(500) Days of Summer (5/5) Movie CLIP - All That True Love Nonsense (2009) HD
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After running into each other, Tom (Josephn Gordon-Levitt) and Summer (Zooey Deschanel) have one last conversation about true love.
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Joseph Gordon-Levitt and Zooey Deschanel star in director Marc Webb's wry, nonlinear romantic comedy about a man who falls head over heels for a woman who doesn't believe in love. Tom (Gordon-Levitt) is an aspiring architect who currently earns his living as a greeting card writer. Upon encountering his boss' beautiful new secretary, Summer (Deschanel), Tom discovers that the pair have plenty in common despite the fact that she's seemingly out of his league; for starters, they both love the Smiths, and they're both fans of surrealist artist Magritte. Before long Tom is smitten. All he can think about is Summer. Tom believes deeply in the concept of soul mates, and he's finally found his. Unfortunately for Tom, Summer sees true love as the stuff of fairy tales, and isn't looking for romance. Undaunted and undeterred by his breezy lover's casual stance on relationships, Tom summons all of his might and courage to pursue Summer and convince her that their love is real.
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Cast: Zooey Deschanel, Joseph Gordon-Levitt
Director: Marc Webb
Producers: Veronica Brooks, Scott Hyman, Mason Novick, Jessica Tuchinsky, Mark Waters, Steven J. Wolfe
Screenwriters: Scott Neustadter, Michael H. Weber
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Being hopelessly in love with someone. Such a shitty feeling.
It's like a drug. It makes you feel good but it will ultimately harm you in the end.
Nothing worse then crying over a girl who don’t feel the same way you do. You always end up getting hurt in the end.
@@TheProphegy Or a guy.
at least you guys know what it feels like to love somebody
@@artimiti What people call love vs what love actually is, it's completely different. The love shown in most movies is about finding a person that makes you into this twisted soul without them and shows you to be a better person with them in the end. Real love is letting the person go when you know they might make you feel whole and complete because you know that you can't give them the thing in life they want and deserve. Without any hidden motivation or telling them why and what you are feeling, since that will just put them in a position of having to choose right in the moment which isn't fair to them. It hurts but not as much as it does knowing you have hurt someone you care about, and you are able to live with yourself easier knowing they are better off without you and you actually care about their happiness over your own.
In the long run your not missing much.
"It just wasn't me you were right about."
Bittersweet, and trusting what she says, 100 percent correct.
I felt like my ex bf was Summer talking and I was Tom lol
Did it mean she should have stayed with Tom?
What does this movie line mean?
@@ryangarbanzos366 that he was right about love, destiny and happy ever afters existing, just that he was wrong in thinking he'd find that in Summer
@@Gofaw Thank you sir for explaining.
I was in the same exact situation a couple years ago when I broke up with my ex gf. In fact, I watched this movie shortly after. It really made sense to me. I did the exact same thing Tom did - I projected my dream girl onto her, I enforced my feelings to her, tried my best to win her heart. In the end it was all for nothing, and the idiot was none other than myself. But Summer did one thing that my ex never did and it was this. She never gave me an explanation or a closure. We never talked after we broke up and can't blame her for that. In the end, I had to make my own explanation. What Summer did here was an act of kindness, something that Tom deserved at least. I'm just thankful that I watched this movie because it was as if Summer was talking to me as well - we laughed, we loved and we tried, but she isn't the one.
there's nothing wrong in projecting your dream girl onto a girl, it's not about that. this movie is more than about that.
btw, Women don't usually give closure that's just the way it is, you have to raise your social intelligence to be able to understand what went on and not blame them for being women.
It's the nature of women to be illogical.
Vindi Chase this is not a love movie, it's a movie about love.....
Do u really believe there is such a thing as the one? :))Summer will probably cheat on him or his husband will cheat on her. There are no relationships where love lasts and couples stay the same for each other. Thats an illusion.
Bobaloo Channel You explained exactly how I felt from this movie so perfectly! I don’t think we ever get the closure we would like to have when relationships end but I’m thankful that this movie made me feel less alone and understood a bit.
The genius of this movie is that the 500 days are not of their relationship. They continue after they've broken up, because to Tom it still feels like she has a hold of him, and the process of letting Summer go takes even longer than the time they spent together (or they're at least comparable, I can't remember it's been some time since I actually saw the film). I just think that's so like life; Summer in't even in Tom's life anymore, married someone else and they don't interact on a regular basis, but every day that goes by till the 500th is hers is Tom's mind because she is still deeply imbedded in his psyche.
Nicely put!
And it's also super realistic. I was in a relationship with similar dynamics almost three years ago for nine months, and I still feel like he has a little bit of grip over my life, even though we haven't seen each other for two years.
Sometimes we accidentally get hurt so badly, that the pain and the love form a lasting impression on you, even after you've moved on with someone new. As long as there is a tiny part of your soul that does not want to let go, it will always feel like a small sting to see the other person's name pop up somewhere.
I always come back to this movie because it is the most relatable one for me and I'm very glad to see a movie that shows the ongoing struggles of not being able to part 100% with someone. It's not healthy, and I'm glad that this movie shows that it's not healthy to be this hung up on it.
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01:58 That look of longing gets me every time. In that moment you just know that he was still in love and would have gotten together with her again in an instant.
I don't think that was the case I think at that moment he realized it was hard for her to be there with him and she was also hurting in some type of way. when a relationship ends regardless of who ended it...it hurts. summer might not have wanted a relationship but she still cared for TOM and she knew how her actions affected him. she knew he was hurting and so was she in her own way. I don't think tom still wanted to be with her after her playing with his emotions and then getting married shortly after the breakup.
Keese Adams true
DaMn
Hax9 good observation felt that was the case.
