Story 1: Aunt is the true MVP in this story and we need more people like her. I have disablities and work with kids with special needs. Parents who do this kind of crap only end up hurting their kids and make them unable to deal with anything as adults.
know right, i would have tried to get my aunt to gain custody over me, in sweden , its more up to the child if he/she is 12 years or older, where the child would live. ofc, with the concent of the guardian.
the guy who posted this has made 3 other stories about this brother and the aunt is, once again, the mvp of them. This is REALLY a reverse card as the aunt is usually the insane one
Bro the aunt was a literal all-star. The fact that she gave him a locked box and a completely different location to keep it makes her the best aunt ever.
The first story.. yk I personally would be SO petty. Like when they got mad bc of recking their own room and trying to steal the safe money I'd just be like "what's wrong? I thought you said doing this was ok because of his special needs" maybe then the unfit parents would realized how the guy felt
hold on the guy who posted *story 1* is holden-position-4 he's the guy who's posted 3 other stories about this same brother, who not only did this, but also thrashed every other birthday party because it wasnt about him, so much that the holden's 14th birthday party had to be cancelled, it was eventually un-cencelled after the brother got grounded, but only under pressure by about, OH I DONT KNOW, *literally everyone in the entire school because he told everyone* oh yeah the brother also stole the op's mini bike
I am pretty sure that the reason the parents got mad at the brother for ransacking their room was because his behavior finally started hurting them. When the brother ransacked the op's room the parents didn't care because they weren't being affected in a negative way.
they were by the accusations and guilt. but it wasnt enough for them to look past their special son and somehow they didnt seem to think stealing was wrong themselves unless it affected them.
"He's special, he's not like you." Yeah, he's a fuckin' thief is what he is. We get it, lady, you only love one of your kids. Jesus christ 90% stories with family problems seem to be about how the golden child does something shitty and the parents don't think there's anything wrong with it and they're surprised when their unwanted kid goes no contact.
That last story? I feel for them. I could see my grandmother doing that. She always used to overstep on everything with everyone. People let her get away with it because she was a little old lady and was always 'nice'. But me, being the eldest and most "outspoken" grandchild, I started setting up clear boundaries and consequences with her. Nothing like elder abuse, but stuff like, "Alright, you took my truck, which you have no claim to, without my knowledge or permission. I'm keeping the keys hidden from you and i'm not talking to you for weeks. No, I will not let you use it at all anymore, no matter what you need to haul. Should have thought about that before driving it across half the state." You HAVE to set boundaries and enforce them with people like that. When they cry or whine, tell em to suck it up. They are grown adults, and need to act as such.
1st Story: As a person with special needs who is a parent of a child with special needs this kids parents are abusing him. And I'm talking about the brother. Special needs does not mean a child can't understand boundaries. My child knows boundaries and if he oversteps them we have an immediate conversation about it. We talk about how he would feel if someone did that to him and he understands what it means to see things from someone else's perspective. Special needs is helped with patience but not with ignoring them. This kid has more issues that have been instilled by his parents lack of parenting than anything he was born with.
This is the same kid who threw a birthday cake at a birthday boy and wouldn't let his brother have a birthday party cause it couldn't be about him. And this is the same kid that stole his brother's Mini-motorbike
This is an issue we have my sister-in-law who is special needs. my mother in law babied her and wound up several times having to call the police on her in her teens because of her getting violent. Aside from the required hold for such a call she never really had any consequences fo it. Now shes in her late 20s and is a ward of the state. She has been kicked from many many programs for violence. The only reason she's with the state is that my mother-in-law got covid and was stuck in the hospital for almost 2 months her sister made the choice to start the paperwork to sign over my sister-in-law because she wasn't going to be able to care for her especially since while she was in the hospital my father in law passed from covid and left her with so littly income that she couldn't afford to pay for the homes anymore this was an issue she created not him, Also the physical and mental side effects she had from covid she just cant anymore. Ive been with my husband for 12 yrs now, its been a wild ride with the inlaws. and Because her mother refused to teach her how to act her mother spent a lot of time alone because no one could handle being around her daughter who is most definitely not as incapable as she pretends to be at controlling herself and acting in any way civilized.
The first story is SO frustrating!! Luckily his aunt helped him. I know plenty of people that had issues like that and never had anyone backing them up and ended up never getting anything back either.
I was always told, by my mum who works in child care, that all kids regardless of specific needs should be taught boundaries and right from wrong. Those first parents are just awful.
fun fact: the same parents cancelled the OP's birthday party because the brother "could've gotten mad" and "try to blow out the candles himself" (because the brother would always be entitled to the candles)
@@schizoidmeme5470 Don't worry, in the end the parents regretted it and the brothers had heart to heart conversation And uh...their mom may or may not had been admitted to psych hospital
The fact in the first story it took until the younger brother trashed the parents room for them to finally discipline him shows how much they didn't care about op also the Aunt is a freaking hero I'm surprised she didn't call cps on the parents because allowing a child to do what they want is a form of abuse
I absolutely hate parents who spoil their special needs kids. They don’t need to be treated like royalty because of their disability; it just simply takes longer for them / it’s harder for them to understand things but either way, for the most part, they just need to be treated like any other kid
Exactly, they need to be taught, sometimes more than the average kid. Some need accommodations like extra testing time or being able to have music (or noise cancelling), but none of that calls for allowing your kid to straight up steal and ruin their siblings room like that.
I will say to guy who made the video :Keep crying you musr teach your brother and you want your mother and father to go to jail for 5$ shut up it is your mom she made you alive she pay everything for you dont be weak how old are 5 it is right to your perants to teache you how to be strong not weak
I have autism and I knew very damn well since day 1 that stealing is wrong. Hell when my cousin left a toy at my house I felt so guilty that I had a breakdown. Keep in mind I was 5 and by then I thought that I somehow accidentally stole it.
I'm autistic too, and ngl I've stolen a few things but I was aware it was wrong, I just knew I could get away with it. It's not about being able to tell right from wrong, it's precisely about being smart enough to measure the consequences. And if the brother knew there were no consequences, why stop?
My brother is high functioning autistic. He NEVER steals and is a great guy to hang with. It's not the mental issues with kids all the time it's the parents...
First Story: These parents are literally abusing the word special needs just so that their youngest son can get whatever he wants. I am also just surprised that the parents are just fine with the youngest son going through his brothers room whenever he hides the money. Honestly I think that the younger brother got what he deserved when he then went through his parents room.
OP saying that if the child has an allergy that MIL could do something to cause an allergic reaction. That is more true than she realizes. Seriously needs to have some distance between them and unfortunately hubby needs to be on board as well. Just until MIL stops what she's doing.
even if meat didn't harm OP the MIL very obviously doesn't respect her boundaries, and she's sure to do the same about the baby. What if OP and husband want the baby to be at daycare and MIL just takes them out to take care of them herself? That's the kinda thing that will happen.
Being special needs myself. I am incredibly grateful my mother didn't let me do that kind of shit. I definitely tried, but she wouldn't let me get away with it. I hated her for it at first, but now that I'm an adult, I am incredibly thankful for her.
Yeah except I didn't hate my mom as a kid I respected her because I knew she wasn't doing this just because she didn't want me to she was doing it because she was trying to be an amazing parent
2nd story I have ADHD and anger problems as well and honestly i’ve faced a few breakups like that before due to disclosing those things to my partner and then them gaining a fear of me due to that even though i’ve managed well and never been physically or emotionally abusive and almost always willing to talk (aside from working hours). I recommend not disclosing the anger/trauma problems to begin with because people will often, unintentionally or intentionally, use that against you as a reason to separate instead of being willing to tell the truth. At the very least you should talk through that and make it clear that you would never physically or in any way intentionally bring them harm. It’s an odd pattern but I’ve realized that it is a pattern at this point and I never want my partner to feel fearful or uncomfortable disclosing why they truthfully didn’t fit with the relationship or feel afraid of telling me the truth for traumatic fear of retaliation. I want the people I love to be truthful even if it hurts. I know that I still have a lot to work on but I wouldn’t ever want someone in my life to feel uncomfortable telling me how they feel about something I said or did and that’s why i’m working with my therapist to this day to get better and understand how to function and be a kind or understanding person.
Bruh I have ADHD asburgers and so much more. My mom kept telling me being disabled is not an excuse, it just means I have to work harder than anyone else. I'm glad she taught me that way because it made me a better person.
When I was diagnosed with Autism, Aspergers and ADHD. My mom freaked out. This is when I was little then my Dad told her to calm down explaining that this doesn't change me. This is say how I'll be in the future. Some years later a 20 year old man who doesn't care who people view him and can get vindictive when someone he cares about gets wronged. As well as a couple of communication issues. Functions....adequately.
