6 ways guy test women | How some guys decide if they’re going to respect you
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I want to preface this video by saying any guy testing you in these ways is trying to gain leverage that he most likely can’t be trusted with. Sometimes I talk to women who experience such overtly rebellious behavior from guys they literally think to themselves what the hell is he thinking? Is this a test? Is he serious? He must be testing me? They usually tell me Kevin I couldn’t believe it. But don’t worry I played it cool though. I ask them why. They say why what? Why’d you play it cool.
Letting shit slide only lead to more undesirable behavior. Either correct him or make an exit. Don’t play it cool.
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They say well I didn’t wanna show that it bothered me and be emotional. Listen ladies you don’t have to be emotional to correct a man. Say what you have to say in a low voice with a straight face, and then let the awkward silence ring like a siren 🚨. You can show you’re serious without raising your voice and spilling feelings all over the place. So again either correct them confront them or move on. Don’t endure undesirable behaviors in order to impress them. You’ll be doing it forever.
With that said in no particular order the first on the list is
They say rude or critical things to see if you stand up for yourself or correct them.
If you don’t appear to have a temper or you just laugh off every insensitive or inappropriate comment your showing him that you are willing to endure anything to be in his company and you like him too much to show your anger.
A man who’s insulting or rude from the beginning is trying to acclimate you to light verbal abuse and manipulation. A man who chooses not to watch his tongue or has no control of his mouth has to see if you’re compatible with his abrasive methods of communication. Don’t go for it or it will become the culture of your relationship if you get that far. Men also know that if a woman lets him talk down to her she likes him too much to stop his advances.
They don’t text back or go missing to see how you respond
Abandonment is generally indicative of indifference. However sometimes it’s strategic. Sometimes your reaction or obvious relief after not hearing from a guy tells him all he needs to know about who’s holding the cards. Many women panic or get frustrated or send a barrage of text messages. The power to piss a woman off is an indicator of attachment. The fears of additional and future abandonments make some women much easier to control. They make themselves fun and convenient to try to keep a guy interested. They break their own rules because they’ve felt his rejection before. Some would do anything to close the gap...anything.
They try to order you to do things.
Telling women what to do is an easy way to measure her eagerness to please. When a man is granted authority he didn’t earn he knows he is the prize and he knows you’re willing to chase him. .....continued 
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So Kev can u please tell me, why do guys ask u to send a pic as soon as they start texting?
Some light background music would amo this up but the advice is great
Thank you Kev. I feel comforted now and I don't feel so anxious.
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Kevin Hick, I found your video very helpful. You nailed it on so many struggles with my closest friend. I've been giving her advice for years, but directly from a man is what ultimately made the difference. The insight from you and your personal experiences is what gave her confidence. It gave her the understanding and motivation to change what she was doing in her relationship. Thank you for your honesty and reality.
"If you get tested that way, it's better to fail the damn test. You're looking for love, not a job. And he's looking for an employee." girls listen!
You hit this point so hard ! Yo girl.
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Bars, I swear
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lol
'testing' and exploiting is a typical female trait..
A real man never decides who to respect. A real man respects EVERYONE. Remember that. That’s basic human manners.
TRUEEE
Exactly 💯
Respect is earned. No one deserves anything. Thats basic human etiquette.
@@ismailahmed8435 wrong. Respect should be given freely and reduced accordingly. If I have to fight for someone to give me basic respect they aren't worth my time.
@@TigerOfTheMist Exactly what i meant. Youre not entitled to anything. Kindness is given freely and reduced accordingly. Not respect.
So what I’m hearing is:
1) Always fail the test
2) Set your boundaries
3) I’m the one in control
I didn't set shit I really feel so dumb 😩🥺
And leave after their bullshit tests…
I have always said it, if you test me I will gladly fail!
"So many women put on a front so they aren't seen as b*tches, but b*tches get respect." That hit.
Lol it's funny but love it
My ex told me I am too smart. He says is better for woman to be a bit dumb. I was thinking to myself "and you're too stupid for me".
Your response😂😂😂
The smartest woman is knowing how to get a man their ego ground sometimes. He knows you are smart, but you don't want to make him feel bad. Just like even your friends. You don't have to show off how pretty you are. Humble is a good quality no matter when and with who. That's what the guys are saying.
You go young Lady.. You Deserved Better and you knew it and that's a Blessing 😊🙏🏼🙏🏼
AMEN!!! He was too stupid for you and you were too smart to put up with foolishness.
hun you can play dumb and be smart at the same time, if he tries to play you, play that game back at him.
