How Narcissists Took Over the World
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- Опубликовано: 31 июл 2024
- Narcissists are suddenly everywhere. Thanks in part to Donald Trump’s media diagnosis, Narcissistic Personality Disorder has overtaken ‘psychopath’ and ‘bipolar’ to emerge as our number one label for others’ psychological failings.
As part of the Chosen Ones series, Gavin Haynes attempts to peel the pop back away from the psych, and see what’s left.
He visits the experts, quizzes the RUclips gurus, hangs out with the well-varnished girls dating on hotties-only site BeautifulPeople.com, and the support groups for the victims of the narcissists, all the while hunting for a real-life narcissist.
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You can never be friends with a narcissist. I completely agree with the guy that said they are the stuff of horror movies. The best thing you can do is recognise a narcissist and get out as fast as you can.
df julesful really, they don’t care about the other person, not only about them.
Or better yet warn everyone around you before the narcissist claims another victim. Narcissists are real comic book villains.
I believe related Narcs are the worst. Oh well I say Identify, evade and disengage the Narcissist. Just 🏃 🏃 Run!
Kudos to the narcissistic dude in the end for being so self-aware, but then again you can see how much he prides himself in being that self-aware.
lol good point
DreaminBut NotBelievin
I never implicated any of that.
But you can clearly tell that he has found a way to market his narcissism. He also never said he's any different from other narcissists or believes he's any better, but of course narcissists in general think they are better than other people, including other narcissists, hence the name.
My point is that he only does all of that to feed into his narcissism and garner even more attention (just look at the mails he sent) and have a larger stage to present himself on, it's a calculated, selfish move. I think to him morality is only - if even - secondary.
If you don't believe that, then you should listen to him and what he has to say about the behaviour of narcissistic people again.
I'm not saying that's wrong or bad. It's just an observation.
They are two types of people, people who are full of themselves for being the general idea of attractive. Good looking, rich, popular etc and then there are people who are full of themselves for the exact opposite reason. For being intelligent, "morally superior" etc The only difference between the two is typically the latter works harder, and that's where they get the idea that they are better, that's what they pride themselves on. Not that there's anything wrong with being proud of your achievements. I've just noticed over my lifetime that the people who have problems with boxes are the people who don't fit in them.
Ironic, aye?
i dont agree with how he says he is uncurable. To me it sounds more like he doesn't want to change his narcissism and is content with being a narcissist
Here is a list of what Abusers/Narcissists usually do to their targets :
- Insults their target very often. Then lie when confronted about it, or say it was a joke.
- When confronted with their behavior, they pretend to be innocent and play the victim.
- Everything is always your fault, even when it's obviously not.
- They always have a justification for every bad thing they do. They think they're always right.
- Very controlling, they tell you how to live, but they can live anyway they want. Very hypocritical.
- They accuse you of what they're doing to you (RED FLAG!), it's called Projection.
- Portraying themselves as angels outside, when they are actually demons with their family and especially their target.
- They want you to fail, while pretending to want you to succeed (they're very convincing).
- They never say they are sorry for hurting you (RED FLAG!).
- Poison your favorite activities, they don't want you to be happy or to get pleasure. They also poison other useful activities like important skills which will help you in the future. They DO NOT want you to have skills, they want you to be as weak as possible. They don't teach you anything.
- Subtly lead a smear campaign against their target, so they isolate it and make sure they don't get help.
- When you want to leave the relationship with a narcissist, they beg you to stay with them and cry crocodile tears. They are the best actors.
- Sometimes nice, sometimes cruel. You never know where you stand with them.
- They pretend to be "victims", and they blame the target for their own behavior.
- They are incredibly arrogant and sadistic. They see the target as weak, and deserving to suffer.
- They think they are models to be followed.
- They are spiritually dead although they might loudly profess some kind of Spiritual Belief.
Please share this message to other people and forums. We have to raise awareness!
wow that's my ex
Oblivion Darkheart You described perfectly my mom and dad, witch my mom is in aquarius zodiac and my dad is capricorn!
My little sister is 6 years younger than me and she is also aquarius!
But, they are no match for me! I am 25 years old! I am Aries with lion ascendant!
Perfect description of my ex. This makes me feel a lot better about breaking up with her for being a narcissist lol :)
Wise Owl Good luck with it and bad news most of the woman's are narcissistic. You will see it, if you study there behavior.
I agree with this, great summary! Only through learning about narcissism more have I realised that I used to be a strong narcissist even as a child. Thankfully I've changed and become a more balanced person. What it made me realise though is narcissists will never admit to being a narcissist because they never see themselves this way. Only by changing your character and having a different persepctive can you then realise that you were a narcissist.
My father was a text book narcissist and growing up I was abused by him. When I was a teen i started to show signs of narcissist myself but something changed in my 20's. I feel I grew as a person and learned to be empathetic of others. At times I find myself slipping back into that behavior and have to check myself . But at forty now I'm so glad i was able to be self aware of my treatment of others and to be more respectful.
IAN m "textbook narcissist"
IAN m: Your life is a great example of what I've been researching as of late. I'm appreciative of your awareness and support you in your health and relationships with my sharing of this knowledge and your story. I've been finding NPD is on a spectrum and I've sensed even the slightest bit of it since I was a child and very empathetic, yet didn't know how I was being manipulated. Take care!
