Apparently. And so misguided. I could be living in Florida in a central ac home.... driving a Mercedes and going for joy rides in a Ferrari on the weekends. Jelous of what? Lmao.....their egos are so overinflated they don't even see me for who l am. How could they? They live inside their own heads. STUPIDITY has taken over folks. I am exhausted from being beaten with their narrow minded narcissistic stick however. I opt out of their insanity. I hereby conclude that money has made them even more idiotic.
I was abused by my family for most of my life. My father consistently put me down so that I would not succeed. There was no love and light, no connection, just abuse. When I left them, I found myself not knowing how to connect with others, but I wanted to learn. I was healing from abuse. I am now slowly starting to rebuild my life and noticing that these are people out there that feed off other people's insecurity or goodness to try and keep them from being happy, being connected to others, from shining. There is hatred in their eyes and it is scary how many people have destroyed my from achieving my goals out of bullying and hatred. I am trying to learn skills on how to deal with these evil people. Better late than never.
I had a friend that was jealous and toxic. Every time I shared something with her she would immediately run out and try to get something bigger and better. It was awful. Now I think she stalks me on Linked. I just ignore her and keep going.
From my own female family members I suffered undue character assassination, also vicious intent to destroy my personality while they emulated my personality they were destroying in me . Their alienating me.bers of my social circle while they themselves entered my social circle, their emulating my hair style and clothing style and cosmetic application. My preferences in music and art. This is only the tip of the iceberg.
I've had a problem with rental condos and ending up living in the same building as women who were extremely jealous and I moved twice in order not to be subjected to outrageous behavior from these toxic individuals. Its insane. If your pretty, successful, and friendly, watch out. I still have a hard time wrapping my head around the insanity these women were living in.
I had a friend who was jealous of me but at least he admitted it to me and he did get over it. It is the ones who would never admit it that you have to watch out for.
That's an interesting take. I can see the value in being mindful of this. I always tell my adolescent clients that when you hide what you really feel -- and everyone else can see it -- that tells me that you are in denial and therefore, not able to be trusted.
Sometimes they admit it and it still takes over. Happened to me. She told me she would feel envious towards me, but the competition and one upping never stopped. Eventually I got so sick of the jabs that I cut it off.
timestamps 1. you're disliked for no real reason (4:03) 2. they undermine you in any given opportunity (4:42) 3. they covet what you've got (5:36) 4. their vindictiveness & toxicity is suffocating (6:40) 5. they often fit the description of narcissism (7:13) 6. they are often forceful and impulsive (7:56) 7. they are destructive & sneaky (8:20) 8. they are unauthentic (8:34) as an empathetic person, i know it's fairly easy to understand a person's history or sob story as to why they are this way BUT sometimes a person is just plain evil. pls stay away from them socially & physically as much as you can
#1 is true, but what they'll usually do is justify it with some perceived slight, or for a manufactured reason. If you are a decent person, you might even search your history with that person and genuinely wonder if you unintentionally said or did something. My solution to this is: If they haven't made it clear why they don't like you, and you can't readily find an obvious reason....then fuck them, ignore them.
The face says it all when it comes to jealousy. Also compliments, I hate compliments even from my family. What makes jealousy so sinister is that they will be so sweet toward you with the fake smile and the kissy kissy thing and at the same time they will be grasping hold of a butches knife ready to plunge it in at the appropriate moment. My husband and I would have a flexible Monday off work and we would watch the B grade midday movies that were on TV. My husband who passed away about nine years ago loved Psychology and I love it too. Anyway we were watching this movie and most of these movies were of male and female stalkers who were full of jealousy or girlfriend or boyfriends who couldn’t move on after the breakup, or divorcées who were jealous of the new wife or husband or jealous friends , coworkers or strangers. My husband would say to me you know what the acting in these movies is bad however there is truth in these stories, people do these hideous things to one another, it is true. In my opinion and by what I have personally experienced growing up with five jealous sisters and two Narcissistic jealous parents that jealousy would have to be the most prominent trait in all of us. I don’t think people realise just how powerful this emotion is and there is nothing good about it, all murders are based on some kind of insecure jealousy. I don’t read my comments when people reply to mine even when my comments are lovely because of jealous people, jealousy is insecurity and if jealousy is not controlled it can have detrimental effects both mentally, emotionally on the victim and can lead to physical harm and murder. If you see the look of jealousy in peoples faces get the hell away from that person and cut all connections with them. Displays of jealousy are dangerous, that means that person has the potential to do anything to you , your family or property. I had to cut my entire family out because of out of control jealousy on their side, the type that will say I love you while plotting your murder. I had a lot of people that were jealous of me when I was a practicing Catholic at a particular parish church, one woman in the church office who is a deranged bunny boiler. Jealousy is the most ugliest look and the most sinister trait.
Tamara, you're right on point. The evil toxic behavior is the one that scares me the most. When the jealous narcissist person used their flying monkeys to get to you. I have lost my job, apt because of someone's jealousy. I call it jealousy because I don't know nor do they know me. QUOTE: IF YOU DONT LIKE ME AND WATCH EVERYTHING I DO. AAhh , YOU ARE A FAN ....
THIS IS 1000000% my ex girlfriend. She copies my physical appearance, my college choices my careers choices my hobbies. After we broke up she went to all my ex friends or ex partners and smear campaigned me. She then called the college of social workers and my work place snd trying to get me fired/ in trouble. Watching this made me feel SOOO GOOD & VALIDATED. THANK YOU💗
Another aspect of this dynamic: you’ll feel confused all the time. My friend coveted my life from day one, but I didn’t notice until she started imitating every big life decision I made, my university major, my hobbies, everything that made me ME. That changed a bit when I called her out and told her how uncomfortable it made me to share a goal and then have her come back and make it about how she was pursuing the same thing all of a sudden. When we’d interact it would be constantly hot and cold and riddled with passive aggressive, defensive reactions. I felt insanely confused and anxious during conversations because anything I said seemed to trigger a reactive response. She would make everything into a performance and a way to prove how great she was to me. I’m ashamed to admit I fell into it as well and let my own competitive side come out…but I firmly believe she initiated that dynamic first because I have seen her do it with other friends. It included contradicting and trying to argue with me about the smallest things. I felt this tense energy from her even during the most innocent topics of conversation. She was always working an angle to be smarter, wiser and more mature than me. To top it all off, she acted as though she was such a compassionate and selfless person, but let me tell you I have rarely met such a self involved, tactless person. For a period of time a few years back, I don’t think she asked me a SINGLE question, I’d just sit there while she went on about herself and interrupted me when I’d try to get a word in. She behaved in ways that completely went against the claim that she was a compassionate person. It was exhausting to feel so confused about what her actual feelings were.
Thanks again for making this video. I would like to add on that unless you too have been jealous at some point in your life, you won't know the signs or what to look for. I've dealt with my own jealousy at different times when I was younger and it has helped me identify when someone is being jealous. This is specifically manifested with JEALOUS SIBLINGS.
I’m 63, and hearing this makes me so sad,because all my family members and friends have been this way,and that’s why today I have no one …except my husband.
I experienced this with other employees at my jobs but what really annoys me is the fact that I'm not competing with them neither am I showing any real passion or interest in the job so I don't really understand where their jealousy is coming from or why.
I'm sorry Maureen. I've been there. I still see it at times in certain areas of my life. It's unhealthy behavior that is not your problem -- it's theirs. You don't have to compete with them to "create" a competition in their own mind around you. It's borderline psychotic to say the least. Some people create "narratives" around celebrities or other people in the public eye out of jealousy and they have never spoken to them once in their own life. So sad.
