An Honest Review of Indian Matchmaking
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- Опубликовано: 15 ноя 2020
- I watched the hit Netflix show Indian Matchmaking and thought it was interesting...here are my thoughts...
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‘I’m thriving I’m happy...I had issues, but come on’ 😂😂😂 relatable
I'm definitely going through that "friends have moved on, feeling lonely phase". I'm 38. Granted career stuff did make it difficult for a few years. And damn, this process in hard. No wonder it can take years for some people. Good luck to everyone out there. Definitely need Sabr.
I thought the little interviews with the old couples was so cute. My favorite part of the show.
omg yeeees
"He touched the whites" lmfao
Hi, I am Indian and Black and I love Indian/Desi culture. Could you talk about the Anti-black sentiments in the Desi community please? There is a bit of progression with movies like Namaste Wahala and Mississippi Masala. But it is rare to see a black and indian couple on screen. Regardless, there is still a long way to go. A notable blindian personality, Masaba Gupta who is Afro Caribbean and Indian has spoken about being black and Indian and her experience growing up as such in India. Would love to hear your thoughts :) God Bless ✝️🙏
She did do one. Search Tazzy Phe BLM!
Some of the "antiblackness" is just pettiness and unwarranted, including sex-based hostilities, income envy, caste-based pathologies Indians often have (consider the genetic distances between Brahmins and Dalits in India alone because of this separation). But some of the antagonism is valid and related to the stark contrast between African American culture and Indian American culture. AA work ethic versus IA work ethic is where you notice the most defined difference. IAs are obsessed with assimilating into the American order of society, professionalism, and identity (to points where you find cringe bob-and-gene Indian dudes who think they're the "true Aryans") whereas AAs are obsessed with rejecting the American order often at their own steep expense (the whole rejection of "respectability politics" is one of the iterations). IAs work extremely hard and are insular; often recruiting their own in almost incestuous manner. This is why most heritage/local Americans don't like it when IAs take over companies like worker ants. AAs, at this moment, lag behind most communities. And blaming "systemic racism" or other abstractions isn't honest considering East Asians have often been some of the poorest groups in cities and yet their crime rates are low and their academic and professional input is high. Etc, etc. It's complicated is the tl;dr version of it. I'm neither Indian nor African American but I study these anthropological differences closely because I find it interesting and revelatory.
@@no.0x0x0x0how did you start minimizing Indian anti black ness and end w a diatribe about AA? the original post was from a Caribbean Indian, nothing to do with AA...UUUUH yeah, try actually reading, books that address anti black anti AA bias with actual scholarship
Interestingly, Detective Google reports that Rupam is the only person from season 1 that is married. She met her husband online - not through Sima Auntie.
Good for her
I think that it was really funny and cute when Nadia says I hate having my period. It doesn't make everything she said before about feeling loneliness irrelevant. To me she's just in touch with her own self, cause it can be tough to handle periods on top of everything else too. She was so honest about it I thought it was really charming and relatable. :)
tbh I think what makes Indian matchmaking stand out from other matchmaking shows ( Asides from being Indian) is the fact the people don't want to get married but are being pressured by family lol. How more Indian can you get?
Dude, when you talked about how a communities happiness deals with someone getting married... ugh to real
Why is it that I am learning about Tasneem now. She is a blast
Ahh I'm so glad you reviewed this show! I found it oddly entertaining but relatable and painful as af. There was a lot of sexism and double standards in the show. Literally if Srivi and Vinnay were girls that pulled that type of behaviour, they would've been condemned and hated. Those grown ass men be behaving like theyre in their twenties. Yet the girls are told to adjust and compromise. Smh
You need to put that on your description 😂 World's Best RUclipsr
haha i literally bingewatched this show like 2 weeks ago. It was pretty entertaining. A bit different than our Western match up show. I am nowhere being Indian and nor does my culture have this type of matchmaking; but i really liked it. I also enjoyed the show called 'What the love'.
