7 Phrases That SHOW You LACK Confidence
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- Опубликовано: 12 июл 2019
- Check out these 7 phrases that show you lack confidence that you probably use every day without even knowing it..
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The misconception about apologizing is that it's ALWAYS a sign of weakness. It's only weak when you say "I'm sorry" way too many times in unnecessary situations. But if you completely screw up in a relationship then apologizing should be the first thing to do.
Naah! Fuck the relationship. Last thing I want is to look weak.
I agree! This video is stupid!!
@@adipratapsinghaps thats called toxic masculinity my friend
@@captain-b4267 Did you just ask two questions and then immediately responded them with your own conclusion? That's funny...
Duuude if you forget to pick someone up at the airport you better say sorry if you don't want to look like a sociopath.
Thats what I'm saying. If a man makes a mistake, do women seriously find it unnattractive to apoligize for it?
@@Jiggonomics lol not at all! If anyone (not just a man) does anything that warrants an apology, then apologizing is the strong, mature, right thing to do.
Lmao true
It depends on how strong is the situation. If you late 15 mins and she is a little mad about it, then sorry is not needed If you have a good excuse.
You should say sorry when you really mean it. If you don't mean it, don't say it.
omg i would have picked you up i'm so sorry it's my fault i just didnt realise about the time difference 😂😂
Bruh what at 2:00 what nonsense is that "I'm sorry" in that context shows MORE CONFIDENCE than the " I was cruising around town with my buddy,, and totally forgot"
The " I'm sorry" actually shows that you are willing to admit when you are in the wrong which is the showing of CONFIDENCE.
While the later just means you don't respect the other person or their time, and that they are not important. And also suggest that you don't value your own word.
Kind of... I also think that assuming your mistake in a straight way is onde of the best ways.
@@evilzinabyssranger5695 that too but off course saying "I'm sorry" for every little thing isn't a good thing.
Yeah like he said it's quite controversial but you definitely shouldn't use it too often
XMckingwill thank u
@@obobobobobi it depends on the situation if you are definitely in the wrong saying "I'm sorry" is actually very powerful but refusing to admit it is what actually makes you look weak.
If you accidentally ditch plans with your gf, you should apologize. It's not a matter of inferiority; it's a matter of not being unapologetic after making a mistake in a relationship
I think its kind of own your fault with confidence. Like Yeah, my mistake cause i got late etc. Theres a whole video that can be done ONLY about this topic.
Andy B true that
No I rarely say sorry 🤣
Fr if you don’t say sorry after blowing your girl off then you’re just a dickhead
I agree Andy B. I get the gist of the video. But there are definitely times you should sincerely apologize. It's when you ALWAYS say it for every little thing that makes you appear weak.
Save yourself some time.
1. I hate to bother you but,
2. I'm sorry.
3. I'm worried.
4. I just.
5. I think.
6. Could I.
7. I don't know.
But You shouldn't say it...
Rarely
8. May be
Skipping the video makes you a beta
My guy
In Canada I’m sorry is how you show confidence 😎
More like "Soory." ;)
Is that the French part?
😂😂😂
Right it's our thing.
In Ireland too
"Could I get your number?" Leads to no. "Give me your number." leads to being reported to campus security. Alexander Grace did a great video on this real time.
or “ you should give me ur number so we can hang out sometime”
There about the same
U haven't spark the initial attraction yet.
"What's your number?" is much better than "could/can".
@@lifelyrics5659 sometimes that can happen on sight
**Instead of saying "I don't know", use the phrase "I'm not sure yet". It tells the other person that you're in charge of the situation, and looking for the answer.**
Say "ill figure it out" not "im not sure"
Saying ''I'm sorry'' is not lacking of confidence, it's having the confidence to admit your mistake.
And moreover, saying ''I'm worried '' when you actually are worrying is also not a weak sign, we need to remove this toxicity which men are unable to talk their feelings because they would be seemed unconfident. That's not how confident is. I would rather be a human who talks and is open about how he feels. If people see this as unconfident action, I'll be confident enough to do it.
It's not the apology, nor the ability to express feelings, it's the phrases themselves. Spilling a beer in someone's lap followed by, "I'm sorry!" carries a different meaning than, "I am sorry for spilling my beer in your lap".
