Resistance to All Things Unpleasant
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- Опубликовано: 13 окт 2024
- Resistance to All Things Unpleasant
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ive started telling myself, "ok this is uncomfortable but i am still safe and i know it will pass" letting myself acknowledge that my symptoms are uncomfortable but taking the fear away as best i can, has helped me a bit in those moments!
Love this! ❤️
Yes dear 😊This to shall pass. Sending love and light 🙏🏽❤️
Wonderful.
I have been trying to learn this lately so this video is coming at the perfect time!! Normalizing certain things instead of freaking out!!!
"I'm experiencing" (temporary)is so much better than "I am"(forever). Will use this from now on. 🙏
Wonderful
Dan, you have an uncanny knack of guessing the questions your audience is seeking answers to. To deny oneself the small luxury of experiencing the full range of human emotions, however dark or unpleasant, is the same as living half a life. Letting off steam once in a while can be immensely invigorating. And all of us are entitled to our share of self-pity. Just one question: where does anger, the emotion central to Dr. Sarno's thesis, fit into this? Should it be avoided as far as possible? Defused? Repressed? Expressed freely?
I find there is a huge difference between feeling emotions and expressing emotions.
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What a therapeutic video after my cry fest this morning 😭😂💜🕯️✨
Sending you a healing hug Raj!🙏🤗☘️☘️☘️💕
@@Inge508 thank you beautiful!
In the beginning we don't want any unpleasant things we fight it run from it and this attitude make it worse now I accept it, it's temporary and one day I won the battle
Very well said sir !
@@Inge508 Agree Inge!!!
I am so grateful you turned up on my RUclips feeds because I wouldn't be here today without you and that's a fact. I hope you really and truly know the difference you make Dan. You are helping so much and God sent you to save many. I love you too and you take care aswell.
PS I still try and do that mouth sound but I cant 😂
Thank you for all you do and I know I speak for this whole community when I said that.
"Ride it out. It is going to pass" 🙌🙏
Storm: that too will pass
Ride it out / Write it out !! This is where putting pen to paper can help . Many thanks Dan
You bet!
"It's now who you are, it's something you're experiencing." Gold 🙏 Thank you, Dan!
My pleasure!
Hi Dan love the rain 🌧️ and sound of distant thunder. That’s me ! I hate unpleasant feelings or symptoms, then I feel ashamed and guilty for letting myself do that 🙈 It’s so true what you resist persists. Let it pass all is ok .. thanks Dan 🙏
Yes Lily! Feel them to heal them❤
Have a lovely Sunday !💕🙋♀️🤗🐝🐝🐝
@@Inge508 thanks Inge so true ! I am learning.. had anxiety earlier and I let it pass through with gentle breathing. Have a lovely Sunday. 🙏💕🌸
@@LilyOscar333 well done Lily!
Anxiety needs to be felt, it’s a message !
Wishing you a calm state for the rest of your day 👍🙏🤗
@@LilyOscar333society has treated anxiety with such disdain over the last few decades, no wonder we try to "hide" it. I was in my car having a panic attack. Send partner into the shop, said I'll probably head home if I'm not here when you come out!". I sat with it, a few tears too but it subsided. Have a calmer Sunday
@@1STBUCKLEY thank you 🙏
Yep I ride it all out no other option 😁 unpleasant sensations are not a problem or unpleasant emotions. I ride it out. It is not my fault full stop. I had a major cry on Friday about that funeral/home. Still very hot here pfff love you Dan and everyone else a big hug and smile from me 😘😘😘
Love the rain. It emphasizes everything you say. Thank you as always for the reminders. Have a great weekend. Love you.Xxx💜
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I love the rain too.
I feel anxiety when I think I am responsible for other people’s ‘happiness’ and I try to fix their problems for them & help them be ‘happy’
I’m learning it’s got very little to do with me…and if I can rise above it and keep my vibe high then the anxiety doesn’t drop in as hard. 😅❤
This summer I’ve had a lot of core anxiety feelings return to my life. I’m working on feeling them and not assigning them to current life things that need to have more control from me. Working on reminding myself I’m safe & loved (primarily using scripture)
Beautiful John.
I'm binging all your videos. Really wishing your channel will take off even more because, as a buddhist, I can see you have a high level of consciousness.
Perfect timing of that storm
I love the sound of rain
And I always love all of your advice and help
The end goal of this recovery journey for me is not to aim for a super- happy life all the time.
That’s a formula for disappointment and unhappiness.
Unpleasant things , people, circumstances will always pop up,but we can choose how to deal with them, like you said.
This journey shows me that feelings good and bad have their place.
And nothing lasts forever.. in 1 day you can go from sad to happy and vice versa..
I just go with the flow now!
Storms can really feel cleansing !
We are expecting lots of cleansing rain on Tuesday !
Nature will love it , so will we!
Thanks for the video Dan!
Have a relaxed Sunday ❤
To go with the flow & accept everything is such a learning isn't it! Your words always resonate. Love to you.Xxx💜
@@josiejo117so heartwarming to connect with like- minded souls !
