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Yeah the trash taste episode with Anthony Padilla is basically that! They talk about his RUclips journey from Smosh to what he's doing now and his process of creating a 'i spent a day with' episode. It's pretty interesting. They vibe well with him cos they're also RUclipsrs who have somewhat transitioned into interview style content because of the podcast.
It seems to be really hard to articulate how it feels to be transgender. I think people oppose it because they struggle to understand and can't relate, and they can't accept that just because they can't understand it doesn't mean it isn't real. That's why videos like this are SO important and so helpful.
Once heard an analogy that I think might be helpful to cisgender people: You dont normally feel your bones yea? You cant wiggle your arm and feel the bone moving around. However, you can feel them when they're bruised or broken. The reason cisgender people dont understand is because they cant "feel" their gender since it's not "broken". For transgender people, their gender is "broken" and that's why we feel that disconnect from body and mind.
I hate that some people don't seem to respect or believe something they haven't experienced, I believe in human rights and it doesn't matter that I haven't experienced what a trans person goes through, I still respect their choices and feelings
my dad is actually a trans man and he came out to me and my siblings when I think I was 5 so 2008. he's my biggest supporter and I'm his biggest advocate. I'm so happy to have someone like him as my dad and I'm so happy that you could bring someone on who went through very similar circumstances that makes us feel so seen.
Wonderful to see trans people thrive as parents and live their true authentic lives as adults. Trans people usually don't live as long as cis people for obvious reasons (hate and discrimination), and it's always lovely to hear stories of trans adults who were able to make it. Fills my heart with hope and determination. Send my regards to your dad, he seems like an awesome guy.
My brother is trans, honestly the only difference from before to now is I call him by a different name and he has way more confidence in himself. Otherwise he's always been the same person. He came out and everyone in the family was like "Yeah that tracks".
A phrase I’ve heard about being gay/lesbian/trans or anything is “it’s not that the person is different when they come out, they’re the same, you just learn a little more about them”
@Sadgladbadman no they are enabling him to live a better life where he feels comfortable with who he is and how he looks. Why would u wish such self hatred and dispare on somebody that you love? Why would u tell ur sibling to live miserably for ur own ignorant comfort? You wouldn’t, because THATS wrong and unbelievably selfish. As long as my family members are living a life that I know they are happy and can succeed in, I’ll be forever happy and proud of them. To want any less for them is awful.
I read on Reddit somewhere from a trans person on what gender dysphoria feels like and why it’s so hard for many cos people to understand (paraphrasing here): “you can’t feel your bones if they’re healthy and working right, but you can immediately feel them when one breaks- you know something is wrong”
That’s a great way to describe something. It’s true, you don’t notice something when it’s right but when it’s wrong you immediately notice. Clothes being too tight, glasses being too strong, socks being wet. It’s the type of thing that you notice and it makes you feel so uncomfortable but everyone else can’t feel that since their clothes fit just fine or their socks are dry.
This hits the nail right on the head. Another good metaphor is being on a crowded bus, and your foot itches, but the people are packed in so close that you can't lean over and scratch it, and you basically just have to sit there and have an itchy foot for the whole bus ride.
I have had this quite literally. Was in a training exercise in thick jungles, barely felt the tips of my appendages from the extreme fatigue of carrying heavy loads through very uneven terrain for the whole day. while not thinking about foot placement, I stepped on the side of my foot, and I heard a pop and my feet shift inwards, and immediately knew that was it, my ankle's gone. Immediately forced myself to fall to the other side and my mates were like," wtf u doin." I later found out that I had straight up torn my ligament and from my mates perspective, I was walking along fine until I suddenly dropped, which looked wierd af to them. You don't feel anything good when everything is great, but you feel like shit when 1 thing's out of place.
Wow, this really helps me try to understand the feeling more. Like I get everything else but I’ve always wondered what it felt like specifically, it must be very uncomfortable😕
"I'm stuck in this body and this role, and this is going to happen to me No matter what I want." Wow, that actually sounds so fucking terrifying. Like that’s literally the definition of body horror.
the problem with the "trans men gaining male privilege" conversation is that trans men/transmasculine people who are read as men only experience that _so long as the people interacting with them don't know they're trans._ trans men still don't experience all the same privileges cis men do and the privileges they do experience rely on being able to hide the fact they're trans. often times when this topic is brought up those points are forgotten(or in some situations purposefully ignored) which really sucks
Yeah often when people who are a bit transphobic learn you’re trans or knew you pre-transition they’ll just see you as a woman dressing up as a man, or a man dressing up as a woman, etc. I definitely did not receive any male privilege when i came out to my family.
Hence the reason why being clocked is so dangerous, some will even beat a trans person up because they're "fooling" them and "pretending" to be the gender they're presenting as. Really scary stuff, and the possible ups from male privilege are outweighed from all the dangerous downs being trans in this current society entails. :/
Unfortunately yes. It makes me tired because I’m percueved as “female” all the time. So when I’m at university when I finally got my name changed on my id card, my student ID, emails, and student rosters, it’s always in the back of my mind. “Before they talk to me what gender do they think I am” And then when I tell them my name. “Ok. Are they being nice or do I pass as male? Sorry if I worded that wrong but it’s the only way I knew how to word it.
Oh, and in some places where people might be able to transition medically but can't change their gender legally (because it's illegal in Hungary) passing is impossible.
People are way nicer in the comments on this video than on the video Anthony did on trans women. I'm happy that people are starting to treat trans men with the respect they deserve, but I just wish people would do the same to trans women.
@@facelessdrone Oh, I didn't know that. I'm an ally and I watch both trans men and women on youtube quite a bit so it makes sense why I'd then see those comments, but don't get me wrong, I can definitely see a bunch of hate comments under this video too. I was just shocked when watching Anthony's video on trans women because there were a bunch of people committed to misgendering the guests under every single positive comment I saw. There were probably hundreds of comments like that and many other cruel ones too. I didn't mean to diminish the hate trans men get, I was just disturbed by all the hate
people aren't nice to trans women because statistics show clearly that the amount of se*ual and otherwise violence pre and post transition are exactly the same - so for ftm almost none,.for mtf same as for men. maybe people just support basic women's rights to safety and privacy. you're welcome to research it, if you don't believe it's true.
I have a coworker who gave birth as a teen and then transitioned. His daughter seems like the happiest child on earth and always refers to him as her "dad" its not damaging to children at all to not have "stereotypical parents"
I remember being 17 and learning about trans people here on youtube. I was absolutely disgusted. I projected what my family had taught me, that these people were against nature and god and they were evil and mentally ill. At 23 I came out as trans, and at 24 I started transitioning. I had to deal with a lot of internalized transphobia. But accepting yourself is so freeing. I'm now 28 and have had top surgery and I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life. For the first time I can look in the mirror and like what I see.
Congrats on the top surgery man! I hope to be there someday. As for the internalized transphobia, I’ve been there too, and I know how shitty it can be. As a child I was taught to hate queer people, especially trans people. Unfortunately my country wasn’t, and still isn’t accepting of us (there are plans for not one, but two anti LGBT rallies for the next week, and I am so scared that that might mean even less public acceptance) I would like to let you know that I’m so happy for you. Learning to look past the hate you were taught to have can be so hard, but the end result is just so rewarding. I look forward to when I’ll finally be able to feel safe and be myself, and I hope for a future that grants all trans people nothing but safety and happiness.
My best friend is a trans man. He taught me so much, not only about the trans experience, but about life all around. He once told me “I’ve lived life as both a woman and a man, through that, I realized how differently they’re treated day to day. Before I transitioned, I was being catcalled on a regular basis even as early as 10 years old. After I transitioned, no one ever paid any attention to me, it’s as if I’ve faded into the background, that no one even sees me. I’ve realized that women almost always get unwanted attention and men rarely get any attention at all”. It really opened my eyes, I’m a cis woman so I never even considered how men are treated like that since I haven’t experienced it myself. I met him in high school shortly after he started T. I was a senior, he was a sophomore. Now he’s 20 and I’m 22. He’s one of the most mature, brilliant, creative, and funny human beings I’ve known and I’m so glad I met him and that we’re still great friends.
Same here, my best friend that I’ve known for almost my entire life is trans. He’s the most caring and kind guy I know. I trust him with my life and he feels the same. I hope all trans men and women find somebody that they love and trust, to call a best friend. It is surreal to watch someone grow into visibly being themselves.
One of the things I told my mom that really got her on board with my transition was “I’m sorry that you lost your daughter, but i promise to always be the man you hope she’d marry”
That’s a really nice thing to say. Even though it was obviously something really important for you to do, you still had empathy for her experience of loss and were able to reach out to help her with that. Not everyone manages that and I really hoped it helped you all move forward together :-)
To any transphobes who thinks I “forced my mom into MY “mental illness” let me just state… You don’t force your parents into helping you with your mental health issues. If I had depression and needed life saving medication, would you deny me that?? Do you not believe the science behind depression?? If your gonna support treatment of depression, which is a mental illness, then you should also support the treatment of gender/social/body dysphoria, (like depression) LIFE SAVING treatment. My mother told me when I came out to her that “if you can’t love your child unconditionally then you shouldn’t have children”
As a cis person, I can't even begin to imagine what gender dysphoria feels like. It sounds super uncomfortable on many levels. This is why we as cis people need to be more empathetic to trans, NB, etc. people. In order to make the world a better place, we need to do better.
For me, physical dysphoria feels like what jesse said, having an uncomfortable skinsuit that you want to take off. I once felt so uncomfortable I dug my nails into the back of my neck and actually tried to rip off my skin. It kinda reminds me of a scene in supernatural where a shapeshifter has to rip off its skin to morph into another person, except we can't do that 😭
This one trans comedian I've started listening to (Her name is Sunny, but I forget her last name) gave a really wonderful analogy for it in one of her stand-up bits. I'm not going to re-tell the joke in case any of you look her up, but I can verify that it's pretty accurate.
Being a transman is often ignored (other than the 'lost lesbian' craze from a few years ago) so thanks for this. It's really affirming to see it being recognised. I've also just started hormones so this couldn't have come at a better time for me so thanks
Another Nathan?(Nate is my nickname, lol). When I was in middle school people would tell me I was a straight girl that was calling herself a guy because she wanted to be different(like how people would treat girls that came out as bisexual). This happened because I’m a transman who happens to also be gay. But the whole situation where trans men were being called lesbians who thought being men was the answer was such bs . i’m glad transmen and others(including myself) can watch this video and either relate or learn. So cool to hear you’re starting hormone therapy, hope the journey is well and you start feeling more like yourself :)
@@lovelore you're gonna have a miserable life if yall spend all your time worrying about someone being happier with themselves and that makes you upset :D
As a trans girl it's such a similar experience except it's the other way around. I still find it agitating that people think it's just a phase or an act that we put on. It's not like we're a small group, look at all of us
just a reminder that not all trans folks realise it at a young age! we all have different experiences and circumstances but we're all equally valid, no matter to whether you realised it when you were a kid or when you're an adult! love you
If this is the first time you've been introduced to trans men, it's important you know not all of them are straight. Not all trans men feel attraction exclusively to women. Some are gay, others are bi or pan and can even be asexual. They're all valid and none of them is more "manly" than the others. Gender expression and gender identity are not necessarily related. Some trans men consider themselves somewhat feminine or androgynous and that's OK. Gender expression and sexual orientation can be very diverse within the trans community as a whole. I'm not a trans guy, but I'm a non binary person and I felt I had to clarify all of this to any cis newcomer who wants to learn more about trans and non binary people's lives and experiences.
Yeah, actually I think there's more bi/gay trans men than straight in the community (specially in social media) and they also can experience different ways of discrimination (such as the "transhet" slur by transphobes) as well as other factors such as height or issues like going to bathrooms.
@@nvm4086 yeah i had, like, basically zero concept of gender until puberty started kicking in and i still didn't fully realize and come to terms with being trans until i was 20
Being trans in itself is a life altering thing, but being a trans man is a whole different story bc we don't even exist in the eyes of society, like literally there are people who didnt even know we existed until they met me, I'd be so flabbergasted and tell people "we're everywhere...."
Yeah it’s very strange. I wonder if it’s to do with passing or with misogyny? I have a lot of trans friends and my male-presenting/transmale friends never get harassed but my friends who are trans women/ amab gnc do alllll the time.
@@worrywirt Could be, the thing is usually with how visibly trans/passing you are (from my own experience). From the internet and life overall, trans women, especially those who started transitioning ater puberty or never want to transition medically at all are usually "easier to spot" as some folks say. I can definitelly see the difference as a trans guy (pre-transitioned), I feel like transmascs are babied or just straight up ignored when they say they are transwhen pre-transition (but I cannot testify for transitioned transmascs- yet), while trans women get the same standards as cis men -what I mean by that is the stereotype of "women wearing suits is ok but when a guy puts on a dress its a whole drama/just straight up wrong" - and on top of that or transfemmes that pass/have transitioned to the point you wouldn't know it unless they told you its usually tied to misogony. As one transphobe in my class said "If they wanna be women they're gonna get treated like real women- which is like crap" Thank you for reading my ted talk :)
@@worrywirt I think it's definitely misogyny, I once saw it explained as men being seen inherently better, so trans women are depicted as dangerous for wanting to be the "lesser" of the two boxes, that there must be a reason, like them being predators or that might be one of the reason something, might be a combination of lots of thing and that
@@neolordiei think it’s fair to acknowledge that a lot of men do pretend to be women for a fetish & to prey on real women though. they’re still biological men trying to invade women’s spaces so it’s valid for people to have boundaries in my opinion
@@kate-ec4pj source ? there's no need for men to go through the effort to pass as women, they can just walk in the bathroom and crossdressing can be a fetish, yes, but I don't think that it is the majority, most people just want to wear what feel good for them
I balled my eyes out when the guy waiting with all his belongings in the car got the message from his parents that they still love him even though they don't understand it.