IAN m good for you man
really ? wow.
Good on ya!
Our society often rewards and even respects narcissistic and selfish behavior, as he pointed out. For this reason, it is easy to mistake someone as a narcissist who is merely acting as expected.
Bingo
One may call this disheartening, I call it disappointing, perhaps even tragic.
You missed the point
if they act as expected then that is what they are. I look at actions I do not care for how they feel at any point. if the behavior is telling me this person is an NPD, then I know to stay clear of them, and limit my interactions with them, and even deprive them of key information about myself, such as my regular hangout spots, where I live, even the neighborhood, and if I can help it if they don't know my name or even full legal name I'll keep their asses in the dark. This is how I protect myself.
It pays to be a narcissist, sociopath, psychopath, retarded, insane, you name it.
Many of these parasites was locked up in the old days.
They are making it normal these days, the negative, or as they called in the old days: Evil or demonic.
Heavy books have been written about these subjects, years ago, and still they runs the show in every nation on Earth!
Mental health campaigns here in Australia always target depression but I think they need to target narcissists more. Each narcissist is out their preying on and using people in several different ways, surely creating more depressives in the process. I think they're the greatest psychological challenge for the human race because they prevent us coming together in collective ways and working towards a better society.
As a victim.. i believe it's up to us to form a worldwide movement for awareness. There are millions of us, and there always have been millions of us. Narcissism is in FACT more deadly than Ebola is but we don't see any warnings at all. And if narcissism doesn't kill, it maims, it mutilates, it harms, undermines, exploites, misleads, and has probably on a larger scale 'full spectrum' dominance over human beings through many of the institutions/instruments they developed over the centuries to maintain that possition. If we don't want humanity to change into stricktly predatorial creatures, we'll have to step in. Only victims have seen the TRUE face of narcissism in its horrible impact on our souls. I had seen lots of misery in my life before i became aware of narcissism. ALL OTHER SHIT IN LIFE DWARFS in comparison to narcissism.
Alain Vosselman you said it.😭😢😞✊🏻✊🏻
End White Supremacy then you can unite the "human race"! Is that simple.
@@davidmitchell3997 your kidding yourself if you think white people are the only narcissist. Most world leaders, celebrities, politicians, etc. don’t look at The melanin. Look at the character.
@@emiitchi4232 So true. I'm black and I see narcissism in all races. That is when I so that 98% of what is labelled racism is actually narcissism.
I had a 2 years relationship with a narcissist. After that I truly believe that they have no human feelings.
This is a narcissistic comment.
Was raised by one and i dont think they experience love the way normal humans do. They "love" the things you can provide them and the minute you cant do that they discard you.
That's not true at all. They have feelings but it all revolves around themselves.
Correct.
I’d rTher feel nothing that feel something especially with Biden
It's definitely a narcissist who added that LOUD background music - so loud it takes over the speech! It's called BACKGROUND music for a reason - background, not FOREGROUND. Argh!
Thank you for bringing attention to this. I thought I was the only one who noticed this in everything I watch.
I was listening it with a headset in a train and I thought it is the train or something... yepp, bg music was too loud.
Agreed! I couldn't even watch it. 🤦♀️🤷♀️
Wouldn’t a narcissist want to hear their voice above all?
Come work in "corporate America", you will find it rife with narcissists and workplace sociopaths. Even top universities, such as Harvard, teach students how to effectively "play the office politics", when they should be teaching how to eradicate the office politics from the workplace, as this will make the business more efficient, innovative and profitable.
I've been there. Think of it like the worst dictatorship you can imagine and put it into one office building.
So true!.... I went to work in cali and my boss just used me for all the hours I work he said he wish he could've paid me back he treats me like shit I was on psych meds and vaccines I couldn't do much... I was dying and I was saving up money but my grandfather died after my birthday I had no money fuck....
True. I used to work in corporate America and it was a damn nightmare.
Underrated comment thread !!! So fucking true
Irony of ironies: people who work for Vice making a documentary about narcissists.
lol the host was incredibly conceited such hubris and a creeper too
It's supposed to ooze irony.
I know - they must have trolled the depths of Milleniaville to gather their roster of ironic, sarcastic little twits.
haha basically
And..??
I wasn't sure what to expect from this piece as there are a lot of misconceptions still floating around about what actual clinical narcissism is, but I am delighted that VICE was able to interview both Richard Grannon and Sam Vaknin. Those two have some of the best and most useful information one presently find on clinical narcissism and narcissist!c abuse. Cheers to that!
Narcissism has nothing to do with beauty I believe. That "beautiful people" website must attract above all vain and shallow people, which is not the same as being a narcissist.
That is very true BUT narcissists also think they are perfect. So, I am sure several narcissists are on it.
I agree. The vain and shallow person probably has more in common with Histrionic Personality Disorder
Sometimes it does, but you are correct, being vain doesn't =narcissist.
But they often make good Flying Monkeys for a Narc
Sharp remark !! It's complicated enough without stereotyping.
Vice clearly has a well developed sense of irony.
Next this reporter can do a segment on sociopaths.
Maybe you should shut up shit head!