@@chasatch What you said is true indeed in that perspective. I was looking at it in different direction.
When Alexander the Great turns around and tells he's army "I think we got this" 💀
I swear😂
I would of asked Alexander..are u sure lol..idk bruh
"Dudes, we totally got this."
Christ, this channel is dumb.
I don't really agree with the "I'm sorry" part, especially in the provided example. If you ditch your GF waiting for you at the airport for a trivial reason you should definitely apologize.
IMHO the ones unable to apologize are the real weaklings.
Francesco La Tegola you say my bad instead boss
If you can't say I'm sorry, it should be a clue as to what type of a future is to follow.
These women should check themselves and find out if these men have any respect for there mothers.Just remember that's your future coming.
@@EyyRev So that's what you always told your mom growing up "MY BAD"
Truth. Too much pride when people can't apologize. Usually, these are the people I avoid because they are full of themselves.
*_I'm not sure where it started,_* but the phrase "I'M SORRY" is used so much
Life Progress - ideas for a better life TV I’m one to do that..
@@TheTuta69 😂
@Alpha Strong42 it's something overbearing parents have pushed on kids whenever they do something bad and tells them to make a knee-jerk response to strangers without ecplaining why its bad.
Alpha Strong42 not unless they actually mean it.
I say it with a grain of salt
More to the point is that people should be able to say exactly, without fear of judgment. I am more than happy to say “I’m sorry” if I’ve done something incorrect or made an omission. If that says to people that I lack self-confidence they’d be incorrect - it’s that they lack an ability to introspect
Making yourself vulnerable and openening up about your fears is a powerful, confident thing that will help people to connect to you, since people are attracted more to rough edges and imperfections of someone, also it displays commonalities since everybody has fears - just own it, accept that youre worried and don't be weak about it, don't repeat it thousand times, don't try to be saved by someonelse, but to say it sometimes is strong. Also to apologize, infact done in the right way it shows that you are so confident in yourself than it doesn't bother you if you are in the "weaker" position in the interaction, you are so alright withyourself that you allow yourself to do mistakes and you care so little about the opinion of others that apologizing is the better deal since it is aligned with your innerbeliefs of moral and justice and you really don't care if the other person views that as weak. The strong thing is to apologize and than don't fall in the victim role afterwards, apologize but be alright with you making a mistake and don't change your overall vibe, maybe change some actions in the future but don't kiss her feet, dont become a nice guy that tries to please her because you have done something wrong, just go on being yourself.
I give up....... everything I do is wrong, I’m gonna start focusing on myself instead of changing myself over some random girl.
Narcissists never say, “I’m sorry” either
be little narcissist......female love narcissist man
its become pandamic.....
@@immortalaktunes7702 No they dont lol
Your success all boils down to the way you communicate with other people
I appreciate when someone asks if they can have a little of my time to talk about something. I do not see them as weak. I see them as showing me respect by acknowledging my time is valuable and by doing so I will be far more receptive to what they have to say.
Masculinity is wild and it’s a part of one’s character. Nobody can tell you what is masculine and what isn’t if you truly are a strong man and can guide yourself without masking your character with something you aren’t, covering up your bad looks, etc. I won’t, and I don’t, chase after women. I’m still a Virgin, and I’m trying to do good things for myself and the world as well. Who gives a shit about being in an unknown environment. I’ve already harmonized with the thought of my death, maggots crawling out of my eyes with blood pooled around my body, perhaps rotting in a ditch somewhere, flies all over it, wrinkling up, it doesn’t matter how I picture it, it no longer scares me. High school, first day, it probably scared you. First job interview, it probably scared you. Driving for the first time, it probably scared you, talking to an intimidating person, perhaps a murderer or a crazy person, it probably scares you. Until you became familiarized with the outside world. None of that matters to me anymore. I’m approaching life with character and passion. Not with fear, deception and anxiety that I’ll use in accord to hide what I am and be inconsistent with my own self. Take your life back. I wish you the best, wish I could come up with some sort of advice or cure to this behavior caused by things left in the past, but you need to let go and start being better. Let the big head overpower the little one. Find your way. I already found mine.
