World Leading Therapist: 3 Simple Steps To Remove Your Negative Thoughts: Marisa Peer | E154

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  • Опубликовано: 6 июн 2024
  • This episode is part of our USA series, over the coming weeks you will get to see some incredible conversations with guests the likes of which we’ve never seen before. Bringing more value, more incredible stories, and more world-beating expertise.
    Marissa Peer is a world-leading therapist who specialises in helping people discover their best self, who doubles as a speaker, therapy trainer, and multiple best-selling author of You Are Enough, Tell Yourself a Better Lie and Ultimate Confidence.
    Topics:
    0:00 Intro
    01:33 Your early years
    08:18 Your teachers & techniques
    10:58 Stories are what cause us problems
    21:36 People living in ignorant bliss
    25:09 The Increase in mental health issues
    26:28 People putting themselves down
    30:50 How do you default to optimism
    34:08 Rewiring your thoughts
    41:05 Using words to change your actions
    43:23 Heartbreak cases
    48:00 Mistakes parents make
    50:55 Come with a question rather than judgement
    54:15 Taking responsibility
    59:25 I know who I want to be but I still go against it
    01:06:33 Your triple A process
    01:11:19 The last guest question
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  • @TheDiaryOfACEO
    @TheDiaryOfACEO  Год назад +411

    Marisa Peer’s take on the mind is fascinating! Hit like, subscribe & get notifications on for more amazing conversations like this 🙌🏽

    • @inayatkanji7450
      @inayatkanji7450 Год назад +17

      Wow... I watch every episode... never thought you would get my mentor on! Just qualified last week as a Rapid transformational therapist from Marisa's school / academy ..... funny how the universe works! Great work mate.... looking forward to this one! Commenting before watching I'm so excited 😊

    • @joschgfilms3237
      @joschgfilms3237 Год назад +7

      @@inayatkanji7450 no way, congratulations 🎉 and good luck!

    • @inayatkanji7450
      @inayatkanji7450 Год назад +6

      @@joschgfilms3237 much appreciated 🙏🏽

    • @Genesis-xm5tu
      @Genesis-xm5tu Год назад +5

      @Inayat Kanji All The best on your journey. Congratulations!🎇🎆

    • @dombut1906
      @dombut1906 Год назад +1

      The 5W What where when why who add empathy = a diary of a CEO podcast. please could you go though paul canoville book black and blue. I really think he deserves an podcast with you thank you 🕉

  • @bhiveliveglobal
    @bhiveliveglobal Год назад +2316

    1 minute in is all you need to watch, however, I recommend the rest. "Don't give the job of making you happy to someone else, it's your job!!!!" POWERFUL

    • @nousernamewhatsoever
      @nousernamewhatsoever Год назад +80

      I really don't get this idea. It's inevitable that the people closest to you will influence your mood and energy. It's not a question of whose job is it, eventually we are bound to be affected by other people.

    • @Genesis-xm5tu
      @Genesis-xm5tu Год назад +9

      @BHiveLive I had to timestamps that part...✨

    • @bhiveliveglobal
      @bhiveliveglobal Год назад +27

      @@nousernamewhatsoever You are right of coarse and this will always be the case. I believe the thinking is that if it happens in a negative way on a daily basis and is making you unhappy you have the choice to change it, hard though it may be. Rule of 5 - you become the average of the 5 people you are closest to.

    • @chelseasharp6152
      @chelseasharp6152 Год назад +16

      Literally! This sentence alone is life changing for me.

    • @kylawood1601
      @kylawood1601 Год назад +38

      @@nousernamewhatsoever It is possible, with intention, to rise above the energetic effects of other people’s beliefs, opinions and emotions - however close in to us they are, by claiming ownership of one’s own life. It is a discipline to follow to honour our own truth, which is our essential self, free from the effects of others dominance. There is much joy and fulfilment to be found in living a life where we each vow to be true to ourselves. Then we have a real gift to give to the world and to those around us.

  • @4Asti
    @4Asti 8 месяцев назад +307

    Marissa is soooo good. She helped me heal my stage 4 cancer with her teachings. It’s been 8 years (actually every July is another year) so 9. To be clear here too.

    • @Mia15239
      @Mia15239 8 месяцев назад +9

      How pls share

    • @maggietumulty8915
      @maggietumulty8915 8 месяцев назад +2

      Please share!

    • @4Asti
      @4Asti 7 месяцев назад

      I follow what she said to do; cancer wasn’t mine, my body heals itself, comedy no news or negative social media - visualize your health. Visually see your divinity
      Exercise
      No sugar
      Make your own bread if you live in USA.
      Vitamins
      Minerals
      Living water

    • @vicx05
      @vicx05 7 месяцев назад +18

      @@Mia15239 listen to her teachings, even this video. I'm oversimplifying but it's your perception of yourself, the words you use to describe how you feel, and most importantly allowing yourself to feel all emotions (good and bad) fully and acknowledging them. All illnesses are a result of repressed emotions that we hold onto, if we merely feel our negativity we can see it for what it is, then in that state we can reframe how we see them, most of which were other people's beliefs/programming (especially from parents during childhood). It takes a lot of self introspection and constant awareness, it takes work and it is painful, but it does work if you're willing to.

    • @kris2455
      @kris2455 7 месяцев назад +9

      Emotions can affect our immune system and the placebo effect is known but to go so far and claim that you can give yourself cancer because of bad childhood is just insane

  • @maryallisonmusic615
    @maryallisonmusic615 Год назад +390

    I love her energy. So calm, collected, and wise. A fantastic teacher.

    • @bicgohill8756
      @bicgohill8756 10 месяцев назад +3

      The red bonnet has to go lol.

    • @rainbowgirljules
      @rainbowgirljules 10 месяцев назад

      @@bicgohill8756 Anybody can wear whatever they wish to wear.

