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10 Signs You Might Be Nonbinary | Epically Curious [CC]
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- Опубликовано: 18 авг 2024
- Happy Pride Month, everyone! This is the video that I wish had existed two years ago when I first started trying to figure out what my gender was, so I hope it helps you!
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Im 14..I honestly don't know if im nonbinary or gender fluid can i be both if its possible? Just wondering and yes you helped a lot😁😊❤
@@Camonkitty1010 Genderfluid is a nonbinary identity, so yes, it's possible to be both nonbinary and genderfluid.
And I'm happy to help!! :)
@@arysn0w 😁❤
I’m non binary and I’m finding it really really hard to come out 😖😔😭😘🏳️🌈
@@joey6962 🥺💞
I'm not having a crisis, I'm just *curious*
Edit: after 1 year I am now having an identity crisis 🙃
I do love curiosity! 😊
But also, I'm glad that you're not having a crisis! Questioning, exploring, and discovering your gender identity can be a really difficult and trying time, so I'm glad to hear that it's going well for you. 💚
Nope lol I’m having a crisis WHATS MY GENDER
@@mercurywise4047 wait we were supposed to know that?!
Scarlet Rose I hope the fuck NOT
Can't relate lol
When I was born I was female and my name was Juliet. My parents always supported LGBTQ, and even though they were very religious if I came out like something from the LGBTQ category than they would support me. When I was eleven I pretended to be a guy on Omegle. It was really fun and it was nice to have some girls talk to me and stupid guys skip me. I started dressing differently and used this video. I came out and I'm grateful I have an accepting family! I'm glad to say I am Robin!
-A non-binary demigirl
Thank you for sharing your story!! I'm glad everything worked out for you. 😊
WAIT YOU CAN BE BOTH WHAT???? OMG THIS MIGHT SOLVE MY PROBLEM
@@poppycatz when i commented that i was still a demigirl trying to figure out whether i was non-binary or not and i was shocked cuz i didn’t know you could be both but now i’m just non-binary
A fellow NB and presumably also a fellow SP fan?? You’re cool my guy
Hello, Robin!!
bless my mom's soul for giving me a gender neutral name she did this with my sibling too
when i told her i was non binary and wanted to go by they/them she was all "i knew this would happen, i support you no matter what"
but i still might need to refresh her on the uptake cause i kept my hair long after that and she went back to using she/her, but bless her heart she is trying her best!
That's awesome!! Supportive parents really are the best. 😊
I’m sorry but how did ur mom know that u were nonbinary before u were born?
@@grac3chen266 i never said that, perhaps you read it wrong.
Me: being confused about my gender
Her: Go shoe shopping
Me: Realizing that I always lean towards men's shoes and that I've always wanted to be male when I was younger
*I think I'm on to something*
I meant that as a metaphor, but the fact that it can also work literally makes me incredibly happy. 😊
This is the same for me and also with clothes. I also wanted to be able to wear the boy's uniform, but beening a male doesn't fit right either.
@@ghost1057 yeah, I've always wanted to be a guy but it feels like it doesn't fit me
SAME!
You go dude! You’re amazing and I’m happy for you!
Is non-binary but watches this video 😂
It can be nice to have that kind of reassurance sometimes! (Or maybe you just wanted to watch it for fun. Either way, I hope you got something out of it!)
You mean you’re an insecure teenage girl watching the video?
Same here
@@jordanjames4090 y u obsessed w nonbinary ppl
@@jordanjames4090 and you’re just compensating for your m i c r o pp
"Try out names" me casually thinking about changing my name to noodles. I- dont think im cis😂
Noodles may very well be the most nonbinary name I've ever heard. 😁😂
late but my name is Loki, like the god with a toenail boat. i also considered naming myself arson-
@@redpark2 Arson sounds like it would have been an epic name. But I love the name Loki, it kinda inspires chaos. have a great day✌❤
I'm pretty late but I really love the name Sage, I dunno why, I just do. My name is too feminine and I don't really like it. Noodles sound like a really cool name lol.
@@crow7636 Thanks so much. I agree sage is also Awesome. Just choose a name that feels right to you and dont worry if it takes some time. We are here for you
I'm closeted because the one time i tried to come out to my trans friends they got mad at me :( However to make myself feel better I put green hearts in my bio 💚💚💚!!
I'm so sorry that your friends didn't support you. Please know that here on this channel, you have all the love and support in the world! 💚💚💚
@@arysn0w eeep!!! That makes me so happy ! You're so sweet!!!
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I'm really confused because I'm afab and I know I'm not a guy but I'm unsure if I'm just a cis girl who's uncomfortable with who they are or if I may be non binary
I've only been questioning for about two months now so I know I have plenty of time to figure but I still just wish I could understand my head and gender
I totally get that. When I first started questioning, I thought that I was just uncomfortable with the assumptions that were made of me because people saw me as male; it took me quite a while that I was uncomfortable with being perceived as male altogether. I think the key in a situation like yours is to identify exactly what it is that makes you uncomfortable and why, especially figuring out if it's your assigned gender that you're uncomfortable with or the assumptions and stereotypes that are placed on you because of your assigned gender. Hope that helps!
@@arysn0w Here, you've backed my point I made a few minutes ago. If its the stereotypes and inequality of this between the two genders. Your community should be pointing out this, correcting people. Men can wear wigs. Dresses. Makeup. They can play Volleyball and do makeovers. Hell, I've had my nails painted! You shouldn't come up with things to contradict because you fear these steroetypes.
There are masculine women, there are feminine men, and there are also nonbinary people who can be masculine, feminine, or whatever else. Nonbinary people don't exist because of a fear of stereotypes. Nonbinary people exist because there are people who are nonbinary.
