The Rights of Wives and Husbands in Islam
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- Опубликовано: 16 авг 2021
- Husband's rights in Islam are few, but powerful because they are granted in connection to his responsibilities. The rights of wives are more, and intended to secure her happiness and comfort, while her responsibilities are fewer.
The issue I always have with the discussion of rights and obligation among common is that ppl act like they are living with their enemy. Do these ppl actually care about, respect, love, have sympathy/empathy for their spouse? It seems to be lacking.
Also women must remember that they can't demand what the husband can't afford. Both are equally responsible
May Allaah reward you dear brother, Aameen,
Your delivery is so sound calm and clear, MashaAllaah!
May Allaah keep you upon this path, and May we benefit from your reminders Aameen!
Jami'an, ya Rabb, aameen
@@captains5182 the closeness of the relative generally determines their priority-- father, mother, siblings, spouse, etc
Mashallah it's always pleasure to watch and listen to you brother ❤
SubhanAllah
Regarding of circumstances, life would be bliss if only we followed Allah's commands. Finding a like minded spouse seems to be a big problem for the younger generation
Islam has managed every thing in many aspects of fiqh for men and women. Shari'ah and sunnah are the best solutions for the lives of muslims, men and women, husbands and wives. Be blessed and alhamdulillah for Islam. Jazakallah khoyr Brother, I'm your die-hard fan! 😎☝
Dear brother.
قال تعالى، و جعلنا بينكم مودة و رحمة.
Allah said that he made between wives and husbands mawadah and rahmah ( kindness and mercy).
So appreciation between the two is mentioned in the Quran, it's not one sided as you said.
Also the divorce is in the hand of the man.
Because no ship can sail with two captains.
Also if you read surat alnisa'a you will see how the husband can treat a disobedient wife.
All within what allah allows of course and what's within her power to do, Don't ask for the impossible.
Marriage is a responsibility for both, each one have their roles, and are expected to carry them.
Man being quwaam, and take full responsibilities, and the woman listen to what he says in accordance to what Allah allows, and whats within her power.
And considering that the husband will give his life to protect her, I don't think thats too much to ask.
5:14 👏👏👏👏👏
Another nuanced part of this topic is that cultural norms are expected from the respected spouse. Ie. If the culture has the man as the sole breadwinner and the wife is the house maker, then that's the standard of unspoken expectations when going into marriage.
He should be the sole bread winner.
That's his role, it's not the wife's role to help and get herself vulnerable.
Me personally I don't want my wife to go out and meet all sorts of men.
Being quwaam requires that you can provide.
It's not cultural it's your duty In front of Allah.
She's not obligated to bring money to the home.
Her duties are more about what's in the home not what outside the home.
From what I know, in Islam the wife has to obey her husband in what is halal, generally speaking. For example, if he tells her to cook and clean she has to cook and clean.
She is rewarded for such obedience, as stated. She cannot be compelled, however.
@@MiddleNation So the man has to work 10 hours/day monday to friday to provide for his family and when he comes home he has to also cook and do house choirs because his wife decided to politely say "no" to doing those things so she can vegetate on the couch and watch Turkish drama. How does that work?
How is it not an obligation for a wife to treat her husband with respect and kindness? Especially if he's fulfilling his role.
@E Matei Blin I've actually heard imams and scholars say there is actually no right on her to cook and clean. So if she chooses not to, the husband instead has to pay out of his pocket for a maid or domestic servant to do the housework. I recall hearing scholars and imams saying this.
@@Abu-Kurdi Did you even read what I wrote? You don’t do the housework if she can’t or doesn’t want to, you simply use your money to hire a domestic servant to do the housework instead.
