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@@samusaran7317 True. But when you've been alone as long as yours truly, curiosity at least is bound to torment you, as the days pass by and you endlessly keep wondering, what it feels like to be loved and considered important by that significant other. *"Man who thinks all the time, has nothing else except thoughts. And thus, he lives in a world full of his own illusions."* -Alan Watts
@@pohjantuulet247 I believe you bud. Relationships now are not something to strive for in my opinion. Whats worse is feeling more lonely in a relationship than single. Been there myself about 4 different times now.... The only real thing you're missing out on is hookup culture... Good and nice people are often damaged sadly...
Telling a single person who’s never dated that “there are plenty of fish in the sea” is like telling a homeless person that “there are plenty of houses out there”
it can't be that bad in reality... im 26 fully virgin never had an experience even kiss but i think if you do the math someone will be there for you but you need to start searching hardly maybe and low your standards certainly too
@@nikolaikirkanovic My standards are as low as humanly possible without getting into the realm of illegality. I cant meet anyone because I dont have a car, nor do I have money. No woman I've ever seen would like a guy like that. I know for a fact that nice women like that exist, just not in my town...
Kinda depressed right now in my head. It’s September 6th and it’s my birthday today actually I’m 25 now and I still never felt a real romance in my life yet. I have friends who I grew up with and are in their own homes, married with the loves of their lives and I’m still completely single and feel like I’m never gonna find anyone. Just sucks to think I might die and never experienced what it’s like to be in love. Getting a little teary-eyed just typing this Update: May 30th 2021, Guys I’m in a serious relationship now guess I spoke it into existence lmao Love the positive feedback tho. Blessing to everyone who sees this!
Don't worry, those are the same people who will be divorced in their 40s and going through stressful custody battles. You'll find yourself meeting the right person in your 30s or even early 40s and because you will know what you truly want and have a better understanding of life, you won't make the mistake your friends did by marrying someone so early in life. It's already been proven that people who marry in their 20s or late teens are the culprits of the high divorce rates.
Mia Carter I haven’t loved someone since 3rd grade, I have had people ask but I say no simply because I don’t love them and if I did love somebody and they said yes I wouldn’t know what to do afterwards.
i have a lot of guys wanting me, but i dont want them. it sucks, i want someone that i really like. but guys that i like lives in other countries or doesnt like me back.
I was told , back when I was 34 , that “ your so cute , you will be married in no time”. 16 years later , here I am at 50!!! Had a nice steak 🥩 dinner tonight... all alone! Some people don’t find love.
my life story in a nutshell. XD it worked kinda but meh xD honestly gonna try not looking anymore and just try acheive my goals and if i get any oppurtunities then ill take it but i doubt that will happen for a long time xD
Shadow Stalker850 true but I find it hard to look for someone as looking online and in the real world haven’t worked so the logical solution is to ether give up or imagine I have a girlfriend
@@strangeguy8997 You'll find them, trust me, if your really looking hard at who walks in and out of your life, you might find that some may want to stay or you want them to... Its better if its in person( imo) So don't give up and pay attention to the surroundings.
@@reeses_unicorn The beat part about love is, ironically, the fact that its is terrifying.... All that fear, anticipation, what would you do with it all?......Would you turn your tail and run..or hunt the future that you want using all of that against the doubt?
@@bananian True, and it sucks that people lost the whole point of a relationship... To me its a promise of a sort, to others its an opprotunity of a kind....A test you could ask anyone now is "If I lost everything, would you still be there?".. Only the person who meets my answer would stay.
Its gotten to the point where I think maybe i need to resort to that. No need for me to be emotionally connected to someone, get my release, and go about my day. if youre dating a girl, she might cheat on you or suddenly stop liking you and it kills you on the inside.
I don’t think i look ugly. I look the same as my dad and he’s always been successful with women, but I just am to introverted and hate to make the first move, because that automatically makes you vulnerable.
Stop looking. Shut down your human nature of seeking love. Find love for yourself. Improve yourself, spoil yourself, be at peace with yourself. Put love in yourself and something you love to do, listen to, watch, follow. Then let whatever happens takes course.
Fr tho. People say “looks don’t matter it’s what’s on the inside that counts” when that’s hot garbage. I’m actually not that bad of a person yet I know damn well if I walk up to someone that I have an interest for and confess or ask them out they’ll reject me bc I’m not that good looking. Even if it was someone I’m pretty close with they’d still prolly be like “ee lol no”
@@pickledpasta1677 hmm stay strong girl..we're in this together your story reminds me when I was being compared with prettier girl by 2 boys in middle school...it still kinda hurts even though they speak about it politely and i appreciate their honesty
“You don’t give people enough chances” I would give people chances but I haven’t had the opportunity to give somebody a chance, i haven’t even have the chance to not give a chance to someone.
Rainbow Skull...me too I feel as if some one likes me but I always avoid them because I get shy and awkward when I’m around him so I feel as if they give up cause their getting mixed signals form me. But I still fall for the same guy even if it means he doesn’t like me back. 🤧
Im so SICK OF THOSE SO CALLED GOD SENT CLICHE PEOPLE ALL THEY DO IS SAY ALL KIND OF DUMB ASS CLICHES😡😡😡😠😠😤😤😤 SHIT IM DAMN NEAR 50 LIFE IS PASSING ME BY ALL MY FRIENDS AND COUSINS ARE MARRIED WITH CHILDREN NOW GROWN ON THEY WAY TO BEING GRANDPARENTS, SOME ALREADY GRANDPARENTS I HATE GODS PLAN FOR MY LIFE I GOT NOTHING!!!😠😠😠
Never kissed a girl Still a virgin Never had a girlfriend I've been rejected too many times I have depression My suicide is getting closer every day I live in my own fantasy I will never find love and I've accepted it. I hate that people still believe that I will find love. Trust me it will never happen. Yet people still say that Im attractive........ no, Im not
@@blythesaunders3124 Yeah. It sucks. Some people just dont understand how it feels, because most people know what its like to love someone or to be loved. Love is just not meant for everybody😕😞. We r just too ugly, not attractive or not confident enough. Or.......we r all of it.....😔
Some of the other reasons for not finding “love” that I’ve ran across include: 1. Looking in the wrong places - like “Dating sites” - that were intended to be more for hook-ups, rather than them being for something more meaningful.. 2. The people you’re interested in, turn out to either be married, or in a relationship already - or they turn out to be too superficial, and as a result you end up passing on the “opportunity” to get to know them.. 3. Since you’re the type of introvert that absolutely hates to be in a crowd... You avoid going to paces where there are a lot of people - including parties, sporting events and even bars.. Not only those places, but even speed dating events as well. 4. You still have thoughts of your ex on your mind, not from the “comparison” if they’re better than the person you’re trying to meet. But to make sure the new person doesn’t hurt you the way your ex had (because your ex was a psycho, and making sure you don’t end up with someone like that again!) . 5. You might not be ready to find “love” - Or you might even start to feel hopeless because of your age, you feel like there’s no hope of ever finding “love”. 6. The problem might not be you, but the people you meet might have their standards either too high that it’s next to impossible for others to meet, or too low that they go with everyone else.
.... There was two guys... I almost had relationship with them. But i introduce them to my best friend... And both times, they fall in love with her. She's amazing, she would never do that, but after they see her, they were always asking how is she and saying me, how she's amazing and other shits. It just hurts so badly.
lol that just happened to me recently, my best friend ended up with the girl I've been in love with since more than three years, the girl suddently told him that she loved him, (he's an extremely popular guy), and he did'nt knew what to do so I told him to accept because I knew I did'nt had any chance left at this point... (sorry if there's english faults I'm french)
@@eliskaceslarova1382 I feel ya girl 😥 Same thing happened to me when my friend met a guy I had been rejected by.... instead he likes her and I have to witness that 😭
I think I’ve hit rock bottom with watching this video. I’ve just come to accept that I’m gonna end up alone. It just hurts so much cause I see everyone else in relationships and I yearn for that. I just want someone who I can show who I am to them.
@@kayj6485 No it's just a fact that there is always someone interested in a girl so its unlikely for them to experience the "nobody is even interested at all"
Since the begging I knew that this wasn’t the video for me, but I still watched it. I am in the top of my game when it comes to self-love, I put myself out there always, go to partys, extracurricular activities or clases, I give people chances and I don’t have an toxic ex, I don’t even have an ex. But at the end is when this video killed me “maybe is not your time”. Yeah, maybe, but I’m tired to be the one friend that is single, the one that everyone knows that is always free on valantines, the one that when it comes to partys or hanging out with friends is always the third wheel. Why is everybody’s time but not mine?
Same bro, I decided last year that if nobody's gonna love me, I'll take care of myself, I don't think I'm ugly as some women Cleary find me of their taste when in come to physical attraction ( go to the gym 6 day a week and work in hard labor job) but I'm a complete nerd and just love geek shit, Never been in a relationship, and people just give me the "it's not your time" well fuck off, Im tired of this stupid shit like you can absolutely do nothing to better your situation, you take all the chance you got to talk and meet new people, know them, go out,etc and nothing, I'm just tired of this shit and hope the best to you and all other people that came to this video for the same reason but really, Im just thinking about ending all this shit by joining the army and getting deployed, at least people remember you when you are not there for them anymore
Consu Space I feel the same way, I have for 13 years. I haven’t loved anyone since 3rd grade. I just don’t get it anymore, I can’t even imagine myself loving somebody back. I’ve had many people ask to my surprise but I just can’t say yes because I don’t love them back.
@@isaacjones2914 It really isn't. You gotta put forth the effort to actually improve yourself. Check out a channel called "Based Zeus" he gives amazing advice about self-improvement and how to pick up women. Check out his "30 ways to be confident" video first.
@Kakashi Hatake Yeah i know i dont make an efort to impress, Im just myself, and not Many people like my honesty and bluntness, and has a result i dont have many friends...
Dude, I’ve gotten used to the fact that I ant trust anyone except my family. I tell my brother the randomness of stuff, and then I say I don’t know what I’m talking about. He ignores me anyways, so I don’t have to worry. (But I still stress :D)
In 7th grade, I was a hopeless romantic (and I still am). I always had crushes that were hopeless af. Not to mention that im also extremely ugly. So some of the popular kids would joke with me and ask me out, and since I know their acts and motives, I never gave into their jokes, and always said no. Those lead me to believe that anyone who talks to me is probably doing it out of self pity, and that im really going to die alone. Now I dont trust anyone that says they like me.
