Yes, I feel she understands that she has something going with her mentally, and she should not be stalking me. However she said she can’t stop because of her feelings for me. I think eventually she will move along. Now she Is nice -mean ,gaslighting and devaluation stage on my social media accounts. I just ignore it because I know it’s her. After the death hoax she pulled on my family about me I filled a police report. She is lashing out trying to get a response from me. I have taken a self defense class and have my gun permit now.
@@queennchronicales7815 This is smart! Self defense is great. I suggest looking into Damsel In Distress tazers. I know it may sound unreal 😳 but it may be needed.
yes. my neighbor across the street and a couple houses down , i didn't realize it at first but is a master manpliputler. guilt tripper, very very subltle,always had a way of making me feel "obligeted" to him for walking when i tol dhim maybe once in awhile . but he started turning everything into doing tha twhen he wanted. his timing etc.. he also lied and manipualted me, left me high and dry after i spend 110 dollars on something and he got out of it and lied about bieng mad and lied about his weherabout etc.. but he feels almost obsessed with me. he love bombed me to some extent at teh beginning. felt too good to be true. the man had zero bounderis. every time i would tell him a certain day i was busy he would text me at leas 3-5 times asking if i left yet, when i will be home, call him when i am leaving etc.. not crazy like 20-30 but just enough to see he is being rude and all about him. this included a day when i told him i was attending a funeral serive. i had to cut him off becasue he was becoming a total pest. btw. he also mainplitively screwed me over prior to the othe rtime both costinme over 100 dollars. i decide dto jus tcut him off without telling him as i felt there was no point in trying to explain it to him. but he persisted. i was told typicall it takes 2-3 weeks for someone to get it. this guy ketp trtying, i kept not responding. but last week he exited his garge a tthe same time i did an dhe noticed it so he pulls in front of me to block me to try to make sure I talk to him. i went around him evne though he blocked half the stret then he was clearly trying to follow me based on his driving patterns compared to mine. i lost him. he then sent and unsent a message saying he was confused, but that is all i know he said. than left me alon for 10 striaght days , neve rseen that before. then yesterday as i was getting home from a walk h ehpapened to be getting home. and was in his driveway way 180 or so feet away and i was near my door i heard him say my nmae but i ran in the house and shut the door. he then strated texting me and messing me 2 times on text and 2 x on FB msgr and this time he was trying to politely tell me how he stood behidn me and stood up for me with soem mysterious people that badmouthed me. i don't even are, and trying to make me soudn like i was so disrespetful by not addressing the issues and said what i your problem? acting like i was being a total jerk. which i am ok with , but he literally said i was disrepecting him and he won't tolerate this behaviour. saying he has been nothing but good to me. oh sure he had the apparance of doing so to most people. but it was all fake. he said next time he sees me he wants to talk. however i don't feel i owe this guy any explination, he is almost 40, an adult and should understand what he did. i believe he knows, doens't want anyone knowing. not sure what specific type of stalker this is or th ebest way to handel it from here. but he i just so "RIGHT THERE" is what makes this so difficult
This church demands I reconcile with n sis everytime I try to speak with them my mind go's neutral they make excuses my response go's num I walk away perplexed like frozen I moved to this state 209 still going on this really crazy
The fear comes from the shock that someone would act like this. Especially towards someone they do not know or haven't even spoken to. I didn't realize mental illness caused people to behave this way. It's shocking.
I feel I'm being gang stalked. I think law enforcement is in on it. I don't know what to do because this is unwarranted behavior towards me. I'm just a retired veteran trying to live a peaceful life.
This happens when they put you on a watch list. I think they do this to a lot of normal people just because they need to like act like people are terrorists or something so that they can fluff up their huge budget
Stalky neighbour has gained energy from harrassing me. I appear confused tired, hyper vigilant, hyper aroused etc...nit as tidy as I should be. I moved in 5 weeks ago and spent 9 nights sleeping in my vehicle, returned to the city twice for 4 days etc etc, Now, I have done about half of the cleaning I expected to in the first week of being here! It's exhausting getting stalked.
I've been stalked by next-door neighbor for almost 3 years. He pestered me when I first moved in and I just thought he was annoying. When he entered my backyard twice without permission and left me "presents" I stopped engaging with him, put a lock on my gate and got security cameras. Then the letters began showing up in my mailbox asking why I was giving him the "cold shoulder." He has destroyed shrubs I planted for privacy and watches me constantly with cameras, binoculars and even a telescope. I had an order of protection for a year, but when he violated it, the police wouldn't do anything, so I never renewed it. The anxiety and constant hypervigilance became too much and I now see a therapist. It helps, but I'm still exhausted. I'm depressed, I've gained weight, I hardly go outside and I keep my curtains closed. He is elderly, but active. I'm hoping that in this case, evil doesn't live forever.
Yes absolutely these people are puppets, being paid to harass and threaten. Other people and make them feel bad about themselves. My money was hacked in to. Debit cards stolen. Mail stolen. My life threatened and my son's. This is pure mental abuse and I'm done.
Mine are a weird family off about three hundred and their is definitely a mental illness off narcissistic behaviours throughout and pyscosis in most off them
Thank you! You are helping me explain my experiences to people that I was unable to find words for. I have had female friend stalkers as well, they were intimacy/attention stalking as well as stalking me for my personality traits and interests. I felt like I was supply for their personas and they would get upset if they even knew someone was interested in me (meanwhile they had boyfriends 😩). It’s a form of psychological torture. Thank you again!! Take care.
You're welcome. I'm sorry to hear this. In most situations the police cannot do anything because nothing has escalated to the point of you being physically attacked or the stalker is good at not leaving tracks. They have to have concrete proof and a "lead" before they can do anything. Sadly. It's a cycle that hasn't been broken yet in all of these years. Get as much proof as you can to prove what is happening. There shouldn't be any doubt that your proof isn't coming from the stalker.
