the reassurance and bless you for reminding us what's really important; after so many years, one should remember not only ones boundaries but also mindful attraction to one another, such as pure and simple moves, vibes and long lasting truthful emotions, such as respect towards one another, tender smiles and playfulness. Good luck everyone and always look for the silver lining.. relationships don't last without honest work and best of intentions.
Of course attraction is needed but the smile is key because it shows the character and when you get to know the character and really like it, that is everything.
I'm PLAYFUL, SILLY and nerdy. Unfortunately, my physical aspects attract men who hope I'm stupid and slutty. What can I do about that...and yes, I do try to dress modestly.
Can confirm, it’s not always about having the perfect smile to have a smile that someone enjoys. I’ve had crooked teeth all my life and the men that have loved me, loved them. ❤
Everything, everything, everything I agree and really follow all your videos, but 1 thing. Many psychologists say that independence is attractive. I live my life in fullest, love myself, i am mainly independent, but why I heard from men soooo many times: Look, I look at you for a long time, but you live such a good time alone, such a full time good, that I can only tell myself of course she doesn't need me, I can only spoil her time and all beautiful things she lives.... and I didn't want to bother you. I can not tell you how many times I heard this, after a long time somebody liked me from a side. So that I must say : Noooo, its not how it looks like, i would like to have a company. But no, they seem discouraged by my independace totally. Seem like they think: why would she need me, she has a great time alone. Even strong men think this
I believe independence is fine to a point, but if we have matured to the point where we would like a partner in life then we need to focus on how to be interdependent. Independence is fine for learning about yourself and what makes for good choices for yourself, but it doesn't necessarily take into account a whole other set of needs and or desires a potential partner would likely come with. This is yet another "life test" to help us understand just how mature we really are because just how ready am I for self-sacrificing choices?
Strange but true 🥰 Brian 🥰 there are these men who love it when women get dolled up all the time 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 and these are in my experience crazy controlling men 🙃
Ok recently he said he is comfortable with me. Then on the second day , he said that he attract to me ... And said I m very attractive to him. Then our conversation is starting up and he said he is interested in me. I m a shaman witch , which I help human to guide them through chakra and also make them back into the right path. But after what he said out as he have wife .. but I don sense that.. Yet he told me he got lots of women as a part of friendship.. but I reply him is not my business whether he got or not. I m just guiding him . I had interested in him but when he said he got wife .. I will not step in.
Mystery, allure. Holding yourself in a place of reverence and dignity. The funny thing is when I was a doormat I hated myself. Now I actually trust I will meet a twin flame, I won't waste my time with ok's, do for now. I am focused on my quest, Earth mission and the other half, the one that will activate this. Yet first I know I must love myself, and be confident regardless of the way I look. I will attempt to be healthy and fit, but I do not like dressing up at all, and never have, it repulses me. When I see females dolled up it looks desperate and a game of attraction. When your body is that of a thoroughbred, sexual allure can be very powerful. I am finding my own attractiveness, it's a healthy body, but something much deeper. It's a knowledge of my essence, a connection to all life. I know the most lovely French lady who is exhibiting neediness, jealousy, and insecurity. The one she adores has pushed her away, and now wants her as a friend "with benefits." I don't know how to help her see her own self-worth. She's flawless, with no lines, a youthful body, face, exquisite features, and thick dark hair. She makes others feel noticed, she's nurturing and supportive and a good person. Yet she is all over a man who has no option but to run! When I am around she gets possessive, Why? I am older and wiser from my folly! I am more confident in myself and more self-assured, I don't care if people like me or not. How can I help her please, she is the loveliest woman I know!
@@joselphmandeman9453 no thanks. I'm happy the way I am. But I love studing mass behaivour, social psycology, relationships... humans are very interesting. The videos in this channel seems to be more sensible and realistic. No games, no magic formula.
When i listen to Brian , i always see how ' arrange marriage' system in my country/ culture short circuits all the dating advice. Its short and practical. Youth , beuty for women and riches for men and his family. Its really difficult to gauge the interest, quality of men. Almost all type of men get married in arranged marriage system except for very poor/ very obnoxious. It works the same way for women too.
