Watch This If You Feel Unlovable!
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- Опубликовано: 26 июл 2024
- Have you ever felt unlovable? Maybe it’s a sinking feeling in your stomach when you’re alone or whispers you can’t shake from that voice in your head. We want you to know that you are loveable and that sometimes negative thoughts have the power to overtake us and distort reality. Here are things to remember if you feel unlovable.
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It’s hard to practice self love when everyone around you seems to dislike or ignore you
Honey ik it's hard but you try your best to focus on yourself
Ignore them back and be confident and rise like a phoenix
After 58 years of having it proven to me over and over again that I am unlovable I’m not prepare to be hoodwinked any longer. You wouldn’t refute a scientific study after 58 years of evidence would you?
@@MsDamosmum Same, 40 years of experience.
Same 😢
same
Something some people doesn't understand is that it's hard to love yourself when you feel unlovable
The way I often put it is this: "If value is dictated by what someone is willing to give for it, and no one is willing to give anything to have me, then I must have no inherent value. And if no one else wants me or my life, why should I?"
true.
😮해서ㅐㅜ허ㅐㅓㅏㅐㅝ해ㅔㅙㅔ
Yes and I deal with this everyday of every second including now. 😢
Well think about why u feel unlovable, is it because u dont like something about you or because the person you like doesnt like you?
In the first case find what you don't like about you and change it, but keep in mind it will take time, for me it was 2-3 years until I became someone I was proud of.
In the second case I'd rather cut the connection with that person, go trough the grief (witch I found inevitable) and do what u like until u are ready to love again. Keep in mind time heals everything even if it doesn't seem like it in the moment.
Loving yourself is hard and takes time, but its a jurney worth embarking on.
it hurts so bad every time someone says “remember people who love and care about you” and you’ve got no one to remember..
Maybe starting with the person that told you that.
Nobody loves me. Even my parents. They only like me if they need something. I’ve cut them off so I have no one. I’m single, tried to date but most men lost interest after only a a few text messages of hi, hello, how’s your day or weekend, never into deep or meaningful conversation. That’s beyond my control. I only have God to talk too. I hope he hears my prayers before I give up.
@@SeaBee1223 "Allah is the ally of those who believe. He brings them out from darknesses into the light"
Chapter: Al -Baqarah
Verse:257
"O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient"
Chapter:Al-Baqarah
Verse:153
"And be patient, for indeed, Allah does not allow to be lost the reward of those who do good"
Chapter: Hud
Verse: 115
"Peace be upon you for what you patiently endured. And excellent is the final home."
Chapter :Ar-Rad
Verse:24
"Whatever you have will end, but what Allah has is lasting. And We will surely give those who were patient their reward according to the best of what they used to do"
Chapter: An-nahl
Verse:96
From Holy Quran
And I hope I was able to help you, even if just a little
@@SeaBee1223 So sorry to hear that and yes, God is here for you always!
Hope things are better for you now...God Bless You!
@SeaBee1223 that's exactly how I feel @Seabee1223
I started to feel unlovable when I noticed "friend groups" or really groups in general seemed better when I wasn't around. It hurts to see a conversation between others thrive when you're not in it yourself but I feel like I interrupt the vibe so I keep quiet. I'm not sure if anyone else feels this way.
I feel this way
Every single day💔
Always felt this way ever since I was a child
It's pretty much how it always goes for me
Every single day. It almost feels like your watching things from the 3rd person or there but nobody notices
"The way people treat you is not a reflection of you." This is what I needed to hear. Thank you.
It's not a reflection of you, but that is the only thing that matters!Stop lying to yourself!
@@serban8298 Huh?
@astera Also true is that people treat you the way you allow them to treat you. This is especially true with friends and family.
Me too ..
@@juneroberts5305 Agree
The feeling like you're unloved makes you feel lonely since you isolate yourself due to feeling undeserving of being loved. It makes you afraid to socialize with friends and family because you feel unworthy of hanging out with them.👍
Shut up, that's not how it is.
@@Shushkin what’s wrong?😕
The walls that we build to protect ourselves and keep others out, often just end-up locking us in.
Yes. 💙
@@Shushkin You are worthy of love, dont let your fear and self inflicted shame define who you are.
Growing up being called ugly and having people put u down constantly makes me feel unloved
Same here...
Thanks to my parents who destroyed my confidence 😊
@@user-jw5bl9iu7n That's awful.
I wish I could give you a big hug, both of you.
@@thatETTYT hug is a big thing for me...
Nobody even makes eye contact with me...
I always get surprised when someone even speaks little nicely to me
👍
Same
I’ve always felt unlovable, lonely. I’ve always seen myself as the lonely girl of the crowd. Because most people I loved, started to leave me by myself, and with no one else around me. This video helped me a bit, thanks for the help!
love you!
❤❤❤
Can you give your insta I'd
I feel so grateful to live in a time where this channel exists.
Me too I could not imagine being brainwashed by my dad without RUclips I will not be where I am in a better life
With a bit of mindset I forgot to write that
If this channel didn't exist, I would be dead by now
Same I'm in love with this RUclips channel
I feel grateful that we were able to meet at the right time.
As a child when you've always felt like nobody actually wants you and you're just a burden but you've always wanted to be loved 💔 now as a grown up your emotions are messed up.. You're afraid to trust people.. afraid to lose people.. Afraid to talk to people😂😂
😅💙💙💙💙
Saaame :(
I feel you :((
Yes I was the same since I grew up only with my short-tempered mother and was bullied in school. I suffered from depression for years because I felt unworthy, ugly and stupid, like a waste of space. When my husband left me, I just wanted to kill myself. But I put so much effort into loving myself, being proud, telling me I'm pretty even on my worst days and forgiving my past and recent mistakes. I've still got way to go but I tell you, it's such a better life. :D
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No matter how much i listen to this, i cant believe what they say is not just crap. Nothing makes me believe that i am loveable anymore.