1st story, holy hell those parents are ruining both of their children's lives. If they love that 'special' brother so much, they should keep him and let OP live with the aunt - you know, the one that actually cares about him. 2nd story, she's for sure controlling, but they're both immature. When someone has hurt you really bad in the past (as OP said he did) the smallest thing can make all the pain come back, so it definitely makes sense that she would use those instances because the wounds have reopened and they feel more recent. Definitely his choice whether to drink in his own home or not, though; don't know who she's kidding thinking she has the right to dictate if a grown man can have 3 beers in 3 hours 😂 Over all, I side with OP more than the gf 3rd story, that woman is CREEPY AS HELL! Since she has no respect for OP or apparently even her own son, I can't see her having respect for the child. Maybe for her actual kindness, she gets to see the baby with everyone else in the family on holidays while supervised, but she should not be permitted back at OP's house after that. Unacceptable, overbearing, and self-centered behavior unbecoming of an adult.
The MIL being creepy as hell is a huge understatement, she literally trying to starve op during family gathering by making everything with meats on purpose and then she acted like she is being respectful and caring to op just to trick op to eat meat which causes food poisoning. The MIL is a heartless monster.
Yea I agree. My brother has a condition but he's not spoiled like that so he doesn't steal and destroy the house. Our parents disciplined us from an early age.
About that last story, it would be a small thing to cut contact over if it was the first or second time, but it feels like it was the hundreth AND she literally lied about the meatballs, so she intentionally fed you meat knowing you can't have it and when you are pregnant. So yeah, it's about time you cut her off, and kudos to your husband for sticking with you on it
agreed 100%. even more so the fact she was only ever "nice" like a manipulative r/nicegirl she was nvr "kind" which the difference is basically being selfless in everything, selflessly caring, helpful and accepting all that u r especially ur diet even more so the more yrs uve been on it. kindness is a dogs love cuz they love u unconditionally beyond a humans capacity cuz most great dogs with great owners love u more than themselves. being nice is helping cuz it feels good especially if it helps u. being nice depends on how u feel not the person u care for no matter what ur doing for them. i mean ive always thought like this even more so when hearing about "nicegirls" but if u google niceness vs kindness it explains this. glad i grew up thinking like this without needing to look it up or b taught it by my "nice" dad. they needed to go no contact from the 5th time they teased meat in front of her when giving her little to eat. say for 2 months minimum, make it clear b4 and after y u did and to care more selflessly and without ulterior motives. then go the extra mile and say b4 the next time they cook or pay for food if they try to secretly give u meat ull call the cops and claim food tampering. simply describing the meatball scenario to most cops would likely get them arrested at least and should definitely work out in court if u were to go that far. i mean ffs shes pregnant and being poisoned b the witch no matter her intentions.
Second story: my dad is a ex-alcoholic and his anger always came out more when he drinks, and I thought it's not as bad as my mom described because I had never seen it myself, until a wedding where his family made him drink more that a few beers and he was really horrible to me, and it's really scaring, so I can see maybe why she might have been upset if he has a history, but I would not have held it against him for long
@@Gallalad1 i think most of the details were left out by the ex which OP didnt know which was much more obvious. OP gave a significant amount of details but couldnt give her perspective of things.
Op already had therapy for his alcoholic addiction and knows his limits ,he admitted to his addiction and got help . His girlfriend held his addiction and past behaviour and mistakes over his head and tried to control him . I'm a child of an alcoholic and it took losing all of his kids to face his addiction and he set up limits on how much alcohol he could have while staying sober while being allowed back into his kids lives .
I would make a plan in the last story. I would sit down with the mother in law after the kicking out as a whole family. Then I would tell her everything, that I was so happy, when I met her, that she felt like a mother, that I see how much she cares for her grandchild. Then I would tell her the negative things, that I am afraid of allergies, that I feel like she is poisoning me with meat, everything. The next step would be to go no contact for a few days and then she gets one last chance to earn back my trust. If she tries one little thing than she will not be able to see her grandchildren. She seems not like a totally evil person. Maybe there's a reason to the meat-story that needs to be addressed.
Story 1)Because it hit "their back yard" i.e. their bedroom and their personal possessions! When it hits personal, they change their tune. Story 2) your suddenly became 5 and needing permission. You've come a long ways from where you were and going by what was stated further in the story, did alcohol have any play in the past behavior and she's thinking that may revert back due to alcohol, she's way off base. I agree she needed to walk! Story 3: uhm, you had at least one child plus friends and acquaintances having kids so pestering of when the little bundle is coming.
2:48 I would do I wanna go to target and get like those little safes get it and hide the keys somewhere high where he can’t get it in the protect your money
Last story.. Your mother-in-law literally tried to poison you WHILE you are pregnant... Nuff said. She'll NEVER respect your wishes, and I'd never let her live it down. She'll be like, "Oh... I decided to get him a COVID shot without your consent while I was babysitting him"
@@JY-ek4ux I think it’s an example. Because again for small children it doesn’t have a lot of testing and because the COVID Vax (any of them) is based on a formula similar to how we make the flu vax, it’s not recommended for small children, as virus strains are unpredictable and childrens immune systems might not be able to handle both at the same time. Therefore possibly putting them in harms way without consulting the parents.
@@JY-ek4ux people with heart problems shouldn't ve taking it as it can cause myocarditis (aka inflamation of the heart) abd pericarditis ( aka inflamation of the out wall of the heart). People with and with out underlying issues risk death if not properly treated. The scary part is you can be fine one moment and having a heart attack due to either of those.
I think you are over exaggerating. Mil didn't try to poison her. She has no medical reason to not eat meat(if op did id instantly say nta), so saying she can't eat it as opposed to she doesn't want to is an exaggeration. Lack of meat in her diet has made her intolerant(her own choices caused this). She threw up, she and the baby weren't going to die from eating it. Comparing eating meat(without a medical reason not too) to a vaccine that is not recommended and possibly dangerous for small children is ridiculous. I applaud op for standing up for herself because mil refused to except her lifestyle and tricked/forced op to eat meat but to be honest she and husband brought all this on themselves. Red flag was mil taunting her with meat and refusing to allow op to bring food she can eat, that should have been reason enough to limit contact especially in regards to food. It sounds like they let mil treat op horribly the entire relationship and now somehow it's unacceptable because op unknowingly ate meat. They both knew mil had been doing this to her for years and they allowed and enabled it to continue. I have zero sympathy for someone who allows themselves to be treated horribly for years and finally decided to cry victim when it goes to far for them. So in my opinion esh. Op for allowing her mil to treat her horribly for years with no punishment or consequence along with allowing her to prepare meals unsupervised. Ops husband for not sticking up for his wife, not enforcing boundaries to protect her, and allowing mil unsupervised access to meal prep for her. Mil for refusing to accept and respect Ops lifestyle.
@@smartypants8533 No.. Technically "poisoning" was not her intention, it just had 99% of the same effects. If you know someone has food allergies, you keep that stuff away from them. Technically a restaurant isn't trying to poison people, by serving bad clams or whatever, but it's still called "food poisoning" and get into major trouble over it. I don't like vegans pushing their beliefs on meat eaters, but I would never try to give one food poisoning.
Story #2: Assuming the OP is around 70kg, their BAC(Blood Alcohol Level) would be around 0.039%. Where I live in Canada, that would be just legal to drive.
first story : when i was a kid i would never steal, even when my parents never told me that, it was common sense that its not mine so i shouldn't have it, i was the smallest kid in my family, sometimes i would ask my brother to give me something and when he'd say no i would go tell my parents, honestly now i feel like a jerk for doing that, but eventually i grew up and stopped and gained common sense.
Story #1: The OP, holden-position-4, has made countless updates, his mother hand a mental outbreak and resorted to self harm, the dad came home and seen this and severely beat the brother which finally set him on track. OP hasn’t heard or seen the mother and the dad has realized how terrible he is and the brother also is trying to be better. The OP and the brother actually sat down and had a wholesome talk about his problems and the brother realized and even said himself he was horrible. I hope this family gets back on track with the next update
Jesus Christ, all because they couldn't bear to parent him to begin with. I feel so bad for families who don't have the proper resources or wherewithal to raise their special needs kids right.
First story,a spoiled child is not special, it's just being a lazy parents and not caring. How they treated the older son is disgusting and he probably has issues because of second story, it's not your fault she's the messed up one, and she needs therapy. Third story, Mil is just a piece of work, she made the choice ages ago to be vegan so respect her lifestyle and as a woman who had a child, I hated the fat jokes and belly rubs. Ask before you touch a pregnant woman
Is this the same brother that stole the OP's bike and kept flipping out and ruining birthday parties? It sounds similar, especially with the parents being awful and the aunt being the only sane one.
