@@dasdasdadadadad8915 1. The success of resentment is consistently causing suffering to the subjects of one's resentment till the death of the subjects. You may call someone who successfully takes everything from who he/she hates - but this resentful person also devotes a huge amount of his/her own time and energy to revenge. What a waste! imagining this resentful person's enemies heals themselves after all the dedication he/she put in. What's next? Be more resentful and waste more of one's life on revenge? But the enemies are stronger now because they survived your last attack. 2. Even if we don't argue it from the perspective of revenge, let's say a person lets spite and resentment motivate himself/herself to become more successful than the person s/he resents. Do you think that person being resented would give a sh*t about the resentful person's success? And would the resentful person still keeps the motivation after realizing nobody cares?
@@yyl7076 so..I won't feel... satisfied after.... giving them the same pain they gave to me...!? Idk...but anyways....I don't like being....so.... resentful...I still want to take revenge but.... sometimes I think that....,will I even win with these negative emotions !?
I'm a resentfull person and I agree with you a 100% that resentment is a choice, but its also a habbit. In January I got stooped by the cops because I crossed a red light on my bike, the only thing I felt for those officers was pure hatred; they where pretty polite to the end although I was realy disrespectfull without insulting them. Looking back it is as you said it felt like they where in my way.
I have similar situations. I feel hatred for others who barely did anything to me they may have been slightly rude or did something I really didn't want them to ect ect. It eventually fades I think but I don't want to keep feeling like that.
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
*I love my parents now, but I might have been resentful to them if I had never been rebellious* I love this video so much. Thanks for sharing. I agree-- there's no one to blame but yourself. You control your life! Here's my story: I grew up with strict parents. And of course, there's a point in my life where I felt like they were too restrictive about everything. I wasn't really allowed to go out often, invite people over, etc... My parents basically expected me to focus on studies and follow everything that they tell me to do. Otherwise, I would be a bad son and a disrespectful child. During my later high school years, I thought to myself "Enough is enough. If I don't rebel now, then I would waste my teen years being boring as fuck." I would regularly sneak out, try out different shit, and basically do anything that I thought was fun. I didn't think of the consequences because all I had in mind was "fun" I'm currently in my third year of college and I do not regret any of those experiences. I did what I wanted, and I enjoyed. I was free. *Now imagine if I kept listening to my parents and succumbing to that fear...* I would probably hate my parents now for wasting my teenage years. I would probably resent them for keeping me restricted when I could've been having fun. I would probably *blame* them for my lack of fun experiences. Thank god I had the balls to ignore the consequences and rebel. Not only did I have unforgettable experiences, but I actually love my parents now. My key take away is this: It doesn't matter what or who is in your way. If you don't work on what you want to do, then you will end up unhappy, hateful, and resentful. Find ways! Just wanted to share this story lol, if you're still reading this-- Hi!
@@ziziroberts8041 Yup lol I just felt like this was a good story to tell because one of my cousins never snuck out. She's almost 20 yrs old now and still have very strict parents. She has a toxic relationship with her parents. She always tells me how much she resents them, and that she can't wait to get her own job to finally do what she wants She's full of hate inside of her. But honestly, if she just chose to NOT follow her parents, I think she would've been happier. The resentment is only there cus she felt like her parents wasted her teen years and that it's their fault. But honestly, it's her fault for not going against the rules. She made her own choice
You need not follow your parents but it is wise to understand the reason why they might be saying. After all parents and kids both have only little brain and experience.
It’s true that you can’t prove that the “right” person doesn’t exist despite spending your entire life not finding them. However, you cannot deny the possibility that the “right” person also may not exist. It goes both ways. If Finn spent his whole life trying to look for the right person and didn’t find them, he can’t say that that person definitely did not exist as a conclusion, but there is an undeniable possibility that he might be right as well. Therefore, I don’t think the key to “avoiding resentment” is to always believe that there is something out there for me but I just haven’t found it yet. It might be true, but it might not. The key would be acceptance that you may or may not find what you are looking for your entire life. It is your unique journey and adventure. Nothing is promised, but lots of wonderful things might be waiting. Accept and exist as you are.
I think this is more realistic and helpful than the video. Yes, the video was explaining an idea. But some viewers like me might have perceived the video's title in another way.
we can’t change them at all. They can only choose voluntarily to let themselves be changed by something we say. But we can’t actively change them. But we can 100% control ourselves.
@Nugget I disagree, or else we don't have billion dollar marketing industry. It's not impossible to change people, but you need to constantly place your thoughts and opinions on visible places they see. A lot of countries for example, spend a considerable budget to Astrosurf comment sections of Reddit, RUclips, Facebook, tiktok etc to sway people.
YOUR VIDEOS DO NOT MOTIVATE ME. Whenever I feel lost in life I tend to go back to your new and old favourite videos and tune in while I tidy/clean. Every single time, I listen, I do not feel motivated but rather satisfied, calm and with peace in my mind. Rather than having a blurred map and having short bursts of motivation to find a new cool place, it feels more like the map is unblurred and I am able to navigate peacefully and reach the right destination. Your work is important, it’s been since 2019. (First time I’ve commented) If it’s what you enjoy do not stop, please continue this beautiful work as it truly helps those who sometimes feel lost in life. Thank you
resentment arrise from surrendering yourself to the darkness(means -- there is not way out) So we need to have hope every single second so that we can get rid of resentment/the feeling of hopelessness (golden rule)
Recently finished Genealogy of Morals Your interpretation and explanations are very helpful to me since it widens my perspective on polemics, readings, topics, and such! Thank you for the educational and entertaining video 😄
@@silent_stalker3687 I could tell you it was the one translated by Kauffman, but I'd be lying. 😆 I was able to read the one translated by Carol Diethe though You read Kauffman's?
@@silent_stalker3687 Thank you for the information! There were footnotes in the one I read, but I'll check Kauffman out in my future explorations of Nietzsche's works
The cynical part of me thinks this is easy if you have a home and are well fed. However if you're homeless, hungry and in pain and see people walk past and ignore you it's far more difficult to not be resentful. The video talks about losing faith in the world and entitlement but doesn't say anything about the things we are (or should be) entitled to, such as housing, medical care, food. I think it's understandable and even acceptable for people to be resentful if they can't get access to those things as it can drive change and get the structural inequalities to be addressed.
I just got out of four years of homelessness and have a huge amount of resentment to my ex and her father for putting me in the situation. Their actions have prevented me from having a good healthy relationship with my daughter who lives with her mother. I've been arrested wrongly and went through 4 years of barely seeing my daughter due to being homeless (the mother kept her from me and only let me have her at their place for visits and I'd sit through alienation from her while there so it just harbored more resentment which used to be towards her) I finally swallowed my pride and asked my mom to move back home. Was a hard pill to swallow but I knew I couldn't heal in the predicaments I found myself in. Hoping many of you get over this feeling because it is definitely one of the hardest things I've had to endure as an empathic person, I know my ex who hurt me hurts inside and I still care about her but her father made the relationship impossible to work and now I've become very jaded and can't allow myself to get into a relationship for fear of what happens to me in every relationship I've been in. I'm sure I am at some fault to some degree but the amount of damage they have done has been definitely cause for feeling resentment towards them. Embrace anger and fear and learn to become comfortable in those situations, it's hard but we're made strong enough to endure it. Hope you all have a great life and take care of yourselves out there! ❤️
In this decade we live in most COUNTRIES do provide some sort of assistance. That is what it means to be in a communal society, also the reason why we pay taxes. It is up to you to seek out the appropriate channel for your needs, and your responsibility to follow their rules if you want what they are offering. OR you can go out and forage for YOURSELF. No one is responsible for your well-being except for yourself. so suck it up. unless you were born and left out in the woods as an infant for wolfs to care. because your attitude is like a savage Homosapien
then your clueless becasue people with homes often carry more resentment then those without...... Being well fed is a completly diffrent topic, you can have rich parents who live in luxury and still dont give you enough to eat becasue they are narcissists. Life is complex. And hardships does NOT mean that people overcome them and see the other side. Some people are weak and bitter, some are never giving up and keep growing, thats all.
@@matthewpaugh7741 omg, all you had to do to get out of homelessness was to ask ur mom? and still u blame others? wooooow. I was thrown out of my mothers house and told I could sleep under a brigde and she didnt care, when I was 10. Becasue I could always go to my dads house who talked sexualy about my body every evening. Great. Sorry but I cant grasp how one can feel sorry for himself like this, when having a safe parent. You should watch this channels video on playing the victim....
You are doing a great job.... I watched great number of motivational videos...nothing helps like ur videos do.... sometimes I wonder how come such valuable information is for free!! I feel blessed to have come across ur channel!!! Thank you!! Keep up the good work, I look forward to it as it really helps.
RUclips pays 0.10 to 0.30 per ad view, so if he get 4 million views on this he could be making around $12,000+ from one video. It's not like no one is paying him for this content
@@akasha9597 true. It's just if they wanna shadow ban him, as they do so common with plenty of noncontroversial channels even, and such. Yee, we don't pay upfront, like Google Apps Store, it's the data tracked, as the great McAfee who exposed the American government more and such told us. 🤝🔥😎😻👌 That's amazing, absolutely, to get that much a vid! I would only hope. Hehe. Redistribute it into veganism. Hehe. 🤝🔥😎😻👌🌱💚
@@akasha9597 The original poster is referring to the ability to access this content for free, not that the person making the video is making it for free.
As a self-professed resentful person, this was insightful. I'd like to posit a few counter-arguments however. The conclusion of "keep up hope in the world" sounds optimistic and great. But the harsh reality is that lots of bad things happen to people, despite an abundance of hope. We can use a few examples. Let's say Finn's goal was not to find a woman/partner/love, but rather to buy a house to live in. He's a very nice guy, but he works a minimum wage job, has tens of thousands of student loan debt (that he was tricked into agreeing to when he was barely 17 years old because all his teacher/parents/authority figures told him to), and despite living well below his means, can barely save any money each month because a huge percentage of his earnings go straight to rent. He finds a house he wants to buy and walks into a bank to apply for a mortgage, the typical way most homes are purchased in our modern society. The bank takes a look at this meager savings, his high student loans, and his inability to even afford a down-payment, let alone the monthly mortgage payments. The banks rejects his loan application. Just as he is leaving the bank, he overhears a couple applying for a mortgage for the exact same house that he was just rejected for. The couple is from California, they work in tech, earn well north of six-figures, have zero student loan debt, an outstanding credit score, and their parents set up a trust fund 30 years ago that has grown handsomely over the years. The bank approves the couple's loan application. The couple buys the house using the loan that same day. They have essentially stolen the house right from Finn. Now, Finn obviously feels rejected and resentful, both towards the bank, and towards the California couple, as both have essentially blocked him from his goals. Now Finn can choose to naively have blind hope and naive optimism about "maybe I just haven't met the right house out there. I just have to stay positive." Well fast forward 20 years. Finn is now 50. Despite working hard, Finn never got much a financial edge, and was never able to qualify for a mortgage loan. He allowed his hope in the world to blind him that it was ever possible to afford a house in 2022-2023 when the housing supply was kept artificially low by politicians and home builders colluding together to drive up prices, by the Federal Reserve that has the privilege of setting interest rates and is allowed to legally print/counterfeit more money, by the Californians who had enormous purchasing power in buying a house due to how much their homes "appreciated" in value relative to the other 49 US states, etc. TL, DR: He never was able to achieve his dream of owning a home. What can we conclude from this all-too-common anecdote? Among several conclusions, we can conclude that hope in the world can be a very dangerous thing insofar as it is able to mislead you in your likelihood of getting what you want. For example, in our Capitalist world, if there are 100 people but only 65 houses, then 35 people will be unable to own a house. And the houses will be purchased by the 65 people with the most money. So it is IRRESPONSIBLE for Finn to continue clinging to hope that he will one day achieve his goal given that his earning power is two orders of magnitude lower than other buyers whom he is competing against. No amount of (false) hope in the world will change that Finn simply cannot compete against wealthier competitors. A house seller with 37 offers from different buyers will of course "choose" the highest offer. So Finn's meager offer is laughed at and ignored. The point is: it is dangerous to continue through life clinging to a hope that, in all likelihood, will not happen. A man who is 5'1" can have hope that one day he will play professional basketball in the NBA, but that hope is dangerous since he is extremely likely to be rejected in favor of other candidates who are 7'3". Competition among people in a society for limited resources is what causes this conflict, this being "blocked", and the logical resentment that arises from being blocked. Competition breeds resentment among the people who are left out, as it should. Competition among people for scarce resources is what leads to some people not getting what they want, not achieving their goal, which inevitably leads to resentment. For example, with regards to women, biology has well documented the phenomenon of sexual competition of many males for females, who get to choose which male to mate with. This choosing will inevitably lead to one winner and several losers (rejects). One of Nietzsche's chief complaints about Christianity was how it espoused not desiring things that people actually desired. In this way, it rationalized that remaining in poverty and lying to oneself about not wanting things that they ACTUALLY DID WANT was rebranded and marketed as a value (e.g. "it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter heaven."). Nietzsche argued that this was fundamentally lying to oneself. In the US (and much of the western world today), there is an unspoken social contract: Work hard and you too can achieve your dreams of a family, a house, a good job, etc. This known as "the American Dream". In reality, however, this social contract has been completely fractured in recent years: hard work and focus in no way guarantee that you will achieve your goals of the American Dream. When a society's culture pushes beliefs about the world onto its people, and when the harsh reality of the world directly conflicts with those beliefs that had been indoctrinated into its people, this will inevitably lead to the people feeling that they have been lied to. That their society promised something that it was unable to deliver on. This leads to disappointment and resentment. It is, at its core, a conflict between the promises given by a society which are subsequently broken by the society that leads to this resentment.