I honestly love this community ❤
Have a great peaceful Sunday sweet Josie!🐝😎🥰🙋♀️
Totally agree beautiful said ty sweet Inge ❤❤
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You are welcome Inge. Thank you once again for sharing your insights. Love it.
Just found your videos 3 days ago during a peak of stress and symptoms, been dealing with SIBO and gastrointestinal symptoms that have made me feel messed up for several months now. I’ve signed up for your zooms, can’t wait to attend my first meeting this week
I think intolerance of the unpleasant has been a problem for me for quite some time, and it manifested as digestive issues and allergy symptoms. I am so glad to be past that. Thanks, Dan. This was an important thing to point out.
I wonder what we do when our entire lives seem to be unpleasant. I went through that a while back. Indignity, rudeness, unreasonable expectations, on and on. “Goodists” (Sarno term) can get themselves in a quite a predicament. When it gets that bad, there’s nothing left to do but extricate ourselves from those situations.
I almost feel as if I need a maintenance plan, as a recovering goodist. A plan to check in with myself. Am I in relationships I want to be in? Is this the right job? Have I set the right boundary with this group?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with evaluating what is working or not working in our lives and making some changes. However, we can get well and eliminate our symptoms during that process. I ended 13 years of back pain in the middle of a failing marriage.
I totally agree. I ended a lot of distressing symptoms while unemployed.
Wonderful!!! If you would ever want to share your success, get on my calendar here: TalkWithDan.com
@@CherryLane-si1yj
I saw a double rainbow afte the rain - awesome!!!
I definitely believe crying can be cathartic. If I go too long I feel like I need it. I’m currently experiencing this. I need a good cry…. Experiencing anxiety about recovery and feeling a little depressed as it is a long recovery be. Will feel it, move on and ride it out, focusing on gratitude. Thank you
I used to think that discomfort was dangerous! And when you told me it wasn’t I looked back at all the times in my life and was like wow, I didn’t need to be so cautious, so finicky. I’ve told myself I have really sensitive feet and stuff, it was just a story
Yep - fascinating stuff, right?
How are you now I have sensitive feet too
Dan, absolutely perfect timing. I've also just started university and dealing with a lot of stress and symptoms. Tried to up my meditation to deal with it, but you've made me realise I just have to let it be and ride it out. Thank you
Same here!!! Just began after 2 years of “tms not being able to” started college and its a lot. Im here with you:)
Best video 😅
Still have a temperature, swollen glands and now stye to boot 🙄. Got out for a short drive. Panic attack but I'm sure it's just because I'm tired. Haven't driven home, I'm hanging it out. Love listening to a storm. Nothing better then a cry in the rain. London due a storm Mon/Tues. I'm not broken jys a work in progress. Happy Sunday. Thanks for today's video 🙏
How’s it going for you, what’s helped, have you been able to expand some? Thanks
Love the rain !!
Me too.
Why does it get worse before better? And utter proof accepted - I know it’s tms, or at least the belief will help all things. I went on holiday and managed 10 x more than usual, and symptoms down.. not perfect.. still very compromised but was hopeful.. on return, within 2 days floored in stress response, worst ever symptoms, nightmares.. feels like square one.. but the fact it was more manageable away I believe was a pattern interrupt/environment..
Home is where the heartache and trauma and patterns are..
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Definitely have had a lot of stress and symptoms in the last 2 years. Panic, anxiety, trouble sleeping and not feeling like myself. I tried medication that didn't improve anything and even done some evidence based counseling, where my therapist wanted me to make myself anxious. I ran across your videos and love watching them. Worry and fear drive this stuff. I know this, but it's hard not to worry and add fear when it gets going.
Hi Dan you are my hero really ❤ thanks to your videos I started to realize how my anxiety works and your recommendations really help. I keep going 🌸🤗
Beautiful.
I so needed this. I should have watched yesterday. Thank you
Great video Dan..☺️♥️ for decades I was convinced I was broken.. the sadness that came so often became overwhelming and now that I’ve learned so much about it, I realize that I did freak out every time I felt it.. I now give myself permission to feel whatever it is that my heart wants to feel ..🥰
Storms really are cleansing ☺️ I like how you linked it.. it’s so true that when we have an emotional storm pass through us.. we come out feeling clearer, and many times relieved, on the other side 🥰🥰
Thanks Dan..🫶🏼
Thank you Dan
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Anytime Ose.
I love this talk!! And yes, a good cry helps in so many ways as long as I just let it run, and don't feed it with story.. This is a GREAT one! Avoiding the unpleasant has gotten us into a real mess in the world, turning towards it allows wise action- for me.
Hit the nail on the head..!!