That's an easy question to answer: it's spiritual jealousy emanating from their collective hive minded primitive desire to stop you from reaching your full potential. 🕵️♂️
I just discovered your videos at the exact moment I needed to. I am in the middle of dealing with the third time I have attracted a criminal voyeuristic, stalking situation. Please keep talking about stalking and voyeurism. Out of empowerment to my self, I created a playlist to collect RUclips videos on the topic of voyeurism, and it is painfully short considering the extent of damage it creates. I wish I could talk to someone like you about my now multiple experiences. Cheers
I was a total rex before I started watching your videos on stalking, It's like a ton of bricks have been removed off my back thanks to you, and they really do need to come up with a legal process to stop stalkers, I'm from the streets its only one way I know how to handle people problems, I really prefer not to take it there.
I’m dealing with a scorned stalker now. Oddly enough, when I gave reason (valid reason) why I broke off the relationship, all sorts of projection got thrown back at me. Yet this individual repeated back crucial things mentioned leading up to the break up, but never took ownership of simple things imposed on me. Apparently I’m even being stalked here on RUclips and haven’t figured out how to completely block here on RUclips. I may have to close the Google account and start all over again.
I was stalked by a young fella that was very handsome but not the right one for me 11 years back. Ever since then an ever growing group of females who themselves have very bad experiences with guys, have stalked me out of jealousy. They live lose lives with many different people they hang out with if you know what I mean. Nothing serious and even just grabbing partners that are not right for them, but just allow them to live the farce lives they are used to. They use a huge effort to approach me, often by their friends who I don't know either. And just out of fun to hurt other people act out scenarios that have nothing to do with the stalking. They even go so far to find out everything about my past and then make up the worst scenarios about my past that are so nasty I can't believe it. I have often witnessed that with women in this country. They seem to follow a woman they are jealous of and think up all kinds of nasty scenarios to hurt that woman. I often say that is their full time job. No normal person would be dumb enough to put themselves into a situation that could lead to any of those made up stories they force onto me into the first place. They love to use different characters to project their personalities onto me or they project their own childish behavior that very often describes their flaws. Projecting either their own nasty lives onto me, with the most vulgar details I might mention, and then just projecting other people's lives onto me is what they do. I have never ever had to deal with aggressive dangerous nutjobs like that before in my life. When I point out the obvious truth they go crazy and I have to endure the nastiest most forceful projections, often involving unwanted physical closing in of those criminals into my private space. I am serious when I say that such people would indeed harm a person physically if that person does not have some kind of protection. I can not believe that people would do these things just so THEY can be seen as the good person and to just make it seem it is the victim who has the kind of live they actually have. They stop at nothing. The worst thing for them is to have to find out that they can not hide behind lies and when someone posts without even mentioning their names, they turn extremely aggressive, belting out the worst scenarios ever because they stalk me online too. Everything that ever happened in the stalking 11 years back has been shredded a million times by jealous females who just make up the worst imaginary horrible scenarios instead. When I see some of the original females that were there when I was stalked I go backwards and I do not talk to them. They are friends with the main woman who instigated this stalking, a very lose woman, and those friends of hers try to hurt me by pretending that it is not me the victim who has been stalked but that lose woman instead. They have devilish fun to pretend that the jealous lose woman is the good one and that it is me who is the bad person. They do that just for sheer fun. That lose woman has stalked me ever since I was stalked by a guy and her craziness is increasing, pretending she is actually me and vice versa. She just does that to torture.
I'm sorry to hear this I'm wondering if my psychotic child's father started all this I don't know it could even be my family cuz they're pretty psycho too I'm not sure but it's definitely a scary situation and they like to stick my nose in their evilness to teach me a lesson about how they're all such a piece of crap
Thank you for covering that last one for my safety I'm just glad someone is aware of how that structure can work between scorn lovers and hits is very dangerous within alternative communities. I appreciate that this is something that is addressed because they need some type of backing especially now during the cyber age. This might save someone's life. I know you already know that but thank you again.
@@TherapistTamaraHill helps legal teams build able to work law policy into action. The more I learn the law and medical field do work side by side to help and harm on basis of intersectionality theory alone we can see it. Research saves lives.
Once again another great video. I am going to look up Dr. Ronald Holmes and buy his book . I will be following your content . I found your channel a few months okay and I watched about 10 of your videos on Narcissism and I think the toxic family members. I enjoy your content so I will be watching and sharing. I shared your narcissist series on my Facebook page because I wanted the person who’s stalking me to listen to them and possibly stop the stalking.
My stalker doesn't believe he's stalking me when he goes to establishments I'm at rather he says he goes to get answers!! He then proceeds to accuse me of things like being with another man and swearing he saw me with him when I know damn well I was not with anybody except my Girlfriends. He makes me feel crazy and I lose my shit defending myself!! The conversation becomes so convoluted that I can't even think straight! I just really wish I could make him understand how terrible it makes me feel!! Thank you, Patricia
I must be really resilient or something, or maybe it's just the kind of stalkers I'm dealing with. I don't react with fear, I react with amusement and sometimes pity. So, if someone's goal is to harass or scare or control even, wouldn't they change tactics if they do something over and over again and they don't get the reactions they're after? I believe that my stalker is like how Michael Jackson was, how he was a weirdo who was interested in little boys and women? But also either very mentally ill or they've got the mind of a 10 year old. Because Michael Jackson never matured, with the way my stalkers act I think it might be the same thing. On the one hand, mentally someone is 12 so they are attracted to 12 year olds on the other they're in the body of a grown person so they're also attracted to grown people. These people have stalked my oldest male child and myself. They're timid and weird, not very scary.