    • @Crunch_dGH
      @Crunch_dGH 9 месяцев назад

      Marisa (or any competent therapist) should contact Isaacson about adding an addendum to his Musk bio, before it’s published. Would be interesting! So many motivations to unravel.

    • @seganlojas
      @seganlojas 8 месяцев назад +1

      As anyone who knows Bandler and Erickson knows, 100% of 'her' ideas & techniques aren't remotely hers. But she seems highly competent at applying them. She COULD be honest, though. Great person to interview nonetheless.

    • @alexiscolby9415
      @alexiscolby9415 8 месяцев назад

      @@bicgohill8756looks more like a hat but yes I agree with you…86 the object on her head.

  • @AmandaE329
    @AmandaE329 Год назад +556

    Imagine what a beautiful place the world would be if we could all have parents as emotionally intelligent and kind as Marisa Peer.

    • @mhiadollxx8888
      @mhiadollxx8888 Год назад +7

      Wonderful

    • @yuliaschannel6288
      @yuliaschannel6288 Год назад +20

      What people are on outside for others is not necessarily they are the same in the family. Her kids are probably have complains and problems because she is too busy with her career and other people.

    • @wWoWw1
      @wWoWw1 Год назад

      @@yuliaschannel6288 like Leonard in The Bigbang theory 😅

    • @Lily-uv9uu
      @Lily-uv9uu Год назад +4

      @@yuliaschannel6288 no she probably made different mistakes than her father. Kids want parents to have interests besides their kids and for them to have their own lives and not live for their kids only

    • @yuliaschannel6288
      @yuliaschannel6288 Год назад +1

      @@Lily-uv9uu so you don’t have kids but giving advices. Kids want all the attention they can get till they are teenagers then they want some space, and if you have 2-3 kids it is at least 20 years of putting them first, all other interests are secondary if you want your kids to grow up mentally healthy people, who was loved and properly cared for.

  • @happinessyogateacher
    @happinessyogateacher Год назад +115

    All you need is ONE PERSON to believe on you, and that’s all you need! That one person can be you, but you and one person make two and two are absolutely unstoppable!

  • @TheOriginalRasheedat
    @TheOriginalRasheedat Год назад +367

    This makes me want to cry. I can so relate. Who would I be without my grandparents. Now I mother, adopt and teach children because maybe I can be that one person. I have fostered around 100 children and I have been able to keep 11. I have 13 children and am a grandmother now all through adoption. ❤

    • @anitapaul230
      @anitapaul230 Год назад +16

      How wonderful. You probably have lots of energy. I wld have loved this

    • @gardenlover9663
      @gardenlover9663 Год назад +20

      Your life sounds so meaningful.

    • @liztowers2058
      @liztowers2058 Год назад +19

      Oh wow!!!!( That's commitment. I don't know how u did it but ....holy cow that's amazing . I have friends that can't even handle their one kid. Lol

    • @iheartjbgccb
      @iheartjbgccb Год назад +7

      I think I would like this but can you explain more about your experience? ❤️

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 Год назад +18

      I'm doing the same thing, it's just with cats instead of kids. I must have at least 50 on microchip and have spayed/neutered around a hundred.
      I feed the birds and squirrels too just to be fair, lol.

  • @TheNothingEverything
    @TheNothingEverything Год назад +300

    When I worked nights I used to listen to Marisa all night. She literally changed my life and I cannot thank her enough. This woman is an absolute game changer!

    • @silvertrees6326
      @silvertrees6326 Год назад +4

      Absolutely agree with you. I listened to a lot of Marisa’s contributions. I refuse to say work because it’s so life changing.

    • @KurosakiLuvar01
      @KurosakiLuvar01 Год назад

      @@silvertrees6326 what do you say instead of “work”???

    • @StellaChilinharova
      @StellaChilinharova Год назад

      For me too the “one person” is Marisa ☺️

    • @TheNothingEverything
      @TheNothingEverything Год назад +2

      @@StellaChilinharova brene brown too!

    • @seganlojas
      @seganlojas 8 месяцев назад

      As anyone who knows Bandler and Erickson knows, 100% of 'her' ideas & techniques aren't remotely hers. But she seems highly competent at applying them. She COULD be honest, though. Great person to interview nonetheless.

  • @feyiodesola1983
    @feyiodesola1983 Год назад +516

    This is such a beautiful episode. Her eloquence, demeanor and simple language allow me to understand that genuine fulfilment in one self can be possible. Dealing with your insecurities, fear and trauma can all be done, you just need to have the courage to do so. Literally loved it!

    • @svetlana7904
      @svetlana7904 Год назад +5

      Sooooo true

    • @ebazileyes1475
      @ebazileyes1475 Год назад +6

      Agreed with everything you said. Couldn't have said it better myself. cheers!

    • @HansenFT
      @HansenFT Год назад +12

      She does look and speak like a perfect example of aging gracefully

    • @miapax1962
      @miapax1962 Год назад +1

      How did she help?

    • @rubylane9862
      @rubylane9862 Год назад +1

      Totally agreed with everything she said.

  • @adrianwhitfield6656
    @adrianwhitfield6656 Год назад +278

    The resonation I felt with this episode is so strong. The continued self sabotage, drinking heavily as an excuse not to approach the girl I liked when I was younger. Keeping myself closed off to prevent myself getting hurt, not trying for the big promotion or showing my artistic work to prevent rejection. Going have to unbox this one.

    •  Год назад +4

      I wish you every success in becoming free of it xx

    • @svetlana7904
      @svetlana7904 Год назад +16

      Go boy, world is yours and enjoy, be bold, be happy

    • @sayusayme7729
      @sayusayme7729 Год назад +15

      Thank you, still a work in progress at 62. 💗🇨🇦

    • @agnesfrancois5550
      @agnesfrancois5550 Год назад +12

      Me too work in progress at age 69! These podcasts are very helpfu! Thank you

    • @sunnygirl9691
      @sunnygirl9691 Год назад +8

      It’s ok if people tell you “no”.