Not saying I’m sorry is a female trait (they have a hard time admitting mistakes) it doesn’t make you weak at all, unless you do it too much or for things you don’t need to be sorry for
Having appreciation of your ability to do wrong, and secure in your ability to try and heal the interpersonal relationship,while understanding that the other person has no obligation to forgive you, and being accepting of that, is not a sign of weakness, or lack of confidence.
There are so many other issues with video. I think this video should be called how to be a jerk.
I say what I want I don't care what people think I know that I am confident I am always courteous and kind to others I always try to be the best human being that I can be with a positive attitude and just live
Her: Honey, what would you like to eat for dinner
You: I don't know, what do you want
*DENIED*
hate it when i hear that from ANYONE
@@r011ing_thunder6 I know exactly how you feel. I mean, I understand when women do it, but guys...
Don't let this distract you from the fact that in 1999, the undertaker drove a guy straight through the announcers table
Mick Foley, right?
F
I'm sorry is a strong word so it needs to be used correctly, but what's bettet than saying sorry is owning your mistake by making up for it
"I'm sorry, I hate to bother you but could I just ask if you want to go out with me because, I don't know, I'm worried I'm a loser and I think you'll probably say no?"
I think I like this comment..oh er Maybe I don't,I'm sorry..I don't know.
Yuck
🤢🤮
Working on my confidence and there were definitely some helpful bits here. Speaking confidently is definitely important to developing overall confidence.
"Mr president korea shot a couple missiles at us, the secretary of state has been kidnapped and our military has been completely wiped out by an unknown enemy"
The president: meh im not worried.
Another great video, you've helped me a lot with your channel, keep it up mate 💪🏻
How about we say stuff and not care what people say as long as you’re not dragging people down. That’s what men do.
Yes, great video but only thing I dont agree with is the too many words. I love it when people speak their minds. I love to talk a lot as long as I'm not gossiping or bashing anything. It is ok
That's the point
@@christopherlopez128 oh yeah man. I love getting stoned too! 🍁
That is cute, but once you get out of your house and start dealing with people on the daily, you realize something very important, that thing is that reality doesn't match your perfect view of the world, neither does it match mine. It doesn't matter what you care about, it matters where people place you on the respect chart. If you don't work on your image and alter people's perspective on you, you will be taken advantage of, bullied, be used in work like a donkey, be payed less, have low chances of making connections whether they are related to love, work, friends, or even family. So no don't just be yourself, improve yourself and become the best version of yourself. That includes learning how people react to certain things you put out therefore refining your social skills.
Wisdom of Snakes Lmao that makes 0 sense. If you act one way, and alter people’s perception it will be harder for people to take advantage of you if it’s different than how you really act. You can observe people without knowing, and basically become fool proof.
Saying "i'm worried", "i don't know" and "i'm scared" in an honest way doesn't make you weak, it makes you genuine! If a person says none of these and just shrugs it off, even when he really feels that way, then he's lying to the person he wants to date. True strength comes in honesty, intellegence, respect and kindness. Because those 4 things are all that truely matter in the end. No one wants a dumb, lying, mean, disrespectful partner because they won't treat their partner well. On the other hand a smart, kind, honest, respectful person will have more meaningful relationships.
This person has failed to look at and concider what makes up a good personality and is going straight to thinking that stuff like this is automatically making you weak.
This video encourages people to say sorry less, also in situations where it would've been totally appropriate. That's just benificial to the individual, not to mankind imho.
Notice, none of the sentences were :
" If you or a loved one has been diagnosed with Mesothelioma you may to be entitled to financial compensation. "
That's a good point gamer. i noticed that none of them were "The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell."
I can’t believe i’m taking advice from a dude who probably lives in his moms basement and hasn’t even held hands with a girl...
what?
Hahah it’s easy to say that and not take action on the useful advice he preaches
for someone who has 1M subs, i doubt he lives in any basement
He usually gives good advice but the example on the "sorry" one (min 2:00) was really bad
Possibly right people on youtube study books but have no actual experience or wisdom gained from first hand knowledge.
I love this channel. 8 minutes of wisdom! I love it.
Let us know which video that was!
