@@jjboss7896 Interesting point, I thought of mike tyson for example who says himself that hes a very emotional person. The key is to channel the emotions and use the powerful energy of your emotions for and not against you. Tyson for example didnt go out and stab people in Order to deal with his aggression. He chose to channel it to become one of the best in his sport. Nevertheless when you think about the "Kings" or "Leaders" of todays world like Putin, Biden or even Zuckerberg or Bezos you probably wouldn't say that these are emotional people, would you?
@@kiba7907 yea but actors also become leaders because they feed the sheep nice words everyone you listed os typical politician besides Putin be even he has good acting skills because he was a Russian spy at one point.
You don't have control over your emotions. Your emotions are defined by your beliefs, which you have no direct control over either. But you do have control over your rational faculty, helping you shape and change your beliefs consequently altering the emotions linked to these beliefs. I believe one should actively try to change his own beliefs triggering anger, frustration, jealousy and fear as they are not beneficial for the individual. And are certainly sign of weakness rather than strenght of character.
Emotions shouldn’t be controlled. Because it won’t solve the problems you face. If you’re trying to rehabilitate a prison do you build a stronger cell or try to understand them? Mammals were designed to think with their emotions; It’s apart of us, and we should be trying to understand why we feel the way we do. You have to guide your emotions. Your emotions shouldn’t rule over you but they shouldn’t be off to side. They should be with you in every decision you make. Sometimes your heart can do more thinking than your brain.
im not saying dont open up, do that, its nice to have people you can rely on with your problems, but dont let your emotions dictate you. Like hamza said, you must acknowlage your emotions, but you must not let them control you.
@@silentaimer It takes more than to “be aware of your emotion”. You have to know when to be be emotional. I was “aware” if my emotions all the time but it never fixed my problem until I just let it all out.
Me too! But there are days where I`m too tired of doing self-improvement and I give myself more time to rest, to return stronger and usually I procrastinate these days
You are so right. As a young man I’ve always been emotional. I’ve felt emotions very strongly and this has been mainly due to suffering from Asperger’s syndrome (autism spectrum). However, using this as an excuse would constantly limit me. Giving excuses are limitations, everyone has the chance to be THE man and emotions would get in the way of it. Being obsessed with goals and achieving them are the key to become a top tier masculine man flowing with testosterone through their veins.
as a teenager with autism who also used to be really emotional during school, I agree with this. It always felt like everyone was telling me that it was okay to be emotional, and no one tried to help me put the situation i was in into context and actually pull me out of it
Bro I was diagnosed with Asperger’s and something that helps is not view it as a suffering or a limitation but a superpower. Mindset is everything. Glad that you see that everyone regardless of their conditions can level up in their life. Much love.
Emotions will be there. What matters is how you react to them. Carl Jung termed this as our shadow self. The more we try to repress our emotions, more strongly they come back. To be complete we need to integrate with our shadow self Learn to detach yourself from your emotions. You are not your emotions. We have 2 minds a thinking mind(that has emotions and the one gets tempted, when we say we are over-thinking we are basically letting this one loose) and an observing mind (the part of our mind that we can control, the logical brain, that observes our thinking mind) So instead of thinking you are angry, think you are feeling anger. This will take some time but when you do this with grief, jealousy, hatred etc. You'll learn to act despite your emotions. Later try to journal why were you feeling that extreme emotion. Venting in any form goes a long way
This explains why I've never had much trouble with anger. I've felt detached from it from such a young age that I have a decade and a half of observing frustration without ever "feeling" it.
You're kind of right, but I'd like to specify. The problem is that we discriminate between emotions. When you are a child you are dependent on your parents for survival. But your parents have to condition you to function in a society - you can't still go around screaming in public as an adult for example. To build up on that example, Therefore you are told to shut it down in some situations. But because you can't comprend the reason why your parents don't want you to scream, you just feel like they don't love you if you show them this emotion - and your instinct is, that if your parents don't love you, they might abandon you resulting in your death. That is the point where a split is created in your personality, as you disowned the part of you that is angry, because you think it's unacceptable - It is now linked to the fear of death. This process happens with anger, fear and sadness,
So The complex thinking part of your brain has formed a core belief that that certain emotions may result in death if acted out. Therefore they are repressed over years and years and years. But resisting these emotions leads to not having an outlet and they build up, causing suffering in you. The bad feelings we have aren't the emotions but actually the suffering that results from resisting these emotions. Probably youve had moments where you were so stressed that you irationally lashed out at someone in anger for example. That is simply your body searching for an outlet because the repressed emotions are overflowing - that's the point where the need to let go of resistance is greater than the fear of feeling it. Back to the core belief - now you're an adult and know that your core belief from back then is irrational, but knowing it doesn't work to remove it. Rather then thinking your way out of the repressed emotions through thoughts, you need to take the physical approach. Every time you feel fear for example, there are sensations that come up in your body. You need to practice to be aware of these sensations when they come up. Allowing yourself to feel these sensations makes the resistance behind them disappear and you dive in deeper and deeper every time you do this, removing layer by layer, untangling all of the built up resistance, until one day you reach the core of that fear where it all started. You allow yourself to feel that original emotion and you are overflowed by bliss. Because you abondened such a wonderful and important part of you for so long. This is life changing stuff, I'm so grateful that I found all this knowledge. I had no hope in my life, and now Im crying tears of happiness while writing this
"Instead of think you are angry, think that you are feeling anger." ... You voiced that in such a way I didn't think possible, man, holy shit that's amazing. That is actually gonna go a long way for me. Thank you :)
Your not supposed to block out your emotions. The goal, especially if we are to become great fathers and husbands is to become emotionally intelligent. To understand and to work with your emotions throughout your life. To truly open up and feel visceral pain, but not let it stop you. To feel unyielding gratitude and joy but not let it blind you. To have guilt and regret tug at your heart, but to go back inward and to resolve the emotions that are causing it and to learn that lesson. If you are in emotional turmoil you can not resolve it by shoving it down under the guise of needing to be more masculine and non emotional. Our fore fathers have done this without the knowledge of mental health and phycology and it has fucked them up for generations. We need to learn how to conquer, love and accept our inner selves to get to a true peace that we can the pour out to our loved ones our spouse and most importantly our children. Learn about child phycology, Learn about the dangers of emotionally immature parents and don’t be so stuck in this ridged masculinity that you miss the flowers for the trees. Keep in mind you very well may have to raise a daughter and she along with your son will need to learn how to be emotionally mature, stable and loved form you and your partner. Pick carefully and learn thoroughly Good day to you
@@mrteco4236 That’s some loaded language there buddy. There are people that have unresolved issues that cause them to be mal-adapted emotionally and socially. But words have meaning, and calling someone trying to do their best to navigate the world a “nuisance” is never a pathos that I will subscribe to.
@@mrteco4236 i like how you put words in people's mouths - nobody ever said anything about crybabies and/or anger issues. They only said that repressing your emotions isn't healthy. You can accept your feelings and not have "anger issues" or be a "crybaby" if you have even a morsel of self-control.
I'm 22 years old, I dropped all social media out of my life at age 16, I'm living a life where I don't understand other people's problem caused by social media...my life is so calm...I push with the movement✊️ but also respect the business some of yall build on smplatforms
@@eliasconradsson5412 Some guy (looked like Mark Henry from WWE) was annoyed at me that I didn’t move up in the aisle (I was waiting for the lady in front to finish and there wasn’t really any room to move up). So he just got really angry about it and called me “a stupid goofy n&&&&” and he looked like he wanted to fuck me up for no reason. So I just looked him in the eyes and told him, calmly, to relax a few times. Then he turned around to his girlfriend and kept muttering to himself. Idk just a weird situation where that guy was like angry and let it dictate his actions while I calmly de-escalate it. Then this video pops up in the feed not an hour later. Odd coincidence I guess lol
being emotional was one of my biggest downfalls recently which caused me to hit a big rock bottom. i ended up quitting my job in a rage fit after being cheated on (again) by one of my coworkers. i was in a leadership position and everyone else knew about the whole thing, it was a mess, so i couldn't handle it and just quit. those were the hardest months of my life and only when i discovered about self improvement habits i managed to climb i out of the hole i digged myself into. I've always been extremely controlled by my emotions and it always put me in a state of anxiety where i act on impulse, and now i realise how much of a weakness this is, after losing the respect of everyone, even myself. first you need to put the effort and discipline to acquire back self respect and then you can apply rational and stoic practices. once you start and get a hold of yourself you feel unstoppable. trust me. be careful and take care mates. we're all gonna make it. also, i really appreciate the video, hamza. this is a message i needed for a long time now and it only reassures my purpose.
