Father Knows: Parent vs. Partner
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- Опубликовано: 28 июл 2024
- Welcome back to Father Knows Something! Real People. Real Stories. Real Dad advice with a dash of ADHD, and maybe a couple of millennials chiming in from time to time to add their takes.
This weeks episode has Jerry, Matt and Amy discussing stories with writers trying to juggle the line of being a parent vs a partner or just dealing with just overall parenting struggles. This week has some serious write-ins that could use your help so be sure to join us in the comments!
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Index:
00:00 -- Start
2:00 -- Story 1
25:53 -- Story 2
40:38 -- Story 3
55:40-- Story 4
1:05:16 -- Story 5
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first story, he tried to step up AFTER she was checked out and cheated. it’s too late to step up in my opinion. was it right that she cheated? no. she communicated WAY before she cheated that he needs to step up and that she needs help, it would last a week and things go back to normal (not having help). she was basic a single working mom in a relationship. i’m not justifying the cheating, i just understand why she did. the relationship was doomed from the start imo.
Exactly, she said she had communicated and tried to delegate multiple times. Any man that is willing to watch you run yourself into the ground with work/housework and a newborn is a crap person. She needs to move on.
Where have I heard story 4 before?!!
First story, I don’t think the ectopic pregnancy was a result of the cheating. I think the cheating started after she healed from the surgery of the ectopic. That’s how I heard it.
Yeah how did she come to that conclusion?
Yea I have no idea how she got to that conclusion??? lmao reading what she wants to I suppose?
I came here looking for this comment! I thought she might be misinterpreting the meaning of "ectopic" but I don't think that's it since *I think* she's an RN
I thought she was a doctor? Either way.. she knows what that is.
That was my read too. Her partner wasn’t supportive before the ectopic pregnancy, and I’m betting she felt so alone in recovery, so drained from being a single parent within a relationship, that she stopped caring and sought emotional connection outside.
Obviously, she should’ve taken stock after losing the second pregnancy and realized this relationship needed to end before seeking another one. But I do understand she was in dark, emotionally murky place and probably didn’t have the energetic capacity to deal with a break up.
I feel Amy was attacked on the first story 😂 she was right. He didn't deserve that much credit. The husband only changed his ways because the wife was already one foot out of the door. Now if she stays he will do better for a few weeks then back to his old ways. She even said that's what he always does.
I'm confused how nobody has mentioned that this relationship started when she was 18 & he was practically 30. She needed to go to therapy sooner? She was basically a child living with a grown man & his parents were fine with it too?! Cheating is wrong but everything about the relationship is unhealthy AF for her & she needs to run immediately.
@@candiedolives5340 where did u get his age? I listened 3x's and never heard his age mentioned at all.
yup that was a bit uncomfortable watching
Yea, his wanting to be involved now that it’s falling apart is too little, too late!
I feel Amy wasn't interested in her husband's opinion and he got defensive after he tried to say the husband obviously changed (too late) about 4 times.
When they called Amy a bitter woman in regards to the first story my blood boiled
honestly on video or not i would’ve said something back to that, you don’t call me bitter ever
Wait what is the time stamp for that because I missed it 😱
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Yes, he talks so condescending to her 😮.
First story,
They were both working, and yet she was the one working and primarily taking care of the baby. She should go, resentment is a strong feeling especially if your mind already seems made up.
I agree with the resentment thing. A partner can ignore the SO to the point of resentment forming and nothing that partner does to step up and change is way to late. That SO is so fed up and has had their eyes opened to what kind of partner they have and they don’t want it anymore! No amount of trying to come back to “baseline” is going to fix it. The SO will be sitting there and wondering when their partner will go back to letting them do all the work again.
You can tell Amy is a Mom because she reads the stories like a Mom reading to her kids lol
I hate it lol. She reads too slow and speaks too quietly, where the heck is Morgan lol?
@@564Clayton hahaha I thought I was just being impatient but yes! I totally agree. He read too slowly for my liking and it irritated me lol still love her though haha
I love Amy! She’s so level headed and smart! Please tell me her and Matt are still gonna do their own podcast!