  • @heidimariemarney
    @heidimariemarney Год назад +364

    Ahhhhh as soon as I saw her face this morning on Instagram I had to immediately listen. Her therapy completely changed my life. I had a session in lockdown to heal some childhood wounds and it seriously transformed my life. So so grateful for Marisa and to you Steven ❤️

    • @NIKUK84
      @NIKUK84 Год назад +8

      Same! It was one hell of a rollercoaster but it helped so much.

    • @dans9218
      @dans9218 Год назад +5

      how did you go about organising that?

    • @heidimariemarney
      @heidimariemarney Год назад +13

      @ aw thank you for responding. You’re a really amazing person and I am so grateful my life changed for the better because of your work. What an incredible gift to the world ❤️

    • @jamiefloyd5737
      @jamiefloyd5737 Год назад +5

      How did you get a session with her?

    • @froufou100
      @froufou100 Год назад +7

      Heidi Marie Marney, as another person asked you here, I would really like to know how to have a session with Marisa Peer, there is nothing on her website so am confused how to organise that and would very much appreciate a pointer?

  • @jh230377
    @jh230377 Год назад +240

    Currently reading Marissa Peer’s - Tell yourself a better lie. Loving it 👍

    • @JohnDavy1
      @JohnDavy1 Год назад +4

      thank you I am so glad you are enjoying it xx

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 Год назад

      Everything You Know is a Lie by Lloyd Pye.

    • @sisqui1950
      @sisqui1950 9 месяцев назад

      LOL, how could you not ? ... ! 👠

  • @babytheresalight6699
    @babytheresalight6699 Год назад +42

    WOW I just realized how I got out of depression and into a higher vibration before, when I was feeling really good for the first time since I was little I would tell others and myself "the chances of surviving depression and staying better are so low, the chances of someone going from living in depression to living infinitely in alignment are even lower that's why I have to stay focused and live from my heart" I saw myself as one of the only people capable of doing it so I did it! I was super happy for months, I could feel vibration all over my body and it felt amazing, I felt like I found a part of myself I didn't know I was missing, then I got lazy and I got off track and eventually back into depression. I've been back in depression for 4 years now, I keep asking myself why is it so hard for me to get back in alignment, when will I have a breakthrough, now I remember the feeling of knowing how to get myself better! I am a woman who has always been meant to overcome depression and live a magical life, I know I am!

    • @joannpeura3429
      @joannpeura3429 Год назад +2

      Your story sounds just the same as mine, though I was feeling centered, empowered and loving life for just 2 months and got disonnected 9 months ago. It was such a great time since I've been battling depression and low selfesteem most of my life, at least 27 years.
      I wish I can navigate myself back to that empowered and loving state soon, because lately I have been feeling so hopeless :(

    • @anitajoshifflett203
      @anitajoshifflett203 Год назад

      @@joannpeura3429 hn

    • @InfiniteIrene
      @InfiniteIrene 8 месяцев назад +2

      Yes you are! I claim it with you 💫

    • @vickywitton1008
      @vickywitton1008 Месяц назад

      I hope you find your answer❤

    • @leebiegeebee9110
      @leebiegeebee9110 10 дней назад

      Theresa. You are!!! Love & Light

  • @ktrump5882
    @ktrump5882 9 месяцев назад +21

    Hands down, one of THE BEST Guest's that you ever had on this Channel. Complete integrity and genius Thank you. Blessings

  • @beccalove7133
    @beccalove7133 Год назад +26

    I’ve never looked back since I discovered Marisa peer, something about her just connects with me, almost like the healthy mother figure I never had. She’s incredible and her words imprint on your brain.

  • @luvyanks4ever
    @luvyanks4ever Год назад +42

    This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it ruclips.net/user/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.

  • @annaw7437
    @annaw7437 Год назад +98

    Oh My God! This conversation was so rich!! She speaks in such a nonchalant, relaxed way yet EVERY single thing that she says is Gold!!
    I have a lot of childhood trauma and low self worth and my coping mechanism has always been food. So of course I have been overweight/obese since I was 12ish. So I do understand the mechanism of my actions, where they come from. And still always wondered why do I need to eat eat eat (especially anything that's crunchy! Crisps are my drug, seriously!) when I know it's bad for me, and also understanding the psychology of the coping mechanisms...yet I still do it. I can't stop myself, like I'm in a trance. And then she said one thing in this interview that just blew my mind, that I had NO idea about!! - That there are stress receptors in our jaws, which is why people like to eat, especially things that are crunchy, when they feel stressed or anxious! Oh my god, it makes sense now!! I've lived my entire life with anxiety. I never eat because I'm hungry. I eat because I need the process of eating (chewing, tasting, crunching). Of course...
    We are so evolved yet so primitive, as humans...

    • @torreygreen6794
      @torreygreen6794 Год назад +6

      What a brilliant explanation. Thank you for your clarity! I have a different struggle but was always curious about food addictions and why people are unable to stop eating. Good luck to you!

    • @SmartestDumbGuy
      @SmartestDumbGuy Год назад

      That's definitely not accurate because otherwise you would simply chew on celery. If you remove processed foods from your diet you will realize that it's very easy not to eat. It's the chemicals that they put in our food that makes it insanely delicious that we get a huge dopamine spike from it. Just like any other drug. You can't find that in nature. So processed food is in essence is a drug. It's an addiction. Dopamine is a pain reliever.

    • @TriAngleMassage
      @TriAngleMassage Год назад +3

      Thank you for sharing this point! I’m currently watching for the first time and haven’t gotten there yet. What you said is completely relatable (appreciate your vulnerability here) and you just made me look at this from a different perspective! ❤

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 Год назад +4

      Why don't you try ice or bubblegum ? Really work out your jawbone. I used to bite out of anger, it's a natural feeling. I wonder if there's someone in your past you'd like to bite ?!!
      Best wishes for your recovery. Eat slowly and drink a lot of water. It will help.

