I spent a day with CONVERSION THERAPY SURVIVORS
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- Опубликовано: 9 июн 2024
- I spent a day with Conversion Therapy Survivors to learn about their devastating experience and how their lives have changed since then.
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Oooo sounds good!
Yay Ive been wanting a video when you talk to corpse for the whole time.
Corpse_Husband?
Edit: cool beans
yes
@@justanotherweirdo11 yeah
I can't believe this is still legal in 30 states. The fact there are people going through this right now is insane and inhumane.
This is what happen when you have a bunch of religious people who go by ancient writings
@@maya_yaser ancient people who go by religious writings, nice
Not only in the states, this is still a worldwide problem
@@maya_yaser either way still fits
@@maya_yaser well, then wtf did you mean my dude? please explain to the class.
my old pastor found out i was bisexual and tried forcing my parents to put me into conversation therapy, thankfully my parents didnt, we left that church immediately
That’s great my church never talks about lgbtq at all but my mom told me she would never send me to one of those camps
I love your parents
I’m am glad your parents did not abandoned you.
my church has talked about lgbtq and its obvious that they dont care as much as some. They strive for love not hate. Its good that you left :D
So you mean youre still a dummy LOL
My aunt is a conversion therapy survivor, I would've really liked to hear a woman's story, it's really different from men's.
can you tell her story?
Not really.
i agree, if you're comfortable, could you tell her story? i myself am a queer teen and my parents have threatened me with it before, but never sent. they think I'm fixed now lmao.
@@MackenziiRivers aight you gotta elaborate on this. how do you know? why do you think so? etc
I really wish there was at least one woman in there
Still can't believe my mom suggested me to go to conversion therapy when I first came out to her. This week, 6 years later, I found a note in her phone where she had wrote a message for a conversion therapist. In that message she's wrote that I "hate men" and my "problem" from 6 years ago still didn't seem to be fixed. Also had mentioned that she hated when I hugged her cuz she felt uncomfortable knowing I'm not straight...
This is the reaction of my mom who's much more open minded than my dad and relatives. If they found out they'd probably just murder me. I've been crying the whole week. I thought my mom loved and supported me, but this is no love. Ca't wait to move to a new country and never return to this toxic, dangerous environment ever again.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I hope you'll find happiness and love
@@zuzannacichosz1029 Thank you so much
@Lucia Martinez Rogel Thanks for your kind wish
I'm sorry terribly sorry you had to go through that. I hope you can get away from her, and find happiness and love
@@finn7990 Thank you so much. I've been doing better, and my preparations for moving out are going well. The kind wishes I've been getting are coming true!
“Your heterosexuality should come back in 6 weeks”
The nerve of some people💀
exactly i heard that and started cracking up 😭😭😭
bHAHAHAHHA OH MY gOD
In 3-5 business days 😭
@@milo2079 frrr me too
Jesus Christ is king are all sinner seek him and his kingdom amen 🙏✝️
the fact that this still happens is honestly insane
I know, it sounds terrible.
@@Maijts does it happen a lot in your country?
This is still a thing!?! How has it not been banned yet!?!!
@@staceymulligan6486 a lot of things in other third world country’s are legal... it’s fucking disgusting.
Yessir
my best friend died by suicide at a conversion camp. i'm so grateful you did this, anthony. it hits really close to home ♥️
May your best friend rest in peace 💕
@@potatowithgooglyeyes2458 thank you so much
I'm so sorry
I hope ur feeling good I'm so sorry 😞
I'm sorry for your loss🥺
I started crying when he got to the part about the pride parade and the “i love my gay kid!” signs.
Me too ;-;
@EndermanOuch get out of here
@EndermanOuch why???
It’s just people celebrating their pride! There is nothing wrong with that
@EndermanOuch wdym???
@EndermanOuch Shut up. You have no idea what it’s like to be oppressed for something that you have no control over - they can only celebrate it on one month.
Ban conversion therapy.
The fact that it isn’t banned already.......
@@kinleymarie7x can't believe that we ignored that our ex VPotus literally wanted to kill gays
@@-Me_ he did? 😱
@@kinleymarie7x ikr
Not formally in the UK. It needs abolishment everywhere
This is why I will always find it ridiculous when people try to get "straight pride" or say that viewed as being gay is no longer any different from being straight. Straight people have never been forced to have therapy for being straight, or been kicked out of their home for being straight, or are murdered in the streets for being straight. They don't need to worry about their rights being taken away at the whim of a politician. Being straight isn't a bad thing, but it's not something that requires you to fight, sometimes constantly, for in order to live.
Exactly. I wished that I was straight due to my faith. It would make things SO much easier :/
Exactly
Facts and it’s like that they want validation so bad yet nothing happens to them at all they don’t get abused or hurt or looked at funny when they walk don’t the streets they have way more rights than gay people
Facts!!!
I'm pan and I'm glad. I ignore all those haters. And plus straight people usually are more unhappy than a gay or lesbien couples. Based on my experience.
Using religion and Bible verses is not an excuse to harass, torment, and traumatize people for something they cannot change.
💕 amen 💕
Faxxxxxx
And God did say " I agree" - Poggers 4:3
They will call Good Evil and Evil Good
(edit) So accept what the Holy Bible says in Romans 1
@@balkanprussian3251 this response is gold
And people still think pride parades are "unnecessary".
It turns guilty sad gays into proud happy gays. It's very necessary xD
Yeah, I would get a book or two of comments I see in pride month, what are the very reason why the Pride parade is needed. c: Also all the good vibes of course
Pride parades are awesome and make people feel loved- ofc they’re necessary
I would love to go to a pride parade someday. I would dress up all colorful, get flags and the whole shabam. 😊🏳️🌈
I swear I can’t wait until I’m able to go to one, even bought a bisexual flag just for the occasion :> it’s hanging on my wall with all its glory!
more like proud gay gays
it makes me scared, and disgusted that conversion therapy still exists.
I agree. Why is being gay a bad thing? Being gay doesn’t hurt anybody. Also, it is not other people’s business beside the couple.
@@alexandriatrenier7366 for real lol who cares who you frick
@@alexandriatrenier7366 The fact that more than 2000+ species practice homosexuality, and we're the only ones that think it's bad?? what is wrong with humanity? like religion is man made.... we're ruining the planet
It's therapy it should exist
@@beidoumimujer7783 yeah gay is man made to
As a Christian, I find it horrible, and thoroughly disgusting that people would mask such awful behaviour with the label of my religion. On behalf of all the true, loving, respectful Christians, I apologise with all my heart.
Edit: to all of you talking in the replies about the pope. As a Protestant, I have no dealings with the pope at all. I have no clue what he's up to, and I can't say I condone what he believes, as frankly, I have no clue.
yea its kind of the church that messes me up
I’ve been to both a catholic and Christian church (I’m catholic) and they both get so disgusting when they talk about the LGBTQ community, and as a member of the community I have to just leave, I’ve only ever met one pastor who was caring and tried to stop it
You have nothing to apologize about. It's not your fault that other people can't accept diversity.