@@arysn0w Yet not all psychologists point to it. Rather its many psychologists who claim to be nonbinary, who are in support of it? Coincidence? I think not. You even said in your image you became uncomfortable because of the stereotypes with your gender. If we solve, and rid these stereotypes which are a clear problem. People in your predicament won't have that issue any more.
@@akumu9301 Hey, we agree on one thing: gender stereotypes are a problem. Let's just leave it at that.
I love when trans people uplift other awesome creators. Thanks for the list of YTers.
Definitely! I hope you enjoy their content!! :)
For a long time now, I’ve been struggling to find labels that fit me. Seeing as how I am still young and going through changes, it’s hard to keep up with what I want to label myself as (this goes for gender identity, sexual attraction, and romantic attraction). I watched this video after thinking through the labels I currently have. Thanks to you, I am more confident than ever that I am Nonbinary!
I have always felt excluded from gender groups/roles. Even as a small child I would dress in princess outfits, but love to play with toy cars and horse play with the boys. It wasn’t until I got a little older that I was being forced into a gendered box of femininity that made me hate anything feminine. I hated skirts, makeup, dresses, pink, and anything that was typically assigned towards females. I hit a bump where I thought I was Agender, then I thought I was a Trans male. After a while, neither of those titles fit me and I was lost.
I was confused because I wanted to dye my hair, wear nail polish, wear crop tops, and other typically feminine things. But I also wanted to get tattoos, piercings, wear traditionally masculine things. I wanted to be seen as masculine, but not male.
I decided to go with the term Nonbinary, but after a while of people saying that I present too masculine to be Nonbinary or that it wasn’t a real thing, that I was “confused,” I started to seriously doubt myself.
After searching for a long time, watching many videos (such as this one), reading articles, and just asking friends in the LGBT community, I’ve come to the conclusion that I identify as Nonbinary.
I am not male or female. I am my own person and no one can tell me I’m not. I know in my heart that what I am feeling is true. Even if my label changes over time, I will still have this part of myself to look back at. I am me and that’s all I need.
Thank you for this video!💚
(Sorry for any typos or grammar mistakes!)
I'm so happy to hear that this video was helpful to you!! Thank you for taking time out of your day to let me know that; it really does mean a lot to me. 😊💚
This comment really got to me. Your journey is nearly identical to mine and I'm still continuing to have doubts about gender identity and such and whether I'm "faking it" but seeing someone that is non-binary and experienced the same things I have really makes me feel more confident about my identity. Thank you for sharing your story.
This is very similar to me :) 💚
Its the same for me too since some days I want to present myself more masculine and others more feminine!
@@the_archives597 I have also had the same thing were I never questioned my gender till I hit around 16. I now identify as non-binary but, I kept thinking well am I faking it am I just seeing all these trans people and wanting to be like them, idk. I have had the same thing were I did everything a young boy and a young girl would do and as I got older I was being pushed into his girl world that I hated. so I tried to dress masculine and act more like a guy but then I realized I started To really liked girl things more and my brain keeps switching from I really like this style that is more masculine and this style thats super feminine but I didn't want to be seen as a girl I want to be seen as nothing or as a boy. I thought maybe I could be a trans boy but it didn't feel right either and I know my parents would hate that. I tried being gender fluid to see what I liked more but it didn't help, my trans friend would ask me what my pronouns were and I would say I don't know you pick which didn't work for me. So later I tried gender fluid again this time more organized and I was going to go threw and say I'm they/them then I would go a week as she/her or he/him but I didn't even get that far before I realized I'm just non-binary and turns out when I said that I felt more relaxed but also stressed because now I have to try and come out again but this time with my gender. plus the thing they said in the video to refer to yourself in the 3rd person I tried it and I thought I liked to be called he/him or they/them but turns out I like Thay/them way more.
Thanks so much for this! It's especially awesome to see Black trans non binary youtubers on the subject, it makes me feel seen xx
Absolutely! I'm honoured to hear you say that. 😊
I’ve been having a weird time figuring out my gender identity, but this video felt like a reassuring hand on my back telling me that it’s going to be ok
I'm so glad!! Figuring out your gender can definitely be a difficult process, but you've got this. You've got millions of people around the world supporting you and rooting for you, no matter what conclusion you reach.
This is MY identity crisis and I get to pick the music
Ooh, what music are you going with? I feel like my current identity crisis demands indie/folksy music (despite the fact that I'm usually a pop/EDM kinda girl)
So.... I came out to my friends yesterday and I’m Sam now and I’m just so happy, and my friend is going to try to get me a binder and my heart is fluttering
Congratulations, Sam!! I'm so glad that things are working out for you. :)
Great for you Sam! Whoooooo!
Dam I want a friend like that also CONGRATS! I want to come out as non-binary and change my name to ash
@@addiegreer2328 I hope you're able to come out relatively soon! And when you do, I hope you're surrounded by people who love and support you wholeheartedly. 💚💚💚
phoebe doering very nice sam
"If you're feeling more inclined to more gender neutral pronouns like Alex..."
My name: Boo
A lovely name! Nice to meet you, Boo!
Love your pfp also why you gotta call me out like that 🤭
PERIODTTTT I frickin love that name omg
DOUBLE TROUBLE YESSIR YOU'VE GOT TASTE
With the thought of tip 9, look for signs, the fact that Alex is the first name that was said and that's me... and it's usually listed in this context... lmao hmmm
I've been questioning for 7 years.. back and forth between butch lesbian and trans man and just recently, probably around the time this video came out I accepted that it's ok to be in between. Up until then I had thought it was fake because "everyone feels like that, that's normal" but no, my experiences are not universal lol. Thank you for making this video though. We receive a lot of shit and we need positive voices like yours in our community.
Thank you so much for your kind words. 💙 Sending you tons of love and support!!
