I agree. I know a woman whom was dying. She wanted to be closer to a safe environment. She told her sister in a text message. The text went blank during conversation. She asked what she was doing ( sister) She said “ a financial plan for a friend” She asked her sister who is dying to program in an appointment time………. She is working 20 hrs a week…
@nicolecarnevale3226 i had a similar exchange with my sister. No one was dying, but i was having a mental breakdown. I moved 250kms to live next door to her. I asked if we could schedule a weekly visit for our kids, but she wasn't able to plan that far in advance. Literally next fucking door.
It's worse when you try to tell someone and their response is "oh that's just typical mother-daughter" no. No it is not. Because looking back, it is highly unlikely that those people would be doing many of things to their kids.
My brother is a sociopath and though the rest of my family can clearly see that's what he is, he still has my mother fooled. For some reason he can still do depraved and cruel things while scapegoating others for it, and my mom believes him. This is how he gets money to keep him off the street(where he currently finds himself). No matter how many times he has abused her trust, money, property, other family members or robbed us, she always believes he's the victim. It's the craziest thing I've ever seen.
I want to go to therapy with my mother just to tell her that I know that she’s a sociopath and to get out everything I’ve always wanted to say to her. She completely destroyed my life while acting like she was a great person and mother!
I wish you the best in that. Hopefully she will comply. Perhaps there will be a breakthrough for the both of you or even just you. A word of caution, however. If you do pursue this avenue you want to make sure you have the right therapist mediating so that you can be heard and your mother can be heard. If you confront your mom with the wrong therapist, things could end up terribly destroyed.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Especially in the black community community where mother is deemed God All-knowing and right. The madeirs of the world who is never wrong
This describes both my grandmother and my mother, my God ! I'm not surprised about my mother because she actually told me via her psychiatrist. That's generational trauma I guess but I am healing. I've long cut them out my life.
Oh my God. I'm sorry. Once a psychiatrist or psychotherapist shares that information it has an official feeling to it. Like you have done, putting up boundaries is key.
Back in the 1980s my mother was diagnosed with paranoia or paranoid personality. I was a teenager and was targeted by her delusional suspicions. She was and is (now with Alzheimer’s and dementia with Lewy bodies age 82) very very sadistic
Being aware that God loves me, I am able to start healing from a sociopathic father. I still love them. I still yearn to have them part of my life, but I have to keep them away from me. Stay in love and don't respond to them. They only understand their way. They don't understand our feelings of being disrespected. We have to stay emotionless to get the relationship to work. It's very painful and scary, knowing how much damage they can do to you if their done with you. Trusting in God is the only way I am able to get stronger and wiser. And learning to let things go that are not good for my soul.
"They don't underatand our feelings of being disrespected" No, they full well do. They just don't care. They are ok with ruining your whole life if that will gain them the tiniest thing. You only exist to serve. If your father is indeed a sociopath, he DOESN'T give a rat's ass about you. He KNOWS he hurts you, but DOESN'T care.
I really never realized how messed up my mom is and im 51 years old....i didnt realize how much she doesnt love us until she had major surgery and i was gonna fly down to fla to help her and she said i dont want you here your dad is here and i dont need you taking your dads attention away from me 😢 plus the numerous times she poisoned me as a kid with syrup of ipecac...and she admitted it
I dealt with a sociopathic parent who tried to get me fired from my job because i refused to speak to them. Instead, i kept my job and got a restraining order. Wish it could've been a lifetime restraining order instead of just two years.
Unfortunately the best thing to do is keep them from knowing where you live or work. Even moving to a different city. Mine threatened to call the cops for not letting them know where I live. I called there bluff. they even tried to pull the whole I need a place to stay and pick me up after arriving in the country in the city I live in. But nope it’s sounds heartless but after everything they put me through during my life I can’t trust that they will not weaponize knowing where I live to there personal advantage.
I never accepted this about my Mother until she was gone. I think I knew on one level, but was in denial. Since she drove the rest of the family away, she was all I really had at the time. The full realisation of the many betrayals is a very painful experience. It's not that she made mistakes or wasn't perfect. Nobody's perfect, but I've really accepted she didn't even want what was best for me or my siblings. Quite the opposite, she tried to basically destroy me in order to bring me under her control. Funny enough, some family members now try and use her as a scapegoat. Yes, she was bad, but the whole family is very disfunctional. Our Father is/was just as bad, somehow he gets a free pass from some family members. I think they do this so as not to have to deal with the fact we're all messed up and damaged. It's easier to blame one person, but it really isn't that simple.