(As an atheist) what do you mean this is definitely not a 1 in a million thing this was admittedly more popular back then as opposed to now but this is far from a "label" used to hide bad stuff ,it's a justification for it but yeah it's horrible
@TheSportsGuru Descibe disagree. Like being gay isn’t a choice and while to you it may be like saying, “oh hey you’re an atheist, I don’t believe in that but I’m good with being friends” but to most LGBT people it’s like saying”oh hey you have freckles I don’t agree with that but I won’t bully you”
Conversion therapist: spend more time with only males
Guy: *finds a boyfriend among those males*
Conversion therapist: 👁️👄👁️
Ikr that part genuinely made me laugh out loud😂
fr, and the fact they tried to like attraction to men to femininity, like "don't act feminine because that is what makes you gay", your actions - not where your actual heart wonders
I saw this one on Malcolm in the middle, oldest brother goes to a beauty pageant and pretends to be gay in order to be close to the models dude implies that a model is making him straight and is sent to conversion therapy, joke kickstarts
No! This isn't how you're supposed to play the game!
Yeah, that's because they see being gay as feminine, and their main concern is to have masculinity chiefly defined as the absence and rejection of femininity.
My uncle was gay and he committed suicide.. I wish he could see the progress we've made today in accepting the LGBTQ community.. He even died before the legalization of gay marriages. Sad.
“He died before they took things from others. He would have wanted to live if he could have more than everyone else” .-. Sounds like the worlds better now
Im so sorry about your uncle ❤️
@@juniorqindes8335 are you saying that youre glad he is dead? jesus christ
@@st4rz.of.perdition life is valuable. You can’t pretend yours is if you try to degrade that of others.
@@juniorqindes8335 what are you even saying dude
I READ THE TITLE AS ‘CONVERSION THERAPISTS’
the fear i just had
SAMEEE
same ;-;
Yikes
Sameee omg
Yea..
You know what sucks is having parents who pretend to care about gay people and even have gay friends but when it comes to you their child they suddenly are complete hypocrites and do not support it. My mother has gay friends but I wasn't allowed to have gay friends because she was scared they would "corrupt" me and make me gay because that's how that works. Maybe her own lesbian friends where making her question her sexuality and she was projecting that on me but I always hated how she was so outspoken about the gay community but then turned around and told me to watch out for them.
Mine is the exact same way. Will scream about how we're all just people and that she doesn't judge but if I bring a girl home she'll disown me.
My mother does the exact same thing. While I'm straight, my mother disapproves of me having any friends of the LGBTQ+ because she's scared that they'll convert me or something. I've known my best friends for almost a decade, love them so much they're basically family to me, and they haven't made me question myself then, nor will they now.
My parents told me ones “I don’t care if other people are gay, it is their life. But my daughter will not be”... so apparently my life isn’t mine to decide
Somehow my mother is the complete opposite. She's a Jehova's witness, so is under the impression that everyone will be judged by him in the end. She says she can accept me and my sister being gay because we're her children and she can put in a good word for us but we'll still be judged, but she doesn't approve of any other people in the LGBT+ community. Honestly I feel lucky though because normally the families of Jehova witnesses who have gay people MUST cut them out of their lives completely or risk being shunned and outcast from their group.
I can relate to that- my mom goes on and on about my bisexual friend and how she loves them, but told me point-blank that I “can’t be gay”.
The therapist thing happened to me. When I came out to my parents said they "supported me", but then very suddenly sent me to a therapist that was very, let's say, off. She did not let me talk about ANYTHING besides my sexual orientation and how I might be 'making the wrong decision' (as if it was a choice). Her office was in her house, and didn't look much like an office. After a few appointments, my friend and I got weirded out, and looked up the "therapist" my parents had sent me to. No results on any actual doctors, but there WAS an ad for a local conversion therapist under the "Doctors" name. It's 4 years later and I'm 19 now, but I don't think I'll ever forgive them for that. They literally sent me to a random person's house who wasn't even liscened. What.
it's such a shame when parents cannot love their children for who they are if you can't love your babies no matter what I don't get the point in having babies
This isn't a therapy. That's torture.
How so?
@@juniorqindes8335 🤡
@@juniorqindes8335🤡
@@juniorqindes8335😐
🤡@@juniorqindes8335
I wish people understood that a person’s sexual orientation isn’t a disease or a psychological condition that needs to be treated. 😐
Well its naive enought to assume that they do it for the benefit of the person in question.
“I wish people understood that I have a positive opinion of the position they are suffering and this is why them trying to make it better is bad” .-. Wow, homiphobe
@@juniorqindes8335 what?
Did you just assume that gay people suffer from being gay? What- i don't get it explain
@@juniorqindes8335 LMAO you’re so butthurt it’s obvious. You’ve made salty replies to basically every comment on this video and all of them are incomprehensible gibberish. Get a life
@@sunshine-df3tc No, I cant live my life how I want because i am gay. Changing would help me. You don’t get to choose who’s suffering and who isn’t. Could you imagine if we just let the nazis do as they pleased because “nah the nazis said they are fine” but there are plenty of people like me who think just as I do. It’s not right to try and tell us who we can and can’t love.
As a Christian this is horrible and disgusting as a Christian I was always taught that above all else you should treat people with kindness no matter who they are conversion therapy is horrible and abusive
Amen!!
I agree. Conversation therapy is unloving and it’s literally forcing someone to be or do something they don’t want.
YES!! Exactly, our first and more important law is to love ourselves!
Amen sister
I can't believe this still happens today.
God is a loving father and would be happy for us. Don't you think God wouldn't accept us when he himself befriend a tax collector, a person who betrayed him and made him go through torture and crucification, and healed sinful people.
You can’t “fix” what isn’t broke
Yes! I completely agree
apsolutely ❤
it reminds me of sign a dad made for his son"i cant fix my gay son becoz hes not broken"
And this kids, is why we don't eat at Chick-fil-A
I request context.
@@Two_kay44 Chick-Fil-A supports it.
@@Two_kay44 they also donate to a group that supports it, every time you buy chick-fil-a it almost always goes to conversion therapy
@@ghostt9309 They don't do this anymore but they did at some point.
@@krby23 They say they don’t support it but there are conspiracies about them still supporting it
I don’t get why some people still think being gay is bad.
@@nikolayhristov7064 what...?
It's taught and a misunderstanding from the Bible
The denver nugget jeans!!!
Our faith won't allow us to be with who we want so if you still have strong feelings, you wanna diminish that to focus more on your faith instead of your resentment
I meant, I can show off to my date saying im a wanted criminal in a lot of countries
It’s so bizarre to think homosexuality is bad. It feels to me like telling someone their eye color is bad... Poor souls.