Thank you you explained very clearly my situation I'm definitely going to look up the author you mentioned in this video and get more acquainted with the psychology behind that behavior. Thank you so much as an activist organizer an advocate for social justice and many other things politicians have formulated organized bullying gang stalking from one state to the other as I try to move away from the problem it continued these stalkers hold high-level positions in government all the way down to the Grassroots. I have had a very difficult time for the last 15 years organizing for action volunteer. 48 years under the Obama Administration and 7 years of being attacked in various different ways even as I quit organizing
In also being stalked by in particular a man in a white older model pickup with a loud exhaust...I'm absolutely terrified and need the support from a Crisis worker..this has been going on for 3 months..I'm trying to document everything..but he won't stop no matter if I try to ignore him. But tonight he thought he was being slick but my friend got him next door on videotape. I hope that others know that you don't know there motive or just how bad there mental health is.
Lol I was a stalker. I was just super curious about his life. I wanted to know what he did how he did it, who it was with and why. I bought a house near his, drove hundreds of miles to see him training. He is famous, so worked really hard to got near him, then paid off security to get the closest experience possible. My financial resources are unlimited, so I had nothing better to do. His sister told me she liked my shoes at an event then she ended up taking me back to hang out with her because its NFL and if you have paid one of the suites seats our seats were near the family section. I knew there was a chance that I would meet him and everyone there thought I was an instagram model but in actuality I only got IG to see what he does. Next thing you know he came to see her and everything froze. I didnt wanna hurt him. I just wanted to see him. Like he looked just like all his pictures, a bit more stout. He asked about me but I am empty. My life only consisted of getting to that moment to see him without the screen. I felt a sense of disappointment. He of course only gave me that one second to give an IG but I couldnt give it to him because he is the only one I follow. But then our paths stopped crossing. I was kinda empty for a few days. Looked my best got up at 4am to get my makeup done before the event, had him even say my name but realized my delusional thinking led me there . I was alone in a dome full of people and his sister was pulling me back to the bar.
Did you get some psychological help? I'm honestly trying to be helpful not mean I've had exes and even a stepfather who are stalker types so even I don't know I just I hope you got help
True; they lack confidence and idealize you.. I have one I met in Las Vegas 20 years ago.We're "friends' on Facebook and we say hi once in awhile. He is re-married so he won't be coming to my state any time soon.As long as I "ackowledge' him ocasionally I don't think he will show up here. How do I attract such crazy men?
Hi I'm Kristen I just subscribe to your channel I'm new. I've been stalked before this year not too long ago. This guy is 65 years old I'm like 26 way younger than him. Apparently he wanted to date me. But sadly he became a stalker after I cut him out of my life. I was entering the mall I saw him just sitting there and he slowly coming towards me turn back around went out the mall again running across the street to toys r us he followed me all the way to toys r us. He saw me ran in the toys r us he entered toys r us after I went in. He also called me before leaving me harassing voicemails swearing at me calling me a three-year-old for hiding behind people all I was doing protecting myself. I feel like he was intimidating me. I find running across the street is tiring. Wasting my energy. Apparently before I became friends hanging out. He said he sees me is all me. At a used store. Saying he knew me for 3 years.
What about if the person that is stalking you. You don’t have any connection to but they are now married to your ex who you where only with for 6 months this girl has been stalking me since 2016 she gets all my addresses she now currently has my current address I took her to court the judge didn’t help but just simply said to stay away and she emailed me a year after that court date we had I don’t know how she got my email address I don’t how she keeps getting my addresses I don’t know what to do at this point
Greetings I have a stalker and the police and prosecutor isn't doing anything. This is my ex. We've been to court and I had him served with a PPO. He disregards the NO CONTACT ORDER and the PPO. I receive numerous calls texts and messages on my social media pages from different phone numbers that he's created. I'm 8 months pregnant and I don't know what to do. I only dated him for 1.5 months. I haven't dealt with him since April 2020. What can I do for my sanity?
Get counselling. Also call womens shelters, often they have advise when the ppos dont work. Make sure you document and fulm everything . I am so sorry you are going through this, especially while pregnant. I also had aomeone stalk, harass and attack me while pregnant. EMDR therapy was very helpful. I hope you have support right noe and congratulations on your new baby:)!
@@jessicarae1924 thank you so much. Here's an update. The police picked him up and he is being charged with 3 felonies. The judge ordered him to be on a GPS tether and he can ONLY go to and from work. I'm relieved for the moment
THE ONLY HELP STALKERS NEED IS LONG TERM INCARCERATION 30 YEARS MINIMUM, IT SHOULD ON A SLIDING SCALE. IF YOURE 50 YRS AND UP 30yrs. IF YOURE IN YOUR 20’s, 50yrs. PROVIDED THERE IS INCONTROVERTIBLE PROOF
I totally get your frustration on this. They should have very clearly defined timelines of incarceration and strict laws that can be exercised with proof of the stalking behavior.
What do you think about it about the psychology of men who stalk for their job and actually enjoy their job I mean do you think they're more nourishment pervert or sociopath or what
It's worse when it's a family friend and they are ok also doesn't help when they are 1000x more popular and welll known than you our they are able to turn everyone in the local area against you they have ruined my life I have been living in misery, I made sure he knew I wasn't gay and when than didn't stop him that was the first red flag
Yes! Absolutely. That's what makes stalkers difficult to understand and keep track of. They are complicated as it is --- and then when these categories overlap, things get really difficult.
