This.. so this means not intentionally bad.. meaning narcissism shouldn't really be the word used as it's a very negative word. and very stigmatized. It's creativity in a way
Yeah however it's not actively bad. Narcissism is stigmatized etc and is portrayed in a very negative way. This is living in a reality or someone's own version of reality. people are so quick to judge when in reality no 2 people can or ever will see reality in the same light... For instance looking at some art work.. if you look at art work and see different things on a controversial painting
God this is my sister. 50 years of dealing with it. It’s so exhausting. You have to remove yourself from these people, it’s the only chance you will ever have if peace. I couldn’t understand why my sister has spent her whole life competing with me and being cruel to me and bullying me. Don’t bother questioning anymore. You don’t need to understand them. Just leave them to themselves. Do not see them or communicate with them if you can help it.
Same story here my older sister always seek for my comfort whenever she stress out or having a bad day within weeks or months backstab me out of nowhere and the list goes on and on circle of her behaviors I’m moving myself silently afar only respect and love no more closeness or I’ll end up mess up my own health !
I have a sister just like yours's. I went no contact again. I avoid her like the plague. I pray for strength to fight off the hate I feel for her. I just keep away & gray rock my mother because she is the main antagonist. Stay strong :)!
I could have made this same comment about my older sister. She's a mess, a witch and living in a fantasy world believing every woman wants to be her and every man wants her. She shows strong Narcissistic traits but will tell me I'm one. Yes cutting all ties is the best for your sanity. I've excepted the only thing we have in common is DNA, and that is not required for me to have any kind of relationship with someone who is in constant competition with me. Too exhausting and will take years off your life. That's what they're aiming for.
Ditto same sister ughhh refers to my mom and grandma as only Hers she’s nasty tried to steal copy my life and expects the 🌎 world from me cause she did something nice one time in over 50 years then acts clueless the Whaaaat what did I do????? Little miss innocent act omg plays my mom and my friends into her monkeys backstabbing relentlessly phony evil c u on Tuesday type!!!! So done with her completely cut all chords she is dead to me.
Richard Grannon is literally saving lives. EVERYTHING is fake. They don't even know it. I'm alive and thriving because of this man, and the work he's walked me through with EVERY free message. Literally saved me. It takes a person with a solid reality and excellent boundaries and the ability to be objective and communicative to this depth. I want this man's certainty of self. I work toward it every day.
My ex-husband used to compete with his son. It was ridiculous. If his son got a new car, he had to get a better new car. When his son started going to the gym, he startes going to the gym. It was so sad and really hurt his son. Everything was an argument, he had to prove he was smarter than his son, (he wasn't). He would often get so angry he would throw him out of the house. Poor kid...he's in his mid 30s and still suffering from his father's abuse!
That’s why usually they get away with their lies…they’re truly convinced they are the victims and they re-write history, believing they’re own version of facts. That is so fucking destabilizing for those who are abused!!
You couldn't have put it better, try to convince them they are wrong, or of their lies + will take you to a mental institution - while they will be there on the false reality happily ever after. Basically being able to record and refer back saved my life - I can see how in the past would be impossible to distinguish that I am so grateful for the ones that have studied that and I also believe they must have had someone around them with these disease - for me is a disease of the brain
Yep. But also I think they never really acted alone, they had to have their enablers allowing them to continue on with all their lies and distortions. I was in a family of 7, and to the best of what I know now, there were 3 or maybe even 4 narcissists, and the other 2 or 3 enabled... everyone in essence covering for each other... truly a crappy way to grow up, for all of us. And when I finally started to say enough, I won't take this insanity anymore, they became worse. No Contact was my only way out. 1 year on at this point and life just gets better and better.
Yes, learned behavior environment from childhood, unable to detinquich between reality and distorted chemical imbalancedment of the brain. Especially with addicted to drugs and or alcohol. The ego really is that they think that there all of that.❤
@@ClaraBrown-o2oDid you know, that you can go on Google to look up how to spell a word correctly? I'm not a native speaker, so I have to do it all the time. You might learn something. It's distinguish.
