What are the 10 BPD Dos and Don'ts you need to know!

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  • Опубликовано: 8 май 2024
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    This video goes over common BPD Dos and Don'ts that often come up for my clients. Do you have them too? Check out the video and find out.
    Dos:
    1. Do make sleep a priority. Sleep routine, sleep is critical
    2. Do practice pause all the time
    3. Do always practice Radical Acceptance
    4. Do find and support your sense of meaning and purpose
    5. Do find kindness and compassion for yourself, and live it.
    Don'ts:
    1. Don't give in to those old, reflexive maladaptive habits.
    2. Don't abuse substances - alcohol and drugs
    3. Don't accept the belief that you're less than
    4. Don't give in to the negative belief that you deserve to feel pain to be ok; self-punishment is a hoax.
    5. Don't believe your BPD lens, it's tricky and false. Live your authentic life, this means shades of grey, not B&W (splitting)
    Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
    He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:
    Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: www.drdfox.com/books
    The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: goo.gl/LQEgy1
    Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): goo.gl/BLRkFy
    Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: goo.gl/sZYhym
    The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: goo.gl/ZAVe9v
    Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).
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Комментарии • 553

  • @manelyset5162
    @manelyset5162 Год назад +137

    Do:
    - Make sleep a priority. Make a night routine.
    - Practice pause, to help stop all the bad thoughts and behaviors, before you end up giving in. Be better to say to yourself “Stop, pause. This is not an emergency. It’s going to be okay.” Just slow down and don’t act. Just stop.
    When you press “pause”, then reevaluate… Where am I? What am I doing?.. Get centered and be mindful of the situation.
    - Do always practice radical acceptence.
    - Do find and support your sense of meaning and purpose
    - Do find kindness and compassion for yourself and live it and express it
    Dont:
    - Don’t give in to those old, reflexive habits. (Instead make other healthy strategies to evoid selfharm and other bad habits.)
    - Don’t abuse alcohol and drugs
    - Don’t accept the belief that you’re less than.
    - Don’t give in to the negative belief that you deserve to feel pain to be okay. Self-punishment a hoax
    - don’t believe your BPD lens. It’s tricky and false. Live your life. This means, life is shades of grey and not just black and white.

    • @43CYN
      @43CYN 8 месяцев назад +5

      Oh this is actually useful. I appreciate it ❤

    • @brandongauger4050
      @brandongauger4050 5 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you ❤

    • @Khushi-cv1hd
      @Khushi-cv1hd 4 месяца назад +1

      Thanks a lot ❤

    • @ganna_hatem
      @ganna_hatem 2 месяца назад

      Thank you

    • @Shannon_Robbie
      @Shannon_Robbie Месяц назад +1

      Dr. Fox has it all listed under the video. Just click "more".

  • @mandyjames8211
    @mandyjames8211 2 года назад +282

    You have a beautiful energy that is unbelievably healing. You demonstrate constantly exactly how to see those with BPD. It's a course for all of us in support. I realise now how I've enabled things to escalate through my own lack of presence, invariably invalidating my bpd friend through frustration of not having understood what was happening for her.

    • @religiohominilupus5259
      @religiohominilupus5259 2 года назад +2

      A good therapist would ask for permission to obtain previous medical records though, and it would show up anyway.. If the request is denied by the client, the therapist may not want to take the client on.
      I think it's better to be upfront. A good therapist will take your concerns into consideration and if their opinion differs, they'd provide an explanation.

    • @user-jb8rx6bf3h
      @user-jb8rx6bf3h 2 года назад +1

      Sweet. Good stuff

    • @KatJ3st
      @KatJ3st Год назад +1

      Well said. I am coming to this realization myself now.

    • @fentayesisay8920
      @fentayesisay8920 Год назад

      Noted best

    • @lornahuddleston1453
      @lornahuddleston1453 Год назад

      🎉Yay! You are the First person I have ever heard show insight into their enabling and escalating and devaluing a pwBPD in the middle of what feels like death and total loss of everything, and the feeling of being dispised and spit out of the entire human race as worthless garbage! It would really be great if more people without BPD learned some basic things in order to stop being part of the meltdown. Kudos👍🥳

  • @Nat-hu4gq
    @Nat-hu4gq 2 года назад +288

    Your work book and DBT has helped a lot alongside psychiatrics check ups. I am awful at a sleep routine, I still need to work on this. Hi my BPD friends, I love you all 💖

    • @coryoneil5064
      @coryoneil5064 2 года назад +15

      I have the workbook and I'm trying to get into DBT, but like you, my sleep schedule is terrible. When I'm anxious I can't sleep.