We should all keep this in our minds when an artist says no to your request to use their work or make something for you just because they are willing to pay money to that artist it doesn't work that way
Question on a few things you said, "There's someone/something for me" My understandings and interpretations of these works (and even taken from and reinforced by some of your videos) is that it's an ever changing and evolving spectrum of possible outcomes that can all be considered more positive or negative depending on personal perspective. Meaning there is no "ONE" person, purpose, or meaning for one persons life but infinite chances to make it the best possible for yourself. Would you disagree with any of that?
Very nice, yes, Nietzsche has a good collection of philosophical ideas. However I also think, that there are plenty of other authors too, ehh😀😀 however you are more focused on Nietzsche, well I like that too😀😀
To be frank, this sounds like victim-blaming with extra steps, demanding people lie to themselves & blame themselves if they can't succeed at what they want or are otherwise put into difficult situations. Yes, how one reacts to something is within a person's control, as is their general attitude. However, that doesn't mean there is actually a possibility out there for you to achieve what you want, and to say "you just have to believe it is possible, or else you yourself are the problem" (what this particular video amounts to) is an asinine conclusion to come to.
I don't like this interpretation. It feels faulty. Resentment becomes natural if you are for example forced into circumstances you do not want to be in. You could choose to not be, but at what cost. Now again this is about finding love. A subject that hits close to home. Idk, it's the idea of needing to look tirelessly without even wanting an outcome. Because hope will bring fear and disappointment. But only if you do that its true and there is no need for resentment, because paradoxically then it magically will work. If it doesn't, you didn dew it good enuf so it no false. Sounds very sus. That ain't science. My personal advice? Abandon all hope. Fear will also go.
1) Resentment is not hate. 2) About hate I believe you'd like to read what I wrote on my channel. 3) Really? "It's unfalsifiable so it can't be false"? Come on man!
I was just recently reading a book citing his studies and pursuit [Frankl] and now I am here. Nothing indeed is a coincidence. And so as this clip popping out of nowhere at my time of distress and confusion. May we all find our way through folks. Keep the faith.
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Mind your own matters, because it matters if you don't mind. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
I think you missed the opportunity to clarify that im order to get what you want, you need to work in you adaptation to that apparent obstacle to prove it doesn’t exist. Example the virgin dude working on himself hitting the gym and taking advice to finally start meeting women. A student studying harder to get grades instead of accepting defeat. You can always work your way around a problem without resentment, which comes for the assumption that a given problem doesn’t have a solution and you blame on others instead of finding it yourself.
This is such a narrow context for resentment. Dude can't get a gate.... What about resentment that is built up because agreements are not met? Promises aren't kept? What about resentment in a parent child relationship.. What if the child doesn't feel loved by the parent.. Was the child wrong in feeling entitled to that?
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Mind your own matters, because it matters if you don't mind. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
I disagree that the solution is hope, although hope can be part of it. You have to weigh the costs and benefits. Using the example of Fin, he needs to ask himself what price he's willing to pay and what he's willing to risk in order to find the woman of his dreams. Everyone wants stuff, but when you weigh the costs and benefits we may decide that something we want is too expensive and even if we could afford it, there are more important things we'd like to do with those resources, and move on. This is why the MOST entitlement can be seen in regards to "free" stuff like government programs. This is because the costs are negligible, so people become entitled. The cure for entitlement is knowledge of the price, and the decision of whether or not the price is worth it. If you decide that you don't want to assume the costs of risks of looking for "the one" and would rather do something else you find more enjoyable, then there is no resentment. You've made a conscious choice to use your limited time and resources in a way you find fulfilling, and maybe you'll re-evaluate your decision if the "price" comes down, but that's not your problem. Again, hope can be part of this thought process. You can "hope" the price comes down to something more reasonable, but if not, you're not resentful for the high price, and there are almost always low-cost alternatives if you're willing to accept them.
Read Victor Frankles book. The op mentioned hope in reference to his book. I know on a surface level hope seems pretty unstable and intangible but when you hear someone talk about hope, when hope it literally the only thing getting you to the next day, it takes on a new meaning
Oh shit. Monkey is in the house! I had this video on one my tabs when you talked about this on the show. You are still not shadow banned for some reason.
Jordan Peterson once said that women choose who gets to reproduce and who does not, which determines who's geneticists get to live forever and who's do not. This determines who gets to live forever and who does not. This makes those who get rejected feel like they have to die and watch while others get to live. This makes the rejected feel like God created those who get rejected purely for the purpose to be created, be told they are not worthy, and then eventually die. Thus in this model, the women are the thing in the way to eternal life, but in reality the rejected are mad at God for making oneself into something that women do not desire. I think this is particularly difficult when a person sees countless women give them selves to men who are not "good" but in fact very bad boys, while rejecting men who kind and decent and willing to do right by the woman. I believe the only thing I ever (stupidly, admittedly) felt entitled to was a world that made any kind of sense at all what so ever. They tell me that God is good, and wants me to be good. Yet He grants eternal life to those who are bad men, while casting the kind and respectful aside to die. I never felt that a woman owed me her body, or access to it. That sounds strange to me, to expect a woman to give her self to me and while I've seen men act that way, I never identified with those feelings. But I still to this day, can not understand why God created such illogical insane people (women) to be the companion of man. To create us, abandon us on this rock (earth) and leave us (men) to compete with each other for eternal life, only to leave us to fickle and arbitrary judges to make the most important decisions for all of humanity. I don't know folks. Sounds like kind of a dick move to me.
@@anymouse6169 you won't escape death if you have a child and if you believe in god then you won't even die so why would you care? Don't you think that maybe you have to reorient and find something else that you want to do and can do? Life isn't storymode, it's just a sandbox so don't get depressed over something that wasn't in the cards.
Nothing wrong with anger, as long as you have something to be angry about. This also applies to anxiety, depression and resentment. Pay attention to how you feel, get to know yourself and learn from your experiences. If you feel resentment towards someone, disregard them. They may be toxic. Trust your feelings above everything else.
''resentment'' is the hate someone have for injustice. trying to not be ''resentful'' is like trying to accept the injustice. conclusion: ''resentment'' doesn't exist. it's just a deceitful word to make you acquiesce your perceived injustice.
I think why love was your resentment example is because it's so common. We're told at a young age that we are all deserving of love. But we quickly find out that was a lie, and we don't deserve a thing. So it turns into the people that find love repeating the mantra that we all deserve love, and those that were cast aside grumbling that it's all a bunch of bologna. Then we're bombarded with the mantra that if you aren't experiencing love, it must mean you're either a terrible person or unlovable. That just seals the deal.
It is good advise not to get consumed with resentment, but not good to think that Nietzsche is a wise philosopher to follow. He was openly racist and endorsed slavery. He disparaged the value of showing mercy. He was arrogant and believed that "supermen" like himself should dominate over inferiors. In a world drifting toward dangerous authoritarianism, seeing Nietzsche resurrected as some kind of wholesome life coach is like seeing a pedophile offering sweet candy treats in a playground. The worst fascists are not the mere brutes, but the "philosophical" fascists who think that they have some kind of intellectual deep-think about how things should be.
3rd option. At the end of Finn's life, he said: some people, how ever long they search, never find the love they long for. Despite their fondest wish, they will live their lives alone and they will die alone. I am one of them. The countless rejections did not send me into a rage, or left me simmering in resentment. Instead they left me in quiet despair. I have thought long on possible causes of the many romantic rejections, and the one constant that keeps turning up is my self. First, i grew weary of searching. Then i lost faith in my self. Then i gave up my search and made my peace with the likely fact that i would never find someone to share my life with. I find the idea that the world, or women, owes me anything quite absurd. I tried, and eventually failed. It is as simple as that.
It's true, the world doesn't technically 'owe' us anything... _however,_ never forget that the opposite also applies - namely, _you_ don't owe the _world_ anything either! Basically, live life for yourself, & do what you can to find your own happiness, or at least whatever passes for it... if there's one thing I've learned in this cold, harsh life, it's that no one else is gonna GIVE you that happiness - you need to seek & find it for yourself. I hope you succeed. Best of luck to you.
I feel the same. I am female and 50. I have never got married or started a family. I used to feel a little resentful, now I no longer feel resentful and I'm not hopeful either, If I allow myself to think about it I feel despair and sadness. I try not to think about it. I have a dog and I love him and he loves me.
As for myself, I just really don't want to commit to any relationships even though I used to fantasize about being in a relationship a lot before. I don't have a very good emotional wellbeing. I lash out quite fast because I just don't trust people who do good things for me anymore. And for that reason, I vowed to myself not to commit to any relationships. I don't want my partner to have to handle that hurtful part of me. Especially if we get to have a daughter/son, I don't want them experiencing the same things I experienced from my family. And after holding this vow close to me for a few years, it just dawned on me that I actually don't mind being single up until the end of my days. Why? Because I have friends that are there for me. And honestly, it's more than enough for me. Knowing that there are actually good people out there for me. And most importantly, I wouldn't have a child that would suffer the same way that I did. That thought brings me so much comfort. However, I also really would have loved to bond with my child if I had one. And it makes me sad thinking about it. But if it meant they wouldn't have to suffer like I did, then I'd be more than willing to experience this sadness for as long as I live and more. Yeah, I really would stick to this promise of mine. Thanks for listening to my Ted talk!! 😂
A very oversimplified, narrow perspective on resentment. Resentment is a feature not a bug. When you feel resentment, it is not to be ignored or dismissed as a personal character flaw in yourself, but to be reflected upon to discover how you feel wronged/oppressed/taken advantage of, and then take actions to change or avoid the situation which causes you to feel resentful. To resolve the situation. Your video would be better directed at choosing to wallow in resentment. Wallowing is resentment is a choice. Even then, the entitlement component of your presentation seems backwards. That entitlement can lead to resentment, that’s sound. That resentment is caused by entitlement? That math is off. It can be, like in your examples, but many other causes of resentment would leave you grasping for straws and really reaching to insert entitlement as a factor.
