Entitled Parents BREAK INTO my House and TAKE MY HOUSE - Reddit Real Estate Podcast
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0:00 My Entitled Parents break into my house and squat for weeks, demanding to live with me for free (u/Klabbage-Kobbler)
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I would leave a “review” how they left there 18 year old son with nothing and 10 years later they “move” in his house and didn’t leave for months until court order told them to
i agree. i wish i knew the name of their business.
@@fidelianerina me too
@@fidelianerina same
You can get those taken down pretty easily by most review sites. Especially if they can prove that there's a witch hunt out for them.
*nods head*
What isn't mentioned in the first story is that an eviction can stay on your record a long time. That'll be an extra touch of karma if the parents try to find another apartment, because it make landlords less likely to rent to them.
Indeed
Unfortunately probably not that much of a barrier for crafty sociopaths, they’ll just find someone to use or finesse for housing.
Story 1 has an update. OP found out how they did get the money. Basically the parents get an inhertance from their other grandparents (i think it was the mom side) who were also as b-holes as OP's parents. It seems his dad was the black sheep of the family on his side and the entitled one, even all the relatives know this as well too. Even thou, the business is a little shady so OP is waiting for the right moment.
They're getting old. Karma is waiting for them
Shady business's worst nightmare is an inspection of any kind, if it were me, I'd have put an anonymous complaint in every field I could think of, tax, safety, legal, hell even the fire code, anything that has to do with whatever the business is. The likelihood that they're doing shenanigans is very high and it will be found out during the inspections. May not crush the business but will 100% hurt it.
I'll😅😅😊😊😊😊
@@skarmex3439 Exactly. I will had to check up on this OP again because i kinda forgot about it.
there IS no right moment, only insta boom
Those parents don't deserve a business after the way they treated their child by not telling the OP about the other family members and squat in the OP's house.
Why you say it's true and I fully agree with you but the thing is from what the OP say they are very very good businessmen and they are good at manipulating things to their way. so yeah it's pretty hard for kama to catch up with that sort of thing unless of course them give old.
@@nironrik2751 Ya but I still hope Karma catches up with those entitled parents.
@@benjaminneal8050 in OP-s place i would legit poison them. Such filth, especially in the family, shall not be tolerated. Also OP is weak for giving them his stuff(bed and tv), he should've made their existamce there as miserable as he could.
@@benjaminneal8050 I know but karma is a b**** when it's catch up to them. And h*** will freeze over for just to save a special special spot for them you and I both know it people who act like that don't have people that will them out with. So yeah let's just hope it catch up a bit soon.
Or the van
Honestly, the most infuriating part to me is that the parents tried forcing the OP to give them the house, tried forcing their rules from when the OP was a kid back onto them as an adult, after not only breaking into the house and squatting there for months.
Like, I'm sorry, I don't care WHO you are. You try and tell me what to do in my house after you pull that garbage, you're getting the curb right then and there. I don't give a damn if it's my mom, my friends, some random-ass hobo on the street. NOBODY tells me what to do or what not to do in MY house, period.
I have as much sympathy to squatters in my house as I am to a fox in the henhouse, so I would treat them the same way as well. At least with the fox I can make a small rug out of his fur.
@@benwagner5089 hey don’t compare them to foxes
foxes are at least cute
The parents are obviously narcissists. Deal with them thusly.
Exactly. Screw all that court BS. I find someone in my home, that constitutes B/E, and I'll react accordingly. Nobody tries to take my house from me
There IS a small way for OP to get back at their parents. Tell EVERYONE on BOTH sides of the family and show proof. Some may listen, some will dispute it but if they’re hated in the entire family, they’ll have no one to brag to and WORSE no one to help them if hard times hit them. In the end theyll be alone, with no one around them. There’s a reason why they say Money can’t buy happiness
I like the way you think >:]
You can buy happiness (minecraft)
@toothbrush *Minecraft and puppies*
@@ceconser and if you’re allergic to dogs specifically, 🐱cats🐱 or other pets
project zomboid a true training
Should have paid someone to come and change the locks and move all their stuff out. They would have no proof that they hadn't left on their own.
I hear you. Every time I hear about squatters and squatters rights I'm amazed. Their stuff would be on fire in some back woods area and all the locks would be changed. Then I'd walk around naked all day and take shits all over the floor and act super crude until they left.
