Toilets, bowties, gender and me | Audrey Mason-Hyde | TEDxAdelaide
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- Опубликовано: 5 июн 2024
- Why is it so important for us to know someone else's gender? We live in a gendered world, but for Audrey, gender is fluid at best an uncomfortable construct. Is there a way to be less reliant on gender in our interactions with people? And what does this mean when it comes to the clothes we wear, or even which toilet we choose to use? If you met Audrey Mason-Hyde, you might think Audrey was a boy, which isn’t quite correct, but calling Audrey a girl doesn’t feel quite right either. At 12 years old, Audrey is already an accomplished actor with film and TV credits, including 52 Tuesdays, a film that won the Directing Award at Sundance Film Festival and the Crystal Bear, judged by the youth jury at the Berlin International Film Festival. With a fierce intellect and a unique sense of style, Audrey has plenty to say about our gendered world. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I am upset..
I can't see the flamingo socks.
Happy socks sells them :)
Agreed
@Daniel Lastname I do, each time I get my salary I go see if they have new ones or if I can replace old ones. Most comfy socks I've ever had.
Same I want to see them and have them
me too :( i love those socks
Only 12! An incredible speaker
Wait, that kid is just 12?
Watch Me Do ONLY 12 ????
Watch Me Do coached by parents
Get Help A script isn’t what makes someone a good speaker
@@impactz7652 Rehearsals and coaching
"sometimes i'm glad people mistake me for a boy because I get to have real conversations" this was one of the realest things i've heard
i felt that too
damn me too even though I only am seen as a boy 10-20% of the time but it’s better than nothing 🤠
Yea
That's very sad 😢.
@V S hi, people have lived outside the gender binary for literally hundreds of years! this is not a new concept, but it is being introduced to people more than ever before. nonbinary and intersex people have always existed, and i'm so glad that there are more resources, such as this video, to help us all learn more :)
Okay but can we talk about their curls-
Curls be on point
Their curls are everything
They’re so good!
The curls I mean. The kid too though.
Those curls are cute-
Their?? 🤔
“What do you think when you see me?”
My brain: a CHILD.
(Yes. The vine.)
NO
I LOVE
AAronSaROS that kinda what I thought
AAronSaROS my thought exactly!
I see a person with great style 👌👌👌
Dude... My first thought was ‘YOU’RE A WISERD HARRY!’
Hahahaha I had to read this 4 times before I figured out you were saying wizard 🤣🤣 I get it now...
Vanessa Red Is that a gender?
@@sadforever0129 no... like Harry Potter.
Me too... 😂
US response to British tweens with short hair and glasses.
"Does it really matter to know someone's gender???"
good question.
Yes. You wouldn't like it if you were in the swimming baths unchanged and a feminised male walked in and started taking his clothes off right next to you or young girls. Gender identifying COUNTS within society like it or not.
@@Sam-zu5mr Eh. I wouldn’t care. Long as they aren’t hurting me or making me uncomfortable. 😑
it matters to know pronouns, but imo no, it doesn't matter who you are :)
Rhys as a girl with a lot of female friends (who agree with me) if we knew they weren’t doing it to be creepy but because that’s where they felt comfortable we honestly wouldn’t mind, and it’s quite clear to see if they were doing it with ill intention. The issue comes when people say someone would take advantage of that system. That’s why most places with changing rooms have security of some sort nearby. And at the end of the day that would occur far more rarely than people say it would. So allowing it would do far more good than bad
@@Sam-zu5mr that is the problem right there. Why wouldn't you like it?
Bruh the first thing i thought was how is this 12 year old child literally giving a TED Talk and i am here doing nothing 24/7😌
same
12? .....12? .... I couldn’t do that at 35 LOL amazing !
@@anomalous5549 and a much better one at that. TED is pretentious and pseudo intellectual
Because this kid literally only exists to spread a political ideology, and you only exist to consume it 💀
@@filip6127 word
The most impressive thing was that all the people in audience were elderly.
It feels good, to see one generation trying to understand the other with an open mind.
You are right! We try...It would be great if younger generations would understand our paradigms...I love Audrey!
@@brightangerine Haha!!
Yes Mrs. Maria, I completely agree with you!! 😊
My grandparents hate these kind of things witch is sad
Many older adults have struggled with the same issues that Audrey does. Just because you are older does not mean that you are a different species.
@A M. More than 2. There are a variety of non-binary (meaning not fitting into 2) but it kind of depends on who you ask. There are, however, certainly more than 2.
