25K views is wild - really appreciate it, and i tried my best to respond to every comment! so great to hear everyone's stories and insights. one more thing... i recently started a patreon btw, so just gonna plug it here: patreon.com/AlexWei (shoutout my first member Mark S!) no pressure whatsoever, but if u would like to: - get in touch with me one-on-one - see some travel/outdoors/lifestyle stuff from my personal life - support me so that i can continue making these videos then feel free to check it out! anyways, next video is a BIG one... stay tuned in a few days (or less)
YES I Did see the neurosurgeon who dropped out…and as I recommended to him and now you, please watch “Slow Mo:The Man Who Skated Off The Grid”. He was a wealthy and highly esteemed Doctor of neurology. Worth your 20 minutes! Brother, I’m in Tucson, except I’m a 61 year old retiree who spends his time working two days a week, hanging out with my family, teaching and practicing Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and Surfskating ditches and then occasional skatepark. I’m outside all the time on a walk, bicycle or e-scooter. Most of my workouts are outside. You just inspired me to look up a young Asian male co-worker who came from a family of siblings all in the medical profession. He was in pre-pharmacist studies when he’s said “F-__it; I hate this and don’t want anything to do with this”. I met him after I retired and took a p/t job at the airport, where he hired on. I hear he’s still there. I’m working for another company at the airport but I’ve been wondering the past three years how he’s doing.
I am an asian myself and a serial entrepreneur. The issues you described are common due to the underlying educational system. The education system worldwide (doesn’t just apply to the US) teach students on how to confine themselves within a ‘box’. They don’t teach students how to think critically. By the time students graduate, their mindset is so ‘fixed’ on how to get a job and completely miss out on all the opportunities that’s happening around them. So it’s no wonder why students get burnt out
When my son graduated from a suburban Dallas, TX high school in a class of 1,600, the valedictorian said in his speech all he did was study for four years and he was miserable. He said if he could do it over, he’d play sports and have a social life.
And that valedictorian likely has infinite more options than most of the class, and additionally no one cares about high-school the second you leave it except for a few sad people who peak there. Balance in all things.
"You can't even call yourself smart if you're not smart enough to make yourself healthy and happy" 🔥🔥🔥 I got sick a lot in college and didn't get sick once when I hiked the Appalachian Trail even though I was cold and wet and physically exhausted all the time. Nature is poggers!
Awesome! I’m fifteen and I’ve been planning to hike the Appalachian trails for almost a year now. I plan on doing it in a leap year between high school and college. Do you have any advice you could give me? I’d love to hear more.
I get sick EVERYTIME I go back to campus. Last Fall I literally got sick every single month I stayed on campus, I tried washing my hands often, staying away from the coughing people, dressing appropriately for the weather, taking my vitamins. NOTHING worked. Every time I go home I don’t get sick and I’m fine for months on end. Probably the most dreadful part about college for me so far.
I used to work in a company that installed large screens and smart boards in government buildings, schools and aero-space industry facilities. When we were working in the Boeing building in California, one of the installers that was working with me told me it was time for lunch, and he would take me to the cafeteria. He seemed to know his way around the building really well, so I asked him how he knew where everything was. He told me that he used to work in the building...for 20 years. He told me that he had a degree from USC in aero-space engineering and had worked on satellite systems for Boeing for two decades. Same small parts of a particular satellite year after year. He said one day he had an "Office Space" moment and realized men weren't made to work in cubicles and he walked into his supervisor's office and quit on the spot and left to never return, until this project. He said he was far happier working as an installer/construction, and it saved his mental health.
I spent 20 years in a windowless avionics lab. It was union and because the work was mostly gradually outsourced I ended up going from my swing shift hours (which I preferred) to midnight shift...20 years later doing mostly the exact same work. Nothing about it made it a "bad" job, I just could not stand to look at it anymore...especially with massive insomnia and never sleeping. I was offered an early retirement package and at the last day before the offer expired, I submitted the package. That was a few years ago and I have no regrets.
@@Roshelt So true. Whether it be online or in person, you won’t go far until you run into at least one person sharing a negative doomer-like perspective on their occupation at some level
The fast pace of modern life, high demands of living costs, societal expectations to live and be a certain way. Normalizing being stressed all the time. How much more blinded can we get?
I’m ready to go live in the woods and be self sufficient. Make my own gym out there. Raise chickens and cows, and grow my own food. I’ll go live in the least populated state, vibe to country music all the time, bring my guns, worship god, maybe have a family out there. This is the fundamental of humanity. This is how people best interact with the planet and nature, and they’re not very stressed, or enslaved to money, and they’re safe, and there’s no politicians ruining those areas. You can be happy out there and be the law of your own land with your guns and your people. I think the rest of society will eventually collapse. It’s not gonna be pretty. The ones ruled over by bad people.
@@bobbyhill4118 looking at the state of the world right now: constant wars, imminent nuclear apocalypse, climate change, corruption, lust, greediness, etc,. Our society is collapsing, u did the right thing mate
@@bobbyhill4118”least populated” “want to have a family” dude you are going to struggle. Also politicians do ruin those areas often with very little accountability due to local families being corrupt with 0 chance of investigation
@@official_awei For real, I resonated with having the worst year, mine being the Junior year. My god being gangbanged by Statistical physics, quantum physics, electromagnetism, and math methods really tested my sanity
i started in physics but it was a bit too hard for me so i switched to math. by too hard i mean that for physics i actually had to study and i didn't really wanna study lol
Wild. I was an average student and graduated college with 2.7 gpa with f grades on my college transcript. My wife and I have a networth of 2.5 million at age 47.
Most animals have a routine. They get very stressed out when you upset their routine. You simply do not like your current routine and are looking to substitute it with another
The world needs more physicists! Do what you love! Physics grad here been teaching almost 30 years. I’m in the deserts and wild places for months every year. Nice thing about academia is tenure and can disappear for months - will be doing until I drop dead and been at it 30 years. I must admit as a student I felt just like you. Once I got out of that and became a professional I got super healthy bc of all the leisure time - but it first took a bunch of years working like a dog to get tenure now just coasting along having fun. Totally with you on philosophy - I run a homestead with my wife raising plants and animals and being OUTSIDE. Academic work by night and run the farm by day. I feel blessed I was able to fit into this insane modern world that enslaves so many. You will do just fine - chart your own course in life !!!!
@@karebuu1383 masters is struggle only you haven't cleared all your fundamentals during undergraduate. if your math skills is atleast A tier and have cleared most of your fundamentals from UG, you're good to go for masters. same goes for post grad in my experience. It really is that simple but a lot of students start their masters arrogantly even though they barely passed through UG without remembering anything and suffer even more down the line.
In high school, I was jealous of the Asian students who did well in school. Even when many complained about their parents being toxic or were toxic people themselves, I didn't take it seriously and wished that my (white Russian) parents were more like their Chinese/Indian parents. Listening to this video, I realize the toll it takes on many of you. I have only sympathy for you guys and hope you feel better and have more agency over your life
Out of curiosity. And I'm sorry if I'm assuming anything here. But was it maybe because you felt like the parents of the Asian kids cared about the future of their children, and your parents didn't care enough or were neglectful in that aspect?
Most asians dont have parents like this kid. He's being a crybaby because he chose a major he's not suited to handle and paid the price. Stories like this are being spread to condition us to accept a future where degrees will be worthless as jobs dry up due to ai and economic collapse. Young men will be funneled into joining the military as world war 3 ramps up. New diseases will emerge as a never-ending array of crises soon brings forth a new worldwide digital economic system, smart cities and the internet of bodies.
Why is this exactly my story lol. Down to the white Russian parents hahaha. Still kind of jealous though cause neglect is not good, but growing past that.
The real problem is Chinese parents who bring their kids to the USA these days. When China leads the world in 37 of 44 critical technologies of the future With that said... Even technologies China does not have a clear~ee lead in we have examples like this 👇 Researchers originally from China now make up 38 percent of the top A.I. researchers working in the United States, with Americans making up 37 percent, according to the research
The way I relate to this video. I am literally studying physics right now just to prove to myself that I was smart enough to do. I’m finishing my first year and have had so many experiences where my health became my last priority and it’s made me realise it isn’t worth it. I honestly have no idea what I’ll do once I finish my degree but I know I for sure ain’t working a 9-5.
The 'smart enough to do it' was litterly my situation. People mistook my hard work for talent and that honestly did not feel like a compliment considering what I was doing all the time...
Do yourself a favor and apply for engineering internships. Unless you are an extraordinary physics student; you will not have a career in academia or physics. - i say this as BS physics holder from a top public uni. Think realistically about how you will earn money to live the life you want.
The problem is university teach you electricity with calculus and Maxwell equations, but they never teach you how to fix a 3- way light switch or how to identify 3-phase motor terminals.
I don’t really understand this sentiment. It’s pretty easy to google those things when you actually need to know how to do them. There are several videos on RUclips teaching you how to do both of these things, all under 10 minutes. “University doesn’t teach you life skills”because, especially these days, life skills aren’t difficult to build on your own, and for free. It’d probably even be more effective to watch those videos and practice, than it would be to learn them in a university classroom. There aren’t many RUclips videos teaching you how to perform computational fluid simulations. And people studying physics who want to do research are probably going to use calculus and the Maxwell equations a lot, probably even more often than they’re going to need to fix a three way light switch.
That’s why you do student organizations and internships so that you can apply the theory you’ve been learning. Any one who says they have zero experience after graduating college just gimped themselves lol
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS. This is also my life. I was an overachiever until recently. I graduated magna cum laude in our top university and I’m 28 now, a researcher, college lecturer, finishing my masters dissertation while working on so multiple projects and co-authorships. Last year, I got diagnosed with polyneuropathy which causes certain parts of my body to go numb and lose my grip. I was horrified when I realized that without studying it working, i didn’t know who I am. I literally just stare at the ceiling, not knowing what to do. Then, the medical bills. All that work went to paying for medications, check ups, not to mention, expenses that had to do with my mental health: therapy, buying unimportant things, going on extended breaks - only to return home still feeling empty. Now, I’m starting to learn how to rest and enjoy unproductivity
It's crazy how similar my situation is to yours. I just graduated with a BS in Physics, from a Michigan university nonetheless. I started to really reflect on why I'm doing what I'm doing after my Dad passed away earlier this year, and everything I had planned started crumpling. I don't truly know what I want out of life. I chose Physics because I did well in my high school courses, but I'm not really passionate about it. I've been spending the last couple months trying to figure out how I want to move forward, and I hope I'll find my path like you did! Thanks a lot for sharing your story.
With a physics bachelors a lot of unrelated job opportunities are available because employers perceive you as smart and hardworking. You can go into business, insurance, data analytics, finance, consulting, teaching, etc. How was your degree and time at university? I'm thinking about studying physics and I'm passionate about it but I may prefer Econ and other subjects, I have no idea and I'm almost sure nobody actually knows what's the best fit for them or what they want to do, they just choose a sensible option typically imposed upon them, very little rigorous and rationale thought is truly put into it, one day you just decide and boom. The degree does not define you, your intelligence doesn't define you (not completely anyway), your academic performance doesn't define you and employers don't define you, not even you, define you, nobody can and nobody ever will so just be.
@@Betweoxwitegan I very much enjoyed my time at University. Without a doubt, Physics is hard, but if you enjoy the challenge it is a very rewarding major. I felt that my first two years were actually harder than junior and senior year, strictly in terms of difficulty but not workload. If you set yourself up with a strong mathematical basis early, everything else seemed to fall into place. Unfortunately, I find it a bit too ideal and not realistic that you could get any unrelated technical jobs with just a Physics Bachelors. It is definitely true that nearly everyone, employers included, hold Physics majors in high regard. But if you have little experience in the work you ultimately decide to go into, someone with more experience and knowhow will likely be chosen over you. If I were in your situation, I would probably choose to major in Physics at least for my first year. The first year is filled with gen eds and classes that would apply to any major anyways (if you're in the US at least). I would also spend time looking into specific areas of Physics that might interest you in the long term, and get to know how the people in that field operate to see if its something you could see yourself doing. If you have feelings that Physics might not be right for you, or if you might want to go into something else later, I would strongly consider double majoring or just minoring in Physics. The workload for a double major with Physics would definitely be scary, but I know many people that have done it with little trouble. Take advantage of any courses that count towards both majors, and courses that count towards multiple gen ed categories (we called this 'double-dipping' at my school). In retrospect, I really wish I took more time to carefully plan out my classes so don't make the same mistake I did!
