Entitled Parents Want Me To Go To Prison After My Golden Brother Stole and Crashed My Car Because...
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- Опубликовано: 5 авг 2024
- 00:00 1st story:
Deadbeat brother crashed my Crown Victoria. Gets a night in jail he won't forget (u/Not-A-Cop-Throwaway in EntitledPeople)
14:07 2nd story:
My Husband Almost Killed Our Baby and My Toddler Saved Him (u/Safe-Cap-7244 in r/offmychest)
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"Noo, he can't go to jail, that would ruin his life, you need to go to jail and ruin you life instead", that's not your parents, that's your enemies.
Better parents would have told the cops the father crashed the car.
The poster wouldn’t have gone to jail for crashing his own car. The brother would have for his suspended license and driving while intoxicated. Nothing would have happened to the poster if he lied. It’s not illegal to crash your car in a ditch.
@@KirosanaPerkelethat isnt a better parent those are just parent that want to protect their golden child frome experiencing consequence
Anti parents
@@mrjaysen11 Aw, so the older brother shouldn't have been taught a life lesson, then? He would've definitely done something much worse if his brother and the cops didn't put an end to his entitleness, like a hit-and-run accident.
As a person with adhd, accidentally unaliving your children is not a symptom
Right! Mine managed to not kill my daughter thru her adulthood. I have damn near every symptom and DEATH OF OTHERS ain't among them!
Lose my keys so I have to call someone else to get her to school ✅
Forget to pay the electricity bill ✅
Get distracted and she's late for school 3 days out of 5✅
... But darn it she is alive!
@@MsDanyelleMforget where you’re phone is while either holding it/watching RUclips on it ✅
@@Allantitan Lol! I think you win! Best/worst I can offer is running around the house frantically looking for the glasses I'm wearing.
Every time my husband finds them anywhere in the house he either yells where they are if I asked or not until I acknowledge him or he stops what he's doing and brings them to me😂
If this guy's ADHD is so bad he'll stare at his child's stroller as it rolls towards traffic with his toddler screaming for help while chasing it, he should not EVER be permitted to have or care for children.
That story sounds so made up. She went from it being outside her house to being 2 houses down. The kid was playing with a cat but noticed the stroller, while 2(I assume) grown adult didn't notice anything. Then he got diagnosed with adhd ou5 of nowhere. It made no sense to me.
Honestly, that scare probably saved his brother's life. It's been said a million times, but parents who have a golden child don't just fail the scapegoat, but the golden child as well. So often they get a rude awakening because they don't know how to deal with being told no in adult life.
He probably would've ended up like Op and the brother's idiotic father if it wasn't for this
Saved his soul I think I’m glad this isn’t a my brother hates me as well as my parents
@@trashotakuwhat did the op do
@@Dominic_812 Op didn’t do anything wrong, I was just referring to the dad
Who wrote that bum ass ADHD excuse?
“We accidentally kill ourselves all the time,” then they say “People with ADHD react better in emergency situations.”
Um?
I have ADHD and OCD. That was the most juvenile, tumblr, my dad never loved me bullshit excuse.
As someone else with ADHD, this. Are we a bit more accident-prone? Yes, but we're not bloody lemmings...
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pretty sure people with ADHD don't react better in ANY situations
Your mental health isn’t your fault, but it is your responsibility. If mental health issues are causing behaviors that put yourself or others in danger, then you owe it to yourself and others to find a way to manage those symptoms and mitigate risk, and to take responsibility when you fail to do so and cause damage.
I really hate the narrative that having a mental health issue somehow absolves you of any accountability for your actions. No, you cannot help having a mental health issue. But it is your responsibility to make the effort to properly manage it.
Story 2 - Why are people asking what was she doing? OP was in the house but kids were with dad outside. I am confused about people low-key accusing OP.
everyone made it very clear that no one was accusing her, just that her account wasnt solid (which she admits to, because she didnt have the footage and just knew what she saw)
I think people wanted her to better explain where everybodies position was, but she only explained her position specifically and not the others until the footage came. I was also confused.
At first I thought the toddler and baby were infront of their house unsupervised, while the father is next door talking to the neighbor.
Cause people would rather support those fucking mental cases than real normal minded people.