I am leaving here the comment for someone who has lost the faith, hope of a better life and a light to a brighter light. I pray to the lord for your prosperity and wellbeing. Amen.
Very true. The only one who stands in your way is yourself. Unfortunately, most people need someone to blame to get ahead in life because it's easier to use scapegoats, rather than going for what they truly want with fearlessness and courage. Because you see the reality is, there's usually no one standing in your way whatsoever, it's just you yourself who are terrified and scared of actually achieving something without pointing your fingers at someone else. That is the stone-cold truth, and that is why the world is so messed up right now with this men vs women bullshit, and boys growing up to become girls and vice versa. We're not going to have a functional society as long as this BS keeps up. It's just going to get worse for everyone.
Actually, sometimes lack of coin, crews, connections, clout, control, computer code, communities, and opportunities stand in the way of success for individuals. But those things aren't available to every human on Earth (by default). One must learn to remain in their own lane. Often, that 'lane' is slavery. 💪😎✌️ It is what it is.
The thesis "There's a place in this world, and a way to that place, for everyone which can't be denied by anyone except for themselves", cannot be definitely proven false, but, in its current state, cannot be proved true either. Choosing to believe this thesis to be true (or false) is an act of faith. Is it even necessary to elaborate on the fact that one of Nietzsche's primary goals was to eradicate every metaphysical faith altogether?
I think what he meant is the goals we set for ourselves and how our resentment and rage might prevent us from reaching them, unless we convince ourselves otherwise
Entitlement isn't the only thing that leads to frustration. In fact I think a much better one is the lack of understanding how things (and people) work. At least that's what it was in my case. And it just turned out that I didn't have good role models and I was light-years away from success, and that even when I was doing the right thing in one aspect for a while, I'd still not get any positive results because I was lacking in so many other areas. So there was like no possible system for me to even get logical feedback. You can't believe how frustrating that is! Thank god I eventually did come out the other side before becoming a psycho. 😬😀 So it's really sad that many men face this exact situation.
"Entitlement" is, sadly, one of the current trendy buzzwords. It's such an easy stone to throw at someone else, and is used by several different groups to vent their righteous "woke" anger. Yes, there is a great deal of entitlement behavior, but not as much as some would have us believe. Each and every one of us is struggling to just get through the day as best we can, but it's a struggle. It's not.. possible for anyone to get everything they want; a lucky few get the majority of their needs and wants met, but obsess about what they don't have; others get less on a sliding scale and they stress, also. Many years ago, I read a quote that pretty much sums it up : "Adult life is just an elaborate continuation of the kindergarten drama - two kids and one cookie."
Ooh petition to share this in incel and "not like other girl" spaces. But on a more serious note - incredible video, thank you for your hard work. As someone who was once heavily resentful due to chronic health problems and relationship failures, letting go of resentment and taking more accountability for my life has done wonders for my mental and physical health. And I was in a DARK place. I had to let go of blaming shitty medical professionals, romantic partners and friends who didn't stay by my side, and even my parents - who were not entirely supportive during the first couple of years of my struggles. Resentment is ugly, it eats at you alive. It physically damages your health, f*cks up your mental health, and your whole perception of the world. Truly, genuinely loving myself and accepting everything that's happened to me, and believing that I did deserve a better future (and that future was up to me) was truly, truly lifechanging.
Well now, there’s a difference between resentment for being mistreated and allowing that resentment to shape your view on a whole group of ppl or the world.
Would it be possible for someone to have lost hope, not in the world but in themselves? They do not blame the world for their misfortunes or rejections, but only blame themselves.
"The key to stop resentment is to never lose hope in the world". What!? If somebody is resentful is because too many shitty experience made him lose hope in the world in the first place, he will never get hope in the world thinking that "there's a girl/something out there that one day.." cause maybe he was a valid person unlike that absurd example about Finn who thought every woman was an object. First of all, literally every guy I know who doesn't care about women's feelings treating them like objects ALWAYS get girls, secondly the example is misleading cause you're assuming that resentment comes from a petty person, but in many case it's the most kindhearted that gets in the resentment trap after being eaten by people. What do you say to a good person who always cared about people and their feelings, thinking that there are definitely MANY good girls out there for him and many "places who can't be denied(or whatever your motto was)", and that only after many many bad experience has become resentful? NOW he had lost hope in the world, and I can tell you that this video is completely useless for him. This video is not for the ones who really suffer, unless you're a douche like "Finn".
Stop using Nietzsche name to promote your own blue pill opinions please. You should put state that this is your opinion not actually what Nietzsche wrote at the start of the video. Having it at the end of the video is just disrespectful.
This is a naive and misinformed approach to resentment and your examples. Men don't become resentful from outright rejection, women do. Men appreciate a polite or respectful rejection. Also, men become frustrated at their own inadequacies when presented with many rejections and blame themselves. They don't believe they're entitled to women. That's insanely stupid of an idea.
I really agree with all of this but I'd like to read the book itself to see if it mentions the cases of when someone makes a very painful wrongdoing, being the most open and crude example from personal experience, someone who has been a victim of child abuse / sexual abuse, I know it's a very specific and painful example but it adds to the scale of grays that I'd like to explore about such topics mixing with my own personal experience, growth and healing process with proper teaching within the condominiums of philosophy. Great work nontheless Freedom in Thought, your videos have been really nurturing and it adds best to the future researches that I'm finding the time to do.
It does not. Nietzsche is not a self-help philospoher, this whole essay is pure bullshit made by the guy behind the channel. The name of Nietzsche in the title is used purely becouse of pseudo intelectual reasons of the author to shield his thinkings and has nothing in common with his writings. Nietzche was not a happy man.
@@skullcrusher9873 indeed he wasn't, if he was he wouldn't have had the moments that are written about his personal life, specially when he yelled at the working horse saying "I know your pain" I think that was near at the end of his life. Alas, despite that if he didn't wanted others to get better on their own then why the concept of the Ubersmench? Why then, despite all his suffering, his words speak about how the human can and should be the best out of itself with his own determination and humanity?
@@skullcrusher9873 At least it's what I can get that despite his suffering and his unhappiness he really did wanted others to use what he wrote among other things to get better, this reflects better on the fictional stories that get inspirations from him like the Japanese Manga Berserk among other tales from around the world, good stuff
@@skullcrusher9873 well. abit late to the party. but you know what they says. echo chamber and sheeps. the buzzwords these days. i was scrolling through the commentary and seeing how everyone agree with what this dude says. lol its damn funny. he's doing some guilt trip shit that a self-proclaimed "NLP (neuro linguistic programming) guru" used in my country a decade ago. in fact, he sounded extremely entitled himself in the entire video, assuming that most people in life has everythign he has, or at least he assumes his audiences do. capitalizing on the weak and feeble minded. over 2000 years. human never learned a shit from history
I would question the "voluntary" in the abandonment of faith. It is true that in the end you choose to loose faith. However, if pain is the thing, which is most real to man and if people don't see any way to relieve the pain over many years and struggle to find any meaning in it, I think it is really hard to keep your faith. In the end, as your potential slowly wanes, time will erode everything and only a very few, very strong willed individuals will be able to keep their hope and therefore not become resentful. In a way, it is a rigged game. If people are nudged in a certain way by their pain, could you really call that "voluntary"? What I would call voluntary, however, would be to choose to resist but that only applies for as long as you have the energy to do just that. If you do that carefully and watch that you don't spend yourself to quickly, you can keep up your resistance for quite some time, maybe long enough that things might get better. But not everybody will do that.
Hello, what program do you guys think he uses to create these awesome slides? I am a teacher and I will like to use it with the kids as one of my tools. Thanks
i want to really believe this, but when i got the police called on me JUST for visiting my mom's house. the person who called the police lied and said i broke in. i was only saved by the Ring doorbell when my mom spoke through it.
When life throws rocks at you, it hurts when it hits you but no one will decide what to do with the rocks for you. And only you can choose to blame life for throwing you rocks Remember being resentful towards life will only keep you in your comfort zone and nothing grows there
*_To find it yourself, or to abandon that one thing you long for..._* *_It's like the gold at the end of the rainbow. Though it is a fantasy, you can still choose to keep on looking, or you can turn away from it. Somehow, I ended up struggling in trying to put a stop to this cycle of hatred. It stems from my personal past, then to feeling like I was too obedient, and then to the point that my future is being decided._* *_I've... No... I think we're all guilty for "Entitlement". My true goal is to actually bring dreams to reality through the best I can do. That's why I'm so deeply passionate with art, music, and other things related to the digital side, including ones that could contribute to evolution. I wanted to inspire others, but though my mind wants revenge by doing the things they will never see in the future, to become someone that they will never live up to, some part of my soul tells me to not back down._* *_To not abandon this so-called "Hope"... Hopes in dreams._* *_The works of others that captivate me... still give me hope, especially to people I talked to, who are like elite artists. Honestly, I'm proud of their progress. It saddens me, yet angers me that artists had to suffer the hardest path to achieve the biggest dream: Inspire the World._* *_That's why I say to myself, "The road to the Creator will always be the hardest. To create something you love most, you must face tribulations."_*
Important video. Society taught me if I want someone with all my heart, and show her that I want her badly, she will also want me. Wrong teaching. As a result I became obsessed with someone, and the trauma did not yet heal after rejection.
You have a beautiful mind. I think I'm having a breakthrough, only by watching a couple of your videos, even though I'm on this path of freeing myself from unpausable suffering for a long time. Well deserved number of followers. That happens rarely.
Men are not entitled to women's attraction, but women are not entitled to men's commitments, protection and money either. I remember the woman being raped in the train and was not helped by any man... it will get worse. Fins can leverage this and improve being stronger, richer and committed to his own goals. That way he can use his own resentment for his own good.
I don’t want that in my life no more, I release all that back to the world and I am responsible for myself. And I pray for hope and faith to return in my life 💜🤲🏾
I haven't become resentful towards women or the world because of my relationship failures. I've become resentful towards the never ending increasing expectations within those relationships. I think my expectations have always been reasonable but that the expectations of my partners is always so much more than I'm capable of that I just stopped trying as a matter of acceptance, not resentment. Ive felt feelings of resentment when other people insist that I want something other than what I want though because thats what they want or thats what they want me to want. Its like never ending psychological judo 🥋
Great video, I think the whole ressentiment analysis is spot on. The only thing I’d like to know more about is what would Nietzsche think of entitlement. Is the ubermensch entitled? Does our Will to Power have the right to desire all that it wants?
Nietzsche would deny that we'd have a right to anything. He would say that there's only strong wills and weak wills. He uses an anology in Genealogy of Morals where lambs hate birds of prey that hunt and eat them.The lambs are resentful because they are the weaker ones and this leads them to think of those stronger than them as evil. But the birds of prey don't hate the lambs back. This is what ressentiment actually is to Nietzsche. It's a transformation of weakness into a hate of strength. To call an unbermench entitled would according to Nietzsche be ressentiment. He would see it as a way for "the weak" to try to hold "the strong" back with morality.