Good luck mate! I like your name and profile picture as well
You say you... Non-binnery? What nonbiney?? Nonby not real. You make nonby up.
Only 2 gender:
-cool ranch
-nacho
Can't _identify_ as Norbert. That don't make sense. No one's just born nanabanana!!!
You're not Nickelback...
No lie, I've been quoting that TikTok since I first saw it 😂
Lol
I wanna identify as "cheddar jalapeno"!
this video was so helpful. i feel so much more relaxed about my gender identity now because you make it seem so chill and comfortable. i was born a girl, and i never really quite felt like i was a girl. i haven’t ever been really distressed about it, but it’s just something that has always lingered throughout my childhood til now (i’m 17).
sometimes in my head i’ll think about myself using the pronoun ‘he’ and it felt cool but still not quite right, much like how i feel about the pronoun ‘she’. then when i think about myself as ‘they’ it just feels a lot warmer and safer, like i feel less constricted for whatever reason.
from now on i think i’m going to try to go by they/them pronouns, just to see how it feels. i don’t imagine myself getting too distraught over people using she/her pronouns when they refer to me, but i dunno.
i think as long as i settle with myself that i’m free to wiggle around throughout the gender spectrum then i don’t think it really matters.
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I'm so glad it was helpful!! Wishing you all the best! 💚💚💚
shukezi this is exactly how I feel too! any pronouns work for me, but at the same time I feel like I want to just redefine what a woman is, and yet I feel so freed by identifying as nonbinary!
Thank you for this comment! I’m questioning, but felt like i could be faking it because it just feels uncomfortable/wrong being called she/her a lot of the time instead of feeling really intense dysphoria. It nice to know there is someone out there that might feel the same.
i’m seeing this a year later. but this describes my experience exactly! hope ur doing well
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I'm very confused. I thought I might be genderfluid, but whenever I feel more like a 'girl' I feel the exact same dysphoria as when I feel like a boy or something else. I think I might be nonbinary, but I'm still doubting myself a lot. And it's also not helpful that where I live we have no genderneutral pronouns and everything is pretty gendered. (I'm dutch) You either have a 'vriend' (which means a friend who is a boy) or a 'vriendin' (which is a girl) but no genderneutral term. So I can't experiment with words. I hope I'll figure it out one day, thank you for the tips 💚💚💚
Genderfluid is a nonbinary identity because it doesn’t fit the male/female binary, so you can be genderfluid and nonbinary! I sure am, most days I feel pretty androgynous and ‘meh’ about my body, other days I am okay with being a woman and some days I straight up wish I was a dad
I found a website that might help you with genderneutral words/pronouns!
nonbinary.wiki/wiki/Gender_neutral_language_in_Dutch
It’s the non-binary wiki and has several Dutch genderneutral terms :)
@Her Face That would be 'vrienden' but being referred to as someones friends is kinda weird to me personally.
@@jordanjames4090 Yeah, I know, that's why I'm figuring out what it is. I've never been a girl and never will, I've always been what I am. And nothing about your statement is correct, because I'm definitely not little.
@@jordanjames4090 I don't care whether you believe me or not. I know myself, and I know my gender. And even if it's body dysmorphia, which it isn't, but just to imagine; Why do you care? You don't care about me or my wellbeing, clearly. If I feel comfortable like this, even if it's a delusion, why does it matter? I'm not hurting anyone. From your transphobic point of view 'I'm hurting my body'. But whatever it is that I'm feeling that I call dysphoria and you dysmorphia, it's much worse than anything I can do to myself.
I clicked and I am obsessed with your hair, I'd never be able to braid it so well, thank you for the tips as well
Thanks!! I could never do it myself, though; I'm quite thankful for hairdressers and the incredible work they do.
And you're welcome! I hope they were helpful.
Your lisp is so adorable 😍 great video
Haha thanks! 😊 I'm glad you enjoyed it!!
For about 4 years i was always drawn to the name Skylar. I now know that I'm 95%certain I'm non binary and Skylar is the name ment for me
That's awesome! I'm glad you found a name and identity that fit.
I love that name, if you don't mind, may I ask what your name was before? I'm just now figuring out what I should call myself
@@midnightpack8455 Julieanna. But people just called me Julie
This really helped me! Sometimes it makes it harder when people say we’re not real, or you’re one or the other just accept it. It forms doubts about my authenticity, but when someone labels me non-binary, it feels really good. Also when you mentioned you’re spirituality, I was like same! Before and after these feelings about my identity, I noticed more butterflies passing by me which I’ve read about symbolizing change. Thank you!
I'm really glad to hear that! Many of us really are so entrenched in the gender binary that it's hard to accept that there are more than two gender options. That being said, nonbinary people are becoming more and more visible thanks to the Internet and an increase in support, so maybe one day, it'll be that much easier for people to come out and be who they are.
Also, it's cool that you've been noticing butterflies! For me, it was dragonflies. :)
Epically Curious yes! I hope one day more people will open their minds and hearts to everyone’s differences. That’s cool how you’ve been seeing dragonflies!
I cried when I talked to myself in my head and used they them pronouns. It felt so amazing! 💛⚪️💜🖤
Edit: Also does anyone have some good gender neutral names? If I decide I 100% no doubt in my mind at non-binary I won’t want to go by my name. (It’s pretty feminine) I like Emerson because it seems pretty close to my name now and won’t be to drastic of a change, but I wanted to see if anyone had some good options. 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Ahhh, I'm so happy for you!! 💚💚
Also, Emerson is a really cool name! Some of the gender neutral names that come to my head are Skylar, Riley, Avery, Cameron, Salem, Aaron/Erin, Ash, Lee, Corey, Dani/Danny, Jesse/Jessie, Spencer, Max, Alex, Harper, Billie, Jean, Jordan, Taylor, and Grayson. (Also, I asked my girlfriend and she added Sam, Casey, May, Toni/Tony, and Jo.) Hope that helps!!