    • @GEENIAH3
      @GEENIAH3 2 года назад +1

      I love you 💕

    • @religiohominilupus5259
      @religiohominilupus5259 2 года назад +5

      @@coryoneil5064 Have you tried listening to music or an audiobook, or reading a book in bed (Dr. F. mentioned the latter too)?
      These options carry the potential to shift your focus away from your anxiety and soothe you. Especially with audiobooks, you have to listen closelly to be able to follow the story, and the narrator's voice can have a calming--sometimes slightly monotone--effect that'll help you drift off.

    • @thereader9473
      @thereader9473 2 года назад +1

      and hi to you! 🧡

    • @thereader9473
      @thereader9473 2 года назад +5

      @@religiohominilupus5259 audiobooks are the perfect sleeping pills !!!

  • @darkwatergeekette
    @darkwatergeekette 2 года назад +63

    I think this 25 min video did for me what the last 5 years in therapy failed to do. Simple and beautifully explained! I especially loved the cat comparison, it was on point!

  • @patriciastewart2537
    @patriciastewart2537 Год назад +17

    Pause, restraint.
    I went to a meeting on my road today.
    My main goal was to NOT do any maladaptive aggressive thoughts, words or deeds today.
    I did a good job.
    Got through the yoga class attended also by a couple of people I had previously alienated with the characteristic aggressive snark.
    Kept PAUSING, being restrained.
    I was conscious of having had a bit too much COFFEE , but , not the worst toxic, mind altering substance.
    I did my best, paid full price, and got hugs.
    Left when it was done.
    Not a lingerer....

  • @jnavy1999
    @jnavy1999 9 месяцев назад +3

    I dated a woman w BPD and it was heart wrenching and exhausting, never been so addicted to a person yet so emotionally beaten down.

  • @edensiou
    @edensiou 2 года назад +72

    I have untreated bpd and ur videos never failed to make me feel good

  • @laylaluna2376
    @laylaluna2376 2 года назад +58

    “The first one is you want to make sleep a priority” *me watching this at 4:00 am* 🤫🥴😬😬 working on it!! Hehe
    Thank you so much once again for being the most understanding and knowledgeable person on this topic. Thank you for the much needed reminders. 🧡 we love you dr fox 🦊

    • @johnnyrepine937
      @johnnyrepine937 Год назад

      That's me most of the time, but I was actually listening to this one at work.

    • @Everyloveee
      @Everyloveee Год назад

      Lol same sis ! We’re going to get on task moving forward 🤣 wishing you all the best

    • @karajamieson9574
      @karajamieson9574 9 месяцев назад

      Yep😂 same

    • @alymarsalys3086
      @alymarsalys3086 10 дней назад

      Yup​.

  • @user-qx2kh7fp4p
    @user-qx2kh7fp4p Год назад +32

    Dude…. I’m not full on BPD… I’ve been sort of categorized as a quiet BPD but not quite fully diagnosed because my therapist is still trying to figure me out as am I lol but I just wanted to let you know that I resonate with a lot of your videos and I appreciate what you do on RUclips especially for the people that can’t afford therapy or the people that just want to reinforce what they’re already learning… You’re amazing… I’ll probably post this on more than one video to try to make sure you see it lol… Thank you again and have a good day

    • @olyo5483
      @olyo5483 Год назад +4

      You are a person with bpd, not bpd itself! Bpd is curable, it's a part of you, not you.
      🧡

  • @augiemay8677
    @augiemay8677 2 года назад +110

    Thank you so much Dr. Fox. I'm an adult who can barley financially get by and sure as hell can't afford therapy. You're videos and worksheets have helped me out SO MUCH!! I am eternally grateful to you. 🙏🙏 The work is never done, but the change of me from a few years ago to now is amazing. A long way to go but never thought I'd be here. 💜🙏💜

    • @1TigerJo
      @1TigerJo 2 года назад +6

      That's so wonderful! I need to get the workbook so I can help my partner.

