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I woke up just feeling so useless and burnt out today. I’m at a point in my life where I feel so uninteresting, lacking hobbies, living by myself, no goal. This is comforting, and feels like a starting point to something new.
Hey, I'm sorry you're having a rough patch. I wanted to say when I feel like I need a Motivational talk to pick me up, I go to Tom Bilyeu or Women Of Impact for top content with many subjects to get me feeling better again. Even if I just read a post of theirs on IG. Also, use the living alone situation to give yourself the space you need to try new things like new exercises, read new books, learn a new hobby etc. You can always change if you set your mind to it. Just take it one step at a time and don't overwhelm yourself with too many things at once. Take a safe walk outside or a hot shower or journal when you feel down to rest your energy. I hope this helped in some way. In health and healing. 💓
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
2:00 ~ slow down and do less🌻 3:00 ~ saying no & building stronger boundaries🌻 3:50 ~ realise the presure and expectations🌻 • 4:51 Questions: ~Why do i have to do that? ~What fuels that need/desire? ~Who am i trying to prove? ~Who am i doing this for? 5:24 ~ heal body and energy🌻 6:23 ~ the healing journey never ends🌻 7:40 ~ THE LESSONS🐥 7:52 ~ RECOGNIZE WHY🐥 11:28 ~ just being🐥 Thats it, i hope it helps somebody
I’ve been a mess ALL April and definitely relate to this video. It’s hard to slow down and force yourself to find peace and live in the moment when you’re so used to putting pressure on yourself to get things done so videos like this are SO helpful 🙏🏽
i had a burn out 6 years ago and have suffered from depression and eating disorders on and off for 10 years. i am still struggling to detach my self worth from my academic success and career. life is hard and we all go through dark times. thank you for this video ❤️
I loved the point "Self is not really about to do lists and fancy things. It's simpler than all of that". I can feel that. Self care is all about nourishing yourself in way that feels great and it's different for everyone. I have watched tonnes of tiktok emphasising skin care equals to self care but i don't think that's the ONLY truth. It might be more some people but generalized anything is kinda wrong. I read this quote somewhere which i love so much : "Life doesn't give you a manual because you have to create your own one" An advise from my experience is that as long as you do anything for you, it never feels like a burden. Shifting our mindset plays a major role in achieving stuff. Like instead of saying 'I gotta prove im better at academics than xyz' you should think "Lemme gain all of this freakingk stuff and enrich myself with such amazing knowledge" I swear this mindset helps me hella lot in my academics. And not just academics, when you stop caring what others gonna stay, you'll be happier. All of the points you covered are so true and helpful. Thank you so much sista!!💙
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today! I just quit my nursing job 2 days ago and I'm feeling guilty but I know this was the right thing for me and my mental health. I was having extreme anxiety, I couldn't take it anymore. Thanks for sharing this!💖
Mia, you made the best choice for you ❤❤. I'm a nurse too and I understand very much how overwhelming the work can be. I don't think anyone from the outside really can understand what we go through in our jobs. Taking care of people is the easy part 😉, a lot of the times it's the environments / systems we have to do it in that's insane. I'm so proud of you for choosing you! Your job will always be able to replace you, but YOU won't be able to replace YOU. 👏🏾
same here. quit my nursing job almost a year ago. since then, the shame and guilt never left me. now anxiety seems to have been my constant buddy. i was and is still being too hard with myself. Thank you for this episode.
@piperj Thanks! Props to you cuz I could NEVER do ER! I'm in NICU & actually ended up staying on as PRN!! Feeling so much better about that decision b/c PRN is giving me the opportunity to continue to learn while also giving me flexibility to take more time off when I need it for my mental health 😊
“The more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be who you truly are” This quote hit home for me and I basically shed a couple of tears watching this video. I definitely hit burnout, but as I feel like my true self was trying to say something to me without even realizing because lately I’ve been having a hard time with productivity, and I feel like I am having an internal battle. Overall, amazing video and Im glad you shared it.😊😊😊
This timing could not be more perfect - this week I realized I've been struggling with burnout for the past two years and have been looking for steps to take to start the recovery process. I'm self-employed full-time so it's really hard to find that balance in life and not spend every minute either working or feeling guilty about not working. Your video made me realize that it's rooted so much deeper than I thought! I'm starting to understand that this recovery process is going to be more than surface-level changes like setting working hours or adding more self-care - it's going to have to be total mindset makeover when it comes to how I view myself and my work. Thanks so much for sharing your journey and insight 🙏
I’m 28 and my first ever memory is my dad insulting me (I won’t say what he said) when I was like 5. For my entire life my dad made me believe I wasn’t good enough UNLESS I did something or became something etc. So now I’m trying to get rid of those beliefs. Exactly what you said in this video. I’m burnt out and it’s been a pattern my entire life.
My favorite point is that your mind and your light are not the same. I’ve been to the hospital twice in the last five days due to anxiety. This gives me hope that I will get pass through this and let my light show.
sending you more hope & love Patricia ❤❤. Your light WILL shine through, and you are not your emotions, you are not your thoughts. These are your tools, but they are not you, you are more than them. you can make it through!
I even got goosebumps when I saw that thumbnail cuz your contents always pop up at the right exact phase I'm going through. The one sentence I take away from this is "the more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be truly you are". Thank you so much, dear Aileen.
I love the part where you talked about eliminating the self care to-do list. I am guilty of having this! Then, I start to feel anxious about not completing the tasks that I wrote down to make myself feel more at peace!! 🤦🏾♀️
Oh my god! For the last couple of days, i've been feeling burnt out after my midterm exams along with family issues and that general anxiety of future. Everything felt more overwhelming than it used to be :,) I was litterally in a place where i couldn't do any work but neither relax properly till today. Today, even though i couldn't got up early as i planned i still got up and started doing something. I havent watched the video yet but i believe it'll help me, truelly. Thank you so much I'm taking this as my sign.
This is the talk I need so much! I burned out from the work several weeks ago and I realized that I don't want to fall into this repeated cycle again anymore! I have been always hiding my true though and be harmonious with the whole team to achieve the work goal. However, that totally took toll on my personal health (physical and mental). Recently I am watching "My Liberation Notes" on Netflix and it speaks to my heart! I try to make small "progress" (even it is just a talk with my colleague saying what bothers right now) and it starts to change my life! I tie my self worth with work performance too much. My personal life is blank! "Who am I if I am not working?" And I couldn't think of me as what kind of person! how pathetic! A good talk reminding me to start to be my authentic self!
