How to Spot Borderline Personality Disorder to Protect Your Mental Health
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- Опубликовано: 21 июл 2024
- Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes helps you identify signs of borderline personality disorder to help you develop healthy relationships and protect your mental health.
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I'm a male BPD - but completely self aware about the problem. It just doesn't change my behaviours being simply aware, because they act like impulses. My bpd triggers are only really visible in work settings, intimate relationship or close friendships, and sometimes public interactions
Yeah, it doesn’t actually change anything to know. It just a better understanding of what’s going on. I been with someone with BPD for 7 years. But she refuses to acknowledge it. And when I use to bring it up, she would deflect and accuse me of having it. She has people around her that are far enough from it that they don’t see it. So they take what she says at face value and it feeds her “monster” with the validation that it needs to survive.
So triggers are for every setting in life?
@@ItalianJew potentially. It depends on whether these interactions target perceptions of abandonment, mistreatment or abuse. However I do my best to not let my reactions get out of hand.
@@sincityquinn sorry for being late to reply to you. But that sounds stressful. I lost the love of my life a few years ago due to having undiagnosed BPD and acted in ways that blamed and projected everyone else. It is really important to get to self awareness but ALSO decide to act upon changing it consciously. I am a better person now than I ever have been, but there is still a way to go. I am very lonely and feel despair and repressed anger often but I am also a believer of God and accept responsibility for my situation. I hope you and your lover are in a better place
So it affects every relationship then
As a BPD sufferer myself I understand fully that someone should be given the tools to discern and equip themselves before engaging with a possible BPD sufferer . But this video is not compassionate to the sufferer … this doctor makes me feel thta
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A. We are subpar people lower than you “ normal “ people
B. We are not redeemable in any way and that we do not have qualities that you normal people may not have and cannot even exceed you
C. Stay away from us we do not deserve to be loved
By the way even if I do suffer form it .., I ma quiet BPD sufferer anyway .. I internalise it and do not unleash my inner demons and compulsion on the other … I suffer in pain quietly …
So while I understand and empathise with people who are survivors and kudos also for setting yourself free … don’t be biased either … even This doctor is not perfect even by any yardstick and seven normal people May hv disorders as well.. IT is just not reported mentioned or brought to light … don’t be biaed you are not perfect either !!!
No offense to anyone suffering this PROFOUND mental illness. I tried to help my best friend and wife get help for 22 years. I went of full time disability with a nightmare of a disease and the last 7 years of our relationship was absolute hell!!!! I don't ever want to spend time with anyone a cluster b disorder ever again. I'm deeply wounded from my experience.
Sorry
@@DavidAKZ lol. Just very glad it's over. Life goes on.
@@luke144 🙂
I feel like a monster when people talk about BPD, often times i give so much and it might come off as clingy and then i feel them pull away, i get more desperate and try to hold on to them which makes them push me further away and snap a darkness or fog fills my head i send the worst message to them with words that will hurt them, in my mind they deserve to feel the pain I'm feeling. The next day i feel the deepest regret and wish to apologise but they have shut me out of their lives completely even when i try to explain that i couldn't control it and I'm sorry. I feel like a devil controls me for a day and destroys my life and relationships and all it took was a day. Years long relationships destroyed in seconds. It makes me feel like a monster and i feel they are justified, my self worth dashed. Then a long time of reflection things i could of done, if only they knew if only they saw that my love was stronger than the dark and that part of me i couldn't control.
In all my relationships i know expect they will see this part of me one day and i will be abandoned and i feel hopeless. I must leave them alone because i will hurt them.
I completely understand you. It’s so hard living with this fucking monster. 🫂💖
Well if you feel like a monster with your condition, then you should seek professional help BEFORE you date and drag some innocent, unsuspecting man down your Rabbit Hole of mental illness!