Right, if both of em worked, than all locks can be changed and they can be homeless, what are they gonna do, call the cops?
Squatters have more rights then landlords in some places and if he was caught changing the locks after they lied to the cops about the verbal rent agreement and had keys he’d be the one in trouble. He couldn’t shut off his own power or water to evict them because it has to be livable and they “become tenants”
@@elliemccully6963 that's why you only call the cops AFTER you've kicked them out.
At that point, they're just crazy people demanding to be let in, but if you call while they're inside, even just for 5 minutes, then the cops will protect them from you, and drag it out for months.
@@alfedosucksatgames5008 problem is if they have done the forged paperwork thing you are fucked because doing that will get you sent to prison.
The last story reminds me of my story. I got married about a year after I was discharged from the military during which I served in Viet Nam. We were both in college and I also worked as a night watchman. My wife came into the bedroom to wake me to go to work. When I became aware again, I had my wife against the wall, my left forearm against her throat, and my right arm pulled back to hit her. She was crying and scared and I was saying, “Don’t ever do that again!” I was terrified probably as much as her. Recently, 50 years later, I was dozing with my door open but the screen was closed. It was dark and when I opened my eyes there was the shadow of a person on the screen. I immediately jumped up and kicked the screen hard so that it smacked the person in the head with the door’s frame. It was my neighbor looking for his dog. The PTSD is hard to resolve.
I bet you're so proud of youraelf.
@@Kelle0284 What?
@@Kelle0284 do you seriously think this makes me proud? You have no idea. I’m 70 years old and I’ve lived with this stuff since my Vietnam service. I have no idea what your point is. But if you think I am proud of my disability, you are truly an idiot.
@@Wally97523 Your disability??? Something you have to live with??? What about your wife that you brag about abusing? I don't believe you even have a wife. You're probably just some incel troll living in his parent's basement.
@@Wally97523I’m just as confused as you. Also thank you for your service from one service member to another. Glad you made it home, sorry you have to suffer from PTSD hopefully you can get some help to cope with the stress.
The boyfriend in that final story really needs to pursue some professional help and while sure he's managed to manage it well enough on his own he needs to realize that if his issues are not dealt with he could potentially end up seriously hurting if not killing his girlfriend
I agree. The fact that he had his hands on her throat is very concerning to me. If it was me, I would leave him since he isn’t willing to work on his mental health. That is a deal breaker for me.
"Help" doesn't automatically work if you get it. You need to be ready for it too. Go ahead and force him into it and watch there be no results
Sounds like being her boyfriend is a full time job on its own
I'm sorry but I have to disagree with you on that at this point. He has already done therapy earlier. As someone with severe ptsd, they need to make arrangements for sleeping, if she still wants to sleep with him. It will take a while but with the right precautions everything will turn out good. And within 2 months of that he should be ready for another discussion of therapy, and this time he shouldn't disagree with it. The only reason I say this is because I have gone through it before and it helped me.
@thevalorousdong7675 nah your issues while not your fault. If you have issues and do nothing to remedy them and leads to harm. It is on you for it
OPs parents truly didn't learn shit from what happened, specially when you take into account how similar their situation was to their kid's, it's... sad? (I don't think that's the exact word) if you think about it.
I'm glad to hear OP removed them from their life completely and that they managed to get out of that situation.
Nah, it's more so ironic
@@somerandomdudeyesarandomdu2301 Yeah, I think ironic is a better fit than sad.
Anyone wanna find OPs parents business? And ruin the reviews.
For the first story, I would recommend getting a restraining order against them just in case.
No parent should ever expect to be paid back for the love that they give to a child. Gratitude from a kid is preferable, but should never be obligated.
Story 2: emotionally caring for a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder IS a full time job. I'm pretty sure the only reason OP is thinking this way is because she's in the discarding phase of their toxic relationship. She is an emotional black hole, he is poured his love into her and all she can see is what she can get out of him.
Exactly, if the BF was a woman, I'm sure most would just dismiss 'her' as a stay-at-home-gf, but as soon as it's a man, it's suddenly wrong?
That said, the 'that would be a shame' comment about the money DOES raise some orange flags. That is the side of the story from someone who admitted to have psychological problems, so it might not be 100% reliable, but it's also literally the only side of the story we know.
