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Right now i have a stalker like this. The police has told him to stay stay from my home area (they didnt say my name though). But hes doing it in other areas now but i dont have proof this time. Any suggestions?
I literally just went to the police today to report my stalker and he's definitely this kind of stalker! He found me on a dating app (my instagram was in my Bumble bio) and we'd never even matched. But he followed me on Instagram, added me on Facebook, guessed my snapchat and contacted me there, managed to find out my phone number.... etc..... and has been stalking me for more than a year now. Last summer he was in front of my apt building one night for an hour, trying to call me. He left several voice messages. And he just contacted me again earlier this week for the first time since the fall. He told me that he thought enough time had passed and he acknowledged that what he did was wrong and that I should give him another chance because of that. I was hoping time would make him forget about me but nah....... It's a fucking nightmare :)
Sorry to hear this I tend to attract stalkers too I wonder if you're an empath or a codependent because I think there's something about people that are loving and kind like these people are attracted like a magnet or something
Yes. I had a stalker in 9th grade. Again in 12th grade, the guy started following me basically the whole year. I would say we were acquaintances. He definitely did try to be a part of my life. He tried to tell me who to talk to and what to wear and we weren’t even dating. He did want to date me. The first thing he ever told me was that we met in kindergarten which I guess was cute but I never thought of it until he mentioned it to me. So that’s probably where he thought there was a connection with me. He did think I was attractive. The stalking consisted of him following me, adjusting his path to follow me more. Waiting for me outside the restroom. When I would try to go a different direction he would follow me. When I would stop he would also stop. Like almost mimicking me. Wait for me outside the doorway. Sometimes I would parallel and I would see him going behind me. It was so creepy. When other guy tried to ask me out he would have these big reactions and kick them out the class. He would look at me angrily whenever I was cozying up to other guys. Throwing dagger with his eyes. I did not like him. It was a horrible experience.
Yup. And he's an ex-cop (school police). This makes it more concerning. I have blocked him from all my social media and phone, but he is still leaving voice mails. I think my next video will be on stalkers; I know he will watch it....wonder if anything will click in his mind after watching....hope so.
I have been stalked by an evil human being since 2017. He was a neighbor and I never knew him personally. This man started stalking me because of my teenage daughter and later became obsessed with me. This video describes perfectly the type of stalker that pursuits me. He has enlisted other people that are like him to keep tabs on first my child then me. This man is a junkie and sells drugs which inspire other scumbags to stalk me. This man lives in a delusion all his own and has his way of keeping the others in engaged in the stalking with his delusions. Some of the "help" have taken on the same delusion.
Hello, i wanted to talk a bit about my experience, not as a victim of stalking, but as a stalker, because i used to check social media (and to a degree still do, but mostly to get a quick look if they give me their social media) to see interests and other things of said person, and use those things to try and spark a conversation if needed. But i feel i fell into this category, and hoipefully i learned to avoid this, but it still good to check these videos just in case. Right now I can recally 2 events, both of them were in college, one was with a person i was attracted to, but i went a bit too far and i scared them, when one of their friends told me that, i immediately backed off and never spoke to her again. And another was when i wanted to meet another person and just check their social media and use those to get topics, they never suspected me, but i do feel bad about it And I wanted to talk about this mostly to learn, and to try and learn those things to avoid them and hopefully have friends/a partner instead of someone i scared off because of my lack of social queues
I am experiencing this right now. I have a woman who will not leave me alone. She on all of my social media accounts and even pulled a death hoax on my family. She is so unhealthy
How to deal with it ? Should she block her on social media ? And if she was a family member or a co-worker what should anyone do in this situation ? Thanks
My friend was approached by a total stranger, that was a year ago, he somehow found out her (old) adress and keeps sending her letters, which are redirected to her new adress. He has created a totally fictional image of her in his mind (about her interests and personality and problems, concerns etc.) and always tries to present himself as some kind of intellectual. She ignored it for almost a year and then told him via letter that she is not interested. He proceded with writing her a letter in which he assumed that she was just so stressed because of covid that he upset her and that he of course is not a stalker... because thats "not his style"...
I dealt with one on an online forum. At first I sort of liked the attention, but it quickly started becoming too much. He liked all my posts and always seemed to respond to every single thing I said. When it got to be too much I blocked him and he ended up going crazy.
it would've been more easier for that person to just deal with private messages instead of doing that, That's very creepy. At the very least that would've gotten him straight to the point if they wanted to talk to you.
Yes I do have a stalker. He won’t speak to me anymore. But he would sit and wait by the cafe I work near by to watch me come to work ! Every single day. And he won’t stop looking at me
I'm sorry. It's so damaging to the unsuspecting victim. It can truly shift your level of security. I encourage you never to give him eye contact or attention. You take the wind out of his sail that way.