This message needs to be louder in the world. I've always harboured an innate knowledge that hustling is not our sole purpose of life, but even knowing that I made self-care a hustle, too, because so much advice is coupled with being 'successful' in self-care. It's very ironic, but understandable because of the constant bombardment of these messages.
I love this, I just realized I put too much pressure on myself. It took me nine years to find out because my parents and guardians always called me lazy and ungrateful. I always pushed myself to the final limit and always tried to give 110%. I was always compared with the smartest kids my whole life that made me feel like I’m not enough. I felt like school was a completion and I had to show them they are wrong. I discussed this with my mom but now she is saying I am victimizing myself. You are like my breath of fresh air of the day and I look up to you. I do your meditations everyday. Can the people who are reading this give me advice in the comments?
I don't think you're victimizing yourself, I think you're recognizing that you were acting in response to pressure. Just don't get stuck in that space. Use it to ask yourself who you really are and what you want your life to be. 💜
Thank you so much for this reminder. Been hustling for 2 weeks and I'm aware that I'm slowly feeling burnt out. I know that I should not consider "rest" as a reward. What I need to do is really incorporate this in my life.
As I have said, this is truly the year of realigning with the power of boundaries.✨ Boundaries truly liberate us, even from aspects of ourselves that are no longer serving us. Thank you for this video honestly, I have been reassessing all aspects of my life's foundation exchanging productivity for time with the soul. The detatchment from anxiety is definitely a practice, thank you for voicing this 💜❤💜
I really needed to hear this 🥺 Being a new business owner is really hard! The fear of failure was hunting me very, very badly! I started to compare myself to other business owners who was more successful than I was!!! It was just overwhelming!!! On top of that, I’m a mom and a wife!!! I had to pretend I was okay and perform my everyday duties. I’m blessed to say I’ve gotten so much better at balancing everything!! Still improving daily, but I’m not where I use to be!! Love, Peace and blessings to you all!! All is well!!! We are going to be alright 🥰
very timely :,)) thank you so much for speaking these words, am and have been in a burnout since a year ago and i really do agree that healing is a constant process! journaling (ie the whys etc) has changed my life and i love that you mentioned self-care is not checking off a to-do list! thank u and for all those reading, may you find your love and light in yourself
love to witness your self-care/relaxation glow up as I definitely went a similar way as I closed out my 20's of overachieving. I really liked the point about not listing off your self-care "accomplishments" and remembering it's about listening to yourself and what you need, not "doing self-care" just to say you did self-care.
I’ve been on sick leave for severe burn out and depression made worse by a toxic work environment/boss. I really enjoyed this video. Would you be able to do a seperate video on healing and moving on from a toxic work environment? Apologies if you have already done a video on the topic.
I'm so grateful that I decided to watch this video today instead of rushing , doing homeworks , projects ... We really need a break from this like we're literally rushing but we're actually rushing nowhere but death ... It literally hit me hard when you said that there's actually no rules in this earth , the way we livin' ... Society created this and we have life and we have choice to do what we want ... Thank you so much for this advice and you're voice is just claming and charming as always 🥺💗💕💝💓 I love it
Yes, i needed this. Im just moved from the Netherlands to the Caribbean and I'm burned out for 1,5 year + bad anxiety. And I'm starting my own clinic and I have the feeling that I can't handle it, but I'm so far already... Its so difficult to find a balance. But seeing your videos is calming me down. you are so good in explaining things, that it is so recognizable. And your a big inspiration for so many people. Your a true blessing 💗
you can do it Manon ❤, just wanted to say that! I'm sure it's so hard, but remember that when we try things we've never done before (and you in a new environment at that), hard is expected - it's not a sign that you're not good enough to do it, just a sign you're doing something you have never tried before ☺. Oh, & don't look at any re-direction you take as a failure, it's not! We sometimes pivot, and hit speed bumps, and pot holes - all of that, but it's not a sign that you failed, no Manon, it's just a sign that you're actually moving (and that's a great thing!).
@@BoldlyFlourish thank you so much. you've made me cry with your kind words. Yes its really hard sometimes, but your right, its just experiencing new things are scary, but also a sign that I can get out of my comfort zone and after I can be proud of myself. Thanks again for your motivation. Thats means a lot ❤
@@manonmeijer9931 i know sometimes it feels hard ❤❤! and that's why we need reminders like this. reminders that the hard feelings aren't because we are inadequate, but because we are brave and strong enough to attempt something new & different. you are 100% right, you can def be proud of yourself!
You are an absolute gift from the Universe to all of us. I need this, so bad. So grateful for you Aileen. I wish you good health, joy, love success and more. Please accept this BIG virtual hug from me. May God bless you 🙏❤️
The point I liked the most was certainly the one with the yin an yang energy levels and balance. I've always been on the Yang side, masculine productive energy, a hich achiever.But i burned out, and loong loong talking sessions with my husband doing just getting deep inside me layer after, I realized I still had some terrorizing memory of my dad, or teacher hitting me for not having the best grade or some minuscule academic mistakes. I grew up like a machine and was the one in the familly that always bring up the good results...Now I do things for myself, I droped out of medschool and started my creative journey (starting a career in UI/UX design and spend hours drawing, which my father always tackled as being "useless") And yeah, it's an eternal healing process but my husband helps a lot, and we explore our pasts regularly, layer after layer. And it actually feels good. Thanks for this video as everything you said aligns perfectly with my life right now. Now i "breath" and "live" 😊🥰
I feel like when you mentioned the part about realizing that a lot of our expectations come mainly from parents and upbringings. That really struck a cord with me cause that’s been my experience and I’ve learned that what I’m doing now is actually good enough. Sometimes we just need to honor how we feel and care about ourselves enough to know and understand when we’re tired and not in the mood and be real with ourselves instead of trying to cover it up and move forward like nothing is really effecting us
Thank you so much, I'm really struggling as an unpaid creator - I'm working so hard and it has been getting the better of me, this video has helped xxx
I definitely needed this. I had a breakdown last night because I was just doing so much. Just hearing you say that I really need to ask myself why is something I want to work on today before I get started on my day. Thank you for this talk.