If he’s got special needs that just means you need to especially teach him boundaries, not let him do whatever he wants cause it’s easy. Once they have something set in their mind that this is how the world works, it’s CRAZY HARD to break them out of that pattern. And when they got special needs, you set them up so they act in a way that they can live peaceably with other people when you as a parent are gone. Who else is gonna take in a kleptomaniac? No one. It’s setting them up to fail
First one, LAZY parents who clearly have a favorite child. I was technically a special needs child myself, so seeing this kind of excuse is just annoying (and believe me, people use this excuse more than some may realize). They are gaslighting their oldest (which, funny enough, I went through despite my special needs) and setting their youngest up for failure when they grow up Second one, not an expert in relationships, but a grown person does not need permission from a partner to have a drink in their own home (assuming that OP is not a recovering alcoholic). The last one, total monster-in-law. Not only is she beyond disrespectful, she sounds manipulative as well. She's pretending to be nice while doing incredibly, intentionally mean things to convince her victim it's just in their head and they are misinterpreting things. Not only that, what if OP had a serious medical condition with certain meats (like alpha-gal)? If OP had one of those conditions she and her child could have ACTUALLY DIED. This MIL is dangerous. If they do keep her around they absolutely should not let her be around the baby unsupervised, and she should be banned from serving any food or drink
When someone is really nice to you just to betray you a lot, that is not a very good relationship and I feel like when people force things on you, that is what really shows it
Last story: I know the wife says the husband is on her side, but I'm just not seeing it. Like this lady has continued to pull this crap and nothing was done. And do they really believe after ALL that bullshit that when she simply says 'okay I'll cook vegetarian', she'll actually do it? She had to be damn near poisoned before husband put his foot down? I'm terrified for that kid.
First story: I had a similar problem, but it was my mother who was stealing from me. Second story: three beers isn’t “a lot” to drink. And third story: I’m a bit pissed at that one. I’m happy the husband is supportive of his wife, but the MIL had no right doing that to OP.
Story 2, 3 beers in 3 hours is the most moderate way you could possibly drink, literally. I'm a culinary major with an alcohol license, we were taught the body digests a serving of alcohol properly in about an hour. So, you were being incredibly responsible with your alcohol intake.
@@stygiandragon3865 has to find my alc certification textbook for the details lol. 12 oz of beer, 1.5 oz of 80 proof liquor, 1 oz 100 proof liquor, and 5 oz of wine are each a single portion. If you want to get more specific, look up a bac (blood alcohol content) chart, because gender, age, & weight, and how drunk you get from the servings you have all depend on those variables aswell. It's not just the amount.
Its more about his bahavior in a long distance relationship. You don't need permission, but you also don't need to start a fight or make a big deal out of it. Some girls are overly controlling because of self-esteem and with a long distance that emps up. Some guys like a controlling figure, like a mom in there life to take care of everything.
Hi I'm a pescatarian and trying to make a vegetarian eat meat is highly disrespectful and rude. Tricking some to eat something is also disrespectful and dangerous.
Second story: That girlfriend is toxic. If she wanted to break up with OP, why didn't she say something? I think her dumping the OP is a blessing in disguise because now the OP has a chance to form a healthier relationship with someone else
@@TheFlamingoBird Better keep him away from banks too, they don't have as much cash as they used to but it's still enough to drive a greedy kid like that insane.
Story 1: even satan is scared of someone who just goes ahead and ransacks people's rooms, even their houses, just to ducking steal someone's money, and their parent still make up excuses. Glad that brother got what they deserved. Story 2: BIG W for the OP, they deserve more than that controlling gf. That gf just took a L.
That one about the vegetarian pissed me off. How can you push your own diet on someone else. It doesent even sound like the op is overbearing at all about it. It’s just her personal preference and the Mother and law needs to respect that
Story 1: these parents are why their kid is going to end up in jail. He may have learning issues, but that makes it even more important to teach boundaries and guide him in how to live successfully in the world. They are doing both of their children a disservice. It's pretty horrible.
second story: God, if there's one thing that I won't tolerate, it's controlling "partners". Not only that, being autistic, and where communication issues are more prominent, it's as if this what-if were exploiting that "weakness". Like, she'd neglect to be more specific about what she do/don't want, or what she do/don't like, etc. but argues about me being stupid, or that a *normal* person would've picked it up.
1st story, don’t worry OP, I know exactly how it feels to have a sibling get away with whatever they want because their “special” 🙄 And then my parents say “you don’t know about it that much” but I do, I have done research on it as well. (saying it because I’d rather not reveal what they have, I don’t like sharing much on the internet)
#2: "what should I do?" bro, nothing. OP should just be glad she dumped you so now you are free and open to start a relationship with someone who actually loves him. #3: I mean, I'm personally not a fan of vegetarianism either, due to health concerns over all the artificial bs that's dumped in there - might as well start eating straight out of the chemical refinery. But that's my personal opinion and it's not my place to force it on anyone else if they have a different opinion about things. Like, bruh. Just live and let live, why would it concern the mother in law what op is doing with her own life? Like, what you eat is your personal choice and it does not matter whether anyone agrees with it or not. Anyone trying to argue against that is just stupid and needs to shut up.
"He's special needs" is just really saying "It's too hard to teach him." If he really is special needs, they should be educated on his specific condition and how mainstream he can be as an adult. Then they should be learning, with whatever help available, how to meet or exceed that level of function. Otherwise, they'll be limiting him to possible homelessness, institutionalization, or prison once they are gone.
Had a similar issues with my “special needs” sibling. I opened a savings account as a teenager. Even as we got older the sibling expected me to give them $$$ when they had money problems. They were shocked when I suggested they get a job! I severed contact with them about 10 years ago.
The first story is literally my life my mother has favouritism for my younger brother yet me being better than him in every aspect yet I'm treated inferior unless it's for information/needs
to be honest I feel for the LP because this is how I was treated when I was growing up every time my sister did something I always got blamed for it every time I did something very minor I would get the most harshest punishment possible from them every time I went to my grandma and told them everything that they did they would instantly put me over there knee and blister my ass with a belt in front of Grandma and then they would start arguing saying oh this is just just to teach him a lesson but my grandma defended me every single time so no wonder me my mom and my dad have such a rocky relationship and no wonder me and my sister don't really talk like we did back then it was just one whole fucked up situation
I once had this happen. I saved up 600 dollars in my wallet to but a new game system and when it arrived I was still a work and guess who was using it at home? My brother. It already had signs of damage such as a crack and paint chips. I was so mad. My mother came up to me and said did you get a gift for your brother and i immediately disagreed. She then yelled at me about "whos it for?! Not just for you I hope!". At that point I snapped back at my Mom saying that I've been saving up for the last month of my career to get it and that my brother had no right to open it and damage it. I then tried to rip it out of my brothers TV and he immediately started crying and fighting he was 16 at the time and I thought he was so pathetic. My mother came in and shoved me out saying "it's his console! Not yours!". At that point I called my dad about the issue and we'll he wasn't happy. My dad was always a up standing guy, always fair and reasonable. When he got home he immediately yelled at my brother to give me the money and after a lot of crying and "I'm sorry! I didn't mean it!" From my brother and wearing from my mother I got the money back. Props to you dad your the best
I think of a guy I know who’s all upset that I won’t follow his religious beliefs cuz I’m not comfy with it but it’s clear he wants control He’s wanted other from me so I’m not talking to him after I confront him which I did but he wants to argue😠 I know if I give in he’ll start shaking from too much stimulation
Story 1: want to be super petty and teach a lesson, the hard way? Amass 2k, let your brother steal it, if your parents don't want to do anything about them, report them for disability fraud. Your brother won't be entitle to any kind of aid or assistance if he has 2k in "savings," be it in a piggy bank or an account. Or, you could just do what me and my brothers did when we had a disagreement, settle amongst ourselves. Story 3: "I feel stupid and paranoid" And so you absolutely should, because, a vegan eating meat, doesn't instantly reject it from their system, it takes a few hours, your body has to attempt to digest it first. The only time your body instantly rejects something, is when it'sa concentrated poison; its why you vomit hard when you drink too much alcohol. Sure, she admitted it was pork; but here you are serving up an over embellished story of symptoms that just don't happen, spreading stupidity and paranoia.
first story:bro stealing is bad in every single way and you allow that type of behavior at a young age can ruin the child future as they think stealing is fine what are you gonna do when the police arrest him?saying he special so he could steal?
Story 1 was... SO STUPID how can he/she ( I can’t remember) live with those parents like who would want to have to live through a life where your brother is stealing from you and your parents are backing him up. The story with the games and beers (lol) She is definetly cheating on the op and gives a stupid excuse to break up with the op.
I wonder how old the OPs brother is, because the way the OP explained that his brother was crying because he couldn't find the money. You have to be pretty young or greedy to act like that
@@Daariencollingridge All the stories span from when he has 10 and his brother 7 to when he went out home at 18/19 for college... and even some stories when he had to go to repair his brother's bike. I think rn the OP is in his 20s (23 probably).
Story #1: Dude, I’M special needs, and I don’t do crap like that! And special needs, for me, only makes it harder for me to control my tics, which are movements or sounds that I have habits of doing, and my additional Autism doesn’t help with that. But those parents were basically MOCKING people with special needs. Kudos to the aunt who stood up for the OP.
Story #1: Well I know who's going to the nursing home when they get older and who's going into state care when that day comes lol. Kids may be inexperienced and a little naive but they're not dumb and they'll remember how you treated them when they become an adult and you're at their mercy. 🤨
Quote: "As a person with special needs, I have to Say this, I would like to apologize to you for having to deal with those crappy parents but let me Say this, one day your parents may need you to look after then When that day comes put them In a Nursing home and leave them there for the rest of their days :) Thats What i would do XD if my parents treated me this Baddley."