@@TherapistTamaraHill oh I dint know that ! I thought looking at him or making him aware of his presence would scare him away. And am not sure why he brings the same woman with him everyday to the same cafe I can tell they are only friends. But his trying to make it look like am just there having coffee
Hi Tamara, I’m a recent subscriber, and been enjoying your videos and how they go into depth about different types of stalking. Can you do a video on male stalking victims. I have a buddy of mine that recently joined the army and is 21 years old , has been dealing with a cyber stalker. the stalker is an acquaintance of his. The stalker was told to lose his number after he was found messaging his mother to get info about him. Since then he keeps messaging him through different accounts on fb messenger snapchat, getting a fake number through text now app, and he is even disguised himself/catfished as a female profile to get his attention. Then apologies multiple times in attempt to restore his friendship. The stalker is 24 and is not fully employed, and is believed to be envious of his friend because he wanted to be in the military as well and has low self esteem. Whats your advice for my friend that is being stalked, since he feels that will not get adequate help or be taken seriously die to this situation of male stalking to be rare and isolated. What kind of stalker is this and what do you think his mental state is the stalker? I appreciate your advice. Thanks
Update as of September of 2022, he is still being stalked and the victim is now Married and is now stalking his new army wife and is sending her x rated genital pics of himself to his new wife.
So you think it's a closeted guy that's trying to pretend to be a woman and your friend is straight? Because I kind of wonder if my boyfriend's best friend was secretly like crushing on him or something
My neighbor and myself work at the same place we had rode to work together for years. He has always had a neglectful wife. He will complain he is just a paycheck. Over the years I have noticed behavior towards women. In the workplace he has forced himself into helping women. Help carry stuff and other ways to show he has value. He will contact women through phone and messengers and provide them information that is not useful. It is obviously a segway type message to try and break through. He has bothered women enough that they have changed shifts and left the jobs. He will make fart noises and other childish acts towards them. In the last few months I had noticed he wonders the edge of my property and times himself to be outside around the same time my wife will get home for work. He will always try to engage in conversation and has now started trespassing and doing yard work. I told him to quit trespassing two weeks ago. A day later he went out mowing another neighbors property that is a open lot ( whole other story there) and trespassed on my property moving my kids toys up by my garage when I wasn’t home. I know he is very passive aggressive and did this to try and show dominance or something. So far I talked to the police and they said if he does it again to let them know. My wife thinks he is harmless but I think he is pie slicing trying to get closer with every chance he is given. Eventually causing a incident and trauma to my family. Your video depicts his behavior to a T.
So what are the strategies to deal with this type of stalker? Do you offer a way to deal with this type? It happens to be a neighbor who lives directly across the street from me…she is everything you described and is seemingly unaware of her own behaviors..she is avoidant and attaching (in a unhealthy) way at the same time. I am thinking to not be responsive whatsoever and to just “pretend” as if she does not exist..she seeks connection in the most uncomfortable ways (to me at least) but others also Greta uncomfortable… even though she lives directly across the street I’m thinking the only way for me to deal with this person is to completely disconnect myself mentally, and physically from this person, whenever they are focused on me because that is exactly what happens the focus of attention is on me, and yet I cannot even have a conversation with them so I’m thinking the only way to deal with this person is to actually pretend as if they do not exist, and just live my life even though they are in my vision because they live so close in proximity but I still place up the boundaries.. this is someone who’s very lonely, who lives alone and has no life and everyone around them is becoming the focal point of their interest and yet they don’t connect they will not speak to you, but I have no issues with watching everything that you’re doing or walking around the neighborhood trying to connect with everyone and it’s just simply highly uncomfortable, but they are not a danger or threat. They’re just annoying. If anyone reading this has experienced this what was it that you did if you know that you have to live across the street from someone who’s doings this a neighbor what did you do to be able to detach from this person?
Currently dewling with one, going through the process to get an order of protetction. Hes apparently been in love with me for *years.* it came to a head this summer, when he started showimg up at my workplace and actually grabbed me multiplemtimes one night to make me hewr him out when i told him to leave me alone becauxe he was creeping me out. Then he started threatening a co-worker
That’s right re my situation! With mine what’s weird is I ended up trapped inside of a mortgage fraud ring that is abusive , to get control they kick you out of your home by stealing your job , money , kid destroy your relationship w your family etc
Is my stalker lonely is that what this is about? I'd like to know if I'm dealing with a borderline a psychopath or a narcissist and I'm dealing with flying monkeys that are also stalking me but I think that the ringleader is a psychopath