It is great because it was both honest and supportive. They didn't need to understand everything he was going through there and then, they just had to understand that he was going through something very significant that wasn't his "fault" and that he needed their unconditional love and support. Bravo to that family!
"it wasn't for you. it was for me." touched me deeply because i officially came out in a similar way and didn't know how to handle poor reactions from family, but it was how i was wanted to do it. it's really encouraging hearing that
I wish I could explain this to my dad. He said it was a shame that Eliot Page came out as trans because his wife divorced him (his ex wife is a lesbian so she didn’t want a husband). I tried explaining that while it’s a shame that their marriage didn’t work out, that doesn’t mean it would have been better for Page to pretend to be a woman forever. It wasn’t about his wife; it was about him
i remember when i first was experiencing dysphoria, and i was googling it like 'i don't feel comfortable in my own body' and 'i wish i was a boy', and i came across the word transgender. so then i googled 'am i trans?' and ty's video came up. that is the first time i ever felt seen. and for that, i thank ty and i still adore his funny and relatable content today :)
i always thought i was a weird tomboy when i didn’t discover the word. i’m so glad i discovered trans ppl bc without them, i’d still be lost with my identity and who i perceive myself as
im not trans but omg I really like Ty. he seems super cool, fun, understanding, and supportive. Just from this video I feel like hed be a cool friend Also... as a straight guy, Ty is a good lookin man LOL
Exactly, I'm a trans boy and I came out to my mother not long ago only to be invalidated, I was absolutely terrified that I wouldn't be accepted as who I truly felt I was and it's honestly left trauma. I was one of the "lucky" ones who weren't disowned or kicked out.
yes true i wished my mum didnt have children then she would be better on and i would not have the trouble i have now i mean i should consiter myself "lucky" but i dont get aceptet from my mum and twin:/
'Some parents shouldn't have kids' more like some parents don't deserve to have kids. in the end of the day kids are people and after 18 they will be legal adult. But I still think that gender dysphoria is real and parents should be supportive of their kids so they can take the life altering decision after the age 18. Cuz it will make their mind strong and will resolve the discomfort in their biological body.
Trans man here, currently listening to the pregnancy section. I am not exaggerating at all when I say being pregnant is my worst nightmare. I would probably want to die. I hate everything about myself already because of the body I was born in, but knowing pregnancy is something I can avoid I think makes the fear worse. Edit: Didnt think this comment would get so much attention. It's cool to read about your guy's thoughts and experiences! Though I havent seen any issues arise, seeing how many replies there are I do want to remind everyone to be respectful when commenting 👍 Be mindful of others
Anthony is such an awesome, kind and understanding person. He doesn't judge anyone, he doesn't try to offend anyone; he is compassionate and offers a support unlike anyone else in the world. Thank you!
@@johnwalker1058 amen! He's definitely one of the people I look up to a lot. I grew up without amy father, just a mother that works too hard for me. He's amazing -- if more people were influenced by hom, the world would be a better place.
@@Rolleroker Dude, wtf-? In what world is saying that okay? As a trans person, that is one of the worst things someone can say. Nobody, especially trans folk, wants to hear that. To everybody else, never say that. To both trans and cis people. It's borderline disgusting and honestly so immature. Never call someone an "it" unless they say so specifically.
@@Rollerokerlet me refresh you with a 1° grade lesson about pronouns: people use “he/she/they” pronouns and “it” is used to refer to abstract/inanimate objects, not people. Examples: “she’s a good woman!” woman = human being, so we use “she” “It’s a good table” table = inanimate object, so we use “it” Is it more clear now? Do you feel smart enough to learn a kindergarten grade concept or do you want me to explain it again?
As a trans guy in a small conservative town, watching this feels like a much needed warm hug Also I'll be 1 week on T tomorrow !! Edit : Yall are so sweet thank you guys for being so kind
Trans man here - I think the hardest thing about transitioning is that we don't have an exact proof for others (or to ourselves). Proof that this is real and not a phase or confusion or whatever. The world basically tries to gaslight you. It took me so long to star believing myself and to realise my feelings have a value.
I'm an 18 year old trans man. It's currently 6 in the morning and I'm sending this video to my dad in hopes that maybe he will notice and learn more from it. Wish me luck
And thats why people avoid trans people, this comment section alone is full of contradictions. Trans people can't even figure out what trans actually is and yet think they can force it on others. Maybe actually fix the community before you try and "fix" the world.
“We don’t understand it but we love you” is something all parents should be ready to tell their kids at any point. Because it’s not about understanding sexuality and gender and all their intricacies, it’s about seeing your child as a human person that has their own life and is someone who exists completely detached from you, and that is trusting you to love them after telling you who they are. If your child’s gender or sexuality being different from the “norm” bothers you enough that you reject them, you should never have become a parent to begin with. This said, these guys are gorgeous and I always stress out how much trans people glow and how beautiful they are. Especially when they’re supported by their family and friends and they can be themselves without fear. And Anthony, you’re amazing too. Thank you for giving queer people a platform to introduce ourselves to people the way it should be done. Not as a form of ogling but as a way to inform people who might not be aware of things. 🖤
What is even sadder is that the childhood looks different for girls and boys. Your gender shouldn't influence your experiences as a child (and ofc later on as well but it's frustrating to see how girls are treated different from boys).
I know a trans guy. I knew him be4 he transition. It was the best thing he ever did. He's more happier, funy ,and relaxed. And i hate how his family still treat him . But he's not seeing them so much. I'm just glad he's back in my life. We may not talk every day , but I know he's there. 😘
my current boyfriend knew me when I was still a gay guy, as a gay guy I was still feminine, skinny and very bottom, still I had a male face and a kind of a beard, but this guy loved me at least in the shadows, cause he's straight and I was his secret peeve at 2am right? when I would mention I wanted to be trans he would go ballistic and say he wasn't into trans stuff, and that if I mention that again he would stop talking to me, however we ended breaking up and lost contact, when I became trans he reached back again to ask how I was doing, he wanted to see me and I said yes just cause I wanted to surprise him, at the phone I tried to make the manliest voice possible, so when he arrived he went on SHOOK mode for a solid 3 seconds, and he got hard 🤣🤣🤣 he was wearing sweatpants or something, he came from the gym, and I was like "I thought u said u weren't into trans" , I seriously agreed to let him come by to see me, I wasn't expecting to fu*ck, but when I said that he jumped on me like NEVER before, kissed me like never before and now he loves me more than ever, I think, at least he takes me on public now and not secret like before, its funny cause he was there before transition and now after transition, I would have boyfriends all the time but never last longer than a week, but this guy is ALWAYS there on any stage, shape or form that I am
@@ReginaTrans_ I’m sorry he didn’t feel comfortable to accept you before, but if you can overlook that flaw of his in the past, or if he’s grown as a person and matured, then I’m happy for you. But you deserve someone who’s proud to be with you, someone who will shout at the top of a building that they’re in love with you. Good luck and I hope you find happiness ❤
A am cis (I’m pretty sure) but a couple weeks ago my dad told us he is trans ftm. And he said he wouldn’t have been as good of a parent If he hadn’t transitioned. And he’s a very happy guy, and a great father :) I didn’t know him before he transitioned but my mom did, and she said he is way happier now
Just wish he didn’t make the thumbnails and titles on all his videos seem slightly disrespectful, and open for people to comment their rude observations. Otherwise, decent videos and he is a great guy.
Beautiful video, and I just can’t stand that so many people think they have to bring others down and literally try to outlaw them for being who they are.
We are mixing things up a little bit here, I come from a non Christian family. And I don't want anyone to be prosecuted or outlawed. I simply want my wife to go to her women's only gym and not have to deal with dudes in the locker rooms. I also don't want my kids to be exposed to this weird western s3x Ed bull crap. Hence why I enrolled them to a private school, more money and sacrifice but I hope it helps a bit. I want them to grow up and make up their minds, while be respectful to everyone. My family is very mixed, 5 countries to be exact. So we know and appreciate diversity. But it doesn't mean I have wear my pink undies and grab a pair of Lazer sticks and dance at a gay parade. The human brain is special and I like to use it.
as a lesbian, i will always love and support straight trans men! if thinking you’re a lesbian is part of your trans journey, then i’m glad that you found support within our community and wish nothing but the best for you moving forward. :)
There’s needs to be better and more recognition of gay trans men and gay/lesbian trans women, and maybe bi trans too, in the lgbtq community. I wish Anthony would had bring at least one who identifies as a gay trans person on each episode just to hear from another pov
as a trans guy i realli appreciate this video cause we are so ignored all the time, lots of people don't even know we exist and most of the time we're perceived as "just girls in their tomboy phase" or "lost depressed lesbians" or "we want male privilege" etc, thanks for letting our voices be heard
@@akale2620 Barely. The discrimination early transition, and throughout your life e.g. medically & when people find out you were born as a female far outweighs any male privileges we rarely receive.
This is true, even though I'm gender fluid, (Wich also rarely gets talked about) I can somewhat relate whit this, when I was younger I wanted to transition so bad, mostly because of the way my mother try to force into the girl stereotype, but then I learn to live whit my gender, until I make a trans quiz Wich has s lot of gender options and I got trans- I then started questioning my gender and finally realize, sometimes I would feel weird when people call me a girl, and it wasn't until that point that I realize I was truly gender fluid, and when Im feeling like a boy I want to transition so bad- I literally like 3 hours ago I was searching to buy a binder, and I know I will fully know what the duck is in my mind, but I don't like my chest even when feeling like a girl- so it's going to be fun to figure if I really want to transition:))
You mean trans woman. If you were born a female youll always be a woman. Changing your appearance or taking testosterone just means youre a masculine version of woman. Why pretend to be what you arent?
I'm on the waiting list for my top surgery and I am starting testosterone in three days. Discovered that I felt more like a man during COVID-19. I always lived in a house that wasn't really feminine and live in a smaller town where education about gender is still taboo. I wanna say thank you for this video and to anyone who's afraid of transition/unsure : take your time. Everything is a race if others say so. It took me over 20 years to finally understand where my pain came from. Follow your pace and take your time, respect yourself ! Love y'all.
If I just saw a picture of these guys with no information on who they were I would’ve had NO IDEA what they’d gone through. I think trans people are so cool and I think they deserve a lot of respect for what they’ve had to do or deal with in their life.
The idea of being a trans man, who hasn’t come out yet, and becoming pregnant from having sex with your boyfriend (mostly through peer pressure and wanting to be “straight”) literally terrifies me, that is insane and I don’t know how he dealt with that. I personally wouldn’t be able to have that baby, as a person who has identified as a trans guy.
Yea, there's a form of comp-het many trans mascs deal with relating to before they come out or when they're still pressured to fill "female" gender roles, I dealt with a lot of that growing up, no matter what I wanted, everyone insisted I had to be with cis men, I had to "do things" a certain way, etc. Pregnancy, especially now post roe, has always been my largest fear, even though I don't do anything that can get me pregnant, I'd hardly be the only guy who was pregnant against his will, so the fear is still there.
I’m so sorry that you have to deal with that with pressure of being pregnant, still with peer pressure and everything. I hope you get full love and support some day
I absolutely hate the fact that people are out there tearing people down and making their environment so unsafe and toxic that they have to de-transition just to be accepted. I can't even imagine having to live as someone I'm not and the fact that these people have to stop something that helps them feel happy and true to themselves makes me really sad.
I think one of the hardest parts of being a trans man is definitely finding someone who will go out with you. Whenever you find someone cool and they find out you’re trans then all the sudden they’re “dating a girl.” It’s so depressing.
Trans people are so antagonised by the media, especially in recent times. It is so scary to see the rights of trans people, myself included, being taken away. This video is so so important in fighting back against the misinformed ideas that politicians and the media are trying to push onto people about being transgender. Thank you so much for this Anthony and for giving a voice to such amazing people
@G Money the fact that I cannot go onto my laptop without seeing at least two or three transphobic articles just by clicking New Tab and seeing the automatic news updates is proof enough that trans people are not presented accurately or righteously by the media. I don’t know what side of the internet you’ve been on, but please tell me so I can join it lmao
@@xianlotus I mean just look at America. 21 laws were passed against trans people in the US alone last year. Not to mention last year being the deadliest year for trans people. Things have been getting worse for a while, and this year has been no better. Not a fun time to be trans right now lmao
As a trans man who transitioned a bit later in life, I can also definitely confirm male privilege is real. I love how, in these interviews, all the serious topics are touched on so respectfully and without making it too heavy.
My boyfriend is a trans man. He's mentioned the dysphoria and emotions before but never went into much detail because he proudly looks past it. So to hear these dudes talk about the emotions, fear, everything like that.. It makes me so proud of my boyfriend and who he is today, Its opened my eyes even more to just what he has pushed through and I honestly want to hug him and cry because He is the stronger trooper ever to me now. I am so fucking proud of my Gay Trans Man Boyfriend
@chad_in_the_makingit’s not your decision to choose weither trans man is a woman or a trans woman is a man it’s their decision the world don’t revolve around you
@chad_in_the_making idk, I kinda agree, but kinda don't. I can't controll who my kidd love so I would support them, but I wouldn't let them get surgery until they're 18 (if they want to ofc)
As a trans man who loves feminin style I feel a little lonely/ankwerd in front of masculin guys, yet so inpowered to do what I always liked now as a man. Nice interview♡
@@anonymous-cx7ng Yeah, you think anyone would choose to be trans? It ain't a choice for us trans folk what our genders are, we just got a gender different from the one assigned at birth.
i SCREAMED when I saw Ty!! He was the man that helped me come out as trans waaaay back in his early transition in 2014, and I came out not much later at age 14. He's literally my role model!!
Being trans is such a bizarre experience. I remember pre everything just feeling like I was in an alternate reality where something was really off, but at the time I couldn’t tell what it was. I started T at 17 and if I hadn’t I wouldn’t be here. Transitioning brought me back to reality, and now I get to enjoy the mundane that I never got to experience as a kid/teen.