No one:...
Microphone: Yo, this breathing ain't loud enough, let's kick it up a notch
b r e a t h e
B R E A T H ! ! !
*breathes in your ear*
ｂｒｅａｔｈ
B r e a t h e
One room Unisex restrooms would solve all the restroom problems. We transitioned to these in retail instead of having one large room with many stalls, we transitioned the stalls to one room stalls with privacy with each door opening on the outside walls. Solved all bathroom issues with this. Schools should do the same.
*walk on stage*
Me: *looks at rainbow pin*
MY PRIDE SENCES ARE TINGELINGGGGG 🏳️🌈
You call it gaydar.
🌈-(￢∀￢)σ
🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
same
Same my Gaydar was going off
THE TURN TO SLAM POETRY AT THE END WAS ICONIC
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*Y E S* THE SLAM POETRY AT THE END DOES NOT GET ENOUGH RECOGNITION. 👏👏👏👏
thanks for warning me to turn this off
Yes that was amazing
Praecosmile what’s wrong with slam poetry?
Marshmallowcat18 yeah, man I love slam poetry. but in some cases, it can seem too preachy. maybe that’s what they feel
HOW ARE THEY SO GOOD AT TALKING W H A T
Berucrat Her parents coached and wrote the script
Maybe the most helpful question you could ask is: Are they really "so good" at it? Or, is it that you just aren't very good at it?
@@Bhatt_Hole Why do you immediately need to turn it around against the person complimenting someone successful at a not very easy task? You might not have realized it but that hurts.
Got so confused reading this, this is why I hate they them pronouns
@@gorehog04 this is basic english.. do you need me to teach you?
“Are you a boy or a girl?”
Bro I’m literally just swag 😎
“Are you a boy or a girl?”
Me: no✨
“No liek- are you a boy or girl?”
Me: no✨
“No- like, what’s between your legs?”
Me: Air✨
“UGH- WHATS IN YOUR TROUSERS?!”
me: I’m not wearing trousers ✨😎 I’m wearing a dress
Okay but how is this twelve year old so good at style and and public speaking and at articulating their thoughts and feelings??? I’m jealous of a twelve year old now thanks
"Denounce Gender Roles, But Respect Gender Identity."
why?
Hahahaha Hohohoho because thats respectful?
@@swgadrunq1700 why that combination in particular? Who decided on that?
Why not respect both, or just the other?
Why is being respectful such a high virtue?
What if being respectful collides with an individual's personal belief?
@@hahahahahohohoho5085 Why would you rather be rude than respectful? Even if you're beliefs are against what the other person is believing to be true, by not being respectful, you are also colliding with their beliefs. Even this 12 year old in the Ted Talk was able to be respectful to those who don't agree. Why can't you?
@@hahahahahohohoho5085 Because gender roles imply that if you are a certain gender, you need to act and behave a certain way. Yes, some people fit in their gender roles, but at the same time it excludes a ton of people
"What do you think when you see me"
I think your so cute omg i want to pinch your cheeks
I thought that too 😂 also I LOVE YOUR USERNAME AND PROFILE PICTURE
Ikr the kids adorable
I was literally just thinking that. Love the cavetown pfp ahhh.
I bet it’d be easy to be kind to such a bitter boy like you ;)
(I looove Cavetown)
Omg sameee so adorable 😩🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥰
honestly this ted talk is just what I needed, being young and not really understanding how to label yourself is one of the most frustrating things there are, and im glad that they could explain it SO WELL and at such a young age.
Labels are extremely harmful.
@@basedanddadpilled959 thats a strong claim- they can be, but they’re also a way to find and understand yourself and your identity. they’re not dangerous or harmful by themselves, we all have em
@@azul4904 developing your identity through labels is eerily similar to tribalism in many aspects and the obsession that white westerners have with how others perceive them is exacerbating an already severe mental health crisis.
@@basedanddadpilled959 and what's wrong with tribalism? seems like you need to decolonize your thinking, my friend
Okay, but they're incredibly intelligent and accomplished for a 12-year-old. I didn't NEARLY start to have any actual accomplishments or consciousness about thinking and speaking eloquently until at least a year later. Amazing job you awesome enby 👍!
seeing a female name in the talk's title and an androgynously styled kid on the thumbnail i thought 'yeah it's probably gonna feel like a walk through tumblr' but man was i wrong. audrey is more reasonable and articulate at their twelve than most adults i know. i cant remember the last time i was so imoressed by a ted talk.