@@evictusyt 👍 I'm not from The US and so we don't have AP classes in schools with transferable credits or 1-2 years of gen-ed in university, our bachelors are also typically 3 years as opposed to 4 (although it depends ofc) You might think about doing a masters and PHD if your more comfortable with the academic route like a lot of people are who distaste the 9-5 ideal or direct/standard job market in general My Dad did Material science and went into scientific sales so I do think you can leverage a bachelors in a STEM degree to go into sales, business, etc (obviously the job market has mutated since his entry but you still could probably) you could also do a course or take a lower level position to build a framework, i.e. be a car salesmen leveraging your degree for a few months the move into scientific sales based on your sales experience or doing a short course in data science or something. How did you find the jump from HS physics to university? That would be the thing that daunts me the most tbh, I find HS (secondary school here) physics to be easy a long with basically every subject honestly. Thanks for the advice, definitely something to take note of and I'll considering doing physics but I have a couple years to decide anyways.
I'm retired in my mid 60s, and I agree with pretty much everything you said. I salute your bravery. We're going into something new. The old way of destroying our planet must necessarily cease. You and others like you will be the pioneers of what's to come. I welcome it, whatever it turns out to be.
Alex just live everyday with gratitude man; the opportunities you were given, your parents, your health. Do not live with regret. Go out there and discover how you can be useful to society, nature, the universe. You already taken the first step...
I find your situation very relatable. I graduated one year ago from Case Western Reserve University with a degree in engineering physics, however looking back on it choosing that major was moreso for boosting my ego rather than picking something that I was actually interested in. Currently in Phoenix, AZ trying to figure out what I'm going to do next after being laid off from a decent high paying job. Also I agree with everything you said about nature. I have enjoyed exploring the nature in Arizona a ton and feel that it does make people feel better being outside more.
This is the most relatable video I've seen in a while. I graduated near the top of my undergraduate class with a BS in physics, and over the summer between undergrad and grad I fell deeply in love with rock climbing. Now I'm a little over a year into grad school and I feel like dropping out every day because the mountains are calling. I think my advisor is pissed at me because I spend every day outside instead of in the lab...this video is some good inspiration.
that's amazing and im glad you found a passion but I'd recommend you to finish grad school so that it can atleast help you can land a job later down the line. mountains are my second favorite thing after physics and i assure you they'll be waiting for you no matter the time.
Awesome video! Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty. What you said about being physically sick due to mental health made me recall an interview with Pulitzer Prize-winning novelist Richard Powers. He said when he was in college he felt tremendous pressure to specialize and pick a life path, and this gave him a pit in his stomach that was with him constantly. (The funny thing, guess what he studied in college at first? Physics.) He eventually found he could channel his wide range of interests into writing novels, and if it isn’t already obvious, he’s doing pretty well nowadays. You’re doing well too, my friend. Godspeed.
Life is a personal journey when you try to live up other expectations you usually end up miserable le. Your journey was painful but it ultimately set you free. Thank you for sharing, your message will help others. Keep posting
Current a college Sophomore who also had lots of pressure from family to get good grades, etc, and had really bad mental health, and what you just said resonated with me so fucking deeply I swear to god it's like we both had the same life experience!!! School IS skibidi toilet, bop bop, yes yes!!!!
Similar to you, I’m an outcast Latino guy who was always praised for being smart (learned Latin, Greek, Old English, math, chemistry-I’m trying to become a chemist) so i long developed an affinity for academics. I realized from an early age though that I didn’t want to live like most Latinos-working all their lives, not having money, not doing anything other than work, etc. I hope to earn enough money to buy land in an isolated region of Arizona to settle there in the middle of nature.
maybe it's good you're an outcast (not bc of race) because you're so obsessed with showing hate to gay and trans people you make it your whole profile picture. I hope you achieve peace and stop worrying what people are doing with their own bodies and personal lives.
hey man, im an outcast latino in 11th grade and im afraid about my future. Really afraid. As prudent as I can be, I still fear that something will go terribly wrong while entering college. I feel like I’ll fail - due to lack of motivation - or I’ll end up giving up. Something just doesn’t sit right with me. I’ve been thinking about med school, but if you can, please, give me some advice. Any advice would help. I’m just really afraid for my future. I don’t want to be working a low-paying job my entire life.
If i could be honest. As a black immigrant, when my parents would talk about the asian kids and how much they excelled, i always would let it go in one ear and out the other because having gone to school with alot of 1st gen asian kids they always seemed miserable. Nice houses, nice clothes, very well kept, but there was an unspoken hollowness to them. This is something that comes to light in the professional world because they always party the hardest.
My wife is Asian, you’re right about the comparing kids in school acheivements. Our daughter did great in school. I was not a good student in high school, went to summer school to graduate. I was not miserable though. I was actually happy. I joined the Army later. I never would have thought I’d retire from that but I did. I even earned a dipolma just in Poli/Sci. My wife worries a lot. She has anxiety, you can see it in her childhood pictures. My pictures were happy though we had many stressors. It is good you caught what was causing you unhappiness. My daughter seems to have inherited my wife’s anxiety. I was too clueless to worry excessively. I did spend a lot of time outside. Great to hear your story, thank you.
@@tallahoramismo You can probably guess if I say she is Roman Catholic. If your unsure its ok she’s filipino. Honestly, all her siblings and friends were high achievers.
You’re truly amazing, man! I’m starting my junior year of college at Cornell and this applies to me so much…I’m sure gonna start seeing more green in nature!
I'm an ECE student at Michigan and ngl everything you said makes so much sense. I developed chronic pain/tendonitis in my right leg, an eye twitch that develops when I don't have enough sleep, hypnic jerks that sometimes keep me up at night, and just the worst anxiety I've ever had that I have to stop drinking coffee. The stress is insane
I have such a similar story. Thanks for sharing. I was valedictorian in high school, nationally ranked in debate, first chair in band, and got near perfect test scores for college. This made me so miserable for most of my adolescent life. I am so happy more people are talking about this. I watched the Goobie video too and now I'm seeing more and more videos like these. It's great to see that this topic is becoming more of a movement here on RUclips. Maybe I'll even post my own version of this one day. Keep it up, thanks for sharing so much
Thank you for this presentation. I watched the MIT Neurosurgeon's video. Your video hit hard. I retired and became addicted to my computer, a gamer. I would sit at my computer and game all day. I stopped playing tennis, golf and going to the gym. My feet began to swell, my knee, hip and back began to have issues. Gaming was my fix. I started taking OTC pain relievers to no avail. My wife got tired of looking at landscaping around the house growing up. I started working in the yard and things got better every day. Almost like magic. This video, your video, has inspired me to start going back to the gym, back to the tennis courts and back to the golf course. Everything you said is proven to be the holy grail. Our society is sick. We need to go back to the sun, exercise, nature and piece of mind. You have presented priceless advice which could benefit everyone. I know what you say is true. I am living it.
@@stevenleslie8557 there are other better cities out there. Tucson is very close to the border with Mexico and it's hot as hell just absolutely horrible city to live in.
You truly are smart when you can identify such problems and figure out yourself, that hard! Massive RESPECT for you addressing this to a large audience and also learning a lot about yourself and most importantly, TAKING ACTION on such matters. Alex... I wish you the absolute healthiest, happiest and most successful life that you can possibly create! I 100% SMASHED that like button!
I was in a similar situation as you, miserable during college studying something I did not enjoy just to prove that I am somewhat competent enough. At many stages during my college years I had the thought of switching the major because I never enjoyed it. Constant all-nighters, stress, problems with professors, and lack of drive to pursue deeper in the field drove me into abandoning my studies at the very last semester. I decided to make a change and study what I enjoy for my Masters and I did somehow got into an Ivy to finally study what I enjoy. Everyday now I am constantly engaged in the topics that I learn in school, and even willingly put extra free time to study the subject because I am truly passionate about it. Although I still lack many of the fundamentals comparing to my piers, I can still see a very optimistic future where I stand on equal footing as them because I truly love what I study. Everyday feels lively and bright even when I faced challenges. I hope to continue pursuing my dream and realize my full potential. Going for Masters studying what I enjoy is the best decision of my life. Thank you for sharing your story.
I really appreciate this video for helping me be cautious when planning out my life. Although I genuinely like academics a lot, I will always make sure to listen closely to my mind/body so that I don't make my lifestyle unsustainable. It's important to know that "going all-in" on a goal, if done unsustainably, will result in accomplishing much less than a well-paced, healthy approach. Great video!
As a potential physics major going into my first year of college, I’ve seen quite a few of these videos and am really starting to question whether I’m choosing to study for myself or if it’s for my feeling of self-worth. I’ve never been an extremely stressed person, but videos like this teach me to not take academics too seriously.
Physics is one of the hardest majors. I dual majored in math and it. Many people studied nonstop and they were pulling C's. I got a 4.0, but worked 11 hours or more EVERYDAY. I liked it a lot, which drove me to do it. You gotta really like it for it to be worth it. Otherwise, you'll waste your time and money
Keep the grind up, I like your content! Went to a top university for Computer Science, I dropped out and went to military thinking I was rotting my life away at a College drinking 4 times a week. With the impending sense of responsibility in my job I pleaded to my superiors to give me a chance to become mature and not miss those formative years of young adulthood. Went through a breakup and all I wanted to do was escape and start again. Military gave me a second chance of the Bachelor's. I was already disciplined but I had an edge on my peers. Go through and end up failing classes, losing my hobbies. Getting unfit. My weekends became part of the working week. The friendships I made wouldn't last longer than a term. Note I now had an established social network in my city as opposed to round 1. I'm going back to work soon. I have a purpose and a second family there that could use some extra hands. It's fustrating to dream of being a tech bro guru living in some penthouse in NYC or Silicon Valley since being a kid. That's almost your personality at this point. The hard work in school for "almost" nothing. We all have a duty to do, and the greed wasn't worth the trouble. At least I know in some alternate world I did the quintessential asian boy route.
I went the opposite direction as you, but it was also Not constructive. I come from a family with high Academic expectations as well, but, in response, I decided I was Not going to study as a kind of rebellion. The problem with this was - any subject that required any extra effort, I quit. This left me with some gaps in my high school knowledge that have been hard to overcome in adulthood.
So... I went to MIT. I know a lot of people who burned out. I met a lot of people who were extremely depressed as well. When almost everyone there has been in some kind of magnet program (or wasn't and just studied like hell) since age 11 or 12, you can understand that nobody can keep up that kind of pace forever. Some people burned out during college, some people burned out right afterward (I was on and off employed right after college because of COVID and because I was just too fucking exhausted/burned out), some people burned out in their late 20's or early 30s (some people who seemed unstoppable in college are kind of taking more of a break these days because they hit their limit or just got fed up with being exploited as a hard-working, highly intelligent, yet undervalued human), but everybody hits a limit at some point, and if they don't, they usually die a lot younger than they should. (I also personally knew a couple people who died suddenly, and a few others who went on leave). I feel like a few years after graduating, I've finally found a reasonable work-life balance, even if I work a lot more than I would prefer to at times. I feel very financially behind a lot of my peers at this point in my life, but I'm happy I took the time off when I did. I returned when I was ready and now I'm a lot more patient with my job. I haven't achieved as much as my peers, but I feel like I can actually sustain my lifestyle now, whereas at MIT I clearly couldn't and was way too stressed. I feel like you'll find your own version of success in the world, and you'll probably be happier as a result of defining your own parameters for success instead of outsourcing your validation to other people. Just make sure it all balances out financially, that's all I can recommend... That being said, I rarely find myself being mad about not earning six figures. I wish I made maybe about 5 or 10k more a year, but I would honestly trade my overtime for having two day weekends every weekend (I currently work five to seven days a week) if I could reach my financial goals without doing so. I don't live in Silicon Valley, I don't live a very exciting life, but I can afford rent where I live and do the things I want to do. You don't necessarily have to be a doctor or high-earning executive to be successful, just getting your own needs met is enough I think. Although I don't want you to underestimate yourself or fall into a victim mindset, the reality is that just like you have a leg up on some people and can achieve some things they can't, other people likewise have an advantage over you and may be able to achieve things you can't. I struggled a lot after undergrad because I wanted to go to grad school, but couldn't afford to and lacked direction. It took me a long time to figure out that I didn't want to pursue science to that degree and that I'd rather work at a hospital or in pharma and just make money instead. I've made many life choices that landed me in the circumstances such that I couldn't be an academic, but coming to terms with not only my surrounding circumstances, but also the reversibility or irreversibility of my life choices and the uni-directional motion of time, kind of allowed me to rest a little bit and accept that there are just some things I can't change. It takes a lot of weight off of me actually, and I think especially in your early 20s and late teens, there's a lot of pressure to maximize what you accomplish because you have so much potential and freedom to do what you want to, then eventually you kind of get boxed in from a logistics standpoint but stop making yourself take every opportunity available to you and just start taking the ones you want to. Freedom and responsibility kind of correlate to that degree, for trading off physical mobility, you get financial mobility; by trading off freedom over your time, you get security and longevity; by committing to things you get some things in return that you don't get by being undifferentiated. I don't know where I'm going with this exactly, but I guess it would just be that, if you stop comparing yourself to other people and just do what you want to, you'll ultimately be a lot happier, and at the end of the day, nobody resolves all of their issues, even if it seems like they do. Extremely high achievers struggle with stagnation, extremely wealthy and successful people are lonely and stressed and usually in bad health, people with multiple kids or close families never get time alone to introspect or explore their own interests, everything looks good from the outside, but every reward is a responsibility and the same cycle of attainment and desire propagates infinitely (unless you break the cycle, but I'm not here today with religious intentions. I'm merely providing my perspective as an over-achieving burnout).