My mom became somewhat of a religious zealot towards the end of her life. She died when I was 19. So she would hug my brother and I and say "thank God My babies are not gay". She also didn't want same sex marriage to be legalized and this was back around 2011-2013. She would tell me that "homosexuals" were going to go to hell. I would disagree with her, I believed even back then that if people were not hurting anyone then let them live their own lives. She wouldn't agree with me so I just kinda let her believe what she wanted. I loved my mom and I would rather have had her religiously obsessed than an aggressive and neglectful drunk but sometimes I wonder if she stuck around longer maybe she could have grown and changed instead of being so hateful I guess...
@@snortingsmarties8363 I‘m very sorry for your early loss and I believe peoples bad ideas don’t make them bad people. Often they just don’t understand something, because they have never met a homosexual person fe. If your mother watches us world from heaven I‘m sure she had the chance to change her mind. And I believe you can still love her unconditionally, even though she may have had faulty opinions. Your comment sounds as if you have forgiven her, which is beautiful.
All the best!
No, it’s like saying “your fetish for scat is bad” but thanks for shitting all over the struggles of many gay people because you would rather stay ignorent. :T yea, turns out people have these things called opinions and you don’t get to choose them. Oh and the brains of even the most avid lgbt supporters respond to homosexuality the same way it responds to maggots. So most of the world is just a poor soul I guess
@@juniorqindes8335 yo can you stop spamming ALL the comments with the same shitty argument just because you disagree with the video...? Cristianity constantly villainizes the lgbt community. If you personally think that, as a gay man, conversion therapy has helped you in any way, good for you, but as you can tell from the video and the comments, it has caused trauma to so so many people. Also a reminder that conversion therapy, most of the time, is taken by teenagers who don't have a choice but to go.
@@juniorqindes8335 that is not true:)
I hate when people use their religion to literally torture people and a lot of the time torture CHILDREN. My ex said he would put his son in one and disown and and make him change his last name if he came out as LGBTQ+ I ended that relationship sooo quick 🤢
That sounds like my brother🤦🏻♀️😒 Glad he’s an ex though
queen behaviour
@@warsect he won’t fuck you.
@@warsect notice how nobody agrees
@@makenzie6349 exactly
the fact that this is still legal is disgusting
how about the murder of MILLIONS of babies huh? What about that? And if you try to refute me I will win, every time.
If there are any LGBT+ people reading this and going through isolation and prejudice right now, know you're loved and worthy of love.
If there’s any gay people who actually want the therapy... know I actually am doing something for you instead of just telling you nice words. :T
@@juniorqindes8335 SHUT UP STRAIGHT
bisexual gang
@@christian_lovely oh hey, it’s the homophobe. I already told you I was gay. Same time when you accused me of being 4 people.
I feel so bad for people who have to go through this. It’s the absolute worst. Your family and the people who you trusted literally turn against you
Edit: ok so I know not many people will see this, but first I want to thank you all for the likes. This is now my most liked comment. Second, I want the people in tough situations and the people who have gone through pain to know that you are loved and you are no less valid that straight cisgender people. 💖💜💙 🏳️🌈 🏳️⚧️
@Ignatious thanks 💜
They also don’t like the way you are and are basically asking for another child.
Sadly most people r brainwashed by religions ( my respect to them ofc)
I wish my parents saw this. I was sent to conversion therapy with my siblings a couple years ago.
We ended up running away when we were there
Well, I live in Tunisia ( a Muslim country, Muslim society)
if I come out I might get literally killed because it's against their belief or put in jail + the fact that I'm an atheist lmao
Something I've always said to myself, in awe:
"We literally live in a country where, it is more acceptable for a man to blow another man's head off, than for a man to blow another man."
Why is that true? I will never understand. Maybe murder is just better than love...😥
EDIT: Thanks to all of you kind-hearted folks and the support you've shown my Avant-Garde little comment. It really does give me more hope for the future, and more love for myself ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
I'm pretty sure it is more acceptable to blow a man with a leaf blower than kill a guy with a gun?
Because apparently blowing another person's head off is considered "masculine" in our society.
because sex is mroe complicated than altruism
@@astridmartin3736 and you still don't know how to spell what you're trying to say correctly...but we gay people don't deserve the same rights? 🤨
I'm still glad I was never forced through a conversion camp, since my parents actually loved me.
@@astridmartin3736 it’s not though. To be frank it’s none of our business what other people do in the bedroom or marriage.
I once heard a priest being interviewed about his sexuality. He answered "I'm gay, and I offer my homosexuality to Christ". If ever your family complains about your sexuality or any other aspect of yourself that is "sinful", remind them that quote.
Just because a priest says their gay and do it for Christ is exactly the same as using the Bible for hate it’s not right not to say that people can’t be gay but priest have to vow that they will never have sex again so theirs no point in saying you have a sexuality as a priest because you can’t have sex at all just remember that
@@ovider6625 you can avoid having sex but that doesn't make you asexual: a gay priest means he is attracted to men. He never said he did that for Christ, he said he offered that to Christ. He is what he is and that's what he can offer, that was his statement. I'm not saying anything in favour of the church, I'm speaking about a particular person whose vision of religion was, in my opinion, very healthy.
@@visualinotion3957 so you think one gay priest has a better vision of religion because he’s gay that seems heterophobic but yet you said that he is who he is what about ex-gays do you register them as people who made a point that sexuality’s a choice but then never bring up ex-gays because they aren’t gay and supporting your whole cause I’ve never heard once in my life a gay person or some type of other made up fiction that ex-gays prove that sexuality’s a choice
@@ovider6625 I never said he was better because he was gay, but because of his understanding of religion. I would continue the debate, but if you think gays are fiction I'm afraid I have nothing else to discuss with you. Have a good day.
@@visualinotion3957 you have a good day to and try to understand the basic premise behind religion which is sacrifice what you have mortally and you will be eternally spared
Christianity SHOULD NOT be an excuse to do evil, because God called us to love other people
in ANY RELIGION, EVEN ISLAM, converting someone with hand is DOWN RIGHT HELL wrong, we must be soft and not use hands, were reached to be patient so we have to act like it
@Jaycee Landsaw Never, ever say “We” you do not speak on behalf of all Christians. As a Christian myself I don’t see you as a real Christian, I see you as a person spreading hate and evil. Which is exactly what you’re not supposed to do as a Christian. Love thy neighbor as you love your own. That makes me so mad. You are a great example of why people think Christians are bad. You are the one rotten egg that spoiled the whole carton.
@•*The Rainbow Closet*• love is NOT love. God is love
@qarus nawww lol.
Yess thank you love!