Dating these days is a game that I dont want to play smh
Aurielle G. ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
I agree. I'm good by myself don't have time for the bull.
same girl
Stop taking dating advice from these simp as men.
Tender Agression
Nah I think both sides, men and women encourage hookup culture but for different reasons, and not because of feminism. Ultimately though, relationships aren't genuine anymore because the good guys don't get attention and the bad ones are seen as default male by society. Society likes to point out the bad in men(especially colored), and assumes women are incapable of thinking for themselves so both sides suffer.
I heard a pastor give this stellar advice during a sermon: "Young ladies, if a man offers to buy you a drink, ask yourself 'is he being generous or making an investment?' Wisdom!
Big factssssss omg, what a gem 💎
Loads of investments fail. This has never stopped ladies from getting that free drink
Neither. He is just buying you a drink to get you drunk and get in your pants.
The worst part of all this, men will find a good and naive woman, who's decent and all this, who falls for them and they play her like this, and she still gets nothing. Actually i have found during my life, in a bitter way, that it's better if you love less. People around you will always love you more, if you give less, love less and put yourself first. Love yourself girls, never do something you don't like for anyone, neither your family.
Yep. After 4 relationships in my life, every guy would poke fun at me being naive (i have asperger's). The end result are jokes that I was a "rent-a-bitch" and I would lament why one guy called me this. Also it seems men feel the need to treat me like garbage maybe because my looks aren't conventional. Having a big je wish nose doesn't help. It also does not help my parents said that "no man will ever want you" when I refused to make my mother a cup of tea as a small child. I was taught to be seen and not heard. I'm 30 and my life feels over.
@@Accidental_Warrior I am Mexican and my husband calls me a ni**er Jew . I'm only Mexican 🤷. In the process of getting dumped and used by him . I'm sorry you have to go through this . I carry very low self-esteem myself .
@@Accidental_Warrior
The person who creates you love you the most.
Find you.
Depend on no one, keep your own secret.
Be happy, enjoy simple things in life and do not be desperate for a partner.
Be discipline and try to have positive caring friends.
That sounds more like a drugdealer vs drugaddict relationship to me 🤔. The dealer is always in control over the one who wants to consume love. But I think u don't necessarily need to love less. U just need to love yourself enough and then set boundaries accordingly.
If you do that you will never be an addict. And then u need to have a partner who also loves themselves as much. Also loving less could be really bad for friendships and raising children. If we don't only talk about lust but any form of love.
Well.said
This man just taught me how to respect myself😳
He sure did..
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Wys and In 10 mins
I agree girl lol 😂
Totally Agree💯💯💯✔
"If man realises that nothing is required to get inside of you, then nothing is what you get!"
I felt that
Why do you get nothing? Why doesnt a man understand a womans innate worth and want to get to know her? I guess men are wired differently and choose to take no interest after they sleep with a woman, is that the point of why men are suppose to work to gain a womans favor? I dont understand how having sex with a guy denotes his level of effort towards a woman or not.
Julia Skagfjord because in all species in nature is like this, male animals have to compete/dance/show off/provide to win the female mate to have sex with them..if we women don’t select and become too easy, men loose instant interest simce they have gained what they eant easily
Actually I’m gettin some good dick thank u !
The point is sex is mutual. If you push it too much men will just go away to other
cause that facts
I love when you say "don't play it cool... confront it, or move on". I wish I'd known this before I married my narcissistic spouse.
Wow I passed all these “tests” when I was dating my now husband 10 years ago. I set my standard of how I wanted to be courted mostly because of my bad experience with an ex. I poured a lot of self love into myself and when my husband met me I was not about to let all my hard work be undone.
I hope that happens to me 🤠
Wow Amen Sis!!
Interesting. Yes, respect is key.
If the man is intimidated by your intelligence and smartness, he's a weak man.
Thank you sister. He's already below you. May we never interact with this type of men in Jesus's name 🙏
@@annatl9141 believing in God and talking about being strong. lmao.
@@chaitanyagupta6668 tf is wrong with you
Weak as HELL. Drop his ass.
Thank you. Amen 💖
Him: Send me-
*BLOCKED*
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Exactly!
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Simply
Yesssss all the damn time lol
I wish every 6th grade and junior high girl viewed this as a requirement in the sex ed clases. I wish it was shown in every youth group at every church. This video would save so many girls from unwanted heartache and pregnancy. This guy is giving some of the most common sense, soundest advice I have ever heard from a guy. Thank you, exponentialy, for making this video!