Narcissists are (highly and extremely) codependent on you and people, especially those that are caught in their web of influence. I am not talking about codependency as we know it and experience in life, but their codependency is fragmented and severly mentally disordered. There type of codependency will s@c& the life out of you as this is where their false fantasy comes from...their demented confluted codependency. When you do not successfully fulfill their reality you become a target of abuse as you did not fulfill their ideal and false fantasy....their unreality.
Interesting idea. Totally agree, and in my experience they show either open or covert mockery of anyone showing spirituality of any type. There seems to be a huge dark pit inside them, of course they don't see or understand it, but it makes anyone who has light inside them look naive to them.... or maybe subconsciously it reminds them of what they can never have, and that shame makes them rage.
In the morning he is grateful that I helped him start taking business. But in the evening he "is a puppet and only being used as a slave to work". In the evenings I receive a barrage of texts about me "kicking him out", but in the morning he is sorry about the outburst, and understands that I told him to leave because he cheated.
@robin2319 Well, good luck with that. Some of them are professional fakers and can keep it up for a long time. Unless you're experienced enough-which means you've been through that at least once-anyways.
My ex gf would never want to point her faults out but always mine. Why I’m not this or that! N I would try my best but it was never good enough or how she would talk to me with disrespect. Always up and down attitude! Hated that part and how we could have a great weekend all for it to come crashing down the following day.
Believe me there's some grandiose ones left.. I know one. And he has every facet of narcissism, grandiose included. He's a walking continuous performance
My ex narc. Saw it unfolding over 25 yrs, didn't know about Narcissism until he left with new supply, a former divorce client who he made super rich on alimony won through blackmail. Now they are sharing another grandiose fantasy that I saw built (on SM) before my very eyes. I called out his fake identity ouch, that must have mortified him. He was broke when he left the country with her, leaving debts in his wake. And my life in pieces
@@ArchAngel435 I hope you can get out of his wake in short time. Their lives are unending saga! I didn't know what a narcissist was either. But boy did I research when I got wind of it. There's no gray area with the one I got away from. I've seen the lists & he did all of the things on them. I Lost lots. It's hard, but life is now sensible with that one out of mine. I can't fathom these people, their daily chaos, making train wrecks out of thin air... For a while I kept trying to reason with it. Glad I stopped trying, a complete waste of effort. I truly hope you prosper. Do not look back. Or worry about his present mess. I wish you well
@oceanside13 That's how my husband showed himself to be! Very Quiet, very smart. He's abused me Physically emotionally for almost 15 years. If it wasn't because of me not having any siblings or family and he wanted me to be a stay at home Wife so that way, obviously he could control money. If it wasn't for having family or financial. I won't be here still. Looking for a job now and have filled for divorce.
Richard, you pulled me out if the dark since I found you 5 years ago. The movie Helen keller when Helen connects for the first time that what someone was hand signing in her hand and Helen makes the incredible connection that that meant water was how I felt when you taught me about narcissism. It was a bolt of lighting that holy shit I married this weird man and it wasn't me!!!! Never knew it's was a disorder that they are all the same coming from the same stamp!!! Yay!!!! It wasn't me
Yes. The pettiness and need to cause harm in ways that were sneaky and weird. The rabid insecurity if I spoke to anyone else, the neeeeed to attempt to belittle. The refusal to listen even when the car was on fire. Literally. Being so vain to let themselves be robbed. So so so stupid, venal, corrupted. And totally predictable. Once you see the problem for what it truly is, there is only disgust left to feel while you make sure you’re as faaaaaaar away as possible.
Yeah and like what out of three personalities am I going to get today...from them I don't know if you've noticed that they will even look different when those different personalities come upon almost like a shapeshifter like they literally will look like three different people.
It's calculated chaos wielded at their victims! If the outside world doesn't claim that they're mad. Then are they?! I believe they instinctively know how to walk this line.
Was with the narcissist for two years, his favorite saying was don’t argue with a fool. He literally thought that he was right every time thank you for your content.
Many years ago I was involved in nursing a grandiose egotistical geriatric. At that time I was ignorant of the consequences of that diagnosis. She demanded that we adhere to her ideas of superiority. Interesting case but hard work
Last night my drunk narcissistic husband told me that he hated me. I said I think you’ve hated me for a long time now. He has accused me of having an affair with my ex-best friends schizophrenic son, which is a lie! I’m assuming cause he’s cheated on me so many times because him another good reason to cheat on me again!