I am ugly. And i understands this completely. As a younger child (like 8 and down) I was a "normal " kid a "normal " person. But as i grew older like 9 and up i grew frustrated bc around the time i was 8 going on 9, getting called ugly was/is a consistent n my life. Children my age tended to avoid me boys despised me, and i went from an outgoing kid to a shy shadow of a girl who was no longer. As i grew older nothing changed infact things got worse. I started to experience colorism and racism. And to top it off the hate I'd get for being ugly. As i became more quiet and reserved i became resentful. I hated my parents...deeply. esp my mom bc she admitted that she didn't find my sperm doner not even the slightest but physically attractive. Just his personality ( which wont work 4 me cus im a girl guys dont care about a women's personality if she isn't pretty.... trust me . I KNOW .) Now in am 20 and just getting out of another faild " relationship " ( he said i was nice amd kind and caring but... just not good looking enough to take serious:) . I dont plan on anything else iml atp idk what im doing or y im here
Expanding on the very misunderstood emotion of resentment. It is not good to wallow in resentment, and because everyone mostly agrees that wallowing in resentment is not good for you, some bad takes on resentment have developed. Some bad takes include viewing the feeling of resentful is wrong or bad. That, if I feel resentful, then I am doing something wrong or bad. That the feeling itself is wrong, and you are in the wrong for feeling it. And this was never supposed to be the way that the consensus was supposed to be interpreted. To WALLOW in resentment is bad FOR YOU. You are not bad or wrong for feeling it, it is simply bad FOR you to remain so. Indeed another such bad take, based on the aforementioned bad take, is when the oppressor asserts that the oppressed is wrong for feeling resentment. When resentment is misunderstood as being wrong, a shameful sin to even feel in the first place, this enables the worst take of all. That the slave is wrong for resenting his master.
Thank you for your detailed explanation. But could I ask you for one more question? This question has plagued me my whole life and I can't find an answer to it: If a person genuinely tried everything for his goal, and the world still denies him, is he justified to be resentful towards God? For example, is the people in North Korea justified to be resentful toward God for being born in North Korea? It seems to me that those people only exists to pay the sins of their fathers. And they are left to be doomed.
@@unitedtomato5444 It sounds like you have already done the work in exploring that resentment. You've identified why you feel that way, and you have done no wrong or evil in feeling that way. Being dealt a bad hand in life is not just. (by common widespread morality, Nietzsche's 'slave morality') Having believed in God myself for 27 years (I was a super-christian), I found the most peace in the idea that God works in mysterious ways, that we can't know his plan for us, and that he tests us with what he knows we can handle. I think you have every reason to be resentful if you were led to believe that you would be rewarded for doing right by God. But you are in a catch-22 in that God cannot be guilty or wrong, so feeling resentment toward him must be what it wrong. But resentment is a natural feeling that God gave you, and it isn't to be ignored. So in order to not wallow in resentment toward God, whom cannot have wronged you, it would be best to identify whatever you think was promised to you as a misinterpretation of God's word, or that you have a misinterpretation of God's reward. * Maybe God's reward will come as a result of your faith and loyalty to him after your death. If you are tempted to feel guilty about your resentment, you can always view it as a selfish expectation to be rewarded in life. * Maybe God's reward was miscommunicated by the human men who wrote the words down on the paper. * Maybe God's reward was misinterpreted by the human men who read the words that were written on the paper by human men. If you are stuck in a catch-22 of God's inability to have wronged you, yet your God given sense of resentment is telling you that you have been wronged, you can process how and why you are feeling wronged in such a way that God is not at fault of this. You can always choose the guilt route, that your sense of resentment is due to entitlement or wishful thinking, as this video oversimplifies. In the end though, the important thing is to process the resentment and not wallow in it. THAT is what is bad FOR YOU, the WALLOWING in it. You having specified an omnipotent being (whom you believe in) as the one you feel resentment towards certainly complicates things, because the omnipotent being cannot be wrong. But even if you choose the route of guilt, or feeling that your resentment toward God was based on a misplaced entitlement, don't for a second assume that everywhere else in life that you feel resentment is also a misplaced entitlement. Both Gods and men (and even moreso women) will tempt you to process your resentment as guilt, because your guilt is a valuable commodity, worth a lot of money. So before short-circuiting your brain and doing mental gymnastics to try to see how the resentment is OBVIOUSLY your own shameful entitlement 🙄, definitely THINK about it first. Because denying other's wrong-doing will not solve your problem. Staying in a situation which is causing you to feel resentful, will cause you to stay stuck in resentment. Your resentment is telling you something, its not a bug, it isn't to be ignored, and its nothing to feel ashamed of or guilty about.
@@unitedtomato5444 Also remember that the example given in this video is an EXTREME example, bordering on being a strawman. And I don't mean to insinuate that you are strawmanning, but your question is also an extreme example, man vs GOD. Using a man vs woman example was extreme because it is an example in which humans are incredibly biased. Even when man or woman is wrong, we are still incredibly biased to the extent that we will turn off our brains, and accept guilt. If this video were to use a more good faith example, he would have used an example of man feeling resentment towards another man, or a woman feeling resentment towards another woman. My counter is to use a black slave's resentment toward a white master, if we are going to use extreme examples. Is the slave's resentment towards his master misplaced resentment as well? Certainly not. If we are to use a non-extreme example, we could say a white male boss giving a verbal promise to a white male employee that he would get the promotion if he reached a certain quota in sales. And when that employee reached his quota, the boss hiring somebody else for the position instead of promoting the employee as promised. Yes, there is certainly such a thing as misplaced-resentment, as this video uses as an example of, but not all resentment is misplaced. Most resentment is not misplaced. And even when dealing with misplaced resentment, it should still be explored and processed with the goal of understanding it, as opposed to feeling guilty about or ashamed of. Because you will still wallow in resentment, or guilt, until you gain an understanding of it. Whether misplaced or not, the resentment itself is NOT what is wrong or bad. It is the WALLOWING in resentment that is bad FOR YOU.
@@DummyFace123 Thank you! You have opened so many doors for me to interpret God's words. You really cleared up my mind by pointing out that God cannot be wrong. I just became Christian recently. I think my rational mind is playing a trick on me. Because it tells me a million reasons why my resentment is justified. But the motivation behind it might be that it justifies sloth and cynicism. And I shouldn’t wallow in resentment. Your words are beyond kind. God did a good thing when he created you.
Real life is more, INFINITELY MORE complicated than any tenet in any philosophy. This vid has truth but it's simplistic: Nietzsche and all philosophers didn't couldn't know anything about the effects of brain chemistry on thinking, and had never walked in any shoes but their own. And, it is considered almost 100% certain now that Nietzsche didn't go mad from syphilis, that he never contracted it, but that his eventual insanity was a latent fate that his philosophy helped to mitigate initially, but perhaps had partly engendered in the first place -- factor that in, and take Nietzsche with a large grain of salt.
“There’s a place in this world and a way to that place for EVERYONE which can’t be denied by anyone except for themselves.” I want so badly to believe this, but after 60 years of searching and not finding that place, I’ve lost hope. In your example, Finn never finds his place… the woman who he’s looking for. So if he did not find his place, then he did not find the path to get there, and that’s his own fault? Sounds like a recipe for self loathing & blame.
The causality of resentment could be many things and nothing to do with entitlement. While this may have been Nietzsche's reason, it's only one of many possible reasons. You could have resentment because someone hurt a loved one, wronged another, etc.. .
When I was young I looked at old people and thought "Who owes you a padded life?" Now that I am old I find that reminding myself of that question helps quell the resentment common to lots of old people: resentment of the fact that the world of our past, the world we had finally figured out and could handle, has *changed* and it will never change back.
5:49 ‘Oh, I’m not resentful’. No shit. Look deeper; everyone is resentful- some have good reasons. For example, I resent that this world is led by idiots. Whereas everyone has the right to be an idiot in private, this right doesn’t extend to the public sphere. On a micro- level, if anyone insists on standing in my way, I will bulldoze them. I’ve been nice to my detriment for too long.
Resentment can be good if we all resent the worldwide military and defund them from taxes for worldwide peace though... Or resent weapons and wants to dismantle them worldwide, etc... Depends on the goal. Might not be healthy for the body though.. Weapons on a round globe.. Idiocy.. Hope we will survive them... I watched one youtube war video and they where standing in-front of a tank with weapons, war painted faces and joking for the cameras as ..yeah i feel resentment when i think of the military. Or the video i saw and the smiles of some like: "huhu goosh kinda smile we are so innocent war criminal terrorists let laugh at the camera boys and joke some gwuphuhuhu."... It's just so stupid.. They they fire away those bombs and destroy the fun for everyone.. Killing old people, etc.. In the next clip.. Sure some can have sympathy, but we need to dismantle weapons. How.. figure that out.. How do we remove them from taxes worldwide?.. resentment.. It's not healthy. Hope we survive the worldwide military though, we need to have some kind of control over them.. No more money for them worldwide..
Rejected entitlement = resentment....nope..not buying that one. For me; A promise or commitment is made, maybe even legally in a contract such as marriage vows. Now there is a bond made between the two or more entities. Expectations exist that all will adhere to the contract, verbal or otherwise. Resentment appears when the trust is broken. Maybe that's "entitlement"? Am I entitled to expect the other person will honor the contract? Not really! Personal history tells me many people don't honor contracts or verbal promises. The word of day is EXPECTATION and loss of trust.
While I think you hit the idea of resentment on the head, I believe you grossly mistake Nietzsche's writings about resentment, especially when it comes to blame, as he never really spoke of blame.
its so true
Ive never seen anyone carry resentment and win at the end
This is false, you have not been looking enough then.
@Lord Hendrickson But Keyaru is a fictional character so that technically don't count as a real example
Michael Jordan and his toxic winner mentality, he literally made enemies and fueled off of hatred lol
@@dasdasdadadadad8915 1. The success of resentment is consistently causing suffering to the subjects of one's resentment till the death of the subjects.
You may call someone who successfully takes everything from who he/she hates - but this resentful person also devotes a huge amount of his/her own time and energy to revenge. What a waste!
imagining this resentful person's enemies heals themselves after all the dedication he/she put in. What's next? Be more resentful and waste more of one's life on revenge? But the enemies are stronger now because they survived your last attack.
2. Even if we don't argue it from the perspective of revenge, let's say a person lets spite and resentment motivate himself/herself to become more successful than the person s/he resents.
Do you think that person being resented would give a sh*t about the resentful person's success?
And would the resentful person still keeps the motivation after realizing nobody cares?
@@yyl7076 so..I won't feel... satisfied after.... giving them the same pain they gave to me...!?
Idk...but anyways....I don't like being....so.... resentful...I still want to take revenge but.... sometimes I think that....,will I even win with these negative emotions !?
That something is impossible to be proven doesn't mean that it is false. (Sintaxis is not equivalent to semantics)
Amen
I'm a resentfull person and I agree with you a 100% that resentment is a choice, but its also a habbit.
In January I got stooped by the cops because I crossed a red light on my bike, the only thing I felt for those officers was pure hatred; they where pretty polite to the end although I was realy disrespectfull without insulting them.
Looking back it is as you said it felt like they where in my way.
@@K87jk I know, but its good that you remind me of it
I have similar situations. I feel hatred for others who barely did anything to me they may have been slightly rude or did something I really didn't want them to ect ect. It eventually fades I think but I don't want to keep feeling like that.
They actually helped you by stopping you from forming a habit of crossing a red light which isn't safe for you and other people as well.
Nietzsche: don’t let your darkness consume you.
Also Nietzsche: let’s his darkness consume him.
He's no role model, he wrote it to remind himself as well
Nietzsche: Don’t let darkness consume you
Jung: Accept your shadow
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
you are so sweet x
Thank you so much i needed this❤
You are an incredible person
Also, don't ignore what seems to be small progress. Allow room for small, incremental steps upward.
Yes seeing this on the internet is very valuable smh, when in reality you only crave likes and attention
*I love my parents now, but I might have been resentful to them if I had never been rebellious*
I love this video so much. Thanks for sharing. I agree-- there's no one to blame but yourself. You control your life!
