@@h2orainwater39 its shocking... i think I even had ptsd from it. Just remember that narcism is on a spectrum and try not to take it personally...theyre just selfish-unconscious beings...but no matter how you slice it...If they were controlling, jealous, codependent and emotionally draining...you won, because if after they left you gained peace..then you didn't lose anything. My life is peaceful without him. I hope you feel better soon.
It’s insane that narcs go to relationship after relationship...but after being with one, it’s like you’re traumatized and don’t date for a long time due to flashbacks, triggers, trauma, and needing to HEAL from that specific relationship. Never again! I’m much more stronger now. My life is about me now 😭🥰❤️ don’t ever look back! These people are evil!
@@BEEZIEWLRD Leeeave! You leave, yet? Only been 10 days for me. But, I have to. We’ve got to, brother, for our own sanity. And, to have a future worth living, one that we deserve! Love & light 2 u.
@@BEEZIEWLRD Do it, bro. Start ur new life. It’ll b hard. It’ll b painful. It’s taking me work and I’m only just starting for the millionth x but more importantly, the FINAL x. I’m done. I gotta live a real life, already. One that’s peaceful and filled w good people and light and love. We deserve it, homie!
A year ago, walked away from someone I loved dearly, because of his narcissistic traits , i was always last and I was frequently gaslighted and made to feel inadequate .... NEVER AGAIN
i did the never again earlier this year. I'm in my 3rd trimester of pregnancy and my narcissist only "tried" to make things right for 2 weeks and then got engaged, now he doesn't even care about the baby.
@@Stand-g3i do yourself and the baby the biggest favour that you can and forget he exists , try not to expect him to care It'll be hard as a single mum but you'll get support from other places - healthy places ...hugs
Binge watching videos like this are the ONLY thing keeping me from stupidly reaching out to my ex narc who I just left yesterday. I want so badly to text him and lash out for what he did, but I know it’s pointless and he doesn’t care and will only gaslight me. People like you are the real MVPs 🙏🏽💖
Whats amazing is that you actually know you did the right thing! Well done x If you call him, you'll be back on that broken treadmill where he wants you & you're on the Mend...When he calls ignore & don't pick up...gain STRENGTH after day one...Then BLOCK!
I feel like the more I try to stand up for myself the less empathetic I am. But I feel like the less I stand up for myself the more depressed I get... it’s like this constant battle 😓
Do they be super kind and generous to everyone else except for you?..even complete strangers! Then you have no friends to talk to about your abuse because they only see that hes such a nice guy! :(
ain't that the truth. If I even started talking to a woman I knew from back in the day I was trashed by her. Yet if she met somebody, a guy, from back in her past its like I became completely invisible. Never introduced to them, completely ignored, as she engrossed herself & flirted in what he had to say. Pathetic really. Pathetic that I put up with more so.
Just let them explode on you in front of their friends. My soon to be single narcissist went off about nothing in front of our friends on multiple occasions. When I finally brought up the abuse I've been tolerating, most of them automatically brought up "That one time they went off on you for x,y,z for seemingly no reason". In my case, her own friends took me in, and understood me. They even criticized the narc "You really don't deserve that.. I still love them but thats not okay" and were there for me. My advice is, TALK TO PEOPLE ABOUT IT. Don't be dramatic or talk to dramatic people, talk to people who display solitude and empathy, they more than anyone will not only understand, but respect the boundaries associated with what "venting" entails. Be strong, for yourself. They will degrade you until you leave, then promise to stop, or do whatever you want, in order to keep you around. They don't really mean to do it, but they rarely change, and due to this you must leave them. Maybe they will find someone who likes being abused, thats their ideal relationship.
Yes! They do. The best way to deal with this is number 1 to go No Contact if you can. #2 if you can't leave yet show no emotion with their abuse by going gray rock. God bless you. 🙏
I can't believe how much things have changed since I started watching your videos. You have brought so much positivity into my life! I finally was able to leave a very toxic relationship after feeling trapped for so long. Thank you! ❤
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I understand now! Im too comfortable and this is the first time in my life that i haven't had to struggle financially. Stability and security. But i have no freedom. No being me. No friends. No family. Im isolated and kept as an object/ pet. How do i leave?
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Stephanie, you are amazing at what you do. These videos are helping me so much. Thank you for putting these videos online for free so people who struggle and learn to thrive.
I feel like I know you also when you are speaking.everything you are saying is so true and I can’t believe how much I have been through myself! I am so much better now since listening to your videos. Thanks so much
17 Days ago I walked away from my narcissistic single mother ex fiancee. She had put me through a lot of emotional abuse. Never have I been treated so poorly by someone. And day by day I struggle from the break up. Watching your videos is really helping me get through this Grief. This is the 7th video I have watched on your channel and I'm really learning a lot not just narcissism but also everything about relationship. Thank you for making videos like this because it really is very effective. Thank you. ✌️ I liked and subbed
The problem is most people rush into a relationship way too fast. The way I think of it is that most people you meet are not your match. You try things out for a while. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. There's no deadlines. If he/she gives an ultimatum show them the door. Don't get so emotionally involved so quickly.
Absolutely true!! I ended up in two horrible relationships with narcs because of my mental stories. With the first it was that I wouldn’t find anyone else, the second was putting him on a pedistal...in my mind he was the perfect person...after I fell so in love with him and shit got real, I discovered his true colours...he was wearing the thickest shiniest mask...I was too blind to see it before I sank. Please ladies - I beg...whoever reads this...if you have a little tingle/sensation in your body, or a intuitive hit in your gut, that it doesn’t feel good being with the person, honour it. The stories of doubt or fear start kicking in, ignore it. Your intuition always supersedes the stories. Love yourself enough to listen to your inner voice and honour it. I wouldn’t want anyone to experience the emotional turmoil I’ve gone through these past few years ♥️
Thank you Stephanie, you always have the right thing to say when I am doubting the decision of divorce. I really admired you, I wish I'll develop this mental strength that you have and you teach us. ❤😘
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Thanks for the video! But... Do not expect another person to make you happy. You won't find happiness outside of you. Happiness is within you. If you find someone that is nice, okay! But do not expect that person will be your other half. This person already has his internal struggles and won't be able to solve yours. Do not try to find the perfect person for a relationship because you will fail.
I am a single mom of a high functioning autistic teen, and I just want to thank you for your videos! I follow you on almost all social media platforms, except twitter. You have helped me, and continue to help me in stabilizing my emotions with being with a narc who emotionally abused me, via manipulation, guilt, etc. I continuously went back after the "hoovering" & love bombing; but recently have gone zero contact, and it has been 32 days (when today is over it will be 33 days). It has been a struggle to enforce this, but I feel much better everyday, practicing self care and parenting myself while feeling every feeling so I can heal. I just resonate with your videos, and listen to these also with my teen daughter so that something she hears may help her learn about healthy relationship patterns, self love, etc..