    • @PaulSmith-bx2fq
      @PaulSmith-bx2fq 13 дней назад

      Stay strong

  • @jennifermaxine2453
    @jennifermaxine2453 2 года назад +9

    Most people I'm around I'm very empathetic & kind to...its the Narcissist that kept me in that black & white thinking...I've started to learn being comfortable in my own skin. Now I stick up for myself against bullies & I dont stoop to their level anymore. No more people pleasing a narcissist, nor do I have high expectations from entitled people like that, who will only disappoint & betray, and repeat old cycles.

  • @gabbyacuna2769
    @gabbyacuna2769 2 года назад +31

    So true about sleep!! Seriously I can’t function at all with little sleep. It really messes you up. I have made it a huge priority and habit! Thanks for this video 💯💯💯💯

  • @ZoeMagnes
    @ZoeMagnes Год назад +5

    I could imagine a virtual reality game where we could practice the do's and don'ts, to work out any obstacles or confusions so we could seek out more learning resources as needed. In the game, we could practice pausing and learn to recognize whenever we have automatically started down the road toward a don't, so we can turn back in the direction of a do.

  • @projoebiochem
    @projoebiochem Год назад +3

    Sometime I hate RUclips ads. We're watching this, and it talks about "Don't use drugs," and then and ad interrupts advertising THC gummies! AAARRRGGHHH! I'm trying to help a friend with BPD, and Dr. Fox is giving great advice, and RUclips interrupts with the most tone deaf ad possible!

  • @andyreyerson8421
    @andyreyerson8421 2 года назад +68

    Thank you so much! I'm 35 and after years of terrible struggling and suffering, therapy, hospitalization, medications, addictions, etc... Finally I found (on my own) that I have BPD. Your content has been life changing, and I can't thank you enough. I've watched this one over and over to memorize and make it habitual.

  • @grassgeese3916
    @grassgeese3916 Год назад +23

    I really love how gently you offer your advice. So much free advice regarding BPD, and other personality disorders, online is so .. hateful... so clinical... you feel like a human, who genuinely seeks to give people advice for how to be more in control of their lives. Thank you for being a human, not another clinician.
    I've been in medical facilities and institutions for my issues before and while I was certainly a wild child, I did not need the clinician treatment... I needed guidance and well it's late but I'm glad to have found some guidance :) thank u again, I've watched a few of your videos now

  • @cherrycreeper
    @cherrycreeper 2 года назад +43

    Sometimes I forget why the surface stuff happens I just do it and I feel disappointed in myself. But remembering that there's a reason, that it relates to the core content helps me work through it. Great video as usual ✨

    • @katariina7697
      @katariina7697 Год назад +2

      This is a really important point, I have to keep this in mind as well.

  • @andreal.tribble2042
    @andreal.tribble2042 2 года назад +27

    Dr. Fox you are helping me SO MUCH! I can't thank you enough for these videos. I'm ordering your work book. You understand this personality disorder like nobody else I have ever heard. I'm crying writing this. I have said for years that HOPE is a luxury I can't afford. But because of things you are teaching me about myself, I now HAVE HOPE.

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  2 года назад +13

      Thanks for such a wonderful statement. This really motivates me to keep doing what I’m doing and I’m so glad my material is helpful for you. Be well and stay strong.

    • @susanchmelovsky221
      @susanchmelovsky221 Год назад +2

      Dr. Fox is the very best!!!

    • @theeternallowlyoutcastrn
      @theeternallowlyoutcastrn 11 месяцев назад +1

      This made my throat choak up a bit

  • @jjsmama401
    @jjsmama401 2 года назад +4

    You’re right. I think a lot of us get stuck in our minds as “less than” forever and take on mail-adaptive patterns, and never move forward from that. That’s where we need help!

  • @TheDya99
    @TheDya99 2 года назад +18

    I know I've made so much progress since last year just because of how much of this video I can relate to now. I wouldn't be able to say that I live this way a year ago. BPD is truly manageable and there is a light out of the darkness for people with this disorder. Now I'm at the other end of the tunnel I truly believe this. Thanks for your insights Dr. they have helped me a lot! Been watching your videos for over a year now.