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1. Your smile: he wants to matter to you
2. PJs: shows to true, imperfect, confident you
3. Open up: be emotionally vulnerable with him
4. Power: respect your boundaries, don't be a doormat
5. Playfulness: be childlike, don't take yourself so seriously
6. Not seeking reassurance, stay certain: be confident in your independence and ability to make decisions ( show that you want him, not need him)
Great!
Thank you! I can't concentrate on what he's saying, for some reason
Alexis Fulford: Where are you from? I have Fulfords in my family tree! They’re from Indiana. We might be related.
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Thank you. The ADD is strong with me tonight.
the smile is SO SO powerful!!! Honestly someone's smile is one of the first things that catch my eye about someone else
I think my husband fell in love with me because I was carefree. I wasn't looking for a relationship. We just had a lot of fun getting to know each other. And we fell in love. For a lifetime.
Good men are more attracted to confident and independent women with a good personality.
@@How.Dare.You. they´re not!
I have all the PPP:
PEACE, PASSION, PLAYFULNESS.
But have to keep working on the most important ingredient in life which is : PATIENCE
That’s true! I’m trying to work on all of those, especially patience
You've just made a huge difference in my life. I've been dating someone for a while, and I've been really insecure in the relationship because of something that happened a month ago. I've been lost in a lot of these kinds of videos and going through the lists going, "Check, check, check, so why do my relationships not work." But when you explained "power," it blew my mind when you said that if I have self respect and put boundaries, I'll push away those who don't want to respect them and instead find people who are LOOKING for someone to respect themselves - which is the kind of person I've always wanted to be. I do put up with too much in relationships, even when it breaks my heart, for the sake of being loved due to low self-esteem and little value in myself; and while I've been realizing this and working on it, the way you just explained it really put it in perspective for me and gave me a lot of hope. Thank you so much.
What a gifted man. He knows what he's talking about.
Great video. I've been practicing the same things, which have led me to walking away from some relationships. Did it hurt to walk away? YES, it hurt like hell. It took me months to get over some of these guys, but I was determined to have the quality relationship I know I deserve. I have recently started dating a new guy, and the more I stand my ground, assert boundaries, and communicate my expectations, it's the stronger he comes on. Believe me, it's an amazing feeling. Now, I'm getting the kind of relationship I desire, one that is based on love and mutual respect. The process will be difficult; take it from me, but the reward is well worth the effort Recently, he referred to me as a high value woman. There's no way in hell I would have attracted this guy, had I not be willing to let go of low value men. It's his perception of me being a high value woman that attracted him to me.
GOOD for YOU!!!
I like watching your videos because I've been married for almost 35 years and I want to make sure I'm still easy to love and enjoyable for my husband to live with. We have a very good marriage and three fantastic grown kids, but you can't stop working on it and learning. When I was a young person dating, one of the things guys liked about me (you asked in the video about this) was that I have always had a "no drama" rule. I had too many female friends who were emotional rollercoasters and really difficult to be around if they were in a mood or having a bad day. If their day was bad, everyone's day was bad--or worse. I really didn't want to ever be that way or force others to deal with that. I cultivated an easy-going and friendly attitude, one that made the guys unafraid and comfortable with me. I still practice this with my husband. I guess it comes down to not being selfish and remembering to think about how he feels on a daily basis. I still have female friends, even at this age, who focus so much of themselves and their feelings that they make their husbands, boyfriends, kids, friends, and everyone else around them miserable. Big, big turnoff.
This reads like an internalized misogyny. Yikes
@@RenopunkJo then you misunderstand.
@@strawberrygirl8572 thank you for writing this. It is very helpful. I notice my mom is this way with my dad. And they are very happy even after 40yrs of marriage. My mom is just a happy go lucky lady :)
@@RenopunkJo thinking about your partner's feeling is internalized misogyny? 😂
You are praising yourself in this whole passage while raising yourself above the others, the lesser worth ones, the drama queens, as you call them. Honestly, you sound anything but like the person you describe here but instead this whole passage about how cool you are and how great your life turned out (compared to all the other losers) speaks so much more. Thank you for giving us this insight. People around you are truly blessed to have you!