This is because things weren’t adding up or the disbelief that the husband is just that negligent. OP’s description was that she was inside the house while the husband was out with her children. One of them screamed and surely the husband who should’ve been much closer would’ve heard them and acted before anything happened but apparently didn’t and didn’t act. However the OP who was inside the house was able to hear it clear as day despite being farther and even had the time to react and save her child. THIS WAS ALL DONE WHILE THE HUSBAND JUST STAYED IN PLACE DOING NOTHING!
Basically everyone was trying to give the husband the benefit of the doubt because surely no one can be that idiotic and negligent, but apparently the husband is and the security footage only went to confirm it.
Exactly!
how the fck do you not hear your daughter screaming "daddy"
I wanna know how she supposedly gets from folding clothes all the way outside to stop a stroller "careening towards the street". Keep in mind, she said the stroller was moving fast enough that the 3yo was trying to chase it. And a dad supposedly didn't hear the panicked scream? (Or in the later version, just stood there staring and apparently not attempting anything). Far too many details that strain credulity make this story is less believable than the first.
@@smallpseudonym2844 Indeed. Also, hubby was talking to the neighbor? One person not hearing a kid scream is one thing, but the neighbor didn't hear either? weird
Thats the thing is fake 100%
@@smallpseudonym2844 One of two things.
1.) OP was in so much of a panic her fight or flight kicked into overdrive and made her superhuman.
2.) The story is fake because why the hell would the father fail so badly?
@@Zminator1986 lmao. Now I've got the image of the mother bursting outside through the wall of the house like the kool-aid man.
/cue family guy scene
"Oh no!"
"Oh no!"
"Oh no!"
"Oh no!"
"OHHHHH YEAAAHHHH"
When I was 5 I almost died by choking on a big Lego piece. Two months later parents noticed I couldn’t breathe with my nose because I had a piece of blown up balloon very deep up there.
How the f-
@@spheres0082 to this day it is a mystery. My guess is some time before that a balloon blew up in front of my face and a piece got there
Also when my older sister was 6 she was taking a bath and the old gas boiler we had in the bathroom blew up, a piece of it hit her in the face and she lost like 5 of her teeth
Please change chocking to choking. I think you misspelled it. The misspelled word is too close in sound to a word I am sure you weren’t doing.
@@bearsong8486 I don’t get it, what does it sound like?
As someone with bad ADHD that had to be medicated, that isn't an excuse. I was always told growing up that my ADHD isn't an excuse for something I can control, and leaving a child in a stroller to pet a cat IS something I can control. Yeah, my mind would have been like "Ooo! A kitty!" But I also would have brought the stroller WITH me to the said cat.
Story 1 ended nicely at least with the brother knowing his mistakes and repenting and living better.
Mom should've tried to be financially independent from pops. It's clear that if pops wasn't there, OP's brother wouldn't have turned out to be how he is. Enabling Mother and Narcissistic Pops. Poor guy had a bad combo.
Any ending that has the entitled kid ackknowlidging and repenting his/her mistakes is always a good note to end on
@@justisolated5621 A welcome surprise.
the guy that the dad beat up was his fault for talking it was It his business if he didn't say anything he would be okay
@@gaelserna4268No, calling someone a narcissist does not make it okay for that person to beat you up. It wasn’t his biz, but assault is a hell of a lot worse than calling someone an accurate insult. Story is fake as fuck anyway so what does it matter
Crown vics are pretty or stylish, but they're built like a tank and are cheap to maintain. I understand why OP loved it.
One of my best friends in high school had one. I miss that boat.
Up until the heater core fails, had the remove the whole dash on 1 model 😅
@@jonnyv54284.6 2v engine parts are cheap. You sure you didn’t just have air in the core?
@@bishoppope2921 I was a mechanic, their heater core cracked 😅
Only thing is the common key thing doesn't exist it's the craziest thing I have ever heard
Story 1: shit that’s karma.
Car-ma 😁
Actually, I wonder why he would have been charged with assault. Assault is the threat of injury, battery is when you actually hit someone. Aggravated battery is when you do a lot of damage.
@@markkondilis9237 Underrated comment.
I have ADHD. I have babysat. Do you know how many times one of the kids in my care has died or come close to it?
ZERO. BECAUSE I'M A RESPONSIBLE PERSON WHO KNOWS BETTER IN SPITE OF THE ADHD.
ADHD is NOT an excuse for nearly getting a baby killed!
Same here with ADHD. I have worked with kiddos for years, including teaching swimming lessons and there hasn't even been a close call.
