I absolutely love your editing style! So very much! It isn't too quick or too loud, it isn't following all of the stupid trends, it is just calm and easy to follow and extremely well thought out. If you have never considered editing for other content creators, I absolutely think you should because you are a natural. Most people don't understand the amount of detail work that goes into making a video like this, but I do. I wish more people had the same editor in their heads that you have! thank you for keeping things at a good, natural pace so we can follow along❤
Thankyou so much...the other day a lady commented that this isn't my content and I was like absolutely it's not and she's one of the many people who really don't understand how much work goes into it especially the editing part....but I don't blame her... Because I just don't compile and post videos I carefully go out of my way to select clips that hit the nail on the head and also give ten + minutes of commentary....thankyou so much for mentioning this.....I was even skeptical that maybe I'm not doing what's expected but I told myself this is my chanel and I'll do it as I see fit....I also don't like those creators who keep interrupting videos....I love to let my subscribers watch the video and enjoy it and then if interested listen to my personal opinion....❤️
If you get ghosted out of nowhere then it's one of 3 things. 1. He found someone else, 2. he doesn't like you like he thought he did, 3. His wife/girlfriend found out or is on his trail.
Hmm roster can be fun. The perks are amazing 💁🏽♀️. I’m too busy for dates, don’t want kids, not looking for marriage. Just fun times while I’m focused on my dreams and goals. Adding fun positive vibes in my life. I don’t get the women that want to be on a Dusty’s roster. I love the international trips, 5 star restaurants, shopping sprees. Looking good while we just have fun times. ❤
I was thinking the same thing. She seems young so perhaps naive. But she has no idea if he cheated or not. She also didn’t expect him to ghost her so clearly he isn’t who she thought he was.
This video low key triggered me. I haven’t been ghosted by a man in several years, but there was a time in my life where ghosting was a very common theme with the men that I dated. There was one man that I was so stuck on for a few years. He kept coming in and out of my life. Kind of embarrassed thinking about it, but reminds me how cruel a lot of men are. I disliked men for a VERY long time. I was eventually able to find my person and will be getting married in two months.
I don't think it's that deep to ghost someone after one or two dates. But during an actual relationship or after months or years after consistent emotional investment is just heartless!
After six years together, he just didn't answer the phone. Changed his number. Wouldn't come to the door. No explanation. The last time I saw him, he acted totally normal. I love you's we got food. To this day, haven't spoken to him since. I found out on FB he moved a girl in 12 years younger than him. He was 34 at the time, I was 27, she was 22. Karma got him, though. His mom kicked them out of the paid off house she bought him when we were together. They had a baby, broke up right after and now she's got him on child support. 18 years. Wish I never met him now, but that's definitely one of the more memorable most F*d up things someone's ever done to me. It's been 11 years, I only remember him for that. Nothing else good about the relationship. Definitely a blessing in disguise. I'm so happy we never had a baby together. I stayed single for six years after that. I met my now boyfriend, together 5 1/2 years. We live in a house with two dobermans ❤🩵 and life is stable and peaceful 😌
At least this happened to these women while they’re young and can easily move on. Men do this to women too after they’ve been married 10, 20, 30, etc years too and that’s usually how women end up destitute when they’re older, particularly if they reliant on the man for their livelihood.
I hope I am not being insensitive…maybe am broken inside, I find ghosting as a clear communication style of cowardice so I really don’t take it personally. I prefer you ghost me than stay in my life whilst you hate my guts.
I got ghosted for saying no to sharing explict content of my body. If you havent give up your dignity or your dream then men walking out on you should not even upset you.
@@Frugal637 Yeah, when I get ghosted I respect the dead. I had ppl come back and I see them send a message on FB but I'm not bothered. I'm not a supermarket you can walk in and out of , I'm a private resort.
@@Muchloviess Indeed. We were friends too and I encouraged to chase his dream, and we would make a deal that I do everything in the house supporting him emotionally and he will support me financially when he starts earning because I believed the nonsense that a man is a partner for life if you are building him up.. Nope... They are not. In general they are vile and predatory. I can't deny that being ghosted hurts a little because we were friends before we started to become close but it's a clear sign that men don't love you. They only love what they can get and take from you.
When a man ghost you, there is definitely someone else in the picture (another possibility). Do not continue a relationship with someone that ghost you. You are not the person they want. you're what's available.
I remember a video of a therapist explaining dating apps as a buffet. Larger quantity, low quality. It’s a very small quantity on the apps that are looking for a serious relationship while also being someone of substance. Some are on there seeking validation, some are married or in relationship, some are on the rebound looking to hook up, some are homeless and jobless so not in a position to date. That leaves maybe 1/4 who are even worthy of dating.. lol. The odds are just BAD overall
This might come as a shocker to some people. The way men say women love bad boys that’s the same way men love women who treat them like trash. The mistake women make is to make themselves easily accessible to men. All lovey dovey within a week into the relationship, cooking and cleaning and matching surnames. Men are supposed to chase and keep a look out for competition hence why they get bored after a few months and on to the next girl. Stop making yourself accessible to men unnecessary, keep him on his toes and quit doing wifey duties for a boyfriend.
Girl #2 he’s cheating that’s why he kept asking how invested she was… he felt bad after the last conversation so he ghosted. My ex’s family lied to my ear while I was crying until his mother caved and said he was there!
There's no such thing as ghosted for no reason. People who ghost have a reason, whatever you think about it. Sometimes little things can be the reason that made them realize they're not interested. I'm not endorsing the behavior, but usually rejection is protection
I’m pretty sure if that was the case a family member may have reached out or answered their cell phone . When my friend got in a bad car accident, her brother picked up her phone to tell me she was in ICU.