Revisiting your channel after having found you from your video on Boundaries. It’s beautiful and so inspiring to see how much you’ve clearly attuned to yourself - I can see such a difference in your energy and communication. There’s such a strength and genuine feel to how you’re expressing. I’m just beginning my journey in understanding all the nuance you touch on here, and I’m so grateful to see you making such authentic and powerfully vulnerable content! This has so much value, and so do you! ✨💜✨🦋
My husband and I bought a fixer upper as a first house so we've been living in a half renovated house, boxes still packed while we live and work and work on the house. It's been so much feeling like we haven't made enough progress but I remember we still have so much on our plate and we are just spinning our wheels into the mud. So we are finding gratitude for the small projects and the things that are done or do work. Working outside on the yard and feeling like you are tending to your environment. I need to set up a yoga space because I have no place to lay out and move
To the individual that sees this message, make your self a priority boo! Don't feel overwhelmed about things you can't control. Focus on the things you can control and make time for your SELFCARE. We tend to neglect ourselves and fall victim to burnout because we feel we can do it all. Take a break, get some fresh air, vent to your tribe. Everything will be fine! -@Yoselfcaremama🧡
This winter I had the opportunity to slow down and take time to work on myself and to heal from burnout and now that life has gone back to my regular fast pace way it's been difficult to adjust. This video really helped me rethink my situation thankyou.
Thank you for this video🧘♀️💗 It’s really a healing journey. I had something similar 4 years ago. I’m not sure if it was burnout but I was really close to it. I also went to therapy and that was helping me so much. Although I was really feeling so empty and broken inside and just didn’t understand why (after the therapy it started to get clearer and clearer). Since then I’m taking much better care of myself. That’s why I also quit my latest job because I just felt, that I’m giving way too much energy and passion into it, what is actually good, but I can overdo it easily, especially if I don’t have a private life (like partner or family who I’m living with). So it’s really important, listening to ourselves and observing our feelings as well🧡💜🤍💐
Maam Aileen, I just want you to know that you're one of my inspiration why I overcome stress and old traumas.. Your videos push me to become the best version of my self
Fav point of the video is the self-care! Its about tuning into your intuition and not about do-this do-that. So true and authenticcc!! 💗✨. I really love lavendaire!!! ☺
I agree....we are not machines! And that's why "the machines" are taking a lot of jobs. But this grind culture is toxic, and I try to prioritize relax time. I tend to find myself feeling guilty but I know it's for my best good
When universe guides you to RUclips and this video is the first thing you see. Thank you so much for providing this content today and voicing the words I want to express. My jumbled up brain washed mind couldn’t process that I can live a slow life for just me and to stop seeking validation from others.
I feel like I’ve grown with you as I’ve watched your channel over the years. It’s so nice to feel like I’m not going through phases in life alone. I’ve definitely noticed you appear more carefree and lighter in your videos recently! (Even though I’ve always loved your vids). Thank you for inspiring us and keep doing the good work 💪🏻💪🏻
Thank you Aileen for this video, I've been going through burnout myself and today I feel so much better, hope all people can heal and let go that's the most beautiful thing to do let's let our soul be happy !
Been healing for a year because my mom passed away and just graduated for my master degree, but I still don’t know what should I do with my life. I have goals, still pursue it until now, hard to achieve it. Sometimes I feel left behind and unworthy. Thanks Aileen, as you said just being existing is enough. And I promise to treat my self more gentle than before.
I am exactly in the same situation. But you know I concluded that no one knows what to do with her/his life, just live the life, there is no need to rush. That simple.
Thanks for putting this out there. Embracing the beauty of "being" is something we all overlook because it is considered to be unproductive. Grateful that there are creators who are authentic enough to address this. 🙏
Thank you for this! This is exactly what I did last month. I took a rest for a month because I felt like I couldn't breathe and it felt everything was exhausting, and overwhelming. Now, I have the energy to do the things I did before. And you're right, our healing goes on, there's no stop, and all we need to do is to not give up even if we fail.
I've been going through the same path, healing energetically, getting in tune with my body and heart, shadow work. It is really hard sometimes, but totally worth it. And as soon as we get a deeper connection with ourselves it becomes joyful to do healing, indeed. Because no matter how hard it is, everything becomes lighter, brighter and happier afterwards. Sending lots of love! 💖💖💖
I don’t even know how to express my gratitude for finding your page and receiving this guidance. Thank you from the deepest part of my heart. Sincerely, recovering over-achieving people pleaser!
It’s really hard to not let the world get into your head and make you think to become something you never really wanted to be in the first place. I’ve been tying my self worth to success, and comparing myself to everyone else around me, feeling like my life didn’t matter. It’s a feeling that’s so ingrained and I’m trying to let go of it. This video was what I needed to hear, a lot of times it seems like I am alone in this feeling. I think we as human beings have lost sight of our roots, what we truly are. We need to reconnect with nature, each other, and ourselves on a deeper, more sincere level.
Thank you for sharing. I am also healing from burnout from work and personal trauma. There is value in being productive, but there is also value in being still. It is so important to pause and reflect amidst all the busy-ness.
i really love how you explained self-care, about how it’s the balance between yin and yang energy and not about the hustle culture. i never knew that when people were talking about the authentic self that it was when a person isn’t being driven by external forces, and just about letting go. i really don’t think i’ve ever understood it like the way you have said it until now. and i want to start learning more about spirituality and this gives me a bit of a push towards that ❤️
this was wonderful. i’ve always felt terrible about myself because i wasn’t doing anything productive or contributing to something larger, and just sitting at home. i was very suicidal because i didn’t feel like i had a purpose, but Im happy when i’m playing video games and drawing, watching my favourite movies. then i feel bad because i feel like i’m wasting my life? like i should be going out and doing something like other people. I just want to enjoy my life my own way. I don’t need to be famous or popular to be happy. i know i like being able to just be at home and do my own thing. i feel so much pressure to be more when i dont need to be.