Great commentary! I never watched the show, but you definitely summed it up pretty well and in a very entertaining way. Thanks for taking the time to make such good quality content for us! I love review videos. Can’t wait for the next video.
You're so spot on with people looking at you and pitying you just because you're not married. My older brother just got married and I can feel so many of my relatives' eyes on me to get married next. Sometimes I start panicking because I'm not "seeing" anyone but when I really think about it, I'm not actually interested in getting married, I just feel pressured to because I'm 23 (which is considered "getting old" in the Muslim community lol). When I tried explaining this to my cousin she looked at me like a lost cause LOL. I genuinely don't know what I want in a potential spouse yet and I'm willing to admit that.
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I'm 23 right now and getting pressured. I'm the oldest sibling too and only daughter so it's intense. Just leave me alone 😭😭😭
That lady asking Ankita to move... I got one thing from the show...
Matchmakers don't give or show you what you want. They show or present people that they have and then try to manipulate/brainwash you into thinking that it's best for you and that's what you want.
Matchmaker Geeta should have searched for a guy whose masculinity isn't fragile enough to handle a successful woman. Instead she is asking (no surprise there) the woman to make all the compromises.
What about when akshays mum planned when her son's will have children😂🤢🤢 I feel for the daughter in law's
Very very relatable what you are talking about. I wanna point out that it can be also very difficult and lonely for people who are the first to get married among ones friends.
We need Tazzy Phe to do an epsoide to episode review of this show.
This is just my opinion (i am desi too) but i dont know why this show exists. It feels like it puts desi people out like a zoo. This could have been funny, sweet and informative but it feels like we were the joke here the whole time.
What you've said is so spot on. Though this is a "reality" show so I guess the people play up to the camera, or the editing creates a new dynamic to a scene. I think the general gist of the show is that Desi culture in general holds marriage to a high standard - and you can see if through all of these people who appear on the show. It's an interesting show to see Desi's in Western countries and Desi's in South Asia go through similar things - despite having two completely different upbringings. Just goes to show that culture is deep rooted.
I absolutely love your personality lol ! Your personality is LIFEEEE 🤩😄😄😄😄 and you keep it 💯👏🏽👏🏽
As salaam alaykum sister Tazzy! I LOVE your channel. I watched this show and I'm just excited to see someone else was too lol! Appreciate your positive vibes!
Sister Iyanna
I feel like they put people who aren't sure if they want to get married to show how they are pressured anyway to think about it, like it's not a matter of if they want to, it's when they are gonna do it
Everything Tasneem said in this video is SPOT ON
Agreed! Ankita should have had more air time and she def got the short end of the stick
I miss you intro :( but great video!!
I'm late to this video, but I actually know Vyasar irl! Genuinely a super cool guy, really really nice person.
You are so relatable. =)
Agreed with all your points ✅✅✅
14:28 OMG you are so true! lol I have never... you're the most real RUclipsr I follow. Wish you the best and stay this real forever !!! more content like this is why I come back to this channel
THIS SHOW WAS REVIEWED ON ONE OF THE RED PILL CHANNELS I FOLLOW BUT HE WENT REAL DEEP INTO IT AND IT REALLY OPEN MY EYES. ANYWAYS GREAT WORK SIS.
I loved Aparna I felt like she was a strong independent women but she was still doing this so if she was doing this what more can show that she really does want to get married? Girl should never just drop her standards ya know.
"you know that Fair & Lovely" you said it girl!
This show was wild. I enjoy your review.
WOW got here with 3 views... Hi Tazzy! Love your videos, you always make me laugh :)
Also, I want to watch this show now wtf haha
Great analysis! Thoroughly enjoyed it
I really wanted another season of this show lol
Yaaas, on point. I found Aparba obnoxious but grew to like her bc why not have really high standards. I feel like she was just waiting for the right man to melt her away with romance. I feel like her mom also set her up to be very rigid too. Agreed w the show being presented w very little closure on what happened to everybody, very choppy. A lot of enjoyment was taken out bc of this.