Am I clumsy with myself sometimes and bang into things? Oh ya definetely. But when it comes to the wellbeing of others I am hyperaware and hyperfocused. As are most ppl with ADHD I know are too. That's why they say ppl with ADHD make for good paramedics. I've never known someone with ADHD that was careless about other ppls safety, just with themselves
Exactly! I also have ADHD. I actually hyper-focus when I’m responsible for young children. When I used to volunteer for my daughter’s preschool classes, the teacher was always delighted to have extra help, and I returned home exhausted because of my senses being on 1000% for several hours. 😂 Small humans a have no idea the many ways they could die when they run without a care in the world. 🥲🥲🥲
Same!! Like, they are seriously giving him a “get away with your incompetence” card.
I'm becoming 30 this year. I had to grow with ADHD and to make it worse, a dad who believes ADHD is "a made up condition" and "something that people made up so that they have something to blame for their own mediocrity". Let me tell you, I managed to have the best of relationships with the old man. It wasn't easy but I've learned to manage my ADHD. My 7yo nephew grew up with me. I've babysat him ever since he was 2 months old. ADHD is not an excuse to reach that level of absent-mindedness...
Not everyone has the same degree of adhd, and even then this could happen to any parent, and i know because i have seen them with teens that tell me storys about how they son or daughter had an accident because of y or x thing, plus you take care of a child what 1 day a week? 2? For 8 10 hours? Now do it for 24 hours for 365 days of a year and lets see how yoy do
I'm so sick of people excusing ADHD bs for everything bad that happens .PD that person who lost a pet should not have pets ever again.
ADHD is not an excuse especially as an aduly. Seek treatment. Implement fail-safes. A child couldve lost their life.
Damn, the baby running after the stroller had more balls than her dad.
Last story - 100% concerned the father was high at the time this all happened. Not paying attention is one thing, leaving the baby IN THE ROAD and then having no reaction to both children being hurt? Drugs.
S2: That one commenter who told OP to "understand" her husband and his ADHD to help *him* reLally pissed me off, WTF? I dislike kids more than next person, but OP could've lost both of her children that day all because of the careless husband so the commenter saying Op shiould try to understand him just cause he had similar situation is basically saying "You can't blame him he had this mental illness so its not his fault but more your fault for not helping him AND Your children" really pissed me off for some reason
I agree people on Reddit are crazy
I have ADHD, and this whole scenario isn't that. As you put it perfectly this is a case of a careless husband who like that commenter, will use this condition as a shield for their crappy behavior.
Where have you been lately? That exact excuse is used constantly these days.
Husband doesn’t watch his kid.
Kid gets kidnapped
Commenter: you should understand he has ADHD.
@@spiritsnake89as another person with ADHD, I second this. I can often tell when I am about to, or starting to zone out, and will make sure to batton down the hatches (so to speak) so that everyone is safe. This includes while cooking, driving, watching children... A supportive partner is a great thing to have and can help out, but we do still need to take responsability for ourselves.
Seems the brother in stoy 1 has realized he needs to get away from pops in order to not suffer such a screw-up again. 😂
First story uncle is a gem to OP
I have really bad ADHD and that is no excuse for what happened in that story. I take care of infants as my job and i can safely say that I have NEVER had any situation anywhere close to this “because of my ADHD” it’s not an excuse.
Imagine your stomach was cut open to deliver the baby and just 6 weeks later you have to run to save that baby. Possibly dying in the process. People don't understand how big of a cut c section is. You can die during or after. I can't imagine the pain the woman went through and how much of an selfish bastard his husband is to put her through it.
Adhd is not an excuse to put kids and animals in danger. If you can not handle the responsibility you don't have neither.
Narcissist people really hate it when you pointnit out.
Second story. People saying she needs to parent her husband are crazy, he is a full grown man. It's also impossible to keep eyes on children at all times and especially if one parent thinks the kids are with the other parent. My ex and I called it quits when I got fed up with his irresponsiblity. there
Not really a fan of knee jerk "divorce him" comments but in this case it's justified. The man is a liability and almost got a child killed. At best that's like having 3 toddlers because obviously your husband needs treating like one. At worst he's going to need extra monitoring because he's a danger to his own children.
Either way the kids will be safer without him around. All kids should have a good father but he isn't one. He would have just stood there as that kid got hit by a car.