I have bod and I actually do wanna change really badly. Idk why it said we don’t think our behavior is problematic or want to change it
I don't mean to sound harsh but I think it's more that people with bpd know exactly what they are doing like with other personality disorders but just can't change it. A bit like trying to not have ptsd. Just because you are aware of it and understand it doesn't mean you can alter anything even if you wanted to. Which sucks.
My US husband can be frustrating sometimes. He can go from sweetness to bitterness! His severe mood swings makes me realize that he has a borderline personality disorder.
Videos like this should be labeled with "do not watch if you have BPD-it will confirm all your fears that you are not worthy of love and you will feel like a piece of shit as usual"
same. ugh
One of the best videos I’ve seen on this subject and I’ve seen too many. Thank you
I’m pretty sure my mother has BDP. I’ve watched these behaviors for 3 decades and it’s exhausting to be around. How does one deal with a parent like this? 🤦🏽♀️
My mom has it to and she gave it to me LMAO
First of all, research the heck out of the disorder. I really like AJ Mahari, she has practical advice for you on her RUclips channel. The cool thing about her channel is you can listen to it and not watch the video, so you can treat it like a podcast and be working or driving while you are getting "self help" advice.
Setting strict boundaries, limiting contact/exposure, "grey rocking" work. Sometimes no contact may be necessary. I have a BPD mom, and have so much sympathy for you and your situation. You got this, you can do it! 💙
@@spiritualski4651The gift that keeps on giving...
First video I find that explains this disorder with precision . Mostly all videos I have found talk about how we need to have compassion and do not touch, in the slightest way, the fact that ppl with this personality disorder have a detrimental impact on others .
You might look at "AJ Mahari" for videos with a similar tone. She isn't a Dr or Therapist, but she helps people with the disorder, and the victims of people with BPD. She is very "no nonsense" and doesn't believe in coddling those with BPD. I find her refreshing after watching so many videos that I perceived as being "soft" on abusers....
Yeah go on a dementia video and spread the "their symptoms are inconvenient for me, they are adults and therefore they are responsible for their behaviour, I don't care how broken their brain is all I care is that people with dementia are adults so screw them; poor me, let's have no compassion because people with dementia are really inconveniently unpredictable and attack others a lot". I hope reincarnation is real, just so you get to be born with all of the different medical problems involving extremely painful brain abnormalities causing extreme emotions that you discriminate against, and I bet it's not just this one.
BPD is NOT ego syntonic, by the way, this woman is spouting ignorant historical views of BPD that generalised about tge so-called family of "personality disorders" as if everything they put in that hodgepodge category works the same way.
BPD is brain abnormality that is so painful that NOBODY wants it. One cause for her statements about people with BPD not feeling guilty for outbursts or misinterpretations they make, is that women with NPD and Antisocial PD get misdiagnoed with BPD, and then BPD gets falsely associated with those NPD and Antisocial things. Antisocial women often hurt themselves too, but it is NOT to reduce intense emotions like it is in BPD, but purely for attention, manipulation or to accuse someone else of abuse, like Amber Heard did, and then they get diagnosed with BDP wrongly and give BPD a bad name.
*The COVERPAGE'S title itself is Dumb & as STUPID AS A DITCHHOLE!*
*I examined within a second, what was coming forth, so the next moment there is a whole projection of war in the comment section as it was assumed!*
*it is all just to instigate hatred & get attention with wrong intentions, a real educated psychiatrist wouldn't play this kinda of theatre & Stretch*
Amazing analysis and presentation. Really spot on how it is to be in a relationship with a BPD. Thank you!
Very good video, this sounds like my ex. She switched from loving me to wanting nothing to do with me in the matter of 4 hours. Her mother had BPD so she has a higher chance of having it. There were some other situations that were similar to what you said in the video. Man I loved her and I wish I found this video sooner, she left me for another man but I just hope she finds peace within herself. I hope she realizes what she did and does the work to fix herself.
let her rot
I just want to make it very clear that I don’t always want to be w someone 24/7. This only happens perhaps in the very beginning.
