Check Yourself - Accountability | Charlie Johnson | TEDxNormal

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  • Опубликовано: 4 июл 2024
  • "Why are some people changing for the better, while others are changing for the worst?" Charlie Johnson shares how he discovered the power of self-accountability and how to push forward no matter the obstacles. . This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @peterchristian5886
    @peterchristian5886 4 года назад +318

    Self accountability is a powerful thing. If you cannot or do not hold yourself accountable, you will not be successful at holding others accountable.

    • @ahmedsalafap5898
      @ahmedsalafap5898 4 года назад +4

      truth .

    • @paromita_ghosh
      @paromita_ghosh Год назад +1

      True

    • @ciaralee9760
      @ciaralee9760 Год назад

      Yeh I'm really bad at both , I just want to be a better person . I just don't who I am right now . I used to be proud of who I was . I was not anyone special but I was real I loved and I had a good heart . I was a good person . 😢 I'm so upset with myself and I just want to show I'm better instead of feel immensely sorry

  • @beckwilde
    @beckwilde 4 года назад +91

    "someone asked me the other day, if i've ever figured out why i was depressed when i was younger. as much as i would've hated to admit at the time, all i wanted was to make my parents proud. and every time i failed or let them down, it was easier to say that it was some fundamental part of me that i couldn't change than acknowledge the mountain of change i was going to have to overcome to be happy."

  • @smileyparto
    @smileyparto Год назад +19

    I'm 35, and I recently realised that I've been blaming a lot of people, situations and external factors for where I am in life.
    My determination is to combine self care with personal accountability to reach my goal and improve my personal outlook.

  • @laurendurden5018
    @laurendurden5018 2 года назад +92

    I’m watching this video to find some kind of enlightenment on my lack of self accountability. I’m 19 struggling with baggage & trauma from my past & it’s effecting my relationships with family & the man who to be life partners with. I wish everyone growth who’s struggling as well

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 2 года назад +15

      Progress is slow. Ask for help. Focus on one thing at a time. Give yourself grace without lowering you expectations. Be honest, write down what you want, write down when you fail. Failure is supposed to hurt, that's why we try so hard to avoid it. Appreciate progress and success, its supposed to feel good.

    • @madclone84
      @madclone84 2 года назад +2

      I never asked for help. Started at 15. Hit rock bottom at 20. Instead of finding a shovel I started climbing. 👍🏽. Progress is slow but as long as you do one thing a day to improve you will

    • @lukehumes2402
      @lukehumes2402 Год назад

      I am

    • @AshleyB-xh1qh
      @AshleyB-xh1qh Год назад +1

      You should also watch will smith's fault vs responsibility video! I wish I'd have seen it when I was younger!

    • @georgeofthejungle2132
      @georgeofthejungle2132 6 месяцев назад

      Try Buddhism. It helps me greatly.

  • @JJ-cl5wv
    @JJ-cl5wv Год назад +12

    Loved and needed this. Thank you God thank you Jesus!

    • @OuterRimPride
      @OuterRimPride Год назад +2

      the speaker's name is Charlie Johnson

  • @amohammed5
    @amohammed5 5 лет назад +74

    It is called evolving. How do you grow if don't conquer your flaws? Being selfless and liberating yourself from opinions and learning how to be vulnerable is how you get there.

  • @Thatdudeorbit
    @Thatdudeorbit 4 года назад +82

    when you said all I wanted to do is make my parents proud that hit home bro

    • @scottsponaas
      @scottsponaas 3 года назад +14

      When you said “that hit home bro” that hit home bro

    • @jahidlm7910
      @jahidlm7910 2 года назад +1

      I cant take you seriously with that pfp💀

    • @aniketbagul4970
      @aniketbagul4970 2 года назад

      @@jahidlm7910 why

    • @user356x84c
      @user356x84c Год назад +1

      @@scottsponaas wheb you said that hit home that hit home and that hits home with a hot hamburger and peas and fries and a large soda and 2 numba 45's

    • @scottsponaas
      @scottsponaas Год назад +1

      @@user356x84c bro, hearing you say what you just said hits home harder than Aaron Judge hits home after hitting a home run. It didn’t just hit my home, but like a door to door salesman, it hit every home in my neighborhood. I’ve gotta hit it homie, but I’ll hit you up when I get home.

  • @Kristiana-mb9lk
    @Kristiana-mb9lk 2 года назад +8

    I take account for my actions that have influenced the suffering of others.