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My thoughts exactly. I tried to give the dad the benefit of the doubt, until I heard the recount from the security footage. To just leave your children midway and walk away to chat with a neighbour... 💆🏻♀️
Bro, story 1, how funny to send Dan a card that says "I'm sorry my dad beat you up :(" in my group of friends, that's the ultimate show of "I ain't my parents kid, and I'm sticking by you"
Story 2: SORRY SNOWFLAKES YOU CANT BLAME ADHD FOR THAT
9:01 yeah, asserting your dominance in prison doesn't work that way.
Story 3- think about your and your children's future and safety. And your mental peace. You will have to live your entire life
Im sorry, adhd is no excuse for this crap. He literally left a baby unattended to pet a damn cat. And to just stand there and do nothing? NOTHING?!!! This guy cannot be trusted to watch the kids alone. And the commenter making excuses for the husband because he has adhd too caused his own cat's death because he says adhd. I don't think his comments were very helpful. Sheesh. Id probably leave because of the stress the husband would cause me because I couldn't trust him. Sorry.
I have ADHD and have worked with kiddos for years both babysitting AND teaching swimming lessons. Never once have I had a close call. If anything, I was more hyperfocused, hyperaware and had quicker reflexes when it came to other ppls wellbeing and safety. As are all the other ppl with ADHD I know.
The life expectancy thing only pertains to those with ADHD being more impulsive when it comes to their own safety. But when others safety is involved, it's easier to focus. It's why ADHDers are known to be good paramedics, they tend to work well in high stress situations like that.
Could possibly be trauma/ ptsd related (dissassociation and unreactive) but even if he also has that, its no excuse for putting your kiddos at risk like that. And should be a wake up call to the husband that he needs professional help. OP should make that a stipulation if they are to continue a relationship
@@dragonagegirlExactly! Same with me (I have ADHD too). I am always hyper-focused on the kids and hyper-aware of what they’re doing to the point where I usually can predict when something is about to go awry and stop them. Or catch something that suddenly falls off the counter near them.
Have ADHD and TBI never killed a pet or a kid.
To be fair, it's good that the brother at least took some responsibility in paying for the car repairs.
This is exactly why my ADHD ass will never have kids, I have a hard enough time taking care of myself, let alone trying to keep someone else alive
Story 2: Wtf. I would immediately file for divorce if this negligence happened to my child. I have freakin’ ADHD too, and I can pay attention way the hell better than that. (It’s more of a lack of ability to control one’s focus, not a complete lack of focus entirely. One can anticipate the changing focus ability, to an extent. One can also forcefully hyperfocus on something important, like the lives of one’s children.)
Even if he was sorry, I would leave him because I would never be able to trust him again, and for me, if there is no trust, there can’t be a relationship. I could stretch the end of the relationship all I want, but with a lack of trust the relationship is now finite.
Story 1: as the proud owner of a decommissioned Crown Vic myself, those cars rule. They are built body-on-frame and they can go for 500,000 mile if they are well-taken care of. No wonder it outlasted the beater cars!
The people trying to excuse 2nd ops husbands actions suck he still did what he did if op could hear her child im surprised he couldn't
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ADHD is not a excuse and the husband should be expelled fron the children's life because he prove he is uncapable to raise children and keeping them safe.
It amazes me that people are trying to blame the mother when the father is 30 YEARS OLD, if your kids are outside you keep a damn eye on your kids, its absolutely crazy to me to blame a disorder that you can easily get help with
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Dave: You’re so entitled OP.
Also Dave demands a car, then steals said car not once but twice when he doesn’t get his way then crashes it whilst drunk, driving without a license and not insured to drive it.
16:43 the op is right, she doesn't need to be parent to the husband too.
And about why wasn't she watching the kids is that as she said this has never happened before, she didn't have a doubt about it. & husband is a parent too, watching them is the least he could do
People were seriously telling her to supervise her husband when he has their kids outside
At this point a divorce is easier because it's one less child to care for
Mothers often hear what others don't. In a deep sleep, a mother can jolt awake when the baby makes a small sound in a room down the hall.
I share my driveway with four other people and my neighbour was speeding down the driveway right as my son was about to run out into it and it was the most terrifying moment of my life. I managed to pull him back by his jacket.
Bonus is that my neighbour no longer speeds up and down the driveway
Dude should have called the cops the first time.