@@TherapistTamaraHill oh hi Tamara, thanks so much for reading my comment and the excellent response.do stalkers spend 24/7 on you only or can it be something where they stalk at you when they stalk you, what i mean by that is the behaviour isn't like seemingly 24/7 but then again it is hard to know for sure. the reason i say he is a stalker is. one sign back in early november was the first time i really felt something he did felt kind of stalkish. so we formed this thing as we both lost weight and really truly began really starting to know each other at all around late june/early july of this year. and he would constantly ask me to walk even though i perfer to run, but it started slow and built up, had this thing he did where he subtly would guilt trip me, or have a way of making me feel obligated to always go even though i wasn't truly feeling it most of the time. he even started texting me like 4-5 times (not 50 mind you) but just... enough to make it unfovfortable such as times like going to a funeral, or going to a company golf outing all day etc.. you know, lettin ghim know i am not availible and busy on these days. and yet he would text anyway 4-5 times over a few hours "have you left yet?, what time are you leaving, call me when you are done, call me when you are your way, wanna walk" however, the first time was a day nov 2nd. i knew i was going to go home early and do a run as it was the last warm day of the eyar and sun set early. later he text me askin gif i want to walk so i told him i was availibe at 630 or after for the entire rest of the dayafter, he said "it will be dark" i said that is when i can go. didn't say why i am sure he assumed i was leaving work than. so i run. part of my initial route takes me past our homes. at 513 pm i looked at my watch and saw that was the time, kept going for an hour got back 615 ish. well withint time to go for 90 seconds to his house at 630. he texted me while i was out. i see a text from him at 515 pm 1-2 minutes of when i saw my watch when i ran by. it said nothing more or less than "I see you running" honestly this was truly the first time it felt stalkish. now that same week he also left me high and dry the day before a big game i got tickets for us that were 110 each claming he had to work his side job an dcoulnd't get out of it and left me prety much no time to find someoen who coudl pay for the ticket. also he lied becasue he sais 11-630 yet that morming of the game day he had me ove rin his hosue up til 1230. so i know it was a lie. within a copule week i pretty much stopped responding altogheter without telling him anything. as there was a fwe other thigns. i left FB open and my phone on. simply to monitor if it was working ONLY becasue he lived across the street and i figured this would lessen the chance of him coming here physcially. after 7 weeks he finally gave me 4-5 days of not saying anyting. but then 2 weeks ago saturday (and this is where i know it is stalking). he happened to leave his garage at the same time as i did. i live 2 houses down and across the street. he pulled in front of my home along the street and was at an angle takin gup hallf the width of our side street we live on. i know his desire was likely to get me to come out simply to speak to him and tell him why i was doing this. but i figure no contacting is best. anway i just went around him. then he wen tteh same direction as me. i mean 50 percen tchance he could turn right or left. but he was in the right land i was in the left lane. as we approached the intersction of the 2 main roads 2 miles down where i wsa truning left to go to where i was going. and there wsa a line of cars in the left lane. didn't seem like he could iketly get over all the way, suddenly there he was behind me in the left turn lane. so i drove in a manner to lose him til he was gone then went to my palce. i literally had no ability to sleep that night. i think i may have experinced some form of pstd or possibly a panic attack. becasue my body was pulsating often and took 4 hours to get to sleep. however he sent a message on fb msgr i didn't open it just saw the preview. said "i am confused...." i have no idea what the rest said, he unsent it 3 hours later. and hadn't actaully attempted to call or text of message me for 10 straight days. until this past tuesady when i got home from walk his car was coming home at that same time. he saw me in my driveway from his ouse (night) and i heard him say my name) but i did not look and acted like i didn't hear him. he the ncalled (ignored) texted 2x (ignored) and then finally said something less then his usual i care about you only texts. (i know those are manipulitve btw). but tone was more harsh, but still attempted to be freindsly "what is your problem, you ignore me, that is so disrepetful and i have been nothing but nice to you, i even stuck up for you when people talked about you i will not tolerate this, i don't underatnd wha tthe issue is, be a man and tell me. " or something like that. so then i finally hit the block button on the phone and the comptuer since 2 days ago. anyway. i have been writing every single one of these thigns down, dates, times, what i saw texted, and worte tat i had not responded as a log. and the last time i ever resopnded to him was back in late november. but i am fairly sure this falls under stalking
I disappeared from social media except LinkedIn. I stay away from my mother's house and the neighborhood. I do know that she stalked her ex after he married another woman. I saw my mother became his side piece. She doesn't get to see me anymore. And from her view it's my fault. She's always displayed rejection, and has been short with us kids. So I relieved her. She doesn't need to be my mother anymore. Maybe one day she will stalk me. What do you think huh? Lol!
It isn't so much that they don't understand when enough is enough.. many of them get a charge or a thril out of doing it.. and they will recruit others of the same mindset to join in. Then you have those that have been fed the slander and smear campaign about a target.. they feel like they are being a hero, doing a service for the world, an Angela Lansbury sleuth like in the show "Murder She wrote".. by god they are going to catch that target doing something bad at all costs and they become very obsessed. Those types are doing are most likely doing their sleuthing for other people/groups that have a very dark and nefarious agenda towards a particular target. @TherapistTamaraHill I have identified various intricate levels in the proxy, community based stalking I have dealt with. At least five different households I have identified as stalkers in my vicinity have up and left, sold their homes in the last 2 to 3 years. One house, they had several different paint colors, custom colors I have on my walls in my home painted on their walls.. I spotted it in the real estate photos. It was a moment like "The Hand That Rocks The Cradle" when Claire spots the border in the nursery of the dead doctor's house and links it back to her nanny (Dr. Mott's wife) that actually put it up on the walls of her own nursery at home. My internet stalkers are so bad I had this comment completely typed out and just as I was getting ready to post it my y.t. app crashed and it was erased. Keylogging software watchers I tell ya. I have seen some extremely bizzare things out of these individuals, like stuff you would see in a movie or on t.v. and then if went to describe to other people, it does sound insane/outrageous and is done that way to discredit the target, isolate them more.