Can we add......But i wasn't trying to......(insert whatever it is...like....i wasn't trying to hurt you...) and then the parralel one, but i was trying to....(insert whatever its supposed to be). I hear that ALL the time. It drives me nuts. Like saying, sure, instead of a definitive YES! The I don't know thing...imagine that with a whine and a shrug. I try to go passed all of those phrases to find out what the person has to say, but being whiney puts me off right from the start. I would love to have someone, to turn to, to rely on and have faith and confidence in. Its really difficult, if I'm the one who makes firm, straightforward, outright decisions, alone!!
Anyway...after all of that little outburst..thanks for the vid guys. Wish I could share this...but it would be seen as a criticism!! Have a great day.
Bruh but I’m Canadian sorry is like my main word
You can just say it less and i dont think theres a problem to say with some body you love or your family but when badly needed
Bro, I'm British, how'd you think I feel!
I'm really addicted to this channel...
This channel really tough me how to be a better person and a dominant male in real life... thanks
THANKS BRO .. YOU'RE THE BEST
I tend to ask girls for things I want to do with them, because I was often pushed to do something and noone cared or asked, if I want to do this or not. For me asking is to ensure that everyone is fine with the idea. I don`t want to push people to do or experience things they maybe don`t want to do or experience. Sure, commanding is more attractive, but it is really awefull, if stronger people use their power to command others, without making sure they are doing it in agreement with everyone involved and for the everyones benefit.
Women: Stop hiding your emotions, I like vulnerable guys.
Also women: Eww, my boyfriend is too soft. He's always talking about his problems and sometimes I just want him to man up and get over it.
Factsssssss bro
That's an interesting one. But when you really listen closely here you get the answer. A woman wants a man to show emotions and his vulnerable side. To do that as a man requires strength. Never mistake vulnerability for weakness! A woman wants you to communicate your weaknesses but she also wants you to be able to deal with it yourself. If you only whine about your problems you show true weakness and that's a huge turn off.
If you hold women accountable in the same way you will find your gem. A woman that not just wants a strong man but who is strong an kind herself.
Yoooo bro!! Your channel is really valuable. 👏👏👏
Its the mentality behind what you say, if you say something from weakness because you feel like you have nothing and want something from someone (validation, courtship, acceptance etc) its negatively perceived. You SHOULD use some of these phrases if you truly want to say them out of respect. Walking around and not saying sorry when a sorry is due because the word means weakness will quickly make you seem like a narcissist.
A better praise than "could I get your number" or "give me your number"... is presenting it as a choice and hypothetical. This way it won't come off as overtly aggressive, but both respectful and owning/voicing what you want.
"How about, if you give me your number, I will give you a call and we can catch up later"
You're not specifically asking for her number, but indirectly communicating a "deal of exchange" whereby if she wants to catch up later on, then she has to provide her number. This way it is not framed as something you are purely taking, but presenting your time and company later as reason enough to be given the number. This is also a typical phrase that someone of more value would say to someone that is prying for more of their attention - like an employer talking to someone inquiring about being an employee.
I disagree with #2, sometimes saying I’m sorry is much better in the situation. And it doesn’t make u look weak, but shows that ur compassionate. I would take” i was cruising around with rob and forgot” as a bit fucked up rather than “ im sorry babe, I was with rob and totally forgot the time” .
A proper apology can be much better
This video makes sense. Very true, great video.
I guess Stevie Wonder was so insecure and lacked confidence when he said "I just called to say I love you"...
He isnt blind....
no offense to stevie but what a beta male move
Yeah, because love songs are good life lessons, you dumb sap. Stevie was definitely in charge there :-D
Pls make a video on how to stop being emotionally weak because I really needed this video bc I think I’m very sensitive and I know I can’t be charismatic if I’m very sensitive.
If you want confidence, do something difficult in your life most other people don’t or can’t. Your language will adjust accordingly
Thank you so much i love all your videos.
“I don’t know” can be used as a sign of not bothering to give a real answer to the question asked!👌
Omg I’m flabbergasted. All this time I been doing this, and wonder why people treat me the way they do. Wow!
Fuck them people bro
Apologizing or saying sorry is not being weak but being conscience from what's right and wrong...
I really like your videos because you don’t swear and I can play them in front of my
Kids
Definitely one of your best videos!