I feel like it's the opposite for Christian families. I'm from a Pakistani Christian family and I feel like desi Christian parents like their kids mixing with white people.
Why
Yes. That's a religious thing. Most Christian missionary work in South Asia came from white majority countries. Hence the obsession with white culture. I see it in the Christian majority states of India among some pockets.
It's the same as how some Muslims will idolise Arab Culture.
@@iamdanyboy1 ahh interesting!
I don’t quite understand why when looking for a partner, the first thing desi people (especially not just in this show but real life) go to is compromise. Like I know you most likely won’t find the perfect partner, but isn’t it more important to look for compatibility?
Compromise and sacrifice are different things, and it feels as though the “compromise” desi people talk about is a misunderstanding of those two words.
Fr. Every time my mom shows me a guy or even a suit its about compromise like???? I don't need this in my life, there are other options, why are you acting like men/clothes are so rare in the world?
Definitely had a frustrating rant in the shower after watching this damn show
Go watch Arranged. Its pretty similar.
I thought the commentary on skin tone and colorism was seriously disturbing. Netflix has a tendency to edit their shows to make certain caste mates look like a villain.
Love you girl💝💖
This is the best review of the show that I've seen Tazzy xxx
Wow... I felt the pity on me too before I decided to give in
I need you to watch and vet every IT show from today onwards. Whattay review!
Sending lots of love 💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💕💕💕💕💕
You need to watch patty the million dollar match maker she’s not playing
can you do a review of desi matchmaking irl? like interview the matchmaking aunti you know or interview people who succeded of failed to find a significant other through matchmaking? also interview parents who were against their child choice for a significant other at first, but came along at the end? it sounds like a huge project but I think you can it ^.^and honestly it would be ten times more interesting than that show in my opinion^.^
yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay
Only God can do matchmaking. Only God can choose a soulmate for you. That is my belief.
Shit I was thinking the same things as I was washing the show
Salaam.
I'm so glad I didn't have to watch that show! Thank you for the great insight.
Don't white people get concerned if their son/daughter doesn't take an interest in relationships though? I've not watched the show but from the snippet I watched the guy with the "controlling" mother said he just respects her opinion. =/= control... agree with you on the colourism though, although I find discourses surrounding racism in marriage to be patronising to dark people.
She was VERY controlling man. And respecting someone's opinion is very different than being submissive to ur parent no matter wt.
She legit said to her other married son's wife "u will give me a child a year from now", in front of everybody like an angry person. Like wt the hell?
Plus, if someone isn't ready for a relationship then they aren't. If u force someone or guilt someone u end up ruining their life and the life of the person they marry.
Just do it when they're rdy period. That is more important than satisfying an imaginary age deadline too soon that's more likely to end in divorce.
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Indian matchmaking is basically what you described 6:40 in reality.
Just showed how unsuccessful Sima aunty was as none of her matches worked out 😂😩 #topmumbaimatchmaker
As an akshay who doesnt listen to mom, i am offended!!
and to play devil's advocate.. most people dont know if they want to get married. most of life is what happens when you dont choose it and throughout history, marriage has been about timing rather than desire. I feel only a very few people know that they want marriage. rest of us are indecisive and need someone else to make that decision for us. I think its part of the temperament of people who are leaders vs followers. yes it doesnt work out for many people because they fail to accept the situation but for many it does work out. I think its ok if your parents pressure you to get married, its the reason behind it which is critical and needs to be understood on an individual basis. but there is a difference between pressure and force. The difference is your wussiness!!
Please send me link to this movie called Indian matchmaking
It's on netflix
@@noelsebz90 is Netflix free?
@@shaista9938 No it's not.
Worlds best youtuber for sure
I definitely agree with it being disorganised and the storylines of a lot of characters were all over the place.. the show didn’t really have a cohesive end.. the new character bit also just threw me off
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actually akshay got engaged in the last episode
5 of my friends are married twice .. and you are saying people view them as tainted. Where do you get your information- the year 1865?