Listening to their earlier stories of knowing, FEELING something internally… even as children with no pre-conceived notions of the world, negative stigmas, or even just of the LGBTQ+ community itself, speaks volumes. This was never a choice, it was always there. I am a PA and so I come across new people with new stories every day. The thing I love the most is listening to their stories. It keeps me open to new thoughts and ideas and keeps me from becoming ignorant. I love these videos because it’s like seeing life through someone else’s eyes.
@@LunaRealized Who said anything about change? It was always there. Sure, they can measure the widths of hips, skulls, or long bones, but at the end of the day, even time, at least those people in the ground will have lived happily.
@@LunaRealized yea no one is arguing that because no one cares. No one is going to know someone owned a pet store or gave money to someone every time they were at a grocery store but that isn’t the point. You do things because that’s who you are and what you want to do.
@@LunaRealized bro I don't care what happens the day after I die that's not my problem let alone 1000 years who the fuck cares that's the dumbest shit I've ever heard in my life
@@cosygoose1813 A: transitioning is not the same as surgery. Non invasive treatment ranging from being outed to the inner circle over dressing according to your own expectations to HRT are possible parts of transition. B: i feel like you don't use the word narcissistic correctly there. C: why would it be bad to change oneself to be happier with oneself? D: source for the increase? Chances are that one leaves quite a few factors out that change the interpretation on the data.
@@cosygoose1813 no not at all. So does any surgery or medical treatment. Doesnt mean it helps more people. Or you want to scold knee replacements because the satisfactory rate with it is awful?
Three very wise, well-spoken, respectful men. I'm glad they seem so comfortable in their skin now. They really deserve it. Also I'm glad there were some positive coming out stories.
Remeber that you are valid. The way you are feeling is valid. I hope that one day you get out of that kind of environment and go into one that you can be you :)
Yk what I really wanna see? “I spent a day with Ian” talk about all the things you guys used to get up to in the beginnings of Smosh all the way until now. How co-running a giant RUclips channel affected your friendship, how you guys are doing now. I know there were bits and pieces of other videos on this topic. But a full fledged interview with Ian would probably blow up the internet
can i just say that all of these guys look SO GOOD and seem like very cool people? 😭 also, as a non-binary person myself, i'm so glad to see trans people being supported and given the chance to have their voices heard by someone with such a big platform, thank you
I am a trans man starting my transition on October 14th this year after almost 10 years of being in the closet to everyone but my close friends. I'm so glad Anthony did this video, for us fellow trans folk and for other people to understand us better. If my parents spoke english I'd definitely send this to them so they can start to understand my transition a bit better (I might work to subtitle this video to my language, if possible ofc) Thank you Anthony
I can’t remember his name but the guy who came out via text and waited to see if he could return home had me in tears. Whether you understand trans or not, the support you can offer is lifesaving
As a trans guy myself (recently started hrt let’s go bois), it’s so great to see more recognition of us and our identities! I love my trans sisters (my gf is trans) I just feel like so much of the narrative around trans people is focused on them and us trans men are kind of left out (or we’re thought of as “confused tomboys” or something like that which completely invalidates our identity). So thank you, so much, for this Anthony. It means so much to me, and I’m sure it means a lot to many more people too.
honestly i don’t envy trans women their spotlight in the media haha. i’d rather be erased and infantilized than directly hated and fetishized and called a predator.
Trans people have all my respect. I have couple trans friends, so I hear about all the struggles, experiences and operations they have to go through and it is hard af. Years and years of dealing with dysphoria and that with everything around transition phase, while others just shame them and completely disregard everything trans experience, just because they do not understand it. It is real and it is difficult and these 3 guys went through all of it and MADE IT ON TOP! Like tell me that fact alone is not worth the praise! And everyone else going through any type of dysphoria or through transition, you are valid, I understand it is difficult and painful hearing comments from society especially, but it is worth it and YOU are worth it. Do not let others dictate who you are and what should you do ever. I feel you, I see your pain and you have my respect
Being a young trans man in the Midwest is so scary and uncomfortable, It makes me so happy to see videos like this and knowing that other trans men have struggled with the same thing and gotten past it. I really hope that I can be that happy and confident like all these amazing men are. Thank you so much for making this video Anthony
So stop playing victim and just be a man, instead of a tRaNsMaN. It isn't scary, it is just life. Stop obsessing. T is cheap. Binders are cheap. Just realize Midwesterners don't care they just don't want it shoved down their throats. We transition to PASS not to keep fucking outing ourselves. COMMON SENSE. You will pass and be fine.
@@peppersanches412 Thank you for making me feel way more masculine today compared to someone pathetic enough to leave a negative reply to a RUclips comment
I'm cis also and growing up in the 90's as a teen girl I dated a few dudes who became women later on and I never even questioned it. For some reason it felt natural. I never felt it was wrong or strange. I thought ok well they weren't happy in their body and now they are. I still feel that way.
i don’t understand why there are so many more men wanting to be women then there are women wanting to be men though. it’s hard not to be alarmed just by the sheer amount of how many men do it in comparison, because even though there are genuine people, it doesn’t cancel out the fact that a lot of men that do it only do it to prey on women & because it’s a fetish to them. which is why women having boundaries against it is so important
@@kate-ec4pj ftm's are underrepresented, there was in the past more trans women than trans men, but today it's about equal, or reversed, they just don't fit nicely in the "trans people are men trying to abuse women" of the mainstream media
@@kate-ec4pj actually that is completely untrue. If anything it's a lot harder for MtF people to accept themselves and come out as trans. I'm not saying it's not hard for women but when girls are little and wear a T-shirt and shorts it's a LOT less frowned upon than a little boy wearing a dress and skirt. FtM people face their own struggles early on as "tom boys" and such often being categorized as lesbians and just unattractive because they dont dress up. But for MtF people the struggles and bullying are a lo tof the times a lot worse especially early on. This causes MtF people to be slightly more likely to repress how they feel about their gender down the line. And often it's easier to catch it at the ages before bullying starts due to the fact that they don't have a perception of why it's wrong to wear a dress and a lot of the times their peers don't either. I also don't understand why someone would go through years of emotional torment, years of therapy, years of financial loss to medical treatment, years of hormone therapy, legal changes and risk being disowned, losing friends, physically assaulted and murdered for a "fetish."
I've been out and living as a man for 13 years now. It's so inspirational to see a generation of people who aren't afraid to explore who they are. It was all taboo when I came out, but the fact that these videos get made can help so many people. I discovered that transgender people exist when I was 14 watching a TV show that had a transdude in it. Media representation is so important.
I’d be devastated if my child decided to come out to me and tell me their true selves and had their entire life packed up bracing for me to stop loving them and kicking them out. I don’t want kids, I don’t think I’m cut out to be a parent, but if it ever happened or I end up fostering kids down the line, I hope they wouldn’t even feel the need to come out. Just at dinner one night be like “can you call me ____ and use these pronouns for me now?” Or “hey, btw I’m seeing someone and I’d like you to meet them” and just not see it as a big deal because that’s what I’d aim to instil in them.
I'm not trans but I think it's important to understand these kinds of topics on a deeper level so we can treat people better. Thank you for making these videos!
I cannot believe that in America some schools choose to separate boys qnd girls for their sex ed classes, that is awful! Why on earth do you think it's not important for girls to understand a boys anatomy and for a boy to understand that of a girl? It's something that creats understanding and kindness towards another. You understand what the other gender is going through. I'm happy they tought us everything where I live.
raising boys and girls to separated only creates more separation down the line, that’s why sexism is so rampant on both sides, and why it’s so hard for people to function together nowadays because they’re always too hung up on the other person being different
i've found myself a trans man for ten years now. i'm twenty-six, turning twenty-seven just next month, and while this video brings me the greatest joy to see people like me who overcame so many difficulties of being trans, i can't help but cry over the idea that it's taking so long for me to join them and find myself in a body i like and identify with. it always feels like i'm "late" to everything. i lost a childhood being who i'm not, and i'm losing my early adult years being someone i'm not. it's extremely hard to find resources for trans people (especially trans men) where i live, which's soul-crushing for sure, watching other trans people i've met transition and find joy so much faster than me, but i believe one day we'll all be able to achieve happiness. excellent video as always, anthony.
happy early birthday!! as a trans teen seeing this video and generally hearing about other people who are trans really helps me honestly. i keep having that feeling of losing time and not being able to experience life in a body im comfortable with and with an identity i am aswell so it's really comforting to know that someone else feels that!! sorry if the reply is confusing whatsoever, i am not great yt comments
@@unfalters2448 thank you kindly! i'm sure a lot of us feel that way. childhood especially is so important and a memorable time for so many people that not being able to live through it the way we want to is unfortunate, but hopefully we can make the best of our lives once we finally find ourselves in the right body. hope you find success in the future, friend!
I'm in the same boat as you, my friend! I've known since being a very little kid around 5-7 years old that I was trans and I'm turning 34 this year. I'm afraid to come out to my parents, especially my dad since he's all Pro-Trump... doesn't help that I live on my parents property either. I also live in a small town that doesn't offer any kind of HRT and I don't drive so going to the closest place that does isn't really an option. I hope everything will work out for you... After watching this video I'm feeling inspired to just walk up and come out to my family even if I have to do so bluntly. I don't want another 10 years to pass me by and stay unhappy in this body. Lots of love to you and good luck!
@The magic fish im so sorry for how your country is treating its LGBT children. you'd think by 2022 we'd be more open-minded and sympathetic but guess not. but no giving up, to either of us. i'm sure we'll be able to transition and be comfortable in our own bodies one day, friend :)
@@Orphan_of_Gwyn do make sure you've got a friend who can house you or a backup plan if the worst happens! but a step ahead is to be true to yourself and to those around you. with some luck, maybe you'll be able to open your dad's eyes to a better reality, since it's happening so close and direct to him with his own child. the best of luck to you!
the part about how feminine clothes were the cause of his dysphoria until puberty really resonated with me because I've always struggled with feeling like I haven't always known I'm a guy. I recognized the dysphoria starting with puberty but now I've realized that I had a similar experience to him in that I was kinda a tomboy and didn't like "girly" stuff. But once puberty started then I became uncomfortable with my body and hiding it basically. I didn't realize I was trans for a lot longer. thank you for giving trans men a chance to be heard! we're often forgotten about since unfortunately there's a lot more hate for trans women.
@@sahasrareddysudhini974 well I started puberty sort of early so I wasn't a teenager but just stuff stereotypically associated with girls like pink and dresses. Plus was really against gender roles but I still am now. Basically just the whole "I'm not like other girls" thing like trying to be quirky and different but really it was because I didn't yet realize that I wasn't a girl.
Thank you for this video, I’ve been waiting for it for so long. As a transgender man who’s a parent, finding representative figures or informational videos that are respectful is hard to come by. I’ve done a couple of podcasts myself with a streamer, and it’s wild how much misinformation there still is out there. Thank you for allowing us in the lgbtq community to have a voice and thank you for being so respectful towards all of your interviewees. Love love your videos dude.
The part about people treating you better if they perceive you to be male is so true. I’m a trans guy but I’ve always looked a bit androgynous so when I’m at work and I’m interacting with the public, people will 100% take what I say seriously if they think I’m a dude. If they think I’m a woman they argue with me relentlessly
I've noticed people will argue and belittle women and then tell women they argue too much, when really it's them approaching women and purposely being rude to them... It's like they wanna provoke them and want them to stay docile and quiet even when they are being rude to them for no reason and they get upset if the woman doesn't respond this way and just let them walk all over her and be rude to her, people expect women to always be sweet and polite even when you treat them like garbage and they wanna be able to treat them like trash without them being able to stand up for themselves
that may be one advantage of being a man, but when it comes to asking for help or showing vulnerability, you are going to have a hard time finding supportive people. thats why most men are lonely and depressed in todays world
I'm a 39 year old trans guy who started transitioning 5 years ago and I feel like I missed out on so much growing up. I watch these videos when I'm having a rough time
Hey, God loves you all and Jesus died for you to be free from sin and death and to be made whole in Him. I was once bisexual and transgender for 5 years until God rescued me, healed me from depression, suicidal thoughts, and drugs and ive never been more free, full, and at peace than with Him. Turn to God because He loves you more than anyone else!!
@@underscorecaden tbh same, the first video I watched of his was him pre transition doing a Dan and Phil skit with an old friend and I was like “I like this, lemme check out their channel” and I went on his channel for the first time and I was like holy shit he’s a trans guy?! And now he’s transition goals for me lol
@@underscorecaden IKR? I wished he kept that up, but I understand why he privated it since it was way before he knew he was trans and it has his deadname in it as well so. But yeah, no I haven’t going on his channel every month or so to see if he’s uploading anything new lol, or I just watch old stuff!
As a trans man, it’s sometimes hard seeing things like this, because my childhood was different. I was so extremely girly it was insane, I would be the girliest of them all. However, when puberty hit for me, I suddenly felt so uncomfortable. I just set it aside because “everyone feels uncomfortable” but it was just, painful. I love feminine things, but the thought of someone seeing me in feminine light felt so wrong. When I did find out about trans people, it really clicked for me. I was just like “oh shit that’s me”. But I also pushed it down because so many trans men spoke about how when they were children they didnt like dresses or girly stuff etc, and I just was like “oh, I guess I’m not trans.” Purely because I was inherently feminine. One time on the internet though, I decided to pick up a character, to act as someone else so my parents couldn’t find my account. I chose the name Neil and pretended to be a gay man who did art. And it felt so right. I loved when people would comment and call me Neil and use he/him. Soon I started using the name Neil at school and it felt so so good. In my senior year of high school, I let my transgender identify out as much as possible, but dressed how I wanted. I was so weird and goth and feminine with the identity of a man and I loved it. Im more toned down now, but I love being Neil. I love hearing my voice drop. But I will never dislike the little girly girl I was a child, because she was happy that way.