Wow, harsh. Tumblr is also insightful, you’re just looking at it from the wrong angle
@@evaeldora464 +
Kids and teens (specifically around the ages 11-18) are generally more insightful and in lack of a better word smarter than adults. A reason for this is that the hormonal changes in their brains cause them to creat more neurons quicker and develope their brains rapidly. This causes kids to have more questions about life and these questions if answered also can give people a deeper understanding of life itself. So it makes sense why the best ted talk is made by a 12 year old
vince the ratboy names don’t have genders.
@@evaeldora464 Tumblr is the most idiotic thing out there.. nothing but feelings and colored hair.
Regardless of stance, I think we can all agree that this kid is going places. So articulate and professional!
Going places, as in Tumblr? Gender studies in uni? lol
Kaiden Bruhn you might wanna do that, but not everyone does.
@@kaidenbruhn6561 haha very funny .-.
She’s in some incredible tv shows. Stunning actor
@@ottozagala991 sorry to correct you 4 months later, but Audrey said they go by they and them.
I'm planning on showing this to my mother to come out as non-binary,,, I think this will really help her understand what I'm going through. Thanks Audrey!!
What is non-binary?
@@tinamehl5102 It's an umbrella term meaning you don't identify exclusively as male or female. You might identify with a mixture of both, be neutral, be fluid (as in, you move from one gender to another), or feel as though you have no gender at all.
I hope that cleared it up and was an okay definition.
@@fe_fanby2278 that was a good definition
@@Alexis-nd9kw why thank you!
I JUST SHARED THIS VIDEO TO MY WHOLE FACEBOOK FEED AND LEFT PEOPLE AT WITHOUT EXPLAINING THAT YES THIS IS ME COMING OUT
Can I just say their style is 10/10
We’re finally listening to the younger generation and I’m P U M P E D
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y e s
Oh yeah we're listening to 12 year olds!
@carter valdez How do you know all that? Are you a PhD at Biology? I dont think they agree with any of your analysis here buddy
Sweatt We know more than you think we know. What information do you have? How to plant a godamn potato? How to break a glove? How to read a book?
That last minute was poetry. Solid poetry. And solid poetry is incredibly scarce on the internet.
True.
it made me tear up damn it was intense
It's not poetry it's called confusion
Look up button poetry on RUclips- stories from all kinds of people in the form of poetry. It's pretty intense and incredibly moving
@Non-Ugandan Knuckles if the cat is male, the testicles/balls are usually quite easy to see, below the base of the tail. female cats don't have balls, obviously, but if you're still not sure, taking the cat to the vet is another way to figure it out.
Audrey is 12!!!!!! Wow!! Such confidence and such gorgeous use of the English language. Great message too.
Wait- what?! I thought they were between 16 And 18 wtf. (Even considered 20something, because masculine presenting afabs tend to look much younger than they are, but they said they're still in school so that wouldn't make much sense.)
They got such a wonderful fashion sense
Thanks for the likes it means a lot to me 🙂🙂🙂🙂
You mean she.
@@blackflag5148 nope
@@09anushkasariyal77 She's biologically a female
@@blackflag5148 and?
"what do you think when you see me? "
Me: mini human
LMAO
i thought the same! my brain just though: smol
That reminds me of Arizona Robins in Grey’s Anatomy. She calls the children “Tiny humans” and the parents are “Creators of the tiny humans”.
@@rowantaylor335 same
*cute & wise tiny human
I WANT TO KNOW EVERYBODYS GENDER
So I know what pronouns to use
Edit: I know now that gender doesn’t equal pronouns
How about “y’all”?
ask the person which pronoun they prefer ;)
I have a non binary friend whom I call 'they' and 'them', so I guess you could use that
@@Tanemo1609 I use they/them pronouns when I talk about anyone that I don't know. It's become my default.
camila castelo thanks I’ll do this from now on
Audrey is literally one of the nicest people I know. I went to their primary school and i’m moving to their high school soon. My sister has been friends with them for a long time. They’re also an amazing actor too. I remember when they were Peter Pan in our school musical (Peter Pan). When they moved to high school, they literally got a lead in every musical they had been in. Audrey is literally one of my biggest inspirations. I’m so glad that they gave a Ted Talk. AND IT HAS OVER ONE MILLION VIEWS! I hope that people who know them, see them around quite often, or used to hang around them in primary school see this. They can see how far they’ve come and if they have mis gendered them before, this could help.
