The XPAT. No Woman. No Problem. He's The Einstein of the Philippines.
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- Опубликовано: 20 сен 2024
- Xpat is a play on words. The X means no or none. These men are truly single. They have put off the decision to enter into a relationship until after they have created a life for themselves here. Thanks for watching.
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Brother Calvin, this message is brilliance cloaked in simplicity. Thank you for speaking on this and validating 'XPATS', like me. Nothing replaces a female. Like Tony the Tiger said, "They'rrrrr GREAT! But they're just NOT my highest priority now. My priority and my focus is on reducing my footprint in the U.S. and transitioning (successfully) to S.E. Asia. And I just don't have the bandwith, or tolerance to vet, vet, vet, and 'manage' some female, while I'm charting my course into my new life. Stress-free is the best me.
YES, STEP BY STEP 😊😊😊
I'm in the same position and process as you, reducing my footprint, but unfortunately let myself get sidetracked by a foreign woman who's not even in the country that I desire to retire to. Like you, I'm so glad I came across Calvin's message today! I'm on a fixed income now, and women don't seem to understand exactly what that means.
Great video big cal 👍 im back in the states checking on my Home my women calling me seems like every hour on the hour Filipino women take jealousy to another level 😅. Sometimes i wish i waited and enjoy more of the Philippines by myself.
Woo that is so relatable. WTH this jealously can be so huge. Definitely a turn off.
😁😁coz she knows u
I never knew about the jealousy being so common but funny thing..years ago a guy stayed with us who had a Fillipina wife. His job had made it easier to do this. His wife was living about 450 miles away but his work relocated and he would see her on weekends. He was a good husband and loyal but she called him all the time at all hours. I did not know then that this is kind of maybe normal.
"an expensive tour guide"...good points to think about.
All of the above. I love my woman but jealous as all hell. I could have visited every Filipina I was talking to and none of them would have known but I jumped in with the one I felt was the one. And she is. But LDR after being with her for the 10 weeks I did isn't easy at all. Trying to get back to stay but that's proving harder than I expected. Stay strong man.
“ No woman, no cry!” Good advice to your male subs, sir. We women already figured out after pandemic especially that we travel for the fun and experience! 🎉
The realist and most heartfelt advice given to date. Much respect
Hehehe That was me. Everywhere I went they couldn't stop inquiring about my relationship status and why I was alone. Nice
The XPAT is happy being a lone wolf.
XPAT 😅
@@calroach1 I changed it. Thanks
I am enjoying your videos my brother. I've been in Thailand for the past 9 years. I've only had one serious girlfriend. I've been single for the past 2 years. I'm picky and see no need to settle for just anything. Also, I'm learning that I like spending my hard earned money on me. Freedom and Peace of Mind are Priceless. I'm overdue for a trip to the Phillipines. My ex wife's mother was a Filipina. I haven't been there in about 25 or more years. I would love to meet up with you when I come over. Just let me know how to connect with you.
Stay free guys. Have some fun if you like but always stay free.
great topic Calvin
Guys, You need to watch this video multiple times. Please listen to Calvin!!!
I motorbiked all around the Visayas by myself. The locals could not fathom such a thing. Is your partner with you? I don't have a partner. Oh so your girlfriend stayed at home? I don't have a GF. Well where is your wife then? Etc. It made me laugh. They honestly thought I was confused or downright lying. Like everything in life, having a partner comes with benefits and drawbacks. To each their own. Cam
I Appreciate your unbiased and incessant expression of Truth and Experience Bro. Calvin!🤔
I'm 49 yrs of age, and I agree with you, we coming to The Philippines for Retirement! Not for Burdens or more Stressful Obligations..😳🙆🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤷🏾♂️
When I arrive in The Philippines, I'm going to Enjoy My Solitude and Freedom of Spirit and Mind!
I'm not trying to leave One Trap house in The States to come to The Philippines to get imprisoned in another!🤦🏽♂️
Thank U Calvin 4 Keeping it Real and Authentic!
