@Nathan Ganga you should definitely care about certain people though. If you find the one man it'll make you even happier. Don't give up on love man. And I should know I almost gave up on love.. until alexis Kaufman saved me from that fate. And also what you're talking about Isn't the same as giving up on love. Once you give up on love. You die inside completely and your heart dies. And you start to hate everything and everyone. Do we're not the same. I would of went to the darkest place imaginable if it wasn't for Alexis Kaufman. And I would of went to a place secluded from humans a place where I can survive all alone without any humans with 500 miles of me at least. A Forrest preferably. And I would've done anything to survive. That's the path I was heading down. So no me and you aren't the same it's not even close. And also I wasn't giving up on love just because love has always been ripped away from me. And it literally felt like the universe just didn't want me to love. It was the fact that I went to hell about 3 years ago. I was in another dimension for 3 months I survived all alone in that hell. You wouldn't believe the things I had to endure in that hell. And almost 2 years later alexis Kaufman comes out of nowhere and saves me from so many things. I will always love that woman. I owe everything to her. And this further proved we're not the same it's not even close. No human is stronger then me. I'm the strongest by far. And no none of you humans could survive for even a minute in that other dimension. All you humans are weak
@Brometheus duuuudeeee.... no judgement! I am going through the same thing!! 1 year has gone by from me breaking up with my girlfriend of 9.5 years! working out has helped a lot!! And this video! And hearing Jocko tell me helps it’s hard man and isn’t a quick fix! Here for you brother! Going through it too!!
@Brometheus literally the EXACT Same Situation. Been with Mines 4 Years,child and All....and She Just Not the Same Anymore....but its So Hard It Makes Me Want to Fade In And away..
Try to forgive her for being a bad person. Trust me, dude. Shield yourself with compassion and everything will be OK. Nothing more that you can do and you definitely don't want to carry a big bag of regret and hatred around your neck. Liste to Jocko: "roger that and move on!"
That's the point. We think that we are a failure and question ourselves. That's wrong IF you didn't do anything wrong and you can hold your head high. That's what got me through it, I just kept saying the facts. Self-respect is the main thing. Never lose that.
@@NWWood17 Same with me. And it is OK to question ourselves when this happen to avoid this in a future. Not a rummination, just learning from our mistakes.
Exactly, I never had an older brother and my father left our family when I was 10, I'm 25 now, dealing with divorce, so glad to see men help each other like Brothers, we need more of that around
Riverline I’m here with you my man. I’m 33, an only child, dad overdosed when I was a kid and I’m currently going through a divorce myself. Shits been though as hell some days but it’s the videos like this that keep my head up high. All love brother
@@Money-talking my mate coined it. He went through a terrible break up she done a moon light moved out with kids while he was at work took everything house was a right mess. I lived next door i watched a man reduced to a shell. I had to cook for him. A few weeks later i seen him and he looked much better I said you Ok my bro he said I've played cards with the devil last night and I won. 😎 Lots of men end up playing cards with the devil and lose . I've plaid with him to I won. I'll never play that game again women cheat and lie to win. Don't play cards with a woman and you won't have to play cards with the devil himself. Scary shit. Stay safe. The cards are stacked against you as a male in society today with regards to relationships kids and marriage. It's just not worth it. Don't play there game play yours.
This is straight up supporting other people. Women go through the same shit. I was in a 7 year relationship and my ex left me for a younger woman while I was 3 months pregnant with him.
@@ExoduZ777 Same buddy.....like I really felt better without her went out on some trip with friends...while she was missing me whatever in the chat like f....duhh
@@stephensondosier7923 i love her of course but this wasnt a regular... Fling... This was hate filled and brutal. Im out. She is a lie. She always will be A LIE. Thank you though i understand your intent is great
Forget her not worth it. Before i trusted this demon inwas totally fine in my own company 3 kids later 11 years of lies betrayal yhea im good shes nuts. I get out innthe woods and water ive actually taken pics out in the woods and sighted in my muzzleloader in hahahahah lol
This was very helpful, when Jocko said this I appreciated this. It's been 9 months and we go too the same damn church but I have just started to work on deleting the fantasy
Im a fit athletic guy. My ex played me and left me for an out of shape fat dude. Only to play him and leave him for another guy too. Now me and the big guy work out together every week. :) I lost someone toxic and gained a good friend in the process.
Bro for sure didn’t expect that ending! I love this story. I’m sorry you went through the crap, but how it ended up. Guys sticking together. We need more of that! Good on you man!
Really needed this. No sugar coating it, knock that chick off of the metaphorical pedestal you built for her and remember that you’re worth it, you’re the freaking man. It was wrong what she did to you, you deserve better, and if you allow yourself to feel, and heal, you will eventually find someone who is much better. Chins up out there lads. We got this.
Whenever I catch myself thinking about my ex or someone else I got into. . I just come here and listen. I can't talk to my family or friends about it. So I just come here.
It's 100 % true bro is that today I got breakup from my Gf whom I trusted very much but reality is that don't love anyone so much, just love yourself 😊,And this breakup gives me so much strength to live on
Dad pulled me aside when we were cutting wood and said its not the first time and last time it will happen talked about his relationship of 5 years ending then later my friends came chatted it out....helps to talk to these people even for 10 mins
I came across this video about 3 or 4 years ago. I was now going through a break up back then 2019. I felt hopeless and didn't want to let go of her. Every morning I used to listen to this video until I eventually got to my senses and did what was best. Today is June 6th 2023. I recently saw my ex after so much years and she spoke to me and it was then I realised that so much years had passed and I felt nothing towards her. Thank you for this video
Yes. I've never been hurt by a female that's not my family. But I've been abused by my mother however I've forgiven her yet I still feel void when talking about her family life. But I've never fvked a female. I will eventually since I'm a Christian I will just obey God and marry the righteous woman
Wow!! Exact same thing happened me back in 2021 and I used to watch this daily!! such a hard, tough, and lonely time in my life. Wife abruptly broke up with me 6 days after I lost my grandfather. Went completely cold and forced me out of our “forever home” that we had a few months. Our 3 young children (at the time 7,4, and 2) didn’t know what was happening Fought for my kids and got 50/50, went out renting and slowly but surely built my life back up for myself and my children! Since then, I met the love of my life and the total opposite of the woman I was with (who I thought in my delusion at the time, was perfect) Hard times make hard people and hard times don’t last forever, just long enough to teach you the lesson! Whoever is reading this, stay strong and face your hard time with strength and dignity. One day you look back with awe and pride of who you handled yourself at that time, and realise how better life is now ! 🙌🫶🏻
I found this video when the betrayal, the breakup was fresh. It guided me through the healing process. I came back a year later to this clip. Let me tell you you guys. This video saved my life from suicide. I'm thankful for still being here. They were just an illusion. 🙏
Hey, your life is precious!! Just What were you thinking, losing it for someone who's not even worth it. Wish you a very beautiful life with someone loyal
In the end when he talks about going to the gym I remembered back when my first serious relashionship ended and I was feeling like garbage my friend told me "tomorrow morning you are going to wake up eraly, go to the gym and lift the heaviest weights you can for as many reps as you can. Trust me on this one" I did it and spent all day feeling like a bad ass, my cheating ex barely even crossed my mind that day. Exercising is seriously the best heartbreak medicine
When a woman cheats or dumps you, think of it like this: She's found a store to shop in. It's your store, and she thinks she can spend some amount of time inside it and find something rare and valuable. She spends a lot of time and effort shopping, and you spend a lot of time and effort helping her shop (customer service). Eventually, she decides that the store doesn't have what she's looking for, so she leaves. She might announce she's leaving, or she might not. She might be polite about it, or she might be rude. Hell, you might discover one day that she's been shopping at other stores without you knowing. Regardless of any of this, the answer is the same: *Next customer, please.*
Great explanation about my situation 😥😥 i gave her everything and done everything that i could to make her happy but now here i am with an empty handed and broken heart. I treated her like a queen and she treat me like a shit. Hope you all have a better relationship ❤️❤️
Guys, relationships take too much time and just a distraction. Focus on YOU first, and then everything else will come along. NEVER settle to be an option
@@blacklyfe5543 Chase self love bro. Self love comes in many forms. Freedom, Money, Connections, Successful career, cars, food. Love yourself brotha and be happy. Because when the right person comes along you'll be ready. When two come together they first should be happy when they are single. They shouldn't get into a relationship to be happy. Love yourself King!
George Spangler WOW! I needed to read this. My ex boyfriends past is why I held on and continue to want to hold on. He uses it as to why he is the way he is, and with my empathetic heart, I want to navigate him in to a better direction; but it keeps stabbing me in the back and I’m holding the knife allowing myself not to let go. AND he keeps going back to his ex girlfriend who has done irrational and crazy attempts to ruin his life. I need to look past the fantasy of who I want him to become and the belief I have in him.
Yup, life's too short. I can't hate her anymore though. Only cuz it robs so much of my life by thinking of her. It's definitely a drug, being addicted to dope, junk, the worst choices over and over. ✂️✂️✂️🧶⛏️🔗
“While my soul was still searching but not finding, among a thousand I have found one upright man, but among all these I have not found a virtuous woman.” Ecclesiastes 7:28
I just got out of a Narcissistic relationship. I loved this man and moved half way across the country to live with him to discover he had created a whole fake life story and he was not even remotely the man who I thought he was. I faced it head on, took a ton of abuse as I was leaving, but I left. It’s been hard and I still struggle but I know I did the right thing.
Delete your social media entirely. It helped me to focus on everything around me instead of refreshing her pages. It feels very good to watch life instead of a screen once you get used to it.
Dude holy shit I'm gonna do this, I'm fkn stupid for not thinking of this before, but thanks for that I'm gonna do it because I know it will help me forget about that person and enjoy life more. Thank you, Jason Kim
Don’t you think that by deleting your social media you’re allowing her to influence your life? After all, if the breakup wouldn’t have happened you would have never deleted it right?
Jg i deleted my social media while I was still in my relationship and when things were going “well” with my ex. Its a good thing to do in general. Unless youre making money on social media, that shit is pointless and a waste of time and energy imo.
@@MeandGod14 I hope it helps you find your happiness. I know with me him talking about mourning the what was supposed to be that never was and I created the person in my head despite the what i saw to be fact. I lost my best friend of 25 years to cancer a year before the breakup so since then i have existed with a physical pain in my chest, never far from tears, never felt so hurt and alone. And people do commit suicide over this stuff, if it weren't for my mom needing me id probably be gone. I go from never wanting to let anyone that close again to trying to talk and get to know someone new but i turn every conversation into a therapy session about my past. I cant move forward while constantly looking behind me but i cant quit looking and feeling. I don't know how to start over, i dont remember how happy feels. I know how to put on a big fake ass smile so people leave me alone and dont worry about me but the night times are rarely good when im alone at home.
My wife wants to Separate and it’s 3 days before our 13 year anniversary ,she saids I’m Mean selfish and a liar smh it’s crazy we just came back from a Family vacation.After everything I’ve done for her and her two kids. Now I’m just trying to figure out how to get through this emotionally and with everything that I’m going to face in the future with child-support and divorce court. You can never trust women.
Tony Florse man I’m truly from the bottom of my heart feel you and just yesterday she was home is like a stranger absolutely stranger I’ve never met and makes my blood boil it’s so fucking hard but I listen to him lately more times I can count it has definitely help me when I get in the mode of giving it all up I going to try to join the airforce and it’s what I will do if god will help me of course I’m so sorry all I can tell you is don’t give up on yourself its ok to feel all this heartbreak but used it to better yourself ❤️❤️🏋️
Not a broken heart it's only broken if you let he or she break it Self control comes many different ways In mind an out Is the bullshit they put out if you don't give the time of day After the fact honey Preying on someone's mind Is a way of there guilt Hearts mend minds mend is what people say do that make me say fuck you many young get driven to suicide because who ever they are male or female Is with is the one who fucked was no break up are the ones with the broken heart People love fuckin with the mind You control you don't let any one break you Because they can't figure you out To fuckin scared so don't drive people to that point an there won't be no broken any fuckin thing Unbreakable
Self judgment can be good, if you use it correctly. If you just judge yourself and condemn yourself then that's counter productive. Use it as fuel. Workout, eat better, get more rest and don't go looking to replace that person. Find a hobby you truly enjoy. Read. Take a class.....cooking is a good one. Then, if you bump into someone who looks like they might be interesting and you're attracted to them you'll present a better version of yourself, because you'll be healthier and in better shape now.
@@tidefanyankee2428 I'm sorry but move on? That sounds really simple but it's not. Have you ever acted in ways that betrays your own usual values. Have your kids ever lied to you over stupid $hit? Did you forgive them or "move on". I'm sorry, I like most of Jocko's stuff but life isn't always so black & white. Have you ever really f@%ked up, were you given another chance? Have you ever forgiven some else who probably didn't deserve but they worked earning your trust back & you were both better for it? Oh & if you have kids together what's better for them? Just move on? Throw out the broken toaster, tv, washing machine, car, etc. Don't bother to fix it, throw it away & move on. Don't worry kids, your new Step-Dad/Step-Mom will be even better than the original. I don't know man, he's usually more nuanced than that.