    • @joannemark2053
      @joannemark2053 Год назад +1

      Yesss exactly my thoughts, bullseye 🎯

  • @mgregory22
    @mgregory22 Год назад +25

    I like how she explains why words and thoughts matter, and how they fit into the causal chain that becomes our behavior.

  • @rukhsanahk4867
    @rukhsanahk4867 Год назад +27

    One of the best podcasts. The way she communicates is incredible and so clear. She doesn't talk about money, or being successful like the other guests. She talks about being human and understanding ourselves, re-wiring our code. Really stunning and the most important podcast (as well as Mo Gawdat). Will definitely buy her book! So nice that Steven let her talk, it's nice to hear from the guests on the podcast rather than the same relationship issues, or family problems of Steven.

  • @jeffmate1
    @jeffmate1 Год назад +32

    Did you notice the bare feet. It was such a relaxed conversation. I love it. A lifetime of experience was condensed into 1 hour.

  • @alinarehman405
    @alinarehman405 Год назад +30

    The way you feel about everything, everything is down to two things: the pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself.

  • @houras8332
    @houras8332 Год назад +68

    You Marisa are much better than any psychiatrist, I have listened to this podcast few times and every time I have learned something new , thank you Steve for being a good listener and bring this podcast for us 🙏

    • @Lo-to7zh
      @Lo-to7zh 9 месяцев назад

      But psychiatrists don’t know the brain 😅

  • @alexandraannable5964
    @alexandraannable5964 Год назад +78

    Thank you Steven for highlighting the amazing work Marisa does and the power of RTT. I’m about ti graduate from her school and can honestly say that studying with Marisa has been one of the healthiest, kindest and enlightening things I could have ever done for myself.

    •  Год назад +1

      I am so delighted to know that thank you

    • @curiousme113
      @curiousme113 Год назад +2

      What's it cost

    • @Polina-hn7hu
      @Polina-hn7hu Год назад

      @@curiousme113 last time i looked it was around 1200 pounds

  • @stopwars8642
    @stopwars8642 7 месяцев назад +5

    Her voice alone is healing and calming, your own pictures and thoughts creates your story

  • @ked7426
    @ked7426 Год назад +29

    Loved her style, why does therapy have to be long, and complicated, exactly, bring on the quick, and concise. 🤗❤️👏

  • @estherhealth4465
    @estherhealth4465 Год назад +16

    Can I like this episode a hundred times over?? Most relatable, healing, insightful one hour conversation I've ever listened to. Cannot recommend it enough! Thank you both 🙏

  • @joanhebert73
    @joanhebert73 11 месяцев назад +12

    This is a wonderful interview with a woman who showed so much depth of understanding and kindness. Beautiful putting this out in the world. Wishing everyone hope and healing. Thankyou Marisa Peer. 🙏

  • @niralishah1
    @niralishah1 11 месяцев назад +12

    Marisa peer is so empathetic and I got the feeling of her talking with her cat and drinking wine and just talking about the most profound concepts! I'll for sure read the book.

  • @temioni79
    @temioni79 Год назад +135

    As a therapist, I found this conversation so soothing and fascinating. Marisa's voice is so relaxing! Awesome content. ✨

    • @charlottearena
      @charlottearena Год назад +3

      Sorry I disagree about her voice.

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 Год назад +4

      I kinda like it too. It's easy to understand. Relaxing tone.
      I love listening to Esther Hicks when she channels Abraham. Very soothing vibe.

    • @ruthvictoriarjaster753
      @ruthvictoriarjaster753 Год назад

      It is only her “voice “ 😢

    • @ruthvictoriarjaster753
      @ruthvictoriarjaster753 Год назад +2

      Esther Hicks is a smart

  • @peaceemezue
    @peaceemezue 9 месяцев назад +19

    I love her energy, she is so cool and understanding.I don’t get tired of listening to her soothing voice ❤

  • @edwinromilly4645
    @edwinromilly4645 Год назад +39

    Interesting ‘Podcast’
    I’m sometimes little bit unconvinced with some therapists ,as some are too full of equations and theories but She was enlightening.As i see it-
    The first key is to be where you are. Don’t wish away your whole day today waiting for better ones ahead. Just be present. You've come a long way to get here, and you're still learning and growing. Find value in the lessons. Take them and make the best of things right now.
    2. Remember that it’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than it is to keep them by being someone you’re not. Because it’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where YOU used to be.!!
    Once you begin to value your inner peace over your need to hold on, engage, react, or be right, you will in fact begin to feel more centered and whole (and in control). Truly, learning to let go of certain things and detach from certain people's behavior, are two of the great paths to inner peace. And yet we collectively tend to hold on tight!
    peace🕊

  • @FARAFINA221972
    @FARAFINA221972 Год назад +20

    Brilliant, profound, insightful, informative, helpful, simple, down-to -earth and li-be-ra-ting!!! Thanks to 'The diary of a CEO ' host who invited this wonderful therapist and whose questions were really down to earth!!

  • @spice8831
    @spice8831 Год назад +17

    The quality of your guests resonates your direction to continuously provide your subscribers high quality content, thank you both.

  • @almaeno3618
    @almaeno3618 Год назад +58

    Hands down one of the best interviews for me. I’m now a huge fan of Marisa Peer can’t wait to read her book

  • @ligimamillijohnstone4562
    @ligimamillijohnstone4562 Год назад +7

    Kia Ora korua,
    Amazing! Her three step methodology in understanding is exactly the same analogy when gardening. Weed out, turn the foundation and plant the seed. Then water to begin growth…She is constantly in reflective mode, which positions her as a learner, regardless of who stands before her. Beautiful mind, beautiful soul, pure heart and loving empathetic person❤

  • @TrevorBingley
    @TrevorBingley Год назад +20

    This whole interview was so therapeutic. I can tell she's a creme de la creme therapist

  • @ceoa
    @ceoa Год назад +18

    Rephrasing how to relate YOUR feelings or how your RESPONDING to someone else's feelings is really the gem in this conversation, to me.
    Loved the phrase 'Being Flawsome' 🤗

    • @sisqui1950
      @sisqui1950 9 месяцев назад

      I do hear you 😊 I am ‘perfectly flawed’ was my ‘go to’, in a moment it has changed to FLAWSOME ! 💐

  • @dianeaperehama5835
    @dianeaperehama5835 Год назад +11

    Marisa how amazing you are, how simple it is to make a person change an idea {or thought} into healing oneself, using three steps, to change any negative thought, feeling, or action into awareness. This simple method can be used by all people from the entire world.