Same
Same
Same
@@ashnicole9354 time heals that, really, now this comment from a year ago made me think how dumb i was to ever think it. Yes true, sometimes you really feel like that, but time heals
It's ok if nobody loves .love yourself be enough for you just think that people who don't love are idiots they just don't know how amazing you are have strong mentality I don't think you need anybody opinion upon you that how you are and how you have to be . If nobody is asking you ask yourself
4:28 I was holding all my depressive, hurtful, traumatic and negative emotions in throughout the video, until this moment. Then suddenly I burst into tears, bawling my eyes out here.. If you are reading this, and feeling low or depressed, please know that you are not alone and it is all going to be better... :')
I find it touching that despite being in despair and depressed, you still take the time to let us know that we are not alone in this. This just goes to show what a kind and compassionate person you are. I sincerely hope that whatever it is that is bringing you down will be taken out of your life.
same here friend. I know the answer lie on the relationship with a girl but its easy to say
You promise ?? 😢
My problem is that I don't believe it.
Psych2go is my best friend, they just don't know it yet
lol
Yes they do! Otherwise, they wouldn't make videos for us ☺
She
That's A FACT!!!!
Same
I constantly live in my imagination. It hurts to know that some of the best feelings and memories I have are the ones that happened in my head .
This hurts. I’m like that too. Some of the people I feel so close to aren’t even real. They are in my screen and my head.
That shit is so true dude 'I relate so much (if you read this comment pls comment back 'I wanna talk to you)
You're not alone it's same for me as well 😔😔
@@anjanachaudhary272 I know
You are beautiful and young. If you feel like that now that you have many opportunities... You are still in time to develop social skills. You have many opportunities everyday. Do it before it's too late. Don't run away from people and take advantage of the situation.
"Your flaws Don't define you" this line makes me calm now😌
@@L0velyEla 🥺💜
As someone who's been abused my whole life and is the family scapegoat, I often feel unlovable. All the time. Gonna save this vid for those times. Thank you!
''Just love yourself bro'',it's easy to say that when you have a support network,but when you have literally nobody that cares about you it's impossible.
True :(
Agreed 😔
if you have online friends it might still work
It hurts when you feel unloved right? Yeah I know. It hurts when you don’t like yourself anymore, it hurts when you don’t have true friends, it hurts when you are not the first option to anyone, it hurts. It just hurts but it’s okay. Let’s give each other a virtual hug 😊❤️🥺🥺
I love you ❤️❤️ here's a tight hug 🤗🤗
I know how it feels
💜same to u!!!!
I just feel like my friends arent my friends anymore :(
More positivity to u ♥
For anyone who feels like this and other videos doesn't help, like nothing will ever help: it's ok that you don't get better immediatly after watching this. The good thing about our situation is that we've already accomplished a lot by trying to figure ourselves out.
You may need to watch such videos a 100 times, until you see improvement. And that's ok, just don't stop.
It is also ok to feel down about you future from time to time. You won't feel like this forever. Hope this helps you ♥
It's not that I feel unlovable. It's more that if my loved ones need help or are feeling down, there are other people they'd rather turn to. I always say "I'm here if you need me". But whenever they do need someone it's never me. My friends do love me, they just don't need me. Maybe that hurts a little more than feeling unlovable?
There's another side to that. I was always the person people did turn to and, after a while, it felt like I was only valuable to them for what I could do for them and that they didn't really love or respect me for myself. Not to mention that I became burned out from helping others ahead of myself. These days, I try to remember that it doesn't mean anything about me one way or another whether people come to me for help or not. My value is intrinsic and unique, as is yours.
Interesting. I have the opposite problem. My loved ones will turn to me for help, talk, advice, guidance, assistance. But, following that....crickets. If I am not in touch with them to help them, they do not reach out to me. I am learning that I need to help myself first, it's ok to say no to loved ones asking for guidance, and to not expect "loved ones" to like you. That last one may sound nutty, but I think my loved ones love me, but there's little evidence that will ever translate to their spending time or energy with/for me. That just needs to be okay.
I understand where you're coming from. Balance is key, of course. It's nice to be the person people reach out to but it can be burdening if that's all they come to you for (usually this becomes the case). Work on yourself tremendously and set such an example that people do want to come to you. When this ensuites, be brave enough to set boundaries early on and stick to them.
My boundary is not allowing individuals to come to me with problems we've already spoken about. Your words are precious and if someone chooses to not listen to you but keeps complaining, they are not worthy of your help/advice
@@dolphin68ray I’m suffering this side currently. People turn to me when they need me. WHEN THEY NEED ME. When I need them, I become a inconvenience, like a ad on a interesting video. The thing is value and meaning are both intrinsic, yet what’s intrinsic somewhere along the lines became influenced by the outside world. And rediscovering it was always intrinsic and that the story I was telling myself was what was being hijacked by what I wanted from people. I guess I suffer my expectations to control the uncontrolled by being useful. I just have to see understand what I have control over and what I don’t and try to get my needs met with the information I’m getting from what’s hurting and making me feel lonely
Your comment really put my feelings into words. Since it was basically a one-way support system I felt as if i was just using them without beeing able to give back. The other comments in here really helped shining light on this topic from a different angle.
I guess my takeaway here is that if your friends enjoy spending time with you and do that reasonably often but choose not to involve you in emotional topics that does not mean they don't value your friendship. At the end of the day, a friendship has personal gains on both sides. For you it might be a crutch to sometimes lean on in hard times but for them, you are a person they appreciate to be around and just have fun with. So don't beat yourself up about that. They will either come to you when they think they/you are ready and if not, you can appreciate the fact that they love you for who you are, and not as an emotional outlet.