My favorite point from this video was when you talked about seeing self care through this achievement filter too, it’s something I’ve been doing and I don’t want to, I want that to change
This was a beautiful, raw and honest video! It’s so important and yet so difficult to find that balance between what we feel called to do and share with the world and what we are physically able to at any particular moment. Because we change and sometimes the way we were operating even a month ago can be unrealistic for us at the moment. The important thing is to not feel guilty about it… to be kind to ourselves ✨
Ohh thank you so much! The part where you say that there are no rules of how we are supposed to live our lives made me cry. I will rewatch the video again and write down some of the lessons you have learnt as I feel deep down I know these things but when I live my own life and try to get things done… I get overwhelmed and forget what the important part is. Namely how I feel and that I am not a robot. I am here to feel good, to feel myself and to overcome my fears… to be a better version of my past self. And this is not through getting a better job, be super successful and constantly posting on Instagram how productive I am. For me it should be about looking inside and work on myself, on my energy… Then all the other small things that bother me now will come to place. Sorry for the long comment. I just felt really inspired. I am in some kind of burnout right now and I’ve been so harsh on myself for not being able to cope with my work and “responsibilities” like the others… which is so wrong. I am glad that you’re giving such beautiful advices. Thank you! 🍀
Wow, I really needed to find this today. I push myself to the point of exhaustion and I feel like I'm not doing enough if I'm not doing something to better myself at all times. Thank you for sharing this!
Your videos and your journey have helped me so much over the past few years I can’t even explain it. Thank you for leading by example, Aileen. ☺️❤️ I am learning more of these lessons every day. What I’ve tried to focus on is making efficient systems for the things I “need” to do for work (but still enjoy doing) so I can keep things moving without so much of the mental stress of remembering what to do… gives me more free time to just be… I’m constantly evaluating my process but it’s improved so much. 😊
I took about 2 months off after working at a convention company due to burn out and it was amazing time off for me. It made me though how myself is important as anyone else. Finally found a company that I enjoy working with great people who just enjoy working and having a work life balance.
You allways appear like a true voice to show me the path, it was exactly what I was thinking, like, it's ok to do nothing, it's necessary to left things that society have put into our minds, we are just existing beings and our duty is just to live aesthetically, in the present...
I’m on my journey. I have 2 weeks til I move across country and start working a little less so I can recovery too. I think so many of us are experiencing this.
this message was beautiful ❤ I strive to let go, free myself from everything that no longer serves me and know that I am incredible by simply existing too :)
I think my favorite part of this is about not measuring your self worth over your productivity and also learning to let go. As someone who is afraid of making mistakes and losing control, I realized how freeing it is to let go of the burdens and negativity that I've let myself consume.
It was so relaxing and informative. I can really tell you read a lot. Thank you for sharing with us. We all need to be more gentle to each other. I really think it's not about "me vs others" or "winner or looser".
Thank you for this video, I have also been feeling burned out as well and with finals coming up this will help remind me no matter what it’s important to listen to my body and mind.
Hi Aileen 💫 I have been watching all your videos from 7 long years but this one is the best one so far! I can sense you have evolved and healed a lot along your journey, it is truly getting reflected from your personality! I love it. I can totally relate to all the heavy things you talked about, I mostly suffer with managing expectations which I have on myself! I clearly don’t know how to heal 🥺 Could you share with us how to start a healing journey and resources that helped you though! Lots of ❤️, Barshana
It reminded me how overbooked I´ve become. Between full time job, hunt for follow-up job, art classes, reading, book clubs, bouldering and weekly meetings with a partner there is rarely enough energy left to clean my tiny flat or doing more of the much needed bouldering. This video has reminded me of my FOMO and it kinda resonate with me on many aspects like the detachment of self-worth from productivity as well as childhood trauma. It fits well with a book I´m reading about priorization and I´m kinda gratefull that a few of my commitments will end within the next week to give me more energy to breath and doing shadow work.
This video really sparked some thoughts. Today is my first sick day due to burnout. And I think this video has really got me thinking abiut why do I push myself so hard and where does that come from. The comments about the culture we learnt in school and attaching our self worth to achievement really resonated. Today is step one for me and I feel like this video has really helped me to gently start framing my recovery journey. Ty xxxxx
Thank you for this video, Aileen! I am working on myself and learning to be kind to myself when I am not able to do everything I would like to do in a day, and prioritize myself more :) Went for a long walk and it was refreshing today :)
Dear Alieen, I've been following you for nearly 5 years now. I can see you much happier and calmer. Watching your videos made me reaaly where all my pressure and high expectations stem from. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this topic. Best wishes to you and have a good day
really resonated with understanding the yin qualities. allowing the experience in a way that does not need to be "yangified". that is really hard at the beginning. learning to detach from the "push" or "pull" is a difficult lesson
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I woke up just feeling so useless and burnt out today. I’m at a point in my life where I feel so uninteresting, lacking hobbies, living by myself, no goal. This is comforting, and feels like a starting point to something new.
Hey, I'm sorry you're having a rough patch. I wanted to say when I feel like I need a Motivational talk to pick me up, I go to Tom Bilyeu or Women Of Impact for top content with many subjects to get me feeling better again. Even if I just read a post of theirs on IG. Also, use the living alone situation to give yourself the space you need to try new things like new exercises, read new books, learn a new hobby etc. You can always change if you set your mind to it. Just take it one step at a time and don't overwhelm yourself with too many things at once. Take a safe walk outside or a hot shower or journal when you feel down to rest your energy. I hope this helped in some way. In health and healing. 💓
I feel the same way!
Yeah I feel the same. Not only that but I also have to manage my relationship!!!
i agree! :)
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
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🥺you too!
What a lovely wish! Thank you, the same to you!
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I was having a breakdown an hour ago because of burn out and i literally felt likee this video was for mee thankuu so much like genuinely ❤️
Wow I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you continue to feel better 🥺
@@khalilahd. thnkuuu
wishing you fast recovery and know that you are not alone!
I know how you feel. Happy you’re doing better, my friend ❤️
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2:00 ~ slow down and do less🌻
3:00 ~ saying no & building stronger boundaries🌻
3:50 ~ realise the presure and expectations🌻
• 4:51 Questions:
~Why do i have to do that?
~What fuels that need/desire?
~Who am i trying to prove?
~Who am i doing this for?
5:24 ~ heal body and energy🌻
6:23 ~ the healing journey never ends🌻
7:40 ~ THE LESSONS🐥
7:52 ~ RECOGNIZE WHY🐥
11:28 ~ just being🐥
Thats it, i hope it helps somebody
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thankyou. this was super helpful!