@@mrtambourineman6107
Pretty sure he is being sarcastic.
The term Gaslighting has been around for decades. It's based on a play from 1938 in which an abusive lover convinces his wife that she is insane.
Such a wild "film" or play! I remember learning about this
I grew up with a Dad who has NPD and because of that I myself have a few traits of narcissism but no more than anyone else. There’s a difference between loving yourself and admiring yourself. All too often in today’s world we’re encouraged to love ourselves but we’re never taught what that really means, so we end up creating a depiction of ourselves as someone we admire. The problem with this is of course as more and more people develop narcissistic tendencies and NPD the world we live in starts to become devoid of empathy and compassion, and recent historical and political events show that all too clearly.
Narcissists hate themselves- and at times like themselves. They are obsessed with themselves but pwNPD hate themselves
When a narc is hoovering over you : "Hey is everything okey with you?" 1) Asif they themselves aren't the person somethings wrong with. 2) Giving you the illusion they actually care about you 3) Hiding the fact THEY need you and not the other way around. 4) Hiding the fact they have forgotten you for as long as it took for them to contact you.
People butthurt over this:
-Trump supporters (Since when does being anti Trump imply being pro Clinton?!)
-social media selfie narcissists
which apparently make up more than half of the polulation.
what about people who just didn't want to see a naked representation of Trump?
So many right-wing butthurts like wow!
+SirVixIsVexed Yes we all aspire to be as "fair and balanced" as a one-sided, completely biased news outlet. This goes for MSNBC as well. Its not news, its a platform for people that only want to hear the news they WANT to hear.
SirVixIsVexed I thought everybody was butthurt over that huh
nice avatar
This guy is like the real life salad fingers
hahahahaha yes
yesssss
woooooooord
imagine him in the low lit room :o
1:28
I appreciate that man's analysis of society's acceptance of narcissism. His insight is refreshing and he is so correct.
that woman at the online dateing scam was a real peice of work its become a trend to use the narcissist word as it sound good to say and makes people feel smart
So sad to see how far Vice has fallen, yet they're not the only one.
You're a sewer rat
What do you expect from a bunch of leftist hipster retards?
George Foreman They betrayed my trust when they covered the Shkreli case pretty well.
Yes, painful to watch
i saw that i quite liked it as hearing about him i went in with expectations but he just seemed like a really rich nerd but it weird bc ik he's also the guy that hiked up the price on that important drug like who does that so idk he a troll and half he belongs on 4chan
Having a narcissistic father I can say that it is very very sad, to love someone and watch them suffer with this. To be hurt by them time and time again but you still love them and all you want is for them to get help. But they dont feel they need help.
I feel like the psych field needs to do more research about narcissism and sociopathy and the whole anti-social thing. I think there is a lot to this we just don't understand yet. Psychologists have been giving us false info for years and I don't buy it that this is "incurable" and I definitely believe it is preventable.
Narcissism in someone isn't preventable, because narcissists are basically demons in flesh. A demon can only possess a person while they're in low vibration. Everything now days is low vibrational. The news, alcohol, drugs, chemically processed packaged fast food, chemicals in pharmaceuticals etc. Everything is designed to keep us in low vibration, even our cell phones. Cell phone radiations affect our thinking, the way we think, our mood swings. 5G is very dangerous. Since 5G has been in place most people are facing isolation, depression, anxiety, insomnia and other health issues. We're being made vulnerable to the demonic realm by constantly being kept in low vibration. 6G is gonna be a complete memory wipe out. People are already having short attention spans due to 5G Hence, you can only imagine what 6G is gonna do right?
I wouldn’t wish being in a relationship with a narcissist on my worst enemy
lol....i think all the narcissists are downvoting this.
I think u should go watch Dora the explorer
Don't forget the Trump supporters
You think I care to dislike hahahaha
I am a proud Latino trump supported and I disliked this video , so you're right.
You are nothing but a pathetic uncle tom and I hope your ass gets deported. Conservashits fear the day when mexican people work together,why you would promote the nativist right wing agenda is beyond me.
Lol at the dislikes, the triggering is real
Guarantee the vast majority thought it was a political hitpiece (which it wasn't) instead of social commentary
You can't make a video about narcissism in society and not reference Trump.
Exactly, they used him as a popular example of narcissism and clickbait, nothing else. But the army of ant brains doesn't bother with watching the whole video
"the army of ant brains" lol!
Not too smart to start with a political topic if you ask me.
public figures are not coming from nowhere,they are the tip of the iceberg.
I was more annoyed by the blatant hypocrisy.
The left is as narcissistic as the right but incapable of admitting it.
It's simple: Narcissism is the excessive need to feel "special" COMBINED with a lack of empathy.
Very acute
There are so many different types of narcissist, they don’t all behave the same, having being left by a Mari mother at the age of 4, passed around made sure I knew I was a burden, there was no love or empathy. I remember thinking at a young age that I would do my best in the world.
I did better than my mother and her sisters and they hated me for it.
My grandparents were the glue holding everything together, when they died, there was a disagreement about my auntie spending a fortune on some of my grandads money and not declaring it to probate. Narcissistic rage!