Growing up thru middle school and high school I was often excluded from a lot of things, almost never invited anyhere, girls never talked to me (they always talked to my OLD friends) it just made me feel unwanted and made me question my whole appearance and question myself “like what’s wrong with me?!?” And now at 21 I see a lot of people my age falling in love and it looks nice and cool but I just can’t seem to start dating bc I feel so unworthy of love I just can’t see it happening to me I can’t see anybody falling in love with me I just can’t. Like I feel like people are disgusted by the way I look. So it’s just me and my dogs...
There’s a person out here for you man. I say you start just start working on loving yourself and be grateful. Then the only people you need in life will come just be patient. ❤️
@@chief8559 Dude don't have such thoughts! It's actually not funny to say to someone who is actually depressed. You are only encouraging him.
@@chief8559 it’s seeming more and more reasonable for me
@@Leydrich For me it did that for past year, right now I'm starting to plan it.
@@chief8559 ruclips.net/video/gY1gnPpv3Zk/видео.html
Why is it so hard for me to love myself? I am so tired of feeling so empty and alone.
start with music that you like,
Same here
@@DonovanAenslaed wow, this is good. Thanks.
You're not alone. I struggle with it too
@@amandaadrienne837 but you have no idea how lovable you might be in someone else's eyes !
Thank you for this. There’s some girls in my school who make fun of me and I’m so scared of them I don’t use the bathroom at school, I hurry to my next classes, I leave whenever they show up, and they even bully me in my DREAMS. It’s made me to think no one loves me. ☹️
Thank you for being here for those who have a chance to have a better existence. I'm 3 decades older, but for the younger, listen up ! Wish I had heard this when 18.
“Your flaws don’t define you”
Me, with not a single positive thing about me: Don’t do that. Don’t give me hope.
Same here buddy
Can I deduce a few? Tell me when I'm wrong:
1. You're humble
2. You wish good things for people around you
3. You can look inside to improve
4. You try your damnedest and when you fall sometimes, you get up and try to improve yourself again
5. You're caring
Even if you aren't, you deserve love and big hugs. Hang in there!
sometimes I feel like that too, but remember that you do have good qualities (: sometimes we just can't see them
Same :(
We are on the same boat...
I just wanna give everyone in this comment section a hug :(
*Hugs* Thank you.
🤗
Hugs🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗for everyone ♥️♥️♥️
@jyoti kumari np^^🌺
🤧 sorry I Cant
I recently had to go no contact with my bio family. I don’t have a partner, though all my abusive exes all do. I have been consistently mentally, physically and emotionally abused by many people, including the ones I had loved… it has taken me years, decades even, to reach a point where I am strong enough to love myself. Even after reaching that point I still have moments where I’m in a group of friends and I’m the only single person, or I like someone and then they ghost me or decide when it starts getting serious that they’re gonna bail out, and I think “there must be something wrong with me. I must be unlovable.”
Thanks for making this video. It helped me shut that voice up. You are right. Being abused doesn’t say anything about you. Being single doesn’t mean you are incapable of love or that you are unworthy of it.
Thank you ❤❤❤
been single for a while now. im in my mid 20s and all my friends are able to find someone easily. it does take a toll on you when you see people being able to live ur dream
Hi, we're on the same page lol
Try being single since birth :)
@@elizabethwakefield7003 been there, done that. 33 and never had a relationship, except for a couple of flings that lasted one or two weeks because she got bored of me fast. I'm at a point in life where people usually have found the right person. Almost all of my friends are in a relationship. But I never found even a wrong one, so seeing everyone around me having had so much experience makes me feel like there's something extremely wrong with me. Like I'm a defective product. I have to say though that I never put too much effort into finding someone. That's because I'm terrified of approaching and because there's tons of better options than me everywhere, so why should any girl be interested in me? It's gotten to a point where if I see a couple when I'm out of home, I strongly envy them because they have something I never had the joy to experience.
I feel u man. It seems like everyone around me finds someone but I can’t even though I’ve worked on myself and got in shape, and I take care of myself and have a good job but it doesn’t matter still, idk what my problem is
@@jacobdevries3567 I feel that. I do everything. Sport, diet, pretty makeup, pretty clothes... And I'm usually happy on my own and quite content with who and how I am. But then there are nights where I just cry, because I wish I knew what a relationship feels like. And I'm no even talking adult fun. Or an actual long-term relationship. I'd be just fine with half an hour of cuddeling and feeling loved. But it's just not happening. And I don't know why. I'm Pan for gods sake, so beeing picky isn't the issue, if you're nice and maybe funny and take a shower regularly you tick all the boxes, that's how low my bar is. And still I'm alone why all my friends had several relationships over time while also having a wayyyy higher bar and also less self-love.
This means there must be sth wrong with me right? Is it just because I'm an introvert and shy?
me, feeling unloved
*slowly clicks*
lol same
So sorry 🥺
Hope you feel better with some endless number of virtual hugs ⊂((・▽・))⊃
Dude same
@@confuseddotcom
@Furrymation :P
@@adritabasu8790 thank you :D *virtual hugs you back*
Lately, I've been feeling down on myself and started to think that I am selfish and just a monster and that I was a jerk, but you guys telling me that I am human and we all make mistakes sometimes and we all are so growing really means a lot to me thank you very much. it's really helped me and now I know we all are human and we all make mistakes and it's never too late to start a new and whoever is feeling the same or may be reading this just know that you are loved, and we are all human and you're all unique, and it's never too late start again. It's okay to make mistakes. We are all so beautiful no matter what and it's okay to feel sad and down and normal to feel this way. Whatever you're going through gives me that it'll be okay, and I believe in you and I'm always here for you all many hugs and wonderful wishes to you all never give up.