His realness is a blessing.
I was with a man that for 4 years treated me like this in many ways. I think that the "low maintenance woman" is actually the result of long term manipulation. Not anymore.
It's beyond sad what relationships have become Everything is about manipulation
So true it irk my nerves sometimes I want to stay single
@Geniafoster i was a girl i would to
For real
It sure🤔is. I don't like playing games. I'd go to a casino for that. I will share like you shared with us Kev.
Manipulation is a female trait. Males who do this are feminine.
Say no to a guy once... his reaction is all you need to know.
THIS!!!!!!!!! My older sis told me that too.
I just learnt this now!!!! Sad sad state of affairs.. Where have all the Real Men gone!?
That's so
true
Factsss
marconuts we found the guy this video is about
At 27, wish I could of had someone teach me this and how to speak up for myself when these moments presented themselves.
We live and we learn. I forgive myself for being so naive to these truths, and I'm equipped now how to navigate future relationships, and to kick a guy to the curve as soon as he shows any of the 1 through 6 examples of testing me.
Thanks for sharing guy. It gave me some insight on all the test that was run on me that I fell for. I know what to look for in the future, so this never happen to me again. I'm worthy, and demand my respect as any queen should!
I'm learning at 37
Being a decent human cost ZERO CENTS! KEEP IT CLASSY HUMANS!
You go, Mike! :) ❤️
Respect!
PSA ladies!! If a guy is trying to find out if he respects you he already doesn’t. Drop him like a hot potato!!
Is it that easy???
@@jaysmith3448 To drop someone who doesn’t respect you? Lol yes.
but theyre always the cute ones, unfortunately...lol.
and thus, he's lost my respect also.
Ehhh.....depends on the situation. My current husband of over 15 years tested me. I passed by saying no and making marriage a requirement. He respected that, we hung out, dated, and got to know each other. After we decided we shared enough interests to enjoy company with each other and important values, we ģot married as virgins and have a great marriage.
if a guy tests you, he's immature, grow up, end of story
I had a guy test me and turn around an call me too old for him I was 38 at the time and he was 34🙄 smfh
Only retards jump in without testing first..
@@jessepeeletersonamazin7952 real men communicate openly, honestly, if 2 people arent in alignment move on
@@milwaukeemotor5995 That's part of testing :○
@@jessepeeletersonamazin7952 no it isnt its immaturity
Shoot. This dude tells it to us straight. It’s really sad that these things aren’t obvious to some of us. I appreciate the straightforward no BS approach here. Sometimes we just need to be smacked in the face with the truth.
True that
If you are pure, better than others, clean of spirit, that debauched predatory way of regarding others can't be obvious to you. You don't think in that manner toward others, and don't imagine, cannot, that deficient gaze on you. It's beneath you- what would you know about it?
Cause men are becoming more & more corrupt as the world is becoming more and more corrupt. Same with women. If there is no moral compass in their lives, its all flesh & primal behavior for survival
i feel like crying right now. i know nothing about relationships with the opposite sex.
It's ok. It takes time.
This is why I am proud of having a strong personality and standards because some men are wild out there.
very true. I don’t care if my personality might be intimidating or too strong for some individuals, but I‘m rather strong than being played and used by certain men.
Well some women are the same
Facts! Grown men out here playing games.
@@truthseeker44 then they aren’t men.. they are boys..
I used to be so soft I cringe at those days. Now I have a strong personality and people are scared of me but I've never been happier.
"If a man realizes that nothing is required to get inside of you, then nothing is what you'll get"
Ouch!!!!
Wow! 👏
That is facts wow
@C RD are you saying he's going to judge that based off her appearance?
he should’ve said that 10 more times for some of these women🔥🔥
Thank you Kevin. I have Asperger's & don't really understand why some men do these things. I'm learning how to communicate in relationships, I hate it.
My son is on the spectrum. I’m glad to to know I’m helping 😁
Be yourself. If someone respects you then wonderful, keep them around. If they don’t show you respect, then wonderful they have shown you who they are and that it’s time to respect yourself and move on.
ALL WOMEN DESERVE RESPECT, NOT JUST THE ONES THAT MEN FIND ‘WORTHY’
All people deserve respect
Say it with me ALL MEN DESERVE RESPECT, NOT JUST THE ONES THAT WOMEN FIND WORTHY, I’m not respecting none who doesn’t respect me
There're different levels of respect. The respect we have for strangers is in a different level than what we have for our parents, for example.