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Yeah aparna obviously didn't want to get married lmao. A lot of people just pursue romantic relationships because society overwhelmingly tells us that's what life consists of, so i find her at least a little relatable
He touched the whites and he’s divorced . Dead 🤣🤣 my boyfriend hits all the bad points for his Pakistani parents : dating a white girl who he intends to marry , out of his religion AND he’s almost 26 and unmarried 😧🤣
The editing, while "clean" in terms of aesthetics, felt really manipulative. I felt like they made Aparna seem so angry and they really took away so much of the humor between family members. I imagine it's also super awkward to explicitly rehash a conversation you've already had and do it in front of cameras while making it seem natural. We were supposed to read the family dynamics in those moments but they were so obviously staged.
yeah tbh, so ironic that no one lived happily ever after lol
Yeah! Colorism is very dominant in Desi culture. It's not just towards women but men too. Dark skinned men are treated like they need to marry someone lighter to add value to their life. And how lucky he is that he married someone light skinned and blah blah blah. Like did you ask him if he wants to marry shagoffta or did he wanted to marry maria. Then girls who are darker skinned complain about girls who are lighter skinned having everything. Like you're the one who is putting skin color on a pedestal. Fahkur who has a good heart would prefer you. And the ones who are in the thought process of "light skin= value over dark skinned" are the ones who don't actually treat their women right. They just use the women to fulfill their desires but later in life find out that they didn't marry them for love and companionship. And then they end up fighting and etc. Moral marry for companionship. Don't marry for skin color. Preference is ok but if you're marrying for "value" then nope.
I completely agree! You should look for a good personality and kind heart before you look at what they look like. Ultimately, 'looks' and superficial things fade but people have the same character for life.
@@ShayAliyah exactly! Especially when they don't take care of themselves
I definitely agree with you, but as a dark-skinned girl, believe me when I say that we don't even get proposals from the dark-skinned guys. So we have very little choice in who we actually get married to. We just choose the option out of the few that we get that has a decent job and personality. I was actually told by one of my cousins that my features and personality are so great if I only I had lighter skin, I would actually have prospects of getting married. And it's not only about Rishta. We've been primed since we are little to hate our skin colour. My extended family started forcing whitening creams on me when I was 10 years old. So it's not really complaining when it becomes a huge part of your life and takes over what you think about yourself. Most of us look in the mirror and can only see the darker coloured skin that is almost non-existent in the rest of the girls in the family. It takes years to get out of. I've only just started accepting my skin colour for the beautiful thing that God made it, and I'm 23 now.
@@mariaamir3779 Hold on a second. You. Maria are a Queen. You need to own yourself like you are a superhero. And do not live to marry, ok? I am mixed. I don't look it because of genetics. My dad is dark skinned and my mom is tan. But I understand how stupid family can be. I suffered from acne growing up. They said the same stupid crap to me about having good looks but my acne is what's causing me to look ugly. You my friend are 💯 percent beautiful! Family is going to say shit. But as you own your beauty! Stop messing up your skin with lightening creams. And start loving your skin color. And trust me, my family told me it's wrong for me to be fair skinned and told me I need to marry a dark skinned man to correct it. So, neither side wins. Also, marry to someone you like. Not marry just because of marriage. You'll find the one. Now go be the beautiful queen you are and search RUclips to style yourself to look like your amazing self! Girl, there is more out there in the world than attracting a mate via skin color. Maybe some other skill of yours will impress them. Keep doing you! 🥰🥰🥰
@@mariaamir3779 That makes me really sad to hear that :(
As a girl who is of fair skin, I can't imagine how hard that must have been for you. I can understand why so many girls have such a deep-seated resentment of those of fairer skin, who frankly get hero-worshiped by everyone in the family (which is very irritating). This backwards thinking of fairer skin= more wealth is rooted firmly in our culture and it's going to take all of us having these conversations, challenging stereotypes, and hyping up our dark-skinned kings and queens to try and change it.