I love this guy! He speaks so well and clear and literally everything he says is true and makes sense! Please never stop making videos
The best feeling is when your talking and realize he isn’t even listening to you anymore. He’s just staring at you with a smile on his face.
I had a wonderful love in 2020, he lived in another country, we used to do zoom calls and later he would text me that he was tracing my face the entire time with the mouse 🥰
I disagree. It's disrespectful if he ignores your mind to focus on your body.
I keep doing that, trying to stop so I actually take in the information lol
Ohhh no ! That's is sign of Psychopath beware and get away
That’s called ADHD lol
Thank you Brian for your confirmation of being vulnerable. One of my ex boyfriends told me that I shouldn’t share my vulnerability at the beginning of a relationship. However, I realized that if I am open, my partner opens himself more.
Except you shouldn't share vulnerabilities until you know whether or not the guy is a narcissist psychopath who will use your vulnerabilities against you. That can take months.
THIS!!!🔥🔥🔥
@@wms72so true
Love this guy!
He is so fantastic to watch. Excellent balance of instruction and amusement. Would love to see him live! A workshop would be cool!
True .. i love him!
@@Liz-dragon-street. I call dibs if he’s single😝😉
My husband says my kindness, inner strength and speaking my mind are highly attractive to him.
He loves my smile, but he said one of the most attractive things about me is that I have no idea how beautiful i really am. I thought that was kind and interesting.
@@olaladegugu2404 please I will be glad if you can connect me thanks in advance
I smile then I have awkward smile with braces
Sense of humor being down to earth and great conversation
Soooo spot on!
You certainly know women,
I especially like the comment of
Men loving independent women.
We want him….
But don’t need him!
Big difference, Game changer.
love your simplicity and authenticity in how you carry yourself Brian!
I love to see a guy being kind to others when he doesn't know I'm watching. It's a real turn on.
This is all good but screams for a disclaimer: if he's not into you these won't change his mind
In a way he covers that with the comment he made about the wrong ones will leave if you are essentially you
I love this! Hit the nail on the head every time, highly enjoyable yet rooted in good psychology and counselling practice.
Heres more: Knowing who you are and knowing your mind.
Having a seperate life/hobbies etc. without him
STOP THE SCAMS WITH WHATSAPP
I ask some men who ever like or love me. Why did you find me attractive? They said, assertiveness. They said i'm most amazing because i always know what i want and what i dont like and said it clearly.
Every guy I dated always liked my eyes and my smile but I start being playful/joking around when I really like the person.
I love your videos they have help me alot in the last year. I have been through alot of bad relationship and I think I ready to get back out there. After my last boyfriend I shut down completely 😔 but I think I'm ready to try again.
It would be really helpful if when you have a list of things to put them up on the screen. Helps us remember them better if we read them as well. Love ur videos. ;-)
Take notes, pencil on paper! Best way to retain helpful info
Have you considered taking notes during his videos? I tend to find writing notes help me with remembering also.
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The first year that my husband and I were married, I was speaking as an activist to a board to to promote changes in our community.
I did my presentation and returned to my seat next to my husband.
We left the meeting.
As soon as we got in the car, he said that he had never been more attracted to me and could not wait to get home!
I’ve been married for a long time but had a break down in the marriage. I’m finding your videos so so helpful as I work on gaining my power back and building up my self esteem. Hopefully I will be able to assert myself and make my boundaries clear and thus attract a good man who will finally treat me the way I deserve. Thank you so much for your help ❤
The eyes, The smile
I've been told there is something mysterious about me and some guys seem to like that.
That 's what my latest dating person said. He said I wasn't sure if you liked me or what you were feeling but I was curious about you.
I totally agree. We're still very playful to this time. We laugh hard.
That’s awesome!!
Oddly, since I got a short pixie cut, more men approach me. I think it's because I feel much better about myself. I had never known how to style my long hair and it bothered me. Now I am carefree and confident and it shows.