I also studied physics and math at UofM (many years ago), and my life turned out just fine. Physics is an excellent major to pursue, especially if you’re unsure about your next steps after graduation. It provides a wide range of valuable skills and builds character, which are highly applicable to any discipline. Interestingly, only a small fraction of physics graduates actually work in physics. Many of my friends have gone on to careers in fields like Wall Street, medicine, law, IT, and various startups. Only a few have chosen the academic path, and this decision often has little to do with their academic performance. You don’t need to prove anything-no one (except maybe your parents) is keeping score. The key is to find your passion and work toward it. Trust me.
I grew up in a lower middle income family but attended a very prestigious private college initially majoring in physics but quickly switched to mathematics. My identity was also wrapped up in my supposed intelligence but I was extremely unhappy and went into finals my sophomore year flunking 3 courses(but did manage to pull out passing grades). What I realized was that my social skills were horrible and I needed to improve them, particularly my sense of humour. To do this I watched closely others who were funny and personable and gave it my best shot to learn from them. It wasn’t easy as my school was known for having one of the highest workloads in the country. But I made it through and find having better social skills and the easy ability to l laugh is a great stress reducer.
Such an inspirational video. I dropped out of society last year and living remote heart of France. My mental health has improved, though i still regularly have nightmares centred on my previous work. Your strategy on meditation, diet, sleep and journaling, is something i shall adopt. Though Asian parents have a reputation for intensive parenting, i do wish i had Asian parents in my life. Anyway, you are a beautiful and sensitive young man. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your story.
I also did a major in physics and even a grad school. I fully agree with your experience of mental health affecting physical health. For me, I thought I simply had severe seasonal allergies that never went away. I had constant runny nose, random pains here and there, itchy eyes, migraines, etc. At one point, I couldn't even properly open my eyes in the morning because of all the gunk that accumulated around my eyes while I was asleep. Eventually, this autoimmune problem became so severe that I couldn't even go outside. After I quit my dream of becoming a physicist, although I am still struggling to find meaning in life, a lot of my autoimmune problems have subsided significantly. It took me a few years to feel like I got my health back, so my recovery wasn't as instant as yours. This goes out to say the ability to calm yourself in high stress environment is key. Perhaps, if I took some time to actively calm my nerve down during my academic life, maybe things could've been different. However, this is easier said than done. Being able to activate parasympathetic nervous system after experiencing highly stressful event is something (I believe) you learn as a toddler. If you lack these types of mental training then as an adult this becomes much harder to do so. These days, I very much enjoy going out in the nature as well. Going backcountry camping out in the woods really helps to build a stronger neural circuit in my brain that can help soothe myself.
Excellent video. This really resonates with me. As a person who went through nursing school with then-undiagnosed autism, I had a tough time and almost failed due to some instructors interpreting some mannerisms characteristic of autism, as nervousness and lack of skill. In the midst of this, my mentor told me: “The education system is an insane system, and if an insane system says you’re insane, doesn’t that mean you’re sane?” I went off the beaten path and chose a different career that is related to nursing in that it requires care and compassion, but without the noises and stimulation of a traditional hospital environment. I know I already commented, but this video is a gold mine of profound wisdom. Thank you, sir.
I also went through life with undiagnosed autism until this year. Sometimes I wonder if I should just continue living the way I currently do - just trying to hold on and brave through the insanity, or if I can do something differently
@@patricktsai2303 Thank you for sharing, my friend. The best thing is that, to do something differently, it doesn’t have to mean uprooting your whole life. (But if that’s what your heart is telling you to do, who am I to tell you differently?) We can work a regular job and spend time outside of that job in nature and following our passions. A lot of artists, entrepreneurs, and pro athletes have regular jobs too. It doesn’t have to be either-or. Hope this helps.
I really loved hearing your perspective on modern life and life in generall. I will become a freelancer too, and i am working hard everyday to achieve it. I really can't work a 9 to 5 too, it makes me depressed and just unhappy. Life is really too short to do something you don't like doing all day. I work on my computer a lot, and i notice it very strongly when it gets too much of being inside and sitting too much. Nature is really healing and so welcoming. It makes a huge difference!
13:33 dawg really redefining what fighting an ailment means lol. Nah for real I had a similar story to you. I am south Asian and moved to the states at age 5. While I was never the top student like you, I was always among the best. I distinctly remember my father leaving a scar on my left shoulder that lasted for years because I did not get into one of the elite high schools in our city. I really did try and when I did not get in I coped by saying I didn't even want to go to my mother and that entered my father's ears and the next time he saw me studying to retake the test again in 9th grade (you can do this for admission to 10th grade). That is when he left me that scar. I can go on and on but I feel like all of this is what led me to make the decisions I did in college. I studied Computer Science and had enough credits to also major in math but decided against it. When I worked as a software engineer my father would tell all of his friends when I specifically told him not to say anything. He would even make things up to "elevate me" which is really just him elevating himself. It's all materialistic bullshit. I have come to a similar conclusion to you. I also realized that men in particular are the best when we actually lean into our masculine traits such as combat sports. But I was never allowed to do these things because "if I studied, the lower level jobs will be taken care of by lesser people". Think about how fucked that a is thinking someone is lesser because they are not as accomplished as you academically or had the same opportunities as me (I came from an immigrant home where education was of paramount importance and also have doctors and physics majors in my family. The programming started young for me). Materialism fueled by arrogance is what that is. I am seriously considering take a few month "mini retirement" as outlined in Tim Ferris's "The 4 hour work week" to Thailand and hire a pro may Thai fighter as my personal coach. My ultimate goal is to start gyms where I can teach other young men in my community that "yes, it's okay to have balls despite how much your parents tried to castrate you on all levels apart from physical". Great video. Also UMich rejected me :( so screw your alma mater lol.
amazing story, thank u for sharing. i guess even umich makes mistakes lmao... best of luck with ur muay thai journey and all, i also started training MMA recently!
@@official_awei thanks. Only in the past few months have I truly become cognizant of how much sports is important for a young man's growth. Like no funny shit it shapes you mentally and physically in a way academia never will. It's truly saddening how many immigrant parents have drank the kool-aid. I think my SAT was the only part of my app that was lacking. I did take it one last time but by then UMich's deadline passed. Oh well.
I got a full ride scholarship and was accepted to a few of the top universities in my state. Went off the college and it was never my passion, I had already been miserable for years in high school from that high achiever lifestyle. When going into the 2nd year I had major panic attacks and questioned a lot of what I was doing, ultimately dropped out . In that next year I moved out and started my life with my husband at 20 years old. It wasn’t always an easy road and at many times I questioned myself and felt I failed or wasted some huge thing I earned. Now after years of being lost I’m finally in a place in life where I’m very fulfilled, living where I want, living a beautiful life, and I’m so grateful I made that hard choice and lived life the way I did. It’s hard to break out of that pressure to be an overachiever.
as a man do what you want to do. I think as a son i would prefer my dad to be happy and stress free. Rather spend time with him than getting a ps5, iphone, mustang
@@ilzium8210yah but half the money goes to mommy and her new boyfriend who joins for pizza night while daddy grinds out the overtime. Unless mommy can’t get custody because she’s insane, in which case he might make it as a single father, but it’s tough.
Cool video, it seems more and more people realize this. While it goes both ways, I find that our (physical) lifestyle is what impacts our mental health more than the other way around.
I dropped out of college today with half a Computer Information Systems Degree. I am going to become a firefighter and eventually move to Oregon to start my own business. I am scared to tell people but these videos make me feel not alone!
@@orvos1459yes, although I never took it, my older sister and brother both took physics and they said it was really hard. Of course, some people find it really easy but for most it’s hard
@@orvos1459 It is. You can see a lot of world leaders and millionaires trying to boast about being a physics major (some even lie) just to get the genius aura lol
I relate to this a lot, especially the part about getting sick due to stress. For me, this happened in high school. I was pushing myself hard to get straight-A's while taking all IB classes and doing a bunch of extracurriculars. During college applications my senior year I developed a persistent stomach ache that turned into an ulcer. I was getting 3 hours of sleep making sure I got straight As while also throwing up blood every morning for close to a month. Eventually, it subsided, but I did not tell my parents that I was sick for fear that I would have to miss precious days of school, homework assignments, and that I would fall behind on my applications. I ended up losing about 12 pounds or so just over that month and I was miserable and in physical pain the entire time. And in the end I ended up not even getting into the school I was gunning so hard for in the first place! Since then, I've made myself calm down. School was serious but I realized that I couldn't make it the life-or-death thing that I was making it be in the first place. Work is the same way. I have been able to find some measure of "success," which to me is just a quiet, comfortable life. That's all I really want.
I can relate to this. I got a Masters in Manufacturing Systems Engineering and have worked for 4 different companies in one year and a half and to see how cutthroat a lot of these companies are, it makes no sense with putting companies ahead of my passion and health. Now I’m looking at other alternatives in life because this whole matrix we live in is a lie.
Physics Degree is very hard to comprehend for the average and above person. Because of the complexity of physics, it would be easy to go into business, financial, or investment career and be successful..
Can relate, the most healthy I've ever felt in my life was when I was unemployed. I wanted to wake up every morning. I used to welcome every single day happily. so I used to go to sleep as early as possible.
I remember going to college and 90% of the students call themself "pre-med" students. They major in biochem, chem, physics, neuroscience, etc. Majority of them didn't end up going to med school. Some changed majors. I was never a pre-med student and I majored in microbiology because it was one of those "smart" majors in college. I thought I would work in a lab, but after my first year, I took the risk to change major as my interest changed. I thought more about what I want to do in life rather than trying to prove that I am smart by majoring some hardcore physical science major that probably doesn't give me the career I want. I remember feeling miserable and stressed in the first 2 years of college. I look back now and am glad I didn't go with the majority. I changed majors even though some people had doubts that I should do that. I am self employed now and I escaped that whole corporate world. Once you leave school, you also enter another hamster wheel. I agree our mental health is way more important than just going with what others expect us to do. True happiness comes from choosing a path that makes you happy.
Throughout the video I continued to feel inspired realizing that I could truly choose to be happy outside of societal means (material gain) but I also had some doubt. After being programmed a certain way it’s hard to break out of bad habits but I truly believe my desires are different from others and I want to live the happiest life possible. Thank you for posting this 🙏.
Hey, I got an applied physics degree too. I realized my American dream. And I rarely visit doctors and I cure and care for myself. Just give yourself time, you will be fine.
Michigan has a lot of natural beauty. It's just brutal winters. It's a different type of appreciation for nature than Arizona for sure but all of Michigan isn't suburbia Umich
I live in Ann Arbor and there is plenty of nature to surround oneself in in this area! But I'm guessing as a student he was pretty chained to the city campus. It sounded like he needed a different setting for sure. I personally love the gray skies and cool weather but it's not for everyone
I hope you enjoy Tucson bro! I lived there for a year and a half and loved the desert and weather, even though it's hot AF in the summer. There's so many nice nature spots there. If you get a chance, id reccomend checking out Bisbee, it's about an hour and a half away. Artsy town tucked away in the mountains
I don't blame you a bit for taking a sabbatical on what you are "supposed" do do. I have faith that someone like you will find your best way eventually.
I’m from Tucson AZ! Good luck babe. Spent my whole life trying to leave that place, when it’s 120 degrees in the summer you won’t want to be outside hiking. Maybe it will be good for you, I hope so. I don’t know.
Aintnoway bro lives in my city, you chose the right place for nature. Good luck on building your business and i hope that youll continue to have peace from the hectic and stressful life you had before.
Have you ever thought about being a Psychologist or Psychiatrist? You speak so well and have a very good sense of mind/body and could help others in this type of career.
