@@TherapistTamaraHill So would that categorize that person as a stalker? Is he or she a stalker if just collects information but doesn't use any of those information to intimidate, harm or threatened the person? If every action they took is legal but it just makes you uncomfortable. In that situation, what's the problem, they or you?
I guess no matter what kind of stalker, I’m always curious as to why someone feels it’s their right in any way shape or form to have any access to your life or information. Obviously if you really know someone you don’t have to stalk their social media, get second hand information, listen to their private conversations or hack their phones… I don’t understand why these people can’t understand that whatever fantasy they live is not reality and never will be.
Yes absolutely. My current ‘bf’ who I feel forced into being in a relationship with due to their family and friends persuading me to stay despite how much psychological abuse he’s doing towards me that they’re aware of and enabling feels defeating without having any support. He goes to great lengths to ensure I’m isolated to prevent me from seeking help. His true colors truly showed once I voiced wanting to end our relationship.
It's always about power , dominance and control. These types are lacking in power in their own lives,so seek to take it away from others. The stupid thing is that they don't even realize that taking away power from someone doesn't make you powerful it makes you an asshole.
I was stalked by a middle aged man in my mid 20's. I rejected him and that set him off on a hate campaign. He would shout threats and name calling through the letterbox and smash the windows. He wouldn't accept that I wasn't interested. He was threatened once, and beaten up twice for his behaviour. I tried the police, but this was in the 70's and stalking wasn't considered a crime then. I finally got rid of him for a few moths when he broke a bottle over my head and got him 6 months in prison. When he came out he began harassing me again but this time he wanted revenge for my sending him to prison. Eventually he got put away for arson and I never saw him again.
You are so right about delusional thinking as a big aspect of the behaviour. My stalker managed to convince many people that he and I are in a romantic relationship, even though we are just acquaintances and he doesn't even know my full name. It is possible to outsmart most stalkers, and I started making it much more difficult for him...now it's not much fun for him because too much effort is required, and he's a pretty useless person.
@@stardustsparkles22 I think maybe try to outsmart them and do something unexpected, I think stalker will usually watch your every move because they wanted to know you. Maybe created a false personality that make sense for them (like how they think who you're) but the personality that you've created is actually not you
Exactly, their obsession has made them blind to reality and not able to accept rejection.... I'm stalked by a married man with 2 kids, he even stalks my email, my whatsapp, my computer, my conversation with people, my youtube, every detail of my life, then stealing my unpublished ideas for his cursed books and courses!!!! A narcissist who's too obsessed with LOA, he uses it to justify his posts on his social media to show off his house, his gadgets, his trips on business class airplanes, how rich he is and how intimate and happy he's with his wife and 2 kids, all to maintain his "high vibration", i dont wanna even try to reason with delusional self-righteous jerk like him. Despite how rich and happy he's with his wife and kids he tries to show to the whole world, he's still shamelessly stalking me and my private life and every detail of it, and trying to copy everything i do!!! WHAT A SHAMELESS A**H*LE PIG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Their ego can't handle the defeat of moving on. Notice how many times their motives change just to find a new justification when one gets old. They will never come to their senses
I was searching for bullies who are definitely stalkers, why can't they just go away?!? It's been 3 years I'm still being stalked, I don't understand!! The crazy part Is they have no pride, no shame!! I feel like I should move to another continent
I have a predatory stalker as well.They love to target Christian women. It’s a spiritual battle.They are sick.And can’t stop. Do whatever you can to protect yourself
@@Merilee-kv6dyI was targeted by one of these as a Christian woman. The stalker claimed to also be Christian and is seen as a "pillar of the community".I avoided this person at all costs, couldn't be in the same room alone with this person. I don't know if he would hit me or sexually assault me.
Your video is insightful. It is helpful for me to label and understand the type of person stalking me. I am and have been gang stalked. This stalker is a "predatory stalker" that has organized a campaign of terror that has torn my life apart. This monster was a neighbor that I did not know in any way other than being polite as I was to any neighbor. My story is long and disturbing. I encourage you to keep this subject alive for victims to realize with what they are dealing with.
“They can come across as stable“. It’s not called the mask of sanity for nothing, and they definitely aren’t wearing it while stalking... but watch it magically appear when five oh shows up. They stay put like an innocent person I think because of their entitlement or their delusion when most guilty folks would split. One of the saddest and most frustrating parts of narcissistic discard is that it can prompt you to go into private investigator mode trying to figure out what the heck is going on and it becomes very angering when you realize they have too much momentum dating others to have not been at it already. To an outsider what you’ve been baited into looks like stalking and quite frankly feels creepy like stalking once one catches snap....but all it is is looking for closure (and maybe stolen property).
Excellent video, Dr. Támara! Now I’m quite sure I’m dealing with an intimacy stalker - it started when I rejected them in a polite, firm, and clear way -, the person has been trying to contact me even though I’ve blocked them everywhere on social media, it’s making me anxious and frustrated, and I can’t help but feel absolutely horrible and foolish for being in this situation. I pray that they will soon forget about me and move on, and get some much needed help because they have creeped out other people before me. Some days I can’t sleep thinking about it, I just want it to stop.
Your insight was so helpful!! There is cyberspace stalking as well. I continue to experience physical and internet stalking. Not sure why people are so obsessed with my life!! This is a mental illness!!
I really want to say that your videos brought a lot of good information across the table. I have this stalker that knows how to play an absolute game of EGO. They undermine their own character by posing as a resourceful well-known person & continues to contact people that are in my life & manipulate my surroundings. This is considered, harassment. Their promise to pay or ability to convince a known person (in my life) to become part of the problem. I’ve had this attorney stalk me for a family law case; one who continues to present their authority in a causal manner to people I know. Then those people I know become part of a source that contains character defamation. There is no compassion, no empathy and no remorse from the sick individuals that pose as a threat to society. I have been dealing with this two faced individual(s) since 2018. it all started from a dating app and my exes jealousy. It’s quite disgusting. I don’t have the fair amount of resources they have; money, title, ability. Yet, they have been reliably enough to take, cheat, conduct illegal behavior. They believe they are part of some greatness in life. Nothing but scum; hacked into my school, my court case records, my personal email, contact and manipulate my friends and family members. There was also tampering with usps, medical information, and having hands-on vehicle tracking and vandalization. These people are psychopathic to a degree of entitlement, as affluence only brings more notoriety. It’s a sad time when these people procreate.