I have listened to this so many times and it’s 100% spot on! Our brains trick is into thinking the person that betrayed us is worth sacrificing our well being- what a bunch of bs! I’ll keep coming back until my brain is no longer trying to trick me!
LITERALLY THIS. my ex was a h-o-e and everyone warned me about her and she knew it bothered me whenever she would talk to/hang out with her ex but i let it slide bc i wanted to believe we had a future and her ex would disappear. lmao, lesson learned. they got together and i was broken and pathetic. ALWAYS pay attention to someone's actions over their words. all the "i love yous" in the world mean nothing if she's clearly playing you
You just described almost the entirety of my love life and my own self destructive delusion. If you had a chaotic childhood it's even harder because of "Comfort in Chaos": Batshit craziness is familiar to you, so it becomes kind of a subconscious comfort zone.
Move on. There is no such a thing as true love or soulmates, they could tell you non stop how much they love you and in a split second they could easily turn around and walk away like nothing ever happened. Just love yourself
@@barbarariley3488 Fuck you. Most guys prefer hot chicks thats true. So goes with women preferring hot men. But we both know that we will pick a partner depending on their personality in the end. You wouldnt date a hot person with garbage personality, the same goes with every human being. Stop thinking so narrowly please. I fell in love with a girl who was not "hot" she was ok in looks dptment. I changed her life, she went from D student to an A student. She went from being loud and vulgar to calm, quiet and gentle. That girl who knows I changed her life, she threw me away like trash at the worst moment of my life. Now does this mean all average girls are betraying bitches? No of course not. But now I know for sure I cant trust anybody.
This comment will get lost in the comments but I just wanted to say, a year ago I got cheated on in a horrific manner. I watched this video each and every single day when I was at the lowest and darkest moment of my life. And here I am a year later. Doing better than ever while my ex got pregnant by some guy she barely knew. It all turned out to be a blessing just like Jocko said 🙂
Yup don't hate her don't love her. Leave her to her own devices. I wouldn't even give her advice! Nor help her. She can do everything in her own she's a strong independent woman. Man keep going! I also hope and pray and love you that you find God because when everyoned focused on him all gets better. Suffering is part of life it only depends on you which way you throw it.
I'm happy to hear that you've been able to move on with your life in such a positive way! That's what I want. Not there yet but I'm getting better every day. Thank you!
@@AZChuck75 it’s not easy man. I was hung up on every detail of why it didn’t work and why she did such horrible things. But time cured all wounds. It’s still a scar, but just a reminder it was once there.
She is the most narcissistic, selfish, deceptive and untrustworthy person I've ever met. Gonna use this to better myself as much as possible! LETS GET AFTER IT BROTHERS
@@crookedwiretap89 well about a month later, tried getting back together, I gave her a chance but she stood me up. Happened again and again. Eventually I said something along the lines of "take care bud." One week later I hear she's pregnant with some dudes kid. I myself, have been doing fucking amazing. Months have went by, and I'm dedicated to my purpose and pursuits, it's the good fight. Stay with it brother, she's negativity with legs. Find your purpose and let it consume you brother. You got this
I'm brand new to this... My wife of 15yrs and 1 daughter, just up and abandoned us for another man she barely knew for a few weeks (her coworker boss at the hospital) and the betrayal and emptiness are the most painful thing I've ever experienced... She got an apartment behind my back, plotted on me for a few months arranging all this. I don't drink, do drugs, I don't beat her or yell or degrade her... We've been together since we were 20yrs old, and it all just upended in the matter of a day (at least, to me and my 14yr old daughter that lives with me). So, at least it’s me and my daughter still… But how does a mom just up and walk away from their husband AND daughter who’s an amazing kid?! Just disgusts me to no end.
I can tell you - you are in for the most painful and depressing year of your life. But it will get better. You will be better off without her no matter how much it feels like you won’t. Wake up every single day and realize she is trash. You are better off. Listen to the first 4 minutes of this multiple times a day…it will sink in.
@usernamewood Thank you bro... I really needed that today.. The first Christmas in 17yrs without her here has really bothered my daughter, which in turn bothers the hell out of me. But, you're right, I didn't lose a "gem". I lost a piece of trash that could've cared less how badly she screwed all of us over. I have our 14yr old daughter, she chose to live with me, so at least I won big overall I guess.
I’m in the exact same boat. Over 20 years with my ex. Let her go whore around. That’s what my ex is doing. She’ll end up alone and miserable, my 3 kids ages 15,13 and 8 knows she’s a whore and the reason our family broke up. It’s hard…believe me. Listen to the first 4 minutes over and over. I’ve accepted that she was a 2 faced whore for a WHILE. A liar, unfaithful selfish hoe who is so mentally fucked up that she chose a white trash loser over her own family, her own children. She will get what she deserves in the end. I’m trying my best to be strong for my kids. They know who was there for them and who REALLY cares. Seems like yours do too. The best thing to ever happen to you was to get rid of the trash before you wasted anymore time trying to love and respect a complete selfish whore.
Funny thing - mine left for a loser that works at the hospital with her too. Funny how they’re supposed to be working at a hospital helping people - but instead mine was blowing a felon in his car.
This is exactly what I needed to hear at this time in my life. My divorce destroyed me in so many ways. I won't tell my story no one cares about. All I will say is that for the fist time in my life I have no interest in dating. I haven't talked to any girl since my divorce and I honestly have no friends and do not talk to anyone. Historically if I were single I would be dating and sexually active. But since the last time I saw my ex in August 2022 I haven't even talked to another female. But now I realize that the person I was in love with was never real. She was never the person i thought she was. Holy shit does that hurt to realize.
I care about your story and would like to hear it, my gf recently just broke up with me.. she had an abrasive personality & BPD, i'd call her out when she would miss treat me & ghost for a few days. We had another episode together and she just ended things right then and there. i'm still tryin to put myself together
I too, would be interested in hearing your story, OP. I had two stints of getting back together with my ex when we broke up before the end of 2021...we tried things again 5 months later when she reached out to me, and then I reached out to her 11 months later-if she didnt move out of the island I live on things would've maybe picked up and right now we're kinda talking, I made plans to visit her where she's at now in afew weeks-but something inside me is nudging that it isn't the right move, so I am here
Woman love to bash men. But all you need to do is get away from that bad woman that's it. Honestly I think you should search for a religious woman that's family oriented and a Christian who centers her life around Christ. Everything gets better whens talking and walking with God. I imagine that a female will want to become my wife if I ask her with intentions of Worshipping the one True God which. I have no embarrassment at all. And I want to marry my christian wife. Forget other people who want you to burn and fall! They should be the first ones to do so;
For the breakups without betrayal: relationships end, it’s not your fault, it’s not their fault. It’s normal to miss someone, to suffer, but dedicate to yourself now, work on yourself and move on cause the only person you are constantly with is you.
My ex came back to me a few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back.
Sorry, but this is completely bs. If someone left you.. it is their fault. It you left them it is your fault.. If you did things to make them leave. It is your fault.
@@xFersureMatt sometimes people just get tired or fall for other people and leave you. You can either say it’s their fault or your fault but my point is: that won’t really help you.
@@arbokMelagrana I agree it doesn't help.. honestly, nothing really does. You can mask the pain. But reality is they are gone and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it other than cope and accept the reality of the situation or be miserable forever in distress. I agree with that for sure. If putting blame on others helps someone cope then okay. But people are people. No matter how much you care and love someone. Anyone can leave. And that's life. :/
@@xFersureMatt the blame game sucks. My wife of 18 years cheated on me in year 17 and it was my fault. I treated her like shit. If i was in her shoes i cant say i wouldnt have done it either. We have been separated for 18 months and I still want her to come home. Were very close and very friendly but we cannot talk about relatiinship. We can talk for hours about anything other than that
Ex-wife cheated on me in 2011. For the next 4 years, I treated myself with liquid therapy. By some pure miracle, I didn't get a DUI (or, worse, hurt someone because I was being selfish & stupid), maintained my job, and didn't lose my license to practice law. Now, 6 years later, only regret I have is wasting 4 years of my precious early-30s crying over someone who simply was not worth it. Wish Jocko/Echo had this Podcast back in 2011. Preach, brothers!
Look at it this way there isn't anything you wasted not your time money ect because life (mistakes) are a lesson learnt next time you go through this bs or you sense it coming on you know what to do and how to deal with it.
Austin P. It's crazy as fuck cause Iam going thru the same thing bro , only thing IAM hitting 30 next week and seeing ur comment help me realize Iam not alone and Im greatful cause I still have the opportunity of not wasting the next chapter of my life . I have been suffering for the last 5 years and the first 2 I had to spend it incarcerated, it's was hell on earth but I am fighting to keep my self going regardless of what happens in my life ! So if i could help u as u help me , iam here bro and I feel ur pain .
After 17 years, I had to come to terms that emotional infidelity is real and realize she had manipulated me for years saying I was creating these illusions in my head. She’s finally admitted that because I was out hustling to bring the family into financial comfort, I was emotionally unavailable which is her way of deflecting the blame from her to me. Stand your ground and allow your feelings to be real. Don’t let them tell you otherwise. #MOVEON
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My ex-girlfriend at 29 left me before New Year's 2020 for the guy she crushed on ever since she was 14. She did this behind my back and said she loved me, and was happy. She was the love of my life and I wanted to get engaged with her after being together for 2 years. You go from feeling in love one day with the woman of your dreams, to be completely lonely the next. A few weeks later, her new relationship fell through on it's ass, and I was out dating and met someone new. Karma can also have it's way with a liar and a cheater sometimes.
I was in a relationship for almost 9 years. We met when I was 18 and he was 19. He was my first love. This past month he has been going back and forth between me and this girl from work that he got drunk and slept with. And every time he came back to me I would accept him without hesitation. He made all these promises to me, telling me he wasn’t going anywhere, that he chose me over her. And it all ended on a Wednesday night when I had gotten off of work and in the most cold tone I’d ever heard from him, he informs me that he doesn’t see a future with me, and that he does not love me. It crushed me. But you were right, I was holding onto a fantasy of him. The reality of him is that he is a bum, no future prospects, no plan, hasn’t even paid rent the last two months. It’s been a week, and that’s all I’ve needed to see him for what he truly was. Thank you.
Fuck that guy, what a disrespectful & cowardly way to end a relationship. Everything will turn out alright, it's his loss really. Focus on yourself & hang in there, time does 50% of the work, the other 50% is your own self-care. Spend time with friends & family. You'll find someone who deserves you and be happy, have Faith in yourself ❤️
Stay strong sis! My ex also said something similar, he can’t see the future of us, he doesn’t love me at all etc. these are just the excuses for his cheating, so let’s just ignore these comments and move on. Listen to this video really helps 👍🏻
@@NoDuurr youll get throughthis, i think so differently about my relationship and that it was abusive and shes a narcisist (I tend to think?) so stay clear headed it is definitely over, u cant cheat on someone you love. All the best king
My girlfriend of a year left me with no indication or warning. We were calling everyday and saying how much we loved each other. Then one day, she suddenly breaks up with me and tells me she doesn't even want to discuss why she wants to leave. Less than two weeks later, she's already dating another person. I don't understand how someone could go from loving you to suddenly flipping a switch and being with someone else. Stay strong everyone, we can get past this.
Usually after a lot of time passes you can look back and see the subtle signs that she was losing interest or had moved on a while before she broke up. Many of us have been there. All I can say is hang in there and do your best to move on. Also ask yourself how you can be a better partner in the future. Often there are lessons in this, and although it may be unfair and it may not be your fault, we can always improve. Every relationship I’ve had has taught me that there’s always more work to do on myself and that if I really want to “earn” the dream girl, I gotta put in the work to make myself the best version of myself I can be. And again, we can get clues from analyzing why past partners broke up with us, and try to improve ourselves for the next one. At least that’s my 2 cents. Hope you’re doing ok and hanging in there. It will be ok. Plenty of fish in the sea!
I'm watching this video again after one and half years just to recall how i felt those days. Man, i remembered everything, but I'm telling you i'm over it. The thing you feel now will go away. This damage will make you a better version of yourself. Pull it together, you are not alone ! Peace ✌
Dr Steve can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 3 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him
@Chertsey Nermal that sucks I’m sorry to hear that I myself am about to get my heart broken she’s leaving tomorrow with all of her things and I don’t know what to do I feel your pain im sorry that’s happened but like he said don’t trust your Brain trust your self I hope you do great in life and do incredible things
You never lose your woman/man, you just lose your turn. Nothing is permanent in life. I recently had a series of terrible events, plus I was in a 3 yr relationship that should not have lasted 3 months. When the bad times came, guess what? She made it 2x as bad by leaving. The people you rely on have the power to help, and hurt you. You have to remain in the drivers seat of your own life.