Have I been ghosted before? No. I've *dodged a bullet* before. It is the worst, most narcissistic, self-centered, disrespectful thing in the world to ghost someone that has invested in you, lived with you, even gotten engage or married to you. But when that pain wears off, there's a point where I am at least glad to know what a selfish coward he is before wasting more of my life on him. I wish I knew what the answer is not to get blindsided by this behavior, but it seems like even the really good (appearing) men turn into these useless parasites for no reason at all. The whole 4B thing makes more sense with every passing day. Stay single ladies, for your mental health and your life.
So glad Lady #2 had a follow-up and that she did healing work after. Her "fiance" is a manipulative user and a sociopath. Just a note, NEVER get deeply emotionally involved with someone you've never met face to face and don't get engaged to someone whose house you've never been too and friends/family you've never met. When you reach that level of commitment you shouldn't have to go through all that to find them unless they've literally disappeared from their life.
My ex boyfriend did everything to be with me for 2 years, we builded first a friendship. Then we got together and after 6 months the dude just ghosted me. Only to come back 2 years later to say I am the love of his life blabla... It's been 7 years and he still heavily try to get with me even if I have a new boyfriend and I literally do not answer him. It took me years to be able to date or trust any men. I remember all the questioning with no answer, worst feeling ever when it was the person you thought would be your person for life. This is so disrespectful and mean.
There levels to GHOSTING first date I do not think you should take it so seriously. People change their minds for many reasons. Ghosting someone you actually in a full relationship with is bogus. If you fear abuse or are experiencing abuse of course GHOST they ass protect your life. The least you can do if you do fear physical harm is call them or text them and let them know it is over. I do not feel all breakups require a face to face protect yourself at all COSTS. Respect the dead if someone GHOSTS you.
If you don’t want to meet up with someone after the first date second date or 100th ,date doesn’t matter, you should tell them you don’t want to see them again. These are just disgusting cowards
@@dorino9057Try saying that if it was a woman doing the ghosting. If a woman picks up on some dangerous vibes or hears something that could potentially put her in harms way after a first date, she is NOT obligated to tell that man she doesn’t want to continue meeting/talking with him therefore if a man has a reason for not wanting to continue talking to a woman after a first date, he is not obligated to give her a reason. People sense pf entitlement actually be having them believe that they are owed an explanation and then when they don’t get what they want, they’re just dumbfounded. Get over yourself.
Im not obligated to do anything. If I dont feel like dealing with you anymore thats it! Some women are psychos and dont want to let you go. Im not giving anyone an opportunity for anything when i feel like leaving dont care how you ‘feel’
I was ghosted after a 11 month relationship..... And this was before "GHOSTED" was really a Thing, so I didn't know what was going on... I thought maybe he was in a car wreck or arrested ect... I went to his house and saw his car park. So I left a note on the windshield. 30min later he sends this completely irate text yelling at me asking " how dare I try and find him and come to his house".... WHAT!!!!???? ....LIKE, WHAT????.... I WAS SOOOOO CONFUSED 😕 WE WERE TOGETHER FOR 11 MONTHS!!! JUST WHY? 🤷🏾♀️
@Rose-kj7rz depends on how you do it. Plus how much money he has.These guys know you notice so i dont always play that stoic game lol.... If he ghosted, that means he isn't serious about me anyway, but he thinks I am about him, so why not toy with him and get 🤑. It's a total mindF .
@@Blissedx why would I want gifts and money from someone who doesn't take me, or a relationship serious? I want gifts to mean something. I want them to have significance. Not just something someone gives me bc they think I'll accept their mind games and they can buy their way into my life.
@@Rose-kj7rz it truly all depends what you want him for. Not every man you know should be your next future husband. Sometimes it’s okay to have a little fun🙂↔️. I take the gift and resell. Plus, Well-off men can take a little while to get it together because they have MANY options. So you milk em until you’re done with them. Regular men you keep them blocked of course lol. I, however, block no one tbh..idc enough. But I get your point too.
I was with my ex for 10 months and out of the blue, sends me a text saying he's not happy and we need a break. I was angry at the way he handled it and told him that he needs to take accountability for how he did what he did. He apologized and I was cool until he video calls me telling me he's backed up. I told him that I don't do booty calls, situationships or flings. I do relationships. He ghosted me then had the nerve to call me 5 months later and wants to hang out. I told him that I wouldn't even if Jesus came down and slapped me on the back of the neck with his sandal and told me to take him back.
20:32 Preach, sir! I agree 100%. Ghosters are creatures of opportunity, and unless they did it because they feared for their life I do not respect them. And that means anyone who ghosts me because I am not violent nor am I aggressive. So…ghosts be gone. lol.
What I didn't know until I dated multiple people at a time, and I say dated, not exclusively dated, is that when a man would be interested and then seemingly drop off, it probably was because he was entertaining someone else, because that's what I did as well. When you're talking to 3+ people, it's hard to balance who is available when and who said what. Before when I talked to, dated, and then either proceeded with a relationship or asked to just be friends with someone, I did it one person at a time. I used to think it was my fault if they ghosted me, but I find that when you wrong someone, they typically are very vocal about it. When someone doesn't care to have you around, that's when they quietly let you go.
Was talking to a guy for months, decided to fly to his city for a lil vacation (it wasn’t to see him), we met, had dinner, everything was perfect. Kept talking for about 2 weeks when I got back home. Woke up one random morning blocked on all forms of communication. No warning. He popped back up a year later. A YEAR!!!