Story 2: ADHD is such a cop out excuse.
Story1: This is an intense rollercoaster! It’s amazing how you managed to stand your ground and protect your boundaries despite the chaos your family caused. Your uncle’s intervention and the way you handled the situation with your brother and parents is nothing short of impressive. I’m curious to see how things will evolve from here and if your father and brother will ever truly change their ways? Thanks for sharing such a gripping and personal story!
On the 2nd story: my parents are like that these days. They're old now and i think that's the reason for it but whenever they strike up conversation with the neighbours the whole world could end around them and they'd hardly notice. If i'm not around they leave the doors open for our dog to run out and bother other people inside their own homes. I've told them that at some point this situation is gonna happen again and THIS time our dog is gonna find her way into the busy street and get run over, all because chatting somehow is the most important thing ever and for some reason requires all available attention. They keep ignoring me when i say this and its so frustrating.
I know that reddit likes to preach for divorce immediately, but in this case i think that it's the move. That husband clearly isn't mentally or emotionally attached to those kids if he didn't cry or react at all prior to being confronted... OP needs to get sole custody and keep her children safe. Use this incident in court to make sure that your husband can only be with your kids SUPERVISED. Adhd or not, no one just walks away from their own baby, especially not on a busy street. That husband is not safe to have those kids alone, period.
Losing Babies. You can eventually forgive your husband. Eventually. Maybe.
He's going to have to work *really* hard to get back into your good graces. A second chance is OK, but he's going to have to earn it.
As someone who both has ADHD and worked in child care, I'll admit it's hard keeping track of all my students at all times. So I make it a point to regularly do head counts, keep all the kids in the same room, and to keep structured timeframes. Toddlers are hard to control but I still hold myself 100% accountable for anything that happens. If he knows he has trouble watching the baby he should make rules for himself so he doesn't lose track of his kids. Tie yourself to the stroller, make safety checklists. Something. Accidents like that are completely preventable and ADHD is no excuse
Story 1: I’m glad to hear that the brother got things together. To me, it’s a sign that he wasn’t a bad kid, he just never had to deal with any consequences. That doesn’t excuse anything he did before, but it speaks to his ability to actually grow.
My dad was outside talking with the neighbor across the street when they heard a large truck horn. There I sat in the road with the truck stopped in front of me. I had climbed out of my playpen, out the open door, and crawled to the street. My dad caught hell for it.
It's horrid and frankly worrying that people are excusing the husband because he has ADHD. That does not matter in the slightest. It also does not explain why he just stood still with no reaction to his child being hurt and his other child possibly dying. I don't know if divorce is an option for OP but I'd certainly consider it.
Also absolutely infuriating that people are telling OP to get her husband checked for it like he's her child. He's a grown man and if he notices a problem with his health or behaviour it's his responsibility to get it checked out.
Story 1 I havent heard the last update but man I hate op dad and brother from the beginning and the mom. Like, they treated his brother like he was a god and everything he did was nothing wrong and acceptable. Til he got busted for fking driving under the influence and then wanted to lie to the police to their faces??? Thats a crime right there and I would gladly have them arrested as well for even attempting that in the 1st place. Im glad the brother got a wake up call and changed his ways for better after getting his shet ran while behind bars for abit and own up to his actions.
Now the parents, holy hell where to begin with this one. Like the guy said, Narcs at its finest. They failed as parents, failed at teaching their golden child son right from wrong, failed at taking accountability, failures at its best. The moment they get called out, in public, with nothing but the truth hurts. The dad is obviously the worst. He was a bomb waiting to explode and he did on a random witness who called them for who they are, got that ass beat as well, turned into a mute after getting out, looked like he got out of a fight with Mike Tyson and lost, and this man still have the nerve to fight the lawsuit??? Dude, you lost hard. And it took a threat of divorce to make him suck it up and take it.
I might be or might be right, but it seems all of this stems from the dad being the root of the family's problem. The brother changed quickly after learning a lesson; the mom actually made him see reason (with threat of divorce) and hasnt tried/said a damn thing. Only 2 people actually understand the situation and the gravity of it to take the L and not start anymore bs, but daddy dearest, he got that damn sayian pride to not back down from anything (except when he was arrested for assault) and even started a fight while in jail. Op family would be better off without him, and that probably would have fixed the family.