I kind of feel bad for them. It’s like their brains and perceptions are literally torn, their realities are SO warped 😢 They believe their lies… But I will still go NO CONTACT, it’s not worth it dealing with the neuroticism and gaslighting and stress. We cannot save them, only God can do that, and that’s only if they allow it. They are not our responsibilities. All I can do is pray for them. 🙏🏾 And heal and move on.
I'm gramma and my daughters narc told me ' I will make sure you never see those kids again' ( my grandchildren)!!!!! The narc is making life miserable for children's father too and I fear the children are being traumatized. Court system so slow and there are no legal paths I can take.
THIS IS WHAT WE NEED... So its not actually intentional delusion.. it is actually meant well. Narcissism shouldnt be the word used as its a very negative word.
My Mother wants everyone to think she is wealthy, but she is not. She will be condescending to anyone who she feels threatened by, or to belittle them to make herself seem so much 'more important'. Humiliating when out in public and she pulls this crap.
Another that not many are aware of is they will befriends your friends as quickly as possible, getting your friends to trust them more then you in case they need to deliver a smear campaign with allies in their corner leaving you feeling alone, they love to watch you suffer in loneliness. It's freaking heartbreaking
They don't lie they don't fake. They actually believe and live their own BS. Hence losing their shit when they hear "no", "don't care", "serves you right" etc
That’s interesting… it seems the grandiosity is one of the phases they can go in or out of when they are feeling supreme but the whole thing is much more complicated. There are so many different little facets of character and personality that they’re splintered into.
In my experience with a 97 yr old Mother (adopted), and a 40 yr old daughter (both sufferable Narcs) they're powder kegs awaiting to blow!! They can get touched off by the tiniest minutia of eye movements, shifting in your seat, squeaks or groans. They're impossible to interact with, to live with. They're not living in the real world l. I've just washed my hands with both of them. I miss my grandkids, but they're resilient, and we may hook back up at some future date.
The more I’m away from the narcissist I was married to (together for over 2 decades) and my exposure to other narcissists, I realize more and more that it all seems to come from a place of jealousy (insecurity). I’m not trying to sound egotistical myself, there are some things I’m bad at and will readily admit I’m terrible. I’ll never win any culinary awards, I’m awful at ANY type of skating, I am not likely to be selected for my athletic ability. BUT, I was a good wife and faithful all the years we were together, I’m a good mom, I’m kind to people, I do very well in my career, I’m in good shape for a 45yo woman, etc. After years of hearing nothing but criticisms, the more I heal the more I realize that I’m a-ok and it was simply his insecurity. I would hear constant criticism about our home. Yet here I am 6 months after he left and the grass is mowed, the pool is clean and chemically balanced and the house is clean enough (just don’t look in my teen sons’ rooms lol). Bills are paid, and kids are fed. Just because I may have more jars of salsa in the pantry than he would have preferred or the trash can is put out “too early” for his liking, that doesn’t mean I was or am incompetent. In fact, again not to sound egotistical, but if that’s what he had to work with to insult me, I think I’m doing a-ok.
This confuses me when People say they r full of shame. Over what? How can. People brought up in the same family and circumstances e d up as narcissists and none narcissist?
I'm 57 I can't have a relationship because now I'm 205 and nobody wants a fat women. My husband died thank God, bebecause he drank himself to death and was extremely abusive! I've had therapy no sex for 10 yrs and I'm afraid!!!!!!😮😮
Here's the revelation there so riddled with shame because they think so highly of themselves, because they feel there suppose to be so superior think about. They BELEIVE they shouldn't have to feel shame, they BELEIVE they should feel fear, they believe they shouldn't ever have to feel emotional pain, heartbreak e.t.c. they shouldn't have to feel stress. Then there very hyper competitive to not feel those things.
My ex was so competitive and a bad sport! When we wld play a game of cornhole and I wld be winning, he wld get this look on his face like he couldn’t stand to see me happy! What??!!!! WTH?!!
