I’m 39 and seeing more wrinkles on my face reminds me of all the smiles and happy memories that gave me those lines. Enjoy each stage of your life, for each one holds its own beauty. The older you get, the more you get to love your true self.
@@CozyGirly1 that's a very sweet comment w good intentions, but I think the point of this video is that aging is okay! Looking younger shouldn't always be the goal, someone can be older, look their age, and be absolutely stunning.
So I grew up in Mexico, and every summer my favorite aunt would take my cousins from California to visit us in Mexico. I always looked forward to summer because I knew I got to see her and my cousins. I remember her always jokingly saying she didn’t want to be 40. Well, it was the summer of 2008, I was 17 yrs old and they came to visit us as usual, it was so amazing! But she was 39 and her being 40 was getting real now. She was always saying: “omg I’m gonna be 40 in a couple of months!” “I don’t want to be 40!”. Well, on her way back home to Cali, (she always drove her van because she loved bringing everybody gifts from the US) she got into a horrific accident and she never got to be 40 years old. She was the most loving, generous, hard working woman I’ve ever known in my life and I miss her so much! This video reminded me of that. I’m now 34 and that experience thought me to always be grateful of every day that I get to live. It is a privilege 100%! ❤
My aunt was the same, she died at 39 from a rare cancer that mostly happens to people over 70. She lasted 2 months after diagnosed. She always thought she was going to die young. Your thoughts are very powerful, be kind to yourself!
@ I’m so sorry for your loss. I really wish people were more grateful of being alive and healthy, the truth is that vanity and shallowness is getting more and more prevalent in our society and that’s just sad. Thank you for your kind words🤗❤️
When people I went to MS and HS with started passing away from health conditions that I thought only "old people" got, i realized that counting the years equaled counting blessings.
"Youth is wasted on the young" comes to mind. Since probably the dawn of time, kids and young adults always seem so eager to just grow up but when you get older, you realize time passes faster and there's a beauty in learning how to slow down, take gratitude in your life, and truly appreciate what you've been blessed with.
When my dad turned 75, I asked him how it felt to be 3/4 of a century old. He answered that 25 was rough, but 75 was an accomplishment (both of his parents died in their early 70s)
People just need to learn how to age GRACEFULLY and be happy every day they wake up because no matter your age, somebody did not make it to see theirs, so count your blessings that you did 👏🏾💯!
I'm 62 & when I was young, Botox & Fillers weren't a thing. Plastic surgery was for rich, old ladies . Eating healthy, staying fit & moisturizing religiously were the techniques we counted on to look young & attractive. Now, I absolutely feel the same way about it. Your health is EVERYTHING! I've had major, painful health disasters, and belueve me, that ages you. Do everything you can to stay aa healthy and as low stress as possible. That will be your foundation of youth. God Bless you all. You are beautiful just as you are. Give yourself the gift of living a healthy life. Believe me, your older self will thank you! 💜🙏💜
I'm 40 and it was hard not to be pressured into doing things to myself that almost all of my friends have taken part in. However after losing my mother and father, I have become grateful for each passing year the Lord blesses me with. With each grey hair I've over come, with each fine line my smiles and tears have created and each scar that has healed. I have been through alot and my body tells the story. I wish it was more acceptable to embrace our aging bodies because each day is truly a gift that many others weren't given. Many blessings to you Busiswa, keep the vidoes coming.
I already wrote it under another video of yours, but I'm genuinely happy about the fine lines that start showing up. Since childhood I'm battling depression. That's why I'm happy to see those lines and wrinkles...because I made it this far to witness them. I survived my depression so far.
I agree. You have access to more income, you’re mentally more mature, you’re able to do more. When you’re a kid, you just have youth. That’s not that valuable, especially if you live in an area that discriminates against young people. That’s why I was so eager to grow up, so I’d be taken seriously, and now that I’m older, I really like it. Being young is cool and all, but being old enough to get respect by default, do what you want, and have the means to make it happen is a great feeling.
It’s so sad how the internet has made people (particularly women) scared shitless of aging, something literally every human being on this planet goes through. I’ve seen people unironically say that they’d rather just pass away at 25 than get old and I think that’s incredibly depressing.
Just to add, what she is describing is perimenopause. Menopause describes the complete end of menstrual cycles but perimenopause is the years before it that comes with the things she mentioned (sleep issues, hot flashes, etc) because of the hormonal changes. While it can be hard to deal with and there isn’t a quick solution, I highly suggest people go to the dr. if they’re struggling. There are different hormone medications that can help even things out during that time.
I'm 45 and I love the looks on people's faces when they card me, especially the younger ones...it just tickles me. Stay youthful at heart and mind, have multiple healthy ways to destress, and take care of the only body you have- nothing too extreme is needed, simple is always best. What matters is aging gracefully and gaining wisdom.
Omg me to! ☺️💃(re 1st sentence). I use a low dose of Tretinoin a couple of times a week and try to keep my parched skin moisturized, but the big guns are Facial Gua Sha and Face Yoga 🧘♀️ Agreed about staying young at heart; simplicity and aging gracefully (i.e. naturally), & the negative effects of stress on the body and face.
When I was younger, I had a lot of people tell me that I looked like my mom....we had the same smile. I always laughed about that because we both had dentures from different places. Now, at 73,I generally feel healthy although I have chronic kidney disease and pre-diabetic. I'm not afraid of dying. I think of my lost family members and will welcome seeing them again.
I turned 50 a month ago and it is a shock tbh being this age as the years have flown by!! Last year I had a gastric bypass, lost 7 stone and now a healthy weight for first time in adult life! Reversed diabetes and high blood pressure and had a hip replacement this year too! Definitely going into my older years healthier - version 2.0!!! Love the channel xx
I turned 50 in June and the struggle is real. But then I remember that I have been very happily married for 26 yrs and have 2 kickass adult kids. I would have none of those things if I hadn't lived 50 yrs! But trust when I say that I will put all the goop (as my husband calls it😊) on my face and body to fight it tooth and nail! And I look forward to celebrating another 50 yrs if the Lord should bless me with them ❤
I honestly don't care how old I look. What I care most about is how I feel. Wrinkles don't scare me. It's the loss of autonomy, movement, and health that scare me. I am scared of falling down someday and not being able to get up. I am scared of being bedridden.
Aging is definitely a privilege. I'm 50 and I look every day of that 50 I wouldn't change a thing about the way I look! Love yourself well, the flaws and the wrinkles are the story of your life. It's inner peace that comes from getting 'old.'
🤣🤣 I just colour zapped my hair a few weeks ago at 55! I started going grey at 19. I’m Irish with auburn hair, well I used to. It’s all white now. I have gorgeous, waist length, white hair. I’ve outlived my older siblings so I’m living every moment for what it is. I’ve never been fussed on war paint, wrinkles, clothes, accessories but I had an issue with my grey/white hair. I let it go and I LOVE it. I love every wrinkle, I’ve earned every smile line, frown line, eye wrinkle. It’s phenomenal.