  • @jt6264
    @jt6264 5 лет назад +78

    I broke down during this video because I realize how changes I have to makes as person I don’t know how but I’m willing to make the changes and sacrifices to become a better person even though it will take adversity and many challenges

    • @gillianomotoso328
      @gillianomotoso328 4 года назад +3

      Iceman Pierce In time, Iceman. In time.

    • @jeremyhernandez6855
      @jeremyhernandez6855 4 года назад

      Iceman Pierce with god anything is possible

    • @nevamoore5192
      @nevamoore5192 3 года назад

      Don't give up. Hope you're doing well on your journey.

  • @nate7249
    @nate7249 2 года назад +10

    "It was easier to say that it was some fundamental part of me that I couldn't change than acknowledge the mountain of change I was gonna have to overcome to be happy"

  • @Magne1
    @Magne1 4 года назад +24

    Yes, being open to change and development is so important.

  • @randommode3016
    @randommode3016 3 года назад +13

    5:18 "and if you were to ask him is there a goal in your life that you're working towards right now, he would say yes. But, you look at where he is now vs where he was six month ago, he's in worse place now. And if you look a year ago, the change is even more drastic. The hardest part about change is acknowledging that we have to do it. Admitting to ourselves that the actions were doing are not gonna lead us to where we want to go"

    • @mnds1476
      @mnds1476 Год назад

      so if it don't lead to anywhere why should we even be doing it i t he first place .

  • @thrashersplinter
    @thrashersplinter Год назад +9

    I AM four months sober after an injury and an od that almost took my life. I am grateful for this video I could feel the connection. Thank you ☮️💛

  • @luckygirljournal777
    @luckygirljournal777 29 дней назад

    I remember that feeling of anxiousness before starting my healing journey. it felt impossible. 1 year later though i can say i am a completely different person, still unlearning and changing mindsets but happier

  • @mendalz
    @mendalz 2 года назад +7

    The first two minutes feels like he’s describing my life. I needed this reminder right now.
    Thank you for this video.

  • @TonettaClay
    @TonettaClay 2 года назад +7

    A great message. Holding yourself accountable and taking responsibility is one of the major keys in life. Thanks for this video. It's helping me think about some things I need to work on.

  • @UrbanSipfly
    @UrbanSipfly 4 года назад +8

    Accountability is a deed that experience says we must do and become.

  • @PinkYellowGreen2023
    @PinkYellowGreen2023 9 месяцев назад +1

    Accountability is the ultimate grown up move that many never make. To acknowledge the role you played in a situation good or bad is to show empathy for yourself and others. It means to realize that the facade of always being right is just that - a facade. To so many Americans,being accountable for the way their actions effect others is a lesson never learned!!

  • @tylercaskey1931
    @tylercaskey1931 3 месяца назад

    This video randomly popped up and I clicked on it. It was like going to church after a week of having something on your mind and the pastor was talking about you. Nice.

  • @XAEX12
    @XAEX12 2 года назад +1

    The most underrated talk ever

  • @davidpearson8954
    @davidpearson8954 5 лет назад +13

    Great speech.. Inspiring and wise..

  • @courtneylane8225
    @courtneylane8225 4 года назад +26

    Thank you Charlie- I searched accountability Ted talk and this was perfect

  • @Blessed2bhere34
    @Blessed2bhere34 2 года назад

    This is my biggest challenge! I love this!

  • @elizabethgreenacre1720
    @elizabethgreenacre1720 5 лет назад +7

    Great speech!!

  • @jcalderairl
    @jcalderairl 3 года назад +4

    Great speech. One day just one thing...

  • @Aries2711
    @Aries2711 3 года назад +4

    Wow. This hit me real good. Excellent video

  • @jacobhibbard8038
    @jacobhibbard8038 3 года назад

    Brilliant speech, so valuable 👌

  • @wiskatraders8673
    @wiskatraders8673 Год назад

    Thanks God bless you and your family 🌹🌹

  • @tmmofficial17
    @tmmofficial17 3 года назад +4

    Thank you so much for this video it helped me a lot to understand myself more deeply take love from Bangladesh 🇧🇩 I really appreciate this kind of initiative keep it up!

  • @davidr321
    @davidr321 3 года назад +1

    Spot-on! 👌

  • @Aphrosyche
    @Aphrosyche 3 года назад +1

    Thank you

  • @CreateAnkita
    @CreateAnkita 4 месяца назад

    Love it. Thankyou

  • @susheeladabla6502
    @susheeladabla6502 Год назад

    Great talk!

  • @victorallencook7107
    @victorallencook7107 4 года назад +3

    Accountability started a longtime ago . The marathon will have rough terrains .