Never forget that sometimes you have to let those emotions get out in some way, let them be, using art, manual skills work, walking, writing or go out in nature.
I heard this from andrew tate and it got stuck in my head He said "it doesn't matter what I feel, sad, angry, happy- no matter what I feel it has 0 effect on what I'm doing" Really inspired me, I think it's important to be aware of your feelings yet still have this kind of objective thinking of "it doesn't matter how I feel I have to do x y z"
No offense, but if your counselor is Andrew Tate.... let's just say you should try to widen up your youtube views so recommendations aren't utter shit.
@@rayres1074 im not a fan of andrew tate, but atleast this guy got part of the message, can't say its all negative, but atleast this somehow brought him to Hamza
@@comradeskipper5232 He is indeed very moneyed, considering he's a champion kickboxer. That's it though. Being rich doesn't make your opinion any more valid. If he was a minimum wage worker? Nobody would listen to his dumb shit. Heck, he'd be an average redditor in r/incel rather than an """"influencer"""".
This goes hand in hand with the book: The way of the superior Man. I liked your conclusion in this video as it's easy to be followed up and i think, that controlling your emotions is one of the most important skills in life.
Hey, I just wanted to say that I found your channel just a week ago. I’m a teenager and I have been into self improvement for a while. I found your channel and I really love what you’re saying. My family and I have always hated social media like instagram. These videos have given me motivation to improve myself. Being emotional and being aware of your emotions are different. We should be able to control our emotions. These platforms are really a death trap. If you feel insecure, try to improve yourself. I used to play a lot of video games, and struggle with insecurity. Ever since I’ve broken away from that and started working out, I’ve begun to be more fulfilled with all of my days. I feel that I haven’t lived my life that I wanted to yet, but I firmly believe we can all change. And because of this, I’ve realized a lot of things. People nowadays have things all wrong. If you are weak, instead of embracing it, improve yourself. Thank you.
"Be in touch with your emotions" is completely different from being able to control your emotions and not let it dictate your day to day behavior. I don't feel like going to the gym most days. If I give into those emotions I would become a weak man.
@Martin Og Same thing with me, 6th grade I was like, the weirdest kid in school. Now going into 8th I am starting on my schools football team and one of the strongest kids in weightlifting class. Keep up the grinds brothers
I need Hamza to read this: I LITERALLY NEEDED THIS TYPE OF VIDEOS IN YOUR CHANNEL!!! I needed that natural pause after EVERY sentence to realise myself. Cuz your edited videos do have information overloaded and i can't take it all at once. This feels so natural that i feel like someone is advising me for good. Your other videos make me feel like full of both information and quick edits. Please make videos like this. To the editor: The Jeffery and Adonis edits are too good for an intro to start. But if he talks with pause after that, the audience may feel bored. You take the decision bro ❤️
“Emotion can be the enemy, if you give into your emotion, you lose yourself. You must be at one with your emotions, because the body always follows the mind.” -Bruce Lee
I will speak from experience. I was literally the opposite. I was unhealthily unemotional. I was dull, emotionless and absolutely senseless. That was the worst time of my life. This January I met a girl straight out of my dreams at the very right time, meters away from slipping away to a deep pit inside the deep pit i already was in, and I am changed forever in a good way. She softened my heart, she made me regain my emotions and my senses, but the pendulum swung too strongly, which made me accidentally make her get further from me now. I finally balanced it out now after skating around a bit, and I am currently putting all my efforts to regain her (seriously, she is worth that, and I don't have a shadow of doubt about it because we already discussed everything to convince me to know that she is the one I will bs the happiest with when I marry her, pray for me bros that I do it). If, God forbid, I don't regain her, then at least I will gain myself for me, so I still would go away with one win of the many battles. Now, I know that a lesson on own experience is learned much better, and me teaching a lesson to y'all wouldn't probably be learned by you guys good enough, but just so you guys don't walk in the path I went in as blindly as I did, here are a couple critical tips on emotionality: • NEVER, seriously, no matter how much you love a person, NEVER EVER share too much about your deepest feelings to a person that you aren't actually tied to in a way (eg. marriage). You might just say too much. • ALWAYS keep your emotions in check. Let them out once in a while, but NEVER in front of someone who could make a talk about it (eg. mom) • It is okay for you to cry over serious stuff. If you don't cry from your grandma's death, especially if you actually loved your grandma, then your heart is freezing, and you need to melt it before it makes it take a crack to reach it* • You can be very emotional about something or someone when you're on your own, but use the torque the emotions give you to actually fix the things that make you feel pain you have, rather than simply waste it on crying over the thing, or even worse, on idolising it, making it the uncreachable goal. It is reachable, just get your two round pieces of flesh off your seat/bed/whatever else, and START WALKING. Every journey, be it a trip to school, or literally the way to the moon, starts with a footstep. Take the footstep, your engine starts, and you do footstep after a footstep, eventually reaching your destination. • Use your emotions to analyse your life choices. This must be self-explanatory. • Lastly, feel. Turn on your feelings. Turning them off makes the battle tougher, not yourself. Go and feel, but control what you feel. Filter it, analyse it, evaluate it. *sorry for the bad wording, but here I meant that you should fix your heart, or metaphorically, unfreeze it, before it gets so cold in the ice form, it starts requiring a crack to be done in order to reach your heart.
I‘m glad you put it this way cause I hate people who say „don‘t have emotions otherwise you‘re weak“. It‘s very healthy to be in touch with your emotions but what matters is how you deal with them. Take them seriously but don‘t let them cause your actions.
I'm 17 and I admit that unfortunately I'm very emotional. Things for me don't work exactly like you described, Hamza, but I am indeed very emotional, which is, probably my main flaw. It is indeed holding me back and I started working on it not too long ago. Hope to become more of a man for the better
@@stayawayfromthewoke3412 Well, then either you're asking why is it bad on a personal level and I didn't understand the question or you didn't pay attention while watching the video
Not the silicon walley nerds are the problem nor the product they made. The problem is how we use it. For example: If i have an axe I can cut wood with it and ignite a fire. But I also can cut old Mary next door. And if I cut old Mary who will be inprisoned? The mindless tool, or me who used it? It depends on how we use a product we have.
My Key Notes “Progress towards your mission creates happiness and fulfillment and sense of freedom” “Self-love is attained through self-respect by doing the right things”
i really appreciate those uncut/not edited pauses you do in your videos. in an ocean of videos in youtube, this feels like.. it's real. it hits close. it's like a reality check. a moment of clarity. a moment to think..
Wow, this is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen. Holy shit, totally relatable. It’s funny how he says your emotions change all the time. Well mine changed swiftly as I was watching this content.
Hi, Hamza I just want to say thanks for this video because it was really useful. My birthday was yesterday and it would mean so much if you could wish me Happy Birthday because you have been so influential in my self-improvement journey. If you see this please boost it so Hamza can see it!
As someone who’s been through an absolutely devastating breakup I can confirm what this dude spits is the truth and you ain’t gonna move past it until you control your emotions and turn it into something productive, fun, or both. For me I chose forging and welding. Choose something you love and stick to it.
I consider myself an emotional man; however, I see it as a positive thing as it allows for me to interact with others at a higher level. I believe I have high emotional intelligence and so I am able to navigate awkward situations and feel comfortable in otherwise uncomfortable scenarios. My point is, I believe you should own up to how you are and rock it. Confidence is key and that's what being a man is all about. Nice video, Hamza!
you are coping. from experience, being soft and emotional, while it may help you "interact with others at a higher level" will also affect you in a negative way.
@@pedro4154 i think it does good to recognise that these things can be nuanced. you can be selectively soft and emotional or whatever at the right time with the right people. i feel that people just misunderstanding each other when talking about this subject.
This video was an eye opener for me. This whole summer, I have been feeling bad and lonely since things were not going my way. I wasn't being consistent with my mission which ultimately resulted in me getting made fun of and bad mouthed. There are 10 days left until my school starts, and I will no longer let my emotions control me. I will continue to focus on my goals and accept the fact that there will always be people trying to make fun of me. Even if you reach the state of success, there will always be negative and toxic people. Thank you all for reading this comment and if you are going through a similar experience, I wish you all good luck. Good luck on your self-improvement journey!