Just turned 39, 30 was rough for a moment... But for me at least for me, I feel like she has made me feel more confident, beautiful, and wiser. I love how I feel and look. I'm sober and had my fun and had once in a life time experiences. Now is the part where I watch my lil guy grow. I am loving it
I turned 58 a week ago and I’ve never really cared about “looks” aging. I stopped wearing makeup over a decade ago and I don’t want to color my hair. I’m pretty secure with my age. I’m told I look way younger but my goodness I was NOT prepared to wake up every single morning in pain with my hands and body not working the same way they used to!
I’m 36 and I’ve been lying about my age for years. I’m finally coming around to accepting that I’m getting older. I started using anti-aging products in my early 20s! I’ve just always been afraid of aging.
I'm 33 and my 30s have been SOO much better than 20s. But my story is a little different..I'm a recovering addict who was still miserable stuck in my addiction thru my 20s. Got clean just before I turned 30. So thanks to AA and God the last 3 years have had more joy for me than the entire decade before that. And I feel blessed everyday 🙏
There are no adults. We are just kids that got larger. None of us *really* know what we're doing; many of us have perfected the mask of adulthood because that's what's expected of us.
I am a 32 year old woman, and it's rough when people keep reminding me to have children before it's too late. To be honest, I've been single my whole life, and I never thought of relationships. I'm not Asexual but I am a heterosexual woman. So that is what confuses people. I didn't think of having kids until I became an aunt, and now that I'm 32, I want kids, but I make up my mind quite often. 😅
I’m 54 and love it. Growing up, Gen X (as well as Boomers) couldn’t conceive self care. I’m so happy that it’s somewhat normal to take care of yourself. That’s so important in combating the fear of aging. Just take care of yourself and your peace.
“The chances of each of us coming into existence are infinitesimally small, and even though we shall all die some day, we should count ourselves fantastically lucky to get our decades in the sun.“
I love when an older person who has dimples has the visible line when straight-faced. The beauty of having smiled so much in life that the dimples are permanently there.
Some people will never get a prime, and that's alright. I was shut in through high school to now in my early 20s, so I've never "felt" like I'm living in my prime. But as I get older, I'm enjoying life more and becoming more comfortable with it. It's not like life has a deadline for when we can have fun and enjoy it to the fullest, and I think the value that's put on youth is much attributed to an illusion.
The bad thing is that tons of ladies can’t have kids at 35 or older. So that’s another reason to not like aging. They don’t want to be broke and have kids. Which that takes time. Also finding at least a decent person to have kids with takes time for a big majority of ladies. So those are big reasons for not wanting to get older. If a lady can live life with the high chance of not being able to have kids, then those two worries (time click for having kids and finding a decent person) are not much of a worry. Which is hard to do for most. Though I’m in the mindset of that. So I’m fine without having kids if my time click is up.
The best I ever looked was in my 30s. The most comfortable I've ever been (so far) is in my 60s. Of course it's a privilege to get old, look at the alternative.
As a 45 year old….mmmmmm…..in a way yes. In other ways, no. Here’s the thing…. I love the self awareness I have. I love the wisdom that only comes from experience. I love that I care so little about others opinions of me. I don’t love losing my hair, the dry skin and loss of elasticity. I don’t love the ageism that I deal with, because people absolutely do treat you differently when you are older and no longer “hot.” It kinda sucks sometimes. Not that I care about how they THINK of me, but I care about how I’m TREATED. Like my opinion doesn’t matter because I’m a “boomer.” We almost become a joke to younger people once we pass a certain age. I absolutely do agree with the woman who said that she really was enjoying her 30s. My 30s were absolutely the best years of my life.
In my late teens and 20s I was so afraid of being in my 30s and beyond. You hear so much negative and rarely the positive. You also non stop hear people talking about your biological clock ticking. I had my children when I was young so I wasn’t worried about having children myself. I know that’s something that may stress a lot of women out though. I more so was worried about wrinkles and not being attractive to my significant other any more. Getting gray hair was a fear. I am 35 now and I truly am at my happiest I have ever been. I am a bit more stable in life so my stress level and worries are not as prevalent as they once were. I still look fine and my husband says I’m always going to be beautiful in his eyes. I do not have any wrinkles yet but honestly I don’t really fear them any longer. I dye my roots so often that I don’t even see the gray coming in 😂 it’s all perspective. Aging truly is a privilege, in my opinion. ❤
I used to kind of think that women over 30 trying to assure younger women that 30 is nothing to be scared of were doing it as a coping mechanism to try to deal with the horrible situation they've entered (I should clarify that I didn't think 30+ = ugly, I thought it meant men treating you worse, more responsibility, dealing with harsher societal expectations, etc). But, now at 32 myself, I'm happy to report that the increase in peace and confidence that seems to randomly show up in your 30s is real. I don't know if it's a hormone thing or what, but it just happens. I think I've benefited from it particularly well, because I've been severely mentally ill since at least my early 20s, and after 30 I've become increasingly more stable and happy with time. I haven't accomplished much, I'm definitely stunted in a lot of ways, I have not made any progress in reaching my dreams and I am still mentally ill. It would make sense for me to not be feeling too hot but I'm doing okay for some reason. The power of your 30s!! Lol. Grateful to be here.
I’m in high school, and my mom always talks about her smile lines in a positive way. It’s a mark on her face that she smiles a lot, and isn’t that a beautiful thing? I think so
My best friend died in a fire when we were in second grade. I carry her with me in everything I do and I truly do feel that aging is a privledge. Especially when I saw such a young precious life gone so young. I don’t fight aging because I’m just happy to fucking be here.
I’m 37, and I’ve had greys since about 32, I now have a whole ass grey patch at my temple and I LOVE IT. It’s also an amazing reminder of my mother, who passed in 2016
The reason women are afraid to age is because society only equates our worth and importance to if we are young and pretty.... Society literally doesn't see us as good for or important for anything else... I'm pretty taken back just how far down women get pushed all time.... It's absolutely exhausting being a woman 😢
You posted this on my friend birthday and it’s a beautiful thing! Each year shows you the true celebration of living. I can’t imagine being immortal. This reminds me so much of a movie ‘Death Becomes Her’ 😂😂😂
when i was 20 i was TERRIFIED of aging, so much so that i said i wouldn't live passed 30. When i passed 30 i started to feel good in my body, the best I've ever felt. Now im 42 and for the passed 2 years I've been scared of aging again i think its because people keep telling me i look much younger 😕i do aerial hoop and it keeps me in shape and its great for mental health so if i can give yall besties the only good advice i follow,...... exercise, find a way to exercise that you like and i swear its gonna help a LOT 😊❤
I was thrilled to turn 40. Physically and mentally I feel better than in my twenties. I have to deal with chronic pain from work and sport, but for the most part, I like being mature.
