5 Quick Ways To Improve Your Emotional Health
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Did you know that most people who are emotionally healthy were not born that way? That becoming emotionally healthy comes, in part, by developing intentional habits in certain key areas of our lives.
In today’s episode of Good For Me TV, we are going to talk about 5 simple habits that you can start doing right away to both improve your emotional health and maintain that positive emotional health.
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Which one of these did you find most helpful?
I believe one of the good ones is the first one. Being offended for no good reason is a good way to sour your day and everyone else's. Truly offended at least, I believe. Joking clearly about being offended is fun in itself : )
Encouragement to dance spontaneously. I have been methodically overcoming my life-long fear of dancing at dances. You inspire me to want to shoot a little higher and express the joyous gift of life with a little dance whenever I can.
Dancing is a non-negotiable for me Erik because of how alive it makes me feel, and that feeling trumps being worried about what anyone might think about me. I hope you can dance your heart out wherever and whenever you want very soon!!
Boundaries... I lack boundaries because I believe I have no voice.
yes, agree!
Not letting anyone steal my joy. I let others steal my joy way more often than I’d like to admit.
What mentally healthy people do:
1. Not being so easly offended/ not taking everything personal
2. Making things fun / not taking life too serious
3. Not letting others get you down and ruin your mood
4. Being curious in people and trying to understand the situation (before getting too emotional)
5. Having boundaries / knowing how to say no
StarBlack RockShooter -Thank you for breaking it down. Love and Light!🌸💡
Thank you very much for simplifying the video!
I wish you good health and happiness!
Excellent advice here. Indeed, we are not here for a long time. We need to seize joy when the opportunity presents itself.
Thank you SO very Much for this Julia Kristina. WOW, I had forgotten all of these important ways to remain Emotionally Healthy and I've been searching for soooo long along my road back to Me. You're Amazing, and so, so, so badly needed here. I've read so many self-help books, been to so many individual counselling sessions and group sessions, and seen so many different counsellors off and on for the past 27 years. Although they did help me to get through by a thread to this point in my life, no one ever explained anything that I really needed to be reminded about and/or so badly needed to hear, as clearly as you do!!!! Thank you for being here for me and for all of us. I truly do appreciate and welcome all of your video's, and I am especially grateful for your consistent support, guidance, and "tell it like it is, no beating around the bush" videos which you have made available to me, and the world. Personal Counselling has its place, and I understand that the therapists want us to choose our own thoughts about situations, and to form our own opinions etc. But you my dear are like a true and welcomed friend to those of us who choose to strive towards continued and improved Emotional Healthy Lifestyles, especially when so many of us are surrounded by so much negativity, and toxicity in our daily lives sometimes within our home, with various family members, at work, and even in volunteer situations. God Bless your lovely, and caring heart
This is better than all google searches on emotional health. Thank you 🌹
Thank You Julia Kristina You are Blessed with the Gift
I’ve being watching some of your videos and I have to say that you are a golden high level of a person. Your insight is beyond your schooling. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. God bless you.
Boundary setting & making things fun.
Thanks Julia!
Maybe the best video I’ve ever seen. So useful advice! Especially on not permitting others take our joy and our strength; and also on the fact that they themselves do not set boundaries. Thank you, Julia!
This is good.
Especially "hurt people are hurting". Makes sense. Also not personalizing everything.
Thanks a lot for the support you provide.
OMG even though I have been in recovery for 10 years now n went NC w my toxic parents I am still seeing how much their programming has harmed me n robbed me of joy. Thanks so much!
Good counsel. It’s what I needed to listen to. Thankful for your advice.
I needed this one so much. I felt the joy was sucked out of me during some toxic relationships. I’m at that point where I am rediscovering those forgotten parts of me. 😉💗
Your videos are amazing. Such great content. Thank you for sharing!
1.Don't take everything so personally
2. Make things fun and not taking everything so seriously all the time
I am quite good at having fun (my brain is an 80s dance party!), but people sometimes want to steal that joy. So that’s something I’d like to work on...not letting others squash my happy vibes.
I also need to be better at boundaries-not only stating them clearly but adhering to them.
Thanks for your channel-your advice is top notch!
Thank you, this one is so up lifting. I need to have fun and joy .
Hi Julia, Great job as usual.....I think these 5 concepts are all huge...thanks so much for sharing.....
