I did my due diligence. He pursued me for at least 3 months. Finally, gave him a chance and showed me he can meet my standards. Conveyed me that he’s looking for a relationship that leads to marriage. After a month being in a committed relationship he started to back off and I asked him it was his insecurities, he said he has nothing to offer blah blah, and eventually I started to back off as well. It hurts because at that point I’m emotionally involved and he even cooked dinner for us a few times and prayed for our relationship. Before you know it he told me that he’s not ready for a “serious relationship” instead of getting mad I told him “You take care of yourself” then he cried. While I felt like I want to hold on to our relationship I can’t be with someone that doesn’t know what he wants and made me feel not valued. I left and never look back…
Right he went in with the marriage line thinking he could get you in bed. After a month and realizing you weren't budging he went after somebody who would fall
Yes many men are willing to say all the right words in order to deceive. Your actions were wise. We must always be ready to leave a relationship when they prove to be a deceiver
Yes you are so right the real them will show up within 3 to 6 Mos. So you did the right thing and moved on. It hurts but God will see you through and you saved yourself much more pain later and you still have your self respect and your dignity. Wait on God for he has your King just around the corner. Be blessed my sister in Christ Amen ❤
Deanna, I had a very handsome sergeant trying to recruit me in my gym. I had already gone thru an academy and didn't want to do it again, plus their training camp was hundreds of miles away and I would have to relocate for 6 months which I couldn't afford. But this guy persisted relentlessly for a couple of months trying to recruit me. He was always popping up out of nowhere. I felt the busy gym wasn't anyplace to talk about a serious life change, I was uncomfortable. I wasn't very interested in joining but he persisted. Finally I got upset with him and walked away. I started chatting with a guy friend and suddenly my friend went pale. I turned around and the sergeant was behind me steaming hot with anger because I was talking to another male. I got very scared when the sarge approached me and brushed against my back. He softened his angry face and continued slowly walking away in a very goofy flirty sort of way. I intentionally stayed away from the gym for a few days. it was then that I realized he was jealous and I wondered if his persistence was based on a crush. What do you think of this?
@@mickeyblue7 don’t wait! Go find your man, and stand around him until he makes his move. As long as you’re available, he’ll make a move. Don’t sit there in a corner, waiting for Mr. right to come along, because he won’t. All you get is a bunch of attractive players who sleep with you a night and then leave.
Yess! I'm not a clown. I'm a queen and i should have my king.. My king is ain't like other man.. He will pursue me.. He pursues me because i am worthy and deserving to be with him
My husband pursued me..I set boundaries before marriage and he respected them and agreed. I have the best marriage ever! What you see of him in public is him behind closed doors. Thank you Lord that I followed your path towards a peaceful life.
“Calling it out” is more masculine energy. “No thank you” is walking away. If a man gets distant, applying distance and going about your business or moving on with your life is feminine. If you feel a tug in your heart, that’s a signal, it’s over. Anxious feelings are your bodies way of sensing disappointment. Replace the anxious feelings of disappointment with treating yourself to time with yourself. Give room for the right man to find you. These are things I have struggled with in the past. Right now working on myself is the best energy I can give myself.
Exactly. Pin point it to yourself and move on. In a more recent video, RC talks about if a man triggers you in a real bad way put, him out your presence, set boundaries to protect yourself from ppl unworthy of you.
This is truth. We can sense disinterest and games but we tend to look over it or waste time trying to encourage him/her to show more interest. Sometimes we start doing things to seek their approval in hopes of impressing them when we get that "tingle in our spirit" or feel them pull way-instead of just moving on and forward. I will be single for the rest of my life before I work overtime to pull someone back in that's becoming distant or even initiate the conversation to address it.👋🏼💨
I’ve gotten very good at not chasing anymore. As soon as I see a “man” get distant, I call it out, and if he makes an excuse or doesn’t change it, I just block and move on 👏🏽
Yes I really want to accomplish and normalize to stop chasing the man I am dealing with. I'm just wanting to overcome what has been hard for me to get pass
I ran across this content when my husband passed away in July 2021. 23 years of MARRIAGE 💑 and my husband pursued me. Well women, if you want your mate Wait on God and He shall give you YOUR MATE!!!
“A feminine woman, makes every respectable man feel like a king”, my grandma taught me something very similar to this. I’m grateful for her teaching & yours.
Know that you are always the prize and neither do you need to be chased. Maintaining our standards is what drives his standards up, so hold your ground because those who are for you will commit to stepping up
@ janet Sullivan only grown girls can't do with out a man. Yes I completely agree let God direct your path to attract & approve your 🤴 king. I love u all so much God bless.
@zee Wash they are probably not the one if he gets angry or bewildered. The right one and the healthy one ! If he gets angry he could be a toxic narcissist
My late husband said that he knew I was going to be his wife when he first saw me. Queen, a king wants just that. Like Dr. Blake’s said, look your best whenever you leave your home and make sure you’ve covered yourself in prayer and ask the Lord for knowledge 🙏🏽🙌🏽👏
Can attest. I chased men who all needed a help er - but it's the same. They are takers. The "body count" is real. I was married for 11 years. He, too, was one that I chased. I have finally, after being with a person for a majority of my adult life, have paused to stop, think, and figure it out. Thank you RC Blakes for sharing this truth. Coming from a man, this is so incredibly powerful. I attracted emotionally immature and unavailable, or those that would not put in their own work to figure themselves out. So, I stopped and looked at myself in the mirror. You've got to place boundaries in place. There is no fear of missing out, except on ANOTHER relationship that is not in alignment with God's purpose . Stop, pause, and step into the identity that Christ has for us. Thank you again. Cannot say enough about this ministry.
Wives don’t sleep with men before marriage. It always Worked for me. GOD is right. However, I must admit even though that’s works if he’s seriously interested in you- not sleeping with him before marriage gets him to the altar. But, it doesn’t mean the marriage will last.
@@ibiminaabiye257 I think to gain knowledge at any age is a Blessing. We can't change what we did yesterday but we can change what we do today and tomorrow. 🌹
1. Reciprocate a man's respectful effort to pursue you (smile); 2. Be interested but never too obvious about how serious your interest is; 3. Find the thing in his conversation that is praise-worthy and sincerely celebrate him; 4. Look him in his eyes and give him your complete attention; 5. Be somebody who is unforgettable (attitude; attractiveness - put yourself together; dress for yourself; accomplishments)
Um you can have a woman who looks like Halle berry, she can have a heart of gold & treat him well. If a man isn’t interested, or want the woman it doesn’t matter.
Yes, I’m not religious but I realized that I don’t have to chase men or give up sex to get commitment. At very least it will protect my heart. I ask myself - what would a Queen do? If a man doesn’t like you enough to commit, why give him your heart, body and soul? That only leads to pain. “You have to be a wife to find a husband” … I am trying to be a good companion to myself, so I am a full and happy, but I welcome a king 👑
NAILED IT! This generation (me included) needs to stop and listen to wise counsel, and stop going with what everyone around them is doing. You're advise is right on! I need to listen to it over and over, to let it soak in and recreate my values, boundaries, and standards.