I need time to myself very often. I can’t be w someone everyday. I get tired. And I like to have male friends that I could hang out w instead on some days. This makes me feel emotionally balanced.
As I said in the beginning of the presentation, BPD symptoms occur along a continuum. No two people with BPD are going to have the same symptoms in the same way to the same degree.
@@DocSnipesAddictionRecovery I feel sorry for all the patients that are close to you. 'Doctors like you is the reason why society is falling apart
Male friends - hang out ... Ahhhaaaaaa
This seems to be the most violent and the most intolerable personality disorder. I feel as though I’ve been around a good many people with this disorder, and been with someone romantically like this. A person that never takes responsibility is a miserable person to be around.
You have never been with a BPD person, trust me-
@@oscaranka4278"I invalidate your entire experience... I know more about you (Internet stranger) than you know about yourself"
That partr of what she said is NOT part of BPD, just all the women with antisocial and NPD who get misdiagnosed with it. Men as a group are perceived more negatively than women, so it's hard for them to be seen by professionals as people who are hurting, so they get misdiagnosed with Antisocial when they are BPD, and women have opposite, even when they are sociopaths they are seen as victims so their actions are attributed to BPD so as to be slightly more sympathetic towards them (slightly). This has caused BPD to be falsely associated with certain NPD and Antisocial traits like never apologising, whereas people with real BPD (who don't happen to have comorbid Antisocial) apologise all the time or disappear in shame after outbursts because they can't handle their negative feelings about what they did and how that person will now see them, in their mind.
NPD is 10x worse
I truly believe my Ex Gf has some characteristics of bpd. I truly loved Her and i still missed Her and i never did anything to make Her think i was interested in anyone else, but She didn’t feel that way with me. I ended the relationship but at the time didn’t even think or really knew what bpd was. I remember a time where I drove 5 hours to meet her at a Beach, i could tell She was already upset at me, i just could not for the life of me think what was wrong. Turns out She was upset at me for not unfollowing all the Women i follow in my Social Media who were not Married. I showed Her all my messages and everything to let Her know that I was not interested in any of these Women. My ex gf is absolutely attractive and I know most people would agree. It’s not like I was following more Women than Men. I have a few other scenarios, but I was truly taken back by this
Yeah, my ex was bi-sexual so she liked to check out women on Instagram and send them to me, but if I did the same she would freak out at me.
All my women friends on Facebook were potential women I’d cheat on her with in her mind, even though I had been single for 7 yrs before I met her and I’d chosen her because SHE was who I wanted to be with.
She’d have mood swings in a matter of hours, go from confident to angry to feeling worthless…
I didn’t know she was probably BPD so my reaction was to get angry at the accusations since to me cheating is beneath me, I know myself and my values…I wish I had realized sooner because I wouldn’t have reacted to her like I would someone that’s stable emotionally…
It’s sad because I still care for her but she cut me off her life because of her imaginary scenarios of me abandoning her…
Thank you so much Doctor Dawn-Elise Snipes😊
Boris Okhotnikoff
Thanks for these signs
Excellent clinical explanation regarding this condition and diagnosis. Thank you!
If the chick you are dating has a crazy mom, then she will be also . This is hereditary
oh crap
Is your mom crazy?
I actually inherited my crazy from my dad
I understand what you are saying, but it doesn't hold true in all cases. My wife's mom is NPD, and my wife was determined to be 180 degrees opposite. Sometimes a crazy mom can have the opposite effect, and can influence a daughter to become hyper rational/reasonable/kind. I am a lucky man!
Anyone who rejects the truth that harsh circumstances can seriously impact another's mental / emotional bodies only lacks experience of the serious harm the predator in dual human nature is able to inflict, cause, its prey - target. Throwing one's misery at / on another does harm - as intended,
SEE: Body Keeps The Score by Bessel Van dee Kolk💗
As someone with BDP this video made me cry.