Turn that bad mouthing and negative energy into something positive bro! If people throw rocks at you, don't throw them back--build something with it. Nothing will upset them more than seeing the person they hate succeed.
@@cheekcake779 I will certainly do that bro. I won't focus on the hate. Instead, I will focus on my mission. I've noticed that many people I know go through the same thing. Do you realize how many potential successful people there would have been if their negative emotions didn't take control over them? I have seen many smart people in the past that gave up because of how emotional they were. It is indeed a self-improvement trap that sadly many people fall into. Luckily this video opened my eyes, and I will spread this information to people who need it, and like you said, I will use that negative energy to motivate myself to achieving my goals! Thank you for this comment. It really means a lot. Also, I wish you the best luck on your self-improvement journey!
Yes their are those people who wants to put you down but did they know what made them change? Love beats all and then you say that it tolerant that man are weak to express there self before they be vulnerable to it and that some women see a man cry not cuase he is weak but to control himself to do better things if you say you never cried once or did how will you realize your self from the buble you kept yourself in and never know what real pain is when you see others make fun to those guys who was nice and kind before there be no more of them even if they don't get notice to it but what made you come this far we have our own perspective and ideas but some point we should not fight with us but improve us and the people to know how love comes from when you never received love from any one who never say there story and make fun of them but know this in life if there so way you felt like it's weakness but then there are others guy who cry not cause they weak bit something tragic happen to there life to make them that way even think of a poor homeless person who lost his job then lost his house or kids or someone important to them they become homeless who live in the street and they never got treated with love but people treat like they nothing if you see a poor person homeless who didn't eat for days and gave him a warm food and the he shows appreciation and cry as a old man who once have a life before he came poor no one should judge any one by the book of their cover and some homeless wants to die and also they have nothing like others who show no respect to ther elders and been discipline by those who brought him this far in life being rich yes i have money then say yeah i rich but all the money what do you o with it? Then say that men are weak when a homeless cry when they never had a meal for a longtime then how then they say weak when a man cry when. Homeless crybso many time and trybto work or fond Jon and they see they don't hire them not cause who they are but what there capable of doing I say this Generation needs guidance on what true pain for a manly guy to cry when they never saw what made him the way he is then he do things that he love and started make others happy then you Willie's what kindness is like
,,You know what else let’s their emotions control their life? Toddlers and dogs. And you know what both of them do? They shit on the carpet” - Mark Manson
"Emotional" can be missunderstood, but there is some wisdom to what you are saying. You shouldn't be ruled by your emotions, be mindfull of them and most importantly : know what thought makes it happen
Bro always comes through with that golden knowledge. Youre litereally the only RUclipsr I follow for self improvement. Keep sharing the good stuff bro.
You have helped me so much, im trying to become more like adonis. My friends make fun of me for trying to fix my life, and its just sad to see people acting like that. Ive been emotional most of my life and ive hated myself for it, thank you for helping me
Your ending motto "Do the hard work, especially if you don't feel like it" made me a much better man already. It's nailed in my head, and it made the suck so much easier to endure. Thank you Hamza. I'm trying every day to get better and better.
A reactive person makes decisions based on their feelings and emotions, A proactive person makes decisions based on their values and they are thought out, we must all strive to be proactive not reactive
This is true! I was doing so well in my routine, but then I got sad for overeating and instead of keeping going forward, I stopped doing any of the good habits just because I was too sad to do it so…
This is pretty true lately ive been trying to feel more positive,but I saw my family yesterday and all they did was talk behind each others backs and talk about random people (saying bad things) and moaning about them,like who gives a shit. 😂
@@ICEcoldtristan2.0 No. I heard that saying before. I think average people discuss current events or something. But I'm sure strong and average people don't discuss the same thing, otherwise they would be on the same table. 🤣
@@ICEcoldtristan2.0 Smart people discuss idea Average people discuss events Stupid people discuss people Strong people forgive Weak people revenge Smart people ignore
Hamza, I honestly think the title should be renamed into “who’s in charge: you or your emotions?” Because the topic at hand is much less about how emotions are generally bad and more about how losing control of your emotions is bad. You can cry like a man, or you can cry like a bitch. That was a lesson I learned on my journey of self discovery
Very well put Diego. I was disappointed by the video title but ok with the content of what Hamza is saying. Emotions don't mean weakness. That's the same screwed up thinking as 'men don't cry' that has led to repression and male suicide. But that's not what Hamza is saying anyway, he just went for a bit of a clickbait title....
Emotions doesnt make you weak as long as these dont separate you from your goal. Strong emotional men exist, and they target their emotions in the way they want to. He knows what actions to take in order to get back any feeling from it, and what actions to avoid because those will get back the feelings that separate him from his goals. This way a man can be emotional and fullfilling his purpose. That asociation of strong man with cold man is honelsty wrong and bs, because peoples goals are full of emotions. Moreover emotions dont relate at all with this social media adictions, its more of the chemicals released due to pleasure, not emotions at all.
I think we should still express our emotions, because emotions allow us to remember events, it is essential to learn new skills. If you remember when you did great or poorly, because you've been happy or sad, you'll be able to tell what to do or not to excel at this skill. However, I still believe that you need to re-take control of yourself when you get emotional, because when you're emotional you're not relax so you're not in a state of flow which is necessary to improve at any skills.
Stoicism. People should read about that more. You are still feeling emotions, you arent a robot. Emotions are a part of you, its part of the human condition. but they should not control you.
I think the title of this video is misleading. Emotional men are some of the strongest as long as they understand how to control themselves. Hamza makes a point on labeling emotions and keeping in touch with them, learning to accept how you feel about a situation and proceeding that situation with caution is necessary in life. However, that does not mean what you feel is invalid. As someone who is emotional, I have found balance with my feelings. I will not label my emotions in a way that escalates a situation that benefits only one side, I instead find out how and why I feel the way I do and then find compromise to the opposition. To all the emotional men in this channel, you are not weak unless you let your emotions prove you so. Harness how you feel, take notes from influential people in your life, and find balance if you wish to become the top 1%. Stay well my brothers.
7:24 disagree after learning and practicing meditation I looked up some research, tips and stuff like that, I realized that self love is an emotion just like anger, therefore you can change it to whatever you want. The brain is weird, evolution doesn't produce perfection... most of the times it makes random shit that works surpisingly well with the other garbage. You can easily change your emotions at will (I usually imagine a scene that gives that emotion) in a few minutes. So you can actually love yourself even if you are a walking trashcan BUT it's very hard to do. It's just easier if you have rational motivations to love yourself.
I agree, if you don't own and control your emotions you will destroy your life in no time and be slave of them, it's not a good life, anything that you have built can go away because you have poor self control, but if you are aware like you said and know how to use them that's a valuable weapon you feel the emotion and use it for what you wanna do or accomplish, you have more fuel for goals and more taste for good moments. it's really good to ignore people but sometimes if you know how to manage it to avoid real problems you can give a beating to someone who deserves it especially those who are crossing the line even after warnings. I personnaly use my negative emotions as a fuel and to enhance my performance, and with people sometimes i use my anger in a controlled manner to reestablish order and bounderies.
I have always been asked: ,, Do you even have emotions?" Now my answer is a smile and the words: ,,I do not have the luxury to let myself be guided by emotions. That´s why you don´t see any."