Dan, thank you for the effort you put to help with this TMS issue. I'm sure you have an idea of how many people benefit from your work, but there are probably many more than you know. Thanks!
thanks so much Dan,this was a huge help for me this morning. .it was such an inspiring talk and got me to climb back on the horse to healing🙏
Thank you Dan 🙏🏽🥰 Wow the rain 🌧️ sounds beautiful !! I am never broken. ☺️ Ps I the sound of the rain soo very soothing to me. Happy Sunday Namaste 🙏🏽 ❤️
You are so welcome
@@PainFreeYou Dr Dan your conversations / thought makes complete makes sense to me Thank you. I hope you have a wonderful Sunday. 🙏🏽❤️☺️
Thank you - just a point of clarification. I'm not a doctor. Just a regular person. :-) @@MissDoreen
My PhD advisor stole my ideas then they dismissed me from the program with no reason. They created a smear campaign against me. They are now publishing my work as their own opinion. I don’t blame myself because I worked very hard. still the situation is painful. 😢
So sorry to read this! But when you can get over this pain and resentment, your talent will survive everything !
If people have to steal your ideas to come into the spotlight, how low can they go!
They can’t steal your talent !
Wishing you lots of strength to go through this pain!And lots of great ideas and projects for the future 🌺
@@Inge508 thank you so much for your kind words. After reading your message I felt very calm. 🌸🌸 💕
Absolutely love the setting you used in this video. And the quality of the video is excellent! You are the best Dan!
Rainy here in NYC
Thank you. This hit real close.
Excellent.
When I feel real hard sesesation I always say I am not broken I am fine I am ok.
This is so true.
Thank you Dan❤
Dan I’ve tried to coach with you previously but you had a long wait list. Do you have availability? X
Due to demand, I no longer do one-on-one coaching calls and have not for nearly 18 months. However, anyone can jump into my group coaching program and get access to up to 4 zoom sessions per week and begin immediately. Details here: www.PainFreeyou.com/start
That's the church religious up bringing - it's wrong to get angry especially women - u always have to have that peaceful understanding constipated smile on your face - especially at work
Constipated smile hahaha so funny but true😂
Someone in the church said if u find a man sexy on TV even if they are unattainable you have to repent I feel this way over someone and boy do I feel ashamed and guilty I shouldn't be feeling this way it's not normal its taken a lot to tell you this
Dear Dan, can i ask you 2 things? When i first had symptoms of pppd i searched so much and read so much negativ stories on the internet. On fb groups, as reactions here and there. There are many people who say they suffer for many many years, did ALL the right things, tried everything etc but still did not recover. They say thay have no stress/ anxiety/ tissue damage, and just that the symptoms are still there...
Now... i am really wondering, what is your opinion on this? Are those people exceptions? They just cant recover from this tms? Or. would you say, if there is no tissue damage, than that is noncense! Everybody can heal from tms?! Than probably they are not recovering maybe because they just dont know that they have still something that is keeping the danger mode on...
i am getting the right way...but for me...this is one of the biggest problems why i am still stuck! The doubt that maybe for some people it IS impossible to recover😅😅 love your opinion on this!!!🙏.
2 i had the bppv attacks and than it got stuck and became more and more chronic off balance issues and swaying etc. Right now, i feel a lot of anxiety, and "pppd".
Dan,..when i see video's about anxiety symptoms and how to get rid of it...than also diziness seems to be the one that is common as a symptom all the time! When a coach speaks about diziness that is staying, than they tell about how to accept etc just like you.
But now i am wondering..i have these lingering symptoms. The off balance sensation all day long. And i know it started with bppv and stress for a period. And...when i have to say what is wrong: when you look at the "word" pppd. Than, i have this. But the thing is, when i say i "have" pppd...i feel.like i am.sick! Like, i have a condition like covid or something else. It feels like i have a REAL problem and its there all the time! But...when i listen to video's about how to recover from anxiety symptoms...than it seems not that bad because they dont speak about diziness...but just about symptoms "like dinziness, that are stuck because of a scared brain". And ...that seems less scary than the word pppd😮 i dont know ...is this all the same??? When you all speak of diziness that is stuck in a person...and is there all day long...is that still JUST an anxiety symptom? But... Just 1 that keeps going because of the scared brain? And...even if that is stuck and i feel this all day long...(so not going away when i calm down)... would my brain let these symptoms go when i can get out of danger mode??? Can i see persistent symptoms the same as other anxiety symptoms? Even if they are persistent???
I dont want tomorrow yet!!
Wobbly....that's what I feel ..from my anxiety and that feels like s--t😢
wondering if you ever come across people with penis pain and urine function problems.Had all the tests all clear had a full health check.Didn’t no if TMS could cause the these types of pain or is it just back pain etc.Had a small breakdown in December very low part in my life.
Shaun
That's main point it is not big deal. Isn't it
Correct.
What about unpleasant symptoms that are not normal for people to feel and have been dangerous ( allergic reactions to eating every day for years). This is the most triggering thing in my life and I’ve been working on it for years with no progress (it’s actually got worse). I’m trying to not fix it. But I’m literally starving all the time. I’ve been brain retraining for five years and it’s not budged an inch. It’s stopping me from moving forward because it’s making me so unwell
If you argue with reality you lose….but only 100% of the time….
L like I use to be and feel
Hahahhaha ;)
This really hit home for me. Thanks 🩵
Glad it was helpful!