I tried to do the forcing the 9-5 thing. Like way back I would totally ignorant that being really good at STEM things and kinda enjoyed the education in STEM actually DOESN'T inherently imply being a total egghead and being suited to the conventional STEM career approach. I was starting to put together that I was not of the temperament, and mentality of other formerly high performing in education of hard subject matters. However, I thought that well how bad could it really be if I have the technical skills, a lucrative income is pretty motivating so far as extrinsic motivation goes it ain't intrinsic motivation but it is better than no education, I'm a social chameleon anyway I am just going to put up with it and there shouldn't be too much trouble if I could just maintain that inauthenticity. To past me's credit that did actually work for a bit of time, but ultimately, I became extremely implosive and that was bad for my conventional career reputation anyway and high level well-rehearsed anger management techniques work only up to a certain point trying to be that inauthentic. If I didn't just drop the delusion about my improper motivation and self-betrayal I'm pretty sure it would just be an eerily reminiscent of the previous career 5 year cycles start off with some growing pains compared to the average but having the interest, motivation and enthusiasm that the acclimation lagging is trivial, then eventually start hitting the stride having the in role skills just meteorically rising and still able to maintain the forced optimism. Hit a snag and start to feel jaded as misstep is treated like it nihilifies the large satisfactory body of work like some Kafkaesque nightmare, become really resentful but successfully suppress evidence of resentful culminating in a "When Keeping it Real Goes Wrong" style screaming match diatribe like a total lunatic getting the bankers box and then telling them I don't need it because it isn't like there is anything there of value NOTHING at that circus was of value everyone else has tons of personal affects in their cubicles because they sandbag really hard I didn't have personal affects because I go to work to go to work I actually do my job. It is like the Stanford Prison Experiment and Dilbert amalgamation the manager almost has role conformity to incompetence the coworkers are successful at booty-smooching and make asinine advice animal style image macro type meme about the office within the office. Yeah, that's how you get ahead wasting time making memes in a format that has been out of style for a decade already. TLDR No one unsuited for the 9-5 should ignore the advice to not try to force it self-betrayal always ends poorly. Don't try to masquerade as a drone it does work but only for a very short span of time.
Thank you for this man. I’m 18 years old and have no idea what to do with my life and despite worrying about it for multiple years now I’ve just gone in circles.
How do you get 40 hours per week working from 9:00 AM to 17:00 PM? With a one-hour unpaid lunch, that makes only 35 hours per week. No employers pay wages for your personal time during lunch hour. The only exception is when your boss buys the lunch because he/she wants you to work at your desk during lunch. Every office job that I've worked at started at 8:00 AM not 9:00 AM. I was required to clock-in at 7:59 AM or earlier. Where do you get 9-to-5? Is it from that Dolly Parton song?
Go Blue! Follow your heart and be good to yourself. Live on your own terms. I loved my time in school and in particular at UofM. But I switched majors and went on to purse my passions. Had some ups and downs, but I have no regrets, except when folks don’t want to pay you for your services. Had I finished law school, I could sue for payments. I’m glad you’re in a good space…
Some people grow up believing that there self worth depends on praise from others; first parents, then teachers then university professors with college grades, then then the workplace boss. This ultimately leads to depression and exhaustion from endless competition with others and frustration on realizing you are merely a robot serving others. The better approach is to develop an understanding of what will be important in your life. You are now free and self motivated to what you feel is important. So, the student studies physics not to get the best grade or medal but because this is genuinely interesting.
Yeah Alex, thank you for explaining the pressure of the "SUPER ASIAN" achievement syndrome. Be courageous and be yourself and find your own way. Your not alone living this pressurized lifestyle. This message MUST BE TOLD and UNDERSTOOD ! Love your closing thoughts: "Your not crazy , the WORLD is CRAZY !".
Mt Lemmon is goated my dude. I went to uni in Tucson and went hiking near the peak all the time. Sunset Trail has a beautiful lookout and you can grab lunch in Summerhaven after your hike.
I feel you man. My mental health deteriorated so badly in highschool that I physically looked like I aged 30 years. I ended up dropping out and did online highschool instead and now I’m thinking about going to college and seeing if I can turn my life around and prove everyone around me wrong, including myself. But at the same time it gets to a point where i say screw all of yall, imma do my own thing and that thing I don’t fully know yet. I’ve been trying to trade stocks to see if that’s suitable for me making some sort of income, i’m really trying not to sound like a victim here but i’m at a crossroads right now on what I should be doing
Wow this is one of the most relatable videos I’ve ever watched. I did really well in high school, put a lot of pressure on myself to succeed, got into a good school, and then certain disability stuff came up, I got so stressed I had immense pains across my whole body and heart, and ended up leaving the school. But I’m starting community college near my partner and best friends that I care about with higher hopes as you have for yourself. I also plan on getting out in nature more as well. I wisy you the best of luck and will sub to follow along.
I plan to do the same, in a few years I will go live like you guys, maybe I'll see guys out there, right now im gonna work a few years and then im out Godspeed my friend
We need a good balance with work and rest. If everyone quit their job to live in nature, we would not have a functioning society. It would be important not to go extreme on either side
Back in the 70’s, both my uncle and his close friend were Physics grad and both went on to do very well. They were multi millionaires before retirement & they worked very hard. You have the brains but just need the right opportunity 🙏🏻 good luck 🤞🏻
Physics is super fun and I wish I could spend the rest of my life studying it. I looked at those types of job skills but outside university it's much harder to make a career with it. Cern and those types of jobs are heavy on the politics/clubs in many cases. Not saying Cern hires idiots just that it's hard to make a name for yourself because the costs for making a modern Physics breakthrough is almost impossible outside of a few universities. I graduated BSEE and majored in circuit design and stumbled into low level C embedded system programming and it has given me a pretty good career with the ability to move on from toxic companies easily. If you are burning out after a few years, remember it gets easier when you gain skills but you also have to deliver at a higher level but it's not that hard. I worked myself through college at a small town bakery and I watched a man work 30 years in front of the ovens (min wage/no medical) so it's hard for many there. Sure some people get a free ride off mom/dad and many of those people are successful but many others are not. My early life was awful and hard but my older life is great overall. Use you youth to get your degree and get into the work force. My recommendation is to work to retire early if you can.
I studied physics and got my PhD in nuclear physics in a top university in the golden days of nuclear physics (60’s, 70’s). My school years have been a great journey, the best period of my life, when I hiked extensively to enjoy nature, sailed boats in the campus, biking, cross-country skied, chased total solar eclipse, while learning how to design/build particle accelerators and nuclear reactors, evaporating thin film for stripping electrons from high energy protons, building instruments to detect high-energy particles, neutrons and gamma-rays. The whole experience expanded both my mind and my physical fitness. My many extracurricular nature-exploring activities caused me several more years to get my PhD, but totally worth it. Even though I am now approaching age 80, I am still doing all the activities I learned as a physics student, plus scuba diving and ocean swimming. If one paces oneself in school without being imprisoned by the time pressure to graduate, and enjoys the academic journey, the burnout and ill-health issues, that you experienced, may be avoided, and the passage may turn into a lifetime treasure.
@@garywong3136 wow - sounds like you had a great career. I'm 62 and I stumbled into embedded programming (which I love) in my later years developing medical devices. My first job out of college was EMP testing for the DoD (B-1B) and I got to help Boeing test Air Force One's Communications system. Those Boeing engineers were a great bunch. I sometimes look back at how lucky I was at key times in my life, I had an awful childhood and we didn't have much money but somehow was able to work myself through college and get through the hourglass. My whole life changed after I got my degree. I interviewed yesterday for a new job and it turns out it's right down the street from where I live and a huge bump in pay. Interviews are intense and you have to really study and prepare for them. It drives me crazy when people show up in flip flops and don't prepare at all. I try and tell people that as we age our skills have to be better than the average skill set because if you have average skills they are better off hiring younger players. We were lucky compared to the people in the past that had to live through war, depressions, etc. I met many as a teenager that were in Nam and it really ruined many lives. I'm so lucky again in my later years to afford privacy and being able to retire. If I get this gig it will be my last full time gig before I retire. Maybe I'll teach somewhere and try and help kids learn engineering. Crazy it was Calculus/Physic's that really changed my thinking and my life. I was reading a physic's book (Mass I think) where they took a cube of ice and calculated the mass using simple atoms and it accounted for only 10% of the mass. Just think how existing it was for scientist's to figure out where the rest of the mass is from. Semiconductor physic's is another fascinating subject for me. Yes there are so many interesting things to work on out there and it seems people just don't want to put in the effort. Like you said it is hard work but once you cross the Rubicon it does get easier.
As a retired teacher and psychotherapist I can say that your choice to seek a more relevant and meaningful lifestyle is a very sane choice. Your metaphor of the hamster wheel was most apt. Good luck young man . Seek meaning in your life.
Asian parents say to get a better education so you can make lots of money to live a better life. Well, NOONE tells you corporate world sucks. And as a doctor, you are not free to “save” your patients, but your are forced to keep them just barely alive to milk their insurance! And as a lawyer, you can only make money if you are crooked! Same goes for great business men…”it’s just business”!
I'm glad you've had this realization. I also had a similar experience with my overall health during college. Good luck to all your future endeavors! Just subscribed! Hope to see updates 😁
You are so wise! I have been a nanny and childcare worker for years and I grieve for children sitting inside Alllllllll day. Babies are put in childcare at younger and younger ages, which means they are inside from babyhood thru high school. We need free creative out of the box thinkers and we have children sitting in a box all day being programed to keep this maddness going.
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I like you Chinese people
lol university of Michigan is not the “number one public university in America” 😂😂😂
YES I Did see the neurosurgeon who dropped out…and as I recommended to him and now you, please watch
“Slow
Mo:The Man Who Skated Off The Grid”. He was a wealthy and highly esteemed Doctor of neurology. Worth your 20 minutes! Brother, I’m in Tucson, except I’m a 61 year old retiree who spends his time working two days a week, hanging out with my family, teaching and practicing Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and Surfskating ditches and then occasional skatepark. I’m outside all the time on a walk, bicycle or e-scooter. Most of my workouts are outside. You just inspired me to look up a young Asian male co-worker who came from a family of siblings all in the medical profession. He was in pre-pharmacist studies when he’s said “F-__it; I hate this and don’t want anything to do with this”. I met him after I retired and took a p/t job at the airport, where he hired on. I hear he’s still there. I’m working for another company at the airport but I’ve been wondering the past three years how he’s doing.
Use your physics degree to become a red seal carpenter. It translates really well. You can design along with it
I am an asian myself and a serial entrepreneur. The issues you described are common due to the underlying educational system.
The education system worldwide (doesn’t just apply to the US) teach students on how to confine themselves within a ‘box’. They don’t teach students how to think critically. By the time students graduate, their mindset is so ‘fixed’ on how to get a job and completely miss out on all the opportunities that’s happening around them.
So it’s no wonder why students get burnt out
When my son graduated from a suburban Dallas, TX high school in a class of 1,600, the valedictorian said in his speech all he did was study for four years and he was miserable. He said if he could do it over, he’d play sports and have a social life.
Omg I played sports and had a decent social life. It’s definitely worth it.
And that valedictorian likely has infinite more options than most of the class, and additionally no one cares about high-school the second you leave it except for a few sad people who peak there. Balance in all things.
... and ... how can he support himself and play sports and have social life? ... parent? grand-parent? government?
@@thepianofamily8304 Mommy and daddy are rich.
Balance is important.
"You can't even call yourself smart if you're not smart enough to make yourself healthy and happy" 🔥🔥🔥 I got sick a lot in college and didn't get sick once when I hiked the Appalachian Trail even though I was cold and wet and physically exhausted all the time. Nature is poggers!
amazing.
Awesome! I’m fifteen and I’ve been planning to hike the Appalachian trails for almost a year now. I plan on doing it in a leap year between high school and college. Do you have any advice you could give me? I’d love to hear more.
loved that but no way you said poggers in 2024
Radical!
I get sick EVERYTIME I go back to campus. Last Fall I literally got sick every single month I stayed on campus, I tried washing my hands often, staying away from the coughing people, dressing appropriately for the weather, taking my vitamins. NOTHING worked. Every time I go home I don’t get sick and I’m fine for months on end. Probably the most dreadful part about college for me so far.
I used to work in a company that installed large screens and smart boards in government buildings, schools and aero-space industry facilities. When we were working in the Boeing building in California, one of the installers that was working with me told me it was time for lunch, and he would take me to the cafeteria. He seemed to know his way around the building really well, so I asked him how he knew where everything was. He told me that he used to work in the building...for 20 years. He told me that he had a degree from USC in aero-space engineering and had worked on satellite systems for Boeing for two decades. Same small parts of a particular satellite year after year. He said one day he had an "Office Space" moment and realized men weren't made to work in cubicles and he walked into his supervisor's office and quit on the spot and left to never return, until this project. He said he was far happier working as an installer/construction, and it saved his mental health.