I'm Chinese and there are currently over 100 hospitals and institutions in China that still offer conversion therapy. One of my best friends almost got sent to one by her parents. Thank you so much, Anthony, for bringing up this issue. ♥
It's there all over the world from Ghana tto Banglasesh and from the USA to France
China is the last place on earth that would need conversion therapy even if it was real😂
Wow that's awful but (no offence) not surprising
@@taritangeo4948 why? you think there isn't lgbtq people in china or something? lol
Offer? I’m looking to get it and if it’s an offer how is it bad?
As a parent of a trans man (f to m) who came out as gay when he was a teen, I WISH your parents were as accepting as my husband and I. We have always supported our kids throughout their lives and now they are amazing adults and we have awesome relationships with them.
My parents have never threatened to send me to any sort of conversion therapy, and they were willing to be okay with me being bisexual, but when I came out as trans they have been treating it as something that needs to be "fixed" I'm scared of how I might be looked at different by them after I leave and transition, because I know it's the only way I can keep on living. I'm FtM too, so thank you for this comment, I don't want anyone else to go through what a lot of my friends and I have to go through
My community needs more family like you
As much as my mum doesn't support queer people, I'm glad there are some parents who are supportive of their queer children 🥺💕💕💕
We need more people like you. For real
I'm a trans guy too!! Adopt me😂💀❤
“God please forgive me” brought me to tears. So heartbreaking
Please do "i spend a day with misscarriage/stillborn mothers" its such a tabo and not talked about subject but happends soo offten.
aren't around 1 in 4 pregnancies a miscarriage? (or maybe it's 1 in 6, i cant remember)
@@Snowleaper101 yeah it's some crazy high number, but most just go unnoticed because they occur very early in the pregnancy
@@Snowleaper101 its 1 in 4 pregnancys end that way. I am 25 and have had 2 with my husband. It happend soo much but in never talked about and is quite offten a hush hush topic and the mothers end up grieving in silence
@@r.lantzphotography2 I’m sorry about that
@@r.lantzphotography2 it is quite common, and definitely not spoken about enough. After a colleague and friend of mine went through it, and told me and my other colleagues, suddenly so many of my other colleagues came out and told their stories about miscarriages or losing an infant. I was surprised about how common it is, and how little it is talked about.
My mother went to a therapist with me,hoping it would "cure my transgenderism"(her words), but the dude was like "I don't do that"
How did the dude look at your mom?, I image like she was crazy
Thank that man
I'm glad your therapist was ethical and realistic. I hope you're doing well, and that you're amongst people who love and support you
I don't even think thats how that works-
I think I've finally found it
The ultimate bruh moment
As an asexual I can attest that it is indeed traumatic. Being told I'm selfish and that's the only way anyone would ever love me. Having sex, regardless of my partner, never felt right and I never got used it, I just started bursting into tears everytime. My asexuality was not trauma I needed to work through. I didn't have trauma to begin with but I do now. I don't want anyone touching me, not even a hug 😔
What about a virtual hug? It's got all the loving intent, without any of the physical touch:
You are wonderful, just the way you are. You are valid, and you deserve to be appreciated for being you. Asexuality is cool, making you cool. You're a badass, you survived! Never let anyone make you feel any less! You. Are. AWESOME!!! I love you for being yourself! AND I _MEAN_ THAT!
I hope that helped, even if it's just a little bit. And I hope you're living somewhere better, now. If you're not, I hope you can get somewhere better, soon. You deserve happiness, safety, and acceptance.
Mood. Im ace and im constantly told ill change my mind when im older about sex and children. Its so annoying because they're not me and they don't understand what I feel. Like i just wanna be normal 😭😭
@@ohno5820 Oi, Just found this comment and wanna say, Don't let nobody tell you something so dumb, after all there is no such thing as a "Normal Person", You are normal the way you are & it's your life to live and decide, be yourself and do *your* best, heck if you don't match somebody's standards, Your life & your standards is what matters first and foremost, good luck out there you awesome human being
@@Anasumi tysm I really needed this
@@ohno5820 “You’ll change your mind when you’re older” is such a garbage saying I’m so tired of hearing
Im a younger lgbtqia kid,I'm pan and a transgender male,I plan on coming out to my counselor today,so this low-key helped. Thank you
I wish you the best of luck!
3 months later: did you do it?
Did you do it
how did it go?
Heyy
I had a friend who was brainwashed in conversion therapy. He even had a wife and a child. He told me that one day he happened to be at a bar that hosted drag shows and had an urge to put on makeup and as soon as he grabbed the brush he broke down crying saying this is me this is who I am
@blood incantation More power to your friend! I hope he has the safe space needed to truly be himself 💮💮💮🌼🌼🌼
Forcing yourself to be someone you aren’t is so harmful. Sending the best to you and your friend
How is he now? I hope he's doing better.
aww i hope hes ok now
I hope he is okay
as a lesbian i’m excited to see this and learn more about this horrible topic. thank you anthony for educating your audience while keeping it interesting!
Yuck
@@ukrey9645 nobody likes you
Keep your opinions to yourself so you don’t hurt someone please
@@ukrey9645 like why do have to say that, keep your opinion to yourself if you know it's gonna harm others
Me too! I’m bi and I’m excited to learn about this!
This shouldn't even be called 'therapy'. Therapy is intended to help people who are struggling feel better, not tell them they are wrong and worthless and don't deserve to exist. This is just forcing people to deny who they really are.
"You're ugly. You're disgusting. I'm gonna kill you. Give me $200"
Sorry, reminded me of that meme
@@Anasumi Where'd that meme come from because it sounds like a South Park sketch.
I have a friend who was sent to conversion therapy when she was only 13 (three years ago) and she came back deeply traumatized, luckily she learned that it's okay to be bisexual but I'm really sad for her because she says she's questioning her gender but refuses to explore it because she's scared. Her parents are also in a cult.
The "it only takes one person to be accepting to prevent suicide" comment hit me HARD.
Thank you ^^
It’s so true. If I had one person in my life who had told me that maybe I wasn’t broken, that maybe there was nothing wrong with me, I wouldn’t have felt so hopeless. That’s why I talk about this issue today. I never want anyone to feel as alone as I did.
@@peternunn3047
Thank you for your strength in sharing your message! You should have been safe and not forced to be strong through your experience. But I know you are helping so many people - myself included, and I'm so happy you get to be here to do so. Thank you again, and I wish you luck on your journey ❤
@@peternunn3047 I am heterosexual, but have had many gay friends come in and out of my life. While it breaks my heart thinking back to some of the horrors they endured, it makes me feel good knowing that maybe I made a difference in their lives. Maybe that's a selfish way to think, but I never thought of it before. ❤
Fr, sometimes we just need one person to make us feel sane in a judgemental world
My city just banned conversion therapy and my uncle on city council was the only person who voted in favour of keeping conversion therapy legal. I'm so glad that more people aren't like him and see how harmful conversion therapy is
damn, sucks to be his nephew/nice ect.