Third story reminds me of a similar story about someone who ordered exclusively Gluten-Free at a restaurant. The staff member who took their order didn't get them the Gluten-Free stuff. So when they reacted poorly to it and needed medical attention because they could have killed them, said staff member lost their job. As I recall, the person was offered compensation and declined because they just didn't want any fuss made about it.
2nd story - IMO there was clearly stuff being left out. They’re clearly not compatible, but I’m not sure either of them is mature enough to be in a relationship
@@aldranzam3456 Unfortunately people that behave like the younger brother in the first story don't tend to learn their lesson UNLESS they get their ass beat. The non physical option was already tried and failed clearly. Sometimes the only way to teach someone consequences exist to actions is by putting them in a position where they can't ignore those consequences. The OPs brother definitely earned it from the sounds of it. I don't condone abusing a child but this guy clearly knew what he was doing was wrong yet still continued to do it. So he deserves what he has coming to him, it is what it is.
@@pigsmacker213 In my opinion he should have been forced to work and pay his brother 9 times the money stolen and if he would steal again make him pay 40 times the cash stolen as a tougher punishment if you are brave enough to steal then you are old enough to work and pay for your actions because if I would have stolen money off my parents I would be paying the same consequences and I would respect them for it only more.
One beer per hour is literally the guideline for NOT getting drunk in a person of average size. Obviously there are variations, but the guy was staying home so even if he did get a little buzz, there really wasn't any issue. Even if she lived IN the same home, I wouldn't call that worth mentioning. But she was cross country and asleep.
I'm trying to figure out what could be going on with the girlfriend. Personally, I feel for her being a bit nervous about his drinking, especially if she has some kind of past trauma with a drunk person or alcoholic and he's not currently in therapy. It does seem like a bit of an overreaction, but I do want to ask if drinking had anything to do with his being an angry person in the past.
@@stadot1427 Yeah, there's more to this story, clearly. One beer quickly becomes several whenever an alcoholic starts drinking after holding up for a while. The alcohol content also increases over time. I've seen it personally.
My brother has done this in the past. He has stolen money off almost everyone in the house at some point. Until a few years ago, my dad refused to believe he was stealing from us. Until my mum stepped in and forced the issue. He was always given far more leeway than the rest of us because "He doesn't know better". Of course he doesn't because he refused to address it. To this day, he usually refuses to listen to anyone except our parents. And even then he stops doing what he is told when they leave the room.
A large chunk of humanity was always stupid, the only difference now is that people have the means to document theirs and others stupidity for all to see.
My older sister has PKU, a very rare genetic disorder in which the liver lacks the proper enzymes to process Protein and Phenylalanine, it requires both parents and as a half sibling my father luckily did not have said gene.I went to a camp for people like her and their "normal" siblings (No pku or physical disabilities) If she eats like say a full steak, her body can't process it, and its kinda the equivalent of banging your head against a steel wall repeatedly, as well as other nasty stomach related symptoms. So for the laymen, Protein for sis=Brain Damage. I have had many people question the legitimacy of her disease, and think shes a vegan by choice. But I have many memories of my sister sneaking small portions of meat as a child and as a result is currently unable to function as an adult, and any major amounts of protein could lead to further brain damage, and eventually death. I cannot imagine the waves of static rage I would feel if someone were to sneak a fatal amount or really any amount of protein into a dish made for my sister. Edit: I should clarify that while I may not have Pku, I have high functioning Autism, and my sister who is incredibly social and pretty good at banter, so she's always considered herself the "lucky" one because she has social skills.
last story: as a vegetarian, this is infuriating. someone cooked me a turkey for thanksgiving (i dont celebrate thanksgiving and he knew that, also knew i was vegetarian but thought it was a dumb idea because "meat is delicious your missing out") and said "i made this for you, happy thanksgiving". i tell him he knows i dont celebrate it and even then im vegetarian. he just ordered me to eat it and when i said no, he cut a piece of the turkey and TRIED TO FORCE IT IN MY MOUTH and i was beyond furious so i grabbed him and literally threw him on the floor. i have no regrets. if i was the op i would never talk to her again
Story #2: I wonder if key details were intentionally left out by the OP. I suspect his “issues” = alcohol use disorder. A relapse is never “just a minor slip up”. And some of the GF’s words have me wondering whether he was an abusive/angry drunk and alcoholic. You cannot just “have a couple drinks”. Sobriety is an absolute.
first story is just reminds me of my past. not about money but about between me and my sister. every time we fought , my parents are just defends her no matter what happened. even if I am the one who got hurt. one day she just pushed me for an argument. if I wasnt fast enough I probably hit my face to edge of the wall and broke a few teeth. my response is the same thing but to the couch which is softest thing in the living room. she starts crying for nothing while Im moving to my room my dad just yelled at me to come over here. I am also furious about the argument and I knew what happens next. before my dad judges me I sarcastically says " yeah father I have no right to defend myself, I have no right to defend my argument, I have no right in this goddamn house. if you just gonna yell at me for no reason I dont care now go check your pretty princess because she's completely fine" and went back to my room and lock the door . after that day, everything changed. of course we grown up and we are rarely arguing. but mostly her fault and now they realize it. if they didnt treat her like a princess and saying yes everything she wanted and just to keep her quiet, nothing could happened.
As someone who has metal disability like the full package I was glad my parents were so strict with me as a kid if not no telling what would have happened if they didn't and for some advice it doesn't matter if special needs are in place it just takes us longer to understand certain things and you got to be more strict then with normal kids.
Story 1: Aunt is the true MVP in this story and we need more people like her. I have disablities and work with kids with special needs. Parents who do this kind of crap only end up hurting their kids and make them unable to deal with anything as adults.
know right, i would have tried to get my aunt to gain custody over me, in sweden , its more up to the child if he/she is 12 years or older, where the child would live. ofc, with the concent of the guardian.
To be honest it's terrible how people their disability to get away with anything
@@5eyoshi as someone with an ACTUAL disability this guy was a leech
the guy who posted this has made 3 other stories about this brother and the aunt is, once again, the mvp of them. This is REALLY a reverse card as the aunt is usually the insane one
@@5eyoshi yeah there parents dont understand that disability doesn't your incable of everything
Bro the aunt was a literal all-star. The fact that she gave him a locked box and a completely different location to keep it makes her the best aunt ever.
He's aunt should be his mother instead
@@XaXa17xgolden legend
@@XaXa17xI agree.
First story: after the brother tried to open the parents safe, the op should've said, "don't scold him, he's special needs"
Your comment is golden
That would’ve been really funny. The OP was probably like I’m finally not the one being yelled at and want to see this play out
Facts
You should have moved to your apartment aunts house
Omg that's perfect.
I love how the parents only disciplined him once they got a taste of their own medicine.
The first story.. yk I personally would be SO petty. Like when they got mad bc of recking their own room and trying to steal the safe money I'd just be like "what's wrong? I thought you said doing this was ok because of his special needs" maybe then the unfit parents would realized how the guy felt
Very well put
hold on the guy who posted
*story 1*
is holden-position-4
he's the guy who's posted 3 other stories about this same brother, who not only did this, but also thrashed every other birthday party because it wasnt about him, so much that the holden's 14th birthday party
had to be cancelled, it was eventually un-cencelled after the brother got grounded, but only under pressure by about,
OH I DONT KNOW,
*literally everyone in the entire school because he told everyone*
oh yeah the brother also stole the op's mini bike
What does yk mean?
@@kapteinzilla i Thin it means, You Know
Agreed!
I am pretty sure that the reason the parents got mad at the brother for ransacking their room was because his behavior finally started hurting them. When the brother ransacked the op's room the parents didn't care because they weren't being affected in a negative way.
they were by the accusations and guilt. but it wasnt enough for them to look past their special son and somehow they didnt seem to think stealing was wrong themselves unless it affected them.
Makes some sense, but still.
BINGO!
"He's special, he's not like you."
Yeah, he's a fuckin' thief is what he is. We get it, lady, you only love one of your kids. Jesus christ 90% stories with family problems seem to be about how the golden child does something shitty and the parents don't think there's anything wrong with it and they're surprised when their unwanted kid goes no contact.
I agree
agreed
Also, this is the FOURTH story from the same OP about those THREE PEOPLE!!
Can u tell me the videos of it so I can watch it
My brother ruined my birthday, someone else’s birthday, and stole my motorcycle.
That last story? I feel for them. I could see my grandmother doing that. She always used to overstep on everything with everyone. People let her get away with it because she was a little old lady and was always 'nice'. But me, being the eldest and most "outspoken" grandchild, I started setting up clear boundaries and consequences with her. Nothing like elder abuse, but stuff like, "Alright, you took my truck, which you have no claim to, without my knowledge or permission. I'm keeping the keys hidden from you and i'm not talking to you for weeks. No, I will not let you use it at all anymore, no matter what you need to haul. Should have thought about that before driving it across half the state." You HAVE to set boundaries and enforce them with people like that. When they cry or whine, tell em to suck it up. They are grown adults, and need to act as such.