I totally agree with you 120% !!! That’s why whenever I come across a channel that talks about “revenge” and “Karma” on a ex narcissist, I immediately skip it only because it shows that the person hasn’t grown enough emotionally and in a place of true forgivenesses because technically speaking it isn’t the ex narcissistic fault that they did the behaviors they put on to you. In fact, it goes way back to what the parents and their parents and the history of of family members taught and projected onto their Children. So again, I don’t blame the ex narcissist, instead I forgive them and myself and my family traumas and find a healthy place to move on so i can become “FREE”! And that’s the best place to be !! Thank you so much for your videos and support! I can’t thank you enough!!💜💜💜😏
I can’t tell you how helpful this video is to me!! Thank you 😊 I’m basing my breakup with my emotionally abusive boyfriend. He can’t be available for me emotionally and I’m walking on eggshells. I can’t tell you how degrading he is to me!! He has no respect for me at all!! Just thank you!!
I am feeling so releaved by having all of this knowledge about narcissistic people, it makes me feel so much smarter as a 21 years old, i am growing more as a person, i really needed this after everything bad what happend. Thank you really much for sharing all of this on your channel, knowledge is so underrated 🙏🏼
I binge watched your vids this weekend. It’s the first time in two months that I am starting to understand and be ok with a horrific breakup my family and I went through this past year.
I love the conundrum: The question at 13:43 could completely be my ex. This is exactly what she says. YET, she's the narcissist! She checks off most of the boxes, from gas-lighting and emotional blackmail to threats, ultimatums, non-acceptance, entitlement, belittling, punishing (dog house all the time, and usually for no clearly defined reason, other than I wasn't doing something she wanted that she never really articulated.) Hey, I'm far from perfect, but after trying for years to ascertain if I'm a narcissist, I'm not. Years of therapy. (Two counselors; one when I was in my 30's, and one in the past two years who promised me I wasn't a narco.) Plus lots of deep dives with family and friends. I begged for truth, They all told me to stop beating myself up and stop letting these narcissists do a number on my head. True dat! Do I have my narcissistic moments? Sure. (Most of us have some, I do believe.) But it's always so ironic the pot calling the kettle black. So it's funny to hear Stephanie giving advice to a possible narcissist. That's what's in my head, anyway. That said, Stephanie's right: don't care, don't waste head space. Let it go. Don't take it personally. Easier said than done. But try, and keep trying. Don't worry about karma. I wonder the same and get upset when I see people who treat others poorly doing so well, succeeding in the material world, getting awards, etc. Stephanie's right: they are not happy and never will be. They will always be restless, discontent, searching, being disappointed, judging, blaming, trying on relationships, discarding people, good and bad. They are the Grand Canyon and we are all trying to fill them in with teaspoons of sand. Ain't never gonna happen, even in a billion years. If you can get to a place where you actually feel sorry for them, that's progress; in my book anyway. For myself, I've dedicated myself to bringing more love and light to the world. If you want, you can temporarily think of it as counteracting their darkness, unhappiness, and lack of love. You are putting more light into the world. It's like a carbon offset! Ha ha! 😉👍
I am so thankful for your content here. Emotional abuse is such a real thing. For me as a mother, an independent woman, an ambitious go getter, a person who holds themselves to a higher standardized and loves to love other people...my experience has broken me completely. I know there are so many mothers out there who are being trapped and systematically broken just like I've been. I almost don't even recognize my reflection anymore. Over the past 2 yrs I've been fighting to regain myself...but have been financially trapped in the relationship. Im so eager and anxious to break free. Just wanna say thanks for your approach on the subject and for being dedicated. I'm trying not to dwell on the sad facts everyday but on days like today i do take time to address the facts in order to continue building a strong foundation for myself. It's gonna be a long road of recovery. God has been so gracious to me. God bless you lady.
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Omg, that was so deep! I love how you said that if you're confused about how to see a person it's because of cognitive dissonance and you not wanting to believe what they are presenting. Mic drop, that is so profound!
Watching Stephanie's videos is enabling me to finally see the light in relation to the longstanding narcissistic relationship I was in, but thankfully have now walked away from. I've felt as though this relationship was like a confusing jigsaw puzzle I could never finish or find the pieces for but Steph has helped me to find these missing pieces and so now I can see the finished clear picture, I'm so very grateful to her.
thanks Stephanie for another great video. I used to wish bad on the ex narc but now I see how completely miserable and empty he is. He continues to get in his own way. experiencing him..allows me to love and respect myself even more for the person I am. He has taught me to appreciate so much about myself. karma takes care of what needs to be taken care of. no more hate from me..
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For once in my life my child and I have just left from being in an narcissist relationship. I'm gonna be working on myself and what I want in my life for better.
You make me feel so normal. We are so alike and when you said u were a single mom i gasped. We are the same and i feel so much better. Its like seeing myself from outside my body
Thank you for these videos They have helped me and I think others as well. I especially liked that you said if you have to ask when a person should leave then it’s probably time. Great job and I do hope others remember that the stories we mentally tell ourselves lay the groundwork for the future we want. Blessings of light and love 🙏🏽
Exactly! I dont surround myself with people like that because there negative people and any attention you give them feeds them more energy. I have known men and women like this that hide behind their money and assests and live by themselves its a comfort thing for them but if they didnt have it they would have a melt down. Its hard for me to relate to a narcassist because their goal is to live life by the dollar, sometimes they want something for nothing and when people spoil them or hand it to them they become bitter because of it. Steer clear of these people because no matter what you do its always somebody elses fault, its never their own.
Thank you for this video. It made me see that his issues are alot worse than anything I may have. I can continue my couseling and become a better whole person but he will never be fixed. He will never be healed or whole. ❤
I definitely struggle with feelings of guilt for ending things, because I hate to be the next person in his life who left him, even though he left me with no choice. Every day, I still ask myself if I was too harsh and whether I should explain to him that I didn't cut him off out of spite, but because I no longer want to be involved in his situation. It's really reaffirming to hear your advice, Stephanie. Thank you for being on our side.
I really needed to see this video. It really grounded and reassured me. Thank you so much!! I'll agree that this stuff should be taught to younger people. I'm 37 and still learning!!
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Yes. There are many handbooks that we need on life that should be given to us at an early age but aren't. The education system in the US makes no sense. They teach all this stuff that 98% of students will never use when they are adults.
my assumption when i started watching your videos was that you were with an abusive narcissist bc you talked about narcissism a lot... after watching almost all your videos i was right you were! you're the kind of person we all need as a friend
Going no contact is critical in breaking the trauma bond with the narc! Never look at their social media! Never text or call them! I was having panic attacks at the end. I said to myself “no more!”. I have been no contact for 3 years! These people aren’t worth the time of day!