Amen! Social media has made this world so toxic and unhealthy All it shows is a “baby mama” culture with a bunch of clowns (in my RC Blake’s voice LOL) all the women are full of beautiful bodies mostly fake and foul mouths rotten souls and cocky prize thinking men..my daughter is 21 and she and I do 1 week together with RC Blake teachings so she will not be in this false world advertisement
@@chrisparker6249 I don’t know ! I’ve been married twice, and now I’m dating My boyfriend from 20 years ago, he tells me he loves me, he has stopped calling and only texts now, he says it’s because I am so busy with my RUclips channel and he doesn’t want to disturb me, I told him I don’t feel disturbed when it’s you, but he still texts! Lol I dunno 🤷♀️
@@sarahinmyblessedkitchen5064 He could be respecting your time but I don't feel it's that. Men like attention too, so if he feels something else has your attention, then he will slowly fade. And what lead you back to him after 20yrs?
Don’t know why mothers and fathers miss that talk with their kids. It’s very damaging. I never received the talk as well. I am 51 turned away from many men because I had no knowledge of real love just dating the wrong type and doing the wrong things myself as well. I know I let the good one’s past and accepted the bad.
It is something I have always been touched by, when a man tells me he finds me attractive, even if I don't feel the same, I always smile and let them know they made my day
I had a man give me his SS#, DL, key to his place, passwords, phonecode, banking & CC info & still was a 🤡 trying to wear a crown. I would never reciprocate that until God has approved.
Sooooo. A Man pursued me from church. Said he’d been observing me for a month. He’s shorter than I’d like lol. But he is very kind, and gosh if I thought I knew the Word, this Man has been edifying my Spirit! Aside from this, we are getting to know each other, it’s only been 2 weeks. He contacts me Every day. Tells me his ins and outs. Prays for me daily. Is it okay to have this much interaction? He IS the one pursuing me, I respond to whatever he sends me. He even spoke to our Pastor and asked if it were okay to continue pursuing me. To me, he seems like a serious Man the most serious Man I have EVER had interest with.
It is so nice to hear this. All the advice I get from friends is that I need to be the pursuer, because guys are now used to women pursuing. My answer every time is, "I already have to be 'the man' in every aspect of my life right now. Dating is the one area (right now) where I don't want to be that."
Get RID of those people who. say this to you.. They don't have you best interess for you..but they want you to throw yourself away..with an unwprthy man...
Sis you just preached a whole WORD! I can absolutely relate to that as a single mother! No ma’am I’m not chasing nobody son 😂😂😂 I’ll wait to God sends the right man to pursue me!
If you chase a man and get him, you will be mothering him like a baby for the rest of the time you're together. You'll be paying for everything, and playing what supposed to be his role.
This is beautiful. I’ve noticed that when men speak to me and I speak back with a smile, they always seem to walk away looking as if they’ve just won the lottery. what an honor it is to know that I’ve had that kind of an impact on that individual, because in these days one never knows what a person is going through and perhaps by acknowledging him and returning his greeting with a sincere smile set the catalyst for his day.😊
But if you don't LOVE him.. It's useless...bc yes it's important to be treated good..but first you have to love one another..then comes all the rest...
How to be unforgettable 1 you gotta reciprocate once you identify the man who’s pursuing you not chasing you 2 be interested, never to obvious about your interest prematurely, don’t be easy to read Proverbs 29:11 3 Find the thing in his conversation that is praise worthy and can be celebrated, learn to pour into this man (build him up) 4 Learn how to look a man in the eye shows respect value and sincerity and you can discern any deception in him Matthew 6: 22-23 5 Have the right attitude. Be polite, gentle, calm, relaxing just to name a few examples
This message is over a yr old..but resonating with me today!! So elated that God brought me to this channel... this is exactly what I need during this season in my life!!! Let God's will be done!!
" You know when you're put together coz there is a swag you get, there is a confidence" " When you dress for yourself and you feel good about what you're rocking, there's a confidence that you have that becomes contagious " "And you walk in and you know you're slamming" That Got me right there! 🙌
I totally agree! 💯- as soon as i began to dress for myself and wear flattering clothes and makeup and nice jewelry people notice that you like yourself- when you do this without a man in the picture you have self-love and confidence that radiates because you are reflecting your and accepting of His handiwork- YOU and it will start turning heads and attracting compliments all the time- we must be whole and complete with just God alone first
Lots of men want top wife materisl but bring nothing of substance within himself to the table...QUEENS WE ARE THE PRIZE....DONT SETTLE...LET HIM COME WITH HAT IN HAND TO EARN THIS PRIZE...
This is so true seen no w with dababby but it’s also the women responsibility I’m sorry but grown people know what is right and wrong and the fact that she gave him kids is her consequence why I am 35 and no kids and learned the hard pain of learning my lessons and using them.! I’m waiting on God to bring my husband in the meantime in all about me goals, health, healing from pain, traveling focused on my empire till He comes my way.! Glad I found you sir.!❤️🙏
I did the same thing a few months ago. He didn't appreciate me. I'm so tired of people not appreciating me. To show him he was appreciated,, I would take him out to dinner as well as he took me out. After I told him it was over, he text me a very nasty message. Smh... I'm so glad it's over because someone will appreciate all of me.
"A queen is basically a king in a dress. She has the same kind of mentality, same kind of temperament, same kind of power. She can accomplish all of the same stuff."
Thank you so much. I am exiting an abusive relationship and this really makes a lot of sense. I can see the wounded feminine in my family. It makes so much sense.. the generational trauma. I never learned how to be a woman and so I became a very guarded masculine woman to survive.. as I’m leaving this relationship I am really going to work on healing these wounded pieces. Thank you god bless.
Stepped on my toes today. Especially when you said treating a man with dignity in pursue of you with honor. I have been guilty of treating me that I wasn't interested in badly, really rudely. Not proud of that. Many times as woman we think about how men hurt or reject us. But never think about how we hurt and rejected Men. Thank you again. On time message as usual.
Pastor you are 100% spot on. My parents always said, "This name was clean when I gave it to you. Keep it that way." They told me to be a leader not a follower. I've always done my best to do both. I tell the young women of today to stand out from the crowd. Put some clothes on. Men don't like sharing...save something that's just for them. Those that don't listen always complain that they can't find a good man so I'm sharing this video with them. Thank you for continuing to tell the truth 🙏🏽 ❤
Good evening Mr. RC Blake's ...I've have been listening to your videos for a year now, out of 26 years of my life, because of your videos I'm awoken. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge to women that were asleep. I appreciate your presence so much on RUclips. 🇬🇾
You are indeed an empowerment teacher! I have never laughed so much while at the same time receiving life-changing wisdom and guidance. You will probably never know the revolutionary impact that your teachings have had on so many of us. I pray that our loving God may increase you a hundred-fold in all areas of your life! Be blessed most abundantly!🙏🏽
This message is so vital to the health and well being of the woman and having the right relationship. If you see yourself pursuing & investing more into the man …. Stop and Evaluate and Detach from the situation, a real man will never allow a woman he is interested to pursue him. Great teaching
this message come to me at such the perfect time! a guy just said he was interested in me, and i immediately knew that i wasnt interested in him just because i judged compatibility immediately, however i gave him my number to be nice, but ive been fighting with how to break it to him that i am not interested. Hearing Pastor Blakes message, to always be kind even in rejection was the impetus i needed. He's fine with being friends now, and i am so grateful to the advice from Pastor, so that i didnt break his spirit. Thank you RC Blakes!