Here's my story:
I grew up with strict parents. And of course, there's a point in my life where I felt like they were too restrictive about everything.
I wasn't really allowed to go out often, invite people over, etc... My parents basically expected me to focus on studies and follow everything that they tell me to do. Otherwise, I would be a bad son and a disrespectful child.
During my later high school years, I thought to myself "Enough is enough. If I don't rebel now, then I would waste my teen years being boring as fuck."
I would regularly sneak out, try out different shit, and basically do anything that I thought was fun. I didn't think of the consequences because all I had in mind was "fun"
I'm currently in my third year of college and I do not regret any of those experiences. I did what I wanted, and I enjoyed. I was free.
*Now imagine if I kept listening to my parents and succumbing to that fear...* I would probably hate my parents now for wasting my teenage years. I would probably resent them for keeping me restricted when I could've been having fun. I would probably *blame* them for my lack of fun experiences.
Thank god I had the balls to ignore the consequences and rebel. Not only did I have unforgettable experiences, but I actually love my parents now.
My key take away is this:
It doesn't matter what or who is in your way. If you don't work on what you want to do, then you will end up unhappy, hateful, and resentful. Find ways!
Just wanted to share this story lol, if you're still reading this-- Hi!
A teenager sneaking out of the house? Welcome to the club. It's huge. 😊
Hi
@@ziziroberts8041 Yup lol
I just felt like this was a good story to tell because one of my cousins never snuck out. She's almost 20 yrs old now and still have very strict parents.
She has a toxic relationship with her parents. She always tells me how much she resents them, and that she can't wait to get her own job to finally do what she wants
She's full of hate inside of her. But honestly, if she just chose to NOT follow her parents, I think she would've been happier. The resentment is only there cus she felt like her parents wasted her teen years and that it's their fault. But honestly, it's her fault for not going against the rules. She made her own choice
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You need not follow your parents but it is wise to understand the reason why they might be saying. After all parents and kids both have only little brain and experience.
It’s true that you can’t prove that the “right” person doesn’t exist despite spending your entire life not finding them. However, you cannot deny the possibility that the “right” person also may not exist. It goes both ways.
If Finn spent his whole life trying to look for the right person and didn’t find them, he can’t say that that person definitely did not exist as a conclusion, but there is an undeniable possibility that he might be right as well.
Therefore, I don’t think the key to “avoiding resentment” is to always believe that there is something out there for me but I just haven’t found it yet. It might be true, but it might not.
The key would be acceptance that you may or may not find what you are looking for your entire life. It is your unique journey and adventure. Nothing is promised, but lots of wonderful things might be waiting. Accept and exist as you are.
I think this is more realistic and helpful than the video. Yes, the video was explaining an idea. But some viewers like me might have perceived the video's title in another way.
I think nietsche means that this place is the inner world. Moving by the inner cause and not from the external one.
If it really was someone else's fault, that would be bad news. We can't change other people remotely as well as ourselves
we can’t change them at all. They can only choose voluntarily to let themselves be changed by something we say. But we can’t actively change them. But we can 100% control ourselves.
No one can change anyone. People just live and die.
@@nugget6635 Well, given that mindset, yes xD
@Nugget I disagree, or else we don't have billion dollar marketing industry. It's not impossible to change people, but you need to constantly place your thoughts and opinions on visible places they see. A lot of countries for example, spend a considerable budget to Astrosurf comment sections of Reddit, RUclips, Facebook, tiktok etc to sway people.
YOUR VIDEOS DO NOT MOTIVATE ME.
Whenever I feel lost in life I tend to go back to your new and old favourite videos and tune in while I tidy/clean. Every single time, I listen, I do not feel motivated but rather satisfied, calm and with peace in my mind. Rather than having a blurred map and having short bursts of motivation to find a new cool place, it feels more like the map is unblurred and I am able to navigate peacefully and reach the right destination.
Your work is important, it’s been since 2019. (First time I’ve commented) If it’s what you enjoy do not stop, please continue this beautiful work as it truly helps those who sometimes feel lost in life.
Thank you
resentment arrise from surrendering yourself to the
darkness(means -- there is not way out)
So we need to have hope every single second so that we can get rid of resentment/the feeling of hopelessness (golden rule)
Recently finished Genealogy of Morals
Your interpretation and explanations are very helpful to me since it widens my perspective on polemics, readings, topics, and such!
Thank you for the educational and entertaining video 😄
Plz tell me it was the one translated by Kauffman
@@silent_stalker3687 I could tell you it was the one translated by Kauffman, but I'd be lying. 😆
I was able to read the one translated by Carol Diethe though
You read Kauffman's?
@@dragonmaster909 Kauffman translates a lot of Nietzsche and often has foot notes for translations ^^ he also has several books on Nietzsche
@@silent_stalker3687 Thank you for the information! There were footnotes in the one I read, but I'll check Kauffman out in my future explorations of Nietzsche's works
The cynical part of me thinks this is easy if you have a home and are well fed. However if you're homeless, hungry and in pain and see people walk past and ignore you it's far more difficult to not be resentful.
The video talks about losing faith in the world and entitlement but doesn't say anything about the things we are (or should be) entitled to, such as housing, medical care, food.
I think it's understandable and even acceptable for people to be resentful if they can't get access to those things as it can drive change and get the structural inequalities to be addressed.
I just got out of four years of homelessness and have a huge amount of resentment to my ex and her father for putting me in the situation.
Their actions have prevented me from having a good healthy relationship with my daughter who lives with her mother. I've been arrested wrongly and went through 4 years of barely seeing my daughter due to being homeless (the mother kept her from me and only let me have her at their place for visits and I'd sit through alienation from her while there so it just harbored more resentment which used to be towards her)
I finally swallowed my pride and asked my mom to move back home. Was a hard pill to swallow but I knew I couldn't heal in the predicaments I found myself in. Hoping many of you get over this feeling because it is definitely one of the hardest things I've had to endure as an empathic person, I know my ex who hurt me hurts inside and I still care about her but her father made the relationship impossible to work and now I've become very jaded and can't allow myself to get into a relationship for fear of what happens to me in every relationship I've been in. I'm sure I am at some fault to some degree but the amount of damage they have done has been definitely cause for feeling resentment towards them.
Embrace anger and fear and learn to become comfortable in those situations, it's hard but we're made strong enough to endure it.
Hope you all have a great life and take care of yourselves out there! ❤️
You can certainly map this on to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. You need the basics of life before you can work on other things.
In this decade we live in most COUNTRIES do provide some sort of assistance. That is what it means to be in a communal society, also the reason why we pay taxes. It is up to you to seek out the appropriate channel for your needs, and your responsibility to follow their rules if you want what they are offering.
OR you can go out and forage for YOURSELF. No one is responsible for your well-being except for yourself. so suck it up. unless you were born and left out in the woods as an infant for wolfs to care. because your attitude is like a savage Homosapien
then your clueless becasue people with homes often carry more resentment then those without...... Being well fed is a completly diffrent topic, you can have rich parents who live in luxury and still dont give you enough to eat becasue they are narcissists.
Life is complex.
And hardships does NOT mean that people overcome them and see the other side.
Some people are weak and bitter, some are never giving up and keep growing, thats all.
@@matthewpaugh7741 omg, all you had to do to get out of homelessness was to ask ur mom? and still u blame others? wooooow. I was thrown out of my mothers house and told I could sleep under a brigde and she didnt care, when I was 10. Becasue I could always go to my dads house who talked sexualy about my body every evening. Great. Sorry but I cant grasp how one can feel sorry for himself like this, when having a safe parent. You should watch this channels video on playing the victim....
Amazing! Simple, short, concise and SO spot-on! I hope everyone sees this at the earliest possible time in their lives!
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RUclips pays 0.10 to 0.30 per ad view, so if he get 4 million views on this he could be making around $12,000+ from one video. It's not like no one is paying him for this content
@@akasha9597 true. It's just if they wanna shadow ban him, as they do so common with plenty of noncontroversial channels even, and such. Yee, we don't pay upfront, like Google Apps Store, it's the data tracked, as the great McAfee who exposed the American government more and such told us. 🤝🔥😎😻👌 That's amazing, absolutely, to get that much a vid! I would only hope. Hehe. Redistribute it into veganism. Hehe. 🤝🔥😎😻👌🌱💚
@@akasha9597 The original poster is referring to the ability to access this content for free, not that the person making the video is making it for free.
@@idontknowanymore1246 Your name checks out, you really don’t know
Hope is not a strategy. Statistics matter. And you will get exactly what you are willing to tolerate.
Hope is his own inferno
This came right at the moment when I'm researching for faith I lost and just lost interest. Thank you for this very insightful discourse
As a self-professed resentful person, this was insightful. I'd like to posit a few counter-arguments however.
The conclusion of "keep up hope in the world" sounds optimistic and great. But the harsh reality is that lots of bad things happen to people, despite an abundance of hope.
We can use a few examples. Let's say Finn's goal was not to find a woman/partner/love, but rather to buy a house to live in. He's a very nice guy, but he works a minimum wage job, has tens of thousands of student loan debt (that he was tricked into agreeing to when he was barely 17 years old because all his teacher/parents/authority figures told him to), and despite living well below his means, can barely save any money each month because a huge percentage of his earnings go straight to rent.
He finds a house he wants to buy and walks into a bank to apply for a mortgage, the typical way most homes are purchased in our modern society. The bank takes a look at this meager savings, his high student loans, and his inability to even afford a down-payment, let alone the monthly mortgage payments.
The banks rejects his loan application.
Just as he is leaving the bank, he overhears a couple applying for a mortgage for the exact same house that he was just rejected for.
The couple is from California, they work in tech, earn well north of six-figures, have zero student loan debt, an outstanding credit score, and their parents set up a trust fund 30 years ago that has grown handsomely over the years.
The bank approves the couple's loan application. The couple buys the house using the loan that same day. They have essentially stolen the house right from Finn.
Now, Finn obviously feels rejected and resentful, both towards the bank, and towards the California couple, as both have essentially blocked him from his goals.
Now Finn can choose to naively have blind hope and naive optimism about "maybe I just haven't met the right house out there. I just have to stay positive." Well fast forward 20 years. Finn is now 50. Despite working hard, Finn never got much a financial edge, and was never able to qualify for a mortgage loan. He allowed his hope in the world to blind him that it was ever possible to afford a house in 2022-2023 when the housing supply was kept artificially low by politicians and home builders colluding together to drive up prices, by the Federal Reserve that has the privilege of setting interest rates and is allowed to legally print/counterfeit more money, by the Californians who had enormous purchasing power in buying a house due to how much their homes "appreciated" in value relative to the other 49 US states, etc.
TL, DR: He never was able to achieve his dream of owning a home.
What can we conclude from this all-too-common anecdote? Among several conclusions, we can conclude that hope in the world can be a very dangerous thing insofar as it is able to mislead you in your likelihood of getting what you want. For example, in our Capitalist world, if there are 100 people but only 65 houses, then 35 people will be unable to own a house. And the houses will be purchased by the 65 people with the most money. So it is IRRESPONSIBLE for Finn to continue clinging to hope that he will one day achieve his goal given that his earning power is two orders of magnitude lower than other buyers whom he is competing against.
No amount of (false) hope in the world will change that Finn simply cannot compete against wealthier competitors. A house seller with 37 offers from different buyers will of course "choose" the highest offer. So Finn's meager offer is laughed at and ignored.
The point is: it is dangerous to continue through life clinging to a hope that, in all likelihood, will not happen.
A man who is 5'1" can have hope that one day he will play professional basketball in the NBA, but that hope is dangerous since he is extremely likely to be rejected in favor of other candidates who are 7'3".