Thank you so much for normalising these important conversations. I walked away from the horrible situations... It was so hard, and I'm so grateful I now have my sanity
Thanks for these videos again. They are so difficult to be around i cant much anymore... i go inside to get away when i have to be around them. They are so rigid and i have nervous system problems and rage and now say things i never used to. They changed my personality
I have a diagnosed ASPD brother who is manipulating my suspected BPD, alcoholic, and possible early onset dementia mother. He is a master at idealizing himself and love bombing her when he screws up. She falls for it every time. His goal is to get all of her will money. Pretty sure he's already won. I've had to cut ties with them and everyone else he has brainwashed.
Oh my. I'm sorry to hear this. This is a terrible mix! She can't see what is happening and may need to learn about his personality style, if she can, to fully understand. Sometimes saying goodbye is the only survival mechanism. I don't blame you.
I didn't know what a Sociopath was until just recently. I was too busy enjoying my life to bother to learn about it. I thought a Sociopath was someone that everyone disliked because of their obvious annoying behavior. But no, Sociopaths are much more cunning than that... My dad and my brother are complete Sociopaths. I am the youngest of 4. My parents are great people but terrible parents. My brother, 6 years older than me, has been abusing me mentally and physically since I was 5 years old... to this very day, my brother has convinced my parents that it's my fault. So five years ago I disowned my brother. My dad is too old now to have any clue what is going on. This brilliant lady in this video is exactly right... confront them calmly and firmly. In my opinion, go so far as to tell them that they are a Sociopath. Do it over and over and don't back down. They will try to make you look like you are crazy when you call them a Sociopath. Do not back down. Follow the advice of this brilliant woman in this video. My brother would act all nice and friendly when our parents were at home with us, and then when my parents were gone, if I did anything to oppose his attempt to control me he would EXPLODE AND GO INTO A RAGE AND START PUNCHING THE LIVING HELL OUT OF ME. But when I was big enough to take him on at 18 years old, I beat the living hell out of him and he walked away crying and shortly thereafter he acted like nothing had happened and he continued with his Sociopathic behavior. I'm 53 now. I haven't talked to my brother in 5 years.
I think it's way deeper and broader then an annoying behavior. I know you elaborated after you made that comment. But I have never seen it as just that.
Don't make plans with a sociopath - they'll screw it up/or do the minimum requirement (unless it makes them look good). Don't give the sociopath or their connections any information.
Superb video! I'm shocked that this seems to be the first time that I've seen it. My brother and a little cousin whom I've grown up with since early childhood IMMEDIATELY come to mind as you speak on this. I'm willing to go as far to say that birth order also can play a HUGE part in sociopathy especially if a child already is predisposed to being or has the greatest propensity towards being a full blown psycho/sociopath. I've found that it's usually "middle" children and "only" children who make up the most perps!
Thank you! It's tough when family members meet the criteria for sociopathy. It's scary to watch the progression of this. And you are correct that birth order can have some influence on the "mechanics" of how a family operates and then ultimately affects that child with sociopathic predispositions.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Outside of the class module called "Family Secrets", I've had discussions with others regarding "birth order drama". (LOL! Gotta laugh sometimes to keep from crying.) I've discovered some really interesting things even about myself reflecting back on my own upbringing and family in general. Of course, when confronting some of the elders on some things, they either flat out denied some things or simply pretended NOT to know anything about them. Putting bible verses on critical issues seems to be have been the THING to do when not wanting to face these issues.
I don’t know if there’s any sources to back up the idea of birth order, in my family both sociopaths were the youngest - treated special and spoiled, didn’t have the same rules as older kids created them to believe they’re entitled to do what they want
I just want to thank you for what you do and say that I am proud of a sister getting into the psychology field as we are severely underrepresented. I am writing because you've helped me realize what I thought was immature behavior and might disappear with time is actually narcissistic tendencies that I should be much more weary of. Unfortunately we're tied for some time to come but I'm better prepared to move forward thanks to you. Be blessed and keep up the good work.
Thank you so much for this humbling comment! What an honor. I'm glad my these videos are helpful to you. That's the goal every single video. Gives me motivation to keep doing this work. Blessings to you!