For the first one, tbh that happens multiple times more with men on dating apps, it doesnt really last like that. So it doesn't surprise me. The the fiance one is crazy though wtf?
Me: watching this in horror Also me: has definitely ghosted before It’s not good…but I’ve also had a few guys get really nasty after I sent a text saying I didn’t think we were a good match romantically. Trying to be better now though
I feel like some ppl don’t know what ghosting is… Nobody owes you constant communication if you just met or haven’t even met them irl. They literally don’t know you and neither do you and people are busy. I feel like this also doesn’t apply to neurodivergent ppl but you wouldn’t know unless they told you. I’m not good at responding to people immediately especially if the messages are long and thoughtful. I’m also busy af and get tired/forgetful so I won’t respond to someone for days at a time if I just met them/have only been talking to them for less than a month from on a dating app bc they’re not a major priority until I get to know them better in person. If a guy decides not to text me for a day or two and we aren’t in a relationship I’m not pressed bc I got my own shit to do anyway. If he just isnt interested oh well I know my worth. Now it’s another story if you’re in a committed relationship and the guy just drops you like he never knew you. That’s weird and disrespectful af.
A boyfriend of six years mother died left him some money. He started smoking crack kicked out of his apartment. Moved to boston got arrested there for 6months came back to the city. Called me, stopped calling didnt think nothing of it. Then I saw him with a lady that used to drink alcohol and use crack everyday she had a stoke and she had a walker. I dodged that bullet
My dad and I are twins in that we both pick horrible partners. So we opt for singlehood and freedom. He gets me. And is the only man I love unconditionally. These other mother truckers can suck it. The last one tried to kill me because i knew he was down low, had a daughter with his exwifes daughter and practiced black magic. Told ya. Cant pick em for shit. So there will be no ghosting for me. I have no intention in dating. But it most definitely is a coward move. And ive learned from past experience, they generally swing the block so be ready to look good, live good, and tell him to kiss your hind parts.
I was recently ghosted just when i though this was getting somewhere... Again... Yeah i know i guess i was gullible for thinking some dumb fuck was going to actually see me the way i though i saw him. But you know what? Screw him.
The dude asking "Do you want me to come home to you?" was planning to abandon his wife and child but changed his mind. At 10:28 Poor baby doesnt lnow shes already been dumped.
Hawaii girl didnt get ghosted he told you straight up it was over. Lol. He doesnt cheat....famous last words. I getting he used you for a trip to hawaii.
Ghosting is sometimes necessary. I've been ghosted and I've done the ghosting. I'm pretty sure majority of people have ghosted someone at some point in their life. It may seem like telling someone you are not interested instead of ghosting is the best thing to do but sometimes it isn't. Ladies especially have to be very careful with rejecting men because some men are dangerous. If you just met this person and you have no history whatsoever, ghosting is acceptable whether you ghost or they ghost. Whoever is being ghosted should look at it as a blessing in disguise. If you have history with the this person you obviously should communicate unless for some reason you really need to get away from this person. So all ghosting is not bad. It just depends on the situation.
I ghost men all the time because it’s too dangerous to reject them to their face. Even if they seem nice, there’s a 90% chance they are going to want to argue about it and lie about how they’ll do differently.
I disagree with the woman who says not to block someone who ghosted you. I think keeping the door open for communication keeps you from healing and moving forward, and implies you're waiting for the ghoster to come back. Block and move on.
At the end of the day it’s hurtful but know that the person who ghosts you is childish and uncommunicative and you don’t deserve that! So all and all it’s okay!
He’s not that type but yet he ghosted you after 8 months. Girl I don’t know if it’s because you are young or what but he probably found someone and did cheat on you 😩
I can’t say anything I ghosted men before but it’s because for most of them they can’t hold a convo it’s always the wyd and send me pics and the basic conversations that makes me ghost.
Some of these men sre immature snd narcissistic. They try to boost their own ego by doing this. They sctually get a kovk out of it. Others simply lack self esteem or adequate communication skills. Its easier to go ghost,than to talk sbd say what they really feel.
If men were to cry about everytime they were ghosted or used for there money and ghosted it will have its own channel. Oh yea they do. Always remember there is two sides to story
You aren't 'ghosted' if your just talking and your not in a relationship. Thats a victim mindset. Ghosting is if he's your man and leaves with no explanations. I feel for the lady whose fiance left. He was grimy. He actually did you a favor. Marriage would have been hell .
Ladies, I'm a man and I have a question for you. If I went out on a date with you and I saw red flags that immediately turned me off and/or wasn't attracted to you when I saw you because you don't look like your profile pic could you handle those truths or would you rather get ghosted and spared hearing what red flags and flaws that I saw?
Tbh, I would ghost someone if they made me feel unsafe or like they can’t take rejection. If it’s one date, they don’t really need a full blown explanation. If they just aren’t your type an you don’t want them, just say you do not feel like you both vibed well together. I personally only see it as awful if it’s someone who strung their partner along a longer relationship (months, years), and then suddenly they cut all contact and give their partner no closure. That’s it.
All you have to do is say that you don't think you're compatible with one another. I've done it plenty of times after a first/second/third date when I wasn't attracted to the guy, saw a red flag, or we just had different values or life plans. The great part is that it's not a lie, you really AREN'T compatible. I haven't had many people ask for a "reason," but if they do I say that I'd like to keep that personal and that I wish them all the best. Only 1 man has gotten upset by that, the rest realize if it's just a date or a few dates that it's fine and they let it go
I’m seeing why a lot of them are getting ghosted…. Some of these people are unhinged I’m reading the comments from some of these people and I don’t blame the person who ghosted them!!!!!