  • @lorrenab-beat527
    @lorrenab-beat527 Год назад +7

    Dr. Fox, I found your channel when I was looking for information on narcissist. I was diagnosed as bipolar disorder II almost 20 years ago. After watching a lot of your videos on BPD, I think I haven't gotten to a better potential because I've been being treated for the wrong disorder. I was doing so well, and then a bunch of emotional stress and health issues and feeling less than after I got out of a narcissistic relationship happened and my old thoughts and behaviors and patterns came back. Acceptance is very difficult for me. I ruminate too much on the past with so much hurt being stirred up each time wishing should've, would've, could've. Instead of learning from my mistakes, I focus more on how crappy they made me feel and isolate even more and more. Even my psychiatrist told me he was worried añd referred me to partial hospitalization. I viewed his last notes of my visit and he "suspects a personality disorder". I just want to grow.

    • @ZoeMagnes
      @ZoeMagnes Год назад +4

      I was diagnosed with BPD in 1995, but at the time there wasn't any treatment so I just decided to ignore it. Around 2015 I was diagnosed with "rapid-cycling" bipolar disorder, yet multiple psychiatrists failed to reassess the diagnosis. I was given 5 different mood medications simultaneously. Didn't really help and had several side effects. It wasn't until 2022 when my father died and I started researching narcissism on RUclips that the algorithm showed me videos on BPD. Within the first couple videos, I realized that I really do have BPD after all. I've read 3/4 of the DBT manual. I read Dr. Fox's book, which fleshes it out more. I would still like to understand more about how my biological temperament, environmental and socio-economic conditions, my father's narcissistic traits or undiagnosed NPD, my mother's likely but undiagnosed autism, my neurodiversity, etc., has combined to create one or more "demons" in my head that whisper harmful suggestions in my ear at the worst times.

  • @ANRAB666
    @ANRAB666 4 месяца назад +2

    This is what we BPDs need. Solution to our problem not listening about our bad traits all the time. Thank you for being such a nice therapist.❤

  • @goldahashemzukhn-viren8523
    @goldahashemzukhn-viren8523 Год назад +1

    Seven year old boy curious of why folks do things they do...your clients are blessed!

  • @theeternallowlyoutcastrn
    @theeternallowlyoutcastrn 11 месяцев назад +1

    I love all the comments! Everyone is such a warrior here!

  • @amynaddra7230
    @amynaddra7230 2 года назад +21

    Thank you for the incredibly, informative video. I took notes so I can use the do’s and donts. Great plan to put into my life especially the pause button.
    I love the advice on accepting my history. Looking at your celebration plate got me thinking how I never had a childhood birthday party. So I decided today I’m going to plan one and have my daughters come who are grown. I want cake and kids wrapping paper and Hello Kitty plates.
    I’m working hard at abstaining from alcohol because it’s been such a long, bad habit.
    And to not say extreme black or white statements. I caught myself this week saying “No one cares about me” which in reality is not true. That darn BPD lens.
    God bless!!

  • @tkoyasu4ever
    @tkoyasu4ever 2 года назад

    Thanks so much for your videos. They’re insightful and so very helpful!

  • @grandma4176
    @grandma4176 2 года назад +2

    Thanks for these videos! So glad to have found you! BPD and struggling

  • @Blexplays
    @Blexplays 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you for existing 🖤

  • @p0ssnm
    @p0ssnm 2 года назад +4

    im going to try to remind myself to come back to this every time im on a low!! thank you so much for every video x

  • @Iloverebel
    @Iloverebel 2 года назад +3

    I love your workbook. I have been using it and it helps alot!!

  • @anonymoususer4672
    @anonymoususer4672 2 года назад +1

    Thank you so much Daniel, you have changed my life. Forever greatful

  • @kimlr-herring
    @kimlr-herring 2 года назад +1

    Dr. Fox, thank you. Thank you for your kind help.