@@maraihchristian2802 well said. Not just woman
Thank you!!!
My husband taught me all of this when we were just friends, he taught me to have more respect for myself and to know my worth when it comes to men, it was so foreign to hear this advice coming from a man😂 He had a lil crush on me for 2 yrs and wanted me to be treated respectfully. We ended up dating and have been married for almost 11 yrs now with an 8 year old son and 5 yr old twin daughters.(3 kids) And he's still treating me like a 👸 sitting on a pedestal. My skin, credit score, savings account and everything has improved bc he constantly encourages me to strive for the best, he's building our daughters up the way I had wished my father to do for me. I prayed for this type of a man and God delivered🙏😊 (even though he gets on my nerve sometimes) but demanding respect when it comes to men will weed out the bad from the good , there's still some genuinely good guys out here y'all 💕✨💐
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I wish there were more men like this. Most guys don't try to respect women or help them to respect themselves. They definitely don't push women to do better in life because of their 'ego'. I know there are men like this out there, but they are like a diamond in the rough. Really hard to find.
Aww this is so sweet, you’re lucky to find a good guy like that who also raises his children good as well
You give me hope 💛 thanks for sharing peace and love from Paris France 🌼
Beautiful❤️😭
I'm here just wincing at all the times I've disrespected myself by these tests...
After finding out my long term partner was talking to another female online I ended the relationship. We’ve spoken about boundaries and he knows this is one of mine. I feel good after ending things and I know it’s the right decision
“Don’t endure undesirable behaviors in order to impress them. You’ll be doing it forever.”
“If a guy can go a week without talking to you, tell him to go another.” 😂🙏👏
This is good to kno, I would go a week without talk because I'm not that talkative & I wanted to at least have something to talk about, but now I know its ok to just sit on the phone in silence 😊
Sally Reid a week I be damn if we go 12hrs 24 at most
Sally Reid i felt that✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
@@donjohnson5570 I mean if you're comfortable with someone you shouldn't need a week to find something to talk about
Exactly
But seriously if he does any of these things.., I’m out. Any man that attempts to test you is literally deciding rather or not you’re deserving of respect... is not worth being with. Someone that has good intentions will treat you right automatically... not determine that down the road, if at all. Tests are for school... not a relationship.
We all test...the bible says too...it is the type of test given. Most of these tests are foolery, but some men use to see what's up. Trust me I literally hate them and hope everyone is genuine, but it's not a given. Men will test how far they can go and who you really are... women test too, but not as often as we should. If the tests continue throughout the relationship get out it's a NARC.
@@nay9nay Preach, that girl does not want to earn her spot in a relationship, everybody else gotta.. but nope she special
@kshiftkometh I said the type of test. Not here to debate...but we all test. A man sends you a dick pic, thank the Lord he is blocked. You know what's up. But there are tests to see who you are...and don't forget God allows tests so you can see who you are. You out here fornicating etc., that's your decision...you decide to entertain again your decision. Not all tests are bad. She said all are and not a relationship, which isn't true.
Right...they respect you until you show them why you shouldn't ne respected
@@nay9nay you don't test by being rude or hurtful. You test by paying attention and judging character. So speak the bible correctly.
I'm 46 and sitting here stunned and in shock as I'm looking back in my past and what has been currently happening with someone I'm interested in that is definitely testing me using several of these techniques right now! My spirit said leave him alone and now I know why God Bless Sir! 💗💗💗
Thank you for this video. It really does confirm my hatred for men and proves how much they like to push women down. Yes, not all men, and yes many women also do this, but the majority of assholes and abusers in relationships are MEN. Exactly this type you describe. I never let any man tell me anything especially if he didn't earn the privilege of having my attention. Single and happy!!
+2;3:4;8;1;2;7;2;6;8;4;9;0;whatsup him for any kind of help she can help you because I was once like that to and she help me out ...,,,,.
Same.
Don't push your insecurities of your CHOICE of men on other men who have done you no wrong. If this is your mantra. You will be single and happy. Because you have no other option.
Me: *reads the title*. Me: "Aren't you supposed to just respect people?"
He said in his video that we should avoid these kind of people that test our limits to see how far he will go these kind of men are just toxic and will bring you problems the second you let your guard down around them they are not your friends neither your soulmate we can all do better cause we deserve better (sorry if i misspealed somme words english isn't my main language)
Yeah I felt that way initially. But in reality you do have to give a guy something to respect.
