The hard part isn't so much fear or anxiety about the medical implication of the pain -- "something is clearly wrong", etc. You eventually overcome it with appropriate and thorough investgations and what Dan is fond of calling "calm reassurance". What is really difficult is dealing with the fear of the symptoms themselves, the lurking, nagging anticipation of a bad flare. Strangely, this foreboding often triggers a relapse and your confidence takes a big knock. One step forward, two steps back.
Dan, here’s a story: I have long COVID-related tachycardia (POTS). But yesterday was a gorgeous day here in the northeast US as you know, and my husband really misses hiking with me, so we went to a local sanctuary that has mostly flat trails. On a small uphill, my FitBit heart rate monitor starts buzzing me. So I tell him “I have to stop for a rest.” But it kept buzzing me even after resting. This happened several times. Then I had an epiphany: “yeah, it’s buzzing me, but do I actually FEEL bad?” The answer was no. Then I thought of you and your videos, and I decided halfway through the hike to turn off that buzzing HR monitor app and just enjoy the walk at a leisurely pace. I enjoyed myself and my surroundings so much more after that. And lo and behold, I looked at my FitBit and my HR had stabilized just because I became calm. This stuff really works!
I got rid of my Fitbit because it made me anxious with the false readings and saying I didn’t sleep well etc. I literally had to ask myself the same questions you mentioned.
Your videos are the only thing getting me through my pregnancy . I have extreme panic attacks due to health anxiety after I had a traumatizing brain surgery for an incidental finding …. I’m two years out from the surgery and everything is fine but my mind always says “ what if” and now I suddenly have TMJD , ptsd . Severe neck pain from my upper cervical …. Seen so many chiropractors and doctors … tested positive for autoimmune suddenly … thank you for being a light in a shitty tunnel❤
My Pastor came today, he prayed for me and..yep pain gone. All pain gone. So yep Its so true, fear and panic makes it als so bad I know i can be painfree, for longer times..you are so right again. 😊thanks Dan, God bless you❤we love you
You are a good man Dan!❤ I am currently in a ´storm’ of pains and symptoms, just by trying to live more.. It’s challenging for sure to keep my faith in a happy ending but your videos keep me on track or get me back on track! Just wanted to say thanks today! I’m ‘detoxing ‘ a bit from you tube, but 1 video a day from you is better then a painkiller.. Have a wonderful Friday and weekend! Sunny hugs from me and France 🇫🇷 🤗☀️🙋♀️
Inge sorry to hear you are having a hard time but it will pass. 🙏 I will light a candle for you. I know how that feels. Sending you lots of healing love and hugs 🤗 from Dublin. ❤️🌸🍂🌻
@@LilyOscar333 you are a sweetheart Lily! Thank you! Hope you’re doing good- better - best?! How were your tomatoes this summer?😃Ours were really yummie! Sunny positive vibes back at you! Have a wonderful 1st of September ☀️🍂🍀🌲💕💕💕🤗
@@1STBUCKLEYthank you!! I’m not real publicity for Dan’s work at the moment, hahaha so I will be back if I make some progress 😜! Wishing you a great calm healing weekend as well ❤
@@1STBUCKLEY ooh it made me emotional.. could tell lots of stories about her.. ! She was so humble but would have been flattered that I mentioned her strength ❤️
My anxiety and fear of the symptoms have risen over the last few days and it feels impossible to stop focusing on them. I tell myself I’m safe and not broken and I truely believe it but am so scared and caught up in feeling this pain
I have been where you are. In addition to meeting every thought with "I'm fine", I do some breathing (inhale, hold 5 seconds, exhale as slowly as possible x 3) to calm my nervous system.
Damn I’ve been experiencing this with some neck shoulder stuff. Anxiety creates pain but then when I’m calm… bam! Gone. Your videos are great… working on thinking positively and calling it for what it is :)
Funny you say that I've been having tight shoulders and neck pain last few days. I've been quite dizzy too I'm assuming from the tension but my anxiety is trying to run wild. Hope you're doing well!
Still struggling with heightened sense of smell etc. Out this morning, shops and then a walk but I'm feeling out of breath, but my oxygen levels and heart rate are super good 🙄 keep telling myself I'm safe. Another step forward
It's a challenge when you have both. Hard evidence there's something wrong and also it gets way worse when stressing out. Also, my symptoms get way worse when I'm worrying the least because there's a real problem. I miss resources for people that have both because it's not easy hearing there nothing wrong when there really is, but still it could help tremendously as you say to calm the fear response down!