  • @Banana42699
    @Banana42699 2 года назад +9

    Ahhhh I’ve made so much progress in the past year and I’m just really thankful for your videos, my therapist, and also rose skeeters podcast from borderline to beautiful.
    Thank YOUUUU! :)

  • @ZefanyaAngeline
    @ZefanyaAngeline Год назад

    this is the most useful mental health advices. thank youuu

  • @Amused_Comfort_Inc
    @Amused_Comfort_Inc 2 года назад +1

    If I didnt have this insight, I dont believe I'd be doing very well. You have helped me and so many others, a lot

  • @christinap1644
    @christinap1644 2 года назад +2

    Thank you Dr. Fox. Over the last few years during times of distress instead of engaging in maladaptive behaviors I find myself waiting for a quiet moment to listen to your videos even if it's one I've heard tons of times. What ever tough situation comes up I remember which video spoke to me on that topic listen. It really helps and this will definitely be one I listen to often. Another video that I hold close to my heart is the one a few years back that touches on parenting. It mentions ways to connect with your baby and teenage years. I would love some day if you could do a positive video on parenting strategies for parents with BPD. If you could touch on the toddler years it would mean the world to me and many others I bet. Thank you!!!!!

  • @olivertwisted89
    @olivertwisted89 2 года назад +4

    You are such a life saver. Very fortunate I ran into you!!!!!

  • @jozuajoubert2749
    @jozuajoubert2749 2 года назад +4

    I have learned so much about myself by watching your videos. This one I love a lot.

  • @heatherjesson9092
    @heatherjesson9092 2 года назад +2

    thank you so much for making these videos. It is really helpful as so many doctors are not familiar with BPD and getting help is difficult through the system. Im going to get your workbook too :)

  • @dawngartner1185
    @dawngartner1185 2 года назад

    You and the info you give are phenomenal! I really mean that! I don't have BPD and don't describe people in the extreme but you sir are phenomenal! God gifted you in a phenomenal way and I'm so glad you make these videos free to the public. My ex-boyfriend has BPD although he hasn't been diagnosed as such. They diagnosed him with Bipolar and PTSD. I wish I could get him diagnosed correctly but now he's gotten himself in trouble with the law and is in jail. He's a mess inside his head. Very delusional and self sabotaging. Alcohol mostly drives this and also sends him over the edge. I've recommended your videos and for him to get DBT. I hope he gets the help he needs to live a better life at least mentally.

  • @Melissa-jy3km
    @Melissa-jy3km 2 года назад +6

    Thanks you Dr. Fox, you have really helped me.

  • @yt7377
    @yt7377 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for what your are doing for us, borderlines! God bless you!

  • @Andylord85
    @Andylord85 2 года назад +4

    Thankyou Dr Fox your a true gentleman! Sleep has really effected my BPD lately but I’m trying to get back into a normal sleep pattern again

  • @luluw6256
    @luluw6256 Год назад

    Down with covid and self-isolating, and it has been tough with bpd. Your videos have helped. You have a really soothing voice too. Thank you

  • @aprilpetty3970
    @aprilpetty3970 2 года назад +6

    This is a very informative video that can be applied to any mood disorder!! Thank you 😊

  • @maris5930
    @maris5930 Год назад

    Thanks, really helpful information delivered in a kind way.

  • @AnafA
    @AnafA 2 года назад +1

    Thank you very much Dr. Fox for your contribution to mental health and the support that you gave us; you make me believe and have faith that I possibly live a healthy life with BPD.

  • @secretivescorpio891
    @secretivescorpio891 2 года назад

    You make life changing content for us, thank you very much for your time, effort and consideration. Now I'm better informed and gained some insight I've begun the process of healing and essentially the job of reprogramming myself.
    I've been a subscriber to your channel for a little while but only just watched this video this week. It's impossible for me to express to you just how helpful and how much difference this video has made in a few days. I've still had some minor issues but it's early days and I haven't implemented all of your dos and don'ts yet ! Mania yesterday was full on and a little longer than usual but the resulting low was pure exhaustion as opposed to negative thoughts or actions. My narc/machievellian (at least he doesn't appear to have the psychopathy component too )neighbour attempted to provoke me earlier by locking me out of the building but I just brushed him off with a knowing smile. No rush of chemicals through the body. Not triggered. I've been using grey rock with him for a little while. Maybe he's stepping up his game 😂
    You are literally providing me with the tools to do the job.
    All the best to you

  • @metalshorty0
    @metalshorty0 Год назад

    Wow this was incredibly helpful!