I’ll be honest I’ve ghosted people but for very good reasons if I expressed to you that it’s not working out or something is wrong or I find something out and you’re still trying to convince me that it isn’t or even with proof that nothing is going on or something just not right I’m ghosting you
I absolutely love your editing style! So very much! It isn't too quick or too loud, it isn't following all of the stupid trends, it is just calm and easy to follow and extremely well thought out. If you have never considered editing for other content creators, I absolutely think you should because you are a natural. Most people don't understand the amount of detail work that goes into making a video like this, but I do. I wish more people had the same editor in their heads that you have! thank you for keeping things at a good, natural pace so we can follow along❤
Thankyou so much...the other day a lady commented that this isn't my content and I was like absolutely it's not and she's one of the many people who really don't understand how much work goes into it especially the editing part....but I don't blame her... Because I just don't compile and post videos I carefully go out of my way to select clips that hit the nail on the head and also give ten + minutes of commentary....thankyou so much for mentioning this.....I was even skeptical that maybe I'm not doing what's expected but I told myself this is my chanel and I'll do it as I see fit....I also don't like those creators who keep interrupting videos....I love to let my subscribers watch the video and enjoy it and then if interested listen to my personal opinion....❤️
@@mskabue you are much more talented than you may realize!! ❤️❤️❤️ love from coastal NC USA!
@@Grandma_Jizzzzzzzardthankyou so much....this is exactly what I needed today ❤
If you get ghosted out of nowhere then it's one of 3 things. 1. He found someone else, 2. he doesn't like you like he thought he did, 3. His wife/girlfriend found out or is on his trail.
Or they can be just lowkey lazy
Or she don’t look like how he imagined or fantisied in his head
Nothing but FACTS from my experience 😅
Or she doesn't look like her profile pic.
4. He died 😂
If your man ghosts you for DAYS, you’re already broken up.
Being ghosted is better than being added to the roster
Mega facts
This 🎉
Agree. If I got ghosted, I'm out! I am not chasing a man, lol! That's what dogs are for!
Hmm roster can be fun. The perks are amazing 💁🏽♀️.
I’m too busy for dates, don’t want kids, not looking for marriage. Just fun times while I’m focused on my dreams and goals. Adding fun positive vibes in my life.
I don’t get the women that want to be on a Dusty’s roster.
I love the international trips, 5 star restaurants, shopping sprees.
Looking good while we just have fun times.
❤
Thissss
"I swear he didn't cheat on me, he's not the type." Im sure you thought he wasn't the type to ghost you either
Yeah she is in denial.
She was delusional and seems like a spoiled brat
I was thinking the same thing. She seems young so perhaps naive. But she has no idea if he cheated or not. She also didn’t expect him to ghost her so clearly he isn’t who she thought he was.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Oh, bless her heart. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 "I'm either gonna break up with him or...." GIRL! 🙄🙄🙄
Delulu😂😂😂😂
I have never been ghosted by any man except my dad 😂
He set the tone...so I be 10 steps ahead of these men
You ain’t right for that. I did similar as well when I was younger. 😂
@@StrawberryCakeStudiosYT had to find a blessing in the trauma 🤣
@@TM-nb9zf it’s the only thing keeping us going. but I sincerely hope you do find someone who reassured you 💯
Same! Having my dad in my life has saved me from so many men!
@@giseleb7807it’s the opposite babes
Avoid emotional sweet talkers. Always
Those words of affirmation with the first girl was a red flag to me.
@myriamwilliams that one,yeah. Plus we don't know what other red flags were. Or if these girls were red flags themselves
When she said we talk about how much we love each other! Men don’t talk like that, only scammers !
I've stopped trusting men full stop.
This video low key triggered me. I haven’t been ghosted by a man in several years, but there was a time in my life where ghosting was a very common theme with the men that I dated. There was one man that I was so stuck on for a few years. He kept coming in and out of my life. Kind of embarrassed thinking about it, but reminds me how cruel a lot of men are. I disliked men for a VERY long time. I was eventually able to find my person and will be getting married in two months.
You probably have a horrible taste in men
Over half on the apps are already in a relationship.
Yes and when you tell them no, they always try to convince you why you should meet them even though they’re married or taken
@edithk2997 it's sick single and celibate over here Boi they get mad when u say your celibate
Girly with the hoodie saying I know he sounds like crap but he wouldn’t cheat on me… babe.
For real
She's Delulu😂
@@mskabueshe is because why is she considering breaking up with him. It’s done
@@Lorilor343 yes seems like it's long done with...there's sth she isn't telling us
She sounds crappy
It’s the worst when someone ghosts you after months or years of emotional investment on both sides
That's just evil diabolical
Happened to me.
I don't think it's that deep to ghost someone after one or two dates. But during an actual relationship or after months or years after consistent emotional investment is just heartless!
After six years together, he just didn't answer the phone. Changed his number. Wouldn't come to the door. No explanation. The last time I saw him, he acted totally normal. I love you's we got food. To this day, haven't spoken to him since. I found out on FB he moved a girl in 12 years younger than him. He was 34 at the time, I was 27, she was 22. Karma got him, though. His mom kicked them out of the paid off house she bought him when we were together. They had a baby, broke up right after and now she's got him on child support. 18 years. Wish I never met him now, but that's definitely one of the more memorable most F*d up things someone's ever done to me. It's been 11 years, I only remember him for that. Nothing else good about the relationship. Definitely a blessing in disguise. I'm so happy we never had a baby together. I stayed single for six years after that. I met my now boyfriend, together 5 1/2 years. We live in a house with two dobermans ❤🩵 and life is stable and peaceful 😌
Happened to me after we had been together for about 5 years. That experience nearly killed me 🫠
Rejection is the universe's protection. Be happy he ghosted you.