I love Amy's voice and (blind) reading style, I think she makes a wonderful guest host. She's such a calming presence.
She's calm, but I have to turn up the volume for her... then I'm startled when the guys start talking.
First story- he put it no effort. She said he had to tell him multiple times to do things and he would for about a week, then stop. He seems like an inactive dad. She shouldn’t have cheated but I see WHY she did. I hope she gets out! Doesn’t sound like OP wants to deal with him anymore.
Thank you for the realness about not having an immediate bond with your first baby. I always felt like a bad mom for not having an initial connection.
I didn’t have the initial connection til after I did the skin to skin, my daughter was a premi and it was my first baby and I felt so guilty of me thinking I failed my daughter cause she was in the nicu, my husband has kids in the past but the mothers were the ones (you don’t wanna be with me you can’t see your kids) and it completely shut him down. His connection didn’t come til after we were home and now they are inseparable. She should have sat him down and communicated in a way that it didn’t come off as nagging, cause a lot of men don’t take the complaining nagging as serious as it is. Sometimes you do have to spell it out for some men to actually get it. Being stressed and snapping cause you’re doing everything makes it harder. I learned I have to literally say “hey baby I know you worked all day we both are exhausted but can you do so and so while I do this that way we both can sit down and relax together “ comes off better than “I’m tired of the only one doing so and so” and it can just come of being stressed. Once you get the communication down with your partner everything else comes on it’s own and they now know what you expect
I'm trying not to make this all parasocial but I was sensing a lot of tension in the room during that first story lol
Me too I was like uh oh what is happening...
On the 1st story it sounds like she did her due diligence communicating to him that he needed to step up, but he just wasn't and while its not the right thing to do, after she cheated he realied he was losing her, so he finally tried to put in some effort. But its to late. I hope she leaves him
Eek this episode made me realize I really am in a bubble and don’t interact with straight men normally because I was not expecting the amount of blind defensiveness Matt had for the husband in the first story
Agreed
Urgh it made me so mad!
Agreed
shoulda seen this discussion i read on reddit at some point. A woman was berated for "yapping" because she dared ask her partner (who had broken up then started dating again) of 6 month if he thought the relationship was going well.
Derogatory statements like "Men don need all that blabber, thats a womans thing" or "This isnt an exam, stop interrogating him).
Sometimes straight men really give me the icks =)
Yup
Third story, the friend should definitely do something to help. I was incredibly abused in my youth and one time my dad started kicking my brother and hitting me and my stepmother grabbed her daughter and left to a hotel because she was scared and left us behind. I am now 30 years old and I still hold resentment towards her for not defending us when we were defenseless children. Who cares if you lose a friend, kids deserve protection.
I was abused by my siblings growing up, and I still resent both them and their friends/one of their partners. Everyone besides my single mother knew about it, yet no one seemed to do anything. My sister's friends knew because she never hid it, and instead of helping, they went so far as to think I deserved it for stealing her clothes and bothering her all the time. For context, my sister is 4 1/2 years older than me, and my brother is 9 years older than me. So not only did I learn from my siblings that I must've deserved the abuse, but I also learned it from their friends by their lack of action. I have grown up with horrible anxiety and depression. I continue to struggle with the fact that I didn't deserve everything that happened.
Those kids are worth more than losing a friendship. They are worthy of more than being met with anger, neglect, and abuse. They are worthy of love and protection. So were/are you and your brother. No one should stand by and watch this happen. I hope you both are healing, and I hope those kids get the help and protection they deserve.
What a truly sad story.
For the first story, I feel like the fact of her cheating over shadowed the rest of the story. Not that it was right. She clearly says that she ask and ask and asked him for help, not only with the child but with house chores. And yet he never took the initiative to help her with out her needing to ask. She gave up on having to constantly ask him for help and did it herself. But now he wants to step up. Idk I feel like she’s done, and sure she shouldn’t have cheated but I think it’s inaccurate to say that she should’ve brought the problem up earlier because she had and he really didn’t care enough
First story... I dont think he tried to step up. She was providing, too AND take all the care. Ladies, please dont be stupid. Immature people are just that.