I’ve made too many damn mistakes in my life. As a teenager I f**ked up so much that I don’t think it’s even fixable. I was such a bad kid even before my teen years. I acted out because I hated my life and myself so I took it out on everything and everyone else.
1. Love blossoms when you start loving yourself 0:54
2. Your brain latches on to negativity 1:34
3. Your flaws don't define you 2:12
4. Your mind is a great storyteller 2:52
5. Romatic relationships don't determine your worth or value 3:34
6. The way people treat you is not a reflection of you 4:24
I hope I could help :)
Thanks! ^^
How is this 4 days ago ._.
Welp, cant overcome #1 guess im truly unlovable
@@benthemother3fan884 EY NO
@@benthemother3fan884 I dont know how to help you but please try :(
Psych2go: "do you struggle with self love?"
Me: "what's self love?"
ME TOO
Its something everyone else has, that we didnt seem to get! LOL We been cheated!
Same :(:(:(
SAME OH MA GOD
Same lol
Ive chosen in my life to not compare myself to others and also not blame myself for the past or the present. Life has its ups and downs and so we on many occasions have to find and work with what we have which is ourselves. Love of self is what really matters. Not worrying or caring what others think or feel about you is also key... those are their feelings not yours. Let people carry their own emotional weight you carry yours. This is life
Thank you for making this video… I have depression and I have been having some tough times and everything is not going well. And what's worse is that I found that I don't actually have anyone to talk to or share my feelings with. I feel so lonely and pathetic cause none of my loved ones seems to care about what I feel or what I say, not even my family or friends. Sometimes I just feel so pathetic for not being loved, I know I should love myself but what if I am the only person who love me? I just want to be loved and cared about, but I am not sure if I am asking too much.
What makes you think your loved ones don't care about you? Have they told you that or do they show you with their actions?
U're so relatable when you say this
I know how you feel, man. I've felt that way for years.
I always feel like crying because I feel like nobody loves me. 😞
Why can't anyone see that I'm not perfect and that I mess up sometimes?
If people can’t see that you mess up sometimes and you aren’t perfect then you don’t deserve them. We’re humans and humans make mistakes, everybody does we can’t help it. If people can’t realize that then I say get rid of them
@@ghstbys9189 yeah, you're right. Thanks!
You may not be perfect but I'm sure you are an amazing person
@@niamhs6042 thanks. Really appreciate it.
GOD LOVES YOU!!!We Love You All!!!
This video defines how I've felt ever since school started back up, hopalong...I nearly cried in class today when someone said this in exact words "Wow...you really have no one don't you?" During class all I do in my spare time is sit down and well...nothing else...its very lonely and now that people are even starting to say that about me is...heartbreaking...
Don’t let those people affect you. You are unique and you’ll not be alone. Try to find people that understand and appreciate you. I understand it’s hard, don’t give up.
Same I have no friends in school except maybe this 1 person in this one class
The only friend you really need is your self. So start being a real friend to yourself . Which means loving yourself in spite of what others may think of you because, just as this video states, no one knows the real you.The sensitive, sweet, caring person that you are inside. So just know this about yourself and it doesn’t matter what others think. I can tell you are a worthwhile person. 👍😉
You have to develoo your unique voice..be it stories, poem. Music or art..u have to learn how to express urself.. humans don't just communicate with spoken words. Find yours and do it . The right people will flock to you boy...do not worry . I have been there and got out of it
I feel you...one of my relatives out of nowhere asked "what's wrong with you". I was dumbfounded and didn't know how to answer that. He said that in such a teasing tone or maybe I just felt that. He even said " half of your mind in always somewhere else" and then let out a little laugh like he made the biggest joke ever.
Those last two points really hit close to home. Seems like I'm always fighting to have the same chance society gets with dating and then as much love as some express toward me, I'm constantly disliked for my age or general difficulty in a short conversation. Really just don't feel like I belong here sometimes.
Feel like everyone hates you? Not a good person? Trust me you reflecting on your self, knowing your mistakes and working on them means you are a good human! Stubborn people don't work on their mistakes,learn from your mistakes and just love the way you are❤️💓✨
(P.S wrote this after crying because i felt unwanted and I don't want any of to waste your tears!)
The one I often forget, and it makes so much sense to hear others say it: "No one is entitled, for any reason, to treat you badly."
Why does my chest feel painful when I feel alone? It's kinda hard to describe, or it's like that sinking feeling?
maybe ur scared when ur alone, i think it might be a scared feeling? hope this helps a little
Same :(
Oh i get you, it feels like somebody dropped my heart in water and i feel myself sinking, it is really a bad experience, and worse is that i almost experience it daily.
Mine more of a lonely feeling..I..guess I'm just feel like I need to love someone or be love by them to feel like..I exist or am needed..but these things take time and just as long we learn to 💗ourself I think that's most important..but there are some days..I get that lonely feeling..but it will be hang in there everyone and just enjoy being yourself.💗💖💕🌼🌸..am sorry i hope this helps a bit tho.😌🌸
I feel that too but i think it was more because i used to hit myself in the chest
Thanks for this, I've been experiencing an extreme distaste for myself as of late at the realisation that in all my past relationships I was being used as a means to get closer to someone else who they really wanted. It's been extremely crushing and has made me question my self worth numerous times. Thank you for putting this video out, it helped me somewhat.
I’m 34 and have yet to be in a romantic relationship. I’ve tried several times to work on being comfortable with myself but I cannot find a single thing in life that I truly enjoy. I’ve watched all of the people I knew in high school and college go and start their own careers and families, and one by one they stopped wanting to spend time with me because I am the weird loner with no dreams for the future.