I feel that. ❤
Yeah. Getting this diagnosis recently has been eye opening but I also have started to feel hopeless as well.
And now I wonder if my husband is on the BPD spectrum too. I wish I could go back in time and make different decisions with better knowledge
You NAILED it with these individuals.
She didn't nail sh@#$. And these individuals are broken souls and if you lived 5 minutes in their soul you would have closed it for a lifetime
@@truelies2667 that's not anyone's problem. Deal with the fact that no one owes you anything and you have to be aware of your own problems
@@jonaelmejor Bordeline would do anything for the people that they love and they only snap when they feel that they are not appreciated for what they offer. Be quiet
@@jonaelmejorYou are so unbelievably lucky not to have it.
Excellent video
I've watched a few videos now of bpd and I have in the past done most of these or still do regularly
In the new yr of 2023 I will go to see someone... I'm really feeling like I need help at this point
If a borderline end a relationship with you consider it a gift from the heavens.
No joke 100% true
@@E.C.Animation Bordeline would do anything for the people that they love and they only snap when they feel that they are not appreciated for what they offer. Be quiet.
@@truelies2667 why are you here trying to invalidate survivors? Go get help and recognise that coming on a video that is going to trigger you but help survivors in dealing with ppl who have this is part of your problem. Trying to control how you are viewed through the eyes of survivors is not acceptable behaviour
@@44kayleemic The only survivors are the bordeline and now be quiet for a lifetime
@@truelies2667 LMAO!!! Nice joke, “True Lies”.
Great info, very easy to understand
Thank you.
I can't tell if I have bpd or adhd
Thanks 🙏
These erratic irrational rage attacks seem to occur only in their intimate relationships and not in the beginning so what are the red flags before getting into a relationship w someone like this? Someone w this trauma issue, who isn't going to therapy, can ruin your life. Avoid them at all costs imo. I would never deal w that bs.
@Mattejko May God Bless You!
Practitioner here. Ask about their past relationships and upbringing. Is everything everyone else's fault? Do they have a story of victimhood? Do they react angrily to you being not available, not responding to a text immediately, or having boundaries? These would be red flags.🛑
Comments like yours is the reason why society is falling apart. These people are sick and if you lived 5 minutes in their soul and feel what they are going through then you would have closed your mouth for a lifetime
@@schahrzadmorgan Keep proving my point. It is delightful af. And the way that you are going to find IT from a bordeline will also be delightful af. Keep talking menace of this society. Just keep talking
another thing to look out for is if they say sex is like a "reset" and makes the relationship good again. Huge red flag and a common thing with people who have the disorder
I had boundary issues with a new neighbor. She wanted me to store her stuff l said no. Now she's back off, in talking with me. l told her l need my space, another person from the past refuses psychological therapy do to losses. Blamed me that she was the victim when l pushed her away as well. Both could have BPD? (BPD can be a difficult disorder to manage not manipulate?
Everyone who is feeling attacked literally is validating all her points 😂 she is not being mean at all, she simply stating facts and characteristics of borderlines that are challenging to deal with and if you wanna know how to deal with them, go buy her book. She never said people with borderline are not lovable etc. I swear to God these people are so hard to deal with, see things that are not there and always on attack mode. The comments alone are making me not wanna buy her book and actually just run away from them, not her video.
There are different subtypes of BPD not all of them display all these symptoms or act just like this so you shouldn't lump all people with BPD into one label like this it's really damaging
I agree. Quiet borderline is similar to CPTSD.
Other traits are neediness and people-pleasing.