Epically Curious thanks you so much!!! I love the names you gave me! I like Casey a lot. Thanks so much for making this video! 💚💚
You're welcome! I'm glad you liked the names and I'm glad the video was helpful!! 💚
Kookie• Pastel I like the name Michelle. It's mostly feminine in English speaking countries, but masculine in many parts of Eurupe. Morgan is almost exclusively masculine in scandinavia, but more feminine in America.
I never would have thought of those! 😊
My friend just came out as non binary and I'm just here to learn about being non binary so I can be as respectful an helpful to them as much as possible
That's wonderful! Supportive friends are so incredibly important.
I just came out as non binary on New Year's Eve. I'm now Keir and use they/them/their. I am so happy and confident with myself now. Just within the span of 2 days, it's affected me so much in a positive way. Much love from me
I'm so glad your coming out went well!! I wish you all the best! 💚
"Try out different names"
My name: _is gender neutral_
Me: **sweats**
Or just try out whatever names make you most comfortable! Or if your own name is good with you, stick with that! It's all about what makes you feel happiest and most comfortable.
I loved the one about the scenarios in which there was a non binary option. Oh my, I would so choose that! Plus, when my family played men vs women, i was ALWAYS the mediator. Oh my, i'm so non binary
That makes a lot of sense!! 😊
Maaan, when I was younger and I thought I was aromantic, I found myself just constantly going "can i be genderless 😐"
Then I turn out to be an asexual lesbian (and my sapphic love is the one thing that led me to embrace my femininity), but I ended up having a best friend for YEARS who was not supportive at ALL of nb peeps, so yeehaw I got forced into denial... when I cut her out of my life during quarantine, seemingly out of nowhere the gender questioning hit like a truck... but after talking it out with supportive trans and nonbinary friends, I felt so liberated when I realized, and am now freely, more comfortably than ever living my truth!
Hi!! My name is Sammie-Chris, she/they, and I'm a nonbinary ace lesbian!! Thank you so much for your kind and helpful video, as I see all the comments of all the people it's guided! Let's all be true to ourselves and help each other live our happiest, freest lives
And yes, I, too, am a firm believer in The Universe :) 💚
Thank you for sharing your story! I'm glad you were able to figure yourself out and that you're surrounded by supportive people. 😊💚
This is an amazing story Sammie-Chris! Thank you for sharing 💛 I’m so glad I’m not the only one that quarantine hit with the gender-questioning truck, that came out of NOWHERE for me and it’s been so liberating
@@radicalcreasy9877 I'm so happy for you and glad we share that bit of unity!! Welcome to the family 🤗
Oh, and I thought I should share with you this quote that I found:
"Freedom is found when we let go of who we're supposed to be and embrace who we are."
i’m honestly so confused about my identity, i know i like she/her, so i thought that i was cis, but now i’m thinking i might like they/them too
It's okay to be confused! There's absolutely no rush to figure everything out. That being said, I think you're definitely on the right track to figuring things out! Experimenting with pronouns is a great way to figure out who you are and how you want people to see you.
Not me over here watching this video trying least things and sobbing because it feels, well it just feels right. I've been questioning my general identity for so long and its really frustrating but this, I don't know it just made me really happy because it feels like me. Thank you
I'm so happy to hear that this video resonated with you. 💚
Im so happy to hear your story, and I think it's awesome that you're trying to help others find who they are! :D
Thank you so much!! 💚💚
You seem like such a genuine and sweet person. Thank you for making this video. I'm quite sure I'm slightly on the transfeminine side of non-binary, but I'm definitely going to try the exercise you suggested of drawing my ideal version of myself. 😊
Thank you so much!! 😊😊 I really hope you enjoy drawing your ideal self and I hope you find it helpful!
Thank you so much for the subtitles dude, I’m both hearing deficit and terrified someone will hear me listening to this xD
I'm really, really glad they helped!!
Haha me too 😉 I'm deaf
5:39 i rly rly believe that too bc i've been questioning my gender recently and im like 90% sure i'm nonbinary but it's rly hard and just a few days ago when i was doubting myself and was thinking about how im mostly uncomfy with being a girl i was scrolling on tiktok and the very first video that popped up on my fyp was of a woman saying how "if it doesn't feel right, then it isn't" and i started crying bc everything in the video everything she was saying comforted and reassured me so much it was exactly what i needed in that moment
That's such an incredible sign! I'm so glad you had that experience. 😊
And thank you so much!! But...don't be sad! In all honesty, I'm always down to make new friends. 💚💚
This video is extremely helpful, ty!
The signs of the universe thing is not my thing though, as I’m an atheist. I think it’s more like you are interpreting random things to fit what you feel like, so it might not be completely useless, just know that there’s nothing magical about it, it’s just your mind interpreting stuff into things that aren’t there, like a message from your subconscious
I'm glad the video helped you!
And it's totally okay that it's not your thing! Personally, I've had too many experiences with receiving signs and observing synchronicities and whatnot for me to not believe in that sort of thing, but I completely understand where you're coming from and I respect it.
I'm the same about the spirituality aspect. But I loved the analogies!
@@t-shades7148 I'm glad they were helpful!!
Im not an atheist, but I don't believe in God or whatever, I still do believe in signs, so we're all just special!!
In my language you can't dodge someone's pronouns while talking. So I simply don't care if they address me as a girl or a boy, or if I talk about myself as a dude or girl.
That's completely fair! It's all about what makes you comfortable and happy.