I‘m looking for a thoughtful and deep person, since I‘m like that too. Which seems like is rare. I‘m really open and accepting but I can’t or don’t really want to have a relationship with someone that I can’t fully openly communicate with and that, again, isn’t thoughtful and deep (in his thoughts and views).
You guys are right, people now only seek short term relationships in most cases to just get laid and then forget, i mean having sex is nice but having sex with someone you love and know is even better
@Jonathan Rodriguez You seem like an interesting person, however, what you seem to be looking for is someone who shares your views and beliefs. When you get to know people or do social media be open about that, So there's a better chance that someone with similar views will connect with you. Anyways, first and foremost take care of yourself and find healing for your brokenness.
It’s very hard to find a girlfriend when you’re an introvert. Your personality just feels too bleak for them on the outside. It’s heartbreaking to know no one is willing to see your inside too, but I guess I’m not hot enough for them to care xD. Oh well, such is life. I enjoy being alone anyway, even though it hurts.
When you're hot they want to see your inside. When you're hot they assume you're a player. When youre hot they judge you extra harsh. It's tough for everyone mate.
Pass The Butter I feel sad when I’m by myself and realize I have a wonderful personality nobody knows. I haven’t loved anyone since 3rd grade but many to my surprise have asked. Even if I liked them back and said yes I wouldn’t know what to do next. I haven’t loved in 13 years, I just kinda forgot how to like someone. It’s just not there.
It really feels lonely when you're the only one single from years and no one can relate to you anymore, it's exhausting to be a 3rd wheel or a listener 24/7, then all of them forget you.
ʚ anqeli ɞ even if I did love someone and they said yes I wouldn’t know what to do next. I just don’t know how to love somebody back because I haven’t loved anyone in 13 years.
It's great to stand up for your convictions and standards. But sometimes also nice to get to know people for their flaws and weaknesses too. No one is perfect.. and you don't want to miss out.
If you lower your standards from what they are, you'll be miserable. In fact, this will make it even harder for you to find someone who actually is good for you. Romance is one thing you definitely should be picky about. Hell, aren't we all single by default? If you have to lower your standards to find someone, chances are you're better off single and will be happier for that choice.
I think that having high standards is good, because you treasure yourself which is really important. If you are lowing them, you start to think that you're not great enough to find a great lover. It could cause a lot of bad thoughts and you'll start to lock yourself inside your mind and you may end with depression, I think
What does "Self Love" even mean? It gets thrown around so much, but what is it, really? Where is the border between healthy self love and narcissism, egocentricity, or arrogance? How does someone 'practice self love' in the first place?
Technically self love is just being or true to yourself.. u learn to just accept yourself and not what other wants u to think or be.. Like *example* : if you are goodlooking or a very hyper person yet u dont want other people to talk behind ur back so u just not make it to extravagant *not self love* dude if you are goodlooking or a hyper person just show it, let it out who cares if people judges its ur persona ur own body ur own *self love* Hope this was understandable?😅
I think Self love has a lot to do with setting boundaries, knowing the things you can and cannot control, accepting yourself, treating yourself right, and growing as a person. [Edit:] The list doesn't end there, okay? That's just to name a few. For example... You can practice self love while being selfless. However, being too selfless would only hurt you, and that's not self love. It's just about balancing I think. I'm still on my way there, but that's the way I see it 😅
Self love is embracing yourself without stomping on other people. Narcissists and egotists stomp on others while professing how great they are. True self love doesn't do that. Self love is self respect and it doesn't harm others.
Rysa Delphine I’ve had people who loved me to my surprise countless times (even two stalkers who did insane things just to see me walk there way) and I’ve never said yes, I just don’t love them truthfully. I haven’t loved anyone since 3rd grade! I just want to love somebody so I can even experience what it’s like, even if they say no. If I did say anything that is, I probably wouldn’t because I don’t know what to do after we both say yes, I forgot.
Will Flavell try doing something as much as you can, I chose skateboarding and working out but you can do anything, just do that till sad shit ain’t even on your mind AND I’ll end up looking good so that’s a plus.
My relationship scenarios, generally, go like this: -Girl likes me -Girl gets to know me -Girl is no longer interested I’m not abusive, manipulative, or needy. There just seems to be something fundamentally about me that is repulsive to the women I seek to date. And, as far as I can tell, there’s nothing I can do to fix the problem. It’s almost like I was made to never receive love and that is a hard, hard truth to come to terms with.
Maybe you're not dating the kind of girls that actually like the kind of person you are at a deeper level. Don`t try to `fix` yourself if you`re not toxic or if you have no unhealthy habits. Just try for searching the kind of person who better suits the type of guy you are & like it. IK saying is easier than doing, but that`s the best & most likely answer to your question. Maybe try taking it slower & not looking desperate.
I know it's hard, although the bright side is that you already seem to have the first step down, which is initially having people attracted to you. This means that something is happening after that to make them lose their attraction to you, whether it be that you seem to have nothing in common (which is a good thing in this case since it was never going to work), you scare her/come on too strong, have a hard time conversing in a manner to help people get to know you, etc. It'd probably be a good idea to get an outside perspective from somebody you trust. This could be a friend, relative, therapist, or whoever else. Tell them this exact problem (have a hard time maintaining relationships even after attracting someone) and see if they can clue you into aspects of your personality that may be scaring people off. It's hard to look at one's own personality objectively, so this outside perspective would likely be far more insightful than your own or any that you are going to get from random people on the internet.
Its happening because you are destined to come accross all the wrong low quality negative girls...if you are destined to find love you will definitely befriended by calm, jovial and open minded girl.
@@lilracoonvevo1112 Thank you peoples .3. I'm pretty eccentric and have different values than others and get along with older age groups. I'm still pretty young anyways and its not like I've loved anyone living before. I like helping people but completely investing myself would make my current situation worse.
@@Sonicfalcon16 Yeah its not like I want love anyways and anime is just a thing I watch instead of socializing and to get rid of stress. I wouldn't think of using it to speak to people. Besides personality is all that really matters. Anyways I guess being extremely hard on myself is what makes me work hard. (And if you were referring to that playlist it was simply for nostalgia, I have a pretty decent music taste .3.)
1. Bars are not the best places to find love. But for hookups certainly. 2. Don’t lower your standards and except someone you are not that interested in simply because they approach you. Shoot down anyone who doesn’t meet your standards. Settling will destroy your spirit. 3. Take care of yourself. Invest in your talents. 4. Always move forward from past experiences. 5. Get comfortable being patience.
I never found love, but I stopped trying to figure out why long ago. No longer do I obsess about it, nor am I bitter. I simply sum it up like this: there were some things I got right and some things I didn’t. It’s just that simple.
I'm just too afraid I'll end up with a broken heart again, to the point that I'm pushing away anyone who's trying to get close to me.... It's better to feel nothing
I have already accepted the fact that I am destined to be forever alone. I am just watching this to make myself feel better for a bit, so that I don't lose any productivity. But I would be lying if I said this didn't change my mind on finding love even & make me feel better about myself. Even if it was for a moment. The characters in this video are adorable though.
@@rishidas9731 Much has changed since the time I posted that comment. I have changed my mind on the matter & have hope that I will find that special woman.
1. Your unattractive. 2. You didn't lower your standards. 3. Your the best introvert a.k.a forever alone. 4. Woman are picky. 5. Change your perspective. Read below if you want too. I wrote this 2 years ago. I was wrong. These things I wrote are wrong. Its not to say I haven't had my heart ripped out, rejected alot, told horrible things about my looks and straight up cheated on but like all women and men are different and honestly you just gotta love yourself, confidence really helps and like just say fuk it like if you talked too 100 women in a day and let's say 98 reject you. Guess what.. 2 really like your confident funny personality and are willing to give you a chance. Same goes for the ladies too cause guess what. Men judge women just as harshly as women judge men on looks and I wish like many people I was blessed with the good gens department. but guess what thats not how reality works. Reality is your already beautiful your just self conscious no thanks to t.v, movies, magazines and pretty much all the crummy ways beauty is portrayed. Anyway when you get older you realize what's important in your life and if i stay single for the rest of my life then i accept that whole heartily and it just means no changing diapers lmao. So I guess my point is when you do find a women or guy they'll be a down to earth person and its meant to be. 🤘
@@zeinalbasam4733 Well, tbh I just don't feel comfortable when someone is hitting on me. But it's just mostly because the guys who try to hook up w. me are almost strangers. Like I would meet them at a party and one hour later they're grabbing my butt (which is completely flat so I don't even know why the hell-) But yeah if I know the person and he's generally my type in his personality I would have a whole other opinion y/k. I don't know if it made sense:)
Nana Jensen okay That totally makes sense and I agree but ,the thing is it doesn’t always go like that sometimes you have a friendly conversation and u get the sc and talk for a while but she’s still has her guard up and it seems there hard to gain a woman’s trust Because they all think that your some fuck boy looking to. Bust A nut,it’s all good though I don’t care about woman anymore but I’m just curious?
Im 47😠😠😠👿!!! I prayed to some mythical Jesus for a wife while all the Beta Male lucky bastards getting everything😠😠😠😠 Im Jealous when I see couples or undeserving beta males getting and smashing all the women I wanted and dreamt of Lord Im Salty!!!
6 years ago I figured out why I haven't found love and never will. 1: I'm 5'5 too short 2: I'm unattractive 3: I have PTSD and mental health is almost always a deal breaker 4: I'm very confident but not an alpha 5: Being single for 6 years at age 38 is a turn off. And despite what a lot of people think, not everyone finds love, it's just a fact that not all can. I haven't given up, but refuse to get my hopes up either. And that's life, what can I tell ya
I'm barely taller than you by an inch, also ugly as fuck, been single for 13 years, and I'm sure I have underlying mental health problems. I CANNOT find a solution to this because I'm so caught up with working (debts don't pay themselves back, this also means I'm not rich either) for the past 5 years that I've more or less lost my social skills....pass me more of that booze so I can drink my life away.