Basically , narcissist take lying to themselves at the highest level.. what a sad way to live , instead of becoming the person they want to be, they just tell themselves they are that and try to back up that lie everyday, sounds like the devil may play a part in that ...
After doing my own research on the human brain, human anatomy, teeth and then neuroanatomy… Great. How disappointing. So I guess I’ll never reach true consciousness to some extent. All my wisdoms have been removed. I hope those who have lost their opportunities without wisdom teeth still have a role to play. Question; how is it that the heart has the same neurons as the brain? Doesn’t the brain have more than twice the neurons than the heart?
NARC CAN FAKE AND THEY DO IT. How you know? Because to you they are all honey, and in a parallel chat they are laughing about you.i know one woman, overt narc, and she tried to teach me the Poker Face and so on.
Don't compete, go no contact .😮
They believe their own lies….caught in their own deception and destruction….
It's insane!!!! Cause you're right in their mind, it's correct 😢
Their main intent is to deceive & destroy U. That's a demon😢
They are deceptive and destructive.
@@teresadvorak6145 Yes…. It is ….
First clue is deception.
I really love that explanation of they’re not necessarily faking because they are living their own fantasy.
This.. so this means not intentionally bad.. meaning narcissism shouldn't really be the word used as it's a very negative word. and very stigmatized. It's creativity in a way
Yeah most Narcissists are bewildered if you tell them they're living a fantasy
The onliest time a narcissist isn’t faking is when he/she’s asleep… and even then, that’s suspect.
Highly suspicious even while sleeping.
😂
Narcs don't sleep
They are too busy watching us, scared of the "Big Pay Back" as they should be
Yeah however it's not actively bad. Narcissism is stigmatized etc and is portrayed in a very negative way. This is living in a reality or someone's own version of reality. people are so quick to judge when in reality no 2 people can or ever will see reality in the same light... For instance looking at some art work.. if you look at art work and see different things on a controversial painting
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i’m not sure what you’re talking about but we’re talking about the living demons here ..stay on task
God this is my sister. 50 years of dealing with it. It’s so exhausting. You have to remove yourself from these people, it’s the only chance you will ever have if peace. I couldn’t understand why my sister has spent her whole life competing with me and being cruel to me and bullying me. Don’t bother questioning anymore. You don’t need to understand them. Just leave them to themselves. Do not see them or communicate with them if you can help it.
Same story here my older sister always seek for my comfort whenever she stress out or having a bad day within weeks or months backstab me out of nowhere and the list goes on and on circle of her behaviors I’m moving myself silently afar only respect and love no more closeness or I’ll end up mess up my own health !
I have a sister just like yours's. I went no contact again. I avoid her like the plague. I pray for strength to fight off the hate I feel for her. I just keep away & gray rock my mother because she is the main antagonist. Stay strong :)!
@@mzme6281. The mother is the enabler - mine allowed my 2 sisters to abuse me for years. She never stopped her favoritism.
I could have made this same comment about my older sister. She's a mess, a witch and living in a fantasy world believing every woman wants to be her and every man wants her. She shows strong Narcissistic traits but will tell me I'm one. Yes cutting all ties is the best for your sanity. I've excepted the only thing we have in common is DNA, and that is not required for me to have any kind of relationship with someone who is in constant competition with me. Too exhausting and will take years off your life. That's what they're aiming for.
Ditto same sister ughhh refers to my mom and grandma as only Hers she’s nasty tried to steal copy my life and expects the 🌎 world from me cause she did something nice one time in over 50 years then acts clueless the Whaaaat what did I do????? Little miss innocent act omg plays my mom and my friends into her monkeys backstabbing relentlessly phony evil c u on Tuesday type!!!! So done with her completely cut all chords she is dead to me.
No one on the planet articulates narcissism better than Richard.
Richard and Paula from narc con and the other great teacher Vanknan who loves calling Richard Ricardo they have videos together too
Denzo Moss on RUclips is better. 👍
Vaknin I believe, excellent.@@joshuamutombo4927
He be really spelling it out
Richard Grannon is literally saving lives. EVERYTHING is fake. They don't even know it. I'm alive and thriving because of this man, and the work he's walked me through with EVERY free message. Literally saved me. It takes a person with a solid reality and excellent boundaries and the ability to be objective and communicative to this depth. I want this man's certainty of self. I work toward it every day.