I am so proud of Audrey and I've never even met them, lol. They seem really lovely!
as a young trans guy I think it’s incredible how they can talk in front of hundreds of people about a topic it took me over 15 years to talk to anyone, even my closest family about
I know this isn't the point of the talk but my first thought when seeing the thumbnail was "what a cutie"
Kat Shik same
Same :D
Same
Merrill George “her”
@@aub9769 yeah im pretty sure those are her preffered pronouns
I wish I was this articulate when I was twelve.
Wow, so humble aren't you just! Nothing quite like blowing your own trumpet.
@Chalron Bjork I honestly have no idea what you mean and I'm curious, so can you explain please?
SAME! 10 years later I'm still not even close to be that articulate 🙎♀️
I wish I was this articulate at all
@@chalronbjork4766 ... they're complimenting the kid in the video, not themselves, you muppet.
This was really affirming for me to watch. I've recently come to terms with the fact that I'm nonbinary, and it's been really hard. I feel like a freak, and that no one will ever accept me. This helped me to realize that I shouldn't constantly be striving to make other comfortable with my gender identity, but that I should strive to make myself happy.
Cope
Only 65% of woman and men conform roles and expectations of their gender. That's does no make the 35% freaks! If nobody acept you is nothing to do with your gender, is because your social skills and sense of identity is really bad. Accept yourself, be mindfull of your social limitations, get a Asperger/Autism diagnosis if you get the extreme, but no needed.
What an eloquent young person.
I saw this talk live, and watching it again now makes me remember what a composed, articulate and nuanced talk it was. Awesome, Audrey!
I was blown away when they stepped forward and it went from a wonderfully eloquent presentation to a poem! I don’t know if it was intentional but there was such a smooth transition.
Awesome!! I wish I could go to a TED talk so much!
They are beautiful. Everything about that talk is beautiful.
Beautiful? 12yo experiencing gender identity confusion is beautiful to you? Wow..
Obet Efdon you clearly did not understand the video
@@jonnymorales8841 I think i understand the video very clearly. They (Audrey) is a non binary gender. Where is the beautiful part from feeling of not belong to any gender, being different from your parents, siblings, friends? I only see agony, nothing beautiful.
I believe this video made to rise awarness for majority to be more sensitive on handling gender issue. Lets praise their (Audrey) communication skill, how articulate they are, smart, etc. But again, i don't see anything beautiful from their story! I feel their pain.
@@obhetefdhone I think the person meant about how it's beautiful that Audrey is embracing their identity and living as proudly as they can, rather than keeping it inside and pretending to be someone they aren't.
@@jamesc1446 I surely hope so! I am happy that society more accepting LQBTQ, but I am worry that they get/ send wrong message. Improper praise takes away the important point: the pain that these people have to experience in daily life.
Because not everybody as lucky as Audrey whom has great parents that enable them to express themself.
Btw, I agree with you that someone characters what make them beautiful, not their gender identity/ orientation.
They are one of the most calm and well-spoken human beings I ever listened to.
What a wonderful insight, thank you.
See this is my only issue, if someone wants to be non binary by all means be what you want but can we please come up with proper pronouns. They implies more than one and therefore sounds like if it's one person there is a multi personality disorder. I mean seriously referring back to basic English grammar they means more than one. So someone please come up with something different than they, their, or them.
@@adam-jenniferbilly3904 I do disagree with you. “They” is also used when the gender of someone is unknown and no one bothered with it before.
@@arwenschild6406 Try reading a news article and tell me that it's not confusing and you think more than one person is involved. I know "they" can be both singular and plural but it's in how the context is used. For example: I recently read an article that was talking about Demi Lovato and this is what it said. "Lovato sought treatment at the age of 18 after they got into a fight with one of their backup dancers". Does that not sound like it's referring to more than one person?
Audrey is an excellent speaker, very articulate
what confused me most was that i didnt know if they were 10 or 23 years old until i read the description of the video lol
keep up the good work kid! as a gnc myself, its very comforting to see gnc non-binary and trans kids live out loud and proud like this
Damn this turned into slam poetry at the end beautifully said
I completely agree! Every sentence that came out of Audrey's mouth flowed like music with the rest of the speech.
This is not poetry this is confusion
ZAELISMENOS ISOBITIS no it’s poetry they aren’t confused
@@austynbaker7519 sure whatever delusion makes you happy.