Stephanie, you say you didn't know any of this stuff when you were in your 20's, I'm 63 (have a 34 yr old daughter) and I didn't know any of this stuff until I broke up with an BPD woman 2-1/2 years ago. Prior to that I was with a woman for 19 years, knew everything was wrong (and how I contributed to it too) but never had the knowledge to really know and the courage to get out. Now - I think I understand these types of people, I certainly understand myself better now and my singular biggest regret is learning it now and not having loads of life left to exercise it. Thats why I look forward to every day now, literally look forward to it yet I'm single, recovering from my NPD experience and loving life again - or maybe really for the 1st time ever. Thankyou again for your vids & the devil in me has to say 'how on earth are you single? You're gorgeous :-) Tks again, Russell, a Brit.
1 year ago!? Gosh, you have been teaching in a few videos, than anyone in my life! You are real, genuine, compassionate, you know how much it is to be under these predators. Thank You, a big Thank You! All the best for people like you. ❤❤❤😎😎😎
Dear Lyn, I am learning so much with you, I'm scared. I am understanding things at almost 50! But I feel strong and will work hard to heal and live a fulfilling life. Love you!
Maan you are such a force for good!! What an awesome vision of helping enlighten younger people BEFORE they get into their own messes! Totally resonates with me! Wow I love even more how you boldly assert how essential it is - like gee could we spare an half hour for life transformative material if we can drill students in math until they're sick? Absolutely!
On December's 1st I move into my own apartment and will finally be 100% free. I can't wait to belong to myself again! The new supply was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Thank you!!!! This has helped me tremendously after I walked away from my ex boyfriend who has narcissistic traits/tendencies. I am so glad I found you♥️
One aha moment was when I realized that their mess, their disorganized way of keeping their stuff has an underlying reason that they are stuck and their inability to find answers to their internal chaos which shows itself in their external messy style and not willing to clear the mess.🙏
Yes! I am striving and thriving. I am AWEsome and I know it now! No more toxic or Narc relationships. Healing is the way to go. Thanks Stephanie for your insight and education on relationships/living a healthier version of you. ❤
I love your videos they have helped me so much. I ended a relationship after a year and a half with a narc just recently. I had know idea what a narcissist was or that he was one until I started researching narcissistic behavior. I went through the guilt of braking it off with him but he was slowly destroying me. I had to put myself first. Now he is blowing up my phone with trying to lovebomb me again. It will NEVER work because I feel so much better being away from that toxicity even tho I do still love him. I feel for anyone who is in a relationship with these people or were. They are the equivalent of the devil.
I am having to walk away after 27 years. Well I am actually being disguarded for a new supply because she says I hate her and she feels unloved. Funny how a person can be controlling, belittling, selfish,dishonest and manipulative. But when I finally stand my ground she bails out and blames me. I look forward to the light after the darkness. But I do love her so it will be tough
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With narcissistic people. It is nearly impossible to find peace with them. They are the hardest people to work with and very selfish and will not admit the wrong doing. You are right they are hurting in their heart. That is why they are single and will not admit the truth of their own failure
I just cut off my sister who I believe is narcissistic and has been in my life for 23 years. The negative aspects of our relationship manifested in my relationship with my first boyfriend who cheated on me repeatedly, and one of my close friends who was untrustworthy. I am now just looking for a community of people who can be my support in this process and who will understand what I’m going through. I don’t know what to expect now that I’ve put such a strong boundary of blocking her, because for the most part I’ve naturally learned how to deal with her. I’m at the point in my life now though where my awareness of the pain she has caused me can’t be ignored and I think it’s best for me to let go. I want to focus my energy on things which serve me.
Wow, GOOD STUFF. Man I feel embarrassed now for thinking highly of her. I was blinded wanting to help change someone that never wanted help in the first place. Man, 3 years wasted.
One thing I see a lot of the desire for a narcissist to get what’s coming to them. It’s not healthy. I only hope they find happiness and heal whatever caused them to be that way. I’m glad to hear that wish coming from Stephanie. I always say I wish you well, even if I wish you gone.
Everything you say is what I say to myself on the daily so I’m so hopefully that I’m finally getting healthy. Just need the last step which is the strength to act on the things I say out loud. Thanks again for making me feel okay
Portuguese!, I was born in the Azores and would love to go back one day to visit. My first language was Portuguese and didn't really speak English until kindergarten. I wish I knew the language today. You are beautiful, great personality, voice, everything. You do so well inspiring others to do better for them selves. Keep it up, it helps. One day hopefully soon, I'll be out of my toxicity I've been stuck in for 10 years now. I look forward to the next chapters of my life. I think you and others like you for giving us the courage, strength, but most of all the knowledge so we know what it is we are going thru. You're wonderful, thank you so much. I know you will get your vacations you dream of one day.
Thank you for all of your videos because it has brought me comfort and validation of my feelings of myself and who my husband really is as a narcissist. I always seen the red flags but as you said I wanted to see something good in him and wanted him to not be that horrible person that he was hiding until he couldn’t hide it anymore. So once again thank you, God bless you!
Go to Greece Stephanie. You’ll love it. It’s my summer escape from the day to day in NY. Embedding the things you say in your videos will be tough because of my short term memory issues, but thanks for making me “us,” stronger.
Thank you so much. This is so important. I really needed to hear this. I've been through the hell and have come out the other side. I am so beyond caring about my narc ex. It's just easier to have nothing to do at all with her. Helps to have a new girl who adores me. I did the inner work, filled my own cup and attracted a beauty who is also a full cup. It's bliss. God bless✨
Thank you so much for your videos! In the course of 9 years i fell in love with a girl whom i was sure was my soulmate. I chose to ignore all the red flags, abuse, my intuition and insecurities, because i knew she had issues stemming from an abusive childhood. i felt sorry and empathy for her and was in denial. Being discarded for the new supply literally overnight last week, i am now mourning the death of a loved one that was never really real...... the pain from this, is the only thing that hasn't been a lie and is very real! Thank you again, i know im not alone....
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I was discarded by my narc 3 months ago as well. I was in so much pain I felt as if I was dying and even considered just dying because I could not handle it. After learning narcissism, which prior to my discard I knew nothing about, it helped me heal at an accelerated rate. I still think about him daily and some days are still worse than others but I can slowly feel my confidence and strength. While he’s living his “happy” life with his new supply I am taking the time to heal and for ONCE focus on me. I realized I was very codependent and placed all my happiness in him. I am learning on how to manage my codependency and set boundaries for future relationships. I hope you are healing and moving forward. They didn’t deserve our love.