Also, smile is indeed important. I was amazed to see that yes, I smiled at men and they did come to talk to me.
The Pixie Cut is less threatening to men.
@@visaman why?
@@redefinedliving5974 it symbolizes innocence and youth.
My view: just be real, and stay with others who are also real. That’s the only way to ensure you will actually get your best match in romance..., and also the best buddies for friendship. Whenever you have to overthink a relationship or feel some coolness or distance, then you haven’t found the right one. You can’t change it. Move on.
I actually really like the idea of going out on a date in my PJ’s lol
Right? 😂 wish I knew this a long time ago. Would've saved me so much time getting ready for all those dates 😉🤣
I think that advice might be a trap, unless the woman is already super beautiful, perfect skin and perfect hair naturally... a bit insecure will help a woman to present herself better all the time
@@sdla690 It's not about being beautiful or perfect skin or anything . It's about how comfortable you are with your own body. I never take care of my clothes or skin just basic hygene and comfortable clothings nothing serious and I never use make up. My bf keep compliment me when I wear pyjama on our video chat and I'm not even beautiful or anything just average looking woman. The different is I never care about what ppl think about me as long as I'm being myself I'm happy. Ppl who don't accept me for who I am can just get out my life I don't care
Definitely what I think that make men drawn to me is that I am very gentle, soft spoken and fairly feminine. I'm also very short. I have been through weight fluctuations and even while I was fat, skinny, men were drawn to me because I listened to them, spoke to them like a human being and with a gentle touch. Men want to feel mattered as you said. And its surprising how simple a touch on the arm, pat on the back, etc can be or just speaking to them and listening to what they are saying really makes them feel noticed. I think men have a lot to deal with, and especially men who are doing very hard, manual labor jobs, if you are a bit motherly to them I think it makes them feel comfortable. Might remind them of childhood when their mom cared for them. I think most of us as adults really lack that feeling that we matter and deserve to be cared for. Which, as women, is something we(normally) excel at, taking care of others. So I think it goes full circle. Men become more protective of you if you show you care for them. It's almost like they don't even realize it themselves!
When I worked in Healthcare, a Nurse used to tell me (when I was a pushover and young) that I needed to be mean with men, to be successful. I didn't really understand it at the time and laughed at what she said . Now, I completely get what she meant because I mostly work with men in Security and spend a lot of time around men. I believe they respect me , because I 'm no longer a pushover and seem tough as nails. Actually, working in this job makes you tougher (as a side effect). I actually get more attention, lol, then I did before, when I was nice. And I try not to be needy, although as a woman this is hard. Well I'm a sigma female. I would say less of the emotional opening up, is better for me(maybe I did too much of that before). Too much emotion can scare them away. I feel carefree now and more confident around men. I also believe they like a sense of humor (to laugh).
My husband said he was attracted to my combination of being feminine but a bit of a playful tomboy, too.
I'm on the autism spectrum and I don't like meaningless small talk and banter. Whenever I talk to people it soon becomes what others consider "deep" (for me that's just normal conversation), and funnily enough that seems to attract men like shit does flies. Combine it with my weird sense of humor, wit and a pinch of sarcasm and there's a certain type of guy who's quickly enamored.
Don't ask me why. I'm not particularly interested in dating and relationships and it usually annoys me because I just want to talk... 🤷🤣
Same. 🤜
I love that 😂
Most men don’t smile if women don’t smile
My sexy confidence, smile, helper to their life, never ask for anything, believing in his dreams Encouraging, funny, considerate & loving self.
I've learned alot from your video's
Thank you sir Brian ,❤
May God continually blessed you
and your family 🙏
Every guys who are attracted to me are those I m not interested in… perhaps my small social circle, I, too, have never met a guy that I m attracted to … not sure if I m being extremely picky, or I m just not into having a relationship
It happened to me too. I first met a guy whom I really liked at 23. He liked me back but then ghosted lol. So now I’m struggling again cause I don’t like anybody 😢
He said the most important thing in our relationship is that - we can talk about things that bothers us, instead of shutting down & later on piling up resentments like what happened to him and his Ex wife of 28 yrs with 2 adult children. However, i recently caught his email to her 6days before we went on a road trip that he still misses and love her still😪he lied to me when he said he’s done & over her 8months ago after their divorce.