For clarity, my symptoms get worse when I'm better mentally because then it's harder to not move a lot more, do a lot more than my body can currently safely handle.
@@thelaceygirl true, it just gets a bit confusing hearing that often nothing is wrong. I thought that for years and got worse because I didn't get a proper diagnosis and treatment.
Yep it can be difficult to flip the script after freaking out for a long time. But again worth it. ThNks so much. Ran into you at a great time recovering from surgery. I traumatized myself, I realize that now. Glad to be self aware, and have resources from people like you. My pain is so much worse when I’m on those fear and doubt mind set.
I needed this video so much today. Sitting with severe sciatica from a slipped disk that's not responding to physio. Been absolutely stressing myself out and making things worse. Thanks. I realize I need to stop being reactive and retraining my brain. :)
I started to call my symptons different, tingelingetjes, pipo the.clown, buzzers, colorfull sensations,wappiz, uggy, etc. My brain is having so much fun with this. And i laugh, or sometimes I cry. Its so 100 % TMS.after 6 different diagnoses, even my docter told me, you have SOLK. Or in other words TMS.❤thanks Dan❤
I've been out and about a lot more this past couple of weeks and my pain levels have increased. I presume my brain is just reacting to the new levels of activity, so I talk calmly to my brain and tell it things are okay. The pain is still there, but as you say fear doesn't help.
@@Inge508 I'm good 🤗 so much has changed, and I was doing so well until new symptoms showed up a few days ago. Watching Dan's video put my mind at ease and helped so much. Wishing you a beautiful day, dear Inge💖! ❤️🤗❤️
@@Inge508 Thank you, sweet Inge💖! 🤗 I'm sorry that you're also dealing with symptoms as well. Please do something fun today, even if it's just listening to your favorite song. 🎧🎶💃😄❤️
I am totally able to stay calm over my PDP, but I also have a true physical ailment of my eyes that requires wearing hard contact lenses that somedays I just can't wear because they hurt. Then I am basically unable to see. Which makes me have extreme anxiety for the future. Which then gives me more back pain. I feel I'm in a vicious circle at the moment.
Fix the brain, fix the body. The thoughts and memory plays a role with me. I know my symptoms are definitely anxiety. What you resist, persist. I absolutely believe this. We have to learn, to be okay with letting it be there. That's true acceptance. We don't have to like it, but we have to let it be with us until it fades.
I have testicular pain and rectal pressure. I cannot sit any length of time. Danger pain is real but chronic pain is a goddamn nightmare for me at least
Hey Dan, thank you so so much for your Daily Videos. You are doing such a great work here 🙏. Maybe a Video about specific Affirmations that you can say to yourself would be wonderful. Greetings from Germany
Hey Dan! Question, been watching about a month and teaching my brain we are safe and that there is nothing wrong with me.. been living more life, walking through a stressful time with my family, and planning a wedding for my daughter that is next wkend! And have had a dumb clogged ear..Symptoms are high and emotional. My question is… crying, is that considered a freak out moment? Been lots of crying. Just want to do and change if I need too. Thanks!!
Hi Dan so true fear and panic makes things worse. I signed up for a dance group for 55 plussers went this morning sooo nice. Had to take breaks but that is ok symptoms went along brain didn't like the dancing but I did! Then I went to that old lady again and bought her a plant was so nice again Daniel jumped on her lap 😳so sweet ❤also signed up for a reading club will hear about it next week. Because I love reading. I remain calm with high symptoms they can not harm me and keep talking to my scared little inner child. Ok love you Dan and everyone else a big hug and smile from me 😘😘😘
Hey lovely dan - avid follower thank you. I was wondering if you can discuss strategies for how to manage missing out on life things bc of symptoms this adds to the upset disappointment making PD worse. I’m in bed On a gorgeous day missing out again bc I’m whacked with symtons then more fear I’d be grateful for some tips thanks x
I control fear and panic a little more but there are moments when I lose it. I hope that being certain that there is no structural damage is a process, because even if you consciously believe it, doubts run in the unconscious and are emerging all the time. Doctors filled me with fear many times, but last time, I did it myself. In my second surgery, a bulge appears in the same place where the disc was supposed to be removed. That's what the radiologist's report says and the doctor denies it. That lack of certainty assails me all the time.