Good job
1st Story: As a person with special needs who is a parent of a child with special needs this kids parents are abusing him. And I'm talking about the brother. Special needs does not mean a child can't understand boundaries. My child knows boundaries and if he oversteps them we have an immediate conversation about it. We talk about how he would feel if someone did that to him and he understands what it means to see things from someone else's perspective. Special needs is helped with patience but not with ignoring them. This kid has more issues that have been instilled by his parents lack of parenting than anything he was born with.
This is the same kid who threw a birthday cake at a birthday boy and wouldn't let his brother have a birthday party cause it couldn't be about him. And this is the same kid that stole his brother's Mini-motorbike
Totally agree, as another special needs person with two special needs kids. Boundaries are so important, for every kid.
Absolutely, yes.
remember, SPECIAL NEEDS DOES NOT MEAN FORCIBLY IGNORANT.
This is an issue we have my sister-in-law who is special needs. my mother in law babied her and wound up several times having to call the police on her in her teens because of her getting violent. Aside from the required hold for such a call she never really had any consequences fo it. Now shes in her late 20s and is a ward of the state. She has been kicked from many many programs for violence. The only reason she's with the state is that my mother-in-law got covid and was stuck in the hospital for almost 2 months her sister made the choice to start the paperwork to sign over my sister-in-law because she wasn't going to be able to care for her especially since while she was in the hospital my father in law passed from covid and left her with so littly income that she couldn't afford to pay for the homes anymore this was an issue she created not him, Also the physical and mental side effects she had from covid she just cant anymore. Ive been with my husband for 12 yrs now, its been a wild ride with the inlaws. and Because her mother refused to teach her how to act her mother spent a lot of time alone because no one could handle being around her daughter who is most definitely not as incapable as she pretends to be at controlling herself and acting in any way civilized.
Nah, special needs or no special needs, there are other stories about this little shit of a brother that show he's a budding narcissist.
The first story is SO frustrating!! Luckily his aunt helped him. I know plenty of people that had issues like that and never had anyone backing them up and ended up never getting anything back either.
I was always told, by my mum who works in child care, that all kids regardless of specific needs should be taught boundaries and right from wrong. Those first parents are just awful.
fun fact: the same parents cancelled the OP's birthday party because the brother "could've gotten mad" and "try to blow out the candles himself" (because the brother would always be entitled to the candles)
You a completely right they are terrible parents
@Kiro Miroslav Choa Wait these are the SAME parents?
CPS failed to do their jobs I see...
@@schizoidmeme5470 Don't worry, in the end the parents regretted it and the brothers had heart to heart conversation
And uh...their mom may or may not had been admitted to psych hospital
Even more than other kids because they might not be able to understand what they do is wrong on their own.
The fact in the first story it took until the younger brother trashed the parents room for them to finally discipline him shows how much they didn't care about op also the Aunt is a freaking hero I'm surprised she didn't call cps on the parents because allowing a child to do what they want is a form of abuse
Ikr, what would be their excuse if the younger brother robbed a bank, or mugged someone for money?!
@QueenEevee1994 "hE hAs sPeCiAl nEeDs AnD HaD To ThReAtEn tHe mAnAgEr"
I absolutely hate parents who spoil their special needs kids. They don’t need to be treated like royalty because of their disability; it just simply takes longer for them / it’s harder for them to understand things but either way, for the most part, they just need to be treated like any other kid
Exactly, they need to be taught, sometimes more than the average kid. Some need accommodations like extra testing time or being able to have music (or noise cancelling), but none of that calls for allowing your kid to straight up steal and ruin their siblings room like that.
I will say to guy who made the video :Keep crying you musr teach your brother and you want your mother and father to go to jail for 5$ shut up it is your mom she made you alive she pay everything for you dont be weak how old are 5 it is right to your perants to teache you how to be strong not weak
So you gone let your brother steal your money and destroy your room that you gotta clean up by yourself multiple times you sound dumb
@@soud_s7283 What?
@@soud_s7283 if the parents fail to respect both children, they deserve jail. Not anyone's fault but them since they're so flawed
Second OP absolutely dodged a bullet by having this girl break up with him.
I have autism and I knew very damn well since day 1 that stealing is wrong. Hell when my cousin left a toy at my house I felt so guilty that I had a breakdown. Keep in mind I was 5 and by then I thought that I somehow accidentally stole it.
I'm autistic too, and ngl I've stolen a few things but I was aware it was wrong, I just knew I could get away with it. It's not about being able to tell right from wrong, it's precisely about being smart enough to measure the consequences. And if the brother knew there were no consequences, why stop?
Same, I hate how people use it to do anything and have no repercussions
My brother is high functioning autistic. He NEVER steals and is a great guy to hang with. It's not the mental issues with kids all the time it's the parents...
Dang that's so sweet. Good on you man
well said
As an older sibling myself i believe that it is important to... Lay your hands upon your younger siblings occasionally to guide them to reason 🤣
First Story: These parents are literally abusing the word special needs just so that their youngest son can get whatever he wants. I am also just surprised that the parents are just fine with the youngest son going through his brothers room whenever he hides the money. Honestly I think that the younger brother got what he deserved when he then went through his parents room.
18:22 ohh no I can see exactly where this is going and that is absolutely horrible
OP saying that if the child has an allergy that MIL could do something to cause an allergic reaction. That is more true than she realizes. Seriously needs to have some distance between them and unfortunately hubby needs to be on board as well. Just until MIL stops what she's doing.
even if meat didn't harm OP the MIL very obviously doesn't respect her boundaries, and she's sure to do the same about the baby. What if OP and husband want the baby to be at daycare and MIL just takes them out to take care of them herself? That's the kinda thing that will happen.
@@aldranzam3456 Yeah that too. Point of the matter is that MIL shows that they don't have boundaries at all and that is more problematic.
Being special needs myself. I am incredibly grateful my mother didn't let me do that kind of shit. I definitely tried, but she wouldn't let me get away with it. I hated her for it at first, but now that I'm an adult, I am incredibly thankful for her.
Same
Yeah except I didn't hate my mom as a kid I respected her because I knew she wasn't doing this just because she didn't want me to she was doing it because she was trying to be an amazing parent
so the parents only did something when their personal stuff was ransacked? Incredible.
It's a miracle how that works.
Atleast they did something
@@waterdragon55 yeah atleast they did something unlike in the 3 other stories by the same guy on the same brother
This happens a lot. People tend to turn blindeye if it doesn't affect them.
IG sometimes people need a taste of their medicine
2nd story I have ADHD and anger problems as well and honestly i’ve faced a few breakups like that before due to disclosing those things to my partner and then them gaining a fear of me due to that even though i’ve managed well and never been physically or emotionally abusive and almost always willing to talk (aside from working hours). I recommend not disclosing the anger/trauma problems to begin with because people will often, unintentionally or intentionally, use that against you as a reason to separate instead of being willing to tell the truth. At the very least you should talk through that and make it clear that you would never physically or in any way intentionally bring them harm.
It’s an odd pattern but I’ve realized that it is a pattern at this point and I never want my partner to feel fearful or uncomfortable disclosing why they truthfully didn’t fit with the relationship or feel afraid of telling me the truth for traumatic fear of retaliation. I want the people I love to be truthful even if it hurts. I know that I still have a lot to work on but I wouldn’t ever want someone in my life to feel uncomfortable telling me how they feel about something I said or did and that’s why i’m working with my therapist to this day to get better and understand how to function and be a kind or understanding person.
Bruh I have ADHD asburgers and so much more. My mom kept telling me being disabled is not an excuse, it just means I have to work harder than anyone else. I'm glad she taught me that way because it made me a better person.
Thank god someone else was raised right.
When I was diagnosed with Autism, Aspergers and ADHD. My mom freaked out. This is when I was little then my Dad told her to calm down explaining that this doesn't change me. This is say how I'll be in the future. Some years later a 20 year old man who doesn't care who people view him and can get vindictive when someone he cares about gets wronged. As well as a couple of communication issues. Functions....adequately.
Bro got ass burgers
I'm the same way and I couldn't be more grateful to my stepmother for helping to send me down the right path in life
Man I love this channel,it’s telling me what not to do as a future adult/parent
yeah
1st story, holy hell those parents are ruining both of their children's lives. If they love that 'special' brother so much, they should keep him and let OP live with the aunt - you know, the one that actually cares about him.
2nd story, she's for sure controlling, but they're both immature. When someone has hurt you really bad in the past (as OP said he did) the smallest thing can make all the pain come back, so it definitely makes sense that she would use those instances because the wounds have reopened and they feel more recent. Definitely his choice whether to drink in his own home or not, though; don't know who she's kidding thinking she has the right to dictate if a grown man can have 3 beers in 3 hours 😂 Over all, I side with OP more than the gf
3rd story, that woman is CREEPY AS HELL! Since she has no respect for OP or apparently even her own son, I can't see her having respect for the child. Maybe for her actual kindness, she gets to see the baby with everyone else in the family on holidays while supervised, but she should not be permitted back at OP's house after that. Unacceptable, overbearing, and self-centered behavior unbecoming of an adult.