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I’ve been a mess ALL April and definitely relate to this video. It’s hard to slow down and force yourself to find peace and live in the moment when you’re so used to putting pressure on yourself to get things done so videos like this are SO helpful 🙏🏽
Khalilah gurl I see you everywhere lol we must have the same algorithm 🧍🏻♀️
How come we watch exactly the same videos? I see you everywhere🥺
i had a burn out 6 years ago and have suffered from depression and eating disorders on and off for 10 years. i am still struggling to detach my self worth from my academic success and career. life is hard and we all go through dark times. thank you for this video ❤️
I loved the point "Self is not really about to do lists and fancy things. It's simpler than all of that". I can feel that. Self care is all about nourishing yourself in way that feels great and it's different for everyone. I have watched tonnes of tiktok emphasising skin care equals to self care but i don't think that's the ONLY truth. It might be more some people but generalized anything is kinda wrong.
I read this quote somewhere which i love so much : "Life doesn't give you a manual because you have to create your own one"
An advise from my experience is that as long as you do anything for you, it never feels like a burden. Shifting our mindset plays a major role in achieving stuff. Like instead of saying 'I gotta prove im better at academics than xyz' you should think "Lemme gain all of this freakingk stuff and enrich myself with such amazing knowledge" I swear this mindset helps me hella lot in my academics. And not just academics, when you stop caring what others gonna stay, you'll be happier.
All of the points you covered are so true and helpful. Thank you so much sista!!💙
This is exactly what I needed today❤️ Thank you Aileen🥰
And u should be thanked for this beautiful advice ❤
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today! I just quit my nursing job 2 days ago and I'm feeling guilty but I know this was the right thing for me and my mental health. I was having extreme anxiety, I couldn't take it anymore. Thanks for sharing this!💖
Mia, you made the best choice for you ❤❤. I'm a nurse too and I understand very much how overwhelming the work can be. I don't think anyone from the outside really can understand what we go through in our jobs. Taking care of people is the easy part 😉, a lot of the times it's the environments / systems we have to do it in that's insane. I'm so proud of you for choosing you! Your job will always be able to replace you, but YOU won't be able to replace YOU. 👏🏾
proud of u 💕
same here. quit my nursing job almost a year ago. since then, the shame and guilt never left me. now anxiety seems to have been my constant buddy. i was and is still being too hard with myself. Thank you for this episode.
@piperj Thanks! Props to you cuz I could NEVER do ER! I'm in NICU & actually ended up staying on as PRN!! Feeling so much better about that decision b/c PRN is giving me the opportunity to continue to learn while also giving me flexibility to take more time off when I need it for my mental health 😊
“The more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be who you truly are” This quote hit home for me and I basically shed a couple of tears watching this video. I definitely hit burnout, but as I feel like my true self was trying to say something to me without even realizing because lately I’ve been having a hard time with productivity, and I feel like I am having an internal battle. Overall, amazing video and Im glad you shared it.😊😊😊
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This timing could not be more perfect - this week I realized I've been struggling with burnout for the past two years and have been looking for steps to take to start the recovery process. I'm self-employed full-time so it's really hard to find that balance in life and not spend every minute either working or feeling guilty about not working. Your video made me realize that it's rooted so much deeper than I thought! I'm starting to understand that this recovery process is going to be more than surface-level changes like setting working hours or adding more self-care - it's going to have to be total mindset makeover when it comes to how I view myself and my work. Thanks so much for sharing your journey and insight 🙏
I’m 28 and my first ever memory is my dad insulting me (I won’t say what he said) when I was like 5. For my entire life my dad made me believe I wasn’t good enough UNLESS I did something or became something etc. So now I’m trying to get rid of those beliefs. Exactly what you said in this video. I’m burnt out and it’s been a pattern my entire life.
My favorite point is that your mind and your light are not the same. I’ve been to the hospital twice in the last five days due to anxiety. This gives me hope that I will get pass through this and let my light show.
sending you more hope & love Patricia ❤❤. Your light WILL shine through, and you are not your emotions, you are not your thoughts. These are your tools, but they are not you, you are more than them. you can make it through!
I even got goosebumps when I saw that thumbnail cuz your contents always pop up at the right exact phase I'm going through. The one sentence I take away from this is "the more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be truly you are". Thank you so much, dear Aileen.
I love the part where you talked about eliminating the self care to-do list. I am guilty of having this! Then, I start to feel anxious about not completing the tasks that I wrote down to make myself feel more at peace!! 🤦🏾♀️
Oh my god! For the last couple of days, i've been feeling burnt out after my midterm exams along with family issues and that general anxiety of future. Everything felt more overwhelming than it used to be :,) I was litterally in a place where i couldn't do any work but neither relax properly till today. Today, even though i couldn't got up early as i planned i still got up and started doing something. I havent watched the video yet but i believe it'll help me, truelly. Thank you so much I'm taking this as my sign.
this is literaly me oml :')
This is the talk I need so much! I burned out from the work several weeks ago and I realized that I don't want to fall into this repeated cycle again anymore! I have been always hiding my true though and be harmonious with the whole team to achieve the work goal. However, that totally took toll on my personal health (physical and mental).
Recently I am watching "My Liberation Notes" on Netflix and it speaks to my heart! I try to make small "progress" (even it is just a talk with my colleague saying what bothers right now) and it starts to change my life! I tie my self worth with work performance too much. My personal life is blank! "Who am I if I am not working?" And I couldn't think of me as what kind of person! how pathetic!
A good talk reminding me to start to be my authentic self!
This message needs to be louder in the world. I've always harboured an innate knowledge that hustling is not our sole purpose of life, but even knowing that I made self-care a hustle, too, because so much advice is coupled with being 'successful' in self-care. It's very ironic, but understandable because of the constant bombardment of these messages.
exactly!
I love this, I just realized I put too much pressure on myself. It took me nine years to find out because my parents and guardians always called me lazy and ungrateful. I always pushed myself to the final limit and always tried to give 110%. I was always compared with the smartest kids my whole life that made me feel like I’m not enough. I felt like school was a completion and I had to show them they are wrong. I discussed this with my mom but now she is saying I am victimizing myself. You are like my breath of fresh air of the day and I look up to you. I do your meditations everyday. Can the people who are reading this give me advice in the comments?