I am having dating problems. 1. I'm not too picky. Idk if that's a problem cause maybe a person has traits that I don't even know I liked. 2. I have met people at parties and reunions. They just want something physical. And I'm not into it. 3. Yeah I do the comparison thing. But not to a ex bf. If not a ex best friend. (Complicated) but he was one of the closest personalities I bonded pretty well. 4. Idk what I am doing wrong.
Michelle Park i am also comparing so much with this one girl me and her bonded so well, it was like never ever before, but Yeah she moved out of the country and we died out, she is coming home in 1 year and she has been out one year. But i still think about her so much and when i meet people i compare about her, even though i can get intressted in others, she always has a place in my heart
@@Aylieds i understand what you mean. With this ex best friend, we had like attraction for each other but things got out of hand and I told him to stop but he didn't want to. Also other circumstances. I was developing feelings and I knew he wouldn't like that. So I cut him off my life. But sometimes I think it was a bad choice. It's been 5 months and he still in my mind.
For some reason, in the society we live in now, people that attend to big parties a lot are always looking for something physical (there are exceptions of course), which is awful, the fact that now people only think in getting laid is not good, some people just want to know the person first and be in a nice relationship
@Jose Lino I have never had a connection like that with anyone. I still look for a connection like that. We could talk about everything and no judgement. We could talk about everything, everything. Late at night hanging out. If we felt bad or too happy we looked for each other. Had a problem? we called each other. It was great. I wanted to have that but now In a relationship.
@@ericlukaszekdocarmo8216 You just lose hope when you've been rejected your whole life. It just sucks being surrounded by couples who telling how wonderfull it is to love someone, have sex and having a partner to care for. No offence to your comment, but I'm convinced love is just not meant for everybody. Like me.
Can you guys please do an episode on lust vs love. I recently had an experience with overwhelming lust and I know it wasnt love, I barely knew the person. I distanced myself from the person and moved on because they weren't right for me until the feelings subsided. I feel that many people out there don't know the difference.
It’s the feminine image you fall for. Real women are not as crystallised as fictional characters designed to make you like them. But intuition from my studies of statistics suggests, there is quite likely a real woman out there exactly as your waifu.
“Focus on yourself” “love yourself” Yeah sure bro, I have hobbies, good grades, I exercise and eat well. I’m accomplished and functional but I haven’t felt the intimate touch of a female in four years and that’s the point. Loneliness is terrible thing that can only be supplemented by the company of others
I'm single because it's not my main priority. Parties don't really interest me even though it might be interesting to see how idiotic people will act when you add alcohol into the mix. Self-love???? Wellll, I don't hate myself. I have enough self respect to NOT choose the jerkwads nice girls tend to throw themselves at. And I think there's another issue, but for everyone, not just me. Whether we like it or not, people judge you on your appearance. And this hurts both ways. Especially for the guys who always pick pretty girls who turned out to be bitchy over a "plain jane". This one website got me SO FRICKING IRRITATED because it basically meant, "STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND SHOW SOME TITS AND ASS AND SMILE WHETHER YOU WANT TO OR NOT OR ELSE NO GUY WOULD WANT TO LOOK AT YOU."
Wow. Looks like he deleted his comment. I was about to explain that it's an unfortunate habit everyone does without even knowing. We always judge people by appearance, which will make us miss the greatest friendship or relationship they will ever have solely because of stereotypes we have been instilled to believe either because of past experience or maybe even your parents programmed that into your brain.
But the thing is, everyone has their preferences and sometimes we have no control over who we like, we are just naturally attracted to them. I know for certain that one girl I find cute in my class is a 1/10 for the majority of guys I know.
@@football9947 Are you in the out-crowd or the in-crowd at your school? Do other girls show interest in you, and if so, are they in the out-crowd or in-crowd? What do you think you're considered looks wise on a 10 - point scale?
Moondog Well I am still in school but it is not like high school, but it is not university either. Either way, I don’t hang around with anyone, maybe talk with a few people. The girls or guys that show interest me are mainly “in crowds”. I would probably give myself a 5.
I’m 24. I’ve got rejected more than a 356 times for 6 years, never had a girlfriend. I tried it doesn’t go well. I tried again, one after the other. I change my habits, same thing. Maybe it’s not me after all but I can’t change who I am for someone else temporarily and settle because everyone is “doing it”. If I wanted to, I can lose my virginity to a random prostitute but I am not that guy. There was a saying people usually reject and ignore expensive things because they can’t afford them. To those 356 + girls that said no, good luck. Remember that where will always be someone who have it worse. Life is your own race, don’t compare because some people have it easy while others hard. The important this at least you’re trying the best you can.
When I was a teenager in my 13 to 16 I was always having crushes to people I knew I couldn't be with. Now I understand that the people I had a crush on were nothing more than just a representation of what I always needed in my life but never got properly. And I'm talking about attention and love. I grew up in a family where I wasn't given too much attention and a lot of times compared to my older cousins. My parents didn't spend so much time with me as I would like... They were always busy with work and they constantly needed time for themselves. Well it's totally understandable. I don't blame them. I know my parents love me and I know how hard they work to give me everything I need and I want. And I'm not gonna lie sometimes I feel kinda guilty for feeling this way about my parents. They've done so many things for me and I truly appreciate it that. But the problem is that I never felt like getting the attention I needed. And that affected my life completely. After a few years I always tried to become the centre of attention just to be given the attention I never got when I was a child. And when I finally became 14 I developed a crush on one of my classmates. But this crush turned into an obsession more than just a healthy crush. I really couldn't get over this boy for three years. When I turned 16 I was already in high school and then a new boy came to my school and guess what. I had developed a crush on him. But this one turned into an obsession... Again... I had a crush on this high school boy for two years but in the middle of my last high school year something happened...something that changed my life completely... I said to myself that something's wrong...there is something your doing wrong... And then it hit me... I finally understood that the reason why I had such unhealthy crushes on these boys was because I didn't really loved myself... I actually didn't know how to love myself because... I wasn't given the affection and attention I should have been given as a child... Sooo that's when my obsession started to fade away and realised that in order to love others you should know how to love and support yourself first... At the beggining I was like "how am I supposed to do it ? How am I gonna love myself ? How is it feel like ? " I had to go through so many hardships and work hard with myself to understand what this "love yourself" saying feels like but I think I did a great job. But after overcoming this struggle another insecurity came to the surface. I had to get rid of people that never respected me and never loved me truly... And I'm talking about toxic friendships. At that moment I learned to respect myself I brought this toxicity to an end by cutting those people out of my life. But then something was missing...and it was my trust towards other people... I became so closed to myself that I really couldn't trust other people. Now I am a university student and these trust issues are growing bigger and bigger everyday turning into another obsession. Right now I reached a point were I say to myself that I shouldn't have any crushes on anyone from now on...and the reason behind this is because I can't let myself feel like an insignificant person. I feel like Noone is paying attention to me...like I'm a person who deserves to be loved...I have confidence within myself but honestly this feeling is more like a trauma than lick of confidence... I try to convince myself that if I try to become the centre of attention i will be loved and cherished by everyone and finally I will be noticed and maybe important for some people even though I know it's not true... I don't wanna have a crush on somebody because I know that for the person I like I'm just a simple person and nothing more... Being independent and feeling that I don't need someone in my life makes me feel strong and not being able to break over someone that doesn't paying any attention to me. That was way too long. I'm sorry for this one. I tried to maintain everything and write down my feelings the best way I could. For me writing down my feelings in youtube comments feels like therapy. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Single and in my thirties now. Personally, I've never been a fan of wishful thinking. It's counterproductive. "It's not your time", or "You haven't met them yet", "You have plenty of time," and other such sayings are meant to be encouraging, but there's no substance there either. The reality is that we are mortals, it may happen or it may not, and stranger yet it's not because we've deserving or undeserving. Life is random, it's never fair, and oftentimes it comes down to dumb luck. The only mantra I live by is "Whatever happens, happens." Try not to sweat it and make the most of today. Happy travels!
I don’t think it’s something about personality because you can see everywhere people with bad personalities or even evil hearts being in relationships , it’s really nothing about personalities.
IM NUMB :\ yeah I’m fine with that cause I haven’t loved anyone since 3rd grade. I’ve been waiting fir it for 13 years and at this point I’m fine with it never happening.
The closest I ever fell “in love” with someone was when I was 19. Although I’m even questioning if that was real love or if it was just a whirlwind romance and I was mostly infatuated (only lasted 6 months). That was nearly 40 years ago. I’ve discovered that not only am I an empath and an introvert, I also have a deep seated fear of intimacy. So that explains why I closed myself off. I did get married at one point but it was clearly for the wrong reasons: I wasn’t in love, I was just with someone and was at a point where I thought I was ready to get married. That lasted only 2 years before we separated. I was done after that. I don’t really like people all that much anyway.
Wow this comment section is depressing. Just know all of your feelings are validated, and as someone who is currently questioning whether I'm worthy of love or condemned of being alone and chasing the wrong person for eternity, I'm with you. Don't feel bad for feeling bad, just know hair grows, emotions change.
I can't even get a good career and start a new independent life. Love is just a pipe dream. I'm the problem. So natural selection picks off the weak like myself.
My teacher is in his 70s. Never dated, married, so no girlfriend ever. His reasoning? He said he never truly was able to love himself so he didnt think hed be able to make someone else happy.
Everyone I've ever loved has turned their back on me when I needed them most. Also. I know the reason I can't be loved. No one wants me. I'm a mess. I hurt myself all the time and no one wants someone who's broken
I can relate. I don't have a lot of friends cause of it. If anything i don't talk to anyone except for one person and that's rarely. Most people that I've befriended have gone to me if they wanted something or if I can be an ear for them and no one has done that for me. It sucks cause I have a lot of stuff to deal with too, I'm a mess as well and I feel chronically lonely a lot and when I open up to someone or talk to them about what's going on or of my problems they completely drop out of my life or don't talk to me at all or as much cause of it. I wish I had a group of friends to hang out with or a partner that I can be with. Nobody wants to befriend you unless you can offer up something to them whether it be taking them out, buying them things, listening to they're problems, giving them advice, being able to hear them, pick them up take them to places, I've done those things and no one has ever done that for me unless they have ulterior motives which hits even worse.