I think I got the message of the video and I have to disagree with some things Being emotional first of all shouldn't be labeled as feminine, same thing goes for other labels we give, like why is being strong a masculine trait, why is being weak seen as feminine? "Oh because most men are stronger than women" fine, most, but not all and I'm talking physically here, when we go to other potential meanings of strong we can see the problem here as well, women can be emotionally strong as well and suppress emotions, just like a lot of men do What I'm saying is, labels are dumb and if we want a true society where men and women are equal we need to stop associating weakness in men with being feminine or a woman who can't communicate their feelings well as being a masculine trait, no, they're just that, traits, not associated with any gender, they're just traits, that man is weak, maybe he should work on that, because it's seen as a negative trait, or that woman can't communicate her emotions really well, maybe she should go see a psychologist, because not being able to communicate your emotions is not good for you Same goes for the issue here, I don't think being emotional is a feminine trait, but it's a bad trait to have, men and women alike can have it, it's bad, in my opinion, because it can blind your judgment for example. On the other hand, being able to control your emotions is not a masculine trait in my eyes, but a good trait, because you are able to recognize your emotions, but you don't let them blind your judgment, this also helps you, like you said, understand why you feel like you do
@@megatron828 if you say so, I don't consider myself weak or too emotional, I like to see a balance in all things in life all I said in my comment is that traits are just that, traits, I personally feel that it's stupid to say good or bad traits are feminine or masculine, no, to me they are just good or bad traits, a man can be weak just as a woman can, a man can bottle up his emotions, just like a woman can
Am I emotional Yes In fact, when I get so angry that I feel the need to cry Did I grow up without a father Yes, he died of heart attack when I was 7 So Yes I am emotional And? I will NOT allow emotion to get in the way In fact I'll use it as a fuel to the fire If you do not wish to read my stories, just scrole down at the end, you'll know where I like drawing, I always found it fun And now there is a girl in my class with the same passion And let me tell you she can draw, oh boy she can She drew a portrait of her friend that looked so realistic that I thought it was a photo picture That is how well she draws I felt jealous I did not let it get in my way And now I did my fair share of drawings, until I did a drawing of zyzz with wings reaching out for heaven's When ever I look at that drawing I never see any flaw (The more you look at your drawing, the more you will hate it, some artist may relate, but the zyzz that I drew is outstanding for me) But let me tell you this, I never hated her for being better than me (just throwing it out there, no one knows of my jealousy towards so I didn't make an enemy out of her) in fact I have a huge crush for her I love her Now to tell you of my mental brakedown To help you understand what I was going thru I will try and explain myself In my high-school you have barber, cooking, locksmith and welder (education for all sorts of labor work), CNC technician, programmer, and the list goes on and on So I went from locksmith/welder to CNC technician, but in order for me to fully become CNC technician I needed to pass subject difference, if I don't there will be "complications" and will lead to me getting "expelled", meaning If I sing up for high-school I'll have to go to the 1st grade while I was 2nd And it was something I will have to pass during regular school So I had to manage between 2 things, I had to worry "will I fail a class or will I get fucking shited on by the subject difference" So constant stress lead to my emotional brake down It was between 22:00 or 1:00 in the morning I don't remember, I went outside the balcony while there was a freezing mist or fog I was even naked, bare foot naked, only my underwear And I cried, dropped down on my knees and cried like a bitch Just like with jealousy, I did NOT let this get in the way of passing thru that hell So I pulled, used everything I could, studying, asking, demanding from a specific teacher that was giving me shit for breakfast just because y e s, cheating, acting like a teachers pet And I pulled thru, passed both regular school and that subject difference And I was happy to breathe normally There is a lot more to this then just what I said just now, but its a short version ----------- In conclusion Hamza, being emotional is in fact ok It's a human trait that can't be denied Letting emotion temper with your goals, achievements, anger, or hurting someone is NOT ok And it shouldn't Instead use it as a fuel, to conquer, to achieve, to succeed, help Cry, but control it, or if you can learn from it I love you Hamza, but please look back at this and learn from it *Kiss on forehead
If you are overly emotional then small inconveniences in life will greatly affect you. Things out of your control with dictate whether you are happy or sad on a daily basis. Emotionally, you want to be a rock rather than a feather in life.
Dude...society doesn't encourage "emotional men" in the way you're portraying it. In fact, most of what you said is valid and that's usually what people mean when they tell you to be in tune with your emotions. Sometimes however it is valid to actually feel an emotion entirely while processing it. Things like sadness and depression. It's something you have to voluntarily allow. But of course no one with a brain would tell you to act out if you're angry. Anger is usually a mask for some other feeling anyway. All this to say, most of what you're saying is valid but it's not neccessary to frame it in a way where it seems like modern society is encouraging and perpetuating fragility.
@@BestieBearLover Rn you deserve to be judged. Anime fan + most likely insecure that your traits have been called out in the vid. Use the video to accept what's wrong and improve yourself instead of saying corny shit on youtube comments 💀
no they are not. Supressing them is what makes killers or impulsive children. Emotions are to be felt and transformed into fuel. Or you feel them, but not let them control you. Never suppress them, but also not let them control you
Weakness is shit but to have emotions is good. If you don't have your cold af and not good for the enviroment. You need empathy for your structure/workers, you need to be the leader.
Why must men always have to rely only on themselves we're humans just like everyone else we deserve the same level of support as anyone else I don't care how muscular or manly you are if you won't allow yourself to feel you will fall apart and you should trust your family and friends to be there for you I'm not saying you shouldn't be self sufficient but I am saying you will always need help at some point there's no avoiding it at all you should be self sufficient but you shouldn't be alone because no matter how unstoppable you think you are you will trip and stumble in life and when you need it the most you should have a net to catch you
Weakness is when emotions control a man and strength is when a man control his emotions to achieve in his life
@@jjboss7896 Interesting point, I thought of mike tyson for example who says himself that hes a very emotional person. The key is to channel the emotions and use the powerful energy of your emotions for and not against you. Tyson for example didnt go out and stab people in Order to deal with his aggression. He chose to channel it to become one of the best in his sport. Nevertheless when you think about the "Kings" or "Leaders" of todays world like Putin, Biden or even Zuckerberg or Bezos you probably wouldn't say that these are emotional people, would you?
@@kiba7907 yea but actors also become leaders because they feed the sheep nice words everyone you listed os typical politician besides Putin be even he has good acting skills because he was a Russian spy at one point.
Alchemical Transmutation
You don't have control over your emotions. Your emotions are defined by your beliefs, which you have no direct control over either. But you do have control over your rational faculty, helping you shape and change your beliefs consequently altering the emotions linked to these beliefs. I believe one should actively try to change his own beliefs triggering anger, frustration, jealousy and fear as they are not beneficial for the individual. And are certainly sign of weakness rather than strenght of character.
Emotions shouldn’t be controlled. Because it won’t solve the problems you face. If you’re trying to rehabilitate a prison do you build a stronger cell or try to understand them? Mammals were designed to think with their emotions; It’s apart of us, and we should be trying to understand why we feel the way we do. You have to guide your emotions.
Your emotions shouldn’t rule over you but they shouldn’t be off to side. They should be with you in every decision you make. Sometimes your heart can do more thinking than your brain.
Accept your emotions, but don't let them dictate your life. Be disciplined and stay on the grind. Trust the process
True.
@@hcuoplwl6120 be aware of ur emotions
Just like Rick Grimes.
im not saying dont open up, do that, its nice to have people you can rely on with your problems, but dont let your emotions dictate you. Like hamza said, you must acknowlage your emotions, but you must not let them control you.
@@silentaimer It takes more than to “be aware of your emotion”. You have to know when to be be emotional. I was “aware” if my emotions all the time but it never fixed my problem until I just let it all out.
"Raise hand those of you who are tired of your procrastination habit"
eh, I'll raise my hand tomorrow
@@twoheadsup2636 💀💀💀
Me too! But there are days where I`m too tired of doing self-improvement and I give myself more time to rest, to return stronger and usually I procrastinate these days
Sounds like an attempt to organize an INTP gathering lol
@@twoheadsup2636 lmao
You are so right. As a young man I’ve always been emotional. I’ve felt emotions very strongly and this has been mainly due to suffering from Asperger’s syndrome (autism spectrum). However, using this as an excuse would constantly limit me. Giving excuses are limitations, everyone has the chance to be THE man and emotions would get in the way of it. Being obsessed with goals and achieving them are the key to become a top tier masculine man flowing with testosterone through their veins.
God I swear like 90% of 'Red Pill' men have autism.
as a teenager with autism who also used to be really emotional during school, I agree with this. It always felt like everyone was telling me that it was okay to be emotional, and no one tried to help me put the situation i was in into context and actually pull me out of it
Bro I was diagnosed with Asperger’s and something that helps is not view it as a suffering or a limitation but a superpower. Mindset is everything. Glad that you see that everyone regardless of their conditions can level up in their life. Much love.
Ah yes
Bro I'd love to talk to you more as a man with Aspergers, glad you came to that realisation
Emotions will be there. What matters is how you react to them. Carl Jung termed this as our shadow self. The more we try to repress our emotions, more strongly they come back. To be complete we need to integrate with our shadow self
Learn to detach yourself from your emotions. You are not your emotions. We have 2 minds a thinking mind(that has emotions and the one gets tempted, when we say we are over-thinking we are basically letting this one loose) and an observing mind (the part of our mind that we can control, the logical brain, that observes our thinking mind)
So instead of thinking you are angry, think you are feeling anger. This will take some time but when you do this with grief, jealousy, hatred etc. You'll learn to act despite your emotions. Later try to journal why were you feeling that extreme emotion. Venting in any form goes a long way
Very good explanation.