There is absolute chaos going on in NYC - hoods every day walking into stores and taking merchandise, people getting attacked almost every day in the subway, oke shops opening up on every corner with the pungent ell of pot in the air all the time, food delivery scooters driving on the side walks hitting pedestrians, thousands of illegals sleeping on the streets, making the streets dirty and also dangerous. People living here are frightened - and they don't have CFS yet.
Wow, Dr. Dan right before you said that if you got to a car accident I was just thinking about how EMTs come in with a sense of calmness and I think that’s amazing! Have a great Labor Day weekend and thank you for your content. Namaste.❤😊🤙🏽
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The hard part isn't so much fear or anxiety about the medical implication of the pain -- "something is clearly wrong", etc. You eventually overcome it with appropriate and thorough investgations and what Dan is fond of calling "calm reassurance". What is really difficult is dealing with the fear of the symptoms themselves, the lurking, nagging anticipation of a bad flare. Strangely, this foreboding often triggers a relapse and your confidence takes a big knock. One step forward, two steps back.
Like langlaufen 😊
Dan, here’s a story: I have long COVID-related tachycardia (POTS). But yesterday was a gorgeous day here in the northeast US as you know, and my husband really misses hiking with me, so we went to a local sanctuary that has mostly flat trails. On a small uphill, my FitBit heart rate monitor starts buzzing me. So I tell him “I have to stop for a rest.” But it kept buzzing me even after resting. This happened several times. Then I had an epiphany: “yeah, it’s buzzing me, but do I actually FEEL bad?” The answer was no. Then I thought of you and your videos, and I decided halfway through the hike to turn off that buzzing HR monitor app and just enjoy the walk at a leisurely pace. I enjoyed myself and my surroundings so much more after that. And lo and behold, I looked at my FitBit and my HR had stabilized just because I became calm. This stuff really works!
I got rid of my Fitbit because it made me anxious with the false readings and saying I didn’t sleep well etc. I literally had to ask myself the same questions you mentioned.
That’s just incredible. Amazing that you were conscious enough to ask yourself the question and pull through by remaining calm. 🎉
I have experienced the same. My HR monitor only made me worry more and I havn't used in the last year. That made the progress much faster
You should get rid of any monitoring devices, they only keep you stuck in fear
It will work better if you didn't get the CV shot as well...
Your videos are the only thing getting me through my pregnancy . I have extreme panic attacks due to health anxiety after I had a traumatizing brain surgery for an incidental finding …. I’m two years out from the surgery and everything is fine but my mind always says “ what if” and now I suddenly have TMJD , ptsd . Severe neck pain from my upper cervical …. Seen so many chiropractors and doctors … tested positive for autoimmune suddenly … thank you for being a light in a shitty tunnel❤
My Pastor came today, he prayed for me and..yep pain gone. All pain gone. So yep Its so true, fear and panic makes it als so bad
I know i can be painfree, for longer times..you are so right again. 😊thanks Dan, God bless you❤we love you
You are a good man Dan!❤
I am currently in a ´storm’ of pains and symptoms, just by trying to live more..
It’s challenging for sure to keep my faith in a happy ending but your videos keep me on track or get me back on track!
Just wanted to say thanks today!
I’m ‘detoxing ‘ a bit from you tube, but 1 video a day from you is better then a painkiller..
Have a wonderful Friday and weekend!
Sunny hugs from me and France 🇫🇷 🤗☀️🙋♀️
Inge sorry to hear you are having a hard time but it will pass. 🙏 I will light a candle for you. I know how that feels. Sending you lots of healing love and hugs 🤗 from Dublin. ❤️🌸🍂🌻
@@LilyOscar333 you are a sweetheart Lily!
Thank you!
Hope you’re doing good- better - best?!
How were your tomatoes this summer?😃Ours were really yummie!
Sunny positive vibes back at you!
Have a wonderful 1st of September ☀️🍂🍀🌲💕💕💕🤗
Miss your comments. Wishing you peace and a wonderful weekend xx
@@1STBUCKLEYthank you!!
I’m not real publicity for Dan’s work at the moment, hahaha so I will be back if I make some progress 😜!