A rejected man or woman..Will NEVER be your friend...Will fake It..but in his/her Heart Will Always be the idea of how to. be something else for you..so you should totally. BREAK with this man ...trying in the future to not encourage others like him..this Is the way you do less harm to Who your not interested in...
@@Maria__57 Some people are functioning adults who can gracefully accept that a connection didn't work romantically but recognize that there's still platonic/friendly chemistry. I've had guys who I've respectfully rejected and we remained friends (some of them for up to a decade and one for longer than that). Many eventually moved on to date/marry other people and even start families. Many adults are well-adjusted, level headed, emotionally secure and mature. You're describing childish people who don't know what they're about (and would benefit from therapy to work through that frankly disturbing way of viewing/dealing with people).
"You have to be a wife before the wedding." Not saying that you should give a man wife benefits before the wedding, but you should be thinking and carrying yourself with a wife mindset❤
Pastor English is my second language, I am Colombian , I love how you explain everything so clear and funny . Every video makes me laugh and reflect in the same time What a blessing that I found you and can learn from this wonderful counsel. Blessings to you and your wife.
I'm so glad you talked on this subject women have forgotten this... and now men aspects women to chase them !!! A real woman that knows her worth don't chase men and that's a fact 💯 !!!
As you become older than 35, and especially if you are divorced and have children, you don't need to chase men, you just need to realize that the Man that carries high value is only going to accept someone that he views as equal or higher value than Himself. The challenges come in correctly understanding the aspects HE uses to determine Your value.
It's a good idea to date more than one man at the same time. Last year I had two men pursuing me at the same time. I observed their character and watched they're actions. After a while it became evident that one was high quality and the other was low quality in terms of character. I dropped the low quality one and appreciate the higher quality man even more.
This lesson is the lesson I have been waiting my WHOLE LIFE! Pastor, you have no idea how much you blessed me tonight. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!🙏🏾
Agree 💯 I usually listen to the messages over and over. Really are blessing me. I’m truly blessed that God is moving in me to understand that I’m truly his daughter, wants the best for all women, just know your worth and your life will open up to so many possibilities. Thank Pastor Blake’s...for speaking what God has put in your spirit to teach us.
I'm attractive, intelligent I own my own business and home. I've decided to be celibate as I have for five years now. I'm not dating but paying attention to my finances. I'm not gay. I'm just tired of wasting time on something with no pay off. My career pays off and I can do the things in life I enjoy. Thank you
I agree with everything you are speaking about, and appreciate your wisdom. The problem in society as to why so many women including myself have pursued in the past, or been in our masculine energy , Is due to the fact that so many women have been fatherless, including myself, so we have had to play the role of father and mother in our children’s lives because we then were attracted to the wrong types of Men, since we didn’t have any good Man as a Father to show us the right way a girl or daughter should be treated , so it’s been trial and error, a lot of soul work with God to get us back into our feminine ways😇😇
And to be a single/woman in heavy competition of daily life is also masculine, it creates division and separation in every aspect of her.A weight she was not created to carry. To walk only in your feminine as a single woman is accually not a practical or safe thing for her to do. So in essence the very thing she needs to do practically for her family is the very thing that keeps her unattractive. No wonder everyone is depressed. You can't receive encouragement and grace from depressed people, and God work through people.
BISHOP YOU TEACH WITH SO MUCH WISDOM & HUMOR!!! IM LISTENING BUT IM ALSO OVER HERE ROLLING!! THANKS FOR THESE PRICELESS BIBLICAL & REAL LIFE JEWELS YOU DROPPED ON TODAY!!!
The only thing I disagreed with was not letting a man know your true interest. And it may be my age, but when I first dated my now-husband, I told him up front that I was looking for a husband, not a boyfriend. I was 57, and didn't have time for game playing. My message in that statement was that as a high value woman, I was not going to be fooling around having sex with anyone forever, while they future faked, nor was I going to pursue, or chase anyone. I took a chance by saying this, but if he didn't respond favorably, I would have just saved myself a whole lot of time and possibly, heartache. It turns out though, that he was looking for a wife; so when I was honest about what I wanted, he began acting like a husband immediately. I can't stand game playing. Being up front was the best for us.
@@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64 Congratulations. In my early 30s right now so I plan on being blunt too about certain things ASAP when I meet him. I am not here for games and I'm saving myself for marriage. 😅
This applies to marriage too. Even if he "brought you to the altar", it doesn't mean much of you are the breadwinner and he expects you to be his mom, wallet, and caretaker. This happens more and more.
You are still young and able to make a change from now and seek your lifetime partner: husband or wife, friend, lover and confidant oh Hallelujah 🤷🏾♀️ since listening to Pastor Blake's that proposals are coming my way. If God is doing it for me, ask for it be done for you in Jesus mighty name Amen 🙏🏾
It would have been nice. However, I'm glad to get it. I feel you, it's encouraging, at our age. Most men I attract are younger than me. I'm looking forward to what's next in life. When ya dead, ya done...
Prec that perspective @MadAboutMeechie.. about time SOMEBODY understands that. Too many ppl expect Men to just perform like we aren't human and don't have similar desires women have in regards to being loved for real. We do. Too many stereotypes and expectations of old. This isn't the 60s, 70s, and 80s.. lol smh. Stop it.
I don't think he means play games. As women we can get a bit too much excited when we first meet a man and not really know his true intentions. Not texting back so fast is just a way of pumping your own brakes and reminding yourself you just met this man. There are a lot of people young and old out here playing games and just because you are not playing a game don't mean that he isn't playing a game. Once you get to know a man and it's obvious he is a good guy then it's ok to make him feel wanted...just my opinion.
Thank you Mr Blake God bless you...coming from a 31 year old black woman that's broken spiritually and has been set back in life thank you from the bottom of my heart for your messages ❤
I have been listening to you for a few days now and today I had an epiphany. I realized I was doing things backward this whole time. God bless you and I am grateful for your ministry.