This explains why I've never had much trouble with anger. I've felt detached from it from such a young age that I have a decade and a half of observing frustration without ever "feeling" it.
You're kind of right, but I'd like to specify.
The problem is that we discriminate between emotions.
When you are a child you are dependent on your parents for survival. But your parents have to condition you to function in a society - you can't still go around screaming in public as an adult for example. To build up on that example, Therefore you are told to shut it down in some situations. But because you can't comprend the reason why your parents don't want you to scream, you just feel like they don't love you if you show them this emotion - and your instinct is, that if your parents don't love you, they might abandon you resulting in your death. That is the point where a split is created in your personality, as you disowned the part of you that is angry, because you think it's unacceptable - It is now linked to the fear of death.
This process happens with anger, fear and sadness,
So The complex thinking part of your brain has formed a core belief that that certain emotions may result in death if acted out. Therefore they are repressed over years and years and years. But resisting these emotions leads to not having an outlet and they build up, causing suffering in you. The bad feelings we have aren't the emotions but actually the suffering that results from resisting these emotions.
Probably youve had moments where you were so stressed that you irationally lashed out at someone in anger for example. That is simply your body searching for an outlet because the repressed emotions are overflowing - that's the point where the need to let go of resistance is greater than the fear of feeling it.
Back to the core belief - now you're an adult and know that your core belief from back then is irrational, but knowing it doesn't work to remove it. Rather then thinking your way out of the repressed emotions through thoughts, you need to take the physical approach. Every time you feel fear for example, there are sensations that come up in your body. You need to practice to be aware of these sensations when they come up. Allowing yourself to feel these sensations makes the resistance behind them disappear and you dive in deeper and deeper every time you do this, removing layer by layer, untangling all of the built up resistance, until one day you reach the core of that fear where it all started. You allow yourself to feel that original emotion and you are overflowed by bliss. Because you abondened such a wonderful and important part of you for so long. This is life changing stuff, I'm so grateful that I found all this knowledge. I had no hope in my life, and now Im crying tears of happiness while writing this
"Instead of think you are angry, think that you are feeling anger."
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You voiced that in such a way I didn't think possible, man, holy shit that's amazing. That is actually gonna go a long way for me. Thank you :)
Your not supposed to block out your emotions.
The goal, especially if we are to become great fathers and husbands is to become emotionally intelligent. To understand and to work with your emotions throughout your life.
To truly open up and feel visceral pain, but not let it stop you.
To feel unyielding gratitude and joy but not let it blind you.
To have guilt and regret tug at your heart, but to go back inward and to resolve the emotions that are causing it and to learn that lesson.
If you are in emotional turmoil you can not resolve it by shoving it down under the guise of needing to be more masculine and non emotional. Our fore fathers have done this without the knowledge of mental health and phycology and it has fucked them up for generations.
We need to learn how to conquer, love and accept our inner selves to get to a true peace that we can the pour out to our loved ones our spouse and most importantly our children.
Learn about child phycology,
Learn about the dangers of emotionally immature parents and don’t be so stuck in this ridged masculinity that you miss the flowers for the trees.
Keep in mind you very well may have to raise a daughter and she along with your son will need to learn how to be emotionally mature, stable and loved form you and your partner.
Pick carefully and learn thoroughly
Good day to you
Wisest words written on here.
Couldn’t have said it any better.
Thank you, for sharing!
@@mrteco4236 That’s the point
@@mrteco4236 That’s some loaded language there buddy.
There are people that have unresolved issues that cause them to be mal-adapted emotionally and socially.
But words have meaning, and calling someone trying to do their best to navigate the world a “nuisance” is never a pathos that I will subscribe to.
@@mrteco4236 Also I still have no idea what you disagree with?
@@mrteco4236 i like how you put words in people's mouths - nobody ever said anything about crybabies and/or anger issues. They only said that repressing your emotions isn't healthy. You can accept your feelings and not have "anger issues" or be a "crybaby" if you have even a morsel of self-control.
“I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”
― Oscar Wilde,
I'm 22 years old, I dropped all social media out of my life at age 16, I'm living a life where I don't understand other people's problem caused by social media...my life is so calm...I push with the movement✊️ but also respect the business some of yall build on smplatforms
Big up Elisha Long
hi
Appreciate what your doing bro 👊
Anyone reading this Good luck on your self improvement, this is just the beginning it’s only up from here, stay ambitious! 💪🏽📈🚦
Bro 💀
@@user-wt6cp7cg7h bro 🦍
@daboi00h7 vector gotchu homie, keep grinding 💪🏽💪🏽
thanks bro
Lets gooooo
Had an altercation at the market today. And this video is making me realize how grateful I am for how I handled the situation.
Spill the beans! I want to hear about it!😊
@@eliasconradsson5412 Some guy (looked like Mark Henry from WWE) was annoyed at me that I didn’t move up in the aisle (I was waiting for the lady in front to finish and there wasn’t really any room to move up). So he just got really angry about it and called me “a stupid goofy n&&&&” and he looked like he wanted to fuck me up for no reason. So I just looked him in the eyes and told him, calmly, to relax a few times. Then he turned around to his girlfriend and kept muttering to himself. Idk just a weird situation where that guy was like angry and let it dictate his actions while I calmly de-escalate it. Then this video pops up in the feed not an hour later. Odd coincidence I guess lol
@@elpapisaint me personally I wouldn't let that slide.
@@BackBeater 😂
I'm from France and I'm very glad to be in the Cult. Thanks for all Hamza.
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WE TOGETHER 💪🏽💪🏽🖤 I'M SUFFERING SO HARD RECENTLY BUT I WILL NEVER GIVE UP.. SALUTATIONS DEPUIS LA FRANCE
being emotional was one of my biggest downfalls recently which caused me to hit a big rock bottom. i ended up quitting my job in a rage fit after being cheated on (again) by one of my coworkers. i was in a leadership position and everyone else knew about the whole thing, it was a mess, so i couldn't handle it and just quit. those were the hardest months of my life and only when i discovered about self improvement habits i managed to climb i out of the hole i digged myself into. I've always been extremely controlled by my emotions and it always put me in a state of anxiety where i act on impulse, and now i realise how much of a weakness this is, after losing the respect of everyone, even myself. first you need to put the effort and discipline to acquire back self respect and then you can apply rational and stoic practices. once you start and get a hold of yourself you feel unstoppable. trust me.
be careful and take care mates. we're all gonna make it. also, i really appreciate the video, hamza. this is a message i needed for a long time now and it only reassures my purpose.
Bro literally exact same thing happened to me I have been struggling for months cause of my anger I left my job
Never forget that sometimes you have to let those emotions get out in some way, let them be, using art, manual skills work, walking, writing or go out in nature.
I heard this from andrew tate and it got stuck in my head
He said "it doesn't matter what I feel, sad, angry, happy- no matter what I feel it has 0 effect on what I'm doing"
Really inspired me, I think it's important to be aware of your feelings yet still have this kind of objective thinking of "it doesn't matter how I feel I have to do x y z"
No offense, but if your counselor is Andrew Tate.... let's just say you should try to widen up your youtube views so recommendations aren't utter shit.
@@rayres1074 im not a fan of andrew tate, but atleast this guy got part of the message, can't say its all negative, but atleast this somehow brought him to Hamza
@@rayres1074 ain't my counselor
I don't agree with everything he says, but you still can't deny he's very successful whether you like him or not
@@comradeskipper5232 He is indeed very moneyed, considering he's a champion kickboxer. That's it though. Being rich doesn't make your opinion any more valid.
If he was a minimum wage worker? Nobody would listen to his dumb shit. Heck, he'd be an average redditor in r/incel rather than an """"influencer"""".
i remember that quote too, good ass quote. 25% of the time tate was happy when he trained, and the rest pure discipline.
This goes hand in hand with the book: The way of the superior Man.
I liked your conclusion in this video as it's easy to be followed up and i think, that controlling your emotions is one of the most important skills in life.
Love you so much man, you don't know how much you've changed the lives of so many young people ❤️
Lets go
oh he knows
No
Love is an emotion, stop being a betch, go to the gym
Hey, I just wanted to say that I found your channel just a week ago. I’m a teenager and I have been into self improvement for a while. I found your channel and I really love what you’re saying. My family and I have always hated social media like instagram. These videos have given me motivation to improve myself. Being emotional and being aware of your emotions are different. We should be able to control our emotions. These platforms are really a death trap. If you feel insecure, try to improve yourself. I used to play a lot of video games, and struggle with insecurity. Ever since I’ve broken away from that and started working out, I’ve begun to be more fulfilled with all of my days. I feel that I haven’t lived my life that I wanted to yet, but I firmly believe we can all change. And because of this, I’ve realized a lot of things. People nowadays have things all wrong. If you are weak, instead of embracing it, improve yourself. Thank you.