This video helped move me through one of the darkest times of my life last year. I ruined my mindset overthinking about someone who intentionally tried to hurt me and my family. They are not who you believe they are. So important.
Girlfriend of 3 years just left me yesterday. I was strong up until this morning has had a breakdown. This video helped me recover quickly and now I'm going to turn 2021 into my year
@@angelic2317 I don't think you should suggest getting back with exes. That was the whole point of the video. If they betray you, you shouldn't have them in your life. "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
I’ve been coming back to this video most weeks and it’s been 4 months since my girl left me. Stay strong bros and don’t judge the length your healing process. I’m stronger every day but still feel like it just happened some days. Best thing to do is love yourself and look after yourself✌🏻❤️
Just got out of a 4 and half year relationship with someone I loved. I loved her through so many red flags. She cheated on me, flirted with guys but for some reason I stayed and “worked it out”. I put up with so much, my mental and physical health took a toll. I was always scared of her leaving me and being alone. A month ago we got a apartment together, both of us signed the lease. A week ago she got up and left for someone else, and told me she had sex with that guy 3 times already. I was emotionally destroyed and still am. I couldn’t eat since yesterday. But for the past 2 days I discovered these podcast, working out and real food. I can already feel my life turning around for the better, I feel good for myself for once. I hope one day I can fully feel confident with being alone. I know it’s going to be a long process but I realized THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IS ME!
I needed to hear this. It's true. I fell in love with someone I built in my mind. Out of no where and with no indication, she ended the relationship... after 8 years together. For the last few days, I felt broken. I needed this. Thanks
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@@danielleberry6319 hahahtrue love is constant people who leave can people who really love can not . So your so called love is not real love it is you thinking that is love
True!!! The love of my life, my dog, is the reason I got through my horrible/messy divorce. If it wasn’t for him, I would be lying in a gutter with a bottle of vodka. Ha
Haha, when my dog died my father said something similar except it was to build more in my life like family, friends and more pets. He said if you only have one and you lose it then your whole life and happiness is gone. If you have a pet or two, a spouse, some kids, some good friends(even one) then when one leaves or dies or whatever your whole world doesn't come crashing down. It also just means you have a bunch of sources of happiness and support which is awesome. I learnt this because when I was in college I only had my dog, so when he died it affected me way more than it should have. I suddenly had nothing. My dad was like first step is get a new dog, next build some people around you.
I needed to hear this after years of suffering and the worst thing about betrayal is that it does not come from your enemies. People don't realize how painful that shit is, it changes you to something you are not.
You are exactly right. It is extremely painful (like lying on the floor with a knife in your guts). If you don’t get help right away, it will change you into something that will ultimately hurt you and others. It took me way too long to forgive, accept the real truth about things, and to properly process things to put away the pain, and all negative emotions. The old saying is true: Hurt people, hurt People.
@@gggray5747 I’m very sorry for you. I just want you to know that there is someone in this world that acknowledges your pain and understands the unending waves of gut-wrenching agony that comes from every waking thought of the betrayal by someone you let deep into your heart, and trusted. I would encourage you to feel the pain, without hanging on to any anger, rage or permanent unforgivness. Refuse to let that stay in your mind. It takes time to get over the shock and accept the reality of who and what that person really is.
I am 42 and was cheated on the first time. I feel like the pain is trying to change me into a person that can no longer trust. But that is not me. I am going to keep fighting because I know I deserve better and I am worth it.
@@mar_beach I am so sorry that happened to you. The pain of betrayal is debilitating. I hope you have someone that can help you through it. The pain will indeed make you think things and do things you would not normally do. It seems like you recognize this and you’re fighting against it. Keep up the good fight, and allow yourself to trust again in due time. I hope one day you can find a trustworthy love.
She ended it after falling out of love after 3 years. I listened to this every morning for the first 3 months when I got up at 5am and started lifting. Fasting, muaythai kickboxing and lifting for 7 months led to losing 35kgs. This video is amazing... thanks for all your help Jocko and Charles. I needed this.
My first and only girl told me she fell out of love after 5 years. It's been fucking rough. I'm still in a place where I can't feel like I can apply this to her.
@@FredericGolz Damn it's already been 6 months since this comment!? Time is flying. I feel better but not 100. I still think about it everyday. But it's not soul crushing. I can see the relationship more clearly for what it was, the mistakes that both she and I made. It really wasn't what I thought it was for a long time. Now it's just about forgiving myself, improving and moving on. I've been super consistent with the gym and diet which has been a big help. Dropped over 10kg but put on a decent amount of lean mass. I'm the strongest I've ever been. And I moved to a new city for a job I'm excited about. Things are looking up bro.
@@SouperSaiyan96 That sounds great man. I'm proud of you. Remember to keep the pace up and look into the future! My girlfriend told me she wouldn't love me anymore on Saturday. It's been 3,5 years and she was my first real love. We had so many great memories. Went on vacation and stuff like that. I am no longer attractive for her i guess and i know why. I don't love myself i don't love my body. Gained some weight and struggled to make decisions regarding my future. How can you expect someone to love you when you don't love yourself ? I started exercising again last week and i feel so well when i finished a workout. I want to get a sixpack again and be in the best form of my life. And in a couple of months i will meet her again and she will not believe what shes seeing. Keep it up bro
@@FredericGolz Bro that's exactly how my situation was (or is. I'm not completely healed). I know they say not to do it to prove something to her, but in my case the need to do that has been an incredible force to make lots of positive changes. It's not about getting her back, but about being the person you know you can be and that she wasn't willing to stick around to see. Yeah bro you are so right. Yes the physical changes of letting myself go, and the struggling with school made her lose attraction for me. But I think the biggest part in my case was the loss of self esteem, self respect and just general positive vibes because I didn't like who I was. My personality definitely changed for the worst. So yes making a change in the body is good, and is definitely the best stepping stone to make psychological change. But find that happiness within yourself again. Be someone other people enjoy being around and talking to. That's what it's about. In fact I think it's THE thing. Thank you for the encouragement and kind words. We got this brother.
“That person is not who you thought they were, the idea that this person was a trustworthy, faithful companion is not true. That person doesn’t exist” This advice was golden for me. I’m going through a breakup with someone I was with for 10 years and this was definitely changed my attitude towards the whole thing. Once again, Jocko, thank you for your wisdom!
@Hippie Farmer Same, we were together for 10 years and we split. Its been more than a year and I've moved on. The sad thing is I just recently dated a girl again and everything was going great for 4 months til her ex suddenly wanted her back and now she cut it off with me because she wants to give him a chance and doesn't want to entertain another guy. I was okay with it since she explicitly told me that she wasn't really ready for a relationship and was just casually dating. But what I wasn't okay with was how she just didn't communicate and just abruptly dumped me while telling me she's sorry but she wants to give her ex a chance. She could have atleast told me that in person, but she just texted me. After 2 weeks of waiting. WTF. Atleast my ex and I are still friends, we broke up because she had to move to another country for work and I had to stay for mine. We couldn't compromise, sadly.
Just found my lady of 13 yrs and 3 kids was a lier and cheated on me..in a dark painful place..jocko is helping me and so is everybody letting people know there personal painful business..all appreciated..trying to escape this dark place
Fiel Tan some people just really don’t know how to communicate, express their feelings, and/or just really scared. That doesn’t mean anything about you though.
When you miss that person, whether they're an ex or sometimes worse a backstabbing machiavellian plotting relative; ask yourself. Do you miss them, or do you miss the idealization of them that you once had? Every time I've asked that question, I've quickly gotten my answer. Sometimes you have to ask yourself more than once over a period of time.
I'm a woman and going through betrayal trauma. I've binge watched so many betrayal videos, but cant seem to stop thinking about this. This video really helped me. I don't think about the good times, i obsess about the day i saw them together and confronted them and never told her that he had been lying to both of us. I did ignore the red flags, and that is why I'm angry at myself.
To all who is going through the pain, my heart goes out to you and remember you are beautiful. I was betrayed by my husband, he cheated me every single day, it's not even 2 months of our separation n he moved on already. It breaks my heart every second when I realise that he got over me so quickly n our relationship was just so simple for him. But I know I deserve better and I am stronger than what I am today. I walked out from his life because I was heart broken,i found no reason to stay with him. So trust the time guys, time is the best healer.
Read/write, learn, lift, wake up early, meditate, train martial arts, learn a new hobbie/skill, hike mountains, dose up on Shrooms/DMT, love and spend time with your family/close friends, make money, and most importantly, follow Your fucking dreams mate.
@@davidgrimes4210 fuck em and make new ones, surround urself with positive people who support you and ditch the ones that don’t. U got this, I believe in u. I have ur back
Caught my wife of 8 years (4 kids) cheating. In the act. The most devastating thing I’ve ever been through. I’ve been listening to this everyday for the last month. It’s helping
Feel like I keep goin through a traumatic breakup every time the relationship ends… my head is fucked up even more this time… man I pray that I find the strength to heal and get to a better place for the sake not only my child but for myself!.. I’m come back in year to this comment and hopefully things are better
Went thru a terrible break up about 6 months ago. Ripped me apart. The best things you can do is delete ALL Social Media, DO NOT CONTACT NO MATTER WHAT, find a hobby or work out, and stay busy. I was disciplined and stuck to these methods and 4 months later I went from 330 lbs to 280, got back into college and so far I have all As. And the best part, I have the one that broke my heart constantly calling and texting me. Stay disciplined, focus, and detach bois!!! Update: HOLY SHIT I did not know this comment blew up so much! Well since I’ve posted this I am in a new relationship, been almost a year (Dec 2018). Ended up moving cities and getting a stupid awesome job as a Tech for an oil and gas company! Have gained some poundage back but that’s alright, never too late to get after it again! Thanks for the love all my heartbroken bois! Stay humble, stay focused and GET AFTER IT!!!
Nickolas Tijerina Bruh I love gym and exercise and shit study is what I NEED to do Rn but I just can’t focus on it. While I’m doing it, memories etc come up. And just emotional pain. It’s horrible. Just for studies. She doesn’t exist when I’m working out 💪🏽 but I’m in my final year of secondary school and exams are coming up. I really need to study. Other than that, sometimes I have mood swings coz I remember something. But usually I’m with people so I lose those thoughts. But when I’m alone with my studies, I can’t really do that. So please help
Same here. One month after and memories still keep popping up randomly in my head, even though I thought I've got over it. It happens pretty frequently, so what I did was trying to detach and go through the motion with whatever I'm doing and get things done.
Tùng Đào It happens. Even after like 6 months I still get those feelings. I sit there and tell myself it’s just the chemicals in my body wanting that feeling again. Don’t listen to that shit. Go do something productive lmao
Rafi Ashraf Man in all honesty it’s not easy when you’ve really cared about someone but what you need to tell yourself is that it’s the chemicals in your body wanting that feeling again. You just have to fight it. I can’t explain how I just started eating clean, working out, and meditating. And after maybe 1-2 months of that, I got over it. I still get those little visions but then I remember who that person really is and forget the good times and remember all the bad times that outweighed the good. If it was meant to be, they’d still be there by your side. If not, let them go. There’s always someone better. Never settle. Fuck Bitches Get money dawg 😂😂😂
The red flags you ignore at the beginning will be the reason it all comes to an end. Learn to love yourself, and you will never again need the external validation. You will know your true value is there, even if they are unable to see it.
Yeah as soon as you see signs of crazy get the f*** out I learned the hard way 3 TVs smashed tons of furniture broken holes in every wall of the house guess I should have reacted to our first hotel stay when she smashed the f****** mirror then try to jump out of my truck on a major highway all kinds of f****** crazy but like they said you hold on to that very short window Good Times you live you learn what doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Don. Diego.98 my girl just invited her “friend” to live with her until he saves up for an apartment and I’m about to end our relationship or leave or something. It’s hard to figure out whether or not to keep truckin for a little while or just cut my losses
@@connorstaggs8664 i ended a relationship recently. My decision was to only make a decision when I was sure I wasn't going to have any regrets. So I waited it out. And the decision eventually got done for me. But for me it was the right decision. If you do cut it. Be certain. If you don't, really start to emotionally separate yourself. Which will make the break up easier. Whatever you do, have no regrets.
Been there, done that...recently. Moved on, and accepted her for what she was: toxic, evil. Cheaters, liars, manipulators, are not worth getting broken down over. Yeah, we had good times, but just as many times she was crazy and out of line, so best thing to do is deal with it and deal with who they are. Fear no man, trust no woman.Better off being single. Hooah!
B. Fagan Not all women like that. My hubby 24 years been cheating with other women for more than 2 years. Now he leaving me and our son and choose live with his girlfriend. I am very angry, hurt so much. Now I trying to live without him. Being single is not easy.
Once a cheater , always a cheater ... I really learned this hard way because I dated 3 girls who cheated on there ex’s And you guessed it ... all 3 of them cheated on me . Cheaters will always cheat .