Thank you so much for making this video. For most of my life, I believed that I was a cisgender male and nothing else, however I recently started questioning my gender due to the fact that I love to crossdress and really like the idea of being a girl. While I'm not quite sure what my gender identity is as of yet, I have feeling that I'm either a transgender girl or have a non-binary identity. I'm really hoping that the amazing tips that you provided in this video for finding one's true gender identity will ultimately help me and everyone else out there who is questioning their gender find out what their true gender identity is.
I'm glad this was helpful for you!!
Hi, recently I've found out that I'm Pan, that's for sure. But lately I've been feeling like I'm non-binary, instead of a girl, but now I'm really confused on whether non-binary people can be more masculine or feminine, and I do have a nonbinary friend, but I'm too afraid to ask them about this and....i just need some help figuring out my gender identity I guess.
{Edit} I think I might be a nonbinary demi girl, because I am very feminine, but do feel a little gender dysphoria.
Nonbinary people can totally be more masculine or feminine! The only requirement for being nonbinary is that you don't totally, 100% identify with being male or female. And while there's still some debate about whether or not you need dysphoria to be trans/nonbinary, I *personally* think that having gender dysphoria is a surefire sign that you might be.
Sounds like "demigirl" might be a good fit! 😊
Epically Curious This is so helpful! I feel like I’m somewhere in between female and nonbinary and it flip flops (I’m genderfluid), but I often feel like I’m not nonbinary ‘enough’ because I’ve been okay with womanhood for 18 years and suddenly I want to bind and change my name because I fundamentally disagree with the binary.
Same right now im a demigirl and i think it also fits more(im warry feminine)
But i feel more comfedebel with the therm non-binary
So it may change idk
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(Also im german so my einglich may be kinda bad)
To be honest right now I have really big problems with my sexuality and gender, because I just feel bad that I am doing something wrong, because I still can end up being heterosexual female and It is scary. It is scary that I am closeted but take myself as pansexual and genderfluid. But if it will change I feel that everybody who is telling me that lgbtq+ is a phase were right, like im giving them the green to believe they are right in everybody. Even though that every person is unique. I just dont know how to feel about this mess and about the future with my gender and sexuality. It feels good to say it "out loud" finally
If I'm understanding you correctly, I think it's important to remember that gender and sexuality can be fluid! If you question your sexuality and your gender and it turns out that you're cisgender and heterosexual, that's still okay! I completely understand your desire not to come out just yet, though; when I was trying to figure out whether I was a binary trans person or a nonbinary trans person, I made a conscious decision not to talk to my family about it because I wanted to be more sure about who I was before I came out. That being said, I'm glad it feels good to express yourself "out loud!"
I don't mind being called a girl but some days I kinda feel more masculine if that makes sense. I also go by seb with close friends instead of my real name just because it feels ..Right. I don't mind my name but Seb feels like ...Right, its hard to explain. I don't persay gravit to wanting to be male but some days I kinda wanna just be and feel more like a guy and some days I feel like being a girl. Kinda switching. Idk what this means though.
Edit: spelling
It may be possible that you're genderfluid and that's why you like switching back and forth. But your story also sounds a lot like mine (as a nonbinary trans woman) in that I didn't hate my name, but my new name just felt right, and I didn't necessarily want to be a girl 24/7 at first, but it also kinda felt right, too. Honestly, it's all rather complicated. I think the key here is to keep asking questions and to keep looking within yourself to try to find the answers to those questions. Surround yourself with people who will love and support you no matter what, learn as much as you can about different LGBT identities, and realize that we're all constantly in the process of figuring ourselves out.
Hope that helps a little! I wish you the best of luck. 💚
@@arysn0w thanks so much ❤!
@@Nao-po3dx You're very welcome!! 💚
You just made me feel so much inner peace, love and security that anxiety simply faded away and tears of relief wanted to come out. Thank you so much
It honestly means so much to me to hear you say that! I'm so happy I was able to help you. 😊💚
Wow the way you used the shoe and restroom examples really helped I understand myself a bit better, thank you.
I'm so glad they were helpful!!
The fact that RUclips recommended me this tells everything
I'm not 100% sure what you mean by that, but I hope it's a good thing and I hope you enjoyed the video!
Your Christmas tree is a mess and I love it❤️ it’s just like my life
Thanks! And honestly, I feel that on such a deep level 😂
This was such a helpful video 😭 I never started questioning until I became an adult, even though the binary made me uncomfortable. And you're so loving and caring even through a camera lens! I hope everything always goes amazing for you, thanks for the tips ❤❤
You just made my day!! Thank you so much! 😊💚 I hope you have a wonderful day and I wish you the best of luck figuring everything out!
thanks so much for this video- it really helped me. hearing others talking about their experience and what has helped them has helped me too. appreciate u!
I appreciate you, too! Glad it was helpful! :)
This video came at the right time, the hypothetical questions just reassured me that I'm a non-binary individual.
I'm really happy to hear that this video was reassuring!! 😊💚
You really helped me and I'll never forget your words that only I can tell who am I going to be not some random stranger on the internet which was really funny 🤣💚
Also I LOVVEE the tip of creating my ideal self with drawing/sims! That is an amazing idea to express how I'm feeling in a creative way. 🤗🤩
I'm really glad I was able to help! 😊💚
thanks for the video, this helped a lot! a few months ago i figured i was ftm, and started going by he/him and a different name. recently something hasn't felt entirely right, and i've been experimenting more with different ideas. this brought a lot more into perspective!
I'm so glad it was helpful!!
I really like the shoe fitting analogy and the trivia night and bathroom scenarios. Thank you for these helpful ideas.
I'm so happy to hear that they were helpful for you!
I've been spending some time trying to figure out my gender identity. Watching your video was part of my research and I just want to say it helped. I haven't finished searching for what feels right for me, but it was comforting to hear that encouragement. Thanks for cheering on people like me who are still discovering ourselves.