The best way to cope is to learn all you can about how they think and behave and then structure your behavior around this. Find your own psychotherapy so that you can learn skills for coping and responding to their emotion dysregulation. It's a journey and a process.
i realised my now ex wife was a sociopath and stupidly told her she then went into over drive and destroyed everything we had together and expunged me and that goes on to this day - i can't get any help from anyone including the medical profession my daughter is a medical practitioner psychiatrist would you believe and they just ignore it no action whatsoever so now i've got to live alone with no support whatsoever :( this is so grim in the national sociopathic service :( they care about money and career progression not patients
Everytime My mind is blown away with Tamara’s wisdom I feel a little more crazy 😜as my mind has to now make more room to store this new info and I have to revisit and visualise the horrible childhood history to match up the answer to the why . I learnt today that I can stop banging my head against the wall because I had so much frustration that my mum blinding herself with happy thoughts of “ your fathers a good man and underneath he a vulnerable little boy” . My father was a monster all 6 foot tall built like hulk and was so cruel. Tamara is right my mother can’t put two together so she decided to choose to think of my father is all nice things . If a video was played out in front of her showing the abuse from him she would still not be real about him . She can’t put he is a monster and nice man together. She is nearly 65 and I have given up thinking 🤔 or hoping she would have some emotion or tears and say truth to me and say sorry your father is a monster. Tamara explanation is so healing and helps me to let go
lol Thank you Cj Rodgers! 😊 I'm very glad this was helpful. And I'm sorry you have to experience this. Never easy. But each healing step you take will lead to the next one.
There's a Lifetime Original film about a woman who committed a crime, and how her two daughters had to deal with her. It's a good illustration of what a Sociopath is like. It is based on a true story. About Celeste Beard.
My intuition helped know I wasn't insane when my coworker tried to gaslight me. My mother is definitely a undiagnosed, I finally am ready to tell my therapist all that she did to me. For her pleasure
@@TherapistTamaraHill 👍excellent work! Very grateful and very impressed with your expertise and insight into this opaque yet critically important area of study. A+
I live whit my father and he is a sociopath. I'm Abel to move out soon. Can I be in danger of becoming like him? I'm really scared that I will become like my father.
Thanks for this question because I feel a lot of people worry about this. It's important to keep in mind that genes are real and can make you "vulnerable" to inheriting certain traits. Environment is also powerful, especially if you grew up under the parent. But the number 1 predictor of not becoming like your father is having awareness and a desire to change or never become this way.
I knew in grade school that I would NEVER be like my mother. I compared her to other mothers in the Camp Fire Girls back then and saw how cold she was. I could see other girls mothers and see how they trult enjoyed being around their daughters. They took their daughters out for ice cream to spend time together. Mine did nothing but complain and criticize me and I vowed back then that i would NEVER be like her and yes; I am a very loving and kind person in spite of her. We have been no contact for a year after her demonic rage on the phone.
You are at a certain risk of that, but that's not the whole story! Our parents are our biggest role models, and especially sociopathic/psychopathic parents will try to mold their children into little versions of themselves. It's likely your father attempted much of the same, so pay close attention to your behaviors when your emotional regulation is tested, when you get into conflicts, when people disagree with you.. etc. It's only natural that some of these things will be dysfunctional after being raised by dysfunctional people. You obviously aren't like him, because then these behaviors would be making you feel good - being scared is the opposite of that. I found myself in that situation, being raised by a psychopath but not being one myself, it really harms you to be raised like that. It's like being a human without human motions. It's a really tough journey once you go no contact and start living by yourself, but also very rewarding once you shed these tendencies and become your own person! No need to be scared. All the good things are ahead of you.
I’m pretty sure my mom, grandpa(her dad) and me are sociopaths. He died and it didn’t really bother me at all same when my moms mom died and we were pretty close but it bothered my mom a lot which makes me question what’s up with her. Is there a spectrum of sociopathy? Her dad though I’m convinced is a sociopath without barley knowing his backstory cause he died at when i was like 9. He had many addictions with drugs, was in and out of prison. Just basically a bad person.
That's an interesting question but it could be. Sometimes it does run in families and other times it isn't quite sociopathy, but rather a low threshold for emotions and processing them. And sometimes it is shock and trauma that causes this kind of reaction or family pattern.