I love aging, my style, looks, and self-confidence keep improving, wisdom is growing, I care less about what others think. Never thought I’d make it past 22, so I’m thrilled to be turning 42 next week!😅🙏🏼 perimenopause sucks but I’ll survive 😩
I'm 58 and have had numerous medical issues including cancer. I hurt every day, sometimes more than others, but I thank God every day for allowing me to see another day, spending another day with my family and seeing the simple beauty around me. ( Also just to add, just because you spend a lot of years on this earth, doesn't necessarily make you wise, sometimes it just makes you old😂😂. Stop and think, grow wiser, gain some common sense. It seems these days, more and more that common sense isn't common and age isn't bringing wisdom 😞.
I'm only in my late twenties and I get told I have an "old soul" and I take it as compliment ! Same with the way I dress, it's a comfy style for me and it's much better than showing off exposed unnecessary skin.
I’m so serious, I told my mom and aunt that I look forward to aging because of seeing how gracefully they have aged 💝 and I told no lie! I am so thankful for the life I am able to live by God, and I genuinely believe my family and I have a glow from the Almighty 💗💗 so it really doesn’t matter of our faces too much, if that makes sense 💖 Edit to add - I turned 29 last month 💝 My great grandma also always told me that the best times of her life were in her 30s and 40s 💗 more fun and more girl time with her friends!!
My mom passed last year at 76 and she was beautiful. She had wrinkly, veiny hands, crepey skin, and lovely wrinkles on her face. She twinkled and shone…inside and out. I’m 58, and being told I look like her is truly a compliment to me. ❤
I love telling people I'm 42 because nobody believes it. It's amazing how well you age if you just hydrate and leave your face alone... And my mother blessedly allowed me to inherit her amazing skin 😅
I'm 34, a few months from 35 and tbh I love it. I play a contact sport and work out regularly so I def feel the subtle changes in my body and how it recovers but I still wouldn't go backwards❤.
I turned 50 last year.. It hit hard, not because of the wrinkles and body changes. It hit hard because this life is just a stop for coffee and you got to make the most of it. I watched my children grow into young adults and the best is yet to come for them and any of you under 30. I always say the biggest weight I lost was the weight of other peoples judgements. I feel very privileged to be basically healthy and to have gained so much wisdom. Trust me I will learn more but enjoy this ride.. Its really just a blip in time
I'll be 70 in a few weeks and who cares?? I'm just living my best life, enjoying the little things, happy in my skin. The older I get the happier I am. I appreciate everything!!!
I’m 42 years old. There was a time that I legit thought that I wasn’t even going to live this long. By medical standards I shouldn’t be. In that time I have learned that there is so much to learn from as you get older. Don’t let yourself fall into the ignorance that many older folks seem to have. Learn to love yourself first. You can’t love anyone else if you don’t love yourself first. Things are going to happen to you in your life. Learn from them. Don’t let them hold you back. Laugh. Laughing burns calories. Laughing calms the nerves. And it helps your mental health. Love more. But don’t let a 🫏 destroy you. It is true that if you’re not getting older then you’re ☠️. If you’re at that point, there’s no way to look back.
As a a woman in my mid-twenties who has struggled for years with depression (and now anxiety), hearing that people are so happy in their thirties gives me hope. Also, college gave me grey hairs so I’m not afraid of getting more in the future lol
My best friend/ soul sister for eternity died when we were both 24 and as a 31 year old now I'm just grateful that I'm still breathing and wish my girl was still here.
I'm 64 and I hated getting older, I used to spend thousands every year on fillers, botox, etc but it didn't make me feel better. So this year I stopped spending a bunch of money every 3-4months for botox and just embrace my age and enjoy my life. I spend easy days relaxing, reading, cooking, taking care of my boyfriend and pets and do little projects around the house and I'm content. When I think about all the money I wasted I the last 15 years on temporary fixes, yikes
18-20 years were my worst years. I was on my own, trying to figure what I wanted in life, insecure and paralysed by anxiety. I still have anxiety now at 30 but I'll be damned if i let that shit get in the way of my ambition. I've found my preferred hairstyle, got sick tats, learned a lot about healthy relationship and boundaries, learned how to love and take good care of the body I'm in ... I see no downsides right now
I’m 37 married with 5 children lol nobody ever guesses my correct age. I never obsessed over age either, but my parents look really young too. So for me it’s genetics
I'm 33 right now and life makes more sense than it ever has. I'll take that over having a smooth face. I'm also at the point where my skincare isn't focused towards anti-aging but just having nice skin in general. Developing spots under my eyes and I actually really love them. Sure there are some things I could do without like the wrinkle that's starting to form between my eyebrows but then I remember being a little girl and looking at the wrinkle between my dad's eyebrows and it just reminds me where I come from. I don't fear aging or death anymore. At this point the only thing I fear is who I leave behind.
My mom died at 44. When I turned 44 I felt so weird, now I’m 46, and I feel so sad my mom passed so young. I do believe aging is a blessing not given to many people. There are things more important than looks and wrinkles.
Unpack why you want to meet beauty standards. Start there. Heal and learn to love yourself. Health is wealth. And peace is part of your overall well-being. Peace is found when you learn to accept and love yourself. "Blessed is a person who is happy with their place in life". That includes aging.
Im 29. I always get told i look 14. I hate my 20s they have sucked. I thought i was going to be married with kids but it never happened. So im giving up on having hope for that. Now its time for the next chapter.
I understand that aging reminds us that we are mortal. And i can understand some existential anguish coming from that point. However, most people dont think about that and only worry about looks and aesthetics..."looking younger". In my opinion, this uncovers different truths. On the one hand, people know that older people are not treated with respect and dignity in our society. Old people are meant to be discarded, thats the reason people are afraid of being and looking old. For me, the solution lies in changing the perspective on older people and aging, as the reality is we are getting older and older, and being able to live longer than our ancestors. There are a lot of centenaries nowadays. On the other hand, i think people need to see the realities of aging and how important it is to chose to age in a healthy way. It is important that people start prioritizing choices that will help them age in a healthy way, and not choices that make them "look better". In my opinion, being healthy does make you look younger, without having to surgically change your apearance. The priorities must on keeping healthy habits (exercise, diet, not smoking, avoid alcohol, sleep enough, take care of your skin and protect from sun, etc). If we are going to be in this world for longer, we might be in this world in the healthies versions of ourselves controling those things that are in our range of control. Because im starting to think that we are going to have residence homes full of people with pillow face and dementia. Whats the point on that? When i see older people (80 years +) being able to have a totally independent live, omg, thats what i strive for. Thats the real privilege. Thats aging gracefully.
In the past year, I've lost 2 of my Great Aunties. They were both 94 years old. My goal is to live as long as those ladies did and enjoy life as much as they did. I've had forehead lines since I was a teenager.
Aging is beautiful and a blessing. Especially being part of a generation can age gracefully. 😍People are tearing their skin up with the over use of beauty products.
I started going grey at 17 but dyed my hair up until COVID when I let it go. Now at 47 I’ve never gotten this many compliments about my grey curly hair!
I’m 35 now and everyone I meet always think I’m 25 or maybe highest 27 Y/O 😆 I only look “younger” is because of my moms genes 🧬. I’m basically her twin and can tell how I will look as I get older. I love aging tbh because I feel like I get wiser as time goes on. I had crazy fun in my teens/20s and I will still have fun in my 30s and up. I just plan more accordingly now and compare to how I was when I was younger. Embrace your age and live you life to the fullest.