Office space is an amazing film
That's inspiring
@@Jabari10I feel like office space was ahead of its time and has become very relevant again with all of these mass layoffs and crappy economy
I spent 20 years in a windowless avionics lab. It was union and because the work was mostly gradually outsourced I ended up going from my swing shift hours (which I preferred) to midnight shift...20 years later doing mostly the exact same work. Nothing about it made it a "bad" job, I just could not stand to look at it anymore...especially with massive insomnia and never sleeping. I was offered an early retirement package and at the last day before the offer expired, I submitted the package. That was a few years ago and I have no regrets.
@@Roshelt So true. Whether it be online or in person, you won’t go far until you run into at least one person sharing a negative doomer-like perspective on their occupation at some level
The fast pace of modern life, high demands of living costs, societal expectations to live and be a certain way. Normalizing being stressed all the time. How much more blinded can we get?
couldn't have said it better myself.
@@official_awei Some people straight up told me I was living life wrong because I wasn't stressed out enough lol. I think I am gonna stick to my ways
I’m ready to go live in the woods and be self sufficient. Make my own gym out there. Raise chickens and cows, and grow my own food. I’ll go live in the least populated state, vibe to country music all the time, bring my guns, worship god, maybe have a family out there. This is the fundamental of humanity. This is how people best interact with the planet and nature, and they’re not very stressed, or enslaved to money, and they’re safe, and there’s no politicians ruining those areas. You can be happy out there and be the law of your own land with your guns and your people. I think the rest of society will eventually collapse. It’s not gonna be pretty. The ones ruled over by bad people.
@@bobbyhill4118 looking at the state of the world right now: constant wars, imminent nuclear apocalypse, climate change, corruption, lust, greediness, etc,. Our society is collapsing, u did the right thing mate
@@bobbyhill4118”least populated” “want to have a family” dude you are going to struggle. Also politicians do ruin those areas often with very little accountability due to local families being corrupt with 0 chance of investigation
Anyone who studies physics is a brave one, that stuff is no joke, especially at a college like Michigan. Nice job on completing such a degree!
haha it was tough, thanks!
not the point though egghead
@@official_awei For real, I resonated with having the worst year, mine being the Junior year. My god being gangbanged by Statistical physics, quantum physics, electromagnetism, and math methods really tested my sanity
i started in physics but it was a bit too hard for me so i switched to math. by too hard i mean that for physics i actually had to study and i didn't really wanna study lol
I think once you get a masters on topics such as these they should give you money once a month Atleast like $400 for being a great mind of America
I graduated from UCLA and was selected a Rhodes scholar. Now delivering food for a living and living on my own terms
live true to yourself, not other peoples' expectations!
Wild. I was an average student and graduated college with 2.7 gpa with f grades on my college transcript. My wife and I have a networth of 2.5 million at age 47.
Hats to you. It is both courageous and authentic to do do. Why live in others' way when this is only round you get to live🎉❤
What's the point of lying on here lol
If people like yourself is doing this in increasingly numbers ... indeed, the end of Human Civilization is imminent well within one's lifetime.
We aren't humans, we are animals. Not meant to be caged and confined to isolation and routine.
Animals arent meant to be caged either.. i get what you mean though
About the routine thing you are wrong since animals live the same way pretty much every day
Exactly 👍 do what makes you happy 😊 ❤is the most important satisfying
Most animals have a routine. They get very stressed out when you upset their routine. You simply do not like your current routine and are looking to substitute it with another
Yep. I enjoy being a caveman and my time in nature.
The world needs more physicists! Do what you love! Physics grad here been teaching almost 30 years. I’m in the deserts and wild places for months every year. Nice thing about academia is tenure and can disappear for months - will be doing until I drop dead and been at it 30 years. I must admit as a student I felt just like you. Once I got out of that and became a professional I got super healthy bc of all the leisure time - but it first took a bunch of years working like a dog to get tenure now just coasting along having fun. Totally with you on philosophy - I run a homestead with my wife raising plants and animals and being OUTSIDE. Academic work by night and run the farm by day. I feel blessed I was able to fit into this insane modern world that enslaves so many. You will do just fine - chart your own course in life !!!!
How did you do in grad school? How do you compare the struggle from undergrad courses?
@@karebuu1383 masters is struggle only you haven't cleared all your fundamentals during undergraduate. if your math skills is atleast A tier and have cleared most of your fundamentals from UG, you're good to go for masters. same goes for post grad in my experience. It really is that simple but a lot of students start their masters arrogantly even though they barely passed through UG without remembering anything and suffer even more down the line.
In high school, I was jealous of the Asian students who did well in school. Even when many complained about their parents being toxic or were toxic people themselves, I didn't take it seriously and wished that my (white Russian) parents were more like their Chinese/Indian parents. Listening to this video, I realize the toll it takes on many of you. I have only sympathy for you guys and hope you feel better and have more agency over your life
Out of curiosity. And I'm sorry if I'm assuming anything here. But was it maybe because you felt like the parents of the Asian kids cared about the future of their children, and your parents didn't care enough or were neglectful in that aspect?
Most asians dont have parents like this kid. He's being a crybaby because he chose a major he's not suited to handle and paid the price. Stories like this are being spread to condition us to accept a future where degrees will be worthless as jobs dry up due to ai and economic collapse. Young men will be funneled into joining the military as world war 3 ramps up. New diseases will emerge as a never-ending array of crises soon brings forth a new worldwide digital economic system, smart cities and the internet of bodies.
Why is this exactly my story lol. Down to the white Russian parents hahaha. Still kind of jealous though cause neglect is not good, but growing past that.
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The real problem is Chinese parents who bring their kids to the USA these days.
When China leads the world in 37 of 44 critical technologies of the future
With that said... Even technologies China does not have a clear~ee lead in we have examples like this
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Researchers originally from China now make up 38 percent of the top A.I. researchers working in the United States, with Americans making up 37 percent, according to the research
"You're not the crazy one - the world is crazy."
Very true!
The way I relate to this video. I am literally studying physics right now just to prove to myself that I was smart enough to do. I’m finishing my first year and have had so many experiences where my health became my last priority and it’s made me realise it isn’t worth it. I honestly have no idea what I’ll do once I finish my degree but I know I for sure ain’t working a 9-5.
i hope u find something u like doing and want to sell today mr.thejesterchargrin 🙂🙂😇😇
@@seruroku6276 aww thank-you
u will figure it out, trust!
The 'smart enough to do it' was litterly my situation. People mistook my hard work for talent and that honestly did not feel like a compliment considering what I was doing all the time...
Do yourself a favor and apply for engineering internships. Unless you are an extraordinary physics student; you will not have a career in academia or physics. - i say this as BS physics holder from a top public uni. Think realistically about how you will earn money to live the life you want.
I am 46 years old with my own business and I have never thought about life that way. “You’re not really smart if…” is profound. Thanks, man.
The problem is university teach you electricity with calculus and Maxwell equations, but they never teach you how to fix a 3- way light switch or how to identify 3-phase motor terminals.
Many architecture graduates do not know a 2x4 lumber is not 2" thick or 4" wide.
@@lynkung4018it's almost like designing, engineering, and construction are seperate fields.
University is for the engineering of and the code compliance of end use elements.
I don’t really understand this sentiment. It’s pretty easy to google those things when you actually need to know how to do them. There are several videos on RUclips teaching you how to do both of these things, all under 10 minutes. “University doesn’t teach you life skills”because, especially these days, life skills aren’t difficult to build on your own, and for free. It’d probably even be more effective to watch those videos and practice, than it would be to learn them in a university classroom. There aren’t many RUclips videos teaching you how to perform computational fluid simulations. And people studying physics who want to do research are probably going to use calculus and the Maxwell equations a lot, probably even more often than they’re going to need to fix a three way light switch.
That’s why you do student organizations and internships so that you can apply the theory you’ve been learning. Any one who says they have zero experience after graduating college just gimped themselves lol
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS. This is also my life. I was an overachiever until recently. I graduated magna cum laude in our top university and I’m 28 now, a researcher, college lecturer, finishing my masters dissertation while working on so multiple projects and co-authorships. Last year, I got diagnosed with polyneuropathy which causes certain parts of my body to go numb and lose my grip. I was horrified when I realized that without studying it working, i didn’t know who I am. I literally just stare at the ceiling, not knowing what to do. Then, the medical bills. All that work went to paying for medications, check ups, not to mention, expenses that had to do with my mental health: therapy, buying unimportant things, going on extended breaks - only to return home still feeling empty. Now, I’m starting to learn how to rest and enjoy unproductivity
glad ur learning the most important skill of enjoying life
could the polyneuropathy have been caused the by the vaccine?
It's crazy how similar my situation is to yours. I just graduated with a BS in Physics, from a Michigan university nonetheless. I started to really reflect on why I'm doing what I'm doing after my Dad passed away earlier this year, and everything I had planned started crumpling. I don't truly know what I want out of life. I chose Physics because I did well in my high school courses, but I'm not really passionate about it. I've been spending the last couple months trying to figure out how I want to move forward, and I hope I'll find my path like you did! Thanks a lot for sharing your story.
as long as u keep good physical and mental health, u will figure it out eventually. trust
With a physics bachelors a lot of unrelated job opportunities are available because employers perceive you as smart and hardworking. You can go into business, insurance, data analytics, finance, consulting, teaching, etc.
How was your degree and time at university? I'm thinking about studying physics and I'm passionate about it but I may prefer Econ and other subjects, I have no idea and I'm almost sure nobody actually knows what's the best fit for them or what they want to do, they just choose a sensible option typically imposed upon them, very little rigorous and rationale thought is truly put into it, one day you just decide and boom.
The degree does not define you, your intelligence doesn't define you (not completely anyway), your academic performance doesn't define you and employers don't define you, not even you, define you, nobody can and nobody ever will so just be.
If you don't mind me asking what is the physics degree and field that was a hindrance, or the sacrifice you had to make in college and mental health.
@@Betweoxwitegan I very much enjoyed my time at University. Without a doubt, Physics is hard, but if you enjoy the challenge it is a very rewarding major. I felt that my first two years were actually harder than junior and senior year, strictly in terms of difficulty but not workload. If you set yourself up with a strong mathematical basis early, everything else seemed to fall into place.
Unfortunately, I find it a bit too ideal and not realistic that you could get any unrelated technical jobs with just a Physics Bachelors. It is definitely true that nearly everyone, employers included, hold Physics majors in high regard. But if you have little experience in the work you ultimately decide to go into, someone with more experience and knowhow will likely be chosen over you.
If I were in your situation, I would probably choose to major in Physics at least for my first year. The first year is filled with gen eds and classes that would apply to any major anyways (if you're in the US at least). I would also spend time looking into specific areas of Physics that might interest you in the long term, and get to know how the people in that field operate to see if its something you could see yourself doing. If you have feelings that Physics might not be right for you, or if you might want to go into something else later, I would strongly consider double majoring or just minoring in Physics. The workload for a double major with Physics would definitely be scary, but I know many people that have done it with little trouble. Take advantage of any courses that count towards both majors, and courses that count towards multiple gen ed categories (we called this 'double-dipping' at my school). In retrospect, I really wish I took more time to carefully plan out my classes so don't make the same mistake I did!
@@evictusyt 👍 I'm not from The US and so we don't have AP classes in schools with transferable credits or 1-2 years of gen-ed in university, our bachelors are also typically 3 years as opposed to 4 (although it depends ofc)
You might think about doing a masters and PHD if your more comfortable with the academic route like a lot of people are who distaste the 9-5 ideal or direct/standard job market in general
My Dad did Material science and went into scientific sales so I do think you can leverage a bachelors in a STEM degree to go into sales, business, etc (obviously the job market has mutated since his entry but you still could probably) you could also do a course or take a lower level position to build a framework, i.e. be a car salesmen leveraging your degree for a few months the move into scientific sales based on your sales experience or doing a short course in data science or something.
How did you find the jump from HS physics to university? That would be the thing that daunts me the most tbh, I find HS (secondary school here) physics to be easy a long with basically every subject honestly.
Thanks for the advice, definitely something to take note of and I'll considering doing physics but I have a couple years to decide anyways.
I'm retired in my mid 60s, and I agree with pretty much everything you said. I salute your bravery. We're going into something new. The old way of destroying our planet must necessarily cease. You and others like you will be the pioneers of what's to come. I welcome it, whatever it turns out to be.
Alex just live everyday with gratitude man; the opportunities you were given, your parents, your health. Do not live with regret. Go out there and discover how you can be useful to society, nature, the universe. You already taken the first step...
Pretty high quality content for how small your channel is I stayed to watch the entire vid keep up the grind I believe in you!
appreciate I!