I’m glad he didn’t his too genuine for her
What I love about this scene and most people don't realize is that Summer is doing Tom a favor. She's setting him free from her so he can start over again, also admitting to him that his point that true love exists was true. It hurts when you love someone and it just doesn't work out, but it hurts even more when you're imprisoned with that situation forever. Most of the time you have to search for the way out by yourself, you have to realize it, no one shows you the door. But summer, as hard and brutally honest she is in here, shows Tom the way out and manages to kill his ilussions (in case he still had any left) so he can start over. For me this is a bittersweet scene, because it really portrays those real life situations where everything is said, everything is over, but you can finally be free to move on.
I think this scene all happened in Tom’s head only
Realistically she had moved on and wasn’t going to go kooking for Tom abd cause him more heartaches
@@marlena4020 What? Kind of a ridiculous theory. She cared about him, but she could not love him. That's why she wanted to speak to him, make sure he was okay. But the love simply wasn't there for her
@@XercasPathology It all happened in his mind, IMHO. But I guess (to quote Summer) we’ll have to agree to disagree.
So good I went back to this movie . Since I fel in love again end of last year...
1:50 He should've won an Oscar for that expression alone. You can literally feel his pain in your soul.....
I'm not sure how much JGL was acting........
It was like he's saying. Please don't do that don't give me that feeling again but at the same time he couldn't move just could go stare in her eyes
100% JGL’s acting was phenomenal. But I think what really elevated that moment was the writing and just how
good the story that led up to that particular moment was. JGL’s acting was just THE cherry on top.
Yeah. He can't go to the things way back now like all the times he tried to get her back, he can't do that because she is marry now. No hope. Reality Check. And only PAIN.
Feelings of revelation, longing and desire, and then acceptance all encompassed in 10 seconds.
Sometimes I come back here for reality check.
I still do
I do
I still do
i'm here again after watch this movie 2 years ago
i still do
They really cut out the "what I was never sure about with you" and the "I really do hope you're happy" parts? The two best lines in this scene, really
The first line was so hard to hear ;(
@@JuliaJiggs It hits so hard. Really wish they included it in the video
Alex Gill Me too :/
right. those 2 lines is so important in this scene.
Gutpunches lol
This scene gets me so hard. I broke up with a girl that I was still in love with, the same thing. And I remember the last time she touched me. The way he stares at her ... Damn. I felt that. One of my favorite movies ever.
If you've ever been in love , but for real, u get it
"This scene gets me so hard" Oh my god 😂😂
Edit it to hits me so hard
+Blinky oh my god 😂😂😂 what was I thinking when I approved this comment. Oh well, whatever I'm just gonna leave it lol
Jese Ramirez why would you break it off with her? Have you moved on? I'm still recovering from my first love. Was with her from HS for 2 years and she broke it off with me bc of her parents, month later she was dating someone else. Hurt like hell but that was 6 months ago. I still think about her everyday but I decided to forgive her and not resent her, only thing is I think that she hates me now idk why. Oh well.
She is not meant to be yours ! If she did you will be together !
Jese Ramirez The worst part is when she says"it was meant to be", in reference to the new boyfriend. He seemed sooo disapointed. too sad.
You end up appreciating people like summer in your life.
She kept 100% honest right from the beginning and told you what she was about.
Then when things ended, she wasn’t bitter or angry or spiteful.
Then when you reconnect, she’s genuinely caring, respectful and glad to see you’re doing well.
Umm not necessarily. She wasn't angry, bitter or spiteful of anything because she didn't see Tom as the love of her life......but that still doesn't mean that she didn't do things wrong. And I wouldn't say she was 100% honest.......she did lie to him about being involved in a relationship when they were dancing at the wedding and being on the train, she failed to give Tom proper answers to genuine questions he was asking by just either ignoring the questions or avoiding them. She did say that she wanted to just be friends (setting a boundary) and then the next time she saw him, she made out with him in the copy room (breaking that boundary herself) before setting up a new boundary (casual relationship) but then the two proceeding to do things that a normal couple would do (forcing people to ask them what are they and even assuming they are a couple) but then pulling the "I like you Tom as a friend" card when challenged on the question of what they actually are then going back to the person (like she did after their blow up) to continue whatever it is they have despite the fact that he had already made his case known of what he wanted (to be a couple). Sure, once you get past the sadness of no longer being in love with someone that you truly were in love with do you appreciate the lessons you learned from them but at the same time, Summer didn't have the feelings for Tom that he had for her so it's easier for her to move on and be more comfortable. And again, while she may have been "100 % honest" in the beginning, you can't predict how your feelings will be months from that moment and the closer you get to a person.
We should appreciate the fact that Tom was very much genuine when he told her that he hoped she was happy (which is a very mature thing for him to do). We should appreciate that Summer gave Tom the closure that we know most people would never give the other in actual reality. We should appreciate Tom for getting his life together and taking the lessons learned from his relationship with Summer. We should appreciate the lessons Summer took from her relationship with Tom. But I wouldn't say we should appreciate having a Summer in our lives.........because while we might learn an important lesson and she might treat us with kindness upon reconnection, the road to get there is very ugly full of confusion, anger, tears, depression and miscommunication.....but once you get through that dark tunnel, personal growth happens.
Plus, I think the Summers of the world should appreciate having a Tom come into their lives and challenge their theories on what love is.
@@crater044 The thing is Tom is a VERY unreliable narrator. What you see of Summer is ONLY his viewpoint. Who knows if she REALLY led him on or did he just imagine it?
@@crater044 Agreed. And even things like holding his hand briefly shows she was probably confused and was leading him on even if for a brief second.