I'm so sorry you are experiencing this. It feels like a prison or a hell on earth at times. The goal is to find the strength to fight for yourself and continue to fight for yourself until it is over. Hopefully one day they will be revealed to others and justice finally served.
He really thought I wanted him . He’s deluded and weird and in his own world .I hate him so much . He disgusts me and he really thinks I have feeling for him
I had the same spécimen who disgust me, I Never felt such aversion for a human being. He came to my place, late on friday evening, pass security Doors. Knocked on my neighbours home to gather private information about me.I didnt open my door and called the Police. He was my manager, only someone who was introduced to me to exécute a work. He scared me but as he is very manipulative he told HR that he wanted to help by bringing my computer. After leaving my place, he tried to convinced me to meet him outside so he can give it to me.He is nothing to me, he is shit to me and always will be. I think I could have been raped that Day in my on flat. He is I think à Predatory and intime seeker
I am being stalked for the first time in my life and you are hitting the nail on the head. The more I try to back her off she digs in with her in I am love with you and I can't love anyone else.
I just learned that my stalker located a good friend’s phone number and called him! 🤬 I want to urge everyone to adjust your settings on your pictures and videos which give location and etc... How ironic that I see this video at the top of the list of suggested videos as soon as I opened up RUclips! This makes the 4th time that this has happened.
Hello, did he/she find your friend through social media and then found his localisation or did he/she hack your friend's phone? I hope your safe by now, take care
Well... This makes so much more sense because I definitely was so confused of why people will act in such ways of different privacy violations. It's really good to think about this as I still want to get through this because I am in school for clinical work and know it is likely in this field sadly. It is the work I find to reasonanes with me. The type of people ran into before addressing my own trauma were frightening and I still am dealing with it as I mentioned prior- luckily I have a great treatment team. Examples: predatory stalker contacted my campus through two means and it was... Eye opening.
My stalkers are supposedly upstanding citizens The main stalker was head of the boys and girls club and the others are active duty and retired military air force .
Thank you again for another great video. I've been trying to play catchup with this series because I've only watched two but it's so informative and eye opening. May the Lord continue keeping you, you are helping so many people.
Yes it seems their mental illnesses are running wild and I think if you have a group of them they just like say oh there's nothing wrong with you to each other or something like that
Thank you Dr. Tamara this series was very educational thank you for your wisdom and your time. I'm definitely in a better place watching your Videos, I found knowledge and understanding. Stalking is not Healthy. you get an inside look of how these people think.
You are absolutely amazing! You have just very accurately described a person that I know as if you are a criminal profiler. (The intimacy stalker) I had no clue that this person was stalking me. You nailed him to the cross without saying his name. 😮 Jesus! You got some ninja skills! Whew!
So he lonely and immature and confused I could see that a mile off and now he’s focused on me . I was nice to him And now he’s ruined me using his police powers. He makes me sick and I’m angry he ever thought I wanted him . I didn’t .
I believe that's a big part of it, I'm dealing with one with overlapping mental problems I'm pretty sure. Narcissistic Personalities tend to be full of envy, and wanting to mimic and be like their target.
But they can't make that decision for you, only you can chose who you want in your like, they don't get to make that decision for you. God give you free will, God, he wants you to make your own decisions, which in this case is to avoid mentally unstable stalkers.
Mine too! I’m really embarrassed that the idiot that I have has contacted two people I care the most about. Everyone close in my life are being put on notice.
It sucks when you go around rejecting narcissists not knowing the repercussions I've done this and I had no idea how bad they would come for me because apparently I hurt their ego or something just being myself on a daily basis
Have a new one. Actually I get two special gifts like that. I made the other ones stop with the courts but new ones show up. A freaking nightmare. Please don't behave like that it's so creepy.
I live in Watertown, NY & I have a group of people that are all involved with different forms of harassment… but the one that is hurting and killing me is the one where the army people have things connected to the house I live in and they made sure they lied about me and got others against me. They have a voice going through my house so I cannot sleep and when it’s not a voice it’s a vibration or a sonic wave of energy that goes through my skull… it hurts!!! If I end up dead, which I’m almost positive will happen because it’s hurting so much and my body is breaking down… these people will be thrilled. A lot of these people work for the police department! Officer White is one of them, Rick, my neighbor is part of it as well. They have come into my house and have gone through everything! I had a ton of proof and they have gotten into my internet 🛜…. You must know this is so serious! I had to go to my friends house, she lives in a bad area, but I felt safer there then while at home! I slept like a baby there! If I had money I would move!!!! Help!!!! (They have raped me as well) S.O.S.
I believe these people want the injustice to build up,my stalkers no longer act like they are doing right,at least some of them,they want that sense of injustice, the anger of it to build up,the fact that these people will go out to find past dirt,and they even fish for things trying to build up things to give justification for this,and I'm sure they make up things too,several people in the beginning were trying to get me to say certain things, and I made a mess of myself when the harassment, a d stalking started, I freaked out,but still it's hard to get over how normal people, the communities knowing what's going on will treat you badly,I don't care what they told these people, they see me living in my vehicle because of this,yet they continue the honking,car alarms,ridicules,laughing stalking ,a target starts believing people like this are evil inside,I mean what other conclusion would anyone come to,I wouldn't do this to anyone, I've been an a-hole before, but I couldn't tear people down while they are being abused by everyone, including family unless these people are saying something truly bad,but why wouldn't us targets be caught if we go around doing that bad,I bet most targets don't even have much of a criminal record,like myself I guess these people could say anything though, but don't these people find it strange this is all covertly done? That should be a red flag for people, but it isnt,these people are all in,they don't even research this stuff obviously.