Dating an emotional man is hard! There is no space for the woman to be her natural emotional self and conversations turn into a "cat" fight.
Oh my gosh….thank you, you took the words right out of my mouth. It’s so hard, it puts the woman then in the place of masculinity.
"Be in touch with your emotions" is completely different from being able to control your emotions and not let it dictate your day to day behavior. I don't feel like going to the gym most days. If I give into those emotions I would become a weak man.
“You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” - Marcus Aurelius
Detaching from emotions shouldn't be the goal. There's a difference between being emotionless and being emotionally strong.
Thank you hamza, you are changing so many lives of this and the next generations. vive le renouveau masculin (Long live the masculine revival)
As a 13 Year old he actually IS changing the next generation
@Martin Og Same thing with me, 6th grade I was like, the weirdest kid in school. Now going into 8th I am starting on my schools football team and one of the strongest kids in weightlifting class. Keep up the grinds brothers
@@JohnSmith-ko7nl damn you really put in the grind and got the rewards
I need Hamza to read this:
I LITERALLY NEEDED THIS TYPE OF VIDEOS IN YOUR CHANNEL!!! I needed that natural pause after EVERY sentence to realise myself. Cuz your edited videos do have information overloaded and i can't take it all at once. This feels so natural that i feel like someone is advising me for good. Your other videos make me feel like full of both information and quick edits. Please make videos like this.
To the editor: The Jeffery and Adonis edits are too good for an intro to start. But if he talks with pause after that, the audience may feel bored. You take the decision bro ❤️
“Emotion can be the enemy, if you give into your emotion, you lose yourself. You must be at one with your emotions, because the body always follows the mind.”
-Bruce Lee
Love you Hamza thanks for doing what you do man mashallah
I will speak from experience. I was literally the opposite. I was unhealthily unemotional. I was dull, emotionless and absolutely senseless. That was the worst time of my life. This January I met a girl straight out of my dreams at the very right time, meters away from slipping away to a deep pit inside the deep pit i already was in, and I am changed forever in a good way. She softened my heart, she made me regain my emotions and my senses, but the pendulum swung too strongly, which made me accidentally make her get further from me now. I finally balanced it out now after skating around a bit, and I am currently putting all my efforts to regain her (seriously, she is worth that, and I don't have a shadow of doubt about it because we already discussed everything to convince me to know that she is the one I will bs the happiest with when I marry her, pray for me bros that I do it). If, God forbid, I don't regain her, then at least I will gain myself for me, so I still would go away with one win of the many battles.
Now, I know that a lesson on own experience is learned much better, and me teaching a lesson to y'all wouldn't probably be learned by you guys good enough, but just so you guys don't walk in the path I went in as blindly as I did, here are a couple critical tips on emotionality:
• NEVER, seriously, no matter how much you love a person, NEVER EVER share too much about your deepest feelings to a person that you aren't actually tied to in a way (eg. marriage). You might just say too much.
• ALWAYS keep your emotions in check. Let them out once in a while, but NEVER in front of someone who could make a talk about it (eg. mom)
• It is okay for you to cry over serious stuff. If you don't cry from your grandma's death, especially if you actually loved your grandma, then your heart is freezing, and you need to melt it before it makes it take a crack to reach it*
• You can be very emotional about something or someone when you're on your own, but use the torque the emotions give you to actually fix the things that make you feel pain you have, rather than simply waste it on crying over the thing, or even worse, on idolising it, making it the uncreachable goal. It is reachable, just get your two round pieces of flesh off your seat/bed/whatever else, and START WALKING. Every journey, be it a trip to school, or literally the way to the moon, starts with a footstep. Take the footstep, your engine starts, and you do footstep after a footstep, eventually reaching your destination.
• Use your emotions to analyse your life choices. This must be self-explanatory.
• Lastly, feel. Turn on your feelings. Turning them off makes the battle tougher, not yourself. Go and feel, but control what you feel. Filter it, analyse it, evaluate it.
*sorry for the bad wording, but here I meant that you should fix your heart, or metaphorically, unfreeze it, before it gets so cold in the ice form, it starts requiring a crack to be done in order to reach your heart.
I‘m glad you put it this way cause I hate people who say „don‘t have emotions otherwise you‘re weak“. It‘s very healthy to be in touch with your emotions but what matters is how you deal with them. Take them seriously but don‘t let them cause your actions.
your beef with sneako was emotional and ego driven
I'm 17 and I admit that unfortunately I'm very emotional. Things for me don't work exactly like you described, Hamza, but I am indeed very emotional, which is, probably my main flaw. It is indeed holding me back and I started working on it not too long ago. Hope to become more of a man for the better
Why is it bad
@@stayawayfromthewoke3412 Did you watch the video?
@@odysseasandroutsos1821 yeah
@@stayawayfromthewoke3412 Well, then either you're asking why is it bad on a personal level and I didn't understand the question or you didn't pay attention while watching the video
@@odysseasandroutsos1821 on a personal level
Hamza starting a movement to take down the silicon valley nerds
wait what are you doing here
@@elboel5526 bro is a millionaire be can be anywhere
The only reason you have any $ is cuz the Silicon Valley nerds
Not the silicon walley nerds are the problem nor the product they made. The problem is how we use it. For example: If i have an axe I can cut wood with it and ignite a fire. But I also can cut old Mary next door. And if I cut old Mary who will be inprisoned? The mindless tool, or me who used it? It depends on how we use a product we have.
@@catofculture8562 bruh 💯😂
I cant lie, Hamza ever since he made that Delete instagram vid, He just seems locked in, He is just locked in rn, Hamza Keep going hard man
Thank you hamza because of you I started self improvement and now I am documenting my journey on RUclips thanks man 🔥🔥
My Key Notes
“Progress towards your mission creates happiness and fulfillment and sense of freedom”
“Self-love is attained through self-respect by doing the right things”
Amen brother!!!! I am that weak man! I F**ken hate it.
i really appreciate those uncut/not edited pauses you do in your videos. in an ocean of videos in youtube, this feels like.. it's real. it hits close. it's like a reality check. a moment of clarity. a moment to think..
Don't let your emotions control you,
You control your emotions.
Wow, this is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen.
Holy shit, totally relatable.
It’s funny how he says your emotions change all the time.
Well mine changed swiftly as I was watching this content.
This man is smart in very numerous ways. Good work on yourself man🙏🏼
Bravery isn't the lack of fear, bravery is accepting the fear, and still taking that step or action and going through the obstacles.
Hi, Hamza I just want to say thanks for this video because it was really useful. My birthday was yesterday and it would mean so much if you could wish me Happy Birthday because you have been so influential in my self-improvement journey. If you see this please boost it so Hamza can see it!
happy birthday 🎂
Hbd bro
happy bday bro, keep grindin
Happy birthday bro
Happy birthday bro.🎉
As someone who’s been through an absolutely devastating breakup I can confirm what this dude spits is the truth and you ain’t gonna move past it until you control your emotions and turn it into something productive, fun, or both. For me I chose forging and welding. Choose something you love and stick to it.
I consider myself an emotional man; however, I see it as a positive thing as it allows for me to interact with others at a higher level. I believe I have high emotional intelligence and so I am able to navigate awkward situations and feel comfortable in otherwise uncomfortable scenarios. My point is, I believe you should own up to how you are and rock it. Confidence is key and that's what being a man is all about. Nice video, Hamza!
you are coping. from experience, being soft and emotional, while it may help you "interact with others at a higher level" will also affect you in a negative way.
@@pedro4154 Thanks for the response. Interesting perspective. I’ll take it in account!
@@pedro4154 bro i work in healthcare. We are supposed to have an emotional side to excel at what we do. Of course the majority is logical
@@pedro4154 i think it does good to recognise that these things can be nuanced. you can be selectively soft and emotional or whatever at the right time with the right people. i feel that people just misunderstanding each other when talking about this subject.
@@pedro4154 Being soft and emotional doesn't exclude having boundaries and being assertive.