Your uncle is going to Hell i guess
@@dc9067 definitely 😌
That must be hard for you, knowing your uncle supports that kind of stuff, I hope your okay ❤️
@@dc9067 Yeah, whatever helps you sleep at night.
I was taken out of my home one morning when I was 15 at 4 AM by two strangers and taken to a "boarding school" that was actually a conversion camp. It was hell.
Hopefully you are in better place now
That's horrible, hope you're ok. Reach out here if you want someone to talk to.
Is that legal? Wtf?
@@ceros1901 unfortunately yes. I learnt about it in an Evan edinger video, people's parents pay strangers to kidnap their kids in the night and take them to "troubled teen' and conversion camps. Absolute madness that thats in any way legal
How he said "I realized something was still broken with me" instead of "I *thought* something was..." Breaks my heart 😭♥️ You aren't broken, and you never were.
@Great Gatsby And that my friend is why I don't agree with your kind of religion. You are not broken. We need to find strength in ourselves and love ourselves.
@Great Gatsby We are not born "sinners"
You're entitled to your own beliefs and I'm entitled to mine.
@Great Gatsby The comments in these videos are for bringing the survivors up. And you just seem like you're trying to break them down. You're spouting your views in the wrong place man, and I don't appreciate it. Go on your way please. There are much better places you can be to discuss the bible
@Great Gatsby like I said, wrong place.
One of my friends went through conversion therapy, she is still bisexual and she is full of trauma
I send my love to her♡♡
As a fellow bi, tell her that no matter what, she is loved by her friends and the community!
you know what? tell her she's valid, no matter what!
sending all the love and hugs to her, she deserves it! let her know that she is loved and valid and that we all love her here ♡︎♡︎♡︎
im sorry :( i hope she is doing ok
I've completely boycotted chick-fil-a for exactly this reason. They play a part in this. They donate money to organizations that do conversion therapy. Regularly.
Same. I've never went to Chick fil a before or ate it or anything because it is harming the lgbtq
Only reason I don’t go is because they are closed on sundays and the only time we could go is after church
@@nationofmolossia4576 so if they were open on Sundays you would go?
Let’s all go and steal their sauces. They will eventually lose a lot of money slowly due to having to keep buying more sauces
Apparently they’ve stopped near around 2017 or another year.
Conversion therapy will be banned in my country in early 2022 at the latest! ❤️ I'm sorry for everyone who has gone through this. To anyone who has been through this, I hope you have healed and learned to love yourself for who you are 💛
Which country might that be?
What country
Is it canada or america? If not all be upset because i live in american and im planning to move to canada at some point in my life
I didnt mean to put all in that sentence
@@alliexcx5576 same here
this made me cry so hard especially when they were showing the “i love my lesbian/gay child”, signs. i just want my parents to accept me so bad. i don’t think i’ll ever be the same after what the catholic faith has done to me-or be able to lead a normal life.
this video gave me hope that one day i will accept myself
you are capable and worthy of love
@@reilly4678 thank you!💕💕
im so so sorry and i hope youll feel better one day.
Blood of the covenant is thicker than water of the womb. You are not worth less because your parents do not understand or support you.
Being a catholic and a lesbian is why I'm an atheist now. You're not alone, my friend.
The lgbtq+ deserves better.
Agreed. Even in the UK conversation therapy is still here
@@levichalcraft8702 Same in France it's way less common then in the U.S but until now there isn't any law against Converstion Therapy
@@levichalcraft8702 that is so horrible i hope no one ever has to go through that.
Agreed. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️❤
@@Thefemininewithinsharika yeah I imagine it is. I’m just glad that my Mom is Bi so I feel comfortable being a 4 prong member of the community
Peter's story makes me sick. Imagine your own parents wanting to disown you because of your sexuality. Absolutely deplorable parents, and I wish the best for him :)
nice pfp/name dude
@@staceymulligan6486 thanks? my name is pretty bland lol
if your parents are willing to disown you for something like that then they were never parents to begin with, all they are at that point are sperm donors and egg donors.
Yeah, that's why I have to stay in the closet. Because of my toxic and kind of abusive parents. I really hope that anybody going through something like this is okay, and if not, I promise that it will be someday
@@roseshards1276 Oh my god I'm so sorry for you. Hope you can figure something out in the future 💖 Best of luck!
Would love for him to do a part two of this that has the stories of LGBT+ women, gender nonconforming, and trans individuals who are survivors of conversion therapy. I belong to this group and would love to share my story.
Wanna share it w/ me? :)
oh god i have a story for the one person who reads this
so i went to therapy and it helped a bit but one day when i came out to my therapist and told them my pronouns, preferred name sexuality, they did the ':\' face with the basic 'oh no hunny that isn't gud :(' and they gave me a form to give to my mother. i did not give it to her. the title on the form was clearly "realignment therapy". i read it and good god if i gave it to her i have no clue what would have happened but that was the end of therapy innit lauv.
I'm so sorry this happened!
That person should not be a therapist, glad you got rid of that form
I wish you would of had a women interviewed because different things may happen to a woman in conversion therapy than a man.
Harder to find because it’s just not as common.
Nobody felt comfortable to tell their story give them some time until ssomeone feel better and don't feel the need of hiding. Tell them they're loved and valid
yep and maybe bi people too
Creepy old pastors and preast love gay women...as a fetish. They are horrible people, the pastors who do this that is
The story of conversation therapy for women can be insanely fucked up
“Cult-like environment.”
“Cut off contact with friends and family.” ✅
Yep. Checks out.
This is why it's important to also teach kids about the LGBTQ community as well. People keep talking about how we "shouldn't force stuff like that down kids throats", but what about all the kids that know they like boys/girls already as very young kids? They're going to think they should be ashamed of themselves and it's going to make other kids think there's something wrong with them. We should at the very least just let kids know that it's ok to like whoever, regardless of gender, and that gender identity isn't set in stone, and a big way of making sure get that is through media, clues like commercials and ads. Just one for he ways to make some kids feel more comfortable at least.
I think the whole "we don't claim them" or "they aren't REAL Christians" mentally is kinda toxic. By refusing to acknowledge them as part of the Christian community and their influence in that community does damage.
It's like men saying "We don't claim the men who rape as one of us - not all men" like no, you need to acknowledge they are a part of your population and work to fix that. This is a problem in YOUR community and by not "claiming" them you aren't claiming the problems that they directly cause from those spaces. You're separating it as if it's not your problem.
Just my personal opinion.
I agree with this 100%
i think it’s a bit different. because if they’re acting like that, are the really a true christian anyways? idk, that’s just how i see it though
yesss
IDK. I personally call them "not real christians" because they are hypocrites and, while they themselves call themselves christians, one of our fundamental beliefs is to love one another. How can you love one another and use your religion to spew hatred and bigotry at the same time? It is, as I said, hypocrisy.