Crossing that boundaries were painful and i dont know how to teach him a lesson afterwards
@@yahuzasulaimanyahoozee3496 ???
@@yahuzasulaimanyahoozee3496 so is your Ex -the character/person in my Scenario??? Or you’re the Rebound girlfriend like me?
He's attracted to my generosity and intellect
I get comments on my voice CONSTANTLY. I have a rich lower register voice and I used to be shy about it because movies (and anime) can suggest guys prefer a girl with a high pitched voice or at least a lighter tone. As I've aged (I'm 44 now) my voice had only gotten richer and I get more and more comments about it. I say this to encourage you if you have a lower toned voice, not all guys are looking for giggly schoolgirl voices. (Some are, but you'd be surprised how much power you can wield with your real voice.) Godspeed my rich voiced sisters! ♥
I am having a relationship (actually just got proposed to) in not my first language and my partner (fiancée) loves that I have a weird accent and make grammatical errors in Spanish (he speaks no English). He also finds it fascinating that I have a high physical energy and pain tolerance… that sounds weird but I am referring to the fact we are both surfers and I stay out there way longer than most and can get injured and it not really bother me (I got smacked in the face when someone collided with me and didn’t notice that my eye had turned into a swollen egg and all black til I got out of the water an hour later… dunno why but he seems to think I’m tough and he likes that…
Oh and it seems to be that he finds the fact that I have a face a bit like a rabbit endearing hahahha god that sounds really unattractive hahahahaha
Ive just started dating a fellow, we talked on line for a month with no naughty talk, then dated for 3 months with no naughtiness and believe it or not its one of the main reasons he came back for a second date in the first place. The reason he says was because if I didnt do that with him that means I didnt do that with anyone. Hes had women send rude photos to him and do all the sexual talk and hes not interested in dating them. He also likes my smile :) So we are 8 months in hes the first guy I actually went out on a date with after talking to gosh so many men on plenty of fish so I think I picked well! He was also the only guy i initiated contact with and that was because he had kind eyes and truly he is a kind person.
He has a very story telling voice and much perfect for radio.
7 years sober
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What would help me a lot is captions in the form of a point list. Your points are more memorable when I can read them while listening.
I was totally the playful type and my ex husband loved that about me but when we got married he told me "It was cute in the beginning but now I want you to grow up" whatever that means.
Red flag right there. Controlling behaviour. Later he will hold it against you that you are no fun anymore.
@@francesmcfadden57 so you can't win no matter what you do 🤔
Run.....
@@michellewall6748 I did, which is why i said ex husband
Now I know why he’s your x!
i dont wear makeup at all and i feel this is the real me i have nothing to hide sad thing is men seem to look at the all made up women but a real man looks deeper then that he dont need a trophy on his arm to make him look good i see it so much and i know people who are like that thank you for this post good stuff
Thank you Brian for your video. Yes I agree a man can be attractive to a woman without makeup.
Years ago I was studying for a college exam at my home. I was wearing a tshirt and shorts. I had my hair in a ponytail. I had no makeup.
My Mom was waiting on a furniture delivery. There was a knock at the door. I open the door. There was a young man smiling at me. He explained he was the delivery man. Then my Mom appeared and took over the conversation. I went back to my books.
A while later the delivery man made it a point to say goodbye to me while he was smiling. I thought it was odd. I said goodbye to him.
After he left, my mother told me that the delivery man asked questions about me. When my Mom said I had a boyfriend, he was disappointed because he found me attractive. It was a surprise to me. It does happen. Men can find a woman attractive without makeup.
Of course. I never wear make up and have a lot of men interested in me.
Priceless advice/information
Just looking good and having a man comment and being polite and saying thank you with a smile
He's voice is so relaxing.
I have been told by men ( and my women friends too ) that because I am confident in my larger body that is attractive and to the women inspiring because most women no matter what their size are NOT confident!