Yes about the emotional maturity they're the kind of guys that like sit there and cyber stock people and their mom's basement you know there's there's not there like toddler level maturity
Stalker left town now maybe n sis and church will ????? I'm sure they think they helping sis. But they enable her and let themselves be suckered in I don't know they left me with so many ?s
How is a stalker defined? If you say for example saw someone say walking around near where you live or work and you wanted to talk to them to see if they are single it may not be so easy. You may be nervous, worried that they may say no or they may be already attached. Just because you may have to bide your time and find the right place to approach them does not mean you are a stalker. Many millions of relationships happen every year this way they are not all going to rape and kill you.
I can't fully disagree. I think that's true to some extent. I don't know if I would go so far as to say "millions of relationships" but I have heard of some. Sounds like you may have some experience here or at least have thought about this? While I would love to see this kind of behavior as flattering, I wouldn't want someone hanging around me trying to "figure things out" and know where I am - where I live and work. However, if you are a sweet person, do not come off as threatening, and know how to respect the space of the other person, then I can accept this theory. It's only when your attention is unwanted, persistent, and consists of abnormal attempts to get attention that we can then call it stalking. The other person has to also become aware of you (in most cases, not all such as in the case of cyber stalking) and give you some clue they are disinterested. Now, your interpretation of their reaction toward you doesn't really matter if that person tells you "no" or signals in some way they feel threatened by your attempts. OR if your behavior is leading to sneaky behaviors that could be seen by others as too intrusive, then it's stalking.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Yes soon as the person is aware and says no thats it. I was referring to before the person is aware of you, not all relationships happen on a night out with both people on the look out for company.
I think I am being stalked but can not prove it I am tailgates by at least 10 cars wherever I go When I get in and out of my car there are cars with their head lights on me day and night People constantly invade my personal space in public places It's always someone around me It is white and black men predominantly However it has been teens and some women
They will use anyone they know, it doesn't matter who. In my case it is people they have relationships with, friends mostly. They use their friends to stalk me at my workplace and they get into my personal space to forefully act out nasty lewd vulgar scenarios. They are very sick people. I have a huge group that is stalking me, ever since I had to fight off a young stalking male. It has been like that for 11 years. You are just dealing with very sick people. If anyone approaches you wrong or starts talking sick (you know, things you would never want or things you would never consider, or things you never knew, or things you would not want or some kind of scenarios that involve putting you, the victim, in a really bad light), remove yourself from that location immediately. I know what I am talking about. They are sickos and they are very dangerous.
In not afraid. All they are are his flying monkeys. Weirded me out at first but as I cut ties with him. Heard nada. Now all the sudden I’m being tagged by one to go aca to his club. I refuse. Also, I called out one on my social media, mentioned no names about a pic all the sudden they changed it. She is insane. Wants to be in the in crowd so bad. Me I’m minding my own business.
I don’t see the other kind of stalker it’s all they want romance or lust but I’ve had a stalker was a straight female for 10 years was like this psycho was mad we went out with the same guy even through she ended up with the guy was seeing other men and I just went on with my life and even was in a long term bf and I got revengeful neighbors now that have graduated from harassing to stalking and it’s a family though I believe one is the ring leader. I have stated before I had the occasional broke up with stalker but they went away when I shut it down I could not and cannot seem to shut down the 2 types I mentioned I feel invalidated though I know you’ve mentioned it could be anyone in other videos but still the preserved wronged or even in case of the neighbors I have complained to landlord I have called cops after dealing with it for a long time cause I was afraid of retaliation which indeed happened so it like the worst ones for me were ppl who felt slighted and were like now I’m obsessed with making your life hell on earth
I meant I ended up getting into a long term relationship I had nothing to do with that guy again. She obsessed bout it for 10 years cranked called my house attacked me at a party followed me came into my work through a soda on me got arrested still didn’t stop her she was trying to get my roommate to let her in the apt saying my other roommate who went away she somehow knew was away asked her to check on the place . This was years ago and there was no help now it’s my upstairs neighbors/landlord cause she worked with these ppl and decided she didn’t like me unfortunately due to money lack of available housing I’m stuck here and it’s escalated to they are stalking me
Do you think you have come across these stalkers?
Yes, I feel she understands that she has something going with her mentally, and she should not be stalking me. However she said she can’t stop because of her feelings for me. I think eventually she will move along. Now she Is nice -mean ,gaslighting and devaluation stage on my social media accounts. I just ignore it because I know it’s her. After the death hoax she pulled on my family about me I filled a police report. She is lashing out trying to get a response from me. I have taken a self defense class and have my gun permit now.
@@queennchronicales7815 This is smart! Self defense is great. I suggest looking into Damsel In Distress tazers. I know it may sound unreal 😳 but it may be needed.
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yes. my neighbor across the street and a couple houses down , i didn't realize it at first but is a master manpliputler. guilt tripper, very very subltle,always had a way of making me feel "obligeted" to him for walking when i tol dhim maybe once in awhile . but he started turning everything into doing tha twhen he wanted. his timing etc.. he also lied and manipualted me, left me high and dry after i spend 110 dollars on something and he got out of it and lied about bieng mad and lied about his weherabout etc.. but he feels almost obsessed with me. he love bombed me to some extent at teh beginning. felt too good to be true. the man had zero bounderis. every time i would tell him a certain day i was busy he would text me at leas 3-5 times asking if i left yet, when i will be home, call him when i am leaving etc.. not crazy like 20-30 but just enough to see he is being rude and all about him. this included a day when i told him i was attending a funeral serive.
i had to cut him off becasue he was becoming a total pest. btw. he also mainplitively screwed me over prior to the othe rtime both costinme over 100 dollars. i decide dto jus tcut him off without telling him as i felt there was no point in trying to explain it to him.
but he persisted. i was told typicall it takes 2-3 weeks for someone to get it. this guy ketp trtying, i kept not responding.
but last week he exited his garge a tthe same time i did an dhe noticed it so he pulls in front of me to block me to try to make sure I talk to him. i went around him evne though he blocked half the stret then he was clearly trying to follow me based on his driving patterns compared to mine. i lost him.