  • @nazmasaleem4053
    @nazmasaleem4053 Год назад +27

    Listening to this as a therapist is amazing, resonated with a lot of client work. I love the sense of calm, experience and insights. Thanks Steven.

  • @helenstefanovski934
    @helenstefanovski934 10 месяцев назад +15

    I love Marisa, i love her positivity and the way she empowers people. Also her voice is so gentle and soothing, so good to listen too ❤️💜

  • @Ruby-kr6fh
    @Ruby-kr6fh 9 месяцев назад +5

    I like that she provided a very simple approach to mastering your mind. I do think the point of practice and repetition can't be stressed enough. The work is SIMPLE but not easy.

  • @alexanderbeck7953
    @alexanderbeck7953 Год назад +29

    Great podcast. Such an incredible woman with so much knowledge and a soothing relaxing voice. Love her hat too, awesome.

  • @NerriPangoCrochet
    @NerriPangoCrochet Год назад +20

    I loved how Marisa ended up without shoes in the end of the talk… 🥰 she is iconic!!

  • @joannamuyoti2621
    @joannamuyoti2621 Год назад +12

    What a calm, assured wise lady. What a therapy session! Thanks!

  • @erindistel
    @erindistel Год назад +50

    Steven this interview was completely enlightening delightful & engaging. I’ve listened to Marisa before on other interviews but this one flowed superiorly.. your interviewing skills & her immense insights and talents have made this one of the best podcasts I’ve listened to. Thank you!!❤Erin from NJ

    • @pete8808
      @pete8808 Год назад

      "...flowed superiorly.." 😁😎👍

  • @eveimadeit
    @eveimadeit 11 месяцев назад +5

    She’s completely right, I’ve had self defeating thoughts paining on my confidence for a while, when I identified that I thought I could try separating the ‘Shadow’- visualizing my bad ego so I could have an objective strength; and arguing with it whenever I had a negative judgement about myself
    But then after a while, left alone to my thoughts, I realized my anxiety and overthinking stemmed from not trying to make myself look like a fool, and to be liked by people, those thoughts although very self defeating were also trying to protect me but just ended up being a danger alarm that keeps beeping at all times and turned into a poison

  • @ktrump5882
    @ktrump5882 8 месяцев назад +5

    This is by far, my most FAVOURITE Episode of ALL the Experts that you host on your Show Stephen. Gabor Maté is a very close 2nd. I love the concepts within Rapid Transformation and how they help me to transform my life. Marissa you are a true Gem to humanity. Blessings.

  • @lamamasworld5155
    @lamamasworld5155 Год назад +9

    Thank you Steven for bringing THIS guest!🙏🏽 What a gift! I’ve been intrigued with Marrisa’s work for a while and really wanted to hear her talk for longer.. the knowledge so gracefully expressed, really appreciate it. Love Paulina xx

  • @thecat2415
    @thecat2415 Год назад +36

    Wow! This is a story of my life. I didn't even realize my parents were toxic until this year and I'm 30 years old. They wanted a boy, I wasn't neat as my sister (I am neat, but not millitary neat). I had to clean entire house (vacuuming, dusting, mopping, dish washing and other things from age of 4). There often were actions with belt for both me and my sister because we laugh or run at home. They regulary said they will send me away to retarded school because I left T-shirt on chair at my room. They said they hope I never will get a husband. Mother always gossips about me even until this day and says only bad things. Parents said I should never study Psychology, because only weirdos do that. So I went to study Art which also was bad and they said I would never get a job. My grandmother was the best person I have ever known, she always said that I'm good and I really miss her. I had the best first boyfriend when I started University, he loved me and I loved him so much, but I was young and my mother always said to my relatives and her friends that that boy is ugly and shy, and poor, and doesn't suit me. And it always stayed in my mind, because it was important to me what my parents think. So time went by and after 5 years we broke up. We stayed friends, but now he's gone forever. He died. After we broke up my mom said that don't understand why I broke up, I don't know what I want and it was sooo confusing, because I broke up to avoid constant badnouthing about my life and decisions. Time passed and I started relationships with another boy who lied and cheated me. I felt like no one is there for me. No one. It took years to get out of that toxicity, but it was possible only because I moved to live abroad and distanced myself. Now I have to listen bad stories about other family members and relatives. So it is a never ending story. But at least I can see positive things in the World at times when I don't have to speak with my parents.
    I believe that I am where I am because of lack of confidence and support, but I will heal myself and I will believe in myself by listening to inspiring and positive peopke who overcame their struggles.

    • @PopaFlorinn
      @PopaFlorinn Год назад +3

      I understand, you deserve better! Much love ! Im here if you need to talk!