Hi Tamara, I have been dealing with the same stalker for four years on going. It’s mostly happened electronically. Idk what to do because it’s a person in the spot light and I have a big feeling they’ve been paying people so that they could talk to me. It sounds bizarre but it only makes sense cause they always know what I’m doing. It’s been happening over social media. Separate accounts talk about on the day of. So what I happen to do or say the day of. Without doubt, this happens everyday. It reflects only a little on this persons social in the spot light. We were in love when we first knew each other. But they only became more hurtful so I left. I was always in the dark so to speak. Then they never stopped. I would have thought it was from a place of care and hurt. In the spotlight they’re said to have a bipolar disorder. But in the dark,, I think they’re a psychopath. Not only because how mean they can tend to get. But I stopped communicating to this person a while back so I thought. They can have this other side of them that isn’t a projection. It’s strategic and strangely demented. Everyone else out there thinks they’re sweet and kind. Which they will come to find out. This person is always saying they’re lonely and that they see the same in me. They say I’m silly for caring about others. They do satanic stuff and I’ve had a lot of weird things happen to me. Horrible experiences. I’ve been gang stalked and almost ran over. A threat they would burn my body. The other side to them is like a completely different person. Something I honestly think they made up. In the spotlight they support equal rights. In the dark, not so much. In fact, couldn’t be further from it. Idk what to do. I only have one video this person uploaded on a random account that had their voice in it but not their face. It sounds exactly like them and people would know. But I don’t think I still have enough information on them to do anything with. They knew at one point I was trying to do something about it. At the time I had a boyfriend who had a great lawyer as a family member. I showed him the video and we were trying to get more information to take this person to court. Because it’s been a while that I had been tormented from this person. I did everything I could. I blocked them. I stopped talking to them. Or who I thought they were. They made me feel crazy until I had enough to show someone else at least. They talk very indirectly. I only saw them in person once. They knew where I was when I was out driving. During that time we were actually on good terms. We smiled at each other and they drove off. They always abandoned me. Stood me up. Betrayed me. Emotionally abused me. Whatever you want to call it. So I detached from all the hurt a few years late. But better than never. Now they’re having a baby and still won’t leave me alone. I wanted to mend things the right way. They never came to me the proper way. They never spoke to me directly. I understood that up until a point. Cause they’re a celebrity. They don’t want to ruin their reputation. I used to look up to this person before I knew them. I used to be in love with them as a person when I thought I knew them. I’ve been trying to move on with my life and I’m in love with someone else. They try to dress and dye their hair like them. I know that’s jealousy but why go through all that? For a while I’ve been convinced that I’m suffering from psychosis because I have been so paranoid and traumatized by this person. When they also did the black magic stuff.,, it really terrified me. I’ve been through somethings that haunt me. I cannot keep the lights off sometimes. I have a heavy curtain to cover my window. A black out one. I make sure it’s fully covered the best I can. I don’t want this person to consume my life away. I’m finally moving but only so far and I have a feeling they will know. They always find out somehow. I always feel like I’m being watched. I caught a window peeper a few years back also. Which idk if that was the same person. But ugh I’m scared of people out there. I really need help to get away from this person. It’s not fair that I have to close myself off from the world. But the worlds not always kind. I wanted justice or at least peace away from them. Thank you for your video. It helps me to understand a little more of why they may keep doing this. I wish I could get them to stop. They said they would keep crossing all my boundaries. That they pretend to listen and care. I believe that Gods protecting me from this person. Anyways that’s my story.
I’m in a similar situation except I was never in love. Maybe infatuated in the beginning but that quickly changed to despise once I realized how crazy they are. There is no compromising with stalkers, especially someone with money or power. These individuals will use all of their resources to try to torment your life. Stop you from carrying on romantic relationships and try to isolate you. the best they can. I believe in karma and God doesn’t sleep. They may feel like they’re getting away with it, until they’re behind bars. No one in jail believes they would’ve wind up in jail, but there they are, locked up!
Have you encountered someone like this? I have.🤫🤦♀️
I am one of them
Yes, I have.
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Would you place the links to the videos you reference in the info of the video or in the comments?
Thank you, your videos are very helpful.
Right now i have a stalker like this. The police has told him to stay stay from my home area (they didnt say my name though). But hes doing it in other areas now but i dont have proof this time. Any suggestions?
Too many times
Family members who have also bullied me.
I have a stalker that smears me behind my back. It follows me to every workplace. And then it only gets worse with the years.
I'm sorry. This is always tough.
I literally just went to the police today to report my stalker and he's definitely this kind of stalker! He found me on a dating app (my instagram was in my Bumble bio) and we'd never even matched. But he followed me on Instagram, added me on Facebook, guessed my snapchat and contacted me there, managed to find out my phone number.... etc..... and has been stalking me for more than a year now. Last summer he was in front of my apt building one night for an hour, trying to call me. He left several voice messages. And he just contacted me again earlier this week for the first time since the fall. He told me that he thought enough time had passed and he acknowledged that what he did was wrong and that I should give him another chance because of that. I was hoping time would make him forget about me but nah....... It's a fucking nightmare :)
Sorry to hear this I tend to attract stalkers too I wonder if you're an empath or a codependent because I think there's something about people that are loving and kind like these people are attracted like a magnet or something
Yes. I had a stalker in 9th grade. Again in 12th grade, the guy started following me basically the whole year. I would say we were acquaintances. He definitely did try to be a part of my life. He tried to tell me who to talk to and what to wear and we weren’t even dating. He did want to date me. The first thing he ever told me was that we met in kindergarten which I guess was cute but I never thought of it until he mentioned it to me. So that’s probably where he thought there was a connection with me. He did think I was attractive.
