This is a very dangerous proverb! Because Mike had a lot of talent in boxing. You can also try to swim upstream against your talents and work in a totally wrong profession. This is also something you hate but should abandon asap. But ofc you have to do things IN YOUR FIELDS that you hate. But if you're in the wrong FIELD you should LEAVE. End of story.
@Grumpy Leprechaun only if they hinder you in your everyday life. But otherwise you shouldn't invest any effort in them. Find and concentrate on what you're naturally good at and you will be successful in life. All the best for you.
11:23 people will indeed change when the pain of inactivity is stronger, but some want an easier way. The easiest way is to just get started. I love these two and this whole podcast. I’ll do these things he talks about, and yes it’s hard to start, but I get started. Sometimes it takes me realizing that the pain of inactivity is stronger than the pain of activity, but I’ll change no matter what.
I disagree somewhat. Imho, When the pain of inactivity outweighs the pain of activity people merely hasten, if they hasten enough (in necessary proportion to the pain) only then do they try something, if they don't hasten enough they may continue or just stop. You can see this somewhat mimicked in the fight-flight-freeze-forget response. As a result lasting meaningful changes in oneself are a whole other ballgame.
Did ya ever notice? Someone who is a master in their chosen field. Makes it look effortless? That’s the result of countless hours the Habit of Discipline.
@Wroger Wroger You need to find your affinity, what you're best at and invest in it. You're surely not an idiot, you may just be a fish comparing yourself to cats on how well you climb trees. Point is, find what you're good at.
@Wroger Wroger Simple. Pick one. I'm struggling with that right now myself. I think everyone has an "affinity" in life; it's how they go about finding success with that affinity that I don't know. An idiot may only do the best they can. Maybe they're awesome at stocking shelves, or they rock the garbage truck, maybe they make an awesome omelette, or are a pro with a chainsaw, it's anyone's guess. I would think people are generally more capable than they or others give them credit for. I also think people believe they're idiots if they're not good at what they love and they won't look elsewhere.
I grew up in a household where zero discipline was enforced. I’m 22 years old now and I’m starting on the path. I went through a very dark period of my life recently. The type of dark period I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. It was a wake up call for me. To escape the depression I found purpose. To escape the self consciousness, I found exercise. To stay fit, I eat right and sleep right. My parents taught me nothing of how to do any of these things. I just got sick of being lazy and sad. I’m only 5-6 months into this journey and I never want to go back. Looking back at who I was scares me, so I turn around and keep pressing forward.
I need to ask you something I going through this, reality hit me about 1-2 years ago, before that i was going my happy life until i realised i was a fck up. Went through depression and shit amd now im still a fckup, but no longer dwelling on that reality. My mind reverted back to what it was before reality set in. Its like it never happened before. Did this happened to you or im i just confused
I'm not sure whether are you just joking or not, but I'm just gonna say it just to be safe. What Jocko Willink is giving you is the value and understanding of discipline. Maybe people communicating through the internet should really state very clearly whether their joking or being sarcastic, because that would safe a lot of time for everyone.
I always tell myself, *“Think less, do more.”* I’m a procrastinator and it mostly stems from overthinking and second guessing myself. The fix was to just use my intelligence to come up with a working plan and then stop thinking ‘about’ it and just start executing. Only re-evaluate (or second guess yourself) when a new realization or data point has come to you that requires a change of plans.
This. A lot. Every time I get asked "where do you want to be in 5 years" I want to tell them that if I thought that far ahead, I'd spend 2.5 years doing the planning and _maybe_ end up where I wanted to be after 7.5 years, if I stuck with a plan for that long, and I doubt I could do that. Initiative and discipline can't be brute-forced, they're like any faculty that a person develops, they have to start small and grow.
I've come to the exact same conclusion after being a lifelong procrastinator. Stop over-intellectualizing things and start living and doing. Have some faith in the process of becoming a stronger version of yourself
The most productive times in my life were the ones where I "just did it". No thoughts, no detailed plan, just "finish this project". The most UNproductive times in my life were when I was searching how to be more productive and ended overthinking, overanalyzing everything.
Yup that's why wake up is at 0445, self learning a cybersecurity certification Sec+ to provide me a better job before my second son arrives. Edit2: PASSED 804 OUT OF 900. PUT IN THAT WORK AND SUCCESS IS YOURS. Edit3: STARTING NEW JOB NEXT WEEK...1.25 year later + 1 cert (another on the way) + hard work = New job w/ new opportunities & much desired raise. KEEP AT ALL YALL Edit4: Forgot about this comment...lost that discipline for alil but I'm on the way to get it back and not lose it again. GO GET SOME YALL Edit5: Crazy looking at this comment thinking about where I was 4 years ago. I wouldn't be where I'm at...without DISCIPLINE. Sure it sucks now but future you will thank you.
Nice one man! What cyber security cert is it? I've just started working towards my CompTia network +, looking to get into either CCNA or some cyber security after this!
Jordan Peterson says something that I htink can be helpful re this. "Aim low, but aim up." Trying to do too much at once is almost guaranteed failure, but *consistent action*, trending upwards over time is unstoppable.
It is the “doing it” that trip some up. Some can’t deal with tripping up and continuing to do it regardless of that trip up and not beating themselves up about it. I believe that is key when someone says they have zero self-discipline or zero willpower or organization. I come from a f’d up childhood and family...alcoholics, drug addicts, etc. I don’t do drugs or drink every week or even every month. I took prescription opiates for years only taking my prescribed dose. I am the one that convinced my doctor to get me off of pain medication and lived through the physical withdrawals. I don’t have any desire to take opiates now, I actually don’t like to take ibuprofen or acetaminophen now. My point to this is that even though I live with physical pain every day, I push myself to do the things that I want to do. I am disciplined to remain active and optimistic.
skudjon - no he doesn't, and he never does he's never said anything profound, anything of interest, he's just dead air and if he wasn't associated with jocko, you'd agree you let your feels good control your brain that's very anti-jocko
My bestfriend and I are perfect example of the parenting not being a source of discipline: I was raised "strict" my parents and siblings all successful and self motivated. I was the youngest and shit was pretty easy even if I felt like I was grounded all the time. My best friend had a drug addict mom that he basically took care of since he was 12 when his drug addicted dad died, and growing up witht that kid watching him grow into the man he is now is amazing. He had no handouts, nobody telling him how to do shit. He found it within him. Now as a 30 year old finally trying to turn my life around he is one of my main sources of inspiration to look up to because he built a beautiful life for himself.
Jocko is correct. My step father was in the marines and literally made me memorize the definition of discipline and made me do the most insane yard work when getting in trouble, I was timed when cleaning my room and forced to sweep the driveway and sidewalk of the home every single day before I could go play with friends... but guess what? I still didn’t have discipline once he left my life. It ALWAYS comes from within, now 10 years later I am extremely disciplined with my daily life and routine and it only came from me. I’m surrounded by people in my family who lack discipline. Jocko is right - MAN UP
Right there with you, Evan. My dad and mom were both in the Marines. I literally grew up doing field day in my bedroom to clean it. Forced to play sports. My dad would quiz me over and over in math to make sure I got A's. After high school, I served 5 years in the Marines. After I got out and all those external sources of discipline disappeared, I fell off hard. Went into debt, gained too much weight, and didn't have someone giving me a mission. It wasn't until recently that I started to actually live life on my own terms. The mission has to come from within. All the things that were forced on me growing up don't even matter. When you know your purpose in your bones, you know exactly what to do. No experienced required. I'm with you, brother. GET AFTER IT
Adam Mac hell yeah I love it, find your reason why you wanna become the best version of yourself. Stop looking for a result, look for your WHY and you will become unstoppable. Wanna go to the gym just to “get muscles” well that’s not a reason that’s a result. Wanna start a business to “make money” that’s not a reason that’s a result. Dig deep for your WHY gentlemen
I had an opposite and quite similar experience, but still learned what I was missing when I fell off the wagon... My parents always struggled with money and fought constantly, until one day they divorced. My sister and I went with my mom, and my dad was left to his own devices. I enlisted in the Marines a year after I finished college and did 3 years, then left because of constant knee injuries. My sister and I both got married during the time, and I found myself falling further into debt. I was trying to start a business WHILE I was paying off credit card debt from getting a neck tattoo removed before enlisting. But I wanted to spend money off base to go to nice sushi restaurants and explore Okinawa because I thought “man, the barracks kinda suck.” I had no one else to blame but myself for not having enough financial discipline to manage my debt more efficiently, and am working my way back into the military now so I can pay my way out of debt. My husband will not (not his decision, I told him not to) help me with my debt until I am starting to work my way out of it and I reach a point of responsibility where I’ve put in the work and he can help me pay of off faster. I’m starting paperwork as we speak to go to Army OCS because my time out of the military (only 6 months) was spent reflecting on my financial mistakes, coming up with a plan to receive another paycheck again, and receiving treatment with a chiropractor....and guess what guys? I can run again. And I’ve come up with a plan to get back into the military. I realized what I was missing my first go-round with being in the Marine Corps, and that was the financial discipline that I WISH I had. This time will be different, and I know who to speak to to get myself out of debt. Not only have I come up with a plan of tackling my debt, but I am making moves everyday to increase my physical activity, going to the gym more often, more runs around the neighborhood, making my bed every morning, meditation, finding freelance jobs (currently building a drop shipping website for a client right now), spending time with my husband, and just getting my mind right. Like Jocko said “GET AFTER IT.” I love this podcast.