Now I don't want to politicize that video since that's not really the point, the point of writing this reply as you mentioned schools is that Compulsory Schooling causes students to become stalkers. You might wonder why I said that? According to the book "Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling", John Taylor Gatto argues that schools have negative socialization that children receive. If the people, -- who are behind the compulsory schooling like Johann Gottlieb Fichte --, honestly think it’s always about learning, no. It’s actually keeping the students hermetically sealed from any experience of the real world, it’s turning kids into military soldiers like German soldiers from WW2 and that is by design.
Cool is all about conformity and keeping people in a box or under control if you look into the public school system in America and how it was started and who started it it will teach you everything you need to know about our public school system
So I have a stalker. I moved to a resort town about a year ago and got a job at a gas station and met a regular named Zak. He's younger than me (I'm 40 he's 28) and tall and somewhat handsome. I noticed him noticing me and and we would low key flirt. I added him in Facebook and posted music videos and over the course of a few months we would post music videos directed towards each other. Never really talked but mainly through music. And then I noticed he would be jealous if I was talking to a male customer. I thought it was cute at first. Then I begin to see him driving by....a lot. he lived close but worked on the other side of town. Then I begin seeing him drive by my place. During the day and also at night. Then the tone of the music changed. It turned more aggressive and threatening. it was also referencing conversations Id have with a friend in text or on the phone. My Facebook msg replies from friends started sounding weird. Some people here and there around town all of a sudden wanted to hang out. I got the distinct impression I was live or being recorded. The music was becoming deeper and darker with occasional lines about murder. I got a roommate (who was also a regular at the same gas station) who ....long story short...was being paid by Zak to keep an eye on me. I'll evicted her a few days after I found out. I quit and worked further in town. He began sending in coworkers and friends. I finally got the nerve to msg him asking why he's doing all this instead of just asking me out for coffee or an actual date. I knew he was closeted but I was fine with it. He blocked me. I had a dummy account and would check this page. The music was sorrowful and apologetic. Somehow hacking my (or other people's) Facebook he began to distance people from me. And I'm afraid some others were being bought off. My social circle was shrinking faster. He spread a few nasty rumors about me around town. If I uploaded Grindr Id talk to someone who before long Id find out was him. He started posting eulogies and goodbye songs if I showed an interest in someone. He would wait considerable hours in his truck at my jobs (I'm onto my 5th one in a year) waiting for me to come out. Sometimes he'd flash me with the lights. One night around 1130 a mutual acquaintance msgd me acting drunk wondering if id come pick her up at the boat dock down the road. I said I had too many beers and didn't want to drive. I'm convinced I might not be here today if I grabbed my keys and left.. He recently got his girlfriend pregnant. Hoping this was the distraction I needed and he'd forget about me, no such luck. The last song he posted before I disabled my Facebook basically said I can't stay here (in town he means) song I think is called Cold architect. I got papers for a ppo today and will file it tomorrow. This is all over the course of a year. In my opinion , he has a plan. And I don't think I'll fare well in it.
So you think that this guy is basically like bisexual or something and is having a problem dealing with his own sexuality so he's taking it out on you and other people that might be the deal with my stalker too I'm not sure
I mentioned this in one of your other stalker videos: I have a coworker who is stalking this man she met on the internet. She thinks she is in a relationship with him. She is moving from Maryland to North Carolina a mile away from him. He blocked her phone, Facebook, cell phone and work number. Should I tell him that she could be a problem or that she's delusional? Or leave it alone.
This is so sad. It's possible that she could be classified as a psychotic stalker. I have a video on this. It's "rare" but still something that can happen if the individual has schizophrenia or some kind of delusional disorder. To your question: it all depends on how close you are to this guy. If you guys have spoken in the past or know each other for a while I don't see anything wrong in talking to him about the possibility of psychosis. If there is proof that she is moving to be near him, then he needs to know she could be a danger to him.
Try to encourage her to have more things in her life than the fantasy of developing a relationship with a stranger. Obsessive love and erotomania are like an addiction providing the europhic high of feeling in love or being infatuated. I doubt your friend will hear common sense but she might make some changes to her life that offer more fulfillment than dreaming of forming a fantasy fairy tale relationship with "the one." Too much pressure is placed on women to find a partner to be happy. I hope your friend can wake up to the truth and not remain blinded by a her dream of a non-existant romantic relationship.
Bpd,ocd etc some people are mentally unwell and need help etc. My friend was arrested for stalking without fear alarm or distress for texting his ex, he had told the mental health doctors about it and also asked to be hospitalised and they rejected him. It was destroying him he hated what he was doing, thankfully after he was arrested the mental health team finally took him serious. He has never been in trouble with the law or ever did these things before. He lives in regret everyday for what he did and is on alot of medication and is in therapy. So in his case i feel so bad for him as he just didn't know what he was doing beyond personal accountability. Accountability not of sound mind. Since hes been under the mental health team medicated and getting therapy he has never repeated it and seems to be getting better mentally. Some people really should understand not every stalker is dangerous not going to harm someone they are just not of sound mind and go through hell themselves.
Do you think that anybody involved in stocking or possibly a group of stalkers is a cluster b and say it's like a cult or something do you think the leader is a psychopath and they're taking orders?
It could be possible, yes. Borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality, or antisocial personality disorder are all disorders with the same underlying theme... emotion dysregulation. So it is possible that a group of stalkers or an individual stalker is diagnosed (or should be diagnosed) with such a disorder.
Spot on. Often the leader of a cult or disordered group of people has a personality order: narcissistic, sociopathic, psychotic with borderline fears of rejection or abandonment. They can shift from bullying and harassment into stalking, psychotic false accusations and group mobbing of the victim. Been there done that. An ugly and terrifying situation for anyone targetted as different, bad or good prey by the mob of frenzied sharks or chuckling hyenas.
What type of stalker is the type that shows up where you're trying to rebuild your social circle when she finds out you're somewhere (ie.e church groups, and swing dancing), when a judge granted her a restraining order under her perjury?
I wonder if Gang stalking is a place for them to come together to get arrested for being creeps since they are being watched. Talk about irrefutable facts and evidence.