I'm so glad that this video was encouraging!! 😊
But yeah, it can take some time to figure everything out! I'm actually still figuring myself out; I came out a year and a half ago, but every time I think I've got a grasp on things, I discover a new facet of myself that raises new questions. So here's to both of us finding the answers we seek! 💚
@@arysn0w It's such a great feeling, taking the time to learn about myself it's like I'm connecting with myself in a way I never have before. It's wonderful. Thank you so much and best of wishes to you too in your journey!
BittenByFire I feel this! I’ve always been uncomfortable with the in-between, but I’m realizing it can be SO liberating to just be who I am without boundaries. Didn’t really realize how many internalized boundaries I had around myself until I started breaking them down.
@@radicalcreasy9877 Ohh I really like how you phrased that! Breaking down boundaries in yourself is a nice way to think of it. That's definitely how I've been feeling too! It is very freeing! :)
I had tears In my eyes near the end, I've been questioning myself for a while now and this really helped. I'll probably continue to question myself, just to figure out where I am on the spectrum, but yeah thank you so much for this video 💚
Hearing you say that has genuinely made my day! I'm so, so glad you found this video helpful. 💚💚
the shoe analogy was really helpful thank you :)
I'm really glad it was helpful!! 😊
Thank you so much- not even joking but at the end of the video I started crying 💚
It honestly means the world to me to hear you say that! I'm so happy that this video resonated with you. 💚
This resonated pretty hard with me... also, I almost exclusively use the green heart emoji 💚
I'm so glad that it resonated with you! 💚💚
That actually helped me so much 💚 thank you
I'm glad to hear that! Happy to help!! 💚
i just wanted to drop a thanks here. i'm here bc for the past year i've been struggling to figure out whether i'm my agab or nonbinary/genderfluid. long story short, when you talked about changing names, i was hit by the feeling of how much i hated my name when i was a kid/teenager, and it made me cry, because i just felt so sad for my child self. i hadn't tied my issues with my name to my issues with gender until now. and then i cried again when you said everything in sign ten. there were other things in this list that resonated with me but i think i needed to hear a nonbinary person validate however i'm feeling, so thank you.
I'm so happy to hear that this video resonated with you! Best of luck on your journey to discover your identity; you've got millions of people rooting for you.
@@arysn0w 🥺😭 thank you xx
i've always thought i was a cis girl but started questioning in the last month and it's really frustrating me. i cried while watching this and really can't tell how i feel about these things- if i like identifying that way or don't. i had a friend try out they/them pronouns on me and i still couldn't tell if it felt right or not. i think figuring this out is gonna take a long time for me... thank you for this though.
It can definitely take quite a bit of time to figure everything out. I legitimately questioned my gender for years before I came out, and even now, I find myself questioning if a different gender identity or a different set of pronouns might fit me better. So you're definitely in good company! I'm sorry it's weighing so heavily on your mind, though, and I hope you're able to find the answers you're looking for. Wishing you all the best!
@@arysn0w thank you for this, i've read this message quite a few times and truly appreciate it💚 it's soothing to know i'm not the only one doubting and i hope you're doing well!!
This is such a good and positive video!!! 💜 I don't see many which feel so inclusive, a lot seem to narrow it down to wanting androgyny in some way, or never identifying with a binary gender. But I'm strongly in both the genderfluid and non binary camps. Love your style and your channel 💖
Thank you so much!! 💖
And yeah, I get what you're saying. For some people, being nonbinary *is* about being androgynous or being completely outside of the gender binary, which is totally cool! But for me, it's all about having the freedom to be exactly who I am. And it took me quite a while to figure that out for myself, but I'm so glad I did. 😊
Thank you, this helped me alot. I've got three names I'm still "choosing between - my original name, Riley (hence why the user name) and Pheonix
I'm glad it was helpful! 😊 And as for names, it's all about what fits you best and how you want the world to perceive you! Personally, I think Riley sounds more down to earth while Phoenix sounds super dramatic and larger-than-life, but I like them both a lot!
Truly this was so helpful. I've been going through it when it comes to thinking about my gender and its been so stressful and your calm presence put me more at ease, especially to remembr that I don't need to have it all figured out. I've been going back and forth about whether im a trans guy or a transmasc nb person, and its been more complicated by the fact that all the nb people i know and see are white. Being able to see you as a calm and beautiful and black non binary person makes me feel like its gonna be okay.
I feel like I feel at peace being not cis but start to freak out when I think of coming out to my family and coming out professionally.
I get that! For what it's worth, I'm also very much still figuring things out. Now that I've been transitioning publicly for a few years, the question of "how much of this is for me and how much of this for others?" weighs heavily on my mind, and I'm trying to deconstruct that now. Transitioning is a process that never truly ends for a lot of trans folks! And there is absolutely no rush -- not to figure things out, not to come out to others, no rush at all. You're only in a race with yourself and your own perception of where you should be in life, even as it feels like the world is rushing past us. (Also, believe me when I say that I'm also talking to myself right now; this is not a lesson I'm learning well 😅)
That said, knowing that I was able to give you a sense a peace and ease has made my night! I hope you're doing well, friend 😊💕 ~Maddie
This was super helpful! Thank you!
I'm glad it helped!!
Hi this comment section seems kind so i need some peoples help if you dont mind. I am 13 years old and have been questioning my gender for a quite a bit now but idk exactly where I lay on the spectrum. I think I may be gender fluid but I'm not sure. I mean sometimes I feel like I'm completely a boy and other times completely a girl and sometimes completely non-binary. But then sometimes I feel kind of a girl but not rlly and vise versa. Its just kinda messing with my head and I could really use some advice. Anyway Love ya'll
hmm that sound like gender fluid but if you don't want to use a label you can just use gender queer. experiment with pronouns(people you trust, or calling yourself certain thing when you're alone) and see what feels right. I'm not exactly sure where I am on the spectrum either but I suggest reading the definitions of certain genders and see if they seem right to you.