I'm really happy to see other people like me who suffer from loneliness and the inability to find love I know many of us may die alone The part that says you don't give people a chance doesn't really apply to me because I have no one around me at all. I didn't have a chance at all to give someone a chance. There is no opposite sex on my side I just wish I didn't have to endure this loneliness
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I dunno... die? Maybe playing Videogames... but not going outside
hey how can we fix our problem with love?
"Is your Ex still in your mind?"
Bold of you to assume ive been in a relationship before
You're better off without the stress. Friends are better
@@samusaran7317 True. But when you've been alone as long as yours truly, curiosity at least is bound to torment you, as the days pass by and you endlessly keep wondering, what it feels like to be loved and considered important by that significant other.
*"Man who thinks all the time, has nothing else except thoughts. And thus, he lives in a world full of his own illusions."*
-Alan Watts
@@pohjantuulet247 I believe you bud. Relationships now are not something to strive for in my opinion. Whats worse is feeling more lonely in a relationship than single. Been there myself about 4 different times now.... The only real thing you're missing out on is hookup culture... Good and nice people are often damaged sadly...
@@pohjantuulet247 Hugs bro... There is a light in my message. I hope you find it
wow you sound as hopeless as me
Telling a single person who’s never dated that “there are plenty of fish in the sea” is like telling a homeless person that “there are plenty of houses out there”
*if you homeless, just get a house*
😂
Bloody outstanding analogy actually.
it can't be that bad in reality... im 26 fully virgin never had an experience even kiss but i think if you do the math someone will be there for you but you need to start searching hardly maybe and low your standards certainly too
@@nikolaikirkanovic My standards are as low as humanly possible without getting into the realm of illegality. I cant meet anyone because I dont have a car, nor do I have money. No woman I've ever seen would like a guy like that. I know for a fact that nice women like that exist, just not in my town...
You know you’ve hit rock bottom when you search up one of these videos
yep
I searched this out of curiosity. I wanted to hear more stories on this topic because this seems like a whole pandemic of its own.
Yeah
Im sad now
First time?
Kinda depressed right now in my head. It’s September 6th and it’s my birthday today actually I’m 25 now and I still never felt a real romance in my life yet. I have friends who I grew up with and are in their own homes, married with the loves of their lives and I’m still completely single and feel like I’m never gonna find anyone. Just sucks to think I might die and never experienced what it’s like to be in love. Getting a little teary-eyed just typing this
Update: May 30th 2021, Guys I’m in a serious relationship now guess I spoke it into existence lmao Love the positive feedback tho. Blessing to everyone who sees this!
Same here.... jus stay strong and do you... I’m starting to think love and romances aren’t for everyone
Yo..stay strong dude
I feel you.
Don't worry, those are the same people who will be divorced in their 40s and going through stressful custody battles. You'll find yourself meeting the right person in your 30s or even early 40s and because you will know what you truly want and have a better understanding of life, you won't make the mistake your friends did by marrying someone so early in life. It's already been proven that people who marry in their 20s or late teens are the culprits of the high divorce rates.
I’m 24 and I understand you perfectly.
Someone loving me feels like a dream. I'm at the point where I cant even imagine it for myself. I love myself. I just dont know why no one else has.
Mia Carter I haven’t loved someone since 3rd grade, I have had people ask but I say no simply because I don’t love them and if I did love somebody and they said yes I wouldn’t know what to do afterwards.
This is so relatable :(
Same
exactly how i feel- i literally cannot imagine anybody loving me it makes me wanna throw up
At the end of the day humans are visual creatures, if you appear awkward and are physically ugly, that seems to be the ultimate recipe for an incel
"Its not your time yet"
6000 years later
Still single
6000 yers later
dead
It's not your time YET. "YET". Maybe it will be your time in...uh...say...uh..never? Yeah...yeah....that sounds reasonable. You should wait.
ΧΔΔΔ
Lol it's probably not yet then either.
Sounds like me.
“You need to let love in.” You need to have someone want you first.
frrr
Straight facts!
i have a lot of guys wanting me, but i dont want them. it sucks, i want someone that i really like. but guys that i like lives in other countries or doesnt like me back.
@@yaelmatos3199 FELT.
@@yaelmatos3199 Lower your standards or be fine with being single.
I was told , back when I was 34 , that “ your so cute , you will be married in no time”. 16 years later , here I am at 50!!! Had a nice steak 🥩 dinner tonight... all alone! Some people don’t find love.
I’m really sorry Kelly
Wow 50 years? That's......idk
In a couple decades ill be right where you are sister
My biggest fear
I love ya brotha😔
I tried doing the reverse strategy. Like "okay universe I'm not looking"
Universe:....
Me:....
Universe: Don't lie to me
Good one haha.
That perfectly describes it
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
my life story in a nutshell. XD it worked kinda but meh xD honestly gonna try not looking anymore and just try acheive my goals and if i get any oppurtunities then ill take it but i doubt that will happen for a long time xD
Well I am done. Done. DONE. People have said they were done and met someone. Nope. I am DONE. It's too late.
I find it quite ironic that everyone wants to find love but nobody can seem to find it.... yet we all have a heart that wants a heart
Shadow Stalker850 true but I find it hard to look for someone as looking online and in the real world haven’t worked so the logical solution is to ether give up or imagine I have a girlfriend
Because everyone has unrealistic expectations.
@@strangeguy8997 You'll find them, trust me, if your really looking hard at who walks in and out of your life, you might find that some may want to stay or you want them to... Its better if its in person( imo) So don't give up and pay attention to the surroundings.
@@reeses_unicorn The beat part about love is, ironically, the fact that its is terrifying.... All that fear, anticipation, what would you do with it all?......Would you turn your tail and run..or hunt the future that you want using all of that against the doubt?
@@bananian True, and it sucks that people lost the whole point of a relationship... To me its a promise of a sort, to others its an opprotunity of a kind....A test you could ask anyone now is "If I lost everything, would you still be there?".. Only the person who meets my answer would stay.
If I had a dollar for every time someone told me “There’s someone out there for you”, I would be able to afford prostitution for life.
With my luck my one and only is living in a Chinese village.
TheButchersApron my looks have nothing to do with it. It’s mostly bad luck and fear.
@@mattgieslerrocks for me it's not fear it's just bad luck follow me from all directions when it comes to love
@TheButchersApron prove it
Its gotten to the point where I think maybe i need to resort to that. No need for me to be emotionally connected to someone, get my release, and go about my day. if youre dating a girl, she might cheat on you or suddenly stop liking you and it kills you on the inside.
I can't even look at couples and most people anymore it just makes me sad I just want to cry
Me too.
same
God is omnipotent, infinite, omnipresent and omniscient. Good vs. Evil is controlled opposition. Freewill is an illusion. Reality is a simulation.
@@joeturner6024 stop spaming man
@@agentjohn4313 I have been spamming for a long time and nobody has taken my channel down. How is that possible?
You should do " signs your falling in love But you don't realize it "
Avocado Art :O they already have
Thanks for your suggestion! We will keep it in mind.
Wow thanks! :)
Lol
yes please
There's no light at the end of this tunnel. I've learned to accept that.
Sometimes the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train.
Me too
@@manuelantuna2749 I don't want to die, I want to live. But not this life.
@@howardsmith9342
Yeah well.. is not something we have too much control though.
I don't know about you but to me... I'll never be enough.
I agree 110% there is no light at the end of this tunnel for me either
I have accepted my fate and going on
Guess I will die alone
1. I'm ugly
2. I'm an introvert
3. I'm broke and still live with my parents
4. Everyone in a 10 mile radius is taken
Bregon Bailey sorry man. Sucks
F in the chat
Same story man😥
I don’t think i look ugly. I look the same as my dad and he’s always been successful with women, but I just am to introverted and hate to make the first move, because that automatically makes you vulnerable.
Umm, not gonna preach here, but all the above things can be changed.
Finding love is a S-Rated insane hardcore god tier mission for me
Stop looking. Shut down your human nature of seeking love. Find love for yourself. Improve yourself, spoil yourself, be at peace with yourself. Put love in yourself and something you love to do, listen to, watch, follow. Then let whatever happens takes course.
God is omnipotent, infinite, omnipresent and omniscient. Good vs. Evil is controlled opposition. Freewill is an illusion. Reality is a simulation.
What!! Dude by looking at your pic, you look good looking!
@@Randy_Butternubs thank you🥲
lol idk what s-rated means but I feel this comment so hard. way too relatable. falling in love seems like winning the lottery for me. impossible
I thought physical pain was the worst but it’s only temporary, being lonely is the worst pain I’ve ever felt.
@Jzigzags thats messed up leave him alone he was just chilling saying his mind in a youtube comment.
@Jzigzags plus none of thats even true
I’m sorry mate. I hope you’ll find someone that’s good for you, whether it’s romantic or platonic.
Broken heart is worse
I stopped trying. Too many people want to just sleep around but I want to build a life with someone, and no one wants that
#Feelsbadman
Maybe you are in the wrong market!
@@Psych2go Nah, I stopped going to the market 😂😂
I'm gay and I can't find anyone in real life, I have to resort to dating (pfff) apps, and everyone just wants hookups :(
@redloiyu654jay I hope you're right ;)
True
6. It's just no one interested in me.......ever.
Snakepride!
Same. I get a few people who have bad or selfish intentions approach me but I'm not desperate enough to settle for that. :(
Are you a girl or boy
Wait
There's tons of land whales tweekers and single moms waiting for you, truss
Let's be real. Scientific concensus is clear. LOOKS DO MATTER. A LOT.
Fr tho. People say “looks don’t matter it’s what’s on the inside that counts” when that’s hot garbage. I’m actually not that bad of a person yet I know damn well if I walk up to someone that I have an interest for and confess or ask them out they’ll reject me bc I’m not that good looking. Even if it was someone I’m pretty close with they’d still prolly be like “ee lol no”
@@pickledpasta1677 hmm stay strong girl..we're in this together your story reminds me when I was being compared with prettier girl by 2 boys in middle school...it still kinda hurts even though they speak about it politely and i appreciate their honesty
Kim Febriany Same thing happened to me except it was 3 boys
@thesearecrazytimes what the heck yes
@thesearecrazytimes what the heck I feel you :(
“You don’t give people enough chances”
I would give people chances but I haven’t had the opportunity to give somebody a chance, i haven’t even have the chance to not give a chance to someone.