I had the same question 🙂
I had the exact same thought tho
Exactly
Your Mom must be incredibly Proud of you; you’re a good human!
I agree.
He was raised right that’s for sure!!!
I think he did self work to get here
i agree with this
My sarcasm detector is blaring. Thanks for playing!
I just realized that this video would have saved me a lot of time in my past relationship. I always tried to be a cool girl because I thought that was going to make them love me more and therefore not treat me badly. I was wrong.
Thank you ♥️
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Yeah it never works. It's too bad I didn't have this when I was 27. I'm just like an angry rat in a corner now seething.
Everything you have stated is so very true. I am 69 and the dating game is really the same, as it has always been. The only difference I see is, women of today have not kept-ed/maintained their dignity, along with moral VALUES. Sex, does NOT get/ bring about the respect and/or love any man. In any relationship there must be boundaries that cannot be crossed, if respect is to abide.
"You dont have to get emotional to correct a man" THIS!!
Lol dude's obviously never met me 😁
but then, once again, we're playing by THEIR rules, acting how THEY want and deem "appropriate". cuz if we acted natural and got pissed off, then we're "crazy" oh, see, dodged a bullet there...lol. I'm sick of being told how to act and playing their game.
@@angelataylor7799 exactly.
+2;3:4;8;1;2;7;2;6;8;4;9;0;whatsup her for any kind of help she can help you because I was once like that to and she help me out ,,,,
1) they say rude or critical things
2) they don’t text back or go missing
3) they try to order you around or make you do things
4) they invite you to their house on the first date
5) they say something very explicit to gauge your reaction to sex
6) they ask you for pictures or send pictures of a particular nature
Thank you
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Thanks
Thank u
I recently dealt with a woman that did the see very same things. Dating is a joke
"you're looking for love, not a job. And he's looking for an employee-" * stopped video and follow *
I love how clear, direct and to the point this is. Love it
My daddy never taught me this but I swear I will teach my daughter!
Me too.. Butttt all 3 of my Daughter's Know because I Educated them, my Son as well
unchanging golovin yeah I’m 13
I don’t even know how I got here 🤣
I have 3 college degrees, so I’m done with tests. Let me find out you’re testing me, I’m done.
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All I can say when it comes to relationship and love issues, is that when you feel exosted, unappreciated or unloved just let it go. it's not worth Ur time and definitely u will end up loosing potential and good people who will genuinely love you if you will keep on pushing it... All that matters is your peace of mind
I loved this. I’ve made every mistake possible and your words resonate so clearly. “If nothing is required then nothing is what you’ll get.”
When he said “stop letting him treat you like some sort of pussy delivery girl” I felt attacked ☠️ I’m glad I came across this never again will I let a man manipulate me like that. Thank you so much
+2;3:4;8;1;2;7;2;6;8;4;9;0;whatsup her for any kind of help she can help you because I was once like that to and she help me out ,,
Ok lol
My friend was swiping, go drive over, have sex and leave. She said if men can do it so can I. I told you are not an Uber Delivery person. Also you are a woman and you have a lot to lose by letting them in their like that. You could do damage inside your body it is different we have feminine energy. I am so happy she listen to me and stopped. Now she is in a relationship. Oh and I played this video for her.
This guy tested me and told me he was testing, I just said 'I am too grown up for mind games goodbye.'
Sis!.. I was gone✌🏾
Great
Well done
I was just tested, it shocked me at that moment. But I have simply been cordial with him, no smiles no conversation. I do have to see him everyday for school.
Good for you ❣️
It's so crazy that you can hear a message time and time again but always UNDERstand it. Then comes someone like you Kev that puts it in such a way that one finally INNERstands it or that 💡 goes off. Perhaps one is meant to get it when they get it or maybe when one is ready to receive it.
I’ve healed from my abandonment issues before I I stepped into dating , I’ve had to put a couple of men into there place ❤
why can’t humans be humane for once and simply respect one another?😣
For the most part unfortunately they choose that path.
True. Your right
+2;3:4;8;1;2;7;2;6;8;4;9;0;whatsup her for any kind of help she can help you because I was once like that to and she help me out ,,,,
Humans aren’t respectful creatures
You don’t have to teach your child to be naughty but you have to teach them respect
I’m glad I found this. I’m only 22. I made some mistakes in the past but no more!😌
You are stunning!!