I went on to marry a malignant narcissist, about four years after I divorced him a grandiose narcissist swept me off my feet, that’s when I started research. I eventually met someone and honestly it took about a year for me fall for him, but I really believed he was my soulmate. He didn’t display any sign of the typical traits, after we split I watched a few videos, and it had a chart with all the different types but the covert narcissists are the absolute most sly, selfish, vile creatures..
They all need locking up!
I just love how the "beautiful people only" girl flapped her feet as she walked down the hallway. No grace whatsoever. Good luck with that master race thing.
She never said a single word about race, carrot top the Vice reporter interjected that garbage.
Salacious and agenda-driven reporters will always have work as long as there's people out there dumb enough to fall for their race-bait "journalism."
@@bebeezra uhhh she didnt say anything about race she said GRACE
@@LadyWisteriaa uhhhh I was referring to the girl being interviewed not the poster. The poster conflated, _"master race"_ with the girl's comment, _"beautiful people only"._
That was all the Vice rat. Who clearly poisoned the well with subtle twists to his comments and questions to make the girl appear racist. She is undeniably shallow, but she said nothing racist, that is all Vice race-agenda manipulation and the poster clearly fell for it.
Narcissism is not about attention seeking. It is about controling people and being mean.
Host: "Are u a member of the beautiful people?"
Lady: "I am, I got in"
Host: "Did u?"
LoL!
21:10 the way this man says 'they' when talking about narcissists, makes me believe he doesnt truly think he is one himself. but this is a good way for him to explain why he has no close relationships, the idea of being evil/horrible makes him feel better when trying to explain why his life is the way it is. also it's a good way to make money lol, he's built his business on this identity
The woman at the dating site seems a bit nuts, thinks people want to start an aryan master race normally! And then "*I* should be paid for this" - yeh, a joke but complimented herself at an oppportunity when it was*him* that got in, so the nice thing to do was to recognise that. Then she totally avoids eye contact at the end and makes some weird "non0sexual" thumbs gag, as if she thought he was even remotely interested in her. Just weird. Very weird.
465marko Agreed!
Yeah, I was like wtf ...
I said "wow" out loud when she answered the question about master race
She is assuming that desire and fascism go together just on common sense, not even as a politically motivated ideology...
Freaky. I like it..
You have limited experience with women. Cringe.
_"you put the child on a pedestal, and you say he's great because he's got the family name..._"
This is very common, many children grow up being told they are the best in the world, then they get a slap in the face when confronted with the reality that they're not.
George Carlin did a great bit on this.
Your so right! I'm surrounded by so many narcissistic people that I feel like I'm living in the Twilight Zone!
Always give you moments where you feel like "this can't be real"
"holding up a mirror to narcissism itself" loved this
the final part where a narcissist talks about the dangers of a society that encourages narcissism is really food for tought
This is a fascinating video. Be glad you weren't accepted into "Beautiful People". Having been brought up by a narcissistic mother it led me into a series of relationships of narcissistic abuse. I guess I'm technically classed as a co-dependent, people pleaser. I learnt the people pleasing aspect in order to survive my mother's daily abuse. What I've learnt is that narcissists have no acceptance of their guilt. They themselves were generally abused, whether it was mentally, physically or sexually. The narcissistic may be arrogant, successful, charming at times they need to only know in themselves everything you are, they can never attain. Their jealousy towards you, someone they proport to love or as in most cases, feel they own is unmeasurable. There's not one type, just like all of us are different. It's hard to shake free from a narcissist and harder not to go back into further destructive relationships with another, especially if we've been raised and conditioned by one or worse two narcissistic parents. For me what helped was to step back, to understand I didn't ever have to explain myself or my accountability to anyone other than myself. To listen to people rather than talk. They lack remorse for their actions, lack empathy for others and above all, if they are truly clever ones, will mimic your behaviour in order to fool you. Best wishes to anyone who's experienced this or who has experienced this abuse. Be guarded. Be aware of sheep in wolve's clothing. x
Awww. You’re such a victim! Narc.
rel m8, rel
I would love for you to send me money Jo. It would please me greatly.
good info
I've worked with people with all kinds of personality disorders. The most difficult for me of the people to work with were obsessive compulsive disorder because they are insanely controlling. Narcissists can be difficult too as they tend to gossip alot, create cliques, create conflict, make office politics way worse and antagonistic, etc. Also, if you say anything to them they will try to get revenge on you.
Narcissism is just another learned behavior that we can conquer if we learn what really matters, which is not only the self. Once we find that we gain more happiness from understanding and helping others, we can stop thinking we are somehow superior. The more we learn, the less we know.
"Narcissism is just another learned behavior that we can conquer"
Get back to me on that when you conquer greed, hypocrisy, bias, etc.
Or you know conquer any of the negative human traits at all. *rolls eyes*
Right, because there are so many predatory narcissists out there who will become models of well-adjusted compassion once someone explains to them the error of their ways. What you don't realize is that for someone to be cured of a disease, first that person must *want to be cured.* He has to want to change himself for the better. In the handful of narcissists (including a few sociopaths) I've encountered thus far, I have never seen any will to do so.
Narcissism is fueled by negative feelings coupled with the inability to deal with them. Instead, a narcissist hates themselves so much or is extremely insecure that any exposure to the true nature of the person will likely force them to death. It is indeed a survival mechanism
I have a feeling most of these dislikes come from Trumpets who didn't watch more than 1min.