@@pepeshadilay3834 shut
New gender labels (gender-fluid, so on) might make us a little bit confused, but as long as it makes Audrey and people experiencing similar things more comfortable, I'll be glad to learn them. Or not use them at all, though it is difficult.
Audrey speaks so well. It is a child talking, unmistakably, but in a beautifully articulate way. This is a tedx I really enjoyed.
@Nick Smith scientifically there are 4 but k
A M. how tf is it sexist lmao
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THANK YOU!!!! I’m getting tired of seeing all of the bigots in the comments! This was nice to see
@A M. please explain how its sexism
@Nick Smith how is this someones fantasy? i've heard people say that a lot but what specifically do you mean by it?
Very educational. I have read a lot about gender fluidity but this ted talk explains much more and makes us understand the gender more.
My BotSenses are tingling…
Audrey goes to my high school, in the year below me. They seem just as cool here than in real life, from what I can see although I don't really know them.
Aw that's great to hear! :)
Epic
Her, and who else?
@@synchronuse no just one person, audrey
@@synchronuse what do you mean "her"?
In my language there is no he/she, we use one word. So I never thought when I was younger how much frustration this can cause for people whos language does contain gender. I am always just randomly using he/she even if someone is clearly female or male, and I have to quickly correct myself. Simply because I grew up with no gender, so doesn't really come automatically when I speak anyway.
On the other note I'm just so impressed by Audrey's speech. Till now I would probably just faint, sweat, get red and be lost in words. 😅
That's interesting! What's your language if you dont mind me asking?
Same here! Pretty much all the pronouns in my language are gender-neutral
What is this language?
@@jillfanning749 After some heavy research (aka a few google searches), I'm guessing they might be Hungarian?
Zsuzsi Tóth
I’d assume that there was some places that don’t have male and female pronouns.
This 12 year old deserves an award,there is definitely hope for the future generation ,less labels more love and respect 👀🌈🙌🏻❤️
She increased labels by adding 'they'. 🙄😑
We have more labels - there are now 72 genders.
Wait they’re TWELVE ? Wow I’m even more impressed
There are ✌2🅱️⚁➗⏸⏏👆👇👈👉🤞👐🤘🤙👏👀💕💤🐾🍃🍣🍻🥂🍪🍴🥈🖇
T-W-O genders
@@IcelandicElfSpotter There are ✌2🅱️⚁➗⏸⏏👆👇👈👉🤞👐🤘🤙👏👀💕💤🐾🍃🍣🍻🥂🍪🍴🥈🖇
T-W-O genders
That’s interesting. When I was eight years old, I had already been asked if I was a boy or a girl probably hundreds of times. One day a boy at school asked, “are you a boy or a girl.” I wondered if he would treat me differently if I responded that I was a girl this time. So I did. He seemed to be a lot nicer and more apologetic than the reaction i typically received from people.
Amazing for a 12 year old to be so articulate and well spoken in such a public setting talking about something so personal!
definitely
i have a friend that's trans but not out at school so to avoid misgendering i use their name instead of pronouns like "yeah (friends name) and i went to (friends name's) grandparents house and i met (friends name's) grandparents' cats and then we went out to eat." might sound a little weird sometimes but it's better than misgendering
my girlfriend does that too because theres nothing like them in german
@Lana Joy it would be more creepy if you use a plural noun for a singular person.
@@mrbust999 it actually is grammatically correct to use they/them pronouns to describe a singular person.
thankyou stranger. for trying to make your friend that one bit more comfortable. as someone who is trans myself it really does mean the world thanks for being an ally
Brook Franz use “their/them” too lol. They’re not plural exclusive and they are gender neutral pronouns
person walks onto the ted talks stage
me: wow, they’re young
person: what do u think when u see me
me: ur rly young
note: i like to know people’s gender because then i can use the correct pronouns. the english language has evolved around gender specific grammar rules, i rly wish it hadn’t, but there’s not much i can do. so i use the pronoun that person seems to want to use based on how they look. if that fails, then i kind of don’t talk or ask about them until it becomes clearer. i have friends who struggle with their gender and i’ve seen how much it affects them, so i try to be as respectful as possible
Mustache Fox I mean if I get it wrong cause I can’t read there mind they can just tell me, like a civil human
When I first say them my first thought was that they had pretty eyes lol
The only thing, is that I've see people get pissed for either being misaddressed or even being questioned how they would like to be addressed. Some persons have no problem yet others become outright indignant.