I had some 18 year olds call me old in the club (I'm 21) and I literally just told them that one day they'll realize that the insecurities they're feeling so strongly right now will be gone because they'll have grown up and figured out that they don't have time for the whining of everyone else.
I am 51 and stopped dying hair at 45. After 27 years of dying my hair every color, I realized my natural hair color is awesome😮. And I don’t mind the silver streak by my face. Sorry after 30 you are old. You are. I felt the oppressive internal stress of 30. For single women, it’s about 15 years of dating and you are tired of it. I am proud to be an elder now. I feel like It’s my Gandolf era. (LOTR ref)
I was so scared to turn 30. I would get so depressed just thinking about it. Then it happened. My life feels so full and I don’t give a F about what anyone thinks. I still feel beautiful and sexy and I have an amazing husband and 3 beautiful daughters. I turn 31 in December and I don’t fear it at all. I am embracing my adult self. Life is good!
I'm not, but understand why so many are with all the "hit the wall" messages out there for women. The lie that women's value is in their beauty is absolutely devastating. It's a freaking gift to grow old.
I would describe aging in one word: freeing. You are free of your looks (because people already think you are not pretty enough), free of that pressure, free of fear, free or doubt, free of ignorance, free of stupid people you got away from by this time, (ideally) free to make your own choices in your life.
I am 38, and I rejoice to see the gray hair starting to thread through my dreads. It is a blessing to age, but everything comes with a price, which means taking care of the body that God gave you, so the price is not so high as age takes its place.
Im probably a complete alien in here - I also say and believe that ageing is a privilege. So many people were born and died already in our lifetime…. How anyone can complain about being alive and experiencing LIFE is beyond me. I love who I am and I already see grey hairs here and there although early but I welcome them. Btw I don’t “feel” you as a 25 year old! You carry an older energy and I hope that you take it as a compliment :) you have a way better life ahead of you as a mature twenty five year old ❤
I felt and looked my best in my early/mid 30s. I still look good in my 40s. I feel wiser and more sophisticated. You can see through the BS easier. I always had a chubby face, it’s thinned out more, I look good. I feel like I can teach someone a little something about life.
I always forget that I literally have 40+ years ahead of me and that my life isn’t over because I’m turning 21 this year and haven’t done everything I want to yet
Honestly, turning 30 was the best thing that ever happened to me. Now at 32 I can still honestly say, my life is jus beginning. A lot of my friends didn't make it to 30, so I'm going to enjoy it for all of us❤
Here's the thing. At 40, I've had a very WEIRD experience with aging. My mom struggled with aging, and I saw it as a child. This resulted in me loudly proclaiming I would not wear makeup. This largely held up until I hit 27. Even so, at that point I was fairly lazy about wearing makeup. Now at middle age, I honestly think my skin is FAR better than in my 20s and even 30s. I have put photos of myself at 30 against photos of myself at 40. The primary difference is I wear glasses now. That's it. Unfortunately, for me genetics are working against me. I still get carded. My hair is at most 5% gray. I'm still pretty and fairly young looking even in the face in ageism. I'm aging much more slowly than my mom thanks to my dad. So if someone asks me how I'd feel if I looked like my mom, I'd say, "Damn, what happened to me to not take care of myself?" because my mom was not great about her overall health (especially stress management, but genetics were still a factor). Because of this, I feel like I'd actually get MORE criticism for not participating in the ageism discussion in the "right" way. And really, the fact that women are supposed to "look" 20 for all eternity is something I saw when I was growing up back in the 90s. I think what bothers me is that it's being treated like something new. Sadly, it's a well worn tale, but thanks to my autism I managed to brush it aside for myself. I was all, "Yeah, whatever. My work is going to be behind the scenes, so it's not really relevant." I think it also helps that I was in band during middle and high school, and wearing makeup was a uniform violation. It softened my attitude toward my own looks early and often. I go on this multiparagraph rant to say this: as we deconstruct aging and ageism, be aware that for some people aging is going to be a much slower process, and some people were lucky enough to not fall for ageism (or at least not very easily). If these people cross your path, be aware of your own biases. Your own biases could shut out potential allies or people that might be able to help you on some other issues. Yes, reverse ageism is still ageism. (Also, my 30s sucked, but that's more due to traumas piling up than ageism. Car crashes, premature death of a relative, and widespread city violence getting crammed in the space of six years is no fun. My 20s were great.)
I absolutely think aging is a privilege. My younger years were not good and I did sooooo many nefarious things that still have me questioning why am I not dead yet. Many of my friends and friends of friends did not make it out of our teenage years. It seemed like every other week, someone was gone and I can longer go to funerals. I also don't think death is something to fear, but that's another conversation. Aging is natural and everyone is going to age and die. That's how it is. The sooner you come to terms with that, the sooner you truely start living life. I say live a life you can look back on on your death bed and can say "Yeah, I did that and I don't regret it!" Aging well is possible so you're not crippled or sickly as you age, but it will happen and you will go back to the Earth someday, so live while you are here and love every single second of it. Life is worth living.
I’m 39 and seeing more wrinkles on my face reminds me of all the smiles and happy memories that gave me those lines. Enjoy each stage of your life, for each one holds its own beauty. The older you get, the more you get to love your true self.
Love to hear it ❤️
You don't look 39 at all I think the smile makes you look younger 😁
Agreed 💯
@@CozyGirly1 that's a very sweet comment w good intentions, but I think the point of this video is that aging is okay! Looking younger shouldn't always be the goal, someone can be older, look their age, and be absolutely stunning.
Like people believe at there 30 age they feel they got one foot in the grave@@BusiswaG
So I grew up in Mexico, and every summer my favorite aunt would take my cousins from California to visit us in Mexico. I always looked forward to summer because I knew I got to see her and my cousins. I remember her always jokingly saying she didn’t want to be 40.
Well, it was the summer of 2008, I was 17 yrs old and they came to visit us as usual, it was so amazing! But she was 39 and her being 40 was getting real now. She was always saying: “omg I’m gonna be 40 in a couple of months!” “I don’t want to be 40!”. Well, on her way back home to Cali, (she always drove her van because she loved bringing everybody gifts from the US) she got into a horrific accident and she never got to be 40 years old.
She was the most loving, generous, hard working woman I’ve ever known in my life and I miss her so much! This video reminded me of that.
I’m now 34 and that experience thought me to always be grateful of every day that I get to live. It is a privilege 100%! ❤
My aunt was the same, she died at 39 from a rare cancer that mostly happens to people over 70. She lasted 2 months after diagnosed. She always thought she was going to die young. Your thoughts are very powerful, be kind to yourself!
@ I’m so sorry for your loss. I really wish people were more grateful of being alive and healthy, the truth is that vanity and shallowness is getting more and more prevalent in our society and that’s just sad. Thank you for your kind words🤗❤️
When people I went to MS and HS with started passing away from health conditions that I thought only "old people" got, i realized that counting the years equaled counting blessings.