She outright says her previous partners couldn't always be there because of work. So she wants him to both have a job and not have one so he can take care of her.
She doesn't seem to grasp that working for money isn't the only work there is. Dude could easily just be the stay at home dad type that takes care of the house and chores (and later maybe kids)
my parents kicked me out at 17 after abusing me my whole life, and I was a homeless kid. no shelter would take me until I was 18, so I stayed in mental hospitals on the state's dime for about 4 months because of how aggressively suicidal I was. turned 18 on the most drug ridden intersection in Boston, Mass & Cas, and I am currently a month out of the shelter in my own apartment. they're out or my lives until the day they're in the dirt and I couldn't be happier
That's terrible. THANK GOD, you kicked them out of your life. You deserve better
ASAP get restraining orders, and as soon as they're out of the house for any reason, change the locks and put their stuff on the lawn.
For the first story, if I was in the OP's place after the cops showed up, I would have asked my parents exactly how they got into the house in front of the officers, explaining that A: I've been away for two weeks because of my job, and B: I did not give them a key to get inside my house. I'm not a law expert, but I would think the officers would have solid suspicion to investigate the matter, which could lead to them arresting my parents for breaking and entering.
Now that you've mentioned it. It is weird? How did they got in at all? Since I assumed that the OP can still enter, meaning the locks aren't changed yet.
@@stygiandragon3865 My only guess is that the grandparents didn't change the locks when the dad moved out
@@adrianflores7269 And somehow the dad still has the key?
@@stygiandragon3865 I mean when the dad got out of the house in the past. I mean when the lived with his parents WAY WAY before the OP has been born. He must have kept the keys
Story one: Good for him on giving those vile people the boot! I had a terrible childhood as my mother was an alcoholic and treated the girls bad. She didn’t want girls and told us to our face. At 14 I ran away from home, came back about 6 months later. I was 12 when she had another baby, I felt like my little sister was my baby because I couldn’t do anything but “play” with her. I got up with her in the middle of the night even though I had school the next day and my mom didn’t work. At 16 I left and went to court to be emancipated, she didn’t even show up. She would call me drunk and say everything was my fault. That’s when my foster parents would take the phone and not let her talk to me which was fine. I treat my two girls and four grand children with the love and respect they deserve. I can’t imagine treating them the way I was treated. I love them too much. ❤
Story two: Girl, run as fast as you can! If you need emotional help, talk with your parents, get a therapist or a friend. Much cheaper than what you’re dealing with now. Good luck 🙏🏼❤️
For story 2 I’m not sure.
Currently based on estimations, it is possible that a 35 year old could have around 2 million dollars in investments if he did great investments and had done the trades. He will have an income of 150 thousand dollars without a job. It’s not impossible if he invested it intelligently. There’s not really a reason to get a job with 150K passive income.
I would have NEVER let them take ANYTHING from my house... after everything they put you through....
Technically, you could've replaced the locks before they left. Since it's still your property under law. You could have also moved all the guest bedroom stuff into the master bedroom and put a lock on there because by technically its your stuff
OP needs to be prepared for his parents to pull the same thing when they get older. One reason to hope that they do well now.
The second story, having worked with clients with BPD, I can understand what the boyfriend was going through. BPD is very demanding. Her previous boyfriends probably had 7-8 jobs to avoid her
What do you mean the police couldn't do anything? You own the damn house!!!
The law works in twisted ways, especially when the dispute is in a family.
That’s out it should. Don’t own the house, don’t get rights too it.
Instead they want to keep archaic squatter laws from the colonial days.
The last one with the guy having PTSD dreams is something that will take a while to heal. Starting with therapy or at the very least talking to someone he feels safe with.
My husband was horrifically abused when he was growing up and used to do all these things, he would then hate himself if he hurt me in his sleep and think he was just like his parents. There is no quick or easy fix, he has to actually deal with the pain, like scrubbing out infection to finally heal!!
Also he HAS NOT gotten over with it or dealt with it he found a way to repress everything. He must feel safe with you to allow it to surface again but he needs to really address it
First with the first story lemme say this cause I feel it applies here: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Secondly: I would suggest to the OP to fully cut ties and live the best life he can. Better than the parents.