Story 1 doesn't quite make sense to me because what happened to the criminal trial? Mediation and paying damages to the victim are part of the civil trial that happens after the criminal trial. Prosecutor would have had the father dead to rights with all that evidence
@@redjoker365Probably a private settlement.
second story with people using this guys adhd to excuse why he literally forgot his baby need help. no actually. no amount of being adhd means something like this should happen
Stroy-2….. wtf every one has that kinda of story?? Eerrmm no no we don’t, not every mother or father has a close death call like this. If you have an oh no I let my child role away into a busy road whopise…. wtf no that just doesn’t happen
I know? Like I am not a parent but only parents who didn’t really understand that they were taking care of a baby that can’t do anything because they didn’t pop outta the womb with knowledge and skills would have a near death experience like this.
With the last story - my Ex and his mum were like this - my children were placed in danger a few times as the grew up and once with a bus and another time with cars and another time at a park and several other times with lack of care or attention from the adults and they (Ex and his mum) did not call out at any of those times I was aware of or take actions but stood there like statues or like waiting for the hell to unfold as if watching TV - I also noticed that at those times they seemed to have a present lack of giving a dam about them for any one or anything else but themselves and their own personal needs and I had to have eyes in the back of my head and their reactions each time was cold and unattached with lack of feelings or even care/ love towards my children - it was like living in consent survival mode watching out for my kids and I with eyes at the back of my head and they had no attachment or love toward the children... the EX and his mum also have ADHD and who knows what else was hidden from me with their health issues .... they used to flip also which I regret having stayed for so long with them in our lives... protect the children or have possible mental health issues for self and kids in years to come.... they seem to have no empathy for anything but themselves at best..I too did wonder a few times if they were trying to kill our children.
For me it's also the trauma of the toddler daughter. She was frightened and screamed out while trying to save her brother. I don't have kids but the maternal parts in me heard the scream the mom heard when she ripped those stitches running outside. Poor babies. 😔
Even before i was diagnosed with adhd, i knew that i was easily distracted. When i watched kids, i made sure that i paid extra attention to them. Adhd is not an excuse for child endangerment.
Dave gives Do It For Dan vibes.
I'm sorry. But I hate how many people are trying to excuse this man for not paying attention to his children who are in his care and who are his responsibilities. There were three adults outside and not one was looking after those kids.
ADHD is not an excuse to try to push blame away from this man for not watching his kids when he took them outside. OP did nothing wrong. I don't care how sorry he is or if he has a mental health disorder.
Ffs some of you are ridiculous. This man was in the wrong. ADHD or no. Period.
Oh absolutely, as someone who has both autism and anxiety, it pisses me off to no end when other people or the person themselves tries to use their disabilities as excuse for their sh!tty behavior or actions
He's absolutely in the wrong 100 percent, but divorce is a drastic step that will have a huge impact on the kids growing up. Jumping straight to that would cause immense harm to the kids, it's like punishing the kids for the dad's idiotic mistake. The mom should not have to parent the dad, the dad just needs to learn from his mistakes and grow up. The mom probably should forgive him as long as it was not intentional and he shows improvement, it's his fault if it wasn't there would be nothing to forgive but it is.
Story 2: It was too hard to keep even ONE HAND on the stroller that had your BABY in it? Forgive me if I don't buy that for even a fucking second.
Story 1:
*#ENTITLED**!AUDACITY up to 11 !!!*
Once Dan said he was suing my father I’d probably say “good he deserves it.” Because if my parents were like this I’d have no remorse at all.
No one gives a shit about ADHD - especially as an adult. Stop trying to victimize the Fathers inattentiveness by empathizing with ADHD. If he can't handle holding onto a stroller, get one of those Infant Backpacks and wear it frontwards so they're always with him. Man needs to grow up and actually watch his children.
I'm glad the uncle recognized that he was wrong for not filing the DUI
How dare that guy telling a narc that he is a narc ahahaha he proved his point instantly
having ADHD and the fact that he locked up is a bad combination. I've known people who lock up in a bad or even dire situation (yes even a minor one). It's not fun to witness. Case in point I was working at a place when an OLD fire extinguisher decided it would start going off though not full bore. All one of my co-workers could do was stand there with his mouth open and point at it. While vocalizing uh uh uh uh over and over. I had to push past him to get at it to shut it off (Old valve like a garden spigot). Told him I hope I NEVER have to count on him in an emergency.