  • @Cat-99999
    @Cat-99999 2 года назад +6

    14:40 when you spoke on loving to watch others, observing interactions/social cues, and reading stories from others perspectives…I related to so well. Everyone has a story and I loved every aspect. Helping others help themselves and the incredible resilience of humanity. Seeing growth, motivations, and paths as they unfold.
    Also I love that subtle unintended book recommendation! *^_^*

  • @ishmaelarroyo4727
    @ishmaelarroyo4727 10 месяцев назад

    You are at the top of my list as far as insight into BPD and my spouse. Thank you for validating our challenges .

  • @OverOnTheWildSide
    @OverOnTheWildSide 2 года назад

    Excellent information, I’ve not been diagnosed but so much of the info is helpful that either way I’ll keep listening to these.
    I’ve implemented adequate sleeping a few years back and it’s really helped.

  • @dannymeans2521
    @dannymeans2521 Год назад

    #4 of the don'ts. Thank you for sharing this omg.

  • @anonym3800
    @anonym3800 2 года назад

    This guide is so helpful to me. Thank you so much😘😘😘😘

  • @Caerulean1137
    @Caerulean1137 Год назад

    Thank you so much for adding little touches like the plate or w/e it is. The level of detail and thought behind a lot of the little things, like meta BPD jokes, or just the silly plate in the background. Things that pull us out of tunneling in too deeply, to give options for those with higher anxiety to still be able to make it through the video. Without getting overly drawn in, so we can focus on the message, really truly helps a lot. Thank you for having so much consideration.

  • @angelladejager4439
    @angelladejager4439 2 года назад

    No- thank YOU for your time Dr Fox. You have no idea the difference you make in my life. Thank you for being so real !

  • @clouddancer46
    @clouddancer46 2 года назад +8

    I love that plate!!!! Thats awesome! Thanks for teaching us not to give up. You are making a difference and I appreciate you.

  • @cuterthanyou1562
    @cuterthanyou1562 Год назад +2

    Thank you Dr. Fox. 🙏
    Your videos have been of supreme comfort during my rougher times these days. I’ve given up temporarily on professional help, been concentrating on what I can do on my own time regardless and those tips are simple, yet really do help.

  • @moanamason2454
    @moanamason2454 2 года назад +16

    Thank you Dr Fox.
    You are appreciated.

  • @ingridkarolineorozcostover6095

    Thank you so much, very helpful and clear information.

  • @justynjacobson
    @justynjacobson 2 года назад +2

    My fav vid of yours so far, thanks bro. (BPD with disassociative and psychotic features)

  • @user-bx6xq2gn2i
    @user-bx6xq2gn2i Год назад

    I've watching some of your video about BPD and i wanted to say thank you for making these video. It's something about your voice and how you explaind makes me feel understood and welcomed. I started to believe i still have hope to overcome this (or learn to lives with it peacefully)
    I can't afford therapy so watching youtube video about BPD is the only source to help me handle these symptoms (also by reading about it online).

  • @andraandre3777
    @andraandre3777 2 года назад +15

    Really helpful video for us doing self therapy, who cannot afford therapy with mental health experts, thanks sooo much! I really appreciate you putting this work out there for us.

  • @Rockystevehudson
    @Rockystevehudson 2 года назад

    This was very valuable, thank you.

  • @iamthestorm1004
    @iamthestorm1004 Год назад

    Thx for sharing Dr Fox
    Excellent content as always
    So glad you picked that one book and read it when you were 7......
    You were destined to be an amazing psychologist and help so many
    Go's bless you and yours
    🙏 👍🥇 ♥

  • @astralydial7533
    @astralydial7533 2 года назад

    In the begging there was something I didn't like about you, Dr. Daniel Fox - now I know, you were simply telling the truth.
    Thank you so much, for taking your time to make these videos and seeing the value of the knowlegde!
    It's a big support untill I go into therapy.

  • @LongDivision27
    @LongDivision27 2 года назад +1

    Dr. Fox, I love to play Sudoku before I sleep on my tab. I find I fall asleep faster doing this or reading a book. I have suffered from insomnia for years and developed deep breathing exercises. BTW You are amazing....Thank you for all the help you have given to the BPD community and to me.