Very true :'(
How do you give a chance if you dont even a chance at all?
God is omnipotent, infinite, omnipresent and omniscient. Good vs. Evil is controlled opposition. Freewill is an illusion. Reality is a simulation.
Why do i relate ?
@@joeturner6024 STOP COPY AND PASTING THIS ON EVERY TREAD!
I've already missed a lot of opportunities for love because I avoid people and fear rejection, awkwardness and humiliation, heart breaks.
Relatable. I always create a wall so that I won't get attached.
:( Love is not easy.. and being vulnerable and getting hurt.
Me too
Rainbow Skull...me too I feel as if some one likes me but I always avoid them because I get shy and awkward when I’m around him so I feel as if they give up cause their getting mixed signals form me. But I still fall for the same guy even if it means he doesn’t like me back. 🤧
I don’t fear rejection. What I fear is when she says yes. I actually feel quite relieved when someone rejects me. I don’t know, maybe I am just weird.
I always hear the “your time is coming” “its not your time yet” starting to believe thats just wishful thinking
I hear that alot to and I firmly believe that it's a dump truck full bullshit.
Im so SICK OF THOSE SO CALLED GOD SENT CLICHE PEOPLE ALL THEY DO IS SAY ALL KIND OF DUMB ASS CLICHES😡😡😡😠😠😤😤😤 SHIT IM DAMN NEAR 50 LIFE IS PASSING ME BY ALL MY FRIENDS AND COUSINS ARE MARRIED WITH CHILDREN NOW GROWN ON THEY WAY TO BEING GRANDPARENTS, SOME ALREADY GRANDPARENTS I HATE GODS PLAN FOR MY LIFE I GOT NOTHING!!!😠😠😠
God is omnipotent, infinite, omnipresent and omniscient. Good vs. Evil is controlled opposition. Freewill is an illusion. Reality is a simulation.
Does the right time really exist?
@@tyroneaugustine229 nobody likes to wait.
Never kissed a girl
Still a virgin
Never had a girlfriend
I've been rejected too many times
I have depression
My suicide is getting closer every day
I live in my own fantasy
I will never find love and I've accepted it. I hate that people still believe that I will find love. Trust me it will never happen.
Yet people still say that Im attractive........ no, Im not
Thought I was the only one that felt like this. Ah yes, suicide. Guess I can only love death.
My first kiss was with a 43 year old prostitute. Life is funny and tragic.
@@blythesaunders3124 Yeah. It sucks. Some people just dont understand how it feels, because most people know what its like to love someone or to be loved. Love is just not meant for everybody😕😞. We r just too ugly, not attractive or not confident enough. Or.......we r all of it.....😔
Nah, brother. You'll pull through it. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk.
Maybe you'll find love or maybe you're meant to be single and do bigger things in life. Just keep living to find out. 💙
- Rejected over 30 times
- Inexperienced (never had a relationship)
- Ugly
I feel you 😞
@Paritosh Jadhav what is black pill ?
@Paritosh Jadhav Thank you.
I have mastered a power fapping 20 times a day and still feel like a superman and its long too
same
“Truth is, the game was rigged from the start.”
Aditya Nagesh only temporary however once the pnc sets in you just realise it’s a brief fix to a deep gaping problem
It wasnt fair
Dont give me hope that someones shoots me in the head
Look up some cheat codes
SomeMook lmao
I'm honestly so done being single seeing everyone else in relationships make me insane ...
Just save the money you would otherwise spend on a relationship on prostitutes
@@juanmam.2113 That's not a bad idea
@@juanmam.2113 yeah i want to keep my pp healty
@@BubbaTheHillbilly Still better than not using your pp at all
@@juanmam.2113 good point
at this point it'd be easier for me to find the cure for cancer than to find love
Soursop and turkey tail
Some of the other reasons for not finding “love” that I’ve ran across include:
1. Looking in the wrong places - like “Dating sites” - that were intended to be more for hook-ups, rather than them being for something more meaningful..
2. The people you’re interested in, turn out to either be married, or in a relationship already - or they turn out to be too superficial, and as a result you end up passing on the “opportunity” to get to know them..
3. Since you’re the type of introvert that absolutely hates to be in a crowd... You avoid going to paces where there are a lot of people - including parties, sporting events and even bars.. Not only those places, but even speed dating events as well.
4. You still have thoughts of your ex on your mind, not from the “comparison” if they’re better than the person you’re trying to meet. But to make sure the new person doesn’t hurt you the way your ex had (because your ex was a psycho, and making sure you don’t end up with someone like that again!) .
5. You might not be ready to find “love” - Or you might even start to feel hopeless because of your age, you feel like there’s no hope of ever finding “love”.
6. The problem might not be you, but the people you meet might have their standards either too high that it’s next to impossible for others to meet, or too low that they go with everyone else.
This is a great list. Let's think of solutions! :)
they hated him because he spoke the truth
don't bring up excuses pal or u end up dying an incel!
@@pladimir_vutin a little harsh,but i feel you
This is spot on and my current situation.
1. I’m socially unstable.
I'm sure its not that bad
@Sonicfalcon16 oh fuck me, if only u could see me in real life🤣🤣
Night Owl6969 yeah :c
wait what xd..jajaj
Four thousand eighty two, i'm mentally counting things that i've heard a lot, its a fun game)
6. Someone better than you somehow always shows up.
.... There was two guys... I almost had relationship with them. But i introduce them to my best friend... And both times, they fall in love with her. She's amazing, she would never do that, but after they see her, they were always asking how is she and saying me, how she's amazing and other shits. It just hurts so badly.
That's literally anyone else
OMG I can't remember how many times this happens.
lol that just happened to me recently, my best friend ended up with the girl I've been in love with since more than three years, the girl suddently told him that she loved him, (he's an extremely popular guy), and he did'nt knew what to do so I told him to accept because I knew I did'nt had any chance left at this point...
(sorry if there's english faults I'm french)
@@eliskaceslarova1382 I feel ya girl 😥 Same thing happened to me when my friend met a guy I had been rejected by.... instead he likes her and I have to witness that 😭
I think I’ve hit rock bottom with watching this video. I’ve just come to accept that I’m gonna end up alone. It just hurts so much cause I see everyone else in relationships and I yearn for that. I just want someone who I can show who I am to them.
Me too
I know that feeling it's hard to find the one but hope is always there.
@@bt.437 stop lying to yourself your looks have to be atleast average to even strike up a conversation with the opposite gender
I know I'm going to die alone
I just wish I didn't have to wait another 50 long boring empty years
So don’t.
Sorry man, I had to. Have discord?
Welcome to the Dying alone/suicidal club
@@Doomern what the title sucied squad
@@A.D.540 thats already taken, by the crew that has a crazy green haired gangsta clown, And his psycho chick with a baseball bat I think
This doesn't even take the "nobody is even interested at all" scenario into account
It's narrated by girl what do you expect...
@@kayj6485 No it's just a fact that there is always someone interested in a girl so its unlikely for them to experience the "nobody is even interested at all"
Well I guarantee you I am in the exact same situation and I am a girl
@@veerlefransen3220 Stop being picky then.
@@kayj6485 no it's not .women give more bullcrap than men do
Since the begging I knew that this wasn’t the video for me, but I still watched it.
I am in the top of my game when it comes to self-love, I put myself out there always, go to partys, extracurricular activities or clases, I give people chances and I don’t have an toxic ex, I don’t even have an ex.
But at the end is when this video killed me “maybe is not your time”.
Yeah, maybe, but I’m tired to be the one friend that is single, the one that everyone knows that is always free on valantines, the one that when it comes to partys or hanging out with friends is always the third wheel.
Why is everybody’s time but not mine?
Same bro, I decided last year that if nobody's gonna love me, I'll take care of myself, I don't think I'm ugly as some women Cleary find me of their taste when in come to physical attraction ( go to the gym 6 day a week and work in hard labor job) but I'm a complete nerd and just love geek shit, Never been in a relationship, and people just give me the "it's not your time" well fuck off, Im tired of this stupid shit like you can absolutely do nothing to better your situation, you take all the chance you got to talk and meet new people, know them, go out,etc and nothing, I'm just tired of this shit and hope the best to you and all other people that came to this video for the same reason but really, Im just thinking about ending all this shit by joining the army and getting deployed, at least people remember you when you are not there for them anymore
This. Hit. Me. Hard
Every word could have been written by me
I feel you...
It hurts...
Yeah this is spot on me... it really starts to play on my mind even though I try not think about it.
Consu Space I feel the same way, I have for 13 years. I haven’t loved anyone since 3rd grade. I just don’t get it anymore, I can’t even imagine myself loving somebody back. I’ve had many people ask to my surprise but I just can’t say yes because I don’t love them back.
I love how this video is assuming one has an ex or past relationships at all. I'm in my mid 30's and never had a relationship.
I’m 25 and still haven’t been in a relationship. I bet the one who made the video is happily married. It felt too optimistic and out of touch. 🤷🏻♀️
@@blythesaunders3124 same 22 and in the same boat.
Trying to find love with the mindset you need love will make you fail. Let it come naturally
Right
That's a good statement :)
*too
Yep! The law of attraction :)
What if it NEVER comes naturally?
Im not having dating problems im having the "im ugly,skinny,boring so no one finds me interesting enough" problem
Hit the gym, build up your confidence, and pick up a hobby or two.
Easier said than done
@@isaacjones2914 It really isn't. You gotta put forth the effort to actually improve yourself. Check out a channel called "Based Zeus" he gives amazing advice about self-improvement and how to pick up women. Check out his "30 ways to be confident" video first.
@Kakashi Hatake Yeah i know i dont make an efort to impress, Im just myself, and not Many people like my honesty and bluntness, and has a result i dont have many friends...
@@JustinCage56 depends on The Will of The person and mine is certanly broken.
Tho i apreciate that youre trying to help me.
Me: why can't i find a bf/gf? :(
Also me: *spends all my time in my room and struggles to talk to people other than my family*
Dude, I’ve gotten used to the fact that I ant trust anyone except my family. I tell my brother the randomness of stuff, and then I say I don’t know what I’m talking about. He ignores me anyways, so I don’t have to worry. (But I still stress :D)
At least you can talk to your family. I can't talk to my dad for more than 3 minutes without one of us wanting to explode into an argument.