Story 2: I'm not a parent or anything, but when a child screams, i turn to see whats happening. Our brain is literally hardwired to go on alert when a child screams.
And this guy didn't notice AT ALL? That's not even a case of not paying attention, thats fcking ignoring a child's top lung ¨LIFE IN DANGER, HELP ¨ type scream.
There's something wrong with him.
I have severe ADHD. It’s an explanation for chronic lateness due to time blindness (I am responsible for making up that time or dealing with the consequences.) It’s an explanation for mood deregulation due to sensory overload (it is not an excuse for repeated mistreatment of others.) It’s an explanation for forgetting where you put your keys only to find them in the freezer (I am responsible for finding mitigation or prevention techniques for that.) These aren’t always things in your control.
It’s not an excuse for putting a life in danger. And at 30, it’s his job to treat his symptoms as they happen, not his wife’s. His wife is not his manager nor his mother.
Yeah thats a divorce right there. He showed himself to be an inept protector and ai dont see how your relationship could recover from that.
she is bad at making decisions, he is dangerous. this isn't his ADHD, there is more going on there.
the fact she asks the internet what she should do with a person recklessly endangering her child is bizarre
That 2nd story, im sorry but how tf op has to even ask the question to take bd back?!?? Thatll b a HELL NO from me if u put my kids in danger no matter wat reason🤬 the cooments are ridiculous ppl saying the didnt get wat happened wen op literally said wat happened. Da Part for me was bd sayin it wasnt that serious. Dad knows hes git alohabets he caused it. Op your right in protecting kids.
What language is "alohabets" from??
Trust me, the first story is every bit as real as the sky. My mother went through a similar thing, with the favoritism and narcissism. I experienced it first hand with my grandma and step grandpa. My grandma knew how to fake seizures and one day she did exactly that. My mom had coincidentally hurt her ciatica bending over and was in the hospital with grandma when my grandma admitted, right to her face, that she was faking for days to just get pills. The cherry on top is that the brother got all the love and money he wanted, all the while he left his three kids, had a fourth, left him too, does meth, is an extreme alcoholic, and thinks everything belongs to him. Something happened with the baby boomers that made a lot of them into assholes not worthy of the dirt under their feet.
Story 2: So... careless _and_ completely useless in a crisis. Not a winning combination there.
My former neighbors had a little girl who would scream constantly while just playing with the other kids. The first couple of times I heard it, I looked out the window to make sure everything was okay. But I quickly figured out that she just liked to scream, and apparently no adult in her orbit was willing to take the time to tell her not to scream unless something was very wrong. Because people grow deaf to it. And if something ever does go very wrong, everyone (who knows her at all) will just assume that she's playing as usual. She's constantly crying wolf without realizing it... and nobody tells her to stop doing that.
I don't know if the toddler in the story is that kind of a kid, but I've been around a lot of parents who've basically become accustomed to ignoring their kids until they're done speaking to other adults. Some kids are always trying to call your attention to weird little completely irrelevant things that they happen to notice. And rather than teaching them not interrupt unless it's important, the parents just treat it like ever-present background noise. I wonder if that's the case here. Of course, even if it was, it would just be a reason, not an excuse.
Story 2 sounds so weird. Neither the dad, nor the neighbor realized what happened, but the mom inside could hear them?
Story2: Your husband froze. Unfortunately, that's one of the 3 F's when confronted with an emergency. Fight, Flight, Freeze. Now it might not be his fault. Now, that doesn't change the fact he's untrustworthy. You can forgive someone and acknowledge their remorse is genuine, but that doesn't mean you have to trust them.
That parkour course looks cool🗿
Fathers can also experience post-partum depression, though at a much lower rate than mothers.
That's my best guess for the second story. The husband/father seems negligent and uncaring towards his kids to the point of "was he trying to get them killed", so unless this was part of a larger pattern of abuse/controlling behavior, I would guess he has a larger (than ADHD) mental issue going on and was simply overwhelmed to the point of inaction in the moment, until he was confronted and it became real.
Parents can absolutely accidentally frick up like this, that's why they call it an accident, but OP's reaction implies this may be larger or is at the very least not something she can easily move past in their relationship. Therapy for both parties may help, as well as more cautious childcare practices on the husband's part.
story 1: two black eyes 😂😂😂😂😂 he got told TWICE
Maybe not filing the DUI was a mistake, but it seems to have worked out, as the brother seems fully repentant, even to the point of straining his relationships with his parents who had enabled him.