  • @SaidurRahmanTV
    @SaidurRahmanTV 4 года назад +23

    Having a friend as an accountability partner can help stay accountable.

  • @mohamedhassan-dj8ov
    @mohamedhassan-dj8ov 3 года назад +6

    Believe it or not I came here from Kevin Gates interview with complex 💪🏾 Breadwinner

  • @PokASnitchA
    @PokASnitchA 2 года назад

    Preach.

  • @otisgcc
    @otisgcc 3 года назад +1

    Great speech!

  • @Kimberly-ul1ph
    @Kimberly-ul1ph Год назад

    Changing self vs taking responsibility for the actions of others
    Currently feeling overwhelmed

  • @ohthatsjaz
    @ohthatsjaz 2 года назад

    Consequently even though we are able to view the faults of others, it is the greatest epiphany to realize our own faults and acknowledge our own idiosyncrasies. If we all walked around with a mirror would we only glance into it or would we look at it closely and acknowledge all of our imperfections? Sometimes people are afraid to even pick up a mirror and look at themselves that deeply, much easier to correct others. I would say that comes with maturity but I have friends that are 70-80 who still fail to ever acknowledge where they went wrong in their own lives, and the longer we live the more you have to face the reality of self accountability. Quite sobering.

  • @SsGh-yi1ie
    @SsGh-yi1ie 9 месяцев назад

    Speech great

  • @Meatislife
    @Meatislife 2 года назад

    Didn’t take long to hear this to know you’re talking about Alldredge Academy! Was there myself back in a cold winter in January 07.A time that will never be forgotten. That drum beat down to the village is something you never forget.

  • @monaiannucci7831
    @monaiannucci7831 2 года назад

    Im checking me on the daily

  • @begrateful6153
    @begrateful6153 Год назад

    You’re talking about internal and external locus of control. Those with internal locus of control can change and improve because they hold themselves accountable. However, people with external locus of control don’t change, and get worse over time, because everyone & everything else is accountable except themselves.

  • @TheZZZAAA333
    @TheZZZAAA333 3 года назад +1

    Please share more information about the facility in West Virginia. How do families afford this type of help? So many of them are so expensive only the rich can afford them.

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 2 года назад

      Unfortunately the facility is no longer in operation.

  • @jodo7814
    @jodo7814 10 месяцев назад

    When your mom has the resources to send you across the country to a wilderness field trip so you can feel better, you have a better chance than most.

  • @shayboogie83
    @shayboogie83 Год назад +1

    Damn! 🥺

  • @himanchalvlogs4866
    @himanchalvlogs4866 7 месяцев назад

    Hello there I m from Chhattisgarh,India

  • @Davinci637
    @Davinci637 2 года назад

    Yo estudié una carrera relacionada con la contabilidad. Aunque no me acuerdo de nada. XD.
    Sin embargo, aún así, le envié una carta al presidente de mi país, en la cual le aconsejaba que subiera el impuesto al alcohol extranjero, dejándole claro que aquello traería varios beneficios.
    Estoy practicamente seguro que nunca tomó en serio nada de lo que le dije. XD.

  • @monaiannucci7831
    @monaiannucci7831 2 года назад +1

    My problem is finding a friend on my level

  • @SillyKoala
    @SillyKoala 5 лет назад +5

    There's no true happiness in this life, because it's always temporary. What we should be aiming for is contentment.

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 5 лет назад +5

      That assumes the definitions of happiness and contentment are mutually exclusive. I disagree, I would be happy being content.

    • @SillyKoala
      @SillyKoala 5 лет назад

      @@charlesjohnson4210 You can never be happy all the time, it comes and goes. What lasts is contentment. It shapes how we view the world. The goal is contentment, not happiness.

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 5 лет назад +1

      @@SillyKoala You did not acknowledge my point at all, happiness and contentment are not mutually exclusive. So let me pose the question to you, what is the definition of happiness, and what is the definition of contentment?

    • @SillyKoala
      @SillyKoala 5 лет назад

      ​@@charlesjohnson4210 Happiness is an emotion. Contentment is a state of mind. The goal is to be content whether you are happy or sad. It's to find your inner peace.

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 5 лет назад +1

      @@SillyKoala Those aren't really definitions, so I'll probe a bit deeper, what's the difference between a state of mind and an emotion? Or more specifically, define what an emotion is and define what a state of mind is. Try to be as specific as possible, please.