@@MiddleNation but why not? If she disobeys, she is ‘naashizah’ and if she is then the aayah of nushooz applies which includes abandoning and beating…what’s your view on that point? I would be interested to know
Assalamalaikum Akhi,
In Islam, I am cognizant of the clear asymmetrical dynamic that is set out between husband and wife in certain domains of responsibility and rights (for example the man being the top of the managerial hierarchy of the family, not the woman)
However, some individuals (whom many people will acknowledge their authority of) like Shirin Ebadi, Azadeh Moaveni and the likes adamantly claim that there is a patriarchal backdrop behind Islam that has been artificially manufactured by the male scholars and Imams which allows for inappropriate subjugation of women in a society. I presume they will happily agree that a demarcation exists between patriarchy and Islam and that they are mutually exclusive. Also, they employ Human Rights and Women's Rights to justify the invalidity of Islam allowing for such type of dynamic between men and women.
One of the quotes of Shirin Ebadi: ''Whenever women protest and ask for their rights, they are silenced with the argument that the laws are justified under Islam. It is an unfounded argument. It is not Islam at fault, but rather the patriarchal culture that uses its own interpretations to justify whatever it wants''
How does a Muslim tactfully respond to these types of sentiments (which are very powerful and potent in terms of captivating someone through emotions)? And what motivates them to say such things?
Your answer will be much appreciated ya Akhi. Jzk.
Patriarchy means men are in control.
In Islam, men are in control.
Anyone who says that men are not in control in Sharia, and claims that Islamic male dominance is faultworthy is intellectually challenged.
The Sharia is clear.
Alhamdulillah.
Whilst Grandiose and entitled men twist the Deen to suit their Ego and blame things on Women. Here is a clarification Video. thank you.
All your comments on this channel indicate that you are a misandrist..
Your explanation on obedience in all that is halal makes a lot of sense, and I am inclining towards accepting it. but I am just wondering why everywhere I look everyone insists it’s an obligation. Every fatwa I read, quotes the virtue of (general) obedience and turns it into an obligation. They don’t quote the virtue of Tahajjud and then make that an obligation. Loads of things are righteous and virtuous, but that doesn’t make it obligatory. During the last sermon, the prophet sws never said the rights of a husband was general obedience. Which, if it was, would’ve made more sense for him to just say, instead of only two scenarios in which obedience is obligatory. So, I mean, surely other people realized this before us? Why haven’t they? I don’t want to go against 1400 years of scholarship just bc I think I make more sense yknow? Idk if you’ll answer since this is an older video but yeah.
Opinion on the knitting fiasco?
Absurd, driven by Western non-Muslim superficial stereotypes about masculinity
@@MiddleNation I discovered your channel last night, since then ive gone through all your videos , have watched them thoroughly. I respectfully disagree with you here. There is indeed a crisis of masculinity within our ummah. The likes of Menk push feminist ideas. Menk will say anything to appease the females, at the consequence of putting down men. Him and other celebrity daees attack men all the time. Shame you cant see that
What if a husband harms his wife with constant divorce threats and starts getting aggressive and she says she wants to leave to her parents. He say's she should not step out of the house, but she wants to take help from shariah authorities and leaves the house to her parents. He uses this reason to divorce her citing disobedience on her part. He says u walked out on me hence your divorced.?
So, ultimately, she gets out of a tyrannical marriage? What's the downside?
@@MiddleNation she wanted to
Work towards the marriage after involving the sheikhs to
Advice him to stop aggresion. There was a child involved in the marriage.
Also in this case according to the ex husband she has committed a major sin and forced divorce upon herself incurring the wrath of Allah and will bear the responsibility for the pain of seperation caused to the child.
Allah knows the truth of the matter. She should hold on to that. With the husband's rash decision, he may have inadvertently saved the wife and child from other harms. It could be one of those blessings we can't recognized until years later.
@@Ummsawm she should raise the child to be a good Muslim otherwise next she'll be creating a miniature version of her husband, of which his wife will be put in the same situation
This what about question made it clear that the woman is either Indian or Pakistani (more chances of being Pakistani). Women direct their frustrations on other women in that society especially those 'under' them, they inturn raise & manipulate their sons exactly what they claimed their husbands' were guilty of
Unless the women stop raising their sons & daughters wrong not much can improve
So under what circumstances can a man apply the tyrannical rules to stop her from going out.