Your videos are so inspiring and I felt so empowered by only listening and watching what you said and how you said it! Thanks from the bottom of my heart for the shared treasure, each and every video is a gem. I mean it.
You are amazing and I appreciate you so much! Thank you so much for sharing your wealth of information! It has helped me so much. I finally left a narcissistic verbally and emotionally abusive relationship of 5 years for good and I feel I have the strength this time to not get hovered back in as I did so many times before. Day one for me. God give me strength! My family and friends are helping me and so are you! Keep posting your excellent RUclipss. Sincerely. Anne
This is the 3rd time or second... watching this video. Now your message about why i believe I am "stuck" with my female narc, is sinking slowly into my mind. You are a beautiful person both inside and outside. The tone of your voice and body language is so relaxed, natural and matter of fact, together with your choice of words, that these complex issues seem to be so easy to grasp.. you are a natural born communicator. My blood pressure, irritation unrest disappears or lowers... when I listen to you... After your video I am feeling good and understand myself and my partner a little better. Wish you a marry Xmas and the best...for you and your family...
I am also a Capricorn and that's why I feel so comfortable listening to you. I am a people pleaser and have always attracted emotionally abusive relationships. I also feel responsible for the abuser even after I leave. I am really looking forward to healing and attracting a healthy relationship in the future. Going to work on myself to move on after ending a two year relationship a week ago. I know I made the right decision after listening to you.
Yes you are very sincere and genuine, on assumptions I thought you were a high flyer business woman on the social scene!! Learning you are a fellow single mother makes me feel more in awe of all you have achieved. I totally agree we should be educating our youth on toxic v healthy relationships and my little one is fully aware of red flags. Huge congratulations on your great channel, God bless you and your little one 🙏🤎
You're videos are a huge blessing!, I am married to a woman who has the narc tendencies and I am really struggling with decision to leave, I just really want to stay for my son, marriage is beyond therapy sessions, and I am just flat out numb at this point. Thank for your videos, they really do shed light on the darkness.
Thank you so much for all your wonderful videos ,they have really brought clarity into my life ..and too my situation .Bless you and all the good work you do ..so grateful that i have discovered you🙏🏻❤️
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I sure wish I would have known this year's ago... I really think this should be taught in school. Because it's a mental illness and people need to know what this is!!!! So they don't become victims...thank you for sharing your time and wisdom with everyone...blessings to you and your lil girl...
You've helped me understand what's been going on in my life for 17yrs. I have a 14yrs. Son with this person and make situations alot more difficult really hard sometimes! Thanks for your videos.
Stephanie, can you do a video on "How to explain to a 5yr. old the concept of narcissist ppl." how to identify them, how to deal with them at school, and how to stand up for yourself when needed. how to explain without demonizing a particular person.
I definitely don't want karma, I just want to be able to get out of this relationship, because my partner is hurting me emotionally, I love her but she keeps me at a distance, unless she wants to see me or be with me. I don't want to hurt her, or blame her for anything, I know I am as much to blame being codependent. ❤
Yes great idea for sure. Lets pour into making better humans early!!!! Im 32 and just "waking up" to so much. On a new life path. Great start New subscriber
The statement of NAR projecting who they want you to be is the most accurate thing you have ever said. I love your channel . Would be nice for you to talk about how single parents stay on the hamster wheel for too long hoping change or appreciation will set in when it rarely Does. Also getting over someone and moving on, but the ex NAR IS STILL ON YOUR MIND. Is it bad you can’t forget about the great times??? Even if you are long broken up and moving on but just cannot forget the good, goodness, and good times
"When you're struggling to realize who someone is, it's because you don't want to believe what they're showing you"
Wow...... so true
@@h2orainwater39 its shocking... i think I even had ptsd from it. Just remember that narcism is on a spectrum and try not to take it personally...theyre just selfish-unconscious beings...but no matter how you slice it...If they were controlling, jealous, codependent and emotionally draining...you won, because if after they left you gained peace..then you didn't lose anything.
My life is peaceful without him.
I hope you feel better soon.
@@h2orainwater39 your welcome 🙏
Great point, just see them for who they are. Accept it.
True
It’s insane that narcs go to relationship after relationship...but after being with one, it’s like you’re traumatized and don’t date for a long time due to flashbacks, triggers, trauma, and needing to HEAL from that specific relationship. Never again! I’m much more stronger now. My life is about me now 😭🥰❤️ don’t ever look back! These people are evil!
Bruhhh I’m tryna leave
@@BEEZIEWLRD Leeeave! You leave, yet? Only been 10 days for me. But, I have to. We’ve got to, brother, for our own sanity. And, to have a future worth living, one that we deserve! Love & light 2 u.
@@louc3135 how have you been dealing it’s been 5 for me it’s so hard
@@louc3135 I’m leaving today
@@BEEZIEWLRD Do it, bro. Start ur new life. It’ll b hard. It’ll b painful. It’s taking me work and I’m only just starting for the millionth x but more importantly, the FINAL x. I’m done. I gotta live a real life, already. One that’s peaceful and filled w good people and light and love. We deserve it, homie!
A year ago, walked away from someone I loved dearly, because of his narcissistic traits , i was always last and I was frequently gaslighted and made to feel inadequate .... NEVER AGAIN
Chris Judd the always last part,,,because only everyone else deserved to see their good side. 😢💕
i did the never again earlier this year. I'm in my 3rd trimester of pregnancy and my narcissist only "tried" to make things right for 2 weeks and then got engaged, now he doesn't even care about the baby.
@@Stand-g3i do yourself and the baby the biggest favour that you can and forget he exists , try not to expect him to care It'll be hard as a single mum but you'll get support from other places - healthy places ...hugs
Im so sorry you had to go thru that I went thru 10 years I know its so hard.
Feeling of inadequacy😑 I don’t want to experience this again, I’d rather be alone forever.
Binge watching videos like this are the ONLY thing keeping me from stupidly reaching out to my ex narc who I just left yesterday. I want so badly to text him and lash out for what he did, but I know it’s pointless and he doesn’t care and will only gaslight me. People like you are the real MVPs 🙏🏽💖
Whats amazing is that you actually know you did the right thing! Well done x If you call him, you'll be back on that broken treadmill where he wants you & you're on the Mend...When he calls ignore & don't pick up...gain STRENGTH after day one...Then BLOCK!
You are re training your brain. Do what you need to do to stay no contact!
It's hard not to want to crack their skulls
I understand and am only one week out and he is calling from a unidentified unknown number several times a day
Same here Danielle , Binge watching these sessions has educated me and prevented the serious mistake of crawling back..