It sounds to me like you might be genderfluid! If you're looking for more information on different gender identities, I have a video called "A Guide to Nonbinary Identities" that you might find helpful. But yeah, judging from the fact that your gender identity changes over time, I'd guess genderfluid. That being said, only you can decide who you are, so go with whatever makes you feel most comfortable! 😊
I’ve been talking to my family about me becoming nonbinary and they’ve been asking me “hey, why do you want to be this?” And I’ve been kinda eh because I don’t have a reason , I just don’t feel comfortable in any gender.
Blair Neal You might be Agender! This is when you do not identify as any gender
I second what Georgia said, but I think it's important to remember that you don't *become* nonbinary; you realize that you *are* nonbinary. So it's not a matter of wanting to be something; it's just about realizing that you are that thing and choosing to accept it.
aaaaaa I just wanted to say that I loved this video and again and again I find that the LGBT+ community is so welcoming and wholesome, especially to people questioning their sexuality/gender identity.
Not to get into a whole life story but I used to consider myself aroace and then I realized I was bi (but even now im realizing im still on the aro spectrum lmaoo), and I still fly the aroace flags because that was the first lgbt subcommunity I was in. Even during a time of discourse, even just while I was lurking tumblr, I felt welcome there.
I just love yall so much. Happy Pride, and stay safe out there :)
Happy Pride to you, as well! Thank you for sharing your story!! 😊💚
This helped so much thank you! 🥺❤️
I'm so glad it was helpful!! 💚
I think I’m nonbinary...
Welcome to the community! 💚
I came out as agender to a few of my friends a week ago and it was such a relief to do so 💚💚💚💚💚
I'm glad it went well!! 💚💚💚
I've been out as agender and under the non-binary umbrella for awhile, I came out in February as under the non-binary umbrella, and came out a few months ago as agender!
Also loved this video! Thank you for making this!
I'm so glad you enjoyed it! Congrats on coming out this year!
"Be the person you know you are" is so comforting?? Thank you?? :')
I'm glad to know it was comforting!!
Me after this vid: I am non-binary and my name shall be Robin 🤧😤
Nice to meet you, Robin!! 😊
@@arysn0w lol thank you so much your vid really changed my veiw on this subject! And your hair is amazing🥺
I'm so glad I was able to help!
I'm just wanna ask real quick, does any body use a different name, and what do you use? Tell me, your birth name and name you use, and any suggestions for me, my birth names Bailey, I was born a girl. Yes, I am Non-binary.
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I settled on the name Skylar. I really liked it, and the nickname Si fits me so well.
I'm so glad you found a name for yourself!
This got me all teary. Thank you for taking the time
Of course! I'm glad it resonated with you! 💚💚
thank you so much for posting this and helping me find who i am. please keep making vids like this they really help.
I'm so glad it was helpful!!
And will do! I'm actually working on one right now. 😊
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Ok this video was awesome, it helped me get closer to understanding my non-binary self! Also I love your hair!!
Thank you so much!! I'm glad it was helpful! 😊💚
I think always playing a guy on Roblox and Minecraft, plus refusing to answer to any other name than Lightning (from the movie Cars) for three years might have been an eeeennncccy tiny little sign :D
Awesome video. Thank you for helping out other non binary and questioning people! The internet is a better place for you being on it.
Definitely sound like signs to me!
And thank you so much!! That truly means the world to me. 😊💚
These where all very helpful. You saved me from a crisis just now. Thank you so much!
Happy to help!! 😊😊
I’m assumed female all the time no matter how androgynous i try to appear because of my physical appearance, and it causes me to sometimes think I’m just delusional or faking it. I can’t “tell my story about how I realised” because it triggers trauma, so that sometimes makes me feel like I’m just faking it. This video really helped calm me down just now and realise society just sucks and I’m valid! Thank you!
I can definitely relate! I'm assumed male all the time, even when I'm wearing a full-face of makeup. (It's probably my voice, tbh, but vocal training is hard!!) But please don't let anyone else's perception of you dictate who you truly are! You are who you say you are and that's what matters; society will just have to catch up. 😊
Hey, thank you very much for your help!
When I was younger, I always told my dad that he has a "half" son and he laughed saying "sure". I never really thought about it too much, but right now I can't get it out of my head.
Later in life (with 15) I cut my hair. I didn't like dresses and long hair. So I always thought "ok, you just don't fit the stereotype"
Online I used a different name and feel in love with the name Alexandra, and just used "Alex" what I liked even more because no one knew what gender I had, even though I pointed it out after a while.
After getting a job, I forgot about it.
In therapy I sometimes got asked if I was transgender, especially after changing my look and "acting more like a boy". I said no and always left with a confused feeling these days.
Right now I'm thinking about how I would feel being called "Alex" or "Tim" (what would have been my name if I was a boy). It really confuses me and now I'm diving through the internet for information/help. I don't want to be a man, but at the same time I don't really identify as a woman.
It's nice hearing from the community that it's ok to use/change different labels in life. I just don't know how to tell others. It's difficult, since this isn't really a thing you hear about often and I'm kinda scared what others think if I tell them that I would like to try out the name Alex and a mix of he/him and she/her.
In german there isn't a they/them term since her is just 'sie' and they is 'sie' also...
I'm happy to help! 😊
Thank you for sharing your story! Judging by the fact that you don't want to be a man or a woman, I think it's pretty safe to say that you might be nonbinary! But I do understand how difficult it can be to tell others, and I also understand your frustration about the pronouns thing (one of my very best friends is German and she's often mentioned wishing there were gender neutral singular pronouns). I think the best piece of advice I can offer is to find one or two people who you know you can trust and tell them. Try out your new name and pronouns with them, see how it feels, and if it makes you happier, then tell a couple more people. That's how I came out, actually -- one person at a time!