Never had my father around. Had barely my mom around cause she was working 9 to 5. But no excuse. fuk em. I will get into a public med school and give my mother the best gift of her life.
childhood was abusive, ruined my teenage life, spent years locked up, lost as an adult. at 30 barely starting to live...seek discipline, peace, strong mind
Self disciple and resilient will help you get peace of mind. Dont rush all of it at the same time. They are priority, but understand that you need to cut yourself some slack. Once i understood that last part, i had peace of mind. While im still young i may not have it as bad as you, but being able to understand that even though i wasted all my previous years and potential to be somebody didn't mean that my potential and my time are gone. Because time after time i find myself seeing into longer and longer term. Being able to accept being a fckup is what freed me. But this process is yours to go through. I had to sit and dissociate from myself to see me and look at every of my bullshit
oh yeah, heard this too often from folks getting back on their tracks. i really hope you are trying(!) your best to not blame you for your own "wasting that time": It is a dangerous, totally natural and very effective way of putting yourself down. I wish you all the strenght to counter these rather normal thoughts/ flashbacks/ regrets. I dont know you, mate but from the bottom of my heart: i love you for trying to make the best out of your life.
I noticed that, too! The way the guy made his statement, it can easily be taken as offensive. But Jocko was very professional and at the same time humble in answering back. We can all learn a lot from him. I wish everyone, not just leaders, practice extreme ownership. This world will be in a much better place.
Jocko's totally on point imo. It's hard if you don't come from a place where discipline is encouraged, but it's your responsibility to own your life and be disciplined. Do it for you, not for anyone else.
It is a struggle to go from chaos to discipline. Focus on one or two priorities. Once those systems are in place and require less maintenance then add another challenge to the stack.
Jordan Peterson may have lost the path lately, but all of his older lectures helped me tremendously. Even if you only change .01% a day, you will be 100% better in three years. Just have to have discipline enough to stick it out.
Haha “16 years old...”. Just turned seventeen years old, just ran my first half marathon in 1 hour 52, waking up every day at 5AM, happily working on my own business and pushing discomfort into my life when I see the opportunity to. You have young fans, Jocko. Loved your book too!
It’s amazing that discipline is a major topic nowadays. Discipline used to be common sense back in my day. Get up early, get stuff done! No excuses! Make it happen!!! YESSSSSSSSSSSSS! Keep Pursuing excellence everyday my brothers!
Knowledge has never made a human go after anything. People go after it when they feel it. You can hear a piece of knowledge a thousand times and dismiss it. Then you hear the exact same thing from the right person, on the right day, when you're in the right mindset. Only then do you take action.
Pablo Dee I don’t think he means this is how people should be, but the way they are The same way most people are undisciplined even though they should be...it’s just a fact that most people aren’t and a fact that most people don’t implement the knowledge they hear until it suits how they feel, despite knowing it would be of use, they cannot overcome the tempting feeling of the easier path, the path they are used to, the path that doesn’t require them to do something new because that would be too uncomfortable It’s in our nature, it’s evolution....but the most powerful thing we have that most of us don’t implement is the power of choice and free will. Just by simply choosing to do so, we can overcome our nature, when every biological instinct says not to do something, we still have the CHOICE to do that thing, and if we do choose, we have the power of true freedom. We can make the choice to go run up a hill 10 times, some of us aren’t physically capable, but some of us are and yet still won’t because they let their feelings make the choice for them, their nature is in charge of them instead of their consciousness. It feels better to eat fast food and cheetos than it does to eat spinach and veggies and so people eat what tastes good, people don’t exercise because it’s too painful and too much work Even though eating healthily and and exercising are beneficial to us, we don’t do them...our very nature is betraying us, in charge of us, taking our freedom from us and we just let it... if it felt good to chop off our legs we would do that too despite crippling ourselves because we don’t do what’s in our best interest, we do what feels go in the moment, what gives us more pleasure than discomfort in the moment, regardless of the consequences The choice to do what is best for us despite the discomfort is always there, most of us are not capable of making the choice because most of us are prisoners to our own nature, however at any time we CAN make the choice to free ourselves. Becoming aware is the first step.
@@paulbateman256 Yeah, if only more students were ready...there is very little pride these days. Especially with the newer generations. Only arrogance and disrespect.
Yes and no. Yes, it's hard to stay long time on the path of self-discipline. No, you can "get" discipline right now. Washing the dishes when you didn't want to is discipline. Walking your dog when you didn't want to. Washing your car by hand on purpose when there's a car wash around the block. It takes a long time to stayed disciplined a long time, but anyone can "get" discipline right fuck!ng now.
Discipline: “Making a list of things you know will improve your life, and waking up in the morning and actually doing them. It comes from inside you.” So simple yet so difficult! I watch these videos and get so motivated just to find myself 30 minutes later being lazy. I think my life will be easier if I make a habit of doing what’s hard. Pray for me because I’m still stuck on the “doing part.” Thank you for this video. Gave me a lot to think about.
Bro if you don’t find discipline on your own your life will turn to shit at some point and you’ll have no other choice. Trust me start taking cold showers first thing in the morning and get into body building. Give up all the bs that holds anyone back alcohol, drugs, porn, masturbation, eating like a complete bum. Just becoming disciplined and driven. Cut out all the yes men in your life. Be alone because you’d be surprised who’s toxic in your life and holding you back. Get that fire and don’t be a coward it isn’t worth it life’s to short to be living a pointless life without purpose. Money doesn’t mean shit find your purpose. Watch David goggins, Greg plitt, Tom platz for motivation. Don’t sit around being a weenie get after it or your life will be a complete disaster waste
I had a drug addict dad and a mom and sister who died in a fire when I was 17. After that moment, when I was stuck with my dad, I decided to take ownership of my own life. I am not doomed to become like my dad. I am not going to be a product of my circumstances. I have chosen to be disciplined and to not be acted upon. I have struggles like everyone else on this Earth, but I am happy. 7 years later I have an education, amazing job, and most of all a beautiful wife and amazing son. I am truly humbled with what I have been blessed with and incredibly grateful that I chose to take ownership and be disciplined.
Why are you calling having a 'beautiful' wife an achievement ? I am saying this because shouldn't we see the person for who they are like you could have called you wife as supportive, kind e.t.c but called her beautiful.
“By making and keeping promises to ourselves and others, little by little, our honor becomes greater than our moods.” -Stephen Covey, from The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Without doubt the hardest task a person ever has to face in life is overcoming themselves. Jocko is 100% correct. The first step is unconditionally accepting that YOU are the only person that can make it happen. Many people are plagued by self doubt, cripplingly low self belief and self esteem etc so they don’t BELIEVE that they are the solution to their problem and they constantly look outside of themselves for someone or something else to fix it. It will never, ever happen. It’s only when a person realises that each of us is all we have that they can begin the process of building their character. Everything worth having in life - self belief, self confidence, self worth, self respect, self reliance, self direction, financial security etc is contained within self discipline. It is the last place many people ever look but it’s the only place to find who you really are
I grew up without too much discipline. Joined the Marine Corps and was in a heavily disciplined environment for 4 years. After I got out I started to lose that discipline and struggled a lot with self-discipline and holding myself accountable. Discipline is 100% internal. Discipline is doing what you have to do no matter the setting or environment you are in.
Echo made a good point I never thought of. Once you understand the value of something that takes discipline to do you suddenly find the discipline. Don’t just try to develop discipline, research the value of the results.
The best way to learn discipline is to throw yourself into situations that otherwise make you uncomfortable or are unknown to you. For example, I'm 38 years old and legally blind, going completely blind. I had a very troubled past and was always too scared and passive to do anything. Two years ago I finally had enough and I moved on my own from Virginia to Las Vegas via Greyhound with nothing more than a backpack in a suitcase where I figured if I'm going to be alone at least I can be somewhere I can have some fun and open up to new experiences. Back home I never had to deal with big city problems or how to stand up to a bully on the bus, using the color of his skin as an excuse, but I do here. It's taught me to stand up for myself, a discipline I couldn't learn back home because I didn't have the exposure I do here, but I threw myself into an uncomfortable situation and look at me, I'm leveling up!
I like the fact that Jocko first responded humbly with an apology for not having addressed a particular issue instead of saying right away that it makes no difference in the end whether you were or were not exposed to disciplined parents, although it is probably more likely to adopt the same behavior if you consistently see them doing it. In the end, it is up to you to make the decision every day, every morning, every moment.
Discipline is a choice, it's really that simple. I love how Jocko & Echo talk through this. We live in a world of immediate gratification and people from all generations have fallen prey to this mindset and it's designed to destroy and enslave you.
I see it more like, by saying this he acknowledges Jocko is a strong guy (in whatever sense of the term) and doesn't have many weaknesses but of course he has some, pretty sure he'd agree
The old me didn’t have any idea working out was worth it. I never played sports in school. My parents thought that was a waste of time. I started walking then running in my 40’s. I have basically been running for 10 years. It has changed my whole life. The old me would have never believed any of this.
Dude I'm living under a fucking tree, discipline is getting stronger, I work out everyday after work, getting up @ 4:30 am preworkout, 10 hour days at work, everyday I"m getting stronger, I try to take this man as serious as if he were standing in front of me yelling in boot camp, thank you for keeping hope alive.
Whether or not it’s the parents fault, an adult child must change on their own. Blaming does not help. Come to peace with the cards one was dealt and move on.
True. I'm in a place right now where I'm just coming to terms with the fact that although my parents love me and did their best and always provided for me on a material level, they left me severely starved and malnourished on an emotional level, which, combined with probably a certain genetic predisposition, left me clinically depressed, anxious, unable to function, and eventually got me the diagnosis of a combined personality disorder last year. Right now I'm focused on fully working through all the grief, disappointment, and anger pertaining to this situation and my parents (together with my therapist). But once I do so, I'll have to forgive my parents and myself, accept what is, and move on and focus on what I want my life to be like. I can't change the past and life is always now. The wake of a boat doesn't determine the direction it is going.