I hear that. My younger brother & his daughter died (different times & circumstances). I have some survivor guilty, but overall I'm glad I'm here.
So so so true!!! Lost a best friend to cancer when he was 25 and it chaged my whole perspective
"Youth is wasted on the young" comes to mind. Since probably the dawn of time, kids and young adults always seem so eager to just grow up but when you get older, you realize time passes faster and there's a beauty in learning how to slow down, take gratitude in your life, and truly appreciate what you've been blessed with.
I’m 65 and I’m loving every minute. I look old but I don’t care.
That’s how I aim to be. 31 in a month and the crows feet are making an appearance! Life is a pleasure. We gotta keep having fun ♥️
Love to hear it!❤
My mom died at 54, embrace aging. It IS a privilege.
Now that I actually am 30, I don't think it's a big deal. It's weird to have super young people call me old, though. 30 is actually so young lol!
Hahaha same here!! I feel like my 20s was a trial run. 😂
When my dad turned 75, I asked him how it felt to be 3/4 of a century old. He answered that 25 was rough, but 75 was an accomplishment (both of his parents died in their early 70s)
31 here. Married for 11 years. 3 kids in.
Stable!!!
I used to be worried about 30s but they are beautiful.
The confidence is FINALLY HERE.
Lol… when they started to call me “mam” I was like WTH??? Now I just take it easy 🤣🤣
People just need to learn how to age GRACEFULLY and be happy every day they wake up because no matter your age, somebody did not make it to see theirs, so count your blessings that you did 👏🏾💯!
Amen!
I'm 62 & when I was young, Botox & Fillers weren't a thing. Plastic surgery was for rich, old ladies . Eating healthy, staying fit & moisturizing religiously were the techniques we counted on to look young & attractive. Now, I absolutely feel the same way about it. Your health is EVERYTHING! I've had major, painful health disasters, and belueve me, that ages you. Do everything you can to stay aa healthy and as low stress as possible. That will be your foundation of youth. God Bless you all. You are beautiful just as you are. Give yourself the gift of living a healthy life. Believe me, your older self will thank you!
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I'm 40 and it was hard not to be pressured into doing things to myself that almost all of my friends have taken part in. However after losing my mother and father, I have become grateful for each passing year the Lord blesses me with. With each grey hair I've over come, with each fine line my smiles and tears have created and each scar that has healed. I have been through alot and my body tells the story. I wish it was more acceptable to embrace our aging bodies because each day is truly a gift that many others weren't given. Many blessings to you Busiswa, keep the vidoes coming.
I already wrote it under another video of yours, but I'm genuinely happy about the fine lines that start showing up. Since childhood I'm battling depression.
That's why I'm happy to see those lines and wrinkles...because I made it this far to witness them. I survived my depression so far.
I’m 28 and I believe our value increases with age, contrary to what the media portrays.
I agree. You have access to more income, you’re mentally more mature, you’re able to do more. When you’re a kid, you just have youth. That’s not that valuable, especially if you live in an area that discriminates against young people. That’s why I was so eager to grow up, so I’d be taken seriously, and now that I’m older, I really like it. Being young is cool and all, but being old enough to get respect by default, do what you want, and have the means to make it happen is a great feeling.
It’s so sad how the internet has made people (particularly women) scared shitless of aging, something literally every human being on this planet goes through. I’ve seen people unironically say that they’d rather just pass away at 25 than get old and I think that’s incredibly depressing.
It’s not only the internet. Women have feared it longer than the internet. It’s because of how people treat women who show their age.
Just to add, what she is describing is perimenopause. Menopause describes the complete end of menstrual cycles but perimenopause is the years before it that comes with the things she mentioned (sleep issues, hot flashes, etc) because of the hormonal changes. While it can be hard to deal with and there isn’t a quick solution, I highly suggest people go to the dr. if they’re struggling. There are different hormone medications that can help even things out during that time.
I'm 45 and I love the looks on people's faces when they card me, especially the younger ones...it just tickles me.
Stay youthful at heart and mind, have multiple healthy ways to destress, and take care of the only body you have- nothing too extreme is needed, simple is always best.
What matters is aging gracefully and gaining wisdom.
Omg me to! ☺️💃(re 1st sentence).
I use a low dose of Tretinoin a couple of times a week and try to keep my parched skin moisturized, but the big guns are Facial Gua Sha and Face Yoga 🧘♀️
Agreed about staying young at heart; simplicity and aging gracefully (i.e. naturally), & the negative effects of stress on the body and face.
When I was younger, I had a lot of people tell me that I looked like my mom....we had the same smile. I always laughed about that because we both had dentures from different places. Now, at 73,I generally feel healthy although I have chronic kidney disease and pre-diabetic. I'm not afraid of dying. I think of my lost family members and will welcome seeing them again.
I turned 50 a month ago and it is a shock tbh being this age as the years have flown by!! Last year I had a gastric bypass, lost 7 stone and now a healthy weight for first time in adult life! Reversed diabetes and high blood pressure and had a hip replacement this year too! Definitely going into my older years healthier - version 2.0!!! Love the channel xx
I turned 50 in June and the struggle is real. But then I remember that I have been very happily married for 26 yrs and have 2 kickass adult kids. I would have none of those things if I hadn't lived 50 yrs! But trust when I say that I will put all the goop (as my husband calls it😊) on my face and body to fight it tooth and nail! And I look forward to celebrating another 50 yrs if the Lord should bless me with them ❤
I relate to that last bit. I don't really fear aging but I NEED my skin to be flawless, lol.
There are 10 year olds on TikTok worried about wrinkles.. that’s honestly heartbreaking and scary.
I honestly don't care how old I look. What I care most about is how I feel. Wrinkles don't scare me. It's the loss of autonomy, movement, and health that scare me. I am scared of falling down someday and not being able to get up. I am scared of being bedridden.
31 in a month, and I’m not mad about it. I’m excited for life to continue. I just want to spread kindness and make people laugh.
Aging is definitely a privilege. I'm 50 and I look every day of that 50 I wouldn't change a thing about the way I look! Love yourself well, the flaws and the wrinkles are the story of your life. It's inner peace that comes from getting 'old.'
🤣🤣 I just colour zapped my hair a few weeks ago at 55! I started going grey at 19. I’m Irish with auburn hair, well I used to. It’s all white now. I have gorgeous, waist length, white hair. I’ve outlived my older siblings so I’m living every moment for what it is. I’ve never been fussed on war paint, wrinkles, clothes, accessories but I had an issue with my grey/white hair. I let it go and I LOVE it. I love every wrinkle, I’ve earned every smile line, frown line, eye wrinkle. It’s phenomenal.
Just turned 39, 30 was rough for a moment... But for me at least for me, I feel like she has made me feel more confident, beautiful, and wiser. I love how I feel and look. I'm sober and had my fun and had once in a life time experiences. Now is the part where I watch my lil guy grow. I am loving it
I turned 58 a week ago and I’ve never really cared about “looks” aging. I stopped wearing makeup over a decade ago and I don’t want to color my hair. I’m pretty secure with my age. I’m told I look way younger but my goodness I was NOT prepared to wake up every single morning in pain with my hands and body not working the same way they used to!
today is my 27th birthday 😁❤️❤️ 26 was awesome and I think this year is gonna be even better!