I hope so these perps need to go down. I almost wonder if some of them choose jobs where they can stalk people and say like oh I'm doing this for a good cause or something but really they're just creeps and perverts or something
Yes, mine too. My former employer with a family and way older than me. Isolated me through moving for the job and try to talk me into also renting a home via him and even buy me a mortgage. It was control via manipulation and economic abuse. I almost lost my mind due to their family dramas, his stalking behavior and losing my job, car and home because of his delusions of getting me into a relationship with him eventually. I’m safe now but it’s still in the back of my mind
So sorry this happened to you! Wow….My situation is not that extreme but we were totally platonic coworkers. At some point it took a turn and he started attempting to get in my personal space, following me from a distance at work, spying on me from behind something. I began to completely avoid him. We speak and I keep moving. If I’m working in another area, he would end up in that area like he was looking for something and then trying to strike up a conversation. He’s never touched me or approached but it’s subtle harassment. I can be talking with a male coworker and he’ll give me the dirtiest look. I’m actually starting to develop anxiety because he spends a great amount of time staring and leering at me. It’s been going on for about 18 months. I’m at my wits end because he’s got 35+ years on the job. I really don’t want to get him into trouble. He’s always checking our work schedule, inquiring where I am from other coworkers when I’m not there and asking how long I’m gonna be out. I feel it’s a complete violation of my privacy as well. I thought about just pulling him to the side and telling him to stop it and that I’m extremely uncomfortable but I’m not sure how he’d take it. But never give him any hope or any rope at all. I don’t do any interacting with him at all anymore. He oftentimes tries to force me into some kind of conversation. I do think he might be slightly disturbed. I just continue to ignore him as much as I can. I don’t know how much longer I can take it. 😞😒
Naw Ive been going through this for 5 plus yrs and they wont go away I tried everything to get them ro get away from me and they got worse plus they orchestrated it to were they have people on there side and and making it look as if I no power to get away from them
I am an older woman who is being stalked and harrassed by 1-2 ex boyfriends. Before my ex and i broke up he told me that people associated with him hacked my cell phone, hacked my email. And hacked my social media account. Some one else i used to talk to previously told me that who ever this group of people IS they also called him on the phone and made derogatory comments about me which were unfair. He said they performed a vicious attack on my character. What can i do to get rid of this group of …..?
I've NEVER met these people in Person, Ive Only Seen their picture online, And interacted with them but thats about it. I Broke up the so called " relationship" even though we never had a Real Relationship to begin with. Now She Wont let me Stalk me online, She says shes trying to come to my house even though she doesn't know where i live. Every time i go online, There she is, making fake accounts, trying to get me to interact. I dont know what's wrong with these people. They need to get their Life Straightened out. Peace and Justice ✝️⚖️✝️⚖️✝️⚖️✝️⚖️✝️
At least you know what they look like i don't know what my stalkers look like i can only hear them and have there voices on hidden camera for past 7 years and police only make reports
Hi, curious on this one. Met a guy, we both liked each other, But he chose to stalk me online instead of going out. I took this as shy and tried to get him to go out, but he kept setting me up to tell him I liked him and stuff and then he would act like he was really someone else in a third world country and ask for a game card. I mean, this repeatedly happened. He just wanted to drive me crazy? Any insight would be appreciated. This was 3.5 years. I might add, he has a lot of money and lives in a million plus dollar home.
Stalkers are just weird cluster bees I'm not really sure there's a rhyme or reason for anything they do and if they're lying to flying monkeys to get to you I'm sure whatever they're saying is a lie because these people are pathological liars
I'm a victim of a stalker who made me the stalker manipulating the system as pertaining me being the one doing it and im not I'm not sure if I will live much longer I went to jail and they are currently holding me hostage for 2 yrs cops don't care unless your dead they have pictures videos and record me like I'm their tv
Is tagging you in social media post even tho you’re not there, because of their boss even tho he is married and I don’t want anything to do with him. Is that part of stalking? I’m not lonely anymore, and he cheats on his wife etc. I rejected him in the past never said a word but I don’t want anything to do with him. I had feelings for him but realized it was wrong. Now I’m trying to move on, and one of his workers actually work for another company not far from me. But what’s weird so many people have made tags and one works for two other places. I’m trying to heal myself, but just seems strange that I don’t associate with people who work there yet I’m tagged in a while. So maybe I’m ignorant to this but again is it stalking?
Have you seen these stalkers?
@@susan6906 very good question!! Yes. They are being bold and very to the point.
Dealing with both. You nailed it. So happy I came to your channel.
@@TherapistTamaraHill So would that categorize that person as a stalker?
Is he or she a stalker if just collects information but doesn't use any of those information to intimidate, harm or threatened the person?
If every action they took is legal but it just makes you uncomfortable. In that situation, what's the problem, they or you?
They were taking and replacing my mail. Trying to make feel watched through my vents and releasing fumes through my apartment walls and vents.
@@TherapistTamaraHill I hope you talk about the stalker who let you know they are stalking you
I guess no matter what kind of stalker, I’m always curious as to why someone feels it’s their right in any way shape or form to have any access to your life or information. Obviously if you really know someone you don’t have to stalk their social media, get second hand information, listen to their private conversations or hack their phones… I don’t understand why these people can’t understand that whatever fantasy they live is not reality and never will be.
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@@NurseRatchedWELL Or narcissists.
Yes absolutely. My current ‘bf’ who I feel forced into being in a relationship with due to their family and friends persuading me to stay despite how much psychological abuse he’s doing towards me that they’re aware of and enabling feels defeating without having any support. He goes to great lengths to ensure I’m isolated to prevent me from seeking help. His true colors truly showed once I voiced wanting to end our relationship.
It's always about power , dominance and control. These types are lacking in power in their own lives,so seek to take it away from others. The stupid thing is that they don't even realize that taking away power from someone doesn't make you powerful it makes you an asshole.
I was stalked by a middle aged man in my mid 20's. I rejected him and that set him off on a hate campaign. He would shout threats and name calling through the letterbox and smash the windows. He wouldn't accept that I wasn't interested. He was threatened once, and beaten up twice for his behaviour. I tried the police, but this was in the 70's and stalking wasn't considered a crime then. I finally got rid of him for a few moths when he broke a bottle over my head and got him 6 months in prison. When he came out he began harassing me again but this time he wanted revenge for my sending him to prison. Eventually he got put away for arson and I never saw him again.