Just remember that you are amazing and beautiful. Never give up on yourself.
I don't think you're victimizing yourself, I think you're recognizing that you were acting in response to pressure. Just don't get stuck in that space. Use it to ask yourself who you really are and what you want your life to be.
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Thank you so much for this reminder. Been hustling for 2 weeks and I'm aware that I'm slowly feeling burnt out.
I know that I should not consider "rest" as a reward. What I need to do is really incorporate this in my life.
exactly 💕
As I have said, this is truly the year of realigning with the power of boundaries.✨ Boundaries truly liberate us, even from aspects of ourselves that are no longer serving us. Thank you for this video honestly, I have been reassessing all aspects of my life's foundation exchanging productivity for time with the soul. The detatchment from anxiety is definitely a practice, thank you for voicing this 💜❤💜
I really needed to hear this 🥺
Being a new business owner is really hard! The fear of failure was hunting me very, very badly! I started to compare myself to other business owners who was more successful than I was!!! It was just overwhelming!!! On top of that, I’m a mom and a wife!!! I had to pretend I was okay and perform my everyday duties. I’m blessed to say I’ve gotten so much better at balancing everything!! Still improving daily, but I’m not where I use to be!! Love, Peace and blessings to you all!! All is well!!! We are going to be alright 🥰
very timely :,)) thank you so much for speaking these words, am and have been in a burnout since a year ago and i really do agree that healing is a constant process! journaling (ie the whys etc) has changed my life and i love that you mentioned self-care is not checking off a to-do list! thank u and for all those reading, may you find your love and light in yourself
such kind words, and so true, i’m happy you’re feeling better sierra☺️
The importance of letting go. Thanks. U r the best.
love to witness your self-care/relaxation glow up as I definitely went a similar way as I closed out my 20's of overachieving. I really liked the point about not listing off your self-care "accomplishments" and remembering it's about listening to yourself and what you need, not "doing self-care" just to say you did self-care.
I’ve been on sick leave for severe burn out and depression made worse by a toxic work environment/boss. I really enjoyed this video. Would you be able to do a seperate video on healing and moving on from a toxic work environment? Apologies if you have already done a video on the topic.
I'm so grateful that I decided to watch this video today instead of rushing , doing homeworks , projects ... We really need a break from this like we're literally rushing but we're actually rushing nowhere but death ... It literally hit me hard when you said that there's actually no rules in this earth , the way we livin' ... Society created this and we have life and we have choice to do what we want ... Thank you so much for this advice and you're voice is just claming and charming as always 🥺💗💕💝💓 I love it
Yes, i needed this. Im just moved from the Netherlands to the Caribbean and I'm burned out for 1,5 year + bad anxiety. And I'm starting my own clinic and I have the feeling that I can't handle it, but I'm so far already... Its so difficult to find a balance. But seeing your videos is calming me down. you are so good in explaining things, that it is so recognizable. And your a big inspiration for so many people. Your a true blessing 💗
you can do it Manon ❤, just wanted to say that! I'm sure it's so hard, but remember that when we try things we've never done before (and you in a new environment at that), hard is expected - it's not a sign that you're not good enough to do it, just a sign you're doing something you have never tried before ☺. Oh, & don't look at any re-direction you take as a failure, it's not! We sometimes pivot, and hit speed bumps, and pot holes - all of that, but it's not a sign that you failed, no Manon, it's just a sign that you're actually moving (and that's a great thing!).
@@BoldlyFlourish thank you so much. you've made me cry with your kind words. Yes its really hard sometimes, but your right, its just experiencing new things are scary, but also a sign that I can get out of my comfort zone and after I can be proud of myself. Thanks again for your motivation. Thats means a lot ❤
@@manonmeijer9931 i know sometimes it feels hard ❤❤! and that's why we need reminders like this. reminders that the hard feelings aren't because we are inadequate, but because we are brave and strong enough to attempt something new & different. you are 100% right, you can def be proud of yourself!
You are an absolute gift from the Universe to all of us. I need this, so bad. So grateful for you Aileen. I wish you good health, joy, love success and more. Please accept this BIG virtual hug from me. May God bless you 🙏❤️
The point I liked the most was certainly the one with the yin an yang energy levels and balance.
I've always been on the Yang side, masculine productive energy, a hich achiever.But i burned out, and loong loong talking sessions with my husband doing just getting deep inside me layer after, I realized I still had some terrorizing memory of my dad, or teacher hitting me for not having the best grade or some minuscule academic mistakes.
I grew up like a machine and was the one in the familly that always bring up the good results...Now
I do things for myself, I droped out of medschool and started my creative journey (starting a career in UI/UX design and spend hours drawing, which my father always tackled as being "useless")
And yeah, it's an eternal healing process but my husband helps a lot, and we explore our pasts regularly, layer after layer.
And it actually feels good. Thanks for this video as everything you said aligns perfectly with my life right now.
Now i "breath" and "live" 😊🥰
So true Aileen .... It's sometimes doing nothing and not feeling guilty ...but feeling rejuvenated... ❤️ yr video content ❤️❤️
Thank you, I'm finishing my degree and really needed this ♥️
I feel like when you mentioned the part about realizing that a lot of our expectations come mainly from parents and upbringings. That really struck a cord with me cause that’s been my experience and I’ve learned that what I’m doing now is actually good enough. Sometimes we just need to honor how we feel and care about ourselves enough to know and understand when we’re tired and not in the mood and be real with ourselves instead of trying to cover it up and move forward like nothing is really effecting us
Thank you so much, I'm really struggling as an unpaid creator - I'm working so hard and it has been getting the better of me, this video has helped xxx
I definitely needed this. I had a breakdown last night because I was just doing so much. Just hearing you say that I really need to ask myself why is something I want to work on today before I get started on my day. Thank you for this talk.