God is a figment of man's imagination. We are nothing more than a coincidental collection of stardust.@rikoowo9
Trying to raise my head when I am actually lonely and unloved is the main challenge of my life. I am perfectly aware I am facing a tsunami with my bare hands and I have no rational reason to think that my life will improve anytime soon (also because I am basically self-taught since I cannot afford to pay a psychotherapist). Despite everything I feel grateful to live in an era where internet allows me to find useful articles, blogs, videos, etc... "psych2go" is included naturally. That's it. I just wanted to say your hard work is really appreciated.
P.S. Sorry if my english is not the best, I'm not a native speaker. Greetings from Belgium
Are you Muslim?
@@alimunnaharsetu9415 I'm an atheist
@@Nabil_El_Mahfoudi --- Oh, I see!!! Then I did a mistake. Actually, your name looked more ARABIC type than DUTCH type. I am sorry as I assumed the wrong thought. Thank you very much for answering to me.
And your health insurance doesn't pay a psychotherapist? cuz in Germany they do
Your english is very good. I couldn't even tell you weren't a native speaker, other than the fact you write more formally than most native English speakers. - Love, an aspiring English teacher
“To practice self-love try writing down things you love about yourself and people in your life who love you”. And what if my self-esteem is so low that I just can’t find anything I love about myself? Not to mention people who love me, I just feel that they don’t exist and probably won’t be existing. People “love” me only when they need something from me and then they just disappear :(
:((( Hugs.
ME
I feel the exact same way. I can think of maybe 10 good things about myself.
This is so relatable..
I know this may come late and i dont know you but let me just say somethings, because maybe at least one of them is true. Its harder to find the cool and positive in yourself than others.
Maybe you:
Have a beatifull voice,
An interesting hair color,
Wonderfull eyes,
Maybe you can play an instrument,
Or are good with children or animals,
Maybe you are super smart about a supject like anime, biologie or idk.,
Maybe you make a cut esound when you sneeze...
Even if they dont sound that special they are positives.
I swear everytime I'm having a hard day this channel comes up with the perfect video for my situation, much love!
I am so grateful for this video! I’m aromantic, and everyone around me acts like it’s a bad thing, so I’m so glad that they called out the fact being single doesn’t mean you’re not lovable. ❤️❤️❤️
The moment yall said, "You're lovable." I started crying. This channel is amazing.
I’m not lovable
@@IrobtheCheaksLilBro I am sure you are
@@IrobtheCheaksLilBro same
@@IrobtheCheaksLilBro You are, you don't know it but you are
Same
"single for a while"; yeah, try decades. It's not just negative thoughts, it's a fact: never been, never will be!
Exactly, I'm single for 10 years now, it feels like I wasn't made for romantic relationships, I'm so sad 😢
☹️
@@bonda3rd150 that's literally the worst advice
@@bonda3rd150 It's fine to be nice, but empty platitudes that mean nothing add to the despair
Same here,it doesn't mean we are not worthy of love
I’m lazy, I’m fat, feel like every girl on the face of the earth thinks I’m a creep, I have every mental illness in the book, I work on a computer all day, I have very little money, and not a day has gone by in the past 3 years where I haven’t thought about death, if a girl really liked me, thought I’d have one by now, sorry 9 year old me, sorry dad, everywhere I look there’s a couple showing there love to one another in there own way like holding hands, kissing, making out, putting there heads on one another, I’m too depressed to ever think of having that, I know I’m not lovable and I’d think that that’s a proven theory and one I’m not proud of
just this coming up on made me cry. How do people that don't even know me know me so well?
Yes they always make the best videos at the right time. Honestly it’s kinda creepy...
Because you are human and we are more alike than different. Take care of yourself friend. ❤
you're not alone :))
@@yuldelarapa6051 true. I'm here in South Africa and yet can relate to strangers out there.
Yes the way people treat you is actually a reflection of them.
I don't believe this 3:34
I'm 23 and all I've got was rejections. I never even kissed a girl. I feel so hopeless, there's only my professional life ahead of me, I can't see anything else. Feels like I'm gonna stay like this forever. I'd kill for a chance to start over.
I HATE being ALONE.
Did you know that God loves you. You've probably heard that before but He really does. Did you know that even if you were the only person on earth Jesus would still come to die for you. You're wonderfully and fearfully made by Him that means that He carefully and distinctively made you. He cares for you and loves you and wants to have a relationship with you. Even if nobody like you or you have nobody at the moment you can have God and God is so gracious He will bring people who truly care for you to you. Believe Him, accept Him, trust Him. Praying for you Chadwick
i love being alone because i just cry and feel like no one loves me
@@cmr_77time and place. Read the room
@@Sjood-qs8ol he's just tryna help
@@cmr_77 Jesus is not a human
how can he love us when we can't love him 😭?
The closet i would be in getting a relationship was in grade 4, but we got separated before i could even tell her my feeling. After that , it's a long streak of rejections and rejections. Girls being grossed out by my feelings, shaming me both physically and mentally, or sometimes just ended up ghosting me for no reasons. Tbh, at this point, i just give up, maybe love isn't meant for me.
I just need *one* friend who i can trust to and tell my problems whenever i feel sad but i dont have anyone i can share my problems to
And that makes me sad that i have no friends and i think to myself "Am I that unloveable that people dont want to be friends with me"
That's not your problem. People are just more superficial and self-centered these days thanks to social media. "Likes," "Subscribes" and "Shares" and viral worth inflate people's egos. So it's not your fault that no one wants to listen to your problems, it's just that everybody these days are too into themselves to care about other people.