Christopher It’s a tough thing dude. Hard for people that didn’t grow up with an alcoholic or other psychological issues to understand where you are coming from. Forgiveness is key. Realizing that your parents were hurt as well and did the best they could. Good for you to get help. Good luck
The turning point for me was after going around saying "Why me?", i stopped snd said "Why not me? Whay was is so special as to not he dealt a shit hand?" Ill neber forget that, i started laughing more at myself. When shi hits the fan i just sigh and go "Why not me." Helps to get things in perspective.
@@Howitchewstofeel5gum Chris. Me too. Please try this book:"12 rules for life", Dr Jordan Peterson. And you can watch his videos here in RUclips. Actually, he was a guest of honor in this very podcast. Love, take care of yourself!
My family has a saying: "You are missing the point by 18 inches- the distance from your head to your heart." Meaning that you know the truth but you won't embrace it ( take ownership as Jocko would say.)
To the first question and anyone in with this circumstance. Jocko gives incredible advice. He also says "I understand" and doesn't try to go above them. I didn't have that type of childhood but I did witness it as an educator. Just like the analogy Echo uses with exercise: in exercise and anything else you may have to start with baby steps. You can't always go from 0 to 100. Start with something like "I am going to drink one less soft drink today", " I am going to walk for 10 minutes outside", " I am going to get up 30 minutes earlier than yesterday". Start small, set yourself up for success, and snowball from there.
When i saw what being disciplined did for my life I fell in love with it and never looked back. For me I look at it like "what if I could accomplish anything? What would I sacrifice for that?" and the answer is almost everything. I think of what I want to do. I go in that direction and don't stray from it no matter what. To me, that is discipline.
Yeoman It also comes from the Latin noun “discipulus” meaning “one who learns” where we get the English word “disciple”. Yes Latin is always better because it’s more precise than English. Greek is the same.
@@pablodee9024 Yours is the base for disciple. The comment at the top was for the teacher. Today people confuse "will" with Discipline. To be disciplined is to be taught. To teach is to discipline. To practice what you learned is to use "will." Today people call "will" discipline. This is wrong on every level.
People need to keep remembering that discipline is like a mind-muscle - you want to build up, you gotta start small and keep consistent over a long period of time. Consistency is what's really hard.
This is spot on. Recently had a son and realized my current financial situation isn’t conducive to taking care of a child. I have to tell myself to be disciplined with my spending to repair my credit and have funds to buy things our boy needs. Its not fun having to pass up on guns, gadgets and whatnot, but it does feel good getting out of the financial hole.
I really have a lot of empathy for the person who wrote in. I, like most people, try to have discipline but continously find myself failing. I lick my wounds briefly and then try again. It's tough, and frustrating to always be attempting to climb up the mountain only to slip and have to start over from the bottom. It's not always about making excuses or not taking ownership, sometimes it's just tough to struggle and wonder what I'm doing wrong and how others do it so well.
5:10 this answered my age old question of if military makes you disciplined. That discipline that comes from external sources or being forced on you will most likely go away after the force is gone. It comes from within! Now I understand. Thanks Jocko
There is a story about a lady who goes to a psychotherapist. She says, "I hope my problems are all 100% and completely my fault". Puzzled, the psychotherapist asks her why. She says: "Because if the problems are all my fault, that means I can do something to fix them. If it's in the nature of the world however, I am doomed." In many situations, the perspective of the problem being your fault is more effective in getting your problems solved. You want problems to be your fault because that means you can do something to fix them.
There is hidden poison in this perspective. The poison is that it isn't always true. Many of the things that happen to us in life are NOT our fault. Meaning, it wasn't by virtue of a failure on our part that some terrible thing happened to us. It is however our responsibility to deal with the consequences of what happens in our life because it is our life. As an example. Lets say a person is sexually abused as a child and the event leaves them emotionally crippled. Telling that person that it is their fault is the last goddam thing you should ever say. Telling them it is now their responsibility to deal with the emotional consequences however is a healthy thing to say because it is the truth. The one slightly healthy thing in assigning personal blame for an event is that it does not dwell on who IS at fault. My ex-wife wanted me dead and did a lot of crazy shit to encourage that end. That's not my fault. It's hers. However, DWELLING on the fact that it is her fault means I am actively abandoning my responsibility to my own life. This is the essence of unforgiveness. She did and said some things that I couldn't image doing or saying in my cruelest moment. Yet I MUST relinquish the right to dwell on that(AKA forgive her), or I will never be able to take up the responsibility for my own life. So I forgive her for her fault, and I will take responsibility for my own future. Fault VS responsibility. Adjust your perspective, and you will have arrived at a better end point than simply saying it's all my fault.
This is what I needed to hear. I grew up with amazing parents who I love very much, and I always had every need met. Despite these privileges, I always felt that my parents hadn’t disciplined me enough. I know very well that discipline is something you must decide to possess, but sometimes you need a reminder.
I have struggled so much with discipline, until I realized after decades of painful mistakes, that I lacked discipline because I lacked purpose and meaning in life and that was because I lacked self worth 😔 Now in my 40s, I'm trying to build self worth, so that I can find purpose in life and learn discipline 🙏🏼 It's so very hard to do when hopeless and tired. Thank you for your post Jocko; you give me strength to go on one more day and reconstruct...
Same. I used to give too much but not to myself. The cup has to be full to pour it, and filled with what's like a storm's center of calm within the outer chaos, unperturbed and solid, unshakable and unbroken. That's a beautiful thing and you're worth being fulfilled by not bending to relentless demands.
"Discipline does not comes from outside, not even from military." It must comes from your Self. That's why it called " self discipline". I needed to hear that although I knew it everytime I look at the mirror as a failure to be consistent with it.
I always talk to my children about some of my parents failures that I am trying not to repeat. But I found my own discipline after I joined the army. And that they need to find their own discipline but I'm doing my best to give them a better foundation for it. You can have excuses until you're an adult and then it's all on you. At some point you have to take personal responsibility for all of your choices
Still amazes to this day how some people go their whole lives and never outgrow the parent-child model, where they are perpetually the child i.e. "I need you to do something for me because I can't or won't do it myself". I've seen adults in their 50's still have this mentality.
My sister in law is almost 60 and still like it. She is back living with her parents, they’re separated so she stays at each house, and none of her problems in life have ever been her fault in her own mind. Everything is always down to x, y and z. She’s never figured out that the common denominator in her issues is her.
Yeah, it's unbelievable. I did this because of this person, I'm like this because of what my Mum did to me so many years ago. Yes, it's true, early childhood plays a big part in who you become as an adult but there comes a point where you need to just shut the fk up and hold yourself accountable. I know, I used to blame everyone else and never think how I was at fault
Neruro plasticity is high when we’re young so there’s some truth to this kind of thinking. BUT what about motivational videos? Getting a stronger why? Just waiting patiently until the discipline catches up? Eating healthy? Asking for help? What about millions of other things a person can try? I doubt most people have a right to make excuses. Also, we don’t know for certain how this world works so you gotta keep that in mind too before running with shit like the parent model. NOT saying it isn’t true BUT it may or may not be and we don’t know for sure. If you’ve gotta brain that can think and a body that can move then why not try millions of things to improve discipline before you die regardless of weather there’s a guarantee that they’ll work(there never is). Would love to hear other’s thoughts
I've listened to you for three maybe four years now and no matter how much time there is between listening to your podcast I always gleam something for your words Jocko thankyou sir echo likewise thankyou sir I'm not perfect and I know I will never be but I'm searching for what I need to be better
I've been out of the Navy for 4 years and I can vouch for Jocko, ever since I left the service the discipline that the Navy imposed on me is already disappearing although I try to keep it with me.
Good to know, There was a point so desperate in my life that I wanted to join the military just for the discipline, and seeing this video and your comment made me realize even more, that you don't need anything to be disciplined, you just need the decision to be disciplined.
This is an interesting discussion. A flip side story was years after I had been seen by my father as successful, I remember him say to me that maybe his abuse was part of the reason I had achieved, and that he was part of that success-I remember feeling sorry for him, and not saying anything but think to my self that the intent of his abuse was not to discipline me or help me achieve, but the inability for him to control his emotions. What I did was not focus on what was done and just stay focused on what my goals were.
I lost 3 of my kids 1 I found dead due to complications of diabetes at the age of 20 yrs old and 2 sons due to court after jumping through all the hoops for every one all this just about killed me today I think more on moving forward and just except what happen and through acceptance, self disapline and prayer iam still here I work out I like listening to videos like these and reading all the inspiring comments from others let's me know I'm not the only one who has felt frustrated with the cards I was dealt
There is another D that comes before discipline that is mostly forgotten: Deliberation You have to start by owning your current means and constraints in time, energy, and other resources to to draw up a realistic plan that you can actually stick to and improve things with useful consistency. If you start with an expectation that is impossible to fulfill with your current means and leave it at that, you will most likely fail and fruitlessly beat yourself up as a result of not taking honest ownership of the present extent of your abilities.
Everything I ever did I did it like I loved it!!! From getting carts at a grocery store to running for public office. My Father was a Marine and I was learning how to live the whole time watching him and my Mother but I didn't realize it until I got to be 25 or so. Trying to teach others is really difficult!!!!
Real great to hear Jocko and Echo discuss this critical fact. From what I can gather based on this clip and personal experience, there's a difference between knowing in theory that something is worth it and knowing through experience. I personally started scheduling my days because i believed it to be worth it in theory. Now that I've done this for close to a month, I know it through experience - it's just great.