Revisiting your channel after having found you from your video on Boundaries. It’s beautiful and so inspiring to see how much you’ve clearly attuned to yourself - I can see such a difference in your energy and communication. There’s such a strength and genuine feel to how you’re expressing. I’m just beginning my journey in understanding all the nuance you touch on here, and I’m so grateful to see you making such authentic and powerfully vulnerable content! This has so much value, and so do you! ✨💜✨🦋
My husband and I bought a fixer upper as a first house so we've been living in a half renovated house, boxes still packed while we live and work and work on the house. It's been so much feeling like we haven't made enough progress but I remember we still have so much on our plate and we are just spinning our wheels into the mud. So we are finding gratitude for the small projects and the things that are done or do work. Working outside on the yard and feeling like you are tending to your environment. I need to set up a yoga space because I have no place to lay out and move
Aileen I loved this video! I’ve been watching your videos since 2017 and love how you keep sharing your truth and your light 💡
Loved this Aileen, and love you❤
Love you 💕💕
To the individual that sees this message, make your self a priority boo! Don't feel overwhelmed about things you can't control. Focus on the things you can control and make time for your SELFCARE. We tend to neglect ourselves and fall victim to burnout because we feel we can do it all. Take a break, get some fresh air, vent to your tribe. Everything will be fine! -@Yoselfcaremama🧡
This winter I had the opportunity to slow down and take time to work on myself and to heal from burnout and now that life has gone back to my regular fast pace way it's been difficult to adjust. This video really helped me rethink my situation thankyou.
"The more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be who you truly are "
Thank you beautiful lavendaire 💜
Thank you for this video🧘♀️💗 It’s really a healing journey. I had something similar 4 years ago. I’m not sure if it was burnout but I was really close to it. I also went to therapy and that was helping me so much. Although I was really feeling so empty and broken inside and just didn’t understand why (after the therapy it started to get clearer and clearer).
Since then I’m taking much better care of myself. That’s why I also quit my latest job because I just felt, that I’m giving way too much energy and passion into it, what is actually good, but I can overdo it easily, especially if I don’t have a private life (like partner or family who I’m living with). So it’s really important, listening to ourselves and observing our feelings as well🧡💜🤍💐
Maam Aileen, I just want you to know that you're one of my inspiration why I overcome stress and old traumas.. Your videos push me to become the best version of my self
One of the best self care RUclips channel ❤️
Fav point of the video is the self-care! Its about tuning into your intuition and not about do-this do-that. So true and authenticcc!! 💗✨. I really love lavendaire!!! ☺
thank you so much for making this video i literally feel burn out😢 with my routine
I agree....we are not machines! And that's why "the machines" are taking a lot of jobs. But this grind culture is toxic, and I try to prioritize relax time. I tend to find myself feeling guilty but I know it's for my best good
When universe guides you to RUclips and this video is the first thing you see. Thank you so much for providing this content today and voicing the words I want to express. My jumbled up brain washed mind couldn’t process that I can live a slow life for just me and to stop seeking validation from others.
I feel like I’ve grown with you as I’ve watched your channel over the years. It’s so nice to feel like I’m not going through phases in life alone. I’ve definitely noticed you appear more carefree and lighter in your videos recently! (Even though I’ve always loved your vids). Thank you for inspiring us and keep doing the good work 💪🏻💪🏻
I’ve been watching your content for years. And I find so much value. You are so sweet and genuine❤️
Thank you Aileen for this video, I've been going through burnout myself and today I feel so much better, hope all people can heal and let go that's the most beautiful thing to do let's let our soul be happy !
Been healing for a year because my mom passed away and just graduated for my master degree, but I still don’t know what should I do with my life. I have goals, still pursue it until now, hard to achieve it. Sometimes I feel left behind and unworthy. Thanks Aileen, as you said just being existing is enough. And I promise to treat my self more gentle than before.
I am exactly in the same situation. But you know I concluded that no one knows what to do with her/his life, just live the life, there is no need to rush. That simple.
I love this so much, it’s nice to know there’s people like you in the world.
The universe is speaking to me omg. I was googling this literally this morning and BAM this godsend arrives.
Thanks for putting this out there. Embracing the beauty of "being" is something we all overlook because it is considered to be unproductive. Grateful that there are creators who are authentic enough to address this. 🙏
Perfect timing with this video, today is one of my not doing days. Thank you for all your helpful videos!
Hey Aileen! Thanks for reminding us that we are enough, and that balance is a must ❤️
Thank you for this! This is exactly what I did last month. I took a rest for a month because I felt like I couldn't breathe and it felt everything was exhausting, and overwhelming. Now, I have the energy to do the things I did before. And you're right, our healing goes on, there's no stop, and all we need to do is to not give up even if we fail.
I've been going through the same path, healing energetically, getting in tune with my body and heart, shadow work. It is really hard sometimes, but totally worth it. And as soon as we get a deeper connection with ourselves it becomes joyful to do healing, indeed. Because no matter how hard it is, everything becomes lighter, brighter and happier afterwards. Sending lots of love! 💖💖💖
I don’t even know how to express my gratitude for finding your page and receiving this guidance. Thank you from the deepest part of my heart. Sincerely, recovering over-achieving people pleaser!
It’s really hard to not let the world get into your head and make you think to become something you never really wanted to be in the first place. I’ve been tying my self worth to success, and comparing myself to everyone else around me, feeling like my life didn’t matter. It’s a feeling that’s so ingrained and I’m trying to let go of it. This video was what I needed to hear, a lot of times it seems like I am alone in this feeling. I think we as human beings have lost sight of our roots, what we truly are. We need to reconnect with nature, each other, and ourselves on a deeper, more sincere level.
I just realize that I'm struggling with burnout these days and thank you for the insight, it make me understand myself better, thank u!
You look prettier Aileen than ever 💗 thank you for every words that is on point and for being a ball of light and hope to people like me ✨
u didn't fail me to enlighten well-being✨, thanks ate Aileen❤❤ i really really love ur voice.
Thank you for sharing. I am also healing from burnout from work and personal trauma. There is value in being productive, but there is also value in being still. It is so important to pause and reflect amidst all the busy-ness.
This really resonated with me atm: “the more you let go the more you allow yourself to be who you truly are❤️
i really love how you explained self-care, about how it’s the balance between yin and yang energy and not about the hustle culture. i never knew that when people were talking about the authentic self that it was when a person isn’t being driven by external forces, and just about letting go. i really don’t think i’ve ever understood it like the way you have said it until now. and i want to start learning more about spirituality and this gives me a bit of a push towards that ❤️
this was wonderful.
i’ve always felt terrible about myself because i wasn’t doing anything productive or contributing to something larger, and just sitting at home. i was very suicidal because i didn’t feel like i had a purpose, but Im happy when i’m playing video games and drawing, watching my favourite movies. then i feel bad because i feel like i’m wasting my life? like i should be going out and doing something like other people.