And for not Selling Us Fantasies that will lead Us to Ruin!!!🤜🏽🤛🏾
You described me to a "T". We go through a lot in our lives, and listening to all the horror stories have kept me single and with peace of mind. We all are not here looking for a wife, kids, or just chasing. The Philippines has so much more to offer.
This is one of your best videos as far as information ideas and ways to go about things. And I really appreciate it cause I'm gonna be 60 By the time my kids are. Big
So hopefully when I hit the Philippines full-time. I'll know how to move and not restart the same mess over again.
Great advise . I’m here in the Philippines for two months . No woman no cry . Nice people here though and no hurry .
There are men too that go to the Philippines and live there to just enjoy the country, the beaches, sights and the restaurants, some expats are past that stag of life and can no longer satisfy a woman, so they move there for a better retirement and live good for a lot less than the west😊
Great video. The Xpat aka FreeMan lifestyle is becoming the most desired type of Life Men purse . That lifestyle is just shamed in the world because Men suppose to be “Overwhelmed with Overhead” and Utilities for people that don’t appreciate them. We’ve been conditioned so badly that we don’t really know ourselves until we’re Free. Think before you act Men!
Wise words Calvin, thanks for sharing your experiences with us all.
excellent
Hello Calvin. Very timely talk and advise. Hearing your every word. Cominng up on 1 yr here. Appreciate you.
Ace Parnell
Hello Ace! The guesthouse is waiting your arrival.
Probably one of the most important videos that I’ve seen on RUclips.
Thanks, i have been single for 12 years. i love making me happy. i was a good provider for my family. know im taking time for me. Most women are looking for a slave
Thankyou
I'm 56 and going through that same thing at the moment, I meet plenty of women that want to relationship me up, and they are nice top quality women, but I'm just not interested at the moment, I'm focused on my 6 years left until i retire and that's all my attention is on, not women...
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This is me …. I’ve given up dating in the West altogether, just not worth the effort/$/energy. I’m contemplating moving overseas ….. not for the women or the nightlife. I just want a better life with my savings. I can retire 10-15 years early and enjoy my life with less stress. After watching a lot of bloggers like u and Cooper I’m getting more courage to possible make the move soon. Thanks 🙏🏽
Thank you Calvin! The right committed relationship could be real nice I reckon, but being solo is certainly better than being with the wrong person. Freedom and peace are underrated. I have sacrificed a great deal of peace for a long time to maintain a relationship. I appreciate this reminder. Thanks again!
Wise words from a sage who is sorely needed to guide and mentor the new members of the Ex pat community.
Thanks John!
THE 360. Fair enough, fair warning. I took notes when you said. "If you don't have a target you can't hit the bull's eye." It looks to me like X marks the spot.
Excellent discussion! I'm so glad that I came across your podcast today. I'm fighting over the decision for the direction of my retirement life, I need to break a heart and not start over. Thank you Sunshine Shoulders!
Great video Sunshine....I've watched a few of your videos and really enjoy them. I really like your straight forward approach. This video has now become my favorite one. Very "Sound".."Sage" advice. I think your advice is "Spot On"....."Haste makes Waste".
Starting overtime at 70? No thanks. I’ll be 60 soon, so ‘I’m at that point in life when it’s time to make my after the wheel life plans of permanent vacation. 😎🏝️
Hey buddy I'm 80 and it's ok . Life is good if your healthy.
Thanks Calvin. Ive been to Negros O a couple times now just looking to retire there and learn the culture as you stated - before entertaining any relationship. Ive been single for 17 yrs so, tho sure, it would be nice to have the right woman, being single is a simple low drama life worth keeping as I focus on settling there. Youre right -Its just not worth the risk to my peace to get tied up in emotional commitments before enjoying the county independently for a time. appreciate your affirmation on that. Its not easy to avoid in the Phils but Im used to being on my own and can stay that way until the benifits outweigh the risks and burdens. Picky is just smart at this stage. Things will happen when the time is right - Im not going to rush it.