I've listened to Jocko here and there, and I always respected him. I think he's genuinely trying to pass on ideas that have been useful to him, in hope that they'll be useful to someone else. But I never got super into watching every video. Then as I was watching just now, I thought "Hey, maybe I should start listening to Jocko all the time so I can get disciplined". And it struck me right after that that was the exact opposite of his point. I don't get discipline from him, I get it from me. I can't get disciplined by watching Jocko videos, I have to choose to be disciplined. So this is what I'm going to do. I'm going to get my ass to bed before midnight, and I'm going turn off all the screens and stare at the ceiling until I fall asleep. And it's going to suck. I'm probably not going to be able to sleep for hours, but I'm going to do it anyway. And if negative thoughts creep in about how I'm not doing enough, I'm going to remind myself that I decided to do something I find hard, and I'm doing it anyway. I don't care about when I get up yet. I'm going to be disciplined about going to bed, but then I'll get the rest that I need. If things progress well, and it becomes easier, I'll go to bed even earlier. Then I'm going to get up and go for a run. I'm not going to want to. But I'm going to do it anyway. My brain will probably generate a bunch of reasons why I don't need to. I'm going to do it anyway. Clothes on, shoes on, go. I'll get back, shower, then I'm going to code. I'm going to code for 12 hours, and I can take one hour of breaks in the middle. The rest of the day is for fun, until midnight comes around, and I'll do the same schedule again.
Thank you both Jocko and Echo, for taking the time to explore the tough questions and taking them head on. Life isn't treating me well these days and I take inspiration from your words to get through it.
This was exactly what I needed to hear. Just scrolling through the comments I can tell this is a badass group of people who are trying to make themselves better with each new day! Keep spreading that positivity! ❤️
I came from a broken household. My dad was an alcoholic and drug addict (he's since cleaned up and we have a good adult relationship) and my mom was a free spirit and struggled with PTSD. She married an abusive asshole. I lived an undisciplined life for years. One day I realized I had goals, and it started with a physical appearance. (Thanks Chris Hemsworth) I had been involved in martial arts for years, my jujitsu Professor really helped build the framework of discipline. I ended up joining the military, lifting everyday and aspiring to be stellar every day. Earn it every day. I find discipline in the gym, and that started spilling over into every aspect of my life because I wanted more and that required doing more. You learn discipline from external sources, but only you can apply those lessons. You can lead a horse to water. I didn't have that positive male role model until I was an adult, and I would be upset about that. I finally said "why don't I be my own role model."
@@IronDeath I'm sure many would. Life stories containing struggle which are overcome and made positive, I love 'em. And many people do. It's why Goggins is so beloved. These stories helps us crack on with our day and our own struggles, knowing things could be worse. Hit up some publishers and see where it goes, chap. You never know.
My parents are alphas, they married at 14, at 16 they both graduated and stopped school to go to work in Taiwan, my parents were born in the Philippines, and now we’re here in America. I lived with my grandparents were tough as shit but look at me now, I’m 18 and I’m enlisting in the US army. Just wanted to share, have a good one
What helped me in my path towards discipline and just getting after it (which I still fail at from time to time, I still make mistakes and I still back out of a good decision because it'll be a little bit easier in that moment) is what Echo Charles said. "people find reasons when it's worth it." People will find a reason or an excuse to NOT do something and it could be a totally valid and acceptable excuse, but when you change that mindset into finding an excuse or reason TO do the right thing you'll find yourself in better positions. I had to make up excuses and reasons to go do the things that I KNOW I should be doing and stop doing the things I know I shouldn't do. I have a plethora of examples in my life of doing the wrong things AND making decisions and finding excuses to do the right thing.
My, I guess in the US it would be called Platoon leader, always said the following, when someone said that there‘s a problem: „There are no problems, only challenges.“
Mike Dias, I can’t deny what you are saying has truth, but assuming the veracity of people with similar outcomes to Jocko, like David Goggins come from broken homes with an abusive parent and turn their lives around when they hit rock bottom even when overweight, out of shape and working in min. wage grunt jobs tells another possible story. They somehow come to the conclusion Marcus Aurelius did thousands of years earlier. That if something is humanly possible, then it is possible for them.
I definitely didn't continue with the PT regiment after leaving the ARMY. But the mind set of never quitting never left. And I'm glad that I'm aware that it's not important for me
I'll share with you one of the best advice I found relating to self-discipline imo, all the credit goes to Andrew Kirby for revealing that in one of his videos: The idea is simple but very poweful, especially if you are familiar with games where the concept originates; Anytime you think about procrastinating, try to condition yourself and create the reflex of imagining a ghost of yourself leaving your body and simply doing whatever you are wondering about and proceeding to take a lead on you... Basically like your ghost when you set a high score in a race game where you see a shadow version of yourself going along the "most efficient" route ahead of you, visually representing the distance between you & an ideal version of yourself.
I did this trick when I was rushing my school paper work... and I call him my alter ego. I learned this one from EMINEM when he said that when there’s a time he can’t create a song he unleash Slim Shady. Although the ghost or my higher self do it... sometimes I didn’t tap on his energy. Thank you for reminding me about this trick
Dan Millian from the "Warrior Athlete " calls it the inner Athlete. Imagine the perfect version of you outside yourself responding to the issues you're facing. Use that as a model until you and your inner warrior are one.
Discipline is doing something you hate, like you love it- Mike Tyson...that definition helps get me throught my day.
This is a very dangerous proverb! Because Mike had a lot of talent in boxing. You can also try to swim upstream against your talents and work in a totally wrong profession. This is also something you hate but should abandon asap. But ofc you have to do things IN YOUR FIELDS that you hate. But if you're in the wrong FIELD you should LEAVE. End of story.
@Grumpy Leprechaun only if they hinder you in your everyday life. But otherwise you shouldn't invest any effort in them. Find and concentrate on what you're naturally good at and you will be successful in life. All the best for you.
@@Yetipfote wisely said my friend
I hate running, so I need to go out running.
@@Yetipfote not always a sustainable option. You cant start all over at $16 hr with a family of six.
9:30 people change when the pain of inactivity outweighs the pain of activity.
Succinctly and wonderfully said.
11:23 people will indeed change when the pain of inactivity is stronger, but some want an easier way.
The easiest way is to just get started.
I love these two and this whole podcast. I’ll do these things he talks about, and yes it’s hard to start, but I get started.
Sometimes it takes me realizing that the pain of inactivity is stronger than the pain of activity, but I’ll change no matter what.
I disagree somewhat. Imho, When the pain of inactivity outweighs the pain of activity people merely hasten, if they hasten enough (in necessary proportion to the pain) only then do they try something, if they don't hasten enough they may continue or just stop. You can see this somewhat mimicked in the fight-flight-freeze-forget response. As a result lasting meaningful changes in oneself are a whole other ballgame.
Amen.
@@nicoleyensen7062 whats the fight-flight-freeze-forget response?
Did ya ever notice? Someone who is a master in their chosen field. Makes it look effortless? That’s the result of countless hours the Habit of Discipline.
so true👍
@Wroger Wroger You need to find your affinity, what you're best at and invest in it. You're surely not an idiot, you may just be a fish comparing yourself to cats on how well you climb trees. Point is, find what you're good at.
Yes but if you have not a talent for this field you gonna have a hard time and won't enjoy it!
@Wroger Wroger Simple. Pick one. I'm struggling with that right now myself. I think everyone has an "affinity" in life; it's how they go about finding success with that affinity that I don't know. An idiot may only do the best they can. Maybe they're awesome at stocking shelves, or they rock the garbage truck, maybe they make an awesome omelette, or are a pro with a chainsaw, it's anyone's guess. I would think people are generally more capable than they or others give them credit for. I also think people believe they're idiots if they're not good at what they love and they won't look elsewhere.
That's experience not discipline. I'm a master in 2 fields and run circles around folks but I'm far from disciplined.
"If you cannot control your emotions, someone else will."
I grew up in a household where zero discipline was enforced. I’m 22 years old now and I’m starting on the path. I went through a very dark period of my life recently. The type of dark period I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. It was a wake up call for me. To escape the depression I found purpose. To escape the self consciousness, I found exercise. To stay fit, I eat right and sleep right. My parents taught me nothing of how to do any of these things. I just got sick of being lazy and sad. I’m only 5-6 months into this journey and I never want to go back. Looking back at who I was scares me, so I turn around and keep pressing forward.
Keep pushing!
I’m 28 and identify with what you’re saying. Stay on the path... I wish I started at 22.. keep going man.
@@anthonypannella9997 At least you started, brother. Enjoy every day of your new life.
@@OTee1998 the first few steps have been amazing, thank you man I needed that!
I need to ask you something
I going through this, reality hit me about 1-2 years ago, before that i was going my happy life until i realised i was a fck up. Went through depression and shit amd now im still a fckup, but no longer dwelling on that reality.
My mind reverted back to what it was before reality set in. Its like it never happened before.
Did this happened to you or im i just confused
Jocko: you don't get discipline from an external source
Me: *gets discipline from Jocko*
You don't get discipline from Jocko. You got it from yourself, he is just the one that enlightened you.
@@kaylag5043 made me laugh though lol
LoL
I'm not sure whether are you just joking or not, but I'm just gonna say it just to be safe. What Jocko Willink is giving you is the value and understanding of discipline. Maybe people communicating through the internet should really state very clearly whether their joking or being sarcastic, because that would safe a lot of time for everyone.
😂
I always tell myself, *“Think less, do more.”* I’m a procrastinator and it mostly stems from overthinking and second guessing myself. The fix was to just use my intelligence to come up with a working plan and then stop thinking ‘about’ it and just start executing. Only re-evaluate (or second guess yourself) when a new realization or data point has come to you that requires a change of plans.
This. A lot. Every time I get asked "where do you want to be in 5 years" I want to tell them that if I thought that far ahead, I'd spend 2.5 years doing the planning and _maybe_ end up where I wanted to be after 7.5 years, if I stuck with a plan for that long, and I doubt I could do that. Initiative and discipline can't be brute-forced, they're like any faculty that a person develops, they have to start small and grow.
I've come to the exact same conclusion after being a lifelong procrastinator. Stop over-intellectualizing things and start living and doing. Have some faith in the process of becoming a stronger version of yourself
Perfect is the enemy of good enough.
Very well said
The most productive times in my life were the ones where I "just did it". No thoughts, no detailed plan, just "finish this project".