@@rodrigobarba930 Deadass. What the hell am I supposed to think when you do all that a textbook couple does including sharing their deepest secrets, bonding at an emotional level, holding hands, hugging kissing, cuddling, then turn around and say it's a casual relationship
You summer defenders keep stating that summer stated hee boundaries from the beginning saying she didn't want a relationship and would like to be friends but why does she make out with him at work and proceed to sleep with him
This movie teaches you so much. We fall in love but it isn't always with the right person for us. Or someone falls in love with you but you are not the right person for them. I was in both sides of the aisle. The lesson I got was that rejection is the worst thing in the world. Painful, scary and extremely educating. Once you get rejected you only have two choices. Fall into depression, become a cynic and give up on anything resembling an attempt to find what you were looking for, ever again. And the second choice is fall into depression, and learn from it. Do not allow yourself to fall into the trap of blaming yourself for who you are and what you are. Rejection teaches the single greatest lesson; you are what you are, do not punish yourself for that. Accept it, and the rejection turns into a blessing.
Well said.🤝
It's easy to say this and pull yourself back
Oh you made me laugh so warmly with the second option also falling into a depression. So true and I am glad I am able to laugh at this now.
Damn I'm in the rejection phase now.
😃
@@chenchen725You'll get over it 😊
That look that he gives her when she touched his hand has so much pain behind it...but I can also see acceptance. He realizes he'll probably never see her again but he also learned a valuable lesson
The way Summer says, "it's just wasn't me you were right about" is just brilliant. The sadness on her facetells us that she wanted Tom; but being wanted is different from being loved.
She didnot wanted tom
She wanted nothing to do with Tom tho wym
@@xospxo1252 While I have no idea what he or she meant I think wanted tom could be seen as wanted tom to be happy.
She didn't want Tom she just enjoyed her time with him and she knows he wanted her more than she wanted him.
I see the four replies (to your post) which precede mine and realize that not a single one of them understand what you meant. I understood though. Well said.
This movie is SO important.
.... important to wacth in the right time... I understand what U mean. I watched it many years ago and re-watched it yesterday using boxxy software and for free....
You know.. Summer not only broke Tom heart, but also all the boys feeling out there
Damnnnn, i agree
She was honest with him from day 1. he couldn't accept that what he wanted wasn't what she wanted. He was being selfish through the whole movie, he lost his chance with her because he basically demanded that she be the version of herself he saw. He insisted they were run love when she said she wasn't ready for that, and that caused her to move away from him first emotionally then physically. He was in love with the idea of her, but she never told him she was in love with him, because it just wasn't meant to be.
It was necessary, it still is. Love's not like that, come on!. We all learnt it the hard way. And now I'm sooo similar to her little sister, but less pretty of course.
This comment concerns me so much
Summer represent the luck here .
No matter how much you are close luck literally has something that excuse or reason that wouldn't let you have something that you want.
What hurt the most in this movie was this longing look at 1:58 .
Realising that something can't ever be the way you wanted it to be and you can't and shouldn't do anything about it.
Summer was completely honest with him since the begining. That's rare. You learn to appreciate those people when you're an adult
Yea she was but at the same time she new how much he cared about her , it's crazy how she fell in love with someone else that quick
@@NorthPhilly-zr7xc yeah but you don't control these things. She was not responsible for his feelings once she was honest
@@NorthPhilly-zr7xc Yeah imagine if a guy fell in love with another girl that quick...
I wouldn’t say completely. She was blunt, but not entirely honest
If the gender roles were reversed, she would 100% be lambasted as the f*ckboy villain.
My heart breaks every time I watch this scene, it makes me so emotional. It was so well done. Just like Summer tells Tom he was right, it was just her he was wrong about. And that’s the thing, when we are drawn to someone and have feelings we blind ourselves to all the other signs that are literally right in front of our face, Summer was just dating, and experiencing and seeing what she did and didn’t want, yet Tom was seeing her immediately as the end game while ignoring her obvious behaviours of not being fully in the relationship. I’m sure we’ve all been there, but I loved how he got some closure, not all of us do in life. But you move on, and just like she found her right person, Tom eventually will too.
I can sum it up like this: she doesn't deserve him. He deserves a better person than Summer, because he is too sweet and romantic to be with someone so direct.
My girlfriend of almost 3 years recently ended things with me & a decent portion of this movie was so relatable. She also gave me the courtesy of having a chat like this & even though it was one of the most painful things I’ve had to listen to, I’m forever thankful for her and what’s she’s given me over the course of me knowing her. I hope she ends up happy.
Good for you 👍 So good that she wasn't cold and cruel .
3 years??? nah u gotta get ur girl back😭😭😭😭
“I say we’re a couple, goddamnit!” to “I really do hope you’re happy” GROWTH
I'm so relieved he had that much development at least. Maybe next time he meets up with his friends or his sister he'll have developed enough to ask them about how they're doing rather than just tell them about what's going on in his life.
No, it's actually weakness. Tom is incapable of holding on to the person he love. Overwhelming majority of the people can't do that but that doesn't signal exceptionality. It's mediocrity.
1:56 he realized at that moment that he had a taste of something that he will never have and finally accepting it. In reality, sometimes you can't get over what is so dear to your heart, but you have to learn how to go through it to keep on living. This scene slightly loosen a wound in my heart, a remainder of the bitter-sweet memories that I will always cherish in my heart.
I love the fact that the movie doesn't pick a side. It doesn't outright say Tom was right or that Summer was right. At the beginning of the movie, both of them have ways of thinking that have bases in reality but have not yet been tested by personal experience. By the end, both of them have changed and grown thanks to one another and their experiences together.
What she did in the end was kind to him, she gave him closure.