My sister in law is so hard to trust. She cut me out for 4 years for dating her brother. She was my best friend and I asked if it was okay. She seemed thrilled. Then she cut me off. I didn't understand why. I wasn't allowed to see my now husband's family for 4 years for holidays or anything at all because of her jealousy. She told people I wasn't good enough and that we were sinning for living together. She told me later that she was jealous but she still displays these signs now. It was a huge betrayal. I still see her because my husband wants to see her and it hurts. It still hurts so badly.
She was giving mean girl energy from the beginning ( I was very excited when I saw her and waved my hands excitedly but she just ignored me and I felt awkward ) but I gave the benefit of the doubt. Every encounter with her was awkward. I feel like she's just purchasing from me to make me feel like I "work for her" not because she likes my products. There were times when I felt like she was sabotaging my small biz. Picked up my fragile product while on a cramped up vehicle and guess what, it got ruined. Now she's suddenly liking things that I like while passive aggressively nitpicking my clothing choices and how I take my photos. They will try so hard to make themselves look superior but they aren't. I wish they would just focus on their own strengths and not covet what others have. Their lives would get better drastically.
I have a cousin who nearly ruined my entire life because of her jealousy, she made up so many non-factual, false stories about me and told them to her parents who were sponsoring me for college. I was very naive and bought into her fake persona. It was the worst thing that happened to me but I have distanced myself from them physically and mentally!
I have gone through this from cousins and it is absolutely bewildering and devastating. I pulled away and then made the mistake of trying to reconnect later in life. Take care of yourself and find good people to surround yourself with. Family dynamics can be toxic sometimes. You’re not alone.
This was a wonderful video. You hit the nail on the head. Must mental health professionals can not address jealously this clearly an adequate. Thank you for going below the surface with this topic.
Amazing I’ve just stumbled across this video - explained what I’ve been going through my whole life - family members/partners/work colleagues. Something is seriously wrong with me that I attract such people? I need to figure out what is wrong with me. Great video, I also feel a sense of relief. 🙏🏻
Glad it was helpful! Thank you!! A lot of people who experience jealousy believes they attract such people- but the reality is that the dynamics of the relationship is the issue. See my other videos on jealousy.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are probably a person full of talents and qualities, you're "too much". That's NOT your problem, but theirs. Be proud of being such a special person and let them wallow in their mediocrity. Love from Italy xx 😘
My own Narc Covert aunt tried to sabotage my career goals, copied my personal appearance, and spread lies about me to my family. To everyone in my family, she is perceived as a "saint". I have also witnessed her pathological lies, controlling our conversations n minimising my problems. She played the vulnerable victim n me as her aggressor.
Thanks for watching! Your situation is not uncommon, sadly. The best thing to do to protect yourself is to stay away. They are like dinomite waiting to explode.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thanks for replying. I've just subscribed. I find your advice very useful in a practical way. Yes, I've gone into No Contact with her and unfortunately with many members of my extended family. I am the survivor of an abusive childhood n recovering from Codependency. She knew about my problems n tried to turn the situation to her advantage. Without people like you, healers, therapists etc I wouldn't have had a clue what happened to me n what to do about these situations. I would've blamed myself n apologised to her. X.
@@sabreena1khalick terrible. You may find this book helpful in explaining what happened to you and giving you further insight: www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents/dp/1626251703. I really like this book. And I talk more about it here: blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2016/03/7-consequences-of-having-an-emotionally-detached-parent/. Thank you for subscribing! Take care
My daughter was getting hit by roommate she was jealous of me so she tried to hurt my child who is autistic when I'm sleep or when I'm downstairs. I trusted this person. I wanted to fight her so bad but I gave the situation to God. But y'all gotta be careful it's some really sick people out here and if they can't hurt you they will try to hurt your kids.
That's when it get real dangerous ... especially if, behind Your back, they've managed to deceive and gain the trust of Your Loved One, or else compelled them to secrecy. This is beyond NPD or BPD. This is straight-up Malicious/Malevolent Psychopathy. If this kind of Monster is lurking about, You've got to act. Excellent Note! I feel Your pain. I really do. 🎼TD
Thankyou for this video im going through these things you are talking about and also they try to get other family and people that know you to hate you and follow them and form somewhat of a cult ,so people watch out and be careful .
Great channel I am so glad I found it. Thank you. I'm 59 yrs. old and 18 months ago I realized my dysfunctional family was actually extremely toxic and narcissistic. It's still unraveling and the damage to me devastating. In this video I see both my parents as well as my sister... informative. Yet I am profoundly sadden😞. Thank you for your help as I feel as my therapists I have had several don't know anything about this type of trauma and continuely gaslight, trigger me and minimalize my experience and on going trauma. My father passed away in March and my brother and I were excluded from the service and all my therapists can say is you need to be on meds??? No other acknowledgment??? Thank you for your validation.
Thank you Karen! Welcome to the channel. And you're welcome! I'm sorry you have to go through this with your therapist. You might want to consider clarifying where they are coming from (if it isn't 100% clear) and then once you receive some clarity or a response from your therapist, consider finding someone who gets it and trying treatment/psychotherapy with them. That can make a world of difference. Medication isn't going to cure the underlying dysfunctional pattern of behaviors. Possibly even inter-generational trauma.
Stay strong , usually when persons belittle another ,it is them who have an inferiority complex and you have nothing to be ashamed of, head up and forward.
You have to find new therapists. I have a great one who would never respond the way yours did. They are not helping you, find another as soon as. Wishing you well and a great future 💜
@@TherapistTamaraHill so there's more to the story as time went on I realized that it was really my mother who was behind my 2-month day at the county psych UCI on their locked unit which was terribly scary she was attending my weekly meetings with my team and they had mixed up my name with another patient different birth same name different birthday different drivers license and it wasn't my current name although I had had the same name before but anyway this guy was a dual diagnosis and was on a bag full of medication and my mother being a psychiatric nurse was aware I had never been on this medication but she allowed them to you know keep me pretty medicated and in Chicago I'm sure she insisted that I was the problem well my dad's house but he was the problem anyhow it's amazing I'm going over my whole life now and realizing or trying to figure out where my mother's influence ended and decisions or things I did or didn't do what all me because I got sick in their house while I was going to school with both in their house and my dad didn't want to deal with it being you know 80 years old and he just kept telling me I whenever I would say something like gosh can't you guys feel it I can't breathing here this is killing me you know some days I weeks I'd be bedridden anyhow he would just tell me to die faster well hurry up and die then or die faster that's why I checked myself in because I really wanted to kill him and I just felt that if I didn't remove myself immediately from that situation one of us is going to get injured because after a year of hearing that every day I just snapped one day but my mom she perpetuated the wrong feeling than their lies and she was aware of it the whole time this program that I'm in is it also a dual diagnosis but I was placed here because of the level of care I needed I lost consciousness after receiving meds one day in the hospital stroke or a angina or something like this there was an interruption in the pattern I guess I had an MRI but the level of care I needed is why I was placed in that program and it's just obvious he's a lazy employees are they just don't even read my file they treat me as not somebody who had just graduated and had all this stuff happened to her but it treat me as if he died just as soon as I leave there and they're ignorant but they have their 15 years and so they're comfortable for now I was advised by the old bugsman office not to leave there until they relocate me because they I did receive housing through them but this place is talk to you as well there's no ventilation no sunlight and bacteria galore so I'm still not but I'm fighting the good fight and I'm learning a lot about myself and my family dynamic and I can almost see when my dad crossed over from being live one of her little flying monkeys to a sort of passive aggressive narcissist himself although she is you know very evil and she went from triangulating her own three kids to triangulating my knee with my three kids it's her insecurity and carelessness for others just knows no bounds for lies you know her hypocrisy no balance I guess I'm kind of fortunate that she was a psychiatric nurse and growing up the way I did I had to learn a lot about people though I never suspected this it hit me like a freight train but I have been able to maneuver my way through situations in life and understand and always see what part I play of course that's part of the narcissist thing but it's been helpful too I'm just trying to find the positives right now I spend so much time being depressed but I just she's not to be on medication right now I want to grieve and I want to feel the losses and just work my way through it as best I can and as much as I am able without any cooperation so somehow I always felt that was okay and I'm kind of trying to work my way back to that attitude I used to have as a child where I would just start speaking in the morning dialect and it was them not me and self protection again thank you and have a wonderful day I do oh and just I do plan on leaving this agency but they're refusing to move me even though they agreed to it so I'm seeking counsel because they're not for sure they're not protecting me which is what they're supposed to do because I have memory issues now and stuff like that they're just you know it's just a failure in the system so unfortunately me and my dog have to pay that price for a little while but it has to turn around it's been it's been down for so long I just keep telling myself I used to tell my kids that when things didn't go their way and then didn't go their way and they didn't go the way well you know now that it hasn't gone away for so long if you going to turn around oh dear thank you thank you people like you that keep me going thank you
Wow, this is spot on... I wished I knew this a couple years ago... I was hexed because of this... Someone actually was trying to kill me due to jealousy and wanting my life... Stupid people...