Not understanding i have BPD and mostly forming friendships or relationships. I remember going to friends birthday party at when I was 8 and I all the kids were playing and I went to bathroom and start crying, when the mother came i said I fell and hurt my leg... now I'm 32 and have "life experience" I've travelled, worked, educated, had relationships past tense. But only i have been in and out of psych wards my whole life with threatening to kill myself, sending my family 100s of messages when I'm drunk saying how useless they are and its there fault and they have retard kids. It wasn't until 5 days ago I was diagnosed with BPD now I'm homeless.. 2 weeks ago I had a flat, job and car. I had my family now. I have nothing. But thats what I want really. I want nothing
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Hey, how are you doing now
When you gave me that, I did not ask for it, I gave your stuff away because you weren't using it, I would let you use it
but I may need😢.
Some bpd's well cut themselves for a release of anxiety, others will get the same effect by keying the side of your car,
So how do you deal with these ppl if they are family members?
Run
I have a hard time telling the difference between someone who just has anger issues as a stand alone problem, or someone who actually has bpd
Ultimately I try to explore behaviors and reactions as communications and not get overly concerned with diagnostic labels. What behaviors is the person exhibiting? What might that behavior be communicating? How can the issue be addressed?
People with anger issues get upset at real injustices, people with bpd get upset over perceived offenses, or over getting caught cheating, lying, etc.
@@DocSnipesAddictionRecovery I feel sorry for all the patients that are close to you. 'Doctors' like you is the reason why society is falling apart
@@ednaisabel4741 Bordeline would do anything for the people that they love and they only snap when they feel that they are not appreciated for what they offer. Be quiet
@@truelies2667 Yikes! pwBPD are like 🐍 They WILL bite you. They cannot help themselves. Very dangerous people. Sad for everyone involved including the pwBPD. They didn’t choose to be a 🐍
Excellent observations. I think you just described my ex-wife!
I wonder if tattoos and piercings could be considered as self harm. My person with BPD doesn't self harm as far as I know but she wants to pierce things or get tattoos all the time. She isn't diagnosed and obviously she doesn't like when I try to tell her that I'm certain she has BPD. It's so tough to deal with as a partner.
I think that this toxic cycles (self harm, reckless sex with strangers, substance abuse) is a way of self-punishment as the PwBPD has extremely low self-esteem, yet it can also be seen as a way to take back control of her body after controlling and manipulative partners and many traumatic sexual experiences.
I guess the stigma around BPD is not really unfounded.
I have found it hard to understand the “stop stigmatizing people with bpd”. The “stigmatization” is literally just the symptoms. Most people never even heard of bpd until they been through the roller coaster ride. And even then they might have never identified what the hell happened. So how is the general public stigmatizing something they never heard of. They’re just identifying unsavory behavior and reacting to it in a normal way, considering they don’t know what the hell is going on. It’s like getting mad because people want to be healthy, with healthy relationships. Sure you shouldn’t be alienated because of mental illness but if you’re complaining about stigmatizing your mental illness then you know you have it. It’s your decision to deal with it. The general public is allowed to have the option of wanting to deal with it or not.
Stigma is a mark of disgrace just like leprosy and is humiliating to anybody .it doesn't help you or us in any way.
Remember it is a continuum. Some people with BPD have symptoms that do not interfere with their lives nearly as much as others. But BPD behaviors are communication. They actually do make sense in a survival sort of way, so the stigma is unfounded to that end.
@@DocSnipesAddictionRecovery i feel sorry for all the patients that are close to you. 'Doctors' like you is the reason why society is falling apart
... Great vid. Oh gosh,maybe my x girlfriend,and a current female friend , I'm a tad fed up with 🤔😏. love from the UK 🇬🇧🇺🇸
I find this sort of title difficult because my friend labelled me wi the BPD and stopped talking to me. I don’t have BPD so you know is this healthy?
My friend called me abnormal and told me I hadn’t behaved like a normal human. It was really bad and judgemental. It’s good to know the traits but not good to throw it at someone without consent.