The most UNproductive times in my life were when I was searching how to be more productive and ended overthinking, overanalyzing everything.
Yup that's why wake up is at 0445, self learning a cybersecurity certification Sec+ to provide me a better job before my second son arrives.
Edit2: PASSED 804 OUT OF 900. PUT IN THAT WORK AND SUCCESS IS YOURS.
Edit3: STARTING NEW JOB NEXT WEEK...1.25 year later + 1 cert (another on the way) + hard work = New job w/ new opportunities & much desired raise. KEEP AT ALL YALL
Edit4: Forgot about this comment...lost that discipline for alil but I'm on the way to get it back and not lose it again. GO GET SOME YALL
Edit5: Crazy looking at this comment thinking about where I was 4 years ago. I wouldn't be where I'm at...without DISCIPLINE. Sure it sucks now but future you will thank you.
Hell yeah
Get some.
Get after it brother!!
GET SOME
Nice one man! What cyber security cert is it?
I've just started working towards my CompTia network +, looking to get into either CCNA or some cyber security after this!
Jordan Peterson says something that I htink can be helpful re this. "Aim low, but aim up." Trying to do too much at once is almost guaranteed failure, but *consistent action*, trending upwards over time is unstoppable.
“It might not be your fault...but it is your responsibility to fix it.”-Will Smith
*slap*
@@steveb6718 was about to say this didn't quite age well XD
Oooh, that's a big yikes buddy!
@Lucas Portasio Yo. Just because he slapped chris rock doesn't mean everything he said is suddenly wrong
keep my quote out of your fkin mou-
Let's go Jocko, let's go everyone. No one will do it for you, so do it for yourself.
Leggggo!!!
do it for us
do it for one another
do it for yourself
and do it for each other
regardless of the scoreboard!
We gonna fucking make it!
It is the “doing it” that trip some up. Some can’t deal with tripping up and continuing to do it regardless of that trip up and not beating themselves up about it.
I believe that is key when someone says they have zero self-discipline or zero willpower or organization.
I come from a f’d up childhood and family...alcoholics, drug addicts, etc. I don’t do drugs or drink every week or even every month. I took prescription opiates for years only taking my prescribed dose. I am the one that convinced my doctor to get me off of pain medication and lived through the physical withdrawals. I don’t have any desire to take opiates now, I actually don’t like to take ibuprofen or acetaminophen now.
My point to this is that even though I live with physical pain every day, I push myself to do the things that I want to do. I am disciplined to remain active and optimistic.
Amen brother 🙏🏼
"Through discipline comes freedom" - Aristotle.
This ^^^^ took me so long to learn.
Echo basically gives us the softer side of what jocko has to say
no he gives the boring side
he should just shut up
Jocko gives the practice, Echo gives the theory
@@mojo5093 Echo nailed this one. Worth it
Ray Carden - lmao maybe in your lame little brain it does
skudjon - no he doesn't, and he never does
he's never said anything profound, anything of interest, he's just dead air
and if he wasn't associated with jocko, you'd agree
you let your feels good control your brain
that's very anti-jocko
‘Discipline equals freedom’ isn’t just a mantra, it’s a lifestyle. Choosing to do what’s right over what’s easy is the ultimate form of self-respect
My bestfriend and I are perfect example of the parenting not being a source of discipline: I was raised "strict" my parents and siblings all successful and self motivated. I was the youngest and shit was pretty easy even if I felt like I was grounded all the time. My best friend had a drug addict mom that he basically took care of since he was 12 when his drug addicted dad died, and growing up witht that kid watching him grow into the man he is now is amazing. He had no handouts, nobody telling him how to do shit. He found it within him. Now as a 30 year old finally trying to turn my life around he is one of my main sources of inspiration to look up to because he built a beautiful life for himself.
What a great role model!
Wow
Jocko is correct. My step father was in the marines and literally made me memorize the definition of discipline and made me do the most insane yard work when getting in trouble, I was timed when cleaning my room and forced to sweep the driveway and sidewalk of the home every single day before I could go play with friends... but guess what? I still didn’t have discipline once he left my life. It ALWAYS comes from within, now 10 years later I am extremely disciplined with my daily life and routine and it only came from me. I’m surrounded by people in my family who lack discipline. Jocko is right - MAN UP
Right there with you, Evan. My dad and mom were both in the Marines. I literally grew up doing field day in my bedroom to clean it. Forced to play sports. My dad would quiz me over and over in math to make sure I got A's. After high school, I served 5 years in the Marines. After I got out and all those external sources of discipline disappeared, I fell off hard. Went into debt, gained too much weight, and didn't have someone giving me a mission. It wasn't until recently that I started to actually live life on my own terms. The mission has to come from within. All the things that were forced on me growing up don't even matter. When you know your purpose in your bones, you know exactly what to do. No experienced required. I'm with you, brother. GET AFTER IT
Adam Mac hell yeah I love it, find your reason why you wanna become the best version of yourself. Stop looking for a result, look for your WHY and you will become unstoppable. Wanna go to the gym just to “get muscles” well that’s not a reason that’s a result. Wanna start a business to “make money” that’s not a reason that’s a result. Dig deep for your WHY gentlemen
@@evanpoole6751 Preach!
I had an opposite and quite similar experience, but still learned what I was missing when I fell off the wagon...
My parents always struggled with money and fought constantly, until one day they divorced. My sister and I went with my mom, and my dad was left to his own devices.
I enlisted in the Marines a year after I finished college and did 3 years, then left because of constant knee injuries. My sister and I both got married during the time, and I found myself falling further into debt. I was trying to start a business WHILE I was paying off credit card debt from getting a neck tattoo removed before enlisting. But I wanted to spend money off base to go to nice sushi restaurants and explore Okinawa because I thought “man, the barracks kinda suck.”
I had no one else to blame but myself for not having enough financial discipline to manage my debt more efficiently, and am working my way back into the military now so I can pay my way out of debt. My husband will not (not his decision, I told him not to) help me with my debt until I am starting to work my way out of it and I reach a point of responsibility where I’ve put in the work and he can help me pay of off faster.
I’m starting paperwork as we speak to go to Army OCS because my time out of the military (only 6 months) was spent reflecting on my financial mistakes, coming up with a plan to receive another paycheck again, and receiving treatment with a chiropractor....and guess what guys? I can run again. And I’ve come up with a plan to get back into the military.
I realized what I was missing my first go-round with being in the Marine Corps, and that was the financial discipline that I WISH I had. This time will be different, and I know who to speak to to get myself out of debt.
Not only have I come up with a plan of tackling my debt, but I am making moves everyday to increase my physical activity, going to the gym more often, more runs around the neighborhood, making my bed every morning, meditation, finding freelance jobs (currently building a drop shipping website for a client right now), spending time with my husband, and just getting my mind right.
Like Jocko said “GET AFTER IT.”
I love this podcast.
💗💗💗
I came from a broken home with drug addicted parents. Serving right now. Proud of where I am and who I am now. 0 excuses
Jack Ivy hell yeah man, I’m trying to muster the nuts to join up
Jack Ivy good on you brother 👍🏻
I like that positive mindset mixed with confidence and discipline. Imma get after it guys, let's get it!
Good shit
Never had my father around. Had barely my mom around cause she was working 9 to 5. But no excuse. fuk em. I will get into a public med school and give my mother the best gift of her life.
childhood was abusive, ruined my teenage life, spent years locked up, lost as an adult. at 30 barely starting to live...seek discipline, peace, strong mind
Best of luck mate, its gonna be hard but no good things are easy. I’m sure you’re gonna manage and live a good good life 😎💚
Self disciple and resilient will help you get peace of mind.
Dont rush all of it at the same time. They are priority, but understand that you need to cut yourself some slack.
Once i understood that last part, i had peace of mind. While im still young i may not have it as bad as you, but being able to understand that even though i wasted all my previous years and potential to be somebody didn't mean that my potential and my time are gone. Because time after time i find myself seeing into longer and longer term. Being able to accept being a fckup is what freed me.
But this process is yours to go through.
I had to sit and dissociate from myself to see me and look at every of my bullshit
Don’t burn yourself out trying to make up for lost time, sometimes your goals in life can be as simple as being at peace.
oh yeah, heard this too often from folks getting back on their tracks.
i really hope you are trying(!) your best to not blame you for your own "wasting that time":
It is a dangerous, totally natural and very effective way of putting yourself down.
I wish you all the strenght to counter these rather normal thoughts/ flashbacks/ regrets.
I dont know you, mate but from the bottom of my heart: i love you for trying to make the best out of your life.
@EGB18 You got this brother
*guy takes an absolute shit on jocko*
“You know, I see where this guy is coming from...”
god, he’s such a humble dude
Glad to see someone else point this out. He even apologised for perhaps not getting this point across better.
That’s the extreme ownership he always talks about it. He not only talks about it, he lives it!
I noticed that, too! The way the guy made his statement, it can easily be taken as offensive. But Jocko was very professional and at the same time humble in answering back. We can all learn a lot from him. I wish everyone, not just leaders, practice extreme ownership. This world will be in a much better place.
"He is looking for where he can find the discipline, where he can find it - is in the mirror! "
Strong words
Jocko's totally on point imo. It's hard if you don't come from a place where discipline is encouraged, but it's your responsibility to own your life and be disciplined. Do it for you, not for anyone else.
Is not your fault being born poor, but is your fault diying poor
@chubbyurma no shit it is is a convination of hard work and inteligence
@chubbyurma then that is the answer, some people are born slaves others are born masters
But we all already know this but this doesn’t help
It is a struggle to go from chaos to discipline. Focus on one or two priorities. Once those systems are in place and require less maintenance then add another challenge to the stack.
Jordan Peterson may have lost the path lately, but all of his older lectures helped me tremendously. Even if you only change .01% a day, you will be 100% better in three years. Just have to have discipline enough to stick it out.