@@marbasheals3265 thankyoun hun
Im glad. It's better to learn at 22 than dating a guy from 19-25 and have no clue. All the best🙂
Better Now than Later. ... Glad your taking heed. Becuz at 22 I was bad... But I wasn't Michael Jackson bad... & I definitely paid the price for that. Happy for you sis
So glad ur learning early
Sad to say 3 decades living and I’m just now realizing these things and now I’m deciding to make a change to have quality in my relationships. “ if a man realizes nothings required to get inside of you, nothing is what you’ll get”, that ish hit me like a ton of bricks , thanks 🙏 for your words of wisdom.
Your videos are fresh, insightful, and unique despite being topics we've heard about time and time again. Your perspective and advice is priceless.
The fact that he has to decide if he is gonna respect a woman makes him the biggest loser and he needs to grow more heart back and morals and honor.
Susanna Rose 💯
Exactly
You should understand that when men are looking at women they're sports fishing. You determine how much a nigga respects you which is why they'll test you! Men are physical by nature, their first instinct is to bang! They fall in love with how you handle yourself which is why we women need to get standards! Its human nature really.
what, women just automatically deserve respect? get the fuck outta here
sure i agree with that. you've got to give respect to get respect. I don't believe in the bible tho
How about still showing a woman respect even if she’s not the one for you?
How about showing women respect even if they don’t respect themselves?
Be respectful to her then politely walk away from the situation.
Most guys don't respect themselves so they don't know how to give it
Mr.knownothing LET ‘EM KNOW... most of em out here thottin their ass out but still demanding respect
BelizeHunni you’re right about that sweetheart
Artem Ben Hafa it’s not about their “thottin ass character “ it’s about yours. You can’t control how they choose to act, but have a choice yourself whether you’re going to compromise your character based on how other ppl act.
Mr.knownothing this is deadass the problem with society. There is a basic level of respect you need to show all people. Stop making excuses for being a shitty person with “rEsPecT iS EaRNed”
Thank you so much for creating this video! So many women don't want to look bad so we just laugh it off and play it cool and then when things go to far with a guy it is much harder to get out of.
+2;3:4;8;1;2;7;2;6;8;4;9;0;whatsup him for any kind of help she can help you because I was once like that to and she help me out ...,,,,.
I honestly feel pressured seriously I just wanna be myself and be accepted. I rather be alone
"If a man realizes that nothing is required to get inside of you, then nothing is what you'll get."
WOW!! So simple and true. Thank you for this video. I've been doing it all wrong.
+2;3:4;8;1;2;7;2;6;8;4;9;0;whatsup her for any kind of help she can help you because I was once like that to and she help me out ,,
wow. I wish I had known this before
If u wanted casual sex then this is ok no emotions but if u wanted something serious then yeah.
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@@princesscarodm right ! Just heard #5 the other day 😳
"If a man realizes that nothing is required to get inside of you, then nothing is what you'll get"... DAMN. I appreciate you! Xoxo
+2;3:4;8;1;2;7;2;6;8;4;9;0;whatsup her for any kind of help she can help you because I was once like that to and she help me out ..,,
Thank you, You couldn't have said it better. Set your boundaries ladies! And walk if he doesn't respect that.
Wow so many intelligent pieces of advice! This guy knows what he's talking about... too many amazing points to point out all. I always appreciate it so much when guys tell us the truth about dating from their side, and the games some men play to warn us... it shows they're actually looking out for us and trying to help us get the respect and care and love we deserve too. And that they're not willing to just sit around quiet and watch other guys play us and use us and treat us poorly. Thank you so much for speaking up on behalf of girls. We need more men like this in the world. Girls appreciate integrity! Going to go binge some more of your videos!👍
He went missing and I ended up with a boyfriend 🤷🏾♀️
Oh thats Lauren 👌🙏 that’s right! Fuck the 💩
Haha Queen!! 👏👏👏
Girl! 😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂.....I NEED TO BE UNBOTHERED JUST LIKE THIS..... THINKING WITH MY FEELINGS HAS JUST GOT ME HURT AND PLAYED.....NEW YEAR .... NEW RULES.
Oh thats Lauren 🤣🤣good for u sis
I know some women might think- i would never let a guy get away with these things, but when you really like someone you don’t even notice when you tolerate these things. I dealt with nearly all of these things with my ex because his D was so bomb, but things never got better. He kept being mean and manipulative and excuse himself by being playful. By the end of our relationship I was so stressed out and had super low self esteem. No matter how good the D is, DO NOT put up with these things!! Trust me they only lead to disaster.
He probably was a narcissist. You will end up being that way after dating them.
I agree.