You're wonderful, thank you!
I absolutely needed this. Thank you! "Unreasonable" people get me totally out of my good mood. Not any more.
Good stuff! Very well explained and presented, thank you.
Thank you Julia!
You love your subject and you care.
Thank you so much.
Having fun is the one i want to work on. Sometimes i get a little too serious. Sometimes i should just dance.
Definitely in the top 3 videos you've Done! 😀 so true.. about the boundries topic.. people are more angry who have less boundaries..
u r great...glad i found your channel...thanks for the knowledge!
You are legit spot on, thank you!
Hi julia! Thank you💞
Thank you for your material. You are a legend!!!! I💕your material!!!!
Lovely 🙏🏾
I really liked this one. Yes, there will be one day where we will move on, and if we say "time goes so fast" then the time to move on will come faster than we realize.
Thankyou!!! I'm sending this video to my friend as she needs to see this too :) x
Grateful it connected with you Joanne - I hope your friends get a lot out of it.
I would totally have a dance party on the street corner. I also enjoy "dance walking". 💖
By the way, I have been watching your videos for almost a month now, and your videos are so helpful! Thank You for being YOU! 😊
great video, very helpful thank you
Great vlog. I liked the responding rather than reacting. And having fun. You are right so gonna work on these things. I shared this on my FB. I believe it will help a lot of people. Anger is a big issue these days. Could you do more on this subject. If you have already sorry in advance. I will look.
There’s a young man that stands on a busy street corner near where I live with his headphones on dancing and flailing his hands around. I met him one day in the grocery store parking lot. Definitely a bit challenged but so likable. He said, “It’s a great day!, I work and I got my paycheck today, everyday is a great day!” Such a lovely person. Meanwhile, others are on the other street corners panhandling with long sad faces.
Hi, I thought number one 1 was the one that I personally need to commit to working on... I can’t even begin to tell you how often I struggle with this.. I enjoy your videos very much...they are very insightful:)
It is a big one Lena, and not always an easy one - Be kind and patient with yourself in the process!
Favorite video of yours thus far. Abouth 6th in a row.
We r not here for a long time. U r right
Very useful😉
Great! So glad it was helpful.
hi. Great stuff. i’ll say more later but how do i find the 25 ways to say no and download it?
Hi Julia. I've watched sooooooo many of your videos and watched some of them many many times. Thank you for all your help. I'm from Australia!! You talk about self-care alot. Could you do a video on what your take would be on self-care Vs self..is ?? (My best-friend was very busy renovating her house but I really needed her just to hang out. She was always too tired.
I said to her..I wasn't too tired when I did this for you .or that for you....etc....it's something I think about often...self-care or selfish ??
When someone is being negative or like you said a Debbie Downer people do not understand the difference between that person needing help or just being negative for the heck of it. Miscommunication wins
I think I have Healthy boundaries issues ..Could you please elaborate a little more about it. Thanks
Boundaries are a HUGE issue for me. It really does cause an internal struggle & anger issues for me. Guess I'm just too NICE! Really not being very "nice" to myself, though.
How do you do this? Like not letting people ruin your mood/happiness? I have high functioning anxiety and most times I can't even control how I react or what I think. I have depression too and I try hard to ignore what people say or do but more I do more it upsets me. It is like no matter how much I try to not let it bug me it does... I dont know how to become emotionally stronger.
Tky
I recently realized that my complaints with my husband are actually complaints I have about myself. Good think I ruminate on my complaints before expressing them.
4:54 >>>>> my favourite part of the entire video. 👌🏻
When I do follow your type of suggestions--especially about people insulting me--I may verbally react the way you say to be, but inside, I am still boiling at them. I tend to be either a stuffer or an exploder.
I don't explode and yell or flip out, I tend to turn it in towards myself and I feel like I am going to IMPLODE!
Yes, thanks Julia. That's where my anger comes from. I have a narcissistic mother who deliberately tries to invade my boundaries because she's a bit psycho and then I flip out whenever I perceive these boundaries being violated in everyday life. I've had to disconnect and not speak to her for a while in order to reestablish some healthy boundaries. This helped me to not feel guilty about this.
Hi Christina- do you offer online appointments?
I want to know what are some of the artists on your 80s playlist
Oh god I see humor in every situation..