I still can’t believe she left. It feels like a nightmare. These type of videos are like a slap to wake up. Sometimes the pain is so much it feels like I’m slowly losing grip on reality. Even suicidal thoughts creep up. I appreciate this particular video so much, because it feels like someone is snapping me back to what’s real and what’s just my conscious.
One day at a time, it will get better and you'll be stronger for it. I lost my brother to suicide and that's a trail of suffering and destruction you don't want to leave behind. Deep breaths and actions that heal you everyday ❤️
Time does 50% of the healing just hang in there, the other 50% is self work and other relationships that make you feel good like friends and family. You'll make it stay strong. For me it got better after 6months, after 9 I am almost completely over it
Please take care of yourself bro until your healing is complete. 8 months ago I was in a similar position...stuck in the darkest hole I've ever been in after my girlfriend of 10 years just called it quits. But here I am 8 months later and full of life again and moving forward...and you will too bro. Don't get me wrong,I'm still healing but my healing journey is almost complete and I'm preparing for the next phase of my life. If you need someone to talk to please feel free to hit me up..take care
You have to realize your self worth. You don't deserve that shit. I'm in the same position, I have feelings for this person still. When you give someone everything you have and they just say whatever, and drop it for some random person. It hurts, really bad, yet somehow I feel stronger.
I needed to hear this. I haven’t been doing so good after she told me she needed “space” and than gave me hope she would come back, but crushed that hope a week ago when she told me to “leave her alone.” Also, I just found out she added a few guys back that we had problems with in the beginning of our relationship as nude pics were sent and she tried to keep them in her life as “friends.” They were blocked while I dated her… maybe… who knows maybe she still talked to them, but after hearing this video I realized she’s no good. She’s a liar, cheat & disgusting human being whom I kept in my head as a saint. The truth is really starting to be revealed and it’s making it easier to move on after not eating, not sleeping, sick from work, suicidal thoughts, etc… take care of yourselves and I’ll do the same!
“Become a better person” was the most important part of this entire clip. The idea that the right person is out there to be found gives the false impression that looking around for them is the answer. Changing yourself into someone who is attractive is the key. So if you want someone who is very physically fit, you will need to pursue fitness goals of your own. If you want someone who is educated, you should probably start pursuing that graduate degree you’ve been putting off. You won’t “find” the person at the gym or at college, but you will show everyone around you that you’re going after a very valid, relevant goal. This is actually what that person who finds YOU will be attracted to.
Hope a couple years later I can come back and tell you guys I made it and stay strong, five years of relationship and she even stayed with me during my cancer fight, now I found her chatting with a guy and even share naked photos, it’s just so heartbreaking, anyway I’ll listen to this video every morning for a year, see if I can go through this.
I'm so sorry bro...8 months ago I was in the same boat...please take care of yourself. Healing will take time, it's definitely not a overnight process but you will get through it. When this happened to me last year I didn't think I would ever recover. But I did and I'm coming back stronger and better than ever...and you will too. Keep your head up bro...I'm here if you need to talk
Sanchita Mandal solitude, get connected with your spirit. Do what makes you happy and do things you’ve always wanted to do and never had. I’ve gone through so much pain and problems with my ex wife. And even though it hurt I had to rip her away from my heart.
Learn stoic philosophy to move on. Remember the 1st day you meet her or talk with her as a stranger....and now accept that it's time came to walk down on our own path.... believe me you will find a better stranger on your path....just keep moving
Saying “building a fantasy around them” is literally so intense it’s like you have this dream of what it’s gonna be but deadass like he took the words out of my mouth
Exactly how I would describe it, because ultimately if your in a toxic relationship and willing to put up with a lot of shit or keep opening the doors to toxic people just says your don’t respect or love yourself to know you deserve so much more.
@@dagmawihirpa5455 Too many have been brainwashed to see dysfunction as normal. Two mentally stable adults know that it's not and unacceptable. Peace shouldn't be fought for within a relationship.
@@cotcb I 100% agree with deciding knowing and believing that peace and happiness is what a normal relationship should feel like clears a lot of the tension.
"That person is not who you thought they were. The idea that this person was a trustworthy faithful companion is not true. It is not true.That person, does not exist. They didn't exist and they don't exist. It was in your head." - This is quite possibly the truest thing I've ever heard and was powerful in me seeing the truth and coming to terms with my divorce.
anyone whose been thru this and thinks they can help someone out are welcomed to my dm on Instagram @carolinaRileysmith its so hard to be without love!
Topher Gopher 4/2/20 “ they don’t exist it was in your head” .....It was something in the way that he said it that made me know in my heart it is absolutely true and it applies to me.
man shoutout to Jocko and Echo, I had this video on repeat for months straight. At the time it seemed like it was the only thing that helped, grateful for powerful people like this. I'm in such a better place now, its ironic that the hardest times in our lives are also probably the best times when you look back at the big picture. If your in pain, your probably growing...Keep on the war path.
@Hamurai absolutely it was. The things I found out after we broke up and the things she did before and after the breakup absolutely validate that the breakup was the right thing. Stings a little still but this pain is significantly better than the reality that awaited me had the relationship worked out
"Dont pray for an easy life... Pray for strength to endure a difficult one"
Bruce Lee
Also Marcus Aurelius
Exactly and well spoken.True motivator.👌
Great quote
Thanks🙏
@Nathan Ganga nice bro
@Nathan Ganga you should definitely care about certain people though. If you find the one man it'll make you even happier. Don't give up on love man. And I should know I almost gave up on love.. until alexis Kaufman saved me from that fate. And also what you're talking about Isn't the same as giving up on love. Once you give up on love. You die inside completely and your heart dies. And you start to hate everything and everyone. Do we're not the same. I would of went to the darkest place imaginable if it wasn't for Alexis Kaufman. And I would of went to a place secluded from humans a place where I can survive all alone without any humans with 500 miles of me at least. A Forrest preferably. And I would've done anything to survive. That's the path I was heading down. So no me and you aren't the same it's not even close. And also I wasn't giving up on love just because love has always been ripped away from me. And it literally felt like the universe just didn't want me to love. It was the fact that I went to hell about 3 years ago. I was in another dimension for 3 months I survived all alone in that hell. You wouldn't believe the things I had to endure in that hell. And almost 2 years later alexis Kaufman comes out of nowhere and saves me from so many things. I will always love that woman. I owe everything to her. And this further proved we're not the same it's not even close. No human is stronger then me. I'm the strongest by far. And no none of you humans could survive for even a minute in that other dimension. All you humans are weak
I’m sorry for everyone here who had to look this up, we can get through this. Keep that hard work coming and lets move on💪
Thank you bro 🙏
Thanks man, hope you’re doing well! As well as any guy reading this that is going through something hard 🤘🏻🍻
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@Brometheus duuuudeeee.... no judgement! I am going through the same thing!! 1 year has gone by from me breaking up with my girlfriend of 9.5 years!
working out has helped a lot!! And this video! And hearing Jocko tell me helps it’s hard man and isn’t a quick fix! Here for you brother! Going through it too!!
@Brometheus literally the EXACT Same Situation. Been with Mines 4 Years,child and All....and She Just Not the Same Anymore....but its So Hard It Makes Me Want to Fade In And away..
My girlfriend of five years and I broke up and now she’s with the guy she told me not to worry about. This is helping.
Try to forgive her for being a bad person. Trust me, dude. Shield yourself with compassion and everything will be OK. Nothing more that you can do and you definitely don't want to carry a big bag of regret and hatred around your neck. Liste to Jocko: "roger that and move on!"
i feel you man, im going thru something similar myself.
Same
Research red pill.
I’m literally going through the same exact thing, except we dated for 4 and a half years
“When someone breaks your trust we question ourselves”
Damn that’s true
That's the point. We think that we are a failure and question ourselves. That's wrong IF you didn't do anything wrong and you can hold your head high. That's what got me through it, I just kept saying the facts. Self-respect is the main thing. Never lose that.
@@NWWood17 Same with me. And it is OK to question ourselves when this happen to avoid this in a future. Not a rummination, just learning from our mistakes.
"The person you pieced together in your head doesn't exist." That hit hard and was what I needed to hear.
Same
Same
@@michellereeves9316 oh really? Wow
@@Lucaswilsonn yeah
Exactly 😎
Break ups aren't the hard part. The hard part is mustering the energy and courage to start fresh and try again.
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and who ever you want to manifest within two-days ❤❤❤
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
Whtsaap him**
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Sheesh straight up 💯 get up dust you’re self off and get after it
This is straight up men supporting men! We need more of this!
Exactly, I never had an older brother and my father left our family when I was 10, I'm 25 now, dealing with divorce, so glad to see men help each other like Brothers, we need more of that around
Riverline I’m here with you my man. I’m 33, an only child, dad overdosed when I was a kid and I’m currently going through a divorce myself. Shits been though as hell some days but it’s the videos like this that keep my head up high. All love brother
The lack of is dangerous. I'd imagine that's why there's gangs in the hood.
@@Money-talking my mate coined it. He went through a terrible break up she done a moon light moved out with kids while he was at work took everything house was a right mess. I lived next door i watched a man reduced to a shell. I had to cook for him. A few weeks later i seen him and he looked much better I said you Ok my bro he said I've played cards with the devil last night and I won. 😎
Lots of men end up playing cards with the devil and lose . I've plaid with him to I won. I'll never play that game again women cheat and lie to win. Don't play cards with a woman and you won't have to play cards with the devil himself. Scary shit. Stay safe. The cards are stacked against you as a male in society today with regards to relationships kids and marriage. It's just not worth it. Don't play there game play yours.
This is straight up supporting other people. Women go through the same shit. I was in a 7 year relationship and my ex left me for a younger woman while I was 3 months pregnant with him.
It’s much better to be alone, than feel alone in a relationship.
Sooooo true
Really did feel alone being w her.
@@ExoduZ777 Same buddy.....like I really felt better without her went out on some trip with friends...while she was missing me whatever in the chat like f....duhh
facts.
Werd. 🤘
"When a person shows you who they are, believe them the first time".
-Maya Angelou
I am going to listen to this over and over and over until my head comes out of my ass
@@jeremysautomobile been there done that. Takes about 3 weeks.
This is true, my baby daddy cheated forgave him,the first time,forgave him,he again cheated the second time
@@nansysherry It's absolutely true. Believe them, THE FIRST TIME. Sorry for the nonsense that He put you through.
One of the most realest things I’ve heard my friend, Wish i seen this along time ago.
Loneliness is better than miserable company.
pharoahism so true so absolutely true
#FACTS
Love never hurts . Rejection n lonliness do hurts.
Roger that.
Alone does not mean lonely.
Wife of 12 years cheated. Left the house a week ago. No remorse. I have my 2 boys. I needed this. Thank you.
@@stephensondosier7923 i love her of course but this wasnt a regular... Fling... This was hate filled and brutal. Im out. She is a lie. She always will be A LIE. Thank you though i understand your intent is great
Sorry man, I'm going through a break up shit stings bad
Fuck man my heart goes out to u buddy stay strong brother
Nobody will keep her for long term. Stay safe bro ❤️
Man
That's hard
I thought only me who though this sht
I'm sorry for us
“You fell in love with a fantasy that you had built off the framework of reality” 👌 very humbling words to say to yourself.
“If a man takes your girl, then he is doing you a favour”
Remember
For he will be you when she finds him just as expendable...
Facts
A1!
It's hurt man
Dam straight if someone can bag your chick she ain't your chick i guess
“Don’t listen to your brain. Listen to me. She’s not essential.”
“Hangout with your badass self”
“Lifting solves everything.”
Helpful! Thank you.
9:03 💪🏻
Lift heavy shit and put it down × 50 😀
The physique I have in my picture here is literally the result of profound heartbreak. Turn it into fuel and you will never quit.
Forget her not worth it. Before i trusted this demon inwas totally fine in my own company 3 kids later 11 years of lies betrayal yhea im good shes nuts. I get out innthe woods and water ive actually taken pics out in the woods and sighted in my muzzleloader in hahahahah lol
This was very helpful, when Jocko said this I appreciated this. It's been 9 months and we go too the same damn church but I have just started to work on deleting the fantasy
Im a fit athletic guy. My ex played me and left me for an out of shape fat dude. Only to play him and leave him for another guy too. Now me and the big guy work out together every week. :) I lost someone toxic and gained a good friend in the process.
This is quietly the best comment in the thread. Good for you actually befriending the dude and taking him under your wing at the gym. You're a legend
Legend!
Why you want a "friend" like that?. Have a little self-respect
@@loan8825 some people are able to deprive resentment towards those who had hurt them, yet easier said than done.
Bro for sure didn’t expect that ending! I love this story. I’m sorry you went through the crap, but how it ended up. Guys sticking together. We need more of that! Good on you man!
Really needed this. No sugar coating it, knock that chick off of the metaphorical pedestal you built for her and remember that you’re worth it, you’re the freaking man. It was wrong what she did to you, you deserve better, and if you allow yourself to feel, and heal, you will eventually find someone who is much better.
Chins up out there lads. We got this.