The stalking consisted of him following me, adjusting his path to follow me more. Waiting for me outside the restroom. When I would try to go a different direction he would follow me. When I would stop he would also stop. Like almost mimicking me. Wait for me outside the doorway. Sometimes I would parallel and I would see him going behind me. It was so creepy. When other guy tried to ask me out he would have these big reactions and kick them out the class. He would look at me angrily whenever I was cozying up to other guys. Throwing dagger with his eyes.
I did not like him. It was a horrible experience.
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Yup. And he's an ex-cop (school police). This makes it more concerning. I have blocked him from all my social media and phone, but he is still leaving voice mails. I think my next video will be on stalkers; I know he will watch it....wonder if anything will click in his mind after watching....hope so.
Excellent series. Thank you.
You're very welcome!
I have been stalked by an evil human being since 2017. He was a neighbor and I never knew him personally. This man started stalking me because of my teenage daughter and later became obsessed with me. This video describes perfectly the type of stalker that pursuits me. He has enlisted other people that are like him to keep tabs on first my child then me. This man is a junkie and sells drugs which inspire other scumbags to stalk me. This man lives in a delusion all his own and has his way of keeping the others in engaged in the stalking with his delusions. Some of the "help" have taken on the same delusion.
Hello, i wanted to talk a bit about my experience, not as a victim of stalking, but as a stalker, because i used to check social media (and to a degree still do, but mostly to get a quick look if they give me their social media) to see interests and other things of said person, and use those things to try and spark a conversation if needed. But i feel i fell into this category, and hoipefully i learned to avoid this, but it still good to check these videos just in case.
Right now I can recally 2 events, both of them were in college, one was with a person i was attracted to, but i went a bit too far and i scared them, when one of their friends told me that, i immediately backed off and never spoke to her again. And another was when i wanted to meet another person and just check their social media and use those to get topics, they never suspected me, but i do feel bad about it
And I wanted to talk about this mostly to learn, and to try and learn those things to avoid them and hopefully have friends/a partner instead of someone i scared off because of my lack of social queues
I am experiencing this right now. I have a woman who will not leave me alone. She on all of my social media accounts and even pulled a death hoax on my family. She is so unhealthy
Never a good sight. It's frightening to say the least.
How to deal with it ?
Should she block her on social media ? And if she was a family member or a co-worker what should anyone do in this situation ?
Thanks
You are SO Spot on... SO SPOT ON
My friend was approached by a total stranger, that was a year ago, he somehow found out her (old) adress and keeps sending her letters, which are redirected to her new adress. He has created a totally fictional image of her in his mind (about her interests and personality and problems, concerns etc.) and always tries to present himself as some kind of intellectual. She ignored it for almost a year and then told him via letter that she is not interested. He proceded with writing her a letter in which he assumed that she was just so stressed because of covid that he upset her and that he of course is not a stalker... because thats "not his style"...
Hey Tamara, am a new subscriber and really appreciate the info you present. Keep it coming. The Brains.
Welcome! And thank you!!
I dealt with one on an online forum. At first I sort of liked the attention, but it quickly started becoming too much. He liked all my posts and always seemed to respond to every single thing I said. When it got to be too much I blocked him and he ended up going crazy.
it would've been more easier for that person to just deal with private messages instead of doing that, That's very creepy. At the very least that would've gotten him straight to the point if they wanted to talk to you.
Here for the support!
Thank you!🤛 Hope this helps!
I have been waiting for this video!! Thank you❤️❤️
You are so welcome!😊
Yes I do have a stalker. He won’t speak to me anymore. But he would sit and wait by the cafe I work near by to watch me come to work ! Every single day. And he won’t stop looking at me
I'm sorry. It's so damaging to the unsuspecting victim. It can truly shift your level of security. I encourage you never to give him eye contact or attention. You take the wind out of his sail that way.
@@TherapistTamaraHill oh I dint know that ! I thought looking at him or making him aware of his presence would scare him away. And am not sure why he brings the same woman with him everyday to the same cafe I can tell they are only friends. But his trying to make it look like am just there having coffee
Amazing content, thank you!!! This topic is so varied, and it helps that you give such a detailed analysis on it ❤😊
Thanks so much! I'm glad this was helpful. It is a varied topic and I often feel exhausted after going over the details! 😊
Hi Tamara, I’m a recent subscriber, and been enjoying your videos and how they go into depth about different types of stalking. Can you do a video on male stalking victims. I have a buddy of mine that recently joined the army and is 21 years old , has been dealing with a cyber stalker. the stalker is an acquaintance of his. The stalker was told to lose his number after he was found messaging his mother to get info about him. Since then he keeps messaging him through different accounts on fb messenger snapchat, getting a fake number through text now app, and he is even disguised himself/catfished as a female profile to get his attention. Then apologies multiple times in attempt to restore his friendship. The stalker is 24 and is not fully employed, and is believed to be envious of his friend because he wanted to be in the military as well and has low self esteem. Whats your advice for my friend that is being stalked, since he feels that will not get adequate help or be taken seriously die to this situation of male stalking to be rare and isolated. What kind of stalker is this and what do you think his mental state is the stalker? I appreciate your advice. Thanks
Update as of September of 2022, he is still being stalked and the victim is now
Married and is now stalking his new army wife and is sending her x rated genital pics of himself to his new wife.