This video (along with every other R.C Blake video) is an absolute GEM💎I’m a 23 y/o woman who is learning to master self love, self respect & femininity. These videos make me feel so empowered & give me the knowledge I need to take my power back after I let a man who I chased for YEARS destroy my mental health & self worth. Just after a few videos I learned what I needed to do & began to make small changes in myself. He noticed that & told me he was falling back in love with me, however HE needs to watch a few lessons on Kingology before we could ever work things out again. Point being, Pastor is RIGHT. I am forever grateful that God led me to this channel❤️
, I was married over 21 years and I always use to praise that individual and I never knew I was married to a Narcissist, I always tried too please that individual and I thank God I been separated for almost 3 years and I feel good, I’m waiting on the Lord for the one that God has for me, enjoying the single life♥️♥️♥️🤗
@@lisaharris5473 doesn’t it feel good, I feel like it’s a dream come true that God literally removed that individual, people see a big difference, I feel good, every day is a new day, fresh air, God is our true love until he bring someone into our life, this time we do not choose but we let him choose our spouse👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👍🏽🤗Glory🤗
@@Jerseygirl_J ...thanks for the encouragement, God has shown me so much about the marriage, he broke my heart to save my Life... in the waiting room with God.getting to know myself all over again.. I love it.. learned so much.. candle soap making, seamoss.. NEW LIFE
Listening to this at 20 really makes me take in everything R.C Blake is saying. I want a great relationship with my savior Jesus and also my father passed away when I was 4 years old. I Am a girl who chased guys, and they all ran from me. I now know Better is out there for me and I am becoming such a wise women. When I reflect on how I use to treat myself. Change has begun for me and I’m excited about the journey. P.s my mom told me about these videos and I’ve never took the time to watch them now I thanks her should have listened.
I did my due diligence. He pursued me for at least 3 months. Finally, gave him a chance and showed me he can meet my standards. Conveyed me that he’s looking for a relationship that leads to marriage. After a month being in a committed relationship he started to back off and I asked him it was his insecurities, he said he has nothing to offer blah blah, and eventually I started to back off as well. It hurts because at that point I’m emotionally involved and he even cooked dinner for us a few times and prayed for our relationship. Before you know it he told me that he’s not ready for a “serious relationship” instead of getting mad I told him “You take care of yourself” then he cried. While I felt like I want to hold on to our relationship I can’t be with someone that doesn’t know what he wants and made me feel not valued. I left and never look back…
This is going around lol. Very hard to tell when they play the long con game...He was never serious.
Right he went in with the marriage line thinking he could get you in bed. After a month and realizing you weren't budging he went after somebody who would fall
So sorry for the pain it caused you. Hugs my sister. Keep moving forward, your king is on his way…
Yes many men are willing to say all the right words in order to deceive. Your actions were wise. We must always be ready to leave a relationship when they prove to be a deceiver
Yes you are so right the real them will show up within 3 to 6 Mos. So you did the right thing and moved on. It hurts but God will see you through and you saved yourself much more pain later and you still have your self respect and your dignity. Wait on God for he has your King just around the corner. Be blessed my sister in Christ Amen ❤
Queens, leave them alone. If they want you, they will find you-no matter what. Let them come for you. Wait for it!
Deanna, I had a very handsome sergeant trying to recruit me in my gym. I had already gone thru an academy and didn't want to do it again, plus their training camp was hundreds of miles away and I would have to relocate for 6 months which I couldn't afford. But this guy persisted relentlessly for a couple of months trying to recruit me. He was always popping up out of nowhere. I felt the busy gym wasn't anyplace to talk about a serious life change, I was uncomfortable.
I wasn't very interested in joining but he persisted. Finally I got upset with him and walked away. I started chatting with a guy friend and suddenly my friend went pale. I turned around and the sergeant was behind me steaming hot with anger because I was talking to another male.
I got very scared when the sarge approached me and brushed against my back. He softened his angry face and continued slowly walking away in a very goofy flirty sort of way.
I intentionally stayed away from the gym for a few days. it was then that I realized he was jealous and I wondered if his persistence was based on a crush. What do you think of this?
Thank you ! I needed to hear this. I will stay strong and wait for the right man to come along.
@@mickeyblue7 don’t wait! Go find your man, and stand around him until he makes his move. As long as you’re available, he’ll make a move. Don’t sit there in a corner, waiting for Mr. right to come along, because he won’t. All you get is a bunch of attractive players who sleep with you a night and then leave.
@@Greg-yu4ij you need to rewatch this video because you sound super desperate
Yess! I'm not a clown. I'm a queen and i should have my king.. My king is ain't like other man.. He will pursue me.. He pursues me because i am worthy and deserving to be with him
My husband pursued me..I set boundaries before marriage and he respected them and agreed.
I have the best marriage ever!
What you see of him in public is him behind closed doors. Thank you Lord that I followed your path towards a peaceful life.
Blessings ⭐ Amen
Amen.🌈
What a testimony 🤎
I want this ❤
Congratulations 🎊
“Calling it out” is more masculine energy. “No thank you” is walking away. If a man gets distant, applying distance and going about your business or moving on with your life is feminine. If you feel a tug in your heart, that’s a signal, it’s over. Anxious feelings are your bodies way of sensing disappointment. Replace the anxious feelings of disappointment with treating yourself to time with yourself. Give room for the right man to find you. These are things I have struggled with in the past. Right now working on myself is the best energy I can give myself.
Wonderful advice ❤️
Exactly. Pin point it to yourself and move on. In a more recent video, RC talks about if a man triggers you in a real bad way put, him out your presence, set boundaries to protect yourself from ppl unworthy of you.
This is truth. We can sense disinterest and games but we tend to look over it or waste time trying to encourage him/her to show more interest. Sometimes we start doing things to seek their approval in hopes of impressing them when we get that "tingle in our spirit" or feel them pull way-instead of just moving on and forward. I will be single for the rest of my life before I work overtime to pull someone back in that's becoming distant or even initiate the conversation to address it.👋🏼💨
this is awesome. Can you expand on "if you feel a tug on your heart"?
PREACH SISTER!
I am in agreement 100%. A man will call if he wants you. Pursue your goals first...enjoy your gifts & develop your talents.
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Then you gotta ask, “whats he calling for?” And “what does he want you for?”
@ Mindset Olympics. Yes. If his morals and values doesn’t represent Gods values. Next!!!! Marriage before sex!!
Yes 💯
Amen
I’ve gotten very good at not chasing anymore. As soon as I see a “man” get distant, I call it out, and if he makes an excuse or doesn’t change it, I just block and move on 👏🏽
How do you call it out without seeming demanding
I love the knowledge I received from you.
On point
Yes I really want to accomplish and normalize to stop chasing the man I am dealing with. I'm just wanting to overcome what has been hard for me to get pass
So, you are getting smarter.
Men keep options ... women should do the same to balance relationships.
I’m only 21. I’m learning this at the perfecttttt time. I thank God for keeping me. I had to learn on my own. Holy Spirit guided me here.
Happy for you! 💖 I wish every girl/woman could hear these beneficial messages young!
You are very lucky, wish I knew all this at your age.
Yes lor sissy! I wishhh I found bishop at that age ! 🥹👏🏾👏🏾🥳
you're lucky, girl. i wish i knew this stuff 10 years ago!
@@danii2661 you still got it girl. My mom just got off her honey moon cruise cursing 3 countries she got married at 52!! 💗🥂
I ran across this content when my husband passed away in July 2021. 23 years of MARRIAGE 💑 and my husband pursued me. Well women, if you want your mate Wait on God and He shall give you YOUR MATE!!!