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Tanks mate! That’s is calming my pain a little :)
Good comment brother it helps.
King
I needed this mate thanks!
Whenever I catch myself thinking about my ex or someone else I got into. . I just come here and listen.
I can't talk to my family or friends about it.
So I just come here.
It's 100 % true bro is that today I got breakup from my Gf whom I trusted very much but reality is that don't love anyone so much, just love yourself 😊,And this breakup gives me so much strength to live on
I feel you bro its okay
Dad pulled me aside when we were cutting wood and said its not the first time and last time it will happen talked about his relationship of 5 years ending then later my friends came chatted it out....helps to talk to these people even for 10 mins
Preston i feel you. Can’t talk to friends or family about it. Have to deal w/ it.
Same here
The heart knows how to heal itself the true challenge is to silence the mind
Very well put
Amen
I'm going to steal that
Exactly that
Advice please
“Don’t listen to your brain, listen to me, move on.” I needed that.
I know Mr ose who can actually fix your problems, he once helped me recover my relationship 🥰
Wh'atsap me...for he!p
I just love the nonchalant way he says that. "Don't listen to your brain, listen to me." Got it, Sir
I came across this video about 3 or 4 years ago. I was now going through a break up back then 2019. I felt hopeless and didn't want to let go of her. Every morning I used to listen to this video until I eventually got to my senses and did what was best.
Today is June 6th 2023. I recently saw my ex after so much years and she spoke to me and it was then I realised that so much years had passed and I felt nothing towards her.
Thank you for this video
Yes. I've never been hurt by a female that's not my family. But I've been abused by my mother however I've forgiven her yet I still feel void when talking about her family life. But I've never fvked a female. I will eventually since I'm a Christian I will just obey God and marry the righteous woman
I can’t wait for that day when I don’t think of her in anyway other than oh hey it’s you.
Did you REALLY use "female" Israel? Fuck. That's some incel bullshit. Maybe you should work on yourself a bit more before you find someone.
@@IsraelCountryCube duh marry me
Wow!!
Exact same thing happened me back in 2021 and I used to watch this daily!!
such a hard, tough, and lonely time in my life. Wife abruptly broke up with me 6 days after I lost my grandfather. Went completely cold and forced me out of our “forever home” that we had a few months. Our 3 young children (at the time 7,4, and 2) didn’t know what was happening
Fought for my kids and got 50/50, went out renting and slowly but surely built my life back up for myself and my children!
Since then, I met the love of my life and the total opposite of the woman I was with (who I thought in my delusion at the time, was perfect)
Hard times make hard people and hard times don’t last forever, just long enough to teach you the lesson!
Whoever is reading this, stay strong and face your hard time with strength and dignity. One day you look back with awe and pride of who you handled yourself at that time, and realise how better life is now ! 🙌🫶🏻
"The person you pieced together in your head doesn't even exist."
More accurate, honest words have never been spoken.
anyone whose been thru this and thinks they can help someone out are welcomed to my dm on Instagram @carolinaRileysmith. its hard
I found this video when the betrayal, the breakup was fresh. It guided me through the healing process. I came back a year later to this clip. Let me tell you you guys. This video saved my life from suicide. I'm thankful for still being here. They were just an illusion. 🙏
Thanks for sticking around. Stay strong.
Same here. I hope you get better and it will be. Stay strong. my blessing to you
Hey, your life is precious!! Just What were you thinking, losing it for someone who's not even worth it. Wish you a very beautiful life with someone loyal
Your worth more then that person. Love your self and fight hard for your life.
❤️
Don’t ignore the red flags in the beginning.
When you're young you don't even know the red flags
What is the the flags?
When you are wearing rose colored glasses red flags just look like flags.
@@xt4k3nx I wish I can smoke whatever you're smoking xD
buckbeaver that was actually brilliant
I can't believe I'm at that point in my life where I need these videos just to keep me here.
Same here, bro. You got this.
We’re going to make it, bro. One day at a time. You’re not alone.
I’m in the same situation buddy. The bad energy can’t be destroyed but I can be converted. Into motivation for better things
Same here brother. I first watched this video years ago. Was a fool, let the bitch back in. Whatever you do, don't do that. Move on
"Forgive your enemies but never forget their names."
-John F. Kennedy
thanks for this
Whoe Kennedy said that good lookin out profound rite
In the end when he talks about going to the gym I remembered back when my first serious relashionship ended and I was feeling like garbage my friend told me "tomorrow morning you are going to wake up eraly, go to the gym and lift the heaviest weights you can for as many reps as you can. Trust me on this one" I did it and spent all day feeling like a bad ass, my cheating ex barely even crossed my mind that day. Exercising is seriously the best heartbreak medicine
And you look good after
@Clara. Kane I'm confused
@@kizmutyaba4965 it's a bot I think or scammer
Seriously thats so low, Who Even make this kind of bots
It's either weights or combat sports.
When a woman cheats or dumps you, think of it like this:
She's found a store to shop in. It's your store, and she thinks she can spend some amount of time inside it and find something rare and valuable.
She spends a lot of time and effort shopping, and you spend a lot of time and effort helping her shop (customer service).
Eventually, she decides that the store doesn't have what she's looking for, so she leaves.
She might announce she's leaving, or she might not. She might be polite about it, or she might be rude.
Hell, you might discover one day that she's been shopping at other stores without you knowing.
Regardless of any of this, the answer is the same: *Next customer, please.*
Rob Great analogy, not heard it described like that before
Haris Naz I like she’s never yours, just ur turn.
Don’t think that you’re the only one that has to serve the other in the relationship tho mate.
Great explanation about my situation 😥😥 i gave her everything and done everything that i could to make her happy but now here i am with an empty handed and broken heart. I treated her like a queen and she treat me like a shit. Hope you all have a better relationship ❤️❤️
@@RRRRobbbb you are right bro but its too late, i sacrifice everything for her, now i lost everything including myself
Listen to it over and over again if you find yourself down as motivation to pursue your dreams
Yes that’s exactly what I started doing as that reminder . His no nonsense direct approach is what’s needed. He made it simple
I do
I am back to this for the fourth time in 6 months
been listening to this and others first thing every morning. it definitely helps.
Guys, relationships take too much time and just a distraction. Focus on YOU first, and then everything else will come along. NEVER settle to be an option
Agreed, never be an option
Facts bro I always focus on myself but what happens if you want a family or kids and pussy
@@blacklyfe5543 Chase self love bro. Self love comes in many forms. Freedom, Money, Connections, Successful career, cars, food. Love yourself brotha and be happy. Because when the right person comes along you'll be ready. When two come together they first should be happy when they are single. They shouldn't get into a relationship to be happy. Love yourself King!
Real talk bro
If it floats, flies or fucks
Rent it ..
Never fool yourself into believing her past doesn't matter, she is her past.
@Easy E yea,,,my ex just got married,, and that asshole can think about me now and the 13 years i was doing her.
A leopard doesnt change its spots!
George Spangler WOW! I needed to read this. My ex boyfriends past is why I held on and continue to want to hold on. He uses it as to why he is the way he is, and with my empathetic heart, I want to navigate him in to a better direction; but it keeps stabbing me in the back and I’m holding the knife allowing myself not to let go. AND he keeps going back to his ex girlfriend who has done irrational and crazy attempts to ruin his life. I need to look past the fantasy of who I want him to become and the belief I have in him.
@Profit Glutton ...lol...so true
Precisely 😐
"It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home."
--Proverbs 21:9
Whoa, that speaks volumes.
You can always depend on wisdom from the scriptures
Amen!
Yup, life's too short. I can't hate her anymore though. Only cuz it robs so much of my life by thinking of her. It's definitely a drug, being addicted to dope, junk, the worst choices over and over. ✂️✂️✂️🧶⛏️🔗
“While my soul was still searching but not finding, among a thousand I have found one upright man, but among all these I have not found a virtuous woman.” Ecclesiastes 7:28
I just got out of a Narcissistic relationship. I loved this man and moved half way across the country to live with him to discover he had created a whole fake life story and he was not even remotely the man who I thought he was. I faced it head on, took a ton of abuse as I was leaving, but I left. It’s been hard and I still struggle but I know I did the right thing.
Hey I wish you better chances in the future
You got this! ❤
Delete your social media entirely. It helped me to focus on everything around me instead of refreshing her pages. It feels very good to watch life instead of a screen once you get used to it.
Jason Kim agree!
Dude holy shit I'm gonna do this, I'm fkn stupid for not thinking of this before, but thanks for that I'm gonna do it because I know it will help me forget about that person and enjoy life more. Thank you, Jason Kim
@@marckhernandez3692 yo man any progress? I'm about to doing the same thing
Don’t you think that by deleting your social media you’re allowing her to influence your life? After all, if the breakup wouldn’t have happened you would have never deleted it right?
Jg i deleted my social media while I was still in my relationship and when things were going “well” with my ex. Its a good thing to do in general. Unless youre making money on social media, that shit is pointless and a waste of time and energy imo.
Watching this video every morning when I wake and every night before I go to sleep until I get over this breakup.
I think I need to. Been 2 years and still....
1FLEX RECORDS I will too I’m watching now 2 times he’s awesome
@@MeandGod14 I hope it helps you find your happiness. I know with me him talking about mourning the what was supposed to be that never was and I created the person in my head despite the what i saw to be fact. I lost my best friend of 25 years to cancer a year before the breakup so since then i have existed with a physical pain in my chest, never far from tears, never felt so hurt and alone. And people do commit suicide over this stuff, if it weren't for my mom needing me id probably be gone. I go from never wanting to let anyone that close again to trying to talk and get to know someone new but i turn every conversation into a therapy session about my past. I cant move forward while constantly looking behind me but i cant quit looking and feeling. I don't know how to start over, i dont remember how happy feels. I know how to put on a big fake ass smile so people leave me alone and dont worry about me but the night times are rarely good when im alone at home.
My wife wants to Separate and it’s 3 days before our 13 year anniversary ,she saids I’m Mean selfish and a liar smh it’s crazy we just came back from a Family vacation.After everything I’ve done for her and her two kids.
Now I’m just trying to figure out how to get through this emotionally and with everything that I’m going to face in the future with child-support and divorce court. You can never trust women.
Tony Florse man I’m truly from the bottom of my heart feel you and just yesterday she was home is like a stranger absolutely stranger I’ve never met and makes my blood boil it’s so fucking hard but I listen to him lately more times I can count it has definitely help me when I get in the mode of giving it all up I going to try to join the airforce and it’s what I will do if god will help me of course I’m so sorry all I can tell you is don’t give up on yourself its ok to feel all this heartbreak but used it to better yourself ❤️❤️🏋️
When someone breaks your heart you start to judge yourself. Your judgment. It’s okay to be alone. Build that trust up in yourself.
Wow 💯💯💯
Not a broken heart it's only broken if you let he or she break it
Self control comes many different ways
In mind an out
Is the bullshit they put out if you don't give the time of day
After the fact honey
Preying on someone's mind
Is a way of there guilt
Hearts mend minds mend
is what people say do
that make me say fuck you many young get driven to suicide because who ever they are male or female
Is with is the one who fucked was no break up are the ones with the broken heart
People love fuckin with the mind
You control you don't let any one break you
Because they can't figure you out
To fuckin scared so don't drive people to that point an there won't be no broken any fuckin thing
Unbreakable
Self judgment can be good, if you use it correctly. If you just judge yourself and condemn yourself then that's counter productive. Use it as fuel. Workout, eat better, get more rest and don't go looking to replace that person. Find a hobby you truly enjoy. Read. Take a class.....cooking is a good one.
Then, if you bump into someone who looks like they might be interesting and you're attracted to them you'll present a better version of yourself, because you'll be healthier and in better shape now.
@@tidefanyankee2428 I'm sorry but move on? That sounds really simple but it's not. Have you ever acted in ways that betrays your own usual values. Have your kids ever lied to you over stupid $hit? Did you forgive them or "move on". I'm sorry, I like most of Jocko's stuff but life isn't always so black & white. Have you ever really f@%ked up, were you given another chance? Have you ever forgiven some else who probably didn't deserve but they worked earning your trust back & you were both better for it? Oh & if you have kids together what's better for them? Just move on? Throw out the broken toaster, tv, washing machine, car, etc. Don't bother to fix it, throw it away & move on. Don't worry kids, your new Step-Dad/Step-Mom will be even better than the original. I don't know man, he's usually more nuanced than that.
Its ok to be alone for sometime. You dont want to be alone when you are old
I have listened to this so many times and it’s 100% spot on! Our brains trick is into thinking the person that betrayed us is worth sacrificing our well being- what a bunch of bs! I’ll keep coming back until my brain is no longer trying to trick me!
It is like a drug. There's a lot of neuropsychology involved. It's hard to see red flags when you're wearing rose colored glasses.
LITERALLY THIS. my ex was a h-o-e and everyone warned me about her and she knew it bothered me whenever she would talk to/hang out with her ex but i let it slide bc i wanted to believe we had a future and her ex would disappear. lmao, lesson learned. they got together and i was broken and pathetic. ALWAYS pay attention to someone's actions over their words. all the "i love yous" in the world mean nothing if she's clearly playing you
Stop wearing rose colored glasses!