@@elsongs oh i didnt even know i commented this
Kinda awkward lmao but ty for ur comment
Yes I want to same thing too.
i have some friends that i think i can trust but i’m just really scared to talk to them about how i feel cause i just think that they will make fun of me or they just wont care or something
I’ll be your friend. I have Instagram and am nice to a lot of people :) I too feel the exact same way. Idk what’s wrong with me that people hate so much. All I wanna do is be nice to someone and them be nice to me
I'm grateful this channel exists. I truly am. If I could, I'd give each and every person that works on this channel behind the scenes a big hug because I just feel so incomplete. You all are shedding light as to why I feel these emotions. And let's be honest. We could all use a hug every once in awhile. 😊
I agree 🤗
I ain't gonna lie chief, if I got a decent hug from anyone but my mom's at this point, I'll probably cry 😂
@Fenrir Who gon stop me? 🤨
You're not alone
When I see another person suffering, it literally causes me pain. I am compelled to comfort them. If I don’t, I hurt. I wish I had one person who’d go to the mat like I do for others.
💔💔💔
I guess I just need to accept it. I'll be alone forever. I'll never know the feeling what it's like a girl talking sweet and nice to you. Never know what it's like to touch to hug. Even tho then I see girls being so nice to their guys makes me depressed and sobbing since I remember then the way I was treated since I was a kid is completely opposite of nice. Gotta figure out somehow to be ok with being isolated somehow. Tho I can't take my life so I ask God to do it in painless way sometimes
What a timing. It’s my 21st birthday and I live in a very toxic family so I basically don’t have a birthday. At least the present that I bought myself made me feel a little better
Sonia Celine Happy Birthday!
Wish you all the best for the future.
@@17dbJohn thank you so so much!
Happy birthday 🎂 😁
@@morganator4874 thank you so much!! I appreciate you
@@avantika6077 ,Oh yes, Happy Birthday, Sonia Celine !!😇💖🌹🦋
This person’s voice is like a warm hug 😌
The warm hug we all desperately need but won't actually receive.
😄
Just an actress used to lure you into this bs psych lecture.
I am quite a quite student in my class. I feel a little insecure so I always wear mask. Actually I can't pronounciate some sounds. I do look a little normal with mask but look completely different without it. They talk me when I wear mask but avoids me without mask. When I am wearing mask they approach me differently. I am well aware that they just put a facade when talking me but anyone can clearly guess that they do not want to talk me.
1. Lack of empathy, cowardice, selfishness, inconsiderateness, unmotivated, enjoying short term pleasures instead of thinking long term, only willing to help others hoping for praise and/or because of a selfish desire to make me feel good about myself.
How am I supposed to love myself?
2. Oh yeah, negativity bias is definitely a factor with me. Positives in my life usually come from other people, not from me.
3. Mistakes and shortcomings are easily forgivable and important for growth. My flaws are my inner desires and thoughts behind my actions(refer to 1.).
4. Okay, this doesn't apply to me as much.
5. Because I don't love myself, then of course I can't expect to be loved(though I still yearn for it, regrettably).
6. Different people treat me in different ways. It's difficult to truly understand someone else, so they're only "loving" an incomplete understanding of who I am.
if i “love myself” i feel selfish
Yeah I feel the same sometimes too😅😓
Dont feel selfish fell proud
Yes, and I feel like nobody will like me if I focus on myself.
It's all a question of good balance:
If you feel self love, you feel confident in yourself and in your capacity to tackle any life event you can experience.
But if you feel too much self love, you become narcissistic and self centered, which reflects negatively on you.
i was raised to think this way, maybe self-love isnt selfish
To the ones who are watching this
I love you all...be strong be happy ❤😘
Ok 😐
This channel has gotten me through dark times. Much love
Neglected and never praised for my achievements but constantly made aware of my shortcomings.
When all my crushes don’t reciprocate, 😞 but it doesn’t define who I am.
the timing of releasing this video scared me a bit because i was just telling a friend how i dont deserve to be loved. thanks psych2go for being here.
Love is the purest feeling that stems from the soul and is instinctively pure of human nature, this video is about signs someone really loves you 💛
ruclips.net/video/cUx_S4Q1xiI/видео.html
all the videos of this channel are so good. the voice of the narrator is so much healing. it feels like someone is listening and talking to me. and giving me warm hug. thank you
There are no more barriers to cross. All I have in common with the uncontrollable and the insane, the vicious and the evil, all the mayhem I have caused and my utter indifference toward it I have now surpassed. My pain is constant and sharp, and I do not hope for a better world for anyone. In fact, I want my pain to be inflicted on others. I want no one to escape. But even after admitting this, there is no catharsis; my punishment continues to elude me, and I gain no deeper knowledge of myself. No new knowledge can be extracted from my telling. This confession has meant nothing. I am inconsolable.
The second one hit the hardest for me.
Love is the purest feeling that stems from the soul and is instinctively pure of human nature, this video is about signs someone really loves you 💛
ruclips.net/video/cUx_S4Q1xiI/видео.html
@@limitless7807 well except me i lost my feeling for love........
Ever since my breakup, I’ve been scared that no one will ever love me again. :( that relationship was the only time I’ve ever felt love in my life, and I don’t know how to love myself. I’m so stressed.
I haven’t even been on one relationship lol
@@FirstLast-ut2bk well if there’s one thing I would tell you, it’s that what’s yours will always find you. Maybe you have to just wait :)
@Abigail I'm in the same situation as you, went through a break up with someone who told me lies from the very start. When I found out and confronted him he became verbally abusive and threatened me. I'm not good with self love anyway and even find it hard to give myself a pamper day as I feel like I'm not worthy of it. Or I shouldn't wear all my nice perfumes because there not ment for but I like them. I hope you'll be ok. Stay strong. I hope there's gentlemen out there somewhere.