    • @corrinaamato8805
      @corrinaamato8805 Год назад +4

      So much u said i can completely relate to. My sister and I both only until we were also in our early 30s , realized our mom was also toxic. I am 41 now and she is living with me. I cant stand it. Although , I own my own home I am in a position that the little extra financial help is needed and my car broke, she has a vehicle so it helps but omg i get where u come from. My mom always gossipped abt my sister and me she had us when she was very young and honestly didn't know what she was doing .. She slandered people into believing we were horrible children. Our parents divorce was hard on us but no adult ever asked how we were doing. Instead we got yelled at by other adult family members for being "so mean" 2 our mother. Smh. I have a daughter and I could NEVER imagine talking so badly about her .... she is the apple of my eye. My daughter is 19yrs old we dont always see eye to eye but i NEVER talk about her negatively to other people. If anything, i put her on a pedastal so i can't understand my mom ever doing that to us. She is always gossiping about other family members too. She changed her side on how she feels about someone and then will change the whole narrative about them if they're not getting along. Same as far as being in my personal relationships. She hated my daughters father (some reasons were legit) and would get into our business so much, telling me for YEARS i should leave him... then when i finally did, she became friendly with him and even got him a job.. Yes, talk about confusing. She is so confusing

  • @fat7636
    @fat7636 Год назад +13

    20 minutes in, I've paused the video to face my deepest limiting money beliefs right away, now I write this and will continue to watch the episode afterward, but.. wow!
    Now it all makes sense, why I'm not having more money!! I've always had "enough to survive" but I've never had more to get a standard that truly excites me.. and why? because I've learned and saw as a child: when I have more money people will take advantage of that + me! I will stay dependent on others and especially on my family and guess what; my biggest value that drives me is independence! sooo it's no surprise at all that I didn't want to have more money because I didn't want to stay bonded to my family because I knew: they will all come to me to ask for it, and that's why I've never had a good relationship with any other family member, only with my younger brother - who was through the eyes of my system, not the problem. All others haven't had enough money and were sick all the time (there is surely even a connection to my eating disorder). And holy f* I've proved myself these beliefs so many times, especially as a teen in any kind of relationship.
    There are even more deep realizations but I think it's enough to say THANK YOU to both of you!! .. seeing these dots and connections, OMG I'm literally blown away. I finally have one of THE keys to unlocking my business success.. even more than that: to open up a whole new life! 😭🧡now I've some headaches. I'm going to let these things sink in & I will do all of my steps from now with a lot more confidence to build the life I (!) want for myself!

    • @sugarfury
      @sugarfury Год назад +2

      This is so lovely, I am going to read your comment again as I can relate. Thank you so much for sharing. This has given me a lot to think bout.

    • @fat7636
      @fat7636 Год назад

      @@sugarfury I'm glad it can help! i could talk more about it if you need some more insights - it just doesn't have to be in the comments section here xD

  • @lizreed4284
    @lizreed4284 Год назад +5

    I love Marisa Peer she is by far one of the most advanced therapist and shes so much more! Anytime you have a chance to hear her talk listen!

  • @annabellesapphire
    @annabellesapphire Год назад +18

    Wow Marisa, you've excelled yourself with this interview, the guy also did such a great job, letting you speak, prompting gently and sharing his own thoughts. Thoughroughly enjoyed this, I always learn something which helps me and others on my journey, I practice reiki with animals and folk. The spiritual and logical, practical can work so well together. Thank you for being here at this time we can heal and become better souls
    Blessings to all

  • @smar4433
    @smar4433 Год назад +24

    When she said you don't have to believe it, just saying it is enough, that sunk in. The road from one belief to the opposite can be a looooong one

  • @silkysmoothsound
    @silkysmoothsound 10 месяцев назад +3

    Of all of the guests you have had that I’ve had the privilege of listening to- this is my favorite guest ❤

  • @kayburnett36
    @kayburnett36 Год назад +30

    Marisa Peer is so wonderful! Her slow speaking and clear words drive home the thought-provoking points that's had a huge impact on my life. How wonderful to be a person like this!

    • @mjrotondi5086
      @mjrotondi5086 Год назад

      I think Marissa created who she is through pain and experience.

  • @8erap
    @8erap 8 месяцев назад +5

    What an adorable and hipnotizing talking style. Her voice , pace, fluency, storytelling. Amazing. I can listen her all day !❤

  • @Shaara1
    @Shaara1 Год назад +7

    That's true. You only need 1 person to love you or believe you. That gives you wings.

  • @tiriri221
    @tiriri221 Год назад +6

    What style and poise this woman has. A pleasure to listen to

  • @therailpubthirstyyet126
    @therailpubthirstyyet126 Месяц назад

    I love how my mind could not listen to this interview at first. The cadence and tone ality I resisted. I wasn’t feeling. I continued to work on my journey and then one day I came back to this interview and soaked it all in in its entirety and got every bit of gold out of it. I can’t wait to listen again! Thank you! Your interviews are leveling up big time!! Congratulations!!🎉

  • @feelgoodastrology
    @feelgoodastrology 11 месяцев назад +3

    OMG I had a special grandmother too Marissa. You can't underestimate the power of the love of a grandmother. paying this forward to my kids and look forward to one day being that grandmother! great interview. Thank you x

  • @lucyben9173
    @lucyben9173 Год назад +151

    Your video have helped me reach over $200,000 in stocks by age 24! Thanks. Keep the videos coming

    • @azah336
      @azah336 Год назад +1

      Congrats ! I started right before Covid when the recession hit.I held those stocks and made a killing. I bought dividend stocks and made a lot during Covid.

    • @alessandroandrea4732
      @alessandroandrea4732 Год назад +1

      I’m convinced that the big investors and analysts are trying to scare us to keep us poor and ignorant to the market…because its steady doing good after all the jobless and market crash talks

    • @lucyben9173
      @lucyben9173 Год назад

      @@azah336 thanks 🙏

    • @lucyben9173
      @lucyben9173 Год назад

      @Rose When I was 20 but you need a finance pro to be successful.

    • @lucyben9173
      @lucyben9173 Год назад

      @Rose here ⬇️⬇️

  • @amandasawyer4784
    @amandasawyer4784 7 месяцев назад +7

    Wow. That was very powerful & resonated with me so much. So many light bulbs went on for me. I feel like I’ve just had the best therapy session ever. This sort of material really should be part of the schools curriculum. Huge thanks to you both ❤

  • @claudinavivo7416
    @claudinavivo7416 8 месяцев назад

    People who express their feelings and who express the as HONEST as they can follow me on this ARE THE HEALTHIEST KIND OF PEOPLE. She is wright. This is gold. Thank you again.