You just described almost the entirety of my love life and my own self destructive delusion. If you had a chaotic childhood it's even harder because of "Comfort in Chaos": Batshit craziness is familiar to you, so it becomes kind of a subconscious comfort zone.
Damn, you hit the nail on the head.
This is an amazing comment
Move on. There is no such a thing as true love or soulmates, they could tell you non stop how much they love you and in a split second they could easily turn around and walk away like nothing ever happened. Just love yourself
02perspolis oh thank you man.
It's called bait and switch
Love is out there. The problem is guys look mostly for hot chicks. Never mind what she inside.
@@barbarariley3488 Fuck you. Most guys prefer hot chicks thats true. So goes with women preferring hot men. But we both know that we will pick a partner depending on their personality in the end. You wouldnt date a hot person with garbage personality, the same goes with every human being. Stop thinking so narrowly please. I fell in love with a girl who was not "hot" she was ok in looks dptment. I changed her life, she went from D student to an A student. She went from being loud and vulgar to calm, quiet and gentle. That girl who knows I changed her life, she threw me away like trash at the worst moment of my life. Now does this mean all average girls are betraying bitches? No of course not. But now I know for sure I cant trust anybody.
FACTS !!!
Rejection is Gods protection.
heard that before, my question is: if not she than WHO.''
THIS
What are the red flags? 😂
I needed to hear that.
I'm not religious but this saying digs deeper than religion, it's karma and "what will be, will be" wrapped into one.
This comment will get lost in the comments but I just wanted to say, a year ago I got cheated on in a horrific manner. I watched this video each and every single day when I was at the lowest and darkest moment of my life. And here I am a year later. Doing better than ever while my ex got pregnant by some guy she barely knew. It all turned out to be a blessing just like Jocko said 🙂
Yup don't hate her don't love her. Leave her to her own devices. I wouldn't even give her advice! Nor help her. She can do everything in her own she's a strong independent woman. Man keep going! I also hope and pray and love you that you find God because when everyoned focused on him all gets better. Suffering is part of life it only depends on you which way you throw it.
I'm happy to hear that you've been able to move on with your life in such a positive way! That's what I want. Not there yet but I'm getting better every day. Thank you!
@@AZChuck75 it’s not easy man. I was hung up on every detail of why it didn’t work and why she did such horrible things. But time cured all wounds. It’s still a scar, but just a reminder it was once there.
What you gotta do is just thank her by blowing yurload all over that video and throw yourself a🎉..then think about counseling..
She is the most narcissistic, selfish, deceptive and untrustworthy person I've ever met. Gonna use this to better myself as much as possible! LETS GET AFTER IT BROTHERS
They all are
How you progressing? I’m a week out of a relationship with narcissistic women myself
@@crookedwiretap89 well about a month later, tried getting back together, I gave her a chance but she stood me up. Happened again and again. Eventually I said something along the lines of "take care bud." One week later I hear she's pregnant with some dudes kid. I myself, have been doing fucking amazing. Months have went by, and I'm dedicated to my purpose and pursuits, it's the good fight. Stay with it brother, she's negativity with legs. Find your purpose and let it consume you brother. You got this
@@middac7882 cheers man
OMG when I just saw this I thought OMY my latest victim just wrote this. Until I saw the date.
Listen to this EVERY day 2 or 3 times a day after being betrayed after 16 years and 3 kids… thank you Jocko. Your words are saving my life.
I'm brand new to this... My wife of 15yrs and 1 daughter, just up and abandoned us for another man she barely knew for a few weeks (her coworker boss at the hospital) and the betrayal and emptiness are the most painful thing I've ever experienced...
She got an apartment behind my back, plotted on me for a few months arranging all this. I don't drink, do drugs, I don't beat her or yell or degrade her... We've been together since we were 20yrs old, and it all just upended in the matter of a day (at least, to me and my 14yr old daughter that lives with me).
So, at least it’s me and my daughter still… But how does a mom just up and walk away from their husband AND daughter who’s an amazing kid?! Just disgusts me to no end.
I can tell you - you are in for the most painful and depressing year of your life. But it will get better. You will be better off without her no matter how much it feels like you won’t. Wake up every single day and realize she is trash. You are better off. Listen to the first 4 minutes of this multiple times a day…it will sink in.
@usernamewood Thank you bro... I really needed that today.. The first Christmas in 17yrs without her here has really bothered my daughter, which in turn bothers the hell out of me.
But, you're right, I didn't lose a "gem". I lost a piece of trash that could've cared less how badly she screwed all of us over. I have our 14yr old daughter, she chose to live with me, so at least I won big overall I guess.
I’m in the exact same boat. Over 20 years with my ex. Let her go whore around. That’s what my ex is doing. She’ll end up alone and miserable, my 3 kids ages 15,13 and 8 knows she’s a whore and the reason our family broke up. It’s hard…believe me. Listen to the first 4 minutes over and over. I’ve accepted that she was a 2 faced whore for a WHILE. A liar, unfaithful selfish hoe who is so mentally fucked up that she chose a white trash loser over her own family, her own children. She will get what she deserves in the end. I’m trying my best to be strong for my kids. They know who was there for them and who REALLY cares. Seems like yours do too.
The best thing to ever happen to you was to get rid of the trash before you wasted anymore time trying to love and respect a complete selfish whore.
Funny thing - mine left for a loser that works at the hospital with her too. Funny how they’re supposed to be working at a hospital helping people - but instead mine was blowing a felon in his car.
“Don’t trust your brain. Trust me.”
-Jocko Wllink
What'sapp him
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I rather trust him than my brain.
LOL
same
This is exactly what I needed to hear at this time in my life. My divorce destroyed me in so many ways. I won't tell my story no one cares about. All I will say is that for the fist time in my life I have no interest in dating. I haven't talked to any girl since my divorce and I honestly have no friends and do not talk to anyone. Historically if I were single I would be dating and sexually active. But since the last time I saw my ex in August 2022 I haven't even talked to another female. But now I realize that the person I was in love with was never real. She was never the person i thought she was. Holy shit does that hurt to realize.
I care about your story and would like to hear it, my gf recently just broke up with me.. she had an abrasive personality & BPD, i'd call her out when she would miss treat me & ghost for a few days. We had another episode together and she just ended things right then and there. i'm still tryin to put myself together
I too, would be interested in hearing your story, OP.
I had two stints of getting back together with my ex when we broke up before the end of 2021...we tried things again 5 months later when she reached out to me, and then I reached out to her 11 months later-if she didnt move out of the island I live on things would've maybe picked up and right now we're kinda talking, I made plans to visit her where she's at now in afew weeks-but something inside me is nudging that it isn't the right move, so I am here
@@therealjulez7886get away from horrible woman such as these don't rot yourself by being around such females.
Woman love to bash men. But all you need to do is get away from that bad woman that's it. Honestly I think you should search for a religious woman that's family oriented and a Christian who centers her life around Christ. Everything gets better whens talking and walking with God. I imagine that a female will want to become my wife if I ask her with intentions of Worshipping the one True God which. I have no embarrassment at all. And I want to marry my christian wife. Forget other people who want you to burn and fall! They should be the first ones to do so;
Sorry to hear this. Head up. Chin up.
For the breakups without betrayal: relationships end, it’s not your fault, it’s not their fault.
It’s normal to miss someone, to suffer, but dedicate to yourself now, work on yourself and move on cause the only person you are constantly with is you.
My ex came back to me a few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back.
Sorry, but this is completely bs. If someone left you.. it is their fault. It you left them it is your fault..
If you did things to make them leave. It is your fault.
@@xFersureMatt sometimes people just get tired or fall for other people and leave you. You can either say it’s their fault or your fault but my point is: that won’t really help you.
@@arbokMelagrana I agree it doesn't help.. honestly, nothing really does. You can mask the pain. But reality is they are gone and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it other than cope and accept the reality of the situation or be miserable forever in distress.
I agree with that for sure. If putting blame on others helps someone cope then okay. But people are people. No matter how much you care and love someone. Anyone can leave. And that's life. :/
@@xFersureMatt the blame game sucks. My wife of 18 years cheated on me in year 17 and it was my fault. I treated her like shit. If i was in her shoes i cant say i wouldnt have done it either. We have been separated for 18 months and I still want her to come home. Were very close and very friendly but we cannot talk about relatiinship. We can talk for hours about anything other than that
If Jocko tells you to get over something
You get over it
Kyle Christensen 😂
but it's a ten foot wall?
You’d better 😂😂
@@Tupemo better get climbing
Ok brother.
Ex-wife cheated on me in 2011. For the next 4 years, I treated myself with liquid therapy. By some pure miracle, I didn't get a DUI (or, worse, hurt someone because I was being selfish & stupid), maintained my job, and didn't lose my license to practice law. Now, 6 years later, only regret I have is wasting 4 years of my precious early-30s crying over someone who simply was not worth it. Wish Jocko/Echo had this Podcast back in 2011. Preach, brothers!
Vik S., Hope you're doing well brother!
jesus. Thanks for sharing. Jocko is boss. Thank you sir! Bombs ♡
Look at it this way there isn't anything you wasted not your time money ect because life (mistakes) are a lesson learnt next time you go through this bs or you sense it coming on you know what to do and how to deal with it.
Austin P. It's crazy as fuck cause Iam going thru the same thing bro , only thing IAM hitting 30 next week and seeing ur comment help me realize Iam not alone and Im greatful cause I still have the opportunity of not wasting the next chapter of my life . I have been suffering for the last 5 years and the first 2 I had to spend it incarcerated, it's was hell on earth but I am fighting to keep my self going regardless of what happens in my life ! So if i could help u as u help me , iam here bro and I feel ur pain .
Austin P. You should meet someone else maybe
After 17 years, I had to come to terms that emotional infidelity is real and realize she had manipulated me for years saying I was creating these illusions in my head. She’s finally admitted that because I was out hustling to bring the family into financial comfort, I was emotionally unavailable which is her way of deflecting the blame from her to me. Stand your ground and allow your feelings to be real. Don’t let them tell you otherwise. #MOVEON
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One of the hardest concepts to grasp is that not everyone that you let into your heart is here to stay.
Those who aren't with you in your lowest, aren't meant to be in your highest.
Stay strong. It's not the end of he end. Happiness will find you again
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My ex-girlfriend at 29 left me before New Year's 2020 for the guy she crushed on ever since she was 14. She did this behind my back and said she loved me, and was happy. She was the love of my life and I wanted to get engaged with her after being together for 2 years. You go from feeling in love one day with the woman of your dreams, to be completely lonely the next.
A few weeks later, her new relationship fell through on it's ass, and I was out dating and met someone new. Karma can also have it's way with a liar and a cheater sometimes.
Oooohh dear I feel yay
What you dont realize is you felt lonely even before meeting her....learn to stop feeling lonely when you are alone!
Deyeam broski
I bet that felt gooood
She is dead as jocko says it should not register ...you moved on
I was in a relationship for almost 9 years. We met when I was 18 and he was 19. He was my first love. This past month he has been going back and forth between me and this girl from work that he got drunk and slept with. And every time he came back to me I would accept him without hesitation. He made all these promises to me, telling me he wasn’t going anywhere, that he chose me over her. And it all ended on a Wednesday night when I had gotten off of work and in the most cold tone I’d ever heard from him, he informs me that he doesn’t see a future with me, and that he does not love me. It crushed me. But you were right, I was holding onto a fantasy of him. The reality of him is that he is a bum, no future prospects, no plan, hasn’t even paid rent the last two months. It’s been a week, and that’s all I’ve needed to see him for what he truly was. Thank you.
Fuck that guy, what a disrespectful & cowardly way to end a relationship. Everything will turn out alright, it's his loss really. Focus on yourself & hang in there, time does 50% of the work, the other 50% is your own self-care. Spend time with friends & family. You'll find someone who deserves you and be happy, have Faith in yourself ❤️
Stay strong sis! My ex also said something similar, he can’t see the future of us, he doesn’t love me at all etc. these are just the excuses for his cheating, so let’s just ignore these comments and move on. Listen to this video really helps 👍🏻
Hope your doing well
Jeesus, i went through roughly the same thing and last night she ended things... soo i feel ya, stay strong
@@NoDuurr youll get throughthis, i think so differently about my relationship and that it was abusive and shes a narcisist (I tend to think?) so stay clear headed it is definitely over, u cant cheat on someone you love. All the best king
My girlfriend of a year left me with no indication or warning. We were calling everyday and saying how much we loved each other. Then one day, she suddenly breaks up with me and tells me she doesn't even want to discuss why she wants to leave. Less than two weeks later, she's already dating another person. I don't understand how someone could go from loving you to suddenly flipping a switch and being with someone else. Stay strong everyone, we can get past this.