Don't forget a restraining order. If the wacko parents did it once, they could do it again.
And, of course, CCTV the f up the house. Decent kits are getting cheaper and cheaper these days.
@@Skyline_NTR I donno if OP can get one but if OP can get a restraining order. Then yes I would say go for it and make sure it's one of the ones that is there for their lifetime.
Most people wouldn't bat an eye if a woman was not working and her boyfriend took care of her. All I have to say is welcome to equality. Men have been putting up for this for a very long time.
I really feel bas for her boyfriend, I can’t imagine being so scared to sleep that I have a Knife under my pillow.
I am glad I love my parents and that my parents love me. Stories with bad parents make me feel bad. I can't imagine it. I was an "accident" but was never treated like it. I never got told I was a regret, or that I never should have been born, and I'm very grateful for that.
😒🤬🙄😐
the first story really puts some second hand hatred through your blood
Kind of worried about OP in the second story, I get that he’s consciously managed his stresses but subconsciously they’re still there. What if they have a child in the future, who would come into their room at night after a nightmare of their own? Would he try to attack the child? I hope OP can convince him to get therapy or something to help him out. While it must be scary for her it must be terrifying for him to relive his traumas while he sleeps.
Wait I think you meant the last story which was about the guy who had trauma problems in their sleep, the second one is about the guy who didn't have a job
Story 1…I would’ve changed the locks when both parents were out of the house, put their belongings in the front yard. If cops are called, remind them that they said it was a family dispute and they should do nothing.
"I was raised by the Tv"
Gotta respect the Tv for raising the child without realizing
He should have added a review to their new business talking about how horrible they are
Me gives the parents a shitty tent and be like “Here this was good enough for me so it would be good enough for you.”
I feel so bad for the guy in story 3. It's really hard to admit that you need help, but he needs it. I think his partner should help him get the help he needs, as that is definitely unresolved trauma, and something anyone in their right or wrong minds would need help with.
It's stories like this that make me very thankful I have supportive parents that truly love me
This hurts. I get that you didnt want kids, but now that you had one you had a responsibility to care for him amongst all thing love him.
How can someone be so cold and callous to their own child to do such a thing?
These parents lack humanity, compassion and love.
Do not hold resentment in your heart for you are free and have the rest of your life to look forward to.
Peace ✌🏻
That first story is un-f***ing-believable. They weren't parents. That poor guy had such a hard life. Hopefully he never has to see them ever again.
If my girlfriend shared my traumas on Reddit, that’s the end of our relationship. Keep trying to help him or leave. Do not post his traumas online!!
My only comments are on the 2nd story. The guy seems to have 2 "life plans" in mind (not that either is just going to land in his lap) ...either get a good job or be a stay at home husband. He seems to think taking care of her is his main job right now. If he's willing to take on all that role entails (housework, childcare, etc) and she is willing to let him. What is the difference than a housewife? Just because it is HIM that is staying at home instead of HER people automatically go to "He HAS to have a job" or "How dare he not work". If financially her income can take care of their needs and he takes care of everything at home there really isn't an issue. Put in the same situation the other way most would say "She's your wife/girlfriend you are supposed to take care of her." Since men usually get put in the role to go to work and get a paycheck while your wife stay home to tend the house. We aren't in the 50s anymore people. Women go to work and some men stay home to tend the house. In the end they need to have a discussion about their roles in the house/family and decide if her income is enough for them to live comfortably and if so what "duties" are for His role. If her income is not enough for them then him getting a job is a must and she needs to directly and without taking excuses make him choose, get a job and they stay together or not and she's gone. The main thing I think she needs to decide on is if SHE is ok with having a stay at home husband or not. The concept itself isn't a bad one just how SHE feels on the matter. Just like some foolish men don't think a wife should work some can't stand the idea of being with someone who isn't working in some fashion. If she can answer that one question for herself I think all the rest would fall into place.