Yes, absolutely. I have a video on this too called The Road To Sociopathy. I attempt to highlight this and many more associations. You might find it helpful.
man i think i'm a sociopath? because i tend to mimic emotions when i feel like being used? i do not like being used in any way or in any situations.. i like being alone with myself.. i don't feel any type of emotions? towards my family.. i'm sorry but maybe i born this way? can i get some help with it? even tho i'm in another country with a different culture..
@@idonthaveaname42 ok thanks but how to make improvements when they are the reason for makes me like that? lol if society stands up for survival then i do not care about anything anymore.
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There is a coldness to these people that is unbelievable. It's like they are not human. I had to accept that this is who they really are.
Yes. There is. You almost can't miss it because they are so cold. Robotic to say the least.
Most of them are not if you were spiritual you would know
I agree. I know a woman whom was dying. She wanted to be closer to a safe environment.
She told her sister in a text message.
The text went blank during conversation.
She asked what she was doing ( sister)
She said “ a financial plan for a friend”
She asked her sister who is dying to program in an appointment time……….
She is working 20 hrs a week…
@nicolecarnevale3226 i had a similar exchange with my sister. No one was dying, but i was having a mental breakdown. I moved 250kms to live next door to her. I asked if we could schedule a weekly visit for our kids, but she wasn't able to plan that far in advance. Literally next fucking door.
It's worse when you try to tell someone and their response is "oh that's just typical mother-daughter" no. No it is not. Because looking back, it is highly unlikely that those people would be doing many of things to their kids.
why do sociopaths get angry one second but then they act like nothing happened??
I think other people are meaningless so anger is a flash in the pan. Your not important enough to remember that long.
they're nuts
My brother is a sociopath and though the rest of my family can clearly see that's what he is, he still has my mother fooled. For some reason he can still do depraved and cruel things while scapegoating others for it, and my mom believes him. This is how he gets money to keep him off the street(where he currently finds himself).
No matter how many times he has abused her trust, money, property, other family members or robbed us, she always believes he's the victim. It's the craziest thing I've ever seen.
same here with my family so you are not alone I have a brother like this
sociopath or psychopath? cos sociopath is made :0
I want to go to therapy with my mother just to tell her that I know that she’s a sociopath and to get out everything I’ve always wanted to say to her. She completely destroyed my life while acting like she was a great person and mother!
I wish you the best in that. Hopefully she will comply. Perhaps there will be a breakthrough for the both of you or even just you. A word of caution, however. If you do pursue this avenue you want to make sure you have the right therapist mediating so that you can be heard and your mother can be heard. If you confront your mom with the wrong therapist, things could end up terribly destroyed.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Especially in the black community community where mother is deemed God All-knowing and right. The madeirs of the world who is never wrong
I had a mom like this. The level of chaos was monumental. Starting over was hard. But staying would have been harder. Cheers to trusting thyself 🎉😌.
This describes both my grandmother and my mother, my God ! I'm not surprised about my mother because she actually told me via her psychiatrist. That's generational trauma I guess but I am healing. I've long cut them out my life.
Oh my God. I'm sorry. Once a psychiatrist or psychotherapist shares that information it has an official feeling to it. Like you have done, putting up boundaries is key.
Back in the 1980s my mother was diagnosed with paranoia or paranoid personality. I was a teenager and was targeted by her delusional suspicions. She was and is (now with Alzheimer’s and dementia with Lewy bodies age 82) very very sadistic
Being aware that God loves me, I am able to start healing from a sociopathic father. I still love them. I still yearn to have them part of my life, but I have to keep them away from me. Stay in love and don't respond to them. They only understand their way. They don't understand our feelings of being disrespected. We have to stay emotionless to get the relationship to work. It's very painful and scary, knowing how much damage they can do to you if their done with you. Trusting in God is the only way I am able to get stronger and wiser. And learning to let things go that are not good for my soul.
Amen!! Great comment. Thank you👍
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🤗
Great words - they can only understand there way .
"They don't underatand our feelings of being disrespected"
No, they full well do. They just don't care. They are ok with ruining your whole life if that will gain them the tiniest thing. You only exist to serve. If your father is indeed a sociopath, he DOESN'T give a rat's ass about you. He KNOWS he hurts you, but DOESN'T care.
You are spot on with that and I have dealt with the same from my dad, stepmom, and my aunt on my mom's side and her two adult children.