@innervoicejargon they sound like a narcissist
2:05
Most of you people commenting, are invalidating the capacity for a BPD person to be a GOOD person. Sounds like a lot of you have been hurt by people who may or may or may not even be BPD…And i’m sorry, that sucks. I want to acknowledge and validate people who may be victims of emotional or physical trauma at the hand of a loved one with BPD. by all means keep yourself safe no matter the cost. But please understand that we are not all evil people, we do not validate our own manipulative behavior, we did not choose this. We experience emotions with extreme intensity, due to a fundamental problem with the way our brains work. We may recognize that we have a pattern of being manipulative or abusive, but having such little control over your emotions, our efforts are often futile. So maybe reconsider your own problems, before you go ignorantly slapping misleading labels onto an entire group of PEOPLE… many of whom you are actively dehumanizing and demonizing. fuckin get a grip of yourselves people.
My sentiments exactly … I sympathise with the survivors .. I do … but for others who slap labels on us including this doctor … you are not perfect yourself
Wouldn't narcissism and codependency be part of bed?
Lots of overlap
I think it's a bit misleading to fully describe BPD as unwilling to change, considering so many people diagnosed with this are much more likely to go to therapy and do the work to heal compared to say people with NPDs. IMO I classify people who do not want to take accountability as not necessarily a BPD trait, so it's a bit unfair for some people here to demonize BPDs as if they purposely set out to victimize other people with BPD symptoms. Also, a lot of the signs are also usually in response to an invalidating environment. It's sad the biosocial theory wasn't discussed here.
She’s just being objective. It’s a fact that a lot of people with personality disorders don’t want to treat it. Don’t take it personally
My ex partner has it. And she runs whenever someone starts to figure it out. She refuses to get tested and the mere mention of her having a disorder causes her to deflect and project. “No, you have it.” But other times, she’s watched videos and heard stories of women who have it and she said, “It sounds familiar. I understand why you think I have it.” It’s never her fault. Nothing ever is. All of the drama that follows them everyday, it’s everybody else “bullying and picking on them.” The sure way to make someone with BPD leave you “on their terms” is to set boundaries. Hard boundaries and don’t give in. That will make them see that they can no longer use you. And they’ll make up some dramatic reason as to why they had to leave you. (Of course, it will be all your fault.) People with BPD who haven’t had treatment for it and remain undiagnosed are allergic to boundaries. They’ll say you’re punishing them. Controlling them. Whatever. But it’s better if they leave you. Because if you leave them that take it personally. I feel so bad for the next guy. Those first two months are great. But everything after is a non stop 🎢.
All the people I knew who had bpd never admit nor get treatment for it.. it’s always someone else’s fault. They believe they are the victims and that’s why most bpds never change.
@@sincityquinn same here...words for words
Tks for putting it out this way
💯 agreed I’ve been in therapy now for 6 months due to a very toxic connection - very invalidating as you mentioned. I NEVER acted like this in my previous connections! This person has abandoned me multiple times for his ex and caused excruciating pain. These symptoms started to manifest after he hoovered me back but the damage has already been done. I no longer trust him so became hyper-vigilant. It got to the point of him intentionally triggering this wound to get a kick out of it. He was also abusive towards me so I’d detach as my nervous system couldn’t handle it. I stayed no contact for a long time to heal - hence the therapy - but he’d always find ways to hoover me back. It’s so said but I will recover and stay in therapy.
How to fix this
Run
@@texxstalker from where ?
This is interesting.
this video made me feel worse, like I'm some kind of monster. I'm grateful for the educative information, but it's not compassionate to the people suffering from BPD at all.
Turns out I have bpd 🙃
You mean dystonic not syntonic...
You talk about the triggers while ironically speaking about it in a triggering way. It’s pretty invalidating to hear how hard it is to deal with us, while you speak on why we feel the way we do. It sounds like you have a pretty negative view on it.
I agree ☝️
Literally felt the same thing man, I have read that some psychologist hate to have a BPD patient in their case histories.