Also men should be taken accountable. Not just she aint feelin it... so many marriages fall apart because one or the other (usually the man) wont step up in a meaningful way. You cant let women take care of everything forever.
Yeah I feel like the ONLY thing that seemed like it could be stepping up is going to the therapy with her. That isn’t even stepping up if the behaviors don’t stay so idk why the guys both went with the guys thinking
@@olybrown3427 completely disappointed by this episode
Hasn’t story 4 been read in a previous episode already? 🤔
It definitely has! I’m surprised Jerry didn’t remember it!?
Me sprinting to the youtube video comments from Spotify to see if I was the only one who realized this
Im literally going through this right now with my 2 month old and my last partner. I am doing everything. He promised when I was pregnant that he would help, he promised the world and he does nothing. He has changed about 2 nappies (UK) since he was born and I'm doing all the night feeds and day feeds(formula feeding) and all the housework. I'm exhausted and my partner suddenly wonders why I've become miserable and snappy. He isn't even in work at the moment and i don't work so we are living off what we have saved. I can't even rely on him financially. I'm starting to feel It would be easier on my own.
It sounds like you are basically a single mother already
I would let your partner know that you are single parenting now and that if they want to continue their behavior you can BE a single parent.
Time stamps
Story 1 - 2:00
Story 2 - 25:53
Story 3 - 40:38
Story 4 - 55:40
Story 5 - 1:05:16
thank you! So helpful!!!
For anyone looking into getting a divorce, go to couples therapy. Not to try and save your relationship, it’s probably already too late, but to help you navigate the feelings of divorce and developing a good co parenting relationship. A very large portion of couple’s therapist’s clients are people navigating divorce.
This is so helpful and smart
jeeeeez that first write in. heavy. real. that's a quality write in.
Every time that Jerry talks about how much he absolutely adored bonding and taking care of Morgan my heart absolutely melts. You can just hear how wonderful and loving of a father he is. He may not know everything; but Jerry DEFINITELY knows something about how a dad should love their kids. ❤
Amy genuinely has an amazing podcast/narration voice. I’d listen to her voice audiobooks or host her own podcast any day! Very soothing; almost ASMR status.
1st story- after someone cheats , the cheating party has to be so remorseful and completely all in in trying to make it work for it to even have a chance. If the cheating party is thinking how she was in that post, no chance.
Amy- you’re wonderful. Please speak up when reading it’s making me crazy lol when you discuss the post it’s much more clear so I know it’s not an audio thing. Love you guys! Another great episode!
I'm glad to see Amy and Matt on the show!
Story 3! That hit like a wrecking ball in the gut! She's going to have to have a wake up call. Y'all, I was that mom! I was. I was a single mom, 3 kids. 2 Deadbeat dads. I worked 2 and 3 jobs, 7 days a week for years. I was exhausted. Mentally emotionally and physically drained. I couldn't stand myself. After 2 abusive relationships, and some intervention . I took parenting classes. And learned how to more effectively have conversations with children. The difference was like night and day. The girls are all grown now and we have the best relationship!
Edit to add!
The best ending ever! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You're a good person. It takes a lot to realize you need to change and take the steps to do so. I'm very happy things turned out so much better for you and your daughters. Sorry you went through so much abuse too.
@@stretchkitty21 thank you!
I appreciate the first story and opinions so much. All of their reactions were so valid and obviously tied in from personal experience and feelings, not just what they might think what the audience wants to hear.
Love Amy & Matt. (And obviously dad Jerry) Amy & Matt, thank you for taking the time out of your days to make an episode for us. I always appreciate your takes 🥰
I love Amy and Matt ❤ love their takes!
The last story. They got together when the wife was 16 and the husband was in his 20s. That seems glossed over. And could be a hell of a good reason why she feels the way she does. She was groomed to.
The husband was 2 years older on story 5, you must be confused
Story 4 I believe was also In episode “hanging in there” not complaining it’s great to hear more input on this story.
Wtf is matt talking about, isn’t he literally a father
Woohooo!! Fresh episode as soon as I pop on for my youtube background after my meetings! ❤
Amy’s voice is so beautiful 🥰🥰🥰
Love Amy and Matt! Great episode!