I hope that helps!! 💚
out of all the videos i’ve watched so far i’ve found yours the most helpful! i’ve been questioning my gender since the beginning of quarantine and i want to be sure that i’m finding an indentity that fits and for the right reasons. “wanting to be non-binary might be a sign that you are” was really affirming bc i just feel like being nb would be more freeing to me.
also your presence is really comforting and made me subscribe hehe :)
I'm so happy to hear that this video was helpful! 😊 Also, thank you so much for your kind words and thank you for subscribing!!
@@arysn0w UPDATE i now identify as genderfluid and my pronouns are she/they :")
@@tenderbri888 I'm so glad you've figured that out for yourself! Congrats! :)
I really appreciate you including those hypothetical scenarios-- I've never put myself mentally into situations like those, and I found that they've helped a lot!
I'm so happy to hear that you found them to be helpful!!
Omg this was so helpful I've already been having some trouble with my sexuality so I've really been needing some help with my gender too, since my sexuality was so confusing and stressful the first time
I'm so happy to hear that it was helpful! WIshing you all the best as you figure everything out!
Thankyou so much for this video, it was super helpful!
I'm so glad to hear that it was helpful!!
This is great; I appreciate this 💚 I, too, am a nonbinary RUclipsr! I'm glad a came across you! Thanks!
I'm glad we crossed paths, as well! I'll have to check out your content at some point (cuz I really like your trailer 😄) ~Maddie
wow this video was really reassuring for me, i teared up a little bit at the last tip, thanks
I'm so glad you found this video reassuring!!
I am late diganosised autistic. In all my research on autism i came acrossed lots of conversations about gender. I had a convo with my husband - hey i guess when i think about it i don't really see myself as a girl. I just know im perceived as one and the more feminine i dress the better im treated. I thought about demi girl as something that may discribe me.
And i guess i opened up pandoras box. I think it was in the back of my mind the whole time. I went to pride and was so drawn to the non binary stickers but told myself that the label didn't fit, They werent for me. A couple of weeks later im having a full on gender crisis. Feeling really good with male gendered language and dressing androgynous, bur having many meltdowns and full days of depression about it. Its confusing. I know nobody figures it out overnight. But thank you for the video. It really helps people who are starting out on this journey
I'm honored that I'm able to help you at this stage of your journey!! And if I may offer an additional piece of advice, allowing yourself to have fun with your exploration is an absolute game-changer. Questioning yourself and your identity can be absolutely terrifying, but I've found that allowing myself a bit of levity and playfulness has been incredibly helpful in terms of mitigating the meltdowns, crises, etc.
Also, I'm still figuring myself out, so you are definitely not alone in this process!! 💕🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
thank you so much for this video! i've recently started to question my gender at 22 years old, and even though this self-discovery journey has just begun, your tips were very helpful. most of the videos i've watched so far talk about dysphoria and i am pretty sure that that is not my experience, so i'll keep looking to see what really resonates with me, but your words made me feel validated. thank you.
I'm so happy to hear that! Dysphoria is definitely the majority experience for trans and nonbinary folks, but it's not the only experience! In fact, I'd argue that the experience of gender euphoria is more common among trans folks than the experience of gender dysphoria, so I'd pay attention to those things that make you feel happy and comfortable and assured in your gender! Wishing you the best of luck in figuring everything out!
@@arysn0w thank you so much 😭♥️
You're very welcome! 😊💚
i go by Venus, and it’s really helped me personally to find nicknames i really like and have people call me by those too, it gives you more lead way to finding what name you want, or choosing to keep the one you have
That makes a lot of sense! I didn't think about using nicknames to determine the name you might want for yourself.
The sims thing really helped tbh.. I saw how much I hated the way I looked and how other people saw me and created how I wanted to be seen
I'm so glad to hear that!! It was helpful to me, so I'm glad it was helpful to you, too. 😊
I usually never comment on RUclips videos, but this time I felt I had to. I was going back and forth in my mind about my gender identity and doubting myself, but I think the Universe gave me a good sign by seeing this video recommended to me on RUclips. Thanks for helping me figure out what I am! :D
I'm glad the Universe allowed me to help you! And I'm glad you've figured/are figuring yourself out!! 😊💚
I know that this was posted a long time ago but I need to tell thank you so much because this is what I have needed to hear!
I'm so glad it was helpful!!
the sims tip was really great, thanks for the advice 💚
I'm glad it was helpful!! 💚
thank you so much for this video. im still in the early stages of figuring out and dealing with a lot of doubt but this made me feel calm and validated
I'm so happy to hear that that! Wishing you all the best of luck in figuring everything out!
The funny thing is, I’ve already done most of the tips you’ve explained in the video. I have my own persona that doesn’t have either masculine traits or feminine traits. Also, in PE, we were being divided by groups of females and males, and I didn’t feel too comfortable with either. Anyways, this was a great video and it helped me further realize my gender identity. Great work!
Thank you so much!! It's really neat to know that the tips are helping people figure themselves out (regardless of whether they put them into practice before or after watching this video). Glad we could provide you with some extra validation!
Thank for helping me find my identity I’m not saying it won’t ever change but this was an essential piece of my puzzle. 💚💚💚💚💚
I'm so happy I was able to help! And it's totally okay if your identity changes over time!! Sometimes I feel like I've used 10 different labels to describe who I am and I'm still not sure if I've figured it out 100% yet. For now, you know who you are and that's a beautiful thing. 😊💚
Thank you so much!! This was super helpful I will definitely be re-watching this over and over again
I'm so glad to hear that!! 💚💚
Thank you for this video, I've never felt more reassured.
I'm so happy that I was able to provide you with that reassurance! 😊😊