My ex-husband used to compete with his son. It was ridiculous. If his son got a new car, he had to get a better new car. When his son started going to the gym, he startes going to the gym. It was so sad and really hurt his son. Everything was an argument, he had to prove he was smarter than his son, (he wasn't). He would often get so angry he would throw him out of the house. Poor kid...he's in his mid 30s and still suffering from his father's abuse!
That’s why usually they get away with their lies…they’re truly convinced they are the victims and they re-write history, believing they’re own version of facts. That is so fucking destabilizing for those who are abused!!
You couldn't have put it better, try to convince them they are wrong, or of their lies + will take you to a mental institution - while they will be there on the false reality happily ever after. Basically being able to record and refer back saved my life - I can see how in the past would be impossible to distinguish that I am so grateful for the ones that have studied that and I also believe they must have had someone around them with these disease - for me is a disease of the brain
Yep. But also I think they never really acted alone, they had to have their enablers allowing them to continue on with all their lies and distortions. I was in a family of 7, and to the best of what I know now, there were 3 or maybe even 4 narcissists, and the other 2 or 3 enabled... everyone in essence covering for each other... truly a crappy way to grow up, for all of us. And when I finally started to say enough, I won't take this insanity anymore, they became worse. No Contact was my only way out. 1 year on at this point and life just gets better and better.
Yes, learned behavior environment from childhood, unable to detinquich between reality and distorted chemical imbalancedment of the brain. Especially with addicted to drugs and or alcohol. The ego really is that they think that there all of that.❤
Your very intelligent
Love your coment
@@ClaraBrown-o2oDid you know, that you can go on Google to look up how to spell a word correctly?
I'm not a native speaker, so I have to do it all the time.
You might learn something.
It's distinguish.
Narcissists are (highly and extremely) codependent on you and people, especially those that are caught in their web of influence. I am not talking about codependency as we know it and experience in life, but their codependency is fragmented and severly mentally disordered. There type of codependency will s@c& the life out of you as this is where their false fantasy comes from...their demented confluted codependency. When you do not successfully fulfill their reality you become a target of abuse as you did not fulfill their ideal and false fantasy....their unreality.
they believe their own lies, because they don´t have anything to compare them to
I now understand that narcissists are delusional. That is my starting point to try to deal with NPD. Stay strong 💪
No they enjoy the game of delusion very demonic.
Can you imagine my mom, older sister and younger brother are narcissists. I'm so lucky I was spared that calamity!
@@gracegwozdz8185they attack the sane, rational ones they can project onto. Being a scapegoat or black sheep is a major compliment 😊
"That's just a psychopath" 🤔 😬😹
They are not aligned with god. They attack people who show signs of aligning with god.
You are right. They are very envious of those people who are aligned with God, those of us who are kind hearted and show compassion.
💯 💯 💯
Dark can not feed off of dark. It can only feed off of light. Discernment will guide the way.
My ex narc. Left me and my daughter when I became a believer. Ofc that was just an excuse to walk away from his own mess
Interesting idea. Totally agree, and in my experience they show either open or covert mockery of anyone showing spirituality of any type. There seems to be a huge dark pit inside them, of course they don't see or understand it, but it makes anyone who has light inside them look naive to them.... or maybe subconsciously it reminds them of what they can never have, and that shame makes them rage.
In the morning he is grateful that I helped him start taking business. But in the evening he "is a puppet and only being used as a slave to work".
In the evenings I receive a barrage of texts about me "kicking him out", but in the morning he is sorry about the outburst, and understands that I told him to leave because he cheated.
Hmmm, sounds a little borderline pd.
Yu must be a genius to figure all this out and still be sane
The issue is they can be genius too, that makes it 100times harder to figure it out, saying it based on personal experience.
I doesn’t take a genius to figure out something wrong
@robin2319 Well, good luck with that. Some of them are professional fakers and can keep it up for a long time. Unless you're experienced enough-which means you've been through that at least once-anyways.