Great videos on this channel. So much good info
My coworker is responsible for bringing me orders to fill. One evening she forgot and I jokingly yelled “lazy!” and laughed. It was meant as a playful tease, I obviously went too far and I immediately felt bad, especially because I could see the wince of hurt in her eye. She played it off but I went up to her as soon as she came back and apologized for what I said.
This was the wrong thing to do?
I think not.
In the past I asked my crush out like: "I would like to..." "Could we...".
But yesterday I used the words: "Do you have free time? If so, let's meet."
I don't know if it matters or not, but I feel like it's the better way of asking.
Oh, and I also said "I don't know" too many times. Don't do that!
Alexander the great : "I think we got this"
I never had much luck with women now I know why, I've been saying all the wrong things
As far as 'I'm sorry', if a person is your equal, it would look weak to defend
a wrong position. I have found only the strong can say they are sorry for
something they know they did wrong. I'm never sorry for who I am,
for what I believe or for what offends others about me, my beliefs or
preferences.
It is possible to be polite and still get respect from people, have boundaries. No need to walk around being rude
Thanks for the tips I will use them well
I love your videos man,They boost my confidence and actually help me change, Keep it up
Admitting your sorry for something stupid is ok. Always saying your sorry is just admission of weakness.
This channel is teaching me something new everyday
Next it will teach you the difference between everyday and every day
I say “I’m sorry” A LOT. Definitely trying to change that.
Good advice! :-)
This is the best video ever but its the hardest one to apply in real life
It really isn't that hard.
I like the way he uses real life instances to show how unconfident you look when you say such words
love ur vids man .
When someone says " I don't know about that" I say that's right you don't.
Your videos are dope bro!
this channel is a goldmine
*Never* apologize *unless* you have too!
Lets stop at Never apologize.
to* You gonna apologise now?
thanks for sharing this video to us,it teaches us how to be more confident
So the I’m worried part. What if I’m constantly joking about being scared. Like “oh man this thing is so scary, or that guys really intimidating me, let’s hold hands” is this counter productive
One of your best videos.
Congratulations on 1 million subscribers.
The term "I'm sorry" when used as an apology does not imply weakness, as long as qualifiers are used - i.e. "...for that, or about that. Being sorry for one specific instance does not imply weakness. By itself, "I'm sorry" can be understood to mean a sense of worthlessness. "He is a sorry ...." is a good example. A better term for an apology is, "I apologize". You'll never hear anyone say "He's an apologize ...".
How many times is the same
Video said in a different way gonna be uploaded lol
He must remain active on the channel so yeah..
Tbh the more information repeated the better, because u most definetly wont remember the information given in a video by this channel which you watched a month ago. Thats why many people suggest reading the same informative book 10 times
@@conradrubin6594
*DEFINITELY 😀😊 😁
If it's in a different way, then it's not the same video
Find me a video where he says don't say these phrases. This video is the only one. So it's not the same
I really liked the ending part 👍
I am sorry, can be weak and can be strength. But in that situation of the airport sorry is strength
Good stuff! Grazie!
I disagree about saying "im sorry" i believe it shows good character.
It shows weakness in a big way if you're saying it all the time and it's apparently a big turnoff for a girl, so you should use it rarely, if at all if you want her to stay attracted to you.
Great video.
Keep it up !
Heh. Dealing with potentially aggressive people, opening with "I'm sorry to bother you..." is incredibly powerful! It shows you're not looking for a fight. Works here in UK, anyway. In general, 'sorry' is used much more in UK than USA.
Omg your words go strait up to my mind keep up the good work
Straight*, but we can see why.
What if you say "We need to talk. Alone."
Instead of the "I just need to talk to you"
Your the BEST brother
thumbnail looks like Jose from TMF
Bread Man it does but the clothes are kinda off😂
Fine line between confidence and arrogance
That guy in thumbnail was looking like TMF with glasses. 😂😝
5:12 My dude watches Steven Schapiro! LOL, it hit me for some reason!
Just be straight to the point 😎
I have to tell my lady i'm sorry when i am wrong and sometimes it brings peace than battles.
Congrats to a Mil Brodie!!!🤘🏽
talking less brings u more respect.....something which is taught in eastern cultures so much man
You talk too much.
Best video of the channel so far, but I had to adapt the phrases to Portuguese. In the end, we, here where I live, don't use many of those (for some, I couldn't find an equivalent).