Sounds like a real psychopath! Thankfully you survived that ordeal, but it must've been horrible for you.
Because they are miserable. Can't or won't accept rejection.
Ong they waste most they time stalking
You are so right about delusional thinking as a big aspect of the behaviour. My stalker managed to convince many people that he and I are in a romantic relationship, even though we are just acquaintances and he doesn't even know my full name. It is possible to outsmart most stalkers, and I started making it much more difficult for him...now it's not much fun for him because too much effort is required, and he's a pretty useless person.
How to outsmart a predatory stalker who knows everything about you?
@@stardustsparkles22 I think maybe try to outsmart them and do something unexpected, I think stalker will usually watch your every move because they wanted to know you. Maybe created a false personality that make sense for them (like how they think who you're) but the personality that you've created is actually not you
Why can't stalkers just move on I mean their obsession is really scary
Exactly, their obsession has made them blind to reality and not able to accept rejection.... I'm stalked by a married man with 2 kids, he even stalks my email, my whatsapp, my computer, my conversation with people, my youtube, every detail of my life, then stealing my unpublished ideas for his cursed books and courses!!!! A narcissist who's too obsessed with LOA, he uses it to justify his posts on his social media to show off his house, his gadgets, his trips on business class airplanes, how rich he is and how intimate and happy he's with his wife and 2 kids, all to maintain his "high vibration", i dont wanna even try to reason with delusional self-righteous jerk like him. Despite how rich and happy he's with his wife and kids he tries to show to the whole world, he's still shamelessly stalking me and my private life and every detail of it, and trying to copy everything i do!!! WHAT A SHAMELESS A**H*LE PIG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Their ego can't handle the defeat of moving on. Notice how many times their motives change just to find a new justification when one gets old. They will never come to their senses
I was searching for bullies who are definitely stalkers, why can't they just go away?!? It's been 3 years I'm still being stalked, I don't understand!! The crazy part Is they have no pride, no shame!! I feel like I should move to another continent
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🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Praying for the predatory stalker. He’s reading this message now. 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤬🤬🤬🤬 His time will come to an end. Really soon.
I have a predatory stalker as well.They love to target Christian women. It’s a spiritual battle.They are sick.And can’t stop. Do whatever you can to protect yourself
@@Merilee-kv6dyI was targeted by one of these as a Christian woman. The stalker claimed to also be Christian and is seen as a "pillar of the community".I avoided this person at all costs, couldn't be in the same room alone with this person. I don't know if he would hit me or sexually assault me.
Your video is insightful. It is helpful for me to label and understand the type of person stalking me. I am and have been gang stalked. This stalker is a "predatory stalker" that has organized a campaign of terror that has torn my life apart. This monster was a neighbor that I did not know in any way other than being polite as I was to any neighbor. My story is long and disturbing. I encourage you to keep this subject alive for victims to realize with what they are dealing with.
“They can come across as stable“. It’s not called the mask of sanity for nothing, and they definitely aren’t wearing it while stalking... but watch it magically appear when five oh shows up. They stay put like an innocent person I think because of their entitlement or their delusion when most guilty folks would split. One of the saddest and most frustrating parts of narcissistic discard is that it can prompt you to go into private investigator mode trying to figure out what the heck is going on and it becomes very angering when you realize they have too much momentum dating others to have not been at it already. To an outsider what you’ve been baited into looks like stalking and quite frankly feels creepy like stalking once one catches snap....but all it is is looking for closure (and maybe stolen property).
Excellent video, Dr. Támara! Now I’m quite sure I’m dealing with an intimacy stalker - it started when I rejected them in a polite, firm, and clear way -, the person has been trying to contact me even though I’ve blocked them everywhere on social media, it’s making me anxious and frustrated, and I can’t help but feel absolutely horrible and foolish for being in this situation. I pray that they will soon forget about me and move on, and get some much needed help because they have creeped out other people before me. Some days I can’t sleep thinking about it, I just want it to stop.
Your insight was so helpful!! There is cyberspace stalking as well. I continue to experience physical and internet stalking. Not sure why people are so obsessed with my life!! This is a mental illness!!
Thank you! And I'm sorry. Been there years ago and it feels so unending.
Me too
Yes.. agreed I think predatory use this 😅
I dont understand stalkers for the life of me. NO ONE is worth the aggravation.
I wish you were my therapist. Someone that knows about the issues I'm going through and you're a wonderful person. Thanks Tamara
You're welcome. And ❤thank you! That's so sweet. You sound wonderful too!
Im going through similar issue and i have noone to talk to
He is weird . I never rejected him
And there was nothing so I couldn’t have rejected him mine is predatory and intimacy seeking too .he makes me sick
I really want to say that your videos brought a lot of good information across the table. I have this stalker that knows how to play an absolute game of EGO. They undermine their own character by posing as a resourceful well-known person & continues to contact people that are in my life & manipulate my surroundings. This is considered, harassment. Their promise to pay or ability to convince a known person (in my life) to become part of the problem. I’ve had this attorney stalk me for a family law case; one who continues to present their authority in a causal manner to people I know. Then those people I know become part of a source that contains character defamation. There is no compassion, no empathy and no remorse from the sick individuals that pose as a threat to society. I have been dealing with this two faced individual(s) since 2018. it all started from a dating app and my exes jealousy. It’s quite disgusting. I don’t have the fair amount of resources they have; money, title, ability. Yet, they have been reliably enough to take, cheat, conduct illegal behavior. They believe they are part of some greatness in life. Nothing but scum; hacked into my school, my court case records, my personal email, contact and manipulate my friends and family members. There was also tampering with usps, medical information, and having hands-on vehicle tracking and vandalization. These people are psychopathic to a degree of entitlement, as affluence only brings more notoriety. It’s a sad time when these people procreate.
I'm so sorry you are experiencing this. It feels like a prison or a hell on earth at times. The goal is to find the strength to fight for yourself and continue to fight for yourself until it is over. Hopefully one day they will be revealed to others and justice finally served.