Thisss in the moment iy hurts but in the long run it’s a win
At least this happened to these women while they’re young and can easily move on. Men do this to women too after they’ve been married 10, 20, 30, etc years too and that’s usually how women end up destitute when they’re older, particularly if they reliant on the man for their livelihood.
I hope I am not being insensitive…maybe am broken inside, I find ghosting as a clear communication style of cowardice so I really don’t take it personally. I prefer you ghost me than stay in my life whilst you hate my guts.
I truly believe my person, friends or romantic partners will not ghost me so maybe am dulu.
Same, I've seen sooooo much betrayal but I live like hey what's for me is for me.... life is game and must go on! Lol
I have been ghosted by friends and I just move on. I don’t even ask them why.
@@nomessnostressI don’t find it offensive at all maybe am strange. Sometimes you just have to find peace in yourself with these things.
INDEED.
I got ghosted for saying no to sharing explict content of my body.
If you havent give up your dignity or your dream then men walking out on you should not even upset you.
Those guys aren’t worth it. Hold their funeral and move on.
@@Frugal637 Yeah, when I get ghosted I respect the dead. I had ppl come back and I see them send a message on FB but I'm not bothered.
I'm not a supermarket you can walk in and out of , I'm a private resort.
Bullet dodgeddddd😮💨😮💨
@@Muchloviess Indeed. We were friends too and I encouraged to chase his dream, and we would make a deal that I do everything in the house supporting him emotionally and he will support me financially when he starts earning because I believed the nonsense that a man is a partner for life if you are building him up..
Nope... They are not.
In general they are vile and predatory.
I can't deny that being ghosted hurts a little because we were friends before we started to become close but it's a clear sign that men don't love you.
They only love what they can get and take from you.
@@AutumnAprodithe 💯❤️
Girl who’s got ghosted by her fiance 😮
No one gets ghosted for “no reason” the reason is he didn’t like you enough and guess what that’s okay.
There is a reason. You just will just never know the reason. But there definitely is one.
Yeah, 100% of the time, that Narc was already in a relationship with someone else. Lol.
You may never know the reason but you never have to care
When a man ghost you, there is definitely someone else in the picture (another possibility). Do not continue a relationship with someone that ghost you. You are not the person they want. you're what's available.
Or how bout he got bored
It’s not for no reason , these men on the dating apps are talking to 25 girls every day ..🥴😬
I remember a video of a therapist explaining dating apps as a buffet. Larger quantity, low quality. It’s a very small quantity on the apps that are looking for a serious relationship while also being someone of substance.
Some are on there seeking validation, some are married or in relationship, some are on the rebound looking to hook up, some are homeless and jobless so not in a position to date. That leaves maybe 1/4 who are even worthy of dating.. lol. The odds are just BAD overall
This might come as a shocker to some people. The way men say women love bad boys that’s the same way men love women who treat them like trash. The mistake women make is to make themselves easily accessible to men. All lovey dovey within a week into the relationship, cooking and cleaning and matching surnames. Men are supposed to chase and keep a look out for competition hence why they get bored after a few months and on to the next girl. Stop making yourself accessible to men unnecessary, keep him on his toes and quit doing wifey duties for a boyfriend.
Preach sis🗣️
I don't wanna be a bitch to be treated halfway decent. If I have to do all that I will never romance him.
This is soo true I’ve learned this the hard way
The more you give the less they give you
Yes!
When they ghost you, respect the dead and move on.
All these guys on these apps are secretly married
First one: I was like Damn, was his family helping him ghost??
That second girl saying she knows he didn't cheat on her is crazy bc he def did
Girl #2 he’s cheating that’s why he kept asking how invested she was… he felt bad after the last conversation so he ghosted. My ex’s family lied to my ear while I was crying until his mother caved and said he was there!
There's no such thing as ghosted for no reason. People who ghost have a reason, whatever you think about it. Sometimes little things can be the reason that made them realize they're not interested. I'm not endorsing the behavior, but usually rejection is protection
I wonder how many of these ppl died lol. Do you ever wonder if someone who's ghosted you has literally died?
Mine didn’t die
Sisters keepers book n movie lol
Like the Sex And The City episode where Miranda gets stood up.
That died in my mind that’s forsure
I’m pretty sure if that was the case a family member may have reached out or answered their cell phone . When my friend got in a bad car accident, her brother picked up her phone to tell me she was in ICU.
The only man you take seriously is the one you are married too.
Can’t even do that sis..
@@cryptickink 😂😂😂 it’s so bad. 😂😂
@@TheGreenlove87 it really is 😂😂😂! It’s like an anomaly for a man to be amazing all around nowadays! Not perfect!!! Just amazing!!
No one more single then older married men. Don't count marriage
I hate to burst you're bubble but in this day and age marriage isn't a barrier. It's a harsh truth.
Have I been ghosted before? No. I've *dodged a bullet* before. It is the worst, most narcissistic, self-centered, disrespectful thing in the world to ghost someone that has invested in you, lived with you, even gotten engage or married to you. But when that pain wears off, there's a point where I am at least glad to know what a selfish coward he is before wasting more of my life on him. I wish I knew what the answer is not to get blindsided by this behavior, but it seems like even the really good (appearing) men turn into these useless parasites for no reason at all. The whole 4B thing makes more sense with every passing day. Stay single ladies, for your mental health and your life.