Tom’s face at 1:58 , that’ll break everyone’s heart who have loved someone and that person left you
@1:52 the look on toms face is utter disbelief, not wanting to let go of summer and just wondering why it wasnt him she chose. Perfect acting by JGL
“This is a story of a boy meets girl. But you should know upfront, this ISN’T a love story.” - Narrator in the beginning of the film
Most People in comments section: BAD Summer! She was mean to Tom because she didn’t love him back ...
Me: Did they actually watch the movie? Lol 😆
🤣🤣🤣
Ikr
This is literally what a lot of people are like and they still try to blame it on summer. They even go so far as to say ‘’it’s both’’ in an attempt to to avoid placing the blame solely on Tom.
Yea that's not the comments or even the thoughts of the people anymore. Now "TOM IS THE VILLAIN". The correct answer is "both parties are guilty for this crashing and burning the way they did but it was an important relationship in their lives that led them to the next step in their lives"
People get recommended rom coms or just have that personality when they were born
I was one of them, watched too much rom coms, and i was like hey i finally got the one
The thing is, this movie is so special that i went back to it and hated summer before and then i hated myself and tom
Because its relatable, they'll get the whole point in the movie in a short time or a long time
"it's just wasn't me that you were right about" assures what Tom believes has always been right..it is a relief and really helps him to move on..
Summer is so sweet.. She is never selfish..
"It just wasn't me that you were right about."
I want every guy reading this and struggling to really internalize it. Life is a long, tough road. Please do yourself the favor of continuing to try. Be sad about it today, but wake up tomorrow and dust yourself off. Put yourself in situations where love can happen. And do your very best not to become hateful (towards women, society, yourself) if you put yourself out there and the object of your desire doesn't reciprocate it.
There are so, so many wonderful people in this world. Whatever it takes, be kind to yourself.
But why do they lead you on?
1:53 to 2:00 touches my soul!! Joseph Gordon Lewitt is at his absolute best in this film
After all these years... we still love this amazing movie..
Its not a love story.. it is a story about love 🧡 ❤
This movie really was so well done. The pain of wondering why you weren't the one, feeling like there was something wrong with you. We've all been there. It's only now as I've gotten a little bit older that I came to realize at one point that a lot of the time in these situations it isn't that anyone was lacking anything, but more that two people just aren't the right fit. It took me so long to see that, so much feeling bad about myself and feeling so confused. In one of my relationships in the past I felt so confused and we'd have disagreements all the time and it just seemed so hard, and very confusing. But I think even just the fact that we feel so confused as to WHY someone says something/is the way they are just shows even more that it was just not the right fit. And funnily enough, there is nothing wrong with just not being the right fit. It means they were also not the right fit for you, and there's nothing wrong with that. We just need to go and find that right person, because when you do meet the person who is right for you, nothing is confusing anymore, and everything just makes sense. I realized this all so clearly when I met my husband about two years ago, and within one year we were married. I never believed it could be true before, but it really gave me perspective on why everything before never worked out.
Feeling so sorry for Tom. I understand that it is true that Tom kind of ignored the fact that Summer did say she didn't want a relationship but feelings are hard to predict - especially with all the couple and intimate things they do with each other (kissing, holding hands, talking about personal feelings, sex etc.), it's totally understandable that even if both parties agree to enter into a relationship with the mindset of having fun, one of them will most probably develop feelings for the other. I mean, what happened if the roles got switched and Summer was the one to develop feelings for Tom? It really doesn't matter if you tell someone "I don't want a relationship" because just saying it doesn't really exempt you from hurting the other person's feelings in the end if they really did love you. It's only natural for Tom to want to spend time with Summer because he would've felt like he could change Summer's mind - and this might happen but it also might not. And yes, he should've realised and cut it off completely if he knew he was going to get hurt instead of going back in. I just feel that if Summer was perfectly set on just wanting to be friends with Tom, then she should've stuck with it and not venture into all the romantic things that couples typically do like hold hands, kiss, share feelings etc. Personally, I feel it's a bit too much if Summer continued to heavily shower Tom with hints and getting his hopes up, just to watch it crash down again and then to justify herself, said I told you so. She should've shown him and answered his question when Tom asked "what are we?" instead of saying "who cares". I'm really not trying to antagonise Summer because I get that relationships are messy and feelings get hurt either intentionally or accidentally and no one is really to blame but sometimes, I just don't understand what went through Summer's mind. It'd be really cool if they made a movie from Summer's perspective, so to speak.
Summer really liked Tom, the very essence of the movie is that Tom was just inconsistent and not alpha to lead the relationship especially into marriage. Don't blame Summer, she already lead most time in their relationship, which should be the DUTY of Tom in the first place.
Also women don't usually say what they want, they just give signals to guys, and it showed clearly in the movie that Summer gave a lot of CLEAR signals to Tom to escalate further, he just wouldn't get it.
Hope you watched it again and see the side of Summer :)
All Tom had to say was "I care".
Vindi Chase I didnt think it was the case. Summer was never in love with Tom, she just wanted to have fun and Tom agreed to that. Tom saw her as his dream girl, the one to complete him, but he never saw pass that.
So he fell in love with the idea of Summer.
Summer didn't fall in love at all. At the wedding part I can see that she just wanted to repair the friendship, but because we are seeing the whole movie through Tom' eyes, we saw it like how he saw it, a second chance.
Vindi Chase The part where she talked about her husband, and how she talked about it, like what if she'd gone to the movies, etc, she was talking about how it was meant to be. And that she has clearly fallen in love with her husband.
She never spoke of meeting Tom in that manner.
And she was just falling in love with the idea of her husband.
His acting was sooo flawless in this scene. I really felt frustration, heart break and confusion over his deepest beliefs. Well done my friend...well done!