I really never realized how messed up my mom is and im 51 years old....i didnt realize how much she doesnt love us until she had major surgery and i was gonna fly down to fla to help her and she said i dont want you here your dad is here and i dont need you taking your dads attention away from me 😢 plus the numerous times she poisoned me as a kid with syrup of ipecac...and she admitted it
I dealt with a sociopathic parent who tried to get me fired from my job because i refused to speak to them. Instead, i kept my job and got a restraining order. Wish it could've been a lifetime restraining order instead of just two years.
Unfortunately the best thing to do is keep them from knowing where you live or work. Even moving to a different city. Mine threatened to call the cops for not letting them know where I live. I called there bluff. they even tried to pull the whole I need a place to stay and pick me up after arriving in the country in the city I live in. But nope it’s sounds heartless but after everything they put me through during my life I can’t trust that they will not weaponize knowing where I live to there personal advantage.
It's hard having a mom with sociopathic tendencies and a younger brother who is intellectually disabled
Yes it is. I'm sorry if you experienced this. Very draining to say the least.
I never accepted this about my Mother until she was gone. I think I knew on one level, but was in denial. Since she drove the rest of the family away, she was all I really had at the time.
The full realisation of the many betrayals is a very painful experience. It's not that she made mistakes or wasn't perfect. Nobody's perfect, but I've really accepted she didn't even want what was best for me or my siblings. Quite the opposite, she tried to basically destroy me in order to bring me under her control.
Funny enough, some family members now try and use her as a scapegoat. Yes, she was bad, but the whole family is very disfunctional. Our Father is/was just as bad, somehow he gets a free pass from some family members.
I think they do this so as not to have to deal with the fact we're all messed up and damaged. It's easier to blame one person, but it really isn't that simple.
Sorry to hear about your migraines 😞 That's tough!! My husband gets them and is OUT for days.
Thank you so much! It's been a tough road with these migraines. I've had them for years. Appreciate your kindness
Thank you so much for normalising these important conversations. I walked away from the horrible situations... It was so hard, and I'm so grateful I now have my sanity
Thanks for these videos again.
They are so difficult to be around i cant much anymore... i go inside to get away when i have to be around them.
They are so rigid and i have nervous system problems and rage and now say things i never used to.
They changed my personality
I have a diagnosed ASPD brother who is manipulating my suspected BPD, alcoholic, and possible early onset dementia mother. He is a master at idealizing himself and love bombing her when he screws up. She falls for it every time. His goal is to get all of her will money. Pretty sure he's already won. I've had to cut ties with them and everyone else he has brainwashed.
Oh my. I'm sorry to hear this. This is a terrible mix! She can't see what is happening and may need to learn about his personality style, if she can, to fully understand. Sometimes saying goodbye is the only survival mechanism. I don't blame you.
I didn't know what a Sociopath was until just recently. I was too busy enjoying my life to bother to learn about it. I thought a Sociopath was someone that everyone disliked because of their obvious annoying behavior. But no, Sociopaths are much more cunning than that...
My dad and my brother are complete Sociopaths. I am the youngest of 4. My parents are great people but terrible parents. My brother, 6 years older than me, has been abusing me mentally and physically since I was 5 years old... to this very day, my brother has convinced my parents that it's my fault. So five years ago I disowned my brother. My dad is too old now to have any clue what is going on. This brilliant lady in this video is exactly right... confront them calmly and firmly. In my opinion, go so far as to tell them that they are a Sociopath. Do it over and over and don't back down. They will try to make you look like you are crazy when you call them a Sociopath. Do not back down. Follow the advice of this brilliant woman in this video.
My brother would act all nice and friendly when our parents were at home with us, and then when my parents were gone, if I did anything to oppose his attempt to control me he would EXPLODE AND GO INTO A RAGE AND START PUNCHING THE LIVING HELL OUT OF ME. But when I was big enough to take him on at 18 years old, I beat the living hell out of him and he walked away crying and shortly thereafter he acted like nothing had happened and he continued with his Sociopathic behavior. I'm 53 now. I haven't talked to my brother in 5 years.
I think it's way deeper and broader then an annoying behavior. I know you elaborated after you made that comment. But I have never seen it as just that.
Our family’s are lucky that they don’t push us to the point we may just loose our sanity that they might come off second best
You made the right decision for your peace of mind, body, and soul. #staystrong
Thank you. I chose to separate from my relatives. I can’t deal with this behavior anymore.
My mental health was at stake, and enduring manipulation isn't worth trying to keep family ties.