Once was enough for me that i know of
Many victims are driven to suicide. I thought about it a few times. Knowing the narcissist wouldn’t care helped keep me alive
My ex gf would never want to point her faults out but always mine. Why I’m not this or that! N I would try my best but it was never good enough or how she would talk to me with disrespect. Always up and down attitude! Hated that part and how we could have a great weekend all for it to come crashing down the following day.
Believe me there's some grandiose ones left..
I know one. And he has every facet of narcissism, grandiose included.
He's a walking continuous performance
My ex narc. Saw it unfolding over 25 yrs, didn't know about Narcissism until he left with new supply, a former divorce client who he made super rich on alimony won through blackmail. Now they are sharing another grandiose fantasy that I saw built (on SM) before my very eyes. I called out his fake identity ouch, that must have mortified him. He was broke when he left the country with her, leaving debts in his wake. And my life in pieces
@@ArchAngel435 I hope you can get out of his wake in short time. Their lives are unending saga! I didn't know what a narcissist was either. But boy did I research when I got wind of it. There's no gray area with the one I got away from. I've seen the lists & he did all of the things on them.
I Lost lots. It's hard, but life is now sensible with that one out of mine.
I can't fathom these people, their daily chaos, making train wrecks out of thin air...
For a while I kept trying to reason with it. Glad I stopped trying, a complete waste of effort.
I truly hope you prosper. Do not look back. Or worry about his present mess. I wish you well
Megan Markle would be a grandiose narcissist wouldn’t she?
That’s a real question btw.
Yes and they take a lot of naps due to the exhaustion of keeping up the facade
@@SusiB123 yes, the covert narc was tired very offen. Mostly early evening, after keeping the facade up all working day.
"That (calm, quiet one) would be a psychopath..." *Bingo* My dad is a sadistic psychopath.
@oceanside13 That's how my husband showed himself to be! Very Quiet, very smart.
He's abused me Physically emotionally for almost 15 years. If it wasn't because of me not having any siblings or family and he wanted me to be a stay at home Wife so that way, obviously he could control money. If it wasn't for having family or financial. I won't be here still. Looking for a job now and have filled for divorce.
These people are at war with reality
And themselves!
❤I have nothing but love from my heart and real respect for you. Thank you very much for bravery to speak up about narcissism❤
Maladaptive response to feelings of inadequacy.
They are delicate due to their INSECURITIES and their hypersensitivity of fake self
I like how he just breaks it down - doesn't mince words
Richard, you pulled me out if the dark since I found you 5 years ago.
The movie Helen keller when Helen connects for the first time that what someone was hand signing in her hand and Helen makes the incredible connection that that meant water was how I felt when you taught me about narcissism. It was a bolt of lighting that holy shit I married this weird man and it wasn't me!!!!
Never knew it's was a disorder that they are all the same coming from the same stamp!!! Yay!!!! It wasn't me
This is probably the best interview you gave Richard, well done! 👏👏👍👍
Is there a place to see the full interview rather than these shorts?
Does it get worse at midlife? Everything is a competition with these type people.
Yes. The aging narcissist accelerates and gets worse because attention is more scarce with age.
Yes. The pettiness and need to cause harm in ways that were sneaky and weird. The rabid insecurity if I spoke to anyone else, the neeeeed to attempt to belittle. The refusal to listen even when the car was on fire. Literally. Being so vain to let themselves be robbed. So so so stupid, venal, corrupted. And totally predictable. Once you see the problem for what it truly is, there is only disgust left to feel while you make sure you’re as faaaaaaar away as possible.
This is a very enlightening explanation. Everything is a false reality based on a fantasy. In reality their affections are false.
Correct
Yeah and like what out of three personalities am I going to get today...from them I don't know if you've noticed that they will even look different when those different personalities come upon almost like a shapeshifter like they literally will look like three different people.
Yes it’s different masks they put on depending on the situation
False reality? Thats just madness, isnt it?
Delusional. Fugazi. Imaginary
It's calculated chaos wielded at their victims! If the outside world doesn't claim that they're mad. Then are they?! I believe they instinctively know how to walk this line.