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He really thought I wanted him . He’s deluded and weird and in his own world .I hate him so much . He disgusts me and he really thinks I have feeling for him
I had the same spécimen who disgust me, I Never felt such aversion for a human being. He came to my place, late on friday evening, pass security Doors. Knocked on my neighbours home to gather private information about me.I didnt open my door and called the Police. He was my manager, only someone who was introduced to me to exécute a work. He scared me but as he is very manipulative he told HR that he wanted to help by bringing my computer. After leaving my place, he tried to convinced me to meet him outside so he can give it to me.He is nothing to me, he is shit to me and always will be. I think I could have been raped that Day in my on flat. He is I think à Predatory and intime seeker
Miss Hill this topic is so spooky but necessary. Thank you.
You are so welcome! And I agree.
I am being stalked for the first time in my life and you are hitting the nail on the head. The more I try to back her off she digs in with her in I am love with you and I can't love anyone else.
That's exactly how they are. This is their modus operandi. Scary.
I just learned that my stalker located a good friend’s phone number and called him! 🤬 I want to urge everyone to adjust your settings on your pictures and videos which give location and etc... How ironic that I see this video at the top of the list of suggested videos as soon as I opened up RUclips! This makes the 4th time that this has happened.
Hello, did he/she find your friend through social media and then found his localisation or did he/she hack your friend's phone? I hope your safe by now, take care
To get information. Sick people, seeking out people they think know you to get information about you. Psycho and delusional
Well... This makes so much more sense because I definitely was so confused of why people will act in such ways of different privacy violations. It's really good to think about this as I still want to get through this because I am in school for clinical work and know it is likely in this field sadly. It is the work I find to reasonanes with me. The type of people ran into before addressing my own trauma were frightening and I still am dealing with it as I mentioned prior- luckily I have a great treatment team.
Examples: predatory stalker contacted my campus through two means and it was... Eye opening.
Wow. I have many students I train and counsel going through this. It's never easy. It is good to have therapeutic support for sure!
My stalkers are supposedly upstanding citizens The main stalker was head of the boys and girls club and the others are active duty and retired military air force .
Thank you again for another great video. I've been trying to play catchup with this series because I've only watched two but it's so informative and eye opening. May the Lord continue keeping you, you are helping so many people.
Welcome back! 😊
And thank you for tyese kind words. 🥰 Glad this is helpful.
May God bless you too!
Thank you for this important information. This subject is running wild these narcissist are at the root of this problem
Absolutely! You're welcome. And I very much agree.
Yes it seems their mental illnesses are running wild and I think if you have a group of them they just like say oh there's nothing wrong with you to each other or something like that
These people are ruining my life.
😔 I' m so sorry.
Thank you Dr. Tamara this series was very educational thank you for your wisdom and your time. I'm definitely in a better place watching your Videos, I found knowledge and understanding. Stalking is not Healthy. you get an inside look of how these people think.
You're welcome Nobi_Bklyn!! Thank you for watching. It's wonderful this was helpful!! Tough topic but needed.
@@TherapistTamaraHill have a beautiful day Dr. Tamara thank you for your time 💕
Thank you! You too.
. I have lost my privacy to talk to my family.
You are absolutely amazing! You have just very accurately described a person that I know as if you are a criminal profiler. (The intimacy stalker) I had no clue that this person was stalking me. You nailed him to the cross without saying his name. 😮 Jesus! You got some ninja skills! Whew!
Thanks so much!! I'm glad this video was helpful to you.
My Spiritual Stalkers just doesn't want to move on
So he lonely and immature and confused I could see that a mile off and now he’s focused on me . I was nice to him
And now he’s ruined me using his police powers. He makes me sick and I’m angry he ever thought I wanted him . I didn’t .
Great Video ♥️
Some do it bcos they really really really want to be you (the stalked). amongst otter things.
Very true in some cases.
I believe that's a big part of it, I'm dealing with one with overlapping mental problems I'm pretty sure. Narcissistic Personalities tend to be full of envy, and wanting to mimic and be like their target.
That’s really nutty.
But they can't make that decision for you, only you can chose who you want in your like, they don't get to make that decision for you. God give you free will, God, he wants you to make your own decisions, which in this case is to avoid mentally unstable stalkers.
Blesdings Tamara. Just touching base on this subject again.⚠️
🥰blessings to you too. Thank you.
Mine stalker is an intimate stalker .
They can be the worst!
Mine too! I’m really embarrassed that the idiot that I have has contacted two people I care the most about. Everyone close in my life are being put on notice.
It sucks when you go around rejecting narcissists not knowing the repercussions I've done this and I had no idea how bad they would come for me because apparently I hurt their ego or something just being myself on a daily basis
Have a new one. Actually I get two special gifts like that. I made the other ones stop with the courts but new ones show up. A freaking nightmare. Please don't behave like that it's so creepy.
I live in Watertown, NY & I have a group of people that are all involved with different forms of harassment… but the one that is hurting and killing me is the one where the army people have things connected to the house I live in and they made sure they lied about me and got others against me. They have a voice going through my house so I cannot sleep and when it’s not a voice it’s a vibration or a sonic wave of energy that goes through my skull… it hurts!!! If I end up dead, which I’m almost positive will happen because it’s hurting so much and my body is breaking down… these people will be thrilled. A lot of these people work for the police department! Officer White is one of them, Rick, my neighbor is part of it as well. They have come into my house and have gone through everything! I had a ton of proof and they have gotten into my internet 🛜…. You must know this is so serious! I had to go to my friends house, she lives in a bad area, but I felt safer there then while at home! I slept like a baby there! If I had money I would move!!!! Help!!!! (They have raped me as well) S.O.S.
I believe these people want the injustice to build up,my stalkers no longer act like they are doing right,at least some of them,they want that sense of injustice, the anger of it to build up,the fact that these people will go out to find past dirt,and they even fish for things trying to build up things to give justification for this,and I'm sure they make up things too,several people in the beginning were trying to get me to say certain things, and I made a mess of myself when the harassment, a d stalking started, I freaked out,but still it's hard to get over how normal people, the communities knowing what's going on will treat you badly,I don't care what they told these people, they see me living in my vehicle because of this,yet they continue the honking,car alarms,ridicules,laughing stalking ,a target starts believing people like this are evil inside,I mean what other conclusion would anyone come to,I wouldn't do this to anyone, I've been an a-hole before, but I couldn't tear people down while they are being abused by everyone, including family unless these people are saying something truly bad,but why wouldn't us targets be caught if we go around doing that bad,I bet most targets don't even have much of a criminal record,like myself I guess these people could say anything though, but don't these people find it strange this is all covertly done? That should be a red flag for people, but it isnt,these people are all in,they don't even research this stuff obviously.