Wishing you a great calm healing weekend as well ❤
❤️❤️ tomatoes 🍅 🍅 doing great. My first crop 🍅
I saw this comment in one of Dan's other video's. It was a Wise statement by someone's Grandma. ONLY CALM CAN SAFE US. Just like our Wise Dan says.
Ooh that was my grandmother ❤
@@Inge508soon as I read this I knew it was your grandma. Aww
@@1STBUCKLEY ooh it made me emotional.. could tell lots of stories about her.. ! She was so humble but would have been flattered that I mentioned her strength ❤️
My anxiety and fear of the symptoms have risen over the last few days and it feels impossible to stop focusing on them. I tell myself I’m safe and not broken and I truely believe it but am so scared and caught up in feeling this pain
I have been where you are. In addition to meeting every thought with "I'm fine", I do some breathing (inhale, hold 5 seconds, exhale as slowly as possible x 3) to calm my nervous system.
Damn I’ve been experiencing this with some neck shoulder stuff. Anxiety creates pain but then when I’m calm… bam! Gone. Your videos are great… working on thinking positively and calling it for what it is :)
Funny you say that I've been having tight shoulders and neck pain last few days. I've been quite dizzy too I'm assuming from the tension but my anxiety is trying to run wild. Hope you're doing well!
Still struggling with heightened sense of smell etc. Out this morning, shops and then a walk but I'm feeling out of breath, but my oxygen levels and heart rate are super good 🙄 keep telling myself I'm safe. Another step forward
It's a challenge when you have both. Hard evidence there's something wrong and also it gets way worse when stressing out. Also, my symptoms get way worse when I'm worrying the least because there's a real problem. I miss resources for people that have both because it's not easy hearing there nothing wrong when there really is, but still it could help tremendously as you say to calm the fear response down!
For clarity, my symptoms get worse when I'm better mentally because then it's harder to not move a lot more, do a lot more than my body can currently safely handle.
There is never a downside to remaining calm. Even if you have a true physical issue this stuff will help you.
Als er Nederlanders zijn op het Kanaal van Dan, zou ik wel contact willen met iemand uit Nederkand, liefs uit Amsterdam, Nederland
@@DrsdrdsAnnaDamehey Anna ik ben Nederlandse uit zandvoort ❤
@@thelaceygirl true, it just gets a bit confusing hearing that often nothing is wrong. I thought that for years and got worse because I didn't get a proper diagnosis and treatment.
Yep it can be difficult to flip the script after freaking out for a long time. But again worth it. ThNks so much. Ran into you at a great time recovering from surgery. I traumatized myself, I realize that now. Glad to be self aware, and have resources from people like you. My pain is so much worse when I’m on those fear and doubt mind set.
I needed this video so much today. Sitting with severe sciatica from a slipped disk that's not responding to physio. Been absolutely stressing myself out and making things worse. Thanks. I realize I need to stop being reactive and retraining my brain. :)
I started to call my symptons different, tingelingetjes, pipo the.clown, buzzers, colorfull sensations,wappiz, uggy, etc. My brain is having so much fun with this. And i laugh, or sometimes I cry. Its so 100 % TMS.after 6 different diagnoses, even my docter told me, you have SOLK. Or in other words TMS.❤thanks Dan❤
Welkom in de tms club Dan is the best ❤
As a Dutch man, I know Pipo the clown, best way is to laugh at it as well :)
I've been out and about a lot more this past couple of weeks and my pain levels have increased. I presume my brain is just reacting to the new levels of activity, so I talk calmly to my brain and tell it things are okay. The pain is still there, but as you say fear doesn't help.
Yes identifying what’s going on helps a lot. 3:55
Thank you for the wonderful video and positive message! So true 🙏💚
Dan keep these coming. Thank you for helping us. Fear is a liar! Great advice.
Terrific video! I love that part where you said " im going to choose, make a decision to remain calm". That was really helpful!
I loved this thank you 🙏
Thank you Dan! 😊
❤️❤️❤️hope you’re doing good sweet Ava?!🤗
@@Inge508 I'm good 🤗 so much has changed, and I was doing so well until new symptoms showed up a few days ago. Watching Dan's video put my mind at ease and helped so much. Wishing you a beautiful day, dear Inge💖! ❤️🤗❤️
@@AvaGreenFeatherooh sorry for the new symptoms!