I am truly TRUSTING and believing that He Will.
Amen
So sorry for your lost hunny 🙏🙏. Love the comment so true god has perfect timing and he always on time.
My condolences to you sister🥰🙏
So sorry for your loss. May God comfort you and your family.
“ a deceptive man cannot look you in the eyes” PREACH!!!!!!!!!!
yes they can! mine did for 12 years
He can if he is Machiavellian
He definitely can
Oh yes he can 🤦🏾♀️
“A feminine woman, makes every respectable man feel like a king”, my grandma taught me something very similar to this. I’m grateful for her teaching & yours.
There ya go cuz
Thank you!
I love what you said. I had to learn, but if and we been together 6 years now.
Key word “Respectable man”! Can’t act like a clown and want the king crown…
@@aprilharvin3644 my gosh say it louder for those in the back!!!! 💯
Know that you are always the prize and neither do you need to be chased. Maintaining our standards is what drives his standards up, so hold your ground because those who are for you will commit to stepping up
Amen sister. 🙌
Amen
Thank you for this Amen
Say that! 👑❤️🙌🏾💯
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Some women's can't do with out a man but if you wait on God he shall direct your path 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you
R.C Blake I lost my dad when I was 25 and you are reminding me of all the things he would have said
@ janet Sullivan only grown girls can't do with out a man. Yes I completely agree let God direct your path to attract & approve your 🤴 king. I love u all so much God bless.
@@athenahill2222 amen you are so right 🙌❤🙏🏼
Amen 🙏🏾
Yes!! When you don't or won't chase them,. they are bewildered and sometimes angry.
@zee Wash they are probably not the one if he gets angry or bewildered. The right one and the healthy one ! If he gets angry he could be a toxic narcissist
And even offended! Smh
@@madelinebigio7565 - indeed from my past experience that is exactly what I'm saying.
Yup a narcissist. The narcissist be the main guy moving way too fast…incoming with love bombing and then switch up quick.
Immature and entitled!
My late husband said that he knew I was going to be his wife when he first saw me. Queen, a king wants just that. Like Dr. Blake’s said, look your best whenever you leave your home and make sure you’ve covered yourself in prayer and ask the Lord for knowledge 🙏🏽🙌🏽👏
Can attest. I chased men who all needed a help er - but it's the same. They are takers. The "body count" is real. I was married for 11 years. He, too, was one that I chased. I have finally, after being with a person for a majority of my adult life, have paused to stop, think, and figure it out. Thank you RC Blakes for sharing this truth. Coming from a man, this is so incredibly powerful. I attracted emotionally immature and unavailable, or those that would not put in their own work to figure themselves out. So, I stopped and looked at myself in the mirror. You've got to place boundaries in place. There is no fear of missing out, except on ANOTHER relationship that is not in alignment with God's purpose . Stop, pause, and step into the identity that Christ has for us. Thank you again. Cannot say enough about this ministry.
Wives don’t sleep with men before marriage. It always Worked for me. GOD is right. However, I must admit even though that’s works if he’s seriously interested in you- not sleeping with him before marriage gets him to the altar. But, it doesn’t mean the marriage will last.
Have you been married multiple times? And each time u waited before marriage?
@@NBnNC that’s the exact same thing I thought!
How many times have you married!
I would by no means want to miss the experiences I had with different men...
I followed that formula and married a narc. Truth is there's no formula
How many times have you been married?
What a lesson! I wish I heard this at 25 but I will take heed at 35! I need to listen to this a few times.
@ almost 53
You're still good at 35. Lucky you!
@@ibiminaabiye257 I think to gain knowledge at any age is a Blessing. We can't change what we did yesterday but we can change what we do today and tomorrow. 🌹
Am 35 too and wishing I did learn this at my 20s. Still, am deeply grateful to stumble on Pastor RC Blake's channel. God's plan for us. ✝️
@@vale.m15 Amen
Sometimes men have to ruin the relationship before they realize that she was the one.
I totally.agree 💯💯
This comment right here...👏👏👏👏
You speaking my life right now!!
Unfortunately..
So unfortunate
I love this Pastor. Never disrespect a man who pursues us
Right. It's not nice
1. Reciprocate a man's respectful effort to pursue you (smile); 2. Be interested but never too obvious about how serious your interest is; 3. Find the thing in his conversation that is praise-worthy and sincerely celebrate him; 4. Look him in his eyes and give him your complete attention; 5. Be somebody who is unforgettable (attitude; attractiveness - put yourself together; dress for yourself; accomplishments)
Thank u girl. Coming back l8r 2 copy ur notes
“It is the woman’s job to approve” heard that in my soul.
✅ ✅ ✅
Yes received it!
Um you can have a woman who looks like Halle berry, she can have a heart of gold & treat him well. If a man isn’t interested, or want the woman it doesn’t matter.
He’s referencing a man of value cares about more than looks
Yes, I’m not religious but I realized that I don’t have to chase men or give up sex to get commitment. At very least it will protect my heart. I ask myself - what would a Queen do? If a man doesn’t like you enough to commit, why give him your heart, body and soul? That only leads to pain. “You have to be a wife to find a husband” … I am trying to be a good companion to myself, so I am a full and happy, but I welcome a king 👑
🥰🥰🥰🥰
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Beautiful darling 🥰
Amazing girl - happy 2022 love from israel
Jerusalem 💕💕🇮🇱
Beautifully put!
NAILED IT! This generation (me included) needs to stop and listen to wise counsel, and stop going with what everyone around them is doing. You're advise is right on! I need to listen to it over and over, to let it soak in and recreate my values, boundaries, and standards.
Amen! Social media has made this world so toxic and unhealthy All it shows is a “baby mama” culture with a bunch of clowns (in my RC Blake’s voice LOL) all the women are full of beautiful bodies mostly fake and foul mouths rotten souls and cocky prize thinking men..my daughter is 21 and she and I do 1 week together with RC Blake teachings so she will not be in this false world advertisement
Amen ❤
Ladies, Bishop is absolutely right! A Beautiful attitude and Spirit will stop a man in his tracks! And yes, she must be a Productive Woman! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
U make more sense than any body else I've heard , truth finally spoken
Thank you
Yes
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U should listen to mufti menk, Omar solaiman too about dating and marriage
@@haesa4863 yess 🙌
Awesome message Pastor, there are Kings out here searching for Queens. I'm one of them.
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Im getting a lot of froggies 🐸 and no king yet
@@sarahinmyblessedkitchen5064 What do you feel you are doing wrong to attract these froggies?
@@chrisparker6249 I don’t know ! I’ve been married twice, and now I’m dating My boyfriend from 20 years ago, he tells me he loves me, he has stopped calling and only texts now, he says it’s because I am so busy with my RUclips channel and he doesn’t want to disturb me, I told him I don’t feel disturbed when it’s you, but he still texts! Lol I dunno 🤷♀️
@@sarahinmyblessedkitchen5064 He could be respecting your time but I don't feel it's that. Men like attention too, so if he feels something else has your attention, then he will slowly fade.