Exactly what I was gonna comment. From the story, it does seem like he really does take good care of the OP. It's different from other stories where the guy is just after the girl's money. From this story it seems he's pretty good to her. The only thing he doesn't do is work. Honestly, I don't see a problem with the reversal of the roles. The problem is that most of the time the guy's pride ends up making the stay-at-home husband bitter and resentful. I don't think this will be a problem in this case since he himself says he's the sugar baby
From this particular situation It doesn't really seem to be about who works and who stays home since he lives with his parents while getting an allowance from them but op still pays for everything that he wants she's also concerned because it is nice to have support in case she lost her job and needs to know he will still be there not just leave her
While I'm no expert, it sounds like the fear and trauma from the car accident brought back the stuff from his childhood. It probably triggered similar responses in brain chemistry or something. He can still control things with his conscious mind, but when asleep can't rationalize things as easily.
I'm an orphan adopted by crazy catholics . A father who though beating the devil out of me was the answer to my poor choices and mistakes as a child. I was sent away to a seminary prep school at 13 where I lived for 4yrs . Taught me that growing up early with independence and responsibility was a great experience for life's hard road. Goals and hard work is a wonderful teacher of reality that you must respect and accept. Never give up and you'll be OK. Just one old man's opinion
I'm sorry this happened to you. Being a traditional Catholic myself, it's unacceptable in our religion to treat children this way. Millstone around the neck, as we like to say when we hear stories like this.
Guy should have just moved their stuff out and change the locks while they were out working.
I had a similar problem, My mum and sister used my spare key to just walk into my old flat and take my spin dryer. I told her if she ever did that again I would call the police
All children deserve parents, not all parents deserve children.
These people have no right to call themselves OP's parents.
Honestly I don't know how he managed to not murder them when they tried to steal his house. I had extremely abusive parents too, and i ended up breaking my fathers foot severely when he tried to contact me a decade later after i went into foster care because of them for financial help because my b!tch of a mom couldn't manage money for shit.
Probably a over reaction, but i went through a decade of shitty foster care because of him, so he can enjoy the permanent pain when walking as penance.
Story #1 I would've kicked them out at the coldest time of winter, and sued them for illegally claim ownership of any part of the house.
2nd story described every single marriage where the wife doesn’t work. Tell him he’s entitled to half of everything she has or had before they got together and see how many people come out crying “no”.
I was thinking the exact same thing
Is it the same? Because married couples sign a contract to share everything equally, so they knew what they were getting into. Married couples also tend to have children, who require supervision during the day. Seems pretty different from expecting someone you're dating to bankroll you because you "work hard in the relationship". OP didn't even say he cooks or cleans, like spouses who don't work do. Just not the same thing.
Sell grandma and grandpa’s old house and buy a new one near grandma and grandpa and don’t let anyone tell parents where you are.
Last story: she needs to tell him he needs to get help for his sleep anxiety or she will leave. It is just a matter of time before he seriously hurts her and tries to make it seem "okay" cause he was asleep. He knows he has a problem he refuses to fix and at some point he's going to do something they will BOTH regret.
“it was my parents house first” that’s like going into a random persons house and said it was my house first
Man, them watching him change the locks to the house even before they got in the van is when they KNEW there was no going back and that they truly were horrible people
Story 3: i think he has to go to therapy ... HARD. Because this is some unresolved trauma and not something who only need anti-depressant to pull it away (the 1st bad part of a lazy diagnose is if the one who does it prescribe anti-depressants right away without had to deal with what the patience has).
Childhood Trauma. From base of his action and reflex.
Sadly enough this is not as uncommon as you might think. After many years of familial idiotic crap, the wife and I have ghosted the remnants of both our families. BEST decision in years!!
The straw that broke it? How "family" ALWAYS defines family in their own favor as "what I want". They NEVER define family as having ANY responsibility to others, it's ALWAYS ALL about them.
Not anymore! SWEET!! ( I really do appreciate the block number function on a smart phone!!)
At that last story, all I can tell the OP is be patient.. and listen to what he’s asking. My husband was the same way for a long time (traumatic mom/being forced into a gang when he was a child because it was “the family business” and expected to do so or he’d have no home, but the home was always in an even more dangerous neighborhood) I remember coming over to wake him up one time and put a coke can down that I brought him, and that was enough for him to jump out of bed with his fist out ready to swing until he realized it was just me. He’d refuse to even sleep in a bed that wasn’t against a wall so his back could face it and he can face the rest of the room. But, after years of giving him all my love and patience, and working hard to get him out of his dangerous neighborhood and away from his trauma, he’s finally starting to feel comfortable, and realize he can let his guard down. He still has awful nightmares, but doesn’t physically lash out as much when having them. It’s a long, and heartbreaking problem to watch. But he can, and will recover from his past and feel so much better for it.