The character of Tom actually portrayed the inner feeling of people: sometimes we realized how awful love might be but we are eager for it so desperately. From the confusion of Tom’s expression, I strongly feel the moment that people want to give up faith but can’t get out with it, probably we still depend on our innocence and purity. Thanks for 500 days of summer, neither ones are wrong, the only thing wrong is the time.
1:55 that look tom gave summer tells so much pain he had.... It just makes us feel so sorry for him
I'm making the transition from Middle Age to Senior citizen in my life now. But long ago when I was still a young man, I can honestly say I've only looked at a one woman my entire life the way he looked at her. And ironically, my result was the same as his. I wish her happiness, wherever is she is....
The look on JGL’s face at 1:49 is incredible. The portrayal of pain and wanting to figure it out is just amazing. Incredible actor.
1:50-2:00 breaks my heart every time. Just watching your world die forever.
The look on his face, at the very moment where he realizes this is never going to happen... That definitely showed his range as an actor. That look alone should have gotten him an Oscar. That look just destroys anybody who's ever been through that.
I’ve thought about this scene so much. Life is a winding road and closure in this way helps. After watching this movie years ago I went and seen my “one that got away” before we went our separate ways permanently and it was cathartic. I said what was on my chest for years and she said in another place or time it might’ve been all well but we weren’t meant to work out. I thanked her for the talk and after an hour of very deep talking we went our separate ways. It was a sad moment but gave me immense relief.
They always say this" I am happy to see you are doing well" and just leave like no one was there. What about all those promises and dream. All the sacrifices a guy made for you. Reality really hurts. True love is rare as a diamond.
The beauty of the movie is that we are put in a situation to sympathize TOM while in reality he is just an obsessed person. We should go beyond TOM to get through SUMMER and experience AUTUMN
I think Summer loved Tom. She cared about him a lot. The thing is she just couldn't see her future with him because she saw how different they were and saw how unrealistic are Tom's expectations about her and about life in general.
He did ask in the car and she just avoided the question like a true manipulator, she is quite troubled.@@Brotried97
This scene reminds me of a similar experience I had. It was when we both knew that no matter how much we felt, there would be no "happily ever after" for us. She said to me, "There are moments in life where something happens that is completely out of your control, and in that moment you have to be big enough to find the strength to let that thing happen." While I know that this doesn't apply to all things, it is a lesson a carry to this day and what I consider to be one of the greatest gifts anyone every gave me.
Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend (kind of, it was short but super intense). He told me that he met another person and he felt something really special for her. That his feelings was more powerful than the feelings he had for me in all this time (and he told me this while crying, bc he felt terrible and had feelings for me too and didnt want to hurt me). And today I came to rewatch this scene bc I really understand Tom. Theres nothing you can do, sometimes you are not the one. And it sucks. Im crying while writting this bc somehow I hope he came back some day to tell me he was wrong. Sorry, i needed to say at loud.
4 months ago comment and the exact thing you just described happened to me aswell, after watching Jurassic park together we sat in a restaurant and she told me the same thing that you've described infront of my face except she didnt cried or showed any remorse at all, im feeling alright now since its been months but sometimes i went back to this video to comfort my own heart and get a reality check and this made me fear of being in a relationships. Hope you're doing well too in life my friend stay safe out there
don't take him back if he ever comes in your life. It just doesn't work the same. when a string is split in two, even though it can be entangled again, there still be always be a knot.
He wasn't the one ❤
Or he doesnt, and you meet the right one for you. Dont be his back up plan. move on.
If you listen carefully....you could hear a heart is broten but at the same time it is mend...life goes on
The first time I watched this movie was when I was in relationships. The second time was after we broke up, and it hit much harder.
I remember that in the end of our relationships, it almost always felt like she didn't feel like she could rely on me. After we broke up and then met much later, she described her new boyfriend and that she never felt like she had to force herself to trust him. She just did. I felt exactly like Tom at this moment. It's only after looking back at the relationships that you realize how much you took for granted and also how many things were going not right.
The breakup turned out to be a blessing in disguise. I'm now much more focused on myself, on my education and my hobbies. I think that if one day I'll come back to this comment years later, I'll be proud and grateful that I went through this.
A year later, how are you holding up?
I just watched this movie for the first time today, and this is the most important thing I took from it: the role of chance in our lives. We often idealize our future, and how if we get that dream job or dream girl everything will be sunshine and rainbows. And when inevitably one of our expectations doesn’t become a reality we not only become upset, we try to bargain our way to them through the past. Your brain starts going through fake scenarios, what if you had worked for a better grade last semester? What if you had talked to that girl on another day? What if you had done something differently? But life doesn’t always take you through the path you want to traverse, and that’s not a bad thing. Both Tom and Summer exemplified this. Tom envisioned Summer as his dream girl for more than a year, but it didn’t work out for whatever reason, while Summer was at a certain cafe reading a certain book at a certain hour that led her to meet her future husband. Life has no rules, it’s just chance. And even though you may spend too much time considering what you could’ve done differently, you should still celebrate those things you have in your life only because you were at the right place and time, all of the bonds you’ve formed, all of the friends you have made, etc.
@1:50 chokes me up everytime, the way he looks at her and that slight head tilt he does out of heartbreak and unrequited love
Travis Douglas it’s like he’s thinking why are you doing this? Why can’t it be you. Why couldn’t you be the one.
😫😔
Just broke up with my boyfriend. He was my Summer. He never believed in true love or things like that. I don't think I can handle things as Tom did in this scene if I ever see him again...
I just broke up with a woman after 7 years, and I know I wouldn't hold it together this well if I saw her. I'm simply a mess, but the sun came up today, and it will probably come up tomorrow. The world won't stop for our broken hearts. You hang in there.
Blanca Gómez so in your relationship it was the other way around? You were TOM n you left him because he wasn't totally invested?
+Soul Keeper TM she was probably insecure and afraid of being dumped so she left him. I know, its messed up.