Same:(( he cheated on me. I really really really loved him. I don't understand why things just don't go well for me. It hurts a lot. I feel very hard to love, I feel that maybe I should convince myself that I don't want or need to be loved and hugged and kissed, and just be alone. It's been 6 months and I'm scared for my sanity lol I've been crying every day since that day
After my breakup, I thought I was a hard one to be loved. But in due course seeing girls in my circle who are harder than me, have found their guys and are happily together. This makes me feel unlovable. It's been 8 since my last break-up. And guys approach me for just time pass companionship and nobody ever wanted me for life.
theres only so much working on yourself and being alone a person can take.
I'm 51 with no friends or family. I'm literally exhausted trying. If I make a new friend I get dumped if a new, bubbly person comes along (I'm shy/reserved). No one likes Ms Shy 😥
When I start feeling unlovable and lonely my brain tries so hard to convince myself that it's true and it turns into this massive complicated thing that I feel like I can't get out of... I like this video because it's so simple and short and it makes me feel like my worries aren't as deep (or real) as I feel that they are
I have that same problem and brain really takes negative bias and runs with it. This video is exactly what I need to break the cycle.
I get that. Fighting against thoughts is usually difficult because we approach it the wrong way. We just try to get rid of thoughts and that is just impossible. However we can transform them slowly so they become more positive and less overwhelming. Don't worry, you're fine and I love you even though I don't know you lol
"Romantic relationships do not determine your worth or your value" This actually needs to be told to some people in relationships. I have known so many people who are nice single then when together suddenly certain people are not good enough for them and they spend a lot more time criticising and complaining about others then they ever did before.
Single....I don't even honestly make friends. I just don't connect with people no matter how hard I want. As a kid, I drowned it out with reading, playing games and so on. But as an adult, I can't hide it anymore. I want to connect with people....but I don't know how. Forget getting a romantic relationship. I'd like just to at least connect with people as friends.
I know I don't love myself. But I know why I don't love myself. There is nothing to love and everything to hate. My hate for myself is so powerful that I struggle to leave my house altogether.
My grandad just passed away a few hours ago..I love him and miss him so much
I'm so sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry for your loss
M so sorry for your loss 💔
may he rest in peace, and i'm sorry for your loss stay strong ❤
May he rest in peace..
Being single all my life like I've never been in a romantic relationship. It really creates a nasty view on myself I find myself thinking if I've never been seen in such a way or given a chance than I must be worthless and that my pathetic existence is the root of the problem and that if I was someone else then maybe I would have a chance to be seen as worthy. I admit I am a very pessimistic person but I have endured a little too much physical and mental pain starting from such a young age and that continued into my adult life. And I tell ya people always say being single is great! But as someone who being single is all I've known it creates a feeling of emptiness that rots the core over time that creates a joyless person. And in these uncertain times where shit will most likely hit the fan very soon there really is not much that gives me hope or motivation to try anymore
Embrace rejection, after some lots of them you might not fear
i just had an existential crisis on four different "signs someone feels attracted to you" videos about how thats impossible and im living in a multiverse where the internet can be accesible, and then that means i might just exist in an endless void where when i die nothing can or will possibly happen..
now you just cured it in 5 minutes, thanks!
(I still think im unnatractive just this video made me realize nothing can defy physics here so that mean no multiverse can exist and that means a void cannot exist large enough to cancel out the energy of existance itself and that means when i die an eternal void in impossible)
edit: what am i doing with my life
Nobody loves me 😢and I’m tired of being excluded
This is one of the channels I come to when I'm a sobbing mess and having breakdowns. Just your voice is enough to calm me a little inside. Thank you for helping me and so many ppl.
All I feel is shame, guilt, and self-loathing. I have been sober for over 30 years and I have nothing to show for it. I'm poor and unlovable. At 60, I've accomplished nothing. None of my dreams, not even the small ones, have come true. My family despises me. None of life's milestones have come my way. Didn't graduate from college, never married, no children, no career, no significant other, never traveled. Nothing but crappy apartments, beater cars, ratty clothes. There is no joy, beauty, or hope in my life. At my age there isn't anything good on the horizon, as the horizon is severely diminished. If I don't muster the courage to kill myself, I'm certain I will rot away in some state-run nursing home. I will die unloved and unmourned.
This really helps! Thanks you Psych2go! I’ve always been told by my family around me that I have change myself to be loved; and that often makes me feel unlovable. But my friends tell me it’s “It’s not you at all. You are a lovable person. It just takes time.”
I don't know why people take this in a negative way, it's so freeing
”You don't need alot of friends, you just need the good ones.”
-XXXTENTATION
Rest in piece😭❤️
shut
LLJ❤️❤️
@@mintyminxduo your sentence is worst than my life.
@@Crocshurr indeed
@@mintyminxduo lmao I was just joking sorry
Almost 20 years struggling with all of these feelings. And these videos are the only life boats I have right now.
Hey the fact that you went through all of that speaks volume of your strength
This video made me cry a few times. Recently I've been under a lot of stress and pressure, so I my temper has been kinda short. I know that's not good at all and I'm praying and working on it. Nevertheless, it has happened enough to make me ashamed. But the encouragement in this video has helped so much. Reminding me that we are all imperfect and also the way a certain person treated me to cause me to get angry was not my fault. It's not my fault that they don't love and care for me the way I deserve. Thank you! I thank God for you.
I got to a point where start to crave love so much that I'm willing to ruin it for others.
Like, whenever a friend comes to me and talks about her new relationship I shut them down immediately by saying how much I don't want to hear them talk about it or how I specifically tell them how I hope it ends as soon as possible, often hurting them.
I just feel like if they're unhappy they are somehow closer to me.
I've been in isolation since May... In that time the only people I've talked to are my supervisor and my old boss. Even in my grad program, the lectures are videos so we don't meet or anything. It's honestly been awful. Bout the only time I see other people is getting groceries at the store.
I can't help but feel unloved and disliked. Couple that with my chronic depression and you can guess how hard this year has been.