@@bluelotusnefertoum2144extremely insightful. Thank you.
pretty much
Was with the narcissist for two years, his favorite saying was don’t argue with a fool. He literally thought that he was right every time thank you for your content.
Many years ago I was involved in nursing a grandiose egotistical geriatric. At that time I was ignorant of the consequences of that diagnosis. She demanded that we adhere to her ideas of superiority. Interesting case but hard work
😬😬🥴🥴🥴🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Last night my drunk narcissistic husband told me that he hated me. I said I think you’ve hated me for a long time now. He has accused me of having an affair with my ex-best friends schizophrenic son, which is a lie! I’m assuming cause he’s cheated on me so many times because him another good reason to cheat on me again!
Wow this was so clear. He explains the other side of narcissism so well!
I kind of feel bad for them. It’s like their brains and perceptions are literally torn, their realities are SO warped 😢 They believe their lies… But I will still go NO CONTACT, it’s not worth it dealing with the neuroticism and gaslighting and stress. We cannot save them, only God can do that, and that’s only if they allow it. They are not our responsibilities. All I can do is pray for them. 🙏🏾 And heal and move on.
Thanks for ALL that you do Richard!!!!
I'm gramma and my daughters narc told me ' I will make sure you never see those kids again' ( my grandchildren)!!!!! The narc is making life miserable for children's father too and I fear the children are being traumatized. Court system so slow and there are no legal paths I can take.
The boss is exactly these words!!
Looking for a new work place!!
You said it all. I grew up in a Narcissist family. So glad to have learned what to look for. Why are there soo many in this World. So sad.
Well said
This man is *genius.. "If Narc person is so "everything" why they are so insecure and competitive?"
THIS IS WHAT WE NEED... So its not actually intentional delusion.. it is actually meant well. Narcissism shouldnt be the word used as its a very negative word.
I love The Grannon ❤❤
I feel some of the things he says I can relate to ?? I was sort of raised by one
Sad im learning so much 🙏😢😊 Im getting stronger not to return to these type of people im no longer a magnet or bait tape ❤❤
Well and simply stated
My Mother wants everyone to think she is wealthy, but she is not. She will be condescending to anyone who she feels threatened by, or to belittle them to make herself seem so much 'more important'.
Humiliating when out in public and she pulls this crap.
I know a professional victim that does this.
Another that not many are aware of is they will befriends your friends as quickly as possible, getting your friends to trust them more then you in case they need to deliver a smear campaign with allies in their corner leaving you feeling alone, they love to watch you suffer in loneliness. It's freaking heartbreaking
“Flying Monkeys”. You really can’t trust Anyone!
They don't lie they don't fake. They actually believe and live their own BS. Hence losing their shit when they hear "no", "don't care", "serves you right" etc
Thank you so much❤
That’s interesting… it seems the grandiosity is one of the phases they can go in or out of when they are feeling supreme but the whole thing is much more complicated. There are so many different little facets of character and personality that they’re splintered into.
Very well explained, thank you
Wow.superior complex. Sharing their false reality is on
This makes a lot of sense...the false reality explains a lot of their behavior...
I have thought this about my x narc.thst she believed her own fantasy world,and shared it way too much
Incredible how much the myth applies. The archetypes, symbols and myths really do reside in the collective unconscious.
Yes. A grandiose narc is a psychopath. Totally agree with this.
In my experience with a 97 yr old Mother (adopted), and a 40 yr old daughter (both sufferable Narcs) they're powder kegs awaiting to blow!! They can get touched off by the tiniest minutia of eye movements, shifting in your seat, squeaks or groans. They're impossible to interact with, to live with. They're not living in the real world l. I've just washed my hands with both of them. I miss my grandkids, but they're resilient, and we may hook back up at some future date.
The more I’m away from the narcissist I was married to (together for over 2 decades) and my exposure to other narcissists, I realize more and more that it all seems to come from a place of jealousy (insecurity). I’m not trying to sound egotistical myself, there are some things I’m bad at and will readily admit I’m terrible. I’ll never win any culinary awards, I’m awful at ANY type of skating, I am not likely to be selected for my athletic ability. BUT, I was a good wife and faithful all the years we were together, I’m a good mom, I’m kind to people, I do very well in my career, I’m in good shape for a 45yo woman, etc.