@@1970Mom I'm an American expat and I've had Canadian expats get offended when I ask if they're American, so I started asking North American-sounding people "Are you American, or Canadian?" When it comes to gender, which can be a way more sensitive topic than nationality, most people are totally happy to have someone ask their pronouns rather than unknowingly misgender them (just like the Canadians who don't want me to assume they're American). You could just say "By the way, what pronouns do you prefer? I use she and her" (or whatever yours are). It's simple and prevents hurtful misunderstandings. And when in doubt, just stick with they/them until the person tells you differently.
after realizing that i myself, am non binary, this video really helped me accepting that the world is indeed a judmental place. thank you
I'm a trans guy yet on my non-dysphoric days I like to wear skirts and put on makeup, I love when people are like ??? when they look at me
IASIDWUF8 THE WAY CIS PEOPLE LOOK AT ME SOMETIMES IS JUST SO FUNNY
@Judy laughed cuz i cracked a joke yeah, getting mad would just make it worse. most of them are old people who cant really change their point of view
Bowties are cool.
Kris Oller not as cool as Audrey.
Bolo Ties will always be my favourite. Then regular ties, and I love when feminine women wear them.
Dr who!
Geronimo :)
I hate apples
The first thing that came to my mind was...Thas some really aesthetic style😂😂😂
ok but *can* we just talk about their current outfit- its literally so cool looking- i want that style
I’ve watched their talk several times and i’m constantly impressed by how good of a speaker they are and that poetry at the end?? genius.
"Because in boy dress i felt more me"
Somone explain this to my parents
@A M. i think its like masculine clothes
@A M. yeah absolutely! like wear whatever you want, i meant traditionally masculine clothes like suits, not saying that feminine-presenting people cant wear them, i fully support anyones clothing choices :)
Yes there’s no such thing as “boy dress”. Anyone can wear whatever clothes they like. The sooner people stop expressing sexist ideas about what boys or girls are supposed to wear, the better.
@@xz740 Yes, and then maybe we can rid of the non-binary sexists.
@@Feisenbach Exactly
I think young Doctor Who 😂
Bowties are cool
they're literally an actor
if they don't grow up to play the doctor i will be disappointed in the world
Geronimo!
I agree
Who you are (to me) is determined by what's inside from the neck up. Conversation gradually reveals your identity....and is why everyone applauded.
They are so well spoken, stylish and adorable. I hope Audrey's parents protect them forever.
They dress like a kid version of The Doctor. I think that’s so cool. I also keep revisiting this talk. It took me until college to have this amount of personal insight. Much respect and love for Audrey.
That's so funny the first thing I thought was maybe this should be the next Doctor Who and then yours was their third comment from the top.
SUCH A TALENTED 12 YEAR OLD. I ADORE THEM.
You know how wrong that sounds right?
@@godhateseveryonewhodoesntr5977 it's fa9...it might sound odd cuz we r not used to it
GodHatesEveryoneWhoDoesn'tReadTheBible ????
GodHatesEveryoneWhoDoesn'tReadTheBible lmao wtf do you mean?
Wait they r 12?
what an old soul... so eloquent, so uncompromising... so admirable
What a confident twelve year old. They were so great at public speaking. And I love their style.
I'm a 50 year old non-conforming female. I hate women's bathrooms, being called "big man", being invisible. I admire you greatly for being able to speak your truth at such a young age. Thank you.
Cv by
What does, not conforming mean ?
I love this comment so much! 💖
@@robynb7083 not conforming to what society deems is the correct look/behaviour for a person of that gender. For example a gender non-conforming woman may wear men’s clothes, have short hair, and a more masculine presence in general. A gender conforming woman may wear dresses and have long hair.
@@komaliwings7209 AKA, a tomboy, why can't it be that simple?
This is the first time I ever hear someone explaining EXACTLY how I feel. Woah
As a non-bianary person, who does have long hair, and was marked female at birth, this really hits home in a different way.
Yes, visually I look like a she/her, but still- It feels wrong to be titled as 'pretty' or ' girly ' or ' tom-boy '.
I am me, and me is them or they, or even my name instead of gender forward terms. Yes, all of my family, and friends at the moment still call ne she/her, despite them being well aware I'd much rather them/they, and no, I don't hold it agents them- Because deep down, It doesn't matter all that much to me. I am human, and that's all that matters. It doesn't matter is someone is a boy, or a girl, or unisex, or what body parts they have, or what they wear, or their hair cuts, or skin tones- or even beliefs..