Solid advice
This video was awesome man. Thank you!
Wow this Brotha keep it 100 all the way
Shots fired!! I am that guy!!!😂
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Keep up the truth Calvin... We want to be a true xpat too... Very good topic today.... We do not want responsibility of a 30 year old man...
Thanks
Man I thank you so much for doing this video
Solid advice!!!
Calvin, very interesting 🤔. Having been married, now a widower. My children are grown and have children themselves. Been in the Philippines 🇵🇭 in 1991 at Clark Air Base back in the day in the Philippines. Now age 61. Contemplating retirement in the Philippines. I agree with your video on XPAT. I know it is best to enjoy retirement in the Philippines without being tied down. Relationships will always be there. Thanks Calvin.
Hello David and thanks for stopping by.
Great stuff Calvin, thanks
Wow Calvin you describe me to the t that's the way I want to see The Philippines and Thailand and I always thought if I needed some loving just go get me a bar girl for a night or tw 20:42 o great video brother 20:02
great video Calvin my position when i am in the Philippines is I am the prize which I choose the right girl at the right time. just relax and enjoy the Philippines. let the Filipina pull their hair out and wonder why you don't chase them.
Excellent Content!
What are you a magic man? Well you are right and it needed said.
Brother Calvin I was thinking about that same idea when I come to the Philippines to retire, you are right on the money!💪
Hello brother thanks for your support 💪🏾
Excellent advice! I agree Completely.
This is a great message for men….whats the point to run away from one shit to another pit
Excellent advice!
All your retirement money will deplete if you become a step father….dont do it
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Man these dudes flying across the world thinking they are gonna get away from the nature of women if I was in my 60s retired i would never get in a “serious” relationship because in no way do i want that responsibility i rather rent a different hottie every week and enjoy life by traveling all over getting to know the locals making life time friendships networking just truly being free and setting up where i will spend the last of my days.
I like the slow pace. Fast intimacy is likely false and naive.
But I can be invisible right where I am. Philippines is a long way to go for lone wolf travels.
What's Up Ken Folk See Ya Soon 😊😊😊😊😊😊
Uncle Calvin, thank you .
You're welcome. What's up brother!
Brilliant
Don't let women be your determining factor, live for yourself, pay for yourself..
There’s a theory that says the jealous ones are actually projecting their own desires to stray onto their partner. Sad but true at least sometimes.
The Nitty Gritty!!
Thank you sunshine shoulders I needed to hear this i just found out my Filipina was cheating on me no more i am done.
Oh man I'm sorry to hear about that. LDR?
@@calroach1 yes sir. Thanks again for the awesome videos
Amen brother...
I needed to hear this… thank you
Your video is filled with wisdom
Is he a 'sigma' male? Good on him!
He is not, hasn’t gone without a relationship. Can’t give up control. Calvin is alpha.
It is tricky to find your way around without a guide.
I'll be there next week!
No it's not. All the signage is in English and a good part of the population speaks English.
Good advice
This is why you have obsessed haters like myk going 24/7 about you, it's the ultimate compliment, they are insanely jealous and can only dream.
The X-Pat haven’t been fooled yet:) until he has to be a step father & having to support her mother, father brothers, sister, cousins & grand parents.. Why?
That's why he's an XPAT he knows how to avoid those situations.
Are you happy with the decision you made?? At least you are not lonely and bored.
Absolutely. But I talk about what goes on around me. I've made mistakes.
I’m planing on living there permanently. Women are not in my top 10 reasons.
That is so true about lonely and board we get them confused. We have to step back look at the situation
Gotta love the place first. P.S. I'm THAT XPAT!!