I don't expect it to get better anytime soon, but that's okay. I've kinda gotten used to it.
Aw it’s ok. Just try to go out and communicate more and do things you love daily. To be loved by others you have to love yourself first. Best of luck and stay blessed :)
Hey I feel you. Things have not been great for all of us. One of the things i started doing was working out. It releases chemicals in the brain sort of like a low key anti-depressant. try running a mile each day and like 25-50 pushups it has helped me and my mental state in this trying time.
You got an Angel's voice!
You can just heal hearts with your voice alone❤️
Love is the purest feeling that stems from the soul and is instinctively pure of human nature, this video is about signs someone really loves you 💛
ruclips.net/video/cUx_S4Q1xiI/видео.html
I just can't imagine someone ever falling in love with me. Why would someone fall in love with someone like me? I am not an interesting person, I don't have goals in life, I don't have friends, I don't have motivation to do anything and I just stay in my room all day playing video games since it's my only way to cope.
I wouldn't fall in love with someone like myself, so why would anyone?
No one has ever showed me that they love me or that they're really glad to have me in their lives, I'm just nobody's favorite person and never will be.
You seem like you're going through a lot. Can I ask - do you want to change? Or do you feel like it won't help?
@@letmariaread7862 it's not that I don't want to change, I just dont think there's anything I could do to change how i feel
@@yxngh0st I watched a video today from the psychologist healthy gamer that I think might help you - it's about alexathymia (where you feel unable to identify and describe your emotions)
ruclips.net/video/8pQBdZ3RdfA/видео.html
Let me know if anything he says resonates :)
@@letmariaread7862 I haven't finished watching the video, but I've been watching it for about half an hour and I really wanna thank you for sending me this. I relate to so much stuff that he describes, and reading the comments helps me feel less lonely as I see that lots of people have similar struggles.
This video actually makes me realize that I use video games to suppress my emotions. And that's why I just have to keep playing, because as soon as I stop and leave it, all the negative emotions just start to kick in and I often end up crying out of frustration because I just fall into reality and realize that I am only happy when I'm playing, I only have friends when I'm playing, I only have motivation when I'm playing. As soon as I stop, I'm back at being useless, lonely, afraid, anxious and angry.
The "where do you see yourself in five years" question made me feel bad, because I hate thinking about the future and I hate the fact that the future is near. I can only see negative things happen in the future and I just know I'll feel even worse than what I do now, because the frustration just keeps growing and growing inside of me.
Anyways, I wanna thank you once more for sending me the video, I'll finish watching it now
@@yxngh0st What you wrote moved me. I want to start by saying that I think you're incredibly brave for sharing all of this with a stranger on the internet. You write to articulately (a rare trait) and you seem so aware - and all it took was a single video. Think about what you could do if you went further and applied what you learned!
I experienced a similar thing a few years back when I was figuring out who I was and what I wanted to do with my life. I realised much later that I had suppressed my emotions (I would binge watch Netflix and RUclips and binge eat) because I didn't want to deal with the panic and fear caused by the uncertainty of the future. I was lucky to have a friend to help me out - he acted as a pseudo-therapist by asking the right questions at the right time. I understand that not everyone has this support system so now I want to offer you my help, if you're willing to accept it. Let me know what you think :)
Two hours ago I was so negative and in such a dark place.. i went through stores and tried to make myself feel better, got some jewlery and two stress toys, snacks, maybe way too many.. i feel better after that walk.. maybe had too much icecream but hey, I’m here, that’s awesome😅😊 my last therapist told me I have to do things to make myself feel better.. not to wait to feel good first then go out, cause that never happens without an incentive..life can be beautiful even when alone. Better alone than with good company. I try to ignore the bad ones even if close..
1:26 Try writing down things you love about yourself. 3 years ago we were asked to do the same thing in class and I just looked at the paper not knowing what to write cuz i couldn't think of anything. 3 years later I still don't know and it feels like I will never know
Maybe it's your sense of style that reflects in your cute profile drawing. Maybe it's the fact that you are indeed trying to look for things you love about yourself. It could be something really small, and you don't even have to feel it at first. Start by thinking it
@@Mar10la Thank you for your encouraging words, that's really nice of you.
I can't think of anything I love about myself either. I wonder if perhaps we try to look for big things when maybe to begin with the tiny things can be less difficult to notice?
I dunno, it's so terrifying to even think of, but maybe like the one thing I can think of that I don't hate about myself could be that I don't think any race is superior to another? It seems like such a simple thing, and just a basic bit of humanity, but perhaps it's important to notice even these tiny things? Just to convince yourself that there ARE things about you that are positive, however small, and therefore there can be more?
I dunno, I'm probably just rambling. Hope you feel better
@@headofvengarl8893 Thank you for your kind words. I hope you the best on your journey to self love.
Thank you Psych to Go for making me feel so much better after a huge mental breakdown. I love you guys ❤️
this actually made me cry the first 2 minutes cause I realized I don't love myself and I tried thinking of anything I liked about myself and I couldn't.
Thank you for the last part. You might not even know how much you needed to hear something just until you do hear it. Thanks and I really love this channel, it's a real safe space❤
Thanks, I was feeling very alone. This helped a lot.
Love is the purest feeling that stems from the soul and is instinctively pure of human nature, this video is about signs someone really loves you 💛
ruclips.net/video/cUx_S4Q1xiI/видео.html
I don't know u but go watch the one that says how to deal with loneliness and read the longest comment.
I love this channel so much. Tbh, I’ve been feeling alone and unlovable for the past couple of years. Now that I’ve been out of school for a few months now, it’s gotten better and worse.
Anyway, my point is that watching this channel has put everything in a better perspective in how I’m feeling. I can better understand what it is that I’m feeling, and know that I’m not alone. Thank you, Psych2Go. Much love ❤️