Ok. I agree. With what you say about neighbors. However nothing was said about family members. Unfortunately many people including me were such victims of jealousy siblings and a parent.
You might find my most recent video more relatable in terms of family. Parents: ruclips.net/video/pDexMsRXTU8/видео.html Family: ruclips.net/video/QfGwHNceLMg/видео.html
Everything you said describes this “friend” I have. Is it normal to be in somewhat denial even though the description perfectly matches their actions/behaviors? This person is literally the only person that I call “friend” that is mentally exhausting for me to be around because of the traits mentioned by you.
These people are so dangerous 😫 sick part when it is your mother and sister. They almost made me lose it all had me locked up but God flashed that light on them had to cut the. Offf and fix my life awful people better be careful 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I am a devout Christian ✝. Jesus ✝ Is Real & so is the devil. This type of behavior is working for the adversary. &, I want u 2 know how much I personally appreciate ur inclusion of the word "evil" in this informative video. I will b praying that God ✝ Bless you & help u in helping others.
I have an alternative way of dealing with them, turn up the heat! Thats right their weakness is jealousy so make them jealous. Don`t avoid them, interact with them. With all the conversations you have with them make sure there is a hidden catch - that being I am better than you. They will react badly to it, you need to reframe its effects on you, work yourself into a place in your mind where you can feed off it to feel great. What will happen after a few weeks is they will disappear fast. Thats right, they will cut you off!
When watching this i was thinking of numerous people almost everyone that has been in my life has behaved this way and if i decide to form relationships which is rare it's still happening
That's a very good question. See my most recent video on parental jealousy. Then check out my video on 12 ways to cope with uncaring parents. Hopefully you find some answers there.
I get told someone is jealous of me as there is no need for them to dislike me but they do. doesn't look at me or talk but is very loud with everyone else
Hi Tamara, Enza from Italy here! :) When you say that someone is holding back and give you just crumbs or someone seems checkered and give you... crumbs (crumbs again ;), why would they do that?? I can't see the connection between them being jealous of you and the holding back/crumbs thing? Both my brother and 2 friends of mine are like that and I I find it really frustrating even though I'm learning not to be hurt by it anymore. Can you explain? Thank you! Ciao xx
I have a cousin like this. More successful than me and older than me. But, in my family I am their scapegoat. I’m the weird one. I am introverted when it comes to phone calls and so I text but I rarely ever call people just to talk. I never saw my cousin calling me, and when she did I was either busy or sleeping. She convinced herself and the whole family that I disliked her and I never wanted to talk. She’s jealous of my body on account I have a more curvy figure and she points out my body every time we interact. My cousin is a shorter, more petite woman (which is nothing wrong she should love her body!). She tries every step of the way to convince everyone that I am a “mean girl”, “bully”, “bitch”, etc. She calls me a bitch and tries taunting me. I don’t feed into her narratives and just ignore her. She has been doing this while I was an preteen/teenager and she was an adult around 12 years older than me. Update: I just had remembered the same cousin had told me I shouldn’t be a godmother because she felt I wouldn’t be able to provide for my godson. She also insinuated that she would be a better fit than me even though my godson barely knows her or bonds with her as I do
I'm sorry Kaiii. :( It's a sad reality that family can be jealous of each other and compete or condemn out of envy. It's disappointing and I'm sorry you had to experience this kind of immaturity in your family.
The coveting is a big one it's like a one-sided competition that you did not sign up for or even care about. It's like they're competing for the Olympic gold medal in their mind when it comes to their target. I noticed this with female relatives alot. I had a a sister who would literally mirror me and I mean down to the jobs I had or school programs she would do it right after me which was fine if I inspired her to do it. But the problem was she would make little comments like if she lasted at the job longer than I did she would make that a point. I wouldn't even care because obviously it's not meant for me to be there and on top of that I can qualify for much better jobs I'm always moving forward and upward. Because in her mind if if she lasts at a job that I used to be at longer than that would make her better or winning or something like that. The mirroring goes even more deeper such as style choices, of vernacular, talking points being hijacked or in front of people but she would disagree with my talking points in private. They act like defiant teenagers when it comes to people that they are jealous of. Same thing with other s****** relatives they will always try to project the mirroring on to me as if I'm doing it and they know damn well it's not true. They would not give me any credit for inspiring them or would not admit to mirroring me. If you give them any advice just like I did to this female relative they will undermine you like you said in the video really because they don't like you/respect you. They may even know deep down inside your vices right but they're jealousy and envy won't allow them to properly digest what you're saying. If you ever help a jealous person in a gym they're not going to give you any credit they're going to give credit to themselves or anybody else they will even make up lies in the story just so they can take you out of the equation like you didn't do anything. They will make snorky comments which will make you believe that they really do be clocking you and studying you mentioning things that you didn't even notice or care about. If you have the most social media they will mock yet mirror the way that you post (vernacular, jokes, memes pics, any interests, hobbies, you share) even down to the pictures that you take, to make themselves look interesting even tho they dragged you for it prior. If your spiritual then they want to be spiritual but they won't do the work they'll just cut corners so they can look like they're doing something on the outside but everything that they do has something to do with competing with you. I like to think that it would spark you to go on your own journey where it's no longer about me and it's about your own Ascension, but for the most part they are always in a one-sided mental competition with you. I hardly go on with any of the women in my family and looking back ever since I was a kid it's always been because of jealousy and envy. And everything to these people, never rubbed anything into their faces even try helping them in hopes of them finding love within themselves thus reducing the jealousy but it still didn't work. They will resent you for it either way. It's best to just keep your distance from now. Because I don't notice the mirroring me but it doesn't really bother me that much to point it out as long as you disrespectful towards me... but because they know they are not The originators they will always try to shade the OG. If you try to show them new things and new ways of living they will reject it but will turn around and do those things and say that they inspired you or if they hang around another group of people who do the same thing that you try to get them to do, they will act like they put them on game if that makes sense. They just never want to give you any credit or recognition even though they are totally inspired by every aspect of you it's very sick. I have female relatives even copy my hair color and don't get me wrong there's nothing wrong with being inspired by someone's style and doing something similar. But this person always makes it a point to say that somebody is jealous of her or mimicking her but I never say anything when she does it to me but I'm just sit there and look at her like she crazy. Now of course if you hang out with someone you might pick up on little things about each other and start doing the same thing but when you try to make it a thing like I'm the one that puts you up on game that's when I have a problem. They will even try to come at your romantic interests too secretly because they also covet the men that you may attract. They may not even be interested in the guy at all but just the fact that you have him or the fact that you are into someone they will force themselves to feel the same way. Or they will try to discourage you from being with that person by making bad character analysis towards them so that they can have a chance with them behind the scenes. I also noticed most of all of that when someone is jealous of you, they will constantly try to provoke you because they are energy vampires and they need to get that energetic feed. When you call them out for their snarky comments, they're always saying that they're playing or just joking believe you me they are not. Cuz remember everything in their mind is it meant a competition between you and them so when you make moves and level up in life, they think you're trying to quote on quote upstage them when you're really just focusing on making your life better. They're in a constant competition so they take your growth as a personal attack.