Happy birthday 🎉🎂🎊
I’m 36 and I’ve been lying about my age for years. I’m finally coming around to accepting that I’m getting older. I started using anti-aging products in my early 20s! I’ve just always been afraid of aging.
I'm 33 and my 30s have been SOO much better than 20s. But my story is a little different..I'm a recovering addict who was still miserable stuck in my addiction thru my 20s. Got clean just before I turned 30. So thanks to AA and God the last 3 years have had more joy for me than the entire decade before that. And I feel blessed everyday 🙏
There are no adults. We are just kids that got larger. None of us *really* know what we're doing; many of us have perfected the mask of adulthood because that's what's expected of us.
Literally! I say "I'm only a small child" several times a day!!! 😂😂😂 I'm 35. I in fact feel like 5,6, or 7 y/o trapped in an adult body 😂😂😂
@@anjelab1429 😂I am 43 currently watching Scooby Doo, so I feel you❤😂
I am a 32 year old woman, and it's rough when people keep reminding me to have children before it's too late. To be honest, I've been single my whole life, and I never thought of relationships. I'm not Asexual but I am a heterosexual woman. So that is what confuses people. I didn't think of having kids until I became an aunt, and now that I'm 32, I want kids, but I make up my mind quite often. 😅
I’m 54 and love it. Growing up, Gen X (as well as Boomers) couldn’t conceive self care. I’m so happy that it’s somewhat normal to take care of yourself. That’s so important in combating the fear of aging. Just take care of yourself and your peace.
Don't put all boomers in one basket. Everyone is an individual.
“The chances of each of us coming into existence are infinitesimally small, and even though we shall all die some day, we should count ourselves fantastically lucky to get our decades in the sun.“
Busiswa's thumbnail is too convincing, I was shook for a second 😂
Miss thing! The thumbnail got me in TEARS 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 you play too much!
“Miss thing” is sending me 😂😂😂
The giant wig thumbnail haunted me for weeks 😂
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@@BusiswaGMiss play all day!! Be cracking your own self up!! 😂🤣🤣
I love when an older person who has dimples has the visible line when straight-faced. The beauty of having smiled so much in life that the dimples are permanently there.
2:05 I turn 35 on Monday… the past two years of my life have been the best. Early 30s you are definitely discovering who you are. I’m so happy now.
You’re a year younger than me and you’re so much more mature than I’ll ever be!!😂😂
Some people will never get a prime, and that's alright. I was shut in through high school to now in my early 20s, so I've never "felt" like I'm living in my prime. But as I get older, I'm enjoying life more and becoming more comfortable with it. It's not like life has a deadline for when we can have fun and enjoy it to the fullest, and I think the value that's put on youth is much attributed to an illusion.
The bad thing is that tons of ladies can’t have kids at 35 or older. So that’s another reason to not like aging. They don’t want to be broke and have kids. Which that takes time. Also finding at least a decent person to have kids with takes time for a big majority of ladies. So those are big reasons for not wanting to get older. If a lady can live life with the high chance of not being able to have kids, then those two worries (time click for having kids and finding a decent person) are not much of a worry. Which is hard to do for most. Though I’m in the mindset of that. So I’m fine without having kids if my time click is up.
The best I ever looked was in my 30s. The most comfortable I've ever been (so far) is in my 60s.
Of course it's a privilege to get old, look at the alternative.
As a 45 year old….mmmmmm…..in a way yes. In other ways, no.
Here’s the thing…. I love the self awareness I have. I love the wisdom that only comes from experience. I love that I care so little about others opinions of me.
I don’t love losing my hair, the dry skin and loss of elasticity. I don’t love the ageism that I deal with, because people absolutely do treat you differently when you are older and no longer “hot.” It kinda sucks sometimes. Not that I care about how they THINK of me, but I care about how I’m TREATED. Like my opinion doesn’t matter because I’m a “boomer.” We almost become a joke to younger people once we pass a certain age.
I absolutely do agree with the woman who said that she really was enjoying her 30s. My 30s were absolutely the best years of my life.
And I absolutely love how you explained it ❤️.
In my late teens and 20s I was so afraid of being in my 30s and beyond. You hear so much negative and rarely the positive. You also non stop hear people talking about your biological clock ticking. I had my children when I was young so I wasn’t worried about having children myself. I know that’s something that may stress a lot of women out though. I more so was worried about wrinkles and not being attractive to my significant other any more. Getting gray hair was a fear. I am 35 now and I truly am at my happiest I have ever been. I am a bit more stable in life so my stress level and worries are not as prevalent as they once were. I still look fine and my husband says I’m always going to be beautiful in his eyes. I do not have any wrinkles yet but honestly I don’t really fear them any longer. I dye my roots so often that I don’t even see the gray coming in 😂 it’s all perspective. Aging truly is a privilege, in my opinion. ❤
that thumbnail is hilarious
I used to kind of think that women over 30 trying to assure younger women that 30 is nothing to be scared of were doing it as a coping mechanism to try to deal with the horrible situation they've entered (I should clarify that I didn't think 30+ = ugly, I thought it meant men treating you worse, more responsibility, dealing with harsher societal expectations, etc). But, now at 32 myself, I'm happy to report that the increase in peace and confidence that seems to randomly show up in your 30s is real. I don't know if it's a hormone thing or what, but it just happens. I think I've benefited from it particularly well, because I've been severely mentally ill since at least my early 20s, and after 30 I've become increasingly more stable and happy with time. I haven't accomplished much, I'm definitely stunted in a lot of ways, I have not made any progress in reaching my dreams and I am still mentally ill. It would make sense for me to not be feeling too hot but I'm doing okay for some reason. The power of your 30s!! Lol. Grateful to be here.
I’m in high school, and my mom always talks about her smile lines in a positive way. It’s a mark on her face that she smiles a lot, and isn’t that a beautiful thing? I think so
My best friend died in a fire when we were in second grade. I carry her with me in everything I do and I truly do feel that aging is a privledge. Especially when I saw such a young precious life gone so young. I don’t fight aging because I’m just happy to fucking be here.
I’m 37, and I’ve had greys since about 32, I now have a whole ass grey patch at my temple and I LOVE IT. It’s also an amazing reminder of my mother, who passed in 2016
The reason women are afraid to age is because society only equates our worth and importance to if we are young and pretty.... Society literally doesn't see us as good for or important for anything else... I'm pretty taken back just how far down women get pushed all time.... It's absolutely exhausting being a woman 😢
I agree. I heard once that you're either f*ck@ble or invisible. 😮
You posted this on my friend birthday and it’s a beautiful thing! Each year shows you the true celebration of living. I can’t imagine being immortal. This reminds me so much of a movie ‘Death Becomes Her’ 😂😂😂
when i was 20 i was TERRIFIED of aging, so much so that i said i wouldn't live passed 30. When i passed 30 i started to feel good in my body, the best I've ever felt. Now im 42 and for the passed 2 years I've been scared of aging again i think its because people keep telling me i look much younger 😕i do aerial hoop and it keeps me in shape and its great for mental health so if i can give yall besties the only good advice i follow,...... exercise, find a way to exercise that you like and i swear its gonna help a LOT 😊❤
I was thrilled to turn 40. Physically and mentally I feel better than in my twenties. I have to deal with chronic pain from work and sport, but for the most part, I like being mature.