Bruh... Have we met? Cuz you just decribed my pathetic ass to a t.
dude i understand and relate to this so much
@@SoldierOfFate maybe you should open up to them more after all they are your family
In 7th grade, I was a hopeless romantic (and I still am). I always had crushes that were hopeless af. Not to mention that im also extremely ugly. So some of the popular kids would joke with me and ask me out, and since I know their acts and motives, I never gave into their jokes, and always said no. Those lead me to believe that anyone who talks to me is probably doing it out of self pity, and that im really going to die alone. Now I dont trust anyone that says they like me.
this is literally me wha-
did i just feel a sharp pain in my chest after reading that cause i think that hits right at home
Same
Sorry man
I can relate
The only girl who has ever showed any interest in me told me it was out of pity
I‘m looking for a thoughtful and deep person, since I‘m like that too. Which seems like is rare.
I‘m really open and accepting but I can’t or don’t really want to have a relationship with someone that I can’t fully openly communicate with and that, again, isn’t thoughtful and deep (in his thoughts and views).
How old are you???
You guys are right, people now only seek short term relationships in most cases to just get laid and then forget, i mean having sex is nice but having sex with someone you love and know is even better
@Jonathan Rodriguez The lust will run out at some point I like to believe and then they would need someone to love
@Jonathan Rodriguez Do you think it's rare to find people to be that spiritually connected?
@Jonathan Rodriguez You seem like an interesting person, however, what you seem to be looking for is someone who shares your views and beliefs. When you get to know people or do social media be open about that, So there's a better chance that someone with similar views will connect with you. Anyways, first and foremost take care of yourself and find healing for your brokenness.
Yeah that's me. I complain about being alone but I always find excuses when someone approches me #forevefaloneduh
geekista no one approaches me
females living in tutorial mode LOL
Bence onee-sama // lol same
Warrior Son stfu
At least you get approached.
This was written by someone that is in a relationship
This is an underrated comment
It's true tho
Feels like it.
Most of it is bullshit
Yep,definitely has that underlying smugness of someone giving out advice they themselves don't need to follow.
“Is your ex still on your mind”
*who ever said I was in a relationship*
Right 😆 I never got a kiss from girl at my age.
Finding love has always been at the very bottom of my priority list. This is why I'm a kissless, 24 year old virgin.
Mad respect
I'm in the exact same boat
Snow Z Paging Dr. Incel, Paging Dr. Incel
I'll kiss you 😘
No worries! Take pride in your convictions and who you are! :)
How about how to have your first boyfriend/girlfriend when you've never had one before
Great idea!! How to have your first relationship. Let us add that to our trello! :)
Lmao
Add “and when you are an introvert” to that title 😭
@@Psych2go been an 22 years old...
Pay someone in class.
It’s very hard to find a girlfriend when you’re an introvert. Your personality just feels too bleak for them on the outside.
It’s heartbreaking to know no one is willing to see your inside too, but I guess I’m not hot enough for them to care xD.
Oh well, such is life. I enjoy being alone anyway, even though it hurts.
When you're hot they want to see your inside. When you're hot they assume you're a player. When youre hot they judge you extra harsh. It's tough for everyone mate.
Preach homie
@@gilbertrobert439 fr
Pass The Butter I feel sad when I’m by myself and realize I have a wonderful personality nobody knows. I haven’t loved anyone since 3rd grade but many to my surprise have asked. Even if I liked them back and said yes I wouldn’t know what to do next. I haven’t loved in 13 years, I just kinda forgot how to like someone. It’s just not there.
Pass the butter you sound like my current boyfriend lol unfortunately for me he has a hard time letting people in I really like him but idk what to do
It really feels lonely when you're the only one single from years and no one can relate to you anymore, it's exhausting to be a 3rd wheel or a listener 24/7, then all of them forget you.
Yeah bro
Agreed
yeahhhh
I’ve been told that I’m attractive and nice person, but I’ve been single my whole life lmao
I've been shoveled with the same $hit too. I'd rather be told the truth.
Same
This!!
Same brother same
If you’re a teenager, it’s not that bad.
I've always wanted to be in a relationship...
But I've lost hope in love
I'm just too ugly
Bet you're not
You're not
Your not ugly since I exist
ʚ anqeli ɞ even if I did love someone and they said yes I wouldn’t know what to do next. I just don’t know how to love somebody back because I haven’t loved anyone in 13 years.
@@lofiwackpainting7439 same I'm so used to being alone
6. You don't lower your standard.
It's great to stand up for your convictions and standards. But sometimes also nice to get to know people for their flaws and weaknesses too. No one is perfect.. and you don't want to miss out.
If you lower your standards from what they are, you'll be miserable. In fact, this will make it even harder for you to find someone who actually is good for you. Romance is one thing you definitely should be picky about. Hell, aren't we all single by default? If you have to lower your standards to find someone, chances are you're better off single and will be happier for that choice.
It may sound cliche but why settle for less if you can have the best?
Don't lower your standards.
I think that having high standards is good, because you treasure yourself which is really important. If you are lowing them, you start to think that you're not great enough to find a great lover. It could cause a lot of bad thoughts and you'll start to lock yourself inside your mind and you may end with depression, I think
If I had a dollar for every girl who rejected me,
Id have a girlfriend by now
That's deep....
@@BedsideTable69 That's what she said!
You can’t buy love.
@@kellycarlson1716 He is saying that a gold digger will be he's girlfriend because he will be rich after all those girls that rejected him
I’m gonna drink to that
When someone gets too close to me, I shut them off. And yet, I want to be in a relationship.
The heck is wrong with me!?
Are you sure you want to be in a relationship? Maybe it's just that you want to fit in with the others. Or you are afraid of getting attached
*same*
Same, that's because I have a very strict idea of what a perfect man is and none of the people that approached me met my expectations
I have the same thing when people start talking to me i try to avoid it but i want to have friends and love
M. Jensen I just don’t love anyone period, I’ve been waiting to love somebody for 13 years straight and it still ain’t my time!
What does "Self Love" even mean? It gets thrown around so much, but what is it, really? Where is the border between healthy self love and narcissism, egocentricity, or arrogance? How does someone 'practice self love' in the first place?
Technically self love is just being or true to yourself.. u learn to just accept yourself and not what other wants u to think or be..
Like *example* : if you are goodlooking or a very hyper person yet u dont want other people to talk behind ur back so u just not make it to extravagant *not self love* dude if you are goodlooking or a hyper person just show it, let it out who cares if people judges its ur persona ur own body ur own *self love*
Hope this was understandable?😅
I think Self love has a lot to do with setting boundaries, knowing the things you can and cannot control, accepting yourself, treating yourself right, and growing as a person. [Edit:] The list doesn't end there, okay? That's just to name a few.
For example... You can practice self love while being selfless. However, being too selfless would only hurt you, and that's not self love.
It's just about balancing I think. I'm still on my way there, but that's the way I see it 😅
Self love means that you love and understand yourself enough to give that love to someone else.
Self love is embracing yourself without stomping on other people. Narcissists and egotists stomp on others while professing how great they are. True self love doesn't do that. Self love is self respect and it doesn't harm others.
good question i was gonna ask that too
But in truth everyone deserves genuine love, not just hookups.
Rysa Delphine I’ve had people who loved me to my surprise countless times (even two stalkers who did insane things just to see me walk there way) and I’ve never said yes, I just don’t love them truthfully. I haven’t loved anyone since 3rd grade! I just want to love somebody so I can even experience what it’s like, even if they say no. If I did say anything that is, I probably wouldn’t because I don’t know what to do after we both say yes, I forgot.
I have never had a proper loving relationship with a woman I only have had hook ups and meaningless sex
Will Flavell well at least you’ve had sex
LofiWackPainting yeah but I still feel empty
Will Flavell try doing something as much as you can, I chose skateboarding and working out but you can do anything, just do that till sad shit ain’t even on your mind AND I’ll end up looking good so that’s a plus.
My relationship scenarios, generally, go like this:
-Girl likes me
-Girl gets to know me
-Girl is no longer interested
I’m not abusive, manipulative, or needy. There just seems to be something fundamentally about me that is repulsive to the women I seek to date. And, as far as I can tell, there’s nothing I can do to fix the problem. It’s almost like I was made to never receive love and that is a hard, hard truth to come to terms with.
May be you are too nice and available ?
@@drtak4512 And not mysterious enough. These girls like challenges, drama and chasing.
Maybe you're not dating the kind of girls that actually like the kind of person you are at a deeper level. Don`t try to `fix` yourself if you`re not toxic or if you have no unhealthy habits. Just try for searching the kind of person who better suits the type of guy you are & like it. IK saying is easier than doing, but that`s the best & most likely answer to your question. Maybe try taking it slower & not looking desperate.
I know it's hard, although the bright side is that you already seem to have the first step down, which is initially having people attracted to you. This means that something is happening after that to make them lose their attraction to you, whether it be that you seem to have nothing in common (which is a good thing in this case since it was never going to work), you scare her/come on too strong, have a hard time conversing in a manner to help people get to know you, etc.
It'd probably be a good idea to get an outside perspective from somebody you trust. This could be a friend, relative, therapist, or whoever else. Tell them this exact problem (have a hard time maintaining relationships even after attracting someone) and see if they can clue you into aspects of your personality that may be scaring people off. It's hard to look at one's own personality objectively, so this outside perspective would likely be far more insightful than your own or any that you are going to get from random people on the internet.
Its happening because you are destined to come accross all the wrong low quality negative girls...if you are destined to find love you will definitely befriended by calm, jovial and open minded girl.
Number 6- I HAVEN'T BEEN LOOKING IN THE FIRST PLACE ._.
Why am I here. Its alright not like anyone would love me anyway.
i would love you
Well you seem to like anime. I suggest speed dating anime conventions
Gurple Purple i love you gurple
@@lilracoonvevo1112 Thank you peoples .3. I'm pretty eccentric and have different values than others and get along with older age groups. I'm still pretty young anyways and its not like I've loved anyone living before. I like helping people but completely investing myself would make my current situation worse.
