"IS MY STALKER A FAMILY MEMBER?" Signs & Behaviors Of Stalking |Psychotherapy Crash Course
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Did you know that research suggests that stalkers are often known by the individual victim?
Stalking is a crime across the United States but how it is defined may vary. It's hard to understand why someone would seek to stalk or harass someone -- much less harass someone who is apart of your family.
There are many reasons for stalking but one main reason is to create fear and gain dominance.
In this video, I discuss and help you explore what a family member, who is stalking you, may look like.
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DISCUSSED IN THIS VIDEO:
0:00 intro
1:29 what happened to me
5:00 general view and example of stalking
5:30 stalking within the family
5:58 SIGNS & BEHAVIORS
-Family may hack you/steal your identity
-Cyberstalking
-Post under your accounts
-They won't care because of their personality disorder
-Psychosis may be to blame
-They wear a mask of charm
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Stalkers are unhealthy people. Aside from creating fear and annoyance, they crave control or some kind of position in your world. In this video, I share my story and target what you might have experienced yourself.
This has been happening to me since 2016. They broke into my home, dorm, and followed me to another city. They always try to befriend me or get in a relationship with me. It’s multiple people. What should I do?
Same here it’s still happening to this day even right now
Are you in the USA? Do you work in the USA? If yes, which states?
You absolutely right Tamara, my family is part of my gangs talking , THEY BLACKLISTED ME , and this all began when I discovered that I was being watched with hidden cameras and later vids being shared and posted. After I started looking for help on how to defend myself legally, the whole community harassment took place in order to make me look like a mental person, conveniently to cover all their bullshit in which they were part of. It was so hard for me to believe but it does exist. I just hope that one day all come out to light and the truth is exposed.
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I believe I am going through the same thing as we speak. They make it hard for me to do anything because I believe they gave my whereabouts to opportunists & weirdos. Plus they might have access to my personal information that I dont share with people.
Did you find the hidden cameras? Where were they installed?
A lot of times family can be more abusive then someone else. I went through abuse years and years. I cut out all the unhealthy toxic abusive relationships out of my life.
My father has been stalking me for years. He believes as a father, he should be able to act as cruel and abusive, intrusive as he chooses, because he can, he is a man, he is right. I went n/c 3 years ago and had to go in hiding. He still has my phone and email number and has regularly send me disturbing messages to hurt and blame me. I stopped reacting but always realistic fear he will show up one day and do something terrible. I have since been referred to a service for women suffering from family abuse which makes me feel a little bit more empowered. This man abused the women in our family terribly but since I bit back, he made sure to make my life a living hell, and ensure he could always control me. I believe they stalk because they just can't be bothered to love and understand us.
I'm so sorry. That's horrible when this happens to a child from a parent. It's really unheard of to be honest.
It sounds like he is beginning to bully you as he did the other woman in your family. Sadly, these kind of men cannot show love and do not know how. It takes a lot for them to understand the damage they cause.
My mother is exactly like your dad, but the problem is that no one will give me help because she’s my mother! The gender bias is impalpable
That reminds me. Right after i went complete nc, moved away. My narcissistic mother went in through my personal stuff and apparently found medical bill from my psychotherapist, so she called her asking where i am and threatening her with police.
Good thing she didn't know, because her words:" i got scared, so i just told her i know you were looking for a job" she actually broke the law, the therapist-client confidentiallity just because narcissist mentioned police. People are truly disgusting
OMG...I hope your Mom never found out. I deleted all social media platforms. There is no way that monster can find me.
I hope you had the courage to report the psychologist. She should have known better.
@@BBFCCO733 i barely have enough courage to go outside for groceries ..
Omg this is what happened to me! But she found out where I lived and had to be removed by police. She’s still trying to talk to my friends.
They do call people that you know or use to know and tell them crazy stories to get attention that you are not giving. They will call your workplace behind your back, friends off you social media, even go through call lists... I know for a fact. They have always done that since I was a pre-teen. That's why ppl should not introduce their partners or friends to family without telling them that the relationship between the family is not good. So they cant keep secrets on their behalf.