This is interesting, but question what If the narcissist is bold enough to talk down to in text but if they do it in person, they don’t hold eye contact and look down. Would that be some sort of inferiority complex or?
I would never give away my crown and I didn't know everything I now know. Much was revealed about Yolandae within the last 48 hours. When she was presented via RUclips, I was initially excited because I thought she cared and was a genuine friend and thought she naturally inherited the royal title of Queen such as myself (as it relates to US line of success). I didn't know she was involved with the setup. I received back handed comments from her and her sister, but I decided not to pursue argument because it will get out of hand fast (my aunt watching). There is nothing she can say to mend the friendship, but as with anyone I don't hate her and I moved on. She only want a title from me. Request to submit this statement to the US Supreme Court.
Can you do a video on narcissism. My family almost killed me with jealous. I told them they're jealous. But they all reply "what's there to b jealous of?" I am more attractive. Great body, have an architectural degree, i was a good student. I am very calculative, smart, n everything they're not. The one n only thing i fail at is social life. So they label me a "loser" "retarded" bla bla. My mother was going to friends, family n neighbors saying "she is crazy. She studied too hard, now she's retarded" so everyone thinks i am crazy. While um living alone in apartment, working eating. I don't know how crazy retarded person is able to do that tho 🤣😂. My mother is EVIL to me. Plz tell me why that is? Jealousy might b the root of it. But she destroyed my life, n i don't know why someone would ruin their own daughter's life 🤔 honestly. It's not logical.
Of all the totally ridiculous things to get jealous of was my cat flap by my upstairs neighbour. Like wtf, my cat flap was what I bought and PAID FOR OUT OF MY OWN MONEY. Totally pathetic, I laugh about it now, but was one of many bigger issues with my bullying neighbour. It's a real shame I use to invite neighbours in my home for tea and chat. Sadly I have had to stop, I'm polite and say hello but no longer do I get myself involved it saves all the stress and heartache from people who just want to take all the time. Regarding with people with eupd and special needs THEY are more likely to be abused to be and taken advantage of by other people. I know my care co ordinator had to put a protection order on me as part of my recovery and because I am a vulnerable adult in law! It was part of the care plan and safeguarding and not up for debate or justification as to "why" from non qualified or untrained people.
That is ridiculous...I must agree! Sometimes it doesn't take much for someone prone to jealousy to become envious of something we would never think of. This really tells you a lot about the person's mind, their self-esteem, and their emotional needs. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
The made me think of my ex’s crazy ex freaking nanny. What psycho she was. Every time we posted pics of us out and about. She would contact my then boyfriend and fill his head with all of this crazy stuff regarding his children and ex wife. He stupidly believed every word that came out of her mouth. Thinking his kids were in harms way or being neglected in some fashion. The last day of my very first vacation ever which he took me on for my birthday. She messaged him to tell him of a phots his ex posted in social media claiming she looked like she was on drugs. The day after we got back from a romantic weekend in Atlantic City she sent him a photo of his ex wife in a bikini with the caption I’m embarrassed for you and your children 😑. Let me back track the week before she brought up in random conversation about nude photos she stumbled on the kids tablet of his ex wife. Then proceeded I follow that up to with bikini photos. I caught on to her pattern and was acted to post pics of us. He was so fooled by this girl and felt so indebted to her for all of her help during his divorce. He could not see what a manipulator she is. When I first met her day before Christmas Eve I gave her gifts of handmade soaps. I make it from scratch it’s a hobby I really enjoy. It’s time consuming and I made a set for her, her fiancé and mother. She did not look me in the eye when I handed it to her. Nor did she thank me! I had only 2 hours to spend there. I’m a single mother and needed to prepare as well for my child. She held me up and made me 2 hours late! No matter how many times I said I needed to leave. She decided plugging in the easy bake oven and making cakes was more important hen my time. Crazy crazy girl and the reason we are not together. He is literally the weakest minded man I have ever met.
Thank you for your comment Amanda. I apologize for the late reply. Thanks so much for watching. It sounds like his nanny not only was jealous but lacked appropriate boundaries. The relationship is not personal, it's a business relationship and she should have respected his family.
family & close friends are usually the biggest haters.
In some situations, absolutely! Very sad. But true.
Facts💯
Amen!
Apparently. And so misguided. I could be living in Florida in a central ac home.... driving a Mercedes and going for joy rides in a Ferrari on the weekends. Jelous of what? Lmao.....their egos are so overinflated they don't even see me for who l am. How could they? They live inside their own heads. STUPIDITY has taken over folks. I am exhausted from being beaten with their narrow minded narcissistic stick however. I opt out of their insanity. I hereby conclude that money has made them even more idiotic.
Absolutely!!!!!!
A JEALOUS FRIEND IS A DANGEROUS ENEMY
Sadly but true
I agree. It’s exhausting to be around narcissistic rude people
@@deborahgloria3867she's mentally ill because of her my father felt too much pain bitchesy never stop whining and lying 🤥🤡
I was abused by my family for most of my life. My father consistently put me down so that I would not succeed. There was no love and light, no connection, just abuse. When I left them, I found myself not knowing how to connect with others, but I wanted to learn. I was healing from abuse. I am now slowly starting to rebuild my life and noticing that these are people out there that feed off other people's insecurity or goodness to try and keep them from being happy, being connected to others, from shining. There is hatred in their eyes and it is scary how many people have destroyed my from achieving my goals out of bullying and hatred. I am trying to learn skills on how to deal with these evil people. Better late than never.
I just read my life in your comment
I had a friend that was jealous and toxic. Every time I shared something with her she would immediately run out and try to get something bigger and better. It was awful. Now I think she stalks me on Linked. I just ignore her and keep going.
I'm sorry Kim. Those are her issues and not yours. It most likely is best that you move on and also protect your space.
@@TherapistTamaraHillrich men are also secretly feminine energy jealous
From my own female family members I suffered undue character assassination, also vicious intent to destroy my personality while they emulated my personality they were destroying in me . Their alienating me.bers of my social circle while they themselves entered my social circle, their emulating my hair style and clothing style and cosmetic application. My preferences in music and art. This is only the tip of the iceberg.
I'm sorry Sue. This can be traumatic when it comes from family. It just turns your entire world around including your idea of family.
I've had a problem with rental condos and ending up living in the same building as women who were extremely jealous and I moved twice in order not to be subjected to outrageous behavior from these toxic individuals. Its insane. If your pretty, successful, and friendly, watch out. I still have a hard time wrapping my head around the insanity these women were living in.
I had a friend who was jealous of me but at least he admitted it to me and he did get over it. It is the ones who would never admit it that you have to watch out for.
That's an interesting take. I can see the value in being mindful of this. I always tell my adolescent clients that when you hide what you really feel -- and everyone else can see it -- that tells me that you are in denial and therefore, not able to be trusted.
Sometimes they admit it and it still takes over. Happened to me. She told me she would feel envious towards me, but the competition and one upping never stopped. Eventually I got so sick of the jabs that I cut it off.
The secret animosity idiots
I'll tell you one thing. I'm not jealous or envious of you. You are beautiful. Wow!
Thank you Anti Masonic! :)
Appreciate that.
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1. you're disliked for no real reason (4:03)
2. they undermine you in any given opportunity (4:42)
3. they covet what you've got (5:36)
4. their vindictiveness & toxicity is suffocating (6:40)
5. they often fit the description of narcissism (7:13)
6. they are often forceful and impulsive (7:56)
7. they are destructive & sneaky (8:20)
8. they are unauthentic (8:34)
as an empathetic person, i know it's fairly easy to understand a person's history or sob story as to why they are this way BUT sometimes a person is just plain evil. pls stay away from them socially & physically as much as you can
Yes, very well stated.