So you think it's a closeted guy that's trying to pretend to be a woman and your friend is straight? Because I kind of wonder if my boyfriend's best friend was secretly like crushing on him or something
@@taraarrington2285 not sure is this a situation you are currently dealing with?
My neighbor and myself work at the same place we had rode to work together for years. He has always had a neglectful wife. He will complain he is just a paycheck. Over the years I have noticed behavior towards women. In the workplace he has forced himself into helping women. Help carry stuff and other ways to show he has value. He will contact women through phone and messengers and provide them information that is not useful. It is obviously a segway type message to try and break through. He has bothered women enough that they have changed shifts and left the jobs. He will make fart noises and other childish acts towards them. In the last few months I had noticed he wonders the edge of my property and times himself to be outside around the same time my wife will get home for work. He will always try to engage in conversation and has now started trespassing and doing yard work. I told him to quit trespassing two weeks ago. A day later he went out mowing another neighbors property that is a open lot ( whole other story there) and trespassed on my property moving my kids toys up by my garage when I wasn’t home. I know he is very passive aggressive and did this to try and show dominance or something. So far I talked to the police and they said if he does it again to let them know. My wife thinks he is harmless but I think he is pie slicing trying to get closer with every chance he is given. Eventually causing a incident and trauma to my family. Your video depicts his behavior to a T.
I have a stalker like this. I would like to see recommendations on how to handle such stalkers.
See my other video on the channel. It's an older one but hopefully helps. Just search my channel.
Absolutely tremendous, Thank you so much for this Tamara, Peace, love, Respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe ❤👽🌷🌹🦄😍😇🐎💛😃🌈💜🌚♘🐉👁🐶🌝🌲
My life personified 😭😢 insane as hell
So what are the strategies to deal with this type of stalker? Do you offer a way to deal with this type? It happens to be a neighbor who lives directly across the street from me…she is everything you described and is seemingly unaware of her own behaviors..she is avoidant and attaching (in a unhealthy) way at the same time. I am thinking to not be responsive whatsoever and to just “pretend” as if she does not exist..she seeks connection in the most uncomfortable ways (to me at least) but others also Greta uncomfortable… even though she lives directly across the street I’m thinking the only way for me to deal with this person is to completely disconnect myself mentally, and physically from this person, whenever they are focused on me because that is exactly what happens the focus of attention is on me, and yet I cannot even have a conversation with them so I’m thinking the only way to deal with this person is to actually pretend as if they do not exist, and just live my life even though they are in my vision because they live so close in proximity but I still place up the boundaries.. this is someone who’s very lonely, who lives alone and has no life and everyone around them is becoming the focal point of their interest and yet they don’t connect they will not speak to you, but I have no issues with watching everything that you’re doing or walking around the neighborhood trying to connect with everyone and it’s just simply highly uncomfortable, but they are not a danger or threat. They’re just annoying. If anyone reading this has experienced this what was it that you did if you know that you have to live across the street from someone who’s doings this a neighbor what did you do to be able to detach from this person?
Rejected stalkers 😪😪😪
Currently dewling with one, going through the process to get an order of protetction. Hes apparently been in love with me for *years.* it came to a head this summer, when he started showimg up at my workplace and actually grabbed me multiplemtimes one night to make me hewr him out when i told him to leave me alone becauxe he was creeping me out. Then he started threatening a co-worker
That’s right re my situation! With mine what’s weird is I ended up trapped inside of a mortgage fraud ring that is abusive , to get control they kick you out of your home by stealing your job , money , kid destroy your relationship w your family etc
I would like to hold up a mirror to my stalkers. Seek professional help😂
I guess I'm a little unclear on what the clinical criteria for "stalker" would be. I thought it was a legal term.
Can you discuss what happens when someone stalks the stalker?
Help! I’m need help with pursuing a case against a stalker
Is my stalker lonely is that what this is about? I'd like to know if I'm dealing with a borderline a psychopath or a narcissist and I'm dealing with flying monkeys that are also stalking me but I think that the ringleader is a psychopath
i think my stalker who is my neighbor may very well be this type. but maybe in cmobo with others. but he clearly misses social cues.
It's sad because most stalkers miss social cues. They are just another type of "animal" so to speak.