Competition among people in a society for limited resources is what causes this conflict, this being "blocked", and the logical resentment that arises from being blocked.
Competition breeds resentment among the people who are left out, as it should.
Competition among people for scarce resources is what leads to some people not getting what they want, not achieving their goal, which inevitably leads to resentment.
For example, with regards to women, biology has well documented the phenomenon of sexual competition of many males for females, who get to choose which male to mate with. This choosing will inevitably lead to one winner and several losers (rejects).
One of Nietzsche's chief complaints about Christianity was how it espoused not desiring things that people actually desired.
In this way, it rationalized that remaining in poverty and lying to oneself about not wanting things that they ACTUALLY DID WANT was rebranded and marketed as a value (e.g. "it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter heaven."). Nietzsche argued that this was fundamentally lying to oneself.
In the US (and much of the western world today), there is an unspoken social contract: Work hard and you too can achieve your dreams of a family, a house, a good job, etc. This known as "the American Dream". In reality, however, this social contract has been completely fractured in recent years: hard work and focus in no way guarantee that you will achieve your goals of the American Dream.
When a society's culture pushes beliefs about the world onto its people, and when the harsh reality of the world directly conflicts with those beliefs that had been indoctrinated into its people, this will inevitably lead to the people feeling that they have been lied to. That their society promised something that it was unable to deliver on. This leads to disappointment and resentment. It is, at its core, a conflict between the promises given by a society which are subsequently broken by the society that leads to this resentment.
We should all keep this in our minds when an artist says no to your request to use their work or make something for you just because they are willing to pay money to that artist it doesn't work that way
It has consumed me. It drives me forward. It is the reason why I continue to live.
Question on a few things you said,
"There's someone/something for me"
My understandings and interpretations of these works (and even taken from and reinforced by some of your videos) is that it's an ever changing and evolving spectrum of possible outcomes that can all be considered more positive or negative depending on personal perspective. Meaning there is no "ONE" person, purpose, or meaning for one persons life but infinite chances to make it the best possible for yourself. Would you disagree with any of that?
Very nice, yes, Nietzsche has a good collection of philosophical ideas. However I also think, that there are plenty of other authors too, ehh😀😀
however you are more focused on Nietzsche, well I like that too😀😀
To be frank, this sounds like victim-blaming with extra steps, demanding people lie to themselves & blame themselves if they can't succeed at what they want or are otherwise put into difficult situations.
Yes, how one reacts to something is within a person's control, as is their general attitude. However, that doesn't mean there is actually a possibility out there for you to achieve what you want, and to say "you just have to believe it is possible, or else you yourself are the problem" (what this particular video amounts to) is an asinine conclusion to come to.
The best channel in the entirety of RUclips, coming from the bottom of my heart thank you.
“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.” -Carl Jung
Lost you at 2:10 bro
I don't like this interpretation. It feels faulty. Resentment becomes natural if you are for example forced into circumstances you do not want to be in. You could choose to not be, but at what cost.
Now again this is about finding love. A subject that hits close to home. Idk, it's the idea of needing to look tirelessly without even wanting an outcome. Because hope will bring fear and disappointment.
But only if you do that its true and there is no need for resentment, because paradoxically then it magically will work.
If it doesn't, you didn dew it good enuf so it no false.
Sounds very sus. That ain't science.
My personal advice? Abandon all hope.
Fear will also go.
1) Resentment is not hate.
2) About hate I believe you'd like to read what I wrote on my channel.
3) Really? "It's unfalsifiable so it can't be false"? Come on man!
"If it feels like it's you versus the world, chances are it's really just you versus yourself" - Mark Manson
I was just recently reading a book citing his studies and pursuit [Frankl] and now I am here. Nothing indeed is a coincidence. And so as this clip popping out of nowhere at my time of distress and confusion. May we all find our way through folks. Keep the faith.
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Mind your own matters, because it matters if you don't mind.
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
I think you missed the opportunity to clarify that im order to get what you want, you need to work in you adaptation to that apparent obstacle to prove it doesn’t exist. Example the virgin dude working on himself hitting the gym and taking advice to finally start meeting women. A student studying harder to get grades instead of accepting defeat. You can always work your way around a problem without resentment, which comes for the assumption that a given problem doesn’t have a solution and you blame on others instead of finding it yourself.
This is such a narrow context for resentment. Dude can't get a gate....
What about resentment that is built up because agreements are not met? Promises aren't kept? What about resentment in a parent child relationship.. What if the child doesn't feel loved by the parent.. Was the child wrong in feeling entitled to that?
This were the points I looked for and was disappointed in not finding
Yes we can choose our attitute after traumatic events but it makes it 10 times harder and its a pain to live with 😢
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Mind your own matters, because it matters if you don't mind.
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
This is exactly what I needed at this moment. Thank you so much.
I disagree that the solution is hope, although hope can be part of it. You have to weigh the costs and benefits. Using the example of Fin, he needs to ask himself what price he's willing to pay and what he's willing to risk in order to find the woman of his dreams. Everyone wants stuff, but when you weigh the costs and benefits we may decide that something we want is too expensive and even if we could afford it, there are more important things we'd like to do with those resources, and move on.
This is why the MOST entitlement can be seen in regards to "free" stuff like government programs. This is because the costs are negligible, so people become entitled. The cure for entitlement is knowledge of the price, and the decision of whether or not the price is worth it.
If you decide that you don't want to assume the costs of risks of looking for "the one" and would rather do something else you find more enjoyable, then there is no resentment. You've made a conscious choice to use your limited time and resources in a way you find fulfilling, and maybe you'll re-evaluate your decision if the "price" comes down, but that's not your problem. Again, hope can be part of this thought process. You can "hope" the price comes down to something more reasonable, but if not, you're not resentful for the high price, and there are almost always low-cost alternatives if you're willing to accept them.
Read Victor Frankles book. The op mentioned hope in reference to his book. I know on a surface level hope seems pretty unstable and intangible but when you hear someone talk about hope, when hope it literally the only thing getting you to the next day, it takes on a new meaning
Good point here
Oh shit. Monkey is in the house! I had this video on one my tabs when you talked about this on the show. You are still not shadow banned for some reason.
Jordan Peterson once said that women choose who gets to reproduce and who does not, which determines who's geneticists get to live forever and who's do not. This determines who gets to live forever and who does not. This makes those who get rejected feel like they have to die and watch while others get to live. This makes the rejected feel like God created those who get rejected purely for the purpose to be created, be told they are not worthy, and then eventually die. Thus in this model, the women are the thing in the way to eternal life, but in reality the rejected are mad at God for making oneself into something that women do not desire. I think this is particularly difficult when a person sees countless women give them selves to men who are not "good" but in fact very bad boys, while rejecting men who kind and decent and willing to do right by the woman.
I believe the only thing I ever (stupidly, admittedly) felt entitled to was a world that made any kind of sense at all what so ever. They tell me that God is good, and wants me to be good. Yet He grants eternal life to those who are bad men, while casting the kind and respectful aside to die. I never felt that a woman owed me her body, or access to it. That sounds strange to me, to expect a woman to give her self to me and while I've seen men act that way, I never identified with those feelings. But I still to this day, can not understand why God created such illogical insane people (women) to be the companion of man. To create us, abandon us on this rock (earth) and leave us (men) to compete with each other for eternal life, only to leave us to fickle and arbitrary judges to make the most important decisions for all of humanity.
I don't know folks. Sounds like kind of a dick move to me.
@@anymouse6169 you won't escape death if you have a child and if you believe in god then you won't even die so why would you care? Don't you think that maybe you have to reorient and find something else that you want to do and can do? Life isn't storymode, it's just a sandbox so don't get depressed over something that wasn't in the cards.
Nothing wrong with anger, as long as you have something to be angry about. This also applies to anxiety, depression and resentment. Pay attention to how you feel, get to know yourself and learn from your experiences. If you feel resentment towards someone, disregard them. They may be toxic. Trust your feelings above everything else.
''resentment'' is the hate someone have for injustice.
trying to not be ''resentful'' is like trying to accept the injustice.
conclusion: ''resentment'' doesn't exist. it's just a deceitful word to make you acquiesce your perceived injustice.
I think why love was your resentment example is because it's so common. We're told at a young age that we are all deserving of love. But we quickly find out that was a lie, and we don't deserve a thing. So it turns into the people that find love repeating the mantra that we all deserve love, and those that were cast aside grumbling that it's all a bunch of bologna. Then we're bombarded with the mantra that if you aren't experiencing love, it must mean you're either a terrible person or unlovable. That just seals the deal.
It is good advise not to get consumed with resentment, but not good to think that Nietzsche is a wise philosopher to follow. He was openly racist and endorsed slavery. He disparaged the value of showing mercy. He was arrogant and believed that "supermen" like himself should dominate over inferiors. In a world drifting toward dangerous authoritarianism, seeing Nietzsche resurrected as some kind of wholesome life coach is like seeing a pedophile offering sweet candy treats in a playground. The worst fascists are not the mere brutes, but the "philosophical" fascists who think that they have some kind of intellectual deep-think about how things should be.
3rd option. At the end of Finn's life, he said: some people, how ever long they search, never find the love they long for. Despite their fondest wish, they will live their lives alone and they will die alone. I am one of them. The countless rejections did not send me into a rage, or left me simmering in resentment. Instead they left me in quiet despair. I have thought long on possible causes of the many romantic rejections, and the one constant that keeps turning up is my self. First, i grew weary of searching. Then i lost faith in my self. Then i gave up my search and made my peace with the likely fact that i would never find someone to share my life with. I find the idea that the world, or women, owes me anything quite absurd. I tried, and eventually failed. It is as simple as that.
It's true, the world doesn't technically 'owe' us anything... _however,_ never forget that the opposite also applies - namely, _you_ don't owe the _world_ anything either!
Basically, live life for yourself, & do what you can to find your own happiness, or at least whatever passes for it... if there's one thing I've learned in this cold, harsh life, it's that no one else is gonna GIVE you that happiness - you need to seek & find it for yourself. I hope you succeed. Best of luck to you.
I feel the same. I am female and 50. I have never got married or started a family. I used to feel a little resentful, now I no longer feel resentful and I'm not hopeful either, If I allow myself to think about it I feel despair and sadness. I try not to think about it. I have a dog and I love him and he loves me.
@@cosmicfoxglove1047 ...well, makes a difference from cats, I guess. **shrugs**
As for myself, I just really don't want to commit to any relationships even though I used to fantasize about being in a relationship a lot before.
I don't have a very good emotional wellbeing. I lash out quite fast because I just don't trust people who do good things for me anymore. And for that reason, I vowed to myself not to commit to any relationships. I don't want my partner to have to handle that hurtful part of me. Especially if we get to have a daughter/son, I don't want them experiencing the same things I experienced from my family. And after holding this vow close to me for a few years, it just dawned on me that I actually don't mind being single up until the end of my days.
Why? Because I have friends that are there for me. And honestly, it's more than enough for me. Knowing that there are actually good people out there for me. And most importantly, I wouldn't have a child that would suffer the same way that I did. That thought brings me so much comfort. However, I also really would have loved to bond with my child if I had one. And it makes me sad thinking about it. But if it meant they wouldn't have to suffer like I did, then I'd be more than willing to experience this sadness for as long as I live and more.
Yeah, I really would stick to this promise of mine. Thanks for listening to my Ted talk!! 😂
@@BeanSprouts02 I listened to your Ted talk. Good friends are so underrated. They are just as important and maybe more important than a partner.
A very oversimplified, narrow perspective on resentment. Resentment is a feature not a bug.
When you feel resentment, it is not to be ignored or dismissed as a personal character flaw in yourself, but to be reflected upon to discover how you feel wronged/oppressed/taken advantage of, and then take actions to change or avoid the situation which causes you to feel resentful. To resolve the situation.