I sure do admire your communication style
We in Australia have to wear face masks 😷 every day, making it super hard to smile at anyone, I love to smile and this is awful not being able to smile freely
Same. I smile at everyone. But so hard because of the bloody masks, so now I have stepped up and say "G'day " to everyone
@@jocelynbelle2946 still not the same…
A real smile, otherwise known as a Duquesne smile, involves about 21 muscles in your face. It goes all the way to your eyes and forehead. Don’t stop being smiley! Mask or not, we can tell!
Lol i feel the same, i wear my mask all the time now, i dont take it off until i go home or eat somewhere. But alot of people always said i have a nice smile and i love to smile. But now with the masks i feel insecure of my smile. Just because i havent showed it in a long time 😭
Hehehe
I would like to thank you for your videos. Love your humour in them and the way you help us find a lighter and brighter, more understable to ourselves, path through sometimes difficult matters.
I live in Antwerp, Belgium:)..... so can pronounce your name, Geert. All the best.
Thankyou for insights. The confidence side is definately a thing
I just recently attracted a guy and on our second date he said it was because of my smile.
I was told by every guy that I m very genuine
I think I have all these features but I need a man I am attracted to😂
Love this show so much.Its very attractive person n fun to watch it too.I wish he can share more story about dating stuff.Thanks BrianNox for everything🤗🙏Lots of love ay💜💟💕💞
Hi Brian I have thoroughly appreciated your honest and thoughtful advice in your videos. Could you please make a video on relationships with older men and younger women (or relationships with a large age difference)?
How about the other way round!
Listening to your videos and thinking to do it makes me already drained.
I always look forward to your new videos 😊 i recommend you to all my friends
An insightful and enjoyable listen!🙏🏼
I actually went on date with this guy for the first time on my pajama. We went for a walk with coffee on our hands while talking.
@@blessingonyinyechigozie3532 no thanks
What attracts men to me is also what inevitably repels them after a while..
Knowing my own mind and being unafraid to stand by my convictions, even if it means I’m standing alone.
Men love that about me until they, or someone they know, are on the receiving end. Then they want me to make allowances or excuses.
Interesting. Do you know teal swan? She has a video on containment.
I think this quality is important so you're not taken advantage of, but you also have to use it carefully and in a balanced way. Coming on too strong repels everyone, not just men. But, maybe thinking of this quality as your "super power" and being committed to use it for good and never turn it on someone who doesn't really deserve it would be a good rule to follow. The ability to be yielding and flexible is so important in any relationship.
@@strawberrygirl8572 yielding and flexible sure but never at the expense of your believes and values, and things that you absolutely hate
I am the same way and I attract and repeal for the same reason.
I've been following you for a while your videos are so useful thank you !
Thank U Brian for the reassurance and bless you for reminding us what's really important; after so many years, one should remember not only ones boundaries but also mindful attraction to one another, such as pure and simple moves, vibes and long lasting truthful emotions, such as respect towards one another, tender smiles and playfulness. Good luck everyone and always look for the silver lining.. relationships don't last without honest work and best of intentions.
When you try to speak or say something in their native language is music to their ears. 😊
That million dollar smile and eyes😊
I smile after he kisses me and he looks at me and asks "why are you smirking at me like that" and gets freaked out ☹️
Love this video!! Words of wisdom 😊
OMG your are amazing and your videos are extremely helpful. I've being taking the imput and putting them into action. They all work! Thanks. 💚🤗🌴
Of course attraction is needed but the smile is key because it shows the character and when you get to know the character and really like it, that is everything.
My stretch marks☺️
Love it!
I'm PLAYFUL, SILLY and nerdy. Unfortunately, my physical aspects attract men who hope I'm stupid and slutty. What can I do about that...and yes, I do try to dress modestly.
You give great advice.
All your books are great ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ and ENOUGH! Is awesome! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️. Thank you. 😊
Super super cool stuff! Thanks Brain!
Sooooooo good! Glad I found you!
I hope someday, "Brian", will give simple and quick bullet point videos.