The worst part for me was never knowing what was true or right or wrong nothing to go on. My gut feeling was tortured.
I relate to this.
SAME OMG
This ^
I have a saying towards Narcissist "I wish you well but well away from me!"
That's a smart one
Yes!! Far away from me!
Yes yes yes.... bye-bye 🥰💯❤️🙏
I feel like the more I try to stand up for myself the less empathetic I am. But I feel like the less I stand up for myself the more depressed I get... it’s like this constant battle 😓
Girl keep working on it. Its like building a muscle. U will get there am working on it too
Do they be super kind and generous to everyone else except for you?..even complete strangers! Then you have no friends to talk to about your abuse because they only see that hes such a nice guy! :(
ain't that the truth. If I even started talking to a woman I knew from back in the day I was trashed by her. Yet if she met somebody, a guy, from back in her past its like I became completely invisible. Never introduced to them, completely ignored, as she engrossed herself & flirted in what he had to say. Pathetic really. Pathetic that I put up with more so.
Just let them explode on you in front of their friends. My soon to be single narcissist went off about nothing in front of our friends on multiple occasions. When I finally brought up the abuse I've been tolerating, most of them automatically brought up "That one time they went off on you for x,y,z for seemingly no reason". In my case, her own friends took me in, and understood me. They even criticized the narc "You really don't deserve that.. I still love them but thats not okay" and were there for me. My advice is, TALK TO PEOPLE ABOUT IT. Don't be dramatic or talk to dramatic people, talk to people who display solitude and empathy, they more than anyone will not only understand, but respect the boundaries associated with what "venting" entails. Be strong, for yourself. They will degrade you until you leave, then promise to stop, or do whatever you want, in order to keep you around. They don't really mean to do it, but they rarely change, and due to this you must leave them. Maybe they will find someone who likes being abused, thats their ideal relationship.
They sure do.
So True am glad it was not only me
Yes! They do. The best way to deal with this is number 1 to go No Contact if you can. #2 if you can't leave yet show no emotion with their abuse by going gray rock. God bless you. 🙏
I can't believe how much things have changed since I started watching your videos. You have brought so much positivity into my life! I finally was able to leave a very toxic relationship after feeling trapped for so long.
Thank you! ❤
I am so grateful for the time that we live in. I cannot imagine without technology being alone in my room with no source of information of guidance
Well it was like that pre-Internet which made breakups all the more maddening.
This helped me so much. I have been going back and forth about my relationship and this video gave me some clarity
Me too omg. It's like I've been going mad she always makes it seem like I am over senstivie and stuff.
Me too... This helped so much 🙏🏻
Same. I loved her point of if a friend told you the scenario you’re going through - you would totally tell them to leave and move on.
How long have you been in that relationship?
Absolutely
Why do people look forward to a New Relationship, after my current relationship ends I want some Alone time, .. I need me
I totally agree
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Im with you! I need my peace for a very long time!! So much healing to do and me finding to do! Literally YEARS!!
I understand now!
Im too comfortable and this is the first time in my life that i haven't had to struggle financially. Stability and security.
But i have no freedom. No being me. No friends. No family. Im isolated and kept as an object/ pet.
How do i leave?
Projecting on them, to be who you want them to be. Such a great point!
Yes I have done this. Bla not anymore good aware ness
Good awareness I have been there done this. Painful
Wow yes that is so true😐 i always tought after weird shit happens ( i want to be back to normal ) 😆 but it was the cycle😑
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No contact is the way to go. Feel terrible every time she gets a hold of me,she is evil
The new supply was an acquaintance.. my deep feelings of betrayal are overwhelming. She is gloating
How long have you been in that relationship?
I feel like I am dying...... in this relationship. I feel so alone while being in quarantine as well.
@@FlowerGrl20 I feel like my brain is going to push itself out due to the stress
@@LBeeeeeee I’m sorry that happened to you. How long were you in that relationship/married ?
You just helped change my situation for the better. I feel so much peace right now. Thank you!
Same here...like Freedom ~ Lighter :)
Stephanie, you are amazing at what you do. These videos are helping me so much. Thank you for putting these videos online for free so people who struggle and learn to thrive.
I feel like I know you also when you are speaking.everything you are saying is so true and I can’t believe how much I have been through myself! I am so much better now since listening to your videos. Thanks so much
17 Days ago I walked away from my narcissistic single mother ex fiancee. She had put me through a lot of emotional abuse. Never have I been treated so poorly by someone. And day by day I struggle from the break up. Watching your videos is really helping me get through this Grief. This is the 7th video I have watched on your channel and I'm really learning a lot not just narcissism but also everything about relationship. Thank you for making videos like this because it really is very effective. Thank you. ✌️ I liked and subbed
You have every right to walk awsy from her for she is toxic & is not worth your time so leave her & never look back.
@@christianbenn316 I left that blood sucking vampire 2 years ago. I’m now happily married with the love of my life. I never thought I’d be this happy.
The problem is most people rush into a relationship way too fast. The way I think of it is that most people you meet are not your match. You try things out for a while. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. There's no deadlines. If he/she gives an ultimatum show them the door. Don't get so emotionally involved so quickly.
Absolutely true!! I ended up in two horrible relationships with narcs because of my mental stories. With the first it was that I wouldn’t find anyone else, the second was putting him on a pedistal...in my mind he was the perfect person...after I fell so in love with him and shit got real, I discovered his true colours...he was wearing the thickest shiniest mask...I was too blind to see it before I sank. Please ladies - I beg...whoever reads this...if you have a little tingle/sensation in your body, or a intuitive hit in your gut, that it doesn’t feel good being with the person, honour it. The stories of doubt or fear start kicking in, ignore it. Your intuition always supersedes the stories. Love yourself enough to listen to your inner voice and honour it. I wouldn’t want anyone to experience the emotional turmoil I’ve gone through these past few years ♥️
Thank you Stephanie, you always have the right thing to say when I am doubting the decision of divorce. I really admired you, I wish I'll develop this mental strength that you have and you teach us. ❤😘
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Thanks for the video! But...
Do not expect another person to make you happy. You won't find happiness outside of you. Happiness is within you. If you find someone that is nice, okay! But do not expect that person will be your other half. This person already has his internal struggles and won't be able to solve yours.
Do not try to find the perfect person for a relationship because you will fail.
If you ever feel you’ve screwed up God’s plan for your life, remember, you’re not THAT powerful!!!