I find your situation very relatable. I graduated one year ago from Case Western Reserve University with a degree in engineering physics, however looking back on it choosing that major was moreso for boosting my ego rather than picking something that I was actually interested in. Currently in Phoenix, AZ trying to figure out what I'm going to do next after being laid off from a decent high paying job. Also I agree with everything you said about nature. I have enjoyed exploring the nature in Arizona a ton and feel that it does make people feel better being outside more.
This is the most relatable video I've seen in a while. I graduated near the top of my undergraduate class with a BS in physics, and over the summer between undergrad and grad I fell deeply in love with rock climbing. Now I'm a little over a year into grad school and I feel like dropping out every day because the mountains are calling. I think my advisor is pissed at me because I spend every day outside instead of in the lab...this video is some good inspiration.
that's amazing and im glad you found a passion but I'd recommend you to finish grad school so that it can atleast help you can land a job later down the line. mountains are my second favorite thing after physics and i assure you they'll be waiting for you no matter the time.
Awesome video! Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty. What you said about being physically sick due to mental health made me recall an interview with Pulitzer Prize-winning novelist Richard Powers. He said when he was in college he felt tremendous pressure to specialize and pick a life path, and this gave him a pit in his stomach that was with him constantly. (The funny thing, guess what he studied in college at first? Physics.) He eventually found he could channel his wide range of interests into writing novels, and if it isn’t already obvious, he’s doing pretty well nowadays. You’re doing well too, my friend. Godspeed.
I'm 17F. I want yo pursue robotics, build some cool stuff and then join a nunnery somewhere in the mountains.
Sounds awesome
Literally me
Hiking and walking are the only things that keep me sane so I get you. But I am very comfortable with the office/remote work life.
How did you get into doing remote work?
Life is a personal journey when you try to live up other expectations you usually end up miserable le. Your journey was painful but it ultimately set you free. Thank you for sharing, your message will help others. Keep posting
Current a college Sophomore who also had lots of pressure from family to get good grades, etc, and had really bad mental health, and what you just said resonated with me so fucking deeply I swear to god it's like we both had the same life experience!!! School IS skibidi toilet, bop bop, yes yes!!!!
"..you don't know how true it is until you actually experience it." that closing part resonated me. thank you.
Similar to you, I’m an outcast Latino guy who was always praised for being smart (learned Latin, Greek, Old English, math, chemistry-I’m trying to become a chemist) so i long developed an affinity for academics. I realized from an early age though that I didn’t want to live like most Latinos-working all their lives, not having money, not doing anything other than work, etc. I hope to earn enough money to buy land in an isolated region of Arizona to settle there in the middle of nature.
hope u will achieve that one day!
@@official_awei thanks
maybe it's good you're an outcast (not bc of race) because you're so obsessed with showing hate to gay and trans people you make it your whole profile picture. I hope you achieve peace and stop worrying what people are doing with their own bodies and personal lives.
hey man, im an outcast latino in 11th grade and im afraid about my future. Really afraid. As prudent as I can be, I still fear that something will go terribly wrong while entering college. I feel like I’ll fail - due to lack of motivation - or I’ll end up giving up. Something just doesn’t sit right with me. I’ve been thinking about med school, but if you can, please, give me some advice. Any advice would help. I’m just really afraid for my future. I don’t want to be working a low-paying job my entire life.
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If i could be honest. As a black immigrant, when my parents would talk about the asian kids and how much they excelled, i always would let it go in one ear and out the other because having gone to school with alot of 1st gen asian kids they always seemed miserable. Nice houses, nice clothes, very well kept, but there was an unspoken hollowness to them. This is something that comes to light in the professional world because they always party the hardest.
My wife is Asian, you’re right about the comparing kids in school acheivements. Our daughter did great in school. I was not a good student in high school, went to summer school to graduate. I was not miserable though. I was actually happy. I joined the Army later. I never would have thought I’d retire from that but I did. I even earned a dipolma just in Poli/Sci. My wife worries a lot. She has anxiety, you can see it in her childhood pictures. My pictures were happy though we had many stressors. It is good you caught what was causing you unhappiness. My daughter seems to have inherited my wife’s anxiety. I was too clueless to worry excessively. I did spend a lot of time outside. Great to hear your story, thank you.
No one cares about yt l00sers that had to go for low hanging fruit 😂 hope your daughters gets with a Korean man like many young females these days
Where's your wife from?
@@tallahoramismo You can probably guess if I say she is Roman Catholic. If your unsure its ok she’s filipino. Honestly, all her siblings and friends were high achievers.
@@seandonahue8464I thought Filipinos were laid back like us Latinos. Dang
You’re truly amazing, man! I’m starting my junior year of college at Cornell and this applies to me so much…I’m sure gonna start seeing more green in nature!
I'm an ECE student at Michigan and ngl everything you said makes so much sense. I developed chronic pain/tendonitis in my right leg, an eye twitch that develops when I don't have enough sleep, hypnic jerks that sometimes keep me up at night, and just the worst anxiety I've ever had that I have to stop drinking coffee. The stress is insane
Thank you for the subtitles, it makes easier to non-english natives understand it better.
I have such a similar story. Thanks for sharing. I was valedictorian in high school, nationally ranked in debate, first chair in band, and got near perfect test scores for college. This made me so miserable for most of my adolescent life. I am so happy more people are talking about this. I watched the Goobie video too and now I'm seeing more and more videos like these. It's great to see that this topic is becoming more of a movement here on RUclips. Maybe I'll even post my own version of this one day. Keep it up, thanks for sharing so much
of course, looking forward to hearing ur story someday!
Thank you for this presentation. I watched the MIT Neurosurgeon's video. Your video hit hard. I retired and became addicted to my computer, a gamer. I would sit at my computer and game all day. I stopped playing tennis, golf and going to the gym. My feet began to swell, my knee, hip and back began to have issues. Gaming was my fix. I started taking OTC pain relievers to no avail. My wife got tired of looking at landscaping around the house growing up. I started working in the yard and things got better every day. Almost like magic. This video, your video, has inspired me to start going back to the gym, back to the tennis courts and back to the golf course. Everything you said is proven to be the holy grail. Our society is sick. We need to go back to the sun, exercise, nature and piece of mind. You have presented priceless advice which could benefit everyone. I know what you say is true. I am living it.
i'm so glad it helped u in some way. best of luck with everything
I've lived in Arizona all my life and i would say you made a good choice in choosing Tucson as a place to live. It's scenic and the weather is great.
No Tucson is one of the worst cities in America
@@williamMaezawa depends on where you live in Tucson.
@@stevenleslie8557 there are other better cities out there. Tucson is very close to the border with Mexico and it's hot as hell just absolutely horrible city to live in.
You truly are smart when you can identify such problems and figure out yourself, that hard! Massive RESPECT for you addressing this to a large audience and also learning a lot about yourself and most importantly, TAKING ACTION on such matters.
Alex... I wish you the absolute healthiest, happiest and most successful life that you can possibly create!
I 100% SMASHED that like button!
I was in a similar situation as you, miserable during college studying something I did not enjoy just to prove that I am somewhat competent enough. At many stages during my college years I had the thought of switching the major because I never enjoyed it. Constant all-nighters, stress, problems with professors, and lack of drive to pursue deeper in the field drove me into abandoning my studies at the very last semester. I decided to make a change and study what I enjoy for my Masters and I did somehow got into an Ivy to finally study what I enjoy. Everyday now I am constantly engaged in the topics that I learn in school, and even willingly put extra free time to study the subject because I am truly passionate about it. Although I still lack many of the fundamentals comparing to my piers, I can still see a very optimistic future where I stand on equal footing as them because I truly love what I study. Everyday feels lively and bright even when I faced challenges. I hope to continue pursuing my dream and realize my full potential. Going for Masters studying what I enjoy is the best decision of my life. Thank you for sharing your story.
of course, thank u for sharing urs as well
I really appreciate this video for helping me be cautious when planning out my life. Although I genuinely like academics a lot, I will always make sure to listen closely to my mind/body so that I don't make my lifestyle unsustainable.
It's important to know that "going all-in" on a goal, if done unsustainably, will result in accomplishing much less than a well-paced, healthy approach.
Great video!
seems like u have a great mindset going forward. best wishes on ur journey.
@@official_awei thanks man, you too!
As a potential physics major going into my first year of college, I’ve seen quite a few of these videos and am really starting to question whether I’m choosing to study for myself or if it’s for my feeling of self-worth. I’ve never been an extremely stressed person, but videos like this teach me to not take academics too seriously.
seems like ur going in with a good mindset. best of luck with ur college journey and figuring our those questions along the way
Physics is one of the hardest majors. I dual majored in math and it. Many people studied nonstop and they were pulling C's. I got a 4.0, but worked 11 hours or more EVERYDAY.
I liked it a lot, which drove me to do it. You gotta really like it for it to be worth it. Otherwise, you'll waste your time and money
Absolutely true
Keep the grind up, I like your content!
Went to a top university for Computer Science, I dropped out and went to military thinking I was rotting my life away at a College drinking 4 times a week. With the impending sense of responsibility in my job I pleaded to my superiors to give me a chance to become mature and not miss those formative years of young adulthood. Went through a breakup and all I wanted to do was escape and start again.
Military gave me a second chance of the Bachelor's. I was already disciplined but I had an edge on my peers.
Go through and end up failing classes, losing my hobbies. Getting unfit. My weekends became part of the working week. The friendships I made wouldn't last longer than a term. Note I now had an established social network in my city as opposed to round 1. I'm going back to work soon. I have a purpose and a second family there that could use some extra hands. It's fustrating to dream of being a tech bro guru living in some penthouse in NYC or Silicon Valley since being a kid. That's almost your personality at this point. The hard work in school for "almost" nothing.
We all have a duty to do, and the greed wasn't worth the trouble. At least I know in some alternate world I did the quintessential asian boy route.
thanks, and amazing story. trust that u will find ur path eventually.
Winston Wu said in his video before here on RUclips, Choose a less stressful job even if it earns less money.
I went the opposite direction as you, but it was also Not constructive. I come from a family with high Academic expectations as well, but, in response, I decided I was Not going to study as a kind of rebellion. The problem with this was - any subject that required any extra effort, I quit. This left me with some gaps in my high school knowledge that have been hard to overcome in adulthood.
So... I went to MIT. I know a lot of people who burned out. I met a lot of people who were extremely depressed as well. When almost everyone there has been in some kind of magnet program (or wasn't and just studied like hell) since age 11 or 12, you can understand that nobody can keep up that kind of pace forever. Some people burned out during college, some people burned out right afterward (I was on and off employed right after college because of COVID and because I was just too fucking exhausted/burned out), some people burned out in their late 20's or early 30s (some people who seemed unstoppable in college are kind of taking more of a break these days because they hit their limit or just got fed up with being exploited as a hard-working, highly intelligent, yet undervalued human), but everybody hits a limit at some point, and if they don't, they usually die a lot younger than they should. (I also personally knew a couple people who died suddenly, and a few others who went on leave). I feel like a few years after graduating, I've finally found a reasonable work-life balance, even if I work a lot more than I would prefer to at times. I feel very financially behind a lot of my peers at this point in my life, but I'm happy I took the time off when I did. I returned when I was ready and now I'm a lot more patient with my job. I haven't achieved as much as my peers, but I feel like I can actually sustain my lifestyle now, whereas at MIT I clearly couldn't and was way too stressed. I feel like you'll find your own version of success in the world, and you'll probably be happier as a result of defining your own parameters for success instead of outsourcing your validation to other people. Just make sure it all balances out financially, that's all I can recommend...