Can confirm, it’s not always about having the perfect smile to have a smile that someone enjoys. I’ve had crooked teeth all my life and the men that have loved me, loved them. ❤
Everything, everything, everything I agree and really follow all your videos, but 1 thing. Many psychologists say that independence is attractive. I live my life in fullest, love myself, i am mainly independent, but why I heard from men soooo many times: Look, I look at you for a long time, but you live such a good time alone, such a full time good, that I can only tell myself of course she doesn't need me, I can only spoil her time and all beautiful things she lives.... and I didn't want to bother you.
I can not tell you how many times I heard this, after a long time somebody liked me from a side. So that I must say : Noooo, its not how it looks like, i would like to have a company. But no, they seem discouraged by my independace totally. Seem like they think: why would she need me, she has a great time alone. Even strong men think this
Woah 👀 that's the other side of the story 😲I didn't even think about
I believe independence is fine to a point, but if we have matured to the point where we would like a partner in life then we need to focus on how to be interdependent.
Independence is fine for learning about yourself and what makes for good choices for yourself, but it doesn't necessarily take into account a whole other set of needs and or desires a potential partner would likely come with.
This is yet another "life test" to help us understand just how mature we really are because just how ready am I for self-sacrificing choices?
When you said men are like kids. 🤣
This guy knows what he’s talking about
Strange but true 🥰 Brian 🥰 there are these men who love it when women get dolled up all the time 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 and these are in my experience crazy controlling men 🙃
Ok recently he said he is comfortable with me. Then on the second day , he said that he attract to me ... And said I m very attractive to him. Then our conversation is starting up and he said he is interested in me.
I m a shaman witch , which I help human to guide them through chakra and also make them back into the right path.
But after what he said out as he have wife .. but I don sense that..
Yet he told me he got lots of women as a part of friendship.. but I reply him is not my business whether he got or not. I m just guiding him . I had interested in him but when he said he got wife .. I will not step in.
Mystery, allure. Holding yourself in a place of reverence and dignity. The funny thing is when I was a doormat I hated myself. Now I actually trust I will meet a twin flame, I won't waste my time with ok's, do for now. I am focused on my quest, Earth mission and the other half, the one that will activate this. Yet first I know I must love myself, and be confident regardless of the way I look. I will attempt to be healthy and fit, but I do not like dressing up at all, and never have, it repulses me. When I see females dolled up it looks desperate and a game of attraction. When your body is that of a thoroughbred, sexual allure can be very powerful. I am finding my own attractiveness, it's a healthy body, but something much deeper. It's a knowledge of my essence, a connection to all life.
I know the most lovely French lady who is exhibiting neediness, jealousy, and insecurity. The one she adores has pushed her away, and now wants her as a friend "with benefits." I don't know how to help her see her own self-worth. She's flawless, with no lines, a youthful body, face, exquisite features, and thick dark hair. She makes others feel noticed, she's nurturing and supportive and a good person. Yet she is all over a man who has no option but to run! When I am around she gets possessive, Why? I am older and wiser from my folly! I am more confident in myself and more self-assured, I don't care if people like me or not. How can I help her please, she is the loveliest woman I know!
I've watched several videos on relationships. Yours are the best.
@@joselphmandeman9453 no thanks. I'm happy the way I am. But I love studing mass behaivour, social psycology, relationships... humans are very interesting. The videos in this channel seems to be more sensible and realistic. No games, no magic formula.
I would say something men have been attracted to in me is my ability to be introspective and my desire to be a better person, always
Thanks Brian , i put that in mind . Thanks a lot for the info.
Thank you Brian 🙋♀️
Helpful….. after a very covert abusive marriage where we had children.
When i listen to Brian , i always see how ' arrange marriage' system in my country/ culture short circuits all the dating advice. Its short and practical. Youth , beuty for women and riches for men and his family. Its really difficult to gauge the interest, quality of men. Almost all type of men get married in arranged marriage system except for very poor/ very obnoxious. It works the same way for women too.
"Hellooooh!" 😂😂
Loved it 😍