Yes!!! I sure hope so
Yes you are
I am a single mom of a high functioning autistic teen, and I just want to thank you for your videos! I follow you on almost all social media platforms, except twitter. You have helped me, and continue to help me in stabilizing my emotions with being with a narc who emotionally abused me, via manipulation, guilt, etc. I continuously went back after the "hoovering" & love bombing; but recently have gone zero contact, and it has been 32 days (when today is over it will be 33 days). It has been a struggle to enforce this, but I feel much better everyday, practicing self care and parenting myself while feeling every feeling so I can heal. I just resonate with your videos, and listen to these also with my teen daughter so that something she hears may help her learn about healthy relationship patterns, self love, etc..
I totally agree with you 120% !!! That’s why whenever I come across a channel that talks about “revenge” and “Karma” on a ex narcissist, I immediately skip it only because it shows that the person hasn’t grown enough emotionally and in a place of true forgivenesses because technically speaking it isn’t the ex narcissistic fault that they did the behaviors they put on to you. In fact, it goes way back to what the parents and their parents and the history of of family members taught and projected onto their Children. So again, I don’t blame the ex narcissist, instead I forgive them and myself and my family traumas and find a healthy place to move on so i can become “FREE”! And that’s the best place to be !! Thank you so much for your videos and support! I can’t thank you enough!!💜💜💜😏
I can’t tell you how helpful this video is to me!! Thank you 😊 I’m basing my breakup with my emotionally abusive boyfriend. He can’t be available for me emotionally and I’m walking on eggshells. I can’t tell you how degrading he is to me!! He has no respect for me at all!! Just thank you!!
Pamela Hansen,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌷🌹🌺,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!
@@christianpulisic7784 not anymore!! And thank you ☺️
@@pamelahansen6816 You are welcome dearest 🌹🌷🌹.I am Christian from the States.You?
I am feeling so releaved by having all of this knowledge about narcissistic people, it makes me feel so much smarter as a 21 years old, i am growing more as a person, i really needed this after everything bad what happend. Thank you really much for sharing all of this on your channel, knowledge is so underrated 🙏🏼
The way you say "strength" gives me life 💛
I binge watched your vids this weekend. It’s the first time in two months that I am starting to understand and be ok with a horrific breakup my family and I went through this past year.
I love the conundrum: The question at 13:43 could completely be my ex. This is exactly what she says. YET, she's the narcissist! She checks off most of the boxes, from gas-lighting and emotional blackmail to threats, ultimatums, non-acceptance, entitlement, belittling, punishing (dog house all the time, and usually for no clearly defined reason, other than I wasn't doing something she wanted that she never really articulated.) Hey, I'm far from perfect, but after trying for years to ascertain if I'm a narcissist, I'm not. Years of therapy. (Two counselors; one when I was in my 30's, and one in the past two years who promised me I wasn't a narco.) Plus lots of deep dives with family and friends. I begged for truth, They all told me to stop beating myself up and stop letting these narcissists do a number on my head. True dat! Do I have my narcissistic moments? Sure. (Most of us have some, I do believe.) But it's always so ironic the pot calling the kettle black. So it's funny to hear Stephanie giving advice to a possible narcissist. That's what's in my head, anyway. That said, Stephanie's right: don't care, don't waste head space. Let it go. Don't take it personally. Easier said than done. But try, and keep trying. Don't worry about karma. I wonder the same and get upset when I see people who treat others poorly doing so well, succeeding in the material world, getting awards, etc. Stephanie's right: they are not happy and never will be. They will always be restless, discontent, searching, being disappointed, judging, blaming, trying on relationships, discarding people, good and bad. They are the Grand Canyon and we are all trying to fill them in with teaspoons of sand. Ain't never gonna happen, even in a billion years. If you can get to a place where you actually feel sorry for them, that's progress; in my book anyway. For myself, I've dedicated myself to bringing more love and light to the world. If you want, you can temporarily think of it as counteracting their darkness, unhappiness, and lack of love. You are putting more light into the world. It's like a carbon offset! Ha ha! 😉👍
I am so thankful for your content here. Emotional abuse is such a real thing. For me as a mother, an independent woman, an ambitious go getter, a person who holds themselves to a higher standardized and loves to love other people...my experience has broken me completely. I know there are so many mothers out there who are being trapped and systematically broken just like I've been. I almost don't even recognize my reflection anymore. Over the past 2 yrs I've been fighting to regain myself...but have been financially trapped in the relationship. Im so eager and anxious to break free. Just wanna say thanks for your approach on the subject and for being dedicated. I'm trying not to dwell on the sad facts everyday but on days like today i do take time to address the facts in order to continue building a strong foundation for myself. It's gonna be a long road of recovery. God has been so gracious to me. God bless you lady.
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@brandy your situation sounds exactly like mine. I hope you’re ok 😊
Omg, that was so deep! I love how you said that if you're confused about how to see a person it's because of cognitive dissonance and you not wanting to believe what they are presenting. Mic drop, that is so profound!
Watching Stephanie's videos is enabling me to finally see the light in relation to the longstanding narcissistic relationship I was in, but thankfully have now walked away from. I've felt as though this relationship was like a confusing jigsaw puzzle I could never finish or find the pieces for but Steph has helped me to find these missing pieces and so now I can see the finished clear picture, I'm so very grateful to her.
thanks Stephanie for another great video.
I used to wish bad on the ex narc but now I see how completely miserable and empty he is. He continues to get in his own way. experiencing him..allows me to love and respect myself even more for the person I am. He has taught me to appreciate so much about myself.
karma takes care of what needs to be taken care of.
no more hate from me..
Thank you for your videos. It really helps me through my journey since I "no contacted" my ex narc.
you go queen!
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For once in my life my child and I have just left from being in an narcissist relationship. I'm gonna be working on myself and what I want in my life for better.
I love ❤️ the selfparenting part! Thanks Stephanie! I am a single mom too and so inspired by these vids!
Patricia Gabrielle me too!!
You make me feel so normal. We are so alike and when you said u were a single mom i gasped. We are the same and i feel so much better. Its like seeing myself from outside my body
Thank you for these videos They have helped me and I think others as well. I especially liked that you said if you have to ask when a person should leave then it’s probably time. Great job and I do hope others remember that the stories we mentally tell ourselves lay the groundwork for the future we want. Blessings of light and love 🙏🏽
Exactly! I dont surround myself with people like that because there negative people and any attention you give them feeds them more energy. I have known men and women like this that hide behind their money and assests and live by themselves its a comfort thing for them but if they didnt have it they would have a melt down. Its hard for me to relate to a narcassist because their goal is to live life by the dollar, sometimes they want something for nothing and when people spoil them or hand it to them they become bitter because of it. Steer clear of these people because no matter what you do its always somebody elses fault, its never their own.