It seems that it's a right of husband but not really applicable since "what man would do that?"
Wife can keep on ranting and arguing under the pretext of "decent conversation" but husband must show kindness because that's his obligation!
You forgot one massive general right of husbands over their wives:
They must be obeyed, in totality, apart from anything that contradicts the obligations of Islam.
So what? He says to kneel in front of him while he eats, and she must. He says wake up early and make me breakfast in bed, and she must? He says he wants 4 more kids, and she just oblige? Let's actually expand the discussion and try to understand the text regarding this. The only people who want to leave that vague are people who want to take as much advantage of it as they can.
Can you please talk about the deen show inviting andrew tate and the brothers defending andrew tate saying if he converts he will be forgiven?
I haven't seen it. I mean, if he converts, he will be forgiven. That's not controversial. I don't personally see his views on Islam really indicating any understanding of it, so I am not sure where there should be any expectation of it happening...most of what we hear from him would have to radically change if he started to learn the religion
@@MiddleNation he has hurt young girls and he is proud of it... Dont they matter. allah surely looks at who is mistreated instead of honoured and called to islam. He thinks women should be dishonoured.
@@Baatipari Islam forgives whatever was before it, even if that was burying one's daughter alive. If the evil remains in the person, that evil will be judged.
@@MiddleNation what about the poor hurt girls.
Punishment exists for a reason. Such things are unforgivable. Muhammad saws cried whsn he heard the man buried his daughter. He at least said if he could have hurt that man he would have.
Whereas sisters are supposed to be smiling prostitutes taking dishobour for these men bc they accept islam.
A hurt person should have the right to seek justice. I think that is Allah's law too.
@@MiddleNation brother imagine a sister who has to keep seeing her rapist be forgiven for her, while she suffers, and then if she has mental problems and faith problems how is it her fault?
I have a great respect for you as a scholar. But I must say that in modern times when third wave feminism got its roots even in highly conservative Muslim societies. You must possess the Red pill knowledge.
Time for sugar and spice and everything nice has been long gone.
One personal question why do you have an egyptian accent while saying arabic words?😊
Did you spend some time in Egypt?
‘Intimacy on Demand’ (@5:34 mins) - should that include Marital Rape as well by definition?
This question actually only shows ignorance from your side ,and your lack of knowledge regarding this topic.
Forgive me for my usage of words.
But islam strictly forbids any Physical or emotional harm being inflicted on the wife.
So that’ll hopefully enlighten you :)
But why do you think men control social life of wives?Yes they should ask permission to go out but not permision for who to see or not let in home someone husbands dislike but not not to meet that disliked person out of home.Can you please explain your reasoning?
Permission to go out will normally consider the purpose of going out, and if it includes socializing with someone of whom the husband disapproves, he is unlikely to grant permission. If it is an accidental meeting, then sure, but otherwise, it relies on his allowance
@@MiddleNation not necessarily mean the purpose of going out.if it was then the hadith suppose to sound clear about this matter.perhaps something like: the husband has the right to choose / filter your friends /acquaintance /people you meet in general.woman may go out to take a walk in the park for ex ,so still she should ask permission for going OUT...Or perhaps husband dislike for some reason her sister /brother to come into his home.That does not mean she can t meet them out of the home....I totally disagree with your point..
@@centric145 This is how that theory would play out in real life.
"Can I go out?"
"Why?"
"I don't have to tell you why because the hadith did not specify that I need to"
"Then no, you cannot go out."
@@MiddleNation hmm.Forbid wife to go out just because he can, using his power?This sound like abuse That will probably cause the wife to tell lies (white ones)to get what she wants .Over all,this is not ideal marriage life.Go out means go out and nothing else .period.The rest is gymnastics and abuse of power.
@@centric145 not "just because he can", permission to do something generally is connected to the reason for doing it. It's kind of disingenuous to pretend it isn't
Men won t like to hear this.
And why not?
2:36 the part women don't like to hear