I’ve heard story 4 somewhere? Is it a repeat here?
I think what needs to be remembered in the first story is dad’s can experience postnatal depression as well. Was it a traumatic birth that he didn’t cope with? It doesn’t excuse behaviours but sometimes knowing what’s happening for the other person helps
If it was traumatic birth then that's even more reason for him to step up and help her, simce shes the one who had to actually go through it.
@@petalchild I work in a birthing suite and see how the effects fall on the birthing partners as well. Sometimes what you see can be more mentally traumatic than what is happening to the one giving birth. Not saying he shouldn’t step up but just saying there is likely to be mental health at play here as well. When 2 people can’t identify and address their issue and get counselling for it relationships fall apart like this.
I love the Minnesota episodes, because you always film with that table, and it reminds me of my family's kitchen table
It really makes a difference who reads the stories, a little hard to follow this episode
Part 2 needed with Amy and Matt!!! I missed you Jerry!!
I feel like Jerry kept talking over Amy the whole time. I feel like she has a lot of good thoughts and ideas on these stories and she isn’t being allowed to fully share her own thoughts without being interrupted by Jerry (and sometimes Matt).
I find it hard to follow along to Amy reading… 😕
yea me too she sounded bored and like she was fallin asleep..
Great episode, had some trouble hearing when the stories were being read though.
Petition to have Amy do ASMR, thank you!
In regards to the abusive mother, it’s easy to say she needs therapy, parenting classes etc. but does she have the time? Does she have family or friends to watch her kids & give her a break. It’s not the friends responsibility but if I was her & chose to stick around I’d say, “I notice you’re really stressed & you’re taking it out on your children which will only cause everyone more pain & stress. Can I baby sit while you have a therapy, can I help you find resources, can I go to a parenting class with you?” And so on. Does she have people around her who can help her if she wants to take time to heal & be better. If not, telling her she needs help doesn’t do much. Does she have safe family you can talk to & ask for help?
Maybe child services will demand parenting classes, I doubt they’d take her kids with no proof of severe abuse but if that did that could be more traumatic.
The friend doesn’t have to stick around but if she does how can the mom get help & support & how can you confront her with love? If you want to. Or is there people close by you can reach out to?
she in another state too so seems kinda like shes talkin based off a one off...and judging her lifestyle instead of helping...
@@BisexualBeauty Actually it seems like she sees the psychological and physical abuse on a daily basis and just can't take it anymore. She said others have seen her screaming at the kids too. And like Jerry said if that'a what she does openly what is she capable of doing behind close doors?
Abusing your kids it's not a lifestyle
I love Morgan and Jerry’s family! Also it’s okay Jerry if you don’t know how to fix stuff, your lesbian daughter here (me) is sending you the good “fix-it” vibes!
I love that thank you so much. Where are you today? I’m working on a car. I could use your help.
I loved your room, loved it loved, loved
Next, I hope there’s someone out to help me the Python Language on a PI3 Based software package
@@jerrysiegel3354 I wish! I would help y’all out if I was over there! I’m in Colorado. I hope the Minnesota weather is nice over there like it is here :) finally a release from the snow!
This is so great I just wish Amy would read a little bit louder and faster lol
Amy's talking is too soothing, I'm drifting away😂
For the enabling friend story, if the way she is with her kids is a representation of how her parents acted, maybe mentioning how she feels about her parents (bc there's probably not positive relationship with her own parents if so) will help it be put into perspective?
hi i am so early! i love fks and tht!!! you guys always make my day so much better ❤
The end is hilarious
Listening to them laugh at Amy in the first story after calling her a "bitter woman" hurts as a woman. That man was not a father, he is a lazy deadbeat that locked down his wife with a child and refused to take responsibility, leaving is not easy in that circumstance. Do better y'all, don't call women shit like that.
Amy's voice is so calming
Story one sounded so familiar to me besides the cheating but that resentment is hard to get past after doing it ALL on your own as a new mother. My son is 3 and his father was very much like that but is a much better parent now that our son is a toddler but STILL it’s so hard to get over the resentment even now. I am for the most part past it but it still hurts knowing I did it all for that long and knowing his lack of involvement during those times when I had NO IDEA what I was doing (thank god for my amazing parents) it’s hurtful basically is what I’m saying… just here to say I understand and relate big time! If you don’t want to stay then you shouldn’t stay mama! ❤️ You deserve happiness.