@@TherapistTamaraHill oh hi Tamara, thanks so much for reading my comment and the excellent response.do stalkers spend 24/7 on you only or can it be something where they stalk at you when they stalk you, what i mean by that is the behaviour isn't like seemingly 24/7 but then again it is hard to know for sure.
the reason i say he is a stalker is. one sign back in early november was the first time i really felt something he did felt kind of stalkish.
so we formed this thing as we both lost weight and really truly began really starting to know each other at all around late june/early july of this year. and he would constantly ask me to walk even though i perfer to run, but it started slow and built up, had this thing he did where he subtly would guilt trip me, or have a way of making me feel obligated to always go even though i wasn't truly feeling it most of the time. he even started texting me like 4-5 times (not 50 mind you) but just... enough to make it unfovfortable such as times like going to a funeral, or going to a company golf outing all day etc.. you know, lettin ghim know i am not availible and busy on these days. and yet he would text anyway 4-5 times over a few hours "have you left yet?, what time are you leaving, call me when you are done, call me when you are your way, wanna walk"
however, the first time was a day nov 2nd. i knew i was going to go home early and do a run as it was the last warm day of the eyar and sun set early. later he text me askin gif i want to walk so i told him i was availibe at 630 or after for the entire rest of the dayafter, he said "it will be dark" i said that is when i can go. didn't say why i am sure he assumed i was leaving work than. so i run. part of my initial route takes me past our homes. at 513 pm i looked at my watch and saw that was the time, kept going for an hour got back 615 ish. well withint time to go for 90 seconds to his house at 630. he texted me while i was out. i see a text from him at 515 pm 1-2 minutes of when i saw my watch when i ran by. it said nothing more or less than "I see you running"
honestly this was truly the first time it felt stalkish.
now that same week he also left me high and dry the day before a big game i got tickets for us that were 110 each claming he had to work his side job an dcoulnd't get out of it and left me prety much no time to find someoen who coudl pay for the ticket. also he lied becasue he sais 11-630 yet that morming of the game day he had me ove rin his hosue up til 1230. so i know it was a lie.
within a copule week i pretty much stopped responding altogheter without telling him anything. as there was a fwe other thigns. i left FB open and my phone on. simply to monitor if it was working ONLY becasue he lived across the street and i figured this would lessen the chance of him coming here physcially.
after 7 weeks he finally gave me 4-5 days of not saying anyting. but then 2 weeks ago saturday (and this is where i know it is stalking). he happened to leave his garage at the same time as i did. i live 2 houses down and across the street. he pulled in front of my home along the street and was at an angle takin gup hallf the width of our side street we live on. i know his desire was likely to get me to come out simply to speak to him and tell him why i was doing this. but i figure no contacting is best.
anway i just went around him. then he wen tteh same direction as me. i mean 50 percen tchance he could turn right or left. but he was in the right land i was in the left lane. as we approached the intersction of the 2 main roads 2 miles down where i wsa truning left to go to where i was going. and there wsa a line of cars in the left lane. didn't seem like he could iketly get over all the way, suddenly there he was behind me in the left turn lane.
so i drove in a manner to lose him til he was gone then went to my palce.
i literally had no ability to sleep that night. i think i may have experinced some form of pstd or possibly a panic attack. becasue my body was pulsating often and took 4 hours to get to sleep.
however he sent a message on fb msgr i didn't open it just saw the preview. said "i am confused...." i have no idea what the rest said, he unsent it 3 hours later.
and hadn't actaully attempted to call or text of message me for 10 straight days.
until this past tuesady when i got home from walk his car was coming home at that same time. he saw me in my driveway from his ouse (night) and i heard him say my name) but i did not look and acted like i didn't hear him.
he the ncalled (ignored) texted 2x (ignored) and then finally said something less then his usual i care about you only texts. (i know those are manipulitve btw). but tone was more harsh, but still attempted to be freindsly "what is your problem, you ignore me, that is so disrepetful and i have been nothing but nice to you, i even stuck up for you when people talked about you i will not tolerate this, i don't underatnd wha tthe issue is, be a man and tell me. " or something like that.
so then i finally hit the block button on the phone and the comptuer since 2 days ago.
anyway. i have been writing every single one of these thigns down, dates, times, what i saw texted, and worte tat i had not responded as a log. and the last time i ever resopnded to him was back in late november.
but i am fairly sure this falls under stalking
I disappeared from social media except LinkedIn. I stay away from my mother's house and the neighborhood. I do know that she stalked her ex after he married another woman. I saw my mother became his side piece. She doesn't get to see me anymore. And from her view it's my fault. She's always displayed rejection, and has been short with us kids. So I relieved her. She doesn't need to be my mother anymore. Maybe one day she will stalk me. What do you think huh? Lol!
ive been dealing with an incompetanr stalker cyberly for 3 years almost Everyday its very weird unwanted immature and creepy
I'm sorry. Yes, these individuals are immature to say the least. They don't understand when enough is enough sometimes.
It isn't so much that they don't understand when enough is enough.. many of them get a charge or a thril out of doing it.. and they will recruit others of the same mindset to join in.