Interesting perspective, it's cool hearing about different types of trans experiences. Thanks for sharing your story! I'm glad you're happy with who you are and who you were
I’m trans fem, and I kind of agree though. I was never ultra masculine but also not ultra feminine. I liked a mix of things like piercings, make up, bright flamboyant colors, Call of Duty, GTA, BB guns, getting into fights, etc. Actually I think the reason I was violent because my sister always physically assaulted me. My point is that I don’t think I’m the average trans person being extremely indifferent to your assigned gender as a kid. Puberty was also a big thing for me where it made me suicidal and uncomfortable developing masculine things.
This video genuinely means so much to me and other trans men like me. Cis guys accepting and understanding us is so important, and it helps bridge the communicational gap. It's very heartwarming to see this kind of thing online now
@@KarmaAnims mate no you were not, I haven't played with legos since I was 10 or 11 at the latest and my 9 year old brother is aging out of them as well lmao
@@lolololololololololo1987 It's been in the DSM for years, first as Gender Identity Disorder, now as Gender Dysphoria. Are you really going to argue with psychology and science? Both parties agree and confirm that being transgender is an actual condition.
I love that Anthony can bring much more understanding to the LGBT community to people who might have misconceptions about it, as well as educating people on certain disabilities or struggles less privileged people have. From the bottom of my heart, thank you Mr. Padilla.
"It comes in packs" as if being trans is a disease. Why is it so hard for people to simply behave nice to the person in front of them and be respectful? This video is so good and the way all the men get to tell their stories is awesome.
I have the absolute PRIVELEGE of having an accepting mother. She didn't even question it, she just understood. My dad too, even though he's very macho army big man man mans he still accepted me. My step-mom,,, well,, I haven't come out to her yet but I have my doubts shes going to accept me haha so wish me luck!
Remember you don't have to come out to everyone/have to come out if you think that it could put you in danger, despite this good luck!! I hope everything goes well!!
@@whoomie Mhm! I gotta ask my dad to put me on hormone blockers though and the news will certainly make its way to her if he says yes- so I'd rather be the one to tell her!
Grateful for you giving your platform to trans people sharing their personal experience, deeply important at this time where trans people are under attack from the media and political actors, but also on a less serious note for inviting my internet crush Ty onto your channel 😅
26:24 i relate to his story so. much. in the 5th grade my class got seperated into different classrooms by boys and girls, of course i had to go with the girls. and we watched a video explaining what would happen during puberty, and i just remember seeing this video and thinking that was the scariest possible thing that could ever happen. i broke down crying when i watched that video. the teacher sent me out of the classroom to go calm down and after a few minutes of more bawling, a girl came out of the class and was asking if i was okay and what was wrong. i just kept saying "i dont want to change" over and over. i didnt mean i didnt want to grow up and mature, i meant i didnt want to become a girl. i knew i was a boy and i knew a woman's body wasnt right for me edit: btw im getting top surgery in just a few months and im 16 years old 😊 im so glad to have a family who supports me and understands me
I am a transman. I needed this so badly. Thank you Anthony. Im usually more well worded, but im just so happy and seen right now, i dont have words. Thank you so much.
I am a trans guy, and I have a unsupportive family. This video really cheered me up. At one point, I was not gonna start transitioning because of what my family has said to me and the transphobia I've came across online. (Especially, a lot of hate from transphobes online. And they would comment on trans posts and my comments and start saying shit to me.) But I'm glad that I didn't listen to them. I can't transition yet because I'm a teen and can't afford it atm. But I just want to say that ever since I've gotten a binder and started wearing male clothing, I'm starting to feel a lot more comfortable with myself. And I hope to start testosterone soon.
Believe me when I say the weird transphobes on the internet do not represent what real life is like at all. Some areas may have higher concentrations of conservative chuds than others, but the vast majority of everyday people do not give a shit and won’t bully you for being trans. In my area, people are always nice to me and respectful of my identity. I’ve been told some of my coworkers make fun of me behind my back, but idc because those people are big pusses, they’re too scared to say anything to my face so why should I care lol. They’re just really miserable people, why else would they all be spouting their hate on the computer? They don’t go outside lol
@@sugarr_coat I know and the chances of a trans person having a trans kid is like straight up 0%, pretty fucked up genes if it happened. Very odd in general. All the other men in this video are great but i feel he's just a lesbian who is trying to fit in (badly). Ain't no way in hell a trans MAN wouldn't have killed himself if he got pregnant
Came here for Ty and as a trans guy who’s been out for 6 years now, this was so nice to see. When I first came out, I was just obsessed with passing and any advice on feeling more like myself as a guy - I watched Ty and other popular trans RUclipsrs religiously to help me through it. Seeing a larger youtuber have trans men on to talk about their experiences is so special, so thank you for this
I can’t believe i heard with my own ears, a man ADMIT there IS male privilege. Many will disagree but i hope this video explains a little. I think it’s realizing it instead of denying it.
As a trans dude, we only get male priviledge if we pass as male. I just look like a feminine dude and still don't even get an ounce of priviledge they do. If a cis man suspects you're part of the LGBTQ, you can kiss your priviledge as a trans man goodbye :/
Well yeah you know what you're gaining. I know the difference of how you're treated differently between man and woman. When you're cis you can't really put yourself in the opposite genders shoes. For me I have been just forcefully to be in a woman's shoes against my will lol.
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"I Spent A Day with Anthony Padilla" would be a good special episode. Anthony discussing his learnings throughout the years of interviewing.
Agreed!!
Yess
I think Trash Taste has one ep where they interviewed Anthony for 2 hours, podcast style
Or better idea, throughout his career on RUclips. Smosh included. That would be great
Yeah the trash taste episode with Anthony Padilla is basically that! They talk about his RUclips journey from Smosh to what he's doing now and his process of creating a 'i spent a day with' episode. It's pretty interesting. They vibe well with him cos they're also RUclipsrs who have somewhat transitioned into interview style content because of the podcast.
It seems to be really hard to articulate how it feels to be transgender. I think people oppose it because they struggle to understand and can't relate, and they can't accept that just because they can't understand it doesn't mean it isn't real. That's why videos like this are SO important and so helpful.
totally 😁
Once heard an analogy that I think might be helpful to cisgender people: You dont normally feel your bones yea? You cant wiggle your arm and feel the bone moving around. However, you can feel them when they're bruised or broken. The reason cisgender people dont understand is because they cant "feel" their gender since it's not "broken". For transgender people, their gender is "broken" and that's why we feel that disconnect from body and mind.
I hate that some people don't seem to respect or believe something they haven't experienced, I believe in human rights and it doesn't matter that I haven't experienced what a trans person goes through, I still respect their choices and feelings
excactly
@@SieMiezekatze and it's even sadder to see people hating on trans people for no reason in the comments
my dad is actually a trans man and he came out to me and my siblings when I think I was 5 so 2008. he's my biggest supporter and I'm his biggest advocate. I'm so happy to have someone like him as my dad and I'm so happy that you could bring someone on who went through very similar circumstances that makes us feel so seen.
bro i’m trying not to cry this is so sweet
Your mom then?
So this used to be your mum?
Wonderful to see trans people thrive as parents and live their true authentic lives as adults. Trans people usually don't live as long as cis people for obvious reasons (hate and discrimination), and it's always lovely to hear stories of trans adults who were able to make it. Fills my heart with hope and determination. Send my regards to your dad, he seems like an awesome guy.
@@sutpecna it’s a girl btw
My brother is trans, honestly the only difference from before to now is I call him by a different name and he has way more confidence in himself. Otherwise he's always been the same person. He came out and everyone in the family was like "Yeah that tracks".
A phrase I’ve heard about being gay/lesbian/trans or anything is “it’s not that the person is different when they come out, they’re the same, you just learn a little more about them”
@@victjsofjsmdngor true
It doesn't tracts, your brother is manipulated by media, it's hypnosis and confusion, sodomy magick
Poor brother. You’re suppose to support them not encourage their mental illness. You’re just as sick as him
@Sadgladbadman no they are enabling him to live a better life where he feels comfortable with who he is and how he looks. Why would u wish such self hatred and dispare on somebody that you love? Why would u tell ur sibling to live miserably for ur own ignorant comfort? You wouldn’t, because THATS wrong and unbelievably selfish. As long as my family members are living a life that I know they are happy and can succeed in, I’ll be forever happy and proud of them. To want any less for them is awful.
I read on Reddit somewhere from a trans person on what gender dysphoria feels like and why it’s so hard for many cos people to understand (paraphrasing here): “you can’t feel your bones if they’re healthy and working right, but you can immediately feel them when one breaks- you know something is wrong”
That’s a great way to describe something. It’s true, you don’t notice something when it’s right but when it’s wrong you immediately notice. Clothes being too tight, glasses being too strong, socks being wet. It’s the type of thing that you notice and it makes you feel so uncomfortable but everyone else can’t feel that since their clothes fit just fine or their socks are dry.
This hits the nail right on the head. Another good metaphor is being on a crowded bus, and your foot itches, but the people are packed in so close that you can't lean over and scratch it, and you basically just have to sit there and have an itchy foot for the whole bus ride.
@@livvy94 or even like there’s shards of glass in your shoes lol
I have had this quite literally. Was in a training exercise in thick jungles, barely felt the tips of my appendages from the extreme fatigue of carrying heavy loads through very uneven terrain for the whole day. while not thinking about foot placement, I stepped on the side of my foot, and I heard a pop and my feet shift inwards, and immediately knew that was it, my ankle's gone. Immediately forced myself to fall to the other side and my mates were like," wtf u doin." I later found out that I had straight up torn my ligament and from my mates perspective, I was walking along fine until I suddenly dropped, which looked wierd af to them. You don't feel anything good when everything is great, but you feel like shit when 1 thing's out of place.
Wow, this really helps me try to understand the feeling more. Like I get everything else but I’ve always wondered what it felt like specifically, it must be very uncomfortable😕
"I'm stuck in this body and this role, and this is going to happen to me No matter what I want." Wow, that actually sounds so fucking terrifying. Like that’s literally the definition of body horror.
Trans man here, trust me it is. Especially as a kid when you don't know what being trans is.
trans girl here to confirm it happens on the other side, too
It so fucking scary bro especially with really religious parents
Another Enby here. I was terrified for a long time but I’m starting to transition and things are better now
Second trans girl here, it’s hell. When people say gender affirming care is life saving they’re not joking
the problem with the "trans men gaining male privilege" conversation is that trans men/transmasculine people who are read as men only experience that _so long as the people interacting with them don't know they're trans._ trans men still don't experience all the same privileges cis men do and the privileges they do experience rely on being able to hide the fact they're trans. often times when this topic is brought up those points are forgotten(or in some situations purposefully ignored) which really sucks
Yeah often when people who are a bit transphobic learn you’re trans or knew you pre-transition they’ll just see you as a woman dressing up as a man, or a man dressing up as a woman, etc. I definitely did not receive any male privilege when i came out to my family.
Hence the reason why being clocked is so dangerous, some will even beat a trans person up because they're "fooling" them and "pretending" to be the gender they're presenting as. Really scary stuff, and the possible ups from male privilege are outweighed from all the dangerous downs being trans in this current society entails. :/
Unfortunately yes. It makes me tired because I’m percueved as “female” all the time. So when I’m at university when I finally got my name changed on my id card, my student ID, emails, and student rosters, it’s always in the back of my mind.
“Before they talk to me what gender do they think I am”
And then when I tell them my name.
“Ok. Are they being nice or do I pass as male?
Sorry if I worded that wrong but it’s the only way I knew how to word it.
Yes, also not all trans men pass as men or intend to pass. So they have 0 male privilege.
Oh, and in some places where people might be able to transition medically but can't change their gender legally (because it's illegal in Hungary) passing is impossible.
People are way nicer in the comments on this video than on the video Anthony did on trans women. I'm happy that people are starting to treat trans men with the respect they deserve, but I just wish people would do the same to trans women.
lmao its probably bc the trans women video has more views. transphobes dont like trans men.
@@facelessdrone Oh, I didn't know that. I'm an ally and I watch both trans men and women on youtube quite a bit so it makes sense why I'd then see those comments, but don't get me wrong, I can definitely see a bunch of hate comments under this video too. I was just shocked when watching Anthony's video on trans women because there were a bunch of people committed to misgendering the guests under every single positive comment I saw. There were probably hundreds of comments like that and many other cruel ones too. I didn't mean to diminish the hate trans men get, I was just disturbed by all the hate
people aren't nice to trans women because statistics show clearly that the amount of se*ual and otherwise violence pre and post transition are exactly the same - so for ftm almost none,.for mtf same as for men.
maybe people just support basic women's rights to safety and privacy.
you're welcome to research it, if you don't believe it's true.
@W? the people who comment negative things about trans women? I agree
He chose a terrible trans woman
I have a coworker who gave birth as a teen and then transitioned. His daughter seems like the happiest child on earth and always refers to him as her "dad" its not damaging to children at all to not have "stereotypical parents"
@@anonymous-cx7ng no he's not, do you know how to read ?
@@anonymous-cx7ng I have a question can you read?
@@anonymous-cx7ng yes the daughter is in fact a woman
@@kay_is_dumb only females can give birth I can’t believe I have to explain this to you
@@Nic0Dr4ws no the daughter is a girl a woman is an adult
I remember being 17 and learning about trans people here on youtube. I was absolutely disgusted. I projected what my family had taught me, that these people were against nature and god and they were evil and mentally ill.
At 23 I came out as trans, and at 24 I started transitioning. I had to deal with a lot of internalized transphobia. But accepting yourself is so freeing. I'm now 28 and have had top surgery and I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life. For the first time I can look in the mirror and like what I see.
Congrats on the top surgery man! I hope to be there someday.
As for the internalized transphobia, I’ve been there too, and I know how shitty it can be. As a child I was taught to hate queer people, especially trans people. Unfortunately my country wasn’t, and still isn’t accepting of us (there are plans for not one, but two anti LGBT rallies for the next week, and I am so scared that that might mean even less public acceptance)
I would like to let you know that I’m so happy for you. Learning to look past the hate you were taught to have can be so hard, but the end result is just so rewarding. I look forward to when I’ll finally be able to feel safe and be myself, and I hope for a future that grants all trans people nothing but safety and happiness.