And what lead you back to him after 20yrs?
I wasted my whole life because I never had anyone teach me these things. Thank you Pastor Blake’s for teaching the younger generation.
Don’t know why mothers and fathers miss that talk with their kids. It’s very damaging. I never received the talk as well. I am 51 turned away from many men because I had no knowledge of real love just dating the wrong type and doing the wrong things myself as well. I know I let the good one’s past and accepted the bad.
And older!😃😃😃
Wasted my good young life. I feel you. Men in my family failed me. A blessing to have this teaching early.
It is something I have always been touched by, when a man tells me he finds me attractive, even if I don't feel the same, I always smile and let them know they made my day
AMEN, real queens need real kings, approved by the almighty!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
“Be unforgettable.” And don’t give out your car keys, house keys, social security #, blood type.😅😂🤣😂😂
Agree 💯
YEEESSSS!! And the only way you can do that is by knowing who you are and being authentically you.
Yes Ma'am you're right ✅ 👏 😌 🤣 😂
😂😂 exactly!
I had a man give me his SS#, DL, key to his place, passwords, phonecode, banking & CC info & still was a 🤡 trying to wear a crown. I would never reciprocate that until God has approved.
Sooooo. A Man pursued me from church. Said he’d been observing me for a month. He’s shorter than I’d like lol. But he is very kind, and gosh if I thought I knew the Word, this Man has been edifying my Spirit! Aside from this, we are getting to know each other, it’s only been 2 weeks. He contacts me Every day. Tells me his ins and outs. Prays for me daily. Is it okay to have this much interaction? He IS the one pursuing me, I respond to whatever he sends me. He even spoke to our Pastor and asked if it were okay to continue pursuing me. To me, he seems like a serious Man the most serious Man I have EVER had interest with.
Sis, the update!
Right! Update please ❤
It is so nice to hear this. All the advice I get from friends is that I need to be the pursuer, because guys are now used to women pursuing. My answer every time is, "I already have to be 'the man' in every aspect of my life right now. Dating is the one area (right now) where I don't want to be that."
Get RID of those people who. say this to you.. They don't have you best interess for you..but they want you to throw yourself away..with an unwprthy man...
You're right
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Sis you just preached a whole WORD! I can absolutely relate to that as a single mother! No ma’am I’m not chasing nobody son 😂😂😂 I’ll wait to God sends the right man to pursue me!
Men have become so feminine lol
If a man leaves me , then he leaves me . Goodbye him. I will not beg . Queens dont beg and there are other men more worthy
If you chase a man and get him, you will be mothering him like a baby for the rest of the time you're together. You'll be paying for everything, and playing what supposed to be his role.
It's annoying when a man wants to be chased. 🤣
It's unattractive and feminine.
Sooo many men are like this today *sigh* 🙄😂😩
Today, more men are becoming proud. They have abandoned their roles and feel like they are doing you a favour. The word " ghosting " is a new trend.
That’s a boy lol
A king in a dress as RC puts it lol
This is beautiful. I’ve noticed that when men speak to me and I speak back with a smile, they always seem to walk away looking as if they’ve just won the lottery. what an honor it is to know that I’ve had that kind of an impact on that individual, because in these days one never knows what a person is going through and perhaps by acknowledging him and returning his greeting with a sincere smile set the catalyst for his day.😊
Yeah..but be sure you don't give every man with your SMILE..false illusions..toward you..
Sometimes a man that's not your type will b the one that might change your life and treat you better than the one you thought was your type.
But if you don't LOVE him.. It's useless...bc yes it's important to be treated good..but first you have to love one another..then comes all the rest...
@@Maria__57 Maybe yu can grow to love him. 😊
@@beautifulcharmz LOVE can grow stronger...but if it's not there..it can not grow..😊
Me is different
That’s hard if you’re not attracted to him.
How to be unforgettable
1 you gotta reciprocate once you identify the man who’s pursuing you not chasing you
2 be interested, never to obvious about your interest prematurely, don’t be easy to read
Proverbs 29:11
3 Find the thing in his conversation that is praise worthy and can be celebrated, learn to pour into this man (build him up)
4 Learn how to look a man in the eye shows respect value and sincerity and you can discern any deception in him
Matthew 6: 22-23
5 Have the right attitude. Be polite, gentle, calm, relaxing just to name a few examples
This message is over a yr old..but resonating with me today!!
So elated that God brought me to this channel... this is exactly what I need during this season in my life!!!
Let God's will be done!!
" You know when you're put together coz there is a swag you get, there is a confidence"
" When you dress for yourself and you feel good about what you're rocking, there's a confidence that you have that becomes contagious "
"And you walk in and you know you're slamming"
That Got me right there! 🙌
I totally agree! 💯- as soon as i began to dress for myself and wear flattering clothes and makeup and nice jewelry people notice that you like yourself- when you do this without a man in the picture you have self-love and confidence that radiates because you are reflecting your and accepting of His handiwork- YOU and it will start turning heads and attracting compliments all the time- we must be whole and complete with just God alone first
Yes..he mentioned that ATTRACTIVE NESS.
Absolutely 💯
Yes...
32 and just tapped into this confidence. In complete love with myself, it feels great.
When your chasing a man, your as masculine as Mike Tyson in his prime 😂🤣😂😅🥰
Died listening to this
Oh nooooooo!!!!
And that's a lot of masculinity 😭
Lots of men want top wife materisl but bring nothing of substance within himself to the table...QUEENS WE ARE THE PRIZE....DONT SETTLE...LET HIM COME WITH HAT IN HAND TO EARN THIS PRIZE...
Say that! know that's right Sis!
"A Queen is a King in a dress" Amen 🙌
GODESS MIND
Call the Police. Bishop Blake's you are One authenticate Teacher of Truth and Wisdom. I certainly understand and Appreciate you.😂❤
She is a wife in standing in wait of a suitable husband for marriage.
This is so true seen no w with dababby but it’s also the women responsibility I’m sorry but grown people know what is right and wrong and the fact that she gave him kids is her consequence why I am 35 and no kids and learned the hard pain of learning my lessons and using them.! I’m waiting on God to bring my husband in the meantime in all about me goals, health, healing from pain, traveling focused on my empire till He comes my way.! Glad I found you sir.!❤️🙏
I did these things for a man and he didn’t appreciate me. I let him go.
He probably was a narcissist @Tyna Angelic
I did the same thing a few months ago. He didn't appreciate me. I'm so tired of people not appreciating me. To show him he was appreciated,, I would take him out to dinner as well as he took me out. After I told him it was over, he text me a very nasty message. Smh... I'm so glad it's over because someone will appreciate all of me.
Exactly us queens don't chase men i been celebete for years to raise my child as a single mother and I worship my Heavenly Father
"A queen is basically a king in a dress. She has the same kind of mentality, same kind of temperament, same kind of power. She can accomplish all of the same stuff."