Then you have those that have been fed the slander and smear campaign about a target.. they feel like they are being a hero, doing a service for the world, an Angela Lansbury sleuth like in the show "Murder She wrote".. by god they are going to catch that target doing something bad at all costs and they become very obsessed. Those types are doing are most likely doing their sleuthing for other people/groups that have a very dark and nefarious agenda towards a particular target. @TherapistTamaraHill
I have identified various intricate levels in the proxy, community based stalking I have dealt with. At least five different households I have identified as stalkers in my vicinity have up and left, sold their homes in the last 2 to 3 years. One house, they had several different paint colors, custom colors I have on my walls in my home painted on their walls.. I spotted it in the real estate photos. It was a moment like "The Hand That Rocks The Cradle" when Claire spots the border in the nursery of the dead doctor's house and links it back to her nanny (Dr. Mott's wife) that actually put it up on the walls of her own nursery at home.
My internet stalkers are so bad I had this comment completely typed out and just as I was getting ready to post it my y.t. app crashed and it was erased. Keylogging software watchers I tell ya. I have seen some extremely bizzare things out of these individuals, like stuff you would see in a movie or on t.v. and then if went to describe to other people, it does sound insane/outrageous and is done that way to discredit the target, isolate them more.
Hi Tamara, I have been dealing with the same stalker for four years on going. It’s mostly happened electronically. Idk what to do because it’s a person in the spot light and I have a big feeling they’ve been paying people so that they could talk to me. It sounds bizarre but it only makes sense cause they always know what I’m doing. It’s been happening over social media. Separate accounts talk about on the day of. So what I happen to do or say the day of. Without doubt, this happens everyday. It reflects only a little on this persons social in the spot light. We were in love when we first knew each other. But they only became more hurtful so I left. I was always in the dark so to speak. Then they never stopped. I would have thought it was from a place of care and hurt. In the spotlight they’re said to have a bipolar disorder. But in the dark,, I think they’re a psychopath. Not only because how mean they can tend to get. But I stopped communicating to this person a while back so I thought. They can have this other side of them that isn’t a projection. It’s strategic and strangely demented. Everyone else out there thinks they’re sweet and kind. Which they will come to find out. This person is always saying they’re lonely and that they see the same in me. They say I’m silly for caring about others. They do satanic stuff and I’ve had a lot of weird things happen to me. Horrible experiences. I’ve been gang stalked and almost ran over. A threat they would burn my body. The other side to them is like a completely different person. Something I honestly think they made up. In the spotlight they support equal rights. In the dark, not so much. In fact, couldn’t be further from it. Idk what to do. I only have one video this person uploaded on a random account that had their voice in it but not their face. It sounds exactly like them and people would know. But I don’t think I still have enough information on them to do anything with. They knew at one point I was trying to do something about it. At the time I had a boyfriend who had a great lawyer as a family member. I showed him the video and we were trying to get more information to take this person to court. Because it’s been a while that I had been tormented from this person. I did everything I could. I blocked them. I stopped talking to them. Or who I thought they were. They made me feel crazy until I had enough to show someone else at least. They talk very indirectly. I only saw them in person once. They knew where I was when I was out driving. During that time we were actually on good terms. We smiled at each other and they drove off. They always abandoned me. Stood me up. Betrayed me. Emotionally abused me. Whatever you want to call it. So I detached from all the hurt a few years late. But better than never. Now they’re having a baby and still won’t leave me alone. I wanted to mend things the right way. They never came to me the proper way. They never spoke to me directly. I understood that up until a point. Cause they’re a celebrity. They don’t want to ruin their reputation. I used to look up to this person before I knew them. I used to be in love with them as a person when I thought I knew them. I’ve been trying to move on with my life and I’m in love with someone else. They try to dress and dye their hair like them. I know that’s jealousy but why go through all that? For a while I’ve been convinced that I’m suffering from psychosis because I have been so paranoid and traumatized by this person. When they also did the black magic stuff.,, it really terrified me. I’ve been through somethings that haunt me. I cannot keep the lights off sometimes. I have a heavy curtain to cover my window. A black out one. I make sure it’s fully covered the best I can. I don’t want this person to consume my life away. I’m finally moving but only so far and I have a feeling they will know. They always find out somehow. I always feel like I’m being watched. I caught a window peeper a few years back also. Which idk if that was the same person. But ugh I’m scared of people out there. I really need help to get away from this person. It’s not fair that I have to close myself off from the world. But the worlds not always kind. I wanted justice or at least peace away from them. Thank you for your video. It helps me to understand a little more of why they may keep doing this. I wish I could get them to stop. They said they would keep crossing all my boundaries. That they pretend to listen and care. I believe that Gods protecting me from this person. Anyways that’s my story.
It reminds me of the Epstein stuff. Dangerous people in high places.
I’m in a similar situation except I was never in love. Maybe infatuated in the beginning but that quickly changed to despise once I realized how crazy they are. There is no compromising with stalkers, especially someone with money or power. These individuals will use all of their resources to try to torment your life. Stop you from carrying on romantic relationships and try to isolate you. the best they can. I believe in karma and God doesn’t sleep. They may feel like they’re getting away with it, until they’re behind bars. No one in jail believes they would’ve wind up in jail, but there they are, locked up!
Yeah one thing about stalkers as they definitely lack empathy so I think most of them are definitely a cluster b
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Seems every move make become stalker
That's true in some respects. Not everyone is a stalker but those who are, their behaviors are inappropriate and damaging.
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