That being said, I rarely find myself being mad about not earning six figures. I wish I made maybe about 5 or 10k more a year, but I would honestly trade my overtime for having two day weekends every weekend (I currently work five to seven days a week) if I could reach my financial goals without doing so. I don't live in Silicon Valley, I don't live a very exciting life, but I can afford rent where I live and do the things I want to do. You don't necessarily have to be a doctor or high-earning executive to be successful, just getting your own needs met is enough I think. Although I don't want you to underestimate yourself or fall into a victim mindset, the reality is that just like you have a leg up on some people and can achieve some things they can't, other people likewise have an advantage over you and may be able to achieve things you can't. I struggled a lot after undergrad because I wanted to go to grad school, but couldn't afford to and lacked direction. It took me a long time to figure out that I didn't want to pursue science to that degree and that I'd rather work at a hospital or in pharma and just make money instead. I've made many life choices that landed me in the circumstances such that I couldn't be an academic, but coming to terms with not only my surrounding circumstances, but also the reversibility or irreversibility of my life choices and the uni-directional motion of time, kind of allowed me to rest a little bit and accept that there are just some things I can't change. It takes a lot of weight off of me actually, and I think especially in your early 20s and late teens, there's a lot of pressure to maximize what you accomplish because you have so much potential and freedom to do what you want to, then eventually you kind of get boxed in from a logistics standpoint but stop making yourself take every opportunity available to you and just start taking the ones you want to. Freedom and responsibility kind of correlate to that degree, for trading off physical mobility, you get financial mobility; by trading off freedom over your time, you get security and longevity; by committing to things you get some things in return that you don't get by being undifferentiated. I don't know where I'm going with this exactly, but I guess it would just be that, if you stop comparing yourself to other people and just do what you want to, you'll ultimately be a lot happier, and at the end of the day, nobody resolves all of their issues, even if it seems like they do. Extremely high achievers struggle with stagnation, extremely wealthy and successful people are lonely and stressed and usually in bad health, people with multiple kids or close families never get time alone to introspect or explore their own interests, everything looks good from the outside, but every reward is a responsibility and the same cycle of attainment and desire propagates infinitely (unless you break the cycle, but I'm not here today with religious intentions. I'm merely providing my perspective as an over-achieving burnout).
People forget no matter how idealistic or what moral standing they have this system runs on money
I also studied physics and math at UofM (many years ago), and my life turned out just fine. Physics is an excellent major to pursue, especially if you’re unsure about your next steps after graduation. It provides a wide range of valuable skills and builds character, which are highly applicable to any discipline. Interestingly, only a small fraction of physics graduates actually work in physics. Many of my friends have gone on to careers in fields like Wall Street, medicine, law, IT, and various startups. Only a few have chosen the academic path, and this decision often has little to do with their academic performance. You don’t need to prove anything-no one (except maybe your parents) is keeping score. The key is to find your passion and work toward it. Trust me.
I grew up in a lower middle income family but attended a very prestigious private college initially majoring in physics but quickly switched to mathematics. My identity was also wrapped up in my supposed intelligence but I was extremely unhappy and went into finals my sophomore year flunking 3 courses(but did manage to pull out passing grades). What I realized was that my social skills were horrible and I needed to improve them, particularly my sense of humour. To do this I watched closely others who were funny and personable and gave it my best shot to learn from them. It wasn’t easy as my school was known for having one of the highest workloads in the country. But I made it through and find having better social skills and the easy ability to l laugh is a great stress reducer.
Such an inspirational video. I dropped out of society last year and living remote heart of France.
My mental health has improved, though i still regularly have nightmares centred on my previous work.
Your strategy on meditation, diet, sleep and journaling, is something i shall adopt.
Though Asian parents have a reputation for intensive parenting, i do wish i had Asian parents in my life.
Anyway, you are a beautiful and sensitive young man. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your story.
appreciate the kind words, hope ur doing well
I also did a major in physics and even a grad school. I fully agree with your experience of mental health affecting physical health. For me, I thought I simply had severe seasonal allergies that never went away. I had constant runny nose, random pains here and there, itchy eyes, migraines, etc. At one point, I couldn't even properly open my eyes in the morning because of all the gunk that accumulated around my eyes while I was asleep. Eventually, this autoimmune problem became so severe that I couldn't even go outside.
After I quit my dream of becoming a physicist, although I am still struggling to find meaning in life, a lot of my autoimmune problems have subsided significantly. It took me a few years to feel like I got my health back, so my recovery wasn't as instant as yours.
This goes out to say the ability to calm yourself in high stress environment is key. Perhaps, if I took some time to actively calm my nerve down during my academic life, maybe things could've been different. However, this is easier said than done. Being able to activate parasympathetic nervous system after experiencing highly stressful event is something (I believe) you learn as a toddler. If you lack these types of mental training then as an adult this becomes much harder to do so.
These days, I very much enjoy going out in the nature as well. Going backcountry camping out in the woods really helps to build a stronger neural circuit in my brain that can help soothe myself.
glad to hear ur also recovering and enjoying nature
Excellent video. This really resonates with me. As a person who went through nursing school with then-undiagnosed autism, I had a tough time and almost failed due to some instructors interpreting some mannerisms characteristic of autism, as nervousness and lack of skill. In the midst of this, my mentor told me: “The education system is an insane system, and if an insane system says you’re insane, doesn’t that mean you’re sane?” I went off the beaten path and chose a different career that is related to nursing in that it requires care and compassion, but without the noises and stimulation of a traditional hospital environment.
I know I already commented, but this video is a gold mine of profound wisdom. Thank you, sir.
of course, glad u found ur way as well
I also went through life with undiagnosed autism until this year. Sometimes I wonder if I should just continue living the way I currently do - just trying to hold on and brave through the insanity, or if I can do something differently
@@patricktsai2303 Thank you for sharing, my friend. The best thing is that, to do something differently, it doesn’t have to mean uprooting your whole life. (But if that’s what your heart is telling you to do, who am I to tell you differently?) We can work a regular job and spend time outside of that job in nature and following our passions. A lot of artists, entrepreneurs, and pro athletes have regular jobs too. It doesn’t have to be either-or. Hope this helps.
Just do it, Alex, chase your dream, make yourself happy - from an Asian mom.
I really loved hearing your perspective on modern life and life in generall. I will become a freelancer too, and i am working hard everyday to achieve it. I really can't work a 9 to 5 too, it makes me depressed and just unhappy. Life is really too short to do something you don't like doing all day. I work on my computer a lot, and i notice it very strongly when it gets too much of being inside and sitting too much. Nature is really healing and so welcoming. It makes a huge difference!
best of luck on ur journey!
@@official_awei Thanks a lot!
13:33 dawg really redefining what fighting an ailment means lol. Nah for real I had a similar story to you. I am south Asian and moved to the states at age 5. While I was never the top student like you, I was always among the best. I distinctly remember my father leaving a scar on my left shoulder that lasted for years because I did not get into one of the elite high schools in our city. I really did try and when I did not get in I coped by saying I didn't even want to go to my mother and that entered my father's ears and the next time he saw me studying to retake the test again in 9th grade (you can do this for admission to 10th grade). That is when he left me that scar. I can go on and on but I feel like all of this is what led me to make the decisions I did in college. I studied Computer Science and had enough credits to also major in math but decided against it. When I worked as a software engineer my father would tell all of his friends when I specifically told him not to say anything. He would even make things up to "elevate me" which is really just him elevating himself. It's all materialistic bullshit. I have come to a similar conclusion to you. I also realized that men in particular are the best when we actually lean into our masculine traits such as combat sports. But I was never allowed to do these things because "if I studied, the lower level jobs will be taken care of by lesser people". Think about how fucked that a is thinking someone is lesser because they are not as accomplished as you academically or had the same opportunities as me (I came from an immigrant home where education was of paramount importance and also have doctors and physics majors in my family. The programming started young for me). Materialism fueled by arrogance is what that is. I am seriously considering take a few month "mini retirement" as outlined in Tim Ferris's "The 4 hour work week" to Thailand and hire a pro may Thai fighter as my personal coach. My ultimate goal is to start gyms where I can teach other young men in my community that "yes, it's okay to have balls despite how much your parents tried to castrate you on all levels apart from physical".
Great video. Also UMich rejected me :( so screw your alma mater lol.
amazing story, thank u for sharing. i guess even umich makes mistakes lmao... best of luck with ur muay thai journey and all, i also started training MMA recently!
@@official_awei thanks. Only in the past few months have I truly become cognizant of how much sports is important for a young man's growth. Like no funny shit it shapes you mentally and physically in a way academia never will. It's truly saddening how many immigrant parents have drank the kool-aid.
I think my SAT was the only part of my app that was lacking. I did take it one last time but by then UMich's deadline passed. Oh well.
I got a full ride scholarship and was accepted to a few of the top universities in my state. Went off the college and it was never my passion, I had already been miserable for years in high school from that high achiever lifestyle. When going into the 2nd year I had major panic attacks and questioned a lot of what I was doing, ultimately dropped out . In that next year I moved out and started my life with my husband at 20 years old. It wasn’t always an easy road and at many times I questioned myself and felt I failed or wasted some huge thing I earned. Now after years of being lost I’m finally in a place in life where I’m very fulfilled, living where I want, living a beautiful life, and I’m so grateful I made that hard choice and lived life the way I did. It’s hard to break out of that pressure to be an overachiever.
i'm glad u found ur way!
Great content. We live in a beautiful country that allows people to be themselves. Many others don’t have that option. Be smart and carry on, GB 🇺🇸
We live in a beautiful world!
Your honesty is beautiful man. Godspeed to you!
I’m glad you’ve gotten better and were able to change your life for good!
God bless you❤
Now imagine being married knowing if you change to a lower paying job but with better work life you risk half your assets and kids.
that would be rough
Whys that?
as a man do what you want to do. I think as a son i would prefer my dad to be happy and stress free. Rather spend time with him than getting a ps5, iphone, mustang
@@ilzium8210yah but half the money goes to mommy and her new boyfriend who joins for pizza night while daddy grinds out the overtime. Unless mommy can’t get custody because she’s insane, in which case he might make it as a single father, but it’s tough.
Yup cant do that. Wife wants to be a “stay at home” and will leave if you downgrade
Cool video, it seems more and more people realize this. While it goes both ways, I find that our (physical) lifestyle is what impacts our mental health more than the other way around.
I dropped out of college today with half a Computer Information Systems Degree. I am going to become a firefighter and eventually move to Oregon to start my own business. I am scared to tell people but these videos make me feel not alone!
ur not alone brotha!
Good luck bro! I worked corporate for 5 years and am looking into EMT and paramedic courses.
I studied physics like you bro and I remember having really bad dizziness to where I couldn’t walk straight the week of finals.
Really? Is physics very hard and stressful?
@@orvos1459yes, although I never took it, my older sister and brother both took physics and they said it was really hard. Of course, some people find it really easy but for most it’s hard
@@orvos1459 It is. You can see a lot of world leaders and millionaires trying to boast about being a physics major (some even lie) just to get the genius aura lol
I relate to this a lot, especially the part about getting sick due to stress. For me, this happened in high school. I was pushing myself hard to get straight-A's while taking all IB classes and doing a bunch of extracurriculars. During college applications my senior year I developed a persistent stomach ache that turned into an ulcer. I was getting 3 hours of sleep making sure I got straight As while also throwing up blood every morning for close to a month. Eventually, it subsided, but I did not tell my parents that I was sick for fear that I would have to miss precious days of school, homework assignments, and that I would fall behind on my applications. I ended up losing about 12 pounds or so just over that month and I was miserable and in physical pain the entire time. And in the end I ended up not even getting into the school I was gunning so hard for in the first place!
Since then, I've made myself calm down. School was serious but I realized that I couldn't make it the life-or-death thing that I was making it be in the first place. Work is the same way. I have been able to find some measure of "success," which to me is just a quiet, comfortable life. That's all I really want.
that's a crazy story, glad u have found some peace
I can relate to this. I got a Masters in Manufacturing Systems Engineering and have worked for 4 different companies in one year and a half and to see how cutthroat a lot of these companies are, it makes no sense with putting companies ahead of my passion and health. Now I’m looking at other alternatives in life because this whole matrix we live in is a lie.
Physics Degree is very hard to comprehend for the average and above person. Because of the complexity of physics, it would be easy to go into business, financial, or investment career and be successful..
Why not chose someone who’s already dedicated themselves to that field.
@@aboveaero Physics majors think, "out outside the box" which means they are uniquely creative and see things differently than a business person.
@@tammyque1506 They thought so outside the box they ended up getting a degree in Physics just to work in business 😂
Your channel is starting to blow up bro, keep grinding!
much love brotha. will always remember that u have been around since the beginning. like way back
Can relate, the most healthy I've ever felt in my life was when I was unemployed. I wanted to wake up every morning. I used to welcome every single day happily. so I used to go to sleep as early as possible.
I remember going to college and 90% of the students call themself "pre-med" students. They major in biochem, chem, physics, neuroscience, etc. Majority of them didn't end up going to med school. Some changed majors. I was never a pre-med student and I majored in microbiology because it was one of those "smart" majors in college. I thought I would work in a lab, but after my first year, I took the risk to change major as my interest changed. I thought more about what I want to do in life rather than trying to prove that I am smart by majoring some hardcore physical science major that probably doesn't give me the career I want. I remember feeling miserable and stressed in the first 2 years of college. I look back now and am glad I didn't go with the majority. I changed majors even though some people had doubts that I should do that. I am self employed now and I escaped that whole corporate world. Once you leave school, you also enter another hamster wheel. I agree our mental health is way more important than just going with what others expect us to do. True happiness comes from choosing a path that makes you happy.
What do you do now?