@Real Ray HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY!
Same story here except I’m accepting myself at 17, although I’ll only be truly able to show my true self once I leave the house
This is beautiful, I’m crying rn.
@@sarahaustin6687 why tf u crying lmao
My best friend is a trans man. He taught me so much, not only about the trans experience, but about life all around. He once told me “I’ve lived life as both a woman and a man, through that, I realized how differently they’re treated day to day. Before I transitioned, I was being catcalled on a regular basis even as early as 10 years old. After I transitioned, no one ever paid any attention to me, it’s as if I’ve faded into the background, that no one even sees me. I’ve realized that women almost always get unwanted attention and men rarely get any attention at all”. It really opened my eyes, I’m a cis woman so I never even considered how men are treated like that since I haven’t experienced it myself. I met him in high school shortly after he started T. I was a senior, he was a sophomore. Now he’s 20 and I’m 22. He’s one of the most mature, brilliant, creative, and funny human beings I’ve known and I’m so glad I met him and that we’re still great friends.
Amazing story..
this is too cute
I’m a trans guy and experienced the same exact thing in transitioning. I’m 20 as well, lol
Same here, my best friend that I’ve known for almost my entire life is trans. He’s the most caring and kind guy I know. I trust him with my life and he feels the same. I hope all trans men and women find somebody that they love and trust, to call a best friend. It is surreal to watch someone grow into visibly being themselves.
@@user-sf9gs2pg1b same lol I'm 23 tho but everything was the same for me as well
One of the things I told my mom that really got her on board with my transition was “I’m sorry that you lost your daughter, but i promise to always be the man you hope she’d marry”
That's the loveliest thing I've heard. Wow :')
stop this made me cry. this is so sweet
That’s a really nice thing to say. Even though it was obviously something really important for you to do, you still had empathy for her experience of loss and were able to reach out to help her with that. Not everyone manages that and I really hoped it helped you all move forward together :-)
To any transphobes who thinks I “forced my mom into MY “mental illness” let me just state…
You don’t force your parents into helping you with your mental health issues.
If I had depression and needed life saving medication, would you deny me that?? Do you not believe the science behind depression??
If your gonna support treatment of depression, which is a mental illness, then you should also support the treatment of gender/social/body dysphoria, (like depression) LIFE SAVING treatment.
My mother told me when I came out to her that “if you can’t love your child unconditionally then you shouldn’t have children”
Okay this is adorable
As a cis person, I can't even begin to imagine what gender dysphoria feels like. It sounds super uncomfortable on many levels. This is why we as cis people need to be more empathetic to trans, NB, etc. people. In order to make the world a better place, we need to do better.
Gender dysphoria is some of the worst stuff I've experienced and I've seen messed up stuff. We appreciate every ounce of empathy we receive.
Thank you 💜 I didn’t realize I needed to hear someone on the other side say something like that.
For me, physical dysphoria feels like what jesse said, having an uncomfortable skinsuit that you want to take off. I once felt so uncomfortable I dug my nails into the back of my neck and actually tried to rip off my skin. It kinda reminds me of a scene in supernatural where a shapeshifter has to rip off its skin to morph into another person, except we can't do that 😭
This one trans comedian I've started listening to (Her name is Sunny, but I forget her last name) gave a really wonderful analogy for it in one of her stand-up bits. I'm not going to re-tell the joke in case any of you look her up, but I can verify that it's pretty accurate.
Ty on his channel said "gender is like your bones, you don't feel it unless something is wrong" and honestly that made so much sense to me.
Being a transman is often ignored (other than the 'lost lesbian' craze from a few years ago) so thanks for this. It's really affirming to see it being recognised. I've also just started hormones so this couldn't have come at a better time for me so thanks
Another Nathan?(Nate is my nickname, lol). When I was in middle school people would tell me I was a straight girl that was calling herself a guy because she wanted to be different(like how people would treat girls that came out as bisexual). This happened because I’m a transman who happens to also be gay. But the whole situation where trans men were being called lesbians who thought being men was the answer was such bs .
i’m glad transmen and others(including myself) can watch this video and either relate or learn. So cool to hear you’re starting hormone therapy, hope the journey is well and you start feeling more like yourself :)
@@Brx125 I swear it wasn't a popular name when I chose it lmao. I also happen to prefer men so that whole mess was just funny to me.
You're going to regret taking this path later in life.
@@nychthemeral gay
@@lovelore you're gonna have a miserable life if yall spend all your time worrying about someone being happier with themselves and that makes you upset :D
I love that , "i can be horny, but still can treat women with respect."
@Gianna Dior ManuelFerra found the incel 🤣🤣🤣🤣
A reminder for trans people that you’re still valid even if you didn’t know/show signs of being trans as a kid
Nah.
@@GenericPhantom1 L
@@mostlypixels2975 L
The whole video and the comments reek of transmedicalism. Big yikes.
@@islab2458 fr
As a trans girl it's such a similar experience except it's the other way around. I still find it agitating that people think it's just a phase or an act that we put on. It's not like we're a small group, look at all of us
You’re a boy
@@anonymous-cx7ng wow what a high effort comment
Anthony has a video on trans women as well if you didn’t know
@@TongTong-or2bh I loved it
Yo what's your pfp from
just a reminder that not all trans folks realise it at a young age! we all have different experiences and circumstances but we're all equally valid, no matter to whether you realised it when you were a kid or when you're an adult! love you
This is very true! I pretty much always knew I was a guy and not a girl, but I know trans people who didn't!
Had no idea until I looked back and saw some signs.
Damn right. I realised I was enby shortly before my 21st.
This!! Sometimes you don't realize it until later on in life and there's nothing wrong with that :)
Yes!! Please let this be known too
If this is the first time you've been introduced to trans men, it's important you know not all of them are straight. Not all trans men feel attraction exclusively to women. Some are gay, others are bi or pan and can even be asexual. They're all valid and none of them is more "manly" than the others. Gender expression and gender identity are not necessarily related. Some trans men consider themselves somewhat feminine or androgynous and that's OK. Gender expression and sexual orientation can be very diverse within the trans community as a whole. I'm not a trans guy, but I'm a non binary person and I felt I had to clarify all of this to any cis newcomer who wants to learn more about trans and non binary people's lives and experiences.
And not all trans guys had signs or realizations of being trans at like 3
this, im a trans man but i do feel feminine and androgynous, but that doesnt make me any less of a man, and im happy being androgynous or feminine
Yeah, actually I think there's more bi/gay trans men than straight in the community (specially in social media) and they also can experience different ways of discrimination (such as the "transhet" slur by transphobes) as well as other factors such as height or issues like going to bathrooms.
This is true, good info
@@nvm4086 yeah i had, like, basically zero concept of gender until puberty started kicking in and i still didn't fully realize and come to terms with being trans until i was 20
Being trans in itself is a life altering thing, but being a trans man is a whole different story bc we don't even exist in the eyes of society, like literally there are people who didnt even know we existed until they met me, I'd be so flabbergasted and tell people "we're everywhere...."
Yeah it’s very strange. I wonder if it’s to do with passing or with misogyny? I have a lot of trans friends and my male-presenting/transmale friends never get harassed but my friends who are trans women/ amab gnc do alllll the time.
@@worrywirt Could be, the thing is usually with how visibly trans/passing you are (from my own experience).
From the internet and life overall, trans women, especially those who started transitioning ater puberty or never want to transition medically at all are usually "easier to spot" as some folks say.
I can definitelly see the difference as a trans guy (pre-transitioned), I feel like transmascs are babied or just straight up ignored when they say they are transwhen pre-transition (but I cannot testify for transitioned transmascs- yet), while trans women get the same standards as cis men -what I mean by that is the stereotype of "women wearing suits is ok but when a guy puts on a dress its a whole drama/just straight up wrong" - and on top of that or transfemmes that pass/have transitioned to the point you wouldn't know it unless they told you its usually tied to misogony.
As one transphobe in my class said "If they wanna be women they're gonna get treated like real women- which is like crap"
Thank you for reading my ted talk :)
@@worrywirt I think it's definitely misogyny, I once saw it explained as men being seen inherently better, so trans women are depicted as dangerous for wanting to be the "lesser" of the two boxes, that there must be a reason, like them being predators or that might be one of the reason something, might be a combination of lots of thing and that
@@neolordiei think it’s fair to acknowledge that a lot of men do pretend to be women for a fetish & to prey on real women though. they’re still biological men trying to invade women’s spaces so it’s valid for people to have boundaries in my opinion
@@kate-ec4pj source ? there's no need for men to go through the effort to pass as women, they can just walk in the bathroom
and crossdressing can be a fetish, yes, but I don't think that it is the majority, most people just want to wear what feel good for them
I balled my eyes out when the guy waiting with all his belongings in the car got the message from his parents that they still love him even though they don't understand it.
Me too. That got me very emotional.
It is great because it was both honest and supportive. They didn't need to understand everything he was going through there and then, they just had to understand that he was going through something very significant that wasn't his "fault" and that he needed their unconditional love and support. Bravo to that family!
Balled? I think you mean bawled...
@@cookies6455 no balled like started playing basketball
@@prizsma7072 he was so happy he started ballin in his car
"it wasn't for you. it was for me." touched me deeply because i officially came out in a similar way and didn't know how to handle poor reactions from family, but it was how i was wanted to do it. it's really encouraging hearing that
I wish I could explain this to my dad. He said it was a shame that Eliot Page came out as trans because his wife divorced him (his ex wife is a lesbian so she didn’t want a husband). I tried explaining that while it’s a shame that their marriage didn’t work out, that doesn’t mean it would have been better for Page to pretend to be a woman forever. It wasn’t about his wife; it was about him
i remember when i first was experiencing dysphoria, and i was googling it like 'i don't feel comfortable in my own body' and 'i wish i was a boy', and i came across the word transgender. so then i googled 'am i trans?' and ty's video came up. that is the first time i ever felt seen. and for that, i thank ty and i still adore his funny and relatable content today :)
@@anonymous-cx7ng no u.
i always thought i was a weird tomboy when i didn’t discover the word. i’m so glad i discovered trans ppl bc without them, i’d still be lost with my identity and who i perceive myself as
im not trans but omg I really like Ty. he seems super cool, fun, understanding, and supportive. Just from this video I feel like hed be a cool friend
Also... as a straight guy, Ty is a good lookin man LOL
@@pvic6959 you should watch his videos! They're not all trans related, and Ty is hilarious.
@@Fishtastic0303 I plan to now that i discovered him today :p
It’s so sad that some kids are so terrified to tell their parents about themselves in fear they’ll be disowned. Some parents shouldn’t have kids :(
Exactly, I'm a trans boy and I came out to my mother not long ago only to be invalidated, I was absolutely terrified that I wouldn't be accepted as who I truly felt I was and it's honestly left trauma. I was one of the "lucky" ones who weren't disowned or kicked out.
yes true i wished my mum didnt have children then she would be better on and i would not have the trouble i have now i mean i should consiter myself "lucky" but i dont get aceptet from my mum and twin:/
'Some parents shouldn't have kids' more like some parents don't deserve to have kids. in the end of the day kids are people and after 18 they will be legal adult. But I still think that gender dysphoria is real and parents should be supportive of their kids so they can take the life altering decision after the age 18. Cuz it will make their mind strong and will resolve the discomfort in their biological body.
That happened to me. My parents learned to accept it more and more over the years, but they could still use some work lol I was also raised catholic.
Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.
Trans man here, currently listening to the pregnancy section. I am not exaggerating at all when I say being pregnant is my worst nightmare. I would probably want to die. I hate everything about myself already because of the body I was born in, but knowing pregnancy is something I can avoid I think makes the fear worse.
Edit: Didnt think this comment would get so much attention. It's cool to read about your guy's thoughts and experiences! Though I havent seen any issues arise, seeing how many replies there are I do want to remind everyone to be respectful when commenting 👍 Be mindful of others
I feel you
@@leasagna2202 I also feel the same, also I LOVE YOUR PFP LMAO
Pregnancy is awful, and for some people, it’s an extremely dangerous gamble of life and death. It should never be forced by the government!
same here, im nonbinary transmasc but i also have tokophobia (fear of pregnancy/childbirth) i would rather die than have a baby
ME TOO!! The thought of being pregnant makes me feel physically repulsed!
I'm so glad you did trans men. As a trans man, I was waiting for this. You're literally amazing, Anthony.
Me too!
Same when I saw that he did trans women I got so excited because I knew this video would be next 😊
Here here! (also trans man)
You’re a woman
yea same
Anthony is such an awesome, kind and understanding person. He doesn't judge anyone, he doesn't try to offend anyone; he is compassionate and offers a support unlike anyone else in the world.
Thank you!
And he doesn't ask invasive or inappropriate questions that the guests weren't comfortable with answering themselves. It's great to see.
Anthony Padilla -> a role model for positive/wholesome masculinity
@@spectrademonica 100%!
@@johnwalker1058 amen! He's definitely one of the people I look up to a lot. I grew up without amy father, just a mother that works too hard for me. He's amazing -- if more people were influenced by hom, the world would be a better place.
My son is a trans man. People can be mean sometimes but we live in a place that is very accepting. I'm grateful for that
thankyou so much for supporting and loving ur son ur an amazing parent
Lol. How old is he...or it?
@@Rolleroker why be weird?
@@Rolleroker Dude, wtf-? In what world is saying that okay? As a trans person, that is one of the worst things someone can say. Nobody, especially trans folk, wants to hear that.
To everybody else, never say that. To both trans and cis people. It's borderline disgusting and honestly so immature. Never call someone an "it" unless they say so specifically.
@@Rollerokerlet me refresh you with a 1° grade lesson about pronouns: people use “he/she/they” pronouns and “it” is used to refer to abstract/inanimate objects, not people.