Now I don't want to politicize that video since that's not really the point, the point of writing this reply as you mentioned schools is that Compulsory Schooling causes students to become stalkers. You might wonder why I said that? According to the book "Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling", John Taylor Gatto argues that schools have negative socialization that children receive. If the people, -- who are behind the compulsory schooling like Johann Gottlieb Fichte --, honestly think it’s always about learning, no. It’s actually keeping the students hermetically sealed from any experience of the real world, it’s turning kids into military soldiers like German soldiers from WW2 and that is by design.
Cool is all about conformity and keeping people in a box or under control if you look into the public school system in America and how it was started and who started it it will teach you everything you need to know about our public school system
So I have a stalker.
I moved to a resort town about a year ago and got a job at a gas station and met a regular named Zak. He's younger than me (I'm 40 he's 28) and tall and somewhat handsome. I noticed him noticing me and and we would low key flirt. I added him in Facebook and posted music videos and over the course of a few months we would post music videos directed towards each other. Never really talked but mainly through music.
And then I noticed he would be jealous if I was talking to a male customer. I thought it was cute at first. Then I begin to see him driving by....a lot. he lived close but worked on the other side of town. Then I begin seeing him drive by my place. During the day and also at night.
Then the tone of the music changed. It turned more aggressive and threatening. it was also referencing conversations Id have with a friend in text or on the phone.
My Facebook msg replies from friends started sounding weird. Some people here and there around town all of a sudden wanted to hang out. I got the distinct impression I was live or being recorded.
The music was becoming deeper and darker with occasional lines about murder.
I got a roommate (who was also a regular at the same gas station) who ....long story short...was being paid by Zak to keep an eye on me. I'll evicted her a few days after I found out. I quit and worked further in town. He began sending in coworkers and friends. I finally got the nerve to msg him asking why he's doing all this instead of just asking me out for coffee or an actual date. I knew he was closeted but I was fine with it. He blocked me. I had a dummy account and would check this page. The music was sorrowful and apologetic.
Somehow hacking my (or other people's) Facebook he began to distance people from me. And I'm afraid some others were being bought off. My social circle was shrinking faster. He spread a few nasty rumors about me around town. If I uploaded Grindr Id talk to someone who before long Id find out was him.
He started posting eulogies and goodbye songs if I showed an interest in someone.
He would wait considerable hours in his truck at my jobs (I'm onto my 5th one in a year) waiting for me to come out. Sometimes he'd flash me with the lights.
One night around 1130 a mutual acquaintance msgd me acting drunk wondering if id come pick her up at the boat dock down the road. I said I had too many beers and didn't want to drive. I'm convinced I might not be here today if I grabbed my keys and left..
He recently got his girlfriend pregnant. Hoping this was the distraction I needed and he'd forget about me, no such luck. The last song he posted before I disabled my Facebook basically said I can't stay here (in town he means) song I think is called Cold architect.
I got papers for a ppo today and will file it tomorrow. This is all over the course of a year.
In my opinion , he has a plan. And I don't think I'll fare well in it.
Your story is so creepy, I hope you're safe.
So you think that this guy is basically like bisexual or something and is having a problem dealing with his own sexuality so he's taking it out on you and other people that might be the deal with my stalker too I'm not sure
I mentioned this in one of your other stalker videos: I have a coworker who is stalking this man she met on the internet. She thinks she is in a relationship with him. She is moving from Maryland to North Carolina a mile away from him. He blocked her phone, Facebook, cell phone and work number. Should I tell him that she could be a problem or that she's delusional? Or leave it alone.
This is so sad. It's possible that she could be classified as a psychotic stalker. I have a video on this. It's "rare" but still something that can happen if the individual has schizophrenia or some kind of delusional disorder. To your question: it all depends on how close you are to this guy. If you guys have spoken in the past or know each other for a while I don't see anything wrong in talking to him about the possibility of psychosis. If there is proof that she is moving to be near him, then he needs to know she could be a danger to him.
Try to encourage her to have more things in her life than the fantasy of developing a relationship with a stranger. Obsessive love and erotomania are like an addiction providing the europhic high of feeling in love or being infatuated. I doubt your friend will hear common sense but she might make some changes to her life that offer more fulfillment than dreaming of forming a fantasy fairy tale relationship with "the one." Too much pressure is placed on women to find a partner to be happy. I hope your friend can wake up to the truth and not remain blinded by a her dream of a non-existant romantic relationship.
Yes!
Bpd,ocd etc some people are mentally unwell and need help etc. My friend was arrested for stalking without fear alarm or distress for texting his ex, he had told the mental health doctors about it and also asked to be hospitalised and they rejected him. It was destroying him he hated what he was doing, thankfully after he was arrested the mental health team finally took him serious. He has never been in trouble with the law or ever did these things before. He lives in regret everyday for what he did and is on alot of medication and is in therapy. So in his case i feel so bad for him as he just didn't know what he was doing beyond personal accountability. Accountability not of sound mind. Since hes been under the mental health team medicated and getting therapy he has never repeated it and seems to be getting better mentally. Some people really should understand not every stalker is dangerous not going to harm someone they are just not of sound mind and go through hell themselves.
I know lots of these sick men and women. Most of them are my coworkers. Sadly even my managers.
Liked. On point.
Very helpful. Thank you. ❤
You're so welcome!
Do you think that anybody involved in stocking or possibly a group of stalkers is a cluster b and say it's like a cult or something do you think the leader is a psychopath and they're taking orders?
It could be possible, yes. Borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality, or antisocial personality disorder are all disorders with the same underlying theme... emotion dysregulation. So it is possible that a group of stalkers or an individual stalker is diagnosed (or should be diagnosed) with such a disorder.