The MIL being creepy as hell is a huge understatement, she literally trying to starve op during family gathering by making everything with meats on purpose and then she acted like she is being respectful and caring to op just to trick op to eat meat which causes food poisoning. The MIL is a heartless monster.
Yea I agree. My brother has a condition but he's not spoiled like that so he doesn't steal and destroy the house. Our parents disciplined us from an early age.
About that last story, it would be a small thing to cut contact over if it was the first or second time, but it feels like it was the hundreth AND she literally lied about the meatballs, so she intentionally fed you meat knowing you can't have it and when you are pregnant. So yeah, it's about time you cut her off, and kudos to your husband for sticking with you on it
Agreed
agreed 100%. even more so the fact she was only ever "nice" like a manipulative r/nicegirl she was nvr "kind" which the difference is basically being selfless in everything, selflessly caring, helpful and accepting all that u r especially ur diet even more so the more yrs uve been on it. kindness is a dogs love cuz they love u unconditionally beyond a humans capacity cuz most great dogs with great owners love u more than themselves. being nice is helping cuz it feels good especially if it helps u. being nice depends on how u feel not the person u care for no matter what ur doing for them. i mean ive always thought like this even more so when hearing about "nicegirls" but if u google niceness vs kindness it explains this. glad i grew up thinking like this without needing to look it up or b taught it by my "nice" dad.
they needed to go no contact from the 5th time they teased meat in front of her when giving her little to eat. say for 2 months minimum, make it clear b4 and after y u did and to care more selflessly and without ulterior motives. then go the extra mile and say b4 the next time they cook or pay for food if they try to secretly give u meat ull call the cops and claim food tampering. simply describing the meatball scenario to most cops would likely get them arrested at least and should definitely work out in court if u were to go that far. i mean ffs shes pregnant and being poisoned b the witch no matter her intentions.
As somebody with multiple issues I am personally disgusted by the "there special" excuse
I mean my parents would never let that excuse fly
Second story: my dad is a ex-alcoholic and his anger always came out more when he drinks, and I thought it's not as bad as my mom described because I had never seen it myself, until a wedding where his family made him drink more that a few beers and he was really horrible to me, and it's really scaring, so I can see maybe why she might have been upset if he has a history, but I would not have held it against him for long
Yeah it feels like some key details got left out from OP.
@@Gallalad1 You mean like 90% of Reddit sob stories?
@@Gallalad1 i think most of the details were left out by the ex which OP didnt know which was much more obvious. OP gave a significant amount of details but couldnt give her perspective of things.
Op already had therapy for his alcoholic addiction and knows his limits ,he admitted to his addiction and got help . His girlfriend held his addiction and past behaviour and mistakes over his head and tried to control him . I'm a child of an alcoholic and it took losing all of his kids to face his addiction and he set up limits on how much alcohol he could have while staying sober while being allowed back into his kids lives .
10 years later
Parents: “why doesn’t our son visit us?”
Last story, this is not paranoia, you are making a logic conclusion that seems correct and it will protect your baby from this crazy granny
8:03 bro he used excuse so many times in that sentence😂😂
I would make a plan in the last story.
I would sit down with the mother in law after the kicking out as a whole family. Then I would tell her everything, that I was so happy, when I met her, that she felt like a mother, that I see how much she cares for her grandchild. Then I would tell her the negative things, that I am afraid of allergies, that I feel like she is poisoning me with meat, everything.
The next step would be to go no contact for a few days and then she gets one last chance to earn back my trust. If she tries one little thing than she will not be able to see her grandchildren.
She seems not like a totally evil person. Maybe there's a reason to the meat-story that needs to be addressed.
A child having "special needs" does NOT excuse poor behaviour!
Story 1)Because it hit "their back yard" i.e. their bedroom and their personal possessions! When it hits personal, they change their tune.
Story 2) your suddenly became 5 and needing permission. You've come a long ways from where you were and going by what was stated further in the story, did alcohol have any play in the past behavior and she's thinking that may revert back due to alcohol, she's way off base. I agree she needed to walk!
Story 3: uhm, you had at least one child plus friends and acquaintances having kids so pestering of when the little bundle is coming.
2:48 I would do I wanna go to target and get like those little safes get it and hide the keys somewhere high where he can’t get it in the protect your money
Last story.. Your mother-in-law literally tried to poison you WHILE you are pregnant... Nuff said. She'll NEVER respect your wishes, and I'd never let her live it down. She'll be like, "Oh... I decided to get him a COVID shot without your consent while I was babysitting him"
Is OP antivax or is that just an example?
@@JY-ek4ux I think it’s an example. Because again for small children it doesn’t have a lot of testing and because the COVID Vax (any of them) is based on a formula similar to how we make the flu vax, it’s not recommended for small children, as virus strains are unpredictable and childrens immune systems might not be able to handle both at the same time. Therefore possibly putting them in harms way without consulting the parents.
@@JY-ek4ux people with heart problems shouldn't ve taking it as it can cause myocarditis (aka inflamation of the heart) abd pericarditis ( aka inflamation of the out wall of the heart). People with and with out underlying issues risk death if not properly treated. The scary part is you can be fine one moment and having a heart attack due to either of those.
I think you are over exaggerating. Mil didn't try to poison her. She has no medical reason to not eat meat(if op did id instantly say nta), so saying she can't eat it as opposed to she doesn't want to is an exaggeration. Lack of meat in her diet has made her intolerant(her own choices caused this). She threw up, she and the baby weren't going to die from eating it. Comparing eating meat(without a medical reason not too) to a vaccine that is not recommended and possibly dangerous for small children is ridiculous. I applaud op for standing up for herself because mil refused to except her lifestyle and tricked/forced op to eat meat but to be honest she and husband brought all this on themselves. Red flag was mil taunting her with meat and refusing to allow op to bring food she can eat, that should have been reason enough to limit contact especially in regards to food. It sounds like they let mil treat op horribly the entire relationship and now somehow it's unacceptable because op unknowingly ate meat. They both knew mil had been doing this to her for years and they allowed and enabled it to continue. I have zero sympathy for someone who allows themselves to be treated horribly for years and finally decided to cry victim when it goes to far for them. So in my opinion esh. Op for allowing her mil to treat her horribly for years with no punishment or consequence along with allowing her to prepare meals unsupervised. Ops husband for not sticking up for his wife, not enforcing boundaries to protect her, and allowing mil unsupervised access to meal prep for her. Mil for refusing to accept and respect Ops lifestyle.
@@smartypants8533 No.. Technically "poisoning" was not her intention, it just had 99% of the same effects. If you know someone has food allergies, you keep that stuff away from them.
Technically a restaurant isn't trying to poison people, by serving bad clams or whatever, but it's still called "food poisoning" and get into major trouble over it. I don't like vegans pushing their beliefs on meat eaters, but I would never try to give one food poisoning.
Story #2: Assuming the OP is around 70kg, their BAC(Blood Alcohol Level) would be around 0.039%. Where I live in Canada, that would be just legal to drive.
first story : when i was a kid i would never steal, even when my parents never told me that, it was common sense that its not mine so i shouldn't have it, i was the smallest kid in my family, sometimes i would ask my brother to give me something and when he'd say no i would go tell my parents, honestly now i feel like a jerk for doing that, but eventually i grew up and stopped and gained common sense.
I’m not vegetarian but to wave meat in front of people who are is just beyond rude
Story #1: The OP, holden-position-4, has made countless updates, his mother hand a mental outbreak and resorted to self harm, the dad came home and seen this and severely beat the brother which finally set him on track. OP hasn’t heard or seen the mother and the dad has realized how terrible he is and the brother also is trying to be better. The OP and the brother actually sat down and had a wholesome talk about his problems and the brother realized and even said himself he was horrible. I hope this family gets back on track with the next update
Jesus Christ, all because they couldn't bear to parent him to begin with. I feel so bad for families who don't have the proper resources or wherewithal to raise their special needs kids right.
First story,a spoiled child is not special, it's just being a lazy parents and not caring. How they treated the older son is disgusting and he probably has issues because of second story, it's not your fault she's the messed up one, and she needs therapy. Third story, Mil is just a piece of work, she made the choice ages ago to be vegan so respect her lifestyle and as a woman who had a child, I hated the fat jokes and belly rubs. Ask before you touch a pregnant woman
Is this the same brother that stole the OP's bike and kept flipping out and ruining birthday parties? It sounds similar, especially with the parents being awful and the aunt being the only sane one.