ADHD is not a magic get out of jail free card lol
It's nice to see that the brother has turned himself around 🙂↔️
I have ADHD. My spouse has BPD. I have to care for xem like a parent. I can TOTALLY empathize with a spouse who needs my extra help in caring for children (in my case pets) properly.
What is it with narcissists named Dan getting the best redemption arcs? Like between the first story and the infamous "Do it for Dan!" Saga...
Bluds delusion scale is 10/5 if they want to send the mistreated kid to jail because they golden child crashed the m kids car. Wild 😂
I have ADHD and so does my daughter. It's 90+% for a kid to have it if 1 parent has it. And do you know how cautious I am with her when she's playing or doing stuff? Very, we are both very curious and like to play roughly but I have practice to hold back and not get carried away. So I'm teaching her not to be carried away when she's playing. She's almost kicked me in the face a few times. I guard her and try to advise her on things so she knows what she can and can't do. I don't baby talk to her and always talked and explained things to her normally and she's quick on the pick up. ADHD is a self regulation deficiency, its why we can get into games for hours but hard to do homework, cuz in games you see the consequences of leveling up and making progress that's very noticeable but with homework there is no such consequences. It's not till later in that you see those visible changes when it comes to that kind of work. Ppl with ADHD don't like when there isn't some sort of immediate visible change cuz delayed satisfaction inherently goes against our mind set. When it comes to learning new things we throw ourselves into it and research it like there's no tomorrow cuz it's something we can see and feel a change in. Look up ADHD here on RUclips and youll see a professor explain it and he hits the head on the nail. Feels weird seeing someone put words to how we, people with ADHD, have felt and explained properly.
Lmao dad standing on business
I have ADHD but when it comes to a child, I would literally abandoned anything I was doing and just focus on the child.. I have a baby cousin, and we were at a family gathering. All of the time I was there I just sat with her playing her games and only separate when her mom picked her up to eat or something. Its not that hard to pay attention to things especially when you know it involves something you have responsibilities to. I managed (after sooo long) to find a way to get me to pay attention to things most of the time when there are other people I have to interact with. And I'm only 21.. This guy is in his 30s.. He could've learned to cope with his adhd earlier if he tried.. Adhd is no excuse to just straight up leave your own child on the side of the road.
Dr. Doofenshmirtz highjacked that first story for sure
I have seen videos of stuff like this, of little kids being found on the side of the road, without apparent supervision.
second story i have ADHD and a now 12yr old i had so many moments of them almost dying but breaks on the stroller are amazing. and screw everyone with you don’t notice anything with ADHD but no mum is amazing because we are attuned to our children
Story 2: We are not acussing you but we are acussing you, we are not deffending your husband but we are actually trying to defend him.
Guys the stoy can be fake, but it does shows how people would go out of their way just to attack the mother.
I mean there are many possible explanations on why she could arrived at the time but you all want her to explain you with detailed specifications on why she got there, or why she wasn't with him.
Reddit users and RUclips users doing the same thing
That's reddit for you, stupid people on one side of the aisle or the other in each story
ill take shit that never happened for 500
story 2, I have the attention span on a freakin peanut but I have never NEVER risked my childrens lives by leaving them like that. Trapped in a stroller. I've made mistakes but the husband needs some help.
People like these seem to have the wrongest reasons to have a second child. Take punishments and consequences for favorite's mistakes so they never have to feel sad or underprivileged, extra resources/partners to steal like they are some scout tasked with finding 'a good one', and why not, probably spare parts as well.
2: people in story 2 are so desperate to make her responsible for her grown ass husband‘s mistakes. She is not responsible for managing his ADHD for him and she certainly not responsible to give him a pass when one of her children was almost killed because of it. I would never let him be alone with the kids ever again and I’d definitely divorce him
The red pill mindset is frying what little brain they have left.
Adhd is literally not excuse for what happened
If my cars not where i last parked it im calling the cops right there
CAN YOU PLEASE SEND ME THE REDDIT LINK TO STORY 1?!?!?!?!?!?
Story 2 - narcissistic whr. Husband should divorce n run.
“Missing 6 teeth on the upper left side.” If the father has his wisdom teeth that’s all of his teeth upper left canine over. If he doesn’t it he would literally have no teeth left of his upper front teeth.