he then sent and unsent a message saying he was confused, but that is all i know he said. than left me alon for 10 striaght days , neve rseen that before.
then yesterday as i was getting home from a walk h ehpapened to be getting home. and was in his driveway way 180 or so feet away and i was near my door i heard him say my nmae but i ran in the house and shut the door. he then strated texting me and messing me 2 times on text and 2 x on FB msgr and this time he was trying to politely tell me how he stood behidn me and stood up for me with soem mysterious people that badmouthed me. i don't even are, and trying to make me soudn like i was so disrespetful by not addressing the issues and said what i your problem? acting like i was being a total jerk. which i am ok with , but he literally said i was disrepecting him and he won't tolerate this behaviour. saying he has been nothing but good to me. oh sure he had the apparance of doing so to most people. but it was all fake. he said next time he sees me he wants to talk. however i don't feel i owe this guy any explination, he is almost 40, an adult and should understand what he did. i believe he knows, doens't want anyone knowing.
not sure what specific type of stalker this is or th ebest way to handel it from here. but he i just so "RIGHT THERE" is what makes this so difficult
This church demands I reconcile with n sis everytime I try to speak with them my mind go's neutral they make excuses my response go's num I walk away perplexed like frozen I moved to this state 209 still going on this really crazy
The fear comes from the shock that someone would act like this. Especially towards someone they do not know or haven't even spoken to. I didn't realize mental illness caused people to behave this way. It's shocking.
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Stalkers are scary as heck.
😳 yes they are!
They feel powerful 😥
And they have the audacity to judge you😂
They are seriously mentally ill
They are truly sick people.
I feel I'm being gang stalked. I think law enforcement is in on it. I don't know what to do because this is unwarranted behavior towards me. I'm just a retired veteran trying to live a peaceful life.
This happens when they put you on a watch list. I think they do this to a lot of normal people just because they need to like act like people are terrorists or something so that they can fluff up their huge budget
You just never know what they’re thinking or planning
We are not all Ted Bundy's ya know.
Stalky neighbour has gained energy from harrassing me. I appear confused tired, hyper vigilant, hyper aroused etc...nit as tidy as I should be. I moved in 5 weeks ago and spent 9 nights sleeping in my vehicle, returned to the city twice for 4 days etc etc, Now, I have done about half of the cleaning I expected to in the first week of being here! It's exhausting getting stalked.
My stalker scares me. I don’t know if he is watching me 24/7.
Maybe he's just plucking up the courage to propose to you?
Have been stalked for over a year now and it's awful. Thanks for your videos. They help a lot. For sure.
It is awful. I'm sorry.😔
I've been experiencing it as well .... for a long time.
Best thing keep of RUclips than pal.
I've been stalked by next-door neighbor for almost 3 years. He pestered me when I first moved in and I just thought he was annoying. When he entered my backyard twice without permission and left me "presents" I stopped engaging with him, put a lock on my gate and got security cameras. Then the letters began showing up in my mailbox asking why I was giving him the "cold shoulder." He has destroyed shrubs I planted for privacy and watches me constantly with cameras, binoculars and even a telescope. I had an order of protection for a year, but when he violated it, the police wouldn't do anything, so I never renewed it. The anxiety and constant hypervigilance became too much and I now see a therapist. It helps, but I'm still exhausted. I'm depressed, I've gained weight, I hardly go outside and I keep my curtains closed. He is elderly, but active. I'm hoping that in this case, evil doesn't live forever.
Would you consider a group or a gang of stalkers to have a shared psychosis?
Yes absolutely these people are puppets, being paid to harass and threaten. Other people and make them feel bad about themselves. My money was hacked in to. Debit cards stolen. Mail stolen. My life threatened and my son's. This is pure mental abuse and I'm done.
Mine are a weird family off about three hundred and their is definitely a mental illness off narcissistic behaviours throughout and pyscosis in most off them
Thank you! You are helping me explain my experiences to people that I was unable to find words for. I have had female friend stalkers as well, they were intimacy/attention stalking as well as stalking me for my personality traits and interests. I felt like I was supply for their personas and they would get upset if they even knew someone was interested in me (meanwhile they had boyfriends 😩). It’s a form of psychological torture. Thank you again!! Take care.
You're welcome and thank you for watching!!😊
I agree, also, that the stalking you endured is psychological torture.
Thank you for sharing. I'm being stalked right now and have been for a long time. The police say that there's nothing they can do.
You're welcome.
I'm sorry to hear this. In most situations the police cannot do anything because nothing has escalated to the point of you being physically attacked or the stalker is good at not leaving tracks. They have to have concrete proof and a "lead" before they can do anything. Sadly. It's a cycle that hasn't been broken yet in all of these years. Get as much proof as you can to prove what is happening. There shouldn't be any doubt that your proof isn't coming from the stalker.
The problem w stalkers is figuring out WHY they are stalking !!! They seem to all be motivated by something ELSE!!
That's an easy question to answer: it's spiritual jealousy emanating from their collective hive minded primitive desire to stop you from reaching your full potential. 🕵️♂️
Your videos are amongst the absolute best on the internet in regards to stalking. Thank you so much for all you do on this subject, Tamara
You're very welcome!🥰 And thank you for watching.
I just discovered your videos at the exact moment I needed to. I am in the middle of dealing with the third time I have attracted a criminal voyeuristic, stalking situation. Please keep talking about stalking and voyeurism. Out of empowerment to my self, I created a playlist to collect RUclips videos on the topic of voyeurism, and it is painfully short considering the extent of damage it creates. I wish I could talk to someone like you about my now multiple experiences. Cheers
I was a total rex before I started watching your videos on stalking, It's like a ton of bricks have been removed off my back thanks to you, and they really do need to come up with a legal process to stop stalkers, I'm from the streets its only one way I know how to handle people problems, I really prefer not to take it there.