I've been gangstalked by some of my own relatives; particularly my cousins. And to this day, I never understood why. What is the purpose to cause me such stress, when you are not getting anything out of it. It's weird. Dark energy thats not wanted. Its like just please leave me alone. To this day; its still occurring... When I bring it up, I am gaslighted, looked as if I am gone crazy. Because it's [online predatory] so it makes it hard to prove. Its just sad all the way around, because it's your own kin not a stranger or coworker. I have to manage to move on by loving them from afar, because to me, they are dangerous for my well-being.
This is horrible. I'm sorry to hear that. Interestingly, the "benefit" of stalking to unstable people is control, power, and to see you feeling discomfort. Take hackers, for example. They hack into things for the sheer benefit of getting what they want, driving someone crazy, or controlling their lives. Sometimes they even contact their victims to ensure they understand they are being victimized by someone they cannot see, hear, or even find.
So you are right..."it is hard to prove" and very sad. Boundaries and distance may be the remedy and if you feel yourself doing better without them, you've made the right decision.
I’m being gangstalked too and yes it’s all about control. They think you don’t know but all you gotta do is see who is not acting like they normally do like in my case the person who got me into this mess was nowhere to be seen when the gangstalking started and is a bona fide narcissist. He always baited me into arguments so he could get supply months before the gangstalking began probably to lend credibility to the smear campaign. Now he is desperate for supply and tries to provoke me but you learn their tricks and their tricks are to get you to react so never react. I hope that helps or you can relate
It's not scary to me it's annoying. They excommunicated me but still hacking and spying
Hello , great points. You have to know your stalker. Learn the patterns of behavior. Understand they’re very unhealthy people.
Thank you!
And I love your tips. Agree 100%
I was being stalked by someone I don't even know. My X-husband used to stalk me too. I told my oldest son first that I was being stalked by someone. At first my oldest son didn't believe me until one day he was with me and saw the guy stalking me. We both ran into a public place. My oldest son apologized to me for not believing me. He believed me after he saw that I was being stalked by someone.
My brother stalked me, might still do but I'm not sure. I came off social media. Apart from RUclips. He would say things.. like give clues when he spoke to show I knew he had hacked my accounts. Which he did.. He would say things I'd said to others. He knew my phone passwords, no idea how and smirked whilst telling me he knew it. He leave me text messages from fake Internet accounts again talking about things I said when we were in the same room. He would talk hours on end about me to others, who would tell me what he said but I'd brush it off thinking it wasn't true. Until his ex showed me his texts to me too about him Backbiting about me. I guess out of vengefulness but made me also realise how toxic and obsessed he was. And people weren't lying. Telling people I thought too much of myself etc. All untrue. I hate being in the limelight and like a private life. He would tell people I was jealous of him and 'she dies everytime someone compliments me'. Making me out to crave attention when in actuality that was him. It was all in his head but he was the golden child, my mother would often feed to him that I was jealous of him in the hopes that we never stayed close. So I guess some of it was from her. There was a lot of triangulation from my mother too. But as he grew older he started to become fixated about me and my life and who I liked and spoke to etc. I had to cut ties...my therapist said he seemed to have gender dysphoria and was jealous I was female and he couldn't be.. hence his fixation with me
I'm sorry to hear this. It sounds like the relationship between the two of you is very unhealthy. It's so hard when family behaves this way after you put your trust in them. Who suspects family? Your best bet is a firm boundary around your heart, mind, and life.
@@TherapistTamaraHill it's been very difficult and I could never imagine my own brother doing this to me. His words are always so hateful towards me. He will say things in a passive aggressive manner or indirectly about me infront of others, and for the longest time I kept telling myself he must be talking about someone else. But he was trying to hurt me.. its been horrible but being away and cutting ties was the only way for me to keep sane.
Yep and I have an older brother who likes to tap everyone's phones and monitor everyone's conversations and cell phones. It's sickening.
@@michellepowell3093 wow seriously, I couldn't imagine something like that. I'm sorry you experienced such violation of privacy. There definitely things I wouldn't want my brother hearing without my consent. You don't want to share initmate thoughts with sibling. It's disgusting.