Amy the fact that you worked on breastfeeding for 4 months is crazy to me, I gave it maybe a week and gave up 😂
Jerry know best!
Yay, a new one!
For the addiction story, they have alanon or naranon for family members of addicts and alcoholics. My mom used to do it, they go thru the 12 steps too
Story number 3, I can vouch for how what that woman is screaming at her kids, and while it wasn’t my parents who were abusive. My paternal grandmother (who should really never have been entrusted with her own kids,let alone with her grandchildren. I know my father’s growing up was chaotic and abusive, and while he never abused us(I have 2 older sisters), he was definitely cowed by his family of origin. I know for a fact(from my dad) that one of his grandfathers was so toxic that he brought in a mistress to his home, and sent his wife to live in the chicken coup. And while such places have in theory been turned into actual living quarters, I don’t imagine that was done for his grandmother. His father was a serial cheater, and boy howdy did my dad learn that lesson. Meanwhile, I felt like I had an amazing growing up experience with two parents who were deeply in love with each other,and never fought. (This was not entirely the case, but that’s all beside the point.)My grandmother verbally abused me for as long as I can remember, and, truthfully my dad never stood up for me against her. Thankfully it was usually only about a week a year that she visited. By the time I was nine, I was prescribed tranquilizers to cope with her visits. This was back in the late 70s and early 80s, when schedule 2 drugs were prescribed at the drop of a hat. She died in 1985, and I hated myself because I was almost glad she was gone. As an adult I struggle with a number of medical issues that I’ve never heard of as being related. But I’ve bern clinically depressed since high school. I’ve bounced in and out of therapy since my junior year of high school, and have miraculously stumbled on someone I consider to be an excellent fit. I am morbidly obese and struggle with any sense of self worth. I’m also a binge eater, hence the current therapist, but lately I’ve been having bad thoughts, and am having the bad thoughts. The seriously bad thoughts, and while my grandmother was only sporadically in my life, I get the feeling she was a major contributor to my issues, while my father never in any sense abused me/us,he was fairly absent, even when he was home with us. So, be very careful either way how you treat kids, and how you condone ways other people treat their kids
Happy to see Matt and Amy! but it was a little hard to follow listening to the stories... I feel spoiled by Justin and Morgan's reading voices
If you’re unfit to be a parent and constantly express that you don’t want to, you made a big mistake. You’re children should be taken, because you’re not actually a parent at that point. It should be easier maybe to get them back after you do some therapy and take some parenting classes, but that lady really needs someone to make her reflect on what she actually wants and what kind of people she wants to raise 😅the world has enough assholes. I really hope her friend can pry her eyes open to realize she is abusing her children. No wonder the oldest still wets the bed.
She did ADRESS the problem MÚLTIPLE TIMES!!! He would change one week and then go back the both work and he was a bumb ass dad staying on the couch on the phone I did not appreciate how sexist their support was on the first story. “Bitter lady” omg I’m just infuriated. Just because he’s a man you give him the whole ass benefit of the doubt?? Did they not understand the story hello??? (Also this is in no way saying cheating is ok but seriously blaming her for him not understanding he should be a present father??? God it’s not a grown ass woman’s job to tell a grown ass man to help around the house and help with the baby stop blaming women for mens lack of interest and asshole behaviours)
Sorry, Amy, but I'm with your husband on story 1. If OP wants out, then she's out, but it's pretty clear from the writing that the husband is trying. It may be too little too late. OP isn't in love and hasn't been satisfied for some time - hence the cheating, but it's clear it boils down to communication. They can't communicate their priorities, desires, failures, or plans, and she is tired of trying. You can't sus out if the husband is being an active parent from only this side of the story. Neither of them are heroes, but it's clear one of them doesn't want the relationship to end.