@@chloe-ev3qk I’m a therapist with my own practice.
You are a very good communicator. Hope you will eventually find what you like to do.
I’m a physics major too and this is kinda goals
I wish you the best of luck man! Choosing to live by your own rules rather than others. Inspirational
Throughout the video I continued to feel inspired realizing that I could truly choose to be happy outside of societal means (material gain) but I also had some doubt. After being programmed a certain way it’s hard to break out of bad habits but I truly believe my desires are different from others and I want to live the happiest life possible. Thank you for posting this 🙏.
"live true to yourself. to do anything less is to cheat nature."
- me
Hey, I got an applied physics degree too.
I realized my American dream. And I rarely visit doctors and I cure and care for myself.
Just give yourself time, you will be fine.
Michigan has a lot of natural beauty. It's just brutal winters. It's a different type of appreciation for nature than Arizona for sure but all of Michigan isn't suburbia Umich
yup, UP is beautiful
I live in Ann Arbor and there is plenty of nature to surround oneself in in this area! But I'm guessing as a student he was pretty chained to the city campus. It sounded like he needed a different setting for sure. I personally love the gray skies and cool weather but it's not for everyone
I hope you enjoy Tucson bro! I lived there for a year and a half and loved the desert and weather, even though it's hot AF in the summer. There's so many nice nature spots there. If you get a chance, id reccomend checking out Bisbee, it's about an hour and a half away. Artsy town tucked away in the mountains
Great video bro! I'll be praying for you and your future success.
thanks my brotha
I'd say health care and basic needs are a must...having drive to do something is a great friend.
I don't blame you a bit for taking a sabbatical on what you are "supposed" do do. I have faith that someone like you will find your best way eventually.
I’m from Tucson AZ! Good luck babe. Spent my whole life trying to leave that place, when it’s 120 degrees in the summer you won’t want to be outside hiking. Maybe it will be good for you, I hope so. I don’t know.
Aintnoway bro lives in my city, you chose the right place for nature. Good luck on building your business and i hope that youll continue to have peace from the hectic and stressful life you had before.
thanks man, it really is a beautiful city
Have you ever thought about being a Psychologist or Psychiatrist? You speak so well and have a very good sense of mind/body and could help others in this type of career.
To be alive is a blessing and a curse..
Yeah this is literally it ☹️😭
A curse because of how we structured society.
Truly inspiring story Alex!!! All the best to you out in the desert!!!
appreciate it, all the best to u as well
I tried to do the forcing the 9-5 thing. Like way back I would totally ignorant that being really good at STEM things and kinda enjoyed the education in STEM actually DOESN'T inherently imply being a total egghead and being suited to the conventional STEM career approach. I was starting to put together that I was not of the temperament, and mentality of other formerly high performing in education of hard subject matters. However, I thought that well how bad could it really be if I have the technical skills, a lucrative income is pretty motivating so far as extrinsic motivation goes it ain't intrinsic motivation but it is better than no education, I'm a social chameleon anyway I am just going to put up with it and there shouldn't be too much trouble if I could just maintain that inauthenticity. To past me's credit that did actually work for a bit of time, but ultimately, I became extremely implosive and that was bad for my conventional career reputation anyway and high level well-rehearsed anger management techniques work only up to a certain point trying to be that inauthentic. If I didn't just drop the delusion about my improper motivation and self-betrayal I'm pretty sure it would just be an eerily reminiscent of the previous career 5 year cycles start off with some growing pains compared to the average but having the interest, motivation and enthusiasm that the acclimation lagging is trivial, then eventually start hitting the stride having the in role skills just meteorically rising and still able to maintain the forced optimism. Hit a snag and start to feel jaded as misstep is treated like it nihilifies the large satisfactory body of work like some Kafkaesque nightmare, become really resentful but successfully suppress evidence of resentful culminating in a "When Keeping it Real Goes Wrong" style screaming match diatribe like a total lunatic getting the bankers box and then telling them I don't need it because it isn't like there is anything there of value NOTHING at that circus was of value everyone else has tons of personal affects in their cubicles because they sandbag really hard I didn't have personal affects because I go to work to go to work I actually do my job. It is like the Stanford Prison Experiment and Dilbert amalgamation the manager almost has role conformity to incompetence the coworkers are successful at booty-smooching and make asinine advice animal style image macro type meme about the office within the office. Yeah, that's how you get ahead wasting time making memes in a format that has been out of style for a decade already.
TLDR No one unsuited for the 9-5 should ignore the advice to not try to force it self-betrayal always ends poorly. Don't try to masquerade as a drone it does work but only for a very short span of time.
very well said, thanks for the insight
Thank you for this man. I’m 18 years old and have no idea what to do with my life and despite worrying about it for multiple years now I’ve just gone in circles.
How do you get 40 hours per week working from 9:00 AM to 17:00 PM? With a one-hour unpaid lunch, that makes only 35 hours per week. No employers pay wages for your personal time during lunch hour. The only exception is when your boss buys the lunch because he/she wants you to work at your desk during lunch. Every office job that I've worked at started at 8:00 AM not 9:00 AM. I was required to clock-in at 7:59 AM or earlier. Where do you get 9-to-5? Is it from that Dolly Parton song?
So what do you do now for your 9 to 5?
Go Blue! Follow your heart and be good to yourself. Live on your own terms.
I loved my time in school and in particular at UofM. But I switched majors and went on to purse my passions. Had some ups and downs, but I have no regrets, except when folks don’t want to pay you for your services. Had I finished law school, I could sue for payments.
I’m glad you’re in a good space…
Go Blue, and hope ur also doing well
Some people grow up believing that there self worth depends on praise from others; first parents, then teachers then university professors with college grades, then then the workplace boss. This ultimately leads to depression and exhaustion from endless competition with others and frustration on realizing you are merely a robot serving others. The better approach is to develop an understanding of what will be important in your life. You are now free and self motivated to what you feel is important. So, the student studies physics not to get the best grade or medal but because this is genuinely interesting.
couldn't have said it better myself, thanks for the insight.
Yeah Alex, thank you for explaining the pressure of the "SUPER ASIAN" achievement syndrome. Be courageous and be yourself and find your own way. Your not alone living this pressurized lifestyle. This message MUST BE TOLD and UNDERSTOOD ! Love your closing thoughts: "Your not crazy , the WORLD is CRAZY !".
Mt Lemmon is goated my dude. I went to uni in Tucson and went hiking near the peak all the time.
Sunset Trail has a beautiful lookout and you can grab lunch in Summerhaven after your hike.
thanks for the recs, will definitely check it out
I feel you man. My mental health deteriorated so badly in highschool that I physically looked like I aged 30 years. I ended up dropping out and did online highschool instead and now I’m thinking about going to college and seeing if I can turn my life around and prove everyone around me wrong, including myself. But at the same time it gets to a point where i say screw all of yall, imma do my own thing and that thing I don’t fully know yet. I’ve been trying to trade stocks to see if that’s suitable for me making some sort of income, i’m really trying not to sound like a victim here but i’m at a crossroads right now on what I should be doing
Wow this is one of the most relatable videos I’ve ever watched. I did really well in high school, put a lot of pressure on myself to succeed, got into a good school, and then certain disability stuff came up, I got so stressed I had immense pains across my whole body and heart, and ended up leaving the school. But I’m starting community college near my partner and best friends that I care about with higher hopes as you have for yourself. I also plan on getting out in nature more as well. I wisy you the best of luck and will sub to follow along.
appreciate that, best of luck on your journey as well
I plan to do the same, in a few years I will go live like you guys, maybe I'll see guys out there, right now im gonna work a few years and then im out
Godspeed my friend
We need a good balance with work and rest. If everyone quit their job to live in nature, we would not have a functioning society. It would be important not to go extreme on either side
Back in the 70’s, both my uncle and his close friend were Physics grad and both went on to do very well. They were multi millionaires before retirement & they worked very hard. You have the brains but just need the right opportunity 🙏🏻 good luck 🤞🏻
Physics is super fun and I wish I could spend the rest of my life studying it. I looked at those types of job skills but outside university it's much harder to make a career with it. Cern and those types of jobs are heavy on the politics/clubs in many cases. Not saying Cern hires idiots just that it's hard to make a name for yourself because the costs for making a modern Physics breakthrough is almost impossible outside of a few universities. I graduated BSEE and majored in circuit design and stumbled into low level C embedded system programming and it has given me a pretty good career with the ability to move on from toxic companies easily. If you are burning out after a few years, remember it gets easier when you gain skills but you also have to deliver at a higher level but it's not that hard. I worked myself through college at a small town bakery and I watched a man work 30 years in front of the ovens (min wage/no medical) so it's hard for many there. Sure some people get a free ride off mom/dad and many of those people are successful but many others are not. My early life was awful and hard but my older life is great overall. Use you youth to get your degree and get into the work force. My recommendation is to work to retire early if you can.
I love physics too but got a business degree and a J.D. in Space Law. I am in a think tank studying a Space anomaly. A childhood dream realized. 😊
@@emzywillrich7243 wow - super cool
I studied physics and got my PhD in nuclear physics in a top university in the golden days of nuclear physics (60’s, 70’s). My school years have been a great journey, the best period of my life, when I hiked extensively to enjoy nature, sailed boats in the campus, biking, cross-country skied, chased total solar eclipse, while learning how to design/build particle accelerators and nuclear reactors, evaporating thin film for stripping electrons from high energy protons, building instruments to detect high-energy particles, neutrons and gamma-rays. The whole experience expanded both my mind and my physical fitness. My many extracurricular nature-exploring activities caused me several more years to get my PhD, but totally worth it. Even though I am now approaching age 80, I am still doing all the activities I learned as a physics student, plus scuba diving and ocean swimming. If one paces oneself in school without being imprisoned by the time pressure to graduate, and enjoys the academic journey, the burnout and ill-health issues, that you experienced, may be avoided, and the passage may turn into a lifetime treasure.
@@garywong3136 wow - sounds like you had a great career. I'm 62 and I stumbled into embedded programming (which I love) in my later years developing medical devices. My first job out of college was EMP testing for the DoD (B-1B) and I got to help Boeing test Air Force One's Communications system. Those Boeing engineers were a great bunch. I sometimes look back at how lucky I was at key times in my life, I had an awful childhood and we didn't have much money but somehow was able to work myself through college and get through the hourglass. My whole life changed after I got my degree. I interviewed yesterday for a new job and it turns out it's right down the street from where I live and a huge bump in pay. Interviews are intense and you have to really study and prepare for them. It drives me crazy when people show up in flip flops and don't prepare at all. I try and tell people that as we age our skills have to be better than the average skill set because if you have average skills they are better off hiring younger players. We were lucky compared to the people in the past that had to live through war, depressions, etc. I met many as a teenager that were in Nam and it really ruined many lives. I'm so lucky again in my later years to afford privacy and being able to retire. If I get this gig it will be my last full time gig before I retire. Maybe I'll teach somewhere and try and help kids learn engineering. Crazy it was Calculus/Physic's that really changed my thinking and my life. I was reading a physic's book (Mass I think) where they took a cube of ice and calculated the mass using simple atoms and it accounted for only 10% of the mass. Just think how existing it was for scientist's to figure out where the rest of the mass is from. Semiconductor physic's is another fascinating subject for me. Yes there are so many interesting things to work on out there and it seems people just don't want to put in the effort. Like you said it is hard work but once you cross the Rubicon it does get easier.
I love all the Honesty from this Video.❤ Thank you so much for sharing this. It helped a lot .
I just wish all the best for you bro
glad it helped. best wishes for u as well!
As a retired teacher and psychotherapist I can say that your choice to seek a more relevant and meaningful lifestyle is a very sane choice. Your metaphor of the hamster wheel was most apt. Good luck young man . Seek meaning in your life.
appreciate the well wishes, same to u!
Asian parents say to get a better education so you can make lots of money to live a better life. Well, NOONE tells you corporate world sucks. And as a doctor, you are not free to “save” your patients, but your are forced to keep them just barely alive to milk their insurance! And as a lawyer, you can only make money if you are crooked! Same goes for great business men…”it’s just business”!
I'm glad you've had this realization. I also had a similar experience with my overall health during college. Good luck to all your future endeavors! Just subscribed! Hope to see updates 😁
Congratulations. Walking is probably the only exercise we need. God doesn't complicate things.
Wisdom is the ability to tell between what actions lead to happiness and what don't
Bruh, applied physics degree in UM is really prestigious
You are so wise! I have been a nanny and childcare worker for years and I grieve for children sitting inside Alllllllll day. Babies are put in childcare at younger and younger ages, which means they are inside from babyhood thru high school. We need free creative out of the box thinkers and we have children sitting in a box all day being programed to keep this maddness going.