I was asked to do a video on how to screen for BPD, not a video on how to live with it or treat it. It is also important to embrace the dialectics in all that I said. The very first slide starts out with these behaviors were developed in the past to help the person try to survive. Then I go on to describe some of the signs.
@@DocSnipesAddictionRecovery nah it’s your tone and how you go about it. No one is debating your topics.
Which fkn Tone???? 😂 😂😂😂😂😂 wooow, typical of a person with bpd 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ wow. Always attacking but falsely accusing others of what THEY do.
Not hard to spot
i don’t think this is only reason ppl have bpd some ppl just who they are ppl are who they are
This does sound so negative. I was saddened by this video. You did another one about BPD in which you seemed to feel understanding and compassion both for the non-borderline, who loves someone with BPD, and for the person with BPD. You also didn't seem to feel so negatively about those with BPD, in the other video. Maybe you should watch some of Dr. Daniel Fox's youtube videos on BPD. He is so understanding, compassionate, and positive, and loves working with people with BPD and helping them heal.
This video is for the abused, not really for us (pwBPD).
Dr. Fox isn't what he seems, factually speaking he lies by omission. AJ Mahari has really helped me with my diagnosis. 💙
Why don’t people with BPD get the necessary help and fully heal BEFORE entering into any new relationship and dragging that poor person into the rabbit hole of BPD? Because you know you have BPD BEFORE you start dating, so why would you put an innocent unsuspecting man's mental health in severe jeopardy by not having resolved YOUR mental health issues BEFORE dating?
You sound somewhat offensive to be honest but again you are being straight forward may be.
BPD is a mental health diagnosis because it causes problems in multiple areas of life. As a personality disorder, these problems have persisted for a long time. I also talk about how these behaviors emerge as ways the person develops to try and stay safe.
The description you give of the symptoms plus your body language and expression on your face, feels more like you are judging BPD ppl... Like you're saying "don't be emphatic with ppl with this ILLNESS and stay away as fck as you can" instead of an educational video for ppl who doesn't struggle with bpd
sounds like good advice. Thanks! I'll be sure to stay away from them
Dr. Ramini and Dr.Grande - if you really want to learn about this. This so stigmatizing
This is facts...its harsh but it's reality
AJ Mahari for facts about BPD
this is so stigmatizing lmao
Very!
@Mattejko There are not victims. Just losers who take advantage of bordeline. Be quiet
@Mattejko Bordeline would do anything for the people that they love and they only snap when they feel that they are not appreciated for what they offer. Be quiet
@Mattejko Not justification. Just the facts. And the way that you talk, simply proves my point that the problem is the people close to the bordeline and not the bordeline. Be quiet
@Mattejko Keep talking and keep proving my point. It is delightful af
I find this video very harmful to those with bpd. It comes across as more of a warming to stay away from those with bpd rather than an way to educate on how to understand the disorder and learn how to work with those with bpd to create healthy relationships. I think it is important to be educated on how to recognize and set boundaries with people with bpd but not in the way you are suggesting. Don’t get me wrong most of what you said is true of bpd, but again your delivery is very off and negative. You kept saying the reasoning for the behaviour is too much to get into but I believe you cannot explain one without the other. This video allows for stereotypes to perpetuated without truly understanding underlying cause of actions and thoughts. This does not add anything positive to the community.
Neither does blaming those victimized by this disorder.
I understand what you mean. It was a little offputting; especially when she was saying "these people". Kind of offensive in delivering.
Maybe. But people who deal with those who have BPD unknowingly also have the right to protect themselves from the trail of destruction they find themselves in and wondering what is happening around them caused by the condition. BPD doesn’t only affect the person with the condition, but the people around them especially those who never signed up for this in the first place.
I agree with you 100%. As someone with BPD, this only made me feel worse. The speaker’s delivery is very negative and judgmental.
My mom has BDP and sorry but I have to protect myself from her. There comes a point when you can't keep subjecting yourself to the abuse.
i have all these except the raging anger 🥲