My bro went to the same high school as me and I knew he was going around spreading gossip about me & ai never said a word; he would watch me in the halls without saying anything to me walk pass me and all that with my friends. He always kept track of my friends, but I had never introduce him to them. There was always something weird about him. Our relationship was always bad! He was always the reason I got in shit. He snitch a lot on me now he older he doing the things I never would have but I get the worst... brothers are slow. They really will regret being a snake by the time they get "bros" from the outside world.
Can you do a video on why people don't understand the difficulty of being motivated to do mundane things, like cleaning for instance, when someone is depressed and how frustrating it is for that person when even the simplest tasks they do are done wrong?
Yes!! on this list. Good idea!
I feel stalked by family members
Irony of this Excellent Video! There’s 1 (one) cousin of mine who immediately comes up when speaking of stalker family members.
We grew up like brother and sister, however, she has always been duplicitous, the tattle tale, the 💩 starter, the know it all, the seen it all and the list goes on and on.
I have some scummy family members.
Thank you.
It's so hurtful when your extended family engages in these behaviors. It's bad enough stalking is terrifying and then you find out it's your family. I'm sorry.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you Tamara. I'm not losing any sleep over this madness. Whenever my sleep DOES get messed up, it isn't over these so-called family members.
Can't wait for this one.
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Thank you for a video addressing this. My husband’s family, adult child(ren) an in law or two have had us hacked for almost a decade. The ex wife doesn’t hack she watches and has done the address and mail fraud but.
What started it was the adult children saw he and I was having serious marital difficulties. To make a long story short- we both contributed to problems.
Most of those problems are 4 years in the past and the issues from then are no longer issues. On my end, any problems I contributed to I have completely come clean and there is nothing he doesn’t know and of course, he too has pulled some past stunts.
Now given all that is past, it seems the main issues causing it is insurance money his ex wants for their adult disabled daughter and herself (in the 100’s of thousands). And one adult daughter in particular is displeased bc my husband isn’t giving her the attention she wants and resents it.
I caught on to the hacking and stalking. I have had to file police reports and have evidence of the hackings photoed by police.
There are a couple of certified computer experts in this family.
They believe it is my fault my husband isn’t coughing up all of this money or up his daughters backside. So, they hack it to be privy to it . And, control.
I want absolutely nothing to do with these people. They don’t like that either. I have even had my email, bank card put on the dark web by these ppl and had money taken from my account.
A family member of mine had a similar experience. It’s just insanity and I think they’re psychos . There seems to be a significant narcissistic bent to it as well.
It’s hard to get emotional support bc who wants to talk about this with people? “Well, my husbands siblings, adult kids, in laws and ex are a group of psychos who hack and stalk us.” It doesn’t make for good general conversation.
It has reached the point I’ve caught them sitting in their vehicles in front of our house. One had the cheek to point a cell phone at me on my porch.
I had to file a report on it as well. It would be comical if it wasn’t downright insane.
They won’t call or talk to my husband. They hack and stalk and his daughter is one of the ring leaders.
His entire family, nieces, nephews the whole family is doing it. Be it the actual hacking, watching it done and invading our privacy, sitting in front of our house or showing up places we go.
I have never in my life seen such a family of ppl. Then they wonder why…. I reject any form of any relationship or communication Who wouldn’t?
People are so horrible. I had no idea so many people were horrible until recently. Sorry, not here to be negative but I'm being real about a hard truth I've learned to accept now. I'm starting to accept this reality about the world and now I understand why so many people are in therapy. I hate to say it but as a black woman I truly feel disappointed in my race. Intellectually I know that everyone isn't the same but my stomach turns when I think about people that I call "my people" and how I've personally experienced betrayl and cruelty on a level I never knew before. I'm able to stay grounded in the fact that I know I truly care for people but this is a new feeling that has developed over time and I'm sorry to say that I've lost a great deal of faith in my people. I don't think therapy is the cure for this, I think I need to ask God to send me better people because apparently I was too accepting of everyone and anyone, I took pride in not judging people off the rip, but now it seems I need to do that...which is hard to do when you're self aware and understand that nobody, including myself, is perfect. *sigh*
A younger half sister did this to me through a friend. She got in his Facebook account… sent me a friend request through him. I accepted and she snooped, then immediately unfriended me. I was divorced at the time and this young man was single. I had removed her from my Facebook friends when she was constantly involving herself with everything I posted. An uncle created probably 12 different Facebook accounts searching for me after I blocked him. My whole family are very toxic and narcissistic. I had to remove them to have any privacy in my life. The abuse I endured by many family members was severe. It was shocking and creepy seeing the lengths they would go to to keep tabs on me.