Ayo you'll be great. Tc
Hope u are doing well now!!:)🙂
This scene is so great. In all the film we see this yellow-orange light when we are with Summer, but in this scene all the collors are muted and cold. A methafor of the lost love (or the broken fantasy)
1:53 that expression the expression we have all felt and experinced before looking back out our past
"It is just me that you weren't right about"... ouch... An amazing girl once said to me as we lied in bed "I love you, but I'm not in love with you"... dang the honesty stung, but at the same I appreciate that so much. We are still great friends to this day :)
What did she even mean with that? That's playing with words and confusing people.
@@PriyeRai She was like a politician hiding behind words instead of using them to communicate.
This scene really hurt the movie for me. The entire last act of the movie is about Tom overcoming his love-fantasies and growing up.
But then we get this scene which contradicts all that.
The movie makes it clear beforehand that Summer didn't want a relationship, but then all of a sudden she finds a guy and wants to subtle down with him?
Why? What changed? Oh right the movie doesn't have an answer and gives us some vague nonsense about love and in-love.........blah blah blah
Hiding a lack of an answer with pretentious vagueness is hack-writing-101.
You know people always accept this mysterious crap when it comes to love, which is suppose to be important right? Isn't it the thing that makes life worth living?
So why not develop a solid answer? Why accept feel-good vagueness.
Imagine your accountant giving you vague answers about your finances. NO ONE would accept that.
@@robrick9361 I think we’re supposed to pick up on a certain sentiment when she said that her husband asked her for her opinion on the book she was reading. The whole movie has been Tom projecting his fantasies on Summer and never seeing her as she is, which is a normal person with feelings and dreams and hobbies and aspirations. He never seems to be invested in what she actually thinks about something and tries to fight her on her feelings even when she is being open and honest about how she feels about him. From that sentence, to me it came across as Summer’s husband values her input and opinions on things and wants to know the real her, not whatever image he has o her in his head. This is something Tom never did or realized until the very end, which is why Summer and Tom could never work as he is, but Summer and her husband could. This is just my two cents on the matter though.
@@XxxMuseluverxxX
But this is the problem, that we have to speculate in the first place. Why can't the movie have shown us why she fell for this guy, instead we're left analyzing a few sentences. The movie had something solid and then ruined it with this scene to send the story back to romantic comedy fantasy land.
@@robrick9361 I actually think you make a solid point, and I felt a bit that way watching the film too. Like it wasnt completely believable. I still really enjoyed a lot of the movie and what it had to offer tho
I like how couples talk things out even if it's difficult (there might be no solution) rather than ghosting or leaving one side full of thoughts including questions being unanswered. A closure is really important in any forms of -ships. I'd say those people are mature.
There’s something people don’t mention. Summer was always honest. Since the beginning she said their relationship was not going to be serious, she always said that. They were just friends with benefits. Summer did love Tom but she wasn’t in love with him.
"This is a story of a boy meets girl. But you should know upfront, this ISN'T a love story."
I must say, we were warned... just like Tom.
He really did love her, but they weren't compatible. That's why it didn't work: even if Summer had loved him as much as he did, they both would've been miserable. It's heartbreaking to know the person you love most is more compatible with someone else.
Tom has all the right to hurt, of course it's sad, it's simple heartbreak, but you cannot force someone to feel something that isn't there. In order to understand Summer, you have to be her at least once in your life
Every man in this earth meet a girl like summer, I think it's a part of our journey folks
@@1986-e3s Oh yeah. Especially in North Korea.
Im currently in love and if my boyfriend ever did this to me, i would honestly......actually, i dont know...i dont know what i would do..thats the thing about love: it's a gamble. You pray and hope that the other person wouldnt do something like that to you. I absolutely loved joseph's acting here as well. It got me so hard that i started bawling at 6 in the morning.
Hows your boyfriend now?
Hope you've been doing well
That's right, it really is just like a gambling, some people might win by finding the right person and some people might lose by not finding anyone or breaking up and it all based on luck. Meanwhile, I'm too immature and dumb to be in relationship so I'm out of the game already, it not for me.
Aww are you guys still together 🥺
I used to sit at this literal bench in downtown LA, this movie had a profound effect on me in my late 20s
Where is it located at in L.A?? And can you see the city
Sometimes with sad love stories like these, I need to remind myself that Zooey and Joseph are both in solid relationships now
Caity Wylie yeah with ugly ass people. So sad...
Soul Keeper TM shallow
Recheck on that one is always changing
They're close friends too
This happened to me once and it literally scarred me to the point I'm so scared of putting my foot into dating again.
That happens.
And the next person has to bear the brunt of it
That look he gives her when she touches his hand is: " I know, but I wish with all my soul to be the one you will love forever and ever" .
I would've said to her something like, "what are you doing here? Shouldn't you go back to your husband, tick?"
I remember being angry at this movie when It came out but now It makes sense. People are people, and we are complicated and we change. But you can't let yourself be resentful of change, otherwise you get stuck.
This scene really resonated with me the first time I saw this film. My first love was unrequited and I loved her from sixteen to around eighteen years old, there was never any hope of being with her. I was so afraid to lose the friendship we shared that I waited a long time to tell her and to attempt moving on, and right after I did she found her own first love. Seeing her with him broke my heart and changed who I was as a person because of how painful it was, but it also taught me it just wasn’t meant to be and we weren’t right for each other. This movie means a lot to me as it portrays perfectly the helplessness and darkness of one sided love, but also the process of healing and learning to be okay on your own. For a long time I resented myself for not being “ enough “ for her, but we aren’t born to be fit for others and belong to them. We must first love ourselves.