Examples:
“she’s a good woman!” woman = human being, so we use “she”
“It’s a good table” table = inanimate object, so we use “it”
Is it more clear now? Do you feel smart enough to learn a kindergarten grade concept or do you want me to explain it again?
As a trans guy in a small conservative town, watching this feels like a much needed warm hug
Also I'll be 1 week on T tomorrow !!
Edit : Yall are so sweet
thank you guys for being so kind
Congratulations!! 💉
Thats amazing!! Congratulations
congrats king ❤️
Congrats on one week! Before you know it, it’ll be a year… then two… then three! ❤🎉
yay I’m so happy for you!!
Watching smosh years ago as a girl and this as a man is one of the most bizarre and hilarious experiences I’ve ever had honestly
SAME
watching them as a boy and then seeing this as a girl(ish) is also pretty bizarre
@@jacksonlovellnesfield8469
can i ask what the 'ish' entails?
@@zulephizus1212 yeah, i'm non-binary but lean more towards female and want to transition to some extent
@@jacksonlovellnesfield8469 Feel you, sibling.
Trans man here - I think the hardest thing about transitioning is that we don't have an exact proof for others (or to ourselves). Proof that this is real and not a phase or confusion or whatever. The world basically tries to gaslight you. It took me so long to star believing myself and to realise my feelings have a value.
yep
yess
Exactly, it's so hard deciding if it's something that's real or not
Ew
@@arsene6512 hahah what do you mean 'ew' XD
I'm an 18 year old trans man. It's currently 6 in the morning and I'm sending this video to my dad in hopes that maybe he will notice and learn more from it. Wish me luck
good luck
And thats why people avoid trans people, this comment section alone is full of contradictions. Trans people can't even figure out what trans actually is and yet think they can force it on others. Maybe actually fix the community before you try and "fix" the world.
I'm hoping it all went well, king :)
Good luck bro. I’m a lil late ik but still I hope it went well.
Update he literally didn't say anything I don't think he even watched it 😃
Can you do “I Spent A Day With Intersex People” as part of the LGBT+ interviews?
Edit: It’s happening!!!
oo and non-binary people unless he did that already
@@3d_young_joseph he did already interview non-binary people
@@3d_young_joseph July of 2021
@@3d_young_joseph he has done nonbinery people. It was 1-2 years ago. If you search it should be there
He did a non-binary people video a while back, I definitely recommend it, very awesome to watch!
“We don’t understand it but we love you” is something all parents should be ready to tell their kids at any point. Because it’s not about understanding sexuality and gender and all their intricacies, it’s about seeing your child as a human person that has their own life and is someone who exists completely detached from you, and that is trusting you to love them after telling you who they are. If your child’s gender or sexuality being different from the “norm” bothers you enough that you reject them, you should never have become a parent to begin with.
This said, these guys are gorgeous and I always stress out how much trans people glow and how beautiful they are. Especially when they’re supported by their family and friends and they can be themselves without fear.
And Anthony, you’re amazing too. Thank you for giving queer people a platform to introduce ourselves to people the way it should be done. Not as a form of ogling but as a way to inform people who might not be aware of things. 🖤
"do you feel like you missed out on your childhood as a boy?" "definitely" omg this shattered my heart
I relate to this hardcore. :(
What is even sadder is that the childhood looks different for girls and boys. Your gender shouldn't influence your experiences as a child (and ofc later on as well but it's frustrating to see how girls are treated different from boys).
i felt like a boy in my childhood up until puberty then everyone started seeing me differently and i lost all my boys
I feel like if I were born a boy, I would have had a better childhood too, I’m lost, I’m so lost.
I know a trans guy. I knew him be4 he transition. It was the best thing he ever did.
He's more happier, funy ,and relaxed.
And i hate how his family still treat him . But he's not seeing them so much.
I'm just glad he's back in my life.
We may not talk every day , but I know he's there. 😘
my current boyfriend knew me when I was still a gay guy, as a gay guy I was still feminine, skinny and very bottom, still I had a male face and a kind of a beard, but this guy loved me at least in the shadows, cause he's straight and I was his secret peeve at 2am right? when I would mention I wanted to be trans he would go ballistic and say he wasn't into trans stuff, and that if I mention that again he would stop talking to me, however we ended breaking up and lost contact, when I became trans he reached back again to ask how I was doing, he wanted to see me and I said yes just cause I wanted to surprise him, at the phone I tried to make the manliest voice possible, so when he arrived he went on SHOOK mode for a solid 3 seconds, and he got hard 🤣🤣🤣 he was wearing sweatpants or something, he came from the gym, and I was like "I thought u said u weren't into trans" , I seriously agreed to let him come by to see me, I wasn't expecting to fu*ck, but when I said that he jumped on me like NEVER before, kissed me like never before and now he loves me more than ever, I think, at least he takes me on public now and not secret like before, its funny cause he was there before transition and now after transition, I would have boyfriends all the time but never last longer than a week, but this guy is ALWAYS there on any stage, shape or form that I am
@@ReginaTrans_ I’m sorry he didn’t feel comfortable to accept you before, but if you can overlook that flaw of his in the past, or if he’s grown as a person and matured, then I’m happy for you. But you deserve someone who’s proud to be with you, someone who will shout at the top of a building that they’re in love with you.
Good luck and I hope you find happiness ❤
I know a trans guy he now runs around shirtless with his deformed boobs and snorts druggs.
it's a true 50/50
A am cis (I’m pretty sure) but a couple weeks ago my dad told us he is trans ftm. And he said he wouldn’t have been as good of a parent If he hadn’t transitioned. And he’s a very happy guy, and a great father :) I didn’t know him before he transitioned but my mom did, and she said he is way happier now
I love how he respects everyone he meets. he is ver kind
Ver ver kind
ver kind
ikr !! he’s so nice
He's the absolute best
Just wish he didn’t make the thumbnails and titles on all his videos seem slightly disrespectful, and open for people to comment their rude observations. Otherwise, decent videos and he is a great guy.
Beautiful video, and I just can’t stand that so many people think they have to bring others down and literally try to outlaw them for being who they are.
We are mixing things up a little bit here, I come from a non Christian family. And I don't want anyone to be prosecuted or outlawed. I simply want my wife to go to her women's only gym and not have to deal with dudes in the locker rooms. I also don't want my kids to be exposed to this weird western s3x Ed bull crap. Hence why I enrolled them to a private school, more money and sacrifice but I hope it helps a bit. I want them to grow up and make up their minds, while be respectful to everyone. My family is very mixed, 5 countries to be exact. So we know and appreciate diversity. But it doesn't mean I have wear my pink undies and grab a pair of Lazer sticks and dance at a gay parade. The human brain is special and I like to use it.
Ben Shapiro is smart
@@dimplug2858 compared to 3 year old kid, anything older than that,not so much 🤣
@@lmcb8447 nope you just cant comprehend him lol
@@dimplug2858you're really gonna listen to a guy who thinks women can't orgasm because he's never experienced it lmfaooooo oh my god dude
as a lesbian, i will always love and support straight trans men! if thinking you’re a lesbian is part of your trans journey, then i’m glad that you found support within our community and wish nothing but the best for you moving forward. :)
I'm a gay trans guy, but i do wanna say thank you anyway bc so many lesbians look at trans men as "lost sisters" and it's very frustrating
If only the lesbian community would be more supportive of trans women
@@jamiec1396 yes, that too!! i wish we could just exile all the terfs in the community or something
❤️
There’s needs to be better and more recognition of gay trans men and gay/lesbian trans women, and maybe bi trans too, in the lgbtq community. I wish Anthony would had bring at least one who identifies as a gay trans person on each episode just to hear from another pov
The way Jesse explained his child affirming that he's the same person just the outside fits the inside had me tearing up!
as a trans guy i realli appreciate this video cause we are so ignored all the time, lots of people don't even know we exist and most of the time we're perceived as "just girls in their tomboy phase" or "lost depressed lesbians" or "we want male privilege" etc, thanks for letting our voices be heard
Ya did get them male privileges though
@@akale2620 Barely. The discrimination early transition, and throughout your life e.g. medically & when people find out you were born as a female far outweighs any male privileges we rarely receive.
This is true, even though I'm gender fluid, (Wich also rarely gets talked about) I can somewhat relate whit this, when I was younger I wanted to transition so bad, mostly because of the way my mother try to force into the girl stereotype, but then I learn to live whit my gender, until I make a trans quiz Wich has s lot of gender options and I got trans- I then started questioning my gender and finally realize, sometimes I would feel weird when people call me a girl, and it wasn't until that point that I realize I was truly gender fluid, and when Im feeling like a boy I want to transition so bad- I literally like 3 hours ago I was searching to buy a binder, and I know I will fully know what the duck is in my mind, but I don't like my chest even when feeling like a girl- so it's going to be fun to figure if I really want to transition:))
You mean trans woman. If you were born a female youll always be a woman. Changing your appearance or taking testosterone just means youre a masculine version of woman. Why pretend to be what you arent?
@@LobitSam there is no way to be a girl. A girl has no expectations are has to be any certain way. You can act like a boy and still be a girl.
I'm on the waiting list for my top surgery and I am starting testosterone in three days. Discovered that I felt more like a man during COVID-19. I always lived in a house that wasn't really feminine and live in a smaller town where education about gender is still taboo.
I wanna say thank you for this video and to anyone who's afraid of transition/unsure : take your time. Everything is a race if others say so. It took me over 20 years to finally understand where my pain came from. Follow your pace and take your time, respect yourself !
Love y'all.
@@anonymous-cx7ng what, how are they a misogynist
@@Nic0Dr4ws that username is a troll sadly, just report them
@@wiseathena97 I’m not a dumbass💀 ik they’re a troll but they can’t even reply back
I’m on the waiting list too! Best of luck to you :)
@@wiseathena97 I’m not a troll I’m being serious
If I just saw a picture of these guys with no information on who they were I would’ve had NO IDEA what they’d gone through. I think trans people are so cool and I think they deserve a lot of respect for what they’ve had to do or deal with in their life.
Thanks for saying that! :)
thanks :D
Thank you!
Wow- ty 🥺
Fam, we respect you back ❤️
Thanks!
The idea of being a trans man, who hasn’t come out yet, and becoming pregnant from having sex with your boyfriend (mostly through peer pressure and wanting to be “straight”) literally terrifies me, that is insane and I don’t know how he dealt with that. I personally wouldn’t be able to have that baby, as a person who has identified as a trans guy.
Yea, there's a form of comp-het many trans mascs deal with relating to before they come out or when they're still pressured to fill "female" gender roles, I dealt with a lot of that growing up, no matter what I wanted, everyone insisted I had to be with cis men, I had to "do things" a certain way, etc.
Pregnancy, especially now post roe, has always been my largest fear, even though I don't do anything that can get me pregnant, I'd hardly be the only guy who was pregnant against his will, so the fear is still there.
sorry about the last comment i understand how you feel im in the same situation.
I’m so sorry that you have to deal with that with pressure of being pregnant, still with peer pressure and everything. I hope you get full love and support some day
@@ambrosesky what the actual hell
@@Z-FishInMyBreakfast i think i was high im deleting that
I absolutely hate the fact that people are out there tearing people down and making their environment so unsafe and toxic that they have to de-transition just to be accepted. I can't even imagine having to live as someone I'm not and the fact that these people have to stop something that helps them feel happy and true to themselves makes me really sad.
I wouldn't wish being trans on anyone including my worst enemy. Being a transguy myself it's incredibly hard and very lonely.
You mean that you don’t wish the problems of being trans on anybody right?
I think one of the hardest parts of being a trans man is definitely finding someone who will go out with you. Whenever you find someone cool and they find out you’re trans then all the sudden they’re “dating a girl.” It’s so depressing.
they should have never pretending in the first place. The thing is trans are not a different gender. They can already dress and act however they want.
@@JackieDaytonaBar Behold.... the drivers license! With my correct gender on it.
Trans people are so antagonised by the media, especially in recent times. It is so scary to see the rights of trans people, myself included, being taken away. This video is so so important in fighting back against the misinformed ideas that politicians and the media are trying to push onto people about being transgender. Thank you so much for this Anthony and for giving a voice to such amazing people
i didn’t know about your rights being taken away what happened? i mean this with full respect
@G Money i want to be on the side of the internet ur on LMFAO
@G Money the fact that I cannot go onto my laptop without seeing at least two or three transphobic articles just by clicking New Tab and seeing the automatic news updates is proof enough that trans people are not presented accurately or righteously by the media. I don’t know what side of the internet you’ve been on, but please tell me so I can join it lmao
@@xianlotus I mean just look at America. 21 laws were passed against trans people in the US alone last year. Not to mention last year being the deadliest year for trans people. Things have been getting worse for a while, and this year has been no better. Not a fun time to be trans right now lmao
@G Money cap
I’m a trans man. As weird as it may sound, this video brought tears to my eyes to hear from someone who’s had similar experiences as me
It’s not weird it’s about something deeply personal to you. you have every right to have n emotional response
Trans men are severely underrepresented when it comes to their personal experience.
Cringe
@@justacat0 shut
@@Tts_196 no you
As a trans man who transitioned a bit later in life, I can also definitely confirm male privilege is real.
I love how, in these interviews, all the serious topics are touched on so respectfully and without making it too heavy.
My boyfriend is a trans man. He's mentioned the dysphoria and emotions before but never went into much detail because he proudly looks past it.
So to hear these dudes talk about the emotions, fear, everything like that..
It makes me so proud of my boyfriend and who he is today, Its opened my eyes even more to just what he has pushed through and I honestly want to hug him and cry because He is the stronger trooper ever to me now.
I am so fucking proud of my Gay Trans Man Boyfriend
a big reason why people don't usually talk about the fear is because most people start to doubt you when you voice it which makes it so much worse
I’m not a parent, but I would 100% rather support my child than kick them out because they can’t help the way they feel
You'd be better than most parents
You'd be better than most parents
@chad_in_the_makingit’s not your decision to choose weither trans man is a woman or a trans woman is a man it’s their decision the world don’t revolve around you
@@iiashleyii5610 +1!