Awww❤ 1:26 what an awesome podcast
It's so good to hear Matt and Amy again, I missed you guys! Great episode as always ❤
In my opinion, he should have stepped up long before she cheated. It's not her fault that he abandoned her and I would leave him. Sorry I want a partner not another kid
didn’t u read the 4th story in a previous episode?
Minnesota is such a beautiful place 🤍
Love from Russia.
Wow I’m so early!! 💗
Matt looking he looks like he doesn't even want to listen to his own wife is so frustrating
the way she reads kind of drives me insane, this was a tough episode to get through lol
She reminded me of my mom after my little sister, she was so used to read slowly for my sister that she continued for a while after she grew up😂
@@leilacav4222 yesss 100% reads like a mom 😂 it almost put me to sleep hahaha
Matt really annoyed me this episode, I couldn’t finish it. He continued to defend the men even though they were clearly in the wrong whilst calling his wife a bitter women? No. Walking red flag. Will not be listening to any episodes with him in again
YUP. His face when Amy is talking and then calling her a bitter woman over there… hard no for this one
yea hes macho...reminds of a jock dude like the bro type guys ..
clicked so fast for Amyyyyy❤
edit - but stayed for matt😄
It definitely wasn’t the other guy’s baby. How did she get that from what was said?
I noticed you guys talk about mental health a lot. Please make a mental health episode!!!
Amy sounds so much like Delilah from Sunny 99.1
Yall blew that first story.
This episode fell really hard 😢
Matt came off like a jerk. Amy seems very sweet
1st story, i think they were both equally wrong and just need to seperate. Yes he didnt step up and lacked huge. She communicated and then let it go instead of making a decision right there and then. Stop letting significant others lack because its easier. Stop accepting less then what you are worth making you feel less worthy, then, going and cheating because you needed more. Making you feel worse about yourself. Let him go and live life happily!
Yikes Matt's attitude and perspective in this was really disappointing
I’d love to hear more of your thoughts on this. Always down to grow. 😊
@@matthewlaflamme7540 you seemed to empathize a lot with the boyfriend in the first story. You kept defending/advocating for him after he had continuously neglected to help her with their child (and you seemed to ignore that she HAD talked to him about it several times and nothing changed). If you listened to that story and found yourself siding with the boyfriend, who is so clearly not a good partner, you should do some self reflection to figure out why and whether that same imbalance exists in your own relationship
So early 😅
16:39 She was just saying the way she was interpreting the story (which most people would agree with anyway). So unfair to call her a “bitter lady” Matt. I hope you apologised because that was out of line.
I'm sensing some defensive attitude from Matt. He kept defending the male partner's perspectives. Idk. Sth is off with their dynamic.
Matt’s hand is so pale compared to his arm lol
Your comment made me giggle and then check his arms😂
Oh, I loved each and everyone of your takes. Everyone has been focused on story one so I am going to comment about story 3.
I agree with the takes, somewhat.
I am I say at home mom and I used to be so stressed out with only having a life of being a mom and not having a life for my self.
I would say things like I can’t stand these children, or I would flip my booty because I felt so overwhelmed with all the tasks I had, and not being able to handle everything on top of things for myself. Just because I said those things out of frustration, I never once didn’t love my kids. I think talking to her first and not calling CPS would be best going first.
I had to be called out and realize that I needed help.
The difference was that I’d never hit my kids out of anger or for no reason but I do believe in disciplining my child when it is necessary, so I don’t agree that a “spanking” is child abuse.
Proverbs 13:24 “He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly”.
I am now learning to have patience with each one of my children and getting treated for depression was the best thing I could have ever done.
Please let me ask - in your adult life have you ever learned anything because someone hit you? If you've done something incorrectly in your job, would you let your boss hit you as a punishment? Spanking doesn't teach anything, it only installs fear in children. There are lots of studies that prove that it's simply counterproductive and hurts children's development. If it's not acceptable to hit an adult, it's not acceptable to hit a child.