"every kid gets a parent but every parent don't get a kid"
- wise man
As a demonic entity that stalks everybody, this was very accurate
For story 2, as long as you two are able to support yourselves on a single income then there isn’t a problem as long as you set boundaries and expectations. If the genders were reversed, then you might not think of this as a problem at all. She needs to weigh the emotional stability her boyfriend provides to the financial benefits of a duel income.
Dealing with someone that has BPD day in and day out is a full time job.
It's so stressful emotional, spirituality and psychologically also physically.
It isn't a small task at all even people trained in the mental health field burns out Dealing with people with BPD some won't even work with them.
He should ask if I get a job and I'm not here 27/7 to be your emotional, psychological punching bag and you would have to deal with some of your issues by yourself would you still love me?
And if the answer isn't a immediate yes without hesitation and with stipulations then think about rather you want to stay with her or not.
Now if did that he would become the bad guy right?
@@bolee3339 I completely agree. I have BPD and I know I’m difficult to live with. I have my parents and my grandmother who help me but it got a lot easier for them once I moved out and they don’t have to deal with me 24/7. I’m better off being alone with my dog.
@bolee3339 she seems to want it all
A guy who can have a full time job and ve emotionally available for someone with bpd and is spoilt by their own admission
as i allways say every kid deserves parents but not every parent deserves a kid
For the first story when they were on the notice I would have bought the biggest calendar I could have bought on Amazon and laughed at it every day when I had to check it off
Story 1. Glad karma got them. What pos parents
Story 2. You always give & take in a relationship. How much do you value your emotional support? But if you’re supporting his whole life then how long can it be sustained
That boy needs more therapy, he's gone thru too much that he hasn't properly resolved. Also, it sounds like he's fighting his own recovery.
On this episode on "why you need a gun"
God i love castle doctrine
I wonder if it would be illegal to change the locks when they are both out of the house at once. Unless they somehow just broke in through picking the lock
Perhaps they ran a locksmith business before going bankrupt?
The parents of the first story: "kicks" out son with no feelings whatsoever, making him homeless for a while
Also parents while illegally living in the OP's hous: *wHaT dId We EvEr Do To YoU!?!???!?!!?!??*
For story 1, "all children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children". Don't know who said that but it's very deep.
Story 1 was the Biggest Uno Reverse card in the universe.
I would wake those parents up at exactly 12:00 AM to kick them out😊
To all kids out there, if you can see this.
At 7 years old, you should already start planning.
Should you fail to plan... you plan to fail.
I am by no means wealthy, but i retired at 40.
Simple life. 3 kids now also doing well for themselves.
Concentrate in school. Get a scholarship.
People pay to go to school. I expect to get paid.
Get a job part-time.
Suffer for 16 years. Yet, trust me.
You can sit on your couch with no worries while sipping a beer.
Ah yes. Let me as a 2nd grader start planning for the rest of my life.
Gonna try to give another perspective for story 2, the only reason he probably has time for her is because he doesn't have a job. If he goes to get a job and it doesn't exactly align with hers then it's obviously going to cut into the emotional support he can give and she needs to decide if losing that free time is worth the extra financial support he can bring. If she wants to give up the at will emotional support for more financial security then she should probably break it off.
I agree. She definitely doesn't want that though as she explicitly stated that was an issue with her former relationships. I've dated someone with BP before and the emotional tax is a full time job by itself. 3am calls where they are panicking and need to be comforted till 6am so they can sleep. It's too much for someone with a work schedule.
If someone’s got any kind of mental issues that are that bad, they don’t need a partner, they need a therapist.
Fr. I don't get what she is looking for. A person who works and has plenty of time for her emotional needs as well? That is kinda difficult to fit in a 24h day
Story 1 I would put cameras up everywhere, inside & outside the house just in case they try it again
Gotta love the cops siding with people breaking and entering.
The majority of pregnancies are unplanned and most just carry to term and keep it by default.
That entire story there is one of the many reasons I’m pro-choice.
He owes them for the past 18 years? No. He never asked to be born he didn’t choose to be born that was literally forced upon him buy them without his consent. I’ll never understand the sense of entitlement a lot of these horrible parents have. You chose to give birth. 🤦♂️
Just putting it out there, but killing your baby before it has the chance to live is NOT more moral than raising it or setting him/her up for adoption.