  • @ernestoGLL
    @ernestoGLL Год назад +2

    Marisa changed my life. What she does is so powerful. I am eternally grateful. Thank you!!

  • @DianeZeisler
    @DianeZeisler 11 месяцев назад +26

    17:51 Thought Blueprint...
    23:17 Detective Work...
    39:53 Subtlety of Words...
    1:05:01 Words & Pictures...

    • @nyxsun
      @nyxsun 8 месяцев назад +2

      Thank 💚🙏

  • @kvirkar
    @kvirkar Год назад +14

    Such a great conversation ! Feels good to see these conversations going on . To everyone working on themselves right now, just want to let you know that you got this! stay consistent , pray and be kind and everything else will follow.

  • @shawnafletcher6543
    @shawnafletcher6543 Год назад +4

    So many golden nuggets of wisdom packed into this interview. I had to watch this over the course of three days to make sure I didn't miss anything. The Spice Girl reference was the cherry on the cake. Thank you for posting!

  • @karlabelisario5254
    @karlabelisario5254 Год назад +10

    I just saw her on IG this morning and couldn’t do anything else but come right away to see her and it’s all worth it! She’s amazing and the way she talks is so peaceful and powerful at the same time, I could listen to her for hours! Thanks for this, love it!

  • @joschgfilms3237
    @joschgfilms3237 Год назад +85

    Yet another great episode Steven 👏, the guests you get are always so articulate. I applied for an editing role at Steven Barlett LTD for this reason exactly, to be involved in inspiring work that ultimately is therapy to a degree for some viewers. I didn’t get the job obviously, but I’m continually motivated by these speakers and their stories. Moral of the story is: instead of giving up after you get refused, rather bounce back stronger and with a restiance to giving up as you can only improve. I will be back :) ……

  • @JafaCrochets
    @JafaCrochets 9 месяцев назад +1

    I love Marisa so much. She’s such an amazing teacher. Thank you God and the Universe for giving the world such an amazing gift.

  • @vanemogoi4329
    @vanemogoi4329 Год назад +1

    Thank you so much Marisa peer. Listening to you has lifted me up so much. You are an angel. God bless you.

  • @janebadon3988
    @janebadon3988 11 месяцев назад +10

    This is the most helpful therapy I’ve run across in my 69 years of life with a BA in psychology. Thanks to BOTH of you!

  • @evagrolmusova1403
    @evagrolmusova1403 Год назад +5

    Loving this episode, the thought provoking questions and incredible insights into working of mind🙌🤩
    I train in Maria's school to be able to help others transform their lives and feel fulfilled and can only tell Marisa as teacher is a gem with big heart and valuable expertise ✨

  • @Chamiogirl
    @Chamiogirl Год назад +2

    This is the best interview that I have watched with Marisa Peer, well balanced and so very clear to understand.

  • @Simon1985_
    @Simon1985_ Месяц назад

    Marissa Peer is incredible. So many things she said has hit so hard that it has really helped changed my perception of things, even if it’s only temporary. I take all I can get at this moment and it was such a beautiful relief (even if it’s only whist I’m watching this) that she is truly a fantastic credit to her profession.
    Alcohol has been an expanding, detrimental part of my life for so long and just hearing her calmly explain it in her pleasing voice, reinforces just how much I have been self-deprecating and how much I need to change my thoughts.

  • @anniem1111
    @anniem1111 Год назад +11

    What a fabulous human 🕊🙌 as a therapist myself I have learnt a few golden nuggets from this podcast. Love, love, love your style Marissa 🌻

  • @Missyfunkylox
    @Missyfunkylox Год назад +6

    Two of my favourites together ….. I absolutely love these Steven, thank you thank you thank you 💗🙌🏾

  • @mariag.9833
    @mariag.9833 Год назад +1

    The way you feel is about the pictures you put I your head. Think of the pictures and words. This is gold thank you for this teachings.

  • @cielomusic4396
    @cielomusic4396 Год назад +5

    Best therapist & public speaker I have listened to by far always loved her stuff ❤️

  • @poppylove3673
    @poppylove3673 Год назад +5

    Love Marisas vulnerability, she is fascinating and knows her stuff!

  • @fionam3735
    @fionam3735 Год назад +7

    Great episode, reassuring when she said the behaviours are the last thing to change. Keep working on the thoughts and what we tell ourselves. Peace and good will to all ❤

  • @TravisTellsTruths
    @TravisTellsTruths Год назад +1

    This is one if the MOST important videos in the world. She speaks my language. Not only is she right, but I'm here to tell you that what she's teaching is the the True Inner Teaching of all the world's religions. This is also called magic. The Art of the Divine Magus. God bless all of you and thank you, too!!

  • @maocharlisme
    @maocharlisme Год назад +9

    18:00 I'm also chronically late and lately I've actually been getting the insight about myself that I always had to go out into the world without question anyway and do and participate and adapt, regardless if there was still a lot amiss for me or not that I actually needed to be fixed or dealt with first. Both my parents have always thought punctuality very important aswell so it was always this continuous issue aswell that I was always late and I started to feel increasingly that my value was just being measured by my ability to be on time, timely (fast enough to keep up with the world), doing and finishing homework and assignments in time and also chores around the house for example, things like that which are essentially superficial to me. A bit later in life I was also pressured a lot to keep up family contacts (again with the always having to be timely and on time thing which I basically never managed), while my parents seperated when I was was 2 y.o. and upholding this chaotic ideal of co-parenting with me being expected to fit in everywhere with everyone, at all times at the behest of all the adults in my life so that alienated me from most and at the worst times all members of my family even more in those dark and trying times. So over the course of my adolescense I started talking less and less to anyone basically and especially less to my parents, essentially trying to just tough it out through the shit because I knew I was going to be misunderstood and unheard anyway.