I am on ten. My family are stalking me and then I I block them all the ways possible!!!!
I'm sorry. Good that you are blocking them. That's the first line of protection.
This makes sense. One of my stalkers is my Aunt. I block her online and then she will eventually be in my friends list! I constantly recreate my accounts ill leave my old accounts hoping she will not catch on. She knows i know what she's doing.
Its been going on for years!
She's spread lies about me, at one pount had my family pretty much disown me for a few years. Belittle me in front of others and online.
Its tough! I feel mean not wanting to have anything to do with her but i know if i do acknowledge her at first it'll seem ok but itll wind up in lies and belittlement.
thats sad, really, esp if you served these people been there for them, always greeted them with happiness. Most of the time people do things like this for vengeance or jealousy. Its sad but hey they will always be toxic, disfuctional and they will have to live with themselves.
Yes, I agree. Good point. Very sad.
Thank you! I love your topics and your presentation!
You're welcome!! Thank you!😊
Me too!!!!!!!!
Your videos and channel, reminded me once again. The entire reason why I came back to college. Thanks, it is insightful, informational, and pushing me to not give up.
My pleasure! That's so great to hear. Very happy for you!! Keep going.
@@TherapistTamaraHill My major question is however if you have the time. At what point when you were at undergraduate level, or even in grad school and doing internships/praticum. Were you able to identify academic terms to what you observed in clients behavior patterns, like where everything begin to click?
Dearest Tamara you are truly beautiful inside and out! We value your expertise and humanness.❤
🤗❤Thank you!! And you are too!
I owe you a response too! I'm working on it.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you, I'm so honored to have you in my life. We have to leave now with out a doubt after this criminal attack on me.🙏🕊️🌹💕💕🫂
I'm going to resort to changing my name, if they don't know my name, they can't find me.
Absolutely. I totally understand this position. You may also benefit from learning about social media, technology, and security around your home. I find this channel very helpful: www.youtube.com/@NaomiBrockwellTV
God bless you❤️ you are a blessing! Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us! By the way you are still beautiful now 😊
❤🤗Thank you for these kind words! And you're welcome. Glad to have you on the channel.
My mother bought a house down the street from me as the ultimate “gotcha”.
I found out I have another address but I've never lived in that state. I have family there, but I've never wanted to live there. I stay hundreds of miles away from any family & that's the way I'm keeping it. I stopped seeing my DNA relatives as family yrs ago. I have a very small circle of family & friends. I plan on keeping my life just the way it is!!!
Bad behavior is not mental illness in my situation but he was hoping to trick the psychological doctor to get diablity pension he thought trained doctor would believe his lies
Oh my. Good luck with that. We're trained to get to the bottom of what's really going on.
Yes… I caught half sister going through my Facebook account via a third party (an attractive single male) she was using. She sent me a friend request from his account to snoop. As soon as she was done, I was promptly unfriended. A flying monkey uncle was also caught by me with like 12 different Facebook accounts. As soon as I’d block one… another would pop up! I had been ostracized from the family for many years (after I stood up to & called out my abusive narc family) and I suspect they were keeping tabs on me… or at least trying to. It was kind of shocking to see what they are capable of.
The uncle recently passed away but he was 78 with all those Facebook accounts! So creepy!!!
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My eldest son was,in his twenties when I use to have contact with him,I scrapped my car,I NEVER TOLD ANYONE,the next day he turned up at my flat,and gave me the third degree about where my car was on my intercom,I had to say to him are you actually comming in I don't want to talk about it on my intercom,he went on and on about it,no doubt the tracker had been crushed along with my car,😂,I've moved away and I'm sure I've seen him a few times,I can't have anything to do with him,his dad stalked me like father like son
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