@chad_in_the_making idk, I kinda agree, but kinda don't. I can't controll who my kidd love so I would support them, but I wouldn't let them get surgery until they're 18 (if they want to ofc)
As a trans man who loves feminin style I feel a little lonely/ankwerd in front of masculin guys, yet so inpowered to do what I always liked now as a man. Nice interview♡
@@anonymous-cx7ng you're absolutely right. You don't choose your gender. That's why trans people are valid. Thank you for your support!
@@anonymous-cx7ng That's for sure
@@anonymous-cx7ng Yeah, you think anyone would choose to be trans? It ain't a choice for us trans folk what our genders are, we just got a gender different from the one assigned at birth.
@@anonymous-cx7ng bro came to a video about trans people to be transphobic…sad…
@@theviewer6889 wtf yes you did choose to be trans
Teen parenthood and being transgender is such an interesting topic. His story of coming out to his kid was so heartwarming.
i SCREAMED when I saw Ty!! He was the man that helped me come out as trans waaaay back in his early transition in 2014, and I came out not much later at age 14. He's literally my role model!!
Being trans is such a bizarre experience. I remember pre everything just feeling like I was in an alternate reality where something was really off, but at the time I couldn’t tell what it was. I started T at 17 and if I hadn’t I wouldn’t be here. Transitioning brought me back to reality, and now I get to enjoy the mundane that I never got to experience as a kid/teen.
Listening to their earlier stories of knowing, FEELING something internally… even as children with no pre-conceived notions of the world, negative stigmas, or even just of the LGBTQ+ community itself, speaks volumes. This was never a choice, it was always there. I am a PA and so I come across new people with new stories every day. The thing I love the most is listening to their stories. It keeps me open to new thoughts and ideas and keeps me from becoming ignorant. I love these videos because it’s like seeing life through someone else’s eyes.
The thing is that in 1000 years when archaeologists dig them up, they’re only going to find women. You cannot change that.
@@LunaRealized Who said anything about change? It was always there. Sure, they can measure the widths of hips, skulls, or long bones, but at the end of the day, even time, at least those people in the ground will have lived happily.
@@LunaRealized yea no one is arguing that because no one cares. No one is going to know someone owned a pet store or gave money to someone every time they were at a grocery store but that isn’t the point. You do things because that’s who you are and what you want to do.
@@LunaRealized bro I don't care what happens the day after I die that's not my problem let alone 1000 years who the fuck cares that's the dumbest shit I've ever heard in my life
@@LunaRealized bro, testosterone directly affects bone density, those theoretical archaeologists would know they were trans men either way
The best thing about transitioning is that I now love myself
Thats concerning and slightly narcissistic.
@@cosygoose1813 if loving oneself is narcissistic to you thats a bit more concerning
@@cosygoose1813
A: transitioning is not the same as surgery. Non invasive treatment ranging from being outed to the inner circle over dressing according to your own expectations to HRT are possible parts of transition.
B: i feel like you don't use the word narcissistic correctly there.
C: why would it be bad to change oneself to be happier with oneself?
D: source for the increase? Chances are that one leaves quite a few factors out that change the interpretation on the data.
@@JWinterhaven Pretty much if you don't want facts to be right you pretend they aren't.
@@cosygoose1813 no not at all. So does any surgery or medical treatment. Doesnt mean it helps more people. Or you want to scold knee replacements because the satisfactory rate with it is awful?
It’s amazing how Anthony spends time understanding and representing these groups!
He’s cashing in on people who have gone through these difficult experiences trying to make a quick buck
@@Hydro_9293 he’s giving them a platform to educate the public about their experiences
@@BirdaeBlue he’s cashing in
@@Hydro_9293 he's helping educate people shush
@@mang0_cat444 cashing in shut the fuck up before I pull your ip also just so I can clear this up before the argument comes up I’m 15 not 9
Three very wise, well-spoken, respectful men. I'm glad they seem so comfortable in their skin now. They really deserve it. Also I'm glad there were some positive coming out stories.
I am a trans masc in the closet being raised in a trans/homo phobic household and this episode made me rll happy, thank you for this.
Remeber that you are valid. The way you are feeling is valid. I hope that one day you get out of that kind of environment and go into one that you can be you :)
same fam 😔✌🏻
@@Murphy_Graves Thanks dude, i apreciate the kind words
Totally unrelated, but I love your name
Also same
Keep going, you'll be out of there before you know it and you'll be living your life as your authentic self 💗 stay strong
Ty is a really attractive man, not just physically but the way he presents himself and the way he articulates his thoughts is really nice
Also he has a really nice speaking voice, love his content
Yk what I really wanna see? “I spent a day with Ian” talk about all the things you guys used to get up to in the beginnings of Smosh all the way until now. How co-running a giant RUclips channel affected your friendship, how you guys are doing now. I know there were bits and pieces of other videos on this topic. But a full fledged interview with Ian would probably blow up the internet
Yooo that’s a great idea I’d love to see that!
OMG! I never thought of that! That would be soooo nostalgic and powerful
Agree! That would be awesome
would love to see it !
can i just say that all of these guys look SO GOOD and seem like very cool people? 😭 also, as a non-binary person myself, i'm so glad to see trans people being supported and given the chance to have their voices heard by someone with such a big platform, thank you
I am a trans man starting my transition on October 14th this year after almost 10 years of being in the closet to everyone but my close friends. I'm so glad Anthony did this video, for us fellow trans folk and for other people to understand us better.
If my parents spoke english I'd definitely send this to them so they can start to understand my transition a bit better (I might work to subtitle this video to my language, if possible ofc)
Thank you Anthony
You’re a woman
Good luck during your transition !
Good luck dawg
@@honeyswann thank you!
@@bobtheball5384 thank you bro
Trans woman here. In my 30s. This just brings me so much joy. Their smiles are contagious.
Thanks for doing this!
we do not care
@@Killsalamandr I do
aww, and yeah, definitely agree
Trans man here, love the trans fem/masc solidarity
@@Killsalamandr about you
I can’t remember his name but the guy who came out via text and waited to see if he could return home had me in tears. Whether you understand trans or not, the support you can offer is lifesaving
As a trans guy myself (recently started hrt let’s go bois), it’s so great to see more recognition of us and our identities! I love my trans sisters (my gf is trans) I just feel like so much of the narrative around trans people is focused on them and us trans men are kind of left out (or we’re thought of as “confused tomboys” or something like that which completely invalidates our identity). So thank you, so much, for this Anthony. It means so much to me, and I’m sure it means a lot to many more people too.
honestly i don’t envy trans women their spotlight in the media haha. i’d rather be erased and infantilized than directly hated and fetishized and called a predator.
Ayy congrats on starting T!
@@seguaye that is very fair
@@floreya67 Thank you! :)
Trans people have all my respect. I have couple trans friends, so I hear about all the struggles, experiences and operations they have to go through and it is hard af. Years and years of dealing with dysphoria and that with everything around transition phase, while others just shame them and completely disregard everything trans experience, just because they do not understand it. It is real and it is difficult and these 3 guys went through all of it and MADE IT ON TOP! Like tell me that fact alone is not worth the praise!
And everyone else going through any type of dysphoria or through transition, you are valid, I understand it is difficult and painful hearing comments from society especially, but it is worth it and YOU are worth it. Do not let others dictate who you are and what should you do ever. I feel you, I see your pain and you have my respect
thank you! needed to hear that
Five months on T - choosing to retry puberty has been so wild! Having the appetite of a 14 y/o boy has been the weirdest adjustment 😂😂
Good luck.
You're gonna ace this shit bro 💪
You're doing great my guy. 💪
Sounds like heaven for me. Cant wait to get on T!
FUCK that is so real. been on t 4 ~8mo & i have a hollow leg. im starving all the time
Being a young trans man in the Midwest is so scary and uncomfortable, It makes me so happy to see videos like this and knowing that other trans men have struggled with the same thing and gotten past it. I really hope that I can be that happy and confident like all these amazing men are. Thank you so much for making this video Anthony
you absolutely can, hang in there man. it's hard but you've got amazing stuff ahead of u
I didn't realize until I left but apparently Chicago is like a Mecca for trans men. The capital of the Midwest is also the capital of trans dudes.
Hello fellow trans man midwesterner :’)
So stop playing victim and just be a man, instead of a tRaNsMaN. It isn't scary, it is just life. Stop obsessing. T is cheap. Binders are cheap. Just realize Midwesterners don't care they just don't want it shoved down their throats. We transition to PASS not to keep fucking outing ourselves. COMMON SENSE. You will pass and be fine.
@@peppersanches412
Thank you for making me feel way more masculine today compared to someone pathetic enough to leave a negative reply to a RUclips comment
I'm cis also and growing up in the 90's as a teen girl I dated a few dudes who became women later on and I never even questioned it. For some reason it felt natural. I never felt it was wrong or strange. I thought ok well they weren't happy in their body and now they are. I still feel that way.
There's no such thing as Cis or non binary or transphobia trans men are women LGB without the T is trending.
there's some people like that who everyone they date end up discovering themselves trans later in life and I find that so funny
i don’t understand why there are so many more men wanting to be women then there are women wanting to be men though. it’s hard not to be alarmed just by the sheer amount of how many men do it in comparison, because even though there are genuine people, it doesn’t cancel out the fact that a lot of men that do it only do it to prey on women & because it’s a fetish to them. which is why women having boundaries against it is so important
@@kate-ec4pj ftm's are underrepresented, there was in the past more trans women than trans men, but today it's about equal, or reversed, they just don't fit nicely in the "trans people are men trying to abuse women" of the mainstream media
@@kate-ec4pj actually that is completely untrue. If anything it's a lot harder for MtF people to accept themselves and come out as trans. I'm not saying it's not hard for women but when girls are little and wear a T-shirt and shorts it's a LOT less frowned upon than a little boy wearing a dress and skirt. FtM people face their own struggles early on as "tom boys" and such often being categorized as lesbians and just unattractive because they dont dress up. But for MtF people the struggles and bullying are a lo tof the times a lot worse especially early on. This causes MtF people to be slightly more likely to repress how they feel about their gender down the line. And often it's easier to catch it at the ages before bullying starts due to the fact that they don't have a perception of why it's wrong to wear a dress and a lot of the times their peers don't either. I also don't understand why someone would go through years of emotional torment, years of therapy, years of financial loss to medical treatment, years of hormone therapy, legal changes and risk being disowned, losing friends, physically assaulted and murdered for a "fetish."
I've been out and living as a man for 13 years now. It's so inspirational to see a generation of people who aren't afraid to explore who they are. It was all taboo when I came out, but the fact that these videos get made can help so many people. I discovered that transgender people exist when I was 14 watching a TV show that had a transdude in it. Media representation is so important.
I’d be devastated if my child decided to come out to me and tell me their true selves and had their entire life packed up bracing for me to stop loving them and kicking them out. I don’t want kids, I don’t think I’m cut out to be a parent, but if it ever happened or I end up fostering kids down the line, I hope they wouldn’t even feel the need to come out. Just at dinner one night be like “can you call me ____ and use these pronouns for me now?” Or “hey, btw I’m seeing someone and I’d like you to meet them” and just not see it as a big deal because that’s what I’d aim to instil in them.
You are very mature and respectful. We all appreciate you and sometimes hoped we could have parents with the same mindset as yours!
@@Nonameforyou505 thank you. I appreciate your comment. I wish the same. Every child deserves unconditional support from their family.
I'm not trans but I think it's important to understand these kinds of topics on a deeper level so we can treat people better. Thank you for making these videos!
Thank you for taking the time to learn about others 🥺💜
I cannot believe that in America some schools choose to separate boys qnd girls for their sex ed classes, that is awful! Why on earth do you think it's not important for girls to understand a boys anatomy and for a boy to understand that of a girl? It's something that creats understanding and kindness towards another. You understand what the other gender is going through. I'm happy they tought us everything where I live.
...the fuck are you even on about?
Ikr, thats why r/badwomensanatomy exists
raising boys and girls to separated only creates more separation down the line, that’s why sexism is so rampant on both sides, and why it’s so hard for people to function together nowadays because they’re always too hung up on the other person being different
Either that or the girls learn about puberty and anatomy while the guys (tm) watch a spiderman movie.
I think that might’ve been in the past becuase i had a sex Ed class with both genders
i've found myself a trans man for ten years now. i'm twenty-six, turning twenty-seven just next month, and while this video brings me the greatest joy to see people like me who overcame so many difficulties of being trans, i can't help but cry over the idea that it's taking so long for me to join them and find myself in a body i like and identify with. it always feels like i'm "late" to everything. i lost a childhood being who i'm not, and i'm losing my early adult years being someone i'm not. it's extremely hard to find resources for trans people (especially trans men) where i live, which's soul-crushing for sure, watching other trans people i've met transition and find joy so much faster than me, but i believe one day we'll all be able to achieve happiness. excellent video as always, anthony.
happy early birthday!! as a trans teen seeing this video and generally hearing about other people who are trans really helps me honestly. i keep having that feeling of losing time and not being able to experience life in a body im comfortable with and with an identity i am aswell so it's really comforting to know that someone else feels that!! sorry if the reply is confusing whatsoever, i am not great yt comments
@@unfalters2448 thank you kindly! i'm sure a lot of us feel that way. childhood especially is so important and a memorable time for so many people that not being able to live through it the way we want to is unfortunate, but hopefully we can make the best of our lives once we finally find ourselves in the right body. hope you find success in the future, friend!
I'm in the same boat as you, my friend! I've known since being a very little kid around 5-7 years old that I was trans and I'm turning 34 this year. I'm afraid to come out to my parents, especially my dad since he's all Pro-Trump... doesn't help that I live on my parents property either. I also live in a small town that doesn't offer any kind of HRT and I don't drive so going to the closest place that does isn't really an option. I hope everything will work out for you... After watching this video I'm feeling inspired to just walk up and come out to my family even if I have to do so bluntly. I don't want another 10 years to pass me by and stay unhappy in this body. Lots of love to you and good luck!