It’s because you stop being a man
Usually after a lot of time passes you can look back and see the subtle signs that she was losing interest or had moved on a while before she broke up. Many of us have been there. All I can say is hang in there and do your best to move on. Also ask yourself how you can be a better partner in the future. Often there are lessons in this, and although it may be unfair and it may not be your fault, we can always improve. Every relationship I’ve had has taught me that there’s always more work to do on myself and that if I really want to “earn” the dream girl, I gotta put in the work to make myself the best version of myself I can be. And again, we can get clues from analyzing why past partners broke up with us, and try to improve ourselves for the next one. At least that’s my 2 cents. Hope you’re doing ok and hanging in there. It will be ok. Plenty of fish in the sea!
Lots of Women use the tree-branch strategy. Hop from one person to the next one who they perceive is “better”, without ever touching the ground.
Psychos bro.
@@treys1695 lots of guys too 😂
I'm watching this video again after one and half years just to recall how i felt those days. Man, i remembered everything, but I'm telling you i'm over it. The thing you feel now will go away. This damage will make you a better version of yourself. Pull it together, you are not alone ! Peace ✌
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@Chertsey Nermal that sucks I’m sorry to hear that I myself am about to get my heart broken she’s leaving tomorrow with all of her things and I don’t know what to do I feel your pain im sorry that’s happened but like he said don’t trust your Brain trust your self I hope you do great in life and do incredible things
How’d you do it brother, been eight months for me after a seven year relationship and I still struggle
You never lose your woman/man, you just lose your turn. Nothing is permanent in life.
I recently had a series of terrible events, plus I was in a 3 yr relationship that should not have lasted 3 months. When the bad times came, guess what? She made it 2x as bad by leaving. The people you rely on have the power to help, and hurt you.
You have to remain in the drivers seat of your own life.
For me the same situation.. she leaves when I need her most. Stay strong
Just happened to me Sunday. Shit sucks to be perfectly honest but hey we'll get through it.
This video helped move me through one of the darkest times of my life last year. I ruined my mindset overthinking about someone who intentionally tried to hurt me and my family. They are not who you believe they are. So important.
Girlfriend of 3 years just left me yesterday. I was strong up until this morning has had a breakdown. This video helped me recover quickly and now I'm going to turn 2021 into my year
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"Don't listen to your brain, listen to me. She is not essential. Move on"
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I read this right as he said it 🤯
Facts
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@@angelic2317 I don't think you should suggest getting back with exes. That was the whole point of the video. If they betray you, you shouldn't have them in your life. "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
Boys I need help I loved her. I’m crying. I begged her to stay. I loved her with all my hurt. I can’t live without her
@@ss1241 stay strong brother you don’t need her anymore
I’ve been coming back to this video most weeks and it’s been 4 months since my girl left me. Stay strong bros and don’t judge the length your healing process. I’m stronger every day but still feel like it just happened some days. Best thing to do is love yourself and look after yourself✌🏻❤️
how’s it now mate 3:15
Where are you now....
Just got out of a 4 and half year relationship with someone I loved. I loved her through so many red flags. She cheated on me, flirted with guys but for some reason I stayed and “worked it out”. I put up with so much, my mental and physical health took a toll. I was always scared of her leaving me and being alone. A month ago we got a apartment together, both of us signed the lease. A week ago she got up and left for someone else, and told me she had sex with that guy 3 times already. I was emotionally destroyed and still am. I couldn’t eat since yesterday. But for the past 2 days I discovered these podcast, working out and real food. I can already feel my life turning around for the better, I feel good for myself for once. I hope one day I can fully feel confident with being alone. I know it’s going to be a long process but I realized THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IS ME!
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I needed to hear this. It's true. I fell in love with someone I built in my mind. Out of no where and with no indication, she ended the relationship... after 8 years together. For the last few days, I felt broken. I needed this. Thanks
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9 years been two weeks for me, stay strong bro
6 years it’s been 4 weeks for me. I’ve been talking to her the whole time and that’s only made it worse. Time to cut out the cancer and move on
..When she leaves you, she was never yours...it was just your turn.
Or perhaps he did not treat me right and I still love him but had to go to respect myself
@ Ric lui
Nice!
@@danielleberry6319 hahahtrue love is constant people who leave can people who really love can not . So your so called love is not real love it is you thinking that is love
Danielle Berry Lady no one wants to know what happened but I’m pretty sure the original comment does not apply to your situation
I read turn as rum.
Dude, it helps so much just hearing some dudes talk about shit hurting you.
Go out and buy a dog. A dog truly is a mans best friend. A dogs love is true and unconditional.
Or even better, ADOPT one. Rescue one and give it a better life!
True!!! The love of my life, my dog, is the reason I got through my horrible/messy divorce. If it wasn’t for him, I would be lying in a gutter with a bottle of vodka. Ha
Actually very true
Just dont neglect it if you do buy one and once you get one getting rid of them is never an option.
Haha, when my dog died my father said something similar except it was to build more in my life like family, friends and more pets. He said if you only have one and you lose it then your whole life and happiness is gone. If you have a pet or two, a spouse, some kids, some good friends(even one) then when one leaves or dies or whatever your whole world doesn't come crashing down. It also just means you have a bunch of sources of happiness and support which is awesome. I learnt this because when I was in college I only had my dog, so when he died it affected me way more than it should have. I suddenly had nothing. My dad was like first step is get a new dog, next build some people around you.
"You have to trust someone to be betrayed...I never did"
-Captain John Price
I recite this quote so much.
rewatch the video bro
you will lose many good opportunities .. live bravely and be wise
"The best way to know if you can trust someone is to trust them."
- Ernest Hemingway
@@Defathomize probably don't quote the alcoholic who shot himself in the face lol
Get rid of Facebook. Trust me.
TheMissing8 100% Delete that shit!
I wish someone told me this looking at their profile is so tempting and easy to rationalise
Go #MGTOW.
Good advice
Advice of the century.
I needed to hear this after years of suffering and the worst thing about betrayal is that it does not come from your enemies. People don't realize how painful that shit is, it changes you to something you are not.
You are exactly right. It is extremely painful (like lying on the floor with a knife in your guts). If you don’t get help right away, it will change you into something that will ultimately hurt you and others. It took me way too long to forgive, accept the real truth about things, and to properly process things to put away the pain, and all negative emotions. The old saying is true: Hurt people, hurt People.
Betrayal is very devastating. I'm going through it now.
@@gggray5747
I’m very sorry for you. I just want you to know that there is someone in this world that acknowledges your pain and understands the unending waves of gut-wrenching agony that comes from every waking thought of the betrayal by someone you let deep into your heart, and trusted.
I would encourage you to feel the pain, without hanging on to any anger, rage or permanent unforgivness. Refuse to let that stay in your mind. It takes time to get over the shock and accept the reality of who and what that person really is.
I am 42 and was cheated on the first time. I feel like the pain is trying to change me into a person that can no longer trust. But that is not me. I am going to keep fighting because I know I deserve better and I am worth it.
@@mar_beach I am so sorry that happened to you. The pain of betrayal is debilitating. I hope you have someone that can help you through it. The pain will indeed make you think things and do things you would not normally do. It seems like you recognize this and you’re fighting against it. Keep up the good fight, and allow yourself to trust again in due time. I hope one day you can find a trustworthy love.
She ended it after falling out of love after 3 years. I listened to this every morning for the first 3 months when I got up at 5am and started lifting. Fasting, muaythai kickboxing and lifting for 7 months led to losing 35kgs. This video is amazing... thanks for all your help Jocko and Charles. I needed this.
My first and only girl told me she fell out of love after 5 years. It's been fucking rough. I'm still in a place where I can't feel like I can apply this to her.
@@SouperSaiyan96 What do you feel like today?
@@FredericGolz Damn it's already been 6 months since this comment!? Time is flying.
I feel better but not 100. I still think about it everyday. But it's not soul crushing. I can see the relationship more clearly for what it was, the mistakes that both she and I made. It really wasn't what I thought it was for a long time. Now it's just about forgiving myself, improving and moving on.
I've been super consistent with the gym and diet which has been a big help. Dropped over 10kg but put on a decent amount of lean mass. I'm the strongest I've ever been. And I moved to a new city for a job I'm excited about. Things are looking up bro.
@@SouperSaiyan96 That sounds great man. I'm proud of you. Remember to keep the pace up and look into the future!
My girlfriend told me she wouldn't love me anymore on Saturday.
It's been 3,5 years and she was my first real love. We had so many great memories. Went on vacation and stuff like that. I am no longer attractive for her i guess and i know why. I don't love myself i don't love my body. Gained some weight and struggled to make decisions regarding my future.
How can you expect someone to love you when you don't love yourself ?
I started exercising again last week and i feel so well when i finished a workout.
I want to get a sixpack again and be in the best form of my life. And in a couple of months i will meet her again and she will not believe what shes seeing.
Keep it up bro
@@FredericGolz Bro that's exactly how my situation was (or is. I'm not completely healed). I know they say not to do it to prove something to her, but in my case the need to do that has been an incredible force to make lots of positive changes. It's not about getting her back, but about being the person you know you can be and that she wasn't willing to stick around to see.
Yeah bro you are so right. Yes the physical changes of letting myself go, and the struggling with school made her lose attraction for me. But I think the biggest part in my case was the loss of self esteem, self respect and just general positive vibes because I didn't like who I was. My personality definitely changed for the worst. So yes making a change in the body is good, and is definitely the best stepping stone to make psychological change. But find that happiness within yourself again. Be someone other people enjoy being around and talking to. That's what it's about. In fact I think it's THE thing.
Thank you for the encouragement and kind words. We got this brother.
“That person is not who you thought they were, the idea that this person was a trustworthy, faithful companion is not true. That person doesn’t exist”
This advice was golden for me. I’m going through a breakup with someone I was with for 10 years and this was definitely changed my attitude towards the whole thing.
Once again, Jocko, thank you for your wisdom!
Always try. Not trying is equivalent to losing.
So true, look at actions
@Hippie Farmer Same, we were together for 10 years and we split. Its been more than a year and I've moved on. The sad thing is I just recently dated a girl again and everything was going great for 4 months til her ex suddenly wanted her back and now she cut it off with me because she wants to give him a chance and doesn't want to entertain another guy. I was okay with it since she explicitly told me that she wasn't really ready for a relationship and was just casually dating. But what I wasn't okay with was how she just didn't communicate and just abruptly dumped me while telling me she's sorry but she wants to give her ex a chance. She could have atleast told me that in person, but she just texted me. After 2 weeks of waiting. WTF. Atleast my ex and I are still friends, we broke up because she had to move to another country for work and I had to stay for mine. We couldn't compromise, sadly.
Just found my lady of 13 yrs and 3 kids was a lier and cheated on me..in a dark painful place..jocko is helping me and so is everybody letting people know there personal painful business..all appreciated..trying to escape this dark place
Fiel Tan some people just really don’t know how to communicate, express their feelings, and/or just really scared. That doesn’t mean anything about you though.
When you miss that person, whether they're an ex or sometimes worse a backstabbing machiavellian plotting relative; ask yourself. Do you miss them, or do you miss the idealization of them that you once had? Every time I've asked that question, I've quickly gotten my answer. Sometimes you have to ask yourself more than once over a period of time.
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More people need to see this
Great one
"A backstabbing machiavellian plotting relative"...I despise those people.
I'm a woman and going through betrayal trauma. I've binge watched so many betrayal videos, but cant seem to stop thinking about this. This video really helped me. I don't think about the good times, i obsess about the day i saw them together and confronted them and never told her that he had been lying to both of us. I did ignore the red flags, and that is why I'm angry at myself.
To all who is going through the pain, my heart goes out to you and remember you are beautiful.
I was betrayed by my husband, he cheated me every single day, it's not even 2 months of our separation n he moved on already. It breaks my heart every second when I realise that he got over me so quickly n our relationship was just so simple for him. But I know I deserve better and I am stronger than what I am today. I walked out from his life because I was heart broken,i found no reason to stay with him. So trust the time guys, time is the best healer.
Couldn't agree more. I'm going through the same exact thing right now. Keep your chin up and keep walking forward
She cheated on me several times after 3years of relationship. Prey for you to heal you heart as fast as can
That's his lose you seem like nice person
@@stormlewis2900 shes not. she prob cheated on him too
Im going through the same thing. Narcissists often prey on empaths, good people. Learning to discern will be the most important next step for me.
Read/write, learn, lift, wake up early, meditate, train martial arts, learn a new hobbie/skill, hike mountains, dose up on Shrooms/DMT, love and spend time with your family/close friends, make money, and most importantly, follow Your fucking dreams mate.
YEAH!!! FUCK YEAH!!! 👊
Exactly broda 🔥🔥🔥🔥
What if your close friends don’t have your back?
FACTS NIGGAA
@@davidgrimes4210 fuck em and make new ones, surround urself with positive people who support you and ditch the ones that don’t. U got this, I believe in u. I have ur back
Caught my wife of 8 years (4 kids) cheating. In the act. The most devastating thing I’ve ever been through. I’ve been listening to this everyday for the last month. It’s helping
Thomas, Im so sorry.