I love aging, my style, looks, and self-confidence keep improving, wisdom is growing, I care less about what others think. Never thought I’d make it past 22, so I’m thrilled to be turning 42 next week!😅🙏🏼 perimenopause sucks but I’ll survive 😩
I'm 58 and have had numerous medical issues including cancer. I hurt every day, sometimes more than others, but I thank God every day for allowing me to see another day, spending another day with my family and seeing the simple beauty around me. ( Also just to add, just because you spend a lot of years on this earth, doesn't necessarily make you wise, sometimes it just makes you old😂😂. Stop and think, grow wiser, gain some common sense. It seems these days, more and more that common sense isn't common and age isn't bringing wisdom 😞.
I'm mid 40s now & am so much happier than I was when I was younger. I stress less now also, which helped me age in reverse lol
that patriarchal coercion to be obsessed with looking prepubescent been reeeeal quiet since this video dropped
I'm only in my late twenties and I get told I have an "old soul" and I take it as compliment ! Same with the way I dress, it's a comfy style for me and it's much better than showing off exposed unnecessary skin.
I’m so serious, I told my mom and aunt that I look forward to aging because of seeing how gracefully they have aged 💝 and I told no lie! I am so thankful for the life I am able to live by God, and I genuinely believe my family and I have a glow from the Almighty 💗💗 so it really doesn’t matter of our faces too much, if that makes sense 💖
Edit to add - I turned 29 last month 💝
My great grandma also always told me that the best times of her life were in her 30s and 40s 💗 more fun and more girl time with her friends!!
My mom passed last year at 76 and she was beautiful. She had wrinkly, veiny hands, crepey skin, and lovely wrinkles on her face. She twinkled and shone…inside and out. I’m 58, and being told I look like her is truly a compliment to me. ❤
I love telling people I'm 42 because nobody believes it. It's amazing how well you age if you just hydrate and leave your face alone... And my mother blessedly allowed me to inherit her amazing skin 😅
Benign neglect is underrated.
I'm 34, a few months from 35 and tbh I love it. I play a contact sport and work out regularly so I def feel the subtle changes in my body and how it recovers but I still wouldn't go backwards❤.
I turned 50 last year.. It hit hard, not because of the wrinkles and body changes. It hit hard because this life is just a stop for coffee and you got to make the most of it. I watched my children grow into young adults and the best is yet to come for them and any of you under 30. I always say the biggest weight I lost was the weight of other peoples judgements. I feel very privileged to be basically healthy and to have gained so much wisdom. Trust me I will learn more but enjoy this ride.. Its really just a blip in time
I'll be 70 in a few weeks and who cares?? I'm just living my best life, enjoying the little things, happy in my skin. The older I get the happier I am. I appreciate everything!!!
I’m 42 years old. There was a time that I legit thought that I wasn’t even going to live this long. By medical standards I shouldn’t be. In that time I have learned that there is so much to learn from as you get older. Don’t let yourself fall into the ignorance that many older folks seem to have. Learn to love yourself first. You can’t love anyone else if you don’t love yourself first. Things are going to happen to you in your life. Learn from them. Don’t let them hold you back. Laugh. Laughing burns calories. Laughing calms the nerves. And it helps your mental health. Love more. But don’t let a 🫏 destroy you. It is true that if you’re not getting older then you’re ☠️. If you’re at that point, there’s no way to look back.
As a a woman in my mid-twenties who has struggled for years with depression (and now anxiety), hearing that people are so happy in their thirties gives me hope.
Also, college gave me grey hairs so I’m not afraid of getting more in the future lol
My best friend/ soul sister for eternity died when we were both 24 and as a 31 year old now I'm just grateful that I'm still breathing and wish my girl was still here.
I'm 64 and I hated getting older, I used to spend thousands every year on fillers, botox, etc but it didn't make me feel better. So this year I stopped spending a bunch of money every 3-4months for botox and just embrace my age and enjoy my life. I spend easy days relaxing, reading, cooking, taking care of my boyfriend and pets and do little projects around the house and I'm content. When I think about all the money I wasted I the last 15 years on temporary fixes, yikes
18-20 years were my worst years. I was on my own, trying to figure what I wanted in life, insecure and paralysed by anxiety.
I still have anxiety now at 30 but I'll be damned if i let that shit get in the way of my ambition. I've found my preferred hairstyle, got sick tats, learned a lot about healthy relationship and boundaries, learned how to love and take good care of the body I'm in ... I see no downsides right now
I’m 37 married with 5 children lol nobody ever guesses my correct age. I never obsessed over age either, but my parents look really young too. So for me it’s genetics
Mafikizolo once said, kuguga othandayo.
And I'm adopting that same philosophy
I'm 33 right now and life makes more sense than it ever has. I'll take that over having a smooth face. I'm also at the point where my skincare isn't focused towards anti-aging but just having nice skin in general. Developing spots under my eyes and I actually really love them. Sure there are some things I could do without like the wrinkle that's starting to form between my eyebrows but then I remember being a little girl and looking at the wrinkle between my dad's eyebrows and it just reminds me where I come from. I don't fear aging or death anymore. At this point the only thing I fear is who I leave behind.
My mom died at 44. When I turned 44 I felt so weird, now I’m 46, and I feel so sad my mom passed so young. I do believe aging is a blessing not given to many people. There are things more important than looks and wrinkles.
Unpack why you want to meet beauty standards. Start there. Heal and learn to love yourself. Health is wealth. And peace is part of your overall well-being. Peace is found when you learn to accept and love yourself. "Blessed is a person who is happy with their place in life". That includes aging.
You may be 25, but I see you as an old soul. I’m 51, and still discovering and learning.
Im 29. I always get told i look 14. I hate my 20s they have sucked. I thought i was going to be married with kids but it never happened. So im giving up on having hope for that. Now its time for the next chapter.
I understand that aging reminds us that we are mortal. And i can understand some existential anguish coming from that point.
However, most people dont think about that and only worry about looks and aesthetics..."looking younger".
In my opinion, this uncovers different truths. On the one hand, people know that older people are not treated with respect and dignity in our society. Old people are meant to be discarded, thats the reason people are afraid of being and looking old. For me, the solution lies in changing the perspective on older people and aging, as the reality is we are getting older and older, and being able to live longer than our ancestors. There are a lot of centenaries nowadays.
On the other hand, i think people need to see the realities of aging and how important it is to chose to age in a healthy way. It is important that people start prioritizing choices that will help them age in a healthy way, and not choices that make them "look better". In my opinion, being healthy does make you look younger, without having to surgically change your apearance. The priorities must on keeping healthy habits (exercise, diet, not smoking, avoid alcohol, sleep enough, take care of your skin and protect from sun, etc).