@@method0123 Same here brother, Jordan and Jocko lectures/podcasts have helped me tremendously in making a comeback from the chaos!
Wow, hear hear, exactly what I'm doing right now.
U got it brother!
true,no one change in a day,is a path of struggle but also of happiness and proud,it's only a matter of choices you do.
Haha “16 years old...”. Just turned seventeen years old, just ran my first half marathon in 1 hour 52, waking up every day at 5AM, happily working on my own business and pushing discomfort into my life when I see the opportunity to. You have young fans, Jocko. Loved your book too!
Great,good for,you.
Bad Ass!!!
Crush it pal.
Keep at it man!
Goed bezig man, ik zag aan je naam de je wrs Nederlands bent👍🏻
It’s amazing that discipline is a major topic nowadays. Discipline used to be common sense back in my day. Get up early, get stuff done! No excuses! Make it happen!!! YESSSSSSSSSSSSS! Keep Pursuing excellence everyday my brothers!
Amen..
Jocko won me over in the first 10 seconds of his response. No ego. No defensiveness. Just ownership and teaching.
Knowledge has never made a human go after anything. People go after it when they feel it. You can hear a piece of knowledge a thousand times and dismiss it. Then you hear the exact same thing from the right person, on the right day, when you're in the right mindset. Only then do you take action.
When the student is ready the teacher will appear
“People get after it when they feel it.”
LOL If you think that’s what discipline is, good luck to you!
Although I agree with the sentiment, knowledge is still pretty important, though.
Pablo Dee I don’t think he means this is how people should be, but the way they are
The same way most people are undisciplined even though they should be...it’s just a fact that most people aren’t and a fact that most people don’t implement the knowledge they hear until it suits how they feel, despite knowing it would be of use, they cannot overcome the tempting feeling of the easier path, the path they are used to, the path that doesn’t require them to do something new because that would be too uncomfortable
It’s in our nature, it’s evolution....but the most powerful thing we have that most of us don’t implement is the power of choice and free will.
Just by simply choosing to do so, we can overcome our nature, when every biological instinct says not to do something, we still have the CHOICE to do that thing, and if we do choose, we have the power of true freedom.
We can make the choice to go run up a hill 10 times, some of us aren’t physically capable, but some of us are and yet still won’t because they let their feelings make the choice for them, their nature is in charge of them instead of their consciousness.
It feels better to eat fast food and cheetos than it does to eat spinach and veggies and so people eat what tastes good, people don’t exercise because it’s too painful and too much work
Even though eating healthily and and exercising are beneficial to us, we don’t do them...our very nature is betraying us, in charge of us, taking our freedom from us and we just let it...
if it felt good to chop off our legs we would do that too despite crippling ourselves because we don’t do what’s in our best interest, we do what feels go in the moment, what gives us more pleasure than discomfort in the moment, regardless of the consequences
The choice to do what is best for us despite the discomfort is always there, most of us are not capable of making the choice because most of us are prisoners to our own nature, however at any time we CAN make the choice to free ourselves. Becoming aware is the first step.
@@paulbateman256 Yeah, if only more students were ready...there is very little pride these days. Especially with the newer generations. Only arrogance and disrespect.
The man literally wrote a book called "discipline equals freedom"......read the damn book people
Get after it!
What if i dont like reading books
@@Filo2211 ever heard of audiobooks?
@@Filo2211 if u not like reading. You have to start liking it.
@@duumek201 Nah, audiobooks work great for me. Different strokes for different folks. God bless.
Discipline takes a long time, years to acheive. Building good habits and going after 'it' has to be an everyday habit. Thankyou Jocko for your words.
Thank you. I needed to be reminded of this. I get super hard on myself for not being where I want to be yet
Yes and no.
Yes, it's hard to stay long time on the path of self-discipline.
No, you can "get" discipline right now. Washing the dishes when you didn't want to is discipline. Walking your dog when you didn't want to. Washing your car by hand on purpose when there's a car wash around the block.
It takes a long time to stayed disciplined a long time, but anyone can "get" discipline right fuck!ng now.
Discipline: “Making a list of things you know will improve your life, and waking up in the morning and actually doing them. It comes from inside you.”
So simple yet so difficult! I watch these videos and get so motivated just to find myself 30 minutes later being lazy. I think my life will be easier if I make a habit of doing what’s hard. Pray for me because I’m still stuck on the “doing part.”
Thank you for this video. Gave me a lot to think about.
Get to it Malcolm! Get off your ass right now and exercise or do the thing you want to accomplish.
@@tracymiles6681 thanks Tracy! I pray you will grind your way to success also!
Thanks Malcolm!
Bro if you don’t find discipline on your own your life will turn to shit at some point and you’ll have no other choice. Trust me start taking cold showers first thing in the morning and get into body building. Give up all the bs that holds anyone back alcohol, drugs, porn, masturbation, eating like a complete bum. Just becoming disciplined and driven. Cut out all the yes men in your life. Be alone because you’d be surprised who’s toxic in your life and holding you back. Get that fire and don’t be a coward it isn’t worth it life’s to short to be living a pointless life without purpose. Money doesn’t mean shit find your purpose. Watch David goggins, Greg plitt, Tom platz for motivation. Don’t sit around being a weenie get after it or your life will be a complete disaster waste
Praying for you! Pray for me also, my family deserves better from me.
I had a drug addict dad and a mom and sister who died in a fire when I was 17. After that moment, when I was stuck with my dad, I decided to take ownership of my own life. I am not doomed to become like my dad. I am not going to be a product of my circumstances. I have chosen to be disciplined and to not be acted upon.
I have struggles like everyone else on this Earth, but I am happy. 7 years later I have an education, amazing job, and most of all a beautiful wife and amazing son. I am truly humbled with what I have been blessed with and incredibly grateful that I chose to take ownership and be disciplined.
Why are you calling having a 'beautiful' wife an achievement ?
I am saying this because shouldn't we see the person for who they are like you could have called you wife as supportive, kind e.t.c but called her beautiful.
Why are you assuming he only sees his wife's beauty as an external thing? It's not like he referred to her as 'arm candy' @@Aryanverma-nx3kh
Discipline comes from within, but your environment can make it significantly easier to find it.
Sure. It can also make it harder. Its irrelevant either way. You either do or you do not.
@@kenosabi that fact that it can make it harder is the point which means it matters to some extent lol
“By making and keeping promises to ourselves and others, little by little, our honor becomes greater than our moods.” -Stephen Covey, from The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Without doubt the hardest task a person ever has to face in life is overcoming themselves. Jocko is 100% correct. The first step is unconditionally accepting that YOU are the only person that can make it happen. Many people are plagued by self doubt, cripplingly low self belief and self esteem etc so they don’t BELIEVE that they are the solution to their problem and they constantly look outside of themselves for someone or something else to fix it. It will never, ever happen. It’s only when a person realises that each of us is all we have that they can begin the process of building their character. Everything worth having in life - self belief, self confidence, self worth, self respect, self reliance, self direction, financial security etc is contained within self discipline. It is the last place many people ever look but it’s the only place to find who you really are
Truer words have never been spoken 💯🙌
I grew up without too much discipline. Joined the Marine Corps and was in a heavily disciplined environment for 4 years. After I got out I started to lose that discipline and struggled a lot with self-discipline and holding myself accountable. Discipline is 100% internal. Discipline is doing what you have to do no matter the setting or environment you are in.
Echo made a good point I never thought of. Once you understand the value of something that takes discipline to do you suddenly find the discipline. Don’t just try to develop discipline, research the value of the results.
"Discipline: the ability to do a boring thing over and over again". -- Ron Swanson
The best way to learn discipline is to throw yourself into situations that otherwise make you uncomfortable or are unknown to you.
For example, I'm 38 years old and legally blind, going completely blind. I had a very troubled past and was always too scared and passive to do anything. Two years ago I finally had enough and I moved on my own from Virginia to Las Vegas via Greyhound with nothing more than a backpack in a suitcase where I figured if I'm going to be alone at least I can be somewhere I can have some fun and open up to new experiences.
Back home I never had to deal with big city problems or how to stand up to a bully on the bus, using the color of his skin as an excuse, but I do here. It's taught me to stand up for myself, a discipline I couldn't learn back home because I didn't have the exposure I do here, but I threw myself into an uncomfortable situation and look at me, I'm leveling up!
Nice one man
@Coke Dogg lol not yet
This both gives me hope and make me feel shameful for my passive nature. Guess I have a lot of work to do.
Hope things have been going well for you.
@@DimkaSulegnaa Do what's in front of you. Don't overthink it. Do one thing at the time.
I like the fact that Jocko first responded humbly with an apology for not having addressed a particular issue instead of saying right away that it makes no difference in the end whether you were or were not exposed to disciplined parents, although it is probably more likely to adopt the same behavior if you consistently see them doing it. In the end, it is up to you to make the decision every day, every morning, every moment.
Very well said!
Yeah discipline is an act
agree completely, jocko's a class act
thats how a leader behaves
The nuances of exceptional leadership
Discipline is a choice, it's really that simple. I love how Jocko & Echo talk through this. We live in a world of immediate gratification and people from all generations have fallen prey to this mindset and it's designed to destroy and enslave you.
This man makes everything sound attainable.
Well said and it is attainable with the right mindset
“Just like my father taught me, I rise and I shine.” 😂
"I saw a weakness in you on your latest podcast"🤣🤣 How can that guy not cringe at himself
He’s probably young.
That statement alone gives off an egotistical vibe lol
I see it more like, by saying this he acknowledges Jocko is a strong guy (in whatever sense of the term) and doesn't have many weaknesses but of course he has some, pretty sure he'd agree
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The way Echo said it like he was double checking wtf he just read😂
The old me didn’t have any idea working out was worth it. I never played sports in school. My parents thought that was a waste of time. I started walking then running in my 40’s. I have basically been running for 10 years. It has changed my whole life. The old me would have never believed any of this.