All that matters, Is their human. And so are you.
And that's why you treat people equally. :)
unisex? i think the word you're looking for is non-binary, but other than that, well-said!
ment up and down the place
Maturity and wisdom for one so young. We need more like Audrey. They are going to do great things
Holy cow. Maybe there's more hope for the world than I thought. This young person is eloquent, genius, serious, funny, independent, and I never would've looked as good in pants like those. May Audrey's light continue to shine as brightly as the years go by, and never dim.
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This Ted tak ended up being more relatable than I thought, whoa
If that's relatable then you need help
@@myiawerk7400 Thanks for sharing
@@myiawerk7400 Are u okay? I think you may need some help
This is the talk that got me thinking about gender about a year ago and now I'm going through voice deepening. Thanks mate
@A M. I'd like to say your ignorance is the problem, not self discovery. Thanks for bringing that kind of negativity in this world for something that doesn't affect you.
Epic! Are you feeling better now?
@@Alexis-nd9kw yep yep =)
How is it going?
@@crowspears3265 currently in therapy!! I should be on testosterone by this summer=)
The little laugh before talking about their style was so cute
Ironically my first thought was "what an interesting small human". Such a well spoken and brave individual. While I may not share all your views, I respect and even admire you for sharing them in way that might help others be more understanding. Thank you for being you! Keep up the good work.
Jennifer Piper You liked the parents views then?
@@xbduf4gb why are you so adamant that children are not capable of independent thought? Not every young person just regurgitates the views of their parents
Leah Not everyone, but some do. And this sounds scripted.
@@xbduf4gb well it obviously won't be improv, it's a TED talk not open mic night. I'm fairly certain you have to submit a draft of what you're going to say (though i could be wrong about that)
Leah You rehearse and memorise the speech.
i live im Finland and we have the same pronouns for everyone and it's "hän" 🤔
Janette Halla-aho And.... you have Moomins living in the forests!
@@xbduf4gb Haha I wish 😅
@@xbduf4gb... No, everyone knows they live in a valley, duh.
Janette Halla-aho Well...... I have hattifattener socks at least.
I'm jealous 😭 🇰🇪
I aspire to have this kid's confidence.
I love how Audrey describes how the labels make them uncomfortable. I resonated with their point about knowing someone's gender equating to treating them differently than you would have not knowing their gender and being uncomfortable about it.
MY NAME IS ALSO AUDREY AND I AM ALSO GENDER NONCONFORMING AND I ALSO WEAR BOW TIES ALL THE TIME!!!!! We need to be friends
i love ties
Lana Joy bow ties are cool
Is a bow toe a gender marker?
i am friends with audrey she would LOVE to be friends with you xoxo
I STRIVE to look like that. Audrey is such a beautiful person!!
What an incredible person with a gift for words to teach hard-headed and well-meaning adults alike. After some deep thought, I realized that the only reason your gender identity matters to me is because I want you to feel respected, represented, and valued. Thank you for making me sit in that moment of uncomfortable reflection. Great things will come from this mind.
"What do you think when you see me"
Me: Damn, that hair is *f l o o f* , I wish I had that too
Is no one gonna mention how well spoken this kid is!!! I’ve seen full grown adults do ted talks with various anxious tick. Amazing!!
She still spouts nonsense
@@jersydvl ???????
What an eloquent young person
Confused* young person. And her parents even more confused.
This kid is a better speaker than my interpersonal communications instructor in every way possible
omg I started crying after , this is so powerful
Oh my gosh! This kid is going places! For some reason I feel really proud of Audrey!
Good on you for being so confident and for telling the world everything I've been trying to tell people for ages now!
Oh yes, she's going places. First stop: a mental clinic.
@@Feisenbach YOU BET !!!!
@@Feisenbach sigh, another person who cannot let other people have fun and feel comfortable
@The Sketchiest Sketcher She's a girl and I say what I want. I'm sorry if you can't handle reality.
@The Sketchiest Sketcher A look in her pants would tell you something different.
Wow! Intelligence, charm and confidence; what a winning mix.
...and not a lick of truth
Not to mention charisma. They're a natural born leader and the representation that the LGBT community needs.
I’m so happy so many of us are taking notes from a young girl whose barely developed and encouraging that we change our world views for people with all kinds of unresolved issues and insecurities! Let’s change the world guys!! I mean... beings!