Depeche Mode Everthing Counts usually helps me in my moment of need.
Difficult to affend is a good one for because I let everyone to affend me
It is a tough one Barry. And once can really integrate the understanding that when someone is lashing out it's always about them it frees us up so much emotionally and mentally.
I have been with someone for thirty years that is extremely narcissistic. We have a daughter that she has taught to be the same. And a granddaughter who will end up the same. How do you get over the feelings that if you leave. Something terrible is going to happen to this person. And knowing that you are going to have to throw everything away to get away from that person.
Yesterday I came from work in tears:-((( We have a wall calendar at work, that shows all appointments , and my boss forgot he had an important appointment and at the end of the day, he came to my office and said It was all my fault he missed his appointment. Even though he walks by the wall calendar everyday and at times stands and looks at what he has to do. I went home in tears, because he blamed me. Most of all I am upset with myself for getting so upset about it. I wished I would of stood up for myself, but I felt soo hurt, because I always go above and beyond in my work. But to tell, me If I cant remind him of an appointment, then what is the point of me being there, I felt so insignificant at that moment, I could not even speak:-((
Rosalie Avila I'm so sorry that happened to you. I wanted CV years in abusive work environments. I hope you're looking for a better job. Life is too short.
You should be angry, not sad. Tell your boss he needs a mommy, not an assistant.
mascara1888
He might be the kind of person who needs to be told things verbally in order to take them in, particularly when under stress.I’m like this. It’s no good showing me charts or calendars - tell me!!!
Rosalie Avila
I've been through similar scenarios and beat myself up....then, say, next time I remind the idiot that he has an appointment at such and such date, time...only to be told then "I can read, it's right here in black and white on this huge wall calendar. " What the hell???? I don't get it
I noticed all of your videos are monochromatic video feed. This is clearly intentional, but I'm having trouble understanding the reasoning behind this decision. Is this because you are subtly telling the viewer the video feed is not of utmost importance and we can listen your video on the background? Or is there another practical purpose to this?
Thanks for your videos, and keep up the good work! :D
Hi Sam, the only reason is for branding - it makes my videos easy to pick out in a feed.
You could have the thumbnail be black and white and the video in colour. I don't mind either way though.
Emotionally healthy people are generally intelligent. Can you tell us when it is appropriate to voice fears about world events that are likely to cause harm to a lot of people. (without being a DebbieDowner) . Many of these world events feel like they are beyond my control. But I don't want to be one of those people that later says, "i wish I would have spoke up." It is such a fine line between DebbieDowner and acting on fears. because i read NEJM and PubMed, I have legitimate concerns for our safety. I fear the negative impact of GMO foods, Vaccines, Spraying our atmosphere with toxic pollutants like aluminum. When it feels like the toxic problems around me are too big, and no matter what I do or say (or don't say) causes me to feel panic. It is hard for me to remain silent when I think my words have potential to help. I know my concerns come across as complaining, when it is intended to help.
People ask me all the time what I did to heal auto-immune disease. I start to tell them, (thinking they are looking for a solution). But the walls just come up around them and I can feel them tuning me out. So It confuses me why they asked in the first place. I stopped telling people what to do to fix the problem. I now ask, "on a scale from 1-10, what are YOU willing to do to reverse this disease..?" If I hear a 9 or higher, that is now my clue that I have an audience to share with. It is frustrating, because I see too many people struggling with an illness I struggled with for 48 years (that once I knew the cause, I reversed the disease) . I ask God why was I given this knowledge if no one will listen. It feels like they only want to bi8ch about the problem. Not find the solution. Should I even care..?
WOW, another great video. I especially identified with the anger/boundary issue. I have been a people pleaser all my life. Now, at 54 I am working on learning WHAT I WANT without feeling utterly guilty. Sometimes I feel like something went very wrong a long time ago and I am trying to fix it all now. Never too late though. Right now I am surrounded by situations that are making me feel like my life is not up to me. (abusive husband filed for divorce, in the long run it is a good thing, son who has an addiction problem and now wants to come stay with me because he has nowhere else to go.) All the while inside I am screaming, what about me? What about my life? I am determined to change this and I shall!!