Thank you for this video. It made me see that his issues are alot worse than anything I may have. I can continue my couseling and become a better whole person but he will never be fixed. He will never be healed or whole. ❤
I definitely struggle with feelings of guilt for ending things, because I hate to be the next person in his life who left him, even though he left me with no choice. Every day, I still ask myself if I was too harsh and whether I should explain to him that I didn't cut him off out of spite, but because I no longer want to be involved in his situation. It's really reaffirming to hear your advice, Stephanie. Thank you for being on our side.
I really needed to see this video. It really grounded and reassured me. Thank you so much!! I'll agree that this stuff should be taught to younger people. I'm 37 and still learning!!
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i’m going to watch this video everyday, because your words. i literally got full body chills.
Children need this relationships knowledge more than they need chemistty! I totally agree. Thank you so much.
Yes. There are many handbooks that we need on life that should be given to us at an early age but aren't. The education system in the US makes no sense. They teach all this stuff that 98% of students will never use when they are adults.
my assumption when i started watching your videos was that you were with an abusive narcissist bc you talked about narcissism a lot... after watching almost all your videos i was right you were! you're the kind of person we all need as a friend
Going no contact is critical in breaking the trauma bond with the narc! Never look at their social media! Never text or call them! I was having panic attacks at the end. I said to myself “no more!”. I have been no contact for 3 years! These people aren’t worth the time of day!
Was literally waiting on this. Currently on my commute and was scrolling to see you finally uploaded and you did!!!
Stephanie, you say you didn't know any of this stuff when you were in your 20's, I'm 63 (have a 34 yr old daughter) and I didn't know any of this stuff until I broke up with an BPD woman 2-1/2 years ago. Prior to that I was with a woman for 19 years, knew everything was wrong (and how I contributed to it too) but never had the knowledge to really know and the courage to get out. Now - I think I understand these types of people, I certainly understand myself better now and my singular biggest regret is learning it now and not having loads of life left to exercise it. Thats why I look forward to every day now, literally look forward to it yet I'm single, recovering from my NPD experience and loving life again - or maybe really for the 1st time ever. Thankyou again for your vids & the devil in me has to say 'how on earth are you single? You're gorgeous :-) Tks again, Russell, a Brit.
You are the best on RUclips Stephanie. You help us all more than you know. Thank you so much for what you do.🙂
1 year ago!? Gosh, you have been teaching in a few videos, than anyone in my life! You are real, genuine, compassionate, you know how much it is to be under these predators. Thank You, a big Thank You! All the best for people like you. ❤❤❤😎😎😎
I'm 51 and your so right about narcissists.thanks for the advice.
Dear Lyn, I am learning so much with you, I'm scared. I am understanding things at almost 50! But I feel strong and will work hard to heal and live a fulfilling life. Love you!
I try to listen to your advices coz I feel you are gifted in your sharing and helping us cope up with problems.A GOD given gift.Keep it up
Maan you are such a force for good!! What an awesome vision of helping enlighten younger people BEFORE they get into their own messes! Totally resonates with me! Wow I love even more how you boldly assert how essential it is - like gee could we spare an half hour for life transformative material if we can drill students in math until they're sick? Absolutely!
On December's 1st I move into my own apartment and will finally be 100% free. I can't wait to belong to myself again! The new supply was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Thank you!!!! This has helped me tremendously after I walked away from my ex boyfriend who has narcissistic traits/tendencies. I am so glad I found you♥️
Jacqueline ormsby,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌺,hope you are not with a narc 😈!
One aha moment was when I realized that their mess, their disorganized way of keeping their stuff has an underlying reason that they are stuck and their inability to find answers to their internal chaos which shows itself in their external messy style and not willing to clear the mess.🙏
You are so smart and insightful and right
Yes! I am striving and thriving. I am AWEsome and I know it now! No more toxic or Narc relationships. Healing is the way to go. Thanks Stephanie for your insight and education on relationships/living a healthier version of you. ❤
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I love your channel! Thanks so much for helping to educate us. I have learned more watching you than from all the therapists I have paid to help me.
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I love your videos they have helped me so much. I ended a relationship after a year and a half with a narc just recently. I had know idea what a narcissist was or that he was one until I started researching narcissistic behavior. I went through the guilt of braking it off with him but he was slowly destroying me. I had to put myself first. Now he is blowing up my phone with trying to lovebomb me again. It will NEVER work because I feel so much better being away from that toxicity even tho I do still love him. I feel for anyone who is in a relationship with these people or were. They are the equivalent of the devil.
I am having to walk away after 27 years.
Well I am actually being disguarded for a new supply because she says I hate her and she feels unloved.
Funny how a person can be controlling, belittling, selfish,dishonest and manipulative. But when I finally stand my ground she bails out and blames me.
I look forward to the light after the darkness. But I do love her so it will be tough
I agree the kids need coaching early! You do such a great job!! God bless you!!
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With narcissistic people. It is nearly impossible to find peace with them. They are the hardest people to work with and very selfish and will not admit the wrong doing. You are right they are hurting in their heart. That is why they are single and will not admit the truth of their own failure
I just cut off my sister who I believe is narcissistic and has been in my life for 23 years. The negative aspects of our relationship manifested in my relationship with my first boyfriend who cheated on me repeatedly, and one of my close friends who was untrustworthy. I am now just looking for a community of people who can be my support in this process and who will understand what I’m going through. I don’t know what to expect now that I’ve put such a strong boundary of blocking her, because for the most part I’ve naturally learned how to deal with her. I’m at the point in my life now though where my awareness of the pain she has caused me can’t be ignored and I think it’s best for me to let go. I want to focus my energy on things which serve me.
You're like an angel! watching your channel makes me feel better, it's even better than therapy!
Wow, GOOD STUFF. Man I feel embarrassed now for thinking highly of her. I was blinded wanting to help change someone that never wanted help in the first place. Man, 3 years wasted.
Hey try 15 yrs. Ouch Still picking myself up off the floor.
One thing I see a lot of the desire for a narcissist to get what’s coming to them. It’s not healthy. I only hope they find happiness and heal whatever caused them to be that way. I’m glad to hear that wish coming from Stephanie. I always say I wish you well, even if I wish you gone.
Everything you say is what I say to myself on the daily so I’m so hopefully that I’m finally getting healthy. Just need the last step which is the strength to act on the things I say out loud. Thanks again for making me feel okay
Portuguese!, I was born in the Azores and would love to go back one day to visit. My first language was Portuguese and didn't really speak English until kindergarten. I wish I knew the language today.
You are beautiful, great personality, voice, everything. You do so well inspiring others to do better for them selves. Keep it up, it helps. One day hopefully soon, I'll be out of my toxicity I've been stuck in for 10 years now. I look forward to the next chapters of my life. I think you and others like you for giving us the courage, strength, but most of all the knowledge so we know what it is we are going thru. You're wonderful, thank you so much. I know you will get your vacations you dream of one day.