Don't make plans with a sociopath - they'll screw it up/or do the minimum requirement (unless it makes them look good). Don't give the sociopath or their connections any information.
Superb video! I'm shocked that this seems to be the first time that I've seen it. My brother and a little cousin whom I've grown up with since early childhood IMMEDIATELY come to mind as you speak on this. I'm willing to go as far to say that birth order also can play a HUGE part in sociopathy especially if a child already is predisposed to being or has the greatest propensity towards being a full blown psycho/sociopath. I've found that it's usually "middle" children and "only" children who make up the most perps!
Thank you!
It's tough when family members meet the criteria for sociopathy. It's scary to watch the progression of this. And you are correct that birth order can have some influence on the "mechanics" of how a family operates and then ultimately affects that child with sociopathic predispositions.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Outside of the class module called "Family Secrets", I've had discussions with others regarding "birth order drama". (LOL! Gotta laugh sometimes to keep from crying.) I've discovered some really interesting things even about myself reflecting back on my own upbringing and family in general. Of course, when confronting some of the elders on some things, they either flat out denied some things or simply pretended NOT to know anything about them. Putting bible verses on critical issues seems to be have been the THING to do when not wanting to face these issues.
I don’t know if there’s any sources to back up the idea of birth order, in my family both sociopaths were the youngest - treated special and spoiled, didn’t have the same rules as older kids created them to believe they’re entitled to do what they want
Yes also my husband is a sociopath and yes my intuition has told me a lot about him and I know now who he really is again thank Tamara 💓 XOXO
You're welcome Tania!! That's a hard reality but from what you add here, it sounds like you have accepted this. That's healing in and of itself.
I just want to thank you for what you do and say that I am proud of a sister getting into the psychology field as we are severely underrepresented.
I am writing because you've helped me realize what I thought was immature behavior and might disappear with time is actually narcissistic tendencies that I should be much more weary of. Unfortunately we're tied for some time to come but I'm better prepared to move forward thanks to you.
Be blessed and keep up the good work.
Thank you so much for this humbling comment! What an honor.
I'm glad my these videos are helpful to you. That's the goal every single video. Gives me motivation to keep doing this work.
Blessings to you!
My husband's mother us a sociopath and everything she did turned him away.
How are we supposed to cope with a sociopath that is a parent?
The best way to cope is to learn all you can about how they think and behave and then structure your behavior around this. Find your own psychotherapy so that you can learn skills for coping and responding to their emotion dysregulation. It's a journey and a process.
My mom and aunt's have serious psychological issues to say the least.
I'm sorry. That's tough.
This was very validating. But I’m mf tied .
I'm sure you are tired. I'm sorry.
i realised my now ex wife was a sociopath and stupidly told her she then went into over drive and destroyed everything we had together and expunged me and that goes on to this day - i can't get any help from anyone including the medical profession my daughter is a medical practitioner psychiatrist would you believe and they just ignore it no action whatsoever so now i've got to live alone with no support whatsoever :( this is so grim in the national sociopathic service :( they care about money and career progression not patients
spot on
Everytime My mind is blown away with Tamara’s wisdom I feel a little more crazy 😜as my mind has to now make more room to store this new info and I have to revisit and visualise the horrible childhood history to match up the answer to the why . I learnt today that I can stop banging my head against the wall because I had so much frustration that my mum blinding herself with happy thoughts of “ your fathers a good man and underneath he a vulnerable little boy” . My father was a monster all 6 foot tall built like hulk and was so cruel. Tamara is right my mother can’t put two together so she decided to choose to think of my father is all nice things . If a video was played out in front of her showing the abuse from him she would still not be real about him . She can’t put he is a monster and nice man together. She is nearly 65 and I have given up thinking 🤔 or hoping she would have some emotion or tears and say truth to me and say sorry your father is a monster. Tamara explanation is so healing and helps me to let go
lol Thank you Cj Rodgers! 😊 I'm very glad this was helpful.
And I'm sorry you have to experience this. Never easy. But each healing step you take will lead to the next one.
Shout out to the DSM-5. I must say your content is great! You should have been one of my Social Work professors.
Thank you!!
I’m loving up your channel tonight. So glad you share to us this wisdom.
❤🤗
Thank you. You are helping this world become a better place. God bless. Love you.
thank you souch. 😊 An answered prayer. Love and God's blessings to you too.