Interesting video, and the reporter is bloody hilarious. Constant lowkey light humor.
"Are you a member of the Beautiful People?"
"I am, yeah, I got in"
"Did you??" LMAOOOOO
I didn't think anyone would notice that LMAO. Then she got back at him by saying she doesn't think he will get in LMAO. Like okay...?
I think narcissism is easiest to understand as part of the attachment spectrum. On one side you have anxiousness or dependence on others and on the other side you have avoidance and independence from others. Both ends of the spectrum represent states of insecurity either with themselves or others. In the middle you have vulnerability and interdependence based on a state of security or trust in both yourself and others. Typically someone who is operating in their relationships as a narcissist is someone who has internalized that others can not be trusted, other people will let them down, other people will exploit them and so forth such that they retreat into themselves to get all of their needs met alone. This kind of a mindset isn't entirely illegitimate, it can be appropriate in certain situations like in war, self defense, making decisions with authority, hunting animals for food and basically any situation that necessitates a win/loose scenario. However in cases that necessitate win/win scenarios like friends, family, lovers and business the true narcissist doesn't believe in this on a subconscious level. Therefor they end up creating a win/loose dynamic even when none is necessary. Their subconscious minds are fully committed to the win/loose game, kill or be killed. It's the defense instinct on overdrive.
This is a nice video about narcissism!
Actually, I watched all narcissism RUclips channels you referred to in this video and it has been incredibly valuable for me.
Dr rumani and Angie Atkinson, thriving to surviving
Did she actually say most people are going out to bars looking to create an Aryan master race?
So beautifulpeople.com openly admits they are racist. I think they should change the name to Aryanpeople.com
Like Roman Bishop said, I think she just meant attractive people meeting other attractive people to create good looking children. On a somewhat different note, maybe there's an unconscious bias on the site against people of color due to the initial members being predominantly white. After all, some biologists think that people are just naturally more attracted to people of a similar skin tone, which makes sense, honestly. Like, from a natural selection standpoint, people with light skin are much more likely to get sunburns and such in a hot, sunny climate, hence they are somewhat less likely so survive. Of course, in the age of AC, that kind of thing is largely irrelevant.
You obviously never bothered to look at the site. If you do there are two black people on it. She definitely meant to hook up with attractive people in order to create more attractive people.
Tanner Davis Irrelevant?! Maybe you should read about skin cancer and white people who have to move to “dark states” because they literally cannot exist in sunny climates.
That was an uncomfortable moment 😳
After releasing the Narcissist in my life from 18 years of abuse, I have reflected on my life up to this point, I have been so isolated, I don't even know who I am anymore. I have been a shell of a human, I've also sponged this person's obnoxious personality and truly just been so misaligned with my own inner truths. Now she's out, I've never been happier and free. It's a beautiful life not being the supply anymore. I have real friends again and they were genuinely worried about this friendship with my narcissist.
i was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, it only got worse as i got older, i was accepted into multiple modeling agencies, people constantly telling me i was hot, i was having sex in 9th grade finding the chicks that thought i was hot, smashing, then not talking to them, and only now that im 17 do i realize that i had loved myself and extorted women so much that i have destroyed my ability to have a normal functioning relationship, im trying hard to fix it
It's not a trend to be a narcissist, it's a trend to know what npd is, which is freaking awesome.
A must !
Iam a single guy. Bobs
I love this piece. especially the author. Hope he does more pieces like this.
Wow vice after being subscribed to your channel for the last 4 years I'm really thinking about Unsubscribing...
do it then
I'm so triggered guys kinda like a feminazi debating Milo
BYE 👋
Sayonara pal
duces!
People always talk about what narcissists do to you, but no one talks about what it must feel like to be a narcissists.
Noah McDaniel it feels horrible
Watch Synecdoche new york.
It's trully painful to be a narcissist.
Yes! Best comment. Nobody discusses their own narcissistic behavior, and nearly everyone in the world is guilty of it by some degree. That is the most frustrating thing to me in terms of having close friends. I want honest conversation which includes discussing negative behaviors, but its like a taboo. Its difficult if not impossible to find people willing to honestly look at themselves and say, "I'm being negative or self absorbed or superficial " or what-have-you. And on which level.
I'm done feeling sorry for narcissists. What makes them incurable is their refusal to meditate and go within.
They gossip about people who have peace of mind, and treat peace of mind like a zero sum game.
As if, your choice to choose mindfulness is robbing them of their narcissistic supply.
They seek constant praise, and when they haven't gotten an absurd amount they start gossip, or start trouble with anyone they possibly can, including strangers in traffic, or people at a grocery store.
Just literally anyone.
And all they have to do is sit with themselves and start meditating.
Ah, but then their inner narcissist will abuse them. They choose to abuse us before feeling that pain. Better we should all suffer than they should suffer.
Eventually, if they dealt with that pain, it would yield healing, but it would take years.
Scan the brain of lifelong meditators and you'll find increased empathy.