Truth!!!!
#1 is true, but what they'll usually do is justify it with some perceived slight, or for a manufactured reason. If you are a decent person, you might even search your history with that person and genuinely wonder if you unintentionally said or did something. My solution to this is: If they haven't made it clear why they don't like you, and you can't readily find an obvious reason....then fuck them, ignore them.
The face says it all when it comes to jealousy. Also compliments, I hate compliments even from my family. What makes jealousy so sinister is that they will be so sweet toward you with the fake smile and the kissy kissy thing and at the same time they will be grasping hold of a butches knife ready to plunge it in at the appropriate moment. My husband and I would have a flexible Monday off work and we would watch the B grade midday movies that were on TV. My husband who passed away about nine years ago loved Psychology and I love it too. Anyway we were watching this movie and most of these movies were of male and female stalkers who were full of jealousy or girlfriend or boyfriends who couldn’t move on after the breakup, or divorcées who were jealous of the new wife or husband or jealous friends , coworkers or strangers. My husband would say to me you know what the acting in these movies is bad however there is truth in these stories, people do these hideous things to one another, it is true. In my opinion and by what I have personally experienced growing up with five jealous sisters and two Narcissistic jealous parents that jealousy would have to be the most prominent trait in all of us. I don’t think people realise just how powerful this emotion is and there is nothing good about it, all murders are based on some kind of insecure jealousy. I don’t read my comments when people reply to mine even when my comments are lovely because of jealous people, jealousy is insecurity and if jealousy is not controlled it can have detrimental effects both mentally, emotionally on the victim and can lead to physical harm and murder. If you see the look of jealousy in peoples faces get the hell away from that person and cut all connections with them. Displays of jealousy are dangerous, that means that person has the potential to do anything to you , your family or property. I had to cut my entire family out because of out of control jealousy on their side, the type that will say I love you while plotting your murder. I had a lot of people that were jealous of me when I was a practicing Catholic at a particular parish church, one woman in the church office who is a deranged bunny boiler. Jealousy is the most ugliest look and the most sinister trait.
Tamara, you're right on point. The evil toxic behavior is the one that scares me the most. When the jealous narcissist person used their flying monkeys to get to you. I have lost my job, apt because of someone's jealousy. I call it jealousy because I don't know nor do they know me.
QUOTE: IF YOU DONT LIKE ME AND WATCH EVERYTHING I DO. AAhh , YOU ARE A FAN ....
I had a family member that I had to CUT OFF COMPLETELY. Everything you said in this video describes HER to a "t". You never disappoint, thank you!
🤗Thank you!
And I don't blame you. You have to save your sanity first.
THIS IS 1000000% my ex girlfriend. She copies my physical appearance, my college choices my careers choices my hobbies. After we broke up she went to all my ex friends or ex partners and smear campaigned me. She then called the college of social workers and my work place snd trying to get me fired/ in trouble. Watching this made me feel SOOO GOOD & VALIDATED. THANK YOU💗
Whether it's family or so-called friends. PUT Space between you and them!! This is an excellent presentation.
Thank you! Agree. Put distance between you. It saves you a lot of heartache.
" AND THY COUNSELLORS AS AT THE BEGINNING " ( ISAIAH 1:26 )
THANKS!
Thank you!!
Another aspect of this dynamic: you’ll feel confused all the time. My friend coveted my life from day one, but I didn’t notice until she started imitating every big life decision I made, my university major, my hobbies, everything that made me ME. That changed a bit when I called her out and told her how uncomfortable it made me to share a goal and then have her come back and make it about how she was pursuing the same thing all of a sudden. When we’d interact it would be constantly hot and cold and riddled with passive aggressive, defensive reactions. I felt insanely confused and anxious during conversations because anything I said seemed to trigger a reactive response. She would make everything into a performance and a way to prove how great she was to me. I’m ashamed to admit I fell into it as well and let my own competitive side come out…but I firmly believe she initiated that dynamic first because I have seen her do it with other friends. It included contradicting and trying to argue with me about the smallest things. I felt this tense energy from her even during the most innocent topics of conversation. She was always working an angle to be smarter, wiser and more mature than me. To top it all off, she acted as though she was such a compassionate and selfless person, but let me tell you I have rarely met such a self involved, tactless person. For a period of time a few years back, I don’t think she asked me a SINGLE question, I’d just sit there while she went on about herself and interrupted me when I’d try to get a word in. She behaved in ways that completely went against the claim that she was a compassionate person. It was exhausting to feel so confused about what her actual feelings were.
Thanks again for making this video. I would like to add on that unless you too have been jealous at some point in your life, you won't know the signs or what to look for. I've dealt with my own jealousy at different times when I was younger and it has helped me identify when someone is being jealous. This is specifically manifested with JEALOUS SIBLINGS.
I’m 63, and hearing this makes me so sad,because all my family members and friends have been this way,and that’s why today I have no one …except my husband.
I experienced this with other employees at my jobs but what really annoys me is the fact that I'm not competing with them neither am I showing any real passion or interest in the job so I don't really understand where their jealousy is coming from or why.
I'm sorry Maureen. I've been there. I still see it at times in certain areas of my life. It's unhealthy behavior that is not your problem -- it's theirs. You don't have to compete with them to "create" a competition in their own mind around you. It's borderline psychotic to say the least. Some people create "narratives" around celebrities or other people in the public eye out of jealousy and they have never spoken to them once in their own life. So sad.
It’s competition
And when that jealous person is your own mother… 😔
Very true. You may like to watch this video here: ruclips.net/video/pDexMsRXTU8/видео.html
Hahahaha
I dont let neighbours into my home..i always think its dangerous for neighbours to know how your home is truly set up...we talk across garden fence
Thank you for helping me to understand why I'm being treated this way.
My sister in law is so hard to trust. She cut me out for 4 years for dating her brother. She was my best friend and I asked if it was okay. She seemed thrilled. Then she cut me off. I didn't understand why. I wasn't allowed to see my now husband's family for 4 years for holidays or anything at all because of her jealousy. She told people I wasn't good enough and that we were sinning for living together. She told me later that she was jealous but she still displays these signs now. It was a huge betrayal. I still see her because my husband wants to see her and it hurts. It still hurts so badly.
Támara, thank you again. I have Cluster B family members, and they seem to hate happiness, period.
She was giving mean girl energy from the beginning ( I was very excited when I saw her and waved my hands excitedly but she just ignored me and I felt awkward ) but I gave the benefit of the doubt. Every encounter with her was awkward. I feel like she's just purchasing from me to make me feel like I "work for her" not because she likes my products. There were times when I felt like she was sabotaging my small biz. Picked up my fragile product while on a cramped up vehicle and guess what, it got ruined. Now she's suddenly liking things that I like while passive aggressively nitpicking my clothing choices and how I take my photos. They will try so hard to make themselves look superior but they aren't. I wish they would just focus on their own strengths and not covet what others have. Their lives would get better drastically.
I have a cousin who nearly ruined my entire life because of her jealousy, she made up so many non-factual, false stories about me and told them to her parents who were sponsoring me for college. I was very naive and bought into her fake persona.
It was the worst thing that happened to me but I have distanced myself from them physically and mentally!
Good for u, it is the worst when it’s ur own family trust me I know all too well
@@geturlife1694 It hurt me more than anything in the world, when they say “family is everything” it’s not the case for everyone…
You are beautiful
@@sonneyputh6503 Facts Queen
I have gone through this from cousins and it is absolutely bewildering and devastating. I pulled away and then made the mistake of trying to reconnect later in life. Take care of yourself and find good people to surround yourself with. Family dynamics can be toxic sometimes. You’re not alone.