I wasnt having sex but I was getting a lotta oral sex. Man, it felt good.
I stuck around only for that cause I didnt like the way he looked, his personality, his ideas, nothing. I believe he knew also - that's why I was sticking around so that I could use him and THEN leave him for someone I deemed as "better", so what does he do ? He attacks my self esteem ! That way, I will believe I am not good enough and not look around for another man.
Guys know if you're only sticking around to use them. They do and whatever resources they think you have your eyes on, they know that too so how do gain the upper hand and keep you around ? It's by battering your sense of self.
What worked for me was having a STRONG sense of self. I stopped letting other people's opinions get to me. What they think of me is not my problem.
@Red Sunshine never say never.
Red Sunshine you obviously never had bomb D so you wouldn’t know
Stassi Guice I totally get u! It’s like the D Isgood. But the problems that come with it. Isn’t worth it ! U feel worse than u did before u got the D!
Wow, Mr Hicks. You really laid down the truth and reinforced the need for dignity today. Thank you.
My husband taught me what respect is for a lady.. even though we had separated over something that could have been resolved we still talked. He passed away and I am doing fine with just my family and friends who also refuse to be disrespected by a woman or a man. I cant believe the manipulation that's going on in the world now. If people only knew that they are also playing themselves out of true meaningful relationships and true love..they'd stop it.. and. Romance? I was taught that by a great dad and my husband and my older brothers who bought valentine's cards and flowers and candy. Opened car doors. Etc.. I. Will be by myself before I can settle for less than that!! But this video needs to be shared all over.. this was awesome advice for women and men need to start treating women with respect or they are just receiving the same thing in return..just. my opinion. Only...😊✌ God bless everyone in their lives and be happy with yourself and pray for the right person and make sure they know you watched this video. And know what is going on with the dating game now...😅❤✌
"You're looking for love, not a job"
Lmaoooo
That hit home though
I’m 40 and this is ON POINT. Wish someone told me this years ago.
I’m 51 Jen Jen, I feel you 💯. 🦋🌹❤️❣️
I am 37 years Jen, it's not your fault. Dating game has changed so much these days, we need to learn and roll with it. We just need to learn, don't blame on yourself
41 and this is veryyyyyy good advice from a man.. dropping them jewels ♥
You are Not Alone ..and i'm 50 but NEVER Again.!!!
47 and I agree.
Love this so much, it woke me up so much. You’re an amazing man for making this video for women ❤️
You are the most balanced dating coach I've seen. Thanks for your content! Liked & subscribed.
Watching this makes me wanna cry.. dating these days can be so exhausted 😫😓😵
I concur, hold your beautiful head up, when your ready allow love in and remember each encounter is a lesson or a blessing🦋🌹❤️❣️
@@yolettahall4003 I appreciate you... thank you💞
Tell me about it 😫
Yes Sometimes u just need to take a break I’m at a breaking point. Focus on you and then let everything else fall into place.
Poor thing, it shouldn't be so complicated but when its not, you'll know its right.
When you raise your son right👏🏾👏🏾to his mother. She did great
Been following you for years you are always in point and charming. And explain things clearly and don't sugar coat it. Thank you for that 😊🙏
Thank you for taking the time to do these youtubes! You're amazing!
Did you catch that......you're looking for love and he's looking for an employee....speak on it Kev!!!
I spoke it 😂 ruclips.net/channel/UCdpV_Xk8BoE99-LHS9GF8Jg
This video made me realize how much I used to tolerate, no matter how uncomfortable I was. I would never put up with that bs now!!!
Damn!!!, This sounds like me ☹️, I say nothing .... We have sex and no emotions afterwards like ... see you later bye, which hurts and this is an ex just pop up at my sister's house didn't see this man in 8yrs .. problem is I still love him.
I stan a Queen here
You’re preaching to the choir 🗣
This is nuts. Dating should not be a battle of wits and mind games. If he is doing all this, he isn't serious or worthy. Show him the door. No questions asked. No second chances. "Receptionist, send in my next interviewee, please. This one isn't prepared or qualified. Mr. Johnson, don't call me and I won't call you."
This is great sound advice. Thank you for the reminder. 🙏🏾
You're probably one of the most genuine relationship coaches on RUclips. You seem to genuinely want to help women.
I do. I’m glad it bleeds through😁
It sure does! Thank you.
He is extremely honest u can feel it...
@Not At This Time U hear me, Tony's the truth also
This is pissing me off but I needed to hear it!