That said, the fact that they are not real Christians--or not the Christians they should be, at least--doesn't make them not our problem. Like it or not, they still co-op our beliefs for hatred and twist what is ultimately a history text and reliquary of myth and ancient law into a perverse set of beliefs that just further their own agenda, whatever it may be. With their delusion that God (if he cares) is on their sides, they essentially become real life versions of the Knights Templar TV trope--people who are so self-righteous and full of certainty that THEY are good and that THEY are chosen that they are effectively immune to any evidence to the contrary, and so make themselves into despicable human beings without having the mental capacity to even comprehend how horrible they are. They're delusional, that's what it is, and their delusions harm others. It is the duty of Christians to denounce them because we spawned them and have been since the Dark Ages (Inquisition, anyone?), but it's not just a Christian problem, but the problem of anyone decent-minded who is of the opinion that, if someone is happy and isn't actively harming anyone, that we should support them or otherwise just let them be. If everyone treated others like persons in their own right, if everyone went through the effort of giving others the benefit of the doubt, of recognizing the beauty of our shared humanity... the world would be a better place, I think. But we live in a world where some people are moral absolutists and believe that they only know right from wrong, and they try to impose those views on others. We live in a world where many people see only black and white, sin or no sin, allies and foes, and fail to acknowledge gray areas in between, either because it's too uncomfortable or they are too lazy to even try thinking about anything for more than two seconds. It's maddening. And it's even more maddening when it comes from Bible-thumping, self-righteous religious nutcases that would represent your own religious group.
Sorry about the (very formal) rant. It's late here and my brain tends to go... philosophical.
yesss
"Im an atheist" thats understandable
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@@teagan6989 12:40
I can't believe that people are still discussing whether conversion therapy should be illegal or not. Like yes let's ban kinder surprise chocolates but not conversion therapy 🤠
got em
Even from the point of view of the people who support it, it doesn’t work. They end up depressed not straight so there is no point to it from any perspective.
Ik god PLEASE MAKE THE GOVERNMENT KNOW PRIORITIES PLEASE I DONT GIVE A FLYING SHIT ABT THOSE “CHOCKING HAZARD CHOCOLATES” ID RATHER HELP THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE FROM SUICIDE THANKS VERY MUCHHHH
@@chestnutthesquirrel are you referring to gay people being not straight so they are sad about it? that doesn't make any sense if that's the case
@@bomoore9872
I think they mean to the LGBT people who supposedly have been "cured" by these conversions. Like, those people who stand by it because of what hell they've gone through BECAUSE of it . They're not straight at all even after everything, because it's not really something you can choose. So if they got "cured" per say... they aren't really cured. Just depressed because of the fact they have to shut out who they really are.
Aa... I hope I explained it well. I think this was what the commentator meant by what they said.
Fun fact conversation therapy is illegal in Canada!
As it should be
That's great! A few places near me are passing those laws. Hopefully this can be gone soon enough.
:O lets go
:D
As a parent, I find it so hard to watch this. How can you tell your child you love them on the condition of.... Love your child unconditionally.
Conversion therapy is so wrong you should be able to love who you love no matter what you identify as. I respect you so much and thank you for speaking up about this horrible topic to your audience.
but you're not allowed to be sexually attracted to little kids
edit: changed wording
@@jerefied yeah u are..... i love my baby brother, my mom loves her son...💀
@@jerefied yes you can i love my little nephew and my little niece snd people who are younger than me who are apart of my family there is nothing wrong with loving "little kids"
tisnots Gay people aren’t sexually attracted to little kids you freaking idiot. Most gay people don’t even like being around kids, we’d never hurt them but we don’t spend time around them by choice usually. Go get an IQ above-3
@@satanhimself2105 dont say most like u know every gay in the world....
As a gay person, or just as a person in general, it hurts to see how much this is still happening and it’s 2021. It shouldn’t have been ‘invented’ in the first place. You can’t ‘fix’ someone’s sexuality/gender and if you think that, you’re just an idiot. It’s as simple as that. But thank you, Anthony for talking about this. It’s very important to spread awareness so these people’s stories will be heard and so it’ll get banned. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Ik you can't just "fix" who you are love who you love as a bi girl
it’s so disgusting and horrifying that conversion therapy is still legal. people honestly just have to stop caring so much about other people’s sexual orientations. people who waste their energy trying to “fix” someone’s identity just need to let people live their lives.
I thought isis was anti gay 😱
my parents might do that
Things like conversation therapy are why I’m not publicly outing myself irl
yes
yes
I am so ashamed of my state for having the conversion therapy place that guy went to. I'm happy that things are getting better and disgusted by the hate. I'm a lesbian and for the most part people around here are accepting but there's certainly some who are still hateful.
This is so horrifying. Trying to "fix" people and telling them they are tainted?! How is conversion "therapy" not yet banned everywhere? And why can't people just let others be themselves? Aaahhhh ...
It’s mainly because it’s seen as a sin in the Bible.
@@caseed its seen as something bad in a lot of religions, its ridiculous.
@@REALPEDROGAMEPLAYS Yea, I don't know why people have to be so hateful. I don't support it, but I don't hate them.
@Roktrum Umm ok what is it??
@@caseed God didn't say anything about homosexuality you know? It's a misunderstanding in some translations that led to this...
As someone who’s parents tried to force me to do conversion therapy and then I ran away before they could and was homeless for a good few months at the age of 16, I’m lucky enough that I never had to go through the actual thing. And to anyone who was made to go through conversion therapy, I love you, and my heart goes out to you.
Sending you so much love. That is a really tough position to be in, and I'm so sorry that your parents are dangerous to you. Please know that there are generations of LGBT+ people who are fighting for you, support you and love you for who you are xx
I’m sorry that you had to experience that ❤️❤️❤️
That was really brave of you to do that. How did that homeless phase of your life end? Did your parents finally come to their senses and drop the conversion bullshit, or did you find friends to room with?
As a Christian myself, I find this practice absolutely vile. Seeing other Christians use our religion to force heterosexuality onto people deeply upsets me. Whether or not you are Christian, I think that all of us here can agree that we are called to be kind to one another. Stay safe, friends.
fr they should put that energy towards pedophiles which is who the Bible was actually talking abt but for obvious reasons they won't
I lost a friend after his experience with conversion therapy and I’m so glad that you did this interview to expose the horrors of conversion therapy and bring awareness to helpful organizations like born perfect to help those who have gone through conversion therapy and help prevent what happened to my friend from happening to anyone else again
conversion therapy is so deadly and this Is why I'm so scared to come out to my parents. I hope everyone who has gone through this is doing well now
I hope everything turns out okay eventually. Stay safe ❤️
@@katlyn6928 thank u that's so sweet
Only come out if you feel safe and ready. You’re so strong❤️
Stay strong you are loved and valid
Pretty sure this entire comments section will be backing you up
the “God please forgive me” note hit hard, I can’t believe this still happens
It's time to realize that the religious run the world
I don’t understand why people use the Bible for bad purposes and Ill ways, it’s supposed to be the complete opposite.