Spot on. Often the leader of a cult or disordered group of people has a personality order: narcissistic, sociopathic, psychotic with borderline fears of rejection or abandonment. They can shift from bullying and harassment into stalking, psychotic false accusations and group mobbing of the victim. Been there done that. An ugly and terrifying situation for anyone targetted as different, bad or good prey by the mob of frenzied sharks or chuckling hyenas.
What type of stalker is the type that shows up where you're trying to rebuild your social circle when she finds out you're somewhere (ie.e church groups, and swing dancing), when a judge granted her a restraining order under her perjury?
Sound like a revenge stalker who doesn’t want you to have a social circle (it’s a threat to their control).
Sounds BPD to me .
I wonder if Gang stalking is a place for them to come together to get arrested for being creeps since they are being watched. Talk about irrefutable facts and evidence.
I hope so these perps need to go down. I almost wonder if some of them choose jobs where they can stalk people and say like oh I'm doing this for a good cause or something but really they're just creeps and perverts or something
Can a intimacy stalker be married???? Mine is…
Yes, mine too. My former employer with a family and way older than me. Isolated me through moving for the job and try to talk me into also renting a home via him and even buy me a mortgage. It was control via manipulation and economic abuse. I almost lost my mind due to their family dramas, his stalking behavior and losing my job, car and home because of his delusions of getting me into a relationship with him eventually. I’m safe now but it’s still in the back of my mind
So sorry this happened to you! Wow….My situation is not that extreme but we were totally platonic coworkers. At some point it took a turn and he started attempting to get in my personal space, following me from a distance at work, spying on me from behind something. I began to completely avoid him. We speak and I keep moving. If I’m working in another area, he would end up in that area like he was looking for something and then trying to strike up a conversation. He’s never touched me or approached but it’s subtle harassment. I can be talking with a male coworker and he’ll give me the dirtiest look. I’m actually starting to develop anxiety because he spends a great amount of time staring and leering at me. It’s been going on for about 18 months. I’m at my wits end because he’s got 35+ years on the job. I really don’t want to get him into trouble. He’s always checking our work schedule, inquiring where I am from other coworkers when I’m not there and asking how long I’m gonna be out. I feel it’s a complete violation of my privacy as well. I thought about just pulling him to the side and telling him to stop it and that I’m extremely uncomfortable but I’m not sure how he’d take it. But never give him any hope or any rope at all. I don’t do any interacting with him at all anymore. He oftentimes tries to force me into some kind of conversation. I do think he might be slightly disturbed. I just continue to ignore him as much as I can. I don’t know how much longer I can take it. 😞😒
Naw Ive been going through this for 5 plus yrs and they wont go away I tried everything to get them ro get away from me and they got worse plus they orchestrated it to were they have people on there side and and making it look as if I no power to get away from them
I am an older woman who is being stalked and harrassed by 1-2 ex boyfriends. Before my ex and i broke up he told me that people associated with him hacked my cell phone, hacked my email. And hacked my social media account. Some one else i used to talk to previously told me that who ever this group of people IS they also called him on the phone and made derogatory comments about me which were unfair. He said they performed a vicious attack on my character. What can i do to get rid of this group of …..?
I've NEVER met these people in Person, Ive Only Seen their picture online, And interacted with them but thats about it. I Broke up the so called " relationship" even though we never had a Real Relationship to begin with. Now She Wont let me Stalk me online, She says shes trying to come to my house even though she doesn't know where i live. Every time i go online, There she is, making fake accounts, trying to get me to interact. I dont know what's wrong with these people. They need to get their Life Straightened out. Peace and Justice ✝️⚖️✝️⚖️✝️⚖️✝️⚖️✝️
At least you know what they look like i don't know what my stalkers look like i can only hear them and have there voices on hidden camera for past 7 years and police only make reports
The serious part is they won't stop or they are leaving recordings to my family for me idk what to do or if I'm gonna make it out alive
Hi, curious on this one. Met a guy, we both liked each other, But he chose to stalk me online instead of going out. I took this as shy and tried to get him to go out, but he kept setting me up to tell him I liked him and stuff and then he would act like he was really someone else in a third world country and ask for a game card. I mean, this repeatedly happened. He just wanted to drive me crazy? Any insight would be appreciated. This was 3.5 years. I might add, he has a lot of money and lives in a million plus dollar home.
Stalkers are just weird cluster bees I'm not really sure there's a rhyme or reason for anything they do and if they're lying to flying monkeys to get to you I'm sure whatever they're saying is a lie because these people are pathological liars
I think mine is predatory. He's very mean. He's also a celebrity. I mean a D list celebrity, ok
Haha!
yes they SA their victims due to having forced a connection with them.
Or the system is somehow sponsoring this. It's relatively new to me but evidently it's that pervasive.
I'm a victim of a stalker who made me the stalker manipulating the system as pertaining me being the one doing it and im not I'm not sure if I will live much longer I went to jail and they are currently holding me hostage for 2 yrs cops don't care unless your dead they have pictures videos and record me like I'm their tv
what do stalker want from you.
My ex bf has been stalking me for four years
Is tagging you in social media post even tho you’re not there, because of their boss even tho he is married and I don’t want anything to do with him. Is that part of stalking? I’m not lonely anymore, and he cheats on his wife etc. I rejected him in the past never said a word but I don’t want anything to do with him. I had feelings for him but realized it was wrong. Now I’m trying to move on, and one of his workers actually work for another company not far from me. But what’s weird so many people have made tags and one works for two other places. I’m trying to heal myself, but just seems strange that I don’t associate with people who work there yet I’m tagged in a while. So maybe I’m ignorant to this but again is it stalking?
I have stalkers calling me George Strait ⭐ they're getting violent . . 😂🤑☠️
This sounds like my stalker!
How do I get him to stop??
@@meghanlawrence8466 I’m stalker . Just be careful. Don’t be rude to him
They quiet listening 😅😅😅😅
Crazy
My neighbor's😂😂
I'm sorry.🙄 I've been there!
Ent. Why don't they focus on their own family instead of a stranger who want nothing to do with them any way????
Ah, because they are stalkers. Lol.
lol