@@AkiraleTorimaki no, it’s not. Never being born in the first place is not being harmed in any way.
Story 1: I understand why...but I would love to know the business so I can make sure I stay completely away from them. Kids, while very stressful, are such a blessing and I always hate to hear how the child was neglected.
Story 2: Drop him. You should either always focus on providing for yourself and your current/future family or you should always focus on being a stay at home parent. Since he is on his own, he has neither and is not a man.
Story 3: That's hard. I don't think pushing therapy would help as not everything can be resolved with one as well as it doesn't work unless they actually want it.
OP from the first story should've secretly recorded his parents admitting they didn't have squatters right or a verbal agreement
What's infuriating is the fact the justice took soo long to take back this dudes house.
He should be allowed to simply enter it and if they try to refuse his entrance they need to be dealt accordingly.
If I were OP, I'd get security cameras immediately. The second shit hits the fan again, they'll try the same stunt again
This reminds me of the qoute "If you won't be a part of my struggle you can't be part of my success."
There are ABSOLUTELY NO circumstances where anyone will live with me against my will.
Story 2: as a husband of someone with BPD I can tell you that the emotional support and caregiving I provide to my wife is way more tiring than the 45 hours I work per week and my wife has on several occasions tried to get me to give up my job yet will make a point of telling people she has more money than me.. unless you understand the typical behaviours of someone with borderline personality disorder you can't possible understand the dynamics of their relationship .
I have a problem with the 2nd story. If this was a man posting about a woman that is supportive and kinder than anyone they have ever been with, it would be socially acceptable for that woman to not have a job. OP knew his exact circumstance and stayed with him anyway, falling for the person he was. Why can't she end up with someone she knows will take care of the house and her mental health? Just because she would have to support him? And it sound like she probably can easily support him. Also OP has BPD, ppl with that can be very narcissistic and spin things in a very favorable light, I wouldn't be surprised if there's a lot more to this story.
you absolutely did the right thing. too bad they got into the house in the first place.
My mom did the same as the 1st op. She literally sold for bus fair at 16. Right now im with an amazing man that’s has built my house from the rot up and when we were building she came by and asked which one was going to be her room. I looked at her and said the same one you gave me when i was 16.
Nahh story 1 is a Hollywood blockbuster and you can't convince me otherwise.
to the last story, therapie does not work if the boyfriend not want to
but maybe you guys could sleep in the same room but with a bed wich can be seperatet in two.
that way he knows you are there for him but not in his (un)safety-zone
if his sleeping problem disappers you can just combine that bed again.
that duck game is so cute i love just watching the duck (i love ducks)
Wait for them to go to work, change the locks and throw their crap out
*Story 1:* Talk about horrible parents! Just because OP's old enough to live on his own, that shouldn't mean he should have to, at least not without the means to survive. If only my grandparents were like OP's grandparents.
Congratulations on 1 million subscribers
Heard the story before,but here i am,hearing it again :D
I would personally see if I could find anything online about the lawsuit or tell a news network about it and write about it in a review
Story 5: A friend is a retired Navy SEAL. If you touch him to wake him, you end up with an 8-inch blade at your throat... but he has no problem sleeping with someone...
Story one You are not THE jerk You should of taken them to jail
Bro the OP shouldn’t have given them the bed, tv, and dresser
for those of you who don't know what squatting is, it's basically where you live inside of a house that no one lives in but is not yours and is very illegal.
Something completely unrelated, why is that duck so terrifying
The first story is where you get a gun and basically point or shoot at them until they leave
If I was the son of those parents, I would go onto their google page for their business and leave a negative review outlining how they treated you. It would definitely help ensure they lose business and they can't sue for slander since it is true and easy enough to prove.
You know, being a parent is more than just providing a residence for a child or children. What your parents did was despicable. I had the best parents anyone could ask for and they worked very hard to provide for all five of us children. They loved us, and they showed it every day in everything they did. I cannot imagine the total disaster you must have lived through. We were so blessed.
i woke up screaming a few times over the year after having been in a car accident. Apparently you can get the "death imprint" if you think you are going to die, and it affects you worse. Gone now.