These Are The Stages When Your Ex Regrets The Breakup
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- Опубликовано: 22 июл 2024
- Today I’d like to talk about a specific type of ex, one that regrets the breakup. I’d like to do this by specifically looking at each of the stages that this type of an ex will go through during the regret journey.
Over the years I’ve been quite adamant about attempting to use science or psychology to explain away the strange behavior of exes. For instance, I know from studying our clients exes that typically the path to regret isn’t necessarily a straight line.
In fact, there are really only five stages that you can expect these exes to go through,
The Separation Elation Stage
The Repressive Depressive Episode Stage
The Clean Slate Stage
The Nostalgic Reverie Stage
The Reconnection Stage 
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My only question to all this is, how is it when you’re ready to move on and letting go, the ex decides to get back? I find this kind of a weird mystery. It’s like there’s still some kind of connection that tethers both exes until time truly heals both sides knowing it’s over.
Great video Chris!
Really insightful video! Helped me learn alot about my avoidant ex and how he will go through these stages. Love your content it’s always so helpful! ❤
Has he reached back out to you since NC?
Chris is always on top of his video advice!
If you are thinking or assuming what your ex is thinking this is a (SUICIDAL KAMIKAZE MISSION) and abusive to your own mental health of falling for witch craft!
Just ask them if you are curious of what they are thinking
Chris advise might be backed up by science, but what he is not saying for some reason, is, that the anxious partner also follows an unconcious insecure pattern, which more often than not requires therapy to get over it. He says we do not "get it", but it should be said as we cannot get it.... Well, I now can, actually I did get it, but only after therapy. Actually if you just decide to stick to the advise with no therapy, and the ex comes back, it is probably a source of more anxiety, because the cycle will repeat.
How can I get info on my situ , il bet u uv not seen my situ but I need guidance its destroying me
Bruhh your video give me A Lil bit hope :(
Bro if you always see your ex that's working same place after begging.. her does there any chance though 10 months completed...
Does that apply on the male dumpers only?
I was wondering if its a good idea to talk to the mother of my ex to tell my side of the story. Me and GF broke up like 5 months ago and i do feel the need to talk to my mothers ex.Not only to tell my side of the story but also show on how i've improved.
IMO my Ex's mother always believed in our relationship and the fact that my Ex has said that she really hoped things would work out/ i was the first one she saw a future with, i somewhere believe that this is not the end.
No, just no
Attraction is not s choice, if her mother is on your side it is good, but she's her mother and will tell her, you will look weak, she won't be like "oh well mother you said he's a great guy and now after 2 minutes I am in love with him again!"
Stay strong, they fall in love by your strength if they know/feel they still have you on the hook they don't feel the fear of losing you and they won't see you as valuable
Feel what you have to feel but keep moving forward
@@BBD1 Thanks for the reply. I just found out she was seeing someone else and i'm tilting a bit. My ex once told me that i was the first & only guy in her life that she saw a future with. i'm legit a bit clueless rn.. like i've done some bad things in the past to make her feel bad (no cheating,..) why can't see just see through that and see that people can and do change.
Never do that you will push them away more been there in the past
This happened to me 💯 spot on
does this apply to female avoidants too?
I've been split up with my ex for over a year and now I've been having numerous dreams about her. I've noticed she tends to smile at me whenever we see each other because we have a daughter together. She sometimes will text me out of nowhere that literally makes no sense. Are those signs of her regretting her decision?
Yeah probably she wants Sum of that Daniël attention yk. I broke up a 1,5 week ago. She been doing weird shit sinds then. She dumped me ass because (in my opinion) Much stress… we talk about school, work, home situation and then me… last 5 Months she didnt talk to me zo “ i changed “ because I thought it was me right. Yeah well because I changed, she dumped my ass😂
No they are not, She is using you as a back up in case her new interests flop
@@karolinah12 I've come to a point we're I know my worth and value to someone. I agree with what you said.
@DanielRivera-hi3gn Awesome, I find people who know how to care and love are the most valuable ones.
I love him so much and I want him so much. He said we had to take our time apart a few days ago and haven’t spoken since. He told me nothing was totally settled and we were taking our spear the time for ourselves but he told his friends he’s single so i guess we are both single. I’m starting to wonder if he’s even worth it. It’s hard to accept the idea of him trying to move on to someone new to get over me. It makes me mad.
2.5 years, he said after too many arguments and enough he’s fallen out of love. I still am in love. But I dont wanna be in pain forever.
@@angelspirit9 im sorry for what happened to you, i hope you stay strong, i didnt and got blocked. Dont be like me.
Hi Chris, I have bought your Ex recovery books in the past as with with the text bible.. I am wondering.. My ex does not want to break up we are in this loop where she is not showing affection but does not want to break up.. So as much as I try to initiate something.. She backs away a bit.. In this stage should I go for acceptance of breaking up and then go for the 30 days no contact?
Never initiate anything. Let her do the work. You'll become more attractive if you step away.
Oh man
Same happened to me
She was pulling away but no letting me know that she wanted to break up.
I started to do things for her because of anxiety more than because of love and care and yeah she left me.
I think she needs space without you telling her to take time or to go no contact. Let her text you or intitiate and go slower than her maybe.
Let her text you when she does, let her come to you as she pleases and yeah do not over pursue her. I guess. Not sure
Hope baba chris has the answers :(
And yeah please let her work for you the way she wants
No argument, no complaints that she is not meeting your needs, enjoy your life and do show that person in you who attracted her not the one who got changed and complacent. You had fun with your life, worked on it and wasn't crying or bragging if you did.
Maybe even a week goes without her texting you she will hopefully come back as she sees you doing just fine without or with her.
I messed a big time on mine over pursuing but still i did give space and didn't beg her when she ended things.
She should do all initiating
Should look into males who are high functioning on the autism spectrum (ASD). They process emotions very differently and it’s expressed very differently during and after a relationship
what are they typical time frames of each stage?
There is no time frame... You can go through all of the stages and be at stage 5. Wake up one day and be a stage 1 all over again.
Now what if the person who dumped you actually has an anxious attachment style?
They never do those!
Unless of course she's a narcissist
Not for everyone.