@The magic fish im so sorry for how your country is treating its LGBT children. you'd think by 2022 we'd be more open-minded and sympathetic but guess not. but no giving up, to either of us. i'm sure we'll be able to transition and be comfortable in our own bodies one day, friend :)
@@Orphan_of_Gwyn do make sure you've got a friend who can house you or a backup plan if the worst happens! but a step ahead is to be true to yourself and to those around you. with some luck, maybe you'll be able to open your dad's eyes to a better reality, since it's happening so close and direct to him with his own child. the best of luck to you!
the part about how feminine clothes were the cause of his dysphoria until puberty really resonated with me because I've always struggled with feeling like I haven't always known I'm a guy. I recognized the dysphoria starting with puberty but now I've realized that I had a similar experience to him in that I was kinda a tomboy and didn't like "girly" stuff. But once puberty started then I became uncomfortable with my body and hiding it basically. I didn't realize I was trans for a lot longer. thank you for giving trans men a chance to be heard! we're often forgotten about since unfortunately there's a lot more hate for trans women.
could you explain what you meant that you didn't like 'girly stuff' as a teenager
@@sahasrareddysudhini974 well I started puberty sort of early so I wasn't a teenager but just stuff stereotypically associated with girls like pink and dresses. Plus was really against gender roles but I still am now. Basically just the whole "I'm not like other girls" thing like trying to be quirky and different but really it was because I didn't yet realize that I wasn't a girl.
@@ghost-husband honestly see so many trans guys want to be 'one of the boys' growing up and somehow not put together for years that they could be lmao
Thank you for this video, I’ve been waiting for it for so long. As a transgender man who’s a parent, finding representative figures or informational videos that are respectful is hard to come by. I’ve done a couple of podcasts myself with a streamer, and it’s wild how much misinformation there still is out there. Thank you for allowing us in the lgbtq community to have a voice and thank you for being so respectful towards all of your interviewees. Love love your videos dude.
this interview made me almost cry. I think it is finally time when I can't deny it any longer.
такая же фигня, просто хочется открыться всему миру, но знаешь что если сделаешь так - будет плохо
That's really sad. Hang on there!
good luck man. i hope it goes well.
@@mikeilyandr русскоязычный транс парень?
I'm late but I just wanted to say I'm proud of you! I've been out for 6 years now and its hard but totally worth it good luck dude!
The part about people treating you better if they perceive you to be male is so true. I’m a trans guy but I’ve always looked a bit androgynous so when I’m at work and I’m interacting with the public, people will 100% take what I say seriously if they think I’m a dude. If they think I’m a woman they argue with me relentlessly
I've noticed people will argue and belittle women and then tell women they argue too much, when really it's them approaching women and purposely being rude to them... It's like they wanna provoke them and want them to stay docile and quiet even when they are being rude to them for no reason and they get upset if the woman doesn't respond this way and just let them walk all over her and be rude to her, people expect women to always be sweet and polite even when you treat them like garbage and they wanna be able to treat them like trash without them being able to stand up for themselves
@@Ella-kn9qdyess this is so so true it sucks being a woman
that may be one advantage of being a man, but when it comes to asking for help or showing vulnerability, you are going to have a hard time finding supportive people. thats why most men are lonely and depressed in todays world
@@gforce97 which is still men’s fault, not women’s
@@kate-ec4pj no its societal. i didnt blame any gender
I'm a 39 year old trans guy who started transitioning 5 years ago and I feel like I missed out on so much growing up. I watch these videos when I'm having a rough time
Felt. I had a great childhood and great memories growing up but despite that I can’t help but feel “robbed” still of a boyhood I could’ve had
Hey, God loves you all and Jesus died for you to be free from sin and death and to be made whole in Him. I was once bisexual and transgender for 5 years until God rescued me, healed me from depression, suicidal thoughts, and drugs and ive never been more free, full, and at peace than with Him. Turn to God because He loves you more than anyone else!!
@@lamblyydude stop, this is our life, if we're trans we're trans. God accepts us as we are, and some don't belive in God. Please leave us alone
@@DARKESTICEBURG God loves you but He does not accept sin. Transgenderism stems from confusion and God is not the author of confusion but of truth.
@@lamblyy okay well I don't belive in a god, so this information is not of value to me right now
Hell yeah Ty’s in this!! I started watching him when I first started questioning my gender identity :) I’m glad that he’s on your channel now!!
it's so interesting seeing him talk about his trans awakening because he was my trans awakening hahaha
@@underscorecaden tbh same, the first video I watched of his was him pre transition doing a Dan and Phil skit with an old friend and I was like “I like this, lemme check out their channel” and I went on his channel for the first time and I was like holy shit he’s a trans guy?! And now he’s transition goals for me lol
@@averyt23 i love that 😂 i haven'y watched him in yearsss my god
@@underscorecaden IKR? I wished he kept that up, but I understand why he privated it since it was way before he knew he was trans and it has his deadname in it as well so. But yeah, no I haven’t going on his channel every month or so to see if he’s uploading anything new lol, or I just watch old stuff!
@@averyt23 thats fair haha i used to watch him back in like 2017 mostly, been a while lol
As a trans man, it’s sometimes hard seeing things like this, because my childhood was different. I was so extremely girly it was insane, I would be the girliest of them all. However, when puberty hit for me, I suddenly felt so uncomfortable. I just set it aside because “everyone feels uncomfortable” but it was just, painful. I love feminine things, but the thought of someone seeing me in feminine light felt so wrong. When I did find out about trans people, it really clicked for me. I was just like “oh shit that’s me”.
But I also pushed it down because so many trans men spoke about how when they were children they didnt like dresses or girly stuff etc, and I just was like “oh, I guess I’m not trans.” Purely because I was inherently feminine.
One time on the internet though, I decided to pick up a character, to act as someone else so my parents couldn’t find my account. I chose the name Neil and pretended to be a gay man who did art. And it felt so right. I loved when people would comment and call me Neil and use he/him. Soon I started using the name Neil at school and it felt so so good. In my senior year of high school, I let my transgender identify out as much as possible, but dressed how I wanted. I was so weird and goth and feminine with the identity of a man and I loved it. Im more toned down now, but I love being Neil. I love hearing my voice drop. But I will never dislike the little girly girl I was a child, because she was happy that way.
Interesting perspective, it's cool hearing about different types of trans experiences. Thanks for sharing your story! I'm glad you're happy with who you are and who you were
@@TheMACnator honestly, I didn’t think anyone would read this, thank you so much :)
I’m trans fem, and I kind of agree though. I was never ultra masculine but also not ultra feminine. I liked a mix of things like piercings, make up, bright flamboyant colors, Call of Duty, GTA, BB guns, getting into fights, etc. Actually I think the reason I was violent because my sister always physically assaulted me. My point is that I don’t think I’m the average trans person being extremely indifferent to your assigned gender as a kid. Puberty was also a big thing for me where it made me suicidal and uncomfortable developing masculine things.
That’s me right there! That’s my story too 💚💚💚💚💚💚
One question, and What can I do if I feel as a rich but I'm poor?
This video genuinely means so much to me and other trans men like me. Cis guys accepting and understanding us is so important, and it helps bridge the communicational gap. It's very heartwarming to see this kind of thing online now
as a 14 year old trans guy i appreciate this video
As another 14 year old part of the cis dude community, I hope you’re doing well 👍
as a 17 year old trans dude, i hope both of yall are doing well and staying safe
I love my young trans family members, I hope you strangers are safe and happy
when i was 14 i was playing with legos, you haven't even started experiencing life and already labeling yourself things
@@KarmaAnims mate no you were not, I haven't played with legos since I was 10 or 11 at the latest and my 9 year old brother is aging out of them as well lmao
Ahh! As a transman myself, I've been waiting for this episode for years.
Theres no such thing as transgender
They are gorgeous
@@lolololololololololo1987 It's been in the DSM for years, first as Gender Identity Disorder, now as Gender Dysphoria. Are you really going to argue with psychology and science? Both parties agree and confirm that being transgender is an actual condition.
@@fishbonesxx yes, Its basic biology. If you have a penis you are a man, if you have a vagina your a woman. Thats it, being transgender is impossible.
@@lolololololololololo1987 then what about intersex people speak to any biologist you don’t know what your talking about none defines it like that
I love that Anthony can bring much more understanding to the LGBT community to people who might have misconceptions about it, as well as educating people on certain disabilities or struggles less privileged people have. From the bottom of my heart, thank you Mr. Padilla.
‘Oh, I’m going home today’ - that’s such a powerful line when put in context
"It comes in packs" as if being trans is a disease. Why is it so hard for people to simply behave nice to the person in front of them and be respectful? This video is so good and the way all the men get to tell their stories is awesome.
I love how kind and open minded Anthony is
I have the absolute PRIVELEGE of having an accepting mother. She didn't even question it, she just understood. My dad too, even though he's very macho army big man man mans he still accepted me. My step-mom,,, well,, I haven't come out to her yet but I have my doubts shes going to accept me haha so wish me luck!
Remember you don't have to come out to everyone/have to come out if you think that it could put you in danger, despite this good luck!! I hope everything goes well!!
@@whoomie Mhm! I gotta ask my dad to put me on hormone blockers though and the news will certainly make its way to her if he says yes- so I'd rather be the one to tell her!
Wishing you all the luck and just know we’re all so proud of you ❤
@@ProjectSebastiannaaah ok, good luck king!!
I’m a closeted trans guy with transphobic parents and this video is great to see
Your so valid!!
stay strong my guy, many of us have been there! and some parents even get less transphobic a few months into their kids hrt..
@@clown-cat I’m moving out in 4 years to live w my friend who’s in a similar situation if all goes to plan :)
Wish you luck in the closet! Hope you got some ac in there 🤡
@@pizzaihasnolife7297 thank you there is. :)
Grateful for you giving your platform to trans people sharing their personal experience, deeply important at this time where trans people are under attack from the media and political actors, but also on a less serious note for inviting my internet crush Ty onto your channel 😅
We need youtubers like Anthony Padilla. Representation, respect, and being real.
26:24 i relate to his story so. much.
in the 5th grade my class got seperated into different classrooms by boys and girls, of course i had to go with the girls. and we watched a video explaining what would happen during puberty, and i just remember seeing this video and thinking that was the scariest possible thing that could ever happen. i broke down crying when i watched that video. the teacher sent me out of the classroom to go calm down and after a few minutes of more bawling, a girl came out of the class and was asking if i was okay and what was wrong. i just kept saying "i dont want to change" over and over. i didnt mean i didnt want to grow up and mature, i meant i didnt want to become a girl. i knew i was a boy and i knew a woman's body wasnt right for me
edit: btw im getting top surgery in just a few months and im 16 years old 😊 im so glad to have a family who supports me and understands me
aw I'd like to give you a very big hug🤗🫂
Same 🥺 big virtual hug. I’m so sorry you had to go through that.
I never understood the split, we watched both since its all relevant even if not directly
@@chargestone96 yeah i dont get why they do that either
What's the timestamp for? /gen
I am a transman. I needed this so badly. Thank you Anthony. Im usually more well worded, but im just so happy and seen right now, i dont have words. Thank you so much.
I am a trans guy, and I have a unsupportive family.
This video really cheered me up.
At one point, I was not gonna start transitioning because of what my family has said to me and the transphobia I've came across online.
(Especially, a lot of hate from transphobes online. And they would comment on trans posts and my comments and start saying shit to me.)
But I'm glad that I didn't listen to them.
I can't transition yet because I'm a teen and can't afford it atm.
But I just want to say that ever since I've gotten a binder and started wearing male clothing, I'm starting to feel a lot more comfortable with myself.
And I hope to start testosterone soon.
congrats man! thats great! good luck :)
Believe me when I say the weird transphobes on the internet do not represent what real life is like at all. Some areas may have higher concentrations of conservative chuds than others, but the vast majority of everyday people do not give a shit and won’t bully you for being trans. In my area, people are always nice to me and respectful of my identity. I’ve been told some of my coworkers make fun of me behind my back, but idc because those people are big pusses, they’re too scared to say anything to my face so why should I care lol. They’re just really miserable people, why else would they all be spouting their hate on the computer? They don’t go outside lol
i follow jesse on social media! i love seeing his content and he is a massive inspiration
Nice pfp
I love seeing Jesse and his kid's interaction
i love arlos style!!!
Jesse is so cringe bruh
@@sugarr_coat I know and the chances of a trans person having a trans kid is like straight up 0%, pretty fucked up genes if it happened. Very odd in general. All the other men in this video are great but i feel he's just a lesbian who is trying to fit in (badly). Ain't no way in hell a trans MAN wouldn't have killed himself if he got pregnant
Came here for Ty and as a trans guy who’s been out for 6 years now, this was so nice to see. When I first came out, I was just obsessed with passing and any advice on feeling more like myself as a guy - I watched Ty and other popular trans RUclipsrs religiously to help me through it. Seeing a larger youtuber have trans men on to talk about their experiences is so special, so thank you for this
I can’t believe i heard with my own ears, a man ADMIT there IS male privilege. Many will disagree but i hope this video explains a little. I think it’s realizing it instead of denying it.
As a trans dude, we only get male priviledge if we pass as male. I just look like a feminine dude and still don't even get an ounce of priviledge they do. If a cis man suspects you're part of the LGBTQ, you can kiss your priviledge as a trans man goodbye :/
Well yeah you know what you're gaining. I know the difference of how you're treated differently between man and woman. When you're cis you can't really put yourself in the opposite genders shoes. For me I have been just forcefully to be in a woman's shoes against my will lol.
privileges working in mines and high risk jobs ?
@@BooksRebound every counter argument that starts with " i dont think u understand " means that there is no counter argument just salty people
@@BooksRebound Male privilege? Lmao tell me what privileges I have that women don’t?