  • @jreavis1964
    @jreavis1964 Год назад

    you're the best. Thanks for helping me so much.

  • @crystalucinda
    @crystalucinda 2 года назад

    Your sign made me smile. Thank you.

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  2 года назад +2

      That’s awesome! I’m glad that I made you smile.

  • @daphnejones8202
    @daphnejones8202 Год назад

    Tears! "Please understand me!" I have pleaded with others to understand me. You said the words in a different context, but i cried at the echo of my own words in your voice, it happens often, but some of them are WAY more significant and powerful than others. If that makes sense to no one else im ok with it. lol acceptance

  • @scarybeenana
    @scarybeenana Год назад

    It absolutely blew my mind with all of these but one thing you said in particular really hit with me.. you said you can find your most authentic self when working through bpd or along the lines of that. To me it feels like I am bpd and the bad and darkness is me, but I didn't realize it really is a separate disorder that I can help and change and work on and I am not a bad person. Completely changed my world around with this video. It was almost too much watching this but I wrote all of these down and am going to slowly but surely work on this. Thank you so much.

  • @tammynezat2372
    @tammynezat2372 Год назад

    I function so well with Dr.Fox advice. Ty again Doc. I share ur videos and advice always to many.
    "To be in complete control of urself is so freeing!"

  • @roriefriz9068
    @roriefriz9068 11 месяцев назад

    U are literally the best explainer in the world. The way you approach BPD in such an understanding, validating and empathetic way, not stigmatizing it, is literally so so helpful. Thank you so much, dr. Fox youre helping so many people.

  • @stevebissett651
    @stevebissett651 2 года назад +8

    Thank you Dr. I have watched many of your videos and this one has really brought them all together. Very insightful.

  • @user-jc4eh1zp4f
    @user-jc4eh1zp4f Год назад

    Among all the information online that is so desperate for BpD. Thank you so much for doing all this video. I believe there’s a way and tolls for Bpd to live happily but lack of sources abs kind knowledge. Thank you so much for you to have these videos.

  • @altafmalik2843
    @altafmalik2843 2 года назад +1

    awesome video. It's not easy to practise. Relapses are very common in bpd recovery as I read and also attachment issue is I thing the worst. Then acceptance, self hatred and self loathing. These are all connected with each other

  • @matthewsmith218
    @matthewsmith218 2 года назад +10

    Thanks for the free therapy. I keep falling back into the abyss but then I watch another video. Top content creator 👏 DrFox🦊

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  2 года назад +2

      I am so glad that the videos help you pull out of those downward spiral’s. I wish you all the best.

  • @DarkerSideOfDawn
    @DarkerSideOfDawn Год назад

    This is really great advice for everyone

  • @paulineclothier6776
    @paulineclothier6776 Год назад +1

    You are SO gorgeous! I love the "Oh- I am a psychologist". That smile- that dimple.

  • @kerstynboseak4877
    @kerstynboseak4877 2 года назад

    Dear dr fox your voice is helpful

  • @anna-rosephipps3132
    @anna-rosephipps3132 2 года назад +1

    Thank you i needed this because for past fortnight i've been in a self destructive downward spiral

  • @Jessicamarra1
    @Jessicamarra1 Год назад

    I just ordered his workbook. I’m totally excited for this journey

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  Год назад +1

      That’s terrific. Let me know how it goes.

  • @susanpinkston3355
    @susanpinkston3355 6 месяцев назад +1

    Powerful insights that light up a new set of boundaries for myself. ❤

  • @zenylicious9611
    @zenylicious9611 17 часов назад

    Thank you so much!This is incredible useful!❤🙏🏻

  • @Seymourmunni
    @Seymourmunni 11 месяцев назад

    Thanks for the video sir i have this but never knew anything of it so this is so helpful

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  11 месяцев назад +1

      I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

  • @tessjones5987
    @tessjones5987 2 года назад

    Exceptional instruction and powerful truths. Thank you. What a cool 7 year old you were. You still are
    a wonder person. How compassionate you are. What a Blessing to the World you are. I appreciate you.