  • @bmevolunteers
    @bmevolunteers 2 года назад +1

    🙏🏿🔥🙏🏿

  • @guineveregruntle6746
    @guineveregruntle6746 2 года назад +1

    We have evolved into an unaccountable, dare I say soft, society. I notice a lack of accountability varies across a broad spectrum of ages from Baby Boomers to Gen Zs. It is found in various socio economic backgrounds. It’s fascinating to identify and observe these people in the workplace.

  • @mts2457
    @mts2457 Год назад

    Does this mean Normal IL?

  • @goldeagle6391
    @goldeagle6391 Год назад

    good speech

  • @user-eg7cb6sv4i
    @user-eg7cb6sv4i 3 года назад +6

    I’m just here because of school

  • @theancientsam
    @theancientsam 11 месяцев назад +1

    just a quick thought before watching, is it "normal" if they just tell you its normal? im a little suspicious xd

  • @mattc8831
    @mattc8831 6 лет назад +7

    Ok, “decide to hold yourself accountable.” Now how?

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 5 лет назад +22

      Schedule time each day to reflect on whether you achieved your goals THAT DAY. Setting an alarm on your phone to go off daily is a good place to start.

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 5 лет назад +14

      Writing down whether you did or did not each day, so you can track your success. And you can reflect back on times when you're more effective and try to figure out why.

    • @flattlandermontgomery1524
      @flattlandermontgomery1524 5 лет назад +17

      My idea is regarding delayed gratification. You dont get to do any of the fun or relaxing stuff until you have checked off all the tasks you wanted to get done each day. Set a goal, reverse engineer it into daily tasks and then don’t watch tv/netflix, play a video game, drink a beer or whatever until you did that daily task.

  • @IsayMacias
    @IsayMacias Год назад

    someone has a Dynamic about this ¿?

  • @visualelement7youtubechann941
    @visualelement7youtubechann941 5 лет назад +9

    Training is correct It's a fight everyday a personal choice. if It was easy everyone would be doing it.
    Mortal Combat

  • @paromita_ghosh
    @paromita_ghosh Год назад

    I went like i would do this bhana which is bad really bad !
    But see

  • @Greg-hg9cs
    @Greg-hg9cs 3 года назад +1

    This was given in a program. The funny thing is that the very ones who suggested this are the very ones who accually never done this and participate in Gangstalking.

  • @missyrittenhouse8673
    @missyrittenhouse8673 5 лет назад +3

    Hi

  • @nicholastracy4915
    @nicholastracy4915 6 месяцев назад

    After inflicting hardship and adversity upon myself in a business that I had used to hate, and in conditions that were brutally cold outdoors, alone, covered in dirt and mud, I started to change. Made an effort to, every time I wanted to quit and run, when anxiety attacks started to overcome me, and self hate would plague me, begin to thank the Lord for this struggle, and ask the Holy Spirit to guide me in the ways of humility and help me combat my ego. Though I am not free of insecurities completely, I have come far and I get very little anxiety now. All by doing the work.

  • @TestigoAburrido
    @TestigoAburrido 4 года назад +1

    Shane dawson

  • @wiskatraders8673
    @wiskatraders8673 Год назад

    👏👏👏👏👏👏🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹👂👂👂👂🔊🔊🔊🔊💓💓💓

  • @jish55
    @jish55 3 года назад +3

    Sadly, if you call someone out on something they say or do, you're now "canceling" them, because for some reason, we've reached an era where people aren't able to handle criticism and instead want to hold onto their archaic ideals and ideology, where they don't want to be told those views are no longer acceptable.

    • @charlesjohnson4210
      @charlesjohnson4210 2 года назад +1

      That's why you need to hold yourself accountable. You are the only one who sees and knows everything you do.

  • @lukka511
    @lukka511 11 месяцев назад

    Hello Im Luka 16 years old from Germany and Im looking for an accountability partner

  • @RAtheGoodRailfanner_888
    @RAtheGoodRailfanner_888 Год назад

    Ughh!

  • @PinkYellowGreen2023
    @PinkYellowGreen2023 Год назад

    People who feel they have no accountability for what they do and say are crazymakers. They try to talk you into thinking they haven't done or said anything wrong!!! Foools......

  • @GamingtheOtter
    @GamingtheOtter 4 года назад +5

    Lmao Shane Dawson

  • @opensausage6643
    @opensausage6643 Год назад

    1° world problems...

  • @monaiannucci7831
    @monaiannucci7831 2 года назад

    Attention seeking ?

  • @Greg-hg9cs
    @Greg-hg9cs 3 года назад +1

    It is a cult

  • @justa2049
    @justa2049 3 месяца назад

    All BS!!!😂😂