@@multijxde1855 Exodus 21. Yeah the complete opposite...
@@multijxde1855 ikr and they bring out a bad side of religions
As a catholic, this is not what Jesus would’ve wanted his disgraceful children to be practicing. He wants us to love one another, not go against.
Same, Sometimes I feel bad for God, Jesus, and Mother Mary. Just seeing a world were there children go against eachother, Changing themseleves just to be apart of society. Hiding there gifts and talents for there entire lives just to fit in and dying with no personality of there own. In my opinion, Who cares if you're Gay,Straight,Trans,Bi,Genderfluid,Asexual, ect. Just be happy of who you are and just have fun with life in general. So once you go to heaven you can have a bunch of stories to tell to your family,friends and grand parents for them to smile and laugh too.
Ya sure? Leviticus 18:22
@UCR4h6ZpYYwiHsD37zs1JiBg I'm pretty sure he would've wanted you to not be a lifeless troll. Being gay is not a choice. The Bible is not a good source for science.
@@fennekinflames7095 i notice how you people all have this coping mechanism that everybody that doesn't share your opinion is a troll, we exist, we were born this way keep coping
@@VelikiDim Don't quote the bible. The bible fully supports genocide, slavery and rape. Read Deuteronomy 22:28-29
My friend once did a presentation in my history class about conversion therapy. It was really good, and I told her the following Monday that I saw this video. She said she watched it too and even got some inspiration from it (possibly). If you’re reading this, hi
the part at 16:14 "the conversion therapy experience has stuck with me all these years. and I bet none of them remember me". this part is so true, especially with abusive relationships/experiences. the person who abused you will never remember it because they didn't care. it was a normal Tuesday for them. it reminds me of the phrase "the ax forgets but the tree remembers."
As a Christian I am appalled by anyone who uses conversion therapy in the name of God. That disgusting practice has no business in faith and anyone who claims to believe in God but yet practice conversion therapy does not know God.
I 100% agree. Love your neighbor and don't judge is one of the simplest messages in christianity
It's ironic that a lot of people who follow christianity judge LGBTQ+ people despite going against the bible's teachings.
Well what else are you supposed to do when you have these strong feelings? You don't wanna be an abomination towards God (I'm genuinely asking because I am out of options here)
@@PGOuma I'm not the best when it comes to Religion. But what i can say is that i genuinely, with all my being do not think God or Jesus legitimately hate anyone. I do not think that they will punish people for simply being in love. I learned that we are created in God's image, and if God truly hated gay people, why would they exist?(as an FYI i do not think being gay is a choice).
Amen
TW: suicidal thoughts/depression
These things upheld by the church are what drove me away from it. Hearing people tell me that my “sin” would lead me to hell and that they didn’t hate me but they hated my sin was a large part of why i’ve been battling suicidal thoughts since i was thirteen. Thankfully i never experienced conversion therapy since i left that church, but i would not be here today if it wasn’t for having the strength to pull away from there and start loving myself.
My mind still struggles to remove bible verses and the hate that they instilled in myself, and i did not go through conversion therapy.
Please, do not let anyone else be subject to hating themselves for any god.
So sorry to hear that, i hope your healing going well :”) *hug from me*
My gf went to conversion therapy (which is illegal where I live) but it was disguised as Christian counselling but they were tryna make her straight. Her mom forced her to go but she hated every minute of it and it reached the point where the lady decided to pray the entire time and my gf fell asleep under disguise of her praying. She doesn’t go there anymore after telling her mom she would kill herself if she was forced to go again. We are both much happier where we are at now.
I went to one of these it was terrifying and I was only 13
Omg
I’m so sorry I hope your ok.
what did u so in there???
I used to help gay people
That must have been horrible, I hope you're feeling better after that traumatic experience. ❤
Not sure if you're taking requests, but a "I spent a day with recovering alcoholics" would be quite interesting. Really enjoy this series
I'd love to see a vid about this! I have a friend who's a recovering alcoholic and I'm sure it'd help him a lot
I would love this and any other addicts
Addicts in general needs to be addressed
I think he does take requests, but you have to e-mail his team about it because they get drowned in other comments on youtube :)
YES - good topic!
I love that you called this what it is, Abuse. The fact that it’s still legal is ridiculous
The therapist who cried after actually *listening* to the victim really gave me hope for humanity. Next step is parents who's actual job it is to protect and love their child. And who brought their individual beautiful humans into the world just to try to change them and make them hate themselves.
Jesus in heaven: I told you to treat people with kindness, this aint it chief
For real, I'm a Christian and no matter what, whether others sin or not, we should still treat them with kindness and love ❤
He's most definitely disappointed 😞
Underrated comment
ikr
ikr
I love the thought of Jesus coming back to Earth, seeing how horrible some Christians (not all Christians, just some) can be and just being like “Yeah, I don’t support you guys. Also I wasn’t white.”
As a parent of 2 LGBTQ kids, I don't understand how a parent could do this to their child! 😭
Religion is one hell of a drug
Thank you for being accepting of your children. You've saved them a world full of harm and they're very lucky to have you💕💕
@@Parker_Lot I'm lucky to have them to love!
I asked and was denied. Now it may be too late. Conversion therapy isn’t a bad thing.
@@juniorqindes8335 You should not have children
As a mother, I want to hug each of the little boys that these people were.
my family is heavily religious- everyone is Christian and i asked my mom if i were to come out as bisexual or lesbian she would “find help” for me. she would get someone to “talk me out of whatever was wrong” with me. i don’t plan on telling her until i’m 18 and gone since i’m scared of her reaction but i think about it a lot and it just separates me further from her now.
Your mum sounds like a right...well I can't say the exact word here. Let's just say it sound like "hunt".
If she won't accept you for you, then she is unworthy.
3 years later, how are you doing now?
I almost cried when Peter talked about the “IL my gay child” signs...... family support is SO SO SOOOO important to LGBTQ+ youth, and even though I wasn’t beaten or kicked out, it still hurted when my mother told me “I didn’t raised you for that”; when she told me “think better about this”
I came out to my parents 5 years after realizing I wasn’t straight. What more there is to think about?
family support is important for ANYONE. for your parents to not support you like they should just because of your sexuality is just.. sad
like, if you aren't ready for an lgbt+ kid, an autistic kid, a disabled kid... then don't have kids at all. you're not ready.