This was a wonderful video. You hit the nail on the head. Must mental health professionals can not address jealously this clearly an adequate. Thank you for going below the surface with this topic.
💖thank you! Glad this was helpful
Amazing I’ve just stumbled across this video - explained what I’ve been going through my whole life - family members/partners/work colleagues. Something is seriously wrong with me that I attract such people? I need to figure out what is wrong with me. Great video, I also feel a sense of relief. 🙏🏻
Glad it was helpful! Thank you!!
A lot of people who experience jealousy believes they attract such people- but the reality is that the dynamics of the relationship is the issue. See my other videos on jealousy.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are probably a person full of talents and qualities, you're "too much". That's NOT your problem, but theirs. Be proud of being such a special person and let them wallow in their mediocrity. Love from Italy xx 😘
@@galawhites5499 thank you for your lovely wishes today, however, since that post, I’ve become homeless 🥹 there truly is something wrong with me. 🤷♀
This is HUGE!!! Thank You!
🎼TD, Boston
You're welcome!
💯 Accurate, I see a lot of this at work...
My own Narc Covert aunt tried to sabotage my career goals, copied my personal appearance, and spread lies about me to my family. To everyone in my family, she is perceived as a "saint". I have also witnessed her pathological lies, controlling our conversations n minimising my problems. She played the vulnerable victim n me as her aggressor.
Thanks for watching!
Your situation is not uncommon, sadly. The best thing to do to protect yourself is to stay away. They are like dinomite waiting to explode.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thanks for replying. I've just subscribed. I find your advice very useful in a practical way. Yes, I've gone into No Contact with her and unfortunately with many members of my extended family. I am the survivor of an abusive childhood n recovering from Codependency. She knew about my problems n tried to turn the situation to her advantage. Without people like you, healers, therapists etc I wouldn't have had a clue what happened to me n what to do about these situations. I would've blamed myself n apologised to her. X.
@@sabreena1khalick terrible. You may find this book helpful in explaining what happened to you and giving you further insight: www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents/dp/1626251703. I really like this book.
And I talk more about it here: blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2016/03/7-consequences-of-having-an-emotionally-detached-parent/.
Thank you for subscribing!
Take care
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you. I will definitely check the links out. X. :-D
My daughter was getting hit by roommate she was jealous of me so she tried to hurt my child who is autistic when I'm sleep or when I'm downstairs. I trusted this person. I wanted to fight her so bad but I gave the situation to God. But y'all gotta be careful it's some really sick people out here and if they can't hurt you they will try to hurt your kids.
That's when it get real dangerous ... especially if, behind Your back, they've managed to deceive and gain the trust of Your Loved One, or else compelled them to secrecy.
This is beyond NPD or BPD. This is straight-up Malicious/Malevolent Psychopathy. If this kind of Monster is lurking about, You've got to act.
Excellent Note! I feel Your pain. I really do.
🎼TD
noted doctor
Wow! Your amazing. Thank you so much for sharing this information. 😊
You're welcome!! And thank you. 😊
love it.ill keep watching and getting my therapy fix ,thx.
Thank you!! Glad this is helpful.
I actually had attempts on my life due to insane jealousy
Hi Sue. I believe that. It's horrible when people go this far.
Thankyou for this video im going through these things you are talking about and also they try to get other family and people that know you to hate you and follow them and form somewhat of a cult ,so people watch out and be careful .
Yes!!!! Been dealing with this all my life. Idk why! I am not rich
I totally understand. Sometimes it's for the simple fact that you are smart, kind, loving, intelligent, etc.
That’s my next door neighbor toxic against me because of my car
Sounds like a few people that I know. Unhappy people. So sad. Poor things!
Great channel I am so glad I found it. Thank you. I'm 59 yrs. old and 18 months ago I realized my dysfunctional family was actually extremely toxic and narcissistic. It's still unraveling and the damage to me devastating. In this video I see both my parents as well as my sister... informative.
Yet I am profoundly sadden😞. Thank you for your help as I feel as my therapists I have had several don't know anything about this type of trauma and continuely gaslight, trigger me and minimalize my experience and on going trauma. My father passed away in March and my brother and I were excluded from the service and all my therapists can say is you need to be on meds??? No other acknowledgment???
Thank you for your validation.
Thank you Karen! Welcome to the channel. And you're welcome!
I'm sorry you have to go through this with your therapist. You might want to consider clarifying where they are coming from (if it isn't 100% clear) and then once you receive some clarity or a response from your therapist, consider finding someone who gets it and trying treatment/psychotherapy with them. That can make a world of difference. Medication isn't going to cure the underlying dysfunctional pattern of behaviors. Possibly even inter-generational trauma.
Stay strong , usually when persons belittle another ,it is them who have an inferiority complex and you have nothing to be ashamed of, head up and forward.
You have to find new therapists. I have a great one who would never respond the way yours did.
They are not helping you, find another as soon as. Wishing you well and a great future 💜
@@TherapistTamaraHill so there's more to the story as time went on I realized that it was really my mother who was behind my 2-month day at the county psych UCI on their locked unit which was terribly scary she was attending my weekly meetings with my team and they had mixed up my name with another patient different birth same name different birthday different drivers license and it wasn't my current name although I had had the same name before but anyway this guy was a dual diagnosis and was on a bag full of medication and my mother being a psychiatric nurse was aware I had never been on this medication but she allowed them to you know keep me pretty medicated and in Chicago I'm sure she insisted that I was the problem well my dad's house but he was the problem anyhow it's amazing I'm going over my whole life now and realizing or trying to figure out where my mother's influence ended and decisions or things I did or didn't do what all me because I got sick in their house while I was going to school with both in their house and my dad didn't want to deal with it being you know 80 years old and he just kept telling me I whenever I would say something like gosh can't you guys feel it I can't breathing here this is killing me you know some days I weeks I'd be bedridden anyhow he would just tell me to die faster well hurry up and die then or die faster that's why I checked myself in because I really wanted to kill him and I just felt that if I didn't remove myself immediately from that situation one of us is going to get injured because after a year of hearing that every day I just snapped one day but my mom she perpetuated the wrong feeling than their lies and she was aware of it the whole time this program that I'm in is it also a dual diagnosis but I was placed here because of the level of care I needed I lost consciousness after receiving meds one day in the hospital stroke or a angina or something like this there was an interruption in the pattern I guess I had an MRI but the level of care I needed is why I was placed in that program and it's just obvious he's a lazy employees are they just don't even read my file they treat me as not somebody who had just graduated and had all this stuff happened to her but it treat me as if he died just as soon as I leave there and they're ignorant but they have their 15 years and so they're comfortable for now I was advised by the old bugsman office not to leave there until they relocate me because they I did receive housing through them but this place is talk to you as well there's no ventilation no sunlight and bacteria galore so I'm still not but I'm fighting the good fight and I'm learning a lot about myself and my family dynamic and I can almost see when my dad crossed over from being live one of her little flying monkeys to a sort of passive aggressive narcissist himself although she is you know very evil and she went from triangulating her own three kids to triangulating my knee with my three kids it's her insecurity and carelessness for others just knows no bounds for lies you know her hypocrisy no balance I guess I'm kind of fortunate that she was a psychiatric nurse and growing up the way I did I had to learn a lot about people though I never suspected this it hit me like a freight train but I have been able to maneuver my way through situations in life and understand and always see what part I play of course that's part of the narcissist thing but it's been helpful too I'm just trying to find the positives right now I spend so much time being depressed but I just she's not to be on medication right now I want to grieve and I want to feel the losses and just work my way through it as best I can and as much as I am able without any cooperation so somehow I always felt that was okay and I'm kind of trying to work my way back to that attitude I used to have as a child where I would just start speaking in the morning dialect and it was them not me and self protection again thank you and have a wonderful day I do oh and just I do plan on leaving this agency but they're refusing to move me even though they agreed to it so I'm seeking counsel because they're not for sure they're not protecting me which is what they're supposed to do because I have memory issues now and stuff like that they're just you know it's just a failure in the system so unfortunately me and my dog have to pay that price for a little while but it has to turn around it's been it's been down for so long I just keep telling myself I used to tell my kids that when things didn't go their way and then didn't go their way and they didn't go the way well you know now that it hasn't gone away for so long if you going to turn around oh dear thank you thank you people like you that keep me going thank you
@@3rdworldsnake509 THANK YOU FOR YOUR encouraging words...it really helps when you feel so isolated thank you 🙏Nameste
I know so many people like this....