I hope you find strengh.
That must have been horrific for you.....work through the pain and face it.....better days are ahead.
This is how people are murdered.
Did you beat the Dudes ass?
rvz77 exactly
Feel like I keep goin through a traumatic breakup every time the relationship ends… my head is fucked up even more this time… man I pray that I find the strength to heal and get to a better place for the sake not only my child but for myself!.. I’m come back in year to this comment and hopefully things are better
Went thru a terrible break up about 6 months ago. Ripped me apart. The best things you can do is delete ALL Social Media, DO NOT CONTACT NO MATTER WHAT, find a hobby or work out, and stay busy. I was disciplined and stuck to these methods and 4 months later I went from 330 lbs to 280, got back into college and so far I have all As. And the best part, I have the one that broke my heart constantly calling and texting me. Stay disciplined, focus, and detach bois!!!
Update: HOLY SHIT I did not know this comment blew up so much! Well since I’ve posted this I am in a new relationship, been almost a year (Dec 2018). Ended up moving cities and getting a stupid awesome job as a Tech for an oil and gas company! Have gained some poundage back but that’s alright, never too late to get after it again! Thanks for the love all my heartbroken bois! Stay humble, stay focused and GET AFTER IT!!!
Also eat clean and meditate EVERY FUCKIN DAY. You’ll feel a whole lot better mentally and physically each day
Nickolas Tijerina
Bruh I love gym and exercise and shit study is what I NEED to do Rn but I just can’t focus on it. While I’m doing it, memories etc come up. And just emotional pain. It’s horrible. Just for studies. She doesn’t exist when I’m working out 💪🏽 but I’m in my final year of secondary school and exams are coming up. I really need to study.
Other than that, sometimes I have mood swings coz I remember something. But usually I’m with people so I lose those thoughts. But when I’m alone with my studies, I can’t really do that.
So please help
Same here. One month after and memories still keep popping up randomly in my head, even though I thought I've got over it. It happens pretty frequently, so what I did was trying to detach and go through the motion with whatever I'm doing and get things done.
Tùng Đào It happens. Even after like 6 months I still get those feelings. I sit there and tell myself it’s just the chemicals in my body wanting that feeling again. Don’t listen to that shit. Go do something productive lmao
Rafi Ashraf Man in all honesty it’s not easy when you’ve really cared about someone but what you need to tell yourself is that it’s the chemicals in your body wanting that feeling again. You just have to fight it. I can’t explain how I just started eating clean, working out, and meditating. And after maybe 1-2 months of that, I got over it. I still get those little visions but then I remember who that person really is and forget the good times and remember all the bad times that outweighed the good. If it was meant to be, they’d still be there by your side. If not, let them go. There’s always someone better. Never settle. Fuck Bitches Get money dawg 😂😂😂
"No matter what happens to you in life, you got to keep moving foward" - Rich Piana R.I.P.
goddamit
legend !
Right babe?
Gerhard Symons good fucking morning god damn it
The red flags you ignore at the beginning will be the reason it all comes to an end.
Learn to love yourself, and you will never again need the external validation. You will know your true value is there, even if they are unable to see it.
I wish I had listened to the red flags at the beginning myself.
Yes 100 percent it just got worse
Yeah as soon as you see signs of crazy get the f*** out I learned the hard way 3 TVs smashed tons of furniture broken holes in every wall of the house guess I should have reacted to our first hotel stay when she smashed the f****** mirror then try to jump out of my truck on a major highway all kinds of f****** crazy but like they said you hold on to that very short window Good Times you live you learn what doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Exactly. Early warning signs. Do not give those a pass. Will only end up worse in the very end.
Five years ago this video changed my life
Thanks jacko
When a person shows you who they are, believe them
-- Maya Angelou
Jo Moeke not a man. She passed away. She wrote great books that I've personally owned. Check them out I learned a lot.
I love that quote
My names isaac Murray...touché Isaac Murphy
The first time
I am extremely grateful that I am not with any of the women that I thought I wanted to spend the rest of life on.
It’s my time for a heartbreak I guess. I can’t force her to love me just gotta accept it the fact it’s done. And move on.
These things happen. If you can't get something good, get something better.
Word
11:52 "People kill themselves over a lie" It's very true. I've seen it happen and I was an inch away from being one of them.
Stay strong.
Same with me man this life this world is fucked Up
His advice is good, but trust in Jesus. That's the only eternal way.
Don. Diego.98 my girl just invited her “friend” to live with her until he saves up for an apartment and I’m about to end our relationship or leave or something. It’s hard to figure out whether or not to keep truckin for a little while or just cut my losses
@@connorstaggs8664 i ended a relationship recently. My decision was to only make a decision when I was sure I wasn't going to have any regrets. So I waited it out. And the decision eventually got done for me. But for me it was the right decision. If you do cut it. Be certain. If you don't, really start to emotionally separate yourself. Which will make the break up easier.
Whatever you do, have no regrets.
Posted 7 years ago and still helping men today.
And women!
@@user-xe2io2go1f Eh, whatever. Women don't have issues like this.
Been there, done that...recently. Moved on, and accepted her for what she was: toxic, evil. Cheaters, liars, manipulators, are not worth getting broken down over. Yeah, we had good times, but just as many times she was crazy and out of line, so best thing to do is deal with it and deal with who they are. Fear no man, trust no woman.Better off being single. Hooah!
SinteNørske nailed it
I totally agree with everything you said you're right on point
#B.Fagan,,..thanks for your comment bro. Exactly what I've went through recently. Appreciate that.
B. Fagan
Not all women like that. My hubby 24 years been cheating with other women for more than 2 years. Now he leaving me and our son and choose live with his girlfriend. I am very angry, hurt so much. Now I trying to live without him. Being single is not easy.
Exactly trust no woman unless that woman is your mom . Never trust anyone else
Once a cheater , always a cheater ... I really learned this hard way because I dated 3 girls who cheated on there ex’s
And you guessed it ... all 3 of them cheated on me . Cheaters will always cheat .
@SunglazzGaming and by taking this easy way out they don't take the time to look at their issues and improve themselves
Agree♡
I still can’t believe she left. It feels like a nightmare. These type of videos are like a slap to wake up. Sometimes the pain is so much it feels like I’m slowly losing grip on reality. Even suicidal thoughts creep up. I appreciate this particular video so much, because it feels like someone is snapping me back to what’s real and what’s just my conscious.
One day at a time, it will get better and you'll be stronger for it. I lost my brother to suicide and that's a trail of suffering and destruction you don't want to leave behind. Deep breaths and actions that heal you everyday ❤️
@@D_maaan rip to your brother and I’m sorry for ur loss. Stay strong.
Time does 50% of the healing just hang in there, the other 50% is self work and other relationships that make you feel good like friends and family. You'll make it stay strong. For me it got better after 6months, after 9 I am almost completely over it
Please take care of yourself bro until your healing is complete. 8 months ago I was in a similar position...stuck in the darkest hole I've ever been in after my girlfriend of 10 years just called it quits. But here I am 8 months later and full of life again and moving forward...and you will too bro. Don't get me wrong,I'm still healing but my healing journey is almost complete and I'm preparing for the next phase of my life. If you need someone to talk to please feel free to hit me up..take care
You have to realize your self worth. You don't deserve that shit. I'm in the same position, I have feelings for this person still. When you give someone everything you have and they just say whatever, and drop it for some random person. It hurts, really bad, yet somehow I feel stronger.
I needed to hear this. I haven’t been doing so good after she told me she needed “space” and than gave me hope she would come back, but crushed that hope a week ago when she told me to “leave her alone.” Also, I just found out she added a few guys back that we had problems with in the beginning of our relationship as nude pics were sent and she tried to keep them in her life as “friends.” They were blocked while I dated her… maybe… who knows maybe she still talked to them, but after hearing this video I realized she’s no good. She’s a liar, cheat & disgusting human being whom I kept in my head as a saint. The truth is really starting to be revealed and it’s making it easier to move on after not eating, not sleeping, sick from work, suicidal thoughts, etc… take care of yourselves and I’ll do the same!
“Become a better person” was the most important part of this entire clip. The idea that the right person is out there to be found gives the false impression that looking around for them is the answer. Changing yourself into someone who is attractive is the key. So if you want someone who is very physically fit, you will need to pursue fitness goals of your own. If you want someone who is educated, you should probably start pursuing that graduate degree you’ve been putting off. You won’t “find” the person at the gym or at college, but you will show everyone around you that you’re going after a very valid, relevant goal. This is actually what that person who finds YOU will be attracted to.
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I'm not even dealing with this type of issue, but I'm watching it to soak up any wisdom from Jocko and Echo.
You're a very smart man.👍
me'neither
Gilbert exactly.
I wasn't, now I am and I'm greatful for it now
Good
I was living a fantasy. That person did't exist. This really helped.
Thank you
This helped me. Been going through this too Bad thing is that she is at my work
Hope a couple years later I can come back and tell you guys I made it and stay strong, five years of relationship and she even stayed with me during my cancer fight, now I found her chatting with a guy and even share naked photos, it’s just so heartbreaking, anyway I’ll listen to this video every morning for a year, see if I can go through this.
I'm so sorry bro...8 months ago I was in the same boat...please take care of yourself. Healing will take time, it's definitely not a overnight process but you will get through it. When this happened to me last year I didn't think I would ever recover. But I did and I'm coming back stronger and better than ever...and you will too. Keep your head up bro...I'm here if you need to talk
Stay strong Alex
Hope u alright
Stay hard brother
Please stay strong brother, heartbreak sucks especially when you believed this person to be someone who they wasn’t.
"Don't listen to your brain, listen to ME. She's not essential, move on."
Best advice I've heard about relationships. lol!
I totally essential AF. Lose me lose a Diamond.
@@attorneymom35 There are mines full of diamonds.
the time I was reading your comments he said it 😂 😂
“Move on and build a relationship with yourself, get to know yourself” 💯💯💯
How
Sanchita Mandal solitude, get connected with your spirit. Do what makes you happy and do things you’ve always wanted to do and never had. I’ve gone through so much pain and problems with my ex wife. And even though it hurt I had to rip her away from my heart.
I want to build a relationship with your mom though
Definitely....
@@sanchitamandal3174 Read....do values clarification....try "THE WORK".
Learn stoic philosophy to move on.
Remember the 1st day you meet her or talk with her as a stranger....and now accept that it's time came to walk down on our own path.... believe me you will find a better stranger on your path....just keep moving
Thank man
I agree. Stoicism is practical and can be used on the spot. It is saving my life
Saying “building a fantasy around them” is literally so intense it’s like you have this dream of what it’s gonna be but deadass like he took the words out of my mouth
Once a person respects themself a lot of their problems cease.
Best Comment Here very well said brother
Exactly how I would describe it, because ultimately if your in a toxic relationship and willing to put up with a lot of shit or keep opening the doors to toxic people just says your don’t respect or love yourself to know you deserve so much more.
@@dagmawihirpa5455
Too many have been brainwashed to see dysfunction as normal.
Two mentally stable adults know that it's not and unacceptable.
Peace shouldn't be fought for within a relationship.
@@cotcb I 100% agree with deciding knowing and believing that peace and happiness is what a normal relationship should feel like clears a lot of the tension.
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"That person is not who you thought they were. The idea that this person was a trustworthy faithful companion is not true. It is not true.That person, does not exist. They didn't exist and they don't exist. It was in your head." - This is quite possibly the truest thing I've ever heard and was powerful in me seeing the truth and coming to terms with my divorce.
Yea often times we get blinded by what we call "love" for a women but in reality what does she have to offer?
anyone whose been thru this and thinks they can help someone out are welcomed to my dm on Instagram @carolinaRileysmith its so hard to be without love!
Topher Gopher 4/2/20 “ they don’t exist it was in your head” .....It was something in the way that he said it that made me know in my heart it is absolutely true and it applies to me.
My ex tried to reach me on one of my old dating sites. I blocked her and am moving on. She is dead to me and her tactics are ignored.
@@ElizaMaeParong what about u lol
Mine is dead as welllll 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤬
how im tryna be
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My ex dead to me we have a kid together I barely speak to her I can't even look her in the eye.. I just see a snake🐍
man shoutout to Jocko and Echo, I had this video on repeat for months straight. At the time it seemed like it was the only thing that helped, grateful for powerful people like this. I'm in such a better place now, its ironic that the hardest times in our lives are also probably the best times when you look back at the big picture. If your in pain, your probably growing...Keep on the war path.
Same here. I've listened to this video pretty much daily for the last 5 months and it's helped alot. Keep up the fight
@@WailfulSeeker82 Hopfully you've already have noticed, but you will realize this was the best thing thats ever happened to you.
@Hamurai absolutely it was. The things I found out after we broke up and the things she did before and after the breakup absolutely validate that the breakup was the right thing. Stings a little still but this pain is significantly better than the reality that awaited me had the relationship worked out