Your video would be better directed at choosing to wallow in resentment. Wallowing is resentment is a choice.
Even then, the entitlement component of your presentation seems backwards. That entitlement can lead to resentment, that’s sound. That resentment is caused by entitlement? That math is off. It can be, like in your examples, but many other causes of resentment would leave you grasping for straws and really reaching to insert entitlement as a factor.
I am leaving here the comment for someone who has lost the faith, hope of a better life and a light to a brighter light. I pray to the lord for your prosperity and wellbeing.
Amen.
Very true. The only one who stands in your way is yourself. Unfortunately, most people need someone to blame to get ahead in life because it's easier to use scapegoats, rather than going for what they truly want with fearlessness and courage.
Because you see the reality is, there's usually no one standing in your way whatsoever, it's just you yourself who are terrified and scared of actually achieving something without pointing your fingers at someone else.
That is the stone-cold truth, and that is why the world is so messed up right now with this men vs women bullshit, and boys growing up to become girls and vice versa. We're not going to have a functional society as long as this BS keeps up. It's just going to get worse for everyone.
No doubt
Actually, sometimes lack of coin, crews, connections, clout, control, computer code, communities, and opportunities stand in the way of success for individuals. But those things aren't available to every human on Earth (by default).
One must learn to remain in their own lane. Often, that 'lane' is slavery. 💪😎✌️ It is what it is.
still, i think resentment can be good sometimes. true injustice does exist, and one needs that anger in order to fight for change.
The thesis "There's a place in this world, and a way to that place, for everyone which can't be denied by anyone except for themselves", cannot be definitely proven false, but, in its current state, cannot be proved true either. Choosing to believe this thesis to be true (or false) is an act of faith. Is it even necessary to elaborate on the fact that one of Nietzsche's primary goals was to eradicate every metaphysical faith altogether?
I think what he meant is the goals we set for ourselves and how our resentment and rage might prevent us from reaching them, unless we convince ourselves otherwise
Entitlement isn't the only thing that leads to frustration. In fact I think a much better one is the lack of understanding how things (and people) work. At least that's what it was in my case. And it just turned out that I didn't have good role models and I was light-years away from success, and that even when I was doing the right thing in one aspect for a while, I'd still not get any positive results because I was lacking in so many other areas. So there was like no possible system for me to even get logical feedback. You can't believe how frustrating that is! Thank god I eventually did come out the other side before becoming a psycho. 😬😀 So it's really sad that many men face this exact situation.
"Entitlement" is, sadly, one of the current trendy buzzwords. It's such an easy stone to throw at someone else, and is used by several different groups to vent their righteous "woke" anger. Yes, there is a great deal of entitlement behavior, but not as much as some would have us believe. Each and every one of us is struggling to just get through the day as best we can, but it's a struggle. It's not.. possible for anyone to get everything they want; a lucky few get the majority of their needs and wants met, but obsess about what they don't have; others get less on a sliding scale and they stress, also. Many years ago, I read a quote that pretty much sums it up : "Adult life is just an elaborate continuation of the kindergarten drama - two kids and one cookie."
Ooh petition to share this in incel and "not like other girl" spaces. But on a more serious note - incredible video, thank you for your hard work. As someone who was once heavily resentful due to chronic health problems and relationship failures, letting go of resentment and taking more accountability for my life has done wonders for my mental and physical health. And I was in a DARK place. I had to let go of blaming shitty medical professionals, romantic partners and friends who didn't stay by my side, and even my parents - who were not entirely supportive during the first couple of years of my struggles. Resentment is ugly, it eats at you alive. It physically damages your health, f*cks up your mental health, and your whole perception of the world. Truly, genuinely loving myself and accepting everything that's happened to me, and believing that I did deserve a better future (and that future was up to me) was truly, truly lifechanging.
You'd just get insta-banned in places like reddit. Lol
Thank you for sharing, im still working to get myself out of a dark place following some trauma. Thank you
Well now, there’s a difference between resentment for being mistreated and allowing that resentment to shape your view on a whole group of ppl or the world.
Would it be possible for someone to have lost hope, not in the world but in themselves? They do not blame the world for their misfortunes or rejections, but only blame themselves.
"The key to stop resentment is to never lose hope in the world". What!? If somebody is resentful is because too many shitty experience made him lose hope in the world in the first place, he will never get hope in the world thinking that "there's a girl/something out there that one day.." cause maybe he was a valid person unlike that absurd example about Finn who thought every woman was an object. First of all, literally every guy I know who doesn't care about women's feelings treating them like objects ALWAYS get girls, secondly the example is misleading cause you're assuming that resentment comes from a petty person, but in many case it's the most kindhearted that gets in the resentment trap after being eaten by people. What do you say to a good person who always cared about people and their feelings, thinking that there are definitely MANY good girls out there for him and many "places who can't be denied(or whatever your motto was)", and that only after many many bad experience has become resentful? NOW he had lost hope in the world, and I can tell you that this video is completely useless for him. This video is not for the ones who really suffer, unless you're a douche like "Finn".
Nope that’s not true, your just finding excuses
Stop using Nietzsche name to promote your own blue pill opinions please. You should put state that this is your opinion not actually what Nietzsche wrote at the start of the video. Having it at the end of the video is just disrespectful.
What is the blue pil?
@@heinmolenaar6750 choosing to live with comforting lies and not seeking the truth
@@dasdasdadadadad8915 thanks. Most people seeking comfort not thruth
This is a naive and misinformed approach to resentment and your examples. Men don't become resentful from outright rejection, women do. Men appreciate a polite or respectful rejection. Also, men become frustrated at their own inadequacies when presented with many rejections and blame themselves. They don't believe they're entitled to women. That's insanely stupid of an idea.
Some do, just because you don’t doesn’t mean that some do
I really agree with all of this but I'd like to read the book itself to see if it mentions the cases of when someone makes a very painful wrongdoing, being the most open and crude example from personal experience, someone who has been a victim of child abuse / sexual abuse, I know it's a very specific and painful example but it adds to the scale of grays that I'd like to explore about such topics mixing with my own personal experience, growth and healing process with proper teaching within the condominiums of philosophy.
Great work nontheless Freedom in Thought, your videos have been really nurturing and it adds best to the future researches that I'm finding the time to do.
It does not. Nietzsche is not a self-help philospoher, this whole essay is pure bullshit made by the guy behind the channel. The name of Nietzsche in the title is used purely becouse of pseudo intelectual reasons of the author to shield his thinkings and has nothing in common with his writings. Nietzche was not a happy man.
@@skullcrusher9873 indeed he wasn't, if he was he wouldn't have had the moments that are written about his personal life, specially when he yelled at the working horse saying "I know your pain" I think that was near at the end of his life.
Alas, despite that if he didn't wanted others to get better on their own then why the concept of the Ubersmench? Why then, despite all his suffering, his words speak about how the human can and should be the best out of itself with his own determination and humanity?
@@skullcrusher9873 At least it's what I can get that despite his suffering and his unhappiness he really did wanted others to use what he wrote among other things to get better, this reflects better on the fictional stories that get inspirations from him like the Japanese Manga Berserk among other tales from around the world, good stuff
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@@skullcrusher9873 well. abit late to the party. but you know what they says. echo chamber and sheeps. the buzzwords these days. i was scrolling through the commentary and seeing how everyone agree with what this dude says. lol its damn funny. he's doing some guilt trip shit that a self-proclaimed "NLP (neuro linguistic programming) guru" used in my country a decade ago.
in fact, he sounded extremely entitled himself in the entire video, assuming that most people in life has everythign he has, or at least he assumes his audiences do.
capitalizing on the weak and feeble minded. over 2000 years. human never learned a shit from history
I would question the "voluntary" in the abandonment of faith. It is true that in the end you choose to loose faith. However, if pain is the thing, which is most real to man and if people don't see any way to relieve the pain over many years and struggle to find any meaning in it, I think it is really hard to keep your faith. In the end, as your potential slowly wanes, time will erode everything and only a very few, very strong willed individuals will be able to keep their hope and therefore not become resentful.
In a way, it is a rigged game. If people are nudged in a certain way by their pain, could you really call that "voluntary"? What I would call voluntary, however, would be to choose to resist but that only applies for as long as you have the energy to do just that. If you do that carefully and watch that you don't spend yourself to quickly, you can keep up your resistance for quite some time, maybe long enough that things might get better. But not everybody will do that.
Please post more videos about
-Aristotle works (rhetoric,metaphysics)
-Cicero
-Plato (philosopher king)
Thank You
Viktor Frankl, my favorite psychological theoretician
It's like these videos find me exactly when i need them
Good video! But may I ask what book you use for reference on this topic. Really want to know. Thanks❤️
Beautiful and so true!
It's better to be hopeful than , be an arrogant.
There is always a way but it's your choice you want to see that way with close or open eyes.
Hello, what program do you guys think he uses to create these awesome slides? I am a teacher and I will like to use it with the kids as one of my tools. Thanks
Oh my goodness I needed to hear this. Talk about perfect timing!
Thank you so much for sharing this 💗💚
This is very similar to the abundance mindset which PUAS teach, thanks for the amazing content.
i want to really believe this, but when i got the police called on me JUST for visiting my mom's house. the person who called the police lied and said i broke in. i was only saved by the Ring doorbell when my mom spoke through it.
When life throws rocks at you, it hurts when it hits you but no one will decide what to do with the rocks for you. And only you can choose to blame life for throwing you rocks
Remember being resentful towards life will only keep you in your comfort zone and nothing grows there
Didn’t Nietzsche have that very problem with women?
And inevitably it indirectly caused his death so I guess we should learn from that
Can you tell us more about the book you mentioned “ Man’s search for meaning’’!?
*_To find it yourself, or to abandon that one thing you long for..._*
*_It's like the gold at the end of the rainbow. Though it is a fantasy, you can still choose to keep on looking, or you can turn away from it. Somehow, I ended up struggling in trying to put a stop to this cycle of hatred. It stems from my personal past, then to feeling like I was too obedient, and then to the point that my future is being decided._*
*_I've... No... I think we're all guilty for "Entitlement". My true goal is to actually bring dreams to reality through the best I can do. That's why I'm so deeply passionate with art, music, and other things related to the digital side, including ones that could contribute to evolution. I wanted to inspire others, but though my mind wants revenge by doing the things they will never see in the future, to become someone that they will never live up to, some part of my soul tells me to not back down._*
*_To not abandon this so-called "Hope"... Hopes in dreams._*
*_The works of others that captivate me... still give me hope, especially to people I talked to, who are like elite artists. Honestly, I'm proud of their progress. It saddens me, yet angers me that artists had to suffer the hardest path to achieve the biggest dream: Inspire the World._*
*_That's why I say to myself, "The road to the Creator will always be the hardest. To create something you love most, you must face tribulations."_*
Important video. Society taught me if I want someone with all my heart, and show her that I want her badly, she will also want me. Wrong teaching. As a result I became obsessed with someone, and the trauma did not yet heal after rejection.
Just read Man's Search for Meaning today. Very good read.
No fight; no blame is the only way to peace and tranquility.
I don't blame them but they blame me
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You have a beautiful mind. I think I'm having a breakthrough, only by watching a couple of your videos, even though I'm on this path of freeing myself from unpausable suffering for a long time. Well deserved number of followers. That happens rarely.
One word stops resentment dead. GRATITUDE .
Thanks for your sharing, which is desperately needed for my current situation
Needed this video. Posted this at a perfect time!
Wow!! Where did Nietzsche write about this? I would like to read it!!