But no panic, you will get back on track! Rooting for you!
Have a wonderful Saturday ❤
@@Inge508 Thank you, sweet Inge💖! 🤗 I'm sorry that you're also dealing with symptoms as well. Please do something fun today, even if it's just listening to your favorite song. 🎧🎶💃😄❤️
@@AvaGreenFeather yes I will!
😃so nice to connect with you for a moment again ❤️take good care sweetie 🤗🐝🐝🐝🙋♀️
I am totally able to stay calm over my PDP, but I also have a true physical ailment of my eyes that requires wearing hard contact lenses that somedays I just can't wear because they hurt. Then I am basically unable to see. Which makes me have extreme anxiety for the future. Which then gives me more back pain. I feel I'm in a vicious circle at the moment.
Fix the brain, fix the body. The thoughts and memory plays a role with me. I know my symptoms are definitely anxiety. What you resist, persist. I absolutely believe this. We have to learn, to be okay with letting it be there. That's true acceptance. We don't have to like it, but we have to let it be with us until it fades.
I have testicular pain and rectal pressure. I cannot sit any length of time. Danger pain is real but chronic pain is a goddamn nightmare for me at least
Dad weird topic maybe but could you talk with perimenopause and associated symptoms like intense fatigue? Are they all mind body?
If you engage in the anxiety and panic the pain subsides.
Hey Dan, thank you so so much for your Daily Videos. You are doing such a great work here 🙏. Maybe a Video about specific Affirmations that you can say to yourself would be wonderful.
Greetings from Germany
Hey Dan! Question, been watching about a month and teaching my brain we are safe and that there is nothing wrong with me.. been living more life, walking through a stressful time with my family, and planning a wedding for my daughter that is next wkend! And have had a dumb clogged ear..Symptoms are high and emotional. My question is… crying, is that considered a freak out moment? Been lots of crying. Just want to do and change if I need too. Thanks!!
Hi Dan so true fear and panic makes things worse. I signed up for a dance group for 55 plussers went this morning sooo nice. Had to take breaks but that is ok symptoms went along brain didn't like the dancing but I did! Then I went to that old lady again and bought her a plant was so nice again Daniel jumped on her lap 😳so sweet ❤also signed up for a reading club will hear about it next week. Because I love reading. I remain calm with high symptoms they can not harm me and keep talking to my scared little inner child. Ok love you Dan and everyone else a big hug and smile from me 😘😘😘
Dancing, reading, doing good things for others!
Wow, that are all healing activities! Keep going ❤
@@Inge508 ty sweet Inge ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😘😘😘😘😘
Hey lovely dan - avid follower thank you. I was wondering if you can discuss strategies for how to manage missing out on life things bc of symptoms this adds to the upset disappointment making PD worse. I’m in bed On a gorgeous day missing out again bc I’m whacked with symtons then more fear I’d be grateful for some tips thanks x
With anxiety disorder there is no pain but fear and Panic without reason.
I control fear and panic a little more but there are moments when I lose it. I hope that being certain that there is no structural damage is a process, because even if you consciously believe it, doubts run in the unconscious and are emerging all the time. Doctors filled me with fear many times, but last time, I did it myself. In my second surgery, a bulge appears in the same place where the disc was supposed to be removed. That's what the radiologist's report says and the doctor denies it. That lack of certainty assails me all the time.
Amen 🙏🏽 ❤
I went to my chiro the other day and left much worse ?! Is this because he injured me or TMS ?
❤
My pain is consistent Dan. You mentioned here something about some structural problems being more consistent? I’m confused now
Having the same question
There is absolute chaos going on in NYC - hoods every day walking into stores and taking merchandise, people getting attacked almost every day in the subway, oke shops opening up on every corner with the pungent ell of pot in the air all the time, food delivery scooters driving on the side walks hitting pedestrians, thousands of illegals sleeping on the streets, making the streets dirty and also dangerous. People living here are frightened - and they don't have CFS yet.
“I must not fear. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration.” Frank Herbert-Dune
I have to talk and breathe myself out of fear all the time
Wow, Dr. Dan right before you said that if you got to a car accident I was just thinking about how EMTs come in with a sense of calmness and I think that’s amazing! Have a great Labor Day weekend and thank you for your content. Namaste.❤😊🤙🏽