Family and relatives aren't the same. If my relatives said that to me: ✂️✂️✂️
If someone thinks that way they should have the right to sign them up for adoption. It’s wrong to force that on the parents
@@casualviewer_ yeah, I love my mother but she's needing some therapy lol
I still am financially reliant on my mother, and even though I love her very much, I don't know if I'll be able to have the relationship I wanted to have with her.....
@@juniorqindes8335 I'm not sure I understand what you mean??
My sibling got sent to conversation therapy and didn’t even realize it until I gave the definition. Ze came out and got sent to therapy to “pray the gay away”. We are both in dangerous situations if we get outed. I’m lucky enough to have an older sibling who has gone through it before me so I know what to expect but still.
I'm so sorry!
Presuming by your pronoun use, I'm assuming they're nb!
Hope you make it through!
@@Aisha_Luv thank you, ze is genderqueer, ze finally just told our parents it's worked and ze was straight to make it stop. soon ze will be out of the house, but i'll have three more years without zer
💗 ily
@@staticdoggoe34rd awww i love you too
💕
here after my proud home state of michigan just banned conversion therapy, also realized i'm pan about a week ago so😁
Queers UNITE
Kinda makes me wish Tudor Dixon was our governor right now
it's heartbreaking to hear these stories. my little brother is gay and i admit that i was part of the problem because for the first 18 years of my life i picked on him for being different. when i was around 21 and way more mature, my brother came out to me and told me that he was so happy that he could finally tell me and know that i wouldn't get angry at him. he's my hero.
this is why you can’t have cishet pride. nobody tries to covert you.
Wtf what kind of dumb ideology is that
@@nanakomatsu2572 whats so confusing??? have u even watched the video
@@nanakomatsu2572 are you dumb yourself
@@nanakomatsu2572 I’m just gonna pretend that you don’t know what cishet means. Cishet is short for cisgender heterosexual, cisgender means that you identify with your birth sex, so if you where born a male then you identify as a dude and if you were born female you identify as a woman etc. Heterosexual means straight.
@@nanakomatsu2572 ???
honestly haven’t even watched the full video yet and i know it’s gonna be hard. fortunately, i haven’t been to conversion therapy but at one point my parents kind of wanted me to. knowing that people hate you or feel disgusted by who you are just really hurts. we just want to be accepted.
Ik. Its really sad. Im afraid to come out beacuse i know my parents and relatives wont accept me
@@constance1979 i’m so sorry and how you feel is completely valid. if you know or think your family will do something bad to you it is best to stay down :( honestly wish it shouldn’t be a choice but it’s hard to know how some family will treat you
I accidentally read the part where you said "fortunately, I haven't been to conversion therapy" as "unfortunately, I haven't been to conversion therapy" and I was so confused because it is clearly a terrible thing and you (and I) are definitely very fortunate for not having to do that.
@@ahuman2055 lol don’t worry even i reread my whole comment wrong 💀 but no, any person (especially a person that’s part of the lgbtq” should not look forward to have conversion therapy 💀💀
@@nymphaxxe Thanks. I will probally stay in the closet untill i move out. Anyway i hope you feel safe and valid. You seem really nice
Thank you, Anthony. As a Gay man, I cry tears of joy when people like you speak for us.
I’m grateful every day that I have amazing parents who supported me through my struggle of coming out. Tbh they were more accepting of me than I was of myself, and they helped me to become as comfortable with myself as I am today
This topic hit close to home. I'm gay and had my own issues with my sexuality, but was overall accepted by my family. My cousin, who is the same age as me and also gay, wasn't as lucky. His father and my grandfather, who are both extremely religious, made him go to conversion therapy. (My grandfather wanted me to go too, but I didn't accept.) My cousin was at a low point in his life because his mother had just passed away and he was confused and wanted to feel loved. He has been in conversion therapy on and off for years. He never listens to me and no matter what I say to him or my grandfather, nothing changes. This summer he went to another country for his 'therapy'. They plan to get him married soon so he "gets fixed". We are both 19 atm. I feel so bad for him and it hurts me so much to see him so hurt but there's nothing I can do to help, that I haven't done. I've talked to all my family about it, some people don't wanna overstep and others think what he's doing is right. I can only watch from a distance and hope he can make it out and be his own, authentic self and find true love for who he is.
That is so awful :( it is not too late for him to accept himself. Like what was said in the video, you only need one person to accept you. Even though you may think you are not doing anything, sharing your love and perspective may help him subconsciously. I'm bi and my family are not really for it, but fortunately, I have a great set of friends who are, and they really do make the difference.
@@chazzyloveee I really hope he can finally accept himself some day... I try my best to always show him love and support. And I'm proud of you, too! I know how hard it can be and you're doing great. Better days will come.
that’s so horrible. it must hurt to think you are powerless but even so. you can still keep on showing him love and support. although you may not be thinking it’s helping. you may be able to get through to him some day. i wish the best for you and him as well in the coming days. i’m pansexual myself so i get the struggles of not being accepted by family and being shunned. but i wish the best :]
I'm a Christian and straight but I have several gay friends and anyone who would do this to someone just because of who they love is honestly so sickening. I can't imagine any of my friends going through this, and nobody else should have to either
No matter how you feel about the LGBT community, or you think it's the worst thing ever, I'm not gonna try to change your mind, but this is abuse and torture, and it is not ok to put people through that.
Yeah, Why does someone elses sexual preferences bother some People so much?
Good that you can empathize with other people, especially with those who have different beliefs. That is very important. We all live in this world together and interact. I find those who like to push their religious beliefs, laws and practices on everyone, and I mean everyone, need to calm down and re-evaluate their humanity.
I agree, it’s horrible to force people to believe in any religion. It’s not our duty to force but to show love and faith. If someone decides they want to believe too, then praise the Lord! But if it’s not for them, we let them be and continue with our mission, but we’ll still care for our friends.
@@erika8349 my point exactly
My mom pretends to support me and my nonbinary sibling, but constantly misgenders them and deadnames them. I saw messages from her and my stepmom that said I was convincing my sibling to be this way and preying on them basically like my dad did with us. It went like this from what I can remember
Mom: I don't understand why *sibling* is acting this way when I call her *siblings deadname.* She was screaming and crying and *my name* wouldn't leave her side.
Stepmom: Right! And now
*sibling* is gay too? Weird.
Mom: Yeah, it's almost like *my name* is convincing *siblings deadname* to be this way. Shes doing exactly what her dad did and its very predatory.
She also makes jokes that im gonna try to rape her. It really hurts that she thinks these things about me because she always tells everyone she supports us.
My comment was deleted, srry bout that
this is so fucking sad i’m so sorry
I wish you and your sibling all the best
Holy shit this is traumatizing
Wtf? Your family is f up, i’m so sorry you have to live like this. I hope you make it to adolescence the leave those people and find happiness