I just want to enjoy my life my own way. I don’t need to be famous or popular to be happy. i know i like being able to just be at home and do my own thing. i feel so much pressure to be more when i dont need to be.
My favorite point from this video was when you talked about seeing self care through this achievement filter too, it’s something I’ve been doing and I don’t want to, I want that to change
This was a beautiful, raw and honest video! It’s so important and yet so difficult to find that balance between what we feel called to do and share with the world and what we are physically able to at any particular moment. Because we change and sometimes the way we were operating even a month ago can be unrealistic for us at the moment. The important thing is to not feel guilty about it… to be kind to ourselves ✨
Everyone else is posting their success in life but I admire you for sharing your failures as well
Ohh thank you so much! The part where you say that there are no rules of how we are supposed to live our lives made me cry. I will rewatch the video again and write down some of the lessons you have learnt as I feel deep down I know these things but when I live my own life and try to get things done… I get overwhelmed and forget what the important part is. Namely how I feel and that I am not a robot. I am here to feel good, to feel myself and to overcome my fears… to be a better version of my past self. And this is not through getting a better job, be super successful and constantly posting on Instagram how productive I am. For me it should be about looking inside and work on myself, on my energy… Then all the other small things that bother me now will come to place.
Sorry for the long comment. I just felt really inspired. I am in some kind of burnout right now and I’ve been so harsh on myself for not being able to cope with my work and “responsibilities” like the others… which is so wrong.
I am glad that you’re giving such beautiful advices.
Thank you! 🍀
I really needed this... Thank you aileen 💕
Wow, I really needed to find this today. I push myself to the point of exhaustion and I feel like I'm not doing enough if I'm not doing something to better myself at all times. Thank you for sharing this!
I really like what you said about that persistant voice not being our own, and that our truest selves are perfect just the way they are
Your videos and your journey have helped me so much over the past few years I can’t even explain it. Thank you for leading by example, Aileen. ☺️❤️ I am learning more of these lessons every day.
What I’ve tried to focus on is making efficient systems for the things I “need” to do for work (but still enjoy doing) so I can keep things moving without so much of the mental stress of remembering what to do… gives me more free time to just be… I’m constantly evaluating my process but it’s improved so much. 😊
This is so helpful! Thank you for making such great contents for people like us!❤ I love you queen!💜
I took about 2 months off after working at a convention company due to burn out and it was amazing time off for me. It made me though how myself is important as anyone else. Finally found a company that I enjoy working with great people who just enjoy working and having a work life balance.
Love your point about not making self care a checklist...hussling the self care to do too!!! I totally do this at times.
You allways appear like a true voice to show me the path, it was exactly what I was thinking, like, it's ok to do nothing, it's necessary to left things that society have put into our minds, we are just existing beings and our duty is just to live aesthetically, in the present...
I’m on my journey. I have 2 weeks til I move across country and start working a little less so I can recovery too. I think so many of us are experiencing this.
Thank you,Aileen. I need this. Have a lovely day as you are❤️
this message was beautiful ❤ I strive to let go, free myself from everything that no longer serves me and know that I am incredible by simply existing too :)
Your videos always appear right on time. Thank you for this 🥺🥺🥺
Just be you😇 whatever you are.
One of the favorite line
I think my favorite part of this is about not measuring your self worth over your productivity and also learning to let go. As someone who is afraid of making mistakes and losing control, I realized how freeing it is to let go of the burdens and negativity that I've let myself consume.
Hope you are doing well,love your videos. Thanks for existing ✨💕
It was so relaxing and informative.
I can really tell you read a lot.
Thank you for sharing with us.
We all need to be more gentle to each other.
I really think it's not about "me vs others" or "winner or looser".
You hit every thing here regarding ouw own issues, into trauma , self worth
Thank you for this video, I have also been feeling burned out as well and with finals coming up this will help remind me no matter what it’s important to listen to my body and mind.
Hi Aileen 💫 I have been watching all your videos from 7 long years but this one is the best one so far! I can sense you have evolved and healed a lot along your journey, it is truly getting reflected from your personality! I love it. I can totally relate to all the heavy things you talked about, I mostly suffer with managing expectations which I have on myself! I clearly don’t know how to heal 🥺 Could you share with us how to start a healing journey and resources that helped you though! Lots of ❤️, Barshana
Thank you love 💕
❤❤❤favorite point in podcast letting go of layers of hurt. I am beautiful and amazing. Thank you.
Stay strong Lavendaire... God Bless you and your gifts for our world .
It reminded me how overbooked I´ve become. Between full time job, hunt for follow-up job, art classes, reading, book clubs, bouldering and weekly meetings with a partner there is rarely enough energy left to clean my tiny flat or doing more of the much needed bouldering.
This video has reminded me of my FOMO and it kinda resonate with me on many aspects like the detachment of self-worth from productivity as well as childhood trauma. It fits well with a book I´m reading about priorization and I´m kinda gratefull that a few of my commitments will end within the next week to give me more energy to breath and doing shadow work.
This video really sparked some thoughts. Today is my first sick day due to burnout. And I think this video has really got me thinking abiut why do I push myself so hard and where does that come from. The comments about the culture we learnt in school and attaching our self worth to achievement really resonated. Today is step one for me and I feel like this video has really helped me to gently start framing my recovery journey. Ty xxxxx
Thank you for this video, Aileen! I am working on myself and learning to be kind to myself when I am not able to do everything I would like to do in a day, and prioritize myself more :) Went for a long walk and it was refreshing today :)
Dear Alieen, I've been following you for nearly 5 years now. I can see you much happier and calmer. Watching your videos made me reaaly where all my pressure and high expectations stem from. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this topic. Best wishes to you and have a good day
My favorite part is when you said the healing journey never ends I’m going to write that down and put it on the poster board on my wall
really resonated with understanding the yin qualities. allowing the experience in a way that does not need to be "yangified". that is really hard at the beginning. learning to detach from the "push" or "pull" is a difficult lesson