This video was an eye opener for me. This whole summer, I have been feeling bad and lonely since things were not going my way. I wasn't being consistent with my mission which ultimately resulted in me getting made fun of and bad mouthed. There are 10 days left until my school starts, and I will no longer let my emotions control me. I will continue to focus on my goals and accept the fact that there will always be people trying to make fun of me. Even if you reach the state of success, there will always be negative and toxic people. Thank you all for reading this comment and if you are going through a similar experience, I wish you all good luck. Good luck on your self-improvement journey!
Turn that bad mouthing and negative energy into something positive bro! If people throw rocks at you, don't throw them back--build something with it. Nothing will upset them more than seeing the person they hate succeed.
@@cheekcake779 I will certainly do that bro. I won't focus on the hate. Instead, I will focus on my mission. I've noticed that many people I know go through the same thing. Do you realize how many potential successful people there would have been if their negative emotions didn't take control over them? I have seen many smart people in the past that gave up because of how emotional they were. It is indeed a self-improvement trap that sadly many people fall into. Luckily this video opened my eyes, and I will spread this information to people who need it, and like you said, I will use that negative energy to motivate myself to achieving my goals! Thank you for this comment. It really means a lot. Also, I wish you the best luck on your self-improvement journey!
Yes their are those people who wants to put you down but did they know what made them change? Love beats all and then you say that it tolerant that man are weak to express there self before they be vulnerable to it and that some women see a man cry not cuase he is weak but to control himself to do better things if you say you never cried once or did how will you realize your self from the buble you kept yourself in and never know what real pain is when you see others make fun to those guys who was nice and kind before there be no more of them even if they don't get notice to it but what made you come this far we have our own perspective and ideas but some point we should not fight with us but improve us and the people to know how love comes from when you never received love from any one who never say there story and make fun of them but know this in life if there so way you felt like it's weakness but then there are others guy who cry not cause they weak bit something tragic happen to there life to make them that way even think of a poor homeless person who lost his job then lost his house or kids or someone important to them they become homeless who live in the street and they never got treated with love but people treat like they nothing if you see a poor person homeless who didn't eat for days and gave him a warm food and the he shows appreciation and cry as a old man who once have a life before he came poor no one should judge any one by the book of their cover and some homeless wants to die and also they have nothing like others who show no respect to ther elders and been discipline by those who brought him this far in life being rich yes i have money then say yeah i rich but all the money what do you o with it? Then say that men are weak when a homeless cry when they never had a meal for a longtime then how then they say weak when a man cry when. Homeless crybso many time and trybto work or fond Jon and they see they don't hire them not cause who they are but what there capable of doing I say this Generation needs guidance on what true pain for a manly guy to cry when they never saw what made him the way he is then he do things that he love and started make others happy then you Willie's what kindness is like
I am going to improve myself.....Love you Hamza..you are like an elder brother to me ♥️
,,You know what else let’s their emotions control their life? Toddlers and dogs. And you know what both of them do? They shit on the carpet” - Mark Manson
Smiling is a sign of happiness, and happiness is an emotion💀so stop smiling bro
"Emotional" can be missunderstood, but there is some wisdom to what you are saying. You shouldn't be ruled by your emotions, be mindfull of them and most importantly : know what thought makes it happen
Bro always comes through with that golden knowledge. Youre litereally the only RUclipsr I follow for self improvement. Keep sharing the good stuff bro.
You have helped me so much, im trying to become more like adonis. My friends make fun of me for trying to fix my life, and its just sad to see people acting like that. Ive been emotional most of my life and ive hated myself for it, thank you for helping me
I agree im really thankful for people like hamza. Helping men in need of improving in aspects of their lives
Your ending motto "Do the hard work, especially if you don't feel like it" made me a much better man already. It's nailed in my head, and it made the suck so much easier to endure. Thank you Hamza. I'm trying every day to get better and better.
Hamza and andrew rate are saving this generations men
A reactive person makes decisions based on their feelings and emotions, A proactive person makes decisions based on their values and they are thought out, we must all strive to be proactive not reactive
This is true! I was doing so well in my routine, but then I got sad for overeating and instead of keeping going forward, I stopped doing any of the good habits just because I was too sad to do it so…
I get the emotion of being humble and my head goes down while listening to hamza ❤️🙏🏻 real senpai
I dont Play video games anymore and i can think of My emotion and actions and i workout almost everyday, you have my respect Hamza.👍🏻
Strong people discuss ideas
Average people discuss ideas
*Weak people discuss people*
This is pretty true lately ive been trying to feel more positive,but I saw my family yesterday and all they did was talk behind each others backs and talk about random people (saying bad things) and moaning about them,like who gives a shit. 😂
Average and strong people discuss the sane thing? 🤣
@@allwillberevealed777 that's because weak people gossip and say shit about other people behind their backs for some reason
@@ICEcoldtristan2.0
No. I heard that saying before. I think average people discuss current events or something.
But I'm sure strong and average people don't discuss the same thing, otherwise they would be on the same table.
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@@ICEcoldtristan2.0 Smart people discuss idea
Average people discuss events
Stupid people discuss people
Strong people forgive
Weak people revenge
Smart people ignore
Hamza, I honestly think the title should be renamed into “who’s in charge: you or your emotions?” Because the topic at hand is much less about how emotions are generally bad and more about how losing control of your emotions is bad. You can cry like a man, or you can cry like a bitch. That was a lesson I learned on my journey of self discovery
Very well put Diego. I was disappointed by the video title but ok with the content of what Hamza is saying. Emotions don't mean weakness. That's the same screwed up thinking as 'men don't cry' that has led to repression and male suicide. But that's not what Hamza is saying anyway, he just went for a bit of a clickbait title....
Nobody loves a loser. Even the loser hates himself.
Emotional people in general is the weakness of our species. So many tragedy and grief are caused by how many of us let emotions dictate our decisions.
We don’t want safe nice calm men. We want strong dangerous men who can control that power.
Emotions doesnt make you weak as long as these dont separate you from your goal. Strong emotional men exist, and they target their emotions in the way they want to. He knows what actions to take in order to get back any feeling from it, and what actions to avoid because those will get back the feelings that separate him from his goals. This way a man can be emotional and fullfilling his purpose. That asociation of strong man with cold man is honelsty wrong and bs, because peoples goals are full of emotions. Moreover emotions dont relate at all with this social media adictions, its more of the chemicals released due to pleasure, not emotions at all.
I love myself, therefore I will better myself.
Honestly anger even makes me focus much better on my work
Thank you Hamza, everyone in my family is so emotional I thought something might be wrong with me wtf
I think we should still express our emotions, because emotions allow us to remember events, it is essential to learn new skills. If you remember when you did great or poorly, because you've been happy or sad, you'll be able to tell what to do or not to excel at this skill. However, I still believe that you need to re-take control of yourself when you get emotional, because when you're emotional you're not relax so you're not in a state of flow which is necessary to improve at any skills.
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Self love as a man is all about being pride of the decisions of your past self
Stoicism. People should read about that more. You are still feeling emotions, you arent a robot.
Emotions are a part of you, its part of the human condition. but they should not control you.
Hamza is Giga chad 🗿
I think the title of this video is misleading.
Emotional men are some of the strongest as long as they understand how to control themselves. Hamza makes a point on labeling emotions and keeping in touch with them, learning to accept how you feel about a situation and proceeding that situation with caution is necessary in life.
However, that does not mean what you feel is invalid.
As someone who is emotional, I have found balance with my feelings. I will not label my emotions in a way that escalates a situation that benefits only one side, I instead find out how and why I feel the way I do and then find compromise to the opposition.
To all the emotional men in this channel, you are not weak unless you let your emotions prove you so. Harness how you feel, take notes from influential people in your life, and find balance if you wish to become the top 1%.
Stay well my brothers.
Being in touch is good, being in control is better
Ragnar Lothbrok once said “a king should lead with his head, not his heart”
sir... this is a wendys
7:24 disagree
after learning and practicing meditation I looked up some research, tips and stuff like that, I realized that self love is an emotion just like anger, therefore you can change it to whatever you want. The brain is weird, evolution doesn't produce perfection... most of the times it makes random shit that works surpisingly well with the other garbage. You can easily change your emotions at will (I usually imagine a scene that gives that emotion) in a few minutes. So you can actually love yourself even if you are a walking trashcan BUT it's very hard to do.
It's just easier if you have rational motivations to love yourself.