That's exactly what I thought! Can't watch the vid atm, but maybe the OP or the voicer relates to these at one moment or another
I mean, who's the one that kept defending the OP here? An aunt, of course. Dude, this guy will soon be a sort of a meme/mascot for this channel XD
Im pretty sure it's the same brat of a brother
It definitely is the same OP
Let me tell you, it's indeed the same
Edit: yesterday OP posted about his mom and boi is that story messed up
If he’s got special needs that just means you need to especially teach him boundaries, not let him do whatever he wants cause it’s easy. Once they have something set in their mind that this is how the world works, it’s CRAZY HARD to break them out of that pattern. And when they got special needs, you set them up so they act in a way that they can live peaceably with other people when you as a parent are gone. Who else is gonna take in a kleptomaniac? No one. It’s setting them up to fail
First one, LAZY parents who clearly have a favorite child. I was technically a special needs child myself, so seeing this kind of excuse is just annoying (and believe me, people use this excuse more than some may realize). They are gaslighting their oldest (which, funny enough, I went through despite my special needs) and setting their youngest up for failure when they grow up
Second one, not an expert in relationships, but a grown person does not need permission from a partner to have a drink in their own home (assuming that OP is not a recovering alcoholic).
The last one, total monster-in-law. Not only is she beyond disrespectful, she sounds manipulative as well. She's pretending to be nice while doing incredibly, intentionally mean things to convince her victim it's just in their head and they are misinterpreting things. Not only that, what if OP had a serious medical condition with certain meats (like alpha-gal)? If OP had one of those conditions she and her child could have ACTUALLY DIED. This MIL is dangerous. If they do keep her around they absolutely should not let her be around the baby unsupervised, and she should be banned from serving any food or drink
Lol the hypocrisy of Ops parents, apparently it’s not okay for their child to ransack their room, but it’s perfectly fine for him to ransack Ops room.
When someone is really nice to you just to betray you a lot, that is not a very good relationship and I feel like when people force things on you, that is what really shows it
Parents: Your brother is special needs!
Me: So am I, what else you got?
Last story: I know the wife says the husband is on her side, but I'm just not seeing it. Like this lady has continued to pull this crap and nothing was done. And do they really believe after ALL that bullshit that when she simply says 'okay I'll cook vegetarian', she'll actually do it?
She had to be damn near poisoned before husband put his foot down? I'm terrified for that kid.
First story: I had a similar problem, but it was my mother who was stealing from me.
Second story: three beers isn’t “a lot” to drink.
And third story: I’m a bit pissed at that one. I’m happy the husband is supportive of his wife, but the MIL had no right doing that to OP.
Story 2, 3 beers in 3 hours is the most moderate way you could possibly drink, literally. I'm a culinary major with an alcohol license, we were taught the body digests a serving of alcohol properly in about an hour. So, you were being incredibly responsible with your alcohol intake.
That's interesting to know. Was it a cup of beer? Or a whole bottle? Since I feel like it depends on the portion.
@@stygiandragon3865 has to find my alc certification textbook for the details lol. 12 oz of beer, 1.5 oz of 80 proof liquor, 1 oz 100 proof liquor, and 5 oz of wine are each a single portion. If you want to get more specific, look up a bac (blood alcohol content) chart, because gender, age, & weight, and how drunk you get from the servings you have all depend on those variables aswell. It's not just the amount.
Its more about his bahavior in a long distance relationship. You don't need permission, but you also don't need to start a fight or make a big deal out of it. Some girls are overly controlling because of self-esteem and with a long distance that emps up. Some guys like a controlling figure, like a mom in there life to take care of everything.
Most beer or lagers come in cans or bottles and states exactly how much alcohol is in the can or bottle of beer or lager .
Hi I'm a pescatarian and trying to make a vegetarian eat meat is highly disrespectful and rude. Tricking some to eat something is also disrespectful and dangerous.
Man: "Ma'am your son killed a person."
The mother: " Oh he's special."
Bet that's what the other inmates in juvie are gonna say too
Second story: That girlfriend is toxic. If she wanted to break up with OP, why didn't she say something? I think her dumping the OP is a blessing in disguise because now the OP has a chance to form a healthier relationship with someone else
Story 1:The fact they are letting him steal your money at a early age is a recipe for disaster
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Wait till he finds out there’s money in cash registers
@@TheFlamingoBird rather not
@@TheFlamingoBird Better keep him away from banks too, they don't have as much cash as they used to but it's still enough to drive a greedy kid like that insane.
@@Strix1213 How would the parents react if their "special needs" kid was un-alived?
2nd story - what should you do? Thank her for breaking up with you and block her.
Story 1: even satan is scared of someone who just goes ahead and ransacks people's rooms, even their houses, just to ducking steal someone's money, and their parent still make up excuses. Glad that brother got what they deserved.
Story 2: BIG W for the OP, they deserve more than that controlling gf. That gf just took a L.
That one about the vegetarian pissed me off. How can you push your own diet on someone else. It doesent even sound like the op is overbearing at all about it. It’s just her personal preference and the Mother and law needs to respect that
Story 1: these parents are why their kid is going to end up in jail. He may have learning issues, but that makes it even more important to teach boundaries and guide him in how to live successfully in the world. They are doing both of their children a disservice. It's pretty horrible.
second story:
God, if there's one thing that I won't tolerate, it's controlling "partners".
Not only that, being autistic, and where communication issues are more prominent, it's as if this what-if were exploiting that "weakness".
Like, she'd neglect to be more specific about what she do/don't want, or what she do/don't like, etc. but argues about me being stupid, or that a *normal* person would've picked it up.
1st story, don’t worry OP, I know exactly how it feels to have a sibling get away with whatever they want because their “special” 🙄
And then my parents say “you don’t know about it that much” but I do, I have done research on it as well. (saying it because I’d rather not reveal what they have, I don’t like sharing much on the internet)
#2: "what should I do?" bro, nothing. OP should just be glad she dumped you so now you are free and open to start a relationship with someone who actually loves him.
#3: I mean, I'm personally not a fan of vegetarianism either, due to health concerns over all the artificial bs that's dumped in there - might as well start eating straight out of the chemical refinery. But that's my personal opinion and it's not my place to force it on anyone else if they have a different opinion about things. Like, bruh. Just live and let live, why would it concern the mother in law what op is doing with her own life? Like, what you eat is your personal choice and it does not matter whether anyone agrees with it or not. Anyone trying to argue against that is just stupid and needs to shut up.
Fun fact: little siblings are either petty brats or actual human beings
There is never an in-between.
Good thing my younger bro is loving and kind
My little brother is a bit petty but he’s still a human being lmfao
@@auroragannon7727 hi, I am the in between XD
I wonder where I sit
I can really feel the anger and exasperation in the first story
"He's special needs" is just really saying "It's too hard to teach him." If he really is special needs, they should be educated on his specific condition and how mainstream he can be as an adult. Then they should be learning, with whatever help available, how to meet or exceed that level of function. Otherwise, they'll be limiting him to possible homelessness, institutionalization, or prison once they are gone.
Had a similar issues with my “special needs” sibling. I opened a savings account as a teenager. Even as we got older the sibling expected me to give them $$$ when they had money problems. They were shocked when I suggested they get a job! I severed contact with them about 10 years ago.
I have basically given up on society with these stories smh.
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Guess am not the only one....nice pfp btw🌚
Facts but I'm nice
Same
@drunkasaur 💯
for story three's vegitarian, im a carnivore, and i kinda feel you on that, haven't had a plant in YEARS!!!!
The first story is literally my life my mother has favouritism for my younger brother yet me being better than him in every aspect yet I'm treated inferior unless it's for information/needs
First Story: W aunt and at least the parents changed unlike other stories
to be honest I feel for the LP because this is how I was treated when I was growing up every time my sister did something I always got blamed for it every time I did something very minor I would get the most harshest punishment possible from them every time I went to my grandma and told them everything that they did they would instantly put me over there knee and blister my ass with a belt in front of Grandma and then they would start arguing saying oh this is just just to teach him a lesson but my grandma defended me every single time so no wonder me my mom and my dad have such a rocky relationship and no wonder me and my sister don't really talk like we did back then it was just one whole fucked up situation
I once had this happen. I saved up 600 dollars in my wallet to but a new game system and when it arrived I was still a work and guess who was using it at home? My brother. It already had signs of damage such as a crack and paint chips. I was so mad. My mother came up to me and said did you get a gift for your brother and i immediately disagreed. She then yelled at me about "whos it for?! Not just for you I hope!". At that point I snapped back at my Mom saying that I've been saving up for the last month of my career to get it and that my brother had no right to open it and damage it. I then tried to rip it out of my brothers TV and he immediately started crying and fighting he was 16 at the time and I thought he was so pathetic. My mother came in and shoved me out saying "it's his console! Not yours!". At that point I called my dad about the issue and we'll he wasn't happy. My dad was always a up standing guy, always fair and reasonable. When he got home he immediately yelled at my brother to give me the money and after a lot of crying and "I'm sorry! I didn't mean it!" From my brother and wearing from my mother I got the money back. Props to you dad your the best
I think of a guy I know who’s all upset that I won’t follow his religious beliefs cuz I’m not comfy with it but it’s clear he wants control
He’s wanted other from me so I’m not talking to him after I confront him which I did but he wants to argue😠
I know if I give in he’ll start shaking from too much stimulation
Story 1: want to be super petty and teach a lesson, the hard way?
Amass 2k, let your brother steal it, if your parents don't want to do anything about them, report them for disability fraud. Your brother won't be entitle to any kind of aid or assistance if he has 2k in "savings," be it in a piggy bank or an account.