Nobody talks about it bc it’s like saying why don’t we talk about what it feels like to be a serial killer. They might have feelings but it doesn’t matter bc they’re too busy hurting people and feeling JOY from others misery so who cares what they feel. They do not change and the ones they hurt the most are the ones who’ve shown the most love towards them or that should be able to trust them. If that’s not evil I don’t know what is and you can’t bargain with evil or show it enough love to get it to change. You can’t reason with it or even threaten the. Bc their superior view of themselves leads them to believe they can get away with anything and mostly they do. Once discovered and known for sure they need to be put down like the dangers to humanity they are. We could do to learn how they come to be and educate people at a young age and we could pass laws to get these people off the streets and that might deter a few of them but what they don’t need is compassion or understanding. That’s like that grizzly bear guy who wanted to snuggle w them in the wild. Dude they’re grizzly bears and it does not good to ask why. You just have to see them for what they are and what they do and handle them as such or else you will likely be the next victim.
I contacted Sam one time to thank him for his work on RUclips and he was very cruel to me in response by saying I had not bought his book and why should he want my thanks. I was very shocked, needless-to-say.
Why in the world were you shocked? How gullible can you be? You knew he was a narcissist what else did you expect? You're like that lady who tried to pet a polar bear because polar bears on TV are so cute and cuddly and she couldn't see past her gullibility to understand she was engaging with a vicious wild animal. Of course the polar bear attacked her and she was shocked. I'm actually shocked that you contacted a narcissist and then were shocked when they behaved narcissistically towards you. Life isn't a fairlytale. Ground yourself in rational thought
@@bmizrahi1782 Why are you beating her up? Don’t you have better things to do? Smh.
@@bmizrahi1782 now u fit right into the criteria of a narc.
Wow... you would think he'd be smart enough to at least fake it! To me that must means he is not present to his mission... Maybe he didn't sell too many! When I've done seminars, my biggest reward was ALWAYS when people came up and told me how it helped them -- NOT telling me how great I was -- but them TELLING ME how it had helped them. Or when they engaged with the material I taught -- even if it was with each other. So You did a great thing and he missed out on the most rewarding part... Plus, I'm guessing you won't be buying too much of anything from him! Good luck and God Bless!!!!
the part about not being loved/praised when you were young, and then building a shell around you is true, it does make you a little narcissistic. plus, it's almost unconscious
14 narcissists gave this a thumbs down!
LOL. it really is a bit silly. I didn't make it all the way through.
Trumpoliners mainly.
now 5 days later its 1814
This is so interesting and I feel like everyone has met someone like this in their lives, but in the support group for survivors of people with narcissistic personalities sounded a lot like abuse. Which to me raises a question: Are abusers more likely to be narcissist?
Kudos to Gavin Haynes on this video, he made it an enjoyable video that showed his humor while making an interesting documentary.
lol, i bet most of the dislikes are a reactionary impulse to the opening image
Thank you for making this. To all who suffer from Narcissism. To those who bestow empathy. To those that have compassion for human consciousness. No one can ignore this explosion of thee age old "King Self Worth" complex. It is not our place to hate them, as this is an unnecessary emotion. Yet it is our duty, as awakened beings, to change this around, and teach as many as possible, about humility, the elimination of ego, and the act of enlightened free will. Once free of ego, you are free of all fears, angers, doubt and depression.
If hating gets you out of an abusive relationship, it's absolutely worth it.
i totall agree with the statement 'nascissists pushed social media to evolve'... i was thinking on that for a long time now... a great video again Vice!
The line in the video that the usage of the term "narcissistic" is far out of line from the greek origin or Freud's discussion of the term is quite incorrect.
Modern research has shown, over and over and over and over again, that measured narcissism has been on the rise in the U.S. population for at least 50 years now.
The big culprit here is, without a doubt, the massive amount of media and marketing which espouses image and ownership as a replacement for real self-worth and fulfillment in life.
Truth. Feeding the fires with feel good affirmations instead of focusing on the path of a better you (collectively and singularly.)
am I the only one acknowledging that the psychologist looks like the secretary in the Incredibles????
you made my day
edna
I always joke about having narcissistic friends but I never realized how it could lead to such abusive and manipulative mentality.
Narcissists are everywhere and there are so many of them in society,world leaders,our parents,mostly people who are married will likely discover their so are also that they are everwhere all the time and its very very scary but we weren't famillar with the term yet and never understood why these people are behaving like that !
I have borderline personality and it is so frustrating seeing this, I live with internal conflict and guilt for absolutely no real reason while these people do anything and everything for personal gain with no remorse or second thought. In their mind they are "winning", it's disgusting. It's fed by insatiable greed as well
I have it too. I know how you feel. It brings up such a rage and sadness in you.
this video seems to blur the words narcissism (excessive self-interest, grandiose view of one's own abilities, craving admiration) and sociopathy (a lack of conscience, manipulating others for self-benefit, egocentricity)..
at times the video talks about one but illustrates the other.. or Vice Versa.. I just read the description.. the video claims that the label "narcissism" has taken over as the default label.. whether that is true or not.. this documentary may only serve to confuse those words even further..
DestinyQx You are right! That's why I stopped the video at minute 5 and 11 seconds!
I'm a fresh victim of a narcissist manipulator, this guy who faked to be a very good friend almost made me want to commit suicide, and I'm still struggling with severe depression after many months.