So glad Lady #2 had a follow-up and that she did healing work after. Her "fiance" is a manipulative user and a sociopath.
Just a note, NEVER get deeply emotionally involved with someone you've never met face to face and don't get engaged to someone whose house you've never been too and friends/family you've never met. When you reach that level of commitment you shouldn't have to go through all that to find them unless they've literally disappeared from their life.
If he ghost once and you let them back... trust they will do it again 😂..... they don't respect you at all! She took him back for what?
My ex boyfriend did everything to be with me for 2 years, we builded first a friendship. Then we got together and after 6 months the dude just ghosted me. Only to come back 2 years later to say I am the love of his life blabla... It's been 7 years and he still heavily try to get with me even if I have a new boyfriend and I literally do not answer him. It took me years to be able to date or trust any men. I remember all the questioning with no answer, worst feeling ever when it was the person you thought would be your person for life. This is so disrespectful and mean.
There levels to GHOSTING first date I do not think you should take it so seriously. People change their minds for many reasons. Ghosting someone you actually in a full relationship with is bogus. If you fear abuse or are experiencing abuse of course GHOST they ass protect your life. The least you can do if you do fear physical harm is call them or text them and let them know it is over. I do not feel all breakups require a face to face protect yourself at all COSTS. Respect the dead if someone GHOSTS you.
I agree with you Sis 💯
If you don’t want to meet up with someone after the first date second date or 100th ,date doesn’t matter, you should tell them you don’t want to see them again. These are just disgusting cowards
@@dorino9057Try saying that if it was a woman doing the ghosting. If a woman picks up on some dangerous vibes or hears something that could potentially put her in harms way after a first date, she is NOT obligated to tell that man she doesn’t want to continue meeting/talking with him therefore if a man has a reason for not wanting to continue talking to a woman after a first date, he is not obligated to give her a reason. People sense pf entitlement actually be having them believe that they are owed an explanation and then when they don’t get what they want, they’re just dumbfounded. Get over yourself.
@@JaySmith. Yh I agree that ghosting is fine if you feel at all in danger, but not do no reason that’s just rude and mean
Im not obligated to do anything. If I dont feel like dealing with you anymore thats it! Some women are psychos and dont want to let you go. Im not giving anyone an opportunity for anything when i feel like leaving dont care how you ‘feel’
Hawaii FOR 2WEEKS!???? Girl ill marry you my damn self 😭💀
I was ghosted and then 8 months later he texts me … I don’t think the woman he ghosted me for ended well 😅
I was ghosted after a 11 month relationship..... And this was before "GHOSTED" was really a Thing, so I didn't know what was going on... I thought maybe he was in a car wreck or arrested ect... I went to his house and saw his car park. So I left a note on the windshield. 30min later he sends this completely irate text yelling at me asking " how dare I try and find him and come to his house".... WHAT!!!!???? ....LIKE, WHAT????.... I WAS SOOOOO CONFUSED 😕 WE WERE TOGETHER FOR 11 MONTHS!!! JUST WHY? 🤷🏾♀️
Cause for 11 months you were a side piece. Sorry. Some men really ain't shit.
Um you had some restraint for sure. I woulda banged on his door if I saw his car.
Terrible!
I actually fake overreact to ghosting so when they come back, I get gifts 😌
I'd rather let my silence speak for me, and retain my dignity.
Love
@Rose-kj7rz depends on how you do it. Plus how much money he has.These guys know you notice so i dont always play that stoic game lol.... If he ghosted, that means he isn't serious about me anyway, but he thinks I am about him, so why not toy with him and get 🤑. It's a total mindF .
@@Blissedx why would I want gifts and money from someone who doesn't take me, or a relationship serious?
I want gifts to mean something. I want them to have significance.
Not just something someone gives me bc they think I'll accept their mind games and they can buy their way into my life.
@@Rose-kj7rz it truly all depends what you want him for. Not every man you know should be your next future husband. Sometimes it’s okay to have a little fun🙂↔️. I take the gift and resell.
Plus, Well-off men can take a little while to get it together because they have MANY options. So you milk em until you’re done with them. Regular men you keep them blocked of course lol. I, however, block no one tbh..idc enough. But I get your point too.
Try being ghosted by a so called best friend of 5 years…..
Jealousy!
@@evjimz8460it doesn't have to be that... ive left friendships with no explanation.... they know wtf they did and if not hey
I was with my ex for 10 months and out of the blue, sends me a text saying he's not happy and we need a break. I was angry at the way he handled it and told him that he needs to take accountability for how he did what he did. He apologized and I was cool until he video calls me telling me he's backed up. I told him that I don't do booty calls, situationships or flings. I do relationships. He ghosted me then had the nerve to call me 5 months later and wants to hang out. I told him that I wouldn't even if Jesus came down and slapped me on the back of the neck with his sandal and told me to take him back.
20:32 Preach, sir!
I agree 100%. Ghosters are creatures of opportunity, and unless they did it because they feared for their life I do not respect them. And that means anyone who ghosts me because I am not violent nor am I aggressive. So…ghosts be gone. lol.
What I didn't know until I dated multiple people at a time, and I say dated, not exclusively dated, is that when a man would be interested and then seemingly drop off, it probably was because he was entertaining someone else, because that's what I did as well. When you're talking to 3+ people, it's hard to balance who is available when and who said what. Before when I talked to, dated, and then either proceeded with a relationship or asked to just be friends with someone, I did it one person at a time. I used to think it was my fault if they ghosted me, but I find that when you wrong someone, they typically are very vocal about it. When someone doesn't care to have you around, that's when they quietly let you go.