Dude I'm living under a fucking tree, discipline is getting stronger, I work out everyday after work, getting up @ 4:30 am preworkout, 10 hour days at work, everyday I"m getting stronger, I try to take this man as serious as if he were standing in front of me yelling in boot camp, thank you for keeping hope alive.
Jocko is one of the only role models I've ever had and I'm 22. Wish this man nothing but the best
How is life going know
Thanks Jocko.
Discipline is the bridge that connects every value, every aspiration, every thing good in us to achievements.
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Whether or not it’s the parents fault, an adult child must change on their own. Blaming does not help. Come to peace with the cards one was dealt and move on.
True. I'm in a place right now where I'm just coming to terms with the fact that although my parents love me and did their best and always provided for me on a material level, they left me severely starved and malnourished on an emotional level, which, combined with probably a certain genetic predisposition, left me clinically depressed, anxious, unable to function, and eventually got me the diagnosis of a combined personality disorder last year. Right now I'm focused on fully working through all the grief, disappointment, and anger pertaining to this situation and my parents (together with my therapist). But once I do so, I'll have to forgive my parents and myself, accept what is, and move on and focus on what I want my life to be like. I can't change the past and life is always now. The wake of a boat doesn't determine the direction it is going.
Christopher It’s a tough thing dude. Hard for people that didn’t grow up with an alcoholic or other psychological issues to understand where you are coming from. Forgiveness is key. Realizing that your parents were hurt as well and did the best they could. Good for you to get help. Good luck
The turning point for me was after going around saying "Why me?", i stopped snd said "Why not me? Whay was is so special as to not he dealt a shit hand?" Ill neber forget that, i started laughing more at myself. When shi hits the fan i just sigh and go "Why not me." Helps to get things in perspective.
catch 22. theirbdiea they cant control theur actions and the world pushes them around is the mindset they're used to. Gives em a blind spot
@@Howitchewstofeel5gum Chris. Me too.
Please try this book:"12 rules for life", Dr Jordan Peterson. And you can watch his videos here in RUclips. Actually, he was a guest of honor in this very podcast.
Love, take care of yourself!
My family has a saying:
"You are missing the point by 18 inches- the distance from your head to your heart."
Meaning that you know the truth but you won't embrace it ( take ownership as Jocko would say.)
"You know the right thing to do. You just have to do it."
Brah, you got a long ass neck!
B. L. Mann I bet you measured
Great saying! Thank you for sharing it. Ive read many bible scriptures referring to this same idea.
Love it 🙌
To the first question and anyone in with this circumstance. Jocko gives incredible advice. He also says "I understand" and doesn't try to go above them. I didn't have that type of childhood but I did witness it as an educator. Just like the analogy Echo uses with exercise: in exercise and anything else you may have to start with baby steps. You can't always go from 0 to 100. Start with something like "I am going to drink one less soft drink today", " I am going to walk for 10 minutes outside", " I am going to get up 30 minutes earlier than yesterday". Start small, set yourself up for success, and snowball from there.
When i saw what being disciplined did for my life I fell in love with it and never looked back. For me I look at it like "what if I could accomplish anything? What would I sacrifice for that?" and the answer is almost everything. I think of what I want to do. I go in that direction and don't stray from it no matter what. To me, that is discipline.
Yesss siirrrrr
Discipline : from the Latin word “disciplina”, to guide, teach, instruction given.
I like the origin definition far better than the modern ones.
Yeoman It also comes from the Latin noun “discipulus” meaning “one who learns” where we get the English word “disciple”. Yes Latin is always better because it’s more precise than English. Greek is the same.
@@pablodee9024 Yours is the base for disciple. The comment at the top was for the teacher. Today people confuse "will" with Discipline. To be disciplined is to be taught. To teach is to discipline. To practice what you learned is to use "will." Today people call "will" discipline. This is wrong on every level.
@@adamwade5612 🙌
People need to keep remembering that discipline is like a mind-muscle - you want to build up, you gotta start small and keep consistent over a long period of time. Consistency is what's really hard.
This is spot on. Recently had a son and realized my current financial situation isn’t conducive to taking care of a child. I have to tell myself to be disciplined with my spending to repair my credit and have funds to buy things our boy needs. Its not fun having to pass up on guns, gadgets and whatnot, but it does feel good getting out of the financial hole.
I really have a lot of empathy for the person who wrote in. I, like most people, try to have discipline but continously find myself failing. I lick my wounds briefly and then try again. It's tough, and frustrating to always be attempting to climb up the mountain only to slip and have to start over from the bottom. It's not always about making excuses or not taking ownership, sometimes it's just tough to struggle and wonder what I'm doing wrong and how others do it so well.
5:10 this answered my age old question of if military makes you disciplined. That discipline that comes from external sources or being forced on you will most likely go away after the force is gone. It comes from within! Now I understand. Thanks Jocko
Jocko, U r so compassionate and humble
There is a story about a lady who goes to a psychotherapist. She says, "I hope my problems are all 100% and completely my fault". Puzzled, the psychotherapist asks her why. She says: "Because if the problems are all my fault, that means I can do something to fix them. If it's in the nature of the world however, I am doomed." In many situations, the perspective of the problem being your fault is more effective in getting your problems solved. You want problems to be your fault because that means you can do something to fix them.
I love this bro. Self actualization and holding yourself accountable.
This is me every time a customer wants to complaint about something at work.
There is hidden poison in this perspective. The poison is that it isn't always true. Many of the things that happen to us in life are NOT our fault. Meaning, it wasn't by virtue of a failure on our part that some terrible thing happened to us. It is however our responsibility to deal with the consequences of what happens in our life because it is our life.
As an example. Lets say a person is sexually abused as a child and the event leaves them emotionally crippled. Telling that person that it is their fault is the last goddam thing you should ever say. Telling them it is now their responsibility to deal with the emotional consequences however is a healthy thing to say because it is the truth.
The one slightly healthy thing in assigning personal blame for an event is that it does not dwell on who IS at fault. My ex-wife wanted me dead and did a lot of crazy shit to encourage that end. That's not my fault. It's hers. However, DWELLING on the fact that it is her fault means I am actively abandoning my responsibility to my own life. This is the essence of unforgiveness. She did and said some things that I couldn't image doing or saying in my cruelest moment. Yet I MUST relinquish the right to dwell on that(AKA forgive her), or I will never be able to take up the responsibility for my own life. So I forgive her for her fault, and I will take responsibility for my own future.
Fault VS responsibility. Adjust your perspective, and you will have arrived at a better end point than simply saying it's all my fault.
That applys to most but people who are disabled badly from birth it’s more complicated
This is what I needed to hear. I grew up with amazing parents who I love very much, and I always had every need met. Despite these privileges, I always felt that my parents hadn’t disciplined me enough. I know very well that discipline is something you must decide to possess, but sometimes you need a reminder.
Special Knees, that hits home to me!!
Jocko’s empathetic understanding of the person’s situation at the beginning was great
Whenever I feel self doubt or fear of the future, I come back to this podcast. Great for any man or woman. Thanks Jocko
Echo has a point. I'm suddenly becoming more disciplined when I know what I'm working for.
I've literally never had a video target me so much. Thanks brothers. I got this
I have struggled so much with discipline, until I realized after decades of painful mistakes, that I lacked discipline because I lacked purpose and meaning in life and that was because I lacked self worth 😔 Now in my 40s, I'm trying to build self worth, so that I can find purpose in life and learn discipline 🙏🏼 It's so very hard to do when hopeless and tired. Thank you for your post Jocko; you give me strength to go on one more day and reconstruct...
Don’t give up
Explained me to a T
UR NOT ALONE BROTHER
Same. I used to give too much but not to myself. The cup has to be full to pour it, and filled with what's like a storm's center of calm within the outer chaos, unperturbed and solid, unshakable and unbroken. That's a beautiful thing and you're worth being fulfilled by not bending to relentless demands.
You’re not alone brother. Onward and upward.
"Discipline does not comes from outside, not even from military." It must comes from your Self. That's why it called " self discipline". I needed to hear that although I knew it everytime I look at the mirror as a failure to be consistent with it.
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From now on, when the alarm clock sounds I will chant 'Just like my Father taught me, I rise and I shine!'
Thank you for all the hard work and the podcast....great work guys.
I always talk to my children about some of my parents failures that I am trying not to repeat. But I found my own discipline after I joined the army. And that they need to find their own discipline but I'm doing my best to give them a better foundation for it. You can have excuses until you're an adult and then it's all on you. At some point you have to take personal responsibility for all of your choices
Still amazes to this day how some people go their whole lives and never outgrow the parent-child model, where they are perpetually the child i.e. "I need you to do something for me because I can't or won't do it myself". I've seen adults in their 50's still have this mentality.
My sister in law is almost 60 and still like it. She is back living with her parents, they’re separated so she stays at each house, and none of her problems in life have ever been her fault in her own mind. Everything is always down to x, y and z. She’s never figured out that the common denominator in her issues is her.
@@darrenbetts2987 God damn that's sad
Yeah, it's unbelievable. I did this because of this person, I'm like this because of what my Mum did to me so many years ago. Yes, it's true, early childhood plays a big part in who you become as an adult but there comes a point where you need to just shut the fk up and hold yourself accountable. I know, I used to blame everyone else and never think how I was at fault
Neruro plasticity is high when we’re young so there’s some truth to this kind of thinking. BUT what about motivational videos? Getting a stronger why? Just waiting patiently until the discipline catches up? Eating healthy? Asking for help? What about millions of other things a person can try? I doubt most people have a right to make excuses. Also, we don’t know for certain how this world works so you gotta keep that in mind too before running with shit like the parent model. NOT saying it isn’t true BUT it may or may not be and we don’t know for sure. If you’ve gotta brain that can think and a body that can move then why not try millions of things to improve discipline before you die regardless of weather there’s a guarantee that they’ll work(there never is). Would love to hear other’s thoughts
@@darrenbetts2987 What a horrible way to exist!