That is the way to do it. I'm not coming there for a woman. But for a good life and to kick back. Swim with the whale sharks and Island hopping to see just where i want to stay. Brother Calvin do you know any real estate agents and lawyers there? I will be getting a nice place and a car. I will be settled well before I ever even think about about a woman.
Please stay at least one rainy season.
Before you buy a car. A lot of men come here.
And realize.
That the philippines is not for them. Best of luck to you.I hope you have a wonderful life😊😊
if it flies, floats or F%#@*, rent it.
Some good wisdom right there
Retired, Healthy, in paradise, no kids to worry about, life in order. NO beautiful woman to share it with. Nope I'll pass 😂😂😂😂😂, i see a lot of CAP in the comments 😅😅😅
I'm envious of you having too much fun 😄.
I would love to get into a serious relationship but that is not my priority! When I visit I will be there to experience the people, places and cultures. 😊😊😊😊
Hey Calvin , is it frowned upon to date several women. Without getting the reputation of being a player before settling down.
Be careful what you wish for!
Thanks..just wanted to to know, like you said try to learn the system before settle down.
IF a guy can live alone in the Philippines without a babysitter then he will have the best life. Pathetic is the guy who can't take care of his own damn self without having a mommy/babysitter figure with him. YOU will not die if you don't get daily sex.
nice
LOL! John? You talkin' about TRICKIN'
I like the way you tell it bro😊
There are 2 segments of male travelers (tourists, expats, etc). The Family-oriented ones like Calvin who seek a partner, and Adventurist, who are not woman-driven. The guy that you are referring to is the norm, not the exception and I can practically guarantee you that The Philippines will not be a long-term home for him because the country offers limited diverse adventures. Philippines is ideal for Family-oriented guys because they are not frequent explorers or travelers. More like home- bodies.
Thanks for your opinion. How long have you lived here and which traveler are you?
That’s not an opinion, it’s basic Destination Marketing 101. Every country has a profile of the typical foreigner that their country attracts. That’s why you NEVER see country’s tourist offices mention another country in their promotions I have done this for over 30 years. The guy that you described in this video will definitely move to another country in a few years because he is in no rush to have a partner there, therefore he has no ties there (no girlfriend), and after he explores the country within a few years, he will want to move to another country and explore that country..
@charlesramsey1786 are you here? Thanks for watching.
@charlesramsey1786 I'm simply talking about men putting themselves first. I don't understand what video you watched.
Calvin, if a class of 30 college people watched and analyzed this video, there would be 30 diverse perspectives.
Yep it not like going to Hawaii
Hi, found you through Gelay's channel. I'm a Navy veteran and wondering how you get VA medical taken care of there? Unless being in quazon city
Man, good video. I’m not getting in a relationship over there what’s the point. I can get a wore out, single mom over here in the USA. Why get all the way over there and pick up someone else’s trash?
soar your oats in the Philippines first because Calvin is right when you in a relationship in the Philippines that's it the playing days are over.
Why do you and Regular Guy have so many Haters on Here!
Good question 🤔
The XPath got a different agenda
Shipmate: some of us want to live out our lives in peace away from the rat race. Maybe the Philippines is the place. I’ll be visiting this fall (2024) to see. I don’t need a woman to complete me.
Hey Calvin wassup?
Do a video about someone who works while living there.
If I'm able to find someone. I don't just do videos, I have to have some experience or knowledge on the subject.
If I'm able to find someone. I don't just do videos, I have to have some experience or knowledge on the subject.
If I'm able to find someone. I don't just do videos, I have to have some experience or knowledge on the subject.
IT IS EXPAT, NOT XPAT!!!!!!!
“There’s nothing wrong with masturbation, I’ve researched it.”
Kuya Cal 😂
😂😂😂
I'm in a "no masturbation relationship" 🤣
I don’t judge Kuya Cal! Do what you do 😂
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IF a guy can live alone in the philippines without a babysitter then he will have the best life. Pathetic is the guy who can't take care of his own damn self without having a mommy/babysitter figure with him.