@@Sonicfalcon16 Yeah its not like I want love anyways and anime is just a thing I watch instead of socializing and to get rid of stress. I wouldn't think of using it to speak to people. Besides personality is all that really matters. Anyways I guess being extremely hard on myself is what makes me work hard. (And if you were referring to that playlist it was simply for nostalgia, I have a pretty decent music taste .3.)
Bruh, i just was just feeling insecure and BOOM i got this notification 😂 wow
Steezy CD7 Illuminati confirmed!
No worries! :) Hope this video helps put things to perspective.
So you're asexual?
@@yasminemetayer9826 nah, why
Yeah, cool now I feel even more insecure because even a random psychology channel doesn't take fuck ups like me into consideration
1. Bars are not the best places to find love. But for hookups certainly.
2. Don’t lower your standards and except someone you are not that interested in simply because they approach you. Shoot down anyone who doesn’t meet your standards. Settling will destroy your spirit.
3. Take care of yourself. Invest in your talents.
4. Always move forward from past experiences.
5. Get comfortable being patience.
I never found love, but I stopped trying to figure out why long ago. No longer do I obsess about it, nor am I bitter. I simply sum it up like this: there were some things I got right and some things I didn’t. It’s just that simple.
I like this approach.
Modern life and it's VERY expensive lifestyle and the IMMATURITY of a lot of people definately doesn't help. Didn't.
Nearing my 40's.
"Don't do that, don't give me hope."
I'm just too afraid I'll end up with a broken heart again, to the point that I'm pushing away anyone who's trying to get close to me.... It's better to feel nothing
sis I can relate :(
@@dominikamarias.1923 :(
I am the same ever since my ex broke up with me
Shinra Tensei
That's why I only fall in love with fictional characters
I have already accepted the fact that I am destined to be forever alone. I am just watching this to make myself feel better for a bit, so that I don't lose any productivity.
But I would be lying if I said this didn't change my mind on finding love even & make me feel better about myself. Even if it was for a moment.
The characters in this video are adorable though.
you *can* find love
Rishi Das don’t do that, don’t give me hope
@@rishidas9731 Much has changed since the time I posted that comment. I have changed my mind on the matter & have hope that I will find that special woman.
I'm into Anime robot
They re better
@@rishidas9731 either you are a GQ type or rich.......first thing on womens agenda, $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
"Keep an open mind and an open heart"
Funny because every time I do that I get hurt.
That's so true and relatable
The animation and drawing is so cute
Thanks for your kind words!
The animation at 1:50 looked like he was sadly beating his meat...
@@Red.Snake5 LOL
@@deactivated399 😂😂😂
1. Your unattractive.
2. You didn't lower your standards.
3. Your the best introvert a.k.a forever alone.
4. Woman are picky.
5. Change your perspective. Read below if you want too.
I wrote this 2 years ago. I was wrong. These things I wrote are wrong. Its not to say I haven't had my heart ripped out, rejected alot, told horrible things about my looks and straight up cheated on but like all women and men are different and honestly you just gotta love yourself, confidence really helps and like just say fuk it like if you talked too 100 women in a day and let's say 98 reject you. Guess what.. 2 really like your confident funny personality and are willing to give you a chance. Same goes for the ladies too cause guess what. Men judge women just as harshly as women judge men on looks and I wish like many people I was blessed with the good gens department. but guess what thats not how reality works. Reality is your already beautiful your just self conscious no thanks to t.v, movies, magazines and pretty much all the crummy ways beauty is portrayed. Anyway when you get older you realize what's important in your life and if i stay single for the rest of my life then i accept that whole heartily and it just means no changing diapers lmao. So I guess my point is when you do find a women or guy they'll be a down to earth person and its meant to be. 🤘
6. Your not rich enough.
7. Your to fat
Thanks really says a lot about me
4. Women/men are picky
8. Your too skinny.
I don't leave my house...
Honestly, the next person who tells me that “there are plenty of fish in the sea” can go walk into oncoming traffic.
I wont lower my standards for anyone if that means I end up single then so be it
Hello beautiful
Why are you posting feet videos, creep
make sure your standards are the right type of standards
me: I hate being single
Person: Hi
Me: nope
Life: you won't be young forever.
Y though? Is it the looks factor please explain
@@zeinalbasam4733 Well, tbh I just don't feel comfortable when someone is hitting on me. But it's just mostly because the guys who try to hook up w. me are almost strangers. Like I would meet them at a party and one hour later they're grabbing my butt (which is completely flat so I don't even know why the hell-) But yeah if I know the person and he's generally my type in his personality I would have a whole other opinion y/k. I don't know if it made sense:)
Nana Jensen okay That totally makes sense and I agree but ,the thing is it doesn’t always go like that sometimes you have a friendly conversation and u get the sc and talk for a while but she’s still has her guard up and it seems there hard to gain a woman’s trust Because they all think that your some fuck boy looking to. Bust A nut,it’s all good though I don’t care about woman anymore but I’m just curious?
You don’t see how much of an advantage you have
I think you guys should make a video about when a crush gets obsessive in the future. I think that would open many people's eyes.
“You will meet someone” it’s been almost 24 years so uhm NO. I’m done lmao imma be single forever 😂😂
I’m 43
Im 47😠😠😠👿!!! I prayed to some mythical Jesus for a wife while all the Beta Male lucky bastards getting everything😠😠😠😠 Im Jealous when I see couples or undeserving beta males getting and smashing all the women I wanted and dreamt of Lord Im Salty!!!
Can we give love a try?
I’m 25. Give me chance dlr
God is omnipotent, infinite, omnipresent and omniscient. Good vs. Evil is controlled opposition. Freewill is an illusion. Reality is a simulation.
Welp! Gotta get ready to be a cat lady.
Think a hairless cat would help?
😂
Is there any equivalent for dudes? Maybe dog dudes?
@Anita R. Hi girl
Yay im already cat man
I found the love:
- Computer games, my dog, training, food and ect.
The truest love there is, more constant than any other human being could ever dream of being.
God is omnipotent, infinite, omnipresent and omniscient. Good vs. Evil is controlled opposition. Freewill is an illusion. Reality is a simulation.
Falling in love is so hard these days.
Yeah back in the day you gave money to the family from somebody you love and next day your married
It's been 24 years without me finding love yet, don't know how much longer I can wait, I'm starting to give up altogether in love itself
Yeah prob do that
hey :)
walk up to girls and say you like them randomly
6 years ago I figured out why I haven't found love and never will.
1: I'm 5'5 too short
2: I'm unattractive
3: I have PTSD and mental health is almost always a deal breaker
4: I'm very confident but not an alpha
5: Being single for 6 years at age 38 is a turn off.
And despite what a lot of people think, not everyone finds love, it's just a fact that not all can. I haven't given up, but refuse to get my hopes up either.
And that's life, what can I tell ya
If people cant accept you even if you have mental health issues than fuck them.
I'm same height, unattractive, depressed (because no one loves me) and never had anyone in my life to care about me so I feel you man.
I'm barely taller than you by an inch, also ugly as fuck, been single for 13 years, and I'm sure I have underlying mental health problems. I CANNOT find a solution to this because I'm so caught up with working (debts don't pay themselves back, this also means I'm not rich either) for the past 5 years that I've more or less lost my social skills....pass me more of that booze so I can drink my life away.
i would die to be 5”5 i’m a female and 5”7 trust me it’s hell being tall
@@jamilaa5878 thats probably just your perception height isnt really a big deal for females its not like men will reject you for it
i feel personally attacked
Lol! How so? This video is suppose to make you feel heard, for all the single individuals!
hahahahah REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE (not making fun of you ,i promise )
😂
I am having dating problems.
1. I'm not too picky. Idk if that's a problem cause maybe a person has traits that I don't even know I liked.
2. I have met people at parties and reunions. They just want something physical. And I'm not into it.
3. Yeah I do the comparison thing. But not to a ex bf. If not a ex best friend. (Complicated) but he was one of the closest personalities I bonded pretty well.
4. Idk what I am doing wrong.
Michelle Park i am also comparing so much with this one girl me and her bonded so well, it was like never ever before, but Yeah she moved out of the country and we died out, she is coming home in 1 year and she has been out one year. But i still think about her so much and when i meet people i compare about her, even though i can get intressted in others, she always has a place in my heart
@@Aylieds i understand what you mean. With this ex best friend, we had like attraction for each other but things got out of hand and I told him to stop but he didn't want to. Also other circumstances. I was developing feelings and I knew he wouldn't like that. So I cut him off my life. But sometimes I think it was a bad choice. It's been 5 months and he still in my mind.
For some reason, in the society we live in now, people that attend to big parties a lot are always looking for something physical (there are exceptions of course), which is awful, the fact that now people only think in getting laid is not good, some people just want to know the person first and be in a nice relationship
@@MsRAZGRIZ1 I Know. I want that. Dating now it's difficult
@Jose Lino I have never had a connection like that with anyone. I still look for a connection like that. We could talk about everything and no judgement. We could talk about everything, everything. Late at night hanging out. If we felt bad or too happy we looked for each other. Had a problem? we called each other. It was great. I wanted to have that but now In a relationship.
I have no charisma, looks, or money. Never had a relationship in my 43 years.
Can we talk
@@fuckworld2104 let's talk?
Damn bro James your life isn’t over yet just get in there💪
@@ericlukaszekdocarmo8216 You just lose hope when you've been rejected your whole life. It just sucks being surrounded by couples who telling how wonderfull it is to love someone, have sex and having a partner to care for. No offence to your comment, but I'm convinced love is just not meant for everybody. Like me.
Can you guys please do an episode on lust vs love. I recently had an experience with overwhelming lust and I know it wasnt love, I barely knew the person.
I distanced myself from the person and moved on because they weren't right for me until the feelings subsided. I feel that many people out there don't know the difference.
Love is an illusion and everyone is an opportunist. Someone better comes along and u get tossed aside #lovestinks
And Valentines Day sucks.
Stinky
Kinda facts ngl
My problem is that I only fall for fictional chatacters ;-;
Like....if there's none like this in real life...FINE THEN I'LL DIED ALONE!
You and me both pal 😂
It’s the feminine image you fall for. Real women are not as crystallised as fictional characters designed to make you like them. But intuition from my studies of statistics suggests, there is quite likely a real woman out there exactly as your waifu.