The reality of Freedom is Discipline. I needed to hear this sir.
I've listened to you for three maybe four years now and no matter how much time there is between listening to your podcast I always gleam something for your words Jocko thankyou sir echo likewise thankyou sir I'm not perfect and I know I will never be but I'm searching for what I need to be better
I RISE AND I SHINE HOW MY FATHER TAUGHT ME LMAO
Same man, this hit me as so funny.
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It’s really inspiring to me to see how you can encourage a person so much after blaming you for their failure. It’s Awesome
I've been out of the Navy for 4 years and I can vouch for Jocko, ever since I left the service the discipline that the Navy imposed on me is already disappearing although I try to keep it with me.
Good to know, There was a point so desperate in my life that I wanted to join the military just for the discipline, and seeing this video and your comment made me realize even more, that you don't need anything to be disciplined, you just need the decision to be disciplined.
How long were you in the navy for?
This is an interesting discussion. A flip side story was years after I had been seen by my father as successful, I remember him say to me that maybe his abuse was part of the reason I had achieved, and that he was part of that success-I remember feeling sorry for him, and not saying anything but think to my self that the intent of his abuse was not to discipline me or help me achieve, but the inability for him to control his emotions. What I did was not focus on what was done and just stay focused on what my goals were.
Funny, my parents never taught me to control my emotions, I had to do it for myself, through videos, meditation, books on cognitive therapy and so on.
Discipline is part of your character. My dad was the most disciplined person I’ve known
I lost 3 of my kids 1 I found dead due to complications of diabetes at the age of 20 yrs old and 2 sons due to court after jumping through all the hoops for every one all this just about killed me today I think more on moving forward and just except what happen and through acceptance, self disapline and prayer iam still here I work out I like listening to videos like these and reading all the inspiring comments from others let's me know I'm not the only one who has felt frustrated with the cards I was dealt
This comment is 7 months old. How are you doing now? Just a concerned random commenter here.
I don’t understand how people can blame someone else or complain on why Jocko make it clear on the difficulty of self discipline. Key word SELF
Wow!!! I love this! Clean and sober for almost 15 months and 100lbs lighter. Happy and blessed in my life. Own your Shit everyday.
There is another D that comes before discipline that is mostly forgotten: Deliberation
You have to start by owning your current means and constraints in time, energy, and other resources to to draw up a realistic plan that you can actually stick to and improve things with useful consistency.
If you start with an expectation that is impossible to fulfill with your current means and leave it at that, you will most likely fail and fruitlessly beat yourself up as a result of not taking honest ownership of the present extent of your abilities.
At 71 I have developed a level of discipline that is making my life wonderful. I came from chaos and my family is still there.
Everything I ever did I did it like I loved it!!! From getting carts at a grocery store to running for public office. My Father was a Marine and I was learning how to live the whole time watching him and my Mother but I didn't realize it until I got to be 25 or so. Trying to teach others is really difficult!!!!
Real great to hear Jocko and Echo discuss this critical fact. From what I can gather based on this clip and personal experience, there's a difference between knowing in theory that something is worth it and knowing through experience. I personally started scheduling my days because i believed it to be worth it in theory. Now that I've done this for close to a month, I know it through experience - it's just great.
the more i watch these videos, the more i thank my parents for being a positive force in my life.
I've listened to Jocko here and there, and I always respected him. I think he's genuinely trying to pass on ideas that have been useful to him, in hope that they'll be useful to someone else. But I never got super into watching every video. Then as I was watching just now, I thought "Hey, maybe I should start listening to Jocko all the time so I can get disciplined". And it struck me right after that that was the exact opposite of his point. I don't get discipline from him, I get it from me. I can't get disciplined by watching Jocko videos, I have to choose to be disciplined.
So this is what I'm going to do. I'm going to get my ass to bed before midnight, and I'm going turn off all the screens and stare at the ceiling until I fall asleep. And it's going to suck. I'm probably not going to be able to sleep for hours, but I'm going to do it anyway. And if negative thoughts creep in about how I'm not doing enough, I'm going to remind myself that I decided to do something I find hard, and I'm doing it anyway. I don't care about when I get up yet. I'm going to be disciplined about going to bed, but then I'll get the rest that I need. If things progress well, and it becomes easier, I'll go to bed even earlier.
Then I'm going to get up and go for a run. I'm not going to want to. But I'm going to do it anyway. My brain will probably generate a bunch of reasons why I don't need to. I'm going to do it anyway. Clothes on, shoes on, go.
I'll get back, shower, then I'm going to code. I'm going to code for 12 hours, and I can take one hour of breaks in the middle. The rest of the day is for fun, until midnight comes around, and I'll do the same schedule again.
What jocko says is true and simple. Everything comes from within, no one is gonna save you but yourself.
“You don’t inherit discipline…it doesn’t matter how your parents raised you…as long as your blaming other for not having disciple…you won’t have it”
Thank you both Jocko and Echo, for taking the time to explore the tough questions and taking them head on. Life isn't treating me well these days and I take inspiration from your words to get through it.
This was exactly what I needed to hear. Just scrolling through the comments I can tell this is a badass group of people who are trying to make themselves better with each new day! Keep spreading that positivity! ❤️
I came from a broken household. My dad was an alcoholic and drug addict (he's since cleaned up and we have a good adult relationship) and my mom was a free spirit and struggled with PTSD. She married an abusive asshole. I lived an undisciplined life for years. One day I realized I had goals, and it started with a physical appearance. (Thanks Chris Hemsworth) I had been involved in martial arts for years, my jujitsu Professor really helped build the framework of discipline. I ended up joining the military, lifting everyday and aspiring to be stellar every day. Earn it every day. I find discipline in the gym, and that started spilling over into every aspect of my life because I wanted more and that required doing more.
You learn discipline from external sources, but only you can apply those lessons. You can lead a horse to water.
I didn't have that positive male role model until I was an adult, and I would be upset about that. I finally said "why don't I be my own role model."
Sounds like you have an inspiring story to tell and sell, my friend. Have you considered writing a book?
@@K.R.O1875 I've thought about it, I'm sure someone would read it if I did lol
@@IronDeath I'm sure many would.
Life stories containing struggle which are overcome and made positive, I love 'em. And many people do. It's why Goggins is so beloved.
These stories helps us crack on with our day and our own struggles, knowing things could be worse. Hit up some publishers and see where it goes, chap. You never know.
The overwhelming amount of thought and care Jocko exhibits in every word is so nourishing.
i like hearing echos point of view in this
My parents are alphas, they married at 14, at 16 they both graduated and stopped school to go to work in Taiwan, my parents were born in the Philippines, and now we’re here in America. I lived with my grandparents were tough as shit but look at me now, I’m 18 and I’m enlisting in the US army. Just wanted to share, have a good one
Get some
Army is suicide for greedy politician. Nice decision
@Diablo Montana he probably won't even see combat
Fucking niice
Ur dying for a country that wants your kids gay
"Just like my father taught me, I rise and I shine" 😂😂😂
Didn't know G-Man had a son.
What helped me in my path towards discipline and just getting after it (which I still fail at from time to time, I still make mistakes and I still back out of a good decision because it'll be a little bit easier in that moment) is what Echo Charles said. "people find reasons when it's worth it." People will find a reason or an excuse to NOT do something and it could be a totally valid and acceptable excuse, but when you change that mindset into finding an excuse or reason TO do the right thing you'll find yourself in better positions. I had to make up excuses and reasons to go do the things that I KNOW I should be doing and stop doing the things I know I shouldn't do. I have a plethora of examples in my life of doing the wrong things AND making decisions and finding excuses to do the right thing.
listening to this instead of music while working out in the morning. best thing you can do. educates and motivates you!
Me: *has problem*
Jocko: Just stop having that problem.
My, I guess in the US it would be called Platoon leader, always said the following, when someone said that there‘s a problem: „There are no problems, only challenges.“
@@OneSingleBreath that's fair
Mike Dias You should listen to what he has to say before you Start typing dicipline doesn’t come from parents that comes from within
Use it as FUEL 🔥
Mike Dias, I can’t deny what you are saying has truth, but assuming the veracity of people with similar outcomes to Jocko, like David Goggins come from broken homes with an abusive parent and turn their lives around when they hit rock bottom even when overweight, out of shape and working in min. wage grunt jobs tells another possible story.
They somehow come to the conclusion Marcus Aurelius did thousands of years earlier. That if something is humanly possible, then it is possible for them.
I definitely didn't continue with the PT regiment after leaving the ARMY. But the mind set of never quitting never left. And I'm glad that I'm aware that it's not important for me
I'll share with you one of the best advice I found relating to self-discipline imo, all the credit goes to Andrew Kirby for revealing that in one of his videos:
The idea is simple but very poweful, especially if you are familiar with games where the concept originates;
Anytime you think about procrastinating, try to condition yourself and create the reflex of imagining a ghost of yourself leaving your body and simply doing whatever you are wondering about and proceeding to take a lead on you...
Basically like your ghost when you set a high score in a race game where you see a shadow version of yourself going along the "most efficient" route ahead of you, visually representing the distance between you & an ideal version of yourself.
Can you link the video?
I did this trick when I was rushing my school paper work... and I call him my alter ego. I learned this one from EMINEM when he said that when there’s a time he can’t create a song he unleash Slim Shady. Although the ghost or my higher self do it... sometimes I didn’t tap on his energy. Thank you for reminding me about this trick
Dan Millian from the "Warrior Athlete " calls it the inner Athlete. Imagine the perfect version of you outside yourself responding to the issues you're facing. Use that as a model until you and your inner warrior are one.
The way he responded to that question is next level
Forever absolute gold.