A person i know was almost everyday bringing me down for no reason. Then i told him maybe you have a problem?After that He stoped hurting me and started being lovable again. Next time i won't take things personally 🙄
I was suspended from work for bullying and also accused of fraud. I do not believe there was any substance to these allegations. I asked for the company to investigate properly, but my request was refused. The company's excuse was that they refused to investigate because they had concerns about my mental health. I offered to help the company deal with the issues they were dealing with, but they did not want to work with me. I have no idea how to deal with these untrue criticisms, which have adversely affected my career. What would emotional intelligence suggest I should do under these circumstances?
Im so envious of the fun jobs that other people have :( what to do? I cant focus on my boring job:(
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries...
I often get very disappointed and angery instead od being understanding the situation?
To bad you are not in my area, you seem like your clients would be greatly helped. If there was a phrase on your approach what would it be?
Well I'm glad I say no to certain people. ☺
1:42 you can say that again to all SJW and friends :D
I must say that this is one thing that I realize late in my life. And so many mistakes that I made are consequence of being so easily offended. The more narcissistic you are the easier you become offended. To overcome this I had to work hard on changing my way of thinking and living.
I agree with all you say here, but I find it near impossible to turn information into TRANSFORMATION.
Oh crap! You were dead on about anger.
John is angry. Because he doesn’t have healthy boundaries, because he lacks control, he is insecure, because he had a miserable childhood, because he did not experience unconditional love, because he was emotionally manipulated, because he wasn’t taken into account, because he was ignored, because he was treated invisible, because he was silenced without arguments, because often times he was defeated not with words, but phisical gestures, or because he was defeated by pointing out his “mistakes”, because he lacked attention. So he is ashamed of himself, he is insecure, he is hungry for attention and deeply he is hungry for love and since he had only negative examples around him, he will copy them. So he makes fun of others enthusiasm, he often times shames people in front of others, bullying them, he is passive aggressive, he has bitter, sour remarks, which try to cut through the positive energy around them. And when they see a genuine emotional reaction, they are not able to recognize it, they do not know what to do with it, but they know, they have to stay on top, so they continue the smashing, they call you overreacting, they call you weak, and they expect you to agree with them, because they are insecure and have no healthy boundaries. Because unhealthy or lack of bounderies means total chaos, it means I can do what I want, where I want, being inconsiderate, and being frustrated by the security of another person. Because deep down they know and they feel the other persons genuine security, but since they are afraid, it is harder to process. They want that security, but their solution is totally opposite. They are afraid because maybe in their childhood they opened up and they were shut down, so they were forced to be though, strong on the outside, and the inside was ignored, they got used to the idea that showing emotions means being vulnerable. They are not used to showing emotions, because they are not able to choose their audience. So they are not able to appreciate genuine attention. They did not and do not experience genuine patience, attention from others. This broken record can be played until the final destination, I guess. It makes me sick and icky and it really makes me think about my life from a totally other spektrum. A spektrum, which brings me up and when it is needed holds me down, so I don’t loose my head and genuinly stay on top of my own shoulders.
I will get offended quickly...how should I avoid it
Just a tip: try having light background music to make the video more engaging maybe? Loved this one btw!
Glad it connected with you Rahul.
I think background music would be distracting and would place a need to almost equate a type of music with the subject. This channel is not about light entertainment like a cooking or makeup channel (but rather serious issues that I want to full absorb these tips and tools from); Julia your passionate and committed voice is definitely engaging enough (no distracting background music needed).
No music. Her videos are fine as is. Like black and white very much.
No background music pls. Distracting and annoying. Love your content
Umotionally? 😁
Become a robot that has no feelings at all
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It is almost like saying to be born to not live just because you may get hurt someday. Absurd, better have feelings and learn to drive them to the place you want to live in yourself. Unintelligent people have this tradition of cutting off their hearts from their minds, they become ugly life, insensitiveness is not the way to a better life, but exploring the emotions, listening to them before letting them blurt negativity if negative they are, being better connected with all we are as individuals let us have a better life and be better companies. There is nothing more disgusting about humanity than their disconnection from feelings and their hearts, making this planet a cruel trashy place many times. Not personalizing others' emotions is not the same as not feeling anything about anything and anybody. Feel more, dare to live, and analyze your feelings and thoughts about them. Life is a boring ticket without feelings. EK
Dancing,,, Singing,,, Comedy is not a sign of emotional health… Sorry… What if we think Robin Williams as one of countless people masking their emotions.