There's a Lifetime Original film about a woman who committed a crime, and how her two daughters had to deal with her. It's a good illustration of what a Sociopath is like. It is based on a true story. About Celeste Beard.
Lifetime can be helpful in educating the viewer to some very sick thinking and behaviors that exist in our world. The older movies were better though!
@@TherapistTamaraHill I tell folks all the time, you want a good Lifetime movie? Just watch the old ones! those are the best ones ! 80s-90s for sure!
Oof yeah I'm for sure too nice gotta remember not to feel for sociopaths ugh
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge on this topic .. 💕
Glad it was helpful! You're welcome!
Here for My Own *Healthier* Intermittent Reinforcement.
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My intuition helped know I wasn't insane when my coworker tried to gaslight me. My mother is definitely a undiagnosed, I finally am ready to tell my therapist all that she did to me. For her pleasure
I would certainly open up to your therapist if you are ready. That's good.
@@TherapistTamaraHill I am I have to convince myself they will believe me.
Brilliant
Thank you
@@TherapistTamaraHill 👍excellent work! Very grateful and very impressed with your expertise and insight into this opaque yet critically important area of study. A+
Thank you so much! 😊
I live whit my father and he is a sociopath. I'm Abel to move out soon. Can I be in danger of becoming like him? I'm really scared that I will become like my father.
Thanks for this question because I feel a lot of people worry about this. It's important to keep in mind that genes are real and can make you "vulnerable" to inheriting certain traits. Environment is also powerful, especially if you grew up under the parent. But the number 1 predictor of not becoming like your father is having awareness and a desire to change or never become this way.
@@TherapistTamaraHill thank you. I appreciate the good answer
I knew in grade school that I would NEVER be like my mother. I compared her to other mothers in the Camp Fire Girls back then and saw how cold she was. I could see other girls mothers and see how they trult enjoyed being around their daughters. They took their daughters out for ice cream to spend time together. Mine did nothing but complain and criticize me and I vowed back then that i would NEVER be like her and yes; I am a very loving and kind person in spite of her. We have been no contact for a year after her demonic rage on the phone.
You are at a certain risk of that, but that's not the whole story! Our parents are our biggest role models, and especially sociopathic/psychopathic parents will try to mold their children into little versions of themselves. It's likely your father attempted much of the same, so pay close attention to your behaviors when your emotional regulation is tested, when you get into conflicts, when people disagree with you.. etc. It's only natural that some of these things will be dysfunctional after being raised by dysfunctional people. You obviously aren't like him, because then these behaviors would be making you feel good - being scared is the opposite of that. I found myself in that situation, being raised by a psychopath but not being one myself, it really harms you to be raised like that. It's like being a human without human motions. It's a really tough journey once you go no contact and start living by yourself, but also very rewarding once you shed these tendencies and become your own person! No need to be scared. All the good things are ahead of you.
I’m pretty sure my mom, grandpa(her dad) and me are sociopaths. He died and it didn’t really bother me at all same when my moms mom died and we were pretty close but it bothered my mom a lot which makes me question what’s up with her. Is there a spectrum of sociopathy? Her dad though I’m convinced is a sociopath without barley knowing his backstory cause he died at when i was like 9. He had many addictions with drugs, was in and out of prison. Just basically a bad person.
That's an interesting question but it could be. Sometimes it does run in families and other times it isn't quite sociopathy, but rather a low threshold for emotions and processing them. And sometimes it is shock and trauma that causes this kind of reaction or family pattern.
My daughter,my siblings and ex are sociopaths who made me look more insane than I am
Can conduct disorder turn into sociopathy?
Mother, daughter and sister all sociopath
Yes, absolutely. I have a video on this too called The Road To Sociopathy. I attempt to highlight this and many more associations. You might find it helpful.
Thank you I'll watch it...My daughter was diagnosed with CD as an adolescent,she's in her 30's now and I had to go no contact
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man i think i'm a sociopath? because i tend to mimic emotions when i feel like being used? i do not like being used in any way or in any situations.. i like being alone with myself.. i don't feel any type of emotions? towards my family.. i'm sorry but maybe i born this way? can i get some help with it? even tho i'm in another country with a different culture..
@@idonthaveaname42 ok thanks but how to make improvements when they are the reason for makes me like that? lol if society stands up for survival then i do not care about anything anymore.
Why people become sociopaths? :(
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