Me and you both sis
Oh my Lord, it's just so hard to listen to him. I just hate myself now and all the shit I've allowed in my life.
You know why.. Because its focusing on avoiding narcissistic men without telling you that.. So now you know.. Love.. Real love and respect just knows.. It doesnt need a book of rules and a leash
There are a few men that are just respectful
Amazing clarity in your manor of speech. Such deep and rich content. I hope you reach many people, men and women alike. Especially single fathers with daughters. Your content and advice rings with astounding truths.
Thank you
So blessed to have met a man (my amazing husband) who sees me as his equal, is a feminist and challenges the sexist society we live in. I wish that for every woman
It's (almost) every woman's dream to marry a feminist guy, but they are too rare to find. You're a lucky woman.
Have you ever cheated on him?
No real men are feminist all feminist male are lazy as f k guys
@@alyponk5016 You want a guy that demands for a woman to pay half on everything?
@@SimonKnight1023 Why would anyone demand for that? It's a general human courtesy for everyone to share the bills. Do you want a woman who demands you to pay?
My crush complimented me about my breast on the first date in an explicit way. I've never talked to him after that.
Good
Thats why dating is good. He layes it out, y’all weren’t compatible. Simple. Its when they lead on n shit from either side thats when its a waste of time
Oh my gosh! That’s such a turn off! Im sorry that happened to you! The other day on a dating app a guy told me that had a “Nice Booty” he was blocked in one second!
@@arianacuriel6827 I'm sure its very nice, but that's not an appropriate way to talk to someone you just met! Damn it
That was demeaning. Shame on him.
I’m a people pleaser, so dating has always been difficult. I have to keep telling myself that it’s okay to be strict with my standards..
Same, I'm not really a dating person. I just got out of a very long term relationship and just started hanging out with a new guy. It is soooo different than when I was in my early 20s as opposed to now being in late 30s.
Me too smh...
One day you'll meet someone who'll teach u that the person you need to please the most is you nobody else
It definitely is. I've been told that im hard on a ninja. My bar isn't set that high . They're just not the man for the job and that's okay.
Exactly. They'll be like 'if you don't give me what I want, you're hateful' and abusive behaviour like that has nothing to do with 'respecting yourself'.
Facts ! I saw all these warning signs in the beginning and I dipped ✌🏾. I have too much respect for myself to be treated like a doormat.
Thank you for posting this. I was wondering about all of these.
1 red flag is the 1st time I talk to him on the phone, he say "When can I come see you so I can get a hug" bruh gone on we in our 30's. How about a date get to know each other, do you have goals etc. 🤦🏾♀️
LOL. Yes, girl.
Sir slow your roll . I just can’t !! Why you want to hug up on a stranger ?
Lmao the can I get a hug ones are the worst!
@@Tabaitha_Elle Right? LOL
Yaahh
Test me and he'll soon realize that he's the one being tested. I am valuable beyond my own capabilities.
Thank you Kev!!!!Loved this one too!
this is amazing! thank you! i hope you make a video on what to say to men when they do those tests.
DONT WANT TO DEAL WITH ALL THE GAMES. WOULD RATHER BE SINGLE...
fucking preach sis lmaooo
If you *learn* how to play you'll get addicted to that female power tho. I'm slowly learning new tactics through every encounter (except physical) and I have a blast with the stupid ones.🤣 Get in touch with your power, desires, and standards....you won't regret it
Same, rather be single and happy
@@crownedone8837 but still that's a lot of time and energy spent dealing w/them
All these facts hit different when soul ties are broken and you can identify all these red flags from looking back on the toxic past relationships! 💯
Everything is related to my past so scared to date now🤦🏽♀️
Say that again. I severed my soul ties and burned them to ashes.😄
Me too.. Thank God for DELIVERANCE
💯
You just read my mind!
You’re definitely telling the truth !! Ladies listen to this guy !! He’s honest
I am so god damn happy I have found this! I literally just stopped dating a guy because I realised he was trying to manipulate me & for a while I was letting him smh. Not any more. I have my standards and will not let them slip again
For the most part. Dating and courting is a game of manipulation, deception and domination . Instead of trust, sharing and intimacy. How can we love like this?
You spelled deception wrong
The loffikilli , thank very much. I fixed it. 👍🏻🙂
exactly. when they never reveal their true selves until they get what they want
Crazy how we make things so difficult when they're really not.
Thiss
This was so on point. All need to hear this.
This is a channel that needs to be binge-watched with pen and paper in hand.