@@plshelpme4475 cool to know you have such a good grasp on the Bible we conservatives cling too! You should teach me theology!
This is very true and relatable. As a woman the way I am treated in many situations (interviews, etc) have been very different compared to my male counterparts. I am sure this is the same sentiment for men as well.
The question being asked is something we should all think about. Why do we need to know someone's gender?
Why do we need to be so invasive in order to simply be humane. The human condition makes us need information in order to treat a person accordingly. Very informative video and eye opening👏
The she/her pronouns usage in the description feels so wrong. They referred to themselves as they. They could be comfortable with all of the above, yet this does not feel really gender affirming there...?
Audrey never said what pronouns he/she/they prefer. Saying "they" was just an example of a pronoun some non binary people prefer. So even if "she" is inaccurate, you can't blame the person writing the description for not knowing what to use, so they went with the gender typically associated with the name Audrey.
Also saying "she" made the most sense as an introduction to the video.
Because she's a girl and none of her ""FEELINGS"" will change that fact.
@@dipfuk They can be used in a singular sense, people have been using they plural and non plural for centuries. I understand how you could say it can't be used singular as it is not typically taught like that, but they can be used as a singular pronoun.
I'm pretty sure they use both she and they pronouns. Many times in the Ted talk they used 'she' to describe them.
Me : suddenly remembers this “ am I a boy or a girl but damn I’m cute” out of nowhere lol this a great ted talk
This was so well spoken and powerful
Yet still nonsense.
Audrey really did excellent with their explanation! They were clear with how they explained everything and were understanding of people who didn't totally understand. They're really cool!
yep!
Some of y'all watch this video and then use "she" when referring to them. Maybe you should watch it a couple more times.
Maybe you should say "shim" or "one" or something. "They" is plural. This is only one person.
@@themaggattack They is often referred to when you dont know who's being spoken about. "Oh, someone left *their* cardigan" the English language will have one word that depends on context for the meaning, so they, can in fact be used to refer to one person.
@@themaggattack "they" is both a plural and singular pronoun.
WhatAWorld this is why referring to non-binary people I just say their name. I’m not technically using the wrong pronouns or outing them.
Bridgett Matthews if you used they for someone when you didn’t know who they were, why do you need to use a different word once you meet them? They/them pronouns are gender neutral, and therefore a good set of pronouns for people who don’t identify as a boy or girl.
That one older woman smiling just warmed my heart 💞
My mother is a bit like this child. Born in the early 1930s, she refused to wear dresses except when she had to, such as at school. Her wonderful (if slightly self-conscious) mother bought her "dress slacks" for her to wear to church and special events.
Some languages have a gender-neutral singular version (for ex., Hungarian), and in fact, I think Old English had terms they used for unknown singular gender. I wonder that we do not revive those terms.
Oh that's super sad how we don't use those terms anymore.
Hands down, this child was coached. Take from thatw aht you will
Also groomed and will likely k itself. Ill bet it wount make it to 30
When they are older they NEED to play Doctor Who!!
This is one person, not a collective. How about a singular non gender specific pronoun? Like "Shim" or something like that?
WhatAWorld 😂😂 that’s funny but I guess a nice idea
@@themaggattack this term exist in spanish, and all the people make fun of it, Is not realy a best option than they/them.
Pd : sorry for my bad inglish.
@@themaggattack If you are talking about someone and don't identify their gender, the person you are talking to would probably say they when referring to one person
@@themaggattack "You" also used to be exclusively plural, but is now valid for singular subjects. "They" can be the same.
hearing the crowd cheer afterwards gave me the hope for acceptance I so desperately needed, especially considering most of the audience were older. thank you audrey
Why does you creave acceptance so much? Kids and people have been androgynous for decades.
X Z yeah no I get that. it’s mainly just for my personal journey and having to deal with not being accepted daily. it wouldn’t be as important to me if I just accepted my self but since I receive little to no support from my loved ones and peers, it’s difficult for me to be comfortable with who I am
Kili Logan I get you. I had to bring myself up since age 13. Yes It’s tough not being accepted daily as a child and instead being forced to be your father’s “wife”. Sometimes self acceptance is the only place to get acceptance.
By far, one of the most impressive Ted talks I've ever witnessed. You were amazing kiddo. Lots of love to you.
I came to this video to try and understand a point of view and I did a little bit but now I have more questions than answers.
Me too, to be honest.
Feel free to ask