After years of hearing nothing but criticisms, the more I heal the more I realize that I’m a-ok and it was simply his insecurity. I would hear constant criticism about our home. Yet here I am 6 months after he left and the grass is mowed, the pool is clean and chemically balanced and the house is clean enough (just don’t look in my teen sons’ rooms lol). Bills are paid, and kids are fed.
Just because I may have more jars of salsa in the pantry than he would have preferred or the trash can is put out “too early” for his liking, that doesn’t mean I was or am incompetent. In fact, again not to sound egotistical, but if that’s what he had to work with to insult me, I think I’m doing a-ok.
It usually comes from trauma in childhood, or what they perceive it as. They are extremely wounded
This confuses me when
People say they r full of shame. Over what? How can. People brought up in the same family and circumstances e d up as narcissists and none narcissist?
Narcissists are chronically discontent and unfulfilled. They feel like they don't exist without external validation from the world.
I'm 57 I can't have a relationship because now I'm 205 and nobody wants a fat women. My husband died thank God, bebecause he drank himself to death and was extremely abusive! I've had therapy no sex for 10 yrs and I'm afraid!!!!!!😮😮
Yes indeed 😊
Sooo true, he had only false illusions for his life and was lying so hard about everything
Full interview please ?
What kind of shame, that would be so bad that turned them to this monster?
Good clarification, thank you.
Yepper ! Nice shirt 😊
Here's the revelation there so riddled with shame because they think so highly of themselves, because they feel there suppose to be so superior think about. They BELEIVE they shouldn't have to feel shame, they BELEIVE they should feel fear, they believe they shouldn't ever have to feel emotional pain, heartbreak e.t.c. they shouldn't have to feel stress. Then there very hyper competitive to not feel those things.
Horrifying
My ex was so competitive and a bad sport! When we wld play a game of cornhole and I wld be winning, he wld get this look on his face like he couldn’t stand to see me happy! What??!!!! WTH?!!
They're not ''actively faking" I guess means they ARE 'actively deluded'.
Basically , narcissist take lying to themselves at the highest level.. what a sad way to live , instead of becoming the person they want to be, they just tell themselves they are that and try to back up that lie everyday, sounds like the devil may play a part in that ...
What a SAD life!😢
Wow, very interesting 🤔
My last narcissist has a tattoo: I'm the best at everything...
False realities life.
Did y'all hear this Depth
What if they have their monkeys fallow Yu around or get to your destination before Yu do? ?? Your classes your , dog walk ???
What's the difference in a narcissist and a sociopath or psychopath?
They make things 100x harder than they need to be. It's foolish. But, alas they don't care.
Some of them sure make a lot of $$$ doing that if they have enough "supply" in the stadium stands.
Nobody ever answers What are they ashamed of ?
After doing my own research on the human brain, human anatomy, teeth and then neuroanatomy… Great. How disappointing.
So I guess I’ll never reach true consciousness to some extent. All my wisdoms have been removed.
I hope those who have lost their opportunities without wisdom teeth still have a role to play.
Question; how is it that the heart has the same neurons as the brain? Doesn’t the brain have more than twice the neurons than the heart?
NARC CAN FAKE AND THEY DO IT. How you know? Because to you they are all honey, and in a parallel chat they are laughing about you.i know one woman, overt narc, and she tried to teach me the Poker Face and so on.
Their delusional fantasy is their reality,
Very interesting
Sounds like Julia
we don’t have a “disorder”
Where can is there a link for this interview ? Who’s interviewing Richard ?
I only compete for awards
Is the same true for an overt narcissist?
Yes, it is more subconscious with an overt narcissist due to a lack of insight.
Everyone is a therapist. Hes fake too. TV, movies, internet causing the issues. We start to think we can be the hollywood version.
I million percent is his guy is actually covert narssy…. The double explanations aren’t for us. They are for him
what video are these shorts from, who is this lady
Yes. Delusional
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I hear the least of truth of all speakers on narcicism. It doesn't resonste well with me. It's not that true as others can express
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