I'm so glad this helped!! This topic is burdensome when you are tye victim.
I’m dealing with a scorned stalker now. Oddly enough, when I gave reason (valid reason) why I broke off the relationship, all sorts of projection got thrown back at me. Yet this individual repeated back crucial things mentioned leading up to the break up, but never took ownership of simple things imposed on me. Apparently I’m even being stalked here on RUclips and haven’t figured out how to completely block here on RUclips. I may have to close the Google account and start all over again.
I was stalked by a young fella that was very handsome but not the right one for me 11 years back. Ever since then an ever growing group of females who themselves have very bad experiences with guys, have stalked me out of jealousy. They live lose lives with many different people they hang out with if you know what I mean. Nothing serious and even just grabbing partners that are not right for them, but just allow them to live the farce lives they are used to.
They use a huge effort to approach me, often by their friends who I don't know either. And just out of fun to hurt other people act out scenarios that have nothing to do with the stalking. They even go so far to find out everything about my past and then make up the worst scenarios about my past that are so nasty I can't believe it.
I have often witnessed that with women in this country. They seem to follow a woman they are jealous of and think up all kinds of nasty scenarios to hurt that woman.
I often say that is their full time job.
No normal person would be dumb enough to put themselves into a situation that could lead to any of those made up stories they force onto me into the first place.
They love to use different characters to project their personalities onto me or they project their own childish behavior that very often describes their flaws.
Projecting either their own nasty lives onto me, with the most vulgar details I might mention, and then just projecting other people's lives onto me is what they do.
I have never ever had to deal with aggressive dangerous nutjobs like that before in my life.
When I point out the obvious truth they go crazy and I have to endure the nastiest most forceful projections, often involving unwanted physical closing in of those criminals into my private space.
I am serious when I say that such people would indeed harm a person physically if that person does not have some kind of protection.
I can not believe that people would do these things just so THEY can be seen as the good person and to just make it seem it is the victim who has the kind of live they actually have.
They stop at nothing.
The worst thing for them is to have to find out that they can not hide behind lies and when someone posts without even mentioning their names, they turn extremely aggressive, belting out the worst scenarios ever because they stalk me online too.
Everything that ever happened in the stalking 11 years back has been shredded a million times by jealous females who just make up the worst imaginary horrible scenarios instead. When I see some of the original females that were there when I was stalked I go backwards and I do not talk to them. They are friends with the main woman who instigated this stalking, a very lose woman, and those friends of hers try to hurt me by pretending that it is not me the victim who has been stalked but that lose woman instead. They have devilish fun to pretend that the jealous lose woman is the good one and that it is me who is the bad person. They do that just for sheer fun.
That lose woman has stalked me ever since I was stalked by a guy and her craziness is increasing, pretending she is actually me and vice versa. She just does that to torture.
I'm sorry to hear this I'm wondering if my psychotic child's father started all this I don't know it could even be my family cuz they're pretty psycho too I'm not sure but it's definitely a scary situation and they like to stick my nose in their evilness to teach me a lesson about how they're all such a piece of crap
Thank you for covering that last one for my safety I'm just glad someone is aware of how that structure can work between scorn lovers and hits is very dangerous within alternative communities. I appreciate that this is something that is addressed because they need some type of backing especially now during the cyber age. This might save someone's life. I know you already know that but thank you again.
You're welcome!! And thank you for pointing this out. We need more information on this topic.
@@TherapistTamaraHill helps legal teams build able to work law policy into action. The more I learn the law and medical field do work side by side to help and harm on basis of intersectionality theory alone we can see it. Research saves lives.
Thank you - just found you and tho it’s troubling - this info is useful and also quite validating to my experience.
You're welcome! And yes, it is disturbing to say the least.
Once again another great video. I am going to look up Dr. Ronald Holmes and buy his book . I will be following your content . I found your channel a few months okay and I watched about 10 of your videos on Narcissism and I think the toxic family members. I enjoy your content so I will be watching and sharing. I shared your narcissist series on my Facebook page because I wanted the person who’s stalking me to listen to them and possibly stop the stalking.
Wonderful! I'm so glad my videos are helpful and thank you for sharing with others!! Glad to have you on the channel.
This information is articulated clearly and exceptionality informative, thank you 🙏🏻
You're very welcome! And thank you!
Glad I found your channel. I uh, just got done filing a report with the police earlier today (UK) cause my ex from months ago has turned stalker.
My stalker doesn't believe he's stalking me when he goes to establishments I'm at rather he says he goes to get answers!! He then proceeds to accuse me of things like being with another man and swearing he saw me with him when I know damn well I was not with anybody except my Girlfriends.
He makes me feel crazy and I lose my shit defending myself!! The conversation becomes so convoluted that I can't even think straight! I just really wish I could make him understand how terrible it makes me feel!!
Thank you,
Patricia
I must be really resilient or something, or maybe it's just the kind of stalkers I'm dealing with. I don't react with fear, I react with amusement and sometimes pity. So, if someone's goal is to harass or scare or control even, wouldn't they change tactics if they do something over and over again and they don't get the reactions they're after? I believe that my stalker is like how Michael Jackson was, how he was a weirdo who was interested in little boys and women? But also either very mentally ill or they've got the mind of a 10 year old. Because Michael Jackson never matured, with the way my stalkers act I think it might be the same thing. On the one hand, mentally someone is 12 so they are attracted to 12 year olds on the other they're in the body of a grown person so they're also attracted to grown people. These people have stalked my oldest male child and myself. They're timid and weird, not very scary.