Some people are Stoic and some which is better can turn on and off emotions on command kinda like the Stoic Sociopath
Don’t let your emotions dictate your life stay on your grind guys
I agree, if you don't own and control your emotions you will destroy your life in no time and be slave of them, it's not a good life, anything that you have built can go away because you have poor self control, but if you are aware like you said and know how to use them that's a valuable weapon you feel the emotion and use it for what you wanna do or accomplish, you have more fuel for goals and more taste for good moments.
it's really good to ignore people but sometimes if you know how to manage it to avoid real problems you can give a beating to someone who deserves it especially those who are crossing the line even after warnings.
I personnaly use my negative emotions as a fuel and to enhance my performance, and with people sometimes i use my anger in a controlled manner to reestablish order and bounderies.
I have always been asked: ,, Do you even have emotions?"
Now my answer is a smile and the words: ,,I do not have the luxury to let myself be guided by emotions. That´s why you don´t see any."
I think I got the message of the video and I have to disagree with some things
Being emotional first of all shouldn't be labeled as feminine, same thing goes for other labels we give, like why is being strong a masculine trait, why is being weak seen as feminine? "Oh because most men are stronger than women" fine, most, but not all and I'm talking physically here, when we go to other potential meanings of strong we can see the problem here as well, women can be emotionally strong as well and suppress emotions, just like a lot of men do
What I'm saying is, labels are dumb and if we want a true society where men and women are equal we need to stop associating weakness in men with being feminine or a woman who can't communicate their feelings well as being a masculine trait, no, they're just that, traits, not associated with any gender, they're just traits, that man is weak, maybe he should work on that, because it's seen as a negative trait, or that woman can't communicate her emotions really well, maybe she should go see a psychologist, because not being able to communicate your emotions is not good for you
Same goes for the issue here, I don't think being emotional is a feminine trait, but it's a bad trait to have, men and women alike can have it, it's bad, in my opinion, because it can blind your judgment for example. On the other hand, being able to control your emotions is not a masculine trait in my eyes, but a good trait, because you are able to recognize your emotions, but you don't let them blind your judgment, this also helps you, like you said, understand why you feel like you do
Being emotional is a weak feminine trait. You are coping and trying to come up with excuses because you yourself are an effeminate emotional male
@@megatron828 if you say so, I don't consider myself weak or too emotional, I like to see a balance in all things in life
all I said in my comment is that traits are just that, traits, I personally feel that it's stupid to say good or bad traits are feminine or masculine, no, to me they are just good or bad traits, a man can be weak just as a woman can, a man can bottle up his emotions, just like a woman can
I love the unfiltered videos!
Am I emotional
Yes
In fact, when I get so angry that I feel the need to cry
Did I grow up without a father
Yes, he died of heart attack when I was 7
So Yes I am emotional
And?
I will NOT allow emotion to get in the way
In fact I'll use it as a fuel to the fire
If you do not wish to read my stories, just scrole down at the end, you'll know where
I like drawing, I always found it fun
And now there is a girl in my class with the same passion
And let me tell you she can draw, oh boy she can
She drew a portrait of her friend that looked so realistic that I thought it was a photo picture
That is how well she draws
I felt jealous
I did not let it get in my way
And now I did my fair share of drawings, until I did a drawing of zyzz with wings reaching out for heaven's
When ever I look at that drawing I never see any flaw
(The more you look at your drawing, the more you will hate it, some artist may relate, but the zyzz that I drew is outstanding for me)
But let me tell you this, I never hated her for being better than me (just throwing it out there, no one knows of my jealousy towards so I didn't make an enemy out of her) in fact I have a huge crush for her
I love her
Now to tell you of my mental brakedown
To help you understand what I was going thru I will try and explain myself
In my high-school you have barber, cooking, locksmith and welder (education for all sorts of labor work), CNC technician, programmer, and the list goes on and on
So I went from locksmith/welder to CNC technician, but in order for me to fully become CNC technician I needed to pass subject difference, if I don't there will be "complications" and will lead to me getting "expelled", meaning If I sing up for high-school I'll have to go to the 1st grade while I was 2nd
And it was something I will have to pass during regular school
So I had to manage between 2 things, I had to worry "will I fail a class or will I get fucking shited on by the subject difference"
So constant stress lead to my emotional brake down
It was between 22:00 or 1:00 in the morning I don't remember, I went outside the balcony while there was a freezing mist or fog I was even naked, bare foot naked, only my underwear
And I cried, dropped down on my knees and cried like a bitch
Just like with jealousy, I did NOT let this get in the way of passing thru that hell
So I pulled, used everything I could, studying, asking, demanding from a specific teacher that was giving me shit for breakfast just because y e s, cheating, acting like a teachers pet
And I pulled thru, passed both regular school and that subject difference
And I was happy to breathe normally
There is a lot more to this then just what I said just now, but its a short version
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In conclusion
Hamza, being emotional is in fact ok
It's a human trait that can't be denied
Letting emotion temper with your goals, achievements, anger, or hurting someone is NOT ok
And it shouldn't
Instead use it as a fuel, to conquer, to achieve, to succeed, help
Cry, but control it, or if you can learn from it
I love you Hamza, but please look back at this and learn from it
*Kiss on forehead
Bro I'm first place in my age at my country at swimming 💀
@Faith thanks
Tell me your country, asking for a friend.
@@YahyaOnYT Israel
hazma > sneako any day
If you are overly emotional then small inconveniences in life will greatly affect you. Things out of your control with dictate whether you are happy or sad on a daily basis. Emotionally, you want to be a rock rather than a feather in life.
Because the Rock always Drops down faster than the feather
Emotions literally can kill us or help us. Let’s become more aware of our emotions
My emotions when Hamza gives me the kissy: 🥵💦😩
Do the hard work especially when you don't feel like it.... mwah
Dude...society doesn't encourage "emotional men" in the way you're portraying it. In fact, most of what you said is valid and that's usually what people mean when they tell you to be in tune with your emotions. Sometimes however it is valid to actually feel an emotion entirely while processing it. Things like sadness and depression. It's something you have to voluntarily allow. But of course no one with a brain would tell you to act out if you're angry. Anger is usually a mask for some other feeling anyway. All this to say, most of what you're saying is valid but it's not neccessary to frame it in a way where it seems like modern society is encouraging and perpetuating fragility.
I love hamza man so much man honestly.
@Spada jeffrey spotted
@@oh033 ong wild tier 3 pokimane sub spotted
@Spada can you tell me what exactly is hamza wrong about, just curious not trying to pick a fight haha
mom:drugs wont affect my child
the child:
Stay weak lil bro
stay judging people@@PixT
@@BestieBearLover Rn you deserve to be judged. Anime fan + most likely insecure that your traits have been called out in the vid.
Use the video to accept what's wrong and improve yourself instead of saying corny shit on youtube comments 💀
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@@BestieBearLoverthe commentator judged first, think before you speak. Now I'll tap out. 🧚♂️✨
hamza trying not to prey on people's insecurities challenge (impossible)
Only show emotions to those you trust and your buddies. Never show them to women because it will lose you instant respect.
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Mans said agreed without watching a single second of this video 😭😭😭😭😭
greed
men are supposed to suppress there emotions especially in hard times
I'd say is better to understand your emotions and thoughts to control your reactions and act in fair manner
no they are not. Supressing them is what makes killers or impulsive children. Emotions are to be felt and transformed into fuel.
Or you feel them, but not let them control you. Never suppress them, but also not let them control you
Not suppressed. Detached.
I love that detach from your emotions and become a spectator like a visitor to a zoo.
Such well put video.
Emotional men are all over the place. I'll remember that.
Corny ahh content
Bro how did I find you in another comment section 💀. Fax tho
mhm sure buddy.
@@Veycorupt “mhm sure buddy 🤓”
Weakness is shit but to have emotions is good. If you don't have your cold af and not good for the enviroment. You need empathy for your structure/workers, you need to be the leader.
Thank you Hamza. ❤️
Why must men always have to rely only on themselves we're humans just like everyone else we deserve the same level of support as anyone else I don't care how muscular or manly you are if you won't allow yourself to feel you will fall apart and you should trust your family and friends to be there for you I'm not saying you shouldn't be self sufficient but I am saying you will always need help at some point there's no avoiding it at all you should be self sufficient but you shouldn't be alone because no matter how unstoppable you think you are you will trip and stumble in life and when you need it the most you should have a net to catch you
Whenever I watch Hamza I feel as though my testosterone level just skyrockets. You are the definition of a leader my friend!
This man hazma exposing my whole life its 3am i cant do this shit rn