Nowhere. Its bullshit made up by the author of the video and name of Nietzsche is just used to get viewes and give his shitty essays some weight
Men are not entitled to women's attraction, but women are not entitled to men's commitments, protection and money either. I remember the woman being raped in the train and was not helped by any man... it will get worse. Fins can leverage this and improve being stronger, richer and committed to his own goals. That way he can use his own resentment for his own good.
I really need this I recently blame my teacher and the school task theye assign on me. But after that I felt guilty.
I have multiple sclerosis this video was very helpful thank you
I don’t want that in my life no more, I release all that back to the world and I am responsible for myself. And I pray for hope and faith to return in my life 💜🤲🏾
I haven't become resentful towards women or the world because of my relationship failures. I've become resentful towards the never ending increasing expectations within those relationships. I think my expectations have always been reasonable but that the expectations of my partners is always so much more than I'm capable of that I just stopped trying as a matter of acceptance, not resentment. Ive felt feelings of resentment when other people insist that I want something other than what I want though because thats what they want or thats what they want me to want. Its like never ending psychological judo 🥋
Is it entitlement when one seeks truth, but gets frustrated by lies and ellusivness that keeps us from learning and growing ?
This man is living his life not youtube algorithm.
Great video, I think the whole ressentiment analysis is spot on.
The only thing I’d like to know more about is what would Nietzsche think of entitlement. Is the ubermensch entitled? Does our Will to Power have the right to desire all that it wants?
Nietzsche would deny that we'd have a right to anything. He would say that there's only strong wills and weak wills.
He uses an anology in Genealogy of Morals where lambs hate birds of prey that hunt and eat them.The lambs are resentful because they are the weaker ones and this leads them to think of those stronger than them as evil. But the birds of prey don't hate the lambs back.
This is what ressentiment actually is to Nietzsche. It's a transformation of weakness into a hate of strength.
To call an unbermench entitled would according to Nietzsche be ressentiment. He would see it as a way for "the weak" to try to hold "the strong" back with morality.
Actually that Finn guy was me
Hate, love, . The space for silence always underrated.
I am ugly. And i understands this completely. As a younger child (like 8 and down) I was a "normal " kid a "normal " person. But as i grew older like 9 and up i grew frustrated bc around the time i was 8 going on 9, getting called ugly was/is a consistent n my life. Children my age tended to avoid me boys despised me, and i went from an outgoing kid to a shy shadow of a girl who was no longer. As i grew older nothing changed infact things got worse. I started to experience colorism and racism. And to top it off the hate I'd get for being ugly. As i became more quiet and reserved i became resentful. I hated my parents...deeply. esp my mom bc she admitted that she didn't find my sperm doner not even the slightest but physically attractive. Just his personality ( which wont work 4 me cus im a girl guys dont care about a women's personality if she isn't pretty.... trust me . I KNOW .) Now in am 20 and just getting out of another faild " relationship " ( he said i was nice amd kind and caring but... just not good looking enough to take serious:) . I dont plan on anything else iml atp idk what im doing or y im here
Expanding on the very misunderstood emotion of resentment.
It is not good to wallow in resentment, and because everyone mostly agrees that wallowing in resentment is not good for you, some bad takes on resentment have developed.
Some bad takes include viewing the feeling of resentful is wrong or bad. That, if I feel resentful, then I am doing something wrong or bad. That the feeling itself is wrong, and you are in the wrong for feeling it.
And this was never supposed to be the way that the consensus was supposed to be interpreted.
To WALLOW in resentment is bad FOR YOU. You are not bad or wrong for feeling it, it is simply bad FOR you to remain so.
Indeed another such bad take, based on the aforementioned bad take, is when the oppressor asserts that the oppressed is wrong for feeling resentment. When resentment is misunderstood as being wrong, a shameful sin to even feel in the first place, this enables the worst take of all. That the slave is wrong for resenting his master.
Thank you for your detailed explanation. But could I ask you for one more question? This question has plagued me my whole life and I can't find an answer to it: If a person genuinely tried everything for his goal, and the world still denies him, is he justified to be resentful towards God? For example, is the people in North Korea justified to be resentful toward God for being born in North Korea? It seems to me that those people only exists to pay the sins of their fathers. And they are left to be doomed.
@@unitedtomato5444 It sounds like you have already done the work in exploring that resentment. You've identified why you feel that way, and you have done no wrong or evil in feeling that way. Being dealt a bad hand in life is not just. (by common widespread morality, Nietzsche's 'slave morality')
Having believed in God myself for 27 years (I was a super-christian), I found the most peace in the idea that God works in mysterious ways, that we can't know his plan for us, and that he tests us with what he knows we can handle.
I think you have every reason to be resentful if you were led to believe that you would be rewarded for doing right by God. But you are in a catch-22 in that God cannot be guilty or wrong, so feeling resentment toward him must be what it wrong.
But resentment is a natural feeling that God gave you, and it isn't to be ignored. So in order to not wallow in resentment toward God, whom cannot have wronged you, it would be best to identify whatever you think was promised to you as a misinterpretation of God's word, or that you have a misinterpretation of God's reward.
* Maybe God's reward will come as a result of your faith and loyalty to him after your death. If you are tempted to feel guilty about your resentment, you can always view it as a selfish expectation to be rewarded in life.
* Maybe God's reward was miscommunicated by the human men who wrote the words down on the paper.
* Maybe God's reward was misinterpreted by the human men who read the words that were written on the paper by human men.
If you are stuck in a catch-22 of God's inability to have wronged you, yet your God given sense of resentment is telling you that you have been wronged, you can process how and why you are feeling wronged in such a way that God is not at fault of this.
You can always choose the guilt route, that your sense of resentment is due to entitlement or wishful thinking, as this video oversimplifies.
In the end though, the important thing is to process the resentment and not wallow in it. THAT is what is bad FOR YOU, the WALLOWING in it.
You having specified an omnipotent being (whom you believe in) as the one you feel resentment towards certainly complicates things, because the omnipotent being cannot be wrong. But even if you choose the route of guilt, or feeling that your resentment toward God was based on a misplaced entitlement, don't for a second assume that everywhere else in life that you feel resentment is also a misplaced entitlement. Both Gods and men (and even moreso women) will tempt you to process your resentment as guilt, because your guilt is a valuable commodity, worth a lot of money. So before short-circuiting your brain and doing mental gymnastics to try to see how the resentment is OBVIOUSLY your own shameful entitlement 🙄, definitely THINK about it first. Because denying other's wrong-doing will not solve your problem. Staying in a situation which is causing you to feel resentful, will cause you to stay stuck in resentment.
Your resentment is telling you something, its not a bug, it isn't to be ignored, and its nothing to feel ashamed of or guilty about.
@@unitedtomato5444 Also remember that the example given in this video is an EXTREME example, bordering on being a strawman.
And I don't mean to insinuate that you are strawmanning, but your question is also an extreme example, man vs GOD.
Using a man vs woman example was extreme because it is an example in which humans are incredibly biased. Even when man or woman is wrong, we are still incredibly biased to the extent that we will turn off our brains, and accept guilt.
If this video were to use a more good faith example, he would have used an example of man feeling resentment towards another man, or a woman feeling resentment towards another woman.
My counter is to use a black slave's resentment toward a white master, if we are going to use extreme examples. Is the slave's resentment towards his master misplaced resentment as well? Certainly not.
If we are to use a non-extreme example, we could say a white male boss giving a verbal promise to a white male employee that he would get the promotion if he reached a certain quota in sales. And when that employee reached his quota, the boss hiring somebody else for the position instead of promoting the employee as promised.
Yes, there is certainly such a thing as misplaced-resentment, as this video uses as an example of, but not all resentment is misplaced. Most resentment is not misplaced.
And even when dealing with misplaced resentment, it should still be explored and processed with the goal of understanding it, as opposed to feeling guilty about or ashamed of.
Because you will still wallow in resentment, or guilt, until you gain an understanding of it.
Whether misplaced or not, the resentment itself is NOT what is wrong or bad. It is the WALLOWING in resentment that is bad FOR YOU.
@@DummyFace123 Thank you! You have opened so many doors for me to interpret God's words. You really cleared up my mind by pointing out that God cannot be wrong. I just became Christian recently. I think my rational mind is playing a trick on me. Because it tells me a million reasons why my resentment is justified. But the motivation behind it might be that it justifies sloth and cynicism. And I shouldn’t wallow in resentment. Your words are beyond kind. God did a good thing when he created you.
Real life is more, INFINITELY MORE complicated than any tenet in any philosophy. This vid has truth but it's simplistic: Nietzsche and all philosophers didn't couldn't know anything about the effects of brain chemistry on thinking, and had never walked in any shoes but their own. And, it is considered almost 100% certain now that Nietzsche didn't go mad from syphilis, that he never contracted it, but that his eventual insanity was a latent fate that his philosophy helped to mitigate initially, but perhaps had partly engendered in the first place -- factor that in, and take Nietzsche with a large grain of salt.
I am revisiting this video this cured my 3 year long misery. Thank you, Nietzche. Thank you, Freedom, in thought.
“There’s a place in this world and a way to that place for EVERYONE which can’t be denied by anyone except for themselves.”
I want so badly to believe this, but after 60 years of searching and not finding that place, I’ve lost hope.
In your example, Finn never finds his place… the woman who he’s looking for. So if he did not find his place, then he did not find the path to get there, and that’s his own fault? Sounds like a recipe for self loathing & blame.
The causality of resentment could be many things and nothing to do with entitlement. While this may have been Nietzsche's reason, it's only one of many possible reasons. You could have resentment because someone hurt a loved one, wronged another, etc.. .
When I was young I looked at old people and thought "Who owes you a padded life?" Now that I am old I find that reminding myself of that question helps quell the resentment common to lots of old people: resentment of the fact that the world of our past, the world we had finally figured out and could handle, has *changed* and it will never change back.
5:49 ‘Oh, I’m not resentful’. No shit. Look deeper; everyone is resentful- some have good reasons.
For example, I resent that this world is led by idiots. Whereas everyone has the right to be an idiot in private, this right doesn’t extend to the public sphere. On a micro- level, if anyone insists on standing in my way, I will bulldoze them. I’ve been nice to my detriment for too long.
Resentment can be good if we all resent the worldwide military and defund them from taxes for worldwide peace though... Or resent weapons and wants to dismantle them worldwide, etc... Depends on the goal. Might not be healthy for the body though.. Weapons on a round globe.. Idiocy.. Hope we will survive them... I watched one youtube war video and they where standing in-front of a tank with weapons, war painted faces and joking for the cameras as ..yeah i feel resentment when i think of the military. Or the video i saw and the smiles of some like: "huhu goosh kinda smile we are so innocent war criminal terrorists let laugh at the camera boys and joke some gwuphuhuhu."... It's just so stupid.. They they fire away those bombs and destroy the fun for everyone.. Killing old people, etc.. In the next clip..
Sure some can have sympathy, but we need to dismantle weapons. How.. figure that out.. How do we remove them from taxes worldwide?.. resentment.. It's not healthy. Hope we survive the worldwide military though, we need to have some kind of control over them.. No more money for them worldwide..
Rejected entitlement = resentment....nope..not buying that one. For me; A promise or commitment is made, maybe even legally in a contract such as marriage vows. Now there is a bond made between the two or more entities. Expectations exist that all will adhere to the contract, verbal or otherwise. Resentment appears when the trust is broken. Maybe that's "entitlement"? Am I entitled to expect the other person will honor the contract? Not really! Personal history tells me many people don't honor contracts or verbal promises. The word of day is EXPECTATION and loss of trust.
While I think you hit the idea of resentment on the head, I believe you grossly mistake Nietzsche's writings about resentment, especially when it comes to blame, as he never really spoke of blame.
Why wouldn't you abandon hope? Hope brings only pain. Hope makes the inevitable failure of the future hurt far, far more.