    • @svetlana7904
      @svetlana7904 Год назад +3

      Time to change, life is in front of you, just embrace it, forget about the past:)))

    • @paulasandhu7086
      @paulasandhu7086 Год назад

      I also make silly mistakes, try hard not to.

  • @brim5675
    @brim5675 Год назад +14

    I have very very low self esteem, and I am very capable and willing to admit my mistakes. My behaviour, my reactions and talk it through with the person I wronged. It's the only thing I disagree with. This talk is so helpful. Thankyou

    • @peacenholiness6855
      @peacenholiness6855 Год назад

      🧘‍♂️🙏☯️

    • @Katie-kp6cf
      @Katie-kp6cf Год назад +5

      Same, my low self esteem usually leads to me OVERapologising and being overly critical of myself even when I sometimes deep down think I didn't do anything wrong

    • @FromPeloToYourHeart
      @FromPeloToYourHeart 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@Katie-kp6cfI can relate 😢

    • @FromPeloToYourHeart
      @FromPeloToYourHeart 11 месяцев назад

      ❤❤❤

  • @mhiadollxx8888
    @mhiadollxx8888 Год назад +2

    I totally agree with Marisa! We definitely have feelings that most of the times are being ignored. We have stereotypes and expressions we say to others to avoid dealing with the real emotions and feelings. Truly it kills us inside if we don't say things(how we truly feel inside) to another person, not being feel heard at all, and by saying how we exactly feel to someone and supposing that person will understand us by reassuring us or saying sorry has a big impact to us in return.
    This is a very wonderful podcast. Marisa is that type of person that soothes your worries. I love how she speaks you can see she's very passionate and has been an expert in this line of work. I would say that she's an awesome therapist.
    Thank you Steven. Great work! More Power.

  • @wellnesspsychotherapist
    @wellnesspsychotherapist Год назад +1

    I really enjoy your podcast. Thank you for pointing out that those beliefs you have never really go away… because it’s true! It is more challenging to change your beliefs than just “changing your thoughts.” That is a rational explanation of something that is not only emotional but neurobiological. This is why it takes time to build awareness and constantly challenge those thoughts until they decrease….But it never goes away! What makes therapy helpful is that you are building a relationship with someone who is trained and licensed to practice therapy to help you with this process but beliefs are just that something that you believe and when you believe something it is hard to argue with that belief!

  • @samantha-kemp-therapy
    @samantha-kemp-therapy Год назад +10

    Love Marisa so much and I love that you gave her time to talk about her background a bit more. I trained with her. Loved it.

    •  Год назад +1

      thank you so glad you loved it xxx

  • @PraiseWorshipMusic
    @PraiseWorshipMusic Год назад +1

    Thank you so much for this. Thank you for including the lyrics. It’s wonderful to be able to follow along during my time of devotion. May God continue to bless and increase your ministry of music.

  • @CJ-ft9yo
    @CJ-ft9yo 11 месяцев назад +1

    I had a lot of reasons to think “it’s all on me” , in early childhood but the thought “‘do i have to listen to this” is what i felt about hearing my dad rant. I just thought it was all him not me. i learnt very young that you just can’t win with some people either way, that it’s not your fault you trigger them. Even being told “you were a mistake”, made me think “well wasn’t my mistake”!

  • @NerriPangoCrochet
    @NerriPangoCrochet Год назад +4

    I accidently hit tipped this video and while was looking for the button to go back to the previous video I was watching, I just got captivated.. that is obviously not the accident. I had see this!! Thanks so much! 🙏🤗

  • @itzvince7379
    @itzvince7379 Год назад +13

    Literally discovered the channel the other day and I know I’ve learnt so much in such a shidr space of time. In my opinion one of the best podcasts out there

    •  Год назад +1

      thank you that is so lovely to know

  • @Franandphotos
    @Franandphotos 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you for making me feel normal. Every day is a struggle against the self deprocative thoughts and lack of purpose. I need to listen to this every day!

  • @jrose9378
    @jrose9378 7 месяцев назад

    I’ve just begun recently watching your interviews. This guest, therapist Marisa Peer, is the best so far! I’ve learned all I need to know from her insight and advice. Previously listening to all the scientists, doctors, etc., she is the most understandable and real personality! While I love you and believe you always ask the best, most pertinent questions of your guests, you were mostly silent because she gave continuous information where there was no need for questions to be asked. Thank you for this marvelous broadcast.

  • @barbaramarrabell4499
    @barbaramarrabell4499 Год назад +7

    Ty for such a honest great inspiring video. Listening to your videos are so helpful. Your voice just comforts me always.

  • @beatajstorey5008
    @beatajstorey5008 Год назад +3

    Wonderful podcast. As always honest, powerful and extremely wise Marisa enlightenments us again and again. ❤✨🙏🏻

  • @restymacalisang
    @restymacalisang 7 месяцев назад +1

    20 mins in, and I'm blown AWAY by how she thinks. I never considered asking an alcoholic "What's good about drinking alcohol?" but that question is very good it always leads you to emotional answers. OMG, she's a genius and I want to be like her!!!!

  • @esc91
    @esc91 4 месяца назад +1

    she's really incredible describing her method - detective work and then the change.

  • @melissasmuse
    @melissasmuse 9 месяцев назад +12

    Wow can you imagine if she could spread her message to all schools?

  • @beastyboyBlue
    @beastyboyBlue Год назад +4

    Marisa is absolutely riveting ,I hung on her every word. I'm going to get her book. Thank you both.⭐️

  • @danutamicor7192
    @danutamicor7192 7 месяцев назад +2

    Yes it is not easy to change from being pesimistic to optimistic, but if we change the words we use/say one by one, then we feel better, then we act better and better things happen. I do apply this the last few weeks and it has made a difference in my life. Thank you