Matts Looks Extremely . Interested. And does anyone else get annoyed by the dad. I don't know he just irks me
i felt a connection to my baby but i also wanted her since i was young ik id be a mother and when my man and I made her it was magical and Ill always remember that moment when she came out tho i did say " no thats not my baby" lmao i had a emergency c sec and was alone with midwife who sucked...and had to deal with crazy MIL lying starting issues gettin cps on my ass she racist POS and luckily no contact with her nemore. as a baby she was hella easy tho now she is a pain in thr ass she tryies to act like me soooo much i never thought shed want to be me lmao i never was like that as a kid she is very diff personality sometimes i feel like i am raising my mom as a child the similarities is funny cuz i have none physically to mother.
Omg love Amy’s POV but please don’t let her read again…. it’s so slow and I’m trying to hear the story already 😂😂😂 it just hits different when it’s from Jerry or Morgan.
I love Amy’s reading and voice! Good job everyone!
Sounds like Amy gonna fall asleep reading the stories kinda haha need more animation in the voice or i zone out( also feel needs to open her mouth cuz i couldnt understand what she was sayin especially story 4)... but the 3rd story sounds like the chick is not great multiple baby daddies is a red flag in my experience....cps aint gonna do shit either...just gonna cause more issues and stress on the kids and mother. spanking if done for discipline is not abuse and i dont see anything she said as abuse however idk her vibe or how she is sayin it the kid wetting the bed is a red flag tho...does she have multiple bfs? only thing i can say if offer for her kids to come stay with you and see if you feel the way she does by end of the month...kids are a lot of work and can be ruthless and mean so we need to know more really. nothing wrong with yelling some kids need to be yelled at i was one of those kids swearing is w.e my kid knows not to say it in fact she tells me not to swear and i am trying to teach they are just a word nothing worse about the word shit than sayin "poop" its w.e. Best bet is a wellness check...but cps is not gonna do anything ik someone who kept their kid and shouldnt have and as well as people who get their kids taken when they shouldnt. so unless u gonna offer help just seems like ur in another state claiming she does these things an how do u kno if ur in another state?
Matt defends the man but shits on the female when shes doin it alone granted she spread her legs and had the kids there may have been things that happened she didnt expect...
👎🏼👎🏼👎🏼 nothing but L takes here
Is it just me or does Amy have the BEST podcast voice??
No. It’s just you lol I hate how she reads and talks, like she’s not allowed to be louder. And she reads incredibly slow. I like this podcast and I don’t want her back
The only thing I couldn't take was how amy read the 1st story a hundred times again and again. We get it 😂 and idk how she thought op got the ectopic px from cheating 💁
I’m sorry I hate the way amy reads 😭 it’s so slow like please I like fast reads I nearly didn’t watch this episode bc of her reading. Sorry
Story 1: I dont know if op has answered if her partner was diagnosed with perinatal depression. Dads can suffer from it as well especially if its unexpected. Just because someone didn't feel the bond before nor after a birth doesnt mean that they dont care about their relationship or the baby, it just means they're suffering from a mental disorder that affects their ability to enjoy being a parent and partner. And if you don't enjoy something, youre less likely to do it frequently even if you know its health related. You cant fix a wrong with a wrong but OP didn't mention if they took him to therapy before the pregnancy nor did they mention couples therapy after the birth until a few years later after the loss of the second pregnancy and cheating.
Op knew something was off but just kept to herself and her partner did try as stated by her but it wouldn't work. And it wouldn't work because just having a ritual alone can't fix a mental disorder if it was a mental disorder. I feel OP wants to leave because she doesn't want to work out a solution, because if there was a solution it would mean that she would have to acknowledge that her actions of cheating would be her own fault and responsibility for harming the relationship for no real reason. And that acknowledgement hurts. So cheaters blame the victim of the cheating so that they dont have to take up the responsibility of the cheating.
Having a mental disorder is challenging to acknowledge or seek treatment for because society has these expectations of being instantly stepping up and instantly bonding with your baby. Any behavior that contradicts these expectations makes you appear to be this unfeeling, lazy and evil person when the reality is the opposite. So I can see how the dad didn't want to address that he cant be super dad, so he stayed quiet about it. But ofc this is all assuming that he has the diagnosis of it
First story reminds me of my ex husband who is a narcissist they are only sorry when they think they’ll lose you
Amy is awful at reading stories...