Was talking to a guy for months, decided to fly to his city for a lil vacation (it wasn’t to see him), we met, had dinner, everything was perfect. Kept talking for about 2 weeks when I got back home. Woke up one random morning blocked on all forms of communication. No warning. He popped back up a year later. A YEAR!!!
My heart broke for the lovely lady wearing the orange top. The sheer pain in her voice😢
🤐that was so sad btw
1:12 I've learned they most times, they don't measure up so they run. Thank God
the obliterated lady came back looking like a super model, go girl
For the first one, tbh that happens multiple times more with men on dating apps, it doesnt really last like that. So it doesn't surprise me.
The the fiance one is crazy though wtf?
The fiance one also really got me
@@mskabuethat "fiance" was already married or in a relationship. Sounds like they were long distance initially.
I believe there were signs that she missed.
Yes absolutely 💯
I don't know what's worse; him ghosting or what happened to my friend. He left her at the altar. Just never showed up.
I've never been ghosted but have heard horror stories from my friends. That is so cruel and emotionally hard to handle.
If he can just ghost 👻 he’s terrible
He didn't cheat on her. She promises. He's not the type.🤣
I’m extremely guilty of ghosting. I need to stop that shit 😂
Stop it sis🤣🤣
You will when it happens to you.
@@TexasGal. oh it has 😂
Same .. ppl know what they be doing and they will not explain or elaborate so there is no reason to elaborate a “walk away”
It's indicative of a lack of character. I'm glad you want to change. Jesus is alive.
Me: watching this in horror
Also me: has definitely ghosted before
It’s not good…but I’ve also had a few guys get really nasty after I sent a text saying I didn’t think we were a good match romantically. Trying to be better now though
I feel like some ppl don’t know what ghosting is… Nobody owes you constant communication if you just met or haven’t even met them irl. They literally don’t know you and neither do you and people are busy. I feel like this also doesn’t apply to neurodivergent ppl but you wouldn’t know unless they told you. I’m not good at responding to people immediately especially if the messages are long and thoughtful. I’m also busy af and get tired/forgetful so I won’t respond to someone for days at a time if I just met them/have only been talking to them for less than a month from on a dating app bc they’re not a major priority until I get to know them better in person. If a guy decides not to text me for a day or two and we aren’t in a relationship I’m not pressed bc I got my own shit to do anyway. If he just isnt interested oh well I know my worth. Now it’s another story if you’re in a committed relationship and the guy just drops you like he never knew you. That’s weird and disrespectful af.
A boyfriend of six years mother died left him some money. He started smoking crack kicked out of his apartment. Moved to boston got arrested there for 6months came back to the city. Called me, stopped calling didnt think nothing of it. Then I saw him with a lady that used to drink alcohol and use crack everyday she had a stoke and she had a walker. I dodged that bullet
A man's rejection is a blessing
My dad and I are twins in that we both pick horrible partners. So we opt for singlehood and freedom. He gets me. And is the only man I love unconditionally. These other mother truckers can suck it. The last one tried to kill me because i knew he was down low, had a daughter with his exwifes daughter and practiced black magic. Told ya. Cant pick em for shit. So there will be no ghosting for me. I have no intention in dating. But it most definitely is a coward move. And ive learned from past experience, they generally swing the block so be ready to look good, live good, and tell him to kiss your hind parts.
I was recently ghosted just when i though this was getting somewhere... Again...
Yeah i know i guess i was gullible for thinking some dumb fuck was going to actually see me the way i though i saw him. But you know what? Screw him.
The dude asking "Do you want me to come home to you?" was planning to abandon his wife and child but changed his mind. At 10:28 Poor baby doesnt lnow shes already been dumped.
5:08 Soon as you knew he wasn't dead, he would have been dead to me instantly.
Hawaii girl didnt get ghosted he told you straight up it was over. Lol. He doesnt cheat....famous last words. I getting he used you for a trip to hawaii.
Just accept it and keep going. Its billions of people in the world why be emotional over 1😅
That’s not how any of this works
This is so dismissive…. Like a billion people trying to date you
@@KaimaVixenNo but that is still enough people that you should be able to find one. 7 billion people on earth and they supposed to worry about one?
@@KaimaVixen 🙄 now I see why a lot of you get ghosted….you don’t know how to move tf on if I were a dude I ghost you as well
@@Frugal637we are seeing why they get ghosted !!!!
Ghosting is sometimes necessary. I've been ghosted and I've done the ghosting. I'm pretty sure majority of people have ghosted someone at some point in their life. It may seem like telling someone you are not interested instead of ghosting is the best thing to do but sometimes it isn't. Ladies especially have to be very careful with rejecting men because some men are dangerous. If you just met this person and you have no history whatsoever, ghosting is acceptable whether you ghost or they ghost. Whoever is being ghosted should look at it as a blessing in disguise. If you have history with the this person you obviously should communicate unless for some reason you really need to get away from this person. So all ghosting is not bad. It just depends on the situation.
I ghost men all the time because it’s too dangerous to reject them to their face. Even if they seem nice, there’s a 90% chance they are going to want to argue about it and lie about how they’ll do differently.
Same!!!
I’ve been ghosted so many times it’s crazy 😭😭
Your voice is so beautiful ❤
That is so sweet of you to say...thanks😊
I disagree with the woman who says not to block someone who ghosted you. I think keeping the door open for communication keeps you from healing and moving forward, and implies you're waiting for the ghoster to come back. Block and move on.