There's no villain or hero here. Just two individuals who are trying their best to satisy their unmet needs and couldn't find it in each other. They BOTH went about it the wrong way, Summer stringing him along and Tom refusing to see her for who she is and what she wanted. The biggest takeaway for me personally is that at the end of it all, we should just make peace with what has happened and allow ourselves to learn the lessons. The moment Tom decides to let her go and move forward, a new door opened up for him. A new life. A new beginning. I hope that anyone reading this knows that just because someone you love decides to walk away from you, doesn't mean you won't find happiness again.
And I wish more people would have your take because i agree 100%!
@@crater044 thank you Jared. I wish you well
Watch this scene first, only focusing on Summer. Then do the same only watching Tom. You'll see two very different perspectives and performances.
Below is my interpretation of each of their feelings.
Summer is hopeful and at peace about the past. She realises she was wrong and has embraced her learning. She is kind enough to reach out to Tom and explain how she really felt (which usually doesn't happen in real life). She wants the best for Tom and still has a soft spot for him, but she's able to put boundaries on her feelings.
But Tom is bitter, confused, angry, bittersweet and not sure if he wants to shout or cry. He feels he has learnt something too...until Summer tells him that's the wrong way to look at it. And now he doesn't know whether to focus on this new revelation (that maybe the world isn't bad), or simply to focus on the beautiful and mesmerising woman he still hasn't let go of. From 1:10 to 1:42.
-The shrug of the shoulders
-the unconvinced way he says "no"
-the clench of the teeth as he swallows his feelings.
1.Of course she is she dump him, tom love her more than summer love him
2.she found a rebound and married and tom who are hopeless romantic still struggle with his life after broke up with summer
3. Summer is experienced with several relationship before and know how to handle a break up, but Tom is not he never in relationship before so he clueless how to handle a break up and ending up depresed
You never wanted to be anybody’s girlfriend and now you're somebody's wife💔
I started bleeding inside when I saw this scene. Imagine you loved a girl more than anyone in the world without knowing that she is already taken, imagine thinking about the serendipity she had with another man. The scars are still there. I can't articulate what I have gone through.
1:53 that pain in the eyes.
Only a one sided lover knows this pain.
Whatever the person try,how much he love,he knows she is not gonna come back in his life.
That pain and slight tilt in the head says it all.
Its very very hard to love someone knowing she is not gonna come to your life.
Damn the moment she touches his hand, he knows this girl he loves so much will never touch his hand again. She’s so special to him but now he knows she’s out of his life. His facial expression was done so well. Movie is a masterpiece
@@Brotried97 I love how people can interpret things like this differently. There’s really no wrong answer. Great movie
He was just a lonely guy
Wonderful scene, always come back here once in a while
The theory that this scene takes place entirely in Toms’ head makes sense to me. This kind of closure rarely happens IRL.
this is one of the most beautiful scenes and well done by these two talented actors....Bravo
I like the symbolism that her hair is now long again, she grew out of that “I don’t believe in love” mindset and you can simply see it through her hair bc in the beginning she cuts them as a stance.
Summer has learned that just because her parents got divorced (because people make mistakes) doesn't mean that love doesn't exist, and she learned to open herself to the possibility of it because even though relationships can get messy, sometimes you still take a chance on a relationship because you've met someone you want to take that chance with. No, love isn't the only thing in the world that can make you happy, and not all marriages last, but that doesn't mean that you should close yourself off to the possibility of love. Being independent and happy with yourself doesn't mean saying 'there's no such thing as love', it means saying 'maybe I'll fall in love, maybe I won't, but for now, I'm happy with my life, and if something comes along to change my life, I know I'll find the strength to face it'.
Tom by the end of the movie may need to learn that lesson though I think he's starting to when he asks Autumn out. Just because a relationship didn't work out doesn't mean that love doesn't exist, and it doesn't give you the right to treat people as badly as he's been treating people. Because love in itself might be simple but a relationship takes work, both parties have to give and take rather than just demand everything you want from the other person which is what he was doing, trying to make her fit his image of her and what their relationship should be. And here's hoping when he realises that about romantic relationships then he'll also realise that about other relationships - with the people you work with, with your family, with your friends, because to have good relationship with them you need to learn not to just see them as people you can dump all of your problems onto.
"Just because a relationship didn't work out doesn't mean that love doesn't exist, and it doesn't give you the right to treat people as badly as he's been treating people. Because love in itself might be simple but a relationship takes work, both parties have to give and take rather than just demand everything you want from the other person which is what he was doing, trying to make her fit his image of her and what their relationship should be."
The same can be said for her. Both partners were trying to fit square pegs into round holes and both just assumed that the other would be ok with whatever they wanted.......she had an image of him that she was trying to fit unto him that didn't work, which is why she wasn't completely sure about him. Again, Tom did this to her as well but I don't get that Summer had the mindset of "maybe I'll fall in love, maybe I won't", that's not how she spoke at the bar. They literally disagreed about the idea of love. Personally, I think she did try becoming open to the idea of it throughout the relationship but, with the pressure Tom had placed on her and with her own commitment issues that she talked about, she became unhappy (I personally think Tom is the longest "relationship" she's ever had) because she knew this wasn't going to work. She had more maturity to see that end game before he did but also, at the same time, that was also based on her preconceived notion of how relationships go (and Tom's unwillingness to take her hints at him dumping the greeting card job to actually follow his dream of being an architect, which will always be something I'll defend Summer on and hold Tom's feet over the fire for). I just think the two did put pressure on the other and had this idea about the other that the other just wasn't comfortable in being. Happens often in relationships......neither one is a villain but both were wrong in some way yet they also managed to take important lessons learned and applied them to the next relationship.
when he said "No"... I can feel the pain xD
Here i am coming back again after years watching this movie, and now ended up in the same situation like Tom & Summer. Never see that coming tho😌
I’ve had guys be so sure about me and fight for me. I was never interested in them. I told them I wasn’t sure about them and that I simply didn’t believe in love. I could have stayed with them because they were lovely people but those people deserved someone who loved them back. Like Summer, I never believed in love or being in love and married. Until one day it happened to me. I met the right person. He fell in love first but we both were head over heels for each other. Went through so much together. We were each other’s first love. In the end it didn’t work out and the heartbreak destroyed me but you go on.