Very sorry to hear this... I'm saying a prayer for you right now... Hang in there and know that Jesus loves you and God is there for you even when you feel very alone. Hang in there... Your contribution to the world is needed, even if it's to help someone else learn how you survived! God bless.
Fk that. Me too. But ive had them around me growing up. Locked down after a terrible family tragity with a covert. Every cluster bs narc. Its hell. 3 years. Stuck. Morbadly sad at times. 3. At least i know what it is now and dont have a blind spot for narcs. Thats essential. Amazing gift/ tool. Probably be king if we get rid of these maggots imo. Being locked down with the dammed tormentor has airbrushed past tragities. Nothing compared to this hell. Peace, love and wisdom to you.
I think narcissist people are just weak the dangerous wants are the antisocial ones
Cheers to finding the most narcissistic journalist at Vice to cover this story. Lets keep rotating through videos of you walking for the opening montage. The psuedo-humble attitude he gave during the questionnaire is textbook narcissism. Just enough to tilt a scale and manipulate external view.
I love the way the interviewer worded everything. ALL of his metaphors were on point asf 🔥
What's with all the thumbs down? This had some excellent insight, especially towards the end.
PolemicContrarian because of it opening up with making fun of our Commander in Chief.
Orange Man Bad
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@@buffalowick8003 And that is what, offensive? He's asking for it all the time.
@@buffalowick8003 *Former President
Honestly I know 4 narcissists in my life. It's sad really. There's one who's my exfriend and she always called herself perfect and hot pretty she also had all the traits of a narcisist and called me fat and ugly to make herself feel better
She was a psychopath for sure
I'm glad you're no longer friends with her.... You are far more beautiful than she is, I can tell you for sure, because no one truly beautiful would say what she said... The more secure and accepting you are of yourself, the more attractive you become. Women who think their value lies namely in their beauty are easily threatened by a friend who is more confident and has a stronger sense of self, no matter what she looks like.... God bless you!!!! You're clearly smarter than she is too!
She really breaks it down at 6:46 and at 7:36 being praised so much and at 8:00 from being dissed so much they self loathe themselves to be more then to avoid the hurtful neglect even if that means being less empathetic their motive is out of spite rather then being brought up as their the most and entitled in everything
My kids father @ 8:00 being not the favored one growing up along with other of his 9 siblings who despise the mom for doing so and yet I get the disslikes, mistreatment and insults he endured growing up with name calling now i receive that even though he's all cool with everyone else 😎 👌 😅 🙌 acting like the good guy and he even admits to me he just fakes it yet its still unfair they get all the pleasantness while I get the unpleasant Ahole mean bully guy even though he acts and says he loves me and does ACTS OF KINDNESS SMH.... narcissists are such basket cases I swear I'm going under wire to record and document so facts of his true self is seen for whats justified for not just mine but all humanity whos manipulated into insanity and having the victim being smear campaigned as the problem when their the most patient to tolerate and forgive so much their so wrong.
14:14 love how they have support groups after being dragged through the mistreating and dealing with their dysfunctional fake love/and mostly selfishness and their deeprooted self hate that creates their abusive toxic relationship with whomever they choose to just take their jabs at
18:50 love his honesty especially as how can't be a true friend and have normal relationships its all about whats in it for me
20:00 "social gameships" at least he admits his charm to swooning others to his liking is all game so i guess narcissists are just players since my kids dad even gets mad saying okay you win like I'm trying to dominate but its about whats right, fair and just but they don't see that they see it as always afraid of being defeated so they'll do you wrong thinking you'd do it so they do before you'd do it thats all in their head fearful competitive mindset so to them they see it as if it puts them at top even when they cheat lie and steal to seem more of superiority.
This guy did really good with his choice of words throughout this little video.
"I'm a horrific narcissist who cant be cured. truly i am the stuff horror movies are made of. I am Sam Vaknin, and my IQ is very high. If you are wise, you will stay away." Hahahahahahahahaha; so charming.
A cynicist can read a narcissist like a book
Well, his (Sam Vaknin) self-awareness is charming and good. His social analysis is interesting: it hits fundamental points. I have empathy for most narcissists, though they annoy the hell out of me in real life.
Great series, great piece that couldn’t be more apt at this time.
I got into BeautifulPeople a long time ago. Very few people in the U.S. use it and very few log in regularly
Just spent 4 days TRYING to dump a narcissist & I am emotionally spent. The universe must've known I need this video in my recommendations
Narcissists are definitely not just totally made. There is always a genetic disposition which serves as a kind of base for the mentioned educational issues.
Actually they are neither "made" nor a victim of their genetics. They choose, and to choose transcends nature or nurture.
@@dgontar i like this comment. It indirectly destroys the whole fate/destiny argument as well.
i read a lot about great leaders who started from very little and rose to the top-people like richard nixon and lbj. just about all of these leaders were narcissists to the core. their narcissism leads to their rise and achievements but also to their failures and ultimate downfall. it's beautiful in a tragic way.
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Ohhh man I need this to be an entire series!! There’s so much to delve into with this!