Thank you you explained very clearly my situation I'm definitely going to look up the author you mentioned in this video and get more acquainted with the psychology behind that behavior. Thank you so much as an activist organizer an advocate for social justice and many other things politicians have formulated organized bullying gang stalking from one state to the other as I try to move away from the problem it continued these stalkers hold high-level positions in government all the way down to the Grassroots. I have had a very difficult time for the last 15 years organizing for action volunteer. 48 years under the Obama Administration and 7 years of being attacked in various different ways even as I quit organizing
Like how dysfunctional do you think a family has to be to encourage other people to stalk you?
In Sheep's Clothing is a great book, George K. Simon
Agree!
Super channel 💕
Thank you 🤗
It sucks when you have to explain two stalkers that they are mentally unstable and they should get some help
That's true. When it gets to that level, it's time to walk away or stop talking to them because they simply don't get it!
In also being stalked by in particular a man in a white older model pickup with a loud exhaust...I'm absolutely terrified and need the support from a Crisis worker..this has been going on for 3 months..I'm trying to document everything..but he won't stop no matter if I try to ignore him.
But tonight he thought he was being slick but my friend got him next door on videotape. I hope that others know that you don't know there motive or just how bad there mental health is.
Lol I was a stalker. I was just super curious about his life. I wanted to know what he did how he did it, who it was with and why. I bought a house near his, drove hundreds of miles to see him training. He is famous, so worked really hard to got near him, then paid off security to get the closest experience possible. My financial resources are unlimited, so I had nothing better to do. His sister told me she liked my shoes at an event then she ended up taking me back to hang out with her because its NFL and if you have paid one of the suites seats our seats were near the family section. I knew there was a chance that I would meet him and everyone there thought I was an instagram model but in actuality I only got IG to see what he does. Next thing you know he came to see her and everything froze. I didnt wanna hurt him. I just wanted to see him. Like he looked just like all his pictures, a bit more stout. He asked about me but I am empty. My life only consisted of getting to that moment to see him without the screen. I felt a sense of disappointment. He of course only gave me that one second to give an IG but I couldnt give it to him because he is the only one I follow. But then our paths stopped crossing. I was kinda empty for a few days. Looked my best got up at 4am to get my makeup done before the event, had him even say my name but realized my delusional thinking led me there . I was alone in a dome full of people and his sister was pulling me back to the bar.
Did you get some psychological help? I'm honestly trying to be helpful not mean I've had exes and even a stepfather who are stalker types so even I don't know I just I hope you got help
Yep get some counselling
💘 the video maybe be much more careful. Thank u much
332 334 reported to the sheriff's department after a 8 year investigation
True; they lack confidence and idealize you.. I have one I met in Las Vegas 20 years ago.We're "friends' on Facebook and we say hi once in awhile. He is re-married so he won't be coming to my state any time soon.As long as I "ackowledge' him ocasionally I don't think he will show up here. How do I attract such crazy men?
Is there a particular type of person who gets stalked? Like some sort of personality that is more at risk from this behavior?
Probably scapegoats
They are called attention seekers.
Hi I'm Kristen I just subscribe to your channel I'm new. I've been stalked before this year not too long ago. This guy is 65 years old I'm like 26 way younger than him. Apparently he wanted to date me. But sadly he became a stalker after I cut him out of my life. I was entering the mall I saw him just sitting there and he slowly coming towards me turn back around went out the mall again running across the street to toys r us he followed me all the way to toys r us. He saw me ran in the toys r us he entered toys r us after I went in. He also called me before leaving me harassing voicemails swearing at me calling me a three-year-old for hiding behind people all I was doing protecting myself. I feel like he was intimidating me. I find running across the street is tiring. Wasting my energy. Apparently before I became friends hanging out. He said he sees me is all me. At a used store. Saying he knew me for 3 years.
What about if the person that is stalking you. You don’t have any connection to but they are now married to your ex who you where only with for 6 months this girl has been stalking me since 2016 she gets all my addresses she now currently has my current address I took her to court the judge didn’t help but just simply said to stay away and she emailed me a year after that court date we had I don’t know how she got my email address I don’t how she keeps getting my addresses I don’t know what to do at this point
Greetings
I have a stalker and the police and prosecutor isn't doing anything. This is my ex. We've been to court and I had him served with a PPO. He disregards the NO CONTACT ORDER and the PPO. I receive numerous calls texts and messages on my social media pages from different phone numbers that he's created. I'm 8 months pregnant and I don't know what to do. I only dated him for 1.5 months. I haven't dealt with him since April 2020. What can I do for my sanity?
Get counselling. Also call womens shelters, often they have advise when the ppos dont work. Make sure you document and fulm everything . I am so sorry you are going through this, especially while pregnant. I also had aomeone stalk, harass and attack me while pregnant. EMDR therapy was very helpful. I hope you have support right noe and congratulations on your new baby:)!
@@jessicarae1924 thank you so much. Here's an update. The police picked him up and he is being charged with 3 felonies. The judge ordered him to be on a GPS tether and he can ONLY go to and from work. I'm relieved for the moment
Are they perverts or just Psychopaths or both?
What about when astalker steals your plants or things?
THE ONLY HELP STALKERS NEED IS LONG TERM INCARCERATION 30 YEARS MINIMUM, IT SHOULD ON A SLIDING SCALE. IF YOURE 50 YRS AND UP 30yrs. IF YOURE IN YOUR 20’s, 50yrs. PROVIDED THERE IS INCONTROVERTIBLE PROOF
I totally get your frustration on this. They should have very clearly defined timelines of incarceration and strict laws that can be exercised with proof of the stalking behavior.
What do you think about it about the psychology of men who stalk for their job and actually enjoy their job I mean do you think they're more nourishment pervert or sociopath or what
For me it's all about the Land, Including people I don't know from a bar of soap.