Or, you could just do what me and my brothers did when we had a disagreement, settle amongst ourselves.
Story 3: "I feel stupid and paranoid"
And so you absolutely should, because, a vegan eating meat, doesn't instantly reject it from their system, it takes a few hours, your body has to attempt to digest it first. The only time your body instantly rejects something, is when it'sa concentrated poison; its why you vomit hard when you drink too much alcohol.
Sure, she admitted it was pork; but here you are serving up an over embellished story of symptoms that just don't happen, spreading stupidity and paranoia.
first story:bro stealing is bad in every single way and you allow that type of behavior at a young age can ruin the child future as they think stealing is fine what are you gonna do when the police arrest him?saying he special so he could steal?
Story 1 was... SO STUPID how can he/she ( I can’t remember) live with those parents like who would want to have to live through a life where your brother is stealing from you and your parents are backing him up.
The story with the games and beers (lol)
She is definetly cheating on the op and gives a stupid excuse to break up with the op.
The op should've started stealing the brothers stuff and say what's the problem (insert brothers name here) does it all the time 🙄
This OP has more story about his brother and his EP.
I wonder how old the OPs brother is, because the way the OP explained that his brother was crying because he couldn't find the money. You have to be pretty young or greedy to act like that
@@Daariencollingridge All the stories span from when he has 10 and his brother 7 to when he went out home at 18/19 for college... and even some stories when he had to go to repair his brother's bike.
I think rn the OP is in his 20s (23 probably).
the aunt is literally GOATed in parenting. It’s just total crap letting your kids behave like this, which would only damage them in the future.
For the first story, I really glad you had such a good aunt.
Story #1: Dude, I’M special needs, and I don’t do crap like that! And special needs, for me, only makes it harder for me to control my tics, which are movements or sounds that I have habits of doing, and my additional Autism doesn’t help with that. But those parents were basically MOCKING people with special needs. Kudos to the aunt who stood up for the OP.
Story #1:
Well I know who's going to the nursing home when they get older and who's going into state care when that day comes lol.
Kids may be inexperienced and a little naive but they're not dumb and they'll remember how you treated them when they become an adult and you're at their mercy. 🤨
I said the same thing but with different words XD
Quote: "As a person with special needs, I have to Say this, I would like to apologize to you for having to deal with those crappy parents but let me Say this, one day your parents may need you to look after then When that day comes put them In a Nursing home and leave them there for the rest of their days :) Thats What i would do XD if my parents treated me this Baddley."
Story 1: I have special needs and I’ve never resorted to stealing for money.
Third story reminds me of a similar story about someone who ordered exclusively Gluten-Free at a restaurant.
The staff member who took their order didn't get them the Gluten-Free stuff.
So when they reacted poorly to it and needed medical attention because they could have killed them, said staff member lost their job.
As I recall, the person was offered compensation and declined because they just didn't want any fuss made about it.
2nd story - IMO there was clearly stuff being left out. They’re clearly not compatible, but I’m not sure either of them is mature enough to be in a relationship
Whichever doofuses assumes that big brothers are the jerks need to watch this video
Sometimes older siblings can be jerks though
Its always the ant who helps the OP
That first story is the kind of kid that would benefit from getting a couple of paddlings with a drilled oak board.
...or you know, just non-physically violent discipline.
@@aldranzam3456 Sadly, the world works on violent discipline. Hence teaching them early what happens when acting out is far more helpful.
@@aldranzam3456 Unfortunately people that behave like the younger brother in the first story don't tend to learn their lesson UNLESS they get their ass beat. The non physical option was already tried and failed clearly. Sometimes the only way to teach someone consequences exist to actions is by putting them in a position where they can't ignore those consequences. The OPs brother definitely earned it from the sounds of it. I don't condone abusing a child but this guy clearly knew what he was doing was wrong yet still continued to do it. So he deserves what he has coming to him, it is what it is.
@@pigsmacker213 In my opinion he should have been forced to work and pay his brother 9 times the money stolen and if he would steal again make him pay 40 times the cash stolen as a tougher punishment if you are brave enough to steal then you are old enough to work and pay for your actions because if I would have stolen money off my parents I would be paying the same consequences and I would respect them for it only more.
Should've told the parents "Why are y'all mad??? He's special remember??"
Story #1: the op brother it’s like Gollum from lord of the rings. No matter how “special” he is a spoiled brat like that needs to be put in his place.
Story 1 “what I would have done” : if you Say he’s special needs one more time, I will burn His room to the ground.
One beer per hour is literally the guideline for NOT getting drunk in a person of average size. Obviously there are variations, but the guy was staying home so even if he did get a little buzz, there really wasn't any issue. Even if she lived IN the same home, I wouldn't call that worth mentioning. But she was cross country and asleep.
I'm trying to figure out what could be going on with the girlfriend. Personally, I feel for her being a bit nervous about his drinking, especially if she has some kind of past trauma with a drunk person or alcoholic and he's not currently in therapy. It does seem like a bit of an overreaction, but I do want to ask if drinking had anything to do with his being an angry person in the past.
@@stadot1427 Yeah, there's more to this story, clearly.
One beer quickly becomes several whenever an alcoholic starts drinking after holding up for a while. The alcohol content also increases over time. I've seen it personally.
My brother has done this in the past. He has stolen money off almost everyone in the house at some point. Until a few years ago, my dad refused to believe he was stealing from us. Until my mum stepped in and forced the issue. He was always given far more leeway than the rest of us because "He doesn't know better". Of course he doesn't because he refused to address it. To this day, he usually refuses to listen to anyone except our parents. And even then he stops doing what he is told when they leave the room.
Bruh Im telling you humanity is getting more stupid every year
Could always nuke the earth
A large chunk of humanity was always stupid, the only difference now is that people have the means to document theirs and others stupidity for all to see.
My older sister has PKU, a very rare genetic disorder in which the liver lacks the proper enzymes to process Protein and Phenylalanine, it requires both parents and as a half sibling my father luckily did not have said gene.I went to a camp for people like her and their "normal" siblings (No pku or physical disabilities) If she eats like say a full steak, her body can't process it, and its kinda the equivalent of banging your head against a steel wall repeatedly, as well as other nasty stomach related symptoms. So for the laymen, Protein for sis=Brain Damage. I have had many people question the legitimacy of her disease, and think shes a vegan by choice. But I have many memories of my sister sneaking small portions of meat as a child and as a result is currently unable to function as an adult, and any major amounts of protein could lead to further brain damage, and eventually death. I cannot imagine the waves of static rage I would feel if someone were to sneak a fatal amount or really any amount of protein into a dish made for my sister.
Edit: I should clarify that while I may not have Pku, I have high functioning Autism, and my sister who is incredibly social and pretty good at banter, so she's always considered herself the "lucky" one because she has social skills.
last story: as a vegetarian, this is infuriating. someone cooked me a turkey for thanksgiving (i dont celebrate thanksgiving and he knew that, also knew i was vegetarian but thought it was a dumb idea because "meat is delicious your missing out") and said "i made this for you, happy thanksgiving". i tell him he knows i dont celebrate it and even then im vegetarian. he just ordered me to eat it and when i said no, he cut a piece of the turkey and TRIED TO FORCE IT IN MY MOUTH and i was beyond furious so i grabbed him and literally threw him on the floor. i have no regrets. if i was the op i would never talk to her again
I'm special needs and I can still function as a regular person without stealing
Story #2,
Glad you found out now how shallow she really is.
Now you’re free to find someone who is more than a judgmental sex toy.
judgmental sex toy is insane but your spitting facts
The expressions you use in your voice make the stories so entertaining.
Story #2: I wonder if key details were intentionally left out by the OP. I suspect his “issues” = alcohol use disorder. A relapse is never “just a minor slip up”. And some of the GF’s words have me wondering whether he was an abusive/angry drunk and alcoholic. You cannot just “have a couple drinks”. Sobriety is an absolute.
first story is just reminds me of my past. not about money but about between me and my sister. every time we fought , my parents are just defends her no matter what happened. even if I am the one who got hurt. one day she just pushed me for an argument. if I wasnt fast enough I probably hit my face to edge of the wall and broke a few teeth. my response is the same thing but to the couch which is softest thing in the living room. she starts crying for nothing while Im moving to my room my dad just yelled at me to come over here. I am also furious about the argument and I knew what happens next. before my dad judges me I sarcastically says " yeah father I have no right to defend myself, I have no right to defend my argument, I have no right in this goddamn house. if you just gonna yell at me for no reason I dont care now go check your pretty princess because she's completely fine" and went back to my room and lock the door . after that day, everything changed. of course we grown up and we are rarely arguing. but mostly her fault and now they realize it. if they didnt treat her like a princess and saying yes everything she wanted and just to keep her quiet, nothing could happened.
Story two
She was probably cheating on him and needed to have a excuse to brake up
As someone who has metal disability like the full package I was glad my parents were so strict with me as a kid if not no telling what would have happened if they didn't and for some advice it doesn't matter if special needs are in place it just takes us longer to understand certain things and you got to be more strict then with normal kids.