If we are going to be in this world for longer, we might be in this world in the healthies versions of ourselves controling those things that are in our range of control. Because im starting to think that we are going to have residence homes full of people with pillow face and dementia. Whats the point on that? When i see older people (80 years +) being able to have a totally independent live, omg, thats what i strive for. Thats the real privilege. Thats aging gracefully.
In the past year, I've lost 2 of my Great Aunties. They were both 94 years old. My goal is to live as long as those ladies did and enjoy life as much as they did.
I've had forehead lines since I was a teenager.
Aging is beautiful and a blessing. Especially being part of a generation can age gracefully. 😍People are tearing their skin up with the over use of beauty products.
Thank you for your much needed humour and wisdom. So happy I found your channel. 😊
I started going grey at 17 but dyed my hair up until COVID when I let it go. Now at 47 I’ve never gotten this many compliments about my grey curly hair!
Embrace it! I have greys and people look at me crazy for not trying to hide them. I wish I had more
I’m 35 now and everyone I meet always think I’m 25 or maybe highest 27 Y/O 😆
I only look “younger” is because of my moms genes 🧬. I’m basically her twin and can tell how I will look as I get older.
I love aging tbh because I feel like I get wiser as time goes on. I had crazy fun in my teens/20s and I will still have fun in my 30s and up. I just plan more accordingly now and compare to how I was when I was younger. Embrace your age and live you life to the fullest.
So close to first!!! Lol 💖
you're my favorite youtuber ever i love you❤️❤️
I had some 18 year olds call me old in the club (I'm 21) and I literally just told them that one day they'll realize that the insecurities they're feeling so strongly right now will be gone because they'll have grown up and figured out that they don't have time for the whining of everyone else.
I am 51 and stopped dying hair at 45. After 27 years of dying my hair every color, I realized my natural hair color is awesome😮. And I don’t mind the silver streak by my face. Sorry after 30 you are old. You are. I felt the oppressive internal stress of 30. For single women, it’s about 15 years of dating and you are tired of it.
I am proud to be an elder now. I feel like It’s my Gandolf era. (LOTR ref)
I was so scared to turn 30. I would get so depressed just thinking about it. Then it happened. My life feels so full and I don’t give a F about what anyone thinks. I still feel beautiful and sexy and I have an amazing husband and 3 beautiful daughters. I turn 31 in December and I don’t fear it at all. I am embracing my adult self. Life is good!
I just turned 32 I'm so excited to age gracefully 💜🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm not, but understand why so many are with all the "hit the wall" messages out there for women. The lie that women's value is in their beauty is absolutely devastating.
It's a freaking gift to grow old.
I would describe aging in one word: freeing. You are free of your looks (because people already think you are not pretty enough), free of that pressure, free of fear, free or doubt, free of ignorance, free of stupid people you got away from by this time, (ideally) free to make your own choices in your life.
I am 38, and I rejoice to see the gray hair starting to thread through my dreads. It is a blessing to age, but everything comes with a price, which means taking care of the body that God gave you, so the price is not so high as age takes its place.
A lot of it also has to do with genetics and your skincare routine. You can look older or younger just from that.
Im probably a complete alien in here - I also say and believe that ageing is a privilege. So many people were born and died already in our lifetime…. How anyone can complain about being alive and experiencing LIFE is beyond me. I love who I am and I already see grey hairs here and there although early but I welcome them. Btw I don’t “feel” you as a 25 year old! You carry an older energy and I hope that you take it as a compliment :) you have a way better life ahead of you as a mature twenty five year old ❤
We can be aliens together. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
I felt and looked my best in my early/mid 30s. I still look good in my 40s. I feel wiser and more sophisticated. You can see through the BS easier. I always had a chubby face, it’s thinned out more, I look good. I feel like I can teach someone a little something about life.
I always forget that I literally have 40+ years ahead of me and that my life isn’t over because I’m turning 21 this year and haven’t done everything I want to yet
I’m 38 and I feel more confident than ever in my looks and self in general
Honestly, turning 30 was the best thing that ever happened to me. Now at 32 I can still honestly say, my life is jus beginning. A lot of my friends didn't make it to 30, so I'm going to enjoy it for all of us❤
I love down to earth people
I'm nearly 40 and my secret to looking youthful is 1. Sleep 2. Moisture your skin 3. Minding your own business 4. Not caring
I'm 45 and I wouldn't even think about my age if other people wouldn't ask.
Here's the thing. At 40, I've had a very WEIRD experience with aging. My mom struggled with aging, and I saw it as a child. This resulted in me loudly proclaiming I would not wear makeup. This largely held up until I hit 27. Even so, at that point I was fairly lazy about wearing makeup. Now at middle age, I honestly think my skin is FAR better than in my 20s and even 30s. I have put photos of myself at 30 against photos of myself at 40. The primary difference is I wear glasses now. That's it.
Unfortunately, for me genetics are working against me. I still get carded. My hair is at most 5% gray. I'm still pretty and fairly young looking even in the face in ageism. I'm aging much more slowly than my mom thanks to my dad. So if someone asks me how I'd feel if I looked like my mom, I'd say, "Damn, what happened to me to not take care of myself?" because my mom was not great about her overall health (especially stress management, but genetics were still a factor). Because of this, I feel like I'd actually get MORE criticism for not participating in the ageism discussion in the "right" way.
And really, the fact that women are supposed to "look" 20 for all eternity is something I saw when I was growing up back in the 90s. I think what bothers me is that it's being treated like something new. Sadly, it's a well worn tale, but thanks to my autism I managed to brush it aside for myself. I was all, "Yeah, whatever. My work is going to be behind the scenes, so it's not really relevant." I think it also helps that I was in band during middle and high school, and wearing makeup was a uniform violation. It softened my attitude toward my own looks early and often.
I go on this multiparagraph rant to say this: as we deconstruct aging and ageism, be aware that for some people aging is going to be a much slower process, and some people were lucky enough to not fall for ageism (or at least not very easily). If these people cross your path, be aware of your own biases. Your own biases could shut out potential allies or people that might be able to help you on some other issues. Yes, reverse ageism is still ageism.
(Also, my 30s sucked, but that's more due to traumas piling up than ageism. Car crashes, premature death of a relative, and widespread city violence getting crammed in the space of six years is no fun. My 20s were great.)
I absolutely think aging is a privilege. My younger years were not good and I did sooooo many nefarious things that still have me questioning why am I not dead yet. Many of my friends and friends of friends did not make it out of our teenage years. It seemed like every other week, someone was gone and I can longer go to funerals. I also don't think death is something to fear, but that's another conversation. Aging is natural and everyone is going to age and die. That's how it is. The sooner you come to terms with that, the sooner you truely start living life. I say live a life you can look back on on your death bed and can say "Yeah, I did that and I don't regret it!" Aging well is possible so you're not crippled or sickly as you age, but it will happen and you will go back to the Earth someday, so live while you are here and love every single second of it. Life is worth living.