But then again the Land makes anyone do good or bad.
Crazy....
Yes people can stalk in harasss people over land disputes
Like she said!!!!......there is delusion and stalking.....and yeah........... well😊
It's worse when it's a family friend and they are ok also doesn't help when they are 1000x more popular and welll known than you our they are able to turn everyone in the local area against you they have ruined my life I have been living in misery, I made sure he knew I wasn't gay and when than didn't stop him that was the first red flag
Can there be an overlap between the different categories?
Yes! Absolutely. That's what makes stalkers difficult to understand and keep track of. They are complicated as it is --- and then when these categories overlap, things get really difficult.
I don’t know why there is no HELP for us....since 2013!!! OMG cyberstalker since 2016 !!!
Yes about the emotional maturity they're the kind of guys that like sit there and cyber stock people and their mom's basement you know there's there's not there like toddler level maturity
Stalker left town now maybe n sis and church will ????? I'm sure they think they helping sis. But they enable her and let themselves be suckered in I don't know they left me with so many ?s
Devil resides in them.
There is certainly evil here. Yes.
How is a stalker defined? If you say for example saw someone say walking around near where you live or work and you wanted to talk to them to see if they are single it may not be so easy. You may be nervous, worried that they may say no or they may be already attached. Just because you may have to bide your time and find the right place to approach them does not mean you are a stalker. Many millions of relationships happen every year this way they are not all going to rape and kill you.
I can't fully disagree. I think that's true to some extent. I don't know if I would go so far as to say "millions of relationships" but I have heard of some.
Sounds like you may have some experience here or at least have thought about this?
While I would love to see this kind of behavior as flattering, I wouldn't want someone hanging around me trying to "figure things out" and know where I am - where I live and work. However, if you are a sweet person, do not come off as threatening, and know how to respect the space of the other person, then I can accept this theory. It's only when your attention is unwanted, persistent, and consists of abnormal attempts to get attention that we can then call it stalking. The other person has to also become aware of you (in most cases, not all such as in the case of cyber stalking) and give you some clue they are disinterested. Now, your interpretation of their reaction toward you doesn't really matter if that person tells you "no" or signals in some way they feel threatened by your attempts. OR if your behavior is leading to sneaky behaviors that could be seen by others as too intrusive, then it's stalking.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Yes soon as the person is aware and says no thats it. I was referring to before the person is aware of you, not all relationships happen on a night out with both people on the look out for company.
Can you please do a video on church members stalking - ie , Scientology for example
I will certainly do some research on this and if it fits the channel, you will see a video on it!
I wonder what stalker think about other stalkers
I think they're all in a gang it's like perpetrators stick together or something
Competition.
I think I am being stalked but can not prove it
I am tailgates by at least 10 cars wherever I go
When I get in and out of my car there are cars with their head lights on me day and night
People constantly invade my personal space in public places
It's always someone around me
It is white and black men predominantly
However it has been teens and some women
They will use anyone they know, it doesn't matter who. In my case it is people they have relationships with, friends mostly. They use their friends to stalk me at my workplace and they get into my personal space to forefully act out nasty lewd vulgar scenarios. They are very sick people.
I have a huge group that is stalking me, ever since I had to fight off a young stalking male. It has been like that for 11 years.
You are just dealing with very sick people.
If anyone approaches you wrong or starts talking sick (you know, things you would never want or things you would never consider, or things you never knew, or things you would not want or some kind of scenarios that involve putting you, the victim, in a really bad light), remove yourself from that location immediately.
I know what I am talking about. They are sickos and they are very dangerous.
In not afraid. All they are are his flying monkeys. Weirded me out at first but as I cut ties with him. Heard nada. Now all the sudden I’m being tagged by one to go aca to his club. I refuse. Also, I called out one on my social media, mentioned no names about a pic all the sudden they changed it. She is insane. Wants to be in the in crowd so bad. Me I’m minding my own business.
Can a stalker can be helped?
Good question 🤔
Yes. I don't know of any research that shows a stalker can be "healed," especially the intimate seekers and predators. We need more research.
Cluster B's 🤷
I don’t see the other kind of stalker it’s all they want romance or lust but I’ve had a stalker was a straight female for 10 years was like this psycho was mad we went out with the same guy even through she ended up with the guy was seeing other men and I just went on with my life and even was in a long term bf and I got revengeful neighbors now that have graduated from harassing to stalking and it’s a family though I believe one is the ring leader. I have stated before I had the occasional broke up with stalker but they went away when I shut it down I could not and cannot seem to shut down the 2 types I mentioned I feel invalidated though I know you’ve mentioned it could be anyone in other videos but still the preserved wronged or even in case of the neighbors I have complained to landlord I have called cops after dealing with it for a long time cause I was afraid of retaliation which indeed happened so it like the worst ones for me were ppl who felt slighted and were like now I’m obsessed with making your life hell on earth
I meant I ended up getting into a long term relationship I had nothing to do with that guy again. She obsessed bout it for 10 years cranked called my house attacked me at a party followed me came into my work through a soda on me got arrested still didn’t stop her she was trying to get my roommate to let her in the apt saying my other roommate who went away she somehow knew was away asked her to check on the place . This was years ago and there was no help now it’s my upstairs neighbors/landlord cause she worked with these ppl and decided she didn’t like me unfortunately due to money lack of available housing I’m stuck here and it’s escalated to they are stalking me
Not paying attention to hector angle Jackie and her sister abuse
In the bedroom bathroom and kitchen 9 years
He diesnt care the destruction he’s caused lol he cares about is himself and his emotions etc
Most people know their stalkers...they are usually narcissist s
Yes give up more on these ex stalkers lol
Verbal abuse
Women coworkers and a so called policeman
Narcissists 🤷