It's virtually impossible to reason with parents and grandparents, for they too have been brought up to idolize fair skin and eurocentric features in desi culture, and it's hard to have a conversation with them without them getting angry at you or you coming across as rude. But we have to try and be better than the generations before us.
I'm sending a you a big, squishy virtual hug.x
Tazzy pins this?
As of the skin colour thing sure there is a cultural concept but mostly it’s just unwarranted visuals I’m a Pakistani British Male I don’t find dark skin attractive I’m reddish brown btw yes you get the cringe auntie putting talcum powder in her face becuse she associates skin colour with culture and that of a culture of greatness but to me it’s not that it’s just like looking at a cappachino to full black.i like cappachino better but if a person was to give me 2 of the unknown liquids as a beverage it be the cappachino and before I get called a white worshipper I actually have a thing for Latinas there Thicc.becuse with the cappachino I can see volume blends fades consistency that makes it look beautiful most men are visual so you’re not gonna get taken seriously by trying to force me to like black coffee it’s dumb shit like micro aggressions that undermine what is or is not racist.i don’t see men guilting woman for liking guys taller than them thus litrally has nothing to do with colonisation its genetic you can see someone’s health better with lighter skin and sense there fertility during ovulation when there skin gets abit redder so no I refuse to apologise for this sure I like abit of a tan but no you’re not getting to force such a dumb idea.if someone says I only date ppl with green eyes are they now a monster once again yes there is a crime trying to be white thing attached to it but there is a pridomorial visual element to it to
Most Pakistanis are not white worshippers in the UK. Every race riot in Britain is between Pakistanis vs whites. They're thousands of MMA and boxing clubs now filled with Pakistanis. The Azim brothers and Hamzah Sheeraz are current WBO belt holders in the UK.
I actually like aparna she is very vocal and sweet, she just doesn’t know how to date.
Am just entering the twenties stage and family has started to talk about wedding plans and marriage 😂😂
And the facts have never been in a relationship at all, never been attracted to any guys 😂😂 makes me get the don't be too choosy line also 💆🏾♀️💆🏾♀️
Whenever I say anything about how I don't want to marry early because am in the medical field and just don't think I'll be able to juggle them together the next thing they talk about is about how I'm on the bigger side that I should get married early bla bla bla while my friends are allowed to go for their single life and settle down later so as its not too late 🤦🏾♀️🙄
And am the first grand daughter in my dad's side so it's like the guys aren't ready to settle no too much pressure the grand daughter in uni is the one we go ask about who she's seeing why she doesn't have love interest, why she doesn't put marriage into her future plans like calm TF down I will when the time is right 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Joke with my mom that she'll be the one to find me my groom in the future💆🏾♀️
I was very happy with Akshay’s entry because that to me is the reality of small town India which is majority of Indian arrange marriages.
Second... Hi....
DEFINITELY agree on the toxicity because once the marriage is done its the constant push to have kids. I feel like that is an EVEN worse decision to rush! SO many terrible consequences to having a kid you don't really want :/ Pradhyuman was the person I really didn't like, it was all like oh look at me I got money so I am good person. Ankita was another one who I liked because she was strong and independent but I felt like they gave her the short end of the stick because she wasn't cliche good client following toxicity standards. It does irritate me that for some reason women are the ones mostly told to compromise. A lot of the stereotypes pissed me off but then I wanted more episodes -_-
I thought Aparna was a fake/actress - so lame. No need, the show was good without her.
Why did you get married? Marriage is overrated.
Pretty rude to say that to someone newly married. I'm sure she's given it deep thought. She doesn't need to justify her life decisions to random RUclips commenters.
@@pamfan221 according to who, you? A random letter on youtube. Gtfo
Get a life, leave her channel if her being married upsets you or smth
@@khadijah9604 you get a life and stop replying to me. Nobody asked you anything.