Thank you for all of your videos because it has brought me comfort and validation of my feelings of myself and who my husband really is as a narcissist. I always seen the red flags but as you said I wanted to see something good in him and wanted him to not be that horrible person that he was hiding until he couldn’t hide it anymore. So once again thank you, God bless you!
That's my passion as well to get into the school system...and teach children. Thank you for sharing..
Go to Greece Stephanie. You’ll love it. It’s my summer escape from the day to day in NY. Embedding the things you say in your videos will be tough because of my short term memory issues, but thanks for making me “us,” stronger.
One of the best videos! Made me cry. Gave me hope. Helped me realize my value.
Teresa Lussier you are worthy!
you always say the right words and they are also full of light. Thank you, I understand everything better and find relief.
Thank you so much. This is so important. I really needed to hear this. I've been through the hell and have come out the other side. I am so beyond caring about my narc ex. It's just easier to have nothing to do at all with her. Helps to have a new girl who adores me. I did the inner work, filled my own cup and attracted a beauty who is also a full cup. It's bliss. God bless✨
How did you do the inner work ,plz tell me
It’s so hard because we have two kids together and I had no idea who this man was, my daughter said he’s so “SELF” centred!🥶
Thank you so much for your videos! In the course of 9 years i fell in love with a girl whom i was sure was my soulmate. I chose to ignore all the red flags, abuse, my intuition and insecurities, because i knew she had issues stemming from an abusive childhood. i felt sorry and empathy for her and was in denial. Being discarded for the new supply literally overnight last week, i am now mourning the death of a loved one that was never really real...... the pain from this, is the only thing that hasn't been a lie and is very real! Thank you again, i know im not alone....
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later...
I was discarded by my narc 3 months ago as well. I was in so much pain I felt as if I was dying and even considered just dying because I could not handle it. After learning narcissism, which prior to my discard I knew nothing about, it helped me heal at an accelerated rate. I still think about him daily and some days are still worse than others but I can slowly feel my confidence and strength. While he’s living his “happy” life with his new supply I am taking the time to heal and for ONCE focus on me. I realized I was very codependent and placed all my happiness in him. I am learning on how to manage my codependency and set boundaries for future relationships. I hope you are healing and moving forward. They didn’t deserve our love.
Thank you, this helped to brinbg me closure to a painful chapter in my life.
The comments...replay in my mind..even had it thrown in my face that he came to see me for my birthday dinner and the fuel it cost...
You are one of the best speaker , I ve ever heard
Your videos are so inspiring and I felt so empowered by only listening and watching what you said and how you said it! Thanks from the bottom of my heart for the shared treasure, each and every video is a gem. I mean it.
I’m so grateful to have found your channel.
You are amazing and I appreciate you so much! Thank you so much for sharing your wealth of information! It has helped me so much. I finally left a narcissistic verbally and emotionally abusive relationship of 5 years for good and I feel I have the strength this time to not get hovered back in as I did so many times before. Day one for me. God give me strength! My family and friends are helping me and so are you! Keep posting your excellent RUclipss. Sincerely. Anne
You're honestly like a big sister to us 🥰
This is the 3rd time or second... watching this video. Now your message about why i believe I am "stuck" with my female narc, is sinking slowly into my mind. You are a beautiful person both inside and outside. The tone of your voice and body language is so relaxed, natural and matter of fact, together with your choice of words, that these complex issues seem to be so easy to grasp.. you are a natural born communicator. My blood pressure, irritation unrest disappears or lowers... when I listen to you... After your video I am feeling good and understand myself and my partner a little better. Wish you a marry Xmas and the best...for you and your family...
I am also a Capricorn and that's why I feel so comfortable listening to you. I am a people pleaser and have always attracted emotionally abusive relationships. I also feel responsible for the abuser even after I leave. I am really looking forward to healing and attracting a healthy relationship in the future. Going to work on myself to move on after ending a two year relationship a week ago. I know I made the right decision after listening to you.
Just a life coach .. you’re a psychiatrist, thank you from the bottom of my heart x
Yes you are very sincere and genuine, on assumptions I thought you were a high flyer business woman on the social scene!! Learning you are a fellow single mother makes me feel more in awe of all you have achieved. I totally agree we should be educating our youth on toxic v healthy relationships and my little one is fully aware of red flags.
Huge congratulations on your great channel, God bless you and your little one 🙏🤎
Thanks for being realistic and giving us helpful tips. You helped me more than words can say 💞
Good job answering and addressing some of the Many intricacies of healing from narrsisitic abuse. 👍
You're videos are a huge blessing!, I am married to a woman who has the narc tendencies and I am really struggling with decision to leave, I just really want to stay for my son, marriage is beyond therapy sessions, and I am just flat out numb at this point. Thank for your videos, they really do shed light on the darkness.
Thank you so much for all your wonderful videos ,they have really brought clarity into my life ..and too my situation .Bless you and all the good work you do ..so grateful that i have discovered you🙏🏻❤️
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Thank you for you support…I’m was beating myself up & you really help!
I sure wish I would have known this year's ago... I really think this should be taught in school. Because it's a mental illness and people need to know what this is!!!! So they don't become victims...thank you for sharing your time and wisdom with everyone...blessings to you and your lil girl...
You've helped me understand what's been going on in my life for 17yrs. I have a 14yrs. Son with this person and make situations alot more difficult really hard sometimes! Thanks for your videos.
Stephanie, can you do a video on "How to explain to a 5yr. old the concept of narcissist ppl." how to identify them, how to deal with them at school, and how to stand up for yourself when needed. how to explain without demonizing a particular person.
salonika101,You don't need a narcissist 😈 in your life....
I definitely don't want karma, I just want to be able to get out of this relationship, because my partner is hurting me emotionally, I love her but she keeps me at a distance, unless she wants to see me or be with me. I don't want to hurt her, or blame her for anything, I know I am as much to blame being codependent. ❤
Yes great idea for sure. Lets pour into making better humans early!!!! Im 32 and just "waking up" to so much. On a new life path. Great start New subscriber
The statement of NAR projecting who they want you to be is the most accurate thing you have ever said. I love your channel
. Would be nice for you to talk about how single parents stay on the hamster wheel for too long hoping change or appreciation will set in when it rarely Does.
Also getting over someone and moving on, but the ex NAR IS STILL ON YOUR MIND. Is it bad you can’t forget about the great times??? Even if you are long broken up and moving on but just cannot forget the good, goodness, and good times
not just single parents but being financially in a situation to be dependent on them for whatever reason, medical.
Why do you think we only focus on remembering the good times?