A movie that almost every man can relate to. The vernomous pang of unrequited love.
She gave him closure. Watching this in my 30’s I can see summer and tom’s side, because I’ve been on both sides. Awesome cast and movie.
Meeting the right person at the wrong time... some of us know what that feels like. No matter where we go in life that disticve moment will forever be with us
I don’t think this was a case of right person wrong time. The right person will love you back and unconditionally. It is however a case of us projecting our own expectations on someone else.
Summer just wanted to see Tom happy and successful. Tom was stuck in a dead end job waiting for a girl to save his life but Summer wanted him to save his own life. She needed Tom to understand that he didn’t need her to find happiness. It was something he needed to do on his own.
Joseph’s acting is so incredible in this scene!
1:21 bro acts fabulously just as a kid whose dad says we are not getting you christmas present this year. Best acting by the bro
Tom did the wrong thing. He projected an ideal onto Summer and failed to see her complexity as a person. The moment she felt actually seen by a guy, no wonder she fell in love. Having a bad relationship can sometimes make it easier to have a good one, because you can compare those feelings and realise ‘what was missing’.
Tom needed to find his own place in the world, and not focus so much on this idea of ‘the one’. If anything he should’ve left as soon as Summer said she didn’t want anything serious, because he knew he wanted something serious. Summer also should’ve not played into his fantasies because she could probably see he was imagining a future with her when she didn’t want that.
It hurt them both being together, and that isn’t love.
I’ve been both a Summer and a Tom. I had a boyfriend who I projected such ideals on and he projected them onto me. He broke up with me, but still claimed to be in love with me, which made it hard to let go. Watching this film made me realise something very painful, that I wasn’t in love with him, and I so didn’t want to grow up and marry him.
He claimed it was fate we met, and so did I. It put overwhelming pressure on the both of us.
He, like Tom. Failed to see who I was and I never felt seen in our relationship. I know I loved him, but I can’t be in love with him. Only an idea of him, and relationships can’t be built on fantasies.
@@elssosilva8701 of course their's a problem in projecting into a person wtf..... And how was Summer a coward? She never lied to him, she was clear since day 1. She never said she love him
@@bgos4727 She lied, because she said " You are my best friend". Once she tried to label their relationship as friendship it sounds to me incoherent and disrespectful, because what They have lived during the movie can not be labeled just as friendship!!! Tom made mistakes, of course, but I have seen people just protecting Summer and not point her mistakes!!1
Yeah, pal. You don't understand waht you're talking about one bit. Everybody is in love with only the idea of somebody, because humans are limited creatures, there are things that nobody knows about you, and therefore, the only "you" they know is the idea of "you" that is incomplete. And that's all it's going to happen.
Keep it real and get back to reality, relationships are always imperfect, there's no "the one", feelings come and go. Not realizing this imperfection is why 41% of first marriages ends up in bitter divorce, and countless more in unhappiness.
Love is always the reason of all the good things but also the bad things , and as you grow up you realize that love is everywhere no matter who no matter when is always there
going thru a break up right now that was entirely my fault. i keep coming back to this scene to remind myself there is someone out there for me. the sad irony is, i may have already lost her. that's a tough pill to swallow. sometimes that window is so small and you don't even realize how significant that person was until they're gone. and sometimes you end up like summer and find yourself feeling way more enamored with that next person. i guess you don't really know until you know. just hoping i didn't miss my window.
:( hope u feel okay again soon.
it will be okay
What people don't realize is that when relationships end, sometimes you are a better person from what you learned from them. Summer learned from Tom that true love does exist. It's ambiguous if Tom learned from their relationship, which is why there is an open ending with Autumn.
I always come back to this clip because I'm always Tom. Why am I always Tom.
Me too... (I am actually Tom).
This makes me cry every time!!! 😢
“…It just wasn’t me that you were right about…” To this day, nothing hurts more than that dialogue…
I was in very similar situation, and I've seen the movie couple days ago. She left me without a word after 2 years of relationship, ofc there were some problems but they were regular things, nothing that we cannot solve. Even though we have little problems last days of relationship were normal we were happy (at least I was). Suddenly she stopped me texting. Maybe I can be with her after all these. Not possible but maybe she will read this comment and I want her to know I still love her and I cannot forget about her. Thanks.
i think when Summer held Toms hand before leaving, is one way of saying, "I'm Sorry."
This movie is always bittersweet. I related to Tom. How one can put an expectation on someone. Yet the other person doesn't have that same feeling. (Which is fine. No one is perfect.) I put in my all for that relationship but I was oblivious to the flags. Years have passed after we broke up. She started to reach out to me again. As if nothing had happened. Starting talking to me. Being extra friendly. One problem, she is engaged. I let this go on for a little bit. What I didn't like is that she tried to get back into my life, whether just to be friends or whatever. When I finally confronted her about the engagement. It put a stop in her trying to contact me.
This movie will always be the reality check as a cure for every unsuccessful relationship.
When you learn that Summer is not a b!tch and was actually coherent the whole time. She was not mean or bad, she was always honest, but we saw his perspective from his loving eyes and not the reality. She was really just not into him.
This scene is too powerful
it's been 19 years and i'm still not over her. i feel like Daniel Johnston and never getting over Laura. He died still in love with the girl that didn't love him back.