Thank you Tamara.
You are welcome!
Incredible and spot on. Thank you.
You're welcome! And thank you!
Wow, this is spot on... I wished I knew this a couple years ago... I was hexed because of this... Someone actually was trying to kill me due to jealousy and wanting my life... Stupid people...
Ok. I agree. With what you say about neighbors. However nothing was said about family members. Unfortunately many people including me were such victims of jealousy siblings and a parent.
You might find my most recent video more relatable in terms of family.
Parents: ruclips.net/video/pDexMsRXTU8/видео.html
Family: ruclips.net/video/QfGwHNceLMg/видео.html
Everything you said describes this “friend” I have. Is it normal to be in somewhat denial even though the description perfectly matches their actions/behaviors? This person is literally the only person that I call “friend” that is mentally exhausting for me to be around because of the traits mentioned by you.
@oni Tuu well said!
Someone once said to Me, "You know you are almost pretty. It's a pity you are not pretty because you have nothing else going for you"
Oh my God...🙄🤪😳
LMAOOOOOO what
WOW!!!😳😶😶😶
This was very helpful I recently had to let go a friend and he's everything u describe in this video and thank u
You're welcome!
That's so sad. I've been there in the past. You would think the relationship would mean more to the person than their jealousy.
Brilliant input. Thank you.
You're welcome! And thank you.
You're the first person who talks about this topic. This is the true virus of our era. Turns people into really shitty human beings.
I agree this is a "virus." So sad. Disappointing too! We need more discussion around this topic.
These people are so dangerous 😫 sick part when it is your mother and sister. They almost made me lose it all had me locked up but God flashed that light on them had to cut the. Offf and fix my life awful people better be careful 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I HAVE FEMALE NEIGHBORS THAT ARE DOING ALL KINDS OF EVIL STUFF TO ME, TO THE POINT THAT I'M READY TO GET A RESTRAINING ORDER.😒😏😑😐🤨🙄
I am a devout Christian ✝. Jesus ✝ Is Real & so is the devil. This type of behavior is working for the adversary. &, I want u 2 know how much I personally appreciate ur inclusion of the word "evil" in this informative video. I will b praying that God ✝ Bless you & help u in helping others.
Amen @yeah sure! Thank you. 💖 I think we all need to acknowledge that Psychology doesn't explain everything and all point of view.
@@TherapistTamaraHill I prayed 4 u. God Bless ✝
@@yeahsure9035 thank you💖 same for you.
This is the best video ever !! Thank you
You're welcome! Thank you!!
Great video! These type of ppl are everywhere. New subscriber :)
Welcome!! And yes, they are. sadly.
Well done. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful! You're welcome!!
I have an alternative way of dealing with them, turn up the heat!
Thats right their weakness is jealousy so make them jealous. Don`t avoid them, interact with them. With all the conversations you have with them make sure there is a hidden catch - that being I am better than you.
They will react badly to it, you need to reframe its effects on you, work yourself into a place in your mind where you can feed off it to feel great. What will happen after a few weeks is they will disappear fast. Thats right, they will cut you off!
So true my sister
Thank You! TH
You're welcome!
When watching this i was thinking of numerous people almost everyone that has been in my life has behaved this way and if i decide to form relationships which is rare it's still happening
what if its a mom doing these things to her own daughter, how does she deal with that ??
That's a very good question. See my most recent video on parental jealousy. Then check out my video on 12 ways to cope with uncaring parents. Hopefully you find some answers there.
Thank you Tamara, I'm definitely going to check those videos out. Can't wait. Thank You so much
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank You so much , about to watch..
You're welcome!
Welcome 😁
Thank you
You're welcome
I get told someone is jealous of me as there is no need for them to dislike me but they do. doesn't look at me or talk but is very loud with everyone else
Thank you for the information , See you on Friday,For your next video God bless.😐
Thank you. Same to you!
Hi Tamara, Enza from Italy here! :) When you say that someone is holding back and give you just crumbs or someone seems checkered and give you... crumbs (crumbs again ;), why would they do that?? I can't see the connection between them being jealous of you and the holding back/crumbs thing? Both my brother and 2 friends of mine are like that and I I find it really frustrating even though I'm learning not to be hurt by it anymore. Can you explain? Thank you! Ciao xx
Thank yooouuuu💗💗💗💗💗
You're welcome 😊
Amazing ❤❤❤❤❤💯 great presentation. Thanks for sharing ❤
Thank you!! Glad this was helpful. 😊
Going through your social media accounts taking down your account taking credit for your work trying to poison you and copying everything you do
Is that a problem?
Wow great video's
Thanks for inspiring the world
Thank you!!
And you're welcome!
Thanks for the helpful content!
You're welcome!! Thanks for watching.
I have a cousin like this. More successful than me and older than me. But, in my family I am their scapegoat. I’m the weird one. I am introverted when it comes to phone calls and so I text but I rarely ever call people just to talk. I never saw my cousin calling me, and when she did I was either busy or sleeping. She convinced herself and the whole family that I disliked her and I never wanted to talk. She’s jealous of my body on account I have a more curvy figure and she points out my body every time we interact. My cousin is a shorter, more petite woman (which is nothing wrong she should love her body!). She tries every step of the way to convince everyone that I am a “mean girl”, “bully”, “bitch”, etc. She calls me a bitch and tries taunting me. I don’t feed into her narratives and just ignore her. She has been doing this while I was an preteen/teenager and she was an adult around 12 years older than me.
Update: I just had remembered the same cousin had told me I shouldn’t be a godmother because she felt I wouldn’t be able to provide for my godson. She also insinuated that she would be a better fit than me even though my godson barely knows her or bonds with her as I do
I'm sorry Kaiii. :(
It's a sad reality that family can be jealous of each other and compete or condemn out of envy. It's disappointing and I'm sorry you had to experience this kind of immaturity in your family.
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Sounds like spiritual warfare.
I agree with this fully
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Glasgow ,Scotland and I can confirm to the planet, jealousy is alive and rife in this parochial wee/ little country.
5:18 This is just plain despicable behavior.
Agree.