902d how did you realise I like girls? Is it that obvious? ReEEeEEe
I see you have a fine taste for Voltron
Only the most acquired taste 👌
“Focus on yourself” “love yourself”
Yeah sure bro, I have hobbies, good grades, I exercise and eat well. I’m accomplished and functional but I haven’t felt the intimate touch of a female in four years and that’s the point. Loneliness is terrible thing that can only be supplemented by the company of others
No friends
No family, all are dead
Atleast i have my job
damn bro.. sorry. Hope you feeling better now..
I’ll be your friend 🥺☺️
Everyone is alone in this life journey,you’ll be fine
I can relate to this as well. Your not alone.
Sorry
I'm single because it's not my main priority. Parties don't really interest me even though it might be interesting to see how idiotic people will act when you add alcohol into the mix. Self-love???? Wellll, I don't hate myself. I have enough self respect to NOT choose the jerkwads nice girls tend to throw themselves at. And I think there's another issue, but for everyone, not just me.
Whether we like it or not, people judge you on your appearance. And this hurts both ways. Especially for the guys who always pick pretty girls who turned out to be bitchy over a "plain jane". This one website got me SO FRICKING IRRITATED because it basically meant,
"STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND SHOW SOME TITS AND ASS AND SMILE WHETHER YOU WANT TO OR NOT OR ELSE NO GUY WOULD WANT TO LOOK AT YOU."
Wow. Looks like he deleted his comment. I was about to explain that it's an unfortunate habit everyone does without even knowing. We always judge people by appearance, which will make us miss the greatest friendship or relationship they will ever have solely because of stereotypes we have been instilled to believe either because of past experience or maybe even your parents programmed that into your brain.
@Sophia yea
But the thing is, everyone has their preferences and sometimes we have no control over who we like, we are just naturally attracted to them. I know for certain that one girl I find cute in my class is a 1/10 for the majority of guys I know.
@@football9947 Are you in the out-crowd or the in-crowd at your school? Do other girls show interest in you, and if so, are they in the out-crowd or in-crowd? What do you think you're considered looks wise on a 10 - point scale?
Moondog Well I am still in school but it is not like high school, but it is not university either. Either way, I don’t hang around with anyone, maybe talk with a few people. The girls or guys that show interest me are mainly “in crowds”. I would probably give myself a 5.
but what if no one is interested in you and no matter how many times you try to ask someone out you just get rejected over and over again...
hey Micky, welcome to the club bro
@@lesiempipou27 thx, but I have been watching since soon after the channel started
No means no. TF?!
Preach
Become John Fuckin Wick.
“She’s out there bro, don’t worry you’ll find her.” I stop believing in that
Same here. My friends would say, “You just have to put yourself out there. The right man will come that fit your standards.”
What standards???
@@blythesaunders3124 i know this is late but, exactly. i literally don’t have a type and my standards are SO low, but still no one wants me
She probably got hit by a bus or something and died before she could've met you.
I’m 24. I’ve got rejected more than a 356 times for 6 years, never had a girlfriend. I tried it doesn’t go well. I tried again, one after the other. I change my habits, same thing. Maybe it’s not me after all but I can’t change who I am for someone else temporarily and settle because everyone is “doing it”. If I wanted to, I can lose my virginity to a random prostitute but I am not that guy. There was a saying people usually reject and ignore expensive things because they can’t afford them. To those 356 + girls that said no, good luck.
Remember that where will always be someone who have it worse. Life is your own race, don’t compare because some people have it easy while others hard. The important this at least you’re trying the best you can.
We’re they super models? If you aim too high you miss.
All the things you said is extremely relatable. We r gonna be single 4life. No matter how hard we try. We just have to accept it.😔
When I was a teenager in my 13 to 16 I was always having crushes to people I knew I couldn't be with. Now I understand that the people I had a crush on were nothing more than just a representation of what I always needed in my life but never got properly. And I'm talking about attention and love. I grew up in a family where I wasn't given too much attention and a lot of times compared to my older cousins. My parents didn't spend so much time with me as I would like... They were always busy with work and they constantly needed time for themselves. Well it's totally understandable. I don't blame them. I know my parents love me and I know how hard they work to give me everything I need and I want. And I'm not gonna lie sometimes I feel kinda guilty for feeling this way about my parents. They've done so many things for me and I truly appreciate it that. But the problem is that I never felt like getting the attention I needed. And that affected my life completely. After a few years I always tried to become the centre of attention just to be given the attention I never got when I was a child. And when I finally became 14 I developed a crush on one of my classmates. But this crush turned into an obsession more than just a healthy crush. I really couldn't get over this boy for three years. When I turned 16 I was already in high school and then a new boy came to my school and guess what. I had developed a crush on him. But this one turned into an obsession... Again... I had a crush on this high school boy for two years but in the middle of my last high school year something happened...something that changed my life completely... I said to myself that something's wrong...there is something your doing wrong... And then it hit me... I finally understood that the reason why I had such unhealthy crushes on these boys was because I didn't really loved myself... I actually didn't know how to love myself because... I wasn't given the affection and attention I should have been given as a child... Sooo that's when my obsession started to fade away and realised that in order to love others you should know how to love and support yourself first... At the beggining I was like "how am I supposed to do it ? How am I gonna love myself ? How is it feel like ? " I had to go through so many hardships and work hard with myself to understand what this "love yourself" saying feels like but I think I did a great job. But after overcoming this struggle another insecurity came to the surface. I had to get rid of people that never respected me and never loved me truly... And I'm talking about toxic friendships. At that moment I learned to respect myself I brought this toxicity to an end by cutting those people out of my life. But then something was missing...and it was my trust towards other people... I became so closed to myself that I really couldn't trust other people. Now I am a university student and these trust issues are growing bigger and bigger everyday turning into another obsession. Right now I reached a point were I say to myself that I shouldn't have any crushes on anyone from now on...and the reason behind this is because I can't let myself feel like an insignificant person. I feel like Noone is paying attention to me...like I'm a person who deserves to be loved...I have confidence within myself but honestly this feeling is more like a trauma than lick of confidence... I try to convince myself that if I try to become the centre of attention i will be loved and cherished by everyone and finally I will be noticed and maybe important for some people even though I know it's not true... I don't wanna have a crush on somebody because I know that for the person I like I'm just a simple person and nothing more... Being independent and feeling that I don't need someone in my life makes me feel strong and not being able to break over someone that doesn't paying any attention to me.
That was way too long. I'm sorry for this one. I tried to maintain everything and write down my feelings the best way I could. For me writing down my feelings in youtube comments feels like therapy.
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Wow girl, so proud of you!!
So how are you now?
Did you find somewhat of what you needed?
Single and in my thirties now. Personally, I've never been a fan of wishful thinking. It's counterproductive. "It's not your time", or "You haven't met them yet", "You have plenty of time," and other such sayings are meant to be encouraging, but there's no substance there either. The reality is that we are mortals, it may happen or it may not, and stranger yet it's not because we've deserving or undeserving. Life is random, it's never fair, and oftentimes it comes down to dumb luck. The only mantra I live by is "Whatever happens, happens." Try not to sweat it and make the most of today. Happy travels!
I don’t think it’s something about personality because you can see everywhere people with bad personalities or even evil hearts being in relationships , it’s really nothing about personalities.
Meh 🤷♂️ I’m alright with dying alone at this point
IM NUMB :\ yeah I’m fine with that cause I haven’t loved anyone since 3rd grade. I’ve been waiting fir it for 13 years and at this point I’m fine with it never happening.
The closest I ever fell “in love” with someone was when I was 19. Although I’m even questioning if that was real love or if it was just a whirlwind romance and I was mostly infatuated (only lasted 6 months). That was nearly 40 years ago. I’ve discovered that not only am I an empath and an introvert, I also have a deep seated fear of intimacy. So that explains why I closed myself off. I did get married at one point but it was clearly for the wrong reasons: I wasn’t in love, I was just with someone and was at a point where I thought I was ready to get married. That lasted only 2 years before we separated.
I was done after that. I don’t really like people all that much anyway.
When I was 10 yrs old I knew I always be alone. I’m 54 now.
Wow this comment section is depressing. Just know all of your feelings are validated, and as someone who is currently questioning whether I'm worthy of love or condemned of being alone and chasing the wrong person for eternity, I'm with you. Don't feel bad for feeling bad, just know hair grows, emotions change.
I can't even get a good career and start a new independent life. Love is just a pipe dream.
I'm the problem. So natural selection picks off the weak like myself.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Best wishes.
I'm in college now and it feels like forever for me to get a college degree to be an engineer and finding internships too.
My teacher is in his 70s. Never dated, married, so no girlfriend ever. His reasoning? He said he never truly was able to love himself so he didnt think hed be able to make someone else happy.
How can you love yourself... even after trying different things. Working out, eating healthy, taking care of appearance etc
I think I am gonna be like your teacher
@@adobotravels lol .working out and eating hethy is loving yourself ..
😂😂 Because you do it for you
Damn. I felt this
Everyone I've ever loved has turned their back on me when I needed them most.
Also. I know the reason I can't be loved.
No one wants me.
I'm a mess.
I hurt myself all the time and no one wants someone who's broken
Touche to that.
:( that's heartbreaking man
wish you the best
Wow thanks for relating to me best of luck xx
I can relate. I don't have a lot of friends cause of it. If anything i don't talk to anyone except for one person and that's rarely. Most people that I've befriended have gone to me if they wanted something or if I can be an ear for them and no one has done that for me. It sucks cause I have a lot of stuff to deal with too, I'm a mess as well and I feel chronically lonely a lot and when I open up to someone or talk to them about what's going on or of my problems they completely drop out of my life or don't talk to me at all or as much cause of it. I wish I had a group of friends to hang out with or a partner that I can be with. Nobody wants to befriend you unless you can offer up something to them whether it be taking them out, buying them things, listening to they're problems, giving them advice, being able to hear them, pick them up take them to places, I've done those things and no one has ever done that for me unless they have ulterior motives which hits even worse.
I'm really happy to see other people like me who suffer from loneliness and the inability to find love
I know many of us may die alone
The part that says you don't give people a chance doesn't really apply to me because I have no one around me at all. I didn't have a chance at all to give someone a chance.
There is no opposite sex on my side
I just wish I didn't have to endure this loneliness