Maybe he just wasn't interested in you? Suck it up. We ghost and reject guys that we aren't interested in... they are allowed to do the same.
Louder please.... it's not funny when the shoe is on the other foot
Maybe you do that but not everyone does. I communicate rejectionz
Ghoster here. You get ghosted if I’m tired of being treated bad
Did you communicate beforehand?
@@abenabecks Yes. Given chances. Change for a week or so, then slowly back to it.
@@getboogie1950 ok, fair enough
@@getboogie1950I don’t consider that ghosting
Honestly why would you ghost someoen before a wedding. Thats the most evil thing i have heard😢May God give her a great loving man
Its because he was already married....men can really lie🙀🙀
Rejection is protection 🙌🙌
Exactly what I'm always preaching here
At the end of the day it’s hurtful but know that the person who ghosts you is childish and uncommunicative and you don’t deserve that! So all and all it’s okay!
He’s not that type but yet he ghosted you after 8 months. Girl I don’t know if it’s because you are young or what but he probably found someone and did cheat on you 😩
I can’t say anything I ghosted men before but it’s because for most of them they can’t hold a convo it’s always the wyd and send me pics and the basic conversations that makes me ghost.
Some of these men sre immature snd narcissistic. They try to boost their own ego by doing this. They sctually get a kovk out of it. Others simply lack self esteem or adequate communication skills. Its easier to go ghost,than to talk sbd say what they really feel.
10:35 she needs a sister and a hug
Indeed
Dude sound like a druggie
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Wow Hawaii is an expensive trip I would have definitely ask for funds
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If you were ghosted, Move On🙄🙄🙄
If men were to cry about everytime they were ghosted or used for there money and ghosted it will have its own channel. Oh yea they do. Always remember there is two sides to story
Truth!
You aren't 'ghosted' if your just talking and your not in a relationship. Thats a victim mindset. Ghosting is if he's your man and leaves with no explanations. I feel for the lady whose fiance left. He was grimy. He actually did you a favor. Marriage would have been hell .
The girl with fiance 😢
Who cares? No one owes you an explanation. I hv ghosted plenty of men after dates because they just weren’t the one. Move on!
Well it is bad when you have years of emotional investment on an individual...
Same so it's vice versa 😂😂😂
@@mskabue I agree! Long term r’ship ghosting is awful
Ghosting causes emotional trauma. Only an Immature narcissistic coward thinks that is ok
Ewe girl I don't like thu
Well there was a reason, he doesn't like you.
No, 100% of the time, those dudes were never serious in the first place or were already in a relationship. Total Narcs.
So glad I've been married so long. Dating was never this weird when I was young. I was never ghosted or stood up. These stories are embarrassing.
The part that most won't admit is that they had sex with most if not all the guy's that ghosted them
Did you not hear most of the stories, they were in relationships with the ear guys for months
Most of these women are very desperate…. Thats why he ghosts ladies… be detached
GOD gives u things that don’t make sense at the time but will eventually.
17:03 that's why a lot of women lose ALL UNDERSTANDING.
Ladies, I'm a man and I have a question for you. If I went out on a date with you and I saw red flags that immediately turned me off and/or wasn't attracted to you when I saw you because you don't look like your profile pic could you handle those truths or would you rather get ghosted and spared hearing what red flags and flaws that I saw?
You just say “I’m sorry, I didn’t feel a connection” or whatever kind lie you can think of. That’s it.
@dream0froses What if she asks for the truth?
@@rjs659At that stage you don’t owe a full explanation. Say it’s not going to work and move on.
Tbh, I would ghost someone if they made me feel unsafe or like they can’t take rejection. If it’s one date, they don’t really need a full blown explanation. If they just aren’t your type an you don’t want them, just say you do not feel like you both vibed well together.
I personally only see it as awful if it’s someone who strung their partner along a longer relationship (months, years), and then suddenly they cut all contact and give their partner no closure. That’s it.
All you have to do is say that you don't think you're compatible with one another. I've done it plenty of times after a first/second/third date when I wasn't attracted to the guy, saw a red flag, or we just had different values or life plans. The great part is that it's not a lie, you really AREN'T compatible. I haven't had many people ask for a "reason," but if they do I say that I'd like to keep that personal and that I wish them all the best. Only 1 man has gotten upset by that, the rest realize if it's just a date or a few dates that it's fine and they let it go
I’m seeing why a lot of them are getting ghosted…. Some of these people are unhinged I’m reading the comments from some of these people and I don’t blame the person who ghosted them!!!!!
There’s no justification for ghosting unless it involves DV
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These young girls cussin?? Not a good look. These young girls need to learn to have class.
8:48 does anyone know what kind of American accent this is?
3:01 all this sounds like a red flag. Sounds high school.
I’m about to dress really a sexy and girly. That’s the best revenge ever ❤
Yes and leaving them on read if they ever return
Don't dress sexy. Predators and sex traffickers are everywhere. Your making yourself a target.
The girl with the hoodie is insufferable and sounds very self involved! All the things she deemed were acts of love: were performance arts!
Like what?? How??
There's several women in hoodies be spey
😂😂😂😂
I’ll be honest I’ve ghosted people but for very good reasons if I expressed to you that it’s not working out or something is wrong or I find something out and you’re still trying to convince me that it isn’t or even with proof that nothing is going on or something just not right I’m ghosting you
21:48 worse explanation ever
14:03 WEIRDO