Thank you so much. I am exiting an abusive relationship and this really makes a lot of sense. I can see the wounded feminine in my family. It makes so much sense.. the generational trauma. I never learned how to be a woman and so I became a very guarded masculine woman to survive.. as I’m leaving this relationship I am really going to work on healing these wounded pieces. Thank you god bless.
Praying for you sis! ❤🙏🏼
THE WISDOM OF THE WIFE vs PREY OF THE WOLF. Yes, this should be your next book Rev.
I wish I heard this message 15 years ago. My choices in men and behavior would’ve been different. Thank you for this message!! It was God sent🙏🏽😘
THIS SESSION WAS GOD SENT. BRING OLD SCHOOL LOVING BACK. THANK YOU PASTOR 🙏🙏🙏
Yessssssssssss, I am in agreement 💯
Bring ALL Old School things back!!
Things were better back in the day!
Theses are lessons that should've been passed down from our daddies. I definitely appreciate the wisdom. Thank you ❤️
Thanks!
Stepped on my toes today. Especially when you said treating a man with dignity in pursue of you with honor. I have been guilty of treating me that I wasn't interested in badly, really rudely. Not proud of that. Many times as woman we think about how men hurt or reject us. But never think about how we hurt and rejected Men. Thank you again. On time message as usual.
Thank you, I just needed to see one of these comments….now I don’t have to make a rant comment about the same thing. Blessings to you.
Pastor you are 100% spot on. My parents always said, "This name was clean when I gave it to you. Keep it that way." They told me to be a leader not a follower. I've always done my best to do both. I tell the young women of today to stand out from the crowd. Put some clothes on. Men don't like sharing...save something that's just for them. Those that don't listen always complain that they can't find a good man so I'm sharing this video with them. Thank you for continuing to tell the truth 🙏🏽 ❤
“ A king in a dress.” That’s the first time I heard that expression. 😄
Pastor Blakes, you always deliver spectacularly. Wow. Great talk. 💕
Lol. My favorite is clown with a crown. 🤪.
Or when he says "that ain't no man, that's a piece of a man!" 😄😄
Awesome talk
How he displayed a woman running in stilettoes chasing a man should open anybody's eyes not to do that! 😂
I'm 20, A True Queen & I Approve Of Your Messages! Keep Them Coming ☺️ Being Young It's Great To Hear Someone Speak On This!
Wow pastor. I love it when you express, A HIGH VALUE WOMAN. Women need to value our femininity and be proud of being a QUEEN.
Good evening Mr. RC Blake's ...I've have been listening to your videos for a year now, out of 26 years of my life, because of your videos I'm awoken. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge to women that were asleep. I appreciate your presence so much on RUclips. 🇬🇾
This part! Its like ive been opened up to a world I simply never knew due to no male figures/role models!
Amen
I Am a wife in my consciousness and only my true match from God will do.
This message came in right time Lord You are truly faithful!
Amen 💯 🙏💖🙏💖
You are indeed an empowerment teacher! I have never laughed so much while at the same time receiving life-changing wisdom and guidance.
You will probably never know the revolutionary impact that your teachings have had on so many of us. I pray that our loving God may increase you a hundred-fold in all areas of your life! Be blessed most abundantly!🙏🏽
This message is so vital to the health and well being of the woman and having the right relationship. If you see yourself pursuing & investing more into the man …. Stop and Evaluate and Detach from the situation, a real man will never allow a woman he is interested to pursue him. Great teaching
Truth was spoken here!
Truth
Having a nasty disposition won't get you the right man. You cant be snooty, moody and attitudy!
Thank you for this
99 *ATTRIBUTES*
@@aiynx3674 what did u say
@@zenaidarodriguez332 take on 99 attributes personally
this message come to me at such the perfect time! a guy just said he was interested in me, and i immediately knew that i wasnt interested in him just because i judged compatibility immediately, however i gave him my number to be nice, but ive been fighting with how to break it to him that i am not interested. Hearing Pastor Blakes message, to always be kind even in rejection was the impetus i needed. He's fine with being friends now, and i am so grateful to the advice from Pastor, so that i didnt break his spirit. Thank you RC Blakes!
A rejected man or woman..Will NEVER be your friend...Will fake It..but in his/her Heart Will Always be the idea of how to. be something else for you..so you should totally. BREAK with this man ...trying in the future to not encourage others like him..this Is the way you do less harm to Who your not interested in...
@@Maria__57 Some people are functioning adults who can gracefully accept that a connection didn't work romantically but recognize that there's still platonic/friendly chemistry. I've had guys who I've respectfully rejected and we remained friends (some of them for up to a decade and one for longer than that). Many eventually moved on to date/marry other people and even start families. Many adults are well-adjusted, level headed, emotionally secure and mature. You're describing childish people who don't know what they're about (and would benefit from therapy to work through that frankly disturbing way of viewing/dealing with people).
I won't chase a man. 💖👍🌞
"You have to be a wife before the wedding." Not saying that you should give a man wife benefits before the wedding, but you should be thinking and carrying yourself with a wife mindset❤
Pastor English is my second language, I am Colombian , I love how you explain everything so clear and funny .
Every video makes me laugh and reflect in the same time
What a blessing that I found you and can learn from this wonderful counsel. Blessings to you and your wife.
I'm so glad you talked on this subject women have forgotten this... and now men aspects women to chase them !!! A real woman that knows her worth don't chase men and that's a fact 💯 !!!
All I can say is, you kept me smiling the whole time as I listened. As always RC Blakes great message!
As you become older than 35, and especially if you are divorced and have children, you don't need to chase men, you just need to realize that the Man that carries high value is only going to accept someone that he views as equal or higher value than Himself. The challenges come in correctly understanding the aspects HE uses to determine Your value.
It's a good idea to date more than one man at the same time. Last year I had two men pursuing me at the same time. I observed their character and watched they're actions. After a while it became evident that one was high quality and the other was low quality in terms of character. I dropped the low quality one and appreciate the higher quality man even more.
This lesson is the lesson I have been waiting my WHOLE LIFE! Pastor, you have no idea how much you blessed me tonight. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!🙏🏾
I have been told the reason that I’m single is that I don’t pursue Men. If that’s what it calls for, I’ll stay single.
Agree 💯 I usually listen to the messages over and over. Really are blessing me. I’m truly blessed that God is moving in me to understand that I’m truly his daughter, wants the best for all women, just know your worth and your life will open up to so many possibilities. Thank Pastor Blake’s...for speaking what God has put in your spirit to teach us.
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I'm attractive, intelligent I own my own business and home. I've decided to be celibate as I have for five years now. I'm not dating but paying attention to my finances. I'm not gay. I'm just tired of wasting time on something with no pay off. My career pays off and I can do the things in life I enjoy. Thank you
Please protect this man at all cost!! thank God for your content 😄😄
I agree with everything you are speaking about, and appreciate your wisdom. The problem in society as to why so many women including myself have pursued in the past, or been in our masculine energy , Is due to the fact that so many women have been fatherless, including myself, so we have had to play the role of father and mother in our children’s lives because we then were attracted to the wrong types of Men, since we didn’t have any good Man as a Father to show us the right way a girl or daughter should be treated , so it’s been trial and error, a lot of soul work with God to get us back into our feminine ways😇😇
You said this perfectly ❤️😘
And to be a single/woman in heavy competition of daily life is also masculine, it creates division and separation in every aspect of her.A weight she was not created to carry. To walk only in your feminine as a single woman is accually not a practical or safe thing for her to do. So in essence the very thing she needs to do practically for her family is the very thing that keeps her unattractive. No wonder everyone is depressed. You can't receive encouragement and grace from depressed people, and God work through people.