  • @alexism2144
    @alexism2144 Год назад +1

    Really like these videos. I was at the emerge last night and I basically was told borderline sit around and don't do much all day and thats why they think too much and need so much attention. And told me coming to get help at the hospital would Just make me more dependent on it. I decided to go with a different resource to help me and stick with these videos to learn better . I could tell by her tone she was trying to push me away anyway and I never feel that with these videos. Just factual.

  • @kristalkei8forever
    @kristalkei8forever Год назад

    This is really help! Thank you so much doctor! I have been suffering by BPD without knowing for a long time. Thanks for my partner they point it out for me and thanks for me that I open enough to listen to them!
    Here we are! I really wanna get better from this ! Thanks again for your VDO! ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @snamuoy
    @snamuoy Год назад

    This video was amazing & everything I needed as a newly discovered BPD individual. I thank you greatly!❤

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  Год назад +1

      You're very welcome. I'm glad the video was helpful. Be well.

  • @RoopaDudleyPaintings
    @RoopaDudleyPaintings 9 месяцев назад

    I have read that book "Please Understand Me II" - I also loved it. I still love it and also Enneagram. If you are reading this comment by chance, are you an ENFJ? In my mind's eye that is what I envision an ENFJ to look like. Thank you so much for bringing out the best in us. I am trying to be mindful of that voice that sometimes mocks me that "I won't amount to be anything". So much to unpack with every video you create.

  • @curlymixednezz
    @curlymixednezz 2 года назад

    Your videos are so helpful to me... thank you

  • @hillbillyhippy
    @hillbillyhippy 15 дней назад

    Actually very helpful. Thank you.

  • @elmustapha111
    @elmustapha111 2 года назад +10

    Very powerful belief or thought you mentioned is that the moment of now shapes the future. So being conscious of that fact helps a lot. Thank you.

    • @ladybaabaa3294
      @ladybaabaa3294 2 года назад

      Yes! It's the fact that a temporary feeling / thought can have permanent consequences.

  • @DavidCampbellinvestor
    @DavidCampbellinvestor 2 года назад +1

    Thanks! I watch your videos every single day. Such an incredible gift to the world.

  • @t.mckinney5859
    @t.mckinney5859 2 года назад +8

    Thank you for taking the time to make these videos. Often my mind can be all over the place-or no place at all. You explain things well and give clear direction. I ordered your workbook a while ago, my denial has kept it on the shelf. It’s time to face the fat cat. Appreciate everything.

    • @susanchmelovsky221
      @susanchmelovsky221 Год назад +1

      I have his book and the workbook. Keep coming back online though. Need to start my books.

  • @user-xt7pp5yy9w
    @user-xt7pp5yy9w 2 года назад +3

    thank you so much beyond words,the only videos ive found so far that dont feel full of stigma just a real understanding and compassion for those with this disorder and /or characteristics. One of few who also looks at the disorder as a whole and the trauma many with this have experienced is talked about which is so so important for so many reasons .THUMBS UP

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  2 года назад +1

      Thanks 😊

    • @ZoeMagnes
      @ZoeMagnes Год назад

      The stigma from mental health professionals and "armchair psychiatrists" just feeds into the false notion that punishment could ever motivate good behavior. Shaming myself just makes me want to die. It does not motivate me to become a better person, because I'm already doing everything I can possibly do to be a good person and to reduce the amount of harm that I cause others through my behavior. I would rather be a good person then be happy. However, when I'm miserable, I'm way more likely to inadvertently trigger other people in social interactions and just generally make life more difficult. Sometimes it motivates me if I imagine that how I treat myself is part of being a role model to younger people of how to treat themselves.

  • @rhobot75
    @rhobot75 2 года назад

    BOMBA!
    Thank you!
    Sharing.

  • @Ms_Ve
    @Ms_Ve 2 года назад

    I really needed to hear this.

  • @adambaird2274
    @adambaird2274 2 года назад +2

    Thank you Dr. Fox. I’m learning so much. I haven’t been diagnosed with BPD but I strongly feel that I’m on the spectrum. Your giving me hope that I can overcome.

  • @withrowchelsinormanfzwicke4615
    @withrowchelsinormanfzwicke4615 2 года назад +1

    Thanks a million Doc.🙏
    A time machine would be AWESOME