Too accurate
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just learned that my ex was envious of me from this video
The coveting is a big one it's like a one-sided competition that you did not sign up for or even care about. It's like they're competing for the Olympic gold medal in their mind when it comes to their target. I noticed this with female relatives alot. I had a a sister who would literally mirror me and I mean down to the jobs I had or school programs she would do it right after me which was fine if I inspired her to do it. But the problem was she would make little comments like if she lasted at the job longer than I did she would make that a point. I wouldn't even care because obviously it's not meant for me to be there and on top of that I can qualify for much better jobs I'm always moving forward and upward. Because in her mind if if she lasts at a job that I used to be at longer than that would make her better or winning or something like that. The mirroring goes even more deeper such as style choices, of vernacular, talking points being hijacked or in front of people but she would disagree with my talking points in private. They act like defiant teenagers when it comes to people that they are jealous of. Same thing with other s****** relatives they will always try to project the mirroring on to me as if I'm doing it and they know damn well it's not true. They would not give me any credit for inspiring them or would not admit to mirroring me. If you give them any advice just like I did to this female relative they will undermine you like you said in the video really because they don't like you/respect you. They may even know deep down inside your vices right but they're jealousy and envy won't allow them to properly digest what you're saying. If you ever help a jealous person in a gym they're not going to give you any credit they're going to give credit to themselves or anybody else they will even make up lies in the story just so they can take you out of the equation like you didn't do anything. They will make snorky comments which will make you believe that they really do be clocking you and studying you mentioning things that you didn't even notice or care about. If you have the most social media they will mock yet mirror the way that you post (vernacular, jokes, memes pics, any interests, hobbies, you share) even down to the pictures that you take, to make themselves look interesting even tho they dragged you for it prior. If your spiritual then they want to be spiritual but they won't do the work they'll just cut corners so they can look like they're doing something on the outside but everything that they do has something to do with competing with you. I like to think that it would spark you to go on your own journey where it's no longer about me and it's about your own Ascension, but for the most part they are always in a one-sided mental competition with you. I hardly go on with any of the women in my family and looking back ever since I was a kid it's always been because of jealousy and envy. And everything to these people, never rubbed anything into their faces even try helping them in hopes of them finding love within themselves thus reducing the jealousy but it still didn't work. They will resent you for it either way. It's best to just keep your distance from now. Because I don't notice the mirroring me but it doesn't really bother me that much to point it out as long as you disrespectful towards me... but because they know they are not The originators they will always try to shade the OG. If you try to show them new things and new ways of living they will reject it but will turn around and do those things and say that they inspired you or if they hang around another group of people who do the same thing that you try to get them to do, they will act like they put them on game if that makes sense. They just never want to give you any credit or recognition even though they are totally inspired by every aspect of you it's very sick. I have female relatives even copy my hair color and don't get me wrong there's nothing wrong with being inspired by someone's style and doing something similar. But this person always makes it a point to say that somebody is jealous of her or mimicking her but I never say anything when she does it to me but I'm just sit there and look at her like she crazy. Now of course if you hang out with someone you might pick up on little things about each other and start doing the same thing but when you try to make it a thing like I'm the one that puts you up on game that's when I have a problem. They will even try to come at your romantic interests too secretly because they also covet the men that you may attract. They may not even be interested in the guy at all but just the fact that you have him or the fact that you are into someone they will force themselves to feel the same way. Or they will try to discourage you from being with that person by making bad character analysis towards them so that they can have a chance with them behind the scenes. I also noticed most of all of that when someone is jealous of you, they will constantly try to provoke you because they are energy vampires and they need to get that energetic feed. When you call them out for their snarky comments, they're always saying that they're playing or just joking believe you me they are not. Cuz remember everything in their mind is it meant a competition between you and them so when you make moves and level up in life, they think you're trying to quote on quote upstage them when you're really just focusing on making your life better. They're in a constant competition so they take your growth as a personal attack.
This was a very good comment and glad I read it the whole way. I totally relate to this shit. Very well explained
Wow i know quite a few people like this thanks for the headsup!!!
You're welcome! Me too.
This is interesting, but question what If the narcissist is bold enough to talk down to in text but if they do it in person, they don’t hold eye contact and look down. Would that be some sort of inferiority complex or?
Boom you said it … outward display of hatred
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I would never give away my crown and I didn't know everything I now know. Much was revealed about Yolandae within the last 48 hours. When she was presented via RUclips, I was initially excited because I thought she cared and was a genuine friend and thought she naturally inherited the royal title of Queen such as myself (as it relates to US line of success). I didn't know she was involved with the setup. I received back handed comments from her and her sister, but I decided not to pursue argument because it will get out of hand fast (my aunt watching). There is nothing she can say to mend the friendship, but as with anyone I don't hate her and I moved on. She only want a title from me. Request to submit this statement to the US Supreme Court.
Hmmm amen
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Can you do a video on narcissism. My family almost killed me with jealous. I told them they're jealous. But they all reply "what's there to b jealous of?"
I am more attractive. Great body, have an architectural degree, i was a good student. I am very calculative, smart, n everything they're not. The one n only thing i fail at is social life. So they label me a "loser" "retarded" bla bla. My mother was going to friends, family n neighbors saying "she is crazy. She studied too hard, now she's retarded" so everyone thinks i am crazy. While um living alone in apartment, working eating. I don't know how crazy retarded person is able to do that tho 🤣😂.
My mother is EVIL to me. Plz tell me why that is? Jealousy might b the root of it. But she destroyed my life, n i don't know why someone would ruin their own daughter's life 🤔 honestly. It's not logical.
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Of all the totally ridiculous things to get jealous of was my cat flap by my upstairs neighbour. Like wtf, my cat flap was what I bought and PAID FOR OUT OF MY OWN MONEY. Totally pathetic, I laugh about it now, but was one of many bigger issues with my bullying neighbour. It's a real shame I use to invite neighbours in my home for tea and chat. Sadly I have had to stop, I'm polite and say hello but no longer do I get myself involved it saves all the stress and heartache from people who just want to take all the time. Regarding with people with eupd and special needs THEY are more likely to be abused to be and taken advantage of by other people. I know my care co ordinator had to put a protection order on me as part of my recovery and because I am a vulnerable adult in law! It was part of the care plan and safeguarding and not up for debate or justification as to "why" from non qualified or untrained people.
That is ridiculous...I must agree! Sometimes it doesn't take much for someone prone to jealousy to become envious of something we would never think of. This really tells you a lot about the person's mind, their self-esteem, and their emotional needs. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Micro-Aggression & Hostility.
Yes! Absolutely.
Oh man lemme tell ya my nursing home is so annoying
@@LifeAboutToya oh man I don’t know how you guys do it! 🤦🏾♀️
It’s obvious now.
OMGGGG THAT'S MY NEIGHBOR GETTING A RESTRAINING ODER😮
THOSE FEMALE NEIGHBORS ARE LIVING NEXT DOOR TO ME! 😐🤨😒
Imagine having constant jealous boyfriends and not of other men but of you as a woman 😅
Neighbors r the worse haters.
They certainly can be.
The made me think of my ex’s crazy ex freaking nanny. What psycho she was. Every time we posted pics of us out and about. She would contact my then boyfriend and fill his head with all of this crazy stuff regarding his children and ex wife. He stupidly believed every word that came out of her mouth. Thinking his kids were in harms way or being neglected in some fashion. The last day of my very first vacation ever which he took me on for my birthday. She messaged him to tell him of a phots his ex posted in social media claiming she looked like she was on drugs. The day after we got back from a romantic weekend in Atlantic City she sent him a photo of his ex wife in a bikini with the caption I’m embarrassed for you and your children 😑. Let me back track the week before she brought up in random conversation about nude photos she stumbled on the kids tablet of his ex wife. Then proceeded I follow that up to with bikini photos. I caught on to her pattern and was acted to post pics of us. He was so fooled by this girl and felt so indebted to her for all of her help during his divorce. He could not see what a manipulator she is. When I first met her day before Christmas Eve I gave her gifts of handmade soaps. I make it from scratch it’s a hobby I really enjoy. It’s time consuming and I made a set for her, her fiancé and mother. She did not look me in the eye when I handed it to her. Nor did she thank me! I had only 2 hours to spend there. I’m a single mother and needed to prepare as well for my child. She held me up and made me 2 hours late! No matter how many times I said I needed to leave. She decided plugging in the easy bake oven and making cakes was more important hen my time. Crazy crazy girl and the reason we are not together. He is literally the weakest minded man I have ever met.
Thank you for your comment Amanda.
I apologize for the late reply. Thanks so much for watching.
It sounds like his nanny not only was jealous but lacked appropriate boundaries. The relationship is not personal, it's a business relationship and she should have respected his family.
Sounds like my mom frrr