@@kimberlyrivera5103 yes
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We don’t chase em we let God replace em. Cuz what’s for you is for you. Rejection is God’s protection.
BISHOP YOU TEACH WITH SO MUCH WISDOM & HUMOR!!! IM LISTENING BUT IM ALSO OVER HERE ROLLING!! THANKS FOR THESE PRICELESS BIBLICAL & REAL LIFE JEWELS YOU DROPPED ON TODAY!!!
Me to Karen! Lol 😂 SO MUCH TRUTH with humor. Sometimes it’s funny because it’s true.
The only thing I disagreed with was not letting a man know your true interest. And it may be my age, but when I first dated my now-husband, I told him up front that I was looking for a husband, not a boyfriend. I was 57, and didn't have time for game playing. My message in that statement was that as a high value woman, I was not going to be fooling around having sex with anyone forever, while they future faked, nor was I going to pursue, or chase anyone. I took a chance by saying this, but if he didn't respond favorably, I would have just saved myself a whole lot of time and possibly, heartache. It turns out though, that he was looking for a wife; so when I was honest about what I wanted, he began acting like a husband immediately. I can't stand game playing. Being up front was the best for us.
Were you both Christians?
@@faithwisdom788 Yes, we met at church on New Years Eve, 2017. We married on December 8, 2018.💎
@@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64 Congratulations. In my early 30s right now so I plan on being blunt too about certain things ASAP when I meet him. I am not here for games and I'm saving myself for marriage. 😅
@@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64is it still going well? My trust has been shattered so I love to hear successes.
This applies to marriage too. Even if he "brought you to the altar", it doesn't mean much of you are the breadwinner and he expects you to be his mom, wallet, and caretaker. This happens more and more.
This!
I wish I would have had counseling like you when I was young. Learning all this at 60 after so many catastrophic relationships. Thank you Pastor. 😎.
You are still young and able to make a change from now and seek your lifetime partner: husband or wife, friend, lover and confidant oh Hallelujah 🤷🏾♀️ since listening to Pastor Blake's that proposals are coming my way. If God is doing it for me, ask for it be done for you in Jesus mighty name Amen 🙏🏾
@@ellenlarmond1489 it’s never too late. Praise God !
It would have been nice. However, I'm glad to get it.
I feel you, it's encouraging, at our age.
Most men I attract are younger than me.
I'm looking forward to what's next in life.
When ya dead, ya done...
@@ellenlarmond1489 Amen to that Ellen
@@babyshsrk6977 🙌🏾
I’m too old to play games. If I want to text a man right back after he messages me, that’s what I’m going to do. Men need to feel wanted as well.
I just had a conversation with a man recently about feeling wanted.
Some take so long to respond and I just feel so unimportant
Prec that perspective @MadAboutMeechie.. about time SOMEBODY understands that. Too many ppl expect Men to just perform like we aren't human and don't have similar desires women have in regards to being loved for real. We do. Too many stereotypes and expectations of old. This isn't the 60s, 70s, and 80s.. lol smh. Stop it.
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I don't think he means play games. As women we can get a bit too much excited when we first meet a man and not really know his true intentions. Not texting back so fast is just a way of pumping your own brakes and reminding yourself you just met this man. There are a lot of people young and old out here playing games and just because you are not playing a game don't mean that he isn't playing a game. Once you get to know a man and it's obvious he is a good guy then it's ok to make him feel wanted...just my opinion.
Thank you Mr Blake God bless you...coming from a 31 year old black woman that's broken spiritually and has been set back in life thank you from the bottom of my heart for your messages ❤
I have been listening to you for a few days now and today I had an epiphany. I realized I was doing things backward this whole time. God bless you and I am grateful for your ministry.
Powerful and a timely teaching. I've learnt things which nobody had ever tought me. Thank you pastor Blakes.
This video (along with every other R.C Blake video) is an absolute GEM💎I’m a 23 y/o woman who is learning to master self love, self respect & femininity. These videos make me feel so empowered & give me the knowledge I need to take my power back after I let a man who I chased for YEARS destroy my mental health & self worth. Just after a few videos I learned what I needed to do & began to make small changes in myself. He noticed that & told me he was falling back in love with me, however HE needs to watch a few lessons on Kingology before we could ever work things out again. Point being, Pastor is RIGHT. I am forever grateful that God led me to this channel❤️
You are very true, my husband and l.are married for 34 years and yes he pursue me ,l,m glad what you are telling woman they should listen to you .🙂🙏
Unforgettable that's what you are. You have such a beautiful singing voice you should make an album. Praise the Lord
Ive said it before and I will say it again. I wish I had a mentor like this!
I could not love this more!!!
I agree 100%...you made me laugh a couple times too...😂.. thx so much.❤
You are making a real difference in the world ❤🙌 What a great message and video!
Yes, I agree 👍👏🏾.
, I was married over 21 years and I always use to praise that individual and I never knew I was married to a Narcissist, I always tried too please that individual and I thank God I been separated for almost 3 years and I feel good, I’m waiting on the Lord for the one that God has for me, enjoying the single life♥️♥️♥️🤗
Situation sounds almost the same... 32yrs years, 3 years separated, not going back ... will love again... Pastor on point
@@lisaharris5473 doesn’t it feel good, I feel like it’s a dream come true that God literally removed that individual, people see a big difference, I feel good, every day is a new day, fresh air, God is our true love until he bring someone into our life, this time we do not choose but we let him choose our spouse👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👍🏽🤗Glory🤗
Thank you for sharing 7 months separated but still being dragged in the mud through courts etc but to read 3 years down the line you feel good 🙏
@@Psalm40777 Hang in there Sis, it gets better!
@@Jerseygirl_J ...thanks for the encouragement, God has shown me so much about the marriage, he broke my heart to save my Life... in the waiting room with God.getting to know myself all over again.. I love it.. learned so much.. candle soap making, seamoss.. NEW LIFE
Listening to this at 20 really makes me take in everything R.C Blake is saying. I want a great relationship with my savior Jesus and also my father passed away when I was 4 years old. I Am a girl who chased guys, and they all ran from me. I now know Better is out there for me and I am becoming such a wise women. When I reflect on how I use to treat myself. Change has begun for me and I’m excited about the journey. P.s my mom told me about these videos and I’ve never took the time to watch them now I thanks her should have listened.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 looking you up and down! You need to call the police! That got me. That facial expression though.
I pray your words help many more women before “we spend our precious time” in the wrong roles….