The interviewer certainly didn't shy away from voicing his opinion. In his defense, many of us see and have seen Donald Trump as a flagrant narcissist for years. I remember long before Trump suggested that the first African American Person ever to be nominated by a major political party was not a US citizen; Trump was dangling money over the famous so he could get a hard on by telling them "You're fired".
4:52 hahahhaha that was so funny.
Btw people narcissists are very good at what they do, so you don't even feel (at first) they are using and manipulating you. But enough about Trump, this is more about the age we live in that encourages narcissism and makes it a good thing to be. They could have made this doc much much better, it's very basic.(vice) Vice is very good with an interesting title, but not delivering or covering what the title says whatsoever!
It shouldn't have focused so much on narcissistic personality disorder, but more about narcissism in general as becoming good traits to have and people getting admiration for having views, being superficial, being seen etc
All the youtube vlogs with people all wanting to be adored celebs, facebook,, instagram etc etc.. and the young kids growing up in this kind of world, where to them it even becomes more the norm than for the generation before them.
Easy to dismiss that by saying 'we all have narcissistic traits' duhhh, but its about those traits become larger and something that is admired in fact, labeling it as 'success'. That word manipulated so much that it has changed the world. And if you criticize anyone on their self admiration selling it to sheep that admire it (many times only they themselves wanting and working on becoming like those they admire) you will be called a 'hater'..another very manipulative and silly word, that holds a lot of power.
*But it seems nobody really is interested in the topic, but more into trump vs democrats..
20:20 : well said
years ago our landlady lived on the property and one time i went to her home to help her with something and she literally had huge professional portraits of herself all over her home and she also had calendar that was photos of her 😭
Sometimes people fear getting old, losing their looks and feel unloved or unworthy, so to compensate they try and take the perfect photo of themselves, one where they look good, and put it on facebook etc, or take lots of photos of themselves , because they feel so bad about themselves and need that validation off other people. I did that for a while when i was on facebook, i wanted to get back with a woman i had broken up with and wanted to look my best, even when i knew we werent getting back together. It was pathetic stuff, but a bad time in my life casued me to become a bit obsessed. On the surface it looked like narcism perhaps, but it wasnt that i really thought i was great or amazing.. Although maybe i had some traits of it ? Self loathing and self obsession are close to each other i think
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People just saw the Trump art and got hurt i guess
is that art?
danail david Anything with Trumps cock is art
2:20 WTF is wrong with her walking style???
she is a member of the ministry of silly walks
like a nazi general)
She's been given 2 thumbs up (in a sexual way)
It’s the shoes actually
Dr. SuperFunk She has walking problems! Some people are born not 100% healthy like the rest of us.
Some people have difficulty with there way of walking since there birthday!
They try to live a normal life, like the rest of us, but they struggle with there legs health problems!
great piece. allowed for some introspection as well
Gavin's Vice story are the best i have seen in a couple of years. Vice faith restored.
We're "all" head first into This Sicko Narcissistic Generation
I feel like this could have been way more interesting then it really was.
I only got 2:41 in and had to stop because that music is getting on my nerves it's competing with what the presenter is saying and if I turn down the volume and I really can't hear what he is saying at all and so maybe you spared me a bunch of aggravation... I'll take your word for it and the others here who gave you a thumbs up , thanks .
At least Richard Grannon was featured.
Truly well done. Keep up the good work. The best yet. (But not better than everyone else, unless you're into that.).
9:15 Being outright sadistic, don't forget that one. I have a feeling this trait is not often acknowledged because people are delusional, wishing such behavior away.
2:02 did they blur the logo on purpose because gee i wonder what logo it is lol
yep its the logo of a pear :p
legalities are a bitch sometimes
Whys does everyone seems to hate this reporter? In my opinion he is doing an excellent job when it comes to explaining and wisely entertaining the viewer.
See Elizabeth Lunbeck's description of narcissism (in an interview on RUclips) and what distinguishes malignant narcissism from "healthy narcissism". Her book, The Americanization of Narcissism, speaks about the history of the intersection of psychoanalysis, capitalism, and how the term 'Narcissism' has slowly become an entirely negative label. Narcissus, the legendary myth who became addicted to staring at himself in a pond, hurt nobody and caused no dysfunctions. Contrary to this- malignant narcissists who slip through society like a shapeshifter or a manipulator- can cause much more damage and should be avoided at all costs.
She’s like: I got in
Him: Did you…really? XD
always a huge red flag that someone might be a narcissist when they start rationalizing their behaviour as "well, everyone has *some* narcissistic traits", thus confusing the issue and normalizing destructive behaviour
This was a really informative & thoughtful video so far. Shame if you didn't give it a chance.
I like the terms and vocabulary being used.
Only those who are Narcissists wouldn't give it chance, their to busy looking after their own wants, needs and interests.... I agree, more videos need to be addressing the subject to help folk understand how dangerous the world has become!
On RUclips, we have many narcissistic people, for sure! Such as, some people who play video games and using their webcam a lot, some people who record themselves watching a video and react to a movie trailer or reacting to a weird video.
I couldn't understand what the guy was saying at 10:53 so I put the CC on and it says "nar-counting"* ... that's not a word. Could someone tell me what he's saying or explain what he's meaning?
*the closest thing I found